WEBVTT 18:33.800 --> 18:38.800 of the handout, where the music is. 18:38.800 --> 18:41.800 If you're having trouble finding where that is, 18:41.800 --> 18:44.800 ask the person next to you. 18:44.800 --> 18:46.800 And we're going to sing, How Great Thou Art. 18:56.800 --> 18:58.400 Oh lord, I'm 20:39.500 --> 20:40.700 gentle 20:52.100 --> 20:52.600 Bye! 21:32.000 --> 21:34.000 Scares can take it 21:51.800 --> 21:52.600 I said... 21:55.000 --> 21:56.500 sings my 21:59.500 --> 22:01.100 God to thee. 22:38.900 --> 22:39.900 and take 22:42.700 --> 22:45.700 The joy shall fill my heart 22:48.700 --> 22:55.700 I shall bow in humble adoration. 23:01.100 --> 23:06.800 great thou art, then sings my soul. 23:42.600 --> 23:44.600 please help us up in a word of prayer. 23:44.600 --> 23:50.280 Thank you God for this great church here in Lord. We love you and help us sing 23:50.280 --> 23:55.560 praises unto you Lord and fill us with your Holy Spirit now in Jesus name, Amen. 23:55.560 --> 24:00.840 Amen. All right, we want to take your hymnals. We're going to turn to page number 261. 24:04.000 --> 24:11.000 It's page number 261, Turn Your Eyes Upon Jesus. 24:15.700 --> 24:20.700 Oh, soul, are you weary and troubled? 24:25.000 --> 24:39.000 see there's a life for a look at the Savior and life more abundant and free 24:39.000 --> 24:41.100 turn your 24:45.200 --> 24:46.200 Look for 24:51.200 --> 24:54.200 And the things on earth will grow. 24:57.300 --> 25:00.160 In the light of his glory and glory. 25:52.400 --> 25:53.400 from 26:08.900 --> 26:10.600 to tell 26:12.700 --> 26:13.200 TURN! 26:38.000 --> 26:40.800 at this time we will have our announcements. 26:44.100 --> 26:46.700 Good morning everybody, welcome to the Shared Foundation Baptist Church. 26:46.700 --> 26:50.700 Our verse of the week this week is Matthew 6, 34, where the Bible says, 26:50.700 --> 26:54.540 Take therefore no thought for the morrow, for the morrow shall take thought for the 26:54.540 --> 26:55.860 things of itself. 26:55.860 --> 26:58.220 Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof. 26:58.220 --> 27:00.820 That's Matthew 6, 34. 27:00.820 --> 27:05.020 We're here at our Sunday morning service, and today I'm going to start a little mini 27:05.020 --> 27:08.980 series for you guys, but I won't spoil that for you guys quite yet. 27:08.980 --> 27:11.780 And then tonight we're going to be having Brother Ryan preaching. 27:12.100 --> 27:14.620 What is this, Brother Ryan, you're like fourth full length? 27:14.620 --> 27:15.940 Oh, fourth. 27:15.940 --> 27:18.000 Yeah, fourth full length sermon. 27:18.500 --> 27:23.080 Yeah, so I'm looking forward to hearing that and then for Wednesday evening, we're gonna have first Corinthians 15 27:23.080 --> 27:27.140 I think that's part six that we're on for that and we are 27:27.660 --> 27:33.060 Trucking through that. Okay trying to get through that in a reasonable pace, but it is a long chapter to be fair 27:33.060 --> 27:35.620 Brother Jason said it's the third longest chapter in the Bible 27:38.300 --> 27:45.460 But as far as the pace report goes we had we have so far for 2026 117 salvations so far and 27:46.500 --> 27:53.720 We can get a lot more this year especially with the upcoming events because on October 17th, we have our Tri-Cities soul-winning marathon 27:54.180 --> 27:56.060 I've been kind of 27:56.060 --> 27:57.800 Chatting with brother Robert a little bit 27:57.800 --> 28:01.500 So I asked him if he'd find some places in Tri-Cities because that's where he lives obviously 28:02.260 --> 28:06.720 That would be good some good places to go soul-winning. So that's gonna be on a Saturday 28:06.720 --> 28:10.440 He asked me to do it on Saturday so he can make sure you can attend it in Tri-Cities 28:10.440 --> 28:14.300 I looked at all the matters seems like tries to use about like two hours from here. Maybe two and a half hours 28:14.500 --> 28:17.460 So somewhat of a reasonable distance 28:17.980 --> 28:21.300 and then the thing that glanced over there real quick and 28:21.660 --> 28:24.380 We still have our memory challenge for Galatians chapter number one 28:24.380 --> 28:29.860 so if you're interested in still doing that you still definitely can and there's a prize for everybody that completes that and 28:30.580 --> 28:33.060 October 13th, we have our homeschool day 28:33.060 --> 28:40.900 So make sure you RSVP with my wife if you're planning on going to that and then also October 28th through the 30th 28:40.940 --> 28:42.500 We are gonna do 28:42.500 --> 28:45.740 a VBS with the theme of creation. 28:45.740 --> 28:48.980 So if you notice there, it kind of like bumps up 28:48.980 --> 28:49.820 near Halloween. 28:49.820 --> 28:52.000 This was completely coincidental though, okay? 28:52.000 --> 28:53.900 To be honest with you guys. 28:53.900 --> 28:55.660 But this is 100% coincidental. 28:55.660 --> 28:57.740 And so this doesn't have nothing to do with Halloween though. 28:57.740 --> 28:59.140 We're not gonna dress up, nothing like that. 28:59.140 --> 29:00.880 The theme is gonna be creation. 29:00.880 --> 29:05.340 And this is indeed my first rodeo at running a VBS. 29:05.340 --> 29:09.100 So we're gonna try to iron some of the kinks out with this. 29:09.100 --> 29:10.500 But I'm looking forward to it because 29:10.500 --> 29:14.340 I'll tell you what, when I was a kid, there was a lot of benefits that I got from that, 29:14.340 --> 29:18.460 and I think there's a lot of benefits in gearing sermons specifically towards kids so that 29:18.460 --> 29:23.460 they can kind of grasp some of these easier to understand things. 29:23.460 --> 29:29.100 Because when I think back to where I got a lot of my Bible memory from, just like the 29:29.100 --> 29:32.620 knowledge, the facts in the Bible, it was a lot of times from events like this, from 29:32.620 --> 29:34.940 church camp or from BBS or something like that. 29:34.940 --> 29:37.340 So I'm looking forward to that. 29:37.340 --> 29:38.420 That'll be a win- 29:38.500 --> 29:40.100 Thursday, Thursday, Friday. 29:40.500 --> 29:44.500 It bumps up to Halloween, but that's just how the schedule works for all these things, 29:44.500 --> 29:47.500 because I've every other Friday off, so I try to schedule it on that one. 29:47.500 --> 29:53.500 But also besides that, we're having a church picture day that will be sometime in October. 29:53.500 --> 29:57.500 Nobody knows quite when yet, but it will be in October for sure. 29:57.500 --> 30:01.500 And then our Kid's Memory verse is going to be Psalms 121, verse number 2, 30:01.500 --> 30:02.500 where the Bible says, 30:02.500 --> 30:06.500 My help cometh from the Lord, which maketh heaven and earth. 30:06.500 --> 30:07.500 That's Psalms 121, verse number 2. 30:07.500 --> 30:08.500 number two. So Katie, did you learn? 30:08.500 --> 30:12.500 that verse you can tell it to my wife and you can get a piece of candy. As far 30:12.500 --> 30:15.640 as the church rules go we're a family integrated church which means that you 30:15.640 --> 30:20.440 know children and infants are always welcome in the auditorium. If they start 30:20.440 --> 30:23.360 to fuss up if they try to get the gift of tongues upon them or something like 30:23.360 --> 30:28.160 that you can always just take them outside of the service. And we have the 30:28.160 --> 30:29.900 mother baby rooms back there. 30:30.100 --> 30:39.100 We have the one mother baby room, but the first one is full. You can always go to my office. We have a couch in there as well as you need. 30:39.100 --> 30:44.100 And then the rest of the church rules are pretty self explanatory, something you'd pretty much expect. 30:44.100 --> 30:49.100 And then we don't have any birthdays or anniversaries to go over for right now. 30:49.100 --> 30:53.100 So right now we'll just go into the prayer requests and then we'll have our psalm. Let's pray. 30:53.100 --> 30:54.820 Thank you so much for a wonderful day. 30:54.820 --> 30:56.300 Thank you so much for everything you do for us, God. 30:56.300 --> 30:58.100 Thank you so much for this church, God. 30:58.100 --> 31:00.220 for everybody that came to hear your word preach 31:00.220 --> 31:01.000 and to sing praises. 33:10.700 --> 33:16.300 Alright, if you want to go ahead and take your psalm books, go ahead and turn to Psalm number 24. 33:19.500 --> 33:22.260 Psalm number 24 33:26.400 --> 33:28.400 Sing it out on the first. 33:28.400 --> 33:36.400 The earth is the Lord's and the fullness thereof, 33:36.400 --> 33:40.400 The world and they that dwell thereof. 33:44.000 --> 33:47.280 have founded it upon the 34:14.800 --> 34:17.700 Unto Vanity North's war 34:23.200 --> 34:32.200 blessings from the Lord, and righteousness from the God of His salvation. 34:32.200 --> 34:41.700 This is the generation of them that seek Him, that seek thy face, O Jacob, seek... 34:45.000 --> 34:52.000 your heads oh ye gates and be lifted up 35:59.400 --> 36:00.400 Please pray for the offering. 36:00.400 --> 36:03.400 Dear Father God, thank you so much again for everything that you do for us God. 36:03.400 --> 36:05.400 Thank you so much for the opportunity to give to you God. 36:05.400 --> 36:09.400 Thank you so much that you give us the light that we have on this earth and all the blessings 36:09.400 --> 36:10.400 that come with it. 36:10.400 --> 36:14.400 Thank you so much for the company that we were born into God and that we have the opportunity 36:14.400 --> 36:16.400 to come and be here, how superior we're preached today. 36:16.400 --> 36:19.400 I just pray that you be with all the families of this church and bless them and help us 36:19.400 --> 36:21.400 to have a good rest of our service. 36:21.400 --> 36:22.400 Jesus, we pray, Amen. 36:22.400 --> 36:23.400 Amen. 37:00.600 --> 37:05.760 Good morning everybody. Welcome to Sure Foundation Baptist Church. If you could open your Bibles 37:05.760 --> 37:12.640 with me and go to Ephesians chapter 5. Ephesians chapter 5 is our text this morning and as 37:12.640 --> 37:19.080 always here at our church we read the entire chapter before the preaching. Ephesians chapter 37:19.080 --> 37:20.900 the Bible reads. 37:21.000 --> 37:28.120 Be ye therefore followers of God as dear children, and walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, 37:28.120 --> 37:35.160 and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling savor. 37:35.160 --> 37:41.800 But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not be named once among you, 37:41.800 --> 37:48.760 as becomeeth saints, neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient, 37:48.760 --> 37:49.000 Bye! 37:49.000 --> 37:51.240 but rather giving of thanks. 37:51.240 --> 37:53.640 For this ye know, that no whoremonger, 37:53.640 --> 37:56.720 nor unclean person, nor covetous man, 37:56.720 --> 37:58.240 who is an idolater, 37:58.240 --> 38:02.200 hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. 38:02.200 --> 38:05.120 Let no man deceive you with vain words, 38:05.120 --> 38:08.200 for because of these things come at the wrath of God 38:08.200 --> 38:10.720 upon the children of disobedience. 38:10.720 --> 38:12.100 But not... 38:12.300 --> 38:15.760 Or be not ye therefore partakers with them. 38:15.760 --> 38:20.740 For ye were sometimes darkness, but now are ye light in the Lord. 38:20.740 --> 38:27.960 Walk as children of light, for the fruit of the Spirit is in all goodness and righteousness and truth. 38:28.100 --> 38:37.700 Proving what is acceptable unto the Lord, and having no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them. 38:37.700 --> 38:43.100 For it is a shame even to speak of those things which are done of them in secret. 38:43.100 --> 38:47.740 But all things that are reproved are made manifest by the light. 38:47.740 --> 38:51.940 For whatsoever doth make manifest is light. 38:52.100 --> 38:59.100 Worefore, he saith, awake thou that sleepest, and arise from the dead, and Christ shall give thee light. 