WEBVTT 00:05.400 --> 00:10.200 Bless his church, bless his time in your word, and bless his offering of his name. 01:18.600 --> 01:23.800 turn in your Bibles to 1st Samuel chapter 20, 1st Samuel chapter 20. 01:29.600 --> 01:31.640 as is our custom, we'll read the entire chapter, 01:31.640 --> 01:33.500 so please follow along silently. 01:41.600 --> 01:45.440 1 Samuel chapter 20. The Bible reads, 01:45.440 --> 01:50.080 And David fled from Naoth in Ramah, and came and said before Jonathan, 01:50.080 --> 01:54.240 What have I done? What is mine iniquity? And what is my sin before thy father, 01:54.240 --> 01:58.160 that he seeketh my life? And he said unto him, God forbid thou 01:58.160 --> 02:01.280 shalt not die. Behold, my father will do nothing either 02:01.280 --> 02:03.840 great or small, but that he will show it me. 02:03.840 --> 02:07.600 And why should my father hide this thing from me? It is not so. 02:08.100 --> 02:10.260 And David sweared moreover and said, 02:10.260 --> 02:14.260 Thy father certainly knoweth that I have found grace in thine eyes. 02:14.260 --> 02:18.100 And he saith, Let not Jonathan know this, lest he be grieved. 02:18.100 --> 02:21.460 But truly, as the Lord liveth, and as thy soul liveth, 02:21.460 --> 02:24.500 there is but a step between me and death. 02:24.500 --> 02:28.020 Then said Jonathan unto David, Whatsoever thy soul desireth, 02:28.020 --> 02:30.200 I will even do it for thee. 02:30.500 --> 02:35.700 And David said unto Jonathan, Behold, tomorrow is the new moon, and I should not fail to sit with 02:35.700 --> 02:41.620 the king at meet, but let me go, that I may hide myself in the field unto the third day at even. 02:42.260 --> 02:47.300 If thy father at all miss me, then say David earnestly asked leave of me, that he might run 02:47.300 --> 02:53.300 to Bethlehem his city, for there is a yearly sacrifice there for all the family. If he say 02:53.300 --> 02:56.260 thus, it is well, thy servant shall have peace. 02:57.000 --> 03:01.000 but if he be very wroth, then be sure that evil is determined by him. 03:01.800 --> 03:07.560 Therefore thou shalt deal kindly with thy servant, for thou hast brought thy servant into a covenant 03:07.560 --> 03:13.320 of the Lord with thee. Notwithstanding, if there be in me iniquity, slay me thyself, 03:13.320 --> 03:15.320 for why shouldest thou bring me to thy father? 03:16.200 --> 03:22.040 And Jonathan said, Far be it from thee, for if I knew certainly that evil were determined by my 03:22.040 --> 03:28.280 father to come upon thee, then would not I tell it thee? Then said David to Jonathan, Who shall 03:28.280 --> 03:34.680 tell me? Or what if thy father answered thee roughly? And Jonathan said unto David, Come and 03:34.680 --> 03:39.960 let us go out into the field. And they went out, both of them, into the field. And Jonathan said 03:39.960 --> 03:41.960 unto David, O Lord God of Israel, 03:42.600 --> 03:48.120 when I have sounded my father about tomorrow any time or the third day and behold if there be good 03:48.120 --> 03:54.360 toward David and I then send not unto thee and show it thee the Lord do so and much more to 03:54.360 --> 03:59.800 Jonathan but if it please my father to do the evil then I will show it thee and send thee away 03:59.800 --> 04:04.280 that thou mayest go in peace and the Lord be with thee as he hath been with my father 04:05.200 --> 04:10.240 And thou shalt not only while yet I live show me the kindness of the Lord that I die not, 04:11.120 --> 04:14.880 but also thou shalt not cut off thy kindness from my house forever. 04:14.880 --> 04:20.000 No, not when the Lord had cut off the enemies of David, every one from the face of the earth. 04:21.040 --> 04:24.480 So Jonathan made a covenant with the house of David saying, 04:24.480 --> 04:27.760 let the Lord even require it at the hand of David's enemies. 04:28.300 --> 04:34.220 And Jonathan caused David to swear again, because he loved him, for he loved him as he loved his own soul. 04:34.220 --> 04:40.540 Then Jonathan said to David, Tomorrow is the new moon, and thou shalt be missed, because thy seat will be empty. 04:40.540 --> 04:51.260 And when thou hast stayed three days, then thou shalt go down quickly, and come to the place where thou didst hide thyself when the business was in hand, and shalt remain by the stone easel. 04:51.600 --> 04:54.600 and I will shoot three arrows on the side thereof, 04:54.600 --> 04:57.000 as though I shot at a mark. 04:57.000 --> 04:59.300 And behold, I will send a lad saying, 04:59.300 --> 05:01.040 Go find out the arrows. 05:01.040 --> 05:02.580 If I expressly say unto the lad, 05:02.580 --> 05:04.880 Behold, the arrows are on this side of thee, 05:04.880 --> 05:08.720 take them, then come thou, for there is peace to thee, 05:08.720 --> 05:10.920 and know her as the Lord liveth. 05:10.920 --> 05:12.680 But if I say thus unto the young man, 05:12.680 --> 05:15.420 Behold, the arrows are beyond thee, go thy way, 05:15.420 --> 05:17.220 for the Lord hath sent thee away. 05:17.900 --> 05:24.220 And as touching the matter, which thou and I have spoken of, behold the Lord be between thee and me 05:24.220 --> 05:29.260 forever. So David hid himself in the field, and when the new moon was come, the king sat him down 05:29.260 --> 05:36.460 to eat meat. And the king sat upon his seat, as at other times, even upon a seat by the wall, 05:36.460 --> 05:40.620 and Jonathan arose, and Abner sat by Saul's side, and David's place was empty. 05:41.200 --> 05:46.080 Nevertheless, Saul spake not anything that day, for he thought something hath befallen him. 05:46.080 --> 05:51.920 He is not clean, surely he is not clean. And it came to pass on the morrow, which was the second 05:51.920 --> 05:56.720 day of the month, that David's place was empty. And Saul said unto Jonathan his son, Wherefore 05:56.720 --> 06:02.720 cometh not the son of Jesse to meet, neither yesterday nor today? And Jonathan answered Saul, 06:02.720 --> 06:06.080 David earnestly asked leave of me to go to Bethlehem. 06:06.300 --> 06:11.340 And he said, Let me go, I pray thee, for our family hath a sacrifice in the city, and my brother, 06:11.340 --> 06:16.860 he hath commanded me to be there. And now, if I have found favor in thine eyes, let me get away, 06:16.860 --> 06:21.500 I pray thee, and see my brethren. Therefore he cometh not unto the king's table. 06:22.300 --> 06:27.820 Then Saul's anger was kindled against Jonathan, and he said unto him, Thou son of the perverse, 06:27.820 --> 06:28.780 rebellious woman. 06:29.800 --> 06:36.520 Do not I know that thou hast chosen the son of Jesse to thine own confusion and under the confusion of thy mother's nakedness? 06:36.520 --> 06:43.000 For as long as the son of Jesse liveth upon the ground, thou shalt not be established nor thy kingdom. 06:43.000 --> 06:47.720 Wherefore now send and fetch him unto me, for he shall surely die.' 06:47.720 --> 06:53.480 And Jonathan answered Saul his father and said unto him, Wherefore shall he be slain? What have they done? 06:53.800 --> 06:59.320 and saw cast a javelin at him to smite him, whereby Jonathan knew that it was determined 06:59.320 --> 07:05.080 of his father to slay David. So Jonathan arose from the table in fierce anger and did eat no meat 07:05.080 --> 07:09.880 the second day of the month, for he was grieved for David because his father had done him shame. 07:10.680 --> 07:15.400 And it came to pass in the morning that Jonathan went out into the field at the time appointed 07:15.400 --> 07:20.920 with David and a little lad with him, and he said unto the lad, Run, find out now the arrows which 07:20.920 --> 07:21.420 I shoot. 07:22.000 --> 07:24.600 And as the lad ran, he shot an arrow beyond him. 07:24.600 --> 07:26.700 And when the lad was come to the place of the arrow, 07:26.700 --> 07:28.240 which Jonathan had shot, 07:28.240 --> 07:30.040 Jonathan cried after the lad and said, 07:30.040 --> 07:32.180 Is not the arrow beyond thee? 07:32.180 --> 07:33.780 And Jonathan cried after the lad, 07:33.780 --> 07:36.420 Make speed, haste, stay not. 07:36.420 --> 07:38.280 And Jonathan's lad gathered up the arrows 07:38.280 --> 07:40.160 and came to his master. 07:40.160 --> 07:41.660 But the lad knew not anything, 07:41.660 --> 07:44.200 only Jonathan and David knew the matter. 07:44.200 --> 07:46.920 And Jonathan gave his artillery unto his lad 07:46.920 --> 07:49.600 and said unto him, go, carry them to the city. 07:49.900 --> 07:55.980 And as soon as the lad was gone, David arose out of a place toward the south and fell on his face to the ground, 07:55.980 --> 08:02.220 and bowed himself three times, and they kissed one another and wept, one with another, until David acceded. 08:02.220 --> 08:08.220 And Jonathan said to David, Go in peace, for as much as we have sworn, both of us, in the name of the Lord, saying, 08:08.220 --> 08:12.700 The Lord be between me and thee, and between my seed and thy seed, forever. 08:12.700 --> 08:16.060 And he arose and departed, and Jonathan went into the city. 08:16.200 --> 08:18.200 Brother Bill can you pray for us? 08:30.400 --> 08:35.400 Amen. We're in 1st Samuel chapter number 20. 08:35.400 --> 08:38.400 And we... 08:38.400 --> 08:41.400 Well, the title of my sermon is, That's What Friends Are For. 08:41.400 --> 08:47.400 So, I'm going to play on a song from the 80s by Stevie Wonder. 08:47.400 --> 08:50.400 And Celine...not Celine Dion, it's Dionne Warwick. 08:50.400 --> 08:52.400 One of those Dionnes. Anyway. 08:52.400 --> 08:55.400 But this is obviously... 08:56.600 --> 09:00.100 It's kind of the parting of ways between David and Jonathan. 09:00.100 --> 09:05.200 This is the last time they really get to hang out for any given time as friends, 09:05.200 --> 09:08.900 and it's kind of a bitter parting. 09:08.900 --> 09:14.000 And they kind of have to part as not enemies, 09:14.000 --> 09:19.000 but they're both on opposing sides because there's no doubt at the end of this chapter 09:19.000 --> 09:24.400 that Saul is determined to kill David, even though Jonathan doesn't really want to believe it. 09:24.700 --> 09:29.140 Because in the last chapter, just to kind of recap a little bit here, Saul wanted to 09:29.140 --> 09:34.880 kill David, but Jonathan was able to kind of talk him down, talk him out of it. 09:34.880 --> 09:40.460 And Saul seemed to be, you know, truly not really wanting to do it, but he has these 09:40.460 --> 09:44.420 fits of madness where he kind of just goes crazy. 09:44.420 --> 09:47.340 That evil spirit from the Lord comes upon him. 09:47.340 --> 09:48.220 and all. 09:48.700 --> 09:51.700 You know, he just slowly is losing his mind. 09:51.700 --> 09:56.020 And it's what people say, you're going crazy or whatever. 09:56.020 --> 09:58.380 We call people crazy or whatever. 09:58.380 --> 10:00.980 We don't really use the word madness. 10:00.980 --> 10:04.660 We misuse the word mad today as in angry, 10:04.660 --> 10:06.820 but madness is when you've. 10:07.000 --> 10:12.520 kind of lost your marbles. And you can come out of madness. People can be cured from those things. 10:12.520 --> 10:18.520 Obviously there's some that there's some things that you can't be cured from, but you can have 10:18.520 --> 10:24.520 times when you're kind of disheveled and you know you go through something really traumatic and 10:24.520 --> 10:29.720 your mind can snap back from a lot of different things, but Saul's mind doesn't really ever do 10:29.720 --> 10:34.000 that. He has times when he does have... 10:34.100 --> 10:41.700 when he seems like he's okay for a little bit, but then he just goes right back to wanting to kill David, wanting to kill David. 10:43.600 --> 10:48.740 Yeah, as soon as Saul, I mean David, like in the last chapter, David is restored to 10:48.740 --> 10:53.140 his position just for a little bit and then Saul, that evil spirit comes upon him and 10:53.140 --> 10:57.260 David plays for him like he did at other times and then Saul does his favorite thing that 10:57.260 --> 10:59.220 he likes to do is throw a javelin at somebody. 