I'm sorry.
wonderful to see everybody here this afternoon. If we go ahead and find our seats, we will
get started. And for our first song this evening, we will start in song number 22. Song number
Are you washed in the blood?
Song number 22.
in the blood of the land.
Are you washed in the blood,
in the soul-fisting blood of the land?
Are your garments spotless, are they white as snow?
Are you washed in the blood of the land?
Great singing, everybody.
Let's open up the service now with a word of prayer.
Lord, we love you so much. We thank you for the opportunity to go soul-winning this afternoon. Thank you for everybody
That was one to you and thank you for just letting us be used Lord
And we just ask now that you fill this room with your spirit
Help us to sing out unto you and we ask all these things in Jesus name. Amen
All right for our next song. Let's go to song number 252
wider than snow it's maybe a newer song to some if you know it sing it out song 252 wider than snow
Good singing. Thank you so much for coming to Steadfast Baptist Church. If you need a bulletin,
I can lift your hand real quick whenever ushers can come by and get you guys a bulletin.
We are Jude 15 for our Bible memory verse of the week. On the inside is our service and so
winning times. On the right is a list of expecting ladies, upcoming events, joint baby shower for
the Carlson's and Alderman's on the 9th. We have another teen event, the Adventure Park August 9th,
and we had a great time last night, so thanks to all who participated. It was a lot of fun.
FBBF conference August 27th through the 31st our mission is to trip to Mexico
September 8th on the back is our prayer list and that's pretty much all I have as
far as announcements we'll just go ahead and jump right into our third song
Psalm 119 Psalm 119
Psalm 119
yet I am not from time recessed.
Life has done well, he's had what he has,
and there it is forever.
The word is a lamp unto my feet,
and you'll lie unto my...
be thy judgment, my soul is contentment.
Thank you guys!
us there for me, and I am the crown.
Thine three steps, Thine says the...
Offering pleasure being passed out good and open your Bibles to mark chapter 10. That's the book of Mark chapter number 10
Mark chapter 10, the Bible says,
and he arose from thence
and cometh into the coast of Judea
by the farther side of Jordan,
and the people resorted unto him again,
and as he was want, he taught them again.
And the Pharisees came to him and asked him,
is it lawful for a man to put away his wife,
tempting him?
And he answered and said unto them,
what did Moses command you?
And they said, Moses suffered to ride
a bill of divorcement and to put her away.
And Jesus answered and said unto them,
for the hardness of your heart, he wrote to this precept,
but from the beginning of the creation,
God made them male and female.
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother
and cleave to his wife,
and they twain shall be one flesh.
So then they are no more twain but one flesh.
What therefore God had joined together,
let not man put asunder.
And in the house, his disciples asked him again
of the same matter.
And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife and marry another, commiteth
adultery against her.
And if a woman shall put away her husband and be married to another, she commiteth adultery."
And they brought young children to him that he should touch them, and his disciples rebuked those that brought them.
But when Jesus saw it, he was much displeased, and said unto them,
Suffer the little children to come unto me, and forbid them not, for of such is the kingdom of God.
Verily I say unto you, whosoever shall not receive the kingdom of God as a little child, he shall not enter therein.
And he took them up in his arms, put his hands upon them, and blessed them.
And when he was gone forth into the way, there came one running and kneeled to him and asked him,
Good Master, what shall I do that I may inherit eternal life?
And Jesus said unto him, Why callest thou me good?
There is none good but one that is God.
Thou knowest the commandments, do not commit adultery, do not kill, do not steal, do not bear false witness, defraud not, honor thy father and mother.
And he answered and said unto him, Master, all these have I observed from my youth.
Then Jesus beholding him, loved him, and said unto him, One thing thou lackest.
Go thy way, sell whatsoever thou hast, and give to the poor.
And thou shalt have treasure in heaven.
And come, take up the cross, and follow me."
And he was sad at that saying and went away grieved for he had great possessions and Jesus looked round about and sayeth unto his
Disciples how hardly shall they that have riches enter into the kingdom of God?
and the disciples were astonished at His words.
But Jesus answered it again and sayeth unto them,
children, how hard is it for them that trust in riches
to enter into the kingdom of God?
It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle
than for a rich man to enter into the kingdom of God.
And they were astonished out of measure
saying among themselves, who then can be saved?
Jesus looking upon them saith with men it is impossible, but not with God for with God all things are possible
Then Peter began to say unto him,
Lo, we have left all and have followed thee.
And Jesus answered and said,
Verily I say unto you,
There is no man that hath left house or brethren
or sisters or father or mother or wife or children
or lands for my sake and the gospels.
But he shall receive an hundredfold now in this time.
Houses and brethren and sisters and mothers
and children and lands with persecutions
and in the world to come eternal life.
But many that are first shall be last and the last first and they were in the way going up to Jerusalem
And Jesus went before them and they were amazed and as they followed they were afraid and he took again the
Twelve and began to tell them what things should happen unto him
saying, behold, we go up to Jerusalem, and the Son of man shall be delivered unto the chief priests and unto the scribes,
and they shall condemn him to death, and shall deliver him to the Gentiles, and they shall mock him,
and shall scourge him, and shall spit upon him, and shall kill him, and the third day he shall rise again.
And James and John, the sons of Zebedee, come unto him, saying, Master, we would that thou shouldest do for us whatsoever we shall desire.
And He said unto them, what would ye that I should do for you?
They said unto Him, grant unto us that we may sit,
one on thy right hand and the other on thy left hand
in thy glory.
But Jesus said unto them, ye know not what she asked.
Can ye drink of the cup that I drink of
and be baptized with the baptism that I am baptized with?
And they said unto Him, we can.
And Jesus said unto them,
ye shall indeed drink of the cup that I drink of,
and with the baptism that I am baptized with all,
shall ye be baptized.
But to sit on my right hand and on my left
is not mine to give,
but it shall be given to them for whom it is prepared."
And when the 10 heard it,
they began to be much displeased with James and John.
But Jesus called them to him and sayeth unto them,
ye know that they which are accounted to rule over the Gentiles, exercise lordship over them,
and their great ones exercise authority upon them.
But so shall it not be among you, but whosoever will be great among you shall be your minister,
and whosoever of you will be the chiefest shall be servant of all.
For even the Son of Man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give his life a ransom for many.
And they came to Jericho, and as he went out of Jericho with his disciples and a great number of people,
blind Bartimaeus, the Son of Timaeus, sat by the highwayside begging.
And when he heard that it was Jesus of Nazareth,
he began to cry out and say,
Jesus, Thou Son of David, have mercy on me.
And many charged him that he should hold his peace.
But he cried the more a great deal,
Thou Son of David, have mercy on me.
And Jesus stood still and commanded him to be called.
And they called the blind man saying unto him,
be of good comfort, arise, he calleth thee.
And he casting away his garment rose and came to Jesus and Jesus answered and said unto him
Wilt thou that I should what wilt thou that I should do unto thee the blind man said unto him
Lord that I might receive my sight and Jesus said unto him go thy way
Thy faith has made thee whole and immediately he received his sight and followed Jesus in the way
Let us pray. Do you heavenly father? Thank you for the word of God
I thank you for the souls that were saved this evening.
I ask you to bless Pastor Shelley now remove distractions from us and help us to be attentive to your word in Jesus name. Amen
Amen, I want to go back to verse 18 in this chapter the Bible says in Jesus said and and why calls Thou me good
There's none good but one that is God.
Thou knowest the commandments, do not commit adultery,
do not kill, do not steal, do not bear false witness,
to fraud not, honor thy father and mother.