38:59.100 --> 39:07.100 See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise, redeeming the time, because the days are evil. 39:07.400 --> 39:14.760 Wherefore, be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is, and be not drunk 39:14.760 --> 39:21.280 with wine wherein is excess, but be filled with the Spirit, speaking to yourselves in 39:21.280 --> 39:27.640 Psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord, 39:27.640 --> 39:33.600 giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus 39:33.600 --> 39:35.400 Christ. Submitting yourself to the Lord. 39:35.400 --> 39:42.000 one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands 39:42.000 --> 39:47.760 as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the 39:47.760 --> 39:53.640 head of the church, and he is the Savior of the body. Therefore, as the church is 39:53.640 --> 39:59.300 subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 39:59.400 --> 40:05.960 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it, 40:05.960 --> 40:11.400 that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word. 40:11.600 --> 40:18.640 that he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such 40:18.640 --> 40:25.040 thing, but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as 40:25.040 --> 40:32.800 their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh, 40:32.800 --> 40:39.520 but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church. For we are members 40:39.600 --> 40:46.060 of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father 40:46.060 --> 40:52.320 and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they too shall be one flesh." 40:52.320 --> 40:58.380 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ in the Church. Nevertheless, let every 40:58.380 --> 41:04.760 one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself, and the wife see that she 41:04.760 --> 41:07.560 reverence her husband, Brother Daniel. 41:07.600 --> 41:14.600 Would you please pray for the service? 41:22.700 --> 41:26.700 Amen. You guys are there in Ephesians 5. We're going to look in at verse number 25 where 41:26.700 --> 41:31.900 the Bible says, husbands love your wives even as Christ loved the church and gave himself 41:31.900 --> 41:35.460 for it. And the time I'm going to turn this morning is husbands love your wives. Let's 41:35.460 --> 41:36.460 pray. 41:36.460 --> 41:39.060 People of God, thank you so much for this wonderful day. Thank you so much for everything 41:39.060 --> 41:42.000 you do for us, God. Thank you so much for everybody that came to church this morning 41:42.000 --> 41:46.340 to hear your word preach, God. Thank you so much for the opportunity to preach a sermon, 41:46.340 --> 41:50.700 God. I just pray that you'd help me right now to preach words of the edifying of the 41:50.700 --> 41:54.140 these people, I just pray that you would help me to deliver well the message you put in 41:54.140 --> 41:56.560 my heart. I pray that you would help me to say what you want me to say and keep me from 41:56.560 --> 42:02.220 saying what you wouldn't want me to say. And I just pray that you would help me to help 42:02.220 --> 42:06.220 people understand the teachings and principles of this passage better after the sermon. 42:06.220 --> 42:07.220 Jesus, may I pray? Amen. 42:07.220 --> 42:12.420 Telling about someone like I said again is husbands love your wives. We're here in Ephesians 42:12.420 --> 42:17.380 Center number five this morning. I'm going to be starting a little bit of a mini series, 42:17.380 --> 42:18.700 if you will. This will be part one. 42:18.700 --> 42:23.700 of two sermons on a marriage series if you will. I didn't know if I should call it a 42:23.700 --> 42:27.180 series or just like a part one and two but nevertheless it's about marriage but 42:27.180 --> 42:30.820 so you can imagine that if part one of this series is husbands love your wives 42:30.820 --> 42:35.140 you could probably guess what part two is gonna be about okay and if you can I 42:35.140 --> 42:38.900 can't I can't help you any further than that but the two reasons I decided to 42:38.900 --> 42:43.580 preach this series is number one Kylie and I just celebrated our eighth year of 42:43.580 --> 42:46.700 marriage and so if you remember last year I preached a marriage 42:46.700 --> 42:51.260 sermon on our seventh year anniversary. I think it's a really good trend and I 42:51.260 --> 42:54.860 really like it because it gives me a reminder that this is something that we 42:54.860 --> 42:58.660 should preach on guaranteed at least one time a year and probably much more 42:58.660 --> 43:01.240 because it's pretty relevant and that kind of bleeds into point two why I'm 43:01.240 --> 43:05.140 preaching this because this subject the subject of you know having a good 43:05.140 --> 43:09.100 marriage having a biblical marriage is always at a fine because the reality is 43:09.100 --> 43:12.220 is that there's no such thing as anybody that has a perfect marriage if you bring 43:12.220 --> 43:14.700 two imperfect people 43:14.700 --> 43:17.700 together there is no way they're going to create a perfect marriage. It's never 43:17.700 --> 43:20.620 going to happen. There's always going to be issues, there's always going to be problems 43:20.620 --> 43:24.900 that happen and the thing is about us as well as humans is that we're naturally 43:25.000 --> 43:27.640 inclined towards being selfish. 43:27.640 --> 43:30.520 Like we, without the Bible putting us in check 43:30.520 --> 43:32.520 and without thinking about the things of the Bible, 43:32.520 --> 43:36.000 we naturally tend towards just thinking only about ourselves. 43:36.000 --> 43:38.720 And so the issue with this, with marriage though, 43:38.720 --> 43:40.040 is that it doesn't work. 43:40.040 --> 43:45.040 You cannot be selfish because like the epitome of marriage 43:45.040 --> 43:46.440 is not just you thinking about yourself, 43:46.440 --> 43:48.280 but you thinking about your spouse. 43:48.280 --> 43:51.360 And that two are becoming one flesh. 43:51.360 --> 43:52.640 And so you have to behave. 43:53.000 --> 44:00.000 And so then what does work in marriage? That's what I want to focus on this morning from the perspective of men first because I picked 44:00.000 --> 44:04.640 Men in this series first on purpose because the reality is that the Bible tells us that as a husband 44:04.640 --> 44:09.160 You are the head of your household. You are the head of your wife, which means you're in charge of your marriage 44:09.160 --> 44:12.320 Which means this you're also responsible for your marriage as well 44:12.400 --> 44:18.100 This is how everything works in life. Everything falls everything rises and falls on leadership 44:18.100 --> 44:20.920 It rises and falls on the authority. So if you're the head 44:21.000 --> 44:25.340 of your house according to the bible then it's your responsibility to make sure that 44:25.340 --> 44:27.280 you have a good marriage. 44:27.280 --> 44:30.560 And so that's to say this that you can't when things are going bad you can't pull an 44:30.560 --> 44:34.960 atom and just be like God it's the woman that you gave me these faults that everything's 44:34.960 --> 44:35.960 going wrong now. 44:35.960 --> 44:39.320 No it's your fault as the head of the house. 44:39.320 --> 44:43.080 Which therein by the way lies a problem that hinders many people from fixing issues that 44:43.080 --> 44:47.140 they have in their marriage is people blaming things, blaming everything is what I'd say 44:47.140 --> 44:49.000 on their spouses because this is the 44:49.000 --> 44:54.060 reality of marriage this is like just a fact of life that 99% of the time when there's 44:54.060 --> 45:00.080 issues in a marriage it's both people causing issues. Very very rarely is it just like one 45:00.080 --> 45:05.520 spouse that is just causing all the issues. When it comes to a marriage usually what happens 45:05.520 --> 45:09.480 is one spouse does a spouse wrong and then they do their spouse wrong and it just becomes 45:09.480 --> 45:14.240 this back and forth affair. But that's to say this thing if your attitude concerning 45:14.240 --> 45:16.900 your marriage this morning is like, well, my... 45:17.000 --> 45:21.360 My marriage would be better if my wife did this or if you're like my marriage would be 45:21.360 --> 45:22.880 better if my husband did this. 45:22.880 --> 45:28.240 I'm telling you that that already is a problem in your thinking because as a Christian if 45:28.240 --> 45:34.720 you're only ever focused on what your spouse is doing in your marriage then you know you're 45:34.720 --> 45:35.720 not focused on. 45:35.720 --> 45:38.400 You're not focused on what you should be doing in your marriage. 45:38.400 --> 45:42.440 And so if you want this sermon series to be effective I'd encourage you to truly reflect 45:42.440 --> 45:44.960 inwardly with these sermons and not think about what you're doing. 45:45.000 --> 45:48.920 your spouse could do better, but think about what you can do better in your marriage if 45:48.920 --> 45:52.360 you want these sermons to be effective to you. 45:52.360 --> 45:55.120 Because like I just said, not only do you miss things that you should be doing when 45:55.120 --> 45:58.640 you're focused on your spouse, but this is also what happens, or I shouldn't even say 45:58.640 --> 46:03.800 what happens, I should just say this is like the fact of life as well, that you can't control 46:03.800 --> 46:08.120 exactly what your spouse does, but you are always in control of your own actions. 46:08.120 --> 46:11.480 So like, I mean, I was talking about that last week with free will, it's like, you know, 46:11.480 --> 46:13.000 You can't always make your wife 46:13.000 --> 46:16.360 wife, submit to you, but you know what you can always choose to do as a husband, you 46:16.360 --> 46:18.640 can always choose to love your wife. 46:18.640 --> 46:21.780 And you can't always get your husband to love you per se as a wife, but you know what you 46:21.780 --> 46:25.360 can always choose to do as a wife, you can always choose to submit to your husband. 46:25.360 --> 46:29.960 And so we as Christians need to realize that our roles in marriage are not conditional, 46:29.960 --> 46:33.560 that God gives you a commandment and you should obey that commandment to the best of your 46:33.560 --> 46:36.560 ability no matter what your spouse is doing. 46:36.560 --> 46:39.640 Husbands love your wives, it doesn't just say only love your wife when she's submitting 46:39.640 --> 46:41.000 to you, it just says love your wife. 46:41.000 --> 46:44.780 And then it says wife submit yourself under your own husband's as unto the Lord 46:44.780 --> 46:46.780 It doesn't say submit yourself to a loving husband 46:46.780 --> 46:50.800 It just says submit period and so we always need to remember these things because 46:51.100 --> 46:55.500 What happens a lot of times I feel like in marriage is and it just becomes a tit for tat or just people like 46:55.600 --> 46:58.860 Well, I would love my wife if she submitted to me and then the woman's like well 46:58.860 --> 47:00.860 I'd submit to my husband if he loved me 47:01.260 --> 47:03.180 Then you're never gonna fix your problems, right? 47:03.180 --> 47:05.720 You just need to focus on what your role is in marriage 47:05.720 --> 47:08.580 and so I'd encourage you that for this morning's sermon and 47:09.000 --> 47:13.280 for this mini series that if not to focus on what your spouse needs to fix because we 47:13.280 --> 47:17.680 all could fix things if you're being honest but focus on what you can change in your life 47:17.680 --> 47:21.680 and allow the principles of God and allow the Holy Spirit to work on your spouse in 47:21.680 --> 47:26.600 their own heart and to convict them to change the things that they need to change and I 47:26.600 --> 47:31.360 also preach the sermon to the men first as well before I get into this proper because 47:32.100 --> 47:36.260 Think it's important that we as men set the spiritual tone because again, we're the leaders of our household 47:36.260 --> 47:41.980 So that means you should be leading by example like how we see God Almighty do because think about this as well 47:41.980 --> 47:45.920 Wait, cuz Paul makes the comparison in this chapter as you already just saw with Christ in the church 47:46.080 --> 47:51.640 The thing is about God though. The Bible tale tells us in a first John 4 19. It says we love him 47:52.300 --> 47:55.580 Why? Because he first loved us is what the Bible says. 47:55.580 --> 48:00.580 So as a husband, you should follow God's example and you should be the one to set the spiritual tone. 48:00.580 --> 48:09.180 And be the one to lead by example and to love your wife and to be focused on leading your family spiritually above everything else in your life. 48:09.180 --> 48:09.680 Okay? 48:09.680 --> 48:11.980 And I also want to say this one more thing. 