WEBVTT 12:33.200 --> 12:38.200 Alright everybody, welcome to Shur Foundation Baptist Church. If you could find your seats and grab your song books and turn to page number 20. 12:38.200 --> 12:41.200 We're going to be singing When I See the Blood. 12:41.200 --> 12:46.200 Welcome to Shur Foundation Baptist Church. If you could find your seats and grab your song books. 12:46.200 --> 12:48.200 Where is your song books? 12:48.200 --> 12:49.200 There. 12:49.200 --> 12:51.200 Thank you. 12:51.200 --> 12:55.200 Page number 20, When I See the Blood. 13:01.500 --> 13:03.500 Song number 20 on the 1st. 13:03.500 --> 13:08.300 Christ our Redeemer died on the cross, 13:08.300 --> 13:12.900 died for the sinner, paid all his due. 13:12.900 --> 13:17.540 All who receive him need never fear. 13:17.540 --> 13:22.740 Yes, he will pass, will pass over you. 13:22.740 --> 13:28.580 When I see the blood, when I... 13:29.800 --> 13:41.300 see the blood when I see the blood I will pass I will pass over you 13:42.000 --> 13:51.200 Chiefest of sinners, Jesus can save, As He has promised, so will He do. 13:51.200 --> 14:01.200 O sinner, hear Him, trust in His word, Then He will pass, will pass over you. 14:01.200 --> 14:07.000 When I see the blood, when I... 14:08.200 --> 14:19.300 When I see the blood, when I see the blood, I will pass, I will pass over you. 14:20.300 --> 14:25.000 Judgment is coming, all will be there. 14:25.000 --> 14:29.600 Who have rejected, who have refused? 14:29.600 --> 14:34.200 O sinner hasten, let Jesus in. 14:34.200 --> 14:39.500 Then God will pass, will pass over you. 14:39.500 --> 14:44.300 When I see the blood. 14:44.300 --> 14:47.800 When I see the blood. 14:51.800 --> 15:04.600 the blood I will pass I will pass over you oh what compassion oh boundless love Jesus 15:04.600 --> 15:15.640 have power Jesus is true all who believe are safe from the storm oh he will pass will pass 15:15.640 --> 15:19.800 over you when I'm... 15:20.300 --> 15:34.140 see the blood. When I see the blood. When I see the blood. I will pass. I will pass 15:34.140 --> 15:36.600 over you. 15:36.800 --> 15:42.800 Amen. Good to see you brother Ryan. Could you by chance get me a bulletin from the back back there and I'll pray for the service. Let's pray. 15:42.800 --> 15:50.800 Dear brother God, thank you so much. It's a wonderful day. Thank you so much for everything you do for us God. Thank you so much for this church God and for everybody that showed up to church this morning. I just prayed that you'd be with 16:36.700 --> 16:38.400 449? 16:43.700 --> 16:48.260 449 dwelling in View-O-Land. 16:50.700 --> 16:52.540 Song 449. 16:59.700 --> 17:02.700 Page 449, let's sing it together on the 1st. 17:02.700 --> 17:11.700 Far away the noise of strife upon my ear is falling. 17:11.700 --> 17:18.700 Then I know the sins of earth be set on every hand. 17:21.500 --> 17:32.340 and things of earth in vain to me are calling none of these shall move me from 17:32.340 --> 17:33.600 you 17:39.500 --> 17:44.500 Underneath the cloudless sky, praise God! 17:44.500 --> 17:51.500 I'm drinking at the fountain that never shall run dry. 17:51.500 --> 17:59.500 Oh yes, I'm feasting on the manna from a bountiful supply. 17:59.500 --> 18:06.500 For I am dwelling in Beulah Land. 18:08.200 --> 18:13.160 Far below the storm of doubt upon 18:16.500 --> 18:24.500 Sons of men in battle long the enemy will stand 18:24.500 --> 18:25.400 Say... 18:28.600 --> 18:36.600 of God's word retreating. Nothing then can reach me 18:36.600 --> 18:39.900 to spew the land. 18:43.800 --> 18:48.860 Underneath the cloudless sky praise God 18:48.860 --> 18:56.020 I'm drinking at the fountain that never shall run dry 18:56.020 --> 19:04.060 Oh yes, I'm feasting on the manna from about a full supply 19:04.060 --> 19:10.060 For I am dwelling in Dulale 19:12.000 --> 19:18.600 Let the stormy breezes blow, their cry cannot alarm 19:20.900 --> 19:28.420 I am safely sheltered here, protected by God's hand. 19:28.420 --> 19:36.700 Here the sun is always shining, here there's not can harm me. 19:36.700 --> 19:41.300 I am safe forever in beautiful... 19:46.800 --> 19:55.120 the mountain underneath the cloudless sky praise God I'm drinking at the 19:55.120 --> 20:06.000 fountain that never shall run dry oh yes I'm feasting on the manna from about to 20:06.000 --> 20:10.800 full supply for I am dwelling 20:13.800 --> 20:24.800 on the last viewing here the works of God I sink in contemplation hearing now 20:24.800 --> 20:34.600 his blessed voice I see the way he planned doubt and fear and things of 20:34.600 --> 20:38.900 earth in vain to me are calling 20:39.400 --> 20:45.400 Gladly will I tarry in new life! 20:51.400 --> 20:59.040 Underneath the cloudless sky, praise God, I'm drinking at the fountain 20:59.040 --> 21:06.960 That never shall run dry, oh yes, I'm feasting on the manna 21:06.960 --> 21:16.000 From about to full supply, for I am dwelling in Duloc 21:18.600 --> 21:23.480 singing good morning to everybody. Our verse of the week, if you have a bulletin, if you 21:23.480 --> 21:26.720 need a bulletin you can raise your hand by the way and Brother Ryan will get you one. 21:26.720 --> 21:31.360 But our verse of the week is Ephesians 2, 8, 9 is for by grace are you saved through 21:31.360 --> 21:37.200 faith and that not of yourselves it is the gift of God not of works lest any man should 21:37.200 --> 21:41.200 boast. That's again Ephesians 2, 8, and 9. 21:41.800 --> 21:49.300 As far as our service times go, this is our Sunday morning service and this morning I'm going to be preaching my part two of my marriage mini series. 21:49.300 --> 21:55.300 So last week I focused on only the husbands and that sermon was called Husbands Love Your Wives. 21:55.300 --> 22:01.800 And then for this sermon this morning I'm going to be preaching on just the wives, on wives submitting to their husbands. 22:01.800 --> 22:07.800 And then for tonight's sermon we're going to be doing John 4 and I believe it's part number 5 of John. 22:07.800 --> 22:09.800 Verse number four, with Jesus. 22:09.800 --> 22:12.160 still continuing to talk to the woman at the well. 22:12.160 --> 22:13.260 And this is the sermon I was talking about 22:13.260 --> 22:16.680 where I had that connection with the different things 22:16.680 --> 22:17.520 in the Old Testament. 22:17.520 --> 22:18.360 If you compare all these different things, 22:18.360 --> 22:20.480 you can see the mountain that it's talking about 22:20.480 --> 22:23.200 with Mount Gerizam versus Mount Ebal. 22:23.200 --> 22:24.640 I'll show you that, because it's all in the Bible. 22:24.640 --> 22:26.000 That's always the thing about Bible studies. 22:26.000 --> 22:27.640 You want to make sure that you actually are studying the Bible. 22:27.640 --> 22:30.920 Like, there's so many people that go to like fables 22:30.920 --> 22:31.800 and different kinds of things, 22:31.800 --> 22:34.700 but like the Bible is so deep that you can just stick 22:34.700 --> 22:37.800 with the Bible itself to find all these amazing truths. 22:37.800 --> 22:42.040 principles. But yeah, I'm excited to do that sermon tonight. And then for Wednesday, we'll 22:42.040 --> 22:47.240 continue on to 1 Corinthians 15. That'll be my last sermon in the verse by verse for that chapter. 22:47.240 --> 22:52.040 It'll be part seven, I believe, is on that one. That was a long chapter though, but we got through 22:52.040 --> 22:58.920 it in a decent amount. As far as the praise report go, we have 119 salvations so far for 2026. So 22:58.920 --> 23:03.400 praise God for that, for allowing us to find people that want to hear the gospel and that want to 23:03.400 --> 23:05.800 to receive the message of salvation. 23:05.800 --> 23:13.800 It's always a blessing because I mean this area is not the most receptive that there is but there's definitely a lot worse places that we could be. 23:13.800 --> 23:17.800 So it's great because really the whole world needs the gospel. That's the reality. 23:17.800 --> 23:25.800 So it's always important to realize that you know we're doing our duty for our local community and that's all that God wants us to do. 23:25.800 --> 23:27.800 That's the most that we can do. 23:27.800 --> 23:30.340 As far as upcoming events go, in August, 23:30.340 --> 23:33.800 excuse me, ending in October 1st, we have our 23:33.800 --> 23:38.360 memory challenge. That will be Galatians one and I told you I'm at 23:38.360 --> 23:44.960 Galatians 111 or 112 right now. So we're it's kind of gonna be close. Okay, 23:44.960 --> 23:49.200 but we'll see if we can get down. But if you complete that, you'll get a prize 23:49.200 --> 23:52.340 for memorizing that whole chapter and then I'll get October 13th. Excuse me. 23:52.340 --> 23:56.940 We have our home school day, which will be Tuesday at 11 a.m. And just make sure 23:56.940 --> 24:01.800 you let my wife know if you're going to that. Uh, that is again on October 7th. 24:01.800 --> 24:06.840 that's a Tuesday. And then Church Picture Day is October 25th, so we got the date locked in now. 24:06.840 --> 24:11.800 So dress up your family the nice that it could be, or if you, by the way, if you're just a single 24:11.800 --> 24:17.800 and you want pictures as well, we do that as well. So just, it's always nice for Christmas 24:17.800 --> 24:23.400 cards, you just send them out to people, so that's always nice. And then October 28th through the 30th, 24:23.400 --> 24:29.000 we're gonna be having our VBS, which will have the creation theme. So I mentioned this last time, 24:29.000 --> 24:29.800 I'll see you guys in a moment. 24:29.800 --> 24:33.080 It kind of bumps up against Halloween, but this is just by accident. 24:33.080 --> 24:35.280 This is by coincidence. This has nothing to do with Halloween. 24:35.280 --> 24:38.840 This is completely just VBS creation. 24:38.840 --> 24:42.120 The reason it fell on this week is because I work every other Friday, 24:42.120 --> 24:45.040 and we already have an event going on that month, so it just fell on the other one. 24:45.040 --> 24:48.040 So just to make that clear, because... 24:48.300 --> 24:51.340 I have been to churches before where they do things about Halloween. 24:51.340 --> 24:54.140 You know, like, Halloween in God's house is pretty crazy. 24:54.140 --> 24:54.640 Yeah. 24:54.640 --> 25:00.140 But as far as the kids' memory verse goes, it's Psalms 121 verse number 2 this week, 25:00.140 --> 25:00.640 which is, 25:00.640 --> 25:05.020 "...my help cometh from the Lord, which maketh heaven and earth." 25:05.020 --> 25:08.140 So if you tell that to my wife, kids, then you can get a piece of candy. 25:08.140 --> 25:11.520 And as far as the rules go, we're a family-integrated church, 25:11.520 --> 25:13.660 so children are always welcome in the service. 25:13.660 --> 25:16.300 If your child is being too noisy, 25:16.300 --> 25:18.900 so you can always take them out to the mother baby room. 25:18.900 --> 25:20.420 The rest of the rules are pretty standard 25:20.420 --> 25:22.640 for what you'd expect from the church service. 25:22.640 --> 25:24.360 And then for our birthdays, 25:24.360 --> 25:25.640 we have Brother Jason's birthday, 25:25.640 --> 25:29.040 but like I said, he's flying to Mexico right now. 25:29.040 --> 25:31.260 Miss Victoria, we've seen her too, but she's also gone. 25:31.260 --> 25:33.320 So we're gonna get them when they come back, okay? 25:33.320 --> 25:35.260 But Callie's birthday is the 19th, 25:35.260 --> 25:37.000 I think that falls in this week, yeah? 25:37.300 --> 25:40.300 The 29th, oh there's a typist error, oh no. 25:40.300 --> 25:41.300 The 26th, sorry. 25:41.300 --> 25:42.300 The 26th, okay. 25:42.300 --> 25:44.300 Well, no happy birthday for you yet. 25:44.300 --> 25:47.300 We take it back. 25:47.300 --> 25:52.300 But yeah, so we'll do that the same week that we're singing to baby Paul. 25:53.100 --> 25:58.460 But yeah, I think that's pretty much all for our announcements. 25:58.460 --> 26:01.340 The Coutars as well will sing Happy Anniversary to them when they come back. 26:01.340 --> 26:02.340 They're not going to avoid that. 26:02.340 --> 26:04.660 They're going to get Happy Anniversary to sing to them. 26:04.660 --> 26:08.060 So we'll go into our prayer quest and then we'll have our third song. 26:08.060 --> 26:09.060 Let's pray. 26:09.060 --> 26:10.060 Dear Lord God, thank you so much. 26:10.060 --> 26:11.060 It's a wonderful day. 26:11.060 --> 26:12.060 Thank you so much for everything you do for us, God. 26:12.060 --> 26:12.940 Thank you so much for... 28:37.000 --> 28:40.760 Amen. Our next song will be song number 185. 28:46.400 --> 28:51.400 My Savior's Love, song 185, My Savior's Love. 28:56.500 --> 29:00.500 Song 185, let's sing it together on the first. 29:00.500 --> 29:09.000 I stand amazed in the presence of Jesus the Nazarene 29:09.000 --> 29:17.500 And wonder how he could love me, a sinner condemned unclean 29:17.500 --> 29:20.900 How marvelous I am! 29:21.500 --> 29:25.780 Wonderful and my song shall ever be 29:27.780 --> 29:29.780 Marvelous oh 29:30.100 --> 29:34.420 Wonderful is my saviors love for me 29:35.580 --> 29:37.200 for me 29:44.100 --> 29:53.100 He had no tears for his own grief, but sweat drops of blood for mine. 29:53.100 --> 30:01.100 How marvelous, how wonderful, and my song shall ever be. 30:01.100 --> 30:10.100 How marvelous, oh how wonderful, is my Savior's love for me. 30:10.900 --> 30:19.300 He took my sins and my sorrows, He made them His very own. 30:19.300 --> 30:28.100 He bore the burden to Calvary, And suffered and died alone. 30:28.100 --> 30:36.700 How marvelous, how wonderful, And my song shall ever be. 30:36.900 --> 30:41.700 Oh how marvelous, oh how wonderful is 30:43.400 --> 30:53.400 love for me on the last when with the ransom the glory his face I at last shall 30:53.400 --> 31:07.120 see will be my joy through the ages to sing of his love for me how marvelous how 31:07.120 --> 31:11.400 wonderful and my song shall end 31:11.400 --> 31:18.400 How marvelous, how wonderful is my Savior's love for me. 31:18.400 --> 31:22.400 Amen. Good singing. Father Ryan, would you bless the offer for us? 31:22.400 --> 31:29.400 Dear Heavenly Father, thank you God for everybody here. Lord, I pray God that you will bless us as we get back. 31:29.400 --> 31:34.400 And God, we know that you provide every day course in our lives, Lord, and help us be. 31:37.700 --> 31:41.700 with what we have and please bless the gift and the giver this morning. 