10:59.220 --> 11:04.800 So he throws a javelin at David, David flees to Samuel for refuge and then of course we 11:04.800 --> 11:05.280 of that. 11:05.700 --> 11:08.180 kind of interesting strange story where 11:09.020 --> 11:13.300 David was with Samuel. Samuel's kind of in charge of those prophets and 11:13.980 --> 11:16.820 they start prophesying then everybody that Saul sends 11:17.500 --> 11:21.420 starts prophesying or preaching, they're just preaching. 11:21.420 --> 11:24.700 And then finally Saul comes because everybody stays there 11:24.700 --> 11:26.220 preaching or whatever. 11:26.220 --> 11:29.580 And then Saul's preaching too and takes off all of his 11:29.580 --> 11:31.420 clothes and stays there for the whole night, 11:31.420 --> 11:33.780 which is kind of just a strange story. 11:33.780 --> 11:38.460 But you know, Saul is in a strange state of mind. 11:38.460 --> 11:39.700 But he is preaching. 11:39.700 --> 11:42.300 So, just not the... 11:42.600 --> 11:47.960 type of sermon that I might want to be there in presence for, you know, where he takes all his 11:47.960 --> 11:53.720 clothes off and is preaching all night. That might be one I want to catch on CD or something, or you know. 11:54.400 --> 11:58.400 whatever, download that one and stream it without having to see it. 11:58.400 --> 12:04.000 So anyway, so David is there with Samuel and so that's where we're picking up the story 12:04.000 --> 12:05.000 here. 12:05.000 --> 12:09.520 So the first thing we see is David reaches out to Jonathan for help. 12:09.520 --> 12:12.960 So he's gone to Samuel, he's kind of going to people that he thinks might be able to 12:12.960 --> 12:13.960 help him. 12:13.960 --> 12:19.280 Obviously Samuel temporarily, Samuel's an old man at this point. 12:19.280 --> 12:19.300 you 12:19.500 --> 12:26.700 And basically, his thing was to basically, he helped whereas the Holy Spirit came upon 12:26.700 --> 12:33.660 Saul and came upon everybody that was sent there and they were preaching, but that's 12:33.660 --> 12:35.500 only going to stave him off for so long. 12:36.100 --> 12:39.700 And I think that's where, you know, I'm sure he gave him some decent advice, but 12:40.900 --> 12:48.340 now David has to go and reach out to the prince, the next in line for the kingdom. And in reality, 12:48.340 --> 12:52.500 he's not next in line. David's next in line. So verse number one, it says, 12:52.500 --> 12:57.460 And David fled from Naoth in Rama and came and said before Jonathan, 12:57.460 --> 13:03.300 What have I done? What is my iniquity? And what is my sin before thy father, that he seeketh my life? 13:03.900 --> 13:07.540 And he said unto him, God forbid thou shalt not die. 13:07.540 --> 13:10.980 Behold, my father will do nothing either great or small, 13:10.980 --> 13:14.060 but that he will show it me. 13:14.060 --> 13:16.740 And why should my father hide this thing from me? 13:16.740 --> 13:17.860 It is not so." 13:17.860 --> 13:20.400 So he's basically just telling David, this isn't true. 13:20.400 --> 13:22.700 It's not happening, because the last thing he knew, 13:22.700 --> 13:24.140 everything was good. 13:24.140 --> 13:27.340 And David swore moreover and said, 13:27.340 --> 13:29.660 thy father certainly knoweth that I have found grace 13:29.660 --> 13:30.500 in thine eyes. 13:30.700 --> 13:34.940 And he saith, Let not Jonathan know this, lest he be grieved. 13:34.940 --> 13:40.020 But truly as the Lord liveth, and as thy soul liveth, there is but a step between me and 13:40.020 --> 13:40.520 death. 13:41.000 --> 13:43.300 And, you know, it's true. 13:43.300 --> 13:46.400 And he's just, you know, Jonathan doesn't want to believe it. 13:46.400 --> 13:52.300 Obviously, Jonathan does love his dad, and he's on his dad's side, but his dad is just wrong. 13:52.300 --> 13:55.900 And, you know, he's in a little bit of disbelief here. 13:55.900 --> 13:59.100 Number two, Jonathan... 14:00.400 --> 14:02.960 He answers David's call for friendship. 14:02.960 --> 14:04.720 So look at verse four. 14:04.720 --> 14:07.720 It says, then said Jonathan unto David, 14:07.720 --> 14:12.240 whatsoever thy soul desireth, I will even do it for thee. 14:12.240 --> 14:15.680 So, you know, the first thing is that, you know, 14:15.680 --> 14:18.440 when we need, that's what Friends Are For 14:18.440 --> 14:19.600 is the title of the sermon. 14:19.700 --> 14:23.140 And friends are supposed to help when you need help. 14:23.140 --> 14:27.300 And also friends should be able to be easily entreated. 14:27.300 --> 14:30.780 If you have a friend and you could never ask them 14:30.780 --> 14:32.380 to help you out with anything, 14:32.380 --> 14:34.180 then that really isn't a very good friend. 14:34.600 --> 14:37.520 I'd say it's probably not a friend at all. 14:37.520 --> 14:39.300 It's like every time you ask them for something, 14:39.300 --> 14:40.220 they never want to help you, 14:40.220 --> 14:42.020 but they always want you to help them. 14:42.020 --> 14:44.240 That's what you call a one-sided friendship. 14:44.240 --> 14:46.900 And usually that's someone that's just using people 14:46.900 --> 14:50.140 to get what they want, and they're not really your friend. 14:50.140 --> 14:52.580 But in this case, David feels very comfortable 14:52.580 --> 14:54.000 coming to Jonathan for help. 14:54.100 --> 14:59.000 and he does it and then he says and then Jonathan does what? 14:59.000 --> 15:03.500 Even though he's not really sure whether what he's saying is 100% accurate, 15:03.500 --> 15:06.000 he's still saying, hey, I'm going to help you. 15:06.000 --> 15:10.700 Hey, whatsoever thy soul desireth, I will even do it for thee. 15:10.700 --> 15:15.200 I mean, when they first met, they made a covenant before this chapter. 15:15.500 --> 15:18.980 And their friendship was just like that. 15:18.980 --> 15:22.620 It's like there's those people that you meet and instantly you just click with them and 15:22.620 --> 15:25.540 they become your friend instantaneously. 15:25.540 --> 15:29.700 And you're willing to do anything for each other and you're best friends or whatever 15:29.700 --> 15:32.340 instantly and that's kind of what happened with them. 15:32.340 --> 15:34.420 And he even started giving David his clothes. 15:34.420 --> 15:37.620 David's very poor, comes from a poor family. 15:37.620 --> 15:38.620 He's a shepherd. 15:38.620 --> 15:40.500 He's used to sleeping out in the field. 15:40.500 --> 15:42.940 He probably smells like a goat or whatever. 15:42.940 --> 15:43.500 I 15:43.500 --> 15:49.380 smells like a sheep or whatever. Yeah, I mean, it's true. It's like, I'm sure that showers 15:49.380 --> 15:52.700 weren't, you know, it's not like they had hot showers that they could take every day. 15:52.700 --> 15:57.580 I mean, he's like, here, please take my clothes. But you know, he gives David, you know, a 15:57.580 --> 16:02.700 bunch of stuff and he's just a good friend to him. And so. 16:03.100 --> 16:05.700 He says, what so ever life's holdings are, I will even do it for thee. 16:05.700 --> 16:07.980 And Jonathan has a history of doing these things. 16:07.980 --> 16:12.780 Hold your finger here, let's go to Proverbs chapter 3 real quick, Proverbs chapter 3. 16:12.780 --> 16:17.980 And this is something that Christians, not only Christians but just friends in general, 16:17.980 --> 16:23.500 should do is when we have a chance to do something for somebody that we can do, we should do 16:23.500 --> 16:23.860 it. 16:24.300 --> 16:29.100 And there's many different verses we could go to, but I'm just going to go to a couple tonight. 16:29.100 --> 16:31.400 Proverbs chapter 3 verse 27 says, 16:31.400 --> 16:34.800 withhold not good from them to whom it is due, 16:34.800 --> 16:37.600 when it is in the power of thine hand. 16:37.800 --> 16:40.920 to do it. When you can help somebody, you should help somebody. 16:40.920 --> 16:44.600 You know, if they're in need and you have the ability to help them, 16:44.600 --> 16:48.080 you should do it if you can. Okay? And 16:48.080 --> 16:51.880 it says in verse 28, say not unto thy neighbor, go and come again 16:51.880 --> 16:54.880 and tomorrow I will give when thou has it by thee. 16:55.200 --> 16:59.760 When you, you know, instead of just like making them jump through, go through the gauntlet 16:59.760 --> 17:03.760 and jump through all these seven levels of hell to get something from you, 17:04.560 --> 17:07.840 hey, just go home and, you know, walk back here tomorrow or something. It's like, 17:07.840 --> 17:10.960 if you have it right there, the Bible is saying just give it to them then, 17:11.520 --> 17:16.560 you know, don't just make them wait and fret. That's not, I mean, this is just talking about 17:16.560 --> 17:18.880 thy neighbor, which might not even be your friend. 17:19.400 --> 17:21.600 But we're supposed to love our neighbor as ourself, right? 17:21.600 --> 17:26.400 Just like Jonathan says that he loves him as his own soul. 17:26.400 --> 17:28.500 Isn't that loving your neighbor as yourself? 17:28.500 --> 17:31.900 So a true friend does love their neighbor as theirself. 17:31.900 --> 17:36.800 I mean, when we go soul-winding, people might not realize this, 17:36.800 --> 17:40.600 but we love them more than some of their best friends love them, 17:40.600 --> 17:44.900 because at least we're taking the opportunity to tell them 17:44.900 --> 17:46.700 about how they can go to heaven. 17:47.200 --> 17:49.200 And they might hate us for being at their door. 17:49.200 --> 17:50.900 They might be annoyed with us. 17:50.900 --> 17:54.400 But we're loving them more than some people have loved in their whole lives, 17:54.400 --> 17:56.800 you know, to be honest. 17:56.800 --> 17:57.100 It says, 17:57.100 --> 18:02.700 "...Devise not evil against thy neighbor, seeing he dwelleth securely by thee." 18:02.700 --> 18:03.500 You know? 18:03.500 --> 18:07.300 And so the Proverbs have many things to say about these things. 18:07.300 --> 18:09.400 And we should do good not only to our neighbors, 18:09.400 --> 18:12.500 but obviously if you're calling them your friend. 18:12.800 --> 18:17.800 You know, I just find it strange when friends become your frenemies. 18:17.800 --> 18:22.800 You know, they're actually pretending to be your friend, but in reality they're your enemy 18:22.800 --> 18:28.800 and they're working against you and playing these weird friend triangle games 18:28.800 --> 18:33.800 and they really want to just steal your, you know, be the best friend. 18:33.800 --> 18:37.800 You know, you might be best friends with somebody, but their goal is not to be your friend, 18:37.800 --> 18:39.800 it's to steal your best friend or something. 18:40.500 --> 18:44.500 And these are things that usually, I just, you know, 18:44.500 --> 18:46.620 gonna be honest, women do these things. 18:46.620 --> 18:48.260 This is kind of a woman's game, but I mean, 18:48.260 --> 18:49.740 I'm not saying that men don't do it either, 18:49.740 --> 18:53.700 but it is bizarre, you know, just be friends with people. 18:53.700 --> 18:56.580 Like if someone likes you more than they like somebody else, 18:56.580 --> 18:57.600 like don't be all. 18:57.700 --> 19:01.140 worried about it, like as long as you're friends with them, just be friends. You know, you don't 19:01.140 --> 19:08.340 have to be everybody's best friend because, you know, if everybody's your best friend, 19:08.340 --> 19:14.100 how can everybody be your actual best friend? It's just not possible. And then it gets like smothering. 19:14.100 --> 19:19.860 So I don't think it's even possible for everybody to be your best friend. But anyway, let's go to 19:19.860 --> 19:23.760 Galatians chapter 6, Galatians chapter 6. 