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Alright, Grace. It's evening. At this time, we're going to receive our offering.
Alright, Brother Alex, would you bless the offering for us?
Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for gathering here today.
Thank you for giving us the means to make a way in our world.
We ask that you bless us.
We offer you both a gift and a gift.
Amen.
Alright, well I started last week not having, we're not going to be having the prayer requests
public anymore, so, and even if they're not public, I'm still, like if something gives
a lot of detail, I probably just won't pray for this specific thing.
Amen.
Alright, we're in 1 Peter 3.
And
like I said I was going to preach two sermons out of this.
And
the title of my sermon tonight is
the Movie of the Wives High Calling.
The Wives
And probably like Pastor Thompson even teaming up against the girls for
too long, but this is just what's in the Bible.
So we're in a Bible study, I've come to it.
And my purpose isn't to beat up on women tonight,
but I do want to challenge the ladies that maybe are gonna be future wives,
people that have already been wives for many years, or
people that are newly married.
And there's gonna be a little shot at the guys at the very end.
And so at least they'll be getting some damage to them.
No, I'm just kidding.
But the purpose is obviously, I want to help
any wives with any issues they might have.
And this chapter here, the first several verses,
it's 1 Peter 3 that's focusing on the women, okay?
It's the Holy Spirit of God that's focusing on the women here.
And so don't just shut it off and say,
Pastor's just gonna be on one of his rants again or whatever.
I might rant a little bit.
But I think that I just don't want the ladies to shut it off in their minds.
And just listen to what the Bible actually says.
Because I didn't write the Bible.
I didn't make the rules.
I didn't just dream this up out of my own mind.
This is something that's in the scriptures.
So I just want you to be prepared to,
sometimes God's spirit will beat us up in a sermon.
So if the Holy Spirit's beating you up, don't blame it on me, okay?
And obviously, a lot of this stuff is positive too.
So sometimes negative has to be applied in order for positive to happen.
And sometimes we need to hear things that we don't want to hear.
Because it's not really hard preaching if,
like Brother Sean mentioned one time, if someone doesn't get burned.
So we believe at this church that hard preaching helps people to get better.
It helps marriages to get better.
It helps women to get better.
It helps men to get better.
It helps children to get better.
It helps this preacher here to get better.
The word of God, it needs to be applied in our lives.
And it needs to be applied in preaching.
So I'm just like preparing you that some of this stuff can get a little bit,
you know, but that's not my, again, my intention is to help.
So I just, I feel like I have to say that before I preach this sermon.
Just so you're prepared in your heart to receive God's word and
receive what the truth says in the Bible.
So number one tonight, gonna get right into it, verse number one says,
likewise you wives be in subjection to your own husbands.
So let's pray.
Heavenly Father, we thank you, Lord, so much for the scriptures, Lord.
And Lord, I'm not gonna shy away from any topic in the Bible,
no matter how unpopular it is.
And Lord, I want to help the ladies in our church and future wives.
Those that are wives in our church, Lord, just help them, Lord.
And help me to preach the word of God tonight in spirit and in truth.
I pray you fill me with your spirit.
Lord, I pray that people would pay really close attention to this,
including the husbands and maybe men that are wanting to get married later on.
Or maybe even soon, I pray that you would just bless this as it's preached.
In Jesus' name I pray, amen.
So verse one, it's already starting, okay?
Likewise you wives be in subjection to your own husbands.
And this verse alone is enough to make a lot of ladies just walk out of a church
and not come back, but that's what the Bible says, okay?
Be in subjection to your own husbands.
Now, there's several verses in the Bible that teach this.
This isn't just some standalone verse.
My first point in my sermon is,
wives should be in subjection to their own husbands.
Why? Because that's what the Bible says, okay?
So what would that mean?
Well, it means that the husband is the boss of the home.
That's what it means.
They're the boss of the wife.
They're the boss of the children.
And that's what it means to be in subjection.
I'll just define the term for you.
Subjection, the action of subjecting a country or
person to one's control or the fact of being subjected.
So it's like as unto a lord or a king.
That's basically kind of what it's talking about.
So obviously, when a country is subject to another country,
they can levy taxes and things like that against them.
But what it's talking about here is obviously not,
you know, you're not taxing your wife, you're the boss.
But the Holy Spirit of God is speaking here through
the Apostle Peter and saying that, hey,
your wives be in subjection to your own husbands.
What does that mean?
Well, it means if they're, you know, you're like, well,
you know, you don't know my husband, he's a control freak.
Well, isn't subjection being under someone's control?
They're telling them what to do?
That's what it says, right?
That's what the definition is.
So let's look at some scriptures really quickly.
We'll just go through here.
It's already gone deadly silent.
But maybe it's just cuz I'm having like a coughing attack
up here and I'm just, I don't know.
Let's turn to Ephesians chapter five.
Let's hold our fingers in 1 Peter 3 and
let's turn it over to Ephesians 5.
So what does it mean to be in subject?
Well, it's talking about your own husbands.
It doesn't say to other people's husbands.
It doesn't say to other men.
When you're married, the transfer takes place where the dad,
the father of the home, gives that bride away.
And then that bride becomes under the leadership and
protection of her husband.
That's what the Bible teaches all the way through it.
Even like if a young woman was to vow a vow,
her father could annul that vow.
Because she's under the protection and guidance of her father.
But then once you give them away at the marriage altar,
then they become under the protection and
under the leadership of their husband.
So Ephesians 5.2, look what it says.
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord.
So now it gives a little bit more depth here.
So it's not just be, you know, subjection is kind of along the same lines.
But submit means to accept or yield to a superior force or
the authority or will of another person.
We live in 2022 and this is definitely not popular.
This sermon is out of season, okay?
And most pastors will not get up and preach this because they're too scared of
their wives to get up and actually preach it.
They're too scared of the women in the church that are gonna get mad and
give dirty looks when it says these verses.
But when I marry people, one of the vows that is
part of the vows that they give is to honor and obey.
They're vowing to obey.
So when you get married, if you've gotten married at this church or
if you got married by Pastor Jimenez, that's part of the vows.
And so when you make a vow unto the Lord,
you're saying that you're gonna do that.
And so you're expected to keep your vows in all ways.
Obviously, we all mess up and we all screw up and we all fail.
But it's kind of like what a pastor has to do.
Some things are subjective.
But obviously, there's things that your wife might do.
How many times does she have to be disobedient to be disobedient?
Well, one time.
But is it her way of life to just be disobedient over everything?
Cuz some women are like that.
Some men are like that, but some women are like that.
We're not talking about men right now, so we're gonna talk about the women.
But that seems to be a huge problem in this day and
age just because of women's lib and 1969 where all the women burn their bras and
started wanting to be a part of the workforce and wanting to wear the pants
and the family and all this other stuff.
And it's kind of just a no fault divorce has just kind of made this world a very
dark place for marriages, for the family.
That law alone changed fundamentally this country when it comes to the home.
Because a no fault divorce just means that you can just get divorced for
any reason.
You're not expected to work it out.
If you have a problem and you can't work it out, we'll just get divorced and
you can just find somebody else that you think's better.
But usually if you're gonna have a problem with one person,
you're gonna have a problem with another one, so.
But Ephesians 5 22 says submit, wives submit yourselves.
Notice again how it says unto your own husbands.
So this is something that's stressed also when it's talking about wives submitting
and wives obeying.
It's talking about your own husbands when you're married.
So it says as unto the Lord.
So that's the interesting part about this verse, it says as unto the Lord.
So basically, however submissive you are to God will show in your marriage to
how submissive you are to your husband.
You're like, well, my husband's not God.
I understand that, but what is the Bible saying here?