31:41.700 --> 31:43.700 In Jesus' name, Amen. 32:22.100 --> 32:24.500 Welcome to the Shur Foundation Baptist Church. 32:24.500 --> 32:26.580 If you could open your Bibles with me this morning 32:26.580 --> 32:29.900 and turn to 1 Corinthians chapter five, 32:29.900 --> 32:32.660 or excuse me, Ephesians chapter five 32:32.660 --> 32:36.240 is gonna be our text this morning. 32:39.300 --> 32:45.500 Ephesians chapter 5 and as always here at our church we read the entire chapter before the preaching 32:47.100 --> 32:50.500 Ephesians chapter 5 the Bible reads 32:51.260 --> 32:57.300 Be therefore followers of God as dear children and walk in love as Christ 32:57.580 --> 33:02.820 hath all have loved us and hath given himself for us an offering and 33:03.200 --> 33:06.760 A sacrifice to God for a sweet smelling savor 33:07.400 --> 33:12.120 But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, 33:12.120 --> 33:15.960 let it not be once named among you as becomeeth saints, 33:15.960 --> 33:19.720 neither filthiness nor foolish talking nor jesting, 33:19.720 --> 33:23.800 which are not convenient, but rather giving of thanks. 33:23.800 --> 33:28.440 For this ye know that no whoremonger nor unclean person, 33:28.440 --> 33:31.240 nor covetous man who is in idolatry, 33:31.240 --> 33:34.840 hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. 33:35.300 --> 33:44.020 Let no man deceive you with vain words, for because of these things cometh the wrath of God upon the children of disobedience. 33:44.020 --> 33:52.820 Be not ye therefore partakers with them, for ye were sometimes darkness, but now are ye light in the Lord. 33:52.820 --> 33:54.820 Walk as children of light. 33:55.100 --> 34:03.820 for the fruit of the Spirit is in all goodness and righteousness and truth, proving what is acceptable unto the Lord. 34:03.820 --> 34:10.300 And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them. 34:10.300 --> 34:16.060 For it is a shame even to speak of those things which are done of them in secret. 34:16.400 --> 34:20.800 But all things that are reproved are made manifest by the light. 34:20.800 --> 34:24.720 For whatsoever doth make manifest is light. 34:24.720 --> 34:28.080 Wherefore he saith, Awake thou that sleepest, 34:28.080 --> 34:32.000 And arise from the dead, and Christ shall give thee light. 34:32.720 --> 34:36.960 See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools, 34:36.960 --> 34:41.360 but as wise, redeeming the time because the days are evil. 34:41.800 --> 34:48.880 Wherefore, be not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is, and be not drunk 34:48.880 --> 34:51.760 with wine wherein is excess. 34:52.100 --> 34:58.820 but be filled with the Spirit, speaking to yourselves in Psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, 34:58.820 --> 35:05.700 singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord, giving thanks always for all things unto God 35:05.700 --> 35:11.540 and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, submitting yourselves one to another 35:11.540 --> 35:18.500 in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord. 35:19.100 --> 35:28.100 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is head of the church, and he is the Savior of the body. 35:28.100 --> 35:36.100 Therefore, as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 35:36.100 --> 35:37.100 Husbands. 35:37.400 --> 35:44.500 Love your wives even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it that he might sanctify 35:44.600 --> 35:52.460 And cleanse it with the washing of water by the word that he might present it to himself a glorious church 35:52.660 --> 35:56.280 Not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing 35:56.420 --> 36:03.360 But that it should be holy and without blemish so ought men to love their wives as their own bodies 36:03.560 --> 36:05.400 He that loveth his wife 36:05.400 --> 36:17.900 love it himself. For no man yet, or for no man ever yet hated his own flesh, but nourish it and cherish it, even as the Lord the church. 36:17.900 --> 36:26.200 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, 36:26.200 --> 36:31.000 and shall be joined unto his wife, and they too shall be one flesh. 36:31.400 --> 36:47.400 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ in the church. Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself, and the wife see that she reverence her husband. Let's pray. 36:47.400 --> 36:56.400 Dear Heavenly Father, thank you again for everybody here today. I pray God that you fill Brother Remy with your Holy Spirit and give us ears to hear tonight in Jesus' name, Amen. 36:59.500 --> 37:06.000 Amen. You guys are there in Ephesians chapter 5. We're going to look in at verse 22, Ephesians 5 verse number 22. 37:07.800 --> 37:09.960 The Bible says in Ephesians 5-2 it says, 37:09.960 --> 37:13.000 wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands 37:13.000 --> 37:14.360 as unto the Lord. 37:14.360 --> 37:16.040 And the title of my sermon this morning 37:16.040 --> 37:18.440 is wives submit to your husbands. 37:18.440 --> 37:19.280 Let's pray. 37:19.280 --> 37:20.560 Hear with the God, thank you so much for this wonderful day, 37:20.560 --> 37:21.400 God. 37:21.400 --> 37:22.800 Thank you so much for everything you do for us, God. 37:22.800 --> 37:24.400 Thank you so much for this church, God, 37:24.400 --> 37:26.080 and again, the opportunity to preach your word. 37:26.080 --> 37:27.840 I just think I'm thankful for the people 37:27.840 --> 37:29.120 that took time out of their weekend 37:29.120 --> 37:30.600 to come and hear your word, preacher. 37:30.600 --> 37:31.440 Just pray for that reason. 37:31.440 --> 37:32.480 You fill me with your Holy Spirit, God, 37:32.480 --> 37:34.440 and help me to preach words that be edifying 37:34.440 --> 37:35.280 to the people in this room. 37:35.280 --> 37:35.800 I just pray that... 37:35.800 --> 37:39.060 that above all things, God, at the end of the sermon, 37:39.060 --> 37:40.720 and then in the end of the sermon series, God, 37:40.720 --> 37:42.100 that I would help the marriages 37:42.100 --> 37:43.700 of the people in this room, God. 37:43.700 --> 37:45.840 I just, as I said before, God, 37:45.840 --> 37:47.480 I know that nobody has a perfect marriage, 37:47.480 --> 37:49.920 but I just pray that these sermons would encourage us all 37:49.920 --> 37:53.140 to strive for fulfilling our roles in marriage 37:53.140 --> 37:56.580 and for giving us long and successful marriages. 37:56.580 --> 37:58.640 I pray that you help me to say what you want me to say 37:58.640 --> 37:59.560 in this sermon and keep me from saying 37:59.560 --> 38:00.400 what you would not like me to say. 38:00.400 --> 38:01.360 Do you say I pray? 38:01.360 --> 38:02.200 Amen. 38:02.200 --> 38:03.800 Turn to my son, like I said, again, his wife's. 38:03.800 --> 38:07.960 to your husbands. We're here in Ephesians chapter number five and this morning I'm 38:07.960 --> 38:12.260 gonna be preaching part two of my little marriage mini series if you will which 38:12.260 --> 38:17.560 is wives submit to your husbands and last week I only focused on the husband 38:17.560 --> 38:21.600 so if you've only heard this if you only heard the first sermon you didn't hear 38:21.600 --> 38:25.000 the second sermon you probably think it was unbalanced that way but if you only 38:25.000 --> 38:27.240 heard this sermon you didn't hear the first sermon you're also gonna think it's kind of 38:27.240 --> 38:31.800 unbalanced but just know that anything that you probably be thinking about 38:31.800 --> 38:33.580 concerning husbands loving their wives, 38:33.580 --> 38:36.540 I touched upon about in the first sermon of this series. 38:36.540 --> 38:38.920 So this sermon might sound unbalanced 38:38.920 --> 38:40.220 if you only heard the one side, 38:40.220 --> 38:42.720 but know that there was a balance last week. 38:42.720 --> 38:44.480 But last week, my main points were these, 38:44.480 --> 38:46.140 that number one, that as a husband, 38:46.140 --> 38:48.720 you should love your wife as you love your own flesh, 38:48.720 --> 38:50.120 which I submit to you guys means 38:50.120 --> 38:51.600 that you should consider your wife 38:51.600 --> 38:53.240 as you consider your own flesh, 38:53.240 --> 38:56.560 that you should think about what your wife deals with 38:56.560 --> 38:59.080 in her day with the kids and with taking care of the home 38:59.080 --> 38:59.800 and all the different things. 38:59.800 --> 39:02.920 that she deals with and put yourself in her shoes from now to time and think 39:02.920 --> 39:07.160 like hey if I was in my wife's position how would I want you know my husband to 39:07.160 --> 39:10.840 treat me or how would I want to be treated in a position the roles were 39:10.840 --> 39:15.400 reversed okay and the the second thing that I preach upon the second point from 39:15.400 --> 39:18.120 that sermon was that we should dwell with our wives according to knowledge 39:18.120 --> 39:22.360 and give them honor as unto the weaker vessel which I interpreted to mean that 39:22.360 --> 39:26.560 we should be honoring and praising women for fulfilling their God-given role and 39:26.560 --> 39:27.800 and not belittling with 39:27.800 --> 39:32.040 and trying to like bring them down because even I didn't bring this one last week but it's just true like 39:32.280 --> 39:37.100 If you think about it like if God has given women the role that we see in the Bible 39:37.100 --> 39:40.980 Then that is the highest calling that they can do so for that very reason 39:40.980 --> 39:46.580 We should be praising them when we have these women these godly women that are not corrupted by the society 39:46.640 --> 39:50.680 They're actually following what the Bible says because I explained you guys last week as well 39:50.680 --> 39:55.780 But I think it's a this becomes a stomach block to women in this world where if we belittle them and try to take them down 39:55.800 --> 40:00.040 and act like women are just like second-hand citizens, which the Bible like never teaches 40:00.040 --> 40:05.160 anywhere, then why would anybody that disagrees with us about the Bible want to even join 40:05.160 --> 40:09.320 Christianity? Like if you're just talking bad about women, that's not going to convince 40:09.320 --> 40:14.480 you know, misfeminist woman to try to actually follow what the Bible says. Because if you 40:14.480 --> 40:19.000 take the principles on husbands and wives as a whole, you'll realize that God is balanced 40:19.000 --> 40:23.360 in all of these things. And so we should have a balanced approach as well. And I full heartedly 40:23.360 --> 40:23.800 believe... 40:23.800 --> 40:30.860 I said to you guys last time that because there's this attitude out there that is negative towards women even godly women 40:30.860 --> 40:32.860 They're fulfilling their roles that it 40:33.220 --> 40:37.900 encourages women to try to go and adopt this wicked ideology of feminism because 40:38.580 --> 40:45.620 Feminism is anti-bible in basically every way shape and form that that it results in the death of millions of kids every year 40:45.820 --> 40:51.800 That it causes women to rebel against their husband it causes split household it causes single 40:51.800 --> 40:56.840 parent household like the fruit of feminism is a vile fruit. And so that's 40:56.840 --> 41:00.040 why I say even more than like as a man you should just think about this and be like hey if I 41:00.040 --> 41:03.100 want my daughter to grow up and submit to her husband like the Bible says and I 41:03.100 --> 41:06.480 want her to fulfill her God-given role like the Bible says then I should be 41:06.480 --> 41:11.320 praising the role that women do in marriage. I should be praising them for 41:11.320 --> 41:14.680 fulfilling their God-given role and we shouldn't be provoking women by 41:14.680 --> 41:17.580 belittling them okay. But again this sermon is going to be geared towards the wife 41:17.580 --> 41:19.580 so that's that's the last... 41:19.800 --> 41:21.520 This is the last nice thing you get. 41:21.520 --> 41:23.880 But the third point of my last week's sermon 41:23.880 --> 41:26.160 was that husbands should love their wives 41:26.160 --> 41:28.040 as Christ loves the church, 41:28.040 --> 41:30.280 which is an incredible verse when you think about it. 41:30.280 --> 41:32.280 So I point out to you that people will act like, 41:32.280 --> 41:33.320 and the feminist that I was just talking about 41:33.320 --> 41:36.160 will act like the Bible is like anti-women, 41:36.160 --> 41:37.840 but this could not be further from the truth. 41:37.840 --> 41:40.800 God commands husbands to love their wives 41:40.800 --> 41:42.680 with a love no less than the love 41:42.680 --> 41:44.200 that Jesus Christ had for us, 41:44.200 --> 41:47.200 which is the greatest love that there is in this world, 41:47.200 --> 41:47.800 that he was willing to. 41:47.800 --> 41:49.840 to lay his life down for the church. 41:49.840 --> 41:51.520 So how much do you think then that God 41:51.520 --> 41:53.520 thinks that women are valuable and that they are necessary? 41:53.520 --> 41:54.720 I mean, he created them in the first place. 41:54.720 --> 41:56.840 If they didn't have any value, if they weren't necessary, 41:56.840 --> 41:59.020 he probably wouldn't have created them, right? 41:59.020 --> 42:01.120 But he does, because he designed women 42:01.120 --> 42:02.520 to be help me, is what the Bible says. 42:02.520 --> 42:04.240 And I'll get into that a little bit further. 42:04.240 --> 42:08.280 But I just think that this principle is incredibly deep 42:08.280 --> 42:09.440 when you think about it. 42:09.440 --> 42:11.080 And I'm kind of hyping this up right now, 42:11.080 --> 42:13.720 because I want you to see that as high of a charge 42:13.720 --> 42:15.760 this is, as this is, this commandment is to. 42:15.800 --> 42:20.240 the husbands to love their wives, we see an equally high charge in the next part 42:20.240 --> 42:25.420 of this chapter. In verse number 22, look what it says again, it says, wives submit 42:25.420 --> 42:30.640 yourselves to your own husbands as unto the Lord. What does the ending of that 42:30.640 --> 42:35.040 verse mean? As unto the Lord. It means that you're supposed to submit to your 42:35.040 --> 42:38.600 husband in the same way that you would submit to the Lord Jesus Christ himself. 