Thank you.
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All right everybody welcome to steadfast baptist church
Glad you could all make it here this Sunday night. Let's go ahead and take out our hymnals and turn to song
143 blessed assurance
Again that's song number 143
143
Blessed
Jesus is mine
Oh
Tastes of glory divine
Heir of salvation
Purchase of God
Born of his spirit
washed in his blood
This is my story
This is my song
Raising my savior
all the day long
This is my story
This is my song
Raising my savior
Perfect submission
perfect delight
Visions of rapture now burst on my side
Angels descending bring from above
Echoes of mercy
whispers of love
This is my story
This is my song
Raising my savior
This is my story
This is my song
Raising my savior
Perfect submission
All is at rest
I am my savior
I am happy and blessed
Watching and waiting
Looking above
filled with this good
This is my story
This is my soul
Raising my savior
all the day long
This is my story
This is my soul
Raising my savior
Amen great singing as pirates word of prayer
Heavenly Father, we just thank you again that we can come here to learn from you and from your word
And I just pray you bless pastor Shelley that you fill them with your Holy Spirit
You'd speak to us through the through him and help us all to learn and be attentive to the message tonight
We love you. Just pray you continue to bless our church in Jesus precious name. We pray. Amen
Next is gonna be song 98
The name of Jesus
Again that's song number 98
98 the name of Jesus
Name of Jesus
Is so sweet. I love its music
To repeat it makes my joys full and complete the precious name
of Jesus
Jesus so us meet the name
Jesus every day the same
Jesus let all Saints proclaim its worthy praise
I love the name of
Him whose heart knows all my griefs and bands apart who bids all
anxious fears apart, I love the name
Of Jesus
Jesus so us meet the name
Jesus every day the same
Jesus that all Saints proclaim its worthy praise
That name I finally love to hear it never fails my heart to cheer
It's music dries the volunteer
exalt the name of
Jesus
Jesus so us meet the name
Jesus every day the same
Jesus let all Saints proclaim its worthy praise
No word of man can ever tell how sweet the name
I love so well all that it sprays is ever swell. Oh praise the name
of Jesus
Jesus so us meet the name
Jesus every day the same Jesus let all Saints proclaim its worthy praise
Forever
Good evening, thank you so much for coming to Steadfast Baptist Church
If you didn't already get a bulletin lift up your hand nice and high and one of the extras come by and get you a
bulletin
Hey
Thanks
on the front we have our
Bible memory passage John 1 and then on the inside we have our service and soul winning times our church stats
Typically I get soul winning numbers
In the evening service, but we've implemented a new system for collecting the soul winning numbers
where we have different men who are essentially our captains for soul winning and
So you just need to report your soul winning numbers to them now if you have a group that's going out
Just make sure that one person's designating that information and and let your captain know who is all in your group that way
We don't double count anything if you're going to a soul winning time just let your soul winning leader know
But if it's just so winning just at a random time you can let your captain know now
I lead the Sunday so winning time, but instead of y'all all trying to track me down and vice-versa
Just report Sunday numbers to your captain. Okay, so it's posted over here on our member board
typically
Information like church-related won't be on the member board, but just for now. I just put up there. It's really easy
So if you'd like to know who your captain is go see that if you're not for some reason on there
I think pretty much everybody should be but if you're kind of either newer to our church or something like that
It's possible. We haven't added you you can ask one of those captains if they'll you know
Basically take you in as your family member. Okay, so or hopefully they'll track you down and put you on there
But we do have that it should be every single member should be
Assigned or basically joined into a tribe at some point and
That information up there also your information as far as just your address and like email to be contacted is up there
If that's not accurate, please let us know. We just want to keep accurate information for the church
Also your kids names and spellings and things like that. So it'll help us
I know we're getting pretty close to our getting our church directories done and
Well, we'll try to put a sheet out again with everybody's names
For you to check so that we don't misspell your name or your kiddos name or anything like that
So but if you can help us update this it'll just get that even closer to everything like that
If you have any questions or anything like that just always you can contact me. I'm really excited about this
I think it's gonna help us with our soul winning
If you don't know what I'm talking about
You need to check out my morning sermon on church captains is what I preached on and
Essentially, we've appointed four different men of the church to kind of help us manage the soul winning and they're the go-to guys
So as far as just if you have questions now, they'll probably have other
men maybe
what we considered a lieutenant appointed in their groups that can also be designated guys to go to for questions and everything like that, but
For now, that's just kind of our system. We're trying to get it started and implemented and
God willing it'll it'll work out great. Obviously, it's always subject to change
We're just trying to implement some kind of a system around what we've already been doing or someone who's been really effective
He had like I don't know 30 soul winners or something like that come out the set this afternoon. And so
praise the Lord that we have a lot of people that want to go out and preach the gospel and
We'll keep those numbers updated in our bulletin
Someone suggested to me that maybe we should have a competition between the tribes and I like this idea
Okay, so give me a little bit. I'm gonna think about that, but I think this is a good idea. All right, so
We'll get some excitement going on the right. We have our expecting ladies and then we also have a prayer list down below
Please update that by email or you can send a communication card. Also a couple church reminders
Please make sure to return your zoning maps into the bin mark done or mark off what you've completed
Also, if you're returning so winning material by chance
Just make sure to pay attention that there is English and Spanish cards
That way someone doesn't just grab and then go out and they're like no hablo espanol. I don't know what to do
So I know some people have said that all right
Or you can say this if you're going to get cards just look at them if you like
Is this the right card? So just double-check on both those also upcoming events
We have a bunch of soul winning events signup sheets are over here
We have the new church member board again
This is gonna be for pretty much any activity that you want to schedule for your own personal life
I don't care
You don't have to ask me permission or anything like that
If you just want to communicate that with their church family, you can just put that up there
It's kind of a free board for you to put stuff up
Any anything that you think would be relevant
If it's not relevant, we'll just throw it in the trash. So that's you know, I'm just kidding, but I'm serious
And then on the bottom we have the note about the soul winning tribe. So I'm real excited about
All of that. That's oh, yeah. We do have a meeting a business meeting right after the service
So it is it is for members only. So if you're not a member we just ask that you would just step out
For that particular part of the service, but you say I am I a member
Well, here's the thing if you've been to three services in one month
You're automatically a member if you have not been
then you just you just need to get here three times in one month if if you've done that and you basically just have to
you have to
maintain at least once every quarter or once every three months coming to maintain that membership if for some reason you don't come to
Church for three straight months, then you would basically revoke your membership
so you could come here for ten years and then leave for three months and you're gone and
You could show up for three times and those you know, you come here one week and you remember so, you know
it's that easy to get in and out and
That's kind of how our policy is
we don't have these formal, you know, well, he's on the book or he's not on the book or whatever kind of weird stuff and
There is one other way to get eliminated quicker. It's it's called getting thrown out
Okay, so that isn't that is an easier way to get off of the membership list, but that's a special designation. Okay, so
That's pretty much all I have for announcements though. Let's go ahead and go to our third song our third song 63
63 what a day that will be
Amen great song about going to heaven
I'll have something to look forward to song 63
What a day that will be
In the sky no more tears to dim the eye all this peace
What a day
Glorious day that will be
What a day that will be when my Jesus I shall see and I look
Upon his face the one who saved me by his grace
When he takes me by the hand and leads me through the Promised Land
What a day
Glorious day that will be
There'll be no sorrow there no more burdens to bear
No more sickness. No pain. No more
Party over there and forever
I will be with the one who died for me
What a day
glorious day
that will be
What a day
That will be when my Jesus I shall see and I look upon his face
The one who saved me by his grace when he takes me by the hand
He leads me through the Promised Land
What a day
Glorious day that will be
Amen
As the offering plates are passed around, please turn in your Bibles to Proverbs chapter 31
That's Proverbs chapter 31. We'll read the whole chapter before the sermon. Proverbs chapter 31
The Bible reads
The words of King Lemuel the prophecy that his mother taught him
What my son and what the son of my womb and what the son of my vows
Give not thy strength unto women nor thy ways to that which destroyeth Kings
It is not for Kings o Lemuel
It is not for Kings to drink wine nor for princes strong drink lest they drink and forget the law and
Pervert the judgment of any of the afflicted
Give strong drink unto him that is ready to perish and wind unto those that be of heavy hearts
Let him drink and forget his poverty and remember his misery no more
Open thy mouth for the dumb in the cause of all such as are appointed to destruction
Open thy mouth judge righteously and plead the cause of the poor and needy
Who can find a virtuous woman?
