Matthew Stuckey here, and I wanted to make a quick video destroying the myth that public
school students are more socially adjusted than homeschool students.
One of the biggest criticisms, and probably the biggest criticism of homeschooling, is
that the kids are antisocial, and so the public school system has to try to criticize something
because the public school students are so far behind in terms of education and intelligence
on any standardized test that you would look at.
But the reality is that homeschool students are actually more socially adjusted than public
school students, and I'm going to give you three proofs in this video.
First let me say this, though.
In this video, I'm not attacking people that are public school teachers.
I'm not saying that's a sin.
I'm not saying that's wrong.
I actually used to be a public school teacher.
I used to be a math teacher, both in high school and the community college.
So I do have an idea of how education works and some of the problems and things that are
kind of, you know, need to be changed in the public school system.
And the other thing is this, that when public school started, the goal of public school
was not to try to make the kids socially adjusted, but to actually teach them and educate them.
They did not consider it their job or their role to make sure that the kids were socially
adjusted, because that's not their role.
That's not their job.
And they would look at the socially adjusted part as something that was not as important,
but something that would be done on the side by the parents in terms of being in a church
and various functions and activities, and that's the way that it should work.
The other thing is this, I was in public school until I got to middle school, and in middle
school, like my older sister, I was pulled out to be homeschooled.
And the two main reasons were because the morals and the ethics were just terrible in
the public school.
It was getting worse and worse and worse, and that was a large part of it, but a large
part of it was for education purposes.
And so to make sure that I was, you know, learning the things that I needed to and not
being held back by this no child left behind sort of policy, which is actually holding
everybody back, okay?
But I want to give you three reasons why homeschool students are more socially adjusted than public
school students and why it's a myth to say homeschool students are antisocial.
Number one is this, public school talks about how they're helping you socially and how you're
getting adjusted, but the reality is that public school is only teaching you to interact
socially with those of your same age and of similar background and just people that are
just like you.
Because in public school, you're going to be in classes with people of your same age
or very close to your same age, and you're going to have activities with people that
are similar to you and of the same age, but is that the way it works in the real world?
Because when you start a job, you know what, you're going to be 22 years old, and you're
going to be with people that are in their 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, you're going to be
with people that are divorced, you know, you're going to have to be with people that have
been, you know, married for 30 years, people that have grandchildren, people from all walks
of life, people from all types of backgrounds.
And what you've been trained for all of your life is just to just interact with people
that are your same age and just like you, are you going to be socially adjusted for
that situation?
See, what happens with homeschool is they consider the homeschooling focused on education
and, you know, the socially adjusted part is outsourced via being at church, via being
in activities.
And what happens is you're with people of all different backgrounds and so you learn
how to be actually socially adjusted.
One major thing you're seeing with the public school system is that kids are just not able
to socially, you know, interact in all situations.
They don't know what proper social protocols are because of the fact they've been trained
to only interact with those of their same age.
And so number one is this, public school only teaches you to interact with those that are
just like you and of the same age, whereas with homeschooling, you're going to interact
with people of all ages as you outsource the social aspect in different areas.
Number two is this, that homeschooling teaches you how to learn on your own and how to study
on your own rather than being in a small group with the teacher overseeing you and
explaining to you everything.
You say, well, how does that make you more socially adjusted?
Well, here's the reason why.
When you start in the workforce, you're not going to have your boss over your shoulder
every five minutes telling you what to do.
You're going to have to learn to study and figure things out on your own.
Anyone who started working in an office, you'll have assignments and the reality is you have
to figure some things out on your own.
You've got to read articles, you've got to look back on past situations of how it was
done before.
You know, when I started in the actuarial field, I didn't have somebody sitting over
me every single day.
Many days, I didn't have any interaction with my employees.
I was just expected to figure stuff out on my own and if you can't make it, well, they're
going to just hire somebody else or you're not going to be basically moved up in the
company.
And so the problem with public school is you learn how to basically interact in a small
room with a teacher that can answer your questions.
But the reality is in the real world, you've got to figure things out on your own and not
just in the workforce, but in all areas of life, you've got to just figure things out
on your own.
You can't always have somebody right there to answer all of your questions.
Oftentimes you have to figure it out on your own.
So the reality is homeschooling is actually preparing you because you've learned to learn
things on your own rather than just always having somebody there.