42:38.600 --> 42:42.440 That's what this verse is saying. And the same way that you view the commandments 42:42.440 --> 42:43.800 of God, that should be the 42:43.800 --> 42:46.040 the same way that you view the commandments 42:46.040 --> 42:47.920 and the commands that your husband gives you 42:47.920 --> 42:49.480 when you're at your house. 42:49.480 --> 42:50.920 And I say, like, because people die, 42:50.920 --> 42:52.440 commandments, yes, commandments, 42:52.440 --> 42:54.120 because in case this world has gone to you, 42:54.120 --> 42:57.320 I would just explain to you that the Bible teaches you 42:57.320 --> 42:59.940 as a wife that your husband is your head, 42:59.940 --> 43:02.200 your husband is your boss, your husband is your leader, 43:02.200 --> 43:05.820 your husband is your authority, is what the Bible says. 43:05.820 --> 43:07.160 So much to the point where he says 43:07.160 --> 43:10.560 you're supposed to submit to your husband as unto the Lord. 43:10.560 --> 43:11.800 As unto the Lord himself. 43:11.800 --> 43:14.640 Basically is what it's saying there in the same way that you'd submit to Jesus Christ 43:14.640 --> 43:20.560 You should submit to your husband which means what which means this that you should that your husband 43:20.560 --> 43:22.680 Excuse me is 100% in charge of you 43:22.720 --> 43:29.160 He's 100% in charge of your family and he's 100% in charge of the decisions that he makes for your family 43:29.160 --> 43:34.720 Okay, and this is point one of my sermon why submit to your husbands as unto the Lord 43:34.720 --> 43:39.800 And like I said, that's the exact same way that you have in obedience to God Almighty is what he's saying with 43:39.800 --> 43:44.100 that verse and you might think like this kind of sounds extreme. 43:44.300 --> 43:47.740 But it's not extreme, it's actually perfectly balanced, okay? 43:47.740 --> 43:52.620 Because that's why I was saying how, think about how high and how deep the charge is that God gives us 43:52.620 --> 43:56.540 to say husbands love your wives like Christ loved the church. 43:56.540 --> 43:59.340 On the flip side, the wives get an equally high charge that he says, 43:59.340 --> 44:03.260 hey, wives submit to your husbands as unto the Lord. 44:03.260 --> 44:07.580 You see them that it's perfectly balanced, that it makes sense when you take these things as a whole, 44:07.580 --> 44:09.820 that if both spouses are fulfilling their role, 44:09.820 --> 44:12.300 that you know that that's going to result in a success. 44:12.300 --> 44:17.240 marriage that if a husband truly is loving his wife like love that like 44:17.240 --> 44:20.700 Christ love the church and if a wife is truly obeying her husband as she would 44:20.700 --> 44:26.220 obey the Lord you know that that's gonna work out together for good and so on the 44:26.220 --> 44:28.500 thought of balance though okay because sometimes 44:28.800 --> 44:32.840 Women will not I would say not like the whip point in this room 44:32.840 --> 44:37.400 But like there's liberal women out there that will take this passage and they'll be like wait a minute 44:37.400 --> 44:40.000 You're just you're just skipping over verse 21 44:40.000 --> 44:44.360 So look at verse 21 real quick because there are a lot of women that will try to undercut this principle of wife 44:44.360 --> 44:47.900 So they have their husband by using verse 21 which says 44:48.600 --> 44:53.680 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God and they'll say see husbands are also 44:54.240 --> 44:56.760 supposed to submit to their wives the Bible says 44:56.800 --> 44:58.200 right here, but that's wrong. 44:58.200 --> 45:00.300 And it's wrong for multiple reasons, okay? 45:00.300 --> 45:04.320 Number one, because we see the context leading up into 45:04.320 --> 45:07.700 verse 21 is just general commandments of the church. 45:07.700 --> 45:09.220 If you don't believe me, look at verse number 19. 45:09.220 --> 45:11.540 Look at the, because we read the whole chapter, by the way, 45:11.540 --> 45:13.700 for context, for everything in the Bible, 45:13.700 --> 45:15.500 but look at the context of these verses and see that 45:15.500 --> 45:18.780 verse 21 has nothing to do with marriage principles. 45:18.780 --> 45:21.520 He does not start talking about the commands of marriage 45:21.520 --> 45:22.760 until verse 22. 45:22.760 --> 45:24.280 Because look at verse number 19, it says, 45:24.280 --> 45:24.800 Speaking of 45:24.800 --> 45:28.460 yourselves in Psalms and hymns and spiritual songs singing and making 45:28.460 --> 45:31.960 melody in your heart to the Lord. Does that have anything to do with marriage? 45:31.960 --> 45:34.560 No it doesn't right? It's a good commandment but it has nothing to do 45:34.560 --> 45:38.560 with marriage. And by the way it says hymns right there and Psalms that's why 45:38.560 --> 45:42.400 we sing this the hymns and the Psalms at this church and the spiritual songs 45:42.400 --> 45:47.300 because God commanded us to sing all three of these things. But then verse 45:47.300 --> 45:50.640 number 20 as well it says give thanks always for all things unto God and the 45:50.640 --> 45:52.800 Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. 45:52.800 --> 46:00.800 Does this have anything to do with marriage? No, it does not. So I'm ready to show you that the context leading up into verse 21 has nothing to do with marriage. 46:00.800 --> 46:09.800 He does not even start to begin to preach about marriage, or I should say just teach about marriage in this chapter, and tell verse 22 where he makes it abundantly clear what he's talking about. 46:09.800 --> 46:19.800 But I would say this as well, what is verse 21 talking about then? When it says submitting to yourself to another in the fear of the Lord, it's talking about submitting to our authorities within the bounds of church. 46:19.800 --> 46:20.800 The example I would give... 46:20.800 --> 46:22.960 is this, is that when brother Jason, 46:22.960 --> 46:24.240 because brother Jason's usually the song leader, 46:24.240 --> 46:25.300 he's just not here today. 46:25.400 --> 46:30.200 When brother Jason comes up to lead songs, you are supposed to submit to him as a song leader. 46:30.200 --> 46:33.480 What do I mean? I mean that you don't just go singing your own hymn. You don't just like, 46:33.480 --> 46:38.120 oh brother Jason says to turn to page two, but I'm going to go to page 300. It's like, no, 46:38.120 --> 46:42.680 you should submit to him because he's delegated authority in that regard. The same is true when 46:42.680 --> 46:48.200 we're out door knocking, we're out soulening. That when the soulening captain gives you a map 46:48.200 --> 46:52.600 of an area to knock, then you should knock the area that he gave you. Not just like, 46:52.600 --> 46:53.400 I'm gonna do my own 46:53.400 --> 46:56.960 thing because when we give out the maps out so wanting it's with a purpose so 46:56.960 --> 47:00.520 that we can track the areas that we hit so that we can make sure that we actually 47:00.520 --> 47:04.400 are going into all the world so that we can preach the gospel you just take the 47:04.400 --> 47:07.360 map and you throw it in the air and be like I'm just gonna see doors and knock 47:07.360 --> 47:11.120 them but then it messes up the whole system okay that's what he's talking 47:11.120 --> 47:15.360 about in verse 21 in my opinion but also how else do we know that this is not about 47:15.360 --> 47:19.440 marriage in verse 21 we know because he clarifies what he's saying in verse 23 47:19.440 --> 47:21.320 Because look at verse 23, it says this, it says, 47:21.400 --> 47:27.540 the husband is the head of the wife. Is there any place in the Bible where it ever even 47:27.540 --> 47:32.120 alludes to the fact that a wife is the head of her husband? No, there is no place like 47:32.120 --> 47:37.480 that in the Bible, but we do see constantly in the Bible that this principle is echoed 47:37.480 --> 47:42.080 over and over again. That a husband is the head of his wife, a husband is in charge of 47:42.080 --> 47:45.480 his wife, and look at the verse again, it says, for the husband is the head of the wife, 47:45.480 --> 47:49.400 even as Christ is the head of the church and is the savior of... 47:49.400 --> 47:56.020 The body so in the same way that Jesus Christ is the head of the church a husband is the head of his wife 47:56.360 --> 47:59.200 With it like in our society. This is probably just blow someone's brain 47:59.200 --> 48:01.480 They're like what are you talking about this little Bible says though? 48:01.480 --> 48:04.420 It's very clear in the Bible and then like I said they try to like 48:04.920 --> 48:10.160 Undercut these kind of things with these random verses and these random out-of-context places in the Bible 48:10.160 --> 48:14.480 But the Bible means what it says right here when the Bible says that a husband is the head of his wife 48:14.480 --> 48:17.320 And then he compares it directly to Jesus Christ 48:17.400 --> 48:20.440 being the head of the church, the Bible means what it says. 48:20.440 --> 48:22.880 And think about that as well as we're talking about 48:22.880 --> 48:24.320 a husband being the head of his wife, 48:24.320 --> 48:25.700 like Jesus Christ the head of the church. 48:25.900 --> 48:27.900 Because they'll be that little game like I was telling you where it's like, 48:27.900 --> 48:29.900 we should just kind of take turns submitting to each other. 48:29.900 --> 48:32.900 Like, it's my wife's day to be in charge, and it's my day to be in charge, okay? 48:32.900 --> 48:34.900 Is that what we do at church with Jesus Christ? 48:34.900 --> 48:37.900 We take turns, hey, God, you gave me these commandments, 48:37.900 --> 48:40.900 but then now it's your turn to submit. No, no, sir, right? 48:40.900 --> 48:43.900 Or the same thing, like, oh, Jesus, you commanded me to do this, 48:43.900 --> 48:45.900 but now you're going to take turns submitting to me. 48:45.900 --> 48:47.900 That is never how it works. Why? 48:47.900 --> 48:50.900 Because Jesus Christ is the head of the church. 48:50.900 --> 48:52.900 The same is true with husbands and wives. 48:52.900 --> 48:53.900 that your husband is. 48:53.900 --> 48:56.740 is 100% in charge of you all of the time, 48:56.740 --> 48:58.560 is what the Bible teaches us. 48:58.560 --> 48:59.400 Where are you guys at? 48:59.400 --> 49:00.220 You guys are there at Ephesians? 49:00.220 --> 49:02.620 Go down to verse number 24 real quick, 49:02.620 --> 49:04.140 I'm gonna get some water. 49:04.140 --> 49:05.880 Ephesians 5, verse number 24. 49:07.800 --> 49:13.220 and this was like the balance of God's commandments come into play because as a wife 49:13.220 --> 49:18.760 I'd say you as well that if you just take this verse and you explain it away to mean that you just have to obey your husband 49:19.120 --> 49:23.000 Sometimes then can your husband not to around do the same thing with his commandments as well 49:23.520 --> 49:28.760 Husbands love your wives as Christ of the church you when you feel like it. Well, we know it's convenient for you 49:28.880 --> 49:30.240 No, you can't do that, right? 49:30.240 --> 49:35.220 So if you can't do that if a husband can't do that to you and just like selectively choose when he should love you 49:35.220 --> 49:35.800 Then you should not be 49:35.800 --> 49:39.240 to selectively choose when you're obeying your husband. 49:39.240 --> 49:40.680 And you know something I think is funny as well, 49:40.680 --> 49:43.400 as I have you guys in Ephesians 5, 24, 49:43.400 --> 49:46.880 is that when you look up these teachings online 49:46.880 --> 49:49.520 amongst a bunch of liberal Christians nowadays. 49:49.900 --> 49:54.300 They'll always have a bunch of excuses for why verse 22 doesn't mean what it actually says. 49:54.300 --> 49:57.660 And they'll be like, well if you go back to the Greek, the word head here, 49:57.660 --> 50:00.460 it doesn't mean kind of what we would think it means nowadays. 50:00.460 --> 50:03.180 It means that you're equal with your wife, okay? 50:03.180 --> 50:05.180 But why is it never the flip side of this? 50:05.180 --> 50:10.380 Why is there no deep dive Greek study to teach why a husband doesn't really have to love his wife 50:10.380 --> 50:11.500 like Christ loved the church? 50:11.500 --> 50:12.140 You know why? 50:12.140 --> 50:13.660 It's because they're not going to the Bible of integrity. 50:13.660 --> 50:17.740 They're going to the Bible with an agenda to make it conform to the modern... 50:17.900 --> 50:23.120 morality that we have nowadays. That's why. Because they want the Bible to conform to 50:23.120 --> 50:27.820 their ideology, but this is wicked. This is the opposite of what it should be like. As 50:27.820 --> 50:31.940 a society, we should conform to everything that the Bible says, and if our society disagrees 50:31.940 --> 50:37.740 with the Bible, it disagrees with God Almighty and it's wrong. Not God. So who are we to 50:37.740 --> 50:43.660 try and take the principles of the Bible and try to just bend them and twist them to mean 50:43.660 --> 50:45.900 whatever we want them to mean? That is evil. 50:45.900 --> 50:47.500 This is where so much false doctrine comes from, 50:47.500 --> 50:48.700 just people just not taking the Bible 50:48.700 --> 50:50.000 for what it actually says. 50:50.600 --> 50:55.560 But going back to kind of talk about the high charge that he gives the husbands and the wives here, 50:55.560 --> 50:59.720 you see then again the balance in these commandments that it's perfect. That if you're 50:59.720 --> 51:03.960 striving truly as a husband to love your wife as Christ of the church and as a wife you're 51:03.960 --> 51:08.920 submitting your husband as a Lord you are guaranteed to have a successful marriage. 51:08.920 --> 51:13.800 And all if I would submit to you this all marriage problems really come down when you boil them down 51:13.800 --> 51:17.640 to the husbands and wives not obeying these two commandments respectively. 51:18.600 --> 51:20.520 When you boil it all down, that's what it comes down to. 51:20.520 --> 51:22.920 That a husband, if he's not treating his wife right, 51:22.920 --> 51:23.880 they're not getting along, 51:23.880 --> 51:25.660 he's not loving her like Christ loved the church. 