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song number 165
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of dust and feeble as frail and neither we trust nor finally to fail thy mercies
how tender our firm to the end our maker defender redeemer and friend
amen as pirates for a prayer dear father we just thank you that we could be
gathered in your house this Sunday morning to worship you and praise your
name and hear the preaching of your word and I just thank you for Pastor Thompson
and his family coming down here to preach for us I just pray you bless them
now and fill them with your spirit helping to edify and strengthen the
brethren that are here and help us all to learn and grow and to take the
message and apply it to our lives where do we love you and pray these things in
Jesus Christ's name amen next song is gonna be Psalm 126 in that white handout
if you need one you can raise up your hand and one of the ushers will try and
bring one to you if not you always take out your King James Bible Psalm 126
when the Lord turned again the captivity of Zion we were like them that dream
then was our mouth filled with laughter and our tongue with singing then said
they among the heathen the Lorna done great things for them the Lord had done
great things for us where of we are glad turn again our captivity Oh Lord as the
streams in the sound they the so in tears are reaping joy they the so in
tears are reaping joy then said they among the heathen the Lorna done great
things for them the Lord had done great things for us where of we are glad he
that go forth and weep and bearing precious seed shut out let's come again
shut out let's come again with rejoicing bringing his she's with him then said
they among the heathen the Lorna done great things for them the Lord had done
great things for us where of we are glad
good morning thank you so much for coming to steadfast Baptist Church if
you still don't have a bulletin you need one just slip it her hand real quick and
an usher can come by and get you a bulletin on the front we have our Psalm
23 we're on week five of six if you can quote the entire passage Psalms 23 to a
non family member you can receive a prize for all you visitors you'd have to
come back to claim that prize all right and then also if you're under the age of
your 18 or under you have to if you can quote that you can get a treat on
Wednesday's Bible study an ice cream treat or a couple pieces of a candy on
the inside we have our service times and so winning times we have Sunday morning
service at 10 30 a.m. we have a Sunday evening at 5 30 p.m. and Wednesday
evening at 7 we also have a Spanish service that's on Sundays at 4 30 and
the entire service is completely in Spanish all the singing preaching and
everything so if you'd like to participate you could you could be here
4 30 so it kind of leads us up all the way to our evening service also we have
churchwide soul winning those times meet here at the building Sundays at 2
Tuesdays at 10 30 Wednesdays at 5 15 and Saturdays at 10 as well as a several
regional so winning times these meet at different parts of the city so if you'd
like to be a part of one of the regional so many times you can see
brother Philip Milstead who's up here playing guitar or brother Steve Malton I
know he's back there in that corner all right and then brother Jesse Michael
he's sitting over here he leads the time on Saturdays also if you have any soul
winning maps that you're working on even after you complete them please try to
make sure to turn those into our soul winning bin or give them to myself
Dylan or brother Jesse that way we can make sure we're updating our map
accurately we have our church stats there for January so far and then on the
right we have a list of several expecting ladies please be in prayer for
all of them as well as we have our prayer list we try to update these every
single week and so if you have a prayer request try to send that in every single
week to steadfast Baptist KJV at gmail.com that way we can keep these things
fresh as well as we have a communication card that we have over here on this
front cabinet the communication card is just a way for us to get your
information and you can also put a prayer request if you'd like on that if
you need one just ask an usher for a communication card they can get that to
you we have a note there pastor in Thompson he's here today with us so
praise the Lord on that and we're really excited yeah he's here with his wife
Sherry and so make sure to thank them and say hi to them whenever they're here
and we really appreciate him coming he makes everyone feel a little bit smaller
but he's gonna make us feel bigger in our hearts okay and so he's there at
Sure Foundation Baptist Church in Vancouver Washington and they're doing a
great work for the Lord they've got church plants all over Hawaii they've
got one in Spokane Washington they've got one in Canada and so you know I've
been to the Canada one I'm kind of looking for the Hawaii one you know I'm
just kidding so but they're they're great friends of ours and we really
appreciate them for allowing us to steal Dylan and he's been a blessing to us and
so we're really excited that they're here we're just looking to get their
next kids to come down here no I'm just kidding also Wednesday if you want to
come back January 27th pastor Roger Menes is gonna be here and that's gonna
be a great service really excited for him coming on the back we have just the
Ray and Osa McCallan numbers still I guess this might be the old one that I'm
looking at I have a January 10th one does someone have a newer one sorry I
got confused
on the back we have the baby shower in honor of Allison Holden and her baby boy
all ladies are invited to come it's January 23rd from 1 to 3 p.m. and they
have a snack and a dessert if you'd like to bring something also nursing's only
preferred if you are unable to keep the children with someone else still please
bring them all we don't want anybody to be turned away it's just nursing's only
is preferred if that is an option for you as well as they're registered on bye
bye baby and they're having a boy obviously so if you'd like to get them a
gift also we have a baby shower in honor of Eve Garcia and her baby girl so we're
really excited about that and they're gonna be having one here February 6th
from 1 to 3 p.m. at the church also same rules if nursing's only preferred if
you'd like to bring a snack or dessert that would be great and she's registered
on Amazon we have one other announcement I have two actually but we have the
sodomite deception is gonna be airing for the church as a private showing on
Saturday and so that's the 23rd and we're really excited about this and so
we ordered a really nice popcorn machine and we're gonna have candy and snacks
and so just come for the popcorn okay no I'm just kidding but it's gonna be
really great pastor Thompson got a showing an early preview showing of it
and he said he liked it he he stood up right after the film was done he was all
excited and everything so you know I'm really excited about this we if you'd
like to come you're welcome to come we do have a website sodomite deception
calm so we're gonna put that on the site Monday and so basically no matter what
YouTube does to us or whatever there'll be some way to view the film and you can
share it with different people and so I'm really excited about this it's been
a lot of hard work and brother Ben Naim he's been doing a lot of great great
work on this one other thing that's been kind of a long process trying to come to
fruition but we have some other cards up front now some new cards on our
cabinet and it says God resource calm and then on the back it has several
different foreign languages that are listed on here and basically just says
how to go to heaven so you have English Spanish Hindi French Arabic Russian to
goleg Mandarin and so the goal is that if you end up coming across someone and
they don't speak English or a language that you speak that you could hand them
one of these cards and say you know if they say French or something then you
could point to this card and they could go here and hear a gospel presentation
in their language and the goal is also to have as many gospel presentations and
as many foreign languages as possible and for this to just be a continual
resource that people could use to find that type of information so make sure to
grab some of these I'm only gonna really hand them out to people you know in the
situation of they speak a foreign language and I can't communicate to them
but I think it'd be a good opportunity for those and we in Dallas I mean you
run into people all the time to speak French or another language and you can't
really communicate and so we're hoping that this will help bridge that gap so
very excited that we have a full house just a few house rules or whatever just
making sure we have a couple bathrooms over here just make sure to pay
attention if the doors locked or not it should be a blue sign that says it's
unoccupied or red don't try and jiggle the handle they might get mad at you
okay and then we have a mother-toddler area back here in the back and then we
also have a mother baby room back here it is for mothers and their children
only so if you do want to use that area it is for mothers and their children
only and we want to keep it as safe area for them and that's pretty much all that
I have for announcements we have a nice machine we have water and everything
please pay attention to the signs children shouldn't be getting in the
fridge with ice machine but parents can't assist them but we're really glad
you're here and with that let's go to our third song for this morning song
number 207 in your hymnal song 207 in that song number 207 only a sinner
not have I gotten but what I received grace hath bestowed it since I have
believed boasting excluded pride I am based I'm only a sinner saved by grace
only a sinner saved by grace only a sinner saved by grace this is my story
to God be the glory I'm only a sinner saved by grace once I was foolish and
sin ruled my heart causing my footsteps from God to depart Jesus had found me
happy my case I now am a sinner saved by grace only a sinner saved by grace only
a sinner saved by grace this is my story to God be the glory I'm only a sinner
saved by grace tears unavailing no merit at I mercy had saved me or else I must die
sin had alarmed me fearing God's grace but now I'm a sinner saved by grace only a sinner
saved by grace only a sinner saved by grace this is my story to God be the glory I'm only a sinner
saved by grace suffer a sinner whose heart overflows loving his savior to tell what he
knows what's more to tell it would I embrace I'm only a sinner saved by grace only a sinner
saved by grace only a sinner saved by grace this is my story to God be the glory I'm only a sinner
saved by grace
