Music
We're going to be singing Back to Bethel.
We're also going to be doing favorites for all the mothers.
So moms get your songs ready.
We'll be doing favorites this morning.
Page 295.
Sneeze out on the verse.
Back to the Bible, the true living word.
Sweetest old story that ever was heard.
Back to the joy life my soul longs to know.
Bethel is calling and I must go.
Back to Bethel I must go.
Back where the rivers of sweet waters flow.
Back to the true life my soul longs to know.
Bethel is calling and I must go.
Back to the beautiful path I once trod.
Back to the church and the people of God.
Out of the cold world of sin and it's warm.
Bethel is calling and I must go.
Back to Bethel I must go.
Back where the rivers of sweet waters flow.
Back to the true life my soul longs to know.
Bethel is calling and I must go.
Back to the giving of money and time.
Back to the life of contentment sublime.
Back to protection the world cannot know.
Bethel is calling and I must go.
Back to Bethel I must go.
Back where the rivers of sweet waters flow.
Back to the true life my soul longs to know.
Bethel is calling and I must go.
Back to the prayer life in Christ I once knew.
Back to its beautiful life cleansing new.
Back to help others to conquer each foe.
Bethel is calling and I must go.
Back to Bethel I must go.
Back where the rivers of sweet waters flow.
Back to the true life my soul longs to know.
Bethel is calling and I must go.
Thank you for the mothers.
Depending on the one it is.
Do you think I have a blue hymnal up here?
Yeah, maybe.
Yeah, 463.
Page 463 on the verse.
Why should I feel discouraged?
Why should the shadows come?
Why should my heart be lonely
and long for heaven and home?
When Jesus is my portion,
my constant friend is He.
His eye is on the sparrow
and I know He watches me.
His eye is on the sparrow
and I know He watches me.
I sing because I'm happy.
I sing because I'm free.
For His eye is on the sparrow
and I know He watches me.
Ms. Jessica?
Page 223.
On the third,
The Love of God, page 223.
And the blue hymnal is on the last verse.
Could we within the ocean fill
and were the skies of parchment made?
Were every stalk on earth a quill
and every man a scribe by trade?
To write the love of God above
could drain the ocean dry.
Nor could the scroll contain the whole.
They'll stretch from sky to sky.
O Love of God, how rich and poor,
how measureless and strong.
It shall forevermore endure
the saints' and angels' song.
Ms. Sheila?
In the green?
Okay.
Page 63.
What a day that will be.
Page 63.
What a day that will be.
Sing it out on the first.
There is coming a day
when no heartache shall come.
No more clouds in the sky.
No more tears stood in the eye.
All is peace forevermore
on that happy golden truth.
What a day, glorious day,
that will be.
What a day that will be
when my Jesus I shall see.
And I look upon His face,
the One who saved me by His grace.
When He takes me by the hand
and leads me through the promised land.
What a day, glorious day,
that will be.
Page 261.
Turn your eyes upon Jesus.
Page 61 on the first.
O soul, are you weary and troubled?
No light in the darkness you see.
There's life for a look at the Savior.
No life more abundant and free.
Turn your eyes upon Jesus.
Look full in His wonderful face.
And the things of earth will grow strangely dim
in the light of His glory and grace.
Page 401.
Set my soul afire.
Page 401.
Page 401 on the first.
Set my soul afire, Lord,
for Thy holy Word.
Burn it deep within me.
Let Your voice be heard.
Millions grow in darkness
in this day and hour.
I will be Your witness.
Fill me with Thy power.
Set my soul afire, Lord.
Set my soul afire.
Make my life a witness
of Thy saving power.
Millions grow in darkness
waiting for Thy Word.
Set my soul afire, Lord.
Set my soul afire.
Keep the song that you remember,
and just raise your hand for the third song.
Everybody else have a crazy night.
Page 294, Stepping in the Light.
Sing it out on the first.
Trying to walk in the steps of the Savior.
Trying to follow our Savior and King.
Shaping our lives by His blessed example.
How happy, how happy the songs that we bring.
How beautiful to walk in the steps of the Savior.
Stepping in the light, stepping in the light.
How beautiful to walk in the steps of the Savior.
Let it pass of light.
Good morning, welcome to Sure Foundation Baptist Church.
Let's take our bulletins and go through some announcements.
If you need a bulletin, would you lift up your hand
and one of the ushers will bring you a bulletin.
On our front cover, we have our verse of the week.
It says, her children rise up and call her blessed,
her husband also, and he praiseth her.
Proverbs chapter 31, verse 28.
It's a great scripture there about the virtuous woman.
And our service times are Sunday morning at 10.30 a.m.,
Sunday evening at 3.30 p.m.
Tonight we'll be in Genesis chapter number 47.
Thursday Bible study is at 6.30 p.m.
We'll be in 2 Corinthians chapter 12
and I'll preach my last sermon out of 2 Corinthians chapter 12.
And our sowing times are listed below.
It says 1 p.m., but we are having a meal after the service.
I'll get to that in a minute,
but we'll probably be going out about 1.30.
It's usually kind of what time we go out anyway,
but 1.30 p.m. for soul winning.
And then if you're gonna go soul winning,
maybe you're just visiting
or you're not in the WhatsApp group,
see Brother Sean Conlon.
Sean, will you raise your hand there
so everyone knows who you are?
Okay, so Brother Sean Conlon leads this afternoon.
So if you wanna go soul winning
and you're not in the WhatsApp group
and you need to get with him
and let him know that you wanted to go
and you need a partner
and he'll get you a map and all that good stuff.
Below we have our praise report,
the salvation, baptisms, and attendance totals
from last week.
And also, so yeah, today's Mother's Day,
so happy Mother's Day to all the moms
and looking forward to preaching a sermon
that's geared towards mothers and women in general.
And there's gonna be a gift for each mom today
for each mom in attendance here.
And there'll be a meal provided after the service
and I got Doughboy's Pizza, all right?
So who's had Doughboy's Pizza before?
All right, just a couple people,
so you've been blessed.
So we're gonna have that.
Brother Ramon's gonna go pick it up.
It should be ready by noon,
but it might not be here until maybe 1230-ish.
So after the service, if I can get some men
to just set the seats around the chairs in there
and that'd be great.
Yeah, we just need the chairs put in place there.
I will break my rule of being allowed to be eating in here,
but just if it's your little children,
please don't just let them smash pizza into the carpet
and all over the chairs and stuff like that.
That should go without saying,
but sometimes I have to say that.
Anyway, so happy Mother's Day.
And can I get some of the ushers to grab the cups?
We got, what are they called?
Tumblers, yes, tumblers, okay.
I almost said growlers and I was like, that's not right.
That's bad.
Anyway, so tumblers, we had some special custom made
tumblers made for all the moms here.
So you can pick your color while supplies last.
We're slashing prices.
Everything must go.
All right, so go ahead and just set.
We need one more box here.
This has all colors in it.
Can I get one more, man?
So purple, there's purple, there's all color.
There's purple, blue, and pink.
And then the straw set comes with each one.
Let's go ahead and take them around to the...
Who wants pink?
Who wants purple?
This isn't going to look how we take the offering.
This is a little disorganized.
Sorry, it's my fault.
So while they're handing that out, so we just wanted to get a gift for each mom.
Yesterday they had the ladies' tea and the ladies' tea went really well.
It looked like it was fun for all the ladies.
They got to dress up and put the little fancy gloves on and the hats and all that stuff.
So if you didn't get a chance to see the pictures, I think they're in the WhatsApp group.
Or there's a drive that you can look at the pictures and all that good stuff.
I thought it would be good to provide a meal today because, you know,
just give moms a special day where they don't have to cook anything.
If you don't like pizza, I do have... So there's going to be wings too.
Now the thing about the wings is that people just grab...
Men will just grab like handfuls of them and devour them within seconds.
So let's make sure that everybody gets a chance to have wings adults first.
Ladies first.
When we line up for the food, it's going to be ladies first.
But ladies also leave some for the men.
Make sure that they... Because the men get angry when they don't have meat.
But today's your special day, so you get to go first in line.
And so men, if you can just make sure that we can treat the ladies here very special today, that'd be great.
What else?
Yeah, so soul winning will probably be a shortened soul winning time.
Anyway, so that's what we got going on today. Happy Mother's Day.
And so the 17th is going to be the homeschool field trip to the zoo.
So please give your final numbers and make sure to RSVP that you're going to Miss Rachel by the 13th, which is next Friday.
Friday the 13th, so just make sure that she has your numbers because Tuesday you're going to the zoo and the tickets are not cheap.
So unless you really know you're going for sure, don't sign up.
And parking will be paid for as long as you're there on time.
So if you're not there on time, just sorry, you're gonna have to pay for your own way. Yeah.
What time is it starting?
9.30. So be at the... Miss Rachel, is it be at the zoo at 9.30?
Okay, it's the only zoo in the area. You can't miss it.
But the traffic might be bad, so you want to give yourself some time to get there.
It's up the hill on Highway 26.
And yeah, all these people from California moved here and just ruined all the traffic here, so I'm just teasing.
But I am kind of. That's passive aggressive teasing right there.
So anyway, so yeah, give yourself time.
If you think that you're going to make it from here to there in 20 minutes at Tuesday in the morning, you're dead wrong about that.
So if you live in Vancouver, I'd leave an hour early.