51:25.660 --> 51:28.160 And if a wife is not getting along with her husband, 51:28.160 --> 51:30.860 it's like, and I would say like nine times out of 10, 51:30.860 --> 51:33.200 that it's because she's not submitting to him 51:33.200 --> 51:36.480 like she would submit unto the Lord. 51:36.480 --> 51:38.520 So that's why I told you guys before, 51:38.520 --> 51:40.280 and it's been so important to realize, 51:40.280 --> 51:43.080 that your marriage roles are not conditional. 51:43.080 --> 51:43.920 I said that multiple times, 51:43.920 --> 51:45.480 and I'll say it again because it's super important 51:45.480 --> 51:46.600 to understand your role. 51:46.600 --> 51:50.720 and marriage is not conditional. You don't just get to choose when you can and can't 51:50.720 --> 51:55.240 love your wife, you're commanded to just love your wife period. And as a woman you don't 51:55.240 --> 51:59.400 choose when you obey your husband, you should just submit to your husband period. This is 51:59.400 --> 52:04.160 the commandment of God Almighty Himself. This is how important these things are. And when 52:04.160 --> 52:05.160 you try to 52:05.500 --> 52:09.300 Basically just make your role conditional it just is a disaster 52:09.300 --> 52:14.700 It just turns into a plan for you destroying your marriage because all to take is like one guy is like 52:14.700 --> 52:18.660 I don't think my wife obey me enough, so I'm not gonna love her today and wife's like well 52:18.660 --> 52:22.200 He's not gonna love me today, but I'm not gonna submit to him just a spiral of nonsense 52:22.340 --> 52:29.060 That's why you should realize these commandments are not conditional you just should love your husband period you should submit and as a wife you should 52:29.060 --> 52:30.060 submit 52:30.060 --> 52:33.460 Can I have the baby as a little bit white period as a wife you submit to your husband? 52:33.500 --> 52:37.420 Okay. Ephesians 5 24. 52:37.900 --> 52:46.100 It's my position right here. It says therefore as the church is subject under Christ so let the wives be to their own husband in 52:46.960 --> 52:50.340 Everything so in case he wasn't clear enough of everything he was saying so far 52:50.340 --> 52:52.280 He's like honey, but let me just triple down on this 52:52.280 --> 52:56.140 He's like how do I say this in so many ways that nobody could miss understand what he's saying 52:56.140 --> 52:58.300 He's like why husbands of the head of the wives 52:58.380 --> 53:02.960 He's like you're supposed to be subject to your husband like you're like the other church is subject to Christ 53:02.960 --> 53:05.900 And then he's like and let me just be double clear. He's like and you 53:05.900 --> 53:09.540 You should submit to your husband, you should be subject to him in everything is what he 53:09.540 --> 53:10.540 said. 53:10.540 --> 53:12.460 He's like, let me just make a clear review. 53:12.460 --> 53:16.340 And with all these clear verses, people still will take the Bible and flip it on its head 53:16.340 --> 53:17.340 here. 53:17.340 --> 53:18.340 It's truly insane, okay? 53:19.200 --> 53:21.200 What should you take from these verses as a married woman? 53:21.200 --> 53:25.040 The first thing I'd say is this, is that you should understand your role in your marriage, 53:25.040 --> 53:28.720 that your husband is your leader and you are his follower. 53:28.720 --> 53:34.640 And what I mean by that is that your husband rules your house and you are included under that rule. 53:34.640 --> 53:36.720 That rule, excuse me, as well. 53:36.720 --> 53:39.520 You fall under your husband's authority. It's not just your kids. 53:39.520 --> 53:41.040 You're a kid, like it's like kind of like an umbrella. 53:41.040 --> 53:43.920 You have the husband, you have the wife, and you have the kids. 53:43.920 --> 53:47.120 But the wife is under the husband. She is not equal with the husband. 53:47.200 --> 53:49.100 in terms of authority in the household. 53:49.100 --> 53:50.640 It's very important to understand this. 53:50.640 --> 53:52.600 And I think it's more important in our society nowadays 53:52.600 --> 53:55.360 because we have all these terms that try to just like 53:55.360 --> 53:59.080 bring each other down, like be like, you know, I got, 53:59.080 --> 54:00.560 well sometimes a lot of people if they're married 54:00.560 --> 54:03.080 and they'll be like, yeah, I got a partner at home. 54:03.080 --> 54:05.680 But this is kind of a joke, but like whenever someone says 54:05.680 --> 54:07.400 that I'm always thinking like, so. 54:07.500 --> 54:09.500 Are you talking about some other same sex or something like that? 54:09.500 --> 54:10.500 What are we talking about here? 54:10.500 --> 54:11.500 That's some liberal speech. 54:11.500 --> 54:12.500 I got a partner. 54:12.500 --> 54:13.500 People have been like, are you married? 54:13.500 --> 54:16.500 I have a wife at home, not just a partner. 54:16.500 --> 54:18.500 But I, again, I'm kind of joking in that. 54:18.500 --> 54:21.500 But I do think that there's some words that we throw out there in this society that tries 54:21.500 --> 54:26.500 to make it sound like the authority level is equal in the home, but it's just not the reality. 54:26.500 --> 54:30.500 You can say your wife is your partner or your husband is your partner as long as you understand 54:30.500 --> 54:33.500 that he's the head of this partnership, that he's in charge of it. 54:33.500 --> 54:35.500 And it's just like, you're husband. 54:35.500 --> 54:39.660 is the pilot and you can say that you're the co-pilot but you're not taking 54:39.660 --> 54:42.700 controls and you're not usurping authority over your husband. 54:42.700 --> 54:46.100 I'm trying to tell you and he delegates you the authority that you have in the 54:46.100 --> 54:50.500 house but you do not usurp his authority. It's very clear in the Bible. 54:50.900 --> 54:59.900 And what else does this mean to us though? It should mean this to you as a married woman that your husband does not have to listen to you in any decision that he makes concerning his household, okay? 54:59.900 --> 55:10.900 This is 100% comparable to God Almighty. When we go to God in prayer and we ask him for something, do we think that God has to listen to us when we pray to him? 55:10.900 --> 55:18.900 No, that's why we're saying, can you please do these things, God? Like we're asking a petition to the King of Kings and Lord of Lords. We're not commanding the King of Kings. 55:18.900 --> 55:22.260 and Lord of Lords. So the same is true I would submit to you with husbands and 55:22.260 --> 55:28.800 wife that you as a wife are not to be telling your husband what to do and 55:28.800 --> 55:32.460 commanding your husband what to do you should be asking your husband to do 55:32.460 --> 55:36.500 things for you or to do things just in general but never telling him and that 55:36.500 --> 55:40.320 you should understand from that as well that if you submit a request to your 55:40.320 --> 55:44.260 husband or you tell him your opinion about something he does not have to 55:44.260 --> 55:46.900 listen to you when it comes to leaving your household. I know 55:46.900 --> 55:51.340 this could be like a crazy thought for our modern day culture, but this is the 55:51.340 --> 55:55.820 reality of things. Go to 1st Peter 3, 5, 1st Peter 3, verse number 5. 55:55.820 --> 56:00.460 Obviously to balance things out, I would say that if we're using the example of 56:00.460 --> 56:05.260 God, he often does answer our prayer requests, right? So if you're using that 56:05.260 --> 56:09.060 example, then it probably makes sense to answer the petitions of your wife's 56:09.060 --> 56:13.780 heart when it makes sense to do so. But I bring this up to show you the reality 56:13.780 --> 56:14.900 of our roles in marriage. 56:14.900 --> 56:21.460 And it's the reality that a lot of women have forgotten or that our culture just in general has forgotten that as a husband 56:21.900 --> 56:25.660 You are the head of your wife and your wife is the body in this analogy 56:25.820 --> 56:30.800 You are the lord of your wife and your wife is the servant to you as a husband 56:31.400 --> 56:33.740 That sounds pretty extreme. Well, just tell me you don't know the Bible then. 56:33.740 --> 56:37.040 Because this is exactly what the Bible teaches here. Look what the Bible says in 1 Peter 3, 5. 56:37.040 --> 56:37.540 It says, 56:37.540 --> 56:43.540 For after this manner, in old time, the holy women also who trusted in God adorned themselves 56:43.540 --> 56:48.840 being in subjection unto their own husbands, even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him 56:48.840 --> 56:54.640 Lord, whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well and are not afraid with any amazement. 56:54.640 --> 56:59.340 If Peter here is praising Sarah for calling Abraham Lord, you know what that proves? 56:59.400 --> 57:01.740 proves that she was right about what she was saying. 57:01.740 --> 57:04.180 And he's saying, hey, this is the example from Sarah. 57:04.180 --> 57:05.100 And I'm not saying that you have to admit 57:05.100 --> 57:07.000 that you should call your husband Lord, OK? 57:07.000 --> 57:09.060 But this is what I'm saying is that Peter uses as an example 57:09.060 --> 57:12.700 to say, hey, this is the example you should follow as a wife. 57:12.700 --> 57:14.980 Sarah had such a high view of Abraham 57:14.980 --> 57:17.980 that she was willing to obey him and call him Lord. 57:17.980 --> 57:21.580 That's how much respect Sarah had for her husband. 57:21.580 --> 57:22.400 And so Sarah had a very high view of Abraham. 57:22.600 --> 57:25.420 People like that's what I was telling you guys last week. Okay, like I was like 57:25.420 --> 57:27.780 Do you believe me now when I say the feminist wouldn't agree with my sermon? 57:27.780 --> 57:32.420 Okay, show me the feminist that agrees with everything I've been saying so far and I give you a hundred bucks because it's just not real 57:32.420 --> 57:32.860 Okay 57:32.860 --> 57:33.780 like I said 57:33.780 --> 57:38.060 I'm just balanced because the Bible is balanced on this issue and the problem is 57:38.260 --> 57:41.820 People in this world and people in churches just try to cater too much to one gender 57:41.820 --> 57:46.320 Like some churches just hammer on the women and some some churches just hammer on the men 57:46.320 --> 57:50.100 But like we should just hammer on everybody. That's it's equality in Christ, right? 57:50.600 --> 57:52.200 It's free-hammering for everybody. 57:52.200 --> 57:54.160 Everybody gets smacked down eventually. 57:54.160 --> 57:55.480 That's the reality, though, if you're preaching 57:55.480 --> 57:57.120 the entire Word of God, isn't it, though? 57:57.120 --> 57:59.320 Because the Word of God applies to everyone's life 57:59.320 --> 58:01.080 and everyone's situation in life. 58:01.080 --> 58:03.080 So if you're actually preaching the whole God, 58:03.080 --> 58:05.000 there should be sermons where you rip on wives 58:05.000 --> 58:06.960 and there should be sermons where you rip on husbands. 58:06.960 --> 58:09.000 There should be sermons where you rip on the kids 58:09.000 --> 58:11.240 and there should be sermons where you rip on everybody. 58:11.240 --> 58:14.200 That's what we're missing so much nowadays 58:14.200 --> 58:16.300 that people don't wanna rip and preach 58:16.300 --> 58:17.280 what the Word of God says. 58:17.280 --> 58:18.240 They just wanna... 58:18.600 --> 58:21.000 I just want to talk to you kind of in a soft voice like this. 58:21.000 --> 58:22.580 Can I just level with you guys? 58:22.580 --> 58:24.800 Like, do you like the, I just don't think 58:24.800 --> 58:25.800 like some of the people who read the Bible, 58:25.800 --> 58:28.560 like he tells Ezekiel, he's like, cry aloud, 58:28.560 --> 58:31.040 spare not, lift up thy voice like a trumpet. 58:31.040 --> 58:32.600 That's part of preaching. 58:32.600 --> 58:34.280 That it's not just going up, 58:34.280 --> 58:35.920 like think about with even Jesus Christ, 58:35.920 --> 58:37.720 like the difference that the people saw 58:37.720 --> 58:39.920 between Jesus Christ and the scribes and Pharisees 58:39.920 --> 58:42.400 is that he got up with one teaching with authority 58:42.400 --> 58:43.680 is what the Bible says. 58:43.680 --> 58:45.120 They're like, it's not like the Pharisees 58:45.120 --> 58:46.600 where it's like, well you can do that. 58:46.600 --> 58:49.200 this if you want to know Jesus trying to say hey this way you should do because 58:49.200 --> 58:53.800 this is what the Word of God says is what the Bible teaches us so in all 58:53.800 --> 58:59.320 things we we should realize that the Word of God commands every area of our 58:59.320 --> 59:03.520 life and we should always be willing to accept what the Word of God says at any 59:03.520 --> 59:07.600 rate no matter what we think about it no matter what the delivery is because 59:07.600 --> 59:10.760 sometimes we're like well I think that was right but he was kind of mean about 59:10.760 --> 59:13.400 It's like, but what is, that doesn't matter. 59:13.400 --> 59:14.600 What is it, what is that? 59:14.600 --> 59:18.600 is what really matters. The second thing I want to point out to you from these verses, 59:18.600 --> 59:24.600 I was talking about, you know, things being balanced in the Bible, okay, is that it says 59:24.600 --> 59:27.600 in verse 24 again, therefore as the husband said to the Christ, 59:27.800 --> 59:29.840 Or excuse me, as the church is subject under Christ, 59:29.840 --> 59:33.040 so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 59:33.040 --> 59:35.160 Now obviously a couple weeks ago I explained to you guys, 59:35.160 --> 59:36.960 which is true, 100% true by the way, 59:36.960 --> 59:40.240 that the words every and all can range in their definition. 59:40.240 --> 59:41.800 This is a fact if you look at the Bible, 59:41.800 --> 59:44.200 that sometimes to debunk Calvinism or whatever, 59:44.200 --> 59:45.040 people will be like, you know, 59:45.040 --> 59:47.140 all means all and every means every, 59:47.140 --> 59:49.280 but it does in its context, okay? 59:49.280 --> 59:52.560 Because sometimes every or all means, you know, 59:52.560 --> 59:55.200 in the sense of a majority or like, you know, like a, 59:55.200 --> 59:55.800 like a... 59:55.800 --> 01:00:01.040 a general statement, but then sometimes every and all really does mean like a 100% in totality. 