Matthew Stuckey here and I want to give you another soul winning tip and in this
video I want to talk to you about the importance of developing perception
while you are soul winning. And so one thing that many people struggle with
when they first start soul winning is perceiving whether or not the person
they're talking to is believing, is interested, is staying engaged, is staying
focused. It's something that newer soul winners sometimes struggle with because
they're often very nervous about preaching the gospel so they're so
focused on what they're saying and getting through their presentation that
they don't necessarily always pay attention to what the person is actually
thinking that they're actually talking to. So point number one when it comes to
developing perception you have to ask yourself this question are they
understanding or believing what you're saying as you're going through the
gospel? Now of course you know we've talked about the importance of asking
questions and finding out what is inside their heart but I want you to understand
it's not just what they answer it's also how they answer the questions. And so for
example if you ask them you know what do you think a person needs to do to be
saved and they respond well the Bible says it's just by believing on Jesus
Christ. Well that's a very clear answer but what for what if they were to say
this you know what do you think you need to be say do to be saved and they say
believe? If there's hesitation in the way they answer if the nonverbal
communication indicates they're unsure if they're if you sense hesitation in
the voice at all even if they give the right answer that indicates that they're
not actually sure. And what that would probably indicate is they know what the
answer is supposed to be or they know what you want them to say but they're
not actually sure of it themselves. And I understand for new soul winners this is
difficult because you're paying attention to what they're answering and
you're waiting for those answers to move on but it's not just what they
answer it's actually how they answer. Is there any hesitation? If you were to ask
them do you believe that Jesus Christ is God and they're like yeah. If they pause
at all then that indicates usually that you know what they're not actually sure
about it they're thinking about it. So you want to really pay attention not
just to what they answer not just the words but actually how they answer
their nonverbal communication is there any hesitation whatsoever and if there
is any hesitation what it probably indicates is that they're not a hundred
percent for sure but if you give them a verse or two they might actually switch
over. And so you want to pause and you know take some time have a conversation
ask questions and pay attention not just to what they're answering but how
they're answering. The other thing you need to do is this during the
conversation you need to be paying attention to are they still interested
in what you're saying. So maybe at the beginning they said they're willing to
listen to the gospel but many times as we're preaching the gospel people lose
their focus along the way. And of course you know there's there's ways and
techniques to try to keep people's attention but it's not a hundred percent
perfect. The reality is many people we start preaching the gospel to will lose
interest along the way especially in today's world of this video game
generation people have very short attention spans and so here are some
indications that they are no longer interested in listening to the gospel. If
they start looking at their cell phone if you see them start looking at their
cell phone or you know looking at their watch that indicates that they're
probably losing interest. Another thing is if they make a comment about how they
need to go soon or saying well yeah you know I'm really busy or something like
that it's kind of their way without being direct to tell you that they no
longer have time. Or for example you know they might be using certain body
language that would indicate to you they're not interested anymore instead
of looking at you and looking at the Bible they're looking around you know
they're just kind of distracted and that indicates that they're no longer
actually interested. Another key thing is this are they answering questions
incorrectly. So I've seen many times where I show people Acts chapter 16 I'm
pointing at the Bible what does it say you have to do to be saved and they say
be a good person. And it's just like are you not listening to anything I'm saying?
I was like where does it say be a good person here? And when they're answering
questions just completely incorrectly just very obvious questions that's an
indication that they're not actually paying attention and so they're missing
the gospel presentation. So what I often do in these situations where people are
losing interest because they're not gonna get saved unless they're paying
attention. If I'm toward the end of the conversation and I just have a couple
minutes left I will try to persuade them to listen and say something like I just
have two more verses or I've just three more verses or I'll just be one more
minute and you know I know you're busy but I just have one more minute you know
if you in and then and then you can go. But if it's during the conversation and
they're missing questions and there's still a lot to go through I'll ask them
a question like this you know would you like me to show you more verses from the
Bible or do you just want to stop and think about what we talked about? And you
know what 90% of the time when I ask that question they say yeah I just want
to stop and think about what we talked about. Now the reason why I would ask
that question is if I sense that they're no longer paying attention. In a normal
conversation I wouldn't do that but if I can tell people are not paying attention
I'll ask them a question such as that you know do you still want me to show
you verses or do you still have a few minutes or are you busy now? And you know
most the time then they'll say that they are busy and they don't have time. Now
the reason why I would ask that is because I don't want to waste my time. If
they're not paying attention they're not going to get saved. Now sometimes they
will say that they still have time or they still want to see more verses and
if that's the case I really try to get them to focus and say okay this is very
important just give me five more minutes you know I know you have a lot going on
but the reason why you do this is because if they lose focus and they're
no longer interested during the Gospel presentation then they're not going to
get saved. So one thing we need to do is develop perception as we're preaching
the Gospel if people are understanding what we're saying and also if they're
actually interested in what we're saying or if they have lost focus along the way.
Anyway thank you and God bless.