good morning everybody and welcome to steadfast baptist church great to see
everybody here go ahead and find our seats we will get started you can grab
a hymnal we'll start this morning service out with song number 164 song
number 164 164 praise him praise him it's all singing out so much for this
church love you so much and we just ask you to bless this room bless everybody
in it bless the singing Lord and it's in Jesus name we pray alright for our next
song let's go song number 94 her song and if you haven't sung it before it's
probably gonna be the case with everybody here but I think it's an easy
one to follow along with have you hear the first verse pretty catchy song
number 94 have heard it before sing it out try to get this one down this
morning song number 94 stand by me morning thank you so much for coming to
St. Fast Baptist Church if you didn't already get a bulletin you can look to
her hand nice and high one of us just can come by and get you guys a bulletin
on the front we have our Bible memory passage Jude chapter 1 the inside we
have our service times our soul winning times our church stats on the right we
have the list of expecting ladies and then down below upcoming events so we
have the Mother's Day brunch on the 10th we have the mother we have the soul
winning marathon in Cleburne May 24th and then also Durant May 31st the
Cleburne event is going to just simply meet at a park in the morning we're not
going to meet up for breakfast or anything like that it's just gonna meet
directly at the park and we're not even handing out maps so all you have all
you're gonna really be doing is showing up to an area that's gonna
anticipatedly have about a thousand people or so just out and they're gonna
be doing baseball tournament stuff but there should be a lot of spectators
people just out and about and it's an area where a lot of Marshallese people
congregate every year and so it's just an opportunity to go soul winning we'll
end up meeting for lunch somewhere and then we'll just probably depending on
how it goes either just go back to that park area if everything is going as
expected or we may have maps to hand out or if people want to do some other
different types of soul winning so that's what that event's gonna look like
the Durant Oklahoma we will be meeting for breakfast somewhere there in Durant
Oklahoma and we're gonna be partnering with Anchor Baptist Church and so if
you'd like to participate in that I don't know exactly the distance maybe
about an hour and a half from the Dallas-Fort Worth area so if you'd like
to participate on that one Father's Day floats on the 15th and then we have a
Shreveport Marathon also June 28th so a lot of soul winning opportunities
on the back is our prayer list and that's pretty much all I have as far as
announcements go ahead and sing our Psalm of the Week Psalm 146 if you want to get
out of your your Psalm binders Psalm 146. Psalm chapter 146 Psalm 146 let's
follow along in our binders
turn in your Bibles to Esther chapter the book of Esther chapter number one
Esther 1 the Bible reads now it came to pass in the days of Ahasuerus this is
Ahasuerus which reigned from India even under Ethiopia over a hundred and seven
and twenty provinces that in those days when the king Ahasuerus sat on the
throne of his kingdom which was in Shushan the palace in the third year of
his reign he made a feast unto all his princes and his servants the power of
Persia and Media the nobles and princes of the provinces being before him when
he showed the riches of his glorious kingdom in the honor of his excellent
majesty many days even in hundred and four score days and when these days were
expired the king made a feast unto all the people that were present in
Shushan the palace both under great and small seven days in the court of the
garden of the king's palace where were white green and blue hangings fastened
with cords of fine linen and purple to silver rings and pillars of marble the
beds were of gold and silver upon a pavement of red and blue and white and
black marble and they gave them drink and vessels of gold the vessels being
diverse one from another and royal wine in abundance according to the state of
the king and the drinking was according to the law none did compel for so the
king had appointed to all the officers of his house that they should do
according to every man's pleasure also Vashti the queen made a feast for the
women in the royal house which belonged to King Ahasuerus on the seventh day
when the heart of the king was merry with wine he commanded me he commanded
Mahuman, Biztha, Harbona, Bigtha, and Abaktha, Zethar and Carchus the seven
chamberlains that served in the presence of Ahasuerus the king to bring Vashti