It's saying as unto the Lord.
So what's God saying?
He's saying, well, just like you would obey God, you should obey your husband.
Isn't that what it's saying?
Am I reading into the text there?
That's what it says, doesn't it?
So turn to Colossians chapter 3, verse number 18, Colossians 3, verse 18.
I like how these verses kind of add their own little detail to it.
They're all still saying the same thing, basically.
But then they're also adding some detail to it for you.
So wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as unto the Lord.
Colossians 3 18, wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands.
There it is again, that's the third time, right?
As it is fit in the Lord.
So fit means suitable or a type to meet the required purpose.
So it's fit, it's fitting.
You know what's fit is to submit to your own husbands, and
that's what's fit in the Lord, it's suitable.
It's something that God expects.
So it's something that is the right thing to do,
is to be submissive to your own husbands.
So, and now turn to Titus chapter 2, verse 4, Titus chapter 2, verse 4.
And the Bible says in Titus chapter 2, verse 4, that they may teach
the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children.
Now that's a problem today, isn't it?
Where people just, you know, first of all being sober.
Second of all, taught to love their husbands.
I mean, every sitcom basically just shows you to disrespect your husband, and
they're just some idiot that doesn't know how to run the home right.
And really it's the wife that's the brains behind the whole operation.
And like every show like that is just putting men down,
it's putting down the husband as some useful idiot.
So, you know, it's unfortunate that's the way it is.
But that's, look, that's the devil's plan is to destroy your family.
If you have a family, you're a Christian family, his plan is to destroy that.
His plan is to make a mockery of the home and the family.
And as Christians, we need to fight against that.
We need to fight against it because it's wicked.
It's a wicked agenda in our society.
And people are like, you're weird.
Like, your wife wears dresses and skirts only.
Why is that?
You believe in having big families?
Like, why are you having so many kids?
And, you know, just all this stuff.
Why is your wife breastfeed?
Like, what is wrong with you?
Like, is there something wrong with formula?
You know, and again, I'm not attacking someone that would use formula.
I'm just saying that these are things that God teaches in the Bible.
And it's like people just act like it's so weird.
You know why it's so weird?
Because the Bible is just completely out of our society for the most part.
And people just get offended.
They want the Bible to say what they want it to say.
And when it hair lifts them and messes them up and
hurts their dog's feelings or whatever, they get upset about that.
And then they just like, well, I don't want to have anything to do with a God
that would say, I should submit to my husband.
It's the order of things.
It's the way God ordered things.
The title of the sermon is Wives, the Wives' High Calling.
Why is it a high calling?
Because it comes from on high.
So if God's calling you to be a specific way as a wife, that calling is from God.
It's from on high.
And so therefore, it is a high calling of God.
Look at verse number five in Titus chapter two verse five, it says,
to be discreet, chaste, heapers at home, not outside the workforce,
good, obedient to their own husbands, there it is again for
the fourth time, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Why should you do it?
So that people don't blaspheme God's word and say, oh,
you don't even obey your husband, like you're the one that's running the home?
See, that's not the way it should be.
And people look, people know basically what the Bible says.
But it takes becoming a Bible believing Christian to actually run a home
effectively anymore because everything else is so contrary to what the home is
actually supposed to be like, that it's a strange thing for
them to have something like this preached.
So number one, wives should be in subjection to their own husbands.
And look, God is not asking you to do something that you cannot do.
He's not just gonna put something in the Bible that you can't do.
Obviously, can you do it every time?
Are you ever gonna talk back?
Are you ever gonna say no?
Are you ever gonna fight back on some issues?
Of course women are gonna do that, but he's saying to do that.
How many times does it say your own husbands?
So it's specifically talking about your own husbands.
Now, so your husband is your boss.
And if you go outside to the workforce, then who else is your boss?
Another man, isn't he?
If a man is your boss, then you're like usurping that man's job.
Because now you have two bosses.
Which boss are you gonna listen to?
The one that God said for you to listen to?
Or the one that you, because you wanted to go out into the workforce or
your, you know, sometimes husbands do this.
They send their wives out to the workforce.
Most homes now are two person incomes.
And that's why there's a lot of fighting over just that alone.
Because when the Bible says to be chase keepers at home, you know,
there's a reason why they said that.
Because look, if both parents are gone from the home, who's watching the kids?
Well, it's the government, isn't it?
It's the government watching the kids in the school from cradle to grave, basically.
That's why they push the college agenda.
That's why they push all this other stuff.
Because they want your innocent sweet little daughters
to go to Beer Pong University eventually.
And then become some kind of a whore that now all they care about is their career.
And it's just bad, it's bad news.
It's not what God intended.
God wants you to grow up and get married.
And if you're one of the very rare people that don't need a mate or
a spouse, then you're a rare person.
You're like a eunuch for the kingdom of heaven's sake or whatever.
But most people, a very high percentage of people,
want to be married to somebody, right?
And it should be someone of the opposite gender, by the way, not some freak show.
So, and God is not asking you to do something other saved women have not
done in the past.
You have Sarah as the example in the scriptures.
Look back at verse number five in first Peter chapter three.
So, we have this example, and I'm gonna make a whole point about this,
but I just wanted to show you the other scripture where it talks,
cuz it's one, two, three, four, five scriptures I'm showing you here,
where it talks about wives being submissive to their own husbands, right?
Do you think he said it five times because he didn't mean it?
He did.
He said it five times to show you that he does mean it.
Usually you'll have three scriptures you can go off that are really solid, but
here's five scriptures that are really solid about this.
And it says in verse five, for after this manner in the old time,
the holy women also, so let's talk about the holy people, ladies in the past,
in the Bible, who trusted in God,
adorned themselves being in subjection unto their own husbands.
So, God's not asking you to do something that you can't do, and
he's also not asking you to do something that other women have not done in the past.
Yes, you can be submissive.
Yes, you can do what God's purpose for you to do is, and
that's number one, to be in subjection to your own husbands.
When you're married, and you're a Christian, this is what God expects.
I think this is what God expects, even if you're not a Christian.
I mean, think about King Ahasuerus, with Ruth,
his wife Vashti was the queen of the whole world, basically, his favorite queen.
And she refused to listen to him just about coming to court, so
everybody could see how pretty she was or whatever.
And she refused, and you know what, it caused a major issue.
And that got, I don't think that that king was saved at that time.
And he ended up firing her from being the queen and
picking Ruth because she disobeyed her husband.
Cuz it wasn't a thing in the past to just to have things the way they are right now.
So just keep that in mind that in the past, women did obey their husbands,
wives obeyed their husbands, and God expects you to do it now in 2022 also.
No matter what the media says, no matter what other preachers are telling you.
Even Joyce Meyers, she gets up and
acts like she's some anointed person that's been called by God to preach.
And you know what?
God never called her to preach cuz the Bible says that women are not supposed to
teach, nor usurp authority over the man.
They're not supposed to get up and preach in church, that's wicked.
And she doesn't even cover her head, she's got short hair or whatever.
It's like, she's not of God, folks, she's not of God.
I don't care if she preaches better than everybody you've ever heard,
she's still not supposed to do it, because that's what the Bible teaches.
But anyway, I'm not getting off into that weed group right now.
But let me ask you this, so will you do what God has called you to do?
Will you submit to your husband?
Cuz what higher calling is there than what God has asked you to do as a woman?
There's no higher calling.
When God specifically zeroes in on women in the Bible,
usually it's kind of a man-dominated book.
It talks about men who are leaders a lot, doesn't it?
But God doesn't view women as lesser,
that's just the roles he's chosen men and women to be in are just different.
And so when God wants someone to lead, he uses a man.