as the operating plates are being passed around please turn your bibles to proverbs chapter 1
proverbs chapter 1
so
proverbs chapter 1 the bible reads the proverbs of solomon the son of david king of israel
to know wisdom and instruction to perceive the words of understanding to receive the instruction
of wisdom justice and judgment and equity to give subtlety to the simple to the young man knowledge
and discretion a wise man will hear and will increase learning and a man of understanding
shall attain unto wise counsels to understand a proverb and the interpretation the words of the
wise in their dark sayings the fear of the lord is the beginning of knowledge but fools despise
wisdom and instruction my son hear the instruction of thy father and forsake not the law of thy
mother for they shall be an ornament of grace unto thy head and chains about thy neck my son
if sinners entice thee consent thou not if they say come with us let us lay wait for blood let us
lurk privately for the innocent without cause let us swallow them up alive as the grave and whole
as those that go down into the pit we shall find all precious substance we shall fill our houses
with spoil cast in thy lot among us let us all have one purse my son walk not thou in the way
with them refrain thy foot from their path for their feet run to evil and make haste to shed
blood surely in vain the net is spread in the sight of any bird and they lay wait for their own blood
they lurk privately for their own lives so are the ways of everyone that is greedy of gain which
taketh away the life of the owners thereof wisdom crieth without she uttereth her voice in the
streets she crieth in the chief place of concourse in the opening of the gates in the city she
uttereth her words saying how long ye simple ones will you love simplicity and the scorners delight
in their scorning and fools hate knowledge turn you at my reproof behold i will pour out my spirit
upon you i will make known my words unto you because i have called and you refused i have
stretched out my hand and no man regarded but you have said it not all my counsel and would none of
my reproof i will also laugh at your calamity i will mock when your fear cometh when your fear
cometh as desolation and your destruction cometh as a whirlwind when distress and anguish cometh
upon you then shall they call upon me but i will not answer they shall seek me early but they shall
not find me for that they hated knowledge and did not choose the fear of the lord they would none of
my counsel they despised all my reproof therefore shall they eat of the fruit of their own way and
be filled with their own devices for the turning away of the simple shall slay them and the
prosperity of fools shall destroy them but whoso hearkeneth unto me shall dwell safely and shall be
quiet from fear of evil let's have a word of prayer lord thank you so much for this day and
thank you for pastor thompson and miss sherry coming down here to preach for us and to fellowship
with us lord pray that you fill pastor thompson now with the holy spirit please bless this day
and please bless sure foundation baptist church in washington as well in jesus name we pray amen
amen well it's great to be here thank you so much for inviting me pastor shelley mrs shelley
it's great to see my daughter and that's pretty much it and all my grandchildren my son-in-law
and uh my good friends that have traveled from near and far and i appreciate you coming out to
hear me preach this morning and it's great to be back and i love steadfast baptist church
and uh my church loves steadfast baptist church loves pastor shelley and his preaching and uh
again very thankful to be here today thank you so much for inviting us and uh i i wanted to
announce don't said it was okay that jasmine is with child again so i'll have grandchild number
six on the way so praise god for that so i was telling some people last night at the hotel they
i went down to print my sermons off and there was like there's like hockey leagues going on or
something and i got to talking with him anyway and uh i just told them that uh i had five
grandchildren and they're like you're too young to have five grandchildren i said i know
i know i am but at least i'll be young enough to play with them right as they grow older so
anyway i'm thankful for that but the title of the sermon this morning is going getting and giving
counsel going getting and giving counsel let's have a word of prayer heavenly father we thank you
so much for the great crowd tonight uh this morning and we pray that you fill me with your
spirit as i preach your word and lord i pray that the people would have ears to hear what the spirit
says under the church this morning in jesus name we pray amen so the reason i'm preaching this is
because it's important to know who to get counsel from so if you're going to go get counsel make
sure you're getting your counsel from the right resources now i don't want to say that you can't
ever go to the world for certain advice if you want to know how to fix your car it's okay to go
to a mechanic and find out what you know if you don't want to pay for the mechanic at least pick
their ear and find out you can get worldly wisdom that can help you but mainly what i'm talking
about is going to get counsel from godly people if you're a christian you know and you're going
to get life lessons from people or wisdom from people or wisdom from god it should be from those
types of people it shouldn't be just some worldly person or your unsaved relatives and things like
that so we're going to talk about going to the right people and then getting that that counsel
once you've gotten the once you've gone to someone for counsel you got to receive that counsel
because a lot of times people don't receive the counsel they go to people for counsel and then
they just say yeah i just don't do it right and then also when you're giving counsel make sure
that someone's actually asking you for that counsel or you've actually asked them for
permission to give that counsel to them because a lot of people are know-it-alls they just want
everybody to know what they know but you know you don't know people you don't always have to tell
everybody everything that's on your mind and some people don't even want to hear what's on your mind
so anyway that's kind of the reason i was i wanted to preach about this because i've noticed that
sometimes people don't go to the right people and sometimes i notice people don't receive that
counsel once it's been given to them and i've noticed also that people like to give a lot of
advice that they shouldn't be giving and also you know it is okay to give people like a reproof or
rebuke or something like that but i'm talking about you know if you think that maybe uh you
could you could help manage someone's marriage better than than they can or something you know
wait for people to ask you for that kind of advice but i don't want to get too far ahead of myself
here um so what is counsel counsel is to get advice and to gain knowledge to help in decision
making in and living your for living your daily life and so that's you you want to go to knowledge
to the right places you know and especially in an area where you're not sure what to do because
there's a lot of things you know the bible has all the answers but sometimes knowing what path is the
right path isn't always as easy so and and but god's going to help you with those things and if
you have a good resource of people you can go to that's always a great thing too so you know who to
marry what job should i take what church should i go to what about medical advice should i move
how should i raise my kids how should i manage my finances these are all things that people have
problems and issues with it and you need to know who to go to when you know when to receive it
and when to give that kind of advice so number one this morning going to counsel from the right
people let's look at our verse number five in proverbs chapter number one it says a wise man
will hear and will increase learning and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsel so
you're you're going to go and attain knowledge from people and you got to go to the right sources
and the number one person that we can go to is god of course you know i mean if you want to get
wise counsel the wisest counselor you're ever going to find in this life is god and the lord
jesus christ of course and uh so he is the wisest council we can get and where do we get that council
from we can get it from this book right here we get it from the holy bible the king james bible
if you're an english-speaking person and the reign of valera gomez 2010 if you're a spanish
speaker you know people like to accuse us of just only you know we think that the king james is like
some you know thing that we worship or something well i mean we worship the god that wrote it
and it is his word is it not and so who's the best person we can go to get counsel from
the we can get it straight from the mouth of god which is poured into this book right here
and so the bible says we don't need anybody to really teach us you know the holy spirit can
guide us in all things but at the same time there is time to get counsel so and god would be the
best person to get it from it says a wise man will hear you know it's not just about hearing
but it says and will increase learning so when you learn it you have to also apply the learning
that you get and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels and so what does that
word attain mean it means to reach you're going to reach unto attain unto these wise counsels
and so it's important for us to go to people for counsel when we need it and the number one person
we can go to is god himself through the bible so it's like literally going to the mouth of god you
know you think about people that went to the lord to to hear from the mouth of the lord things like
they went to the prophets in the old testament a lot of times even saul when he went to go he
said hey let's go talk to samuel you know he's going to help us find my father's asses that are
lost in the wilderness i mean it's just a simple thing like that but obviously you know i i don't
know where you lost your cattle so you know you're going to have to go to god for those kinds of
things and you're just going to have to help him guide you yeah you know somehow you know maybe
teach you how to be a cowboy or something i don't know anyway so turn to proverbs chapter 8 verse 14
proverbs chapter 8 and verse number 14
the bible says counsel is mine and sound wisdom i am understanding i have strength
so god here is saying that he you know this to get this sound wisdom he is understanding god is the
one that's going to help you understand and sound means basically that it's based on reason sense
or judgment so to get sound wisdom is to get reason sense and judgment turn to proverbs chapter