And let's see, we got, yeah, so make sure you let Miss Rachel know that you're going to that.
And let's see, the 27th, we have our Sony Marathon in Bellingham, Washington.
And that is led by brother Robert Alcorta.
So if you're planning on going, please let him know.
And then we got the Preaching and Fellowship at the border.
The Canadian border is going to be the 28th.
And that'll be from 8 to 4.
You can get there anytime between 8 and 4.
If you're planning on spending the night, it is a 4, what is it, a 4 hour drive up there?
If you're planning on spending the night, let me know and I'll see if I can give you some relief on the hotel.
We'll pay for the parking also when you get there.
But don't be late.
Don't be there after 8 o'clock. No, I'm just joking.
I think we're going to do the preaching at, I want to say it's like 9.30 or 10 o'clock.
So anyway, we'll have more details about that forthcoming.
And then June 1st through 4th is the church camp.
And that's going to be Wednesday through Saturday.
So Wednesday at noon, Saturday at noon is when we leave.
So we have Pastor Pazarnsky coming from Fresno.
And he's going to be preaching at the camp Friday night and Saturday morning.
So if you haven't got a chance to be there when Pastor Pazarnsky is preaching, he's a great preacher.
He's a good friend of mine and looking forward to having him come up.
So then June 10th is the new IFB, Northeast new IFB conference night in New Jersey.
That's going to be starting at 6 p.m. with food and fellowship.
And the service will begin at 7 p.m. I'll be preaching.
And then Pastor Jimenez will be preaching after me.
I'll try my hardest to not preach over an hour so that I don't steal the night there from Pastor Jimenez.
Because he'll taper his down. So I want to hear more of him and less of me.
So anyway, that's going on June 10th.
And then there's going to be baptisms after that.
And there's going to be a Sony marathon the next day in New Jersey.
And so we'll go out, me and Pastor Jimenez and his whole family is going to be there.
And we'll all go out soloing with everybody.
So June 18th is the men's shooting event.
And that's always at the same place.
We meet at the Bridge of the Gods and go up around noon, have lunch.
Then we shoot guns until our ears can't hear anymore.
And Father's Day. So the men's shooting event is for any men.
And just use your best discretion as far as bringing children up.
So we don't want small children up there.
They tend to want to run in front of guns and they cry when the guns go off and stuff like that.
But if you're like, I don't know, 10, 11, 12 and your kids can handle that, then they can come with also.
And so Father's Day will be June 19th.
And then July 14th through 17th is the Red Hot Preaching Conference.
So that's kind of all the events that are going on.
We're a family integrated church. That means the children and infants are welcome during the church services.
We do have available for your family a mother baby room, which is located back there.
And a dad baby room, which is located back there in the corner.
And please utilize those for your convenience, whatever you need to use them for.
And then the rockers or the gliders are for pregnant and nursing mothers and elders only.
Please know men allowed in the mother baby room during the service times and vice versa.
No unattended children in any area of the building at any time.
Please watch your children. Make sure that you have account for them at all times.
And please silence your cell phones, if you would, at this time, please.
And escorts to vehicles by the ushers are available to the men that have the pin on their jackets that say Usher on them.
And there's the offerings have come in. So they came in.
So that's the total offering that came in for the month of April.
We do have a birthday. Jack Harrington's birthday is on the 12th.
So we're going to sing Happy Birthday to Jack. He's 13 already. I can't believe it.
No, he's not. How old are you? How old are you, Jack?
You're going to be seven.
You're going to be eight. OK. All right. That's a that's a that's a great age to be.
So. All right. No, not a care in the world.
Anyway, let's sing Happy Birthday, Jack.
Happy birthday to you.
Happy birthday. God bless you.
Happy birthday to you.
All right. And if you're a first time visitor, we appreciate you coming.
We do have gift bags that we like to hand out to each visitor that comes.
If you just walk past this little shielded area right here on the left hand side, there's gift bags.
Please take one of those as a token of our appreciation for you being a first time guest.
And if there's anything we can do for you, please let us know. With that being said, we're going to sing another song and then we'll receive the offering.
All right, we're going to go ahead, finish off those favorites, so you want to raise your hand with the song, Miss Rachel?
What is that? Page 169.
Page 169, Come Thou Fount.
Page 169 on the first.
Come Thou Fount of every blessing.
Tune my heart to sing Thy grace.
Streams of mercy never ceasing.
Call for songs of loudest praise.
Teach me some melodious sonnet, sung by flaming tongues above.
Praise the melt, I'm fixed upon it.
Melt of thy redeeming love.
Miss Sarah, 471.
Page 471, Cleanse Me.
Page 471, Cleanse Me. Sing it out on the first.
Search me, O God, and know my heart today.
Try me, O Savior, know my thoughts I pray.
Be it there be some wicked way in me.
Cleanse me from every sin and set me free.
Now, 325.
We've got a lot more months left in here.
Page 325, sing it out on the first.
Not a burden we bear, not a sorrow we share.
But our toil He doth quickly repay.
Not a grief nor a loss, not a frown nor a cross,
but is blessed if we trust and obey.
Trust and obey, for there's no other way
to be happy in Jesus, but to trust and obey.
Page 40, we're going to have to start calling on girls
if the moms aren't going to start raising their hand.
I know there's a lot more moms in here.
Page number 40.
Sing it out on the first.
There's no disappointment in heaven,
no weariness, sorrow, or pain.
No hearts that are bleeding and broken,
no song with a minor refrain.
The clouds of our earthly horizon
will never appear in the sky,
for all will be sunshine and gladness
with never a sob nor a sigh.
I'm bound for that beautiful city
my Lord has prepared for His own,
where all the redeemed of all ages
sing glory around the white throne.
Sometimes I grow homesick for heaven,
and the glories I there shall behold.
What a joy that will be with my Savior I see
in that beautiful city of old.
I'm going to get ready close here to prepare the offering
just so the men are ready for that, Nia.
Page 222.
Moment by moment, page 222.
Sing it out on the first.
Dying with Jesus by death reckon mine,
living with Jesus a new life divine,
looking to Jesus till glory does shine.
Moment by moment, O Lord, I am thine.
Moment by moment, I'm kept in His love.
Moment by moment, I've died from above,
looking to Jesus till glory does shine.
Moment by moment, O Lord, I am thine.
Any others before we take the offering?
All right.
We're going to go ahead and receive the offering at this time.
Brother Sean Heritage, if you'll bless the offering, please.
Thank you, Lord, for this day.
I pray that you would just bless this offering, Lord.
Bless both the gift and the giver.
Please pray that you would still pass the counsel of the Spirit, Lord.
That you would preach the bowl to us today, Lord.
Thank you, Lord, so much for motherhood, Lord,
for being with us that way together,
Lord, for all these great mothers.
You do the same thing.
Thank you, Jesus.
If I go ahead and turn in your Bibles to Proverbs 31.
Proverbs 31, if you do not have a Bible, raise your hand,
and one of the ushers will bring you one.
Proverbs 31.
Proverbs 31, the Bible reads,
The words of King Lemuel, the prophecy that his mother taught him,
What my son, and what the son of my womb, and what the son of my vows,
Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings.
It is not for kings, O Lemuel, it is not for kings to drink wine,
nor for princes strong drink, lest they drink and forget the law,
and pervert the judgment of any afflicted.
Give strong drink unto him that is ready to perish,
and wine unto those that be of heavy hearts.
Let him drink and forget his poverty, and remember his misery no more.
Open thy mouth for the dumb in the cause of all such as are appointed to destruction.
Open thy mouth, judge righteously, and plead the cause of the poor and needy.
Who can find a virtuous woman, for her price is far above rubies?
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her,
so that he shall have no need of spoil.
She would do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
She seeketh wool and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
She is like the merchants' ships. She bringeth her food from afar.
She riseth also while it is yet night,
and giveth meat to her household and a portion to her maidens.
She considerth a field and buyeth it.
With the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
She perceiveth that her merchandise is good, her candle goeth not out by night.
She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
She stretcheth out her hand to the poor,
yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
She is not afraid of the snow for her household,
for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
She maketh herself coverings of tapestry. Her clothing is silk and purple.
Her husband is known in the gates when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
She maketh fine linen, and selleth it, and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
Strength and honor are her clothing, and she shall rejoice in time to come.
She openeth her mouth with wisdom, and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Her children arise up and call her blessed.
Her husband also, and he praiseth her.
Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excelest them all.
Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Brother Bill, will you pray for us?
Heavenly Father, we thank you for your great wisdom and your word.
Just bless all the mothers here today, and also feel faster with the Holy Ghost,
and help us to help ourselves, help us with our connection and understanding,
and also the fellowship after which we pray, amen.
Amen. All right, the title of the sermon this morning is The Virtuous Mother.
The Virtuous Mother, and of course I get this from Proverbs chapter number 31.
It's a very famous chapter, and it deals with this King Lemuel,
and basically his mother taught him a prophecy,
and so she basically preached to her son.
So right here you have a woman preacher,
but prophecy means preach.
It doesn't necessarily mean that you're foretelling the future in every single instance,
but he's listening to the law of his mother,
which is what the book of Proverbs says to do,
and to listen to the law of your father,
but she's given him some good advice here,
and before we get into that though,
this chapter basically unfolds into the teaching of what a virtuous woman should be like,
and it gives a lot of examples here of a virtuous woman,
and so the title of the sermon is The Virtuous Mother,
but I strictly believe that before you could be a virtuous mother,
you have to be a virtuous woman first.