You say, but wait a minute, in homeschooling, don't you have your teacher that's there to
teach you everything?
Well, if you're doing a good job homeschooling, you're going to basically give assignments
to your kids and they're going to figure things out on their own.
And just when they have really important questions, they're going to come back to you.
And that's how it works in the workforce where 95% of stuff you've got to figure out on your
own.
And if there's just something that you just can't figure out, then you're going to go
back to the parent to have them teach you that.
But in general, you're just figuring things out on your own.
And that is making you socially adjusted because you've learned to work on your own rather
than always being in a small group where you can always ask questions.
So number one, public school only teaches you to interact with those of your same age.
Homeschooling teaches you to interact with people of all ages and all backgrounds.
Number two, public school does not properly socialize you because they don't teach you
how to work and study on your own.
Whereas with homeschooling, you do learn that aspect.
And number three is this.
With homeschooling, it teaches kids to feel comfortable talking about sex and drugs and
sin and all manner of wickedness and worldliness.
And with homeschooling, if your kids are godly kids, they're going to feel a bit uncomfortable
interacting in that way.
Now you say, wait a minute, doesn't that make the homeschool kids antisocial?
Well, the reality is the Bible teaches us that we are to be a peculiar people.
The Bible says have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness.
And look, I don't want my children to feel comfortable talking about fornication and
adultery and all manner of wickedness.
I want them to feel basically that it's inappropriate and they shouldn't be involved in those sorts
of conversations.
Look, we should try to get along with our coworkers the best we can, but at the same
time, we shouldn't laugh at the same jokes.
We shouldn't feel comfortable talking about the same sort of stuff that's wrong, that's
sinful.
And so if the world says that that's antisocial because your kids don't want to talk about
getting drunk and sleeping around, then by all means, the world can say whatever they
want.
But you know, from a biblical standpoint, you're actually properly socially adjusted
if you're able to stand on your own and stand up against wickedness and basically just ignore
those conversations and you're able to work hard and be successful even though the world
will look at you as being a little bit peculiar.
The bottom line is what the world considers being socially adjusted is being brainwashed
and following the course of this world.
And as a Bible-believing Christian, that should not be your goal.
So point number one is this, public school only teaches you to interact with those of
your same age, homeschooling of those of all ages, all backgrounds.
Number two, public school does not prepare you to work on your own, whereas homeschooling,
you learn how to work on your own, which is a very important trait once you get to the
workforce and in other areas of life as well.
And point number three is this, public school trains you to feel comfortable talking about
sin, whereas with homeschooling, you learn how to be a Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego
and stand on your own and stand up against worldliness and sin and do what's actually
right.
And as a parent that's a Bible-believing Christian, that is what I'm concerned about with my kids
in terms of being socially adjusted, that they'll be successful in work, they'll learn
how to work on their own, but they are still willing to be godly even when they're around
people that might be unsaved people, worldly people, sinful people, that they properly
know how to serve God in those sorts of situations.
To me, that is what being socially adjusted is.
Now let me also say this, I understand why people buy into the myth that homeschooling
makes you antisocial because when I went from elementary school to middle school, the bottom
line is that most of my close friends, you know what, it was a little bit awkward being
around them once I was in middle school and high school.
And I used to think that homeschooling made you antisocial, but I realized looking back
that the reason why I felt uncomfortable being around them is my parents taught me that drinking
was wrong, that smoking was wrong, that fornication was wrong, my parents were old-fashioned and
said I wasn't allowed to date until I was in college, unchaperoned, until I was 18 years.
They had very strict rules and at the time it kind of frustrated me because there was
other kids that would laugh at that or joke about that or whatever and they got to do
whatever they want and I thought my parents were so strict.
But the reality is as a Bible-believing Christian, you know what, I want my kids to stand up
against worldliness and I don't want them to feel comfortable talking about sin and
worldliness and I want them to be prepared for life because when you're young, you don't
think about how hard it is to make it in this world, but the reality is it's hard to
make it in the workforce.
You've got to work hard and the way that governments are crashing the economy even more so now.
So the bottom line is this, homeschooling actually prepares you socially for the real
world while public school system, it makes you feel like you're prepared, it's actually
setting you up for failure.
You're going to fail at being a godly Christian and you're also going to fail in the workforce
because you just don't know how to be properly socially adjusted.
It is a myth to say that homeschool kids are antisocial.
Thank you and God bless.