22 verse number 20 proverbs chapter 22 and verse number 20 it says have i not written to thee
excellent things in counsels and knowledge so god has written to us what excellent things
in counsels and knowledge psalm chapter 119 verse 105 psalm chapter 119 verse 105
psalm 119 105 says thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path and so look if you
go to god for your counsel you know what his word is going to be there for you and what's it going
to do it's going to be a lamp unto your feet hey what pathway should i go on well maybe you
should go on the way that god tells you to go instead of going where you want to go and it says
and a light unto my path who's ever been camping in here before brother scott just got done camping
he was telling me about it and he was the only one there you know i guess people are afraid of
getting covid in the woods or something but anyway so but look when you're camping it's nice to have
a good flashlight isn't it when you're walking down a path without a flashlight it's pretty
scary and walking in this world without god's counsel is a scary place and even in 2021 it's
even more scary i mean we're not even that far into it and things are even getting worse than
they were last year so it's important to have god's word as a light to our path and to a lamp
for our feet hey where do we want to walk where god wants us to walk that's ultimately the counsel
that we need is from god now another source of counsel that we can get is from friends now
sometimes some people don't have any friends and i'm going to preach a sermon about friendship
tonight maybe you can learn to get some friends but i don't know who has friends in here or not
but your eyes are all my friends if you know you love the lord and you're good people so but i'm
going to teach about friendship tonight so please come back tonight and and listen to that but
friends can be a good resource for counsel now let me just say this friends that are not saved
probably not a good resource for living a godly life friends that are not saved are not a resource
for having a godly marriage because if we if we're like the world then our marriages are going to get
destroyed if we're like if we marry like the heathen marry our marriage are going to get
destroyed if we do the things that the world does we're going to have a hard time you know walking
the path that god wants us to walk and instead of walking the path that our friends want us to walk
and obviously i believe our friends should be godly and again i'm going to cover that
tonight but turn to proverbs chapter 27 verse 9
proverbs chapter 27 verse number nine the bible says ointment and perfume rejoice the heart
so does the sweetness of a man's friend by hearty counsel the sweetness of a man's friend by hearty
counsel now guys we read that and we're like man that's kind of fufu isn't it hey it's god's word
though and it says the sweetness of a man's friend hey it's good to have good friends that
care about you and they're going to try to give you counsel that you need to hear you know a
good friend is going to tell you what you need to know and not what you want to know they're not
going to tell you what you want to hear they're going to tell you what you need to hear and it's
so it's good to surround yourself with friends that will give you hearty counsel what does
hardy mean well it means like heartfelt like they actually care about you it's good to go to
a friend that actually cares about you right because we've all had friends that really don't
care about us that much right they're like you know fairweather friends when everything's going
good they're your friend but when everything's going bad or they're the type of friends that
talk behind you behind your back so we don't want those types of friends to be in our circle of
counsel so proverbs chapter 12 verse 20 proverbs chapter 12 verse 20 proverbs chapter 12 verse 20
says deceit is in the heart of them that imagine evil but to the counselors of peace there is joy
so there is these types of counselors that are counselors of peace they're going to help you
and try to get your life peaceful and to be a counselor of peace is a good thing but look what
it says the seed is in the heart of them and imagine evil so there's people in our lives
that might not they might seem like they're friends but they're not really friends
you know i call them frenemies you ever heard of that term frenemies anyway there's people in our
lives that hey you gotta you gotta be discerning and know what friends to go to council for and
which ones not to so see there's also other people that we go to for wisdom and for counsel pastors
pastors of your pastor is a good resource to go to for godly counsel and you know what i would
expect the pastor to to give you godly advice from the bible and so if you're looking for
your pastor to tell you what you want to hear and as as i know pastor shelley he's not the type of
pastor who's just going to tell you what you want to hear he's going to tell you what you need to
hear and so you know your pastor can be your friend and your resource in that way so the
bible says in proverbs chapter 11 verse 14 go ahead and turn there i'm trying to make it easy
for you so you can just really navigate it quickly because the book of proverbs has a lot to say about
giving getting wisdom and getting counsel it says where no counsel is the people fall but in the
multitude of counselors there is safety so you know if you don't if you never go to people for
counsel if you never go to god for counsel you're going to fall that's what the bible says right
but it says but in the multitude of counselors there is safety so hey maybe you should check
with a couple different people you check with the bible obviously is your number one resource
and maybe some good close friends that you trust their counsel and maybe you go to your pastor and
you know some decisions are hard they really are you know my daughter just had to have gallbladder
surgery taken out and she was wrestling with the decision of whether to actually get it taken out
or not or go the natural route so but going the natural route when your gallbladder is filled
with stones once it's once it's to that point i mean it's pretty hard to apple cider vinegar
that thing and and clean it out the way it should be all right so so she tried but it was too far
gone so ultimately she had to make the decision and you know what i counseled her to do get it
out because if you can live without it that's a good thing you know i mean it's obviously best
to have a gallbladder that works but her mother you know 20 years or 17 years ago had to have
the same procedure and they said it was the worst gallbladder they'd ever seen and so then nia
decides to share us a picture of a gallbladder being cut open yeah i'm glad i didn't have my
breakfast right there at the table at the time but like when you see a gallbladder cut open you
see all those stones it's pretty it's pretty gruesome and i just at that point the apple
cider vinegar is not going to help you i'll just tell you that right now so she but she was
wrestling with it for weeks and trying to make this decision because she wanted she you know
nobody wants to have surgery but sometimes we need to go to other people for advice
and find out what the wise thing to do is and of course she finally listened to her dad and she was
wise in doing so because but i mean obviously there's a risk in everything that we do so
sometimes we have to risk those decisions for the best decision so which is unfortunate but anyway
so the bible says in proverbs 20 verse 5 turn to proverbs chapter 20 verse 5 it says in proverbs
chapter 20 verse 5 it says counsel in the heart of man is like deep water but a man of understanding
will draw it out so i mean if you're just thinking about like a well you know and you got to get that
bucket all the way down to the bottom of this deep water to get what are you trying to get
something that's going to help save your life right something that you know water is something
that we really need i'm thirsty right now so i need a deep well i got i got some water here
that's i'm good yeah you can bring me another bottle if you want or something i'll try not to
knock it off on anybody or anything like that so but uh yeah i want to start talking about water
my mouth just got super dry thank you so anyway uh counsel is like a counsel in the heart of a
man is like deep water so there are count some counsel that you can get out of man that is
i'm going to give you understanding a man of understanding is going to draw that out
and you're going to attain to that wise counsel so turn to proverbs chapter 24 verse number six
proverbs chapter 24 verse number six
bible says for by wise counsel thou shalt make thy war and in multitude of counselors there is
safety so when you're talking about war obviously we wore a different type of warfare as christians
but how how do we do that well we get wise counsel i mean just think about how how much
planning there has to be for soul winning i mean some people just show up they get a map they go
out but you know there's a council that goes on in this church for war to take place and hey what
are we doing we're trying to conquer this land for god in a spiritual way so when we go to i
mean if you apply it spiritually when we go to war hey it's good to have a multitude of counselor
there is safety in the multi you know and you just think about people in real war in general
war you know they have a security council for like the president they have councils for all
these different war departments and there's a reason why because you don't always see all the
angles you know so when you're making a decision for yourself that's a serious decision you want
to be able to see all the angles and sometimes we want what we want right we want to do this
but we we want we're wise enough to say hey maybe i'm not seeing this all correctly maybe i need
to look at this with some other points of view and it's good to have those that we trust that
we can go to in big decisions now obviously you know whether you go to work tomorrow or not hey
should i go to work tomorrow or not yeah you should go to work tomorrow okay that's that's
not a hard thing to figure out now if you have covid maybe that's a decision you need to make
differently but i'm just saying that not everything needs some type of deep counseling to go to right
but we should go when we feel like you're not you're unsure about the decision or maybe you
just want to get a second point of view now who to not go to for council who do you not go to
for council again unsafe friends unsafe family members false prophets you know if all you do
is sit around and watch false prophets all the time to find out how false they are you know
you don't want to get your counsel from people like that right you don't want to get your counsel