And behind every good man, there's a good woman, I think.
Obviously, that's not a Bible verse, but
they also say that the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.
But I don't know about that, but that's definitely not a Bible verse.
That probably came from Alexander the Great or something, I don't know.
But I don't know who that came from.
But it's just, look, it's not true that women don't,
God doesn't view women as lesser than men, and I don't either.
So, but people get mad about stuff like this just because
they don't like what God has to say about their station in life.
What is the station in life?
What's wrong with being a mom?
What's wrong with being a wife?
What's wrong with raising children?
It's one of the greatest jobs you can ever do and
women are just resistant to it, why?
Because Hollywood and music and all this other stuff,
society is saying something different to you and
it's just a huge pressure on people to conform to this world.
But you know what, the Bible says we're not supposed to conform to this world.
We're supposed to be renewed by the transforming of our mind,
right, through the scriptures.
When you get saved, things are different, things start to change for you.
You automatically stop being a Democrat somehow.
Why?
Because it's just true.
Because then you realize what all they stand for, and you're like, what?
They're for abortion up to pretty much birth?
Well, that's wicked.
They're okay with people just, they're okay with the queer agenda,
the woke agenda, the anti-racism agenda.
Which I grew up in, they're race baiting us every single day in the media.
I mean, I heard they even trained Shaggy into a black character on Scooby Doo and
made Velma a queer.
I mean, not that Scooby Doo was super wholesome when I was growing up or
whatever, but I did grow up watching Scooby Doo or whatever.
And now they've just turned it all woke, and
it's like, I don't have a problem with them changing the character here.
But why are they doing it?
They're doing it because that's the popular thing to do, is to hate Whitey,
and to just change everything on its head.
I mean, Velma, I actually saw a clip where Velma sees another girl,
and then she does some kind of woo, she's just excited to see this other dyke or
whatever, and they're showing that to children.
What purpose do drag queens have reading stories to children,
having them come and watch them dance at a 21 and older place?
I mean, this world's gone crazy, folks, and they want us to get in on this agenda.
They're putting litter boxes in high schools and
stuff because of furries.
I mean, where's it gonna end?
Seriously, where's it gonna end?
How does that work out?
I mean, are they scratching at the litter or whatever?
I just can't even imagine having to walk in on something so strange.
I bet you anything that cats would like to just use the restroom like everybody
else does, but instead, they have to do what they do.
I'm sure that's not enjoyable to them if they could get up.
Some cats could be trained to be on the toilet, I think.
I mean, you'd probably have to put in a lot of time and effort to do that, but
anyway, I'm rambling on here.
But look, being submissive to your husband, this is a mentality.
This is something that takes willpower.
This is something that takes effort.
And you gotta want to do it because, why?
Because God says so, that's why.
Not because I said so, not because I just had an ax to grind when I got in here
tonight like, I can't wait to tell these women how it really is.
You already know.
You already know what the Bible says.
So number two tonight, unsaved and
backslidden husbands' souls can be won by your obedience.
So, sometimes there's instances where the husband is not saved, or
the wife is not saved, but this is specifically focusing on women that are
saved, and then their husbands aren't with the program, okay?
Look at 1 Peter 3 verse 1, 1 Peter 3 verse 1.
The last half of that verse says that if any obey not the word,
they also may be without the word be won by the conversation of the wives.
So, what's it talking about?
It's not saying that you don't have to use the Bible to get people saved.
It's saying you can win them over with your obedience.
You can win them over.
It says if any obey not the word.
So this could be, I think it's primarily talking about a husband that's not saved
and how you can win that person over to Christ.
Because men don't like to be told what to do by women just naturally.
So if you're the one with all the answers to the Bible,
you're the one that's leading the home.
It's just naturally, and men are prideful sometimes and
they just don't want to hear that their wife is more spiritual or
knows more things about the Bible than them or that they're actually saved and
you're not.
So what's God's recommendation on how to win these guys over?
Well, it says that if any obey not the word,
that they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives.
Now it's not talking about how nice your conversations are in private or
with your friends.
It's talking about your lifestyle.
So how do you, what are we talking about here?
Obedience.
So if an unsaved husband is saying, hey, I would like you to go shopping and
get some stuff, and you're like, I don't think I should have to do it.
Why don't you go do it?
And you're saved, and you know he's not saved,
then you're doing him a disservice.
You're just pretty much guaranteeing the guy's not gonna get saved.
So it says in verse two,
while they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
So ladies, if your husband isn't saved, or maybe he's just not as spiritual as you
are, maybe he is saved, and maybe he's just backslidden.
It says if any obey not the word, that means they're just not following the Bible.
It could be both.
It could be someone's not saved, or
it could be that they're just not obeying the Bible once they are saved.
Cuz sometimes one person's on fire more than the other person.
So how are you gonna win them over?
By nagging them, by just not doing what they say, and
just doing whatever you want, and then throwing the Bible in their face every
time you don't wanna do something because you're just more spiritual than they are.
That's not how you're gonna win them.
You're gonna win them by them beholding your chaste conversation.
You're gonna win them by them seeing you live your Christianity.
So that's what it's talking about here.
Now, you can say, well, I'm saved, and I'm this, and I'm that, and
I'm spiritual or whatever, but if your life doesn't show that at all,
they can see it, they're married to you.
They know.
Men aren't stupid, women aren't stupid, but
men can tell when you're trying to do something just to placate them.
And you don't really have your heart into what you're doing,
you're just doing it, and you should do things out of duty.
Do it out of duty, obey out of duty.
But here's the thing, here's what women have a really hard time with.
They're easy at obeying the things that they want to obey, but
when it's something that they disagree with, that's when they have a hard time.
But see, isn't obedience when you're being told to do something,
even if you don't wanna do it?
There's a lot of jobs I've been given on a daily basis where it's just like,
I felt like I was getting the worst jobs because I wasn't one of the cool guys or
whatever, I wasn't one of the boss's favorites.
Everybody goes through that, and
then they send you to do some crappy job or whatever.
But what are you supposed to do, throw a fit and say, I'm not doing this job,
so-and-so needs to do this job?
No, you obey your boss because your boss is telling you what to do.
And it doesn't matter whether it's the worst job or
whether so-and-so's getting treated favorably.
Look, we live in kind of a pansy world today where people are just,
they're so sensitive over everything.
It's like, just do what you're told, just go.
If your boss tells you to do something, I know today that you can go to human
resources and say that they're racist or whatever, because that's just a given now.
So it's really not doing a service for anybody, but look,
just be submissive at work.
Just do what your boss asks you to do, and you know what?
They're gonna like you a lot better than if you complain every time they give you
the last, the worst thing, and it's the same thing for wives.
Sometimes your husband, maybe he is being a pig or whatever.
Maybe he is being a jerk.
Maybe he is just flexing his biblical authority or whatever, but you know what?
Just obey anyway.
And you know what?
That's gonna get you a lot further than just resisting everything,
being a contrarian, being just resistant to everything they say because they're not
saved, resistant to everything they say because they're not following the Bible
perfectly like you are.
And I doubt very seriously that you're following the Bible perfectly either, but
the best thing you can do to win them over to get zealous, the best thing you can do
to win them over to get saved is to actually do what the Bible says,
submit, live a good life in front of them, you know,
don't talk bad about your husband's behind their back.
That is so wrong.
It's wrong for men to do it too.
Don't go around to church talking to other people about your spouse.
You know what?
Work your problems out.
And obviously if it's something that's so bad you need to come to the pastor for
some counseling, I'm willing to do that.
The rumor's kind of gotten around that I don't like doing counseling.
But here's the reality of it.