And he answered and said in a master all these,
have I observed from my youth,
then Jesus be holding him, loved him,
and said in him, one thing that thou lackest,
go thy way, sell what's over thou hast,
and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven,
and come, take up thy cross, or take up the cross,
and follow me.
And he was sad.
at that saying and went away grieved
for he had great possessions.
And here in the text, we have a young man,
he's asking how he gets eternal life
from the Lord Jesus Christ.
And Jesus kind of gives him a tricky answer here
because at first he's asking him why he's calling him good.
And that's important because we have to understand
that none's good, no, not one.
that we for all of us sin and come short of the glory of God and if Jesus is good
that makes him different than the rest of us that would make him God that would
make him the son of God
and really it's the righteousness of one that the free gift came upon all men is
what the Bible says
so the only way to obtain salvation through righteousness
is what Jesus did is to be perfect in a sense now he didn't have to obtain
eternal life but it's just you'd have to be like Jesus and the problem is
There's only one that is good, that's God,
and that's the Lord Jesus Christ.
That's the point that he's making.
Why callest thou me good?
There's none good, but one, that's God.
And that's of course who the Lord Jesus Christ is,
he is good.
But he also gives him another answer,
keep all the commandments.
And when he tells him this answer,
notice that the guy ends up being sad,
verse 22, and he was sad at that saying.
And really,
If you're not saved, if you believe salvation is by works and you understand that, what it brings is sadness.
It does not bring joy.
And I believe that God wants us to live a life of joy and the first step to having joy in your life is just being saved.
And there's a reason why a lot of people in this world are not happy.
It's because they're just not saved.
Just not being saved causes people to be very upset and very depressed and very sad.
And I think this is important for us, even though we're saved and we understand this,
it's important for us to understand that the reason why so many people are just sad in
this world today is because they're not saved.
and they need to get saved.
Go to the Ecclesiastes chapter 7.
Here's a few verses.
The Bible says in Psalm 32-11,
You know, we should be happy because we're saved.
Like, it doesn't really matter.
I mean, it does matter.
Like what other things happen in your life, but just generally speaking we should try to have a pleasant
Happy and joyful disposition because we are saved and we're going to heaven
And so we've just we've already won we've already gotten the victory we know that we have a home
Awaiting us in heaven and of course we're going to return to the earth and we're going to inherit a new heaven and a new earth and
The Bible talks about joy unspeakable the boy the Bible talks about
Joys and pleasures that we're going to have forever more and things that we can't even describe
They're so wonderful and so we should be happy in general
Obviously, we're all going to have grief and we'll all have problems, but the Bible constantly
speaks about just being happy that we're saved.
The Bible says in Psalm 35, and my soul shall be joyful in the Lord, and shall rejoice in
His salvation.
We should come to church and we should sing and be happy that we're going to heaven.
Even though you might have a tough week,
even though you may be going through a tough year,
maybe a tough decade, you should still be able
to just come to church and be thankful
and rejoice and be happy because you're saved.
The Bible says,
Restore unto me the joy of thy salvation
and uphold with thy free spirit.
Uphold me with thy free spirit.
You know, sometimes when you do things that are bad,
you can feel sad or whatever,
but we should ultimately seek back unto the God
and say, hey, just give me that joy of my salvation
again at least.
The Bible says, Make a joyful noise unto God all ye lands.
The Bible says, Sing aloud unto God our strength, Make a joyful noise unto the God of Jacob.
And I don't want you to mishear the sermon, so I'm giving you just a quick caveat.
But the goal of my sermon is to try and help you to be happier.
I want you to be happier as a person, to live joyfully.
And really, I've been thinking about this sermon for a long time for several weeks.
I've been working on it for several weeks.
And I kind of, originally I was wanting to write a sermon about depression
because there's so many women on drugs because they're depressed.
for depression, and it's like a whole family,
like just all the moms on drugs,
and then she gets to try to get all of her adult
daughters on drugs, and just is like,
this is the only cure, and it's like,
look, drugs is not the cure and the answer
to being sad, or being depressed,
or being upset with your life.
You know, and so that's kind of where this is coming from,
but instead of just focusing mostly on depression,
I'm trying to, I was trying to think about like,
how do I give solutions?
More like, what does the Bible say about how to be happy?
And like positive things.
So I'm kind of, that's my goal.
But even when we talk about these things,
there's still gonna be some rebuke and some encouragement,
things different that you have to think about.
But I don't want you to think that you can't be sad either.
Because the Bible talks about having both emotions.
There is times to be sad.
There are times to be upset.
There's times to be even potentially depressed,
depending on circumstances.
You know, you should be sad about sin.
Like when you could feel grief about sinning.
Like if you do something bad, if you sin,
if you do something wrong,
it's okay to be sad about that.
Right that's okay if someone came to me like hey, I just killed someone and I'm sad about it
It's like well you should be sad about that right or and now I'm going to prison for a long time or something
Yeah, I'd be really sad for you to I'd be upsetting right obviously you commit other sins that hurt people damage people do things
Yeah, you should feel sad about that and if you don't there's something wrong with you
If you lose a loved one, you know, if your mom dies,
if your dad dies, if your brother dies,
if your child dies, if someone dies in your family,
you should be sad.
If someone came to me and said,
Pastor, I'm really sad because I lost this person
that I love, I would be like, yeah, I'm sorry,
I'll pray for you and that's totally fine.
I'm not gonna tell you like, that's the wrong emotion
or you need to be happy right now.
Obviously, people should have time to grieve
over the loss of a loved one.
Hey, being sad about the wickedness of our nation.
That's a legitimate sadness and grief that we should have physical pain if you're
experiencing physical pain and you're sad or upset about that I get it okay and
look this is not I'm not gonna give you a whole laundry list but I'm just saying
there are legitimate reasons to be sad to be upset to be depressed to have
problems if someone came to me and they're like this is my problem and be
like yeah I get it now we don't want to stay like that forever though
And if you're not experiencing one of these things, then really you should try to live
joyfully.
You should try to be happy.
But even when you go through difficulties, you know, sometimes it just gives you an opportunity
to become a better person.
Look what the Bible says in Ecclesiastes chapter 7 verse 3.
Sorrow is better than laughter, for by the sadness of the countenance, the heart is made better.
So it's just saying, by being sad, you end up becoming a better person often.
And it's not by being sad.
It's because you went through something difficult.
You know, the loss of a loved one can help you have more character, more empathy, more grace towards other individuals.
If you go through tough spots in your life, you go through pain, you go through suffering.
I mean, the Bible even talks about how Jesus Christ was tempted and tried and tested.
He was touched with the feeling of our infirmities so that he can be this great high priest,
and he can understand, and he can have compassion, and he can have empathy, and he learned obedience.
will give you character, sadness, hardships, problems.
Because if you never have to overcome anything,
if you never have to get over anything,
you often may not be as great
as those who have actually overcome difficulty,
overcome circumstances.
Experience can be a great teacher.
Whether we look at this in any...
context, even in athletics, you know individuals that have gone to the highest
stages of a particular competition and maybe they failed or they struggled or
they didn't do good, they can gain from that experience and do better next time
or improve and a lot of times having experience is necessary to even win and
it comes to the big stage or in competition just because we need
you know, that opportunity to fail, to get better and to work harder.
And in the Christian life, we will go through difficulties, we'll go through pains and struggles,
and we should take those opportunities to get better.
But at the end of the day...
our life's disposition, we should try to be happy
and we should try to live joyfully.
Now go if you went to Proverbs chapter 15,
I'm gonna go through a lot of verses this evening
and we're gonna talk about this,
but I want people to be happy generally speaking
and try their best to do this.
And if you're not saved, get saved.
Now that you're saved, I mean,
that's one reason why you should be happy.