48:11.980 --> 48:16.820 Go to Ephesians 5.20. I guess you guys are already in Ephesians 5.00, but don't turn away from there if you're still there. 48:16.820 --> 48:17.920 And just a matter of fact, I'll say this. 48:17.920 --> 48:20.300 Keep your finger to the whole sermon because we'll come back. 48:20.300 --> 48:25.180 to it okay? In Ephesians 5 28. But I also want to say before I get into this that 48:25.180 --> 48:29.860 this sermon is gonna feel unbalanced because I'm only focused on the men in 48:29.860 --> 48:33.380 this sermon. But just know that it's gonna feel unbalanced because next week I'm 48:33.380 --> 48:36.980 gonna preach only about what the women need to fix in their marriage. So don't 48:36.980 --> 48:40.540 get this idea when I'm preaching that I'm thinking that like it's only a man's 48:40.540 --> 48:44.380 responsibility to fix their marriage or to help their marriage. I don't believe 48:44.380 --> 48:47.540 that at all. It takes two people that are committed to God's Word to have a 48:47.540 --> 48:48.300 godly marriage. 48:48.300 --> 48:53.600 But what I'm doing right now is I'm focusing on the men first because it's your responsibility as a man as a spiritual leader 48:53.760 --> 48:55.860 To make sure that you're ruling your house 48:55.860 --> 48:56.300 well 48:56.300 --> 48:57.700 and so 48:57.700 --> 49:03.020 All that to say in this sermon don't if you feel like it's unbalanced because it is because the balance is coming next week 49:03.020 --> 49:07.060 Okay, so but again focus on what you need to be doing not what your spouse needs to be doing 49:07.300 --> 49:09.520 Focus on what you can change and don't deflect away 49:09.900 --> 49:14.860 Responsibility and if you still feel like it's unbalanced the end of the the sermon will then show up to church next week 49:14.860 --> 49:16.300 Okay, and you'll see the balance 49:16.300 --> 49:18.060 that I have in this sermon, okay? 49:18.060 --> 49:18.900 Because I'm gonna be harming you guys, 49:18.900 --> 49:20.060 but I'm also gonna be harming the women as well, 49:20.060 --> 49:21.900 because this is a big subject, okay? 49:21.900 --> 49:22.860 This is a big deal. 49:22.860 --> 49:25.300 Like, look at the divorce rate in America. 49:25.300 --> 49:27.660 Last time, I think it's more than 50% of marriages 49:27.660 --> 49:28.500 end in divorce. 49:28.500 --> 49:29.540 What a shame, that is. 49:29.540 --> 49:30.740 And how does that happen? 49:30.740 --> 49:32.700 It happens because people have stopped preaching 49:32.700 --> 49:33.960 what the word of God says on marriage, 49:33.960 --> 49:36.460 and they just wanna teach whatever they think about marriage. 49:36.460 --> 49:39.740 That they give all these caveats and all these exceptions 49:39.740 --> 49:41.300 why it's okay to get divorced 49:41.300 --> 49:43.000 and to get remarried to someone else, 49:43.000 --> 49:44.300 but the Bible's crystal clear. 49:44.300 --> 49:49.420 clear that God hates divorce is what he says. He hates the putting away so you should take 49:49.420 --> 49:54.380 these principles seriously and husbands should love their wives and wives should submit themselves 49:54.380 --> 49:56.980 to their husbands with no exceptions period. 49:57.400 --> 50:01.680 Besides the exception that he gives in the verse which is as unto the Lord right because obviously if your spouse is telling you to sin 50:01.960 --> 50:05.180 You're not supposed to do that, but okay. We understand these things 50:05.800 --> 50:07.820 But anyways first point of this sermon okay? 50:07.820 --> 50:13.480 How should husbands love their wives they should love their wives as their own bodies look at verse number 28 of this passage it says 50:14.200 --> 50:20.840 So are men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 50:20.840 --> 50:25.800 And I could have sworn that this would be where happy wife, happy life comes from, but it's not. 50:25.800 --> 50:29.080 Okay, I looked it up and I thought for sure it was going to say, you know, 50:29.080 --> 50:32.440 Ephesians 5.28 is where happy wife, happy life comes from, but I guess it comes from a poem 50:32.440 --> 50:35.800 in the 30s or something like that, which maybe they got it from this passage of scripture, 50:35.800 --> 50:37.160 but I thought for sure that's what it was going to say, okay? 50:37.160 --> 50:42.040 Anyways, verse 29 says, For no man yet, or for no man ever yet hated his own flesh, 50:42.200 --> 50:44.780 but nourisheth it and cherished it, 50:44.780 --> 50:47.420 even as the Lord the church. 50:47.420 --> 50:50.140 And so I find this to be a very powerful charge 50:50.140 --> 50:51.900 from the apostle Paul when you kind of slow down 50:51.900 --> 50:53.420 and think about what he's saying right here. 50:53.420 --> 50:55.700 Because what he's saying right here is that, 50:55.700 --> 50:58.580 as men, but also just as humans in general, 50:58.580 --> 51:01.140 we are concerned about our flesh being taken care of, 51:01.140 --> 51:05.340 about the needs, the desires, and the wants of our flesh. 51:05.340 --> 51:07.660 We are concerned about these things as men. 51:07.660 --> 51:10.180 And Paul says, hey, I'm not telling you to go above 51:10.200 --> 51:13.320 beyond that what I'm telling you is this the same way that you would love your 51:13.320 --> 51:17.720 own flesh is the same way that you should love your wife as well and when 51:17.720 --> 51:20.880 you think about that what he'd be saying then is this is that if you want to have 51:20.880 --> 51:25.040 a good marriage you can't just consider the well-being of your own flesh you 51:25.040 --> 51:29.000 also have to consider the well-being of your wife's flesh as well as your of your 51:29.000 --> 51:33.400 wife's body as well because if you love your wife like your own flesh don't you 51:33.400 --> 51:34.400 have to consider 51:34.500 --> 51:37.200 Like you hurt flesh? You definitely do, right? 51:37.200 --> 51:41.200 But this shouldn't be surprising to us because go to 1 Corinthians 13 verse number 4. 51:41.200 --> 51:48.200 1 Corinthians 13 number 4 because in the charity chapter where he's defining what love is, 51:48.200 --> 51:52.300 this, we see a very similar idea as one of the attributes of charity. 51:52.300 --> 51:56.000 1 Corinthians 13 verse number 4, he says, 51:56.200 --> 52:04.140 Charity suffereth long and is kind. Charity envieth not. Charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, doth not behave itself 52:04.480 --> 52:09.640 Unseemly seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil. 52:09.640 --> 52:11.240 And as a side note by the way as a man 52:11.240 --> 52:14.480 Because the Bible tells us to love your wives and sometimes people be like well, that's kind of general 52:14.480 --> 52:19.920 Well, if you need like a breakdown of that you just go to this chapter because he defines what love is. You should compare 52:19.920 --> 52:24.120 the attributes of charity and to how you treat your wife and how you love your 52:24.200 --> 52:28.060 And if it doesn't line up, then you should make it match the text right here 52:28.060 --> 52:30.720 but the specific principle that I want to focus on is 52:31.280 --> 52:38.620 Seeketh not her own and not seeking your own as a husband because this is what charity does and I truly believe 52:38.900 --> 52:40.900 that this is one of the 52:42.000 --> 52:48.400 the biggest things that men struggle with in marriage is not just thinking about themselves 52:48.400 --> 52:50.400 because obviously we as humans are naturally selfish 52:50.400 --> 52:53.600 but I think that there's multiple other reasons for this in marriage 52:53.600 --> 52:55.600 of men not considering their wives 52:55.600 --> 52:58.400 number one I think that men usually 52:58.400 --> 53:00.300 like this is like the average 53:00.400 --> 53:04.400 we'll lock in on something and we'll kind of ignore everything else that surrounds that. 53:04.400 --> 53:06.400 That's kind of how we're built as men to some degree. 53:06.400 --> 53:08.400 It's really good for getting things done, right? 53:08.400 --> 53:10.400 When it comes to getting a project done, 53:10.400 --> 53:17.400 but it's not always the best when it comes to considering the feelings and the needs of the other people around you. 53:17.400 --> 53:22.400 Number two, I'd say that men also struggle to kind of think about and consider their wife 53:22.400 --> 53:25.400 because we're not very emotional creatures, 53:25.400 --> 53:28.400 so sometimes we forget that emotions are in the realm of possibility, okay? 53:28.400 --> 53:32.720 Because we're like obviously like as men we're just kind of like we have emotions, but a lot of times 53:32.720 --> 53:35.480 We just bury them so when our like being our wife like oh, yeah 53:35.480 --> 53:38.160 she'll just do what I do like you don't really consider the 53:38.600 --> 53:42.440 the emotional difference between you and your wife because you just be like 53:42.920 --> 53:48.200 Sadness depression like have you just considered burying it and not thinking about it like that's kind of how we would do 53:48.360 --> 53:53.300 But we can't be like that with our wives because our wives are different than us, but I think another reason why? 53:53.840 --> 53:56.400 That I should say something that hinders men 53:56.400 --> 54:00.640 from considering their wives and loving their wives is bizarre ideas that people 54:00.640 --> 54:04.960 have about women and bizarre ideas that men have about wives in general. 54:04.960 --> 54:10.680 Bitter Props 13 verse number 31 excuse me verse number 13. I think there's a lot of 54:10.680 --> 54:14.200 bizarre ideas concerning women out there that just 54:14.400 --> 54:18.840 rubbed me the wrong way, especially because they just don't make sense a lot of times. 54:18.840 --> 54:22.560 But one of the things that people say that I think that hinders men from loving their wives 54:22.560 --> 54:27.640 is they'll promote this idea that being a stay-at-home mom isn't actually like a job, 54:27.640 --> 54:30.160 or that it's not really work is maybe what I should say. 54:30.160 --> 54:32.760 It's usually of course like single guys that would say this, 54:32.760 --> 54:35.040 because if you're married long enough to your wife, you'll know that 54:35.040 --> 54:39.360 she isn't just sitting on the couch eating Doritos, that she's actually doing things at home, right? 54:39.360 --> 54:42.400 It's usually the single guys that say this, but there's married men that think... 54:42.400 --> 54:46.480 this as well to their shame which I just it's unbelievable to me by the way ahead 54:46.480 --> 54:49.420 of myself but there are there have been married men that I've talked to in my 54:49.420 --> 54:52.900 life that don't never say I say this because who would say this is very 54:52.900 --> 54:56.780 bizarre but they'll just kind of like hint at the fact like must be easy being 54:56.780 --> 55:01.080 a woman I wish I could just you know sit down and watch my kids and watch TV all 55:01.080 --> 55:03.000 day it just must be easy 55:03.100 --> 55:07.980 But this was our attitude to have and in Proverbs 31.13 it says this, it says this thing about the virtuous woman 55:07.980 --> 55:12.700 obviously it says she seeketh wool and flax and worketh, worketh 55:13.240 --> 55:19.020 willingly with her hands. It sounds to me like God considers what the virtuous woman is doing in this chapter to be 55:19.580 --> 55:21.580 work, isn't it? So like 55:21.900 --> 55:25.020 it's weird to me like if God considers the virtuous woman to be working 55:25.340 --> 55:30.940 and if our wives are trying to follow in the footsteps of the archetype of the virtuous woman then why 55:31.100 --> 55:36.680 wouldn't we consider it to be work as well? Like it's always been with his army. Go to um, go back to 55:36.680 --> 55:42.660 Ephesians 6, 4 is where we want to go. Ephesians 6 verse number 4. But like, because some of them might say 55:42.660 --> 55:47.120 like obviously, well the average woman doesn't do everything off the list for the progress 31 woman. 