I mean, God does everything in order.
You can't be a virtuous mother without being a virtuous wife.
You can't be a virtuous mother without being a virtuous woman,
so one thing has to come after the other.
Now, the caveat to that though is that in this day and age,
there's a lot of different situations out there,
and maybe there's single mothers in here or things like that,
but you can still become a virtuous woman,
and you can still become a virtuous mother.
You can still become a virtuous wife,
so obviously there's plan Bs for our lives.
The perfect plan of God is that you'd be a virtuous woman.
You'd go to the marriage altar as a virgin.
You would treat your husband the way you should be.
A virtuous woman should treat their husband,
and then, God willing, have children,
and then all these virtues that you have as a woman would go down to also your children,
and today's Mother's Day,
and so I wanted to preach a sermon about women and about mothers,
but I believe that you can't have one without the other.
You're not going to be able to be a virtuous mother without being a virtuous woman, period,
and what is virtue, or what is virtuous?
It means high moral standards or chaste, high moral standards,
so there's a lot of women out today that are mothers,
but they don't have high moral standards,
and so that means by definition they're not virtuous.
There's a lot of mothers out there that aren't virtuous to their children.
There's a lot of mothers out there today, or women out there today that are not virtuous to their husband,
and so the Bible is telling us that you should become a virtuous woman.
You should become a virtuous wife.
You should become a virtuous mother.
Now, again, I understand that there's different phases in people's lives.
There's single women here.
There's women that don't have a husband, but they have children.
All these types of situations exist, but don't just shut me down in this sermon.
Listen to what the Bible is teaching us to be like.
Listen to what the Bible is teaching women to be like.
Now, I'm preaching to the women today,
but there are some things in here where men can help their wives become virtuous.
There are some things in here.
I mean, you can fill in the blanks here.
Your wife is to be a help meet to you,
and sometimes you need to help your help meet to be a help to you, right?
So, anyway, you can't be a virtuous mother without being a virtuous woman
or without being a virtuous wife.
So, again, there's caveats to that,
but what should all women strive to be like this chapter lays out?
Does everything in this chapter, are you doing everything in this chapter?
Does this all apply to you?
Or is there things in your life that you can work on?
Now, the virtuous woman is something to attain to.
Not everybody in this room is going to attain to all these things,
but should you try to?
Yes, you should try to.
You should try to be virtuous.
You should try to be a virtuous woman.
You should try to be a virtuous wife.
You should try to be a virtuous mother.
So, let's look at Proverbs chapter 31, verse number 10.
The Bible says, who can find a virtuous woman?
For her price is far above rubies.
And I'll have to admit that there's been times when I thought,
well, aren't diamonds like the ultimate gem?
Isn't there other gems that are better than rubies?
But rubies are rare gemstones.
They are rare.
Now, I know you can make them in a lab,
but they're not as nice, okay?
You know, it's spurious.
They're phonies.
But how rare are rubies?
Rubies are one of the rarest gemstones.
The rarest rubies come from Burma.
Due to their high quality and exceptional color,
good quality rubies, larger than one carat,
are also extremely rare and expensive.
And so, why is God comparing a virtuous woman
to something that's far above rubies?
Because it's very rare.
And it's, again, it's something when you get that,
when you are a virtuous woman,
your price is far above that.
That's what the Bible's saying.
So, it is something to attain to,
to be a rarity in this world.
And obviously, in 2022, it's definitely very rare
to have virtuous women in our society.
And that's because it's by design.
The devil always attacks,
he attacks women, that attacks the home,
that attacks the husband, that attacks the children.
And what does the devil want?
He wants our homes to be broken up.
You know, he wants people to be born into bad situations
where they're not gonna get saved,
or put them into some system
where they are taught something different
than what the Bible says, so that they won't be saved.
The devil has all the angles and everything all sewn up.
But see, the grace of God and the power of God's word
can pierce through those things.
So, maybe you weren't raised in a Christian home,
maybe you weren't taught to be a virtuous woman at home,
but you know what, you can still attain to these things.
And the Bible says, who can find a virtuous woman
for her price is far above rubies?
So, I would say this, ladies in this room,
that it's, you know, God wouldn't say
that there's virtuous women
if it wasn't possible to become one.
And I think it's very possible,
but you know what, you have to strive to do these things.
Just like, you know, the Psalm's 23 husband
is something that a man should strive to be like.
But we're talking about women today.
So, we want to, I want to just convey this truth
that the goal is to be a virtuous woman.
And as a virtuous woman, most virtuous women,
again, not all, want to get married.
You know, there's some special cases
where a woman doesn't want to get married
and she just wants to serve God, and that's fine.
That's a rarity, that's also a rarity.
But most young ladies want to get married,
meet Prince Charming, they want to have a storybook life,
because that's how television shows you how it's gonna be.
But in reality, you know, it's different
than the Hallmark movies.
I'm gonna bring up Hallmark movies again.
And so, you can't base how your marriage is gonna be
based upon Hollywood movies.
You can't base how your mothering is gonna be
based upon Hollywood movies, and please don't.
Because in Hollywood movies, you know,
parents just let their kids do anything.
Disrespect the dads, all that kind of stuff.
Again, it's all by design.
But if you want to be like a woman that's far above Ruvies,
you want to be a precious gemstone to God,
then that is the goal that you should try to attain.
So, look at Ruth chapter three, verse 10.
This is the first time that the Bible
actually calls someone a virtuous woman.
And it's Ruth, you know, and lo and behold,
she has a book named after her,
because she was such a great and virtuous woman.
Look what it says in Ruth three, verse 10.
It says, and he said, blessed be thou of the Lord,
this is Boaz talking, my daughter,
for thou hast showed more kindness
in the latter end than at the beginning,
inasmuch as thou followedest not young men,
whether poor or rich.
So what's he saying?
Hey, there's a lot of women in Ruth's situation
that would have just followed after
the handsome young men, whether poor or rich.
They just want to have a good looking guy to go to,
but that's not what she did, is it?
She went to a man that was her elder
and older, and she went with a man that was a godly man.
And that's who she followed after,
someone that was a godly man,
and that should be something that Proverbs 31 woman,
or a virtuous woman, should want.
Not just the guy you think you're gonna change later on.
Oh, he's gonna get spiritual later on.
Hey, if they're not spiritual now,
you're gonna have a hard road to hoe
trying to chip this man away and make him go to church,
make him be godly.
Look, looks are not everything.
And it even talks about beauty is vain.
Beauty is vain.
What would you rather have,
someone that's maybe not a supermodel,
and I'm not talking about ladies, I'm talking about men,
but just have a regular looking woman,
and women are beautiful.
It doesn't have to be some fake Hollywood whore,
men, for you to like them, okay?
And women, the same thing.
It doesn't have to be some cowboy with his shirt off
and a big giant belt buckle or something
that you're trying to attain to.
Try to attain to someone that actually is saved,
someone that actually is spiritual,
someone that actually wants to go to church,
someone that actually wants to serve God,
because if you're a virtuous woman, that's what you desire.
And so what kind of man should you desire?
A man that is also on that same level as you,
or at least spiritual in one way, shape, or form.
You try to change men, you think you're gonna just,
this is what women do, this is a trap they fall into,
is they wanna get this guy, they want the bad guy,
the James Dean, the rebel without a cause
and all this other stuff, and that's vanity, it's stupidity.
Why would you want to go after a guy
that's probably gonna cheat on you all the time?
Why would you wanna go after a man
that's not gonna work hard?
The same things that women are in this chapter,
obviously there's other roles that men play,
but a lot of these still apply with a man.
Like the virtuous woman is a hard worker.
Hey, don't you wanna have a hard-working husband
or not someone that you have to kick off the couch
all the time and he's just never out doing anything,
he's never working, and you're supporting him?
Because that's not how God wants it.
So look what it says in verse 11, it says,
And now my daughter, fear not,
I will do to thee all that thou requiretest,
for all the city of my people doth know
that thou art a virtuous woman.
What does that tell you about Ruth?
That everybody saw how she behaved,
everybody saw how she still followed Naomi
even though she could've went back to Moab
and worshiped those gods and went back to her people,
but what did she say?
I want my God, I want your God to be my God.
And that's what she said, your God is gonna be my God.
And so then she followed her mother-in-law
and the other daughter left,
the other daughter-in-law left and went back to her people,
but Ruth made a decision, she said,
I wanna follow the Lord.
And so to be a virtuous woman, you gotta be saved.
You gotta be saved.
If you want to actually be virtuous,
you're gonna have to be saved.
And so Ruth was saved and she believed in the Lord,
she stuck with her mother-in-law
and then she went out and worked
because she didn't know her husband was dead.
So she worked hard to bring food to her
and her mother-in-law.
She was chaste and she won Boaz over
with her good behavior around the other men,
isn't that what he said?
That she could've went and did this,
but she didn't, she didn't go after the young men.
And she showed virtues to other people.
She showed everything that's in this chapter,
that's what she showed to not just Boaz.
She wasn't just trying to win him over
and maybe she wasn't trying to win anybody over,
but because the way she was, she did win them over.
And it says, for all the city of my people doth know
that thou art a virtuous woman.