19:23.760 --> 19:25.700 And we have to understand that we should be 19:25.700 --> 19:29.700 the type of friend that we want others to be towards us. 19:29.700 --> 19:35.700 Even though in general, most people aren't that way back to you. 19:35.700 --> 19:38.700 And I'm not saying that everybody is even the best friend that they could be. 19:38.700 --> 19:42.700 Because a lot of times we fail to be the best friends that we could be too. 19:43.800 --> 19:46.840 In reality, there's times when we've been bad friends. 19:46.840 --> 19:48.940 You know, a lot of times we might, 19:48.940 --> 19:50.340 because we never look at ourselves 19:50.340 --> 19:52.680 and how bad we are as friends sometimes, 19:52.680 --> 19:56.320 and we forget just how bad we've kind of screwed somebody over 19:56.320 --> 19:59.260 as a friend before, or like maybe told a secret to somebody 19:59.260 --> 20:03.760 that we shouldn't have, broke confidence, or not been there, 20:03.760 --> 20:06.000 lied to them and said that we couldn't do something 20:06.000 --> 20:08.500 when we really could, or whatever it is that you've... 20:08.800 --> 20:13.520 done that wasn't a very good friend or, you know, talk bad about them or whatever it was. 20:14.320 --> 20:19.360 So, but we have to understand that there's the law of reaping and sowing in the Bible. 20:19.920 --> 20:24.800 And so how we are towards other people, that's going to come back to us. It says, 20:24.800 --> 20:29.840 be not deceived, God is not mocked for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. 20:30.480 --> 20:34.480 If we're just a bad friend to everybody, then we expect everybody to be a good friend back to us. 20:35.100 --> 20:39.820 You're fooling yourself. I mean, you're just, it's going to come back to you. 20:39.820 --> 20:43.820 You know, if you're a phony friend and a fake friend or just not a very good friend, 20:45.100 --> 20:49.020 that time when someone, you need someone to actually be a good friend to you, 20:49.020 --> 20:52.220 well how about the times when someone needed you to be a good friend to them 20:52.220 --> 20:54.100 and you weren't a very good friend to them? 20:54.400 --> 20:59.400 Remember those times? Well those things can come back to you and then you're feeling sad and lonely. 20:59.400 --> 21:03.400 Like how come nobody's doing, you know, being my friend? Well because you weren't their friend. 21:03.400 --> 21:06.400 You know, those things have a way of coming back on you. 21:06.400 --> 21:09.400 It says, For he that seweth to his flesh shall reap... 21:09.600 --> 21:14.640 a shell of the flesh reap corruption, but he that soweth to the Spirit shall the 21:14.640 --> 21:19.240 Spirit reap life everlasting. And let us not be weary in well-doing, for in due 21:19.240 --> 21:24.320 season we shall reap if we faint not." So we should be trying to do well as 21:24.320 --> 21:28.700 Christians obviously being good to people, doing good works. 21:28.800 --> 21:31.680 And, you know, one of those things is being a good friend. 21:31.680 --> 21:35.800 You know, I mean, obviously the Bible talks about friendship quite a bit. 21:35.800 --> 21:41.420 It is a, it's, I'm not saying it's the biggest subject in the Bible, but it is a fairly good 21:41.420 --> 21:43.880 size subject in the Bible. 21:43.880 --> 21:45.360 It talks about it a lot. 21:45.360 --> 21:52.360 And it says, as we have therefore opportunity, let us do good unto all men, especially unto 21:52.360 --> 21:55.000 them who are of the household of faith. 21:55.000 --> 21:55.600 So. 21:56.000 --> 22:01.200 if we have opportunity to do good. So in this situation, Jonathan has the opportunity to do 22:01.200 --> 22:07.120 what? To try to bend his dad's ear one time. To try to find out if what David is saying is true 22:07.120 --> 22:12.000 and try to influence his dad to do that, which is right. Which he's already done once. And now 22:12.000 --> 22:16.560 David's asking him to do it again. He's like, what have I done that your dad is trying to kill me? 22:16.560 --> 22:22.720 Like he's probably pretty perplexed by all this. I mean, what has David done that's wrong? 22:23.400 --> 22:30.740 Nothing. It's kind of like, you know, Jesus, you know, he is the son of God, he's born 22:30.740 --> 22:35.160 into this earth, he's done nothing but good unto people and then yet people are trying 22:35.160 --> 22:40.420 to kill him. When they go to crucify him, they're spitting in his face and slapping 22:40.420 --> 22:45.920 him and punching him and mocking him and ridiculing him. But they've done that to him his whole 22:45.920 --> 22:49.240 life. Even his own brothers and sisters don't like him. 22:49.900 --> 22:56.220 I mean, and it kind of seems like, you know, I mean, Joseph, it's never said what happens with Joseph, 22:56.220 --> 23:04.140 but he's just gone for the rest of the story. So, I mean, maybe he died, just died early and the Bible just doesn't record that. 23:04.300 --> 23:10.300 But, you know, sometimes the Bible just doesn't record things because it just doesn't want to tell you the rest of the story for whatever reason. 23:10.300 --> 23:14.300 You know, I guess we'll know someday. I'm not saying that Joseph was a bad guy. 23:14.300 --> 23:19.300 He probably was still a good guy. Maybe he just died and the Bible just doesn't record it. I don't know. 23:19.300 --> 23:27.300 But maybe he did have like some backslidden area where he just kind of maybe he left. Who knows? 23:27.300 --> 23:30.200 I mean, it's kind of hard to have all your kids be the Bratz. 23:30.300 --> 23:33.300 and the son of God lives with you, 23:33.300 --> 23:35.800 and your son's always perfect, you know? 23:35.800 --> 23:36.600 It's like... 23:36.600 --> 23:38.600 Well, he is kind of perfect, you know. 23:38.600 --> 23:40.600 I don't know, you know. 23:40.600 --> 23:42.600 It's not easy. 23:42.600 --> 23:46.600 And then his kids were brats, you know, probably to him, 23:46.600 --> 23:48.600 and trying to get him killed in John chapter 7. 23:48.600 --> 23:52.600 So, but it says, if we have opportunity though, 23:52.600 --> 23:54.600 to let us do good unto all men. 23:54.600 --> 23:56.600 So would all men be also our friends? 23:56.600 --> 23:58.600 Yeah, if we have an opportunity. 23:58.600 --> 24:02.600 And then it says, especially them that are the household of faith. 24:02.600 --> 24:04.600 And our David and Jonathan save people. 24:04.600 --> 24:07.000 Yeah, so what does that also tell you? 24:07.000 --> 24:10.200 That our good friends, our best friends, 24:10.200 --> 24:11.600 should be saved people. 24:11.600 --> 24:14.400 They shouldn't be your old high school friend 24:14.400 --> 24:17.200 that you used to hang out with the bar all the time. 24:17.200 --> 24:19.400 I'm not saying don't be friendly, 24:19.400 --> 24:21.400 don't be friends with them or whatever, 24:21.400 --> 24:23.800 that you're still trying to get them saved or whatever, 24:23.800 --> 24:25.400 but that, your best friends, 24:25.400 --> 24:27.000 the people that you hang out with the most 24:27.000 --> 24:29.400 should not be all these unsaved people. 24:29.900 --> 24:31.640 That's not who David was hanging out with. 24:31.640 --> 24:33.640 That's not who Jonathan was hanging out with. 24:33.640 --> 24:35.060 They were best friends. 24:35.060 --> 24:37.340 They had a lot of things in common. 24:37.340 --> 24:39.940 And the biggest thing they had in common 24:39.940 --> 24:42.460 was that they loved the Lord. 24:42.460 --> 24:46.940 And so be the type of friend that you 24:46.940 --> 24:49.100 want others to be to you. 24:49.100 --> 24:52.480 Do unto others as you would have them to do unto you, right? 24:52.480 --> 24:55.220 So how we want to be treated, that's 24:55.220 --> 24:56.380 how we treat other people. 24:56.900 --> 25:00.700 But in reality, most people aren't like that. 25:00.700 --> 25:02.700 We tend to just fall into, 25:03.860 --> 25:05.140 well, they treated me like this, 25:05.140 --> 25:06.700 so I'm gonna treat them like that too. 25:06.700 --> 25:10.480 We fall into the Samson way of doing things. 25:10.480 --> 25:11.500 Well, they did this to me, 25:11.500 --> 25:13.440 well, I'm gonna do way more to them now. 25:13.440 --> 25:15.560 You know, it's just like, you know, 25:15.560 --> 25:17.260 but that's obviously, being a Christian 25:17.260 --> 25:20.820 is way harder than being any other person in society. 25:20.820 --> 25:22.900 Because, you know, if we get slapped in the face, 25:22.900 --> 25:24.600 we're supposed to turn the other cheek to them. 25:24.900 --> 25:26.600 That is a hard thing to do. 25:26.600 --> 25:29.100 It's a hard thing as a man to do. 25:29.100 --> 25:32.400 You know, and with having a woman slap you, 25:32.400 --> 25:34.800 yeah, that's one thing because 25:34.800 --> 25:37.100 I've been slapped in the face before in public 25:37.100 --> 25:39.840 more times than, I mean, not more times than I can count. 25:39.840 --> 25:42.140 It's like I'm not just getting slapped by women all the time. 25:42.140 --> 25:42.980 But like... 25:43.400 --> 25:49.560 As a teenager though, women are just, they're going through hormones too. 25:49.560 --> 25:53.720 And I remember I got slapped in the face at a dance one time. 25:53.720 --> 25:55.760 And I didn't even do anything at all. 25:55.760 --> 25:58.200 Like I just kind of said, hey, you know what's going on? 25:58.200 --> 26:00.840 She just like, just slaps me right in the face and like. 26:01.500 --> 26:09.580 You know when you get slapped in the face and you can feel the pulsating feeling of a hard slap 26:09.580 --> 26:15.020 and it left like a handprint on my face. It's a whole room full of other guys. 26:15.300 --> 26:19.300 I mean, your first instinct is to just like slap them back or whatever, right? 26:19.300 --> 26:21.300 But of course, then I would have got beat up. 26:21.300 --> 26:22.300 You know? 26:22.300 --> 26:29.300 So, but I mean, obviously I just, I don't, that's not something that I would just normally do anyways. 26:29.300 --> 26:31.300 Just slap a girl or beat her up or something. 26:31.300 --> 26:34.300 So it's just not a normative thing in society. 26:34.300 --> 26:38.300 You're taught from an early age not to hit women and things like that. 26:38.300 --> 26:42.300 But obviously you still have a, you know, a temper and things like that. 26:42.300 --> 26:43.140 I had a girl. 26:43.300 --> 26:44.900 One time that I was friends with, 26:44.900 --> 26:46.780 and I just said something to her just joking around, 26:46.780 --> 26:50.180 and she just slapped me right across the nose, 26:50.180 --> 26:51.740 and my nose started bleeding, 26:51.740 --> 26:53.760 and I had a red mark on my face. 26:53.760 --> 26:57.280 And it's just like, man, I was really mad that time. 26:57.280 --> 27:00.020 I wanted to slap her back, but I didn't. 27:00.020 --> 27:01.300 And I don't think any of my friends 27:01.300 --> 27:02.920 would have said anything if I did, 27:02.920 --> 27:03.860 because I was just hanging out 27:03.860 --> 27:05.560 with some rough guys at that time. 27:05.560 --> 27:08.380 But I didn't, even though I was embarrassed. 27:08.380 --> 27:09.520 It's embarrassing. 27:10.100 --> 27:12.900 It's super embarrassing to have somebody slap you in the face. 27:12.900 --> 27:17.220 Now if a guy would have slapped me in the face, I had guys slap me in the face and I slapped him back. 27:17.220 --> 27:23.860 I turned their cheek, you know, and that's, that's, that's like most men, if a guy slaps you, 27:23.860 --> 27:26.100 first of all it's just, it's degrading. 27:26.400 --> 27:29.080 I'd rather have a guy punch me in the face. 27:29.080 --> 27:31.800 I mean, not, you know, I don't want the effects of it, 27:31.800 --> 27:34.120 but I mean, to get slapped in the face 27:34.120 --> 27:35.960 and then just sit there and not do anything, 27:35.960 --> 27:38.060 you look like a wuss. 27:38.060 --> 27:40.420 You look like a weenie. 