For her price is far above rubies
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her so that he shall have no need of spoil
She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life
She seeketh wool and flax and worketh willingly with her hands
She is like the merchants ships. She bringeth her food from afar
She riseth also while it is yet night and giveth her food from afar
She riseth also while it is yet night and giveth meat to her household and a portion to her maidens
She consider it the field and buyeth it with the fruit of her hands. She planted the vineyard
She girdeth her loins with strength and strengtheneth her arms
She perceiveth that her merchandise is good her candles goeth not out by night
She layeth her hands to the spindle and her hands hold the distaff
She stretcheth out her hand to the poor. Yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy
She is not afraid of the snow for her household for all her household are clothed with scarlet
She maketh herself coverings of tapestry
Her clothing is silk and purple
Her husband is known in the gates when he sitteth among the elders of the land
She maketh fine linen and selleth it and delivereth girdles under the snow
And delivereth girdles under the merchant
Strength and honor are her clothing and she shall rejoice in time to come
She openeth her mouth with wisdom and in her tongue is the law of kindness
She looketh well to the ways of her household and eateth not the bread of idleness
Her children arise up and call her blessed her husband also and he praseth her
Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excelest them all
Favor is deceitful and beauty is vain but a woman that feareth the lord. She shall be praised
Give her of the fruit of her hands and let her own works praise her
In the gates, let's bow our heads for a word of prayer father. We thank you for the evening service
At steadfast. I pray that you fill pastor shelly with your spirit and help him to preach the sermon
Give him clarity of mind and give us ears to hear lord and soften hearts in the room
So that we can apply the message to our lives in jesus name. I pray amen
Amen
The part of the chapter that I want to look at is here in verse 10 the bible reads who can find a virtuous woman
Her price is far above rubies the heart of her husband does safely trust in her so that he shall have no need of spoil
She will do him good and not evil
All the days of her life and the title of my sermon this evening is this what makes a great wife
What makes a great?
wife
Now in proverbs 31, it gives us a long list here at the end of the chapter describing this virtuous woman
And and what a woman would really strive for in an ideal situation now
It's my opinion that proverbs 31 is more of an ideal than a reality in the sense that
Obviously this woman is pretty much checking every box you could possibly imagine
And is being described as if she's fulfilling all of these roles perfectly
Whereas that's not necessarily reality because we're all sinners. We all come short. No one's perfect
But fortunately for us the bible gives us the ideal, you know, the bible says be therefore perfect
Even as your father which is in heaven is perfect meaning that god
Expects us to be perfect, but then gives us grace knowing that we're going to fall short
But the expectation is always high god never gives us a low expectation or a weak expectation
We as men are supposed to strive to be like christ
Realizing that we'll never be like christ. God gives us grace
But the expectation is still there and god desires for us to be like christ and he desires women
To be like christ as well
Christ was obviously obedient and subjective to the father and he was hard working
And those are the two things that make a great wife that she's obedient and hard working
I've already we could just go home
I mean, I really just I just preached with the bible as I say here and and we could just walk home
But here's the problem society really attacks these two points. Okay, society really
undermines the two most important aspects of what makes a great wife and
The bible tells us clearly
You know what every man is looking for. Okay in the bible now keep your fingers
We're coming back to proverbs everyone throughout the sermon
But if you want to go to first peter three in the new testament first peter chapter number three
I want to first focus about this idea of
Obedience now
You could very easily say the opposite is true. What makes the worst wife a rebellious and lazy wife
I mean because
While we attack one we're attacking the other it's basically you can't have one without the other if you want to be a great wife
You're obedient. You're hard working. If you want to be a horrible wife, you're rebellious and you're lazy simply
but now in first peter chapter three, it talks about
The importance of a wife it says in verse number one
Likewise he wives be in subjection
To your own husband notice just the first thing off the lips
Of peter when he's giving these instructions to wives is what to be subject and i'll tell you the number one two three point
is obedience
Now being a hard worker is is really important
But if you want to be a great wife
If you really want your husband to be pleased with you if you really want to be pleasing in the sight of god
It starts and begins and ends with subjection
Now subjecting yourself
Does not mean that you get what you want or your desires. It means that you're basically obedient to the will of your husband
Even when you don't agree
In fact, that's the whole essence of being in subject and subjection or being obedient is not that you agree
It's that you don't agree
And so the greatest wives can do what their husbands say when they don't agree with them whatsoever
They don't necessarily like it or they don't want to but yet they do it anyways
That is a picture of a great wife
now in
first peter chapter 3
The bible actually takes it to somewhat of an extremity in this particular situation
Look at the next few verses that if any obey not the word now who's the any here? It's talking about their husbands
It's saying if you have a husband that is not obeying the word. What does that mean? It means they're a big sinner
It's not like they're just a sinner. I mean this guy is a big sinner. He's not obeying the word of god
He's rebellious to the word of god
Wouldn't you think like well if my husband's rebellious to the word of god, doesn't that give me the right to obey?
You know disobey him or rebel against him then I mean he's not even obeying the bible, but notice what it says
they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wise so
It's actually teaching that if a man is not following the word of god
Just his wife obeying him could cause him to actually get right with god
It actually caused his heart to change and decide you know what you're just such a good wife
It makes me feel like i'm a crappy person in comparison
So i'm going to start following the word of god. I want to start following the bible
I want to start doing that which is right. I'm going to start going to church
I'm going to start leading the home. I'm going to actually get my act together. I'm going to obey the word of god
Why because my wife is such a good example?
And i'm telling you a wife that's a great example can do wonders in their marriage or their husband you say
Well, my husband's a crappy guy. Well, you know how to make him better obey him
Like that's weird
That's called the bible. It's called faith
You want to make your husband a great husband obey him?
Be in subjection unto him do whatever he says look at verse two while they behold your chase
conversation coupled with fear
Now some ladies would probably like to turn that into oh is that does that mean like me telling him what to do?
No, the chase conversation here is their lifestyle and chase means obedient like when you think about chasing a son
When it's talking about that it's talking about someone that's obedient well-behaved and they do it coupled with fear
Now obviously you should be your husband, but even above that you should just fear god
Punishing you and disciplining you when you're not obeying your husband
And it's possible that you could be disobedient to a husband. He doesn't even know
Because he's at work all day. You're at home all day or you're doing whatever
You know, it's important that you're obedient to your husband at all times in fear of god
That is going to have
Help you become a great wife
It says in verse number four
But let it be the hidden man of the heart even that which is not corruptible even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit
Which is in the sight of god
Of great price so notice again
We're talking about the virtuous woman her price is far above rubies and the bible is saying this person
Is pictured as being of worthy of a great price why because it's so hard to find a wife that just wants to obey your husband
Now some people say oh that's because it's 2022 america. No, it's called his life
And if you think that well, I know there's this untapped rock this untapped gem
Where I can go and I can find women that just want to obey their husbands
No, okay
It's like well, you know canadian women. No one would say that. All right
Well, it's foreign women, you know
Look, there's no temptation taking you but such as common to man
Women are bred to be disobedient. Okay. Now, obviously some cultures are worse than others, but it's called adam and eve
I mean she doesn't need any help
He just went ahead and disobeyed and drug her husband down with her
Okay, so it's very difficult for a woman to try to be obedient to her husband
It's a rarity. That's what makes it so valuable. That's what makes it of such a high price
And again being a high price why because it's what every man desires
Every single guy. I mean, I don't care. I mean the men it seems like looks is the most important
But I guarantee you you took a bunch of women and line them up
And you said the one in the middle as far as looks is the most obedient one. That's the one he would choose
That's the one that he wants
That's what's going to actually make him really happy and that's what makes a great wife notice in proverbs 31
It gives no description of her physical appearance
I mean you get a little subtle hints about the fact that she like has her
Her arms or she has strength or whatever an arm
But i'm saying like it's not saying like she's the fairest of all the you know
Late the ladies in the you know land or something like that or she's just she's got this perfect figure or whatever
Why is it that she's so great? It's because she's so obedient
That's what makes her so great and I guarantee
Every single man in this room if there was one thing they could want more of from their wife
It's that just press the obedience button and i'm not going to make him tell you that i'm just telling you, okay?