So now if you're a single lady in here
or you're striving to get married someday
or you're striving to be a mother someday,
people should know what type of woman you are,
don't you think?
Or maybe in this church,
maybe you are trying to find a husband someday.
Hey, be a virtuous woman, be a virtuous woman
and you'll be something that men seek after.
They're like, hey, that lady's always helping
clean stuff up, she's always going soul winning,
she's always spiritual,
she's always helping other people out.
She comes to church all the time,
she's very spiritual and she's not just going
after all the best looking guys all the time,
that she is being chased.
Don't you think that a man that's going to this church
or maybe a church of like faith or whatever
would be interested in someone
that's actually already doing this stuff?
But if they think that you're just nothing but a problem,
that it's always something wrong,
you're not helping, you're not doing all the things
that a virtuous woman would do,
why would somebody want to marry you?
And that's a good question to ask.
Why would someone want to marry you
if you're not already doing the things
that you should be doing to be a virtuous woman?
So I'm not trying to hurt anybody's feelings here
but maybe you need to step up your game
and not just to get married
but because you want to please the Lord.
See, because that's ultimately,
the goal, isn't it, so that God is pleased with you?
And if God's pleased with you,
He's going to bless your life.
If God's pleased with you, He'll bless your womb.
If God's pleased with you, He'll bless your marriage
because if you're doing the things
that a virtuous woman ought to do,
it's going to be very evident to other people around you
just like it's very evident to the people of the city
that she was a virtuous woman.
So is it evident in your life
even not just single ladies but just all ladies in here,
is it evident in your life that you are a virtuous woman?
If it's not, then maybe you should try
to attain to that level.
And then you're going to be one of God's rare gemstones,
far above rubies, right?
That's what it says, far above.
And if rubies are one of the most rare gems,
then to be a Proverbs 13,
then to be a Proverbs 31 virtuous woman
is a very good goal to be.
And so why not try for excellence?
Why not try to strive to be excellent?
You know, I think what is the Raiders,
the Oakland Raiders, or now it's the Las Vegas Raiders,
their motto is a commitment to excellence.
I like that motto.
I think that motto is great.
You know, are you committed to excellence
or are you just okay with being just average
or below average?
So those are good questions to ask.
Ruth, it was obvious that she was a virtuous woman.
Now go back to Proverbs 31 verse 13.
Here's some other characteristics of a virtuous woman.
Proverbs 31 verse 13 says,
she seeketh wool and flax
and worketh willingly with her hands.
So the Bible's saying work.
And what is she doing?
Things that would pertain to helping out your household.
See, believe it or not,
there was a time in this world
when you couldn't just go to Walmart
and get a pair of new clothes.
There was a time in this world,
and it wasn't that long ago,
for most of history,
clothes were handmade.
And so what is one of the things
that would make her a virtuous woman?
That hey, she's making clothes.
She's seeking wool.
Why?
So she can make clothes and flax.
And it says worketh willingly with her hands.
You don't have to force her.
You don't have to kick her off Facebook
or Instagram in order to get her to take care of her house.
She's just working willingly.
You know, maybe that's something you do
at the end of the day,
but that shouldn't be what you're doing
when you're trying to raise your children
and you're trying to please your husband.
It says she is like the merchant's ship.
She bringeth her food from afar.
Skip down to verse 20.
She stretcheth out her hand to the poor.
Yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
What's another thing,
a characteristic of a Proverbs 31 woman
or a virtuous woman or a virtuous wife
or a virtuous mother,
she stretcheth out her hand to the poor.
Yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
So she's also doing good works,
you know, for the Lord.
She's gotta be saved, you know,
and people should know that you're a virtuous woman
by the way you do things.
You know, we can see, you know, the works
and the works are things that are good works, right?
Now, seeing people's good works
doesn't necessarily mean they're saved,
just so you know,
but if you know that person's saved
and they're doing good works, that's a bonus.
They're actually doing what God asked them to do
and doing great works for God.
It says in verse 24,
she maketh fine linen and selleth it
and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
So apparently she's making clothes
and kind of selling them on the side or whatever,
but she's busy.
The point is she's busy
and she doesn't just go to Walmart,
you know, there's nothing wrong with going to Walmart
to get your clothes or wherever else you want to go.
I know most people here probably don't shop at Walmart
to get their clothes,
but you know, she's going to make sure
that her family is provided for, okay?
And you know, I've gotten stuff at Walmart,
so if you go to Walmart,
I'm not trying to be down on you, okay?
But anyway, you know,
sometimes Walmart has some good deals, okay?
But anyway, so what are one of the things that she does?
Well, she's going to be a hard worker.
We used to, I've probably told this story before,
but there was this guy that owned a Chinese buffet
in a town that we lived in
and him and his wife like owned it together
and he, she was telling us one time, me and my wife,
she goes, he chose me to be a wife
because I was a hard worker.
And that's how they, that's one of the criteria.
It wasn't love.
I mean, I'm not saying it's a perfect picture there,
but one of the things that he said,
hey, she's not going to be, I want to run a business
and you know, if I want her to help me,
she's going to be a hard worker
and so he chose her because she was a hard worker.
So obviously that's not the first thing
that you're probably always looking for,
but it is something that you should be looking for.
Hey, ladies, if you're looking for a husband,
make sure that guy's a hard worker, you know,
because is he going to be losing sleep
and working overtime and picking up extra stuff
so that you can have all the things
that you need in your life?
Or is he going to just be constantly
in the unemployment line
and just not living up to his potential?
So we need to have men that are out there ready to work
and I'll preach about that tonight,
but the ladies also should be hard workers.
Can you work as hard as men?
I think that women can work as hard as men.
They might not be able to do as much
because men are stronger, talking about physical labor,
but God's plan is not for your wife
to work outside the home
and I know that's not a very popular thing to teach,
but that's what the Bible teaches, okay?
So now obviously it's up to your husband, ladies,
whether they want you to work outside the home,
but what the Bible says is what it says
and I'm not going to apologize for that.
I'll never apologize for what the Bible says.
Look at verse 25,
strength and honor are her clothing.
See, she's strong and she's honorable.
So it's not talking about her clothing.
It's strength and honor are her clothing.
Those are the things that people see.
Those are attributes of this Proverbs virtuous woman
and it says, and she shall rejoice in time to come.
See, because whatever you sow, that shall you also reap.
If you're working hard,
then you're going to reap the benefits of that hard work.
It says she openeth her mouth with wisdom
and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
See, this woman is a nice woman.
She's wise.
How do you get wisdom?
What does the Bible say wisdom, where it comes from?
It comes from the word of God.
So obviously this woman knows the Bible
and she knows that the Bible teaches
that her tongue should be the law of kindness.
There's some pretty mean and nasty women out there
and that's not what you should be.
You should be meek and quiet
and obviously the Bible says that the Proverbs 31 woman here
is when she opens her mouth, it's with wisdom.
So sometimes people go off half-cocked with their mouth
and say things that they shouldn't say
or they talk when they shouldn't be talking
and the Bible's saying that if you want to be a virtuous woman
then you need to open your mouth with wisdom
and it says in her tongue is the law of kindness.
So when you speak to people, you're speaking to them kindly.
And obviously everybody flies off the handle at some point.
I get that.
I do it sometimes.
But this is like talking about in general
how do you treat people.
And so these are just some of the attributes
of a Proverbs 31 woman.
Hey, you should be saved obviously
because God's not going to look at any of your works
unless you're saved.
Your good works mean nothing unless you're saved,
what the Bible teaches.
And this woman is a hard worker
and she's also, her works are known to other people
and so when you think about Ruth,
a first virtuous woman that's mentioned in the Bible,
I don't think she's the only virtuous woman
in the Bible to this point.
I believe Sarah was a virtuous woman
and many other women in the Bible
but the Bible specifically talks about Ruth
being a virtuous woman that everybody knows it.
It's known among the people.
Number two this morning is to become a virtuous mother
then you also need to become a virtuous wife.
So now obviously God's plan
is that people would get married and have children
not any other way.
You're not supposed to be in fornication
then have children then get married or whatever
but you know that's the world we're living in
like I said in these times
and mainly in civilized cultures
you wouldn't have that happening.
Even like if you think about Hasaouaris
where he still got married
it's not like they were just all in fornication.
There was cultures that were in fornication
like in Canaan and all these other places
but not every culture was like that.
They still had virgins in their cultures
just because they weren't Israelites
didn't mean that they didn't have women
that were virtuous and virgins and things like that
in the aspect of just being a good person
or being raised in a good home.
So if you think about that
we don't really have any excuse
to not be virtuous
but it's the culture that we're lived in
or that we've grown up in.
I didn't grow up in a Christian home.
I didn't know any of this stuff
about what I was supposed to know
but that's my fault.
I could have chosen to be saved earlier on.
I could have gotten saved earlier
but I didn't
and so I had already lived a life of sin
that was wrong
and things that I knew once I got saved
I tried to right those wrongs
but once the wrong was committed
you can't go back on it
and so if you've already committed fornication
you have a child out of fornication
you can't take that back.
It's just the way it is
but can you move forward
and not feel like
that you're a piece of trash
for the rest of your Christian life?
Yes you can
because God forgives you for all your sins
and that's why it just really bothers me
when people are holier than thou's
these people that just think
that they're better than everybody else
it's like look I know what your life was like
before you got saved
I know what your life is like now.