the queen before the king with the crown royal to show the people and the
princes her beauty for she was fair to look on but the queen Vashti refused to
come at the king's commandment by his chamberlains therefore was the king very
wroth and his anchor burned in him then the king said to the wise men which knew
the times for so was the king's manner toward all that new law and judgment and
the next unto him was Karshina, Shethar, Admatha, Tarshish, Merez, Marsena, and
Mamukhin the seven princes of Persia and Media which saw the king's face and
which sat the first in the kingdom what shall we do under the queen Vashti
according to law because she had not performed the commandment of the king
Ahasuerus by the chamberlains and Mamukhin answered before the king and
the princes Vashti the queen had not done wrong to the king only but also to
all the princes and to all the people that are in all the provinces of the
king Ahasuerus for this deed of the queen shall come abroad unto all women
so that they shall despise their husbands in their eyes when it shall be
reported the king Ahasuerus commanded Vashti the queen to be brought in before
him but she came not likewise shall the ladies of Persia and Media say this day
unto all the king's princes which have heard of the deed of the queen thus
shall there arise too much contempt and wrath if it pleased the king let there
go a royal commandment from him and let it be written among the laws of the
Persians and the Medes that it be not altered that Vashti come no more before
King Ahasuerus and let the king give her royal estate unto another that is better
than she and when the king's decree which he shall make shall be published
throughout all his empire for it is great all the wives shall give to their
husbands honor both to great and small and the saying pleased the king and the
princes and the king did according to the word of Mimukin for he sent letters
into all the king's provinces and to every province according to the writing
thereof and to every people after their language that every man should bear rule
in his own house and that it should be published according to the language of
every people. Let's bow our heads for a word of prayer. Father in heaven I ask
Lord God that you would bless this sermon this morning and that you fill
pastor Shelley with your spirit soften hearts in the room and give us ears to
hear the sermon so that we can apply it to our lives and so that Lord God we can
live a more complete Christian life we love you and in Jesus name I pray amen
amen I want to start in the middle of verse 20 the Bible says all the wives
shall give to their husbands honor both to great and small and the saying please
the King and the princes and the King did according to the word of Mimukin for
he sent letters and all the King's provinces and to every province according
to the writing thereof and to every people after their language that every
man shall bear rule in his own house and that it should be published according
to the language of every people the Bible tells us that men should be in
charge of their own house and that wives should give honor unto their husband and
the title of my sermon this morning is this King of the Castle because men are
the king of their castle and we need to we need to understand this doctrine and
I don't think that there's necessarily a huge problem in our church but there's a
huge problem with our society constantly trying to tear down men and act like
they're not the king of the castle the Bible emphasizes this point we have a
king here emphasizing this point and you say well this is King of Hazardous
okay but if you understand the book of Esther you have to understand that it's
all symbolism and King of Hazardous pictures God the Father and he is
emphasizing this point in the Bible so for our benefit to realize that men
should be in charge and rule in their house and women should obey their husband
and children should obey the father because he is the king of the castle now
go to Luke chapter 11 for a moment go to Luke chapter number 11 and I want to
look at verse 21 now in Luke chapter 11 Jesus Christ is explaining how demon
possession works and casting out devils and in the midst of this he gives a
carnal application to help us understand some of these principles and I want to
focus on the carnal application because all of the truths of the Bible are true
the carnal truths are true and the spiritual truths are true and he often
uses carnal truths to help us understand spiritual truths look at verse 21 when a
strong man armed keepeth his palace his goods are in peace so this is the king
of his castle and it's saying when he's strong and when he's armed everything's
good everything's in peace they might say oh wow it must be nice to be the