55:47.120 --> 55:51.600 But it's not like a checklist though. It's like an archetype that you try to live up to. That is the 55:51.600 --> 55:57.380 idea of the virtuous woman. But like, remember like as you're turning to Ephesians 6 verse number 4. 55:58.000 --> 56:01.840 But the theme is about considering your wife and thinking about your wife. 56:01.840 --> 56:05.520 And to me personally, there's like no bigger tell that a man isn't thinking about his wife 56:05.520 --> 56:11.440 or that's not considering his wife if he were to say that the things that his wife does while 56:11.440 --> 56:15.680 she's at home isn't really work. Like, because if you actually think about what your wife does at 56:15.680 --> 56:19.360 home, how could you come to any other conclusion? Like think of, I mean obviously people are in 56:19.360 --> 56:23.040 different stages of their life, but it's like if your wife is at home getting up early with the 56:23.040 --> 56:26.000 kids, feed them three meals a day, do them a laundry. 56:26.000 --> 56:30.960 redoing the dishes, deep cleaning the bathroom, deep cleaning the kitchen, sweeping, mopping, 56:30.960 --> 56:35.880 vacuuming, setting out the clothes for the kids, giving them the baths, trying to educate 56:35.880 --> 56:39.680 them, trying to make sure that they don't kill themselves by getting all this crazy 56:39.680 --> 56:44.160 stuff at the house, trying to build a relationship with them, trying to stop them from ripping 56:44.160 --> 56:45.880 their own heads off from each other. 56:45.880 --> 56:48.480 It's like, how could you look at all that and not call it work? 56:48.480 --> 56:49.480 What would you call it then? 56:49.480 --> 56:50.480 You call it play? 56:50.480 --> 56:51.480 You call that a good time? 56:51.480 --> 56:52.480 You call that fun? 56:52.480 --> 56:53.480 It's like, no, it's hard work. 56:53.480 --> 56:54.000 There's a 56:54.000 --> 56:57.860 and being a mother, but these things are hard at the end of the day. 56:57.860 --> 57:00.820 And they are work is what I want you to understand. 57:00.820 --> 57:05.900 And for this very reason, because for whatever reason, like if your wife was doing that at 57:05.900 --> 57:08.940 someone else's house with their kids and they were getting money, would you consider that 57:08.940 --> 57:09.940 a job? 57:09.940 --> 57:10.940 You absolutely would. 57:10.940 --> 57:14.040 So why wouldn't you consider it work when it's at your own house with your own children? 57:14.040 --> 57:15.040 It's very bizarre. 57:15.040 --> 57:18.100 And so the reason I bring this up is to say this, is like put yourself in your wife's 57:18.100 --> 57:21.700 shoes and think like how would you feel if you're doing all these things with the kids, 57:21.700 --> 57:22.000 You're like. 57:22.000 --> 57:25.240 trying to balance getting all the work that you need to be done while you're also trying 57:25.240 --> 57:29.760 to balance educating your kids and keeping them safe and having a good relationship with 57:29.760 --> 57:32.880 them and then looking presentable when your husband comes home. 57:32.880 --> 57:35.640 Imagine doing all these things just for someone to come and tell you. 57:36.200 --> 57:40.520 That's not really work that you're doing or to treat you like you're not really doing work 57:40.520 --> 57:46.080 Would that make you feel loved would it make you feel respected and absolutely wouldn't and so if it wouldn't then you shouldn't treat your 57:46.080 --> 57:52.380 Wife that way either you should treat your wife the way that your flesh would want to be treated if you were in her shoes 57:52.380 --> 57:58.120 In that scenario, okay, and you guys are there in a fusion six verse number four 57:58.800 --> 58:06.240 I think the second thing that hinders the men from loving their wives like their own flesh though is thinking that 58:06.800 --> 58:11.660 Being you know raising their children is only the mother's job, okay, and you might be thinking to yourself 58:11.720 --> 58:13.720 What kind of feminism stuff is this? 58:13.720 --> 58:15.800 But if you think what I'm saying is feminism 58:15.800 --> 58:21.260 Then you just don't actually know what the Bible says because I love you in Ephesians 6 for it blows me away 58:21.260 --> 58:25.620 How many times people gloss over this and then multiple other verses look what the Bible says here says Andy 58:26.280 --> 58:28.280 fathers provoked on your children to wrath 58:28.460 --> 58:34.800 But bring them up in the nurture in the admonition of the Lord so is it just a mother's job to? 58:34.800 --> 58:40.640 raise and to bring up her children? No, he says this to the fathers right here as well. 58:40.640 --> 58:48.760 Now obviously go to 1 Timothy 5 14. 1 Timothy 5 14, we obviously would understand that it 58:48.760 --> 58:52.120 is primarily the mother's job to take care of the children and he lights this out for 58:52.120 --> 58:56.920 us in the Bible very specifically. In 1 Timothy 5 14 it says, I will therefore that the younger 58:56.920 --> 59:01.280 women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak 59:01.280 --> 59:02.280 reproachfully. 59:02.280 --> 59:02.800 But you know what? 59:02.800 --> 59:05.020 You know how you reconcile these two verses together? 59:05.020 --> 59:07.100 By realizing that it's not just the mother's job 59:07.100 --> 59:08.180 to raise their children, 59:08.180 --> 59:09.880 and it's not just the father's job, 59:09.880 --> 59:11.060 it's both your jobs. 59:11.060 --> 59:12.900 Because imagine that, imagine God putting two parents 59:12.900 --> 59:14.740 in the household so that both of you 59:14.740 --> 59:15.940 could raise your children, right? 59:15.940 --> 59:17.980 Isn't that a pretty amazing thought? 59:17.980 --> 59:20.660 Now obviously, because a man is commanded 59:20.660 --> 59:23.020 to work outside the house and to provide for your family, 59:23.020 --> 59:25.180 which is also we know as a commandment, right? 59:25.180 --> 59:26.460 Then the majority of these things 59:26.460 --> 59:27.780 are gonna fall upon the mother. 59:27.780 --> 59:29.420 And obviously women are designed 59:29.420 --> 59:30.800 to be able to breastfeed their children. 59:30.800 --> 59:36.920 And there's a bunch of other factors of why you know the bulk majority of taking care of the children falls upon the mothers 59:36.920 --> 59:42.560 Nobody would argue that I mean like even at my house right now because I basically have the the two jobs kind of that 59:42.560 --> 59:45.080 I'm doing like my real work, and then the time that I put into this 59:45.680 --> 59:49.460 Kylie is taking care of the kids most of time and she's very glad to do those things okay 59:49.480 --> 59:54.520 This is just the reality of life is how it has to be but what I'm mostly getting at is this it's like this 59:54.640 --> 59:58.480 Attitude that some men will have that like taking care of their own children their own 59:58.800 --> 01:00:03.400 Children is beneath them or that it's just a woman's job 01:00:03.480 --> 01:00:09.500 Like God commanded us as we saw in Ephesians 6 to bring your children up and the nurse and admonition of the Lord 01:00:09.500 --> 01:00:13.280 And also think about this in the qualifications for the bishop. What does it say? 01:00:13.280 --> 01:00:19.040 You're supposed to have faithful children. Is it the qualification for a bishop or a bishop's wife in that verse? 01:00:19.040 --> 01:00:25.120 It's the bishop, right? So that means it's your responsibility to make sure that you're raising your children and that you're having 01:00:25.840 --> 01:00:26.800 faithful 01:00:26.800 --> 01:00:31.880 children. It's not just your wife's responsibility. But because this idea is out there, because 01:00:31.880 --> 01:00:35.480 this is how I'm tying this all in, don't get lost about what I'm saying, because this idea 01:00:35.480 --> 01:00:40.120 is out there that it's like beneath men to take care of their children, what happens 01:00:40.120 --> 01:00:44.760 with some men is that they'll see that their wife is drowning in the responsibilities of 01:00:44.760 --> 01:00:49.480 their children on the weekend or just wherever, okay? They'll see that their wife is drowning 01:00:49.480 --> 01:00:51.680 in all these things and they'll just look at it and be like... 01:00:52.200 --> 01:00:55.200 Well, it's not my job to do these things. 01:00:55.200 --> 01:00:57.200 I just think it's super bizarre. 01:00:57.200 --> 01:00:59.200 What got me into things like that in the first place? 01:00:59.200 --> 01:01:00.200 I think it's super weird. 01:01:00.200 --> 01:01:03.200 To see your wife struggling, to see her drowning in her responsibilities, 01:01:03.200 --> 01:01:06.200 and when you want to help her out then in that situation, 01:01:06.200 --> 01:01:10.200 to just watch her drown in these things and not to help her, 01:01:10.200 --> 01:01:13.200 do you think that's loving your wife like you love your own flesh? 01:01:13.200 --> 01:01:17.200 Do you think that's loving your wife as you would cherish your own flesh? 01:01:17.400 --> 01:01:19.400 Not so, not so in these things. 01:01:19.400 --> 01:01:21.400 Where you guys at? You guys in Ephesians 6? 01:01:21.400 --> 01:01:23.400 Go back to Ephesians 5 verse number 28. 01:01:23.400 --> 01:01:26.400 Ephesians 5 verse number 28. 01:01:32.000 --> 01:01:34.840 Ephesians 5 28 is where you guys are going 01:01:37.300 --> 01:01:40.580 But yeah, because guys out there will just be like, oh no, that's a woman's job. 01:01:40.580 --> 01:01:44.980 They'll just let their wives just drown in these things and struggle to take care of their kids. 01:01:44.980 --> 01:01:48.180 I'm not just talking about like off to work, I'm talking about on the weekend as well, 01:01:48.180 --> 01:01:49.180 and just all these other things. 01:01:49.180 --> 01:01:54.340 And it's just like, I don't understand how you can think that that's loving your wife like you love your own flesh. 01:01:54.340 --> 01:01:57.700 And people might think like I'm exaggerating these issues, but I really don't think I am. 01:01:57.700 --> 01:02:05.220 I think I under-exaggerate these things because I'm telling you, I have seen and met men that I'm just like, 01:02:05.900 --> 01:02:07.320 what are you doing in your marriage? 01:02:07.320 --> 01:02:08.640 It blows me away. 01:02:08.640 --> 01:02:11.480 That like, and Kylie's my witness to this, 01:02:11.480 --> 01:02:13.840 I have met multiple men in my life 01:02:13.840 --> 01:02:16.440 that told me that they don't change diapers. 01:02:16.440 --> 01:02:17.960 They've never changed a diaper before 01:02:17.960 --> 01:02:20.520 because they're like, that's my wife's job. 01:02:20.520 --> 01:02:21.600 It's like, you know what I mean? 01:02:21.600 --> 01:02:23.120 Because they tell you it's like a flex, 01:02:23.120 --> 01:02:24.560 and I just think like, that just means 01:02:24.560 --> 01:02:26.240 you're like a terrible husband, like one in the world. 01:02:26.240 --> 01:02:27.980 But you don't think about your wife at all, 01:02:27.980 --> 01:02:29.440 you don't consider your wife at all. 01:02:29.440 --> 01:02:31.380 You don't think that if it's annoying for her 01:02:31.380 --> 01:02:33.900 to change hundreds of messy diapers, 01:02:33.900 --> 01:02:36.780 that you could take some of that load off of her 01:02:36.780 --> 01:02:39.300 when it's in your power to do so. 01:02:39.300 --> 01:02:40.140 Very bizarre. 01:02:40.140 --> 01:02:41.500 Or the men that'll just be like, 01:02:41.500 --> 01:02:43.860 oh, like all the women out there, 01:02:43.860 --> 01:02:44.740 these stay at home moms, 01:02:44.740 --> 01:02:46.300 all they're doing is they're just babysitting their kids. 01:02:46.300 --> 01:02:47.500 They're just, you know, 01:02:47.500 --> 01:02:49.380 it's basically like a step up from just like, 01:02:49.380 --> 01:02:52.060 you know, dropping them off at daycare or something like that. 01:02:52.060 --> 01:02:55.140 But these ideas are just super ridiculous to me. 01:02:55.140 --> 01:02:57.260 But you know what I've realized from all these things? 