27:40.420 --> 27:43.960 And it's just not in my nature 27:43.960 --> 27:46.320 to just let a guy slap me in the face. 27:46.320 --> 27:49.480 So, I mean, I don't think I've really dealt with that 27:49.480 --> 27:52.440 as a Christian, but I'm sure there could be a time when I do. 27:52.700 --> 27:58.700 and I don't want to do the wrong thing. So, but as Christians we are called to be different 27:58.700 --> 28:02.540 and those things are, we're not called to be different because they're easy, we're called 28:02.540 --> 28:06.860 to be different because it's hard, you know. It's hard and it's the right thing to do. 28:07.660 --> 28:11.400 So we should be the friend that we want others. 28:11.500 --> 28:15.000 to be to us, do unto others as we'd have them do unto us. 28:15.000 --> 28:20.000 So number three, there's a new covenant 28:20.000 --> 28:21.000 between Jonathan and David. 28:21.000 --> 28:22.640 Remember they made that first covenant 28:22.640 --> 28:24.500 the first day they met. 28:24.500 --> 28:26.800 Now there's a new covenant being made between them. 28:26.900 --> 28:31.700 which is kind of interesting because they make that first one and then there's a second one. So 28:31.700 --> 28:35.860 there's some maybe some foreshadowing there. But verse number five says, 28:35.860 --> 28:41.460 And David said unto Jonathan, Behold, tomorrow is the new moon, and I should not fail to sit 28:41.460 --> 28:47.540 with the king at meet, but let me go, that I may hide myself in the field unto the third day at even. 28:48.600 --> 28:51.800 Which is interesting too, look at that foreshadowing. 28:51.800 --> 28:54.160 But let me go that I may hide myself in the field 28:54.160 --> 28:55.660 unto the third day at evening. 28:57.260 --> 29:00.280 So what happens to the third day at evening? 29:00.280 --> 29:03.200 Well, there's some foreshadowing. 29:03.200 --> 29:05.600 So if thy father at all miss me, 29:05.600 --> 29:08.600 then say David earnestly asked leave of me 29:08.600 --> 29:11.840 that he might run to Bethlehem for his city, 29:11.840 --> 29:15.400 for there is a yearly sacrifice there for all his family. 29:15.700 --> 29:23.060 Now here comes that lying to protect life here. 29:23.060 --> 29:26.220 So is that the lie that they had to come up with? 29:26.220 --> 29:28.140 I mean, I don't know. 29:28.140 --> 29:33.000 But what other excuses are you going to come up with as to why David is gone? 29:33.000 --> 29:34.120 What other thing could he have said? 29:34.120 --> 29:38.300 I don't know because his responsibility is to be at that table with Saul. 29:38.300 --> 29:39.300 He's his boss. 29:40.300 --> 29:44.740 So, I mean, I was sitting there thinking about this, I was like, there's another, for instance, 29:44.740 --> 29:45.900 I mean, is it wrong? 29:45.900 --> 29:48.980 Well, they're never reproved for it in Scripture. 29:48.980 --> 29:50.540 God never says anything to them about it. 29:50.540 --> 29:56.260 So I mean, I just, I really don't know, but even God comes up with an excuse for them 29:56.260 --> 30:01.380 when he, when Samuel says, he's, Saul will kill me if I go and anoint David. 30:01.800 --> 30:05.500 So, and I'm not saying lying is right, okay? 30:05.500 --> 30:12.540 So I've already preached a little sermon about that, but when it goes to preserving life, 30:12.540 --> 30:15.500 because what's going to happen if he says, well, David's just afraid you're going to 30:15.500 --> 30:16.020 kill him. 30:17.400 --> 30:22.400 And we already know that he throws a javelin at Jonathan just for sticking up for him. 30:22.400 --> 30:26.900 So he's a little bit volatile. 30:26.900 --> 30:28.360 So they do. 30:28.360 --> 30:29.360 This is a lie. 30:29.360 --> 30:30.160 This is not true. 30:30.600 --> 30:33.600 This is the plan that David is coming up with. 30:33.600 --> 30:36.360 So, if they say thus, it is well, 30:36.360 --> 30:37.880 thy servant shall have peace. 30:37.880 --> 30:39.680 But if he be very rough, 30:39.680 --> 30:41.800 then be sure that evil is determined by him. 30:41.800 --> 30:45.640 So he's basically saying, if this happens, then he's cool. 30:45.640 --> 30:48.720 If this doesn't, if he freaks out, 30:48.720 --> 30:50.700 then you know that he wants to kill me. 30:50.800 --> 30:52.140 This is what's going on. 30:52.140 --> 30:56.960 Therefore thou shalt deal kindly with thy servant, for thou hast brought thy servant 30:56.960 --> 30:59.120 into a covenant of the Lord with thee. 30:59.120 --> 31:05.700 Notwithstanding, if there be in me iniquity, slay me thyself, for why shouldest thou bring 31:05.700 --> 31:08.240 me to thy father? 31:08.240 --> 31:10.360 And Jonathan said, Far be it from me. 31:10.800 --> 31:16.800 Far be it from the, for if I knew certainly that evil were determined by my Father to come upon me, 31:16.800 --> 31:22.960 then would not I tell it thee?" So he's like basically saying, you know, if I knew for sure, 31:22.960 --> 31:27.200 I would tell you. I'm not gonna, I'm not sitting here lying trying to trick you into coming back 31:27.200 --> 31:30.640 so that you can get killed. Then said David to Jonathan, 31:30.640 --> 31:34.400 Who shall tell me? Or what if thy father answer thee roughly? 31:34.600 --> 31:38.600 And Jonathan said unto David, Come, and let us go out into the field. 31:38.600 --> 31:42.600 And they went out both of them into the field. 31:42.600 --> 31:46.600 And Jonathan said unto David, O Lord God of Israel, when I have sounded 31:46.600 --> 31:47.300 Sounded. 31:47.500 --> 31:51.660 my father, about tomorrow any time, or the third day. 31:51.660 --> 31:54.540 And behold, if there be good toward David, 31:54.540 --> 31:58.460 and I then send not unto thee, and show it thee, 31:58.460 --> 32:02.640 the Lord do so, and much more to Jonathan. 32:02.640 --> 32:05.500 But if it please my father to do the evil, 32:05.500 --> 32:08.020 then I will show it thee, and send thee away, 32:08.020 --> 32:10.140 that thou mayest go in peace. 32:10.140 --> 32:14.340 And the Lord be with thee, as he hath been with my father. 32:14.700 --> 32:22.140 And thou shalt not only while I live show me the kindness of the Lord that I die not." 32:22.140 --> 32:28.500 So basically the covenant is that like if Saul does want to try to kill him then he's 32:28.500 --> 32:33.060 going to release David and let him go so that he doesn't get killed. 32:33.800 --> 32:36.440 And they're making this covenant here with the Lord. 32:36.440 --> 32:39.400 He's praying to the least, talking to the Lord and telling them, 32:39.800 --> 32:43.360 you know, this is what my agreement is with you concerning 32:43.800 --> 32:46.000 how I'm going to deal with David. 32:46.000 --> 32:50.600 And it says, but also thou shall not cut off thy kindness from my house forever. 32:51.600 --> 32:55.160 No, not when the Lord has cut off the enemies of David from everyone 32:55.320 --> 32:58.120 from the face of the earth. So. 32:58.120 --> 33:00.100 In these times and. 33:00.500 --> 33:08.420 And also times after this, like the, if a new king comes, they're generally going to kill everybody 33:08.420 --> 33:12.420 that was part of that royal line. And this is just a practice that has taken place 33:13.380 --> 33:17.860 in many kingdoms around the world. They're not going to leave some air alive that can 33:17.860 --> 33:19.940 come and rise up against that king later on. 33:20.500 --> 33:30.500 And so really David's practice, the normal practice of heathen kings, and this is the first king that's ever been a legitimate king of Israel that God picked. 33:30.500 --> 33:36.500 And so they picked, they wanted a king like the other nations around them. 33:36.500 --> 33:39.500 This isn't something that God really chose, but since they... 33:40.300 --> 33:43.100 Wanted to reject God from being their king so to speak 33:43.660 --> 33:48.460 Which is what they did then he said so but they're not supposed to be like 33:48.660 --> 33:54.340 They're not supposed to run their kingdom like a normal kingdom. They're not supposed to run it like the heathen around them 33:54.820 --> 33:56.820 So I mean it really 33:56.900 --> 34:02.320 Even though you see things like this happen in the Bible later on where whole lines are taken out like this. This is not 34:02.900 --> 34:09.100 This is Jonathan trying to secure the fact that his sons are going to live, and his sons' 34:09.100 --> 34:12.340 sons, and does not want them to be killed. 34:12.340 --> 34:17.420 It says, but also, thou shalt not cut off thy kindness from my house forever, no not 34:17.420 --> 34:22.340 when the Lord hath cut off the enemies of David, every one from the face of the earth. 34:22.340 --> 34:27.700 So I've kind of spoken about this before and preached about this before, but I believe 34:27.700 --> 34:30.700 that this passes on through not just 34:30.900 --> 34:35.580 not into just the life of David, but I've also shown in other sermons where 34:36.380 --> 34:39.860 their house or the house of Saul lives on past this. 34:40.700 --> 34:45.100 and into the return of the Babylonian exile. I'm pretty sure that I've shown this before. 34:45.900 --> 34:52.380 The house of Benjamin, you know, to the house of Judah in the New Testament, and the Lord chooses 34:52.380 --> 34:58.780 Saul as the last of the apostles who becomes the opposite basically of everything of Saul, 34:59.420 --> 35:02.860 and is very much the opposite in stature for sure. 35:03.400 --> 35:09.440 because Paul was never renamed Paul. God never said for Saul to change his name to Paul. 35:10.020 --> 35:15.200 So in the New Testament the last Apostle is Saul of Tarsus and 35:16.220 --> 35:22.580 he starts out the opposite of, he's basically almost everything the opposite of what King Saul is. 35:22.900 --> 35:29.280 King Saul started out good and then was was head and shoulders above everybody else and then he went bad. 35:29.900 --> 35:31.500 and then he ended bad. 35:31.500 --> 35:34.500 But Saul of Tarsus started off bad. 35:34.500 --> 35:36.100 He was a little pipsqueak. 35:36.100 --> 35:38.700 He was a short man because that's what Paul means. 35:38.700 --> 35:40.800 It means little. 35:40.800 --> 35:44.400 And King Saul was little in his own sight. 35:45.800 --> 35:50.120 you know, when he was little on his own side. He started off little on his own side. He 35:50.120 --> 35:53.880 didn't, he wasn't like one of those big guys that just think that they're, you know, they're 35:53.880 --> 35:58.280 bullies and go around trying to pick on everybody. He wasn't like that, but he became like that. 35:59.400 --> 36:05.080 And Saul of Tarsus had little man syndrome and he was beating down everybody's doors, 36:05.080 --> 36:11.080 persecuting Christians, trying to kill the people of God. And as a matter of fact, 36:11.600 --> 36:16.800 When Jesus speaks to him, he says, Saul, Saul, why persecutest thou me? 36:18.240 --> 36:24.480 So he doesn't, you know, and Jesus was in heaven at this time. So he's not literally persecuting 36:24.480 --> 36:30.960 Jesus in the sense that he's after Jesus himself, but he's after God's people. He's after the people 36:30.960 --> 36:37.280 of the Lord. So, but then Saul gets saved. 36:38.000 --> 36:42.480 and he becomes known as Paul, but he's a little guy. 36:42.480 --> 36:44.680 So he calls himself Paul, I believe, 36:44.680 --> 36:47.440 because that he's little in his own sight. 36:47.440 --> 36:49.880 He was big in his own sight, like a little, 36:49.880 --> 36:52.240 you know, little Napoleon type dude. 36:52.240 --> 36:54.840 And then he becomes little in his own sight. 36:54.840 --> 36:57.800 He has this great education, he's very intelligent. 36:57.800 --> 37:02.320 He has this upbrain, he's a Roman citizen. 37:02.900 --> 37:04.900 And he has a lot of things going for him. 37:04.900 --> 37:05.900 He had it all. 37:05.900 --> 37:06.900 He had the golden ticket. 37:06.900 --> 37:08.900 I mean, he was the Pharisee of Pharisees. 37:08.900 --> 37:12.900 He was, you know, he grew up at the feet of Gamaliel. 