Obedience obey
Subjection all of these things and the bible's just hammering it look at verse five for after this manner in the old time the holy women
also
Who trusted in god adorned themselves being in subjection under their own husbands could the bible get any more clear
It's just like be in subjection be in subjection the holy women obeyed the holy women, you know
They were trusting in god why because the world will tell you that you're a fool to subject yourself to your husband
The world will say that you're oppressed and you're being held back and you're being held down and you're viewed as being
Inferior or of less value whereas the bible's saying you're of great value when you obey your husband
And what it'll make you is a great wife
verse six even as sarah obeyed
Abraham
Calling him lord
Whose daughters they are as long as you do well and are not afraid with any amazement
So the bible says that not only should you obey your husband?
You shouldn't even be afraid to obey your husband because you just already know that's the right thing to do
You just already know that the the lord is commanding you that you don't have to be afraid to obey your husband like
Well, what's going to happen when I you know obey him?
It's kind of like all the guys when they get in the van to go soul winning
They just have to in their heart just say pastor silly's driving and i'm okay with that
I trust in that, you know
They're not like ready to grab the wheel or anything
Or you know, they're just sitting back having a good time, you know laughing talking or whatever, you know
Just get on the train your husband's train and just say choo choo. Where are we going?
In
You're not afraid with any amazement you're not like oh no
Well, I can't just let him tell me what to do
That would be terrible. No, you just get in you just say let's go
I'm ready to serve i'm ready to help i'm ready to obey and that's what makes a great wife
If a wife just looked at her husband and said honey, whatever you say it's done
I mean i'm telling you every guy would just be like
Now, of course
Some men are jerks and they might abuse that but i'm telling you what even if they do you're still on the right
I mean your boss may abuse that but you and I you and I both know that the employee at the at the workplace
That says boss whatever you want. I'm your man
That guy usually gets treated the best by the boss though
Even though he said that it's not like the boss is like great go clean the toilets now
You know and if he did you'd do it anyways, but what I am saying is this, you know
When you get on board when you're ready to go when you're going to submit yourself
Your husband's gonna be very pleased now go to Ephesians chapter five go to Ephesians chapter five
The bible has a lot of instruction. It doesn't necessarily give a ton
for marriage
But the handful of places that it does I think are going to be really important
And if it only gives you a handful of places that it's talking about it explicitly
And then it just has one thing that it's just hitting like over and over and over and over again
Then I feel like you can't overemphasize it
You can't mention it enough. I mean in that one passage
It was just like subjection obey submit, you know, just everything's just hammering that point
Let's find another passage about this and see what it says for the ladies Ephesians chapter 5 verse 22
submitting to your submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God wives
Submit yourselves under your own husbands as under the Lord
Wow, it sounds like that's a pretty consistent theme, doesn't it?
Obey submit subjection here it is again wives submit yourselves and notice the level of submission
The equivalent to serving God
I mean he's saying like the same way that you would treat
Jesus Christ is how you should treat your husband in the sense that if he said something I mean
Can you imagine if Jesus Christ asked you to make him a sandwich and you're like
You would make him the greatest sandwich ever
I mean and that thing would be you know, it would just be exactly what he wanted
I mean you would be so excited you wouldn't even be mad about it
You wouldn't be you would be hoping he asked you to do something for him, right?
Whereas is that really how you feel about your husband and I won't ask for hands raise a hand or anything. Okay?
But
In this passage it's making pretty clear look at verse 24 therefore as the church is subject unto Christ so let the wives
Be to their own husbands in everything
Man, that seems pretty clear, doesn't it?
I mean, it doesn't say like some things it says everything
Now, of course, we always understand that the bible the way it communicates is in coordination with itself
And meaning that you know
We compare spiritual with spiritual the bible clearly says any rule that violates the bible is always off the table
But this is basically just saying everything that your husband asks you to do
That's not in violation of scripture. You just say yes, sir, and you do it
You say yes, sir. What what sarah called him lord
So here's your options lord or sir. I think sir sounds a little bit nicer in today's
Venacular because your family might start freaking out, okay
Like if your husband says hey, honey, will you give me a sandwich? You're like, yes, sir. They're like, okay, but if you say yes lord
I'm just telling you they're gonna get a little nervous
Now I like the ring to it, but i'm just saying like, you know, maybe in private, right?
All right
You know in in olden cultures lord was a pretty calm it was actually the more
Common vernacular rather than sir
They would just say my lord or whatever and it just means boss or the person that's in charge or sir or something very similar
But I like the respect factor here, you know that you would use respectful titles and your husband showing a fear showing a reverence
Just like you wouldn't just call jesus my homeboy or something
It's your dog
You know
Or or like this one wicked false prophet when he refers to god, he calls him daddy
Or whatever and it just it makes me want to punch him in the face
I'm, just like don't call god the father daddy
that seems so irreverent and so just impersonal and just
I it's gross. Okay
And you know when it comes to your husband, you know
It's nice to use good titles or reverent titles or endearing terms these type of things it'll help you put you in the right mindset
When you don't use a good title when you're not using respectful wording or language
It often is also going to permeate your entire
Relationship with that person now look at verse 33 again
I'm just skipping around a little bit because i'm just trying to highlight for you what the bible says but notice it's a consistent theme
Submit obey obey subjection rejection, right verse 33 nevertheless let every one of you in particular
So love his wife even as himself and the wife see that she reverence her husband
So notice we're seeing that that coupling of calling him lord and being reverent and giving him that honor and giving him that respect and saying
Whatever he does or says, you know what i'm going to submit myself unto it
And look you want your husband to be pleased with you it's it's all about
Obedience, okay, that's just number one two, three four all all the lists really go to colossians chapter three
Go to colossians. So first peter three was a lot of instruction really hammered that ephesians has a decent number of verses
Colossians a real short
Instruction as far as marriage. It's just kind of like one-liners. So let's see what the one-liner is for wives. Okay
Verse 18 wives
Submit yourselves and your own husbands as it is fit in the lord. So it's like in colossians. There's just one message
I'm going to get across the wives just one verse just one thought. What was the one thought?
Uh submit
Why because that's the most important thing and again, I didn't write the bible
You can get mad at me as much as you want. You can say I don't like pastor. Shelly. I don't like he interprets the bible
How else am I supposed to interpret it when every passage is just highlighting the one thing
It's just like submit obey be in subjection. It's just over and over. It's just hammered and hammered
So again, we should make that a big deal
If this is the one time it's going to bring it up then we need to preach on it
And I don't care who is uncomfortable with the word of god. I love the word of god
I think that it's great and I guarantee every man is like yes
Yes
I I don't care if they're saved or unsaved the one thing every man wants is his wife to obey
No, man wants a rebellious wife wants a a woman that's just going to basically not care what he says not care what he thinks
Look, it hurts men's egos too much. We're too sensitive. Okay, ladies
We need an automatic cheerleader. We need a girl that's just just
Woohoo, yeah, I mean we haven't scored a touchdown the whole game and you're just still cheering us on okay
That's what we need. That's what we like. We want I mean, there's a reason why cheerleaders the thing
I mean, it's isn't it incredible you have all these big strong men out there, right?