I don't hate doing counseling.
I hate doing counseling when people won't listen to the counseling.
That's what I hate.
Because it's like I set time aside to do those things and
then literally the next minute they're already fighting.
It's just like, I thought we just agreed that, you know, what's going on here?
So, you can come to me with your problems.
Obviously, if they're small, like, you know, he refuses to walk the dog at night.
It's like, don't come to me for that.
That would be really dumb, okay?
I'm talking about things that are just, when an immovable object meets a,
you know, what is it, an unstoppable force, yeah.
When it's just like your butting heads and
like you both can't see where you're going wrong and someone needs to show you reality.
And like when me and my wife do counseling with people,
we usually do it together so we can just sit and listen.
Because you're gonna tell us everything we wanna know in like the first 15,
20 minutes, and then that's how we apply the counsel.
Like, well, here's what I see, here's what I'm hearing, and
then I give you something to work on, right?
But like, I don't hate counseling.
I hate the counseling not being followed.
So, anyway, let me move on.
Let's turn to Proverbs chapter 14, verse 23.
Proverbs chapter 14, verse 23.
This sermon's going way slower than I wanted it to.
But you probably heard some sayings about people that are all talk, you know?
You're just all talk.
What does that mean?
You're all talk, but you're not doing any actions, right?
Proverbs 14, 23 says, in all labor there is profit, but
the talk of lips tendeth only to penury.
And that word penury is not something that we use modernly in the modern English,
but it is an English word that means extreme poverty or destitution.
So you can talk all you want about how hard of a worker you are,
is what it's saying.
But when you're just talking about it and you're not actually doing it,
then you're going to be poor.
You're going to be broke.
You're going to be starving because all you do is talk
about what you're going to do, but you never actually do it.
So, you know, and here's some sayings that I really like.
Your talk talks, and your walk talks, but your walk talks louder than your talk talks.
Let me say that again, because it's pretty profound here.
Your talk talks, and your walk talks, but your walk talks louder than your talk talks.
So in other words, you can say all the things you want to, I'm doing this, or
I'm going to do that, but in reality, you know, if you're just saying something and
you're never doing it, it really does not speak well for you.
Have you heard the term actions speak louder than words?
Okay.
I'm sorry, but you keep doing the same thing over and over and over again.
Well, if you say you're sorry, and you're just doing the same thing over and
over and over again, your actions are not speaking for you, your words are speaking.
And then there's another one that says, another saying that says, talk is cheap.
Yeah, it's cheap.
It's really cheap to do.
You know, actually doing what you say you're going to do is a little more
expensive, it's a little more effort, isn't it?
How about the term lip service?
You're just giving lip service to something.
Well, lip service, and all these things basically mean the same thing,
is that, you know, you can get up and say whatever you want, but
unless someone sees action, they're not going to believe it.
Turn to 1 Kings 20, verse 10, 1 Kings 20, verse 10, and
this is obviously regarding, you know, having your lifestyle
well in front of a spouse that's either backslidden or not saved.
And then how you can win them back.
Well, just saying something is not going to do it.
It's saying, hey, if they won't obey the word,
maybe you can win them by how you live your life.
Not what you say to them all the time.
Because see, I've seen a lot of women just be like, well, you know, I mean,
they're trying to teach their husbands and lead their husbands, but
they're not helping the situation because they're trying to do something that's not
really their job, it's not your job to lead, regardless of whether he's saved or
not, and if he's not leading the family right, because he's backslidden,
you know, you still should try to help guide him to that point.
Instead of fighting tooth and nail over everything you don't agree with,
you don't have to agree with everything to be obedient.
You don't have to agree with everything to have a right life in front of them or,
you know, showing that you fear God.
Because if you fear God, you are going to keep his commandments, and
then you're going to have that lifestyle that God is talking about that's going to
help win them over.
1 Kings chapter 20 verse 10 is a really interesting verse.
Now it's said by a person that's not a very good guy, but
his point is good nonetheless.
So it's talking about King Ahab.
And so Ben-Hadad, he's going to come against Ahab, and he's very, he's drunk,
and he's cocky, he thinks he's going to win this battle.
This is what he says, that Ben-Hadad sent unto him and said, the gods do so unto me,
and more also, if the dust of Samaria shall suffice for
handfuls for all the people that shall follow me.
And the king of Israel answered and said, tell him, let not him that
girdeth on his harness boast himself as he that putteth it off.
In other words, he's saying, you haven't done anything yet, buddy.
You're just talking.
You're just talking out, you know, you're just talking with your lips.
You know, you shouldn't be boasting about things that you're going to do when you're
not even, you haven't even done them yet.
So, let's apply these principles for future spouses.
I'll be a good housekeeper when I'll learn to cook,
when I'll learn how to raise my kids when I have them.
I'll stop being a loud mouth when I'll work hard,
when I'll obey, when, you know, and here's the thing.
You can say all those things, I'm going to do this, so I'm going to be the best wife.
I'm going to do this, this, and this.
But if you're not already doing stuff to get you to that level,
then you're doing yourself a disservice.
If you want to get married someday,
do the things that are going to help you win a husband.
You know, do the things, already know how to cook when you get married.
You know, my wife only knew how to make sandwiches when I first met her, but
they were good sandwiches.
I mean, she had that down pat.
But over the years, she's learned to make food, and she cooks way better than I could ever think of cooking.
I mean, but you know, you don't want to wait until you're married to learn how to cook.
Because day one, it's like, what's for dinner, honey?
Well, I mean, after the honeymoon's over, after you carry them through the threshold,
after all that stuff, and when the romance is over, you know, and then you're back at home,
and it's time to cook the first meal, it's like, I only know how to make one thing.
That's Top Ramen Noodles.
And maybe that'll suffice them for a while.
It'll probably suffice me for a couple days.
Maybe you'd have to put some onions in there like on day two, and some beef or something.
But what I'm saying is like, look, don't wait to work on being ready to be a spouse.
Be ready when it's time to get married.
Be ready to be a good spouse already.
And that includes men also.
You know, men will be like, well, I'll just get a good job when I get married.
Well, no, you should already have a good job when you get married.
You know, they're going to look at you and be like, well, he doesn't even have a job.
Loser.
That's what they're going to say.
Especially now when nobody even wants to work.
If you don't want to work, you know, and you're trying to get married, you're a loser.
Don't marry him.
You know?
I mean, choose wisely because, you know, you're supposed to be with him for the rest of your life.
So, and think about how they treat their parents.
If someone that you're, as a prospect of marriage, and you see them mistreating their parents,
then what do you think they're going to do with you?
They're going to mistreat you also.
Because if they don't even have respect for the parents that brought them up and raised
them, how are they going to have respect for you?
You think it's just going to magically change for you?
No, it'll take some time, but then eventually it's the same thing.
It's just like marrying someone, like I talked about last week, about marrying somebody that
isn't the same faith as you.
It's like, yeah, they might come to church until they don't have to anymore, and then
they're done.
You know, we're going to have our family in church, and, you know, you're already having
to drag them there.
Well, guess what?
You're going to be trying to drag them there for the rest of your marriage.
Unless something changes, unless you follow 1 Peter 3, verse 1, and you win them over
and maybe they get their heart right.
But listen, pick wisely.
Turn to Jeremiah chapter 12, verse 5, Jeremiah chapter 12, verse number 5.
And so, people that brag about what they're going to do later on, you know, they're all
talk and no action.
You know, or they are going to do it, and then they show you that they're going to do
it.
You know, don't talk the talk when you can't walk the walk.
I had a family member one time tell me that I was going to work for Burger King, and I'd
be serving him burgers while he'd come in and he's making hundreds of thousands of dollars
or whatever.