quote king of the castle but you know what you're afforded a lot of protection
you're afforded a lot of liberties you're afforded peace by the fact that
you have a king of the castle by the fact that you have a strong man you have
a strong man armed don't think that oh being the king of the castle is just
all perks and all benefits no obviously they get perks and benefits because of
the protection because of what they offer because they bring peace into that
castle and they're protecting that castle and so therefore this is why you
have peace is because you have a strong man keeping his palace verse 22 but when
it's stronger than he shall come upon him and overcome him he taketh from him
all his armor wherein he trusted and divided his spoils you know it doesn't
say here well when a stronger cometh his wife then takes care of business you
know what it just says it just says like it's just basically granted is if he can
overcome him it's all his he gets everything and I know that today because
women have the ability to have firearms and they can shoot that sometimes they
can protect themselves and I'm all for women protecting themselves and of
course we have like one story in the Bible about jail overcoming someone but
she overcame Barak not when a Barak was coming to attack her he was coming
peaceably and she deceived him and tricked him and overcame him if Barak
had come to attack her she would have lost she would have never won because
women cannot compete with men in this area men will overcome women and you
know what you need men to be protected from other men you need men to guard and
protect your castle that's why they're the king of the castle and so we need
to realize why you're even giving honor under your husband sometimes you just
live in such a peaceable land we live in America where there's very minimal
violence and by large and so you kind of forget that you need that man maybe in
other societies other cultures other countries other areas it was just a lot
more danger a lot more threat constantly so women would recognize oh wow I
actually need this guy I actually need someone to protect me oh this guy's
actually affording me some protection not even just from men the elements
whether that be bears lions tigers dragons whatever you know isn't that the
whole fairy tale story is the princess rescued from the dragon how do you think
that happened it wasn't GI Jane it wasn't Xena the warrior princess it
wasn't it wasn't some chick going in there and rescuing another chick no it
was a knight it was a knight in shining armor and he was gonna take that
princess back to his castle and he's gonna be the king of his castle and so
therefore the king of the castle should be treated like a king even the law in
America and in Texas in many ways agrees with this and backs men up and says that
they have the right to be the king of their castle in fact in Texas you have
what's called castle doctrine who knows what I'm talking about castle doctrine
or another term is called stand your ground so in the state of Texas you have
what's known as stand your ground or castle doctrine enshrined in law and I'm
gonna read a little bit of a legal definition here this is from a lawyer
just kind of summarizing the law because if we just read the law it's a little
bit obtuse it can be difficult to pick up everything so we'll get a little bit
more clear explanation but in essence because the law looks at you as the king
of your castle you don't have to even retreat into your own castle if you
perceive a threat so if you're on your front lawn if you're on your front yard
and someone's just threatening to come into your castle they haven't come into
your castle they're threatening to come into your castle you don't have to
retreat in your castle you can take them down right there and not even allow them
to enter into the castle that's what Castle Doctrine is Castle Doctrine is
saying you have the right to guard your castle especially within the confines
of the castle but even just the land around the castle that's yours you can
stand your ground and you can defend your castle on the outside of your
castle now not every state has this especially not places in other countries
and other parts of the world you have this kind of a law but you know what at
least Texas still recognizes hey this is the king of the castle he gets to
defend his castle how he sees fit now I'll just read for you this is from a
lawyer's website the castle doctrine in Texas is a legal principle that allows
residents to use force including deadly force to defend themselves their family
and their property from an intruder or an attacker this doctrine is rooted in
the idea that the individual's home or castle is their sanctuary and they have the right