01:02:57.260 --> 01:03:00.220 I realized this, that men that think like that, 01:03:00.220 --> 01:03:01.900 that think that their wife isn't doing any work, 01:03:01.900 --> 01:03:05.740 they think like that because they've never actually helped their wife to take 01:03:05.740 --> 01:03:08.200 any of that work to realize that it's work in the first place that's why 01:03:08.200 --> 01:03:12.580 because if you change some booby diapers if you change the kids clothes if you 01:03:12.580 --> 01:03:15.460 give them a bath if you watch them when you're trying to get something else done 01:03:15.460 --> 01:03:18.860 if you're trying to just take care of them in general you'd find out that 01:03:18.860 --> 01:03:23.740 that's work when you're doing these things and it might not be as physically 01:03:23.740 --> 01:03:27.860 laborious as the things that you do at your job but it's like it's still work 01:03:27.860 --> 01:03:29.900 nonetheless so it's 01:03:29.900 --> 01:03:33.100 This attitude that men will have sometimes about these things is bizarre. 01:03:33.100 --> 01:03:38.060 And I think it leads to them not considering their wives and not thinking about their wives 01:03:38.060 --> 01:03:39.060 and these things. 01:03:39.060 --> 01:03:40.060 Because they just kind of brush it off. 01:03:40.060 --> 01:03:41.500 That's their job anyways. 01:03:41.500 --> 01:03:43.500 It's their responsibility to do these things anyways. 01:03:43.500 --> 01:03:44.500 Where did I have you guys go? 01:03:44.500 --> 01:03:45.500 I had to go to Ephesians 5.28. 01:03:45.500 --> 01:03:48.500 I may have you go to 1 Corinthians 12.26. 01:03:48.500 --> 01:03:49.500 My bad. 01:03:49.500 --> 01:03:51.500 1 Corinthians 12 verse number 26. 01:03:51.500 --> 01:03:52.000 6 01:03:55.900 --> 01:04:00.900 Where does this come from though again? It comes from men thinking that like taking care of their kids is beneath them. 01:04:00.900 --> 01:04:15.900 And this really only scrapes the top of the issue. Like the very top of this because the time would fail me to tell you of you know the men out there that neglect their wife, their wife and that neglect their children to just go home as soon as they get off work and just play video games all day. 01:04:15.900 --> 01:04:21.000 Like they're just gonna like oh well you know it's my job to go and work, but then when I come home 01:04:21.000 --> 01:04:23.720 It's her job to take care of the kids, so they just like go right to their room 01:04:23.900 --> 01:04:26.900 Don't even say hi to their wife, just go and play the video games. 01:04:26.900 --> 01:04:29.900 You think that's an exaggeration, that's a real story that I'm telling you right now. 01:04:29.900 --> 01:04:31.900 This is real men out there that do these kind of things. 01:04:31.900 --> 01:04:33.900 They're just like, how do you think you're doing that? 01:04:33.900 --> 01:04:37.900 How do you think you're just leaving your wife to deal with all these things and think that that's loving at the other day? 01:04:37.900 --> 01:04:39.900 It's bizarre to me. 01:04:39.900 --> 01:04:43.900 If you would switch places with them again, I've been saying that a lot, 01:04:43.900 --> 01:04:48.900 but if you'd switch places and think, how would you feel if you had to take care of the kids 24-7, 01:04:48.900 --> 01:04:51.900 with no breaks, with no one to help you out? 01:04:51.900 --> 01:04:54.620 How would that make you feel at the end of the day? 01:04:54.620 --> 01:04:55.460 Not good. 01:04:55.460 --> 01:04:57.140 So then why would you do that to your wife? 01:04:57.140 --> 01:04:59.420 If you wouldn't want to be treated that way, 01:04:59.420 --> 01:05:00.720 then why would you treat? 01:05:00.720 --> 01:05:03.660 Your wife was supposed to be your one flesh that way. 01:05:04.300 --> 01:05:08.720 Like I just literally sent Kylie a compilation of these things. So that's why I say I'm like not just exaggerating 01:05:08.720 --> 01:05:14.300 I sent Kylie a compilation, where? So yeah, I sent her a compilation of these worthless men and these like marriage counseling 01:05:14.300 --> 01:05:17.400 These weren't religious men. These were just uh, these were just secular, okay? 01:05:17.620 --> 01:05:24.460 And it was literally video after video couple after couple of moms being like I'm the breadwinner 01:05:24.460 --> 01:05:30.780 Which is like first of all what? I'm the breadwinner. I take care of the kids. I change the kids' clothes 01:05:30.780 --> 01:05:32.300 I give them the baths and all 01:05:32.300 --> 01:05:35.780 All my husband does is lock himself in his room all day. 01:05:35.780 --> 01:05:38.100 It's just like, first of all, how do you get with a man like that anyways? 01:05:38.100 --> 01:05:39.700 Like, what in the world? 01:05:39.700 --> 01:05:41.100 But second of all, that's what I'm saying too. 01:05:41.900 --> 01:05:43.500 Do you think those men love their wives? 01:05:43.500 --> 01:05:45.100 You think that they love the people that they're with? 01:05:45.100 --> 01:05:45.980 Not so. 01:05:45.980 --> 01:05:47.460 Not that they're treating them like that. 01:05:47.460 --> 01:05:49.780 Because if you had any empathy in your heart at all, 01:05:49.780 --> 01:05:52.500 if you had any care for someone besides yourself, 01:05:52.500 --> 01:05:54.180 you had any care about your wife, 01:05:54.180 --> 01:05:55.380 you wouldn't put her through those things. 01:05:55.380 --> 01:05:56.380 It's very bizarre. 01:05:56.380 --> 01:05:57.980 And again, I'm not trying to say that you have to do 01:05:57.980 --> 01:05:59.180 your wife's whole job as a man. 01:05:59.180 --> 01:06:01.180 Hopefully you know that I'm balanced about these things. 01:06:01.180 --> 01:06:02.340 I'm not saying that at all. 01:06:02.340 --> 01:06:03.620 What I am saying though is this, 01:06:03.620 --> 01:06:04.980 is that if you just, 01:06:04.980 --> 01:06:06.500 I'm telling you to consider your wife, 01:06:06.500 --> 01:06:07.340 is what I'm telling you. 01:06:07.340 --> 01:06:08.100 Consider. 01:06:08.200 --> 01:06:12.040 how she feels and how she deals with things and think to yourself, 01:06:12.040 --> 01:06:16.960 how would I want to be treated in that situation and then do the same thing to her is what I'm telling you, okay? 01:06:16.960 --> 01:06:20.500 And I use video games obviously but I'm not against video games or anything like that. 01:06:20.500 --> 01:06:25.440 I could fill that blank with a lot of things. Netflix, going out, you know, doing their hobbies or whatever. 01:06:25.440 --> 01:06:26.700 The idea is just like... 01:06:26.900 --> 01:06:29.940 You should not just be neglecting your wife and kids. 01:06:29.940 --> 01:06:32.740 When you got married, you agreed, whether you knew it or not, 01:06:32.740 --> 01:06:36.260 that you would be sacrificing some of your free time to love your wife 01:06:36.260 --> 01:06:38.580 and to take care of your children as well. 01:06:38.580 --> 01:06:41.220 And if you don't do that, you see the repercussions of these things. 01:06:41.220 --> 01:06:43.060 1 Corinthians 12.6, it says, it says, 01:06:43.060 --> 01:06:46.180 and whether one member suffer, all members suffer with it, 01:06:46.180 --> 01:06:50.340 or one member be honored, all members rejoice with it. 01:06:50.340 --> 01:06:52.980 Now, obviously, this is in the context of like a church body, 01:06:52.980 --> 01:06:54.740 but as I was typing these things, I was just thinking like... 01:06:54.900 --> 01:06:56.100 This is amazing to me. 01:06:56.100 --> 01:06:59.100 Paul says this about the church body that we are. 01:06:59.100 --> 01:07:01.920 But think about how much this principle must be true 01:07:01.920 --> 01:07:03.560 as well with our spouse. 01:07:03.560 --> 01:07:06.640 Because the Bible says, like I said earlier, 01:07:06.640 --> 01:07:09.220 we are one flesh together with our spouse. 01:07:09.220 --> 01:07:11.300 So how much should this principally be true 01:07:11.300 --> 01:07:13.860 that if one member suffers, that both of them suffer with it, 01:07:13.860 --> 01:07:15.620 that if you see that your wife is miserable, 01:07:15.620 --> 01:07:17.940 if you see that your wife is struggling, 01:07:17.940 --> 01:07:20.500 if you see that she's overwhelmed with these things. 01:07:20.800 --> 01:07:23.680 Isn't there a care in your heart to want to alleviate that from her? 01:07:23.680 --> 01:07:25.080 Like it should be there. 01:07:25.080 --> 01:07:27.560 Because when one member suffers, you both suffer. 01:07:27.560 --> 01:07:30.560 Because what we even see in this passage we saw in Ephesians 5.28, 01:07:30.560 --> 01:07:31.060 it says, 01:07:31.060 --> 01:07:32.560 "...so all men that love their wives as their own bodies..." 01:07:32.560 --> 01:07:33.060 It says, 01:07:33.060 --> 01:07:35.560 "...he that loveth his wife loveth himself." 01:07:35.560 --> 01:07:37.400 Isn't that an interesting concept as well? 01:07:37.400 --> 01:07:39.440 Like if you love your wife, you love yourself. 01:07:39.440 --> 01:07:39.940 Why? 01:07:39.940 --> 01:07:42.000 Because when you love your wife, 01:07:42.000 --> 01:07:44.400 it makes her want to reciprocate that love back to you. 01:07:44.400 --> 01:07:46.600 Because even think about from Genesis, he says, 01:07:46.600 --> 01:07:47.100 like, 01:07:47.100 --> 01:07:48.800 the woman's desire it shall be to 01:07:48.800 --> 01:07:52.640 to towards her husband so women are naturally built towards 01:07:53.080 --> 01:07:56.360 wanting to follow you towards wanting to love you and 01:07:56.640 --> 01:08:01.960 You need to love them so they reciprocate that back to you is kind of the idea that he's saying there go to first Peter 3 01:08:02.080 --> 01:08:04.400 verse number 7 first Peter 3 01:08:05.280 --> 01:08:06.800 verse number 7 01:08:09.800 --> 01:08:14.800 Again, I'm being harsh. I'm being pretty harsh right now on the men, but there will be a balance coming. 01:08:14.800 --> 01:08:19.800 So you ladies better buckle up too. You better start getting right right now before you feel convicted next Sunday, okay? 01:08:19.800 --> 01:08:22.800 Because I don't hold the punches on those things, okay? 01:08:22.800 --> 01:08:26.800 Where are you guys going? 1 Peter 3 verse number 7. 01:08:27.400 --> 01:08:28.900 is where you guys are going. 01:08:28.900 --> 01:08:31.240 And before I move on, I just say this. 01:08:31.240 --> 01:08:33.700 The end of all these things I'm saying consider your wife. 01:08:33.700 --> 01:08:37.320 That if you sometimes need a day to recover, 01:08:37.320 --> 01:08:38.840 there's been a hard day at work, 01:08:38.840 --> 01:08:40.600 there's probably gonna be days where your wife 01:08:40.600 --> 01:08:42.060 could use a day to recover as well 01:08:42.060 --> 01:08:43.660 from the work that she does. 01:08:43.660 --> 01:08:46.920 If you wouldn't wanna be stuck taking care of the kids 01:08:46.920 --> 01:08:49.920 24-7 with no help, then you probably shouldn't do that 01:08:49.920 --> 01:08:51.280 to your wife either. 01:08:51.280 --> 01:08:53.720 If there's days where you would like to go out 01:08:53.720 --> 01:08:55.400 and hang out with your friends, 01:08:55.400 --> 01:08:59.400 without the kids, then you should probably give some of those days to your wife as well. 01:08:59.400 --> 01:09:02.640 And you can disagree with what I'm saying, but I'm just saying this, the Bible says that 01:09:02.640 --> 01:09:04.600 he that loved his wife loved himself. 01:09:04.600 --> 01:09:07.720 So you're doing yourself a favor by doing these things, okay? 01:09:07.720 --> 01:09:10.560 And it's not my marriage, I mean you can do whatever you want truly in your marriage, 01:09:10.560 --> 01:09:14.280 but I'm just telling you that these things work for me in my marriage and I encourage 01:09:14.280 --> 01:09:16.240 you in these things because they do work. 01:09:16.240 --> 01:09:19.640 Because the principles of the Bible work is the reality, okay? 01:09:20.200 --> 01:09:23.240 Point one of this, okay, was, you know, love your wife like you love your own body. 01:09:23.240 --> 01:09:27.080 Point two is that you should love your wife by dwelling with her according to knowledge. 01:09:27.080 --> 01:09:28.760 Look what it says in 1 Peter 3, 7. It says, 01:09:28.760 --> 01:09:31.880 likewise the husbands dwell with them according to knowledge, 01:09:31.880 --> 01:09:35.160 giving honor unto the wife as unto the weaker vessel, 01:09:35.160 --> 01:09:40.760 and as being heirs together of the grace of life that your prayers be not hindered. 