And when you wake up, remember that you're saved, go to church and sing about being saved,
and that's a great thing, but we're going to give you a lot more practical steps about that too.
The Bible says in Proverbs 15 verse 13,
a merry heart make of the cheerful countenance,
but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken.
You know, again, there is a time in place for sorrow.
There's a time for mourning.
But there's also a time for joy and happiness and dancing.
And here's the thing, when you just kind of have a bad attitude.
when you're just allowing yourself to have a lot of self pity and woe and whatever you end up just
Having no energy notice that the spirit is broken. It's just saying like if you're just going around sad
You just kind of mope. You don't have energy. You don't have zeal. You're not really accomplishing anything
That's why it's important to be happy. Look a merry heart being a happy a joyful heart make of the cheerful count
You're gonna go through life just so much better
when you're just happy and you're joyful and being merry.
Look at verse 15,
all the days of the afflicted are evil,
but he that is of a merry heart had the continual feast.
I love this verse.
This is a verse that you need to really think about
and meditate on because...
It's just it's perspective and it to me. It's just that meme. There's this meme out there
There's a bus and it's like one guy sitting on the side and it's all gross and graffitied and disgusting
He's just he's all sad
He's looking at it and then like the other side is a bright window and just looking at the beautiful landscape
And he's just having a good time, but they're on the same bus
And it's just like one guy is sitting over in the corner being sad, hating his life.
The other guy moved over here where there's a window and he's looking through it and having
the time of his life.
They're on the same bus though.
You could switch seats whenever you want.
And he's just saying, look, all the days of the afflict that are evil,
you could just go sit in the disgusting, terrible part of the bus
and just hate the entire bus ride if you want.
The entire bus ride can be evil if you want it.
Or you can just look out the window and enjoy the entire bus ride.
And here's the thing, in your life,
You can just sit and just hate your entire life
and hate every single day and hate Monday and Tuesday
and Wednesday and Thursday and Friday and Saturday
and Sunday, or you can love every single day of your life.
And the only person that can affect that is you.
It's not even circumstances. I don't care what your circumstances are.
Look, I know people that have just terrible circumstances and they are way happier than me
and you know what, I'm thinking like, I need to learn from this person.
You know, I'll just give you an example.
I didn't really have this in my notes,
but I was just thinking about it.
Is someone, brother Cameron Hall,
that goes to the Oklahoma City Church,
you know, he has like a lot of health issues
that he's had to deal with,
and he had issues with his legs.
We were praying for him for years,
and I think a lot of that's resolved.
But I was just, I could see myself having a major health issue,
or having problems with my legs,
or not being able to be athletic or something,
and just being mad and sad about it every day of my life.
But you know what anybody that knows Cameron will know he's one of the happiest most jovial people you ever meet who could say Cameron is like
Super happy. Oh, yeah, exactly. No, I'm not saying he's never gotten sad or mad or anything like that
But I'm just saying you look at this guy
I mean the guy is just having a good outlook on life and you know what praise God for people like that
You know, I like being around people like that
You know what you like being around people like that
And you know what we should strive our best to be the type of person that just has a merry heart
And you just have a continual feast and you know what you could just be the guy eating beans for dinner
And be happy about it, and you could be the guy eating steak and being mad about it
You know go to Mexico what we go let's go to let's go to these foreign countries
You can go to Mexico where people don't have any air conditioning
Let me say that again
The women there have no air-conditioning.
I walked into this lady's house
and they didn't have a living room.
The first room was a bedroom.
There wasn't a living room.
It's a bedroom, a kitchen, and a bedroom.
That's it, with her, like, eight kids.
No air-conditioning.
And she's just, like, holding a kid, making food,
and, like, the happiest person I've ever met.
And then there's women in America in air conditioning
with a giant nice house and every luxury you could think of
and she's sad and depressed all day.
Riddle me, how is that even possible?
You know how it's possible?
Because you have the wrong attitude, you have a bad attitude.
You know what? You get to choose how you're gonna live your life and do not tell me you're sad
Just because all your circumstances, you know what? Most of the time it's just you choosing to have a bad attitude
Now look, I can't I'm not saying there isn't a caveat if you come to me say my dad died today
I expect you to be sad
Okay, but just you, 90-some percent of your life, the majority of your life, you should
be a happy, positive person, have a merry heart, looking to enjoy what God has given
you, whatever that is.
And look, we don't get to choose our lives entirely.
We were born into a family, we're born in circumstances.
We have the body we have, we have the mind we have.
We have a lot of the relationships we have.
But you know what, just be happy that you have them.
Because for most of us, we have so much better of a life
than almost every other person alive on this planet
and or throughout history.
Our circumstances and environment are so much better than almost every single person
that's ever lived and ever will live.
And when we are not happy about it,
it just shows that we have an extremely bad attitude.
And we're the problem.
Look at chapter 17, verse 22.
A Bible says this, Proverbs 17, verse 22,
a merry heart doeth good like a medicine,
but a broken spirit dryeth the bones.
Again, the Bible is emphasizing how when you're happy,
it just fixes everything in your life,
and when you're sad, it destroys everything in your life.
Some people even take this verse so far as to say
that even just your attitude
could actually affect your physical health.
And I believe there's some truth to that.
Now, I don't know exactly to what extent I'm not trying to give you medical advice,
but I'm just saying, look, your attitude often affects a lot of things.
And if there was anything that my dad taught me regularly, it was that attitude determines
altitude.
It was like one of his favorite things, the power of positive thinking.
And look, I think you can take this stuff a little too extreme.
But at the end of the day, for the most part, no, we need to have a good attitude, we need to be positive,
we need to be thinking, you know, the right thoughts, and I want to try and give you a lot of tips on how to be happier.
Go to Ecclesiastes chapter 9, Ecclesiastes chapter number 9.
Now look, just the fact that you're saved, you should be happy, man.
Here's some tips from the Bible, how to be happy.
What's another way to be happy?
Get married
Please ask this chapter 9 look at verse 7 go thy way eat thy bread with joy and drink thy wine with a merry heart for God
Now accepted thy works
Let thy garment be always white and let thy head lack no ointment live joyfully
With the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity
The Bible says to live joyfully, and if I was the title of my sermon, it would be that, just live joyfully.
Live joyfully. You're saved, get married, and just live joyfully. Look, this is your one time to be married. Enjoy it.
Right just make the most of your marriage. This is your one time to get that opportunity as a child as a young adult
I wanted to be married so much and you know what? I love my wife. She's the best friend that I have
She's the best person of my life, you know, don't listen to Nick Fuentes who sounds like a flaming faggot
Who said hey he said if your wife's your best friend then that's then you're gay, and I'm like you don't even have a wife
Okay
You're hanging out with dudes
Look if a guy said like I like hanging out with dudes more than my wife. I would think that's gay. I
Like hanging out with my wife
You know, and I'm married and I love being married and I have six kids and another one on the way
Because I love my wife and I love living joyfully with my wife
She's the best thing that happened to me and it will continue to be that way
And you know what if I didn't have my wife my wife would be or my life would be sadder
My wife makes my my day makes my life makes my week makes my year makes everything
I mean is I love her so much and you know what?
I should try to enjoy that as much as possible that does that mean that my wife doesn't ever make me upset of course she does
My wife can can hurt me and upset me more than any person on this planet
But you know what she can also make me happier than anybody on this planet
And you know what, I'm just trying every day to just try and maximize whatever opportunities
we have and try to live joyfully with her now.
There's no need to just grind the axe, let's just enjoy our lives, hey, let's try to fix
problems.
If you serve your wife, if you love your wife, if you do good on your wife, if you try to
maximize that relationship, you're going to get a lot of good out of it.