to protect it and themselves without the duty to retreat. Texas also extends this protection
to other places such as an individual's vehicle or workplace where they have a legal right
to be. So in fact, castle doctrine is not even just your castle, your chariot counts
too. You don't even have to retreat to your chariot, you can defend your chariot. You
don't even have to retreat when it's your business. Hey, this church, hey, this is
our castle here and we get to defend it. And we can refuse the right to enter this castle
because this is God's house. And you know what? We have the right in Texas to defend
that and we will defend that. And we have defended that and we will continue to defend
that. Okay. Now it gives a couple just explanations. I just want to give you some education on
this. It says the use of force is justifiable if the individual reasonably believes that
there is an immediate necessity to protect themselves or someone else from the unlawful
use of force by an intruder. So it gives four examples. Number one, the use of deadly force
is justifiable if the individual reasonably believes it is necessary to protect themselves
or someone else from imminent death, serious bodily injury, or to prevent the commission
of a violent crime such as aggravated kidnapping, murder, sexual assault or robbery. There is
no duty to retreat in Texas if the individual has a right to be in a location where the
force is used and they are not engaged in criminal activity at the time. The Castle
Doctrine does not apply if the individual using force is the initial aggressor, provoked
the attack, or is engaged in criminal activity. So as long as you're not starting the problem,
as long as you're not involved in some kind of a crime, you have the right to basically
guard your castle as you see fit, your chariot, or your workplace. Now, this is what I think
is crazy. If the law can back up men, if the law can say, hey, you're the king of the castle,
if King Ahasuerus can say, hey, you're the king of your castle, then how come other Christians
can't say the same thing? I mean, you got, you got even just secular people, the law,
and all these people just saying like, man, men should be the ruler, should be the king,
they're in charge, they get the right to defend themselves. But you know what? I feel like
there is an attack on male authority. There is an attack on husbands ruling their houses
as they see fit. Whereas the law, King Ahasuerus, and I'm going to show you in the Bible too,
the Bible is giving men carte blanche to rule as they see fit. And you know, as a pastor,
what I don't want to do, and I'm not sure that I've ever done it, maybe I have, is I
just don't want to undermine male authority or the men's right to rule their house as
they see fit. Because you know, my personal preferences as a person have no bearing on
your household. You do not have to follow Pastor Shelley's personal preferences. You
don't have to follow my example in every area of life. You can do whatever you want. And
I just preach what the Bible says mostly. Sometimes I explain my personal opinions,
my personal preferences, how I apply the Word of God in my life. Because if I don't provide
any example, if I don't explain things in plain language, sometimes people are weird.
And I think that the more that I kind of just say this is kind of how I do it, this is kind
of how I apply things, then it gives people an idea of like, oh okay, that's kind of what
this looks like. But don't make a mistake and think like, oh if Pastor Shelley does
this one way, my husband can't do it his way. No, no, no, no. As long as it's within the
boundaries of the Bible, your husband is right, Pastor Shelley is wrong. Every time.
We need to empower men. Men are the king of their castle and they get to rule their castle as they
see fit. You know, in the Garden of Eden, Adam was given the right to eat of all the trees of
the garden. It says, "Of all the trees of the garden, thou mayest freely eat, except for one."
So let's just say, you know, and again, hypothetically, we all know there's just
Adam and Eve in there, but let's just say there's multiple people in there. What if I just said,
"Well, I like the trees over on this side and I don't like the ones over here." There's nothing
wrong with you going and eating of the trees on the other side. As long as we're just not eating
of the tree in the midst of the garden, the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, we're all good.
And I may have a preference towards some trees over here and you like the trees over there
and this guy likes the trees over there and you know what we're all just freely eating of the trees
of the garden how we see fit as long as we're just not eating of the tree in the midst of the garden.