from you know hey should i still should i go to this church or not the guy doesn't even go to
church like why would you ask a person that doesn't go to church whether that you should go
to this church or not why do you listen to your parents or your family members when they say your
church is a cult you know don't go to that church that's bad advice because you're getting that from
a person that's not saved and then you know some people are just like well am i really in a cult
you know you're not in a cult i mean cults don't kick 95 people out in one year all right hundred
okay excuse me so but look at the buildings filled with people and why because you know
the the bad people got to get kicked out and so don't look don't go to the world for your advice
on what to do with church don't go to your friends your unsaved friends about different
types of advice and definitely don't go to false prophets don't go to your family members
don't go to your parents that don't spank to ask whether you should spank
what who do you who would you go to first the bible right what does god say to do
thou shalt beat right thou shalt beat now i'm not saying child abuse because people take that word
beat you know if you do this it's just it's beating right it doesn't have to be like with
a sledgehammer you know even though sometimes no i'm just kidding so you know for marriage
marriage advice you'd want to go to the person that has a rock-solid marriage or your pastor
they should be an example of a good marriage in the church so hey if you're having marriage
problems don't be too ashamed to go to someone with your marriage problems that could help you
you know but who are you going to go to the person that got married two weeks ago
i mean you're still figuring things out right you're still leaving the toilet seat open
guys you know you get woken up a couple times with that one that's that's not good
so uh yeah don't go to the people that are newly married for your marriage advice go to people
that have been married for a long time or they are rock solid in their marriage and you know
not like the person that's been married for five minutes so don't and don't ask divorced people
for marriage advice and look i'm not against divorced people i'm not trying to like harp
on people that have been divorced before but i'm just saying if you didn't if you didn't do it
right the first time or it failed for some reason why would you go to someone that failed
in their marriage to try to draw that wise counsel from them it's just not a good idea
it's like going to a fat person for advice on working out okay or something like that so
but uh don't ask the most backslidden person in the church um advice about church life you know
if someone that doesn't come but once every month you know like i'm not mad at you for not coming
at or that you come every month you should go to you should be three to thrive though if you can't
be if you go to church with all your might i think i heard a sermon about going to church with all
your might you know make sure you bring a bible with you um but you don't want to go to the most
backslidden member in the church to get spiritual advice i would say i mean does that make sense
that's pretty basic stuff so you know i know you haven't been in church for three weeks but what
do you think about the you know don't ask that person go to the person that you that you would
see as more spiritual and and ask them and obviously you have your pastor as a resource and
you know definitely uh some great men of god in this church you go to for advice
and definitely don't go don't go to the preaching of a false prophet turn to jeremiah chapter 5
verse 31 jeremiah chapter 5 verse 31
there's nothing new under the sun there's nothing new under the sun the things that were happening
back in bible times are the same things that we see happen today you know you talk about you
think about the the woman that was you know had spent all of her money and all of her living on
physicians guess what people still do the same thing today they go to the physicians
and they drain them dry and they're still not healed right those things still happen today
but you know what people were still going to false prophets and listening to false prophets
back in the day just like they are now but today it's even worse it's like they're heaping to
themselves teachers having itching ears that's what the bible says in the last times and you
know what we're in the last times so look what jeremiah 5 verse 31 says it says the prophets
prophesy falsely and the priests bear rule by their means and my people love to have it so
and what will you do in the end thereof my people love to have it so so what does that tell you
right there the god's people actually say people do go and listen to false prophets and why because
they want to hear what they're saying because what they're saying is not right they want to
live their life the way the false prophets are telling them to live instead of how god's telling
them to live they love to have it so that's why they heap to themselves teachers having itching
ears you ever wonder why someone defends a false prophet that probably is saved it's because they're
listening to what they want to hear instead of what they should hear and that's why you need
to make sure to go to the right people when you're going to go and get counsel go to the
right people the bible says in romans 12 2 it says and be not conformed to this world but be
transformed by the renewing of your mind that you may prove what is that good acceptable and perfect
will of god so don't go to the world be not conformed with this world don't go to the world
for your advice go to god for his advice go to good friends that have sound doctrine and sound
beliefs and go to your pastor or your other resources that are spiritual in your life
for your advice all right so number two getting wisdom when it's given so it's not just important
to go to the right people for your advice it's also important to get that advice and receive
it unto yourselves you know a lot of people are hearers you know they're they're they're
not but they're not doers they hear the word of god but don't do it they immediately walk away
and forget what manner of man they were and it's important that once we get advice and once we get
counsel from somebody that we apply it to our lives and we and we take that and receive that
wisdom and that knowledge so turn to proverbs chapter 12 verse 15 proverbs chapter 12 verse 15
see god counsels us to go get counsel look what it says the way of a fool is right in his own
eyes but he that hearkeneth unto wise counsel he that hearkeneth unto wise counsel he you're
supposed to hearken unto it you're supposed to receive it listen and receive it so that's very
important to to get so once you hear the wise counsel you hearken to it and and then proverbs
chapter 4 verse 5 proverbs chapter 4 verse 5 it says get wisdom see it's not just go for wisdom
but get wisdom get understanding forget it not neither decline from the words of my mouth
so god tells us to get it not just to go for it but to get it it says forsake her not and
she shall preserve thee love her and she shall keep thee wisdom is the principal thing therefore
get wisdom with all thy getting so it's like get wisdom with all thy might with everything you can
do get wisdom you need to get it and with all thy getting get understanding so don't just go for it
but get it and use it you know some people get it but they just ignore it or i mean they go for it
and they ignore it and they don't get it have you heard that saying they just don't get it that's
true you know they just have you heard that saying it just goes right over their head you tell
somebody something just goes right over their head that's kind of like going for wisdom but
then not receiving it you're not getting it turn to proverbs chapter 19 verse 20 proverbs chapter
19 verse 20 so what are we talking about we're talking about getting that wisdom not just going
for the wisdom but getting that wisdom and proverbs chapter 19 verse 20 says hear counsel
and receive instruction hear counsel you hear it and receive it receive instruction that thou mayest
be wise in thy latter end you know and you we should be prepared for the end of our life
to some extent you know and i'm preaching myself of course at this second because i don't even
have a will man i'm bad so but if i die just you're my witnesses right now that everything
goes through my wife so all right so if anybody the kids want to fight for anything i don't have
anyway then uh you can have the five dollars in my pocket honey no i'm just kidding but you know
look we got to receive wisdom we got to receive instruction we got to hear that counsel be wise
in thy latter end and you know it's really unfortunate today living in the united states
of america because really the way that you can save for your retirement is to play the stock
market so it really makes it difficult every angle in our society is just ungodly pretty much
it's really difficult to save in and be wise and i ladder in in that way you know it's like hey
should i put more money towards my 401k a bunch of jews on wall street they just want to rob
our savings and things you know whenever they get a chance do you think that the people on
wall street are godly probably not like they're they probably love money they probably love
ripping people off and they love suckering people so it's really difficult but you know what the
bible says that god's going to take care of us anyway so but should we be wise to our latter
end i think we should we should do what we can to at least give our children an inheritance to
make sure our wives are taken care of right so turn to proverbs chapter 15 verse 22 proverbs
chapter 15 verse 22 the bible says without counsel purposes are disappointed without counsel
purposes are disappointed and that's where you have to look at this angle that you you the way
when we think of a decision we're thinking we think of a lot of different things but you don't
always think of the angle that's not you know that angle you don't see that's why you have to
have people to help you protect that blind spot that you have it says but in the multitude of
counselors they are established so it's good to go especially for a big decision to a multitude
of counselors i have people that i trust that i go to counsel for if i have a big decision and
i'm just kind of need some extra advice i'll go to my pastor friends you know i'll go to friends
that i have in the church that uh you know that i trust their advice you know and it says in a
multitude of counselors the purpose of those purposes are going to be established and so
you know if you if you go to god's word for counsel don't take what you know you got you're
supposed to take what the bible says to heart and if you don't do that it's obviously not going to