01:00:01.040 --> 01:00:03.480 The context of the word is what decides it though. 01:00:03.480 --> 01:00:06.940 And I used that example with you guys, the love of money is the root of all evil. 01:00:06.940 --> 01:00:11.480 This is a general statement though, because there is evil in the world that happens outside 01:00:11.480 --> 01:00:14.600 of the love of money, like adultery is a good example of one. 01:00:14.600 --> 01:00:18.920 But what he's saying is still true though, that generally most of the time when something 01:00:18.920 --> 01:00:21.200 evil is going on, you can tie it back to money. 01:00:21.200 --> 01:00:22.920 That's what he's trying to teach us with that verse. 01:00:22.920 --> 01:00:23.760 So this is important. 01:00:23.800 --> 01:00:27.580 But when it comes to this subject, okay, when it talks about the wives 01:00:27.880 --> 01:00:35.620 Obeying their husbands submitting their husbands and everything is this talking about just kind of the majority things or they're talking about 100% everything 01:00:36.040 --> 01:00:42.820 Everything everything is what it's talking about. That's the context. How do we know because he makes the comparison again to Christ in the church 01:00:42.820 --> 01:00:48.260 Right. It's like it's such a beautiful thing that he does right here. So it's not like like oh, it just means kind of a majority 01:00:48.260 --> 01:00:50.820 it's like no, we don't just kind of like look at the commitments about be like 01:00:51.800 --> 01:00:57.160 Kind of what we like to obey we're just gonna follow no you follow every John and every tittle from the Bible is what? 01:00:57.160 --> 01:00:58.160 We're supposed to do as Christians 01:00:58.160 --> 01:01:03.440 And so the same is true with a wife and her husband and the obvious caveat I give you the eyes 01:01:03.440 --> 01:01:09.600 Okay, and go to acts 529 as I tell you this as well acts 529 the obvious caveat with every authority 01:01:10.300 --> 01:01:16.740 Is that if one of your authorities contradicts a higher authority, you should always appeal to your highest authority. 01:01:16.740 --> 01:01:22.460 Which is to say this, that if your husband just directly told you to sin, like your husband was like, 01:01:22.460 --> 01:01:26.100 Hey, the Bible says I'm in charge of your money, so I need you to go out and murder someone. 01:01:26.100 --> 01:01:28.940 Okay? You don't have to obey that. Why? 01:01:28.940 --> 01:01:32.140 Because you appeal to your highest authority, which is God Almighty, in that situation. 01:01:32.140 --> 01:01:36.740 And the same is true of the parent of their kids, because that's what atheists will throw at us a lot in our face a lot of times. 01:01:36.740 --> 01:01:38.260 They'll be like, well... 01:01:38.300 --> 01:01:43.300 If the Bible says children must obey their parents, if your parents tell you to kill someone, what would you then? 01:01:43.300 --> 01:01:49.300 It's like, you wouldn't listen. You know why? Because God's authority supersedes your parents authority. 01:01:49.300 --> 01:01:54.300 And God is the highest authority. And we see this in Acts 5.29. He says, 01:01:54.300 --> 01:01:59.300 Then Peter and the other apostles answered and said, We ought to obey God rather than men. 01:01:59.300 --> 01:02:05.300 And if you remember in the Bible, the Pharisees did have authority over the people of Israel at this time. 01:02:05.300 --> 01:02:06.300 He tells them... 01:02:06.300 --> 01:02:07.800 specifically the scribes and the Pharisees, 01:02:07.800 --> 01:02:09.640 he says they sit in Moses' seat. 01:02:09.640 --> 01:02:11.320 He says, what's over they've been and tell you 01:02:11.320 --> 01:02:12.960 that observe and do. 01:02:13.300 --> 01:02:19.100 But here, the disciples don't obey them. Why? Because the Pharisees are contradicting God Almighty. That's why. 01:02:19.100 --> 01:02:21.800 Because they're trying to tell them you can't go preach in the name of Jesus Christ. They're like, 01:02:21.800 --> 01:02:24.000 You want to see us? Go preach in the name of Jesus Christ? 01:02:24.000 --> 01:02:28.800 So that's important to realize. So I bring that up. I always bring up caveats because that's how my brain works. 01:02:28.800 --> 01:02:33.400 I always go to like extremes for situations and the exception proving the rule. 01:02:33.400 --> 01:02:35.900 So I don't know if someone else can relate to me like that. 01:02:35.900 --> 01:02:41.200 So I just, I don't know. Because like the first thing I think of that when I say like obey and everything, 01:02:41.300 --> 01:02:46.980 I go to like the caveat just because I don't know my brain it just operates like that but besides 01:02:47.300 --> 01:02:51.620 These caveats okay, which makes sense in their balance right this one caveat 01:02:52.340 --> 01:02:55.700 When the Bible says every in this verse it truly means everything 01:02:56.100 --> 01:02:59.300 everything that your husband commands you, you should obey him in. 01:02:59.300 --> 01:03:03.200 So if your husband tells you to have the dishes done by the time that he gets home, 01:03:03.200 --> 01:03:05.900 you should have the dishes done. If your husband tells you 01:03:05.900 --> 01:03:09.300 to, you know, put the milk on the left side of the fridge, 01:03:09.300 --> 01:03:12.600 you should put the milk on the left side of the fridge. Even if you think it's done, even if you think it's silly, 01:03:12.600 --> 01:03:17.200 your husband, it says everything right here. And if that's not contrary to the authority of God, 01:03:17.200 --> 01:03:21.900 then you should obey your husband. If your husband tells you to have dinner ready by a certain time when he gets home, 01:03:21.900 --> 01:03:24.100 you should obey your husband. These are... 01:03:24.100 --> 01:03:28.460 Again, this is the commandment of God Almighty that's telling you this is not just me. This is God Almighty 01:03:28.460 --> 01:03:33.180 Go to Psalms 51 verse number 4 Psalms 51 verse number 4 01:03:33.900 --> 01:03:38.860 Because I'd say to you as well, that when you choose to disobey your husband for whatever reason, 01:03:38.860 --> 01:03:45.420 when it's just like you think you know better, or you just think it's inconvenient, or you just, you know, 01:03:45.420 --> 01:03:50.220 think that it's a silly thing that he's asking of you, you are sitting against God Almighty. 01:03:50.220 --> 01:03:54.620 Is what I want you to understand as a woman in this room, as a married woman in this room, okay? 01:03:54.620 --> 01:03:59.260 Because look what the Bible says in Psalms 51. This is David writing this after he had to write 01:03:59.260 --> 01:04:01.900 the hits I killed and after he had stolen his 01:04:01.900 --> 01:04:06.460 wife, Bathsheba. But what David says about this though, and this is always struck me very interesting, 01:04:06.500 --> 01:04:08.500 but it makes sense in the context I'm going to give you. He says, 01:04:08.660 --> 01:04:11.080 Against thee only have I sinned. 01:04:11.900 --> 01:04:19.900 Oh yeah, because against thee, thee only have I sinned and done this evil in my sight, that thou mightest be justified when thou speakest and be cleared when thou judgest. 01:04:19.900 --> 01:04:22.900 Like, you think in the story, like, how is it that he only sins against God? 01:04:22.900 --> 01:04:27.900 The reason why is because you can do wickedness to your fellow man, you can do evil to your fellow man, but what is sin? 01:04:27.900 --> 01:04:29.900 Sin is the transgression of God's law. 01:04:29.900 --> 01:04:33.900 So when we sin, it's against God only that we sin. 01:04:33.900 --> 01:04:37.900 So I'm bringing up to say this, that when you disobey your husband for whatever reason, 01:04:37.900 --> 01:04:39.900 because it's a claim of God who you're... 01:04:39.900 --> 01:04:42.900 really disobeying is you're disobeying God Almighty. 01:04:42.900 --> 01:04:45.140 Because He's the one who told you to submit to your husband. 01:04:45.140 --> 01:04:48.860 He's the one who told you to be subject to Him in everything. 01:04:48.860 --> 01:04:50.260 So like when you get this mindset, 01:04:50.260 --> 01:04:51.860 like this is the mindset you need to get into 01:04:51.860 --> 01:04:53.700 then as a wife in this room. 01:04:53.700 --> 01:04:55.620 That when your husband tells you to do something, 01:04:55.620 --> 01:04:57.420 the power and the authority behind that 01:04:57.420 --> 01:04:58.860 is really God Almighty. 01:04:58.860 --> 01:05:01.060 And even if you're upset with your husband, 01:05:01.060 --> 01:05:03.540 even if you're not pleased with things 01:05:03.540 --> 01:05:05.560 or how they're going lately or whatever the commandment is, 01:05:05.560 --> 01:05:07.060 you don't agree with what it says, 01:05:07.060 --> 01:05:07.900 you should just thank yourself. 01:05:07.900 --> 01:05:14.140 Hey, the Bible tells me that I'm supposed to obey my husband. It's God Almighty that commands me to do these things 01:05:14.500 --> 01:05:18.520 That's what we should think of I think that's what that's what the the wife should think of it 01:05:18.520 --> 01:05:24.560 This is an end of the day because that'll motivate you like even think about how he tells that to the working men in Peter, right? 01:05:24.560 --> 01:05:30.160 He says like hey, you're supposed to obey your your masters. He says he's like not just the good masters 01:05:30.160 --> 01:05:35.900 He's like even the forward ones you're supposed to obey why because it's the commandment of God. That's why because the 01:05:35.900 --> 01:05:39.580 authority, every authority is ordained by God as he says in Romans 12. So the 01:05:39.580 --> 01:05:42.900 authority that they have is from God Almighty. So when you rebel against the 01:05:42.900 --> 01:05:45.800 power, who do you really rebel against? You rebel against God. 01:05:46.200 --> 01:05:47.960 So I think I made my point there on that. 01:05:47.960 --> 01:05:49.800 But as a wife as well, you should just realize, 01:05:49.800 --> 01:05:51.640 I'm talking about like, in everything. 01:05:51.640 --> 01:05:53.800 This includes things that you don't even agree with, 01:05:53.800 --> 01:05:55.400 or things that you think are silly. 01:05:55.400 --> 01:05:58.200 Like, there was a husband, 01:05:58.200 --> 01:05:59.800 and this is a long time ago, 01:05:59.800 --> 01:06:01.800 at a different church that we had gone to, 01:06:01.800 --> 01:06:03.560 and he believed that, 01:06:03.560 --> 01:06:05.560 I should say he believed, 01:06:05.560 --> 01:06:07.560 I should say he told his wife and his daughter 01:06:07.560 --> 01:06:08.760 that he wanted them to be, 01:06:08.760 --> 01:06:11.160 switch from being pants to being skirts only. 01:06:11.400 --> 01:06:17.820 Obviously people have different opinions about that whatever okay, but the reality is is the opinions don't matter anymore because the husband told his wife to do that 01:06:17.820 --> 01:06:19.820 That is what she should do period 01:06:20.200 --> 01:06:22.480 He told his wife. Hey, I want you to be in skirts only 01:06:22.480 --> 01:06:24.480 I want my daughter to be in skirts only as well and 01:06:24.560 --> 01:06:29.340 Because this woman didn't agree with them his wife what she ended up doing is that when he'd go to work 01:06:29.560 --> 01:06:33.480 She'd wear pants and the daughter would wear pants too and then right before he came home from work 01:06:33.480 --> 01:06:36.920 She they put the skirts on it's like is it really worth that much effort anyways 01:06:36.920 --> 01:06:41.280 Yeah, like I don't even understand feel like a skirt would be more comfortable than pay that it was but I don't know you get 01:06:41.280 --> 01:06:44.700 Into that okay, but it's like I'm bringing that up to say is like as a wife 01:06:44.700 --> 01:06:48.040 You should not be undercutting your husband's authority like that that 01:06:48.200 --> 01:06:51.440 Like, even in the matters where you don't agree with him, 01:06:51.440 --> 01:06:52.680 it's just too bad. 01:06:52.680 --> 01:06:53.920 Like, people need to realize that as well. 01:06:53.920 --> 01:06:55.400 I think people just forget this as well. 01:06:55.400 --> 01:06:56.240 Like, I was talking about this, 01:06:56.240 --> 01:06:57.920 but like, when it comes to your authorities, 01:06:57.920 --> 01:07:00.560 you're going to disagree with your authority sometimes. 01:07:00.560 --> 01:07:01.480 It's just the reality. 01:07:01.480 --> 01:07:02.600 We have different minds. 01:07:02.600 --> 01:07:04.560 But when you disagree with your authority 01:07:04.560 --> 01:07:06.320 and they have power over you, 01:07:06.320 --> 01:07:08.320 you should submit to them anyways. 01:07:08.320 --> 01:07:10.320 That's where submission is shown anyways. 01:07:10.320 --> 01:07:12.560 Even Jesus Christ, who we obviously know 01:07:12.560 --> 01:07:14.920 as a sinless and perfect person, 01:07:14.920 --> 01:07:16.200 he says in the Garden of Gethsemane, 01:07:16.200 --> 01:07:19.880 He's like if there's any other way to do this God, I would love to have it this way 01:07:19.880 --> 01:07:24.620 He's like nevertheless not my will but thine be done is what Jesus Christ says of the Father 01:07:24.820 --> 01:07:30.460 This is the same mindset that you need to have and if Jesus Christ is as a perfect person is willing to submit his will to 01:07:30.460 --> 01:07:36.980 Someone else who is God the Father then you as an imperfect person should be willing to submit your will to someone else 01:07:37.600 --> 01:07:40.600 That's what I'd submit to you. The example from Jesus Christ. 01:07:40.600 --> 01:07:42.100 You guys are there in Psalms, I think. 01:07:42.100 --> 01:07:46.100 Go back to Ephesians, or go to John 14 verse number 15. 01:07:46.100 --> 01:07:50.100 John 14 verse number 15. 