And you know what I'm gonna constantly praise things like Texas, brisket, chili without beans,
all these kind of things because I know that it's better all right. But honestly you know why I do
a lot of those things and I'll just be real frank with you okay. I'll just tell you why I do those
things because I want people to enjoy where they live and I think it's important as a pastor to
encourage people to not have a negative attitude about where they live and in their lifestyle and
so I'm constantly emphasizing a lot of positive things that happen to be in Texas or in this area
and I'm sure you know like hey pastor Shelley really champions Texas and the food and all the
positive you know I'm not sitting here like hammering all the negatives like allergies
boy I hate the allergies here I'm a victim of that every year that's why I sound like I got a tennis
ball in my nose or something like that because of the stinking allergies yeah are there negatives
here sure sometimes I mean there was a summer maybe a couple years ago I don't think it rained
for like 90 days and it was just hot and it was just overbearing yeah sometimes it can be a little
bit intense here yeah sometimes the the local judges suck like they really really suck here okay
yeah obviously there's still sodomites here yeah there's a street that's decorated in rainbow flags
all over in texas and I hate those establishments and I hate that particular small area you know I
don't want to sit here and just focus on all the negatives I want to bring up all the positives
now if you in your heart you're like well I just like my homeland better and I like all my food
preferences better good for you that's great but you know what I'm going to constantly champion
things that I like and I'm going to I'm real you know who I am you know what I'm like if you get
up and preach for a while you're going to express your personal opinions every once in a while but
you know what don't make the mistake again and think well pastor Shelley's preferences you have
to agree with them to come to steadfast baptist church or pastor Shelley's preferences is how
every man should rule his home no no no no you rule your home how you see fit if you like the
Pittsburgh Steelers and you put beans in your chili and you know what you drive around in a
NASCAR well you know what praise God we're all you're an example of being saved by grace all
right but let me tell you something hey you know what let every man be the king of his own castle
let's stop trying to demean men and act like there's something wrong with them for them
expressing their you know leadership how they want to see fit their kingdom you know men get
the right to rule their house as they see fit and we could extend this to all kinds of areas but
i want to go to like three specific ones go to proverbs 3 go to proverbs chapter 3 here's one
that's really important as the king of your castle you get to decide the punishment for your household
and i am not going to stand in judgment of how men decide to punish their household now proverbs
chapter 3 look at verse 11 my son despise not the chastening of the lord neither be weary of his
correction for whom the lord loveth he correcteth even as a father the son and whom he delighteth
now the word even means specifically and the bible is saying that the way god disciplines us
is the way that a father that loves his children disciplines his children he's saying specifically
fathers who correct their children love their children the bible does not say correction is
bad the bible does not say correction is withdrawing natural affection the bible is saying punishing
your children is the exact opposite it's coming from a place of love it's coming from a place
of love and so therefore as children you should love that your dad corrects you you should love
that your dad punishes you you should love that your dad enforces rules because let me tell you
something dads that don't punish their children don't love their children he that spare at the
rod hated his son is what the bible says it doesn't say loves him hates him if you don't
punish your children you hate them that's not my opinion that's the bible's opinion and so therefore
if a dad is punishing his children that or he tells me he's in the right category because the
bible says he loves his child therefore i'm not going to sit here and stand in judgment
of how the dad decides to punish his children you know what i'm also not going to stand in judgment
of how my heavenly father judges his children you know what i may not like it you may not like it
but you know what you read in the bible hey they commit fornication dead they lie he kills them
they commit adultery he kills them they worship false gods he says moses grounded in the powder
and the gold put it in water and make them drink it it sounds abusive i don't really care what you
think because i'm not going to stand in judgment of how my heavenly father judges his children and
punishes his children and in the same way i'm not going to sit here and stand in judgment
of how men punish their children i had a similar story to moses one time i was making fun of my
dad for drinking some disgusting drink it was it's called barley green has anybody heard of this
okay there's like one person all right it's like this this powder for lack of a better word that
you would put in a drink of water like maybe eight ounces glass of water and you're only supposed
to put like maybe a tablespoon because this stuff is thick and it when it dissolves in there just