help you you have to take god's word to heart or it's not going to help you in the wisdom department
so but if and if you ask your pastor for advice about moving for a job or marrying a divorce
person or moving to a place with a with no good church you should expect something from the bible
that they're going to say to you right and this is people like to opinion shop they really do
and look and i don't want to discourage people from going to pastors i don't want my people to be
discouraged about coming to me about stuff but hey if you don't plan on listening to anything i have
to say maybe you should just ask somebody else because you know what's really frustrating for
pastors i'm just going to let you in on a little secret is when you come to them for counsel and
you completely they completely ignore everything that you said it is frustrating and and then you
just have to sit there and watch their life unravel because they didn't listen to the council it's not
like it's my council when someone comes to me about a situation like that you know what i do
i open up the bible and i tell them what the bible says and then let them make that decision
but it really is hurtful for me to watch people that i love you know destroy themselves because
they won't listen to the council of god so um or any unbiblical position that people come to me with
and people come to me about marriage advice a lot and they come to me about moving they
come to me about all kinds of things they come to me uh just you know and i'm i want people to come
to me don't get me wrong i want people to come to me for counsel i don't want people to be shy
to come to me and look you don't have to listen to me or if you don't think what i'm saying is
biblical then don't listen to me you know what's the bible say that's that's what i'm going to tell
you as a man of god i'm going to tell you what the bible says and you can see this play out in
jeremiah chapter 42 go ahead and turn to jeremiah chapter 42 where the people the remnant of israel
is left after the babylonian captivity and what are they asking him for moving advice they're
asking him for moving advice you know when people ask for pastor shelley do people ever ask you for
moving advice okay yeah so it's not just me but this could be anything this could be any advice
that you ask the pastor for look at jeremiah chapter 42 verse 1 it says then all the captains
of the forces and johannan the son of korea and jesaniah and the son of hoshea and all the people
from the least even unto the greatest came near and said unto jeremiah the prophet let us
or let we excuse me beseech thee our supplication be accepted before thee and pray for us unto the
lord thy god even for all this remnant so he's asking they're coming to jeremiah the prophet
nobody's been listening to the jeremiah the prophet for years and he's been telling them
everything that's going to happen to him now the things that he's been saying all these years
finally happened to him they're like okay we're going to go to jeremiah the prophet
and it says for we are left but a few of many as thine eyes do behold us that the lord thy god may
show us the way wherein we may walk and the thing that we may do then jeremiah the prophet said
unto them i have heard you behold i will pray unto the lord your god according to your words
and it shall come to pass that whatsoever thing the lord shall answer you i will declare it unto
you i will keep nothing back from you that's what a good man of god is supposed to do right he's
going to keep nothing back he's going to answer whatever god says right then they said to jeremiah
the lord be a true and faithful witness between us if we do not even according to all the things
to which the lord thy god shall send thee to us so they're saying we're going to do it you know
before he even gives them their answer they're saying no matter what god says that's what we're
going to do and that really should be our attitude and it says whether it be good or whether it be
evil we will obey the voice of the lord our god to whom we send thee that it may be well with us
when we obey the voice of the lord our god so they're laying it on pretty thick they're like
no no matter what we're going to listen we're going to obey whatever god says that's what we're
going to do and so then he tells them like 10 days later so he prays about it 10 days later
he tells them that if they move to egypt they're going to be destroyed just like the babylonians
destroyed the children of israel he tells them to stay in the land he tells them that god's
going to take care of them where they're at don't go to egypt and what is egypt egypt is like a
symbol of the world and so if god says don't go to egypt he's basically saying hey you're going
to get destroyed if you go to egypt stay here let god take care of you listen and obey what
god says and goodness is going to happen to you but look at what they said look at chapter 43
verse 1 remember they said they're going to obey him right here's what they said here's what
happens and it came to pass that when jeremiah made an end of speaking unto all the people all
the words of the lord their god for which the lord their god had sent him to them even all these
words then spake azeriah the son of hoshea and johannan the son of korea and all the proud men
saying unto jeremiah thou speak is falsely the lord our god hath not sent thee to say
go not into egypt to sojourn there so what happens they didn't get the answer that they
wanted and so what did they do they told the they told the preacher he's speaking falsely
and where did he get his answer from straight from god so basically what are they doing they're
spitting in god's face yeah don't go to the man of god for answers he gives you the word of the
lord and tells you what the bible says and then you just spit in his face it's annoying but you
know what i'll still be there to pick up the pieces for you you know people make people are
going to make the wrong decisions i've made the wrong decisions in my life i've had to reap what
i've sown everybody does some people are just more hard-headed than others but ultimately hey you can
still get it right you can still have a second chance if you've messed up and and done something
you probably shouldn't have but what is i mean these guys are buttering jeremiah up but they
just obviously don't think that that's what he's going to say see they already have it preconceived
in their mind what they're going to do this is what i call opinion shopping and this is what
people will do when they go to council for a bunch of people they're like okay this is what
pastor thompson said this is what pastor chelly said this was pastor mahina said this is the
pastor i mean if you're going to pastors right and then they're gonna they want to go with the thing
that they that they want to do in their heart already and so that's not how we should get
counsel when we get counsel from somebody and you know it's rock solid but it goes against
every fiber in your being because look if you're being led by the spirit you're gonna you're gonna
choose the spiritual thing but if you're being led by the flesh to do something then the flesh
is going to tell you that what that person's saying is not right you see that so look over
it says but baruch the son of niraya set the on against us for to deliver us into the hand
of the caldians that they might put us to death and carry us away captives in babylon
so what ends up happening they go to egypt and guess what happens to them they get destroyed
you know they were afraid of the king of babylon and then jeremiah gets up there and it's and he
says this pavilion is going to be over the top of the very place that i hide uh these writings in so
you know they they chose the wrong thing they go against what god's word says and what happens they
get destroyed and so the bible says my people uh are destroyed for lack of knowledge my people
are destroyed for lack of wisdom so hey we should get wisdom with all of our getting get as much as
you can get it from god get it from people you trust get it from your pastor and receive that
get it so again there's nothing more irritating than someone that comes to you for that wisdom
and then they don't take it it's annoying but it doesn't mean i still don't love them
but it's just hard to watch because you know what's gonna what's gonna happen you know what
the bible says is gonna happen when people get away from him it's gonna be hard on their lives
so um i've had people come to me and say hey you know this person that i really love this person
and i want to marry them but they're divorced
and i'm like okay there's seven billion people on the planet
half those are probably women now obviously i wouldn't say that someone should go to an
unsafe person and and and you know obviously i think that someone should believe like you
just because someone's even you know if they're christian they're equally yoked but some christians
don't agree on things you know so and obviously catholics will call themselves christian
but some people go to they just want to get married so bad that they'll go into the into
a place where they shouldn't get somebody and try to marry that person and they because they
think they can change them but you know what's going to happen that person's going to change you
if you're dating a woman and and they're like yeah they're totally on board with the new ifb
they totally you know believe everything i believe but then they never come to church
that should be a red flag in your mind don't marry that person because you know what if they do that
in a green tree what do you think they're going to do when they actually have you trapped they know
that you're trapped and they're going to just not go to church ever again and believe me it happens
in our circles it does happen you know you hear all this preaching about don't you know marry
people don't be unequally yoked with people and then people are just like what do you think about
me marrying this divorced person are you what are you talking about what did jesus say
that if you marry a divorced woman you're committing adultery
so out of that seven billion people half of them are women and then if you think maybe two or three
percent of people are actually saved in this world i mean you still got what 760 million people
half that 350 000 well this is you know professing christians i guess i mean even if you get it down
to 10 000 you know even if you get it down to 300 you know if you say i'm going to pick the the girl
that lapis with her tongue the water i'm only going to choose from this 300 you know you still
got 300 you know and people are so you know they're so concerned about how someone looks
all the time why don't you look think about how they look on their heart what are the what are
they like you know beauty is vain i think i heard a sermon about that not too long ago but it's true