01:07:53.100 --> 01:07:57.340 The third thing I want to point out to you from these verses though as well is that you should 01:07:57.340 --> 01:08:02.700 truly obey your husband as the Lord. I'm kind of repeating these things but I'm attacking them at 01:08:02.700 --> 01:08:05.420 different angles. Hopefully you understand that. I'll read for you Ephesians 5.2 again. It says, 01:08:05.420 --> 01:08:11.420 why submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord? As I said earlier, when it says 01:08:11.420 --> 01:08:14.940 unto the Lord there, it means that you're supposed to submit to your husband with the same level of 01:08:14.940 --> 01:08:18.940 obedience that you would submit to the Lord or as if you were submitting to the Lord is another way 01:08:18.940 --> 01:08:21.100 to say that okay? But let me ask you then. 01:08:21.100 --> 01:08:25.100 When the Bible commands you to do something as a woman, do you argue with what the Bible says? 01:08:25.100 --> 01:08:30.100 When the Bible commands you to do something you don't like what it says, do you just ignore what it says? 01:08:30.300 --> 01:08:34.300 When the Bible commands you to do something and you don't agree with it in your flesh, 01:08:34.300 --> 01:08:38.380 or you just think it's petty, or you think it's like, you know, just a little minute thing, 01:08:38.380 --> 01:08:43.740 do you just disobey what the Bible says? You don't do these things. So this is what I'm going to do 01:08:43.740 --> 01:08:47.500 then. If that is not how you would treat the commandments of God, then that is not how you 01:08:47.500 --> 01:08:52.060 should treat the commandments of your husband either. And as a wife, you shouldn't be arguing 01:08:52.060 --> 01:08:55.100 with the commands of your husband. You shouldn't be ignoring the commands of your husband. You 01:08:55.100 --> 01:08:58.300 shouldn't be just outright disobeying the commandments of your husband as well. 01:08:58.300 --> 01:09:02.220 I'm trying to say because you're supposed to submit to him as unto the Lord 01:09:03.300 --> 01:09:07.980 And if it is and the thing is I'd say this as well with the the wise and the husbands 01:09:07.980 --> 01:09:12.460 Okay, if you're not obeying what your husband says you have like a few options that's going on in your head in my opinion 01:09:12.460 --> 01:09:16.260 Okay, they either you think your role is conditional which is foolish 01:09:16.260 --> 01:09:18.740 Like I already told you you don't understand what your role is 01:09:18.740 --> 01:09:23.800 But I mean the Bible makes it very clear in these verses where your role is that you don't care about what God says 01:09:23.800 --> 01:09:25.940 Or you don't respect your husband 01:09:25.940 --> 01:09:30.980 These are like the four options that I feel like you have when you're just disobeying your husband's commandments outright 01:09:31.300 --> 01:09:32.220 when you're arguing with him, 01:09:32.220 --> 01:09:34.020 when you're going back and forth with him. 01:09:34.020 --> 01:09:35.580 And if this is your attitude as a wife, 01:09:35.580 --> 01:09:36.900 you need to get your heart right with God, 01:09:36.900 --> 01:09:39.460 because again, I'm not the one who's telling you these things. 01:09:39.460 --> 01:09:40.300 It's the word of God. 01:09:40.300 --> 01:09:43.160 I'm just the messenger of the word of God here. 01:09:43.160 --> 01:09:45.220 But I'm preaching to you what the Bible says, 01:09:45.220 --> 01:09:46.100 and if you don't like it, 01:09:46.100 --> 01:09:48.500 you don't like the commandments of God. 01:09:48.500 --> 01:09:50.360 And as a woman, I'd say to you again, 01:09:50.360 --> 01:09:52.260 that this is beneficial to you. 01:09:52.260 --> 01:09:53.820 I said this in the sermon for the men too, 01:09:53.820 --> 01:09:54.700 that loving your wife, 01:09:54.700 --> 01:09:56.680 he that loved his wife loved himself. 01:09:56.680 --> 01:09:58.340 The same is true with a wife though. 01:09:58.340 --> 01:09:59.300 When you submit to your husband, 01:09:59.300 --> 01:10:00.580 that it is beneficial to you. 01:10:00.580 --> 01:10:02.180 I hope you understand this. 01:10:02.180 --> 01:10:04.420 And how do I know this? 01:10:04.420 --> 01:10:06.580 I'd say this, if I could brag on my wife a little bit. 01:10:06.580 --> 01:10:09.460 My wife does a very good job at obeying the things 01:10:09.460 --> 01:10:12.540 that I say and of submitting to the things 01:10:12.540 --> 01:10:13.660 that I ask her to do. 01:10:13.660 --> 01:10:15.900 Like, to the point where I need to check if she's a robot. 01:10:15.900 --> 01:10:18.460 Because sometimes I'm like, they got those AI bots out there 01:10:18.460 --> 01:10:19.500 nowadays. 01:10:19.500 --> 01:10:20.740 Not really, OK? 01:10:20.740 --> 01:10:22.500 But I'm serious in this regard. 01:10:22.500 --> 01:10:26.180 Why I say it's beneficial for you is because my wife does 01:10:26.180 --> 01:10:27.300 what I ask her to do so often. 01:10:27.300 --> 01:10:32.420 and so quickly and so well that it literally compels me to love her. 01:10:32.420 --> 01:10:35.060 It makes it like impossible not to love her. 01:10:35.060 --> 01:10:40.100 Because I'm like, how could I not love my wife when she just waits to obey every single thing that I ask her to do? 01:10:40.100 --> 01:10:43.460 How can I not love my wife when she just sits there and doze upon my every request? 01:10:43.460 --> 01:10:44.820 It forces me to love her. 01:10:44.820 --> 01:10:47.300 It's like, I would feel convicted if I didn't love her. 01:10:47.300 --> 01:10:53.460 And what I'm trying to submit to you then is this, is that when you obey your role, it is beneficial to you as a wife. 01:10:53.460 --> 01:10:55.220 Because it's really hard for a husband not to love... 01:10:55.300 --> 01:10:59.940 his wife if she is truly in full submission to him and she's truly making his life easier 01:10:59.940 --> 01:11:03.380 and if she's honoring him and reverencing him like the Bible says. 01:11:03.380 --> 01:11:08.100 So I would just, you know, because I would say this as you guys are there in John 14, 01:11:08.100 --> 01:11:13.300 15, like part of loving your husband as a wife is obeying what he says because we obviously 01:11:13.300 --> 01:11:17.300 all experience love in different ways, but part of loving your husband is obeying his 01:11:17.300 --> 01:11:20.500 commandments and this is true with us in God as well as I keep on making that analogy to 01:11:20.500 --> 01:11:23.220 God because Paul makes the analogy with the husbands in the church, right? 01:11:23.300 --> 01:11:26.140 that the Bible says in John 14-15, he says, 01:11:26.140 --> 01:11:27.300 if you love me. 01:11:27.700 --> 01:11:29.460 keep my commandments, right? 01:11:29.460 --> 01:11:30.660 So I would apply the same thing. 01:11:30.660 --> 01:11:32.040 If you love your husband, you should obey 01:11:32.040 --> 01:11:33.500 the commandments of your husband, okay? 01:11:33.500 --> 01:11:36.740 I really harped on that, but this is something 01:11:36.740 --> 01:11:40.020 that has to be preached on because of the attitudes 01:11:40.020 --> 01:11:41.660 out there nowadays and just the spirit 01:11:41.660 --> 01:11:43.300 of this culture nowadays. 01:11:43.300 --> 01:11:44.460 So point one of my sermon is this, 01:11:44.460 --> 01:11:45.540 is that you should submit to your husband 01:11:45.540 --> 01:11:46.380 as unto the Lord. 01:11:46.380 --> 01:11:48.780 Point two is that you should reverence your husband. 01:11:48.780 --> 01:11:52.280 Go to Ephesians five verse 32, Ephesians five, 32. 01:11:58.100 --> 01:12:00.500 Ephesians 5 verse number 32. 01:12:00.800 --> 01:12:05.800 The Bible says, this is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ in the church. 01:12:05.800 --> 01:12:09.800 Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife, even as himself, 01:12:09.800 --> 01:12:13.800 and the wife see that she reverence her husband. 01:12:13.800 --> 01:12:17.800 What does it mean to reverence? It means to honor someone or it means to respect someone. 01:12:17.800 --> 01:12:23.800 So the Bible is commanding you as a wife to honor your husband, to respect your husband. 01:12:23.800 --> 01:12:25.800 And so, if this is true, we should apply a few things on this. 01:12:25.800 --> 01:12:28.760 Number one is that as a wife you should pray. 01:12:28.800 --> 01:12:33.760 your husband for the role that he fulfills as your husband. Okay go to Proverbs 31 verse number 23 01:12:34.320 --> 01:12:37.520 Proverbs 31 verse number 23 01:12:40.100 --> 01:12:47.100 And if you notice as you're turning there as well, there's a lot of similarities in how God tells us to love each other as husbands and wives. 01:12:47.100 --> 01:12:54.100 He tells women to reference their husbands, but as we saw in 1 Peter, husbands are also supposed to honor their wives as the weaker vessels, what the Bible says. 01:12:54.100 --> 01:12:59.100 The same thing is true with love, that you're supposed to love your wife and as a wife you're supposed to love your husband. 01:12:59.100 --> 01:13:03.100 And I also made you in that last point that part of loving your husband is obeying him. 01:13:03.100 --> 01:13:08.100 Because just like it's part of loving God for us that we obey his commandments, the same is true with your husband. 01:13:08.100 --> 01:13:09.860 But Proverbs 31 verse 23 says, 01:13:09.860 --> 01:13:11.940 her husband is known in the gates 01:13:11.940 --> 01:13:14.940 when he sits among the elders of the land. 01:13:14.940 --> 01:13:16.220 So in the midst of the virtuous woman, 01:13:16.220 --> 01:13:18.540 obviously you know Proverbs 31 is about the virtuous woman. 01:13:18.540 --> 01:13:21.140 We see here that he takes a little break from that 01:13:21.140 --> 01:13:23.860 and he says that her husband is known in the gates. 01:13:23.860 --> 01:13:25.000 Why do you think that is? 01:13:25.200 --> 01:13:30.480 It's probably because the virtuous woman is praising her husband to other people. 01:13:30.480 --> 01:13:33.680 If he's known in the gates and when he sits among the elders of the land, 01:13:33.680 --> 01:13:36.880 it's probably because she's speaking well of her husband and she's not speaking 01:13:36.880 --> 01:13:39.520 negatively of her husband to other people. 01:13:39.520 --> 01:13:42.880 And by the way, I know this for the women, but this applies to both genders, by the way, 01:13:42.880 --> 01:13:47.440 and for both husbands and wives, that you should not be talking bad about your husband 01:13:47.440 --> 01:13:50.880 and you should not be talking bad about your wife as a husband. 01:13:50.880 --> 01:13:53.120 This is like, like I was thinking about this when I was talking about this. 01:13:53.200 --> 01:14:00.100 everyone knows just like the Bible says many times that backbiting and tailbearing is a sin even when you just do it to your fellow 01:14:00.100 --> 01:14:07.460 Man, but how much more is it simple then how much more is it wicked for you to backbite and tailbear about your spouse? 01:14:07.460 --> 01:14:12.780 Who's your one flesh is what the Bible says it's evil and people will do things like they'll like 01:14:13.160 --> 01:14:17.560 they'll act like they're trying to seek marriage advice and they'll use it as just a 01:14:18.160 --> 01:14:21.120 Tool to just talk bad about their spouse this 01:14:21.200 --> 01:14:23.200 This is wicked, this is evil, this is wrong. 01:14:23.200 --> 01:14:25.200 And you might be able to get away with that 01:14:25.200 --> 01:14:27.200 with people that love the gossip. 01:14:27.200 --> 01:14:29.200 But what should scare you about that is the Bible says that 01:14:29.200 --> 01:14:31.200 God knows the thoughts and intents of the heart. 01:14:31.200 --> 01:14:33.200 And if your thoughts and intents of your heart 01:14:33.200 --> 01:14:35.200 is to go and just bad mouth your spouse 01:14:35.200 --> 01:14:37.200 to other people, you need to get your heart right 01:14:37.200 --> 01:14:39.200 with God. That is wicked, 01:14:39.200 --> 01:14:41.200 that is evil. That should never be so. 01:14:41.200 --> 01:14:43.200 You should only ever have positive things 01:14:43.200 --> 01:14:45.200 come out of your mouth about your spouse 01:14:45.200 --> 01:14:47.200 to any other person. 01:14:47.200 --> 01:14:49.200 Obviously, like, if you're 01:14:49.200 --> 01:14:51.560 genuinely getting marriage advice and things like that. 01:14:51.560 --> 01:14:53.840 Even then I'd still say be cautious about what you say 01:14:53.840 --> 01:14:54.660 and things like that. 01:14:54.660 --> 01:14:56.560 But there are some situations, but for the most part, 01:14:56.560 --> 01:14:57.960 if you're just talking to your best friend, 01:14:57.960 --> 01:15:00.320 you're talking to your buddy at church, 01:15:00.320 --> 01:15:02.720 they don't even know all the dirty laundry of your spouse. 01:15:02.720 --> 01:15:04.280 It's an evil thing to do. 01:15:04.280 --> 01:15:05.760 And it's not good for your marriage. 01:15:05.760 --> 01:15:07.040 And it doesn't make you look good either. 01:15:07.040 --> 01:15:08.520 It makes you look bad as well. 01:15:08.520 --> 01:15:10.240 Because again, you guys are one flesh. 01:15:10.240 --> 01:15:12.660 So if you make your spouse look bad, 01:15:12.660 --> 01:15:14.740 you're making yourself look bad as well. 01:15:15.400 --> 01:15:20.400 So the whole point of that is if we're not supposed to be backbiting about our brothers in Christ, 01:15:20.400 --> 01:15:28.400 we surely should not be backbiting about our one flesh, the one that we're joined together with as one flesh. 01:15:29.400 --> 01:15:33.400 You guys are there in Proverbs, go back, go to 1 John 5 14 is where I want you to go. 01:15:33.400 --> 01:15:35.400 1 John 5, verse number 14. 01:15:35.400 --> 01:15:39.400 By the way, this sermon is not going to last longer than an hour, so stick with me if you will. 01:15:39.400 --> 01:15:44.400 1 John 5 14. I know this is like a lot to go through, but I mean it's an important subject. 