01:09:40.760 --> 01:09:42.920 So obviously there's multiple things you could take from this verse. 01:09:42.920 --> 01:09:45.560 The first one I want to focus on, the first phrase I want to focus on, 01:09:45.560 --> 01:09:47.720 is giving honor unto the wife as unto... 01:09:48.200 --> 01:09:53.200 the weaker vessel. This really goes hand in hand about what I was kind of saying on my last point from like a little bit of a different angle. 01:09:53.200 --> 01:10:02.200 But notice here that Peter doesn't say that we should be belittling our wives, that we should be, you know, degrading our wives, that we should be minimizing the things that they do. 01:10:02.200 --> 01:10:10.200 He says to give honor unto your wives as unto the weaker vessel. And I feel like just some men miss this verse in the Bible reading. 01:10:10.200 --> 01:10:16.200 The way that some men talk about women, the way that some men talk about women, I'm wondering myself sometimes, I'm like, why are you even married to a woman if you're 01:10:16.200 --> 01:10:21.480 if you think so lowly of them is what I truly think like when we don't ever see this attitude the Bible so I think 01:10:21.480 --> 01:10:21.960 It's bizarre to me 01:10:21.960 --> 01:10:25.880 We obviously see in the Bible that there's things that women can't do because God says they can't do them 01:10:25.880 --> 01:10:28.120 Nobody would argue that right see where do you see this? 01:10:28.520 --> 01:10:33.060 Condescending attitude towards women where God just acts like they're just like a lesser species like that 01:10:33.060 --> 01:10:36.040 They're just like a second-class citizen. You never see that in the Bible 01:10:36.040 --> 01:10:41.380 In fact, he's compelling you not to treat him like that and all the things that we've seen isn't he he says love your wife 01:10:41.380 --> 01:10:44.120 Like you love your own flesh like you love your own body 01:10:44.200 --> 01:10:50.000 It's insane that these ideas that they'll come with and like I understand that like people want to like because there is a 01:10:50.520 --> 01:10:52.520 movement out there that 01:10:52.520 --> 01:10:56.680 feminism that wants to brainwash our wives and wants to brainwash our daughters into 01:10:57.600 --> 01:11:04.200 Doing things the opposite of the Bible. I understand that call that out because it is garbage and it's not what God is designed for me 01:11:04.200 --> 01:11:04.900 Okay 01:11:05.100 --> 01:11:10.100 But like, is there a way that we can do these things that doesn't result in us just belittling women? 01:11:10.100 --> 01:11:17.600 That doesn't result in us belittling all the good, like, stay at home mongers out there that are following their God called their God given purpose? 01:11:17.600 --> 01:11:23.100 Like, is there a way to, like, attack feminism and all these dumb ideologies out there, things like this, 01:11:23.100 --> 01:11:28.100 without just boiling women down to just being, like, kitchen inhabitants? 01:11:28.100 --> 01:11:31.600 Or the people that just are just, like, lords of the kitchen? 01:11:31.600 --> 01:11:33.100 Like I find it super. 01:11:33.100 --> 01:11:36.380 bizarre in this like cognitive dissonance where people want to be like 01:11:36.380 --> 01:11:40.380 women should never career that's wicked that's evil and then they turn around 01:11:40.380 --> 01:11:44.460 and they minimize all the good stay at home moms and all the good single mom or 01:11:44.460 --> 01:11:47.660 not good there's all the good stay at home moms all the good godly Christian 01:11:47.660 --> 01:11:51.660 moms out there I just think it's super bizarre how does that work for you why 01:11:51.660 --> 01:11:54.500 do you think women want to go and get a career anyways because people treat them 01:11:54.500 --> 01:11:58.460 like trash that's why because people will take women they'll be like you can't do 01:11:58.460 --> 01:12:00.940 what a man does you can't do all these things and then some of these things are 01:12:01.100 --> 01:12:03.060 It's true, we obviously understand these things, 01:12:03.060 --> 01:12:04.340 but what I'm saying is this, 01:12:04.340 --> 01:12:06.260 is that the reason why there's such a big piece 01:12:06.260 --> 01:12:09.260 of feminism is because the pendulum was swung too far 01:12:09.260 --> 01:12:11.360 in the opposite direction for too long. 01:12:11.360 --> 01:12:12.480 That's the reality. 01:12:12.480 --> 01:12:14.100 That women will live with women and be like, 01:12:14.100 --> 01:12:16.940 you're stupid, you couldn't work a job even if you wanted to. 01:12:16.940 --> 01:12:18.100 So then what do the women do? 01:12:18.100 --> 01:12:20.460 Like, well, we will, we will go work a job. 01:12:20.460 --> 01:12:21.980 And again, follow what I'm saying. 01:12:21.980 --> 01:12:23.840 I'm not saying that that's a good thing, I'm saying this, 01:12:23.840 --> 01:12:25.780 that this is like the counteraction 01:12:25.780 --> 01:12:27.700 to the pendulum being swung too far in one direction, 01:12:27.700 --> 01:12:28.940 is what I'm saying to you. 01:12:28.940 --> 01:12:29.100 And 01:12:29.100 --> 01:12:34.860 And as Christians, we should be able to dismantle the garbage of feminism without just taking 01:12:34.860 --> 01:12:36.200 women down as a whole. 01:12:36.200 --> 01:12:40.200 I find it super bizarre that people just boil women down in all the stay-at-home moms do 01:12:40.200 --> 01:12:41.400 to just be in the kitchen. 01:12:41.400 --> 01:12:43.880 It's like, my wife does a lot more than that. 01:12:43.880 --> 01:12:45.580 And my mother did a lot more than that. 01:12:45.580 --> 01:12:47.900 And my sister does a lot more than that. 01:12:47.900 --> 01:12:51.900 Like I just don't understand this mindset to belittle women like this. 01:12:51.900 --> 01:12:53.620 It's very bizarre to me. 01:12:53.620 --> 01:12:54.200 Bye. 01:12:54.300 --> 01:12:59.420 Even with product 31 woman like we saw her I mean we didn't really read the whole chapter 01:12:59.420 --> 01:13:03.420 But if you've read proper 31 is she just always in the kitchen at all she does no 01:13:03.420 --> 01:13:09.120 She's actually doing things isn't that amazing she's not it's not just the story of a woman moving from one corner of the kitchen the other 01:13:09.200 --> 01:13:16.480 She's actually going and doing things isn't that amazing isn't amazing that she's doing things besides just cooking in that story as well like 01:13:17.100 --> 01:13:20.780 What if I told you that women don't just have to be restrained in the kitchen, 01:13:20.780 --> 01:13:25.340 like there's some just like, hand-servant, maid-servant. It's very bizarre to me. 01:13:25.340 --> 01:13:30.220 And again, go to, as a matter of fact, go to Ephesians 5-4, okay? Go to Ephesians 5-4. 01:13:30.800 --> 01:13:34.160 Because sometimes people say like it's a joke and people say like oh get back in the kitchen 01:13:34.400 --> 01:13:38.080 So I sometimes I believe this is only just true, but sometimes it's not a joke. Sometimes people 01:13:38.620 --> 01:13:41.760 disguise what they really believe as a joke and 01:13:42.240 --> 01:13:45.920 They it's like a spirit that comes with just like hating on women 01:13:46.080 --> 01:13:52.160 I find that bizarre being that i'm married to a woman being that my mother's woman being that I have two daughters that are 01:13:52.400 --> 01:13:58.720 Going to grow up more willing to be uh, uh good women someday and I wouldn't want them to be married to someone that thinks that they're 01:13:58.800 --> 01:14:00.800 worthless or thinks that they're garbage. 01:14:01.100 --> 01:14:05.540 Ephesians 5 to focus people would maybe say like well just a joke that people say this but you know that there's some jokes that 01:14:05.540 --> 01:14:11.500 You're not that become not just jokes anymore. They've become sinful. Nobody says he says in Ephesians 5 for he says neither 01:14:11.820 --> 01:14:17.420 Filthiness nor foolish talking nor jesting which are not convenient, but rather giving of things 01:14:17.460 --> 01:14:19.820 You know that there's jokes that are just bad jokes 01:14:19.820 --> 01:14:26.680 They're sinful is what he says right here and and you know me. I'm not like the most serious guy, okay? 01:14:26.680 --> 01:14:29.000 I'm pretty joking in my own opinion. I think that you probably 01:14:29.100 --> 01:14:32.420 agree with that. But you know when a joke starts to actually have negative repercussions 01:14:32.420 --> 01:14:36.260 it becomes not funny anymore. Or when someone actually means what they say it becomes not 01:14:36.260 --> 01:14:37.020 funny anymore. 01:14:37.400 --> 01:14:46.700 Like this spirit that people have of again, belittling women and just making out to like their only purpose in life is just to be the just all in the kitchen. 01:14:46.700 --> 01:14:51.800 I think it does us a disservice because I think of women more highly than that. 01:14:51.800 --> 01:15:00.900 Not that they have to go into a career, but I think that them that that that they can like we can glorify their position and not just minimize it and boil it down. 01:15:00.900 --> 01:15:01.600 That's what I'm saying. 01:15:01.600 --> 01:15:05.360 So you can say, Hey, praise God, we need Godly women to stay at home. 01:15:05.400 --> 01:15:09.640 and to submit to their husbands and to raise up the next generation and to make sure that 01:15:09.640 --> 01:15:14.040 children turn out right and that don't have someone else raise their children for them. 01:15:14.040 --> 01:15:19.280 That should be a praise to women, not a belittling them and not taking them down on those things. 01:15:19.280 --> 01:15:20.280 Bizarre to me. 01:15:20.280 --> 01:15:23.900 These is five fours where you guys are at go to Proverbs 27 verse 23 01:15:28.200 --> 01:15:31.720 You can say what I'm saying to some of this right now, but again, listen to next week's sermon, 01:15:31.720 --> 01:15:34.520 you'll see how many of them disagree with me on what I think about things. 01:15:34.520 --> 01:15:36.120 I'm just balanced is what I am. 01:15:36.120 --> 01:15:38.120 Like people always gotta go with some crazy extreme, 01:15:38.120 --> 01:15:39.160 why can't you just be in the middle? 01:15:39.160 --> 01:15:40.760 Why can't you just be reasonable about things? 01:15:40.760 --> 01:15:41.800 I don't understand this. 01:15:41.800 --> 01:15:45.000 Like there's a universe where we can be like, 01:15:45.000 --> 01:15:47.080 women shouldn't be going off and doing careers. 01:15:47.080 --> 01:15:48.360 That's not what God wills for them. 01:15:49.320 --> 01:15:50.600 And then we could also turn around and say, 01:15:50.600 --> 01:15:54.440 but hey, the world that women fill is very great and very godly. 01:15:55.000 --> 01:15:57.000 And this all ties back in, 01:15:57.000 --> 01:15:59.440 because I kind of crashed in a little bit. 01:15:59.440 --> 01:16:01.000 But this all ties in in this way 01:16:01.000 --> 01:16:04.080 that I think because this idea is out there 01:16:04.080 --> 01:16:05.880 that men just like, 01:16:07.880 --> 01:16:10.280 I think that because there's bad ideas out there 01:16:10.280 --> 01:16:13.080 that it hinders men loving their wives 01:16:13.080 --> 01:16:14.480 like they're supposed to. 01:16:14.480 --> 01:16:15.360 That is what I'd submit to you. 01:16:15.360 --> 01:16:16.720 And how they treat their wives 01:16:16.720 --> 01:16:18.680 and how they behave with them, okay? 01:16:18.680 --> 01:16:19.640 But this is the second thing I wanted to say 01:16:19.640 --> 01:16:21.640 about all these things, okay? 01:16:21.640 --> 01:16:23.000 First Peter, I had you, 01:16:23.000 --> 01:16:25.000 Where'd you guys go? You guys went to Proverbs 27. Just stay there, okay? 01:16:25.240 --> 01:16:29.960 1st Peter 1 27 said likewise the husbands dwell with them according to knowledge 01:16:30.280 --> 01:16:36.640 giving honor unto the wife as unto the weaker vessel and as being heirs together the grace of life that your prayers be not 01:16:36.640 --> 01:16:40.120 Hindered would to God we wouldn't make what women do a joke 01:16:40.120 --> 01:16:45.520 But that we would praise them for the things that they do that we would highlight the things that we do that they do that we 01:16:45.520 --> 01:16:50.680 Would honor them for the things that they do because that's what the Bible actually says right here to honor them as 01:16:51.000 --> 01:16:53.660 give honor to them as unto the weaker vessel. 