It's not going to always be good, not every day is awesome necessarily, but you know what?
You can try to make every day as good as possible, and you can just generally live just joyfully
with the wife whom thou loveest.
This is your chance, do it.
Get married, love your wife, this is your time, and God wants you to.
God doesn't want you to think like women are a burden.
You know, it's like you listen to some of these Catholics and stuff, and they make marriage
sound like a, like a, you know, prison.
I mean they the ball and chain and whatever and it's like bro like I think marriage is awesome. I
I've been married for a long time. I've been married, you know, and we've gone through ups and downs and
Honestly, it's great. It's been the best years of my life
If anything, I wish I got married younger like sooner to my wife not anything else
I'm not like man. I wish I had spent a little bit of extra time dating around or doing something
No, no, I wish we just got married sooner
That's the only thing I wish I could have done and you know, I love being with my wife. She is so much fun
Obviously marrying a good woman helps right but at the end of the day even if I was married
We were joking about this a long time ago
We were joking like would you rather marry like this?
You know leftist Democrat, you know or whatever or just be single
I was like I'll just I'll just take on the challenge, you know, whatever
Someone's got a wrangle or an I mean it's like hey, I'd rather just take something and just work with it
You know they're moldable. They're the weaker vessel guys, right?
Show us prove it, right?
It's like hey, I didn't marry a new. I'd be wife. I made a new. I'd be wife. You know what I mean
Go with the Psalm 127 go to Psalm 127
That's not for the faint of heart advice, okay?
You got it you got it if you want to wrestle the Bronco you better be ready in to you know put in the work
And hey, some women, they're a bunk and brocco.
Some women are the little Shetland pony, okay?
And you know, there's pros and cons to both.
I'm not gonna say one's better than the other,
because honestly there's legit pros and cons to both.
But let me just say this, having one is awesome.
Having a wife is awesome.
And look, I think, flip side,
I'm sure women enjoy having a husband.
And having a guy pay all the bills and not having to go out to work and not having to
deal with bosses and all this other nonsense that's out there all the time, it's probably
nice to stay home and have kids and raise them and have someone take care of you and
provide for you and, you know, squash all the bugs and whatever, right?
Chase the snakes and do all the dirty work.
I'm sure it's probably nice to be the passenger princess and just ride around in the car and
just be the trophy wife, you know?
So, look, getting married will help you with joy.
Why is there so many 30 and 35-year-old women
that are so sad today?
Because they didn't get married.
They were just a whore.
And then now that they're 30, 35,
no one will marry them ever.
Like, virtually almost all the 30 and 35-year-old women
that have just whored themselves out,
no one will ever marry them ever.
That's gonna make you sad.
That's gonna make you real real sad. I mean you might be able to get like some green card marriage thing going on or something
But just because you're an American, but like I'm just telling you nobody will want to marry you
You know, that's why you should be careful as a young woman
Here's the third thing you can do though to be happy is have children
Psalm 127 look at verse 5 happy is the man that had this quiver full of them
They shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate
You know what having a lot of kids will make you happy
That's what the Bible says I'm telling you what does the Bible say you want to be happy get saved get married have kids
The world is telling you false gospel. Don't get married kids are a burden. It's like it's like the devil doesn't want you to be happy
And you talk to women and they're just unhappy and dissatisfied
with their life and they have all these problems.
You know, it's because they don't have anything worth living for.
They don't have a bunch of kids, they don't have a husband,
they're not saved, and of course that's going to make them very depressed.
Psalm 128, look at verse 1,
Blessed is everyone that feareth the Lord,
and that walketh in his ways,
for thou shalt eat the labor of thine hands.
Happy shalt thou be, and it shall be well with thee.
Here's another thing you can do to be happy.
work. It's a novel idea. If you work and you work hard, you're happy. If you sit
around and do nothing, you're going to be depressed and sad and miserable. The
homeless people look miserable and there's for a lot of reasons, but one of
them is just not working hard. What does it say? You're going to eat the labor of
What happens typically you get a big produce from that?
I mean if you work really hard with your brain with your hands with whatever God's given you
You know you're gonna get a great output
You're gonna get you know a big return out of that and then you're gonna be happy that you've got a big return
Why because you worked hard?
And the guy that's really lazy and slothful and doesn't work really hard gets very little back.
He's not as happy.
The guy that puts a lot of effort, a lot of energy, a lot of work.
Hey, he's going to be a lot happier.
I mean, just how life works.
He's like, oh, I'm just not very happy with my job.
Well, do you work hard?
And are you using all the effort and energy that you have?
Are you putting investing a lot into your work?
Because the people that invest a lot of time, effort, energy, their brain power, all of it,
they usually are reaping a lot.
From their work, you know, I typically don't run into the guy. That's like, yeah, I make a half a million dollars a year
I just push a button every once in a while
That's all I have to do. It's pretty easy. It's like usually that guy's like dude
I'm hustling and spending 60 70 hours a week. I had to break my back. I've invested all this money
I've been doing this for decades and then he's making a big paycheck. It's like but it's like but he's pretty happy
because he put a lot of effort in.
You reap what you sow,
just like the guy that's going out and planting.
If you just plant, hey, I put in three seeds in the ground
and one of them came up and I got a little bit of corn.
As opposed to the guy that I planted 10,000 seeds
and I've got a huge field full of corn.
I can't even harvest it all myself.
I had to hire people to come work for me.
I started my own business.
Now we're just, we're booming and doing all this great stuff.
He's happy because he worked hard.
And look, so many people, they're sad today
because they just don't work hard.
Work hard.
Look at Psalm 144, go to Psalm 144.
I'm just telling you, what does the Bible say?
How to be happy, get saved, get married,
have children, work hard.
Here's another one, having God be your Lord.
Psalm 144, look at verse 15.
Happy is that people that is in such a case.
Yay, happy is that people whose God is the Lord.
Hey when you serve God you will be happy when God is your boss you will be happy
Look at 146 verse 5 happy is he that have the God of Jacob for his help whose hope is in the Lord is God
Go to Proverbs 28 go to Proverbs 28
Now having God be your Lord is
A couple things number one that you're in the right religion
Obviously, that's a huge component people that are in Islam are not happy
People in Hinduism are not happy people that are in these false religions and in fact typically in these false religions
It's only the elite few that are kind of happy
But the vast majority are very miserable in their existence whereas Christianity is an equal opportunity religion
I mean people in the lowest caliber and just barely into Christianity can be very happy and very joyful because Christianity is a very
Happy joyful religion because it's the truth number one and number two because we get eternal life and God is good
And it's great to serve God of the Bible
It's grievous to serve some cow and to spread dung
around your house.
I mean, I've seen the videos.
There's people in India or that come from India
and they will spread literal animal feces
on their door around their house.
Animal urine, they'll just like put it on places.
In their own country, they bathe in it.
They like, they wallow in it.
They like, I'm just like, how is this even possible?
And you think I'm great? I'm not even joke. I'm not exaggerating like this is real
That's not gonna be happy. I'm not gonna be happy. It's like my God wants me to do that. I'm getting a new God
You know and I want a God that tells me to slaughter the cow and eat it
Right you're gonna bathe in his feces
Like great happy as the people that whose God is the Lord
You know praise God God made cows, and I love cows not to bathe in their dung
To eat their ribeye to eat the filet to eat the sirloin to eat the brisket to eat the ribs
Whatever else is there? I don't mean it's all great hamburger
Right, let's get the rest of it and just ground it all up ground beef
What's for dinner beef?