beauty is vain so you know if you want the supermodel or whatever or you want the the brad pitt
look like hunk or something what are those people like in real life though you know do you think
that someone that some super some lady that's a supermodel is like this godly christian all
the time it's very rare but think about who you should marry is it should it be a divorced person
you know guess what i'm going to say to you what do you think my advice was to the person
no it's no
should i move to a place where there's no good church what do you think my answer is
every time it's always no it's always no so look if you don't want my opinion on on advice that
i think that would be godly advice to you don't ask me because if you're not willing to listen
to it then just ask somebody else they'll tell you what they want just like kent hovind when
he got wanted to get remarried yeah he went he went to what did he go to like seven pastors that
he trusted and they were his wise counsel and they all told him it's okay to get remarried
why would i know the names of those pastors it's like an email and tell them they're idiots
and that they're morons i think he's on marriage number three now
so i mean look every time i've seen someone get remarried it ends up tragic i mean i'm talking
about when they know what the bible says they know it's wrong it always ends up in a train wreck
so what what's my advice marry someone that's equally yoked with you and they are on board
with you and what you believe and that's a good decision and even then marriage can still be
tough can't it we all we believe the same thing we believe you know that jesus went to hell for
three days and three nights like the bible says we believe that god really did die we believe
those things but you know sometimes our marriages you know people just are you know sometimes they
mix like oil and water and some you know we have to get past our own personal conflicts with each
other to have good marriage so even if all the things line up perfectly that you can still have
marriage problems so think about how bad it would be to have marriage problems when you're married
when you marry outside of your faith well she's catholic so that means she christian so you know
if i like her then i'm going to put a ring on it right that's what people do i've i've actually
watched a guy and i i don't believe in giving unsolicited advice unless it's like a really
a really serious danger for somebody but i told that this guy is like yeah i said hey you're
getting married that's cool i was like where'd she go to church at and he's like oh she's
episcopalian and i was pretty young in the faith at that time but i knew better than to marry an
episcopalian my wife's a baptist amen but anyway i just was like man you know you know you know
they're not really christians right he's like oh no no she she says she's saved uh-huh yeah
yeah every time she drinks the juice or the wine and eats the wafer she's saved right
but they end up having terrible marriage problems i mean and thank god they're still married today
i think maybe she ended up getting saved but that's not always the optimal situation
you know to go through literal terrible marriage counseling and bad super huge battles because
they're not really on board with what you think so when you get your counsel receive that counsel
when you go to that person and and that's good counsel receive that counsel so what i hear when
people say that they're going to do something opposite of what i've told them to do from the
bible or what i advise them to do here's what i hear pastor thompson thou speakest falsely
that's what i hear right you know thou speakest falsely you know god didn't send you to tell me
that well hey uh yeah i know you came to me remember that's the that's the part that they
don't you know they're like you know baruch the sinner niraya said on thee against us well did
they did is that what happened because it sounds to me like they came to jeremiah groveling on
their hands and knees basically to get his opinion so um i had a lady call me one time and said
should i divorce my spouse if they're a reprobate pastor perry said that it was okay
so here's the thing go to wise counsel
i mean he literally preached a sermon where he said it's okay to divorce somebody if they're
a reprobate is that what the bible says was abigail married to a reprobate before she
married david she stayed married to him she knew he was a reprobate but she still stayed married
to him didn't she yeah because there's no there's no verse that says except they be reprobate
hey choose the right spouse that's the point i mean i'm really harping on this right now because
i think it's a big problem in churches like ours where people just you know they know what the
preaching says they know what the bible says but yet they choose the other route why because they
want people the heart wants what it wants love is love
stupid so when people say they're not going to listen to my advice then i just
feel like they're saying pastor thompson they'll speak as falsely
but i had to talk them off you know i don't do i think that that person should stay living with
that reprobate if they're like a fag no i don't and that's when you would just separate from them
but it doesn't say to divorce them separate from them here's what i told them here's my advice
let me ask you if you think this is solid advice leave that person don't let them around your kids
because the guy was a fag and pray that he every day that he dies
there's some good advice i thought it was good advice
do you think it's good advice how about you take pastor perry's advice
which is not biblical which we found in the last couple years
is uh he's got a lot of things that he's not biblical about
so number three this morning this last my last point giving solicited or unsolicited council
giving solicited or unsolicited council so let me say this though when someone's like i said
in a position where they're like say their kids get about to like fall off of something you know
i think it's okay for you to say hey your kid's playing on the electric fence or you know your
kid's playing you know they're they're they're inside the baptistry and they're swimming right
now i mean i think that's okay to tell the parents about that's unsolicited advice hey maybe you
should watch your kid but you know you can be tactful about it but turn to luke chapter 6
verse 30 luke chapter 6 verse number 30
now i realize this isn't exactly perfectly in context as how i'm going to say it but
it the principle applies luke 6 30 it says give to every man that asketh of thee give to every
man that so if someone asks you for your advice you should give it to them now this is talking
mainly probably about you know things that people want to borrow or lend them money or whatever it
says but it says if a man asks you then give him the advice so that's that's a pretty good principle
to follow though because there's these advice people that love to just run around and tell
everybody what they think about everything you know what i'm talking about so there's people
that want to give medical advice about everything there are the medical doctors mds on facebook
and they know every you know essential oil that's going to heal every ailment that they have
okay but then you also have uh you know there's just people that want to just spout off on the
mouth about every single thing and i just don't think that's wise i don't think it's your business
to get into other people's business about everything that they do so even if you think
that the apple cider vinegar is going to cure the ailment you know whatever ailment that is because
from what i know the internet told me that apple cider vinegar heals every single ailment that you
have have you guys heard this i mean heartburn but here's one thing it doesn't heal your teeth
okay you know what it it'll burn the enamel right off your teeth so if you're drinking apple cider
vinegar and you think pastor aaron thompson's a moron i know pastor thompson the apple cider
vinegar heals everything it's like windex you know windex heals every ailment but there's a lot of
snake oils out there isn't there but here's the thing i'm not saying natural things don't help
they do help they can't help and be helpful but to but if you don't really know if you just got
your information when you googled it real quick there's a lot of doctors that do that too
they google your hey it's sore throat okay i think you have strep throat
google i mean webmd told me
so look we we need to be slow to speak sometimes you know your md card needs to just
stay with you put it in your back pocket you don't need to tell everybody everything you know
because maybe you don't know as much as you think you know because if you really think
that apple cider vinegar heals every single ailment then i have some news for you i don't
think it does because like i was telling you about my daughter who you know she tried apple
cider vinegar guess what it didn't work you're like well you know she just wasn't doing it right
she was doing everything that she could do okay she's probably mad at me for telling the story but
eventually she had to get her gallbladder taken out which is what i told her to do over a month
ago so i mean we can go to the internet and find anything that we want everything is true on there
right you guys know bigfoot lives in washington state did you have you guys heard about that
people the internet you know does not go the internet's a great resource and you can learn
the internet's a great resource and you can learn a lot of things but you should you should spare
your opinion on stuff especially if people don't ask you for it so the bible says right here in
luke 631 it says and as you would that men should do to you do ye also to them likewise so however
you want to be treated that's how you should treat other people if you don't like people telling you
what to do the baby you shouldn't tell them what to do you think about that for a second turn to
proverbs chapter 17 verse 27 proverbs chapter 17 verse 27 and i always like to walk on this side
for some reason i think it's because at our church like i'll trip over stuff if i come over here so
i'm sorry i'll come over here for a second all right good all right i'm trying to break some
cycles of my preaching here all right proverbs chapter 17 verse 27 bible says he that hath
knowledge spareth words he that hath knowledge hey you you got a lot of knowledge the bible says you
should spare your words right and a man of understanding is of an excellent spirit even a
fool when he holdeth his peace is counted wise so you could be a big dummy and if you just keep your
mouth shut people will think you're smarter than you really are basically that's saying right and
he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding hey if your opinion doesn't flow