Well, that person is not, you know, I've never worked at Burger King or McDonald's or anything
like that.
I've not been in the food industry, so, but I'll tell you, that person doesn't have a
good job.
But they thought, you know, they were talking big to me, and it was like, that really motivated
me, actually.
It really kind of pissed me off.
I was a younger family member and I was a male, and he was talking about how I'm going
to be serving him burgers.
So like, he helped my career to never veer in that direction, and I probably made more
money than he has in my life because I worked hard.
So, but I wasn't there bragging about where he's going to be working, you know, so just
don't boast about stuff like that, but look at Jeremiah 12.5, it says,
If thou hast run with the footmen, and they have wearied thee, then how canst thou contend
with horses?
And if in the land of peace, wherein thou trustest, they wearied thee, then how wilt
thou do in the swelling of Jordan?
So this applies this principle really good because if you can't even be, you're not even
the fastest in a race, and your goal is to be the fastest person, and you're, all the
people that are racing are beating you, then how would you race a horse?
How could you do that?
Well, you can't.
So you have to prepare yourself, you can't just run, you know, some people are talented
where they could run a race, but if you're, I mean even Brandon's like a good athlete,
but like if he just starts, you know, getting a big belly and stops working out and stuff
like that, he's going to be just like anybody else, you know, he's just going to, you know,
he might be a little bit faster and fatter, but he's still going to be fat, not as fast.
You know, if a great athlete works hard, then they can be an even greater athlete, but,
you know, if you're going to, if you think you're going to contend with horses and you
can't even beat someone in a foot race, you're in trouble, so that's the point is you need
to be prepared for these things to come up.
If you want to be a good spouse, then work now on being obedient to your parents, work
now on, you know, being, you know, learning how to cook, learning how to keep house, learning
what children, you know, how to raise children and things like that before, so that when
you do get married, then you're ready to go, you're ready, you're ready made, you're ready
to get married.
So, and it says, if thou, and if in the land of peace where thou trustest, they wearied
thee, how wilt thou do in the swelling of Jordan?
So, here's the other part, you know, and it's basically teaching the same thing, is that,
you know, if you can't even do well when it's easy for you to do it, then how are you going
to do it when it's hard?
How are you going to be, if you, if you can't even be a good spouse in the easy times, how
are you going to do it when it's one hard time set?
Because let me just tell you something, when you're married, hard times will hit.
Hard times come, and how you already are prepared to deal with those hard times, if you're already
a good spouse, if you're already a good wife, then when the hard times hit, you're going
to be able to respond to these hard times in a way that other wives would not be able
to respond to them.
So, think about those things.
Now number three tonight, put on the new man, not the old lady.
Put on the new man and not the old lady, or the old hag, or the old ball and chain, or
the old nag, okay?
Don't revert back to where you were.
When you get saved, the Bible says that we have, you know, we're a new creature.
Look at 1 Peter 3, verse 3, and that's what it's talking about here, is that, you know,
you need to be able to put on that new man.
Look what it says in verse 3.
So it says, who's adorning?
Let it not be the outward adorning.
So not what is on the outside, right?
Adorning is when he puts things on, right?
Not what is on the outside or of the plating of the hair or the wearing of gold.
So it's talking about things that you would put on the outside to make yourself look better,
right?
Or of the putting on of apparel.
Your new dress that you got at the mall this weekend or, you know, you got your hair did
and your nails done and they got, you know, the cuticles look perfect and you got a pedicure
and a manicure and whatever.
You put one of those mask things on your face and now your face looks better or whatever,
you know, and you peeled it off, the green mask or whatever, you know, you doll yourself
up and to look what?
Good on the outside, right?
What did Jesus tell the Pharisees, you know, that you're, you know, you look good on the
outside but on the inside you're full of dead men's bones.
So you don't want to be good looking on the outside and then rotten on the inside.
So but it says, but let it be the hidden man of the heart.
He's talking to women here, think about that.
He's saying put on the hidden man of the heart.
So basically he's saying access what you have inside.
If you're saved, you have the hidden man of the heart.
Because let me just let you in on a little secret, God's not a woman.
So when you get saved, the Holy Spirit comes to reside inside of you.
God is a man.
He's a male.
So you know, when it says the hidden man of the heart, that's right.
Because you all have a man on the inside of you if you think about it.
Christ Jesus, you know, Christ in you the hope of glory, right?
You know, people will say well I've asked Jesus into my heart.
And if you're saved, Jesus is in your heart.
And if you're saved, the Holy Spirit is in your heart but that Holy Spirit, you know,
that makes a new creature, a new man so to speak.
And that's what the Bible's talking about.
So the old man or the old lady, no offense if you're older in here, it's just, it's talking
about what your life was or what you were like before you were saved and what you're
like, what your new man is now.
Your new man's perfect.
Your hidden man can't sin.
But see, you still have the flesh to deal with so that's why he's saying but instead
of it being the outward adorning, the things that you would put on to make yourself pretty,
why don't you make yourself pretty on the inside?
Why don't you make yourself, you know, suitable on the inside and that stuff can pour out.
You know, a lot of times there's people that might not be as good looking, you know, but
what's on the inside makes them prettier, doesn't it?
It may, you know, because there's some really pretty women that are pretty disgusting in
what they believe and I wouldn't want to have anything to do with them, right?
So it says but let it be the hidden man of the heart so that's access what you have on
inside you, that saved individual inside you in that which is not corruptible, even
the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit which is in the sight of God of great price.
So what's God, you know, the sermon's called, you know, the calling of the wives or God's
call on wives, so what's he calling you to do?
Is he calling you to be this big loud leader that tells everybody what's going on?
He's talking to women here still, he's saying that you should put on the hidden man of the
heart and that that is, you know, and that's not corruptible and he even explains it, the
ornament of a meek and quiet spirit which is in the sight of God of great price so God
is calling you to have a meek and quiet spirit and that doesn't mean you can't talk, it's
just talking about how your spirit is, right?
Are you loud and boisterous all the time?
I mean sometimes women just have louder mouths than other women and that's just the way it
is, it's like, you know, some men are like that, some men have big booming voices and
some don't but I don't think it's talking about that necessarily and obviously, you
know, a big boisterous voice with a woman can be a heart issue, it can be something
on the inside that's wrong with them because, you know, God just, you know, he doesn't want
that.
There's a video I've circulated that talks about, you know, it's like this old timey
like BBC thing where these guys are having a conversation, all of a sudden this woman
butts into the conversation and says something and then like all the men are horrified that
she would talk in front of them or whatever and anyway, I'll have to share it with the
group afterward, that's pretty funny.
But I mean it's a joke but it's kind of like, you know, women shouldn't be the dominators
of conversations when men are talking.
I mean that's just my personal belief, obviously I'm kind of getting off the trail here a little
bit but what does God say?
He's saying you should have a meek and quiet spirit, not just ready to jump out and say
something immediately and when it comes to your marriage, that's going to make your marriage
better.
So it's not, it's meek and quiet, not loud and stubborn, right, wouldn't that be the
opposite of it?
Turn to 2 Corinthians 5 verse 17, I'm going to just go through some verses here about
the heart first.
Obviously I brought up the meek and quiet spirit but I'll address that here in a minute
but even more further but 2 Corinthians 5 17 says, Therefore if any man be in Christ
he is a new creature, old things are passed away, behold all things are become new.
So when you're saved there's a new creature, it's the, you know, the hidden man of the
heart, it's the new man, it's called many different things but it's basically the new
nature in you that cannot sin.
So that differentiates you between all other people, people that are not saved.