I'll just I'll just say this when it's a meal that I eat and it's beef. I'm happier
It's like it's like hey chicken, okay, beef
Like sweet. I mean, it's like I I don't know if I could say like a beef meal would be bad. It's like burgers
steak
pot roast
Chicken fried steak. I mean what else is there meatloaf. Hey, amen
I mean, whatever it is, I mean, if it's got beef in it,
chili with no beans, eh?
Yeah, right?
I mean, it's great.
In fact, we just add beef to make meals better.
It's like the hot dog, it's like chili dog, you know, right?
We gotta put the chili on the dog,
we gotta make that even better.
It's like pizza, hamburger pizza, you know?
It's just like, it just improves everything.
It's nachos, no, put some meat on that, right?
Tacos, I mean, I'm hungry, it's dinner time, all right?
But I'm gonna be happy if I get to eat some beef and
Why because my god likes me to eat beef. He doesn't want me to refuse and you know, I get bacon too
I'm not a Jew so I still get all the good meats. I can get them all mixed up
I'm gonna bacon cheeseburger if I want
I can have all of the good meats that God has given me,
and you know what, it's great to serve God.
But also just when God is your Lord,
he's also your boss in a sense,
and we're supposed to serve God,
and when you serve God, you'll be happy.
Proverbs 28, verse 14,
happy is the man that feareth all way,
but he that hardeneth his heart shall fall in a mischief.
Look, when you fear God and you obey him
and you do his commandments,
because he's your God, because he's your Lord,
you'll end up being happy.
I want to dwell on that point for just a second.
So many people just don't realize there is a special joy to life by being right with God.
Like when you're going to church three times a week and you're reading your Bible
and you're going soul winning and you're trying to get sin out of your life
and you know what, you're just loving your wife and loving your kids
and just working hard at your job.
Like there's just this special joy and peace to life that is not like when you're just in sin.
and you're plagued with just sin,
you're just plagued with just grief and sorrow
and you're upset about what's going on,
you feel bad and you just feel crummy
and that it carries through
and all the other areas of your life.
You just, we all feel so much better
when we're just right with God, myself included.
Hey, I skip Bible reading just because life gets busy
or I'm not doing things that I should or whatever.
I just feel way worse.
As a person, but you know when you if you confess and you forsake and you get back on the track
And you start fearing God and you're doing right boy
It just it just feels better it feels better when you're just reading tons of Bible in your life when you're memorizing tons of Bible
When you're singing the word of God when you're trying to do what's right when you have a good attitude
There's just a special just joy and it's like maybe you're just sad because you're just not right with God
Maybe you should just work on trying to get right with God and you'll actually feel a lot better about your life
Because happy is the man that feareth all way
Proverbs 29 verse 18 where there is no vision the people perish, but he that keepeth the law notice this
happy as he
You're happy when you keep God's commandments
You know Jesus said if you know these things happy are ye if you do them
Happy are ye if you do them is a special joy to serving God good or do during me 28
But you know you're gonna be very upset if you don't serve God
You know God wants us to serve him and he wants us to be happy
Like it's kind of nice that God wants us to enjoy
The work for him and the service of him and doing these things
I mean think about some of the tasks that he gives you
Marrying your wife that was cool
Loving your wife the duty of marriage
Having kids. I mean these things aren't horrible. They're not terrible. They're fun eat really good food that you made
How is that a horrible thing?
It's like God the Father is saying, hey, take all this awesome food that I gave you,
cows and bacon and whatever, and make something cool out of it and eat it.
You're just like, this is great, right?
I mean, that is part of God's fallen, God's commandments.
But some people, they're just, they're not living a life trying to serve God and to please God.
And you know what?
It's just going to bring you down.
Deuteronomy 28, look at verse 45,
Moreover, all these curses shall come upon thee,
and shall pursue thee, and overtake thee,
till thou be destroyed, because thou harkenest not
unto the voice of the Lord thy God, to keep his commandments
and his statutes which he commanded thee.
and they shall be upon thee for a sign and for a wonder,
and upon thy seed forever because thou service not
the Lord thy God with joyfulness and with gladness of heart
for the abundance of all things.
Therefore shall thou serve thine enemies
which the Lord shall send against thee,
and hunger, and in thirst, and in nakedness,
and in want of all things,
and ye shall put a yoke of iron upon thy neck
until they have destroyed thee."
So it's like, you can follow God's commandments.
and just have all the good food and the houses and blessing and favor and money and all the stuff
with serving God or you cannot serve God and have none of it. It's like hey do you want the door
with everything except for you just try not to sin and you fear God or do you want the you can do
No joy, in thirst, in pain, in suffering, in woe.
Look, that's what God's basically saying.
And you know what? Happy is the people whose God is the Lord.
They say, you know what? I will choose to serve God.
And you know what? When I serve God, I get all this great stuff with it.
The benefits package is awesome.
Beef, bacon, joy, prosperity, happiness,
my quiver's full, I have all this stuff.
Whereas over here, it's just like pain, suffering,
woe, famine, thirst, disease, whatever.
It's like, hey, we should choose to serve God
and live joyfully with the Lord.
Now of course, obviously there's exceptions to everything,
but isn't the Bible basically saying,
look, you serve me, you get all this good stuff?
for the abundance of all things,
and if you don't, well, you're gonna have hunger,
thirst, nakedness, and notice this,
the want of all things.
One side, you get the abundance of all things,
the other side, you get the want of all things.
This is just the general wisdom of the Bible.
And like so many people are just sad and depressed,
and depression is a serious mental health condition
in the United States.
And, you know, look, 21 million adults in the United States
have experienced at least one major depressive episode.
21 million adults.
And I would venture to believe it's way higher than that.
That's just like what's been clinically diagnosed
or is statistically reported.
That's a lot of people.
And I'm thinking, like, okay, well, how many of these people, though,
are saved, married, have kids, work super hard,
and they're serving God?
You know that that would be a lot of ways to fix things go to Proverbs 3. There's more the Bible gives us a lot more
Ways to be happy
Maybe you've done a lot of these things. Okay, let's let's get some more
Hopefully you're saved you can get married you can have kids you can work really hard
Of course, then we should try to serve God follow those commandments do what's right. Hey going to church is a lot of fun
Look a lot of people have told me they're super excited about the FBBF conference
They're just really looking forward to that. You know praise God
You get to have fun conferences and cool preachers coming in and not just fun events soul-winning not just soul-winning fellowship
Preach, I mean what else what do you want? I mean you can go eat wherever you want get all kinds of food
Here's another thing though that could cause you to not be happy that you should try to fix is you need to try to find
Wisdom because what the world will tell you is that ignorance is bliss, but the Bible teaches the opposite ignorance is not bliss
Wisdom gives you happiness. Look what it says in verse 13. Happy is the man that finds wisdom and the man that geteth understanding
Wisdom gives you happy. Why? For the merchandise of it is better than the merchandise of silver and the gain thereof than fine gold.
She is more precious than rubies and all the things that Thou canst desire are not to be compared in her.
Length of days is in her right hand and in her left hand riches in honor.
Her ways are the ways of pleasantness and all her paths are peace.
She is a tree of life to them that lay hold upon her and happy is everyone
that retaineth her.
Not only is it good to have wisdom,
it's good to find it and to get it,
but to keep it.
You need to find wisdom,
then you need to get the wisdom,
and then you need to keep the wisdom.
And what is that?
Well, obviously,
we can apply this a lot of context,
but just generally speaking,
finding wisdom is what does the Bible say?
The Bible, this is where the wisdom is.
And then not only do you need to find it,
you need to apply it.