out of your mouth then people aren't going to think you're stupid if you're giving stupid advice
and so just realize it's not always your place to say something to people too
why don't you let them go to the right people you know if you're concerned about them
go to them you know by all means you know and sometimes people are are doing things that they
shouldn't be doing and you could go to that person with a meek spirit and and just kind of just help
that person sometimes people need to be rebuked i understand that but i'm talking about giving
unsolicited advice or giving it or or uh yeah giving solicited or unsolicited advice if someone
doesn't ask you if it's solicited that means someone asks you hey can you give me some advice
about this and then you're like yeah sometimes it's even good to not give it if you don't know
what you're talking about say hey you know i know you want my advice on this but i really
am not an expert on cars maybe you should talk to brother cj and brother cj goes to our church
and he knows a lot about cars so if they ask me their car is going to be a piece of junk by the
time they get done with it because i know nothing i could barely change a windshield wiper as a
matter of fact i drive it to the auto parts place and have them change it for me because it's faster
right i'm all about that speed speed kills no all right so but look you know in this country we
have the freedom of speech and that emboldens people to say more sometimes than they really
ought to but you know you have the freedom of speech but you don't always have the right to
be heard you don't always have you don't people don't have to listen to you you know on youtube
people don't have to listen to what they don't want to listen to that's a great thing about it
is you can go and and watch what you want on there you know except for if you want to watch
somebody ripping fags to shreds then of course it's hard to find that stuff right so look if
you spare your words you hold your peace you shut your mouth you're going to look more wise than
most people and when someone asks you for your advice or your opinion on something that's when
it's time to give your wisdom and knowledge if you have it that makes sense does that principle
make sense but if someone doesn't want your opinion then keep your duck lips shut
keep your what do they call it when girls do this in their selfie pictures the fish
cape keep your fish cape shut keep your duck lips quiet man keep your mouth shut if someone
doesn't ask you then you don't have to tell them well wait no no no no shut up quit telling them
they don't want to hear it you know if you're the person that's the webmd of the church then you
know if people don't want to hear your advice then don't tell it to them if people don't want
to hear your marriage advice when you've been divorced three times then you know just be quiet
if they want your advice they're going to ask you for it and if you do want to give someone advice
because you really feel like you do have something that can help them
then give them that advice but first ask them if you could give it to them
i mean that's a good thing to do don't you think i mean if you
if you ask hey can i would you care if i gave you some unsolicited advice
i've done that because i felt like the need was dire but i don't do it a lot like i was just
saying earlier that we're not a cult you know there's no speakers in my in my church members
houses that have like an alarm to say time to go to church they're called to church
it's time to go to church you know that's what cult members do
that's what my wife went and did a cpr class for this they're called anabaptists but they are a
cult i mean basically she went to teach the class and that like they got the pastor or their leader
got on the loudspeaker and told them they have speakers inside their homes and the pastor or
what was he a pastor you just nod your head yes okay don't you speak in the church no
but they he literally got on the loudspeakers and told everybody to come to the class
how weird would that be that's a cult if the pastor can get into your house and speak without
you having to click on a youtube video you're in a cult all right so um
turn to proverbs chapter 20 verse 3 proverbs chapter 20 verse number 3 and you don't have
oh you do have a clock pastor shall we cool all right i got like two hours left
oh look at this one that's even better nice
when i'm at work sometimes i'll uh people will tell me like if i'm the crew leader
someone will tell me like hey you should do it like this and this you know what i tell them
if i want your advice i'll beat it out of you
so anyway proverbs chapter 20 verse 3 says it is an honor for a man to cease from strife
but every fool will be meddling look it's not our business to meddle in other people's affairs
we're not supposed to be going in and trying to meddle with everybody's lives it says every fool
will be meddling don't be a meddler and i would say this especially for parents and grandparents
of newly married couples i think it's super wicked for you to get involved in your children's marriage
and choose sides and look people that are newly married don't bring your parents into your
marriage because you know what it's going to do it's going to have if it's the wife asking advice
or whatever from the parents or or talking badly about their husband they're going to hate your
husband and then you're going to do irreparable damage to your marriage because they can't keep
their mouths shut to their own parents what's the bible say leave and cleave right that means
once you're gone you're gone they're not you're not accountable to your parents anymore and if
you're a parent it's none of your business what goes on in their marriage maybe you should have
done your due diligence and found out whether that person was good or not but you know once
you're they're married it's too late so keep out of marriages if you look and i would think that
this would be like par for the course in churches like ours but i've seen it where parents get
involved in their kids' lives where they don't belong and it causes damage don't do it if you're
you know there's all ages in this church hey just know that this is a truth that's found in the
bible from the very beginning leave and cleave bye-bye it's time for me to start my own life
with my own family and it because family families getting into your marriage can cause a lot of
problems and i'm not even going to ask for a raise of hands but i know that hands would raise all
around this building if i was to ask if there if you ever had any family members getting to your
marriage and cause problems i mean i could just see it in your head in your faces you're like i
want to raise my hand right now my mother-in-law needs to shut up no
and it is hard sometimes like when you see your kids making mistakes because like my kids are all
married except for josh you know we got to tie a pork chop around the dog's neck so it'll play
with josh but i'm just kidding he's a good kid but uh you know we see our kids sometimes making
mistakes but you know what they're not making as bad as mistakes as we did and so i just you know
i've just learned to i i believe the bible and i believe it's not my job to run my children's
marriages you know and even if i see them making a mistake you know if i did see think it was a
really bad mistake i probably wouldn't treat them and go to them and just say hey you know i i want
to give you some advice would you be willing to listen i will do that i have done that but it's
very rare and you know why because i don't want to meddle in my children's lives like that and as
long as they're doing right they're gonna look we're gonna have problems you know i used to have
a pastor that i thought him and his wife never fought but it's not true you know if you're the
person the the diamond in the rough the one person that you've never been in a fight with your spouse
for your whole marriage come forward right now because you need to step up to an old-fashioned
no i'm just kidding
you need to get your heart right with jesus i told this story the other day in my church but we're
not in my church so i'll tell it again so i had a pastor a couple churches ago and or two you know
before we started our church and he said he went to house anderson baptist college and he said that
his his professor in bible college said you know me and my wife never fight and so he's like you
know newly married he's like man what's wrong with me like why do we always fight so much you
know we're just having all these problems he's like i'm a failure and so then later on like maybe
a couple weeks later he saw him and his wife next to their car in the parking lot fighting
and he's like uh-huh never fights huh and so like he waited of course for a better opportunity to
talk to him he's like i thought you said you and your wife never fight huh he's like that wasn't
a fight that was just a tiff a tiff is a fight okay if you're yelling back and forth that is a
fight okay so we're gonna fight sometimes but hey here's some good advice stay out of other people's
marriages and again the caveat would be if you feel someone's harming themselves or you know
then try try to give them some advice but ask them first let's look at exodus chapter 18
verse number 13 exodus 18 verse number 13 now this is a story about how moses's father-in-law
came to visit him and he was watching how moses did his daily ministration where he's he's
basically sitting from the more the time he gets up in the morning till the till the evening time
and he's judging what people are coming to him for wisdom aren't they and so he's counseling
people and then his father-in-law sees that it's wearing he's going to just wear away because look
i mean people might think the pastor's job is easy but it feels like from the morning you wait the
time you wake up in the morning to the time you go to bed that you're always constantly doing
ministry and whether it's just like talking to someone on the phone giving them counsel or
whatever but pastors you've got to be careful because you know we can wear away and this is
what jethro saw moses doing look at verse 13 it says and it came to pass on the morrow that moses
sat to judge the people and the people stood by moses from the morning unto the evening and when
moses father-in-law saw all that he did to the people he said what is this thing that thou doest
to the people why sittest out thyself alone and all the people stand by thee from morning unto
even and moses said unto his father-in-law because the people come unto me to inquire of god
when they have a matter they come to me and i judge between one and another and i make them
know the statutes of god and his laws and moses father-in-law said unto him the thing that thou
doest is not good so he's giving him unsolicited advice okay but look who he is he's his father-in-law