And it's like they can't really score a touchdown unless they have little girls cheering them on but i'm telling you it's out there
You know, they need that encouragement
They need that that support and how terrible would it be if the cheerleaders were like you guys suck, you know
You can't score
You know, it's like I think you'd be like what's going on here?
Even the cheerleaders turned on us. No, no, the cheerleaders have to be a hundred percent on board and isn't it silly
To think about the fact that girls will literally go to high school
And they will literally be a hundred percent supportive of the football players
They're a hundred percent on board a hundred percent obedient and then a preacher gets up and says I think that's how I should be
And they're like, oh, that's horrible
What?
It's like what are you talking about?
I mean every single employee-employer relationship is supposed to be that way too
There's no there's no like oh, well the stewardess tells the pilot what to do
No, they lock the door and they're like whatever the pilot says we're done
It's done deal and I always find that fascinating
That i'm like we get on the plane and we're all saying like whatever the
Captain of the plane says whatever the pilot of the plane says it goes and they're a hundred percent subjective
Why is it so bad to just say hey my husband's my pilot and whatever he says from the cockpit. It's done
Bam go to titus chapter number three go to titus chapter number three
And look it's not like
Some people have this idea that men and women have these extreme differences and what they're supposed to do
But at the end of the day, it's not like this isn't just exactly what men are supposed to be like, too
Men are supposed to be obedient to we're just obedient to a different person
We're not obedient to our wife. We're obedient to jesus
And of course if you want to be a great husband, you're going to be obedient to jesus christ
Okay, so obedience is always the the picture perfect of a servant
The question is who's in charge and god already told us who's the boss? It's the man
Tony danza that show should have been over in five seconds
Who's the boss the man?
But I think he wasn't even like married to the chick. So he needs to get out and quit being like a whore monger or whatever
I don't even know this. I don't know the show. It's stupid. Okay
I don't watch these dumb shows, but it's not a guy home cleaning and cooking and this is bizarre. Okay
Of course, that's what the world wants to tell you. Of course
That's what the world wants to lead you to believe
And have the strong female character who's the lawyer or something coming home and then it's a struggle of who's the boss
No, we already know
We already know who the boss is. We've already god's already told us the mystery's been resolved
In fact, there was no mystery just from the very beginning of creation
It was adam and it was never eve and when eve gets into the driver's seat. Look what happens
That's why we're here
I mean if you want to blame somebody let's put let's start putting someone now
Of course god imputed the transgression into adam because he really knew what was going on and he still sinned. Okay
But he sinned because his wife obviously drug him down with her titus chapter number three. Look at verse number nine
Okay
I'm sorry. I meant chap. I meant I meant verse number two. I think look at this in chapter two verse nine
Exhort servants to be obedient to their own masters and to please them. Well in all things not answering again. So like I said
Obedience is for all servants. We're all servants of god, but putting this in context of a wife
You know
Let's make it clear what we're actually talking about because it's easy for me to just say obey and they're just like cool
Obey, you know, what does that actually look like? Let's get real specific. Here's an example not answering again
So if your husband tells you to do something
And then you're like, eh what I don't think so. What that's actually not being obedient
Obedience is immediate agreement
Immediate acceptance
Okay, so answering again actually is causing the problems in your marriage
If you want to be a truly obedient wife, you want your husband to think you're a great wife
You just say something and it's done again. It's not like a fight
You're not worried about what you said. Here's something that would be great you say it and her attitude doesn't change. I
Mean
Could you imagine saying something your wife doesn't like and she still treats you the exact same that is what I call a great wife
The same would be with the Bible
How about if we look at something in the Bible and we don't like it, but we'd say you know what God?
I'm gonna have a right attitude. I'm gonna do it. Anyways, that's what we're supposed to do and
I'm telling you you want to be a great wife. You're not answering again
Hey, should we do this? No in the story
Now, of course obviously
There's a time and a place for a wife to petition her husband make requests under her husband to let it known
Maybe there's a better alternative, but it should always be presented in a manner where it's not answering again
It's simply I'll do whatever you want. I believe this might be a better option
Would you consider that and then if it's a no again, then it's over, you know, then it's been established
There's no need, you know
The Bible brings up the whole situation where if a wife literally made a vow unto God
The husband can completely disregard it a hundred percent whenever he wants
think about that level of power that the law is literally saying that a woman could get on her knees and tell God I
Promise do X Y & Z and the husband can just say no you're not
That's what the Bible says
That's the level of authority that the Bible teaches in a household and again
It should not be answered once the husband has spoken now
According the law if the husband hears it and doesn't say anything
He lost his opportunity now she's bound by her oath to her promise the Lord first of all
He shouldn't be making those in the New Testament. But even if you did
The husband has full power and authority to trump anything that the woman says thinks or wants to do and
It's important because when you don't have established leadership, it's hard to actually move forward. It's hard to make good decision
We need to know who's in charge. We need to know where the buck stops
We need to know what the marriage looks like and God made it clear the husband
it has a hundred percent authority the wife has zero and
It's not talking about value not talking about importance
It's talking about authority only just like your children your children have zero percent authority
zero point zero zero zero zero percent
I mean as many zeros as you could ever imagine
That's how much authority they have and that's not going to change and that's how it's supposed to be in a relationship
That's gonna be a godly marriage. So if we go to Proverbs 21, so then why do we have all these problems?
Why do people constantly fight? I'm telling you why it's because wives are answering again
It's because wise are not agreeing with what their husband says. Here's a question
Let me ask you a hypothetical question if you always agree with every single thing that your husband says, how could you ever fight?
Think about it
Right, if whatever your husband says you say I will do that every single time. How could you even fight?
It's not even possible. But you know what the Bible says only by pride cometh contention
Meaning what it's prideful for a woman to disagree with her husband
It's prideful for her to think that her idea is better no matter what now it may be I
Think that we have a lot of really intelligent women in this room and I think that the women in this room
Read their Bible and are very godly and it's not that you don't have good ideas
It's not that you couldn't be smarter than your husband in a particular area
It's talking about faith though the faith to say you know what? I'm just gonna trust my husband anyways
I'm just gonna go with what my husband says
Anyways, I'm not gonna be prideful about it because I guarantee every single man in this room
Has probably had a better idea or a better thought than their boss at work
You know, what's a bad idea is?
Rebel against your boss at work and it's a bad idea is to try and make your boss look stupid
You know, it's a bad idea is going against the direction that your boss has decided
When he's made it clear how he feels now, of course, obviously when you have a better idea
So submit those and a respectful manner
Asking politely saying that you're gonna obey no matter what but at the end of the day
You know the reason why there's contention in any situation the Bible says pride
It didn't say like sometimes there's contention because of pride. It said only by pride cometh contention
Only meaning somehow there's pride in the situation just like your children when your children are you know, disobeying it's their pride
That's the problem because they should just obey and you want us as Christians when there's problems
It's our pride and not just submitting to whatever God said
Any kind of area that there's an issue. It's because we're not just saying
we agree with whatever the Bible says and
the Bible should be the end of all strife the Bible should be where we
Essentially just all come together in perfect unity, but obviously we're all sinners and no one's gonna get there
No one's gonna ride but I'm telling you the the worst thing you can have in a marriage is this contention
Fighting brawling look what it says in Proverbs 21 verse number 9
It is better to dwell in a corner of a housetop than with a brawling woman in a white house now
The positive side of the Bible when it's kind of talking in a direction of what the wife should do
It's saying submit obey be in subjection have reverence just hammering it
Well, the negative side is bringing up the same issue, but just from the other side
So it would be the opposite of obedience all these fighting brawling and it's saying this is like the worst thing imaginable
Why because the best thing is obedience the worst thing is the brawling?
It's saying look this guy would rather
go up into the hot attic or the cold attic and just hide and
Just place solitaire on his phone
Then be in the biggest mansion with this wife following around nagging him answering again
Complaining about everything that he does everything that he says always just upset with him and look
I'm telling you you want to have a marriage where your husband wants to hang out with you never fight with him
And when my husband doesn't want to ever be around me
Well
Are you brawling with him and you say I haven't hit him a lot, okay
Or maybe you don't punch him at all. But here's the thing
Do you answer again?