Start going to church reading your Bible following his commandments getting soul winning and then you know what you need to do
Be steadfast and when you keep those things, you know what you just keep happy happy as that person
Happy is the person that just keep serving God year after year decade after decade all the way into the end
And then he enters into the joy of his Lord
And we should live joyfully we should live joyfully wisdom is so important look at chapter 16 verse 20
Chapter 16, verse 20, the Bible says he that handleeth a matter wisely shall find good and who so trusted in the Lord happy as he.
You know, I was thinking about this idea of how many times because of God's grace and his long-suffering nature.
We're never going to experience the consequences of our actions or behavior in an immediate fashion.
Most of the time it's very delayed.
And it can be delayed by days, months, years, even decades.
We may not realize the consequences of the decisions we're making and how they're going to impact us and what our future will be like.
And as a result, then, we're tested in how we make our decisions.
Are we making our decisions based on our own wisdom?
Are we making our decisions based on what we can see?
Or are we making our decisions based on faith, what the Bible says?
And as a result of that, you know, it's really dangerous to think that your life circumstances are dictating whether you're making good decisions or not.
We're supposed to walk by faith and not by sight and you need to just follow the Bible's commandments and do what God's saying
Because you don't really know what's going to be like five years from now if you veer off that path
But many times people veer off that path and then they look back five years ago
And they can see oh wow it was because of the decisions
I started making five years ago and now I'm here, but the problem is they've walked five years in the wrong direction
They can't just jump back on that other path. They may never even get back on that path
As a result and you may not realize like hey by not going to church. I don't think that'll affect me negatively
It probably won't tomorrow
It may not affect you in a week
You may not even notice it in six months
But you know what I'll tell you after a couple years after five years you'll see the devastating consequences of getting out of church
You'll see the devastating consequences of forsaking following God's commandments, of
drinking alcohol.
Look, you could probably drink alcohol and most of the time nothing bad will even happen.
I mean a lot of people drink alcohol and nothing really obvious happens.
But you know what?
You start drinking alcohol regularly.
You just never know when that day is going to wake up.
You get in a drunk driving accident, kill someone,
go to jail for the rest of your life, kill another person.
Your wife leaves you, you commit adultery,
you cause all kinds of grievous sin.
Hey, your kid's following your example.
They become drunkards.
They get addicted to drugs.
They destroy their lives.
Look, alcohol is not one of those things where,
oh, well, I drink alcohol today and I'm fine tomorrow.
Okay, but where are you headed and what will that be like?
Because of God's grace and because of his long suffering many times you don't realize the consequences of alcohol until it's too late
You don't realize the consequence of fornication until it's too late until you're knocked up with some guy's child that never wants to be with you
And now no one will ever marry you,
and so now you're just doomed as a single mother,
and then they'll sometimes just commit abortion,
they'll do murder, then no one wants them still,
and they just have grief the rest of their life.
I mean, people just go down horrible paths
because they just won't follow God's commandments.
And you know, you can get mad at me and other people
and say like, oh, you don't have to do what they're saying
and follow what they're saying.
Look at my life, it's fine.
Well, where are they at five years from now?
Where are they at 10 years from now?
What is it? You know, you don't really know where you're headed and you know what you need to just trust in the Lord
What's the Bible say who's a trust in the Lord happy as he?
I'm telling you you need to walk by faith and not by sight
You need to just believe the Bible's right and God's word is right and this is the right path
Not because you can see it not because you can feel it not because the circumstances are dictating it because the Bible is true
And you trust in the Lord and he will guide you
That is the wisdom that you need
Don't trust in your own wisdom and you know what'll make you happier just being smarter
look if
I could just you know if we could just import knowledge into your brain right now
You just you know, it's like the matrix or something. They just upload. I don't know if you've seen this movie
There's this movie where they can just press a button. You just get instant information
That's that's Elon Musk and Neuralink, right?
If we could just insert into your brain, okay?
All of you ladies, if we could just hit you,
zap you in the head,
and you can instantly make the most amazing meal ever.
Wouldn't that make you a little happier?
If you could just go home
and you could just make the most amazing meal,
like you just got a new recipe for this most amazing meal
that you never knew how to make,
all of a sudden now you just know how to make it perfect.
Wouldn't that make you a little happier?
It would, and it'd make me happy for sure.
Can I import that in my wife's brain? You know, hey, bam, right?
Just every just every amazing recipe every amazing thing just instantly just import in the brain
I'll make them happier that make me happier
But you know what that doesn't there's no button like that, but you know what you could search it out figure it out
You could gain that wisdom how about how to clean really well and really fast just clean things
I mean sometimes
People are frustrated because they get a stain or they get some kind of an issue and they don't know how to clean it
They don't know how to like deal with it and they're always looking for that trick or that tip look having that knowledge
Will make you happier when you can fix problems
How about how to make awesome clothes?
I mean, you're always looking for the newest fashion,
how to fix things, how to sew things.
How about how to make expensive merchandise?
You know, the Proverse 31 woman makes expensive merchandise
and she sells it and I guarantee that's nice.
I mean, wouldn't it be nice if you could make
these designer handbags that sell for like $20,000
or something, that has your name on it.
It's really just like a $20 purse or whatever.
You know, it's like, look,
they're all $20 purse is made from China.
It's just like they just slap a name on it and now all of a sudden it's $20,000 or whatever.
But I mean wouldn't it be nice if you could just make really nice merchandise for free basically
or just for fractions of a penny? Sell it? If you just had instant knowledge how to teach your
kids everything you never had to study or any you just know how to teach them you know how to
That'll make you happy when you can actually read difficult books
that have extensive vocabulary
or just how to understand the Bible.
You know, understanding the Bible will make you happy.
It's not as joyful to read and just constantly be confused,
not understanding.
Look, wisdom will make you happy.
How about as a man?
How about how to run a business?
Wouldn't it be nice if you could just just import in your brain just all the right
Decision-making for how to run a business and just be super successful and
Invention how to make tons of money how to run a house how to build a house how to run a farm
You know, how about this one how about how to get someone saved?
Isn't that great wasn't there a point in your life where maybe you couldn't get someone saved?
And if you could have just gotten that knowledge,
it made you really happy.
And the first salvation you got made you really happy.
Now we're spoiled.
We're just like, yeah, I got three.
It was a so-so neighborhood.
Yeah, I went to the Bahamas.
I got 10 people saved, whatever.
It's like, yeah, now, but isn't it not?
I mean, it's happy to have that knowledge,
to get anybody saved.
Look, people, there are people that want to get people saved and they don't know how and, you know, if they had that knowledge they could get someone really important to them saved.
A family member, a friend, someone, you know, anybody.
How about how to preach the Bible?
A lot of people would love to have that, make you really happy if you just instantly just, you could be touched and just like you're the best preacher ever.
That would make you really happy, wouldn't it?
Or what do all the proverbs mean?
Wouldn't that be cool?
I mean, look, getting wisdom will make you better.
How about how to give good counsel to people?
How about how to have a happy marriage?
How about how to manage people?
Like, everybody thinks they're a good manager until they manage.
Managing people is very difficult, very frustrating.
It's an extreme challenge.
How to increase sales.
Increasing sales is a very difficult job.
It's very hard.
How to make friends, you know, it'd be nice to just instantly know how to always make friends and just all the tips and tricks
How to be good at sports or athletics look wisdom is going to make you
happier in
life and in the Bible go to Psalm 19
Go to Psalm 19. I want to show you this too. How about just being good at sports or athletics?
In fact, if you could just be imported the brain of, you know, Bobby Fischer or somebody, one of these professional chess players,
you could just instantly just be great at some game like that. You could make millions of dollars,
travel, and do whatever just by knowing how to play a game.
I mean, it would be even if you didn't want to play, you know, just every once in a while you're just like, yeah, I could beat you at this because
Hey, I just have that knowledge.