and he's it's not about his marriage it's about something he just he's just he is trying to help
him now and in this situation he's right to do it because moses is in a situation where he's going
to burn himself out and he's trying to help him with something he thinks is a dire need here
says moses father-in-law said the thing that doest is not good that will surely wear away both you
and this people that is with thee for this thing is too heavy for thee thou are not able to perform
at thyself alone harken now unto my voice listen to what i'm saying to you moses i will give thee
counsel so will you listen to me and i will give you counsel so he does ask him and he says and
god shall be with thee be thou for the people to godward that thou mayest bring the causes unto
god and thou shalt teach them ordinances and laws and shall show them the way wherein they must walk
and the work that they must do moreover thou shalt provide out of all the people able men
such as fear god men of truth hating covetousness excuse me and place the such over them to be
rulers of thousands rulers of hundreds rulers of 50s and rulers of tens and so he's basically
helping moses to get a structure and a system that can help him because he's literally just
night and day giving advice and helping people so literally he's giving him advice on giving people
advice isn't he that's kind of what's going on here it says and let them judge the people at all
seasons and it shall be that every great matter they shall bring unto thee but every small matter
they shall judge so shall it be easier for thyself and they shall bear the burden with thee if thou
shall do this thing and god command thee so then thou shalt be able to endure and all this people
shall also go to their place in peace so moses hearkened to the voice of his father-in-law
and did all that he said and so what did moses do he listened to sound advice and sound counsel from
his father-in-law and you know it helped him i'm sure that probably took years uh added years
unto his life because it said he was going to wear away and i think he was right see you can get so
overburdened with ministry that you don't spend time with your family or you don't uh you know
spend time with your wife you don't spend time with your children and that's not a good place
to be so i think it's right that the men of god will divide up the workload onto other people and
i i'm pretty sure that happens here i'm positive that happens here it happens at my church you know
when i went full time because i'm full time right now which is a blessing amen i thank you for
praying for that i really appreciate it that was a hard decision i went to council with people over
several people and uh you know i i feel like i made the right choice to go full time
but uh and i forgot what i was even where i was even going with that
somebody help me out huh oh delegating work yeah so but when i thank you i appreciate that
i'm getting old right so uh yeah so when it comes to delegating work you know as soon as i went
full time i knew this was going to happen though i prepared my heart for it like hey since you're
full time now so do you want to start doing this no i was working two and a half jobs while i was
doing all this other stuff before so now i'm just trying to and now i have a backlog of things that
needs to get taken care of and so i got plenty of stuff to do so i was like you know how would that
help me if i went full time and then took on everything that everybody else was doing that'd
that'd be difficult wouldn't it that'd be stupid on my part so uh i just cut that head off
immediately as soon as it started to appear but uh hey do you want to take the trash out now no
that's your job you keep doing it all right so anyway um but anyway so i just want to close
the sermon off here but before i do i do you know i know i talked a lot about the medical advice
thing but the reason why it's such a big deal is because literally if you don't know what you're
talking about it could be a life or death situation right you could be telling something
that you got something off the internet and what you're telling them could literally put their life
at risk you know i i saw one video where some lady claimed that she had the cure for strep throat
well you know doctors been trying to do that for a long time so i i think it's very cringy
to see someone put up a youtube video that says i have the cure for strep throat oh really well
you know lots of science doctors would like to know exactly where you got that cure from
it's dangerous it's dangerous to tell somebody that you have this answer that might put them at risk
cayenne pepper apparently is the new snake oil i don't know if you guys have heard of cayenne
pepper before i'm not saying it doesn't have great properties and and purposes in life
but like when i when i i just i just googled it last night of course you know because google is
my md but when i googled it had like 15 things that cayenne pepper does for you and literally
this lady and look god bless her i know she was she meant well probably but somebody's mom was
like her grandma was having a heart attack or something and they they they asked for prayer
on the on the like pray for my grandma she just had a heart attack and then somebody says
take a scoop of cayenne pepper and go and run and stick it underneath her tongue
well i mean you know what if that what would happen if someone would have actually done that
i mean we don't know maybe it would have shocked her right into life i mean i don't know
i don't know enough about it but here's what i what i do know that i would never give that
advice to somebody i mean if someone's saying hey please pray for me what do you think's going to
help more the power of prayer from god or a scoop of cayenne pepper you know what cayenne
pepper does like you can make dogs lose their scent from it it's that powerful so if you put
cayenne if i put cayenne pepper under my tongue right now it goes straight to the bloodstream
and i would just probably turn red and die of a heart attack so hot spicy things can make you have
a heart attack did you anybody know that like it's it's not recommended if you have a bad heart to eat
a lot of spicy food so like when you have a heart attack and then you tell somebody here put this
stuff that will cause an instant heart attack under someone's tongue do you understand what
i'm saying i'm not trying to say that i like i'm not against natural medicine i'm not i'm not
against western medicine either i'm i'm in the middle and sometimes we get too extreme on certain
things and then we want to just give our advice because we we checked it out on naturalnews.com
and they said it's true so just be elite i mean again just go to those principles should i be
saying this to somebody should i should i just shut my lips and and be counted wise you know
those are things that we uh should think about before we go give unsolicited medical advice
because i don't see anybody with stethoscopes on in here i don't see any doctors i mean if
you're a doctor in the building you know obviously you're not gonna wear your stethoscope to church
but some people might no but like look cayenne pepper essential oils coconut oil apple cider
vinegar you know if you had to take all those things just to survive every day
you know you'd be taking a lot of stuff i didn't even mention everything i mean think about that
do you actually take all that stuff every day yep i do well how do you feel you must feel great
but you know the thing i've noticed is the people that are mostly like that
are the most unhealthy people i see so and look i'm not trying to get onto if you like you know
obviously this is probably not a very popular part of this term but you know what what heart
breaching is is when you hear things that you need to hear and you're like well pastor Thompson
you're a moron that'll speak as falsely well i'm just saying think about things before you do them
before you give someone advice that's unsolicited you know think about what you're saying okay
so number one go to the right people for your advice number two get the advice and actually
take it number three make sure you're asking before you give somebody advice and don't give
unsolicited advice unless you ask all right so that's the sermon let's pray heavenly father we
thank you lord so much for steadfast baptist church i pray to be a beacon of light and hope
in the dallas fort worth area for many many years to come pray bless pastor Shelly and his ministry
and his wife and his family and every single person an individual in this room lord there's
many people in here my dear friends and i love them and i pray that you'd bless their lives help
them help us to go to you lord first of all for our advice and for our our wisdom and knowledge
first of all and then lord help us to surround ourselves with people that are wise also can help
us with our knowledge help us to guard our tongues and uh not to say things we shouldn't
say to people when it's not our business to do so or we pray these things in jesus name amen
amen and thank you pastor thompson for coming down here this morning and make sure everybody
come back tonight hear them again preach with that we'll close out with our last song
go ahead and turn in your hymnals to song number 215 heaven came down and glory filled my soul
song number 215
oh what a wonderful wonderful day day i will never forget
after i'd wandered in darkness away jesus my savior i met oh what a tender compassionate friend
he met the need of my heart shadows dispelling with joy i am telling he made all the darkness
depart heaven came down and glory filled my soul when at the cross the savior made me whole
my sins were washed away and my night was turned today heaven came down and glory filled my soul
born of the spirit with life from above into god's family divine justified fully through
calvary's love oh what a standing is mine and the transaction so quickly was made
when as a sinner i came took up the offer of grace and proper he saved me oh praise his dear name
heaven came down and glory filled my soul
when at the cross the savior made me whole
my sins were washed away and my night was turned today heaven came down and glory filled my soul
now i have a hope that will surely endure after the passing of time i have a future in heaven for
sure there in those mansions sublime and it's because of that wonderful day when at the cross
i believe rich is eternal and blessing supernal from his precious hand i receive heaven came down
and glory filled my soul when at the cross the savior made me whole my sins were washed away
and my night was turned today heaven came down and glory filled my soul
heaven came down and glory filled my soul
oh thank you all for coming this morning y'all good afternoon god bless
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