01:16:53.660 --> 01:16:55.720 Okay, but then the second thing I'm gonna put out there 01:16:55.720 --> 01:16:57.160 for this verse is the phrase dwell with them 01:16:57.160 --> 01:16:58.000 according to knowledge. 01:16:58.000 --> 01:16:59.720 Because obviously I think that this is attached 01:16:59.720 --> 01:17:02.200 to the second phrase in this verse 01:17:02.200 --> 01:17:06.520 in the sense that like if you're gonna spend 60, 01:17:06.520 --> 01:17:08.520 you know 70, 80 years with a person, 01:17:08.520 --> 01:17:10.680 it's probably best not to just treat them like trash 01:17:10.680 --> 01:17:11.560 for the whole years. 01:17:11.560 --> 01:17:14.080 That's probably better for just you in general. 01:17:14.080 --> 01:17:15.680 But like I was just thinking in general 01:17:15.680 --> 01:17:17.560 that it's a good idea to just. 01:17:18.800 --> 01:17:24.060 Dwell with your wives with according to knowledge in the sense of like just like actually having a general knowledge of 01:17:25.080 --> 01:17:27.380 Of your wife like for example 01:17:27.380 --> 01:17:27.560 Okay 01:17:27.560 --> 01:17:34.200 like you should know your wife well enough to where you know when she is at her last straw and that she is 01:17:34.920 --> 01:17:36.920 Overwhelmed and that she's about to just you know 01:17:37.280 --> 01:17:41.080 Ball out, you know or burst out in the tears like you should know your wife well enough to win 01:17:41.240 --> 01:17:46.520 Like that's about to happen so that you can you know more willing Olivia alleviate the situation 01:17:46.800 --> 01:17:49.800 And you can always do that again, but like you should, 01:17:49.800 --> 01:17:51.200 I'm saying you should just know your wife 01:17:51.200 --> 01:17:53.560 and know like where she's at mentally, okay? 01:17:53.560 --> 01:17:55.520 Same thing with like you should know the little things 01:17:55.520 --> 01:17:57.320 about your wife that drive her up the wall, 01:17:57.320 --> 01:17:59.960 and if they're reasonable, you should probably come, 01:17:59.960 --> 01:18:03.340 you know, just try to appease her in those things. 01:18:03.340 --> 01:18:05.180 Not because your wife controls you, 01:18:05.180 --> 01:18:06.480 but you can even think about this, 01:18:06.480 --> 01:18:08.880 we ask God Almighty for things and he does them for us. 01:18:08.880 --> 01:18:11.240 Like, so does that mean that just asking someone 01:18:11.240 --> 01:18:12.600 to do something if you listen to them 01:18:12.600 --> 01:18:14.760 that you're being like commanded by them? 01:18:14.800 --> 01:18:15.400 No. 01:18:15.400 --> 01:18:17.880 So if your wife asks you something reasonable, 01:18:17.880 --> 01:18:21.560 and the key word is ask there, not command. 01:18:21.560 --> 01:18:23.800 But again, I'm not going to go into women right now. 01:18:23.800 --> 01:18:24.680 We're talking about men. 01:18:24.680 --> 01:18:26.200 But the key word is ask, OK? 01:18:26.200 --> 01:18:28.240 If she asks you to do something that's reasonable, 01:18:28.240 --> 01:18:30.000 knowledge would tell you that it's probably 01:18:30.000 --> 01:18:31.640 good to comply with some of these things 01:18:31.640 --> 01:18:34.880 because it's for your own benefit, like I said earlier. 01:18:34.880 --> 01:18:37.760 Then if your wife asks you, hey, can you not 01:18:37.760 --> 01:18:41.000 throw your dirty work clothes on the ground? 01:18:41.000 --> 01:18:42.800 Can you just at least just grab them and move them too? 01:18:42.800 --> 01:18:47.200 feet put them in the hamper. Pretty reasonable request. It's like maybe it's in your best 01:18:47.200 --> 01:18:52.240 interest to do these things. Again, not because your wife lords over you, but because we're 01:18:52.240 --> 01:18:55.400 dwelling with them, we're supposed to be doing with them according to knowledge, right? And 01:18:55.400 --> 01:18:58.080 some of these things make a lot of sense that again if you're going to... 01:18:58.500 --> 01:19:01.380 be with someone for however many years, 01:19:01.380 --> 01:19:04.340 Lord willing, till death do us part, like your vows say, 01:19:04.340 --> 01:19:08.420 then you should try to make the best of that time, okay? 01:19:08.420 --> 01:19:11.940 And not pass this earth in bickering 01:19:11.940 --> 01:19:13.460 and fighting with each other. 01:19:13.460 --> 01:19:15.380 Or knowing your wife to know the little things 01:19:15.380 --> 01:19:17.300 that make her happy, because there's so many times, 01:19:17.300 --> 01:19:18.700 I've done it in a hot second, 01:19:18.700 --> 01:19:20.040 because now we live out in the boon, 01:19:20.040 --> 01:19:20.900 so far away from everything, 01:19:20.900 --> 01:19:22.780 but when I was working in Vancouver, 01:19:22.780 --> 01:19:25.060 every once in a while, if I just wanted to make Kylie happy, 01:19:25.060 --> 01:19:26.500 I'd go and get her some coffee from Star. 01:19:26.500 --> 01:19:31.360 bucks just because I knew like what is five dollars to making my wife happy and 01:19:31.360 --> 01:19:33.640 I'm sure that's probably true with all your wives okay so there's a pro tip for 01:19:33.640 --> 01:19:36.680 you guys if you just go and get him some coffee it'll do you well okay or some 01:19:36.680 --> 01:19:40.120 flowers okay the same thing is true though you should know your wife's 01:19:40.120 --> 01:19:44.800 desires as well and you should know her dreams and know the things that she 01:19:44.800 --> 01:19:47.500 wants in life as far as like this like 01:19:48.000 --> 01:19:53.220 Sometimes my wife will do this and I don't know if it's on purpose or if it's just you know her yap and whatever 01:19:53.220 --> 01:19:55.900 But like sometimes she'll be like oh, yeah, you know I really want this 01:19:56.860 --> 01:20:01.920 Vacuum machine, but it's too expensive or whatever and then I'm like when she says I listen to it though 01:20:01.920 --> 01:20:07.480 And then like I pretend like it didn't mean much to me okay, but then later BAM. I got her with the surprise, okay? 01:20:08.220 --> 01:20:10.620 What is that just like dwelling with knowledge is knowing like hey 01:20:10.680 --> 01:20:16.000 Because this is what I'm gonna say part of dwelling with your wife according to knowledge would be this to actually listening to things that your wife said 01:20:16.000 --> 01:20:20.600 Because I'm sure that this is just a default of man. Sometimes we just filter out our wife. 01:20:20.600 --> 01:20:24.360 Again, that's kind of like the lock-in kind of thing. She'll get on to me sometimes. 01:20:24.360 --> 01:20:27.920 I don't do it on purpose, though truly I don't. Sometimes I'm just like locked in and she's saying something to me. 01:20:27.920 --> 01:20:32.600 She's like, remember I told you about this like three weeks ago? No, not really. Okay. 01:20:32.600 --> 01:20:36.020 I can't tell if she actually told me though or if I'm being gaslit in that situation. 01:20:36.600 --> 01:20:38.600 So, you know, make about what you will. 01:20:39.000 --> 01:20:43.920 But my whole point is this is that like think about this like part of being loved is feeling like 01:20:44.000 --> 01:20:47.080 someone is listening to you and actually hearing what you have to say. 01:20:47.080 --> 01:20:51.200 And sometimes, you know, it's kind of like a give and take thing because sometimes 01:20:51.200 --> 01:20:53.640 she'll tell me things that are kind of like, you know, 01:20:53.640 --> 01:20:56.920 could we have had the spark notes on this? But then when I flip it on my, on 01:20:56.920 --> 01:21:00.400 itself, I'm like, you know what, Kylie listens to a lot of the 01:21:00.400 --> 01:21:03.880 yapping that I do as well. Like I'll be like, you'll never believe 01:21:03.880 --> 01:21:06.960 this cool interpretation that I found. Let me explain it to you, 01:21:06.960 --> 01:21:10.520 even though you're going to hear it on church on Wednesday. So it's like, it's like a give and take about marriage. 01:21:10.520 --> 01:21:11.840 So, I'm... 01:21:12.000 --> 01:21:13.240 I think that that's what this means as well. 01:21:13.240 --> 01:21:15.320 But the third thing I want to point about this, 01:21:15.320 --> 01:21:17.400 oh, this one I want to say before this, okay? 01:21:17.600 --> 01:21:23.960 Also, I think dwelling on knowledge is learning not to just power trip into micromanage your 01:21:23.960 --> 01:21:26.880 spouse and to just throw your weight around with your spouse. 01:21:26.880 --> 01:21:29.240 Now hear what I say about this, okay? 01:21:29.240 --> 01:21:32.080 That as I said earlier, I already established that if your husband tells you to do something, 01:21:32.080 --> 01:21:33.240 you're supposed to submit to it. 01:21:33.240 --> 01:21:38.840 But as a husband, here's some wisdom for you that not everything is the end all be all 01:21:38.840 --> 01:21:43.580 and you should just learn to pick your battles on some things and learn when something really 01:21:43.580 --> 01:21:45.580 needs to be a law and a commandment in your house. 01:21:45.600 --> 01:21:48.800 and when you can just kind of let things be as they are. 01:21:48.800 --> 01:21:50.520 Like, I don't know, some men, 01:21:50.520 --> 01:21:52.420 they like take this to the extreme 01:21:52.420 --> 01:21:53.260 where they're just like, 01:21:53.260 --> 01:21:54.960 they're gonna like micromanage every little thing 01:21:54.960 --> 01:21:55.920 that their wife does. 01:21:55.920 --> 01:21:57.640 And you can do that technically. 01:21:57.640 --> 01:22:00.920 I mean, you can treat your wife like that. 01:22:00.920 --> 01:22:02.800 The reality is though, it just doesn't work out very often. 01:22:02.800 --> 01:22:05.280 Like think about Rehoboam in the Bible, 01:22:05.280 --> 01:22:09.360 where he has all the authority, he's the king of Israel. 01:22:09.360 --> 01:22:11.360 And they come to him and they're like, pretty reasonably, 01:22:11.360 --> 01:22:13.600 they're like, hey, your father was... 01:22:13.600 --> 01:22:16.400 working pretty hard, can you like dial it back a little bit? 01:22:16.400 --> 01:22:18.040 She's like, oh, you thought that was hard. 01:22:18.040 --> 01:22:19.720 How about some scorpions for y'all, OK? 01:22:19.720 --> 01:22:22.120 It's like, so what happens in that story, though? 01:22:22.120 --> 01:22:23.080 They leave. 01:22:23.080 --> 01:22:25.680 Because as much as it's true that, obviously, 01:22:25.680 --> 01:22:27.720 and I already said before, so you don't take me out 01:22:27.720 --> 01:22:31.160 of context, as much as it's true that your wife should submit 01:22:31.160 --> 01:22:33.400 to everything you say, it's also true 01:22:33.400 --> 01:22:37.240 that if you're being a tyrant, if you're being just crazy town, 01:22:37.240 --> 01:22:39.240 her flesh is not going to want to submit to you. 01:22:39.240 --> 01:22:40.240 This is just wisdom. 01:22:40.240 --> 01:22:41.160 This is just knowledge. 01:22:41.160 --> 01:22:41.600 This is Dwight. 01:22:41.600 --> 01:22:45.400 with your life and knowledge. But if you treat your life like trash and then you 01:22:45.400 --> 01:22:49.760 tell you like now go do this it's just I mean technically you should listen to 01:22:49.760 --> 01:22:53.000 what you're saying but it's just this is not the play okay it's a bold strategy 01:22:53.000 --> 01:22:57.080 but we'll see how it works out for you it probably won't be good okay. All these 01:22:57.080 --> 01:23:00.640 all these things to say though is that hey like our rules are not conditional 01:23:00.640 --> 01:23:05.000 but dwelling with knowledge would be considering these things as well. 01:23:05.200 --> 01:23:07.800 Proverbs 27 verse 33 though is where you guys are at. 01:23:07.800 --> 01:23:09.480 The other thing I want to point out about this is that 01:23:09.480 --> 01:23:10.480 you should just kind of generally know 01:23:10.480 --> 01:23:11.320 how your wife is doing. 01:23:11.320 --> 01:23:13.440 It says, be thou diligent to know the state of thy flocks 01:23:13.440 --> 01:23:14.960 and look well to thy herds. 