37:12.900 --> 37:14.900 And he had it all. 37:14.900 --> 37:17.900 And then to everybody around him, to his countrymen, 37:17.900 --> 37:19.900 to the people that he was around, 37:19.900 --> 37:22.900 he threw everything away and became a Christian. 37:22.900 --> 37:26.800 And then, obviously, Jesus saves him. 37:27.200 --> 37:32.200 And he's blinded on the road to Damascus. 37:32.200 --> 37:37.200 And then he tells him to go into the town and go see... 37:39.200 --> 37:42.200 Whatever his name is... What's his name? 37:42.200 --> 37:45.200 Yeah, Ananias. He goes to see Ananias. 37:45.200 --> 37:47.200 Ananias tells him what he has to do. 37:48.000 --> 37:54.480 leads him to the Lord, he baptizes him, and then he becomes the greatest soul winner of 37:54.480 --> 38:00.700 all time, probably. So, I mean, at least, so he's knocking doors, you know, like the 38:00.700 --> 38:08.600 Gestapo before, now he's knocking doors for the Lord, and so, but he's totally changed. 38:08.600 --> 38:13.840 But he's exactly the opposite, basically, of how, so they're both named Saul, but they're 38:13.840 --> 38:14.600 totally different. 38:15.300 --> 38:19.000 But I think this is really interesting. 38:19.000 --> 38:23.000 I am going to spend a little bit of time on this. 38:23.000 --> 38:33.360 So the relatives of Saul and Jonathan live on past the Babylonian captivity. 38:33.360 --> 38:34.360 And you can find it. 38:34.360 --> 38:41.300 Let's go turn to 1 Chronicles, chapter 8, verse 32. 38:42.300 --> 38:47.920 So, because they make this covenant, he says, don't destroy my line. 38:47.920 --> 38:53.660 And then even when, and we'll see it when we get to the point where David finally confronts 38:53.660 --> 38:59.980 Saul one last time, and he asks David to not destroy his line. 38:59.980 --> 39:06.340 So he even rededicates that covenant with King Saul himself. 39:06.340 --> 39:08.540 And obviously King Saul has a moment of clarity. 39:09.100 --> 39:12.740 he knows that he's going to be king and then he makes him 39:12.740 --> 39:16.380 swear before the Lord that he won't destroy all his family 39:16.380 --> 39:19.420 which he doesn't. So 39:19.420 --> 39:23.580 when the people came back from the Babylonian 39:23.580 --> 39:27.180 captivity though, the author of Chronicles 39:27.180 --> 39:30.540 which was probably Ezra or somebody like that 39:30.540 --> 39:34.260 details the genealogies to prove that 39:34.260 --> 39:36.260 their family did survive. 39:36.300 --> 39:40.060 Let's see, in verse 32 it says, 39:40.060 --> 39:42.940 In Micloth begat Shimeah, 39:42.940 --> 39:46.780 and these also dwelt with their brethren in Jerusalem 39:46.780 --> 39:47.940 over against them. 39:47.940 --> 39:51.460 So this is also where the family of Saul lived also. 39:51.460 --> 39:53.420 And it says, in Ner, begat Kish, 39:53.420 --> 39:56.840 and Kish begat Saul, and Saul begat Jonathan, 39:56.840 --> 40:01.100 and Melkishuah, and Abinadab, and Eshbaal. 40:01.400 --> 40:05.400 and the son of Jonathan was Marabal, and Marabal beget Micah. 40:05.400 --> 40:10.400 And that's Mephibosheth, that's another way of saying Mephibosheth, I guess. 40:10.400 --> 40:18.400 And the sons of Micah were Pithon and Melak and Teriah and Ahaz, and Ahaz beget Jehoiada. 40:18.900 --> 40:25.860 and Jehoiada beget Elameth and Azmaveth and Zimri and Zimri beget Mosah and Mosah beget Binnia 40:26.420 --> 40:35.860 and Rafa was his son and Eliesa his son and Azal his son and Azal had six sons whose names 40:36.420 --> 40:42.980 are these Ezraqem and Baqara and Ishmael and Sharia. 40:43.700 --> 40:47.200 and Obadiah and Hanen, all these were the sons of Azal. 40:47.200 --> 40:54.340 And the sons of Ishek, his brother, were Ulam, his firstborn, Jehosh, 40:54.340 --> 40:59.680 the second, and Eliphelet, the third, and the sons of Ulam, 40:59.680 --> 41:05.080 were mighty men of valor, archers, and had many sons, and sons, sons, and 150, 41:05.080 --> 41:07.280 all these were the sons of Benjamin. 41:07.400 --> 41:11.400 So these people, like when you're like, 41:11.400 --> 41:13.400 well how do you know they went through the, 41:13.400 --> 41:14.400 they lived through the Chronicles? 41:14.400 --> 41:18.400 Well, let's turn over to the book of... 41:22.600 --> 41:24.600 Esther chapter 2 41:25.640 --> 41:27.640 Because after 41:28.680 --> 41:33.720 Because in when they return with the genealogies into 41:34.840 --> 41:40.600 In the book of Nehemiah kind of tells all the genealogies and there wasn't very many people that returned back because a lot of those 41:40.600 --> 41:42.360 people died 41:42.360 --> 41:43.500 but 41:44.100 --> 41:47.380 Look at what it says in Esther chapter 2 verse 5. It says, 41:47.380 --> 41:51.620 Now in Shushan the palace there was a certain Jew whose name was Mordecai, 41:51.620 --> 41:58.180 the son of Jer, the son of Shimei, the son of Kish of Benjamite. So he was in 41:58.980 --> 42:03.860 that line there and it says, who had been carried away from Jerusalem with the captivity, 42:03.860 --> 42:09.140 which had been carried away with Jeconiah, king of Judah, whom Nebuchadnezzar the king of Babylon 42:09.140 --> 42:10.140 one had carried away. 42:11.400 --> 42:18.800 So in Shushan the palace, so that generation there, they went back to Israel because when 42:18.800 --> 42:24.140 it shows the genealogy, Mordecai went back to Jerusalem. 42:24.140 --> 42:30.060 So even after all this stuff happened in the book of Esther, they went back. 42:30.060 --> 42:34.740 So the 70 years was fulfilled and they all went back. 42:34.740 --> 42:38.040 And Mordecai was related to Jonathan. 42:38.040 --> 42:38.600 So. 42:39.100 --> 42:45.700 what was said in this agreement between Jonathan and David was true. 42:45.700 --> 42:53.500 Now, in the New Testament, there's no specific names that it states that, like, Jonathan's... 42:53.900 --> 42:58.620 relatives lived on in there, but I mean I would assume when it says they had sons and sons and 42:58.620 --> 43:03.660 all a whole bunch of sons and 150 sons or whatever, I'm guessing that they still moved on into the New 43:03.660 --> 43:10.460 Testament even though it doesn't say that. But what is interesting though is that you do have 43:10.460 --> 43:18.220 one specific person who's saying he's the son of Benjamin and it's, I mean Saul multiple times 43:18.220 --> 43:19.660 talks about how he's a benjamite. 43:20.200 --> 43:24.360 how he's of the remnant of the sons of Israel. 43:24.360 --> 43:28.160 So, and he's the last known benjamite 43:28.160 --> 43:32.500 that is actually said that he is from that tribe, 43:32.500 --> 43:34.840 and he's also the last apostle. 43:34.840 --> 43:37.040 So, and... 43:38.400 --> 43:43.920 So there's no explicit mention of the house of Saul, but there's a guy whose name is Saul 43:44.560 --> 43:51.520 and he's a benjamite. So I just think that's very interesting. And then so now then you have, 43:51.520 --> 43:57.520 you know, the promise that's made here between Jonathan and David. And so I think that Paul 43:57.520 --> 44:04.320 does fulfill the spiritual covenant between David and Jonathan, because what is David called in the 44:04.320 --> 44:05.080 the New Testament. 44:05.800 --> 44:12.440 He's, you know, David is like, you know, he's that picture of Christ. 44:12.440 --> 44:15.920 And I don't want to just go to a whole bunch of scriptures and take up the rest of my time 44:15.920 --> 44:16.920 here. 44:18.000 --> 44:23.700 The physical covenant was historically taken care of between Jonathan and he took him to 44:23.700 --> 44:26.660 Mephibosheth in 2 Samuel 9. 44:26.660 --> 44:34.060 And then you have the Apostle Paul is chosen specifically by Jesus and he is the ultimate 44:34.060 --> 44:35.060 son of David. 44:35.060 --> 44:40.300 I mean, he's called the son of David in all these predictions as being the Messiah. 44:40.300 --> 44:44.060 And in the Old Testament, the son of David is going to take the throne. 44:44.400 --> 44:49.080 And, you know, they're saying Hosanna, the son of David, when he comes in to Jerusalem, 44:49.080 --> 44:55.080 I mean, it's very clear that the son of David is going to be the Messiah. 44:55.080 --> 45:02.840 So the spiritual fulfillment of this, I believe without a doubt that it's the Apostle Paul 45:02.840 --> 45:06.360 and Jesus because they picked Matthias by casting lots. 45:06.800 --> 45:09.360 And then that's the last time you ever hear of Matthias in the whole Bible. 45:10.240 --> 45:18.160 I'm not saying he wasn't a good guy. I'm not saying that he wasn't necessarily a good apostle 45:18.160 --> 45:26.080 or whatever, but man chose Matthias and Jesus Christ is very clear chose the apostle Paul 45:27.120 --> 45:28.400 as we know him. But Saul. 45:29.200 --> 45:35.320 So and think about this so you got the Old Testament shadow where King Saul of Benjamin 45:35.660 --> 45:42.960 hunted and tried to destroy David who is of Judah right and then the New Testament reality is that 45:43.480 --> 45:51.280 Saul of Tarsus of Benjamin hunted and tried to destroy Jesus and that's why you have Jesus saying Saul Saul 45:51.280 --> 45:53.780 Why persecuted stop me? I mean 45:54.500 --> 45:59.300 And then he's called the son of David, which is he's the line of the tribe of what? 46:00.420 --> 46:05.220 Judah, right? So I mean, it's just really interesting. And then of course, you have 46:05.220 --> 46:11.700 Jonathan, who's of Benjamin, chose to yield his right to the earthly throne out of the love for 46:11.700 --> 46:16.980 David, because that's what he essentially does here. He knows that if that if Saul is trying to 46:16.980 --> 46:17.940 kill David that 46:18.400 --> 46:22.780 He's basically chosen David to be the ruler at some point. 46:22.780 --> 46:25.580 And he, later on, he even meets him 46:25.580 --> 46:27.820 when his dad's been chasing him around. 46:27.820 --> 46:29.820 They meet in the woods later on. 46:29.820 --> 46:33.700 And then he says, I know that you're gonna be the king. 46:33.700 --> 46:35.820 And he says, I'm gonna be like your number two. 46:35.820 --> 46:38.700 Which he never gets the opportunity to do that. 46:38.700 --> 46:40.380 But that's what happens. 46:40.380 --> 46:44.140 So, Jonathan chooses to yield his right, 46:44.140 --> 46:45.800 and then Paul. 46:45.900 --> 46:53.400 who was of the tribe of Benjamin, chose to count all of his earthly status as loss for the sake of King Jesus. 46:53.400 --> 46:58.400 Remember, he says he counts it all but dung, and he just doesn't care. 46:58.400 --> 47:03.900 And then even before this, in their first covenant, he was willing to give everything up. 47:03.900 --> 47:09.400 He gave everything over to David. 47:09.700 --> 47:12.660 He gave him the shirt off his back, literally. 47:12.660 --> 47:17.920 And then the last thing is that you see David sought out a lame, helpless Benjamite, which 47:17.920 --> 47:24.140 is Mephibosheth, to show him mercy for Jonathan's sake, you know, because he remembered the 47:24.140 --> 47:26.620 promise that he had made to him. 47:26.620 --> 47:33.760 And in the New Testament, Jesus sought out a spiritually blind Benjamite named Saul on 47:33.760 --> 47:35.540 the Damascus road to show him mercy. 47:36.200 --> 47:40.200 I mean, because what reason do we really have that he shows 47:40.200 --> 47:41.200 soul and mercy? 47:41.200 --> 47:44.200 I mean, he's persecuting Jesus. 47:44.200 --> 47:50.200 You know, it's just that his grace and mercy is without repentance. 47:50.200 --> 47:52.200 He knew that Paul was going to get saved. 47:52.200 --> 47:53.200 He knew what Paul was going to do. 47:53.200 --> 47:57.200 But I do believe that it does have something to do with this covenant 47:57.200 --> 48:00.200 that we see here in this passage tonight. 48:00.200 --> 48:01.900 I don't think it's a mistake. 48:01.900 --> 48:06.940 I don't think that it's coincidental that his name is Saul in the New Testament either. 