You're not perfect.
Nobody in this room is perfect.
That's why the Bible says all have sinned
and come short of the glory of God.
So you can move forward
from mistakes that you've made in the past
you can move forward
and become that virtuous woman
that you want to be
or that virtuous wife
that you want to be
or that virtuous mother
that you want to be
you can still do those things.
So look at Proverbs 31 verse 10
so what does a virtuous wife act like?
Well verse number 10 says
who can find a virtuous woman
for her price is far above rubies?
Look at verse 11
and the heart of her husband
doth safely trust in her
so that he shall have no need of spoil.
So the heart of a virtuous wife
is going to put out
their husband is going to be able to trust in them.
Does your husband trust in you?
See you can trust your wife all you want
men but if she's not trustworthy
then it means nothing.
So ladies what is God saying?
Well he's saying
the heart of her husband
does safely trust in her.
See a lot of men will trust their wives
but then they give them a reason to let them down
but you should be a woman
that your husband can safely trust in.
Like hey I trust you
and then they're like okay
well you don't have any reason to not trust me.
You're never going to have a reason to not trust me.
So it says in verse 12
she will do him good and not evil
all the days of her life.
So how should you treat your husband?
To do good unto them
and not evil all the days of your life.
See and there's some ladies in here thinking
well I've already broken this.
Well stop what you're doing now
and start being good to your husband right?
If that's how God wants you to be
you know if you're you know be trustworthy
maybe you've broken your husband's trust at some point
well start being trustworthy then.
Start being somebody that he can safely trust in.
And don't do evil to your husband
but do him good all the days of your life.
And hey if that's not you right now
then this is something that you
these are some things you need to change in your life
so that your husband can trust in you safely
and that he can realize
that you're not going to do evil to him
but you're going to do good.
So skip down to verse 23.
It says and her husband
her husband is known in the gates
when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
So what is this woman trying to do?
This virtuous wife well you know
she's speaking good about her husband.
When people see how his wife is acting
they're like well he's got a good wife.
He can trust in that wife
and she's a good woman
and it says he's sitting among the elders in the land.
So how you're acting allows
you know because if your wife is acting a fool all the time
and being not trustworthy
and doing evil to them
I mean nobody wants to have a leader
whose wife is just you know out of control
and evil and wicked and all these other different things
you know people are going to trust someone to lead
when their wife that person's wife
is someone that's honored in the land right.
So you know there's a saying that says
behind every good man there's a great woman
and that's not from the Bible
but it is true.
So if you you know a good man
you know needs to have a great wife
and so as you know the Bible is saying here
that we need you know as a lady
you should be someone that you know
your husband you're not known
for bad mouthing your husband right
and so everybody's going around saying
well you know he's worthless
he does this he does that
you should never badmouth your husband to other people.
It's wrong.
Let you know let that kind of stuff
be between you and him.
You shouldn't badmouth him to his face.
You shouldn't badmouth him to other people.
You shouldn't badmouth him to your friends
and the worst thing you can do
is badmouth him to your family.
That's not something that should happen
and I give this counsel to people a lot
but it doesn't always get heated
and so let me just explain to you
why you can't do that
because your spouse you know
if you tell something to your parents
about your spouse man or woman
they're going to have a grudge against that person
and they're not always going to be
the same way forgiving
they might hold that against you
for the rest of your life
they might hold that against them forever
and it downgrades them in their sight.
So you know if you want to not do your husband evil
don't talk bad about them.
Work out your problems together
and obviously nobody's perfect
when people get married they're not perfect.
You know the man is still squishing the toothpaste
from halfway up.
Right?
Who's done that?
Who still does it?
You're supposed to squeeze it from the bottom.
But things like that irritate women
and it makes them upset you know
I mean there's just that you know
throwing your socks on the other side of the bed
and leaving them there
that's just you know
women just like things a certain way
and man we should learn to dwell with them
and knowledge obviously
and you know we should try to make our wives happy
but we're not talking about men right now
I'm just kind of trying to give a little
give a little ease in the story here
but you know what should a woman be like?
Well not bad mouthing her husband to anybody
even people in the church well you know
well I'm just having a hard time with my husband right now
just don't if someone if that person
is not going to help you with the situation
then don't tell them.
You know?
And men should not be doing the same
you know don't do that
because people don't forget stuff like that
and so your business is your business
you know you're one flesh
let that stuff stay between you and them okay?
So let's look at Proverbs chapter 12
Proverbs chapter 12 and verse number 4
Proverbs chapter 12 verse number 4
the Bible says a virtuous woman
is a crown to her husband
but she that maketh ashamed
is as rottenness in the bones
so a virtuous woman is a crown to her husband
so I mean when you think about a crown
you think about a gold shiny thing
on top of your head right?
And so when a woman is virtuous
that is something that's you know
it's like a you know
I guess that's just kind of to say
it's a trophy wife you know
but you're a trophy wife for a different reason
not because of your looks
because of who you are and how you act
the fact that you're a saved hard-working woman
that loves her husband and loves her children
that's the crown to the husband okay?
So it says a virtuous woman is a crown to her husband
but she that maketh ashamed
is as rottenness to his bones
so just as you can be a virtuous woman
and your husband is famous among the congregation
she's famous in the gates
because of what a good woman she is
if you're a bad wife
then it's rottenness to that person
you know it's something that creeps into someone's bones
and it's just like it's just a vexing
it's a vexing thing for a man
to have a woman that makes him ashamed all the time
and there's a lot of things that can be shameful
in this world and so what am I trying
I'm not trying to tear women down this morning
I want to build you up
I want you to see the negativity that's already there
and to get past that and fix those things
you know your husband should trust you
your husband shouldn't have to go around people
and feel embarrassed because you went around
telling a bunch of stories about him okay?
Turn to 1 Peter 3 verse 1
I am going to be going through some unpopular verses
in the Bible for this day and age
see most people don't even read their Bible
that's number one
a lot of Christians quote unquote are not even saved
but these verses are just
we're in such a feminized society right now
that you know trusting in men
to be your help you know to be the head of the household
and all that stuff
that is just preached against by the world so much
that it's just a constant bombardment against women
and so if you're a woman in here today
and you're subject to your own husbands
and you want to be a virtuous woman
you want to be a virtuous wife
you want to be a virtuous mother someday
or right now
that's not a popular position in this world today
it's just not
and so you're going to get all kinds of flack
because of that from your family members
you're going to get all kinds of flack like that
from your old friends that you grew up with
they're going to be like why do you wear dresses only
why do you do that
well because that's what the Bible says you know
we're supposed to do
so I mean but explaining that to your lifelong friends
they just they're people that are unsaved will not get that
they won't understand that
they won't understand why you're supposed to obey your husbands
they won't understand why you're supposed to be subject to your husbands
look what it says in verse one it says
likewise he wives being subjection to your own husbands
notice it doesn't say other people's husbands
it says to your own husbands
so I'm not the boss of any other woman in this room except for my wife
and so we're supposed to be subject
or they're supposed to be subject unto us
because look you can't have two people running the house
it doesn't work like that
someone has to be the boss
and there's people out there that believe in this 50-50 marriage situation
and it's always a train wreck
it's always a train wreck
and like Pastor Jimenez said anything that has two heads is a freak
right so there can only be one head of the house
and it's supposed to be the husband
it's supposed to be the man
look what it says
likewise you wives being subjection to your own husbands
that if any obey not the word
they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives
I was talking about it
it's a saved wife and an unsaved husband
well you're still supposed to obey
and be in subjection to them that you can win that person over
they're like well this is a new attitude from this woman
but if you're always just saying well this is what you're supposed to be doing
and they're just like throwing it in the husband's face and everything
the Bible is telling you how to win your husband over
without preaching the gospel to them all the time
because maybe they've just heard it too many times
now they want to see are you a woman that actually lives up to the expectations of the Bible
or are you just trying to run me and run this house
because it's different
and this is a lot of things that women struggle with that are saved
and they're like well my husband's not saved
he doesn't want to go to church
well win him over
win him over by being in subjection to them
obviously if they say don't go to church
then I don't believe that you should obey that
that's my personal opinion
I think that we're supposed to obey in the Lord
that women are supposed to obey their husbands in the Lord
but if they're not in the Lord
and they're going to tell you hey don't go to church, don't worship God
God is number one
God is loving the Lord our God with all of our hearts
with all of our minds, with all of our soul, with all of our strength
is number one
not the husband
but that would be number two
to obey your husband
but if your husband is conflicting with what God's word says
then you should go with what God's word says
so that's what I believe
I know that there's other pastors that don't necessarily believe that
but that's what I believe
so look at what it says in verse 2
it says while they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear
what do you want to show that unsaved husband?
well you want to show them your chaste conversation
you want to show them that you are a virtuous woman
that you are going
and conversation isn't talking about how you talk
that you stop cussing
it's not talking about that
although it's not very ladylike
but anyway
your chaste conversation is the good lifestyle that you're living
in front of them
are you going to obey?
are you just going to obey
when you agree with them
and not obey when you don't agree with them
and I'm not talking about the stuff that God says
I'm talking about just regular household things
regular things within the marriage
this is where women will say
well I do obey
but then you don't do blah blah blah
is that what it says?