So all things are become new, that doesn't mean you're automatically going to be good
at everything, you know, obviously that you have to walk in the spirit to not fulfill
the lusts of the flesh.
But it says that all things are of God who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus Christ
and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation.
So the ministry of reconciliation of course is reconciling mankind to God, it's our job
as saved believers to do that ministry but, you know, what if you're, you know, when you
apply this to marriage, you know, sometimes marriages can get messed up and do you have
that new creature?
Are you walking in that new spirit and that new man to where you have a feeling of reconciliation
between you and your spouse?
Because I mean, saved people get divorced too and we don't want that happening obviously
and God obviously for sure doesn't want it happening but what's ultimately being said
here is that we, you know, you as ladies, you as wives should be, you know, putting
on the hidden man of the heart, okay?
You're walking in the spirit.
Ephesians chapter 4 verse 22, go ahead and turn there to Ephesians 4 22, the Bible says
in Ephesians 4 22 it says that you put off concerning the former conversation the old
man, you put that off.
So I said put, you know, the new, put the new man on not the old lady, I'm just being
funny there but obviously it's not funny to some of you but it says put off concerning
the former conversation the old man which is corrupt according to the deceitful lust
and be renewed in the spirit of your mind and that you put on the new man which after
God is created in righteousness and true holiness.
So what is the exhortation here is that, you know, don't walk in that old ugly hag, you
know, that you used to be as far as like your flesh I'm talking about, I'm talking about
that you're literally ugly or literally a hag, okay?
I'm just saying that that new, that old man is something as men we don't want to be that.
We don't want to be the one that's out drinking in bars or, you know, whatever else kind
of things that we did before we were saved, you know, and obviously that's a time, you
know, it takes time to get sanctified, it takes time but it should still be an effort
that we make to get away from our sinful lives that we were once in and to be as spirit filled
as we can.
So I'm going to skip through a couple of verses here but I want to address the whole meek
and quiet part.
So you know this upsets people too I'm sure but, you know, if God's high calling is for
you to be meek and quiet are you just willing to listen?
It says that it's of God, it's a great price, it's a great price to God.
It's not a great, I mean it's a great price for your husband too.
I'm sure he appreciates it but God is the one that's calling you to be that way and
so that's the, you know, why don't you work on, if you are loud and boisterous or, you
know, you're argumentative or contrarian, why don't you try working on that, just work
on it, right?
So now meek means quiet, gentle, easily entreated, easily imposed upon, submissive.
Quiet means carried out discreetly, secretly, or with moderation.
So you put those things, meek and quiet spirit, you're easily imposed upon, you know, you're
more quiet, you're discreet about things, you know, because quiet can mean you're discreet.
You know, you don't have to tell, you know, be a gossip and tell everybody all your business
and other people's business, you know, God expects you as wives to be meek and quiet.
Meek and quiet, not loud and stubborn.
And Proverbs 7-11 says, she is loud and stubborn, her feet abide not in her house.
This is talking about a whore, this is talking about a harlot.
So you don't want to have the, you know, the, so meek and quiet, the opposite of that's
going to be loud and stubborn.
So that's not what you want.
You don't want to, do you want to have that attribute is that you have, you know, this
woman has the attire of a harlot but then also is loud and stubborn.
She doesn't, she won't stay home, she, you know, this is the opposite of basically what
you want to be as a godly woman.
Never at home, your feet don't abide in your house, loud and stubborn, I mean, nobody likes
a big loud-mouthed woman that's always just flapping her gums about everything and just
being, trying to be the dominating person at a party or something, at anything.
You just talk over your husband constantly, you talk over everybody constantly.
It's just not a good attribute.
Turn to Proverbs 12.4, I'm going to just run you through the Proverbs here real quickly
about some things that can help you in this area because obviously you want to put the
new man on but you also have to try to forsake and kill that old, that old lady, so to speak,
and try to be pleasing to God.
And look, if you're pleasing to God, you're going to be pleasing to your husband.
If he's got any sense in his brain whatsoever, then he's going to like that you're submissive
to God and that you're doing what he asks.
Proverbs 12.4 says, a virtuous woman is a crown to her husband, but she that maketh
ashamed is as rotten as in his bones.
So a virtuous woman is a crown, like it's someone that a husband would want to show
other people, look at my wife, she's so great, not as one that makes them ashamed.
Proverbs 19 verse 13, Proverbs 19 verse 13 says, a foolish son is the calamity of his
father and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping.
I mentioned this sermon like I think last week at some point that it's like Chinese
water torture when a woman just won't quit, she won't stop.
But see, women have more power than people give them credit for.
Their power just lies in a different aspect and sometimes women can use the power that
they have and wield it for bad reasons.
Because women can be a great influence for their husbands and just kind of guide them
along in some things that they might need help with, but they can also try to use their
womanly influence to drive something into a man that they shouldn't be doing.
And one of those things is just using contentions, just always, you know, because sometimes guys
just are like, okay, I'm done, I don't want to fight anymore, right?
But then women just have a really good knack of just continuing it on.
Just keep it going.
Like even if you're like, well, okay, I'm just going to leave the room or I'm going
to leave for a while, no, you're going to figure this out right now, buster, you know,
it's just like, you know, that shouldn't be how you are.
Or a continual dropping that says the contentions of a wife.
So I mean, what it's saying is that they just have a proclivity to not drop things,
to just keep bringing stuff up over and over again.
And I know men can do that too, but anyway, Proverbs 21 verse 9 says, Proverbs 21 verse
9 says, it is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop than with a brawling woman
in a wide house.
So it doesn't matter how big your house is, you know, if they're just constantly trying
to fight with you about everything, you know, it's better to be up on the corner of a housetop.
I mean, that's kind of a scary place to be in some houses, but it's better to be there,
you know, what's it saying?
And basically, I mean, the spirit of this is just like, men don't want to be in this
situation.
They'd rather just be anywhere else than being nagged out by their wife, right?
Proverbs 25 verse 24, you know, again, when God wants us to get something, He says it
again, it is better to dwell in the corner of a housetop than with a brawling woman
in a wide house.
He's like, let me put this in again, just in case, you know, they're going through their
daily Proverbs and like four days later, three days later, they really need to hear this.
It's so needed, it's recorded twice in the Proverbs for us.
Look at verse, Proverbs chapter 21 verse 19, Proverbs chapter 21 verse 19, it says, it
is better to dwell in the wilderness than with a contentious and angry woman.
So I mean, obviously, God's putting these scriptures in us, in here to tell us that
this is kind of how, if a woman's contentious, if a woman's angry, if a woman's just always
constantly wanting to brawl and fight, then it's just like miserable times 10.
You know, I'd rather go out and live in the wilderness where there's no food and water
than to listen to this woman one more second.
Proverbs 27 verse 15, a continual dropping in a very rainy day, and we all know what
that feels like, right?
And a contentious woman are alike.
So I mean, that's, I mean, you know what it's like when you just, men, when you're out working
and it's just, all it does is rain all day, like if you have an outside job, you understand
how this is, you're wearing rain gear and even with the rain gear, it's still soaked
through your clothes.
It's just awful.
But you know what the Bible compares it to?
A contentious woman.
Proverbs 11 verse 22 says, as a jewel of gold and a swine snout, so is a fair woman which
is without discretion.
So I mean, you talk about the adorning of gold and jewelry and the plating of the hair
and all that stuff, that's something that's outward, but if a woman has no discretion,
you might as well be a pig with a jewel in your nose.
A pretty girl, I mean, that's what God's comparing it to, right?
Proverbs 15, 16, Proverbs 15, 16, the Bible says, better is little with the fear of the
Lord than great treasure and trouble therewith.