You know, just having knowledge, having wisdom,
is just gonna make you happier.
It's not fun to always be a loser and not know anything
and be stupid and dumb and be foolish and to waste money.
I mean, it's not fun, I'm sure, for you ladies
to spend hours making a meal
and then it doesn't taste good, it doesn't come out right,
it's a failure, that doesn't make you happy.
It's nice when you make the great meal
and it comes out amazing.
And it's better than anything you've had.
It's great when the works that you do, they're successful.
Look what it says in Psalm 19, verse 5,
which is a bridegroom coming out of his chamber
and rejoices as a strong man to run a race.
Look, it's more fun to be in athletics
to be better than everybody else.
He's like saying, hey, the strong guy's excited
about competition.
And you know what, the wise guy is,
hey, he's happy about life.
Why? Because he's wise!
Being smart being wise will make you happier in life
Pursue wisdom be a lifelong learner should always be learning things and growing and challenging yourself and getting better
And you know what whether you're a woman or a man. It's the exact same
Both should be constantly pursuing wisdom. Don't be just sitting around
Wasting your entire life away
Get smarter
As a woman, there is so much to learn.
There's more to learn than you could ever learn, learn.
Don't just say like, I'm done with school,
I'm done with learning.
No, no, keep learning.
As men, don't just get some routine job
where you're a button pusher.
Learn and keep growing and challenging yourself.
Hey, don't be a complacent Christian.
Learn, get better, grow,
because you'll be very happy if you gain in wisdom.
Proverbs chapter 14, maybe you're just not happy
because you're too stupid.
to get smart.
And look, you can become smart.
Don't, oh, I'm too stupid.
No, no, the Bible makes wise the simple.
I believe everybody can get smarter
and everybody can be very wise.
And whether you may not excel in all areas,
I guarantee there are areas that God has given you
that you can excel in.
Just put some effort in.
and that'll make you happier.
That goes back to the working heart.
Here's another one, helping other people.
Proverbs 14, look at verse 21.
He that despises his neighbor Sineth,
but he that hath mercy on the poor, happy is he.
You know, instead of just despising
all the black community from chipping out
and destroying America,
we should go into the ghettos
and preach to them the gospel and get them saved
and not despise them.
Hey, instead of all the foreigners coming here and making our country smelly and weird,
we should just go and give them the gospel and love on them.
Instead of your white atheist neighbor, you know, hating him or whatever, go try to be
nice to him and win him over.
Look, we shouldn't despise our neighbor.
Whoever it is, white, red, yellow, black and white, tall, you know, whatever, smelly,
whatever.
Hey, the smelly people need to get the gospel so they can kick a shower.
You know what I mean?
Tell the guy, stop spreading dung all over your house
and start eating steak, you know?
I mean, at the end of the day,
if you don't like things about your neighbor,
well, the Bible says don't hate them.
You're not supposed to suffer sin upon them.
You're supposed to rebuke your neighbor.
And at the end of the day, hey, helping people,
you know, making them meals, blessing them, giving them,
I mean, the best thing you can possibly do
is give them the gospel.
He that has mercy on the poor happy see how many rich people and racist people will never go into the ghettos
We'll never go into these neighborhoods. You know what?
We should be the people that have mercy on them and we should go in and in fact we love it
Our church is near all of it
And we love going and giving them and we should have mercy on them and be gracious unto them and they don't a lot of them
Are very ignorant. They don't understand why they're making so many bad decisions. You know, we give them gospel
We give them a Bible. We love them. We're willing to bring them to church. We're not embarrassed of them
We don't put them in some other building
You know what, hey, we say, hey, we love you, we want you to come to church,
we want to get you a Bible, we want to give you the gospel, we should love our neighbor,
we shouldn't despise our neighbor. And you know what, there's so many churches today
where it's really beautiful inside, it's too beautiful for them to bring poor people in.
And they don't even want to bring them in, they don't even invite them in,
they would never venture into their neighborhoods and they hate and despise their neighbor.
But what does the Bible say? He that despises his neighbor, Senneth.
We should love people. Hey, the illegal I'll give you the gospel, you know
There's so much hatred for illegals today. There's so much hatred for Hispanics for people that are of Muslim descent
Hey, even Jews. Hey, I'll give the Jew a gospel
Be like how dare you, you know
I mean, just like talking to some people,
I'm like saying, hey, I don't hate all Jewish people.
I would try to get some of them saved.
They're like, you're an infiltrator, you're a spy,
you're trying to destroy our country and our nation.
It's just like, look, we shouldn't despise anybody.
We should just love our neighbor and give him the gospel and try to help them
Even if you are better than them in some ways, you know what condescend to men of lowest state is what the Bible says
Even if you have to condescend a little bit, you know what he that have mercy on the poor happy as he
Jesus Christ went to many poor people and
Despise people and he hung out with them and he tried to give him the gospel and tried to help them
And you know, we should do the same. You know, the Bible says bear you one another burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ
Go to Matthew chapter number six, Matthew chapter number six.
We shouldn't despise other countries.
We shouldn't despise people of other countries, of nations.
We should love them and try to do good unto them.
Now look, does that mean that I'm going to accept every part of their culture?
No.
Things that are ungodly, unsanitary, weird, wrong, biblically.
You know what?
I don't have to like that.
But I shouldn't despise people.
I should still love them and do good unto them
and try to help them and give them the gospel.
and let me tell you something,
helping other people will make you happy.
When you're only focused on yourself, it'll make you sad.
Spend your life worried about other people.
Spend your life worried about getting other people saved,
other people's careers advancing,
other people's families doing good.
You know, just spend your time worried about other people
and you don't have time to worry about your problems.
And obviously, you meet people and they can only talk about themselves.
They're usually very upset and you talk to other people that are always trying to help other people
and they're usually very happy.
People that spend their life helping other people are very happy.
People that are focused on themselves are very sad.
Matthew 6, look at verse 16.
Verily, I say to you, they have their reward.
You know, there's a lot of people that are making themselves sad to get attention.
You should be making yourself happy, not sad on purpose to try and get attention.
But people will do this, oh man, you don't even know.
Know what?
Oh, I just, I don't even think I could tell you.
I have a really big unspoken prayer request.
You know I just I don't like that stuff
You know just being glum just kind of just this poor me
Look if something bad happens just be just just say it right at least like hey my so-and-so died
We pray for me or whatever I get but just all this is like trying to get attention like oh, man
I had the worst day
You know what they're wanting to say?
What happened?
You know, the problem is I'm not very good at this
for people, because people are like,
oh man, I had the worst day.
All right.
It's like, okay.
You know, it's like, now in your marriage,
you gotta ask the questions, all right?
Tell me all about it.
I totally get it.
I don't even want to fix your problems.
That makes total sense.
I understand.
Yes.
Yeah, it made sense to drive 40 miles out of the way
and get in an argument with this person
that you didn't have to.
Totally their fault.
I get it.
Look.
Sometimes you obviously have to condescend even to your spouse
and be gracious unto them.
But look, for the most part, we shouldn't be going around
trying to be sad on purpose to get attention.
We should try to be happy and try to be joyful.
Did you go to James 5?
Sorry, Matthew 6. Let me read that.
We read that. Matthew 6 verse 16.
Where were you?
No, I'm just kidding.
James 5. Go to James 5.
Here's kind of the last point I'm going to give you from the Bible.
You know, there's other things that I think can help you be happy.
I'm just trying to give you pretty much the Bible.
I do want to give you just a quick list too of just what the world says.
But like, if you do these things, I think you're going to really have a difference in
your life.