Because that's worse I guarantee if it was like hey
Do you want your wife to mouth off to you or punch you it's like punch me. Come on. I can take it
Dude the mouthing off though. It's just like it's like an uppercut
I mean, it's just like bam, you know, or it's like it's like stomping on your toe or it's like a splinter or whatever
You want to be a great wife?
You don't want to fight with your husband and the Bible just hammers this go to Proverbs 25
Go to Proverbs 25 and look at verse 24
Proverbs 25 verse 24 now, here's the thing that's interesting about the Bible some Proverbs are repeated
Verbatim and I mean it literally it's the exact same proverb multiple times in the Bible now
Do you think those would be more important or less important? I would say more. Hey, amen
All right, so let's see if this happens where we have an exact
verbatim
Repetition of a proverb in the Bible Proverbs 25 look at verse 24
It is better to dwell in the corner of a housetop than with a brawling woman in a white house
hmm
Exactly the same verse I think God's trying to send us a message here
I think God's trying to tell women something don't be brawling with your husband. It's gonna drive him away from you
It's gonna cause him even if he is around you it's gonna cause him not to want to be around you and
Look you want your husband not be around you fight with him
Answer again
You know basically tell him how stupid his ideas are how you don't want to do them
He asked you to do something you say now
I mean that guy is just gonna want to run away Proverbs chapter 19 look at verse 13
Proverbs chapter 19 look at verse 13
There's a lot of Bible in this issue, okay, so don't get mad at me
God feels like it's important Proverbs 19 verse 13 a foolish son is the calamity of his father and
The contentions of a wife or a continual dropping
He's just saying man. You want to just you want to drive a guy insane
Just be a contentious person be a contentious wife, or it's just like
And
It's like the continual dropping like on your face or something
It's like Chinese water torture where it just gets to the point where it's just like every job just drives you insane
I mean you just want to like I mean if the fossil was leaking you're just kind of like
Someone turn that thing off you know and it's like that's what it's like with the wife
It's just well you didn't you left your clothes over here, and oh you left these plates out over here again, and oh you
Didn't open my door again, and no you didn't say this again, and he's just like shut up
I'm sorry inside
Obviously would never hurt your wife. Okay. Let me make that clear, but I'm just telling you inside. You're just like
And why because a man has all this power and physical might to stop foes, but he's not gonna hurt a woman
So then it's just like it's just like he doesn't know what to do with himself
It drives him insane because if a guy was doing it he would pound his face into hamburger meat
Some little pipsqueak just run in his mouth. He's gonna end that
He's gonna rip the faucet out of the wall before he lets it just drip and perpetually you know what I mean
But with his wife he can't do that, so it just drives him insane. Just like
Just walk around just nag him and nag him and nag him and be contentious about everything. Why did you do that?
Why did you go here?
It's just like
I'm just telling you. This is what the Bible teaches
Proverbs 21 right here on the page look at verse 19
It is better to dwell in the wilderness than with the contentious and an angry woman
now
Here's the thing
You women you can interpret every single situation however you want
You could be happy or angry
But the reason why they're constantly contentious because they're just angry about it
Every little thing they look at is just being a grievance or a problem or an issue
Rather than just saying it's my job to fix all these issues. It's my job to fix all these problems
It's my job to just obey and submit anyways, so I'm just gonna be happy about it, and I'm gonna serve the Lord
I mean I could look at my life and say like God. Why are you giving me all these problems to deal with and
Just complaining about every problem. I have my and look I have a lot of problems, okay?
You probably have a lot of problems in your life
I have a lot of things that I'm thinking like yeah, I don't really want to deal with that issue
You know what it would be wrong for me to sit here and constantly complain to God
Oh, I'd have to fix this issue now
I'd have to deal with this problem now rather than saying thank you God for giving me an opportunity to serve you today
You know and if Jesus came through my house it was like hey, here's your list of stuff to do I'd be like let's do
it
In fact he did it's called the Bible
He said here's your list what if I'm just like I don't like that page. I don't want to this page. You know
That's really wicked
Look at Proverbs 27 look at Proverbs chapter 27
You got to just change your attitude and just say you know what I'm just gonna obey period
I'm just gonna do that which is right period and look no woman starts out as a Proverbs 31 wife
Is to work and strive towards that you can't marry the Proverbs 31 wife because she's already married there's kids
He's already been doing this for a while. Okay, so
Obviously, you know women are gonna develop and get better over time and more obedient over time
God willing and the more they read the Bible and the more they're plugged into church and
Here's the thing the more they start serving God the more they start seeing. Wow. I'm actually a lot happier by doing this. I
Just want to keep doing it
It'll actually help that situation and I guarantee no matter how hard your life may be
Being disobedient will only make it worse. It won't make it better
You say well, I'm in this bad relationship or our relationship
It's not where I want it to be but I guarantee being rebellious will only make it worse. You won't be happier
Oh, but you know if I get divorced and marry mr. Right
Okay
That's not gonna ever make it look better. It's gonna make it ten times worse and there isn't mr. Right?
You know every woman that is like this will find every man to fall short
You think like well, I wish I was married to him no
He sucks too. Okay
He's late. He just has all kinds of problems, too
He burps and you know has bad breath and you know uses the bathroom and you know laced up everywhere
And doesn't do your honeydew list on time every single time
Look let me just tell you something
The honeydew list is just not gonna ever be done exactly when you want it for every single guy
You know, if there's no mr. Right, there's no mr. Perfect. There's no mr. Clean
So you should just say you know what? I'm married to a great guy though
Because the men in this room, there's a lot of great men in this room. We're looking at your husband
It's like I said look go out in the world and tell me how great they are
It's
infinitely different
Okay, it's infinitely different when you have men that actually want to serve God
They really have a desire to do that which is right and look they get ripped on to okay
Don't think that you know, this this is I just hate women or something like that
I've been falsely accused of that, but I actually love women. I
Love my wife. I'm married to one. Okay, in fact of all the people in the world
You know, I like the most my wife which is a woman
And
Every man isn't anywhere close. I probably like all women better than men because you know, I'm straight I
Mean it's just like it's not even close. It's a stupid analogy
Okay now because I'm married all other women are dead to me
But what I am saying is this, you know
It's a silly idea to say that you teaching a woman to obey her husband means you hate her. No, I love women
I want women to be happy and I'm telling you want to be happy
You want a great marriage you want to be considered a great wife you need to obey?
Proverbs 27 the verse 15
Continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman or alike. I just feel like the Bible's is hammering this
Because it is it's just like obey obey obey obey obey
That should just be ringing in the ears of every single woman now
I'm gonna take a break and I'll hit the second point here in a second, but I
I've been reading this book and it's not necessarily the greatest book in the world
but it's a Christian author and he wrote a book called like we will not be silenced and
He he brings up some interesting points and that's why I wanted to read a little bit of this book that
I've been looking at but
In essence is just saying the church shouldn't be silenced no matter how bad the culture gets and I like that premise
And in fact, I love that premise and he says we should be a bright and shining light
And we shouldn't care what the world thinks about the Bible
We should just stand on the Bible and the Bible doesn't change. We should be steadfast
So the guy's premise for this book, I love some of his applications
I disagree with but some of his research is interesting and he brings up communism and
This is what he has to say and I'm gonna read a little bit
It says Frederick Engels who along with Karl Marx wrote the Communist Manifesto
Said that the monogamous nuclear family emerged only with capitalism
So according to Communist Manifesto, the reason why men are in charge of the house and women submit is because of capitalism
Okay prior to capitalism
Tribal societies were classless children and property were community owned and people enjoyed sexual freedom
When did that exist?