You know, it's not always about money, you know, and that's one thing that you shouldn't
just nag and complain about to your husband because, you know, when you're younger and
you have a lot of children, you're going to be more poor, and actually when they're all
teenagers at the same time, that's when you're the poorest, I feel like.
But it's true because, you know, they're like, you stop getting the tax credits after 16
or whatever, but that's when they're the most expensive, that's when their clothes cost
more, that's when they like certain gadgets or whatever and different types of shoes,
you know, if it's not Nike or whatever, but they're just more expensive, they eat more,
don't they?
Little kids, it's like, you know, once they get to be a certain age and they're cutting
in on dad's cut, and it's just like, hey, get out of there, you know, it's like, when
we stay with the taverners over in England, like there's nothing left, and like every
kid eats everything on their plate, it's just, it's really impressive, you know, they like
everything, and so like if there's, I mean there was rarely leftovers when we were there
with them, and they're just good eaters, it's good.
So but, you know, sometimes, you know, when you're poor, you know, that's the best time
to be poor is when you have small children because they don't require as much food, food's
very expensive, especially if you eat organic, which a lot of people probably do, but complain
about, hey, if you have a good home, and things are going right, and maybe you don't have
a bunch of money to do all this other stuff, hey, don't ride your husband about stuff like
that, that's just not the right thing to do, you know, obviously if your husband's
lazy, that's one thing, but if he's working as hard as he can, and you guys are still
barely making it, that's not something that you want to contend with them about, because
here's the thing, this, people get divorced a lot over money, and so don't make money,
you know, make having a good life, and having a good Christian home, and your children being
raised well, make that your goal, because it says better is a dinner, verse 17, better
is a dinner of herbs where love is than a stalled ox and hatred therewith, so it's better
to have a vegetarian diet than to have an ox that you can slay at any time and have
steak dinners every single night, but, you know, better is a dinner of herbs where love
is, right, so when you're poor and you don't have as much, if there's love in that home,
then that's good, you know, so if you don't, you know, it's better than having all this
stuff, your wife's working outside the home, and you got all this stuff that you could
possibly need, but there's hatred therewith, you know, your family's a wreck, or whatever.
Number four tonight, let godly women be your examples, let godly women be your examples,
look at 1 Peter chapter 3 verse 5, it says, for after the banner in old time, the holy
women also who trusted in God adorned themselves, being a subjection unto their own husbands,
even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him Lord, whose daughters you are, as long as
you do well and are not afraid within the amazement, so, what's the Bible saying, well
it's saying that Sarah obeyed Abraham, and she's an example for you to look unto of someone
that obeyed their husband, that was, you know, greatly talked about, Sarah was a great woman
of God, she's mentioned a lot in the scripture, she's mentioned in Hebrews chapter number
The story of her calling Abraham Lord is in Genesis chapter 18 verse 6, go ahead and turn
over there real quick, I'm gonna try to read it fast, I know we gotta end here pretty quickly,
but the Bible says in Genesis 18 6, just keep your finger there in 1 Peter 3, Genesis 18
6 says, and Abraham hastened to the tent unto Sarah, so this is the scene, Abraham has three
visitors come, they show up unannounced, they didn't call ahead of time, they didn't text,
they shut up to his house unannounced, it's the Lord and two angels, so Abraham's just
like hey I'm gonna, you know, I'll get you some water, I'll get you some food, you know,
all this stuff, and the first thing is he does, is after telling them he's gonna do
all that stuff for them, what's he do, he goes right to Sarah, doesn't he, says Abraham
hastened unto the tent unto Sarah, and said make ready quickly three measures of fine
meal, knead it, and make cakes upon the hearth, what did he forget to say, please, he forgot
to say please didn't he, he just said hey let's go, make this stuff quickly, right,
he's like, it says he tells her to do it quickly, notice that she didn't talk back or say like
oh why are your friends coming over without being announced Abraham, you know, why don't
you make him something, why don't you make him something to eat, you're the one that
wanted to have him come over, you're the one that said you're gonna give him all this and
that, that's not how she acted at all, she just went to work, she just obeyed him, doesn't
matter why he's asking her to do it, she just does it, this is when Sarah calls Abraham
Lord, this should be a good lesson, it's like well he didn't even say please, he didn't
say please, I need counseling pastor, because my husband, he said hurry up and make this
stuff, it's like, I mean, obviously Abraham loves Sarah, it was an in the moment time,
but it's giving us this picture for a reason because I believe that there's details in
here for a reason, because you don't necessarily have to just, you know, and most women don't
like when people just show up at their house unannounced, you know, she probably hadn't
vacuumed the tent yet, you know, the kids' toys were laying all around or whatever, she
wasn't expecting company, most women don't like it when people just drop by, just FYI,
but sometimes it happens, doesn't it? And if your husband's like hey, let's make the
most of this or make the best of it or whatever, because you know, after being older, I'm kind
of the same way now, I like to, my wife likes to plan things, I like to plan things, okay,
it makes sense, but anyway, that's just like an old cranky person talking, but anyway,
so she just did what Abraham asked, right, look at verse 7, it says, and Abraham ran
unto the herd, and fetched a calf tender and good, and gave it unto a young man, and hasted
to dress it, so he's working too, and took butter and milk and a calf, which he had dressed
and set it before them, and stood by them under the tree, and they did eat, and they
said unto him, where is Sarah thy wife? And he said, behold, in the tent, and he said,
I will certainly return unto thee, according to the time of life, and lo Sarah thy wife
shall have a son, and Sarah heard it in the tent, which was behind him. Now Abraham and
Sarah were old and well stricken in age, and it ceased to be with Sarah after the manner
of women, she couldn't have children, therefore Sarah laughed within herself, so she's laughing
where? Within herself, this is inner monologue, you know when you're talking to yourself in
your mind, this is what she's doing, we all do it, right, you're not crazy if you talk
to yourself in your mind, it's just your inner monologue, right, now if other people are
talking to you in your mind, and there's nobody talking, that's a totally different story,
but she's talking within, she laughed, she even laughed inside, she didn't even outside
laugh, but she laughed within herself, saying, after I am waxed old, shall I have pleasure,
my lord being also, old also, excuse me, so what did she say? My lord being old also,
so this isn't just Sarah calling him lord because she feels like she has to, because
he is the boss, because God said for her to obey, she calls him lord in her inner monologue,
in her head movies, in her mind, calls him lord, she laughs, she calls him lord, and
she's doing it while she's been working and doing what he asked her to do, so like I said,
it's a state of mind to be submissive to your husband, it's a state of mind that Sarah knew
very well, and she wasn't being forced to call him lord, Abraham didn't walk in and
go, you better make sure you're calling me lord if you're thinking about something, okay,
she just did it, because that's who Sarah was, she is an example to other women that
that's how we, how you should be when it comes to your husbands also, not just do it because
God said so, but do it because you want to because God said so. Does that make sense?
Hopefully it does. Hebrews 11, verse 11 says, through faith also Sarah herself received
strength to conceive seed and was delivered of a child when she was past age because she
judged him faithful who had promised. What was Sarah's job? She was the husband of Abraham,
the great prophet, the father of the faithful, but she also gets an honorable mention in
here because she was a woman of faith also wasn't she? And she received that strength
conceived seed and was delivered of a child when she was old. She was old and she had
a child and God did what he promised, she judged him faithful. And you know what, she
didn't have a problem calling her husband the boss, even in her own mind. And I think
that tells a lot about Sarah that she loved God and was willing to just obey him regardless
of the time. And at that time, it was in season to obey your husbands, but you know, it's
not now. So I think in 2022, it's harder for women to probably have this mentality just
because it's not really prevalent in our society. But God still feels the same way today as
he felt about it, you know, 4000 years or yeah, 4000 years ago or so when Abraham and
Sarah were walking the earth. Time does not change God's laws. Time does not change how
God feels about things. Jesus Christ is saying yesterday, today, and forever. He still feels
the same way. And you know what he still wants? He still wants godly wives that are going
to be good examples and they're going to follow the good examples in their life that have
come before them. And you know, they're going to have the mentality that, hey, I have a
high calling from God to be a godly wife, and a great mother to my children, and to,
you know, be the world's best housekeeper. So what? How's that a stain on your reputation?