48:06.940 --> 48:11.740 I don't think it's a mistake or it's coincidental that he's the last apostle. 48:11.740 --> 48:20.300 And then also you have Judah is chosen by Lot and they're right next to Benjamin the whole time. 48:21.020 --> 48:26.380 And then you also have just they have a close relationship even when all the other tribes leave. 48:27.180 --> 48:29.020 Benjamin stays with Judah. 48:29.500 --> 48:31.660 through the whole time. 48:31.660 --> 48:34.500 And then you also have, what else? 48:36.340 --> 48:38.660 I don't know, I forgot what I was gonna say. 48:38.660 --> 48:42.820 But yeah, there's a lot of ties with Benjamin and Judah. 48:45.580 --> 48:48.000 It's just, it's really cool. 48:50.700 --> 48:54.400 That's true. Yeah, that's a good point. 48:54.400 --> 48:56.900 Yeah, and then, like, I mean, think about this. 48:56.900 --> 48:59.200 Benjamin was going to get wiped off the face of the planet 48:59.200 --> 49:01.400 for the sin that they did, 49:01.400 --> 49:05.700 and God doesn't let them get completely wiped out, though. 49:05.700 --> 49:06.900 And then you think about... 49:07.200 --> 49:12.880 there's a small remnant that hasn't bowed the need to bail in the New Testament because most of the 49:12.880 --> 49:18.320 Jews reject Christ outright after, you know, during the crucifixion and all that. And there's just a 49:18.320 --> 49:26.240 remnant of people that have been saved. And then Paul quotes those scriptures in Romans chapter 11 49:26.240 --> 49:30.320 and says that he, you know, I am an Israelite. He mentions that he's the remnant. 49:30.320 --> 49:32.920 And so he's a very small remnant. 49:33.300 --> 49:39.180 Israelites and he's a benjamite which you know parallels back then I mean if 49:39.180 --> 49:43.660 if there hadn't been mercy put upon those benjamites they wouldn't even had 49:43.660 --> 49:50.340 anybody to marry remember they had to you know go do the mayday whatever 49:50.340 --> 49:53.700 it was that yeah they basically had to just you know grab some girls and say 49:53.700 --> 49:58.200 this is my wife now you know it was kind of a weird ordeal but otherwise they 49:58.200 --> 50:00.500 would not have moved on you know 50:00.700 --> 50:03.700 And so yeah, just some really interesting parallels. 50:03.700 --> 50:08.700 So let's move forward here, look at verse number 16 in our text. 50:08.700 --> 50:14.700 I know there's some other stuff that I was forgetting, but I think I covered a lot of it though. 50:14.700 --> 50:17.700 So... 50:21.400 --> 50:25.680 Verse 16 says, So Jonathan made a covenant with the house of David, saying, Let the Lord 50:25.680 --> 50:28.920 even require it at the hand of David's enemies. 50:28.920 --> 50:33.460 And Jonathan caused David to swear again, because he had already sworn once, right? 50:33.460 --> 50:39.140 Because he loved him, and he loved him as he loved his own soul. 50:39.140 --> 50:41.440 So why take the time to highlight all this? 50:41.440 --> 50:47.200 Well, it's just because how special and how blessed friendships can be. 50:47.200 --> 50:49.200 I mean, this... 50:49.500 --> 50:55.900 you know, I just kind of went over how all these blessings and these spiritual blessings even into 50:55.900 --> 51:02.140 eternity are going to last because, I mean, let's just think about this. David and Jonathan 51:02.140 --> 51:06.460 are in heaven right now and I'm sure that they've talked since they got up there. 51:06.800 --> 51:14.800 I mean David didn't fall too long after Jonathan, but they've had thousands of years to just hang out and be cool. 51:14.800 --> 51:20.800 I'm sure Saul's in his right mind now and probably feels pretty bad about the things he did. 51:20.800 --> 51:24.800 And I think that things are probably okay between them now. 51:24.800 --> 51:30.700 So, but the friendship between Jonathan and David... 51:30.700 --> 51:35.700 is what helped those things because if it hadn't been for this agreement here, 51:35.700 --> 51:37.700 maybe things would have been different. 51:37.700 --> 51:40.700 If it hadn't been for the friendship that Jonathan showed David 51:40.700 --> 51:46.700 and that David showed Jonathan because, look, it takes two people to have a friendship. 51:46.700 --> 51:49.700 That's what it really boils down to because David could have just said, 51:49.700 --> 51:53.700 well, I don't really care. I'm still going to kill all your sons anyway. 51:53.700 --> 51:57.700 You're a good friend, but your kids are brats or whatever. 51:58.500 --> 52:02.060 You know, but he kept his promise. 52:02.060 --> 52:03.780 And Jonathan kept his promise. 52:03.780 --> 52:08.700 And Jonathan stuck his neck out on the line for David, and David did this, you know, he 52:08.700 --> 52:11.020 did the same thing. 52:11.020 --> 52:14.900 He took care of his, you know, I'm sure people were like questioning, what are you doing 52:14.900 --> 52:15.900 David? 52:15.900 --> 52:16.900 Why are you helping them? 52:16.900 --> 52:19.100 They tried to, you know, they were trying to kill you for all those years. 52:19.100 --> 52:20.100 Like, what are you doing? 52:20.100 --> 52:22.460 And it's like, no, I promised. 52:22.800 --> 52:28.880 Jonathan was my friend. I loved him. And then even when they died, he makes this great speech and 52:29.520 --> 52:35.840 and just he says nothing bad about Saul, nothing bad about him the whole time. All the stuff was 52:35.840 --> 52:42.400 just completely positive and didn't have anything to say bad about him at all. And then killed the 52:42.400 --> 52:45.080 the people, killed a guy that said that he... 52:46.200 --> 52:49.600 killed Saul, which he didn't, but he's like, 52:49.600 --> 52:51.100 well, if you're gonna say you did it, 52:51.100 --> 52:53.400 well, I'll kill you too. 52:53.400 --> 52:57.200 So anyway, but friends, you know, 52:57.200 --> 52:59.700 and after this, their friendship isn't really the same 52:59.700 --> 53:02.100 after this because they can't really be around 53:02.100 --> 53:03.100 each other anymore. 53:03.100 --> 53:03.940 So... 53:03.940 --> 53:04.900 Um 53:05.000 --> 53:10.120 You know, and we have friends in our life that we might not be able to be around all the time. 53:10.120 --> 53:14.200 And sometimes friendships change or, you know, where you live changes. 53:14.200 --> 53:17.640 But that doesn't mean you stop being friends with people, you know. 53:17.640 --> 53:23.080 And so, you know, your area code might change or they might go to heaven before you do. 53:24.900 --> 53:28.420 You know, you still continue to be good friends. 53:28.420 --> 53:33.900 You can still be friends with people, regardless of what church they go to and what church you go to. 53:33.900 --> 53:43.220 Sometimes some politics can get in the way or the pastors don't like each other anymore or something like that. 53:43.220 --> 53:44.700 These things happen. 53:44.700 --> 53:47.020 That doesn't mean you have to stop being friends. 53:47.200 --> 53:51.480 with that person as long as there's no, you know, nothing too wicked going on there or 53:51.480 --> 53:52.480 whatever. 53:52.480 --> 53:56.480 But, so the third thing is the covenant in action. 53:56.480 --> 54:00.600 So you can make covenants all day long, but if it's just lip service and you don't actually 54:00.600 --> 54:04.700 do the things that are part of the covenant, then it doesn't really do much good. 54:04.700 --> 54:09.040 So Jonathan still has to do what he said, and David still has to do what he said. 54:09.040 --> 54:11.360 So friendships are not just lip service. 54:11.360 --> 54:13.800 You do actually have to put yourself out there. 54:14.100 --> 54:17.700 And friendships are sacrificed sometimes. 54:17.700 --> 54:19.580 So sometimes your friend asks you to do something, 54:19.580 --> 54:22.500 and it's like you're tired, you don't feel like doing it, 54:22.500 --> 54:24.860 or maybe you just don't feel like helping. 54:24.860 --> 54:27.660 I think that one of the biggest sacrifices you can do 54:27.660 --> 54:28.860 is help a friend move. 54:29.860 --> 54:33.100 Because nothing tests your friendship like that, man. 54:33.100 --> 54:34.620 And I hate moving. 54:34.620 --> 54:38.180 I hate moving myself, and I hate helping other people move. 54:38.180 --> 54:40.000 Because usually they don't have the stuff ready. 54:40.100 --> 54:41.980 They're like, oh yeah, everything's ready. 54:41.980 --> 54:43.980 And you're still helping them pack everything in boxes 54:43.980 --> 54:44.480 or whatever. 54:44.480 --> 54:46.620 It's just like, ugh. 54:46.620 --> 54:47.460 Or, yeah. 54:47.460 --> 54:49.660 So it's a nightmare. 54:49.660 --> 54:52.900 And it's like, I retired from that. 54:52.900 --> 54:55.300 I'll be your friend, but I'm not helping you move. 54:55.300 --> 54:57.900 That's not part of the covenant to be my friend. 54:57.900 --> 55:00.900 I'm not helping you move. 55:00.900 --> 55:03.060 I might send people to help you move, though. 55:03.060 --> 55:04.000 But. 55:04.300 --> 55:07.900 I've helped a lot of people move in my life and I've moved a lot in my life. 55:07.900 --> 55:12.060 So it's just, I don't want to move unless I absolutely have to. 55:12.060 --> 55:15.420 So I don't think our kids realize how many times we moved. 55:15.420 --> 55:19.260 But when they're just playing and doing whatever they're doing and they're too 55:19.260 --> 55:22.620 young to help or whatever, it's just like, I wish you could help you little brat. 55:23.420 --> 55:29.420 But anyway, so, but you know, helping people and putting yourself out there sometimes, 55:29.420 --> 55:31.400 it's not always... 55:31.600 --> 55:35.280 You know, obviously you have to make sacrifices in friendship. 55:35.280 --> 55:39.600 You know, it's just, it's not always going to be easy to be someone's friend. 55:39.600 --> 55:43.420 And sometimes people are going to go, why are you friends with that person? 55:43.420 --> 55:45.440 Because they might embarrass you or something. 55:45.440 --> 55:48.000 You know, they might do something that's embarrassing. 55:48.000 --> 55:51.060 But just because they do something that's embarrassing, does that mean you just stop 55:51.060 --> 55:51.760 being their friend? 55:52.400 --> 55:55.920 No, because a friend loveth at all times, the Bible says, right? 55:55.920 --> 55:59.920 So and obviously if they do something really wicked, like you find out they're a serial 55:59.920 --> 56:00.920 killer, well, okay. 56:00.920 --> 56:05.640 You find out they're a raper bait of some sort, or there's some kind of a homo or 56:05.640 --> 56:07.720 whatever, well, that's different. 56:07.720 --> 56:11.360 But you know, the Bible says in Proverbs 18, 24, I'm just going to read through these 56:11.360 --> 56:15.500 real quickly because I don't have a lot of time left, but it says, a man that hath friends 56:15.500 --> 56:17.240 most show himself friendly. 56:17.240 --> 56:19.120 And there's a friend that sticketh closer. 56:19.400 --> 56:23.320 than a brother. So, you know, when you're friends with somebody, you gotta 56:23.320 --> 56:26.420 show yourself friendly. Proverbs 27.5 says, 56:26.420 --> 56:29.640 open rebuke is better than secret love. 56:29.640 --> 56:33.120 So sometimes your friends need to hear 56:33.120 --> 56:36.080 when they're wrong. And a lot of times people, 56:36.080 --> 56:39.400 friendships can't handle those tests. 56:39.400 --> 56:43.600 You know, sometimes friends need to hear the truth 56:43.600 --> 56:46.600 and they don't want to hear the truth. 56:47.000 --> 56:51.400 Sometimes we could have a little more tact when we're telling our friends the truth. 56:51.400 --> 56:53.800 You can get a little too familiar. 56:53.800 --> 56:58.600 So don't get into other people, your friends' marriages either, 56:58.600 --> 57:01.000 because that's always a bad mistake to do. 57:01.000 --> 57:04.600 They might love you right now, but as soon as they make up with them, 57:04.600 --> 57:05.600 you're going to be the enemy. 