Now this is what they have to do. They're going back to this supposed caveman
Ideology of wherever it's classless and everybody's just doing whatever they want. He's trying to make us like animals or something
where there's no, you know distinction between
Men, you know married deer and unmarried deer and whatever. They're just playing and having fun and just doing whatever
Here's the difference because man was created in God's image
He's a living soul and this classless
Society-less, you know situation never existed because in the beginning God created Adam and Eve and said the man's in charge
not not
Capitalism
There was no capitalism in the Garden of Eden. Okay. I mean, this is just silly was Adam selling stuff to Eve
I mean, I don't know. It's it's like no
Okay
He said Marx has claimed that the restrictions limiting sexual intimacy to a man-woman
Relationship within the marriage covenant were invented by religion to maintain the dominance of men
Now here's the thing
If you want to say it's coming from religion, he says it's invented by religion. I kind of agree because it's coming from God
so amen to that and
It's to maintain the dominance of men. Amen
I'm not gonna hide from the fact that I believe that men should be dominant
That men are in Dominion that men are in power
Why because God said so he says this belief in God in the Bible with its teaching about social institutions such as marriage
Was the source of multiple forms of oppression?
They get specific they're saying hey
You want to know where this coming from the Bible and God because that's exactly where it's coming from
You want to know where every aspect of morality and law and integrity is coming is coming from the Bible
It's coming from the Word of God, which is not only my hand. It's written in the heart of every single person
It says and there's more in
Marxism the family is perceived as a unit in which wives are suppressed by their husbands and children are
Suppressed by their parents. You better believe they're suppressed
Well, my six-month-old is now gonna start being in charge
Okay, it's it's not suppressed. It's just it can't do anything
It's a it's so suppressed, I mean, what do you think that my six-month-old really wants to do that? We're not letting it right now
I mean, come on folks. And again, what is it that really that women just really want to do that?
They're being suppressed in marriage. They're being suppressed by their husband. I mean, what is it?
They get to have children, okay, in
Fact I would say that a married woman is exactly what they want because they don't have to go to work
What woman's it's like I just really want to work
You know, I really want to have a boss somewhere
I really want to be subject, you know in order to get rid of this suppression. I need to be suppressed by a boss
Like what are you talking about?
Suppressed look I don't like that word
But obviously they're in obedience obviously they're in subjection obviously they're supposed to be under their rule
It says these clusters of oppression have to be broken up
So now they switch from suppression to oppression now again oppression is a lot different because they're now talking about some kind of
Injustice or we're hurting them or harming them
You know what? There should be levels of suppression in the sense that you know, women are not allowed to speak in the church
You know what that doesn't hurt them or harm them
We're not oppressing them by suppressing their ability to preach or suppressing them from being in political office
Like we should have you know women suffrage, you know or whatever
like
We're protecting them from themselves my friend and we're doing what God said
Okay
Now it says this these clusters of approachings have to be broken up mothers have to leave their homes and join the workforce
But it's just out of the frying pan in the fire though, cuz he's like we got to liberate them by giving them a job
Now you ask your husband. Do you feel so liberated by working for the man?
You don't feel liberated by having a job it feels like the ball and chain
You don't want to go to work. You don't want to have the clock in you don't want to have to do all this stuff
You know, you want to work for yourself if anything, but even working for yourself, you still subject to the customer
You're still subject to the the free market or you know, if free market as it were. Okay, whatever
You're still subject to regulation. You're still subject to taxes. You're still subject to all kinds of things that are going on in this world
You know, it's not like this great liberating thing. Oh you get a job, you know when children are in their teenage years
If you said hey, you can just stay home and do whatever you want and play here or get a job
It's like I'm liberated. I get a job. That's not liberation
That's hard work and every kid they love a job at first and then they start working and they're like, I don't like it
Like I want to mow the lawn you're like, okay
Two weeks later. I never want to mow the lawn ever again, you know
I want to take out the trash then they want to take out the trash
It's not this like super cool thing. Oh now I get to be in the workplace workplace
So as Marx put it anybody who knows anything of history knows that great social changes are impossible
without the feminine
Ferment
So he's saying you know what the only way we're gonna overthrow society
The only way we're gonna have communism
the only way we're gonna get rid of this capitalistic society is for women to go in the workplace and
Here's the thing. He's right
He's right social progress can be measured exactly by the social position of the fair sex the ugly ones included now
That's a quote from him. Okay
But he's basically suggesting this feminine ferment
He says so feminine ferment or feminine upheaval is said to be the key to liberating the family from multiple forms of oppression and the
Capitalistic pattern of passing on wealth from one generation to another
Mothers have to be encouraged to leave their children for others to raise
After all state-owned moms live in servitude to their husbands and are too easily satisfied
Now
That was just funny to me. Okay, stay at home moms live in servitude to their husbands
Check Bible. Okay, and then are too easily satisfied. It's like they're too happy
Just being at home
Raising kids and serving their husband that we have to what make them unhappy. I mean, what's the alternative?
I mean, you know, it's like you're so pressed and you don't even know it
Because you're so satisfied
With being a mother at home. I mean, it's so contradictory
If their grievances many which are legitimate can be exploited
they will then be willing to stifle their motherly instincts and
Step outside the home and enter the workforce notice in order for their mission to be accomplished
You have to literally reject your normal natural instincts. Just like your
God-given desires wishes and instincts you have to somehow shed that in order to just completely reject
What God actually wants you to do and you know what?
It's very unnatural for a mother to look at her little baby and want to leave it
Anywhere for any reason. I mean my wife is around our babies incessantly
I mean it is like a 24-7 thing and
She was always like wanting a break, but then it's like she she's gonna get a break
And then she's like sad that she's leaving this baby
I'm even for a minute
They just love them so much
Even when they can't stand them they still love them and want to be around them at all times because it's just normal
Marxists believe one of the benefits of mothers joining the workforce is that their children must then attend state-sponsored daycare centers and
Schools where they can be taught about the errors of creationism
the church and of course the Bible
children can be can also be indoctrinated about the evils of capitalism and the benefits of
socialism and economic equality man, can this guy write the future I
Mean what do we have in society today? We literally have a huge population dropping their kids off at don't care. I mean daycare
At the public school, which now public schools are teaching that capitalism is evil. Oh
It's racist and it's holding people back and even when you don't think you're a racist you're a racist
And even when you love people you hate people and even when you're a man you're a woman and just like everything's upside down
Everything's backwards, even though you want to be with your children don't
Even though that's what you desire don't give in to that desire
It's it's bizarre folks
He says also he goes on to Margaret Sanger
Margaret Sanger, so Karl Marx is around the 1840s 1850s when this is written
That was a long time think about how ahead of the time he was in 1840s and 50s already knowing what needed to change America and
Look, when did America start radically changing when women started dramatically entering the workforce in
The what the 70s 80s the baby boomer generation entering the workforce then we have the advents of what birth control
We have advents in
Breastfeeding where you have formula you have all these tools all these ways for women to just stop being home with children
the what completely and
Dramatically change our entire society the fabric of society has been completely changed
Why because why is don't want to be a great wife anymore?
They don't want to be obedient and look being a great wife helps you be satisfied. Even the communist says so
Margaret Sanger
He says was influenced by the ideals of cultural Marxism was a revolutionary who intended to transform the American family
So that she could change the world in March 1914. She launched a newspaper called the woman rebel
Which promoted moral and political anarchy her motto was no gods no masters
So you women they're like, I'm gonna go in the workplace. You're following your role model
Margaret Sanger who rejects God
Who's a complete atheist who hates the Word of God hates all leadership in
The paper she touted the virtues of single motherhood
Contraception and it's sort of that women have the right to face the world with a go-to-hell look in the eyes
Who have an ideal to speak and act in defiance of convention?