obey unless they do blah blah blah blah
no it doesn't say that
it's supposed to be in subjection to your own husbands
if any obey not the word
they may also
or they also may without the word
be won by the conversation of the wives
so your lifestyle as a Christian
is supposed to show them
you know that this is
I'm really serious about this
this is my real beliefs
I am a virtuous woman now
and then you can win that person over
and then they'll get saved
but you know how they'll never get saved?
you beating them and battering them with the gospel
over and over again
and then being a disobedient wife
you're never going to win them over
it's not going to happen
so that's a very important thing to understand
if you're kind of in a different situation
the Bible's kind of giving you this different situation
and saying this is how you win them
it says who's adorning
let it not be that outward adorning
so it's not how you dress
it's not what you look like
that's going to win them over
it's not talking about that
it's talking about the plating of the hair
and of the wearing of gold
and the putting on of apparel
it's not those things
it says but let it be the hidden man
of the heart
that's the new man
the new creature in Christ Jesus
let him see that
why don't you put that on
and then it says in that which is not corruptible
even the ornament of a meek
and quiet spirit
which is in the sight of God a great price
isn't a virtuous woman
in the sight of God a great price
also it's far above rubies
but it says
this meek and quiet spirit
it doesn't say loud and stubborn
it doesn't say loud and obnoxious
you're always talking over all the men
you're talking over your husband
you're loud and stubborn
it says to be meek and quiet
that's what's
what's in a great price
in the sight of God
that's what God desires
that's part of being a virtuous woman
a meek and quiet spirit
it's not saying don't talk
or speak only when spoken to
walk three feet behind me
when I'm walking down the street
that's not what it's talking about
that's a little crazy
there was this truck driver that used to work
when he'd come in
he'd bring his wife and she was always
even when there was no kids in the car
I just always thought that was weird
she was like Korean or maybe Japanese or something
but that's the culture in Japan
is that you walk
like three paces behind the man
I think there's other cultures that are like that too
I just, you know
I don't think the Bible
actually says to do that
so I would say that that's probably not something
that needs to be done
but to be meek and quiet
is the opposite of being loud and obnoxious
which is in the sight of God
a great price
you want God to honor you
and think that you're a virtuous woman
and that you're someone of great price
you're far above rubies
well have a meek and quiet spirit
and I'm not saying
never try to
help your husband with some advice
some people kind of take it too far
I think it's, you know, when my wife gives me advice
I take it into account
but she's not telling me what to do
there is a difference
so she might say, well hey, have you thought about this
or what about this
and I take those things into consideration
because she's my best friend
number one
and I love her
I love her, that's number one
number two, she's my best friend
you know, and she's
we raise children together
we know each other, we trust each other
and so
I'm going to take her
what she has to say into account
now ultimately I still make the decision
right
that's my job as a leader
if I'm just indecisive about every single thing
and I'm always asking her for advice
that's weak
so man, we've got to be able to make decisions
and, you know
not be sorry for it
so obviously, even if
so here's the thing
women in this room
that have husbands
are you
let me make sure I word this right
when you disagree with your husband
about something that should
some decision that should be made
do you defer to his
final decision
or do you throw a big fit about it
see, that's the
difference between obeying
your husband or being subject to them
and being
meek and quiet and then
you know, if you only
are happy when
the decision is made that you like
then that's not necessarily
doing what the Bible is asking you to do
here
so I know that's a hard pill to swallow
but, because our society teaches
totally different than this
but that's what the Bible is teaching
so look what it says in
verse 5, it says, for after this manner
in the old time the holy women
also who
trusted in God, so they're saved
they're holy, adorn
themselves being in subjection unto
their own husbands
so again, it's going to say
your own husbands, not somebody else's
so when you run off to work
and you say, I just want to be Mary Tyler Moore
if you even know who that is
Mary Tyler Moore and I'm going to be this businesswoman
I'm going to start wearing the pantsuits like Hillary Clinton
and I'm going to be
equal with my husband and all this other stuff
you know, you're being subject
to somebody else's husband, aren't you?
and then
the pantsuit
the pants that they're forcing
you to wear at most places
you work at
is making you
dress like a transvestite
oooh
it's getting quiet in here
it's true though
why do we bring that
up so much? I mean, I don't think
I bring it up a lot, but I do bring it up
why? because you never see men
walking in here with dresses on
ever
it's a problem that women seem to have
and it's been ingrained
in women since World War II
or whatever, where they're just saying
Rosie the Riveter, we can do this
you know
and it's like
with a man's help
no, I'm just joking
you can do this
but like that picture
I have to see that stupid picture
like almost every day
this place I go
and it's this big poster of Rosie
like with her
do-rag on, looking like a gangster
and then her
flexing her muscles and stuff
it's just like
that is not appealing
but, anyway
so
and what's she wearing? she's wearing pants
isn't she?
and so like, why is it not a big deal?
why would it be a big deal
for a guy to walk in here in a dress?
because
it's cross-dressing
isn't it?
so if a woman walks in here with pants, they're cross-dressing too
and I haven't checked
if any women are wearing pants
today, I'm not trying to hurt anybody's feelings
I'm just saying that that's
what the Bible says, we're not supposed to wear that
which pertains unto a woman
a woman is not supposed to wear that which pertains unto a man
and you're like, well that's not pants
okay, but
what is it then?
what's the clothing?
what is the clothing?
so I'll just
what's it say on the bathroom doors?
even if it's an all gender bathroom
it has half a man
and half a woman
with a dress on, so you know the difference
how do you know the difference? well
women wear dresses, men wear pants
that's the way it's been for thousands of years
don't give me this tunic garbage
you got that from Sunday school
from a flannel graph
you did not get that from the Bible
as a matter of fact
the high priest, which Jesus was a high priest
he's the ultimate high priest
what did they wear? what was the clothing they had to wear?
britches
the word pants was not invented in 1611
at that point
they called it britches, hosen
things like that
so if the high priest was supposed to wear those
then that means it's a man's garment, right?
and so
the Bible doesn't talk about women wearing britches in the Bible
except for in a corrupted
a corrupted text that's the Geneva Bible
I think
said that they made britches
they sewed britches together
or something like that
but that's why the King James came along later
and corrected that
anyway, I'm going to get off of you
easy now
take a couple deep breaths
alright, let's move on here
it says in verse 6
even as Sarah obeyed Abraham
calling him Lord
whose daughters you are
as long as you do well
and are not afraid with any amazement
so
the Bible says that Sarah obeyed Abraham
was she a virtuous woman?
absolutely she was a virtuous woman
did she make some mistakes in life? yes she did
Abraham, everybody makes mistakes
but
it says calling him Lord
well can you imagine
you know, I mean my wife will call me Lord
but she's not
she doesn't call me Lord all the time
she doesn't call me Lord like it's the Lord
but she'll just like say
speak Lord
for thy servant here
it's like a song that
she sang in choir one time
but anyway
I don't make her call me Lord
alright, it's just not
I wouldn't even
I mean if she did I guess I would get used to it
but
I'm not saying you should make your wives
call you Lord either
but I'm just saying that Sarah
who was a great woman in the Bible
she did, and you know what
she did it in her subconscious
if you read the story in Genesis
she's thinking it in her mind
my Lord also
when she thinks of Abraham
she's like my Lord
and again small L
my boss
my husband
and so if she's doing that
in her mind
and the Bible records that as her
obeying him and calling him Lord
when Jesus and the two
angels came
he didn't say
let me make you something to eat real quick
he went to his wife and said make them something to eat real quick
and she obeyed him
and she did what she was told to do
and God sees that as something
that's a great price
so it's not the grading
we all have our roles to play
and again if there's two bosses
in the house it makes for friction
doesn't it?
who's doing the dishes tonight?
well I did them last night
who's doing the laundry today?
and here's the thing it's unfair
to women when they both work outside
the house and then they have to come home
and they have to take care of the kids
and they have to do all the laundry
and they have to do all the cleaning
obviously there's going to be some friction
in the house
it's going to get ugly
and so why not just allow your wife to stay home
and take care of the house
like the Bible says to do
and then she can safely trust in you
that you're going to bring home the bacon
you're going to make sure there's a roof
over their head
make sure that all things are provided for
and then she makes sure
that you're set up for your work week
or set up for your church week
you know what's nice?