01:15:44.400 --> 01:15:49.400 Like I was telling you guys in the first sermon, it's so important when we have a divorce rate in America 01:15:49.400 --> 01:15:54.400 that more marriages end in divorce than they do with people staying together, 01:15:54.400 --> 01:15:56.400 like the Bible commands us to do. 01:15:56.400 --> 01:15:57.400 that it's supposed to 01:15:57.400 --> 01:16:04.520 We vow before God Almighty that it's supposed to be tell death do us part and people take that so lightly that they'll divorce a spouse 01:16:04.520 --> 01:16:11.200 And get another and get another and get another it's completely insane and part of the reason why that happens is because people don't preach 01:16:11.200 --> 01:16:18.480 About how wicked divorce is how wicked divorce and remarriage is the Bible says that God hates the putting away 01:16:18.640 --> 01:16:25.400 As I explained you guys in my last sermon last week and the Bible says this was God's plan from the beginning that one man was 01:16:25.400 --> 01:16:29.480 supposed to be with one woman and they were supposed to be inseparable until 01:16:29.480 --> 01:16:33.120 the day that they died. That's God's will for every single person's marriage and 01:16:33.120 --> 01:16:38.720 so like I'll rant about this but it's important and it's more important in 01:16:38.720 --> 01:16:43.520 our society now more than ever that we need to take what the Bible says 01:16:43.520 --> 01:16:46.920 seriously about divorce and remarriage and not just just throw it by the wayside 01:16:46.920 --> 01:16:48.600 like some light day. 01:16:49.100 --> 01:16:53.160 Where are you guys going to you guys are going to first John right first John 5 verse number 14 01:16:53.440 --> 01:16:56.160 It's about not backbiting about your spouse as well 01:16:56.160 --> 01:16:59.100 And I was talking about this what I want to say to you guys as well 01:16:59.240 --> 01:17:06.160 Because I was talking to you guys last week about how many you know about backbiting how many men there are out there that 01:17:06.680 --> 01:17:11.320 Are just terrible husband. I don't know how to say it in a way like I was talking about those videos 01:17:11.320 --> 01:17:17.100 I was watching where the dude would just be playing video games while his wife is the breadwinner and she takes care 01:17:17.100 --> 01:17:20.540 the kids and she like handles all the appointments and all these kind of things. 01:17:20.540 --> 01:17:21.260 And I was just like... 01:17:21.600 --> 01:17:23.100 This is terrible. 01:17:23.100 --> 01:17:27.860 But what you should realize about this is that if your husband isn't making you fulfill both roles of the house 01:17:27.860 --> 01:17:31.860 as some terrible men will out there, that should be a praiseworthy thing. 01:17:31.860 --> 01:17:33.600 That should be worthy of respect. 01:17:33.600 --> 01:17:38.440 That you should show your husband that respect because if your husband, 01:17:38.440 --> 01:17:41.600 even if you don't think he's the nicest to you always at home or whatever, 01:17:41.600 --> 01:17:44.940 it's like if your husband's going out there working a full-time job, 01:17:44.940 --> 01:17:49.600 you know, going out and sweating in the heat or just even going anywhere for... 01:17:49.600 --> 01:17:55.140 Ten hours a day eight hours a day nine hours a day and submitting to someone else's will if your husband is doing that 01:17:55.140 --> 01:18:01.820 For you and for your family to take care of your bills and your food and all the other extra things you that you have 01:18:02.080 --> 01:18:03.600 That is praiseworthy 01:18:03.600 --> 01:18:10.280 You should praise your husband on honor him for doing that and not focus on the things that your husband isn't doing because that's another 01:18:10.280 --> 01:18:13.280 Big problem. I don't want to open that can everyone so we get it to the sermon on time 01:18:13.280 --> 01:18:17.180 But like sometimes people just only focus on what their spouse doesn't do 01:18:17.600 --> 01:18:20.720 But this is never how we should be because like I was telling you before with marriage, 01:18:20.720 --> 01:18:24.000 nobody's marriage is perfect. So there's always going to be things that your spouse can do better. 01:18:24.000 --> 01:18:26.720 But why don't you focus on the good things that your spouse does? Why don't you focus on the 01:18:26.720 --> 01:18:31.120 things that they do get right and praise them for it? And if you do those things, they'll probably 01:18:31.680 --> 01:18:36.160 improve and get better. Okay. But anyways, okay. The second way I was about referencing your husband 01:18:36.160 --> 01:18:40.400 by praising him and by not backbiting him. That's true for both genders, like I was saying, 01:18:40.400 --> 01:18:44.880 but also you should tell you to understand this, that part of referencing your husband is asking 01:18:44.880 --> 01:18:45.600 Senior Hub in the New... 01:18:45.600 --> 01:18:47.100 things not... 01:18:47.100 --> 01:18:50.860 Telling your husband to do things that's why I have you guys there in first John 514 01:18:50.860 --> 01:18:57.500 It says and this is the confidence that we have in him that if we ask anything according to his will he 01:18:57.980 --> 01:19:01.220 Heareth us and I know I kind of slightly made that comparison earlier 01:19:01.220 --> 01:19:04.860 But it's kind of true again with Christ and the church and with husbands and with their wives 01:19:05.040 --> 01:19:08.940 That when we go to God in prayer, we ask God to do things for us 01:19:08.940 --> 01:19:14.260 We don't tell him to do things for us and the same should be true with husbands and wife that if you're 01:19:15.100 --> 01:19:19.740 commanding your husband to do something, that's not referencing him. 01:19:20.600 --> 01:19:23.900 There should be no situation where you have to tell your husband to do anything. 01:19:23.900 --> 01:19:27.100 Because I was telling you guys earlier as well, I love my wife to death. 01:19:27.100 --> 01:19:28.100 I truly do. 01:19:28.100 --> 01:19:30.600 But my wife never tells me to do anything. 01:19:30.600 --> 01:19:32.600 She does not just come and bark orz at me. 01:19:32.600 --> 01:19:35.100 It wouldn't work anyways because I'm just too stubborn for that anyways. 01:19:35.100 --> 01:19:39.100 She just came at me sideways and was just trying to lighten me up and be like, 01:19:39.100 --> 01:19:41.600 Okay, whatever you're asking me to do, it's the last thing I'll ever do. 01:19:41.600 --> 01:19:43.600 I'll make sure of it, okay? 01:19:43.600 --> 01:19:46.100 She's like, Hey, you have to take the garbage out. 01:19:46.100 --> 01:19:48.600 It's like, I will let that garbage sit there until the day I die now. 01:19:48.600 --> 01:19:52.640 I'm going to be silly about that, but it's true in the sense that it's like you should 01:19:52.640 --> 01:19:54.400 not be telling your husband to do anything. 01:19:54.400 --> 01:19:58.240 You should be asking your husband because that's part of understanding that your husband 01:19:58.240 --> 01:19:59.240 is your authority. 01:19:59.240 --> 01:20:02.120 Like, this is true in any area of life as well, by the way. 01:20:02.120 --> 01:20:04.960 With my dad, I never tell my dad what to do. 01:20:04.960 --> 01:20:07.360 I ask my dad to do things for me. 01:20:07.360 --> 01:20:11.680 With my boss, if we're going to tell my boss what to do, I ask him what I can do. 01:20:11.680 --> 01:20:14.000 The same should be true as you with a wife. 01:20:14.000 --> 01:20:16.600 If you, as a wife, if you would angry. 01:20:16.600 --> 01:20:19.640 you if your children will try to command you what to do, 01:20:19.640 --> 01:20:21.720 then you shouldn't be a hypocrite and then turn around 01:20:21.720 --> 01:20:23.100 and do the same thing to your husband. 01:20:23.200 --> 01:20:27.360 That if you would be mad at your children saying, 01:20:27.360 --> 01:20:30.920 mom, go do this, go do that, who are you talking to? 01:20:30.920 --> 01:20:32.560 That is the same mindset that you should have 01:20:32.560 --> 01:20:33.520 with your husband though. 01:20:33.520 --> 01:20:35.000 Because if you understood what the Bible 01:20:35.000 --> 01:20:35.820 teaches about all these things, 01:20:35.820 --> 01:20:37.720 you'd realize that it's the exact same way. 01:20:37.720 --> 01:20:40.920 That as I wouldn't command my dad, 01:20:40.920 --> 01:20:42.680 that as I wouldn't command my boss, 01:20:42.680 --> 01:20:46.100 that as I wouldn't command my pastor to do something, 01:20:46.100 --> 01:20:48.360 you should not be commanding your husband to do anything. 01:20:48.360 --> 01:20:49.400 It's not respectful. 01:20:49.400 --> 01:20:51.200 It is disrespectful to your husband. 01:20:51.200 --> 01:20:53.440 then you should be asking him to do things. 01:20:53.440 --> 01:20:55.760 Because the reality is, well, when my wife comes up 01:20:55.760 --> 01:20:57.880 and asks me for things, which is always, 01:20:57.880 --> 01:20:59.840 because I mean, I'm not saying she's a perfect person, 01:20:59.840 --> 01:21:01.840 but she does, I mean, we just learned. 01:21:01.840 --> 01:21:03.440 I mean, we learned this in like the first couple months 01:21:03.440 --> 01:21:05.160 of marriage, it's like, don't tell me to do something, 01:21:05.160 --> 01:21:06.680 ask me to do something, okay? 01:21:06.680 --> 01:21:07.880 When she comes up and asks me for something, 01:21:07.880 --> 01:21:09.760 I love to oblige her request, 01:21:09.760 --> 01:21:13.240 because they just built in men naturally 01:21:13.240 --> 01:21:15.080 to want to please women, I feel like. 01:21:15.080 --> 01:21:18.080 It's just natural in you, you want to make your wife happy. 01:21:18.300 --> 01:21:20.640 But you can flip it on its head really fast, okay? 01:21:20.640 --> 01:21:22.600 Depending on how you come to your husband. 01:21:22.600 --> 01:21:23.440 But that's what I'm saying. 01:21:23.440 --> 01:21:24.940 It's again in your benefit as a woman 01:21:24.940 --> 01:21:29.180 that if you want your husband to perform the request 01:21:29.180 --> 01:21:30.820 that you're asking of him, 01:21:30.820 --> 01:21:32.780 you should approach him respectfully 01:21:32.780 --> 01:21:34.020 and you should ask him for things, 01:21:34.020 --> 01:21:36.260 not tell him to do things. 01:21:36.260 --> 01:21:37.000 Because... 01:21:37.400 --> 01:21:41.180 People will think that that's crazy sometimes, but I just think it's crazy that women think that it's okay to just talk over 01:21:41.180 --> 01:21:41.860 They want to their husband 01:21:41.860 --> 01:21:46.860 I think it's crazy that women think that they could just boss their husband around and just light them up in front of people 01:21:46.860 --> 01:21:49.520 It's embarrassing that should never be you as a woman 01:21:49.520 --> 01:21:53.220 And if you have respect for your husband all that's what I'm talking about if you have respect for your husband at all 01:21:53.220 --> 01:21:56.940 You would not do that in front of other people because every other person wants to let him goes 01:21:57.500 --> 01:21:59.800 That's embarrassing. That's cringe. Okay? 01:21:59.800 --> 01:22:02.400 And I understand, I'm not talking about like, 01:22:02.400 --> 01:22:03.900 your kid's about to run the road. 01:22:03.900 --> 01:22:05.700 He's like, hey, how do you grab the kid? 01:22:05.700 --> 01:22:06.800 Like, you're not gonna tell him what to do. 01:22:06.800 --> 01:22:08.100 He's like, bam! Okay. 01:22:08.100 --> 01:22:09.700 That's not what I'm talking about, okay? 01:22:09.700 --> 01:22:12.500 I'm talking about when you come to your husband though, 01:22:12.500 --> 01:22:14.200 and you're asking him to do something, 01:22:14.200 --> 01:22:15.800 it should be you asking him. 01:22:15.800 --> 01:22:17.600 And if he doesn't answer your request, 01:22:17.600 --> 01:22:19.100 you should also accept that as well. 01:22:19.100 --> 01:22:21.000 It's the same thing with God, that when we ask God 01:22:21.000 --> 01:22:23.300 a prayer request, he does not have to answer us. 01:22:23.300 --> 01:22:25.100 The same is true as your husband, okay? 01:22:25.100 --> 01:22:25.500 This is 01:22:25.500 --> 01:22:27.500 This is the last point in my sermon. 01:22:27.500 --> 01:22:29.500 Go to Genesis 2.18. 01:22:33.900 --> 01:22:38.160 Genesis 2 verse number 18. The first point was that husbands are receiving that 01:22:38.160 --> 01:22:41.340 why decision you should submit on your husband doesn't the Lord point to was 01:22:41.340 --> 01:22:44.980 that you should reverence your husband and honor your husband and point number 01:22:44.980 --> 01:22:49.160 three is that you should strive to make your husband's life easier as a wife 01:22:49.160 --> 01:22:52.660 Genesis 2 18 is where you guys are going and I know about this up earlier as well 01:22:52.660 --> 01:22:55.800 but like again I'm talking about the reverence of your husband thing think 01:22:55.800 --> 01:23:00.300 about how much respect Sarah truly had for Abraham for her to call him Lord you 01:23:00.300 --> 01:23:01.900 know that she loves Abraham she knows 01:23:01.900 --> 01:23:07.900 You know by just her saying that alone that she respects Abraham deeply Peter praises her example for that 01:23:07.900 --> 01:23:13.740 So and again, I'm not going to declare her husband more, but I'm telling you following the same steps of Sarah 01:23:13.740 --> 01:23:16.200 She's a great example of a wife is what he teaches us 01:23:17.060 --> 01:23:18.660 Genesis 2 verse number 18 01:23:18.660 --> 01:23:23.900 I'm talking about my last point my sermon is that you should strive to make your husband's life easier in Genesis 2 18 01:23:23.900 --> 01:23:29.780 It says and the Lord God said is not good for a man that he should be alone. I will make him and help me 01:23:29.900 --> 01:23:34.300 for him. So all the way back to the beginning of creation we see that one of 01:23:34.300 --> 01:23:39.100 the biggest reasons why God created woman in the first place was to be a 01:23:39.100 --> 01:23:43.860 help me for her husband. And so as a married woman what you should take from 01:23:43.860 --> 01:23:47.220 that is that your goal in life one of your main goals in this life should be 01:23:47.220 --> 01:23:50.940 to make your husband happy, should be to please your husband, should be to make 01:23:50.940 --> 01:23:54.200 your husband's life easier is what I'd submit to you. 01:23:54.300 --> 01:23:59.300 And that's to say this as well, that if, on the flip side of that, that is if you're... 01:23:59.700 --> 01:24:06.180 consistently making your husband's life harder, if you're consistently just being a pan and neck, if you're consistently making his life like 01:24:06.540 --> 01:24:07.740 like 01:24:07.740 --> 01:24:13.460 less easy, you're not fulfilling one of the biggest purposes that God had for you as a wife, which is, you know, 01:24:13.460 --> 01:24:18.460 it's kind of, I don't even know if I should say harsh, but it's just the reality, okay? Because at 1 Corinthians 11, 8, 01:24:18.460 --> 01:24:25.100 it says, for the man is not of the woman, but the woman of the man, neither was the man created for the woman, 01:24:25.100 --> 01:24:27.580 what does it say? But the woman for the man. 01:24:27.700 --> 01:24:28.880 is what the Bible says. 01:24:28.880 --> 01:24:31.600 So this idea where men will throw out, 01:24:31.600 --> 01:24:32.760 which is unfortunately true sometimes, 01:24:32.760 --> 01:24:34.720 they're like, you know, I've got the wife at home, 01:24:34.720 --> 01:24:36.520 the old ball and chain, whatever, 01:24:36.520 --> 01:24:37.520 which is also embarrassing 01:24:37.520 --> 01:24:40.000 because talking about it by your spouse, good night. 