Talk about a wicked woman. She's like a modern-day Jezebel
But you know, what's sad is most women today are just like her
Not even realizing that's the culture that's being you know raised today and her 1920 book women and the new race
She predicted that the rebellion of women would remake the world
She believes in evolution and that the fit should have more children than the unfit
That's why she tried to kill a bunch of black babies through planned parenthood. It was in the Ku Klux Klan also
And she would have voted for Biden. All right
She endeavored to liberate women by affirming
Reproductive freedom which would give women the ability to be promiscuous and still be able to decide whether they wanted to bear children or not
Not only just being a whore killing their children on top of that
Even as birth control is the means by which
Woman attains basic freedom
So it is the means by which she must and will uproot the evil which has wrought through her submission
So she just plainly states the evil of a woman submitting the evil of a woman subjecting herself
Why because it's that obvious that the Bible is saying obey and the devil and the devil's ex-wife
Margaret Sanger is saying don't obey
So I want you women to think every single time you disobey your husband think Margaret Sanger is excited and pleased with you
You can either be Sarah in the Bible or Sanger which one are you? Well, I'm a Sanger
Wicked
Don't miss what she said a woman must overcome the evil
She has wrought through her submission in other words submission to her husband was evil to stay at home to rear children with servitude
The home would no longer consist of a father a mother and children
Liberation meant equality of roles equality and income and equality of sexual freedom the biblical roles of marriage and faith and God were deemed
obsolete and harmful
as from these basic premises
Feminism flourished as well as abortion the sexual revolution homosexual marriages and more recently transgender euphoria
Incredibly 1969 Judy Smith a member of students for a democratic society
Predicted our future when she wrote we in limb women's liberation deny any inherent differences between men women
All of us are trapped by the society that created our roles
We are questioning the ideals of marriage and motherhood and the very society that has created these roles and values must be questioned
That's it's funny because I was reading
Karl Marx in some other part and he said that women were the weaker vessels
So I guess they need to get their messages, right? But but here's the thing
It's it's just coming from a satanic wicked agenda and we see the fruit of it my friend
We see the Nancy Pelosi's of this world. We see the Kamala Harris's of this world
We see the work that they're doing and that's why I reject women in any position of authority or leadership
You know, it makes me mad every time I drive up and down the street
There's this stupid billboard of this stupid little poster
I see for like Pamela Boggess or something running for judge and I'm thinking what a curse unto our nation
She's a conservative. She's a Republican. Well get in the kitchen and start making conservative sandwiches
You know my stupid Facebook feed had the little ad and I commented said this is a curse in our nation
Don't vote for any woman. I don't care how conservative she is
Whoo
Go if you would go back to Proverbs 31
Where in the Bible did say that? Oh, here's the virtuous woman. She's the judge
No, her husband's in the gate. Her husband's the judge her husband's the ruler her husband's in Dominion
And what kind of weak man is?
campaigning for his wife
You lost your right to the man card my friend
I'm mr. Boggess, you know, I'm mr. Pamela Boggess
Sick freak and you know what? Why can't you run?
Why can't you lead are you gonna let her hand you an apple from the tree too? I
Mean the Bible is crystal clear on who's supposed to be ruling who's supposed to be leading, you know
And women are supposed to be obedient
They're not supposed to be in charge or telling us what to do and I'm sure
You know someday in the future. It'll just like all be women in fact judges. I'm they'll pull out all these clips or something
Hey, I'm not apologizing for the Bible, okay
Do what you want
Now here's the second thing you can do to be a great wife, right?
If you just do number one, you'll be great. Okay, but here's here's your bonus point work hard
Okay
You want to be a great wife you work hard now look at verse 13?
She's seeketh woolen flax and worketh willingly with her hands notice that this woman is always finding something to do and she's working
Super hard. She's expert at everything. I mean she can do anything
I mean she can make clothes she can go and find the food she can make it
She's the and she's the best at every single thing that she does
You want to know why she's the best at it because she does it all the time
You want to be good at something do it all the time
You know, it's not like
There's some magic trick necessarily it just takes practice
You know when me and my wife first got married she can make some good meals
But I'm telling you what the food gets keeps getting better
And I keep getting bigger, you know, so it's like I work on that
Man, I mean and you know some of the meals that I had the first time it was like I survived but but now
Now I thrive, you know now I'm like inviting other people like come eat this wonderful food
You know come try this is amazing
You know just keeps getting better
Why because she just keeps working and she keeps doing it and you know
You keep getting really good at stuff that you work at and you're striving for
look at verse 15
She rises also wild as yet night and give a meat to her household and a portion to her maiden
So saying she gets up early
Why because she's working hard?
She's working around the clock. She's getting up before everybody
She's putting in a bunch of effort a bunch of energy man, how could you not say this isn't the greatest wife ever
She's gonna obey everything I want and then she's gonna just constantly work hard for me. I mean, this is epic
look at verse 27
You look at well the ways of her household and he is not the bread of idleness
So again, you want to be a wife that's not really that pleasing
You lazy and
Look laziness also is gonna breed rebellion also gonna breed a bad attitude when you're working hard
It's easier to have a good attitude
Look at verse 31 give her the fruit of her hands and let her own works crazier in the gates
So, you know, oh I want to go get a job. But here's the thing God already gave you a job
Raising your kids or being home and look I'm not saying that a woman having a job outside
The home is like sin or something like that
But at the end of the day you shouldn't neglect your job duties at home
Meaning that you know if you can get it all done and you can you know have stuff on the side go for it
In fact, this woman does a lot of great things. He goes out buys a vineyard
He's like a real estate agent on top of being all these things then she's a gardener on top of that
Then she's a seamstress on top of that then she's selling her merchandise on top of that
I mean you could argue she has like five of her own companies. I
mean this lady's like
professional chef
professional merchant
Professional seamstress. I mean so look I'm not against women having a job per se
But you know, you shouldn't leave the children at home so that you can have a career
Because you can have a career at home now obviously women in different stages of life different life
Circumstances, you know what you do what you want you obey your husband at the end of the day
but I'm telling you just working hard in general is
going to
Is going to basically make you a great wife, you know, if you're starting out in marriage
You can only clean your little apartment so many times
Okay, so you want to go work somewhere and do something or whatever as long as your husband's okay with it go for it
You know
Babysit some kids or something or you know
Go help somewhere or do some other cleaning or help some other ladies or do whatever you want
You know, just be active be working. Okay, you know, all your kids are raised
Maybe that's another scenario where women, you know
it doesn't matter what circumstance it is you should just be working hard though and
You should make sure that the household priorities are being made and and being taken care of as well
Okay, the women are gonna find themselves you have one kid you're gonna have more free time you have five kids
No free time you have ten kids. You're drowning basically
Okay, so I don't know how I don't know how you do it
All right, but maybe when you have extra kids that are older they can help and you put them to labor, right?
You're just a better manager. You wanted to be in management have ten kids
Talk about management opportunities here. Okay, and then they're gonna have kids. So now it's like an M. It's like MLM. Okay, so
You can get your MLM fix. You can get your management fix. I mean look the sky's the limit
You can do anything and look you have so much more freedom
Being in the household. You can probably paint whatever you want and and make your own schedule
I mean you are the CEO of your household
Okay
But don't don't think like oh this just sounds terrible. No going and working at Subway is terrible
You know being a stewardess on a plane and having men catcall you as you walk up and down the aisle and
Grop you when you don't want it
That is slavery my friend. That is not what you want. Okay?
Don't go into first Timothy chapter number five go to first to meet chapter five
You know the Bible talks about in Proverbs 7 the loud and stubborn woman her feet abide not in her house
Meaning that just any excuse to not be in the household or working on the things that God would actually have her do
She's going to do that now again. Once all the job duties are done. Go do whatever you want
I mean go I mean obviously listen to your husband, but I'm just saying there's the sky's the limit
You can go do whatever you want, right?