Get saved, get married, have kids, work hard, make God the Lord, you know, basically following
His commandments, find wisdom, help other people.
And here's the last thing.
putting it all together is you need to just be steadfast and you keep doing it.
Look at James 5 verse 10.
Take my brethren the prophets who have spoken in the name of the Lord for an
example of suffering, affliction, and impatience, behold we count them happy
which endure. You're gonna, you know, you're gonna have difficulty, you're gonna
have problems, and then the question is do you let that rob your joy or do you
just keep being happy and keep enduring and keep living joyfully?
Don't let persecution stop you from living joyfully.
Don't let the backstabbers, the gossips, the railers, all the evil people, all the family
drama, all the, you know, issues of life get you and drag you down.
You know, just stay joyful in the Lord.
Just...
Just say, hey, I'm still saved, I'm still married,
I've got kids, I'm serving God, I'm working hard,
I'm on the right path, I'm getting people saved,
I'm caring about other people.
I'm just not gonna let any persecution or affliction
or anything like that stuff rob me of my joy
of serving God, I'm just gonna keep serving God.
And I'm just gonna do it every day, ending in Y.
And I'm just gonna be steadfast in my life.
You know, but obviously difficulty comes.
Do one of these things that I said
Don't take drugs
You know according to some statistics. I look this up online
anywhere from 40 to 60 percent of
boomer women
Have used anti-depressants
At some point in their life
That's a big number. Yeah
And it currently it said this is another estimate currently 16 percent of boomer women's are on just SSRIs specifically
So right now
I wonder how many boomer women are not saved, not happily married,
don't have a bunch of kids, aren't working hard, aren't serving God,
don't have a lot of wisdom, are not helping other people.
And it's like, why are they sad?
You know, if you're getting a drug to artificially tell you you're happy,
you're not happy. You're still not happy.
It's not a good thing to do.
You know, if you're not happy, we want to fix that.
But we don't want to fix that with a drug.
And the drug will cause all kinds of other problems.
I took a chart and said antidepressant medication
over the past 30 days.
So just people using it in the most recent 30 days.
Women above the age of 60, 24% are
on some kind of antidepressant medication
in the last 30 days.
Women between the ages of 40 and 59, 20.1%.
Women 18 to 39, only 10%.
So at least there's some hope.
What we want to do is we want to try and keep that number low and get it going lower.
I've given you a lot of Bible.
What does the world say things that make you happy?
And I just kind of like ask the world like looking online like what does it say?
And it says working out.
And look I'm reading this list because I think it's pretty much a pretty good list.
I think I cherry picked a few things out of here that I didn't want to read but like
You're not happy because you just don't work out and look for most women. They're very upset with their body image
And it's like just work out and and look instead of spending two hours putting on makeup spend 30 minutes working out
Like you will love your life so much better if you took that two hours
And you only spent 30 minutes working out and you have a whole another hour and a half to do anything else
Learn something right and you will be so much happier. I guarantee it
Number two is just exercise in general, which I think maybe this is just a little bit different, like working out more like lifting muscles and gaining strength.
Exercise could be anything, just walking, you know, playing a sport or doing something.
Look, everyone can do pickleball.
Like literally everyone. Not everyone's good at it. There's a lot of technique and finesse and stuff like that
But like, you know, there's an explosion of of sports these days that are way more inclusive
You know pretty much anybody can go on a walk go jogging riding a bike
Swimming there's all kinds of activities out there do something
Sunlight exposure
Look these are basic, but I'm just telling you like people are depressed. It's like they they go inside. They never work out
They never exercise
They're they get no sunlight. They're not married. They have a bunch of cats for sure
And it's like they're so sad and they just have to take drugs. It's like look go outside
Get some exercise work out. Here's another thing diet
And I don't I don't know about this. I'm just don't take this as like gospel truth
I'm just saying this is just what the world's saying that there's this
Tri-toe fan. I don't even know much about it. I might even pronouncing it wrong
Triptophan someone else knows it better than I triptophan apparently helps increase happiness
This is found in turkey eggs salmon nuts oats bananas and pineapple
And then another one, complex carbs.
This is what it's just saying.
If you're out happy, start working out, exercise,
get sunlight, eat either turkey, egg, salmon, nuts,
oats, bananas, pineapple.
Complex carbs, whole grains, brown rice, sweet potatoes.
Now I would add, you know, my personal opinion,
I'm gonna stake and ribs and stuff in some of these lists,
but hey, here's another one, six, social interactions.
Having friends makes you happy.
But look, you know, in order to have friends, you have to be friendly.
Smile at people, talk to people, encourage people to do stuff,
hang out with people.
Look, that will make you a happier person.
Number seven, music.
Music will help increase your happiness.
Here's another one, sleep.
Number nine, dark chocolate.
That's amen.
Here's number 10 intimacy with your spouse
Look, you know, there's a reason why people are so depressed. They're not doing what I just said. They're not working out
They're not getting exercise. They're not getting in the sun. They're not eating
Healthy foods. They are having no friends no social interactions. They never listen to you know, good happy music
They're not getting sleep. They don't eat dark chocolate and they don't have intimacy with their spouse
And then they're like, I'm depressed.
I'm gonna take drugs.
No, dark chocolate and intimacy with your spouse.
Go work out together, go eat some good food,
have some chocolate and then have some relations
and then come tell me if you're happy or not.
Read your Bible, go to church on Sunday morning.
Quit sinning.
You know, don't do drugs.
I mean, it's like, you know.
There's a reason why people are not happy and I mean this might seem like a simple sermon
But it's real
It's real and look the solutions are often pretty simple
And and I'm just I tried to give you the best world's advice
I tried to give you what the Bible says and look
I think the Bible would support a lot of those things I said anyways
The God wants us to be out working and in the sunlight and being healthy look being healthy
I'll just make you happier in general
We should try to be happy.
We should try to be healthy.
We should try to have some fun.
Live joyfully with your spouse.
And look, you're saved, and that should be enough,
but let's do a lot of these other things too.
And that'll really help you.
If you struggle with depression,
if you struggle with sadness, you know what?
Please try to start implementing some of these things.
Maybe make a journal of where you're at.
Start implementing these things and see hey, is this improving? Am I getting better?
But you know what drugs is the wrong answer?
Please do not take the drugs because there's so many side effects and all kinds of other problems
And really what you're doing is you're you're missing out on things that God wants you to do
You'll be you're sad. He's like hey
I'm trying to encourage you to do those things so then you can increase your happiness
So you can increase your joy and you know, I think that God wants us to live joyfully
with joy.
Let's close in prayer.
Thank you, Heavenly Father, so much for being such a great God.
and giving us free salvation and eternal life that we can have so much joy.
Thank you for giving us marriage and giving us children and giving us work
and giving us food and allowing us to serve you and giving us great commandments
and giving us wisdom and giving us an opportunity to go through difficulty
and become better as a person.
I pray that anybody that's struggling with just being sad or being depressed
or upset about things, that they would work really hard.
to implement you know some of the things that you've given us and to try to be joyful in their life and try to have a
merry heart and
Enjoy the good things that you've given us
I pray that you would encourage them that you would strengthen them that you would help them and I pray that you'd help our church to
Be a church that's trying to follow all your commandments trying to be healthy trying to be happy trying to be joyful about our life
Circumstances we have so much to be happy for I pray that we could have the right attitude and Jesus name. We pray amen
All right, in closing, let's go to song number 18.
Song number 18, take the name of Jesus with you, song number 18.
It will join Humber King.
together, bring that holy name to prayer, precious name, oh how sweet, hope of earth and joy of
at his feet. King of kings and men who crown him when our journey is complete.
Great song to end tonight.
You were all dismissed.