Bringing forth Isaac, the seed that was promised, and raising him and weaning him. What is so
bad? What's so degrading about that? Someone's messed with your mind. That's what the problem
is. Someone's told you that being a housewife isn't good enough. But you know what? It's
one of the best things that you can do. You know, it's a lot of pressure to be the man
of the house and to make all the right decisions and to work outside the home. Hey, we both
have equal jobs or we have, I think women's jobs are harder actually, but you know, I'm
not the one that stayed up with the puking kids all night long. My wife did. I had to
get up and go to work and she didn't even wake me up and say, hey, it's your turn, honey.
She never did that to me. I can't even think of one time she ever did that to me. And if
you've done that, you know, God will forgive you. No, I'm just kidding. Sorry, I had to
get that one in. But you know, Sarah knew her role. She accepted her role. And you know,
I feel like this world would be a better place if, you know, more good women were willing
to stand in the gap and be a great wife that God has called them to be. And for ladies,
young ladies to grow up and have this attitude already going in, already being trained, you
know, it's like, oh, you just want to give them a little doll so they can play with and
pretend like they're feeding them. Yeah, what's wrong with that? What do you want to do? Give
them the litter box in their house? Let them dress up like a furry critter and tell them
they're a cat? You know what, I'll go with the biblical recommendations on this one.
So I know I have to be done, but here's something for the man real quick. Turn back to 1 Peter
chapter 3 verse 7. Genesis chapter 2 verse 18 says, And the Lord God said, It is not
good that man should be alone. I will make him and help meet for him. That's fitting
for him. See, it's not good for us to be alone. We need help. And some men need more help
than others, okay? I need a lot of help. So, but God realizes it's not good for us to be
by ourselves. God made women to be a help meet for men. And, you know, that doesn't
mean he loves them less or anything. He just knows that we can't do it without them. We're
one flesh. You know, 1 Peter chapter 3 verse 7 says, Likewise you husbands, dwell with
them according to knowledge. Knowing what? How women are different. You know, that's
a good thing to understand. Women are different than you. They're not as tough in a lot of
different ways. They're not as strong. They are the weaker vessel. Look what it says,
giving honor unto the wife as unto the weaker vessel. So you're giving honor to that point
that, hey, they're not as tough and rough as I am. And men, we're just, we can be a
little robotical sometimes. And like, you know, they'll cry, women will cry over things
that you're just like, why are you crying? Like, what happened? Like, Julene is a perfect
instance of that. She laughs. But Julene will just cry over anything. You just look at her
and she'll be like, no. But women just are different, you know, and they're, God made
them as a weaker vessel and we need to be able to dwell with them according to knowledge
as being heirs together. See, we're together. Well, you know, a foolish woman will tear
her own home down, but a foolish man will also tear his home down too. We gotta be aware
that we are different and we're supposed to dwell with them according to knowledge, men.
This says being heirs together of the grace of life that your prayers be not hindered.
Now when you're fighting and you're upset and you're arguing, you're not going to bed
praying for your husband, praying for your wife. You're going to bed mad. And the Bible
says we're not supposed to let the sun go down on a raft. You know, we should, you know,
obviously it happens, but it's something we shouldn't do. Let's just get our stuff resolved
before the end of the day and not let fights go on for days and, you know, because that's
how bitterness comes. But they're not our little robots. They're not our doormats. They're
not our slaves. And, you know, we need to let them know that we love them and that we
want to spend time with them and we should try to make them feel secure as possible because,
you know, because as the man of the house you should be able to protect your home. And
you should be able to protect your wife and make her feel secure not just from violence
but also monetarily. Hey, work hard guys. And make them feel more secure. Make them
feel better about things because they wouldn't worry about those things if they never had
to. So, somewhere down the line men fall down on the job and women then they start,
women like to just solve the problem themselves and when you're not doing your job as a husband
then they're going to try, you know, they're going to lean on their own understanding and
not allow you to lead and we just don't want that. You know, let's just stay in our lanes.
Let's stay in the lanes that God's chosen for us to be in. The man's job is to take
care of the house, is to, you know, put the food on the table and pay the bills and lead
spiritually and lead the home and be the boss but also to help raise the children. It's
not just the wives, you know, most of the time the wives are with them but it's your
job to raise your children too and, you know, we need to get a clue. That was point five.
Get a clue husbands and, you know, dwell with them according to knowledge. So, point number
one is wives should be in subjection to their own husbands. The Bible says that's true.
Number two, unsaved, backslidden husbands' souls can be won by your obedience, ladies.
Number three, put on the new man, not the old lady. And then number four, let godly
women be your examples. Number five, get a clue husbands and dwell with them according
to knowledge. Wives, you have a high calling. Will you answer the call? That's the question.
That's the challenge I want to put to you is that, remember, it's your high calling.
We have our own men, husbands have our own high calling also but wives, you have a high
calling too. You're not just, you know, you're not just nothing. God loves you and, you know
what, we're equal in Christ Jesus but we just have different jobs. It's just all there is
to it. It's nothing to get mad about. So, anyway, let's pray. Heavenly Father, we thank
you Lord so much for the Scriptures. Lord, I pray that the Lord, the ladies in our church
and the wives in our church would grab a hold of this concept and there's a lot of great
ladies in our church and I just want to help them and guide them through the Scriptures,
through the comfort of the Scriptures. Lord, help us as men to dwell with them in knowledge
and, Lord, I pray that you would just strengthen the marriages in this church, strengthen the
husbands, strengthen the wives and, Lord, help us to live godly examples of Christianity
to the rest of the world, even in the crazy world that we live in, Lord. Pray you'd help
us be a bright and shining light and a beacon to those around us that they might see our
good works and glorify you in heaven, Lord. In Jesus' name we pray. Amen.
Amen. Sing your last song, page 447, in your green hymn books. Page 447. Here am I. Page
447. Sing it out loud on the first. We should pray the Lord of harvest.
Reapers, send into thy field. You are reapers, white and wasting are the fields. How rich
the yield. Here am I. Here am I. Send me forth, O Lord of harvest. Breathe on me, thy holy
Spirit. Here am I. Here am I. Send me forth to win some precious soul today. Holy Father,
send a seraph from the altar. Take a coal. Plant my living and my holy soul. Here am
I. Here am I. Send me forth, O Lord of harvest. Breathe on me, thy holy Spirit. Here am I.
Here am I. Send me forth to win some precious soul today. Holy Father, send a seraph from
the altar. Take a coal. Plant my living and my holy Spirit. Here am I. Here am I. Send
me forth, O Lord of harvest. Breathe on me, thy holy Spirit. Here am I. Send me forth,
O Lord of harvest. Breathe on me, thy holy Spirit. Here am I. Here am I. Send me forth
to win some precious soul today. On the last, luck as ambers from the burning souls, for
whom the Savior died. Oh, then send me Christ, the mercy to the doomed and loved one.
Here am I. Here am I. Send me forth, O Lord of harvest. Breathe on me, thy holy Spirit.
Here am I. Here am I. Send me forth to win some precious soul today.