But this woman that's loud and stubborn
She's neglecting things at home so that she can go out and party and have fun and be wasteful or whatever
Now first Timothy chapter number five. I'll remind you again. I didn't write the Bible
Look what it says in verse 11
But the younger widows refuse for when they have begun to wax wanton against Christ
They will marry so now the context of this is a widow and it's a widow that's under the age of 60
This would be a woman who is essentially able to be married, but just not
Now I think this applies to all women who are not married potentially and it's saying eventually they're gonna wax
Wanton against Christ meaning that they're gonna they're not gonna be satisfied with only church
It's just like they can only pray so much and go so long so much and help out of the church activities
They're gonna get to a point where they're just like I want to be married. I want a husband
I want someone to lead me. That's what it's kind of saying
Doesn't verse 12 having damnation because they've cast off their first faith now
It takes a little bit of a turn here because it's not only saying they're not only satisfied with church
It's kind of saying without leadership. They're gonna kind of go down a dark road potentially in
A lot of these cases where they're basically it's gonna be hard for them to serve God by themselves
Example by the fact that our church has way more single dudes than single ladies
There's a reason why because they wax one against Christ and then they end up marrying a bozo a lot of times a lot of
There's probably a lot of great women who end up just marrying the wrong guy
And you know what you good guys need to go out there and grab them before the bad guy does
Before the jerk does okay. What are you doing here? You know?
What are you doing at the Asian ping-pong place? That's not where they're at. I'm just kidding
You go play ping-pong right that was an inside joke
Hey, I want at least one time where all the laughter comes from here and not there as vice versa
This is the typical server where it's just like one area of laughter. Okay. It's like why is the bank amen?
Now here's the thing though they cast off their first faith
It says in verse number 13 and with all they learn to be idle now here they learn
To be idle, and I'm gonna tell you the greatest teacher
your phone
And
Look, this is not just for women
this is all of us, but I'm telling you what modern inventions day have taught us to be idle today and
And to have so much excuse to not get things done and and we need to take back our lives a little bit
and be hard-working because you know, I
I like talking with my wife, but I'm not that interested and you know everything that she saw on social media, too. It's like
But you know what?
I am interested in all the cookies and all the stuff that she made and all the treats and the new jacket
No, I mean, here's the thing. Look I'm telling you you want to be a great wife
Get to work
You know the more work you do the more they'll be pleasing. Hey men
You want your boss to be pleased with you get off the phone and do some work
and I you and I both know some days you're a lot more productive than other and
You want to know what that usually the problem is the phone or the social media or all the other stuff?
And I love listening to sermons, but I'm telling you you should actually work instead of listening to sermons
Like if you're listening to stuff, it's like but it's the greatest stuff ever
Yes, get to work now if you can do both great, you know, if it's not causing any detriment to your work go for it
I'm all against I'm all for listening the Bible. Don't listen to AC DC or something
Okay, you know don't listen to some queer feminine dude telling you about feminism or something, you know
Listen to godly material, but if it's affecting your work, you know
You need to be working hard and the same should be with ladies, you know
You want to work really hard at the job duties that God has given you that will make you truly great
And not learning to be idle wandering about from house to house and not only idle
But Tatler's also in busybodies speaking things as they ought not know lots of the information
we share on social media other people just really probably shouldn't have and
it's just you're instead of actually having to get out the couch and walk across to the neighbor's house you just
Just wandering about from house to house. Did you hear what so-and-so did did you see what so-and-so did?
You know and it's like I don't care
It's
Like did you see this church member sin? I don't want to what about this one. What about this one?
What about this one? I mean look I guarantee we could probably find sin on everybody's social media in some way
God forbid, but I'm just telling you at best vanity
At bet I mean but this is what people this is a whole lives
Their whole lives is just consuming other people's lives, and I'm telling you live your own life
You want to have a great life live it?
God puts you on this earth to have a life
Not to watch other people live and you know the stuff they put on lines fake anyways I?
Don't want to look at a filtered version of you
Okay, I don't care what you're you know one out of a hundred takes looks like of your best version
In the light, I'm looking at you like you don't actually look like that
You're not that good-looking. You know that's fake
Who are you deceiving?
You know it's kind of like that verse that you know if you say you have no sin you only deceive yourself
It's like some of you posting stuff. It's like we're only deceiving yourself, okay?
Just live your life you know and ladies need to live their life men need to live their life
Now
It says in verse number 14
I will therefore the young woman marry bear children guide the house give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully
For some are already turned aside after Satan
This is hard language. I mean he's saying look
You know when you just start being lazy and just paddling and doing these things
You're really just doing exactly what the devil wants you to do what Margaret Sanger wanted you to do
Instead of actually being in your house and obeying your husband and doing that you're just wandering about
Just doing your own thing being a free woman. What does the Bible say just get married?
Be in the home raise the children God's blessed you with
Take on the responsibilities God's given you otherwise you're just gonna get into trouble
Just like a man if you know if I was independently wealthy and didn't have to have a job
And I didn't have a job. I would get in trouble you would get into trouble
Work keeps us safe
Work actually protects us from evil, okay
Being lazy is just gonna cause you all kinds of problems and all kinds of issues
We just need to learn how to be more obedient and more submissive and more
Subjective to the people that God's put in our lives and look men can take out
You know if you were a man in this sermon, you should say I'm gonna apply everything I heard to my boss at work
Okay, I'm gonna take everything that I heard and apply it to how I respond to Jesus Christ and
You know everything starts and begins with leadership if you're real obedient submissive to Christ. It's gonna encourage your wife to be obedient to you
It's not an excuse for her to not be but I'm just telling you it's gonna help her
He's gonna want to do it more. It's gonna be easier. It's easier to obey your husband when you agree
So if you're always making great decisions and doing a lot of a great work and you're helping your wife in this area
It's gonna make it easier for a bay and I don't want to make it harder on her in a world
It's literally promoting
You know a devil agenda a communist feminist type of agenda trying to get women to be the president of the United States
The top I mean when a woman is the the top of the free world
we're doomed and
We are like one half-heartbeat away
Mean we are one bad one small trip away
Literally, I mean we're one bad cough. I mean, it's just like
That is scary
That should be terrifying to all of us and there's states where where women are the governor's
There's in this state women are running for governor
You are an idiot if you vote for a woman
You are a fool and you hate the Word of God
Okay
You should never vote for that. Ah, you hate women. Look, I get it. I love women
You want to be a great wife ladies obey?
Work hard. Let's go to prayer Thank You Heavenly Father for the great truths of the Word of God
Thank you for giving us this instruction
think you're making it so simple so clear and
That we can actually have joy
It's not that we serve you in vain. It's not that we serve
To the detriment of our own
Mental faculties, but rather we get to actually enjoy the work that we do if we would just have faith
We just have the faith that your commandments are always right
That you told us the best way to live our lives and then instead of letting these devil worshiping
God hating freaks tell us how to live our lives. Why don't we let Sarah tell the ladies how to live their lives?
Why don't we let
You know Timothy and why don't we let the Proverbs woman be our examples and our role models today?
For our children and for our families and that we would just submit ourselves the Word of God in Jesus name we pray. Amen
Amen with that. Let's close it out with one more song before we head home. You'll take out your hymnal to 408
Loyalty to Christ got a new song for you tonight
You don't know it's pretty catchy. So figure it out pretty quick
408
Loyalty to Christ song 408
Over
There comes a single strain
his loyalty
loyalty
loyalty to Christ
Music
He'll take up the song of loyalty loyalty
as loyalty to God Oh
to victory
Will soon possess the land through loyalty loyalty as loyalty to Christ
Here you brave the sound that moves the earth around
his loyalty
loyalty loyalty to Christ
Arise to dare and do bring out the watch for true of loyalty
loyalty as loyalty to Christ Oh
to victory Oh
to victory
Our great commander
Oh
Loyalty loyalty as loyalty to Christ
Around the giant wrong his loyalty loyalty loyalty to Christ
Satan's banners will send the bugle known of loyalty
loyalty as loyalty to Christ Oh
To victory Oh
Our great commander
Loyalty loyalty as loyalty to Christ the strength of youth we lay at Jesus
Today his loyalty loyalty loyalty to Christ his gospel will proclaim
Throughout the world's domain of loyalty loyalty as loyalty to Christ Oh
To victory Oh
To me rise our great commander
Will soon possess the land through loyalty loyalty as loyalty to Christ