01:24:40.000 --> 01:24:41.360 But it's like, that should never be the case. 01:24:41.360 --> 01:24:43.480 You should not be holding your husband back. 01:24:43.480 --> 01:24:45.760 You should be allowing him to increase 01:24:45.760 --> 01:24:47.840 in every area of his life. 01:24:47.840 --> 01:24:49.860 That you should be helping him out 01:24:49.860 --> 01:24:51.160 and making things easier for him. 01:24:51.160 --> 01:24:53.480 Because the best example I give you this is that, 01:24:53.480 --> 01:24:55.500 again, if I could give my wife a little bit of praise. 01:24:55.900 --> 01:24:58.060 especially on Sundays and on Wednesdays, 01:24:58.060 --> 01:25:00.740 Kylie does just about everything for the kids 01:25:00.740 --> 01:25:02.620 and for the setting up for the church as well. 01:25:02.620 --> 01:25:05.940 Like she makes the bulletins, she gets the kids dressed, 01:25:05.940 --> 01:25:08.060 she even gets my clothes out for me on Sunday. 01:25:08.060 --> 01:25:09.500 I mean, just everything. 01:25:09.500 --> 01:25:12.240 She makes it as easy as possible. 01:25:12.240 --> 01:25:15.660 But because she does that, it allows me to put all my focus 01:25:15.660 --> 01:25:17.580 into my sermon instead. 01:25:17.580 --> 01:25:20.740 So I really have to say, not only is that just super 01:25:20.740 --> 01:25:22.800 beneficial for your marriage, but just like. 01:25:22.900 --> 01:25:37.900 In life in general, I've made this point before that as a woman you should never just think that your role is just like something lesser because if by you fulfilling your role you're allowing your husband to do a greater job of their spiritual role, then don't you think God's going to reward you according to that? 01:25:37.900 --> 01:25:39.900 You better know what he is. 01:25:39.900 --> 01:25:45.580 As a wife, if you're staying at home with the kids and you're... 01:25:45.800 --> 01:25:48.760 you know, letting your husband go on some kind of soul hunting trip or something like that. 01:25:48.760 --> 01:25:51.560 Don't you think that you're going to get reward for that as well? I mean, think back to the 01:25:51.560 --> 01:25:56.280 Old Testament with David. I know this is like an obscure example, but if you remember that story 01:25:56.280 --> 01:26:01.560 where it was the men of Ziklag, they went and they took all their stuff and they were just kind of 01:26:01.560 --> 01:26:07.000 left there stranded. And he told the men there that if they stayed with the camp, 01:26:07.000 --> 01:26:10.680 that they would also get a reward for sitting there with the stuff. 01:26:11.100 --> 01:26:15.660 So because that role is important as well because if they just all go out and you know run away 01:26:15.660 --> 01:26:18.860 and they leave all their stuff there and someone steals it then it's like what does it mean that 01:26:18.860 --> 01:26:22.780 you wouldn't conquer anything in the first place? So I think that the same thing is true with that 01:26:22.780 --> 01:26:28.220 why is that you know that's that's why I'm telling you that I constantly try to uplift and honor women 01:26:28.220 --> 01:26:33.020 for the good things that they do because I think that there's like a lack of that in preaching I 01:26:33.020 --> 01:26:37.740 truly do I think there's a lack of respect amongst just Christian culture in general and I don't think 01:26:37.740 --> 01:26:39.100 I think it's beneficial for anybody. 01:26:39.100 --> 01:26:40.380 when we're doing these things, okay? 01:26:40.380 --> 01:26:41.940 But I already told you, I can't be nice to you guys, okay? 01:26:41.940 --> 01:26:43.220 I was being nice to you guys last week. 01:26:43.220 --> 01:26:44.900 You're catching me like an asafoetid, okay? 01:26:44.900 --> 01:26:45.740 Where are you guys at? 01:26:45.740 --> 01:26:48.980 Go to first, CreateDate732. 01:26:48.980 --> 01:26:49.900 Obviously I'm talking about that, okay? 01:26:49.900 --> 01:26:53.260 But I kind of derailed myself just to saying, 01:26:53.260 --> 01:26:56.060 like, you know, because my wife takes care 01:26:56.060 --> 01:26:58.980 of everything else, it just makes my life easy. 01:26:58.980 --> 01:27:00.140 And I'm not talking about that every day, 01:27:00.140 --> 01:27:02.620 I'm just talking about like on Sundays specifically, okay? 01:27:02.620 --> 01:27:04.020 Because she's just sitting there, 01:27:04.020 --> 01:27:05.500 no, I'm not just sitting there, 01:27:05.500 --> 01:27:07.100 because she's just focused on... 01:27:07.100 --> 01:27:13.660 Making everything easy for him on a Sunday it allows me to devote my time to my sermon prep or to whatever things else 01:27:13.660 --> 01:27:17.860 That I need to handle there's a great reward for from God Almighty for that 01:27:17.860 --> 01:27:22.780 I believe a hundred percent so you should you should see your role in that way as a woman 01:27:22.780 --> 01:27:25.900 But I'm talking about being a help me okay your your life 01:27:26.060 --> 01:27:29.100 Your main one of your main goals in life should be to make your husband's life 01:27:29.380 --> 01:27:35.100 Easier and again if you do that your husband will love you for it. Okay, because how do you know? 01:27:35.100 --> 01:27:39.060 love someone who's just making your life consistently easier and I'm like because 01:27:39.060 --> 01:27:41.660 you might think because you might think like from my last sermon if you if you 01:27:41.660 --> 01:27:44.580 heard it okay I was talking about how a husband supposed to be helping his wife 01:27:44.580 --> 01:27:47.420 and you know helping out where she needs help you might be like what is this 01:27:47.420 --> 01:27:50.520 like which one is it then is a husband supposed to be helping his wife or is a 01:27:50.520 --> 01:27:52.980 wife supposed to be helping her husband like what do I told you this it's both 01:27:52.980 --> 01:27:56.340 of these things though because if you both are sitting there and trying to 01:27:56.340 --> 01:28:00.260 just prefer one another above your own self if you think if I just sit there 01:28:00.260 --> 01:28:03.100 and think what can I do to make my wife happy what can I do to 01:28:03.100 --> 01:28:05.060 help her needs and she turns around and she says, 01:28:05.060 --> 01:28:06.220 what can I do to make my husband happy? 01:28:06.220 --> 01:28:07.500 And what can I do to fulfill his needs? 01:28:07.500 --> 01:28:09.140 You know what ends up happening from that? 01:28:09.140 --> 01:28:11.540 Both people's needs get met at the other day. 01:28:12.200 --> 01:28:17.200 And that's why like I was telling you I was unbalanced last week 01:28:17.200 --> 01:28:20.120 But like the reality because you might think from my last summer meeting too as well 01:28:20.120 --> 01:28:22.000 I'm just like doing everything my wife for my wife 01:28:22.000 --> 01:28:25.400 But that could not be further from the truth my wife is consistently 01:28:25.700 --> 01:28:29.960 Just going above and beyond for me in many of the ways that I just don't want to just 01:28:30.240 --> 01:28:32.240 Like spend 20 minutes explaining right now 01:28:32.320 --> 01:28:37.720 But my wife is consistently going above and beyond for me and because she does that it just makes me look at her as well 01:28:37.720 --> 01:28:40.040 Be like hey whenever I see that she's having a rough day 01:28:40.200 --> 01:28:44.000 When I see that she needs some help it compels me to want to help her as well 01:28:44.100 --> 01:28:48.240 That's why I say these things are beneficial, but we just take turns serving each other 01:28:48.240 --> 01:28:51.960 I mean this is how you make a successful marriage because marriage is give-and-take is what the reality is 01:28:52.280 --> 01:28:56.140 That when I come home from work, and I'm exhausted because I was roasting the Sun 01:28:56.140 --> 01:29:00.500 And I'm all sore she just caters to me and makes me have just the easiest day possible 01:29:00.500 --> 01:29:05.080 But then when I come back home, and I see that you know her hair's a mess and the kids are all three crying at 01:29:05.080 --> 01:29:08.160 Once and they're all got messy diapers. It's like well. How can I help? 01:29:08.200 --> 01:29:14.620 my wife right just just the give and take the back and forth so if you guys 01:29:14.620 --> 01:29:18.840 there in first Corinthians 7 verse 32 so this is what I'd ask you as I close this 01:29:18.840 --> 01:29:23.400 sermon okay as a married woman in this room are you actually help me to your 01:29:23.400 --> 01:29:24.300 husband 01:29:25.100 --> 01:29:26.700 Or do you make your husband's life harder? 01:29:26.700 --> 01:29:30.100 Because if that's so, you need to fix some things in your life. 01:29:30.100 --> 01:29:32.180 If you were to get someone's, because he probably 01:29:32.180 --> 01:29:33.220 wouldn't take this in front of you, 01:29:33.220 --> 01:29:34.500 but if you got a random interview, 01:29:34.500 --> 01:29:36.980 and was like, does your wife make your life easier or harder? 01:29:36.980 --> 01:29:39.500 The answer should be easier, hands down. 01:29:39.500 --> 01:29:42.820 Because that is part of the reason why you were created. 01:29:42.820 --> 01:29:46.900 One of the main reasons you were created in the first place. 01:29:46.900 --> 01:29:48.500 And if you consider these things, 01:29:48.500 --> 01:29:50.740 I'm telling you that it will improve your marriage. 01:29:52.500 --> 01:29:56.940 Because with my wife as well, I gotta stop crazy. I'm gonna get too big of a head, okay, but 01:29:57.460 --> 01:30:00.960 But with my wife as well, it's like I really just feel like my wife 01:30:00.960 --> 01:30:05.820 It's not just a title of help me that I really feel like she is a help me like that's what it describes her perfectly 01:30:05.860 --> 01:30:12.940 She helps me in every aspect of my life and because again, she does that it makes me love her and want to 01:30:13.600 --> 01:30:17.520 to turn around and do the same for her and just and just do whatever I can to help her and make her life easier 01:30:18.000 --> 01:30:23.360 1st corinthians 7 32 it says but I would have you without carefulness he that is unmarried cared for the things 01:30:23.680 --> 01:30:26.880 That belonged to the lord and how that he may please the lord 01:30:27.360 --> 01:30:30.720 But he that is married cared for the things that are of the world how that he may please his wife 01:30:31.040 --> 01:30:34.400 There is a difference also between a wife and a virgin the unmarried woman cared for the things of the lord 01:30:34.640 --> 01:30:37.360 That she may be holy in both in both body and spirit 01:30:37.440 --> 01:30:41.440 But she that is married cared for the things of the world how she may please her 01:30:41.600 --> 01:30:45.600 husband. The summary of all these things is truly these verses that we should be 01:30:45.600 --> 01:30:50.060 seeking to please each other because in order to have a successful marriage you 01:30:50.060 --> 01:30:54.160 cannot be selfish you have to consider one another and for the husbands I 01:30:54.160 --> 01:30:57.220 already gave you the points but for the wives for the end of this sermon I'd say 01:30:57.220 --> 01:31:00.120 point one was that you should submit your husband as you spit unto the Lord 01:31:00.120 --> 01:31:03.000 and everything that you think applies to that applies that. 01:31:03.100 --> 01:31:05.500 Point two is that you should reverence your husband. 01:31:05.500 --> 01:31:06.460 You should honor your husband. 01:31:06.460 --> 01:31:08.900 You should respect your husband by not commanding him, 01:31:08.900 --> 01:31:11.540 by not barking or resigning, by not nagging at him, 01:31:11.540 --> 01:31:14.180 by following Sarah's example. 01:31:14.180 --> 01:31:15.820 And point three is that you should strive 01:31:15.820 --> 01:31:17.620 to make your husband's life easier 01:31:17.620 --> 01:31:19.940 because you were made to be a help me, 01:31:19.940 --> 01:31:21.540 is what he says in Genesis. 01:31:21.540 --> 01:31:23.020 And if you do these things in your marriage, 01:31:23.020 --> 01:31:25.180 you guys will all do well because, 01:31:25.180 --> 01:31:26.860 and I said, nobody's marriage is perfect. 01:31:26.860 --> 01:31:28.860 We all are gonna have things to work on 01:31:28.860 --> 01:31:30.580 and we're always gonna need reminders, 01:31:30.580 --> 01:31:31.100 but just 01:31:31.100 --> 01:31:36.780 in your heart you need to strive and setting your heart to strive is what I'd say to fulfill your 01:31:36.780 --> 01:31:40.860 role as a wife and to fulfill your role as a husband respectively. With all these things being 01:31:40.860 --> 01:31:43.900 said let's pray. Dear Father God, thank you so much for this wonderful day. Thank you so much for 01:31:43.900 --> 01:31:47.900 everything you do for us God. Thank you so much for the principles that we have in marriage God. 01:31:47.900 --> 01:31:53.020 Thank you so much that we're not like other people in this world that are just lost on how to operate 01:31:53.020 --> 01:31:57.740 and what to do in marriage God. Thank you so much that you give us wisdom that never changes God, 01:31:57.740 --> 01:31:59.020 marriage advice that never changes. 01:31:59.100 --> 01:32:03.420 God, principles that if we follow God that we can guarantee that we have successful marriage. 01:32:03.420 --> 01:32:08.020 I just pray that you'd help us as husbands to love our wives and I pray that the wives 01:32:08.020 --> 01:32:10.940 in this room would love their husbands and submit to them. 01:32:10.940 --> 01:32:15.540 I just pray that you'd help us to improve in our marriages, God, and that you'd help 01:32:15.540 --> 01:32:21.720 us to continually strive for reaching these two great commandments of loving our wives 01:32:21.720 --> 01:32:26.900 like Christ loved the church and as submitting to our husbands as the women would submit 01:32:27.100 --> 01:32:33.180 to the Lord. I pray all these things you say pray. Amen. Our last song is song number 01:32:33.180 --> 01:32:33.980 155. 01:32:38.500 --> 01:32:42.340 155 doxology song 155 01:32:49.000 --> 01:32:52.000 Sing it together on the first and we'll repeat this twice. 01:32:52.000 --> 01:32:58.000 Praise God from whom all blessings flow. 01:32:58.000 --> 01:33:05.000 Praise Him, all creatures here below. 01:33:05.000 --> 01:33:06.700 Praise Him. 01:33:45.500 --> 01:33:47.500 Ryan would you close the word of prayer?