I'm just going to brag on my wife a little bit
and I've already told probably some of you this before
but every Friday she washes
all my work clothes
all of them
and so Monday I can safely
trust
that I have my work clothes
including my socks
and undies are all ready to go
my t-shirts are hung up and dried
everything is ready to go
all I have to do is just grab that stuff
in the morning and get ready
so
that she's helping me accomplish
my work she's my help meat
and so
when and I also
when I
when church is over on Sunday she throws my stuff
in the wash on Monday
and then if I needed to do something
if I needed to preach out of town if I needed to just have
a special service anywhere I know
that I have five or six shirts I can choose
from that are my church outfit
my church attire
and everything is ready to go my pants are ready to go
everything is ready to go
my lunches are made for me
every single day
I don't make my own lunch
you know what I'm the envy of my work group
I'm sure
like what you got?
homemade sammies
fresh fruit
chopped
oranges
you know I can safely trust
that lunch is going to be ready for me
every day
and you're like well you're spoiled Pastor Thompson
well it took me some time to get there
but
but you know what
I safely trust in her that she's going to have
my things ready for me
and I don't have to worry about that stuff
you know if you have your wife working outside
the home there's going to be regret over that
there's going to be regret over
the fact that you're making them do twice as much
work as you have to do
and it's not fair
women are already doing
they're already on the clock if you have kids
you're already on the clock longer than men are
men go to work and they're like
oh man you get home and you're just like
you know
you're tired right?
but they're tired too but they're still taking care
of the kids when they're sick and they're up all night with them
and you know feeding them all day
and just there's a lot of work
involved with being a homemaker
there's nothing in the world wrong
with being a homemaker nothing
it's a great job
it's a valuable job
because what's the alternative
to put them at the government babysitters
to have your parents raise them
to have somebody else raise them
people that you don't even know
you can't even trust those people
I mean it's like
a green hair pink hair
fiesta going to any of these
learning centers or whatever
that they put kids in these day cares
I wouldn't trust those people with my kids
for one second
it's even worse now they're just out
in the open now they're just straight up queers
watching people's kids
and people take their kids and drop them off
those fags every single day
that they have to work
what's better? someone that loves them
that cares about them taking care of them
if your husband goes to work
if your husband's not making enough money
then he needs to work harder
or get smarter
so you can get more money
alright
I didn't start preaching until like
12-10 so don't start whining
the pizza's not even here yet so just shut up
let me preach
you can't even smell it right now
if you had COVID before you might still
not be able to smell it
anyway alright where am I at here
what's it say
it says in verse 7
it says likewise you husbands dwell with them
according to knowledge giving honor
unto the wife as unto the weaker vessel
and as being heirs together
of the grace of life that your prayers be not hindered
so that's the throw in for the men
hey give honor unto your wife
as unto the weaker vessel
so women are not as strong as men
but the Bible says that they should be strong
the Bible says they should be hard workers
but it's not talking about you just
getting all jacked
and lifting weights with your husband
or something
but when you pick stuff up
you're going to get stronger
but if you never pick anything up you're going to be weak
so women can be strong
they're just not as strong as men
that's all that's all it means
they're weaker in those ways
they might be weaker
emotionally
but there are some pretty pansy men out there these days
they go into rooms and cry
nowadays it's just like I don't know
what's wrong with you
they need
safe spaces and stuff they wear skinny jeans
their testosterone is all
cut off because
of the pants they're wearing or something
good night
anyway
so let's turn to Titus chapter 2 verse 3
Titus chapter 2 verse 3
I do have to hurry up here
I don't have to
but I will
Titus chapter 2 verse 3 says
the aged women likewise
talking about elder women
that they be in behavior
as becometh holiness
not false accusers
not given to much wine
teachers of good things
so these are
things that would make you
a virtuous woman
verse 4 that they may teach
young women to be sober
to love their husbands
to love their children so what are the aged women supposed to be doing
they're not supposed to be saying girl
as soon as the kids are out of the house and you should just
get a job and put your pants back on
you know with the little rhinestones on the back
or whatever you should do what you want
now it's your time no that's not how
you're supposed to be you're supposed to be helping the younger
women to be how
you should have been or how you were
that you teach them to be
sober you teach them to love
their husbands and to love their
children and you know there's some
women out there today that don't love their husbands
they don't love their children
that's not what
you're supposed to be like you know when you got
married you got you were
in love right
and you're like well maybe I'm not as in love as I thought I was
but you know what
you'd better learn to love them because they're your husband
you better learn to love your children
and to me it's just so weird
that you would have to teach someone that
but some people are like that
they just you know
it's the world it's the devil
it's getting into people's brains
it's getting into women's brains and making them
steer from the things in the past of the Bible
in verse 5 it says to be discreet
chaste
keepers at home
what does that mean you're keeping your house
you're doing the work
at home good
obedient to their own husbands
see there's again that's three times so far
I've shown you that
that the word of God
be not blasphemed
see because if you're not those things
then people are going to go like
that's a Christian family
that's a Christian wife
you know woe unto you
if people are looking at you
as a Christian wife and they're seeing
things other than this
because it's going to cause people to blaspheme God's word
say well
she doesn't obey her husband
but she obeys somebody else's husband
at work
with her paints
sisterhood of the traveling pants
look at Psalm chapter 1
13 verse 9
Psalm chapter 1 13 verse 9
the Bible says
in Psalm 1 13 verse 9
it says he maketh the barren woman
to keep house
so even if you're married and you don't have
any children what's it say
he maketh the barren woman
to keep house
so you're still supposed to
guide the house even when you're married
without children isn't that what the Bible's saying?
am I wrong there?
don't say it out loud
and to be a joyful mother
of children
praise ye the Lord
so you know
God you know maybe you are barren
right now maybe you know
your womb is not open and you haven't had children
you've been married and you haven't had children
but pray to the Lord
and ask him to give you a child
maybe there's something medically wrong
that you can get fixed
but you know pray to God first
pray to God first
and ask him to give you children
you know and anytime you see
that happening in the Bible
especially you know you look in the book of Genesis
you look at Hannah
you know they're begging God to give them a child
and he does it
so that's the
but mainly I want to show you that because
you know even the barren women
are supposed to keep their house
so is your husband good enough
to do all that work for? he should be
if you're a virtuous woman
be a virtuous wife
and then like basically right here David's saying
hey and then
you know you do what you're supposed to do
and you know what you're going to be a joyful mother of children also
look at Proverbs 18 verse 22
actually turn to Proverbs 19 verse 13
and I'll read for you Proverbs 18 22
Proverbs 18 22 says
whoso findeth a wife
findeth a good thing
and obtaineth favor from the Lord
so finding a wife
is favor from God
and what you do with that
is
the main thing that's important is that
you know you found a wife that's a good thing
and you've obtained the favor
but hey treat that marriage
the way you're supposed to
treat that person how you're supposed to
treat your wife right
and wives treat your husbands right
Proverbs 19 verse 13 it says
a foolish son is the calamity of his father
and the contentions
of a wife are a continual
dropping so
it's definitely not a blessing to have
contentions
of a wife always nagging
this is basically just kind of talking to you
about the nagging wife
it's a continual dropping it's like Chinese
water torture to just
continuously have a woman that's
always doing this Proverbs 19 verse 14
says house and riches are the
inheritance of fathers and a prudent
wife is from the Lord
a wife is a blessing
and you being able to be a wife
is a blessing it's a blessing
that God gives to that man
but be continue to be a
blessing to that man and what does
prudent mean it means acting or showing
care and thought for the future
so a prudent wife is gonna
care about the future they're gonna care
about the future even even
short term future like I was
talking about like the my magic
sock drawer all my clothes are
done for me every week my lunches are done
I don't have to worry about anything like that
so
she's a prudent wife because she's
showing care and thought for the future
my future my immediate future
and I appreciate that and man if your wives
are doing those types of things you should appreciate them too
so
so last point here is
you know you become you
you start as a virtuous woman
you become a virtuous wife and then
a virtuous mother let's look at proverbs 31
verse 1 you know
number one in this chapter like I said
that these are the words of king
lemuel look at verse 1 the prophecy
that his mother taught him so
a good mom is gonna teach their children
right things right
so she's gonna give her children good
advice he's talking
about hey this is what my mom taught me
this is the preaching my mom
gave to me what my
son and what the son of my womb
and what the son of my vows
give not thy strength unto women
nor thy ways to that
which destroyeth kings
hey don't do the things that would destroy
a king and don't give your strength
unto women this is a woman telling
a man not to give
his strength unto women
what does that mean well
you know men are the heads
of the household again
and that's what she's saying don't let your wife
run you don't give all that
strength to her and let her run the house
and like look everybody's seen that
house where the wife runs the house
it's just it's sad
it's sad to see
it's sad to watch and it's like
you know she says jump you say
how high you
know I mean that's just
or embarrasses you in front of people
things like that so
anyway I kind of touched on that earlier
but this is what
his mom told him though don't give your strength unto women
nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings
it is not for kings
it is not for kings to
drink wine hey teach your children
to stay away from things that are
going to harm them teach your children
to stay away from strong drink
it's not for princes strong
drink hey don't say it's
okay for your kids to drink
when they're 21 it's not
okay even when they're 21
the law might say it but hey
parents teach your children that
drugs and alcohol are wicked
women
mothers teach your children the
differences between right and wrong
and you know what if they need
a spanking you need to spank
them so they're going to
obey you also
because the bible says that they're supposed to obey
you there's you know
children obey your parents and the lord for this is what?
right
and if they're not going to respect you
then you're not doing it right
if they don't respect you
you're not doing it right you need to
give them something and make it count
so mothers should be hard workers
I kind of got ahead of myself there
mothers should be hard workers and provide meat
for their household look what it says in Proverbs 31
verse number 15
she riseth also while it is yet
night and giveth meat to her
household and a portion to her
maiden so a good Proverbs
31 woman
is going to be making sure that she's
cooking she's making
food she's feeding the children
and you know obviously men
can cook you know men can be
great cooks and I can't
remember the last time I actually cooked something but
I can cook I taught my wife
how to cook so
it's possible it's within my being
but you know it's just
I'm not saying men should never cook or help
but like hey
you should be feeding your children
feeding your husband you know
you should be providing meals for your husband
if you're staying at home you should cook for your husband
period you should make things
for your children now obviously there's days
when you know you have to
erupt there whatever can you pick something up
whatever that happens
but normally
your wife should be cooking for you
and you should be cooking for your children
provide for your children
so again here's the hard working mom right here
and you know
she has kids
but women with kids can still work hard
don't try to use
your kids as a way that you're
crippled and can't ever help out
you know that's ridiculous
and big family
do you think they didn't have big families in the Bible?