57:05.600 --> 57:07.600 So stay out of your friends' marriages. 57:07.600 --> 57:10.600 Just word to the wise. 57:10.600 --> 57:12.100 Proverbs 27 verse 6 says, 57:12.100 --> 57:13.700 faithful are the wounds of a friend. 57:14.000 --> 57:17.600 but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. 57:17.600 --> 57:21.960 So, faith for this verse can, I think, can go two ways. 57:21.960 --> 57:23.320 Faith for the wounds of a friend, 57:23.320 --> 57:26.120 your friend's gonna tell you, you know, 57:26.120 --> 57:28.800 the truth even though it hurts you. 57:28.800 --> 57:32.960 And a lot of friendships don't last past this part. 57:32.960 --> 57:36.560 They don't because they don't wanna hear the truth. 57:36.560 --> 57:39.400 They wanna hear you tell them everything's okay 57:39.400 --> 57:40.240 and everything. 57:40.500 --> 57:43.500 you know, everything that they think is right and all this other stuff. 57:43.500 --> 57:47.500 But sometimes they need to hear the cold hard truth, you know, 57:47.500 --> 57:50.500 and sometimes friendships can't endure those things. 57:50.500 --> 57:55.500 So, but if you're just sitting there being a yes man or a, you know, 57:55.500 --> 57:58.500 you're just massaging their ego all the time or whatever, 57:58.500 --> 58:03.500 then really are they that good of a friend if they're just going to throw you in the trash 58:03.500 --> 58:05.200 because you told them the truth? 58:05.300 --> 58:11.300 But sometimes we have an opinion and our opinion might not be right too, so we've got to also keep that in mind. 58:11.300 --> 58:16.300 And giving people unsolicited advice isn't always a good idea either. 58:16.300 --> 58:27.300 So make sure that if someone asks you for your opinion that you maybe even give a little caveat before you give it to them. 58:27.300 --> 58:29.300 It's like, do you really want my opinion? 58:29.900 --> 58:32.940 Because if you really want my opinion, you might not like it. 58:32.940 --> 58:35.220 So yeah. 58:35.220 --> 58:37.660 Because if it's going to be negative, 58:37.660 --> 58:39.740 it might just come out of left field to them 58:39.740 --> 58:41.860 and it just really offends them. 58:41.860 --> 58:45.060 So you might even just kind of soften it up a little bit. 58:45.060 --> 58:46.000 Like, you know. 58:47.200 --> 58:52.720 You suck. No. Everything about you is messed up. You need to fix everything. 58:53.760 --> 59:01.680 I don't know. You might want to just focus on one thing at a time. But Proverbs 27 verse 14 says, 59:01.680 --> 59:08.640 He that blessed his friend with a loud voice, rising early in the morning, it shall be counted 59:08.640 --> 59:13.600 a curse to him. Don't call your friend super early in the morning and just be like, hey, what's going on? 59:15.400 --> 59:21.120 Or wake them up. You know they're staying over there you're around some vacation together and just like 59:22.520 --> 59:24.980 I mean I think that's what this is kind of talking about 59:25.480 --> 59:28.560 So you can be annoying I think it's just saying don't be annoying 59:29.260 --> 59:35.440 Proverbs 27 verse 17 iron sharpeneth iron so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend 59:36.100 --> 59:40.100 And so that's a good principle to live by. 59:40.100 --> 59:42.600 We can sharpen each other by our opinions. 59:42.600 --> 59:46.100 And just being a yes man all the time to each other's opinions 59:46.100 --> 59:49.100 is not really helping each other out sometimes. 59:49.100 --> 59:52.100 Even just giving like an alternative view, 59:52.100 --> 59:54.100 like, hey, have you thought about this? 59:54.100 --> 59:56.100 And then you can kind of hash things out. 59:56.100 --> 59:58.100 I'm not talking about arguing necessarily, 59:58.100 --> 01:00:00.100 but it could be, you know, where you're just saying, 01:00:00.100 --> 01:00:02.100 well, have you thought about this? 01:00:02.100 --> 01:00:03.700 You know, even playing... 01:00:03.800 --> 01:00:08.840 quote-unquote, the devil's advocate, which obviously I'm not really meaning to advocate 01:00:08.840 --> 01:00:14.240 for the devil, but just giving an alternative point of view. 01:00:14.240 --> 01:00:19.840 But you can be too contrarian too sometimes and be annoying, so be careful about that. 01:00:19.840 --> 01:00:24.800 It says, a friend loveth, Proverbs 17, 17 says, a friend loveth at all times, and a 01:00:24.800 --> 01:00:25.880 brother is born. 01:00:26.400 --> 01:00:32.880 for adversity. So your friend is also your brother in Christ. So when we are going through battles, 01:00:32.880 --> 01:00:37.600 you know, it's good to have someone that's your friend. You know, if you're a person and you just 01:00:37.600 --> 01:00:43.920 have no friends at all, well, I mean, go find yourself a good church to go to and make some 01:00:43.920 --> 01:00:50.480 friends. And if nobody ever wants to be your friend, you know, well, Jesus will always be your friend, 01:00:50.480 --> 01:00:51.900 you know, as long as you're... 01:00:52.000 --> 01:00:56.000 doing the things that he requires for you to be his friend. 01:00:56.000 --> 01:00:59.000 You might be saved, but he might not be your friend. 01:00:59.000 --> 01:01:01.000 So consider those things. 01:01:01.000 --> 01:01:03.000 But if nobody ever wants to be your friend, 01:01:03.000 --> 01:01:05.000 consider that you might have some character flaws 01:01:05.000 --> 01:01:08.000 that you need to work on and fix those things. 01:01:08.000 --> 01:01:11.000 But it doesn't mean you still... 01:01:11.000 --> 01:01:14.000 A friend loves it all times. Yeah, we should love our friends. 01:01:14.000 --> 01:01:18.000 And not all friendships are easy all the time. 01:01:18.000 --> 01:01:19.800 Sometimes friends fight. 01:01:20.000 --> 01:01:23.200 And that's okay, as long as it's not just getting too crazy 01:01:23.200 --> 01:01:26.240 where you just have to part friendships or whatever. 01:01:26.240 --> 01:01:28.240 But you know, those things happen too. 01:01:28.240 --> 01:01:32.240 You can't really count lifelong good friends. 01:01:32.240 --> 01:01:34.280 It's not like, I always tell people this, 01:01:34.280 --> 01:01:35.720 hey, the friends that you have now, 01:01:35.720 --> 01:01:37.640 like to teenagers and kids, 01:01:37.640 --> 01:01:41.320 they're probably not gonna be your friends later on. 01:01:41.320 --> 01:01:42.960 Friends that you had in high school, 01:01:42.960 --> 01:01:44.080 you're probably not gonna be friends 01:01:44.080 --> 01:01:45.560 with very many of those people. 01:01:45.800 --> 01:01:49.000 later on, 10, 20 years down the road. 01:01:49.000 --> 01:01:53.720 So, Ecclesiastes, this can be applied in a lot of different ways. 01:01:53.720 --> 01:01:57.800 I applied it differently last week, but Ecclesiastes 4.9 says, 01:01:57.800 --> 01:02:00.760 two are better than one because they have a good reward for their labor. 01:02:00.760 --> 01:02:06.560 For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow, 01:02:06.560 --> 01:02:10.040 but woe to him that is alone when he falleth. 01:02:10.040 --> 01:02:10.800 For he. 01:02:10.900 --> 01:02:13.300 hath not another to help him up. 01:02:13.300 --> 01:02:14.820 When you don't have any friends, 01:02:14.820 --> 01:02:17.060 you know it's hard because there's nobody there 01:02:17.060 --> 01:02:19.780 to help you when you're going through a hard time. 01:02:19.780 --> 01:02:23.380 Again, if two lie together, then they have heat. 01:02:23.380 --> 01:02:25.380 But how can one be warm alone? 01:02:25.380 --> 01:02:27.100 You go out hunting, and you're out in the middle 01:02:27.100 --> 01:02:28.940 of a blizzard somewhere, and you have nobody 01:02:28.940 --> 01:02:31.620 to help you get some heat, you know you're gonna die 01:02:31.620 --> 01:02:33.860 out in the middle of nowhere by yourself. 01:02:33.860 --> 01:02:35.300 And if one prevail against them, 01:02:35.300 --> 01:02:37.940 two shall withstand him in a three-fold chord. 01:02:38.100 --> 01:02:39.880 is not quickly broken. 01:02:39.880 --> 01:02:42.380 You know, it was the three musketeers, 01:02:42.380 --> 01:02:45.180 you know, it was the three amigos. 01:02:45.180 --> 01:02:48.880 You know, it's good to have more than one friend too. 01:02:48.880 --> 01:02:50.660 You know, there's some people that are just like, 01:02:50.660 --> 01:02:53.060 this could be my only friend and that's it 01:02:53.060 --> 01:02:55.560 and nobody else is gonna be part of my friendship, 01:02:55.560 --> 01:02:57.200 my circle. 01:02:57.200 --> 01:02:58.460 And you know, there's nothing wrong 01:02:58.460 --> 01:03:00.100 with having more than one friend. 01:03:00.100 --> 01:03:03.200 There's nothing wrong with having more than two friends. 01:03:03.200 --> 01:03:03.900 So. 01:03:04.300 --> 01:03:12.300 Proverbs 27 verse 9 says, ointment and perfume rejoice the heart, so does the sweetness of a man's friend by hearty counsel. 01:03:12.300 --> 01:03:18.300 So friends can give good counsel that can help you out. 01:03:18.300 --> 01:03:24.300 So going in this life alone is not always good. 01:03:24.300 --> 01:03:26.300 But these guys had a friendship that was... 01:03:27.900 --> 01:03:31.420 was definitely extraordinary and they stayed friends to the very end. 01:03:32.540 --> 01:03:37.500 Verse 18 in our text says, then Jonathan said to David, tomorrow is the new moon. 01:03:38.060 --> 01:03:42.700 Now shall be missed because thy seat will be empty. When thou has stayed three days, 01:03:42.700 --> 01:03:47.180 then thou shalt go down quickly and come to the place where thou didst hide thyself 01:03:47.900 --> 01:03:54.540 when the business was in hand and and shall remain by the stone Ezel. And I will shoot. 01:03:55.400 --> 01:04:02.040 Three arrows on the side thereof as though I shot at a mark, and behold I will send a lad saying, 01:04:02.040 --> 01:04:08.600 Go find out the arrows. If I expressly say unto the lad, Behold the arrows are on this side of thee, 01:04:09.160 --> 01:04:15.720 take them, then come thou, for there is peace to thee and no hurt as the Lord liveth." 01:04:15.720 --> 01:04:20.400 So this is the signal that he's telling him if he says... 01:04:20.900 --> 01:04:25.220 If he says these things to the lad that he's going to be shooting the arrows to. 01:04:25.220 --> 01:04:30.820 And if I say thus unto the young man, Behold the arrows are beyond thee, go thy way for 01:04:30.820 --> 01:04:33.180 the Lord has sent thee away. 01:04:33.180 --> 01:04:36.760 And as touching the matter which thou and I have spoken of, behold the Lord be between 01:04:36.760 --> 01:04:39.020 thee and me forever. 01:04:39.020 --> 01:04:43.460 So David hid himself in the field and when the new moon was come, the king sat him down 01:04:43.460 --> 01:04:44.260 to eat meat. 01:04:45.100 --> 01:04:49.820 And the king sat upon his seat as other times, even upon a seat by the wall. 01:04:50.380 --> 01:04:58.060 And Jonathan arose, and Abner sat by his uncle's, sat by Saul's side, and David's place was empty. 01:04:58.700 --> 01:05:04.060 Nevertheless, Saul spake not anything that day, for he thought something hath befallen him. 01:05:04.060 --> 01:05:06.060 He is not clean, surely he is not clean. 01:05:06.600 --> 01:05:12.600 I mean, he's hoping. He's hoping something happened to him, because he doesn't want to have to dispatch him by himself, right? 01:05:12.600 --> 01:05:18.600 And it came to pass on the morrow, which was the second day of the month, that David's place was empty. 01:05:18.600 --> 01:05:25.600 And Saul said unto Jonathan his son, Wherefore cometh not the son of Jesse to meet, neither yesterday nor today? 01:05:25.600 --> 01:05:27.100 And Jonathan answered, Saul. 01:05:27.300 --> 01:05:33.540 David earnestly asked leave of me to go to Bethlehem and he said let me go I pray thee for our family 01:05:33.540 --> 01:05:39.380 hath a sacrifice in the city and my brother he hath commanded me to be there and now if I have 01:05:39.380 --> 01:05:44.260 found favor in thine eyes let me get away I pray thee and see my brethren 01:05:44.700 --> 01:05:47.360 Therefore he cometh not unto the king's table." 