01:23:14.960 --> 01:23:17.600 Obviously the main interpretation of this would be that, 01:23:17.600 --> 01:23:19.760 you know, obviously with your animals and stuff like this 01:23:19.760 --> 01:23:21.960 for your business, but I think this also applies 01:23:21.960 --> 01:23:23.000 to our family as well. 01:23:23.000 --> 01:23:25.280 That you should know how your wife and kids are doing 01:23:25.280 --> 01:23:27.600 as a husband, as a leader of your little flock 01:23:27.600 --> 01:23:28.440 at your house. 01:23:28.440 --> 01:23:31.440 That you should know how your wife is doing emotionally. 01:23:31.440 --> 01:23:33.200 You should know how she's doing spiritually. 01:23:33.200 --> 01:23:37.400 as well. Like you should know if she is reading her Bible, if she is praying, you know, you 01:23:37.400 --> 01:23:40.960 should know what's going on in your wife's head is what I'm saying, right? Because that 01:23:40.960 --> 01:23:43.240 again is part of loving someone. 01:23:43.600 --> 01:23:46.800 thinking about them and letting them know that you're thinking about them 01:23:46.800 --> 01:23:50.960 and letting them know that they care, that you care, excuse me, 01:23:50.960 --> 01:23:54.720 about what they're dealing with and what they're going through. I think that's a big 01:23:54.720 --> 01:23:59.360 key and again that's true with with lots of things concerning 01:23:59.360 --> 01:24:02.880 your wife but mainly spiritually and mentally these things are very 01:24:02.880 --> 01:24:06.500 important. Go back to Ephesians 5.25, this is a 01:24:06.700 --> 01:24:10.780 This is not the last place you're going to go, but we're getting close to the end of the sermon. 01:24:10.780 --> 01:24:17.420 We are not going to go for now, so stick with me. Ephesians 5.25. We want you to go. 01:24:19.800 --> 01:24:24.120 The point of what I'm saying was you should love your wife like you love your own body. 01:24:24.600 --> 01:24:30.100 You should love your wife and treat her the way that you'd want to be treated if the roles were switched. 01:24:30.100 --> 01:24:35.100 You should love your wife by dwelling with her according to knowledge and giving honor to her as the weaker vessel. 01:24:35.100 --> 01:24:38.100 And last point of my sermon is that you should love your wife like Christ loved the church. 01:24:38.100 --> 01:24:40.100 Look what it says in Ephesians 5.25. It says, 01:24:40.100 --> 01:24:46.600 Husbands, love your wives even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it. 01:24:46.600 --> 01:24:51.100 This verse gets repeated so much that I know we get to sensitize to it because I get to sensitize to it. 01:24:51.100 --> 01:24:52.580 But truly, this one. 01:24:52.600 --> 01:24:55.040 break this down and think about what are you saying here? 01:24:55.040 --> 01:24:58.700 Like this charge is so high, it's unbelievable, truly. 01:24:58.700 --> 01:25:02.920 Like, Paul is telling us, in the same way 01:25:02.920 --> 01:25:04.920 that Jesus Christ loved each and every one of us, 01:25:04.920 --> 01:25:08.400 that he was willing to be tortured and to bleed 01:25:08.400 --> 01:25:11.580 and to suffer and to die for us on the cross, 01:25:11.580 --> 01:25:13.700 that's the same love that we should have for our wives. 01:25:13.800 --> 01:25:18.200 That's incredibly deep. And people try to say things like, you know, that Christianity hates women. 01:25:18.200 --> 01:25:22.680 Where though? That seems pretty pro-women to me. He's saying to love your wife with the highest 01:25:22.680 --> 01:25:27.160 love that there is, with the love that Jesus Christ had for us. And we know that this is the 01:25:27.160 --> 01:25:32.280 greatest love because he says in John 15, 13, greater love hath no man than this, that a man 01:25:32.280 --> 01:25:36.680 lay down his life for his friends. That's the kind of love that we should be willing to have for our 01:25:36.680 --> 01:25:40.840 wife. That's foundational when you think about it. Like, that should put everything into perspective. 01:25:40.840 --> 01:25:41.800 You need to think like... 01:25:41.800 --> 01:25:44.500 Do I really treat my wife this way? 01:25:44.500 --> 01:25:45.860 Do I actually love her this way? 01:25:45.860 --> 01:25:51.080 Do I love her with a love that's no less than the love that Jesus Christ had for me when 01:25:51.080 --> 01:25:54.440 he was willing to suffer and die for me? 01:25:54.440 --> 01:25:54.840 It's a... 01:25:55.500 --> 01:26:04.900 It's incredibly deep when you think about it. It's incredibly impressive that this is the calling that God tells us to have for our wives, to love her like Christ loved the church. 01:26:04.900 --> 01:26:09.900 Go to Romans 8.35 if you will. This is the last place I'll have you turn. Romans 8.35. 01:26:09.900 --> 01:26:15.900 That this means that we should be willing to suffer for our wives. We should be willing to sacrifice for our wives. 01:26:15.900 --> 01:26:20.700 We should literally be willing, if it came down to it, to give our life for our wives. 01:26:20.700 --> 01:26:23.500 Which is somewhat controversial in our dumb feminist culture. 01:26:23.500 --> 01:26:27.060 as well. I was watching a video where this guy was asking him a question like that. He 01:26:27.060 --> 01:26:31.400 was like, if there was a shooter that came into your house and it was you or your wife, 01:26:31.400 --> 01:26:34.420 would you go and give your life for her? And he was like, no, no. He was like, I would 01:26:34.420 --> 01:26:36.940 just try to keep us both alive. It's like, okay, well that's what everybody's gonna try 01:26:36.940 --> 01:26:40.620 to do, dummy. But he was like trying to pin him down on that and be like, but would you 01:26:40.620 --> 01:26:44.500 give your wife? And he just would not say yes on it. That's the disgusting feminist 01:26:44.500 --> 01:26:48.540 culture that we live in. But this is not true. Listen, the Bible says that we're supposed 01:26:48.540 --> 01:26:51.500 to love our wives to a point that we would be willing to. 01:26:51.500 --> 01:26:55.380 to die for them. That is the greatest love that there is. This is the love that we're 01:26:55.380 --> 01:27:00.400 called to love our wives with. And in Romans 835 he describes this love for us. He says 01:27:00.400 --> 01:27:04.460 and who shall separate us from the love of Christ shall tribulation or distress or persecution 01:27:04.460 --> 01:27:08.540 or famine or nakedness or peril or sword. Which just kind of reminds me of the vows 01:27:08.540 --> 01:27:12.620 that we make when we're vowing to our wife. We're kind of like hey, in sickness and in 01:27:12.620 --> 01:27:18.420 health and in poverty and in wealth, we're like hey, till death do us part. And then 01:27:18.420 --> 01:27:19.420 It says in verse 38, he says, 01:27:19.500 --> 01:27:25.940 I am persuaded that neither death nor life nor angels nor principalities nor powers nor things present or things to come 01:27:26.060 --> 01:27:32.540 Nor height nor depth nor any other creature shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ 01:27:33.100 --> 01:27:33.980 Jesus our Lord 01:27:33.980 --> 01:27:37.740 This is the same type of love that we should have for our life is what God's only is is not true 01:27:37.740 --> 01:27:42.220 And he said that's the the love of Christ in this verse the same love of Christ that he had for us 01:27:42.220 --> 01:27:45.240 This is how we should feel about our wife. So this is what I'd ask you in closing the sermon 01:27:45.900 --> 01:27:47.900 Do you actually love your wife this way? 01:27:47.900 --> 01:27:50.580 And the answer, if you're being honest with me, is probably no, because this is a pretty 01:27:50.580 --> 01:27:52.000 high bar to get to, isn't it? 01:27:52.000 --> 01:27:56.340 This is incredibly a high goal to get to. 01:27:56.340 --> 01:27:59.700 But you should think on these things and think that if you don't love your wife in this way, 01:27:59.700 --> 01:28:00.880 you should work on these things. 01:28:00.880 --> 01:28:02.700 And think about this as well. 01:28:02.700 --> 01:28:06.020 What would it look like if I loved my wife like Christ loved the church? 01:28:06.020 --> 01:28:09.180 What would my actions be that followed if that was the case? 01:28:09.180 --> 01:28:13.260 If I really loved her like Christ, loved the church, and then you should go and apply these 01:28:13.260 --> 01:28:13.900 things in 01:28:13.900 --> 01:28:17.500 your life to the best of your ability. And again, we're not going to be perfect on these things, 01:28:17.500 --> 01:28:22.540 but truly the call that Paul gives us in this verse is very high and we should try our best to 01:28:22.540 --> 01:28:27.900 live up to this call. To love our wives with a love that Jesus Christ had for each and every 01:28:27.900 --> 01:28:33.020 one of us that he was willing to die on the cross for our sins. So in summary of this sermon, I'd say this. 01:28:33.300 --> 01:28:34.700 How do husbands love their wives? 01:28:34.700 --> 01:28:37.020 You should love your wife like you love your own body. 01:28:37.020 --> 01:28:38.420 You should love your wife by dwelling 01:28:38.420 --> 01:28:39.580 with her according to knowledge. 01:28:39.580 --> 01:28:42.980 And you should love your wife like Christ loved the church, 01:28:42.980 --> 01:28:44.740 which is the greatest love that there is. 01:28:44.740 --> 01:28:46.220 And if we should love our wives 01:28:46.220 --> 01:28:47.940 with the greatest love that there is, 01:28:47.940 --> 01:28:50.260 then what should that look like on a daily basis? 01:28:50.260 --> 01:28:51.540 That's why maybe we'll just pray. 01:28:51.540 --> 01:28:52.740 Dear Mother God, thank you so much for a wonderful day. 01:28:52.740 --> 01:28:53.900 Thank you so much for everything you do for us. 01:28:53.900 --> 01:28:57.220 God, thank you so much for these foundational... 01:28:57.900 --> 01:29:03.360 Principles in the Bible. They're just so amazing God. Thank you so much that we don't need to modernize our views to 01:29:04.000 --> 01:29:10.160 Match the culture that we're in God, but that you're found your principles have been the true have been true since the beginning God 01:29:10.160 --> 01:29:11.800 Thank you so much that 01:29:11.800 --> 01:29:17.720 Even though these are these words are two thousand years old that they're just as applicable today that they're just as awesome today 01:29:17.720 --> 01:29:21.440 They're just as powerful today. God. I just pray that you'd help us in our marriages as men God 01:29:21.440 --> 01:29:25.900 I just pray that you'd help us to love our wives and love our wives with the love that Jesus Christ 01:29:25.900 --> 01:29:30.900 Christ had for us. I pray that you'd help us to love our wives in a way that 01:29:30.900 --> 01:29:34.660 demonstrates our love for you as well to the people in this world. And I just 01:29:34.660 --> 01:29:38.820 pray that you would help us all with our marriages in this room. I just pray that 01:29:38.820 --> 01:29:43.620 you'd help us to fulfill our roles and to not make excuses and caveats for 01:29:43.620 --> 01:29:46.260 these things and that we would just do what you want us to do. We pray all 01:29:46.260 --> 01:29:47.900 these things you say we pray. Amen. 01:29:55.200 --> 01:29:59.000 want to take a pimble we're going to turn to page number 467. 01:30:04.600 --> 01:30:09.600 page number 467, the Bible. 01:30:15.100 --> 01:30:19.100 Page number 467. 01:30:21.500 --> 01:30:23.500 We'll sing it out on the first. 01:30:23.500 --> 01:30:31.500 The B-I-B-L-E, yes that's the book for me. 01:30:31.500 --> 01:30:38.500 I stand alone on the word of God, the B-I-B-L-E. 01:30:38.500 --> 01:30:43.500 By the law, the B-I-B-L-E. 01:30:44.200 --> 01:30:47.900 Yes, that's the book for me. 01:30:47.900 --> 01:30:52.000 I stand alone on the word of God, 01:30:52.000 --> 01:30:57.000 The B-I-B-L-E Bible! 01:30:57.900 --> 01:31:01.100 Alright, excellent singing everybody. Could the Rhymes please close the door to prayer? 01:31:01.100 --> 01:31:04.700 Dear Heavenly Father, thank you God for this church and everybody here today. 01:31:04.700 --> 01:31:09.700 God, I just pray that you will help us to love our Rhymes as Christ loved the church. 01:31:09.700 --> 01:31:12.500 And I pray you will be with us in fellowship and in solitude. 01:31:12.500 --> 01:31:14.100 In Jesus' name, Amen.