of course they had big families in the Bible
so if you have a big family
you have to find a way to make it work
you have to find a way to make your work work
if you're just waiting for all the kids
to take a nap at the same time
you're never going to get anything done
your husband's going to come home
and the house is going to be trashed
and you're still in your pajamas
Facebook's up on the computer
I mean
look that's not how it should be
work hard
find a way to make it work
says she girdeth her loins with strength
and strengtheneth her arms
so
again I'm talking about the
bulking up ladies
but it's just from doing regular work
it's not like you're taking testosterone
and you know pumping iron or something
says she perceiveth that her merchandise
is good her candle
goeth not out by night see that's what I was talking about earlier
that women are going to
are going to work longer than men are
they're going to work longer
you know we got to get up before work the next day
or whatever and you got to get up and work the next day too
but it's just something about
having kids and women
are just able to stay up all night for some
crazy reason and are able to
to do this and it's just like
I don't understand it
when I was younger I couldn't even wake up
be like did you hear the kids last night? No
I
I would hear them now but I didn't hear them then
so anyway it says she layeth her
hands on the spindle and her hands hold the
distaff so again it's referring
to providing clothing and things
like that verse 21 she's not
afraid of the snow for her household
for all her household are clothed with
scarlet she maketh herself
coverings of tapestry her clothing
is silk and purple so
you know that Proverbs virtuous woman
is going to be working hard
for not just her husband
but when she's a mother she's going to be working hard for the whole
family she looketh well
to the ways of her household verse 27
and eateth not the bread
of idleness don't be
idle ladies be hard
working her children will rise up
and call her blessed her husband also
and he praiseth her
you want to be praised by your children
you want to be praised by your husband be a
virtuous woman be a virtuous
wife be a virtuous
mother
and
let's see
I'm going to finish up here Proverbs 29
verse 15 says the rod and reproof
give wisdom but a child left to himself bringeth
the mother to shame hey don't let your children
be
come up and make you
ashamed you know we
like I said you have to you have to spank
your kids too you can't just wait for daddy at home
and deal with it every time
your children should fear you also
if they don't fear you they're
going to walk all over you especially boys
and they know how
to manipulate don't tell
dad don't tell dad what happened
and my wife
would always tell and they'd always
get whooped but
like if you're if you're just
like well wait till your dad gets home
you're you're just you're teaching them that
you could you're a doormat and they're
the ones that are going to come in and beat
the crap out of them
and then it's it's off balance
it's off balance so
I'm not saying you're gonna be able to give
give as good of a licking as a as a dad would
but it shouldn't really get
to that point if you're just like
doing damage control all day
and it's like a war zone
at your house the kids are just running all over the
top of you they're like you know
give us food do this you know they're just like
making a giant mess and you're at your
wit's end you know you know how you
stop that beat
their butts
beat their butts
thou shalt
beat that's
what the bible says thou shalt beat them
with the rod and I'm not
talking about abuse I'm talking about spanking
okay so the bible that's
what the bible teaches so
we all look if you're
a help me you gotta help your husband your
husband can't be the only disciplinarian in the house
and
so that's
that's something that you have to do
as a mother obviously you give love
and mothers are good at that
they're really good at it husbands not so
much but we still love our children
we still you know but just women
are just really
more emotional
like that and that's
good we need both your
children need both they need
dad and they need mom equally
but be the role of a woman
that you're supposed to be and if he's
being the role that he's supposed to be then your
children are going to be raised
and they'll be better for it
so what
is your ultimate goal in life
to be praised in society
by your friends
by your extended family
by people you don't even know
is that what you want women
ladies
the devil is at work
in this world today and
he would have you on a different path
he'd have you on a path
that is for their own ends
you know the world
is run by the devil today
he's called the god of this world
for a reason he deceiveth
the whole world don't let him
deceive you with his
wiles don't let him make you
think well why
is why is only this church or why
are only certain churches teaching these things
because we live in a time
where you know the word of god
is not being uplifted like it should
be it's not even being preached like it should be
and pastors
are afraid to get up and teach anything
like this they're
scared they won't even bring up the pants
issue they won't bring up
submission they won't bring up obedience
they won't bring up these things because it's
not popular in season
out of season that's what we're supposed
to preach and it just and that's
why it's so hard for women to hear
sermons like this and look I'm not trying
to rip you all to shreds I'm trying to help you
I want you to be a better mother
I want you to be a better woman
I want you to be a better wife
and so the Bible is supposed to change
your thoughts and your mind about things
that you're not doing right and so if the Bible
says one thing you're supposed to do what the Bible
says and not your own will
and not what
Dr. Ruth or whatever
Dr. Phil
you know you want to send him to
baby boot camp or whatever
Dr. Phil instead of taking
care of your own children
so
the world is patterned after the devil
but what should we be patterned after
we should be patterned after God's word
you know Moses was supposed to do
things as the pattern was showed
to him in heaven and so
we have a pattern here that God has cut out
for us he's put it into
a book for us to read and it's
his word and we should go by
what his plan is because
the plan of
the devil is the destruction of the home
and the family the plan is
feminism the plan is murdering
your own children so that you
can get ahead in life
and Jeremiah 1
5 says before I formed thee in the belly
I knew thee and before thou came
as forth out of the womb I sanctified
thee and I ordained thee a prophet
unto the nations so
God is the one that forms people in the
belly God is the one that
sanctifies the womb and
he ordains things
he ordained Jeremiah to be a prophet
before he even formed them in the belly
so what does that tell you
that they are when
a child is conceived
they are a human being
and women should never kill their
children for any reason it is wicked
as hell I know that the
world teaches you well if it's rape or incest
or whatever those cases are
very few and far in between and even
so you know
it's still not right to kill that that kid
didn't do anything wrong
so obviously there's a lot of things going on
with the road versus the weed and I'm definitely not having time to
get into that tonight but or this morning
but the plan
is for destruction of
families you know and when
you have less children you know be a
be a mom that wants to have a lot of children
we don't have to have a two child
policy or one and a half child policy
we can have you know as many kids as
we need to have and God's still going to provide
for your family don't worry about that stuff
you know God said
to be fruitful and multiply didn't he
so if God said to be fruitful
and multiply it doesn't say to kill your
children if you have too many
or if you want to get an academy award
or whatever
that lying whore
said but
you know God would have us on a different
plan you know
the devil's plan is fornication
the devil's plan is having
bastard children with no father to raise them
the devil's plan is to have
a two headed household that's a freak
the devil's plan is to have you
stick your kids in a babysitter
or a preschool or a public
school or a private school or a Christian
school and
you know an after school program
so that they can pump all the information
into your children and so
you can stay away from you know you have
children and then you have somebody else raise them
that's the utmost
stupidity it's a plan
of the devil he wants to
rule the world
and he wants to do that by destroying every
family on the planet and you know what
he can't stop you from being saved
but you know what he can do he can try to stop
your children from being saved
and he can stop your family from
moving forward and serving the Lord
or he can break that one
family that was actually in your family
that was actually saved
leave yourself a posterity
have children
after you and that your grandchildren
have an inheritance also and that
inheritance is a spiritual inheritance
you know do you want your grandchildren to be
saved do you want your great-grandchildren to be saved
well hey let's do things
the way God told us to do them
be a virtuous woman that's what God wants
from you be a virtuous wife
that's what God wants from you be a virtuous
mother that's what God wants you to do
you know and all these things
you know are you still going to have problems absolutely
because we're fallen people
and okay the pizza's coming
so I gotta be done
but I just thought well I'll preach till the pizza comes
anyway so
God has us on a different plan though doesn't he
but the world is just beating
against you it's beating against
women you know you want to talk about
battered women's syndrome the world and the devil
is what's doing that
so be the
gem be the ruby be
far above that ruby
be the gem that God wants you to be
let's pray Heavenly Father we thank you Lord
so much for the
wives and the mothers that we have
in this room today and the virtuous
women Lord I pray that if
there's people in here
that aren't that they would strive
to be that anyway Lord and
pray that you would just help us to not pattern
our lives after the world
we thank you Lord for each and every
mother and we just pray that you
bless them today and that
you bless the food that we're about to receive
in Jesus' name we pray Amen
turn to page 73 in your green hymnal
page number 73
some golden daybreak page 73
page number 73
see you out on the first
heaven will open
Jesus
will come
some golden
daybreak
Jesus will
come
some golden
daybreak
battles all won
He'll shout
the victory
break through the
plume
some golden
daybreak
for me
for you
sad hearts
will gladden
all shall be
bright
goodbye forever
to
earth's dark night
changed in a moment
like him
to be
oh, glorious daybreak
Jesus
all see
some golden
daybreak
Jesus will
come
some golden
daybreak
battles all won
He'll shout
the victory
break through the
plume
some golden
daybreak
for me
for you
oh, what a
meeting
there in the skies
no tears
nor crying
shall dim our
eyes
loved ones united
eternally
oh, what a
daybreak
that
mourn will be
some golden
daybreak
Jesus will
come
some golden
daybreak
battles all won
He'll shout
the victory
break through the
plume
some golden
daybreak
for me
for you
Good singing brother Stephen, will you dismiss us?