01:05:47.360 --> 01:05:48.980 So this is a lie. 01:05:48.980 --> 01:05:54.480 And it says, then Saul's anger was kindled against Jonathan, and he said unto him, thou 01:05:54.480 --> 01:06:00.160 son of the perverse, rebellious woman, do not I know that thou hast chosen the son of 01:06:00.160 --> 01:06:05.940 Jesse to thine own confusion, and unto the confusion of thy mother's nakedness. 01:06:05.940 --> 01:06:11.260 So he's basically just telling him, you know, you're bringing shame upon your family. 01:06:11.400 --> 01:06:14.600 and your mother and whatever. 01:06:14.600 --> 01:06:18.200 But he doesn't seem like he likes his mom too much either. 01:06:18.200 --> 01:06:21.600 He's not really speaking very kindly about her. 01:06:21.600 --> 01:06:26.160 So he's basically saying, you're being stupid. 01:06:26.160 --> 01:06:29.440 You're the next in line, and you're just kind of choosing 01:06:29.440 --> 01:06:31.640 someone that's going to take your spot. 01:06:31.640 --> 01:06:35.240 And you're confused, buddy. 01:06:35.800 --> 01:06:40.880 And then verse 31 says, for as long as the son of Jesse liveth upon the ground, thou 01:06:40.880 --> 01:06:43.160 shall not be established, nor thy kingdom. 01:06:43.160 --> 01:06:48.680 Wherefore now send and fetch him unto me, for he shall surely die. 01:06:48.680 --> 01:06:51.960 Jonathan answered Saul his father and said unto him, Wherefore shall he be slain? 01:06:51.960 --> 01:06:53.300 What hath he done? 01:06:53.300 --> 01:06:58.520 And Saul cast a javelin at him to smite him, whereby Jonathan knew that it was the turn 01:06:58.520 --> 01:06:59.000 of. 01:06:59.100 --> 01:07:03.740 his father to slay David. So there he goes with that javelin again. 01:07:03.740 --> 01:07:06.860 And he's 0 for how many now? 0 for 4 or whatever? 01:07:09.340 --> 01:07:15.580 He's definitely not a very good aim with it. Especially in close quarters. I mean, you'd think he'd be able to... 01:07:16.300 --> 01:07:21.940 So, Jonathan arose from the table in fierce anger and ate no meat the second day of the 01:07:21.940 --> 01:07:25.140 month, for he was grieved for David because his father had done him shame. 01:07:25.140 --> 01:07:28.940 And it came to pass in the morning that Jonathan went out into the field at the time appointed 01:07:28.940 --> 01:07:31.940 with David and a little lad with him. 01:07:31.940 --> 01:07:37.100 And he said unto his lad, Run, find out now the arrows which I shoot. 01:07:37.100 --> 01:07:39.540 And as the lad ran, he shot an arrow beyond him. 01:07:39.900 --> 01:07:43.880 And when the lad was come to the place of the arrow, which Jonathan had shot, Jonathan 01:07:43.880 --> 01:07:48.340 cried after the lad and said, Is not the arrow beyond thee? 01:07:48.340 --> 01:07:52.760 And Jonathan cried after the lad, Make speed, haste, stay not. 01:07:52.760 --> 01:07:56.120 And Jonathan's lad gathered up the arrows and came to his master. 01:07:56.120 --> 01:08:01.300 And the lad knew nothing, or knew not anything, excuse me, only Jonathan and David knew the 01:08:01.300 --> 01:08:02.300 matter. 01:08:02.300 --> 01:08:07.140 And Jonathan gave his artillery to his lad and said unto him, Go, carry them into the 01:08:07.140 --> 01:08:07.600 Thank you. 01:08:08.000 --> 01:08:13.600 So now the last thing and I'm almost done. Jonathan and David's sad goodbye. Verse 41, 01:08:14.240 --> 01:08:19.440 And as soon as the lad was gone, David arose out of a place toward the south, and he fell on his 01:08:19.440 --> 01:08:24.800 face to the ground and bowed himself three times. And they kissed one another and wept 01:08:24.800 --> 01:08:27.600 one another until David exceeded. 01:08:28.200 --> 01:08:32.760 So obviously, you know, homos will say weird stuff about this and say, 01:08:32.760 --> 01:08:34.040 see, they're homos or whatever. 01:08:34.040 --> 01:08:35.800 It's like, no, you're just a pervert. 01:08:35.800 --> 01:08:38.480 You think everything has to be some homo thing. 01:08:38.480 --> 01:08:42.960 It's just, you know, customs are different, obviously, in different places. 01:08:43.920 --> 01:08:47.440 People thought King James was a homo because they in England, 01:08:47.440 --> 01:08:50.840 they used to kiss each other on the face like the whole one, you know, that kind of thing. 01:08:51.200 --> 01:08:55.520 And so that's one of the reasons why they'll try to say that King James was a homo, because 01:08:56.800 --> 01:09:02.400 and maybe they did overly overdo it in that country at that time, but I mean you'll see 01:09:02.400 --> 01:09:07.840 like different like cultures like Greece and Italy and places like that, they do the same thing. 01:09:08.480 --> 01:09:13.280 It's just you know to us it's weird because we're Americans and I will still... 01:09:13.900 --> 01:09:18.340 Yeah, nobody better try to give me a holy kiss. 01:09:18.340 --> 01:09:20.820 I might turn your cheek. 01:09:20.820 --> 01:09:22.900 I actually had a preacher come up and do that to me one time. 01:09:22.900 --> 01:09:26.700 He put a big slobbering, he goes, I'm just greeting you with the holy kiss, brother. 01:09:26.700 --> 01:09:29.540 I was like, don't ever do that again. 01:09:29.540 --> 01:09:32.580 But obviously, yeah, it is in the Bible. 01:09:32.580 --> 01:09:33.580 Yeah. 01:09:33.580 --> 01:09:35.580 Holy could also mean separate. 01:09:35.580 --> 01:09:36.580 Yeah. 01:09:36.580 --> 01:09:37.580 Holy does mean separate. 01:09:37.580 --> 01:09:38.580 It's like, mwah. 01:09:38.580 --> 01:09:39.580 Blow me a kiss. 01:09:39.580 --> 01:09:41.900 But even that seems weird to me. 01:09:41.900 --> 01:09:46.580 So we're definitely a different sort over here. 01:09:46.580 --> 01:09:50.060 So if it even seems like it might be gay. 01:09:50.060 --> 01:09:54.100 But yeah, obviously this isn't anything gay or weird. 01:09:54.100 --> 01:09:55.940 They're not homos. 01:09:55.940 --> 01:09:57.780 It says, and Jonathan said unto David, 01:09:57.780 --> 01:10:00.020 go in peace for as much as we have sworn both of us 01:10:00.020 --> 01:10:02.620 in the name of the Lord, saying, the Lord be between me 01:10:02.620 --> 01:10:05.780 and thee, and between my seed and thy seed forever. 01:10:05.780 --> 01:10:08.660 And he arose and departed, and Jonathan went into the city. 01:10:09.200 --> 01:10:14.200 So, I mean, they're between my seed and my seed forever. 01:10:14.200 --> 01:10:20.440 So basically, I mean, they have a problem because David and Saul has a problem. 01:10:20.440 --> 01:10:22.800 But they're still, in the end, it's all going to work out. 01:10:22.800 --> 01:10:27.540 Like I was kind of showing you in all those different, for instances, and you know, they're 01:10:27.540 --> 01:10:29.120 in heaven together now. 01:10:29.120 --> 01:10:32.600 So, and David didn't wipe out his line. 01:10:32.600 --> 01:10:34.060 but like... 01:10:35.400 --> 01:10:41.400 You know, Abner killed his brother, Mephibosheth's brother that was king, 01:10:41.400 --> 01:10:45.400 and they would have wiped out the whole line if they would have had the chance to, 01:10:45.400 --> 01:10:47.400 but David wouldn't allow it. 01:10:47.400 --> 01:10:50.400 So, but that's normally what happens. 01:10:50.400 --> 01:10:52.400 I mean, they'll kill everybody. 01:10:52.400 --> 01:10:54.400 That's what they would do in England. 01:10:54.400 --> 01:10:55.400 So 01:10:56.100 --> 01:10:59.340 But as friends, they have their bond and covenant, 01:10:59.340 --> 01:11:01.840 but as responsibilities to their masters 01:11:01.840 --> 01:11:04.480 and to the future of their houses, they're at odds. 01:11:04.480 --> 01:11:08.480 And not all stories have a happy ending in this life. 01:11:08.480 --> 01:11:10.080 People die and you're just like, 01:11:10.080 --> 01:11:13.520 oh man, I never got a chance to see him again. 01:11:13.520 --> 01:11:15.060 That's why it's so important to get saved 01:11:15.060 --> 01:11:17.060 and it's important to... 01:11:19.400 --> 01:11:22.600 The last time you see someone, maybe not to end on a bad note with them. 01:11:22.600 --> 01:11:25.160 Because you take that guilt with you. 01:11:25.160 --> 01:11:30.000 And even though they've probably forgiven you the moment that they passed on, 01:11:30.000 --> 01:11:35.400 but you still live with that and it might mess you up. 01:11:35.400 --> 01:11:39.600 So that's why it's best to just try your best to get along with people and 01:11:39.600 --> 01:11:41.200 not to have some sort of a... 01:11:42.800 --> 01:11:48.240 You know, just a grudge, holding grudge and bitternesses in your heart and things like that. 01:11:48.240 --> 01:11:53.760 So, but I'm sure, like I said, that Jonathan and David are probably hanging out right now. 01:11:53.760 --> 01:11:57.760 They're probably shooting bow and arrows and throwing javelins or whatever. 01:11:57.760 --> 01:12:01.200 Maybe Saul's, they're showing Saul how to throw the javelin correctly. 01:12:03.360 --> 01:12:06.880 But even though, you know, our responsibilities can hinder friendships. 01:12:07.400 --> 01:12:12.160 That doesn't mean that we have to stop caring about our friends. 01:12:12.160 --> 01:12:16.720 So things might change, but our character and our integrity does not have to change. 01:12:16.720 --> 01:12:22.760 And so we can still remain loyal and good friends, even though certain things might 01:12:22.760 --> 01:12:26.480 put us at odds with each other and whatever those things might be. 01:12:26.480 --> 01:12:27.480 Let's pray. 01:12:27.480 --> 01:12:30.520 Lord, we thank you so much for this chapter in the Bible and the insights that it can 01:12:30.520 --> 01:12:34.680 give us some friendship and the eternal... 01:12:35.100 --> 01:12:43.180 pictures that it shows us about David being the son, the son of God, the picture 01:12:43.180 --> 01:12:48.260 of the Son of God and Lord we just pray that you'd help us to be good 01:12:48.260 --> 01:12:53.100 friends and Lord that the people in our church would be people that are options 01:12:53.100 --> 01:12:55.300 for people to be good friends to each other. 01:12:55.500 --> 01:13:01.580 Lord help us to put away grudges and stupid things that we get mad at people for and then 01:13:01.580 --> 01:13:04.700 we forget why we're even mad or why we don't like somebody. 01:13:04.700 --> 01:13:09.520 Lord help us to just be friends and good neighbors to as many people as possible and have a good 01:13:09.520 --> 01:13:16.220 attitude towards our fellow man and our fellow brothers and sisters in Christ and be as friendly 01:13:16.220 --> 01:13:18.480 to as many people as we can. 01:13:18.480 --> 01:13:19.480 Be positive. 01:13:19.480 --> 01:13:20.940 Be a positive force in this world. 01:13:21.300 --> 01:13:27.540 And we love you Lord and we thank you for all that you do for us on a daily basis and the things that we don't thank you for. 01:13:27.540 --> 01:13:32.340 And we love you. Take us home safely tonight. We pray that you'd help those that are sick and 01:13:34.100 --> 01:13:40.260 that are going through challenges in their life that you'd bring them back swiftly as possible. 01:13:40.260 --> 01:13:45.860 And we also ask that you'd watch over the Hersey family as they have been dealing with the loss in their life. 01:13:46.400 --> 01:13:50.400 We ask that you dismiss us now in Jesus name we pray, Amen. 01:14:00.800 --> 01:14:04.800 Alright, close with 133, safe wherever I go. 01:14:16.400 --> 01:14:20.560 See if we're ever good. 133. Let's sing it through a couple times. 01:14:25.900 --> 01:14:26.900 All together. 01:14:27.400 --> 01:14:32.400 Safe wherever I go 01:14:32.400 --> 01:14:35.400 Peace the world cannot know 01:14:45.100 --> 01:14:45.800 Well... 01:15:13.100 --> 01:15:15.100 Brother Timu, can you close this with a prayer please?