turns the the cup solid green and he would drink it it was some i don't know why you know i guess
glutton for punishment but he would drink this stuff to be healthy and i always just made fun
of him like that's so gross i can't believe you drink that and he was like why don't you try it
and i was like no i refuse to try it so then him and my brother held me down to try and get me to
try it why wouldn't open my mouth so then they held my nose and then he just shoved he just shoved
a tablespoon of the powder in my mouth he didn't give me the drink he gave me the powder which was
just so like it just dried my mouth out instantly i was like choking i felt like i was gonna die
okay i was you know i'm probably dramatic or whatever but you know i didn't die obviously
and you know how many times i made fun of my dad after that for that drink never again now some
people would be like oh that's abuse or whatever oh your dad's so abusive but you know what i'm
not gonna stand in judgment of my dad if i'm making fun of my dad he gets to do whatever he
wants and you know what hey you're not gonna make fun of your dad when he's doing that it's like
dang you know i mean my dad he had he used the uh like the rod and my brother and sister would
always talk about how he like broke it on them or whatever and i'm telling you like when you know
those things you're a little bit more terrified to break your dad's rules you're just a little
bit more terrified my mom would say hey if you get in trouble at school i've signed the paperwork
you're going to be spanked at school when i went to school this must have been like ages ago
you could get spanked at school did anybody go to school and that was the case okay yes praise god
i'm not the only one all right i could be spanked at school she said i signed up you're going to be
spanked at school then you're going to be spanked by me and then you'll be spanked by your dad
and you know what i thought as a kid that's not fair i was like i was like horrified i was like
what's wrong with you do you not love me you know why she did that because she loved me i'm not
going to stand in judgment of my parents because they love me enough to try and tell me hey if you
be good then you'll get rewarded if you're bad you'll be punished and when i was younger my mom
she would get me a mcdonald's happy meal if i was good at school so they gave me the carrot and a
stick hey some people like this doctrine all right when i was a kid i just liked a plain burger just
meat and bun that's it and i loved it i loved mcdonald's go if you had to proverbs 29 go to
proverbs 29 if i was as happy as the man that finds his wisdom and the man that gets the
understanding you know we're just we just should not stand in judgment of our parents especially
our dad however he punishes is however he punishes just suck it up buttercup and just say i'm so glad
that my dad at least punishes me because the kids whose dad doesn't punish them the foolishness has
not been driven out of their heart and as a result many of them will commit crimes and go down really
dark paths because they don't fear god they don't fear the law they don't fear punishment they didn't
have a dad reign them in and stop them from being wild many times you know i've helped with with kids
programs my whole life i've helped with kids programs at my church i've helped kids programs
in athletics i still do it i help with my kids soccer teams and stuff and you know what you can
see the behavior difference of the kids who don't have a dad in their life and it's real obvious
what does the bible say in proverbs 29 verse 15 the rod and reproof give wisdom but a child left
to himself bringeth his mother to shame you know we need the rod and reproof just go to john chapter
2 if you would go to john chapter 2 the bible says in proverbs 13 a wise son heareth his father's
instruction but a scorner heareth not rebuke i want to say this you know we're talking about
punishment i'm talking about everything i'm not talking about just literal physical corporal
punishment i agree with that the dad has the right to use the rod he has the right to use
the scourge he has the right to chase in however he sees fit if he wants to put barley green in
your mouth barley green i had friends who if they mowed off to their parents they would wash their
kids mouths out with soap i'm not going to stand in judgment of that not only this i believe that
the parents have the right to verbally correct their children as they see fit if they want to
scream and yell at their kid i'm not going to stand in judgment of that if they want to
choose whatever vocabulary they want to use i'm not going to stand in judgment of that
and you know what sometimes you need some strong language to correct some bad behavior and boy you
know if you're a parent and you're very good at keeping yourself in check where you don't use
strong language very much but then you drill you you bring it out occasionally it has a powerful
effect and you know again some people get super offended by this i don't really care what you
think but at the end of the day there's been times in my life where i've been quote cussed out
by teachers coaches parents by other people and boy it really stings but then it's like oh i need
to change i don't sit here and think like oh you're not a christian now or something no i think
hey i need to take heed to this advice you know i need to make sure hey if your dad thinks you
need to be screamed at hey that's his it's his call and you know what i think sometimes kids
need to be screamed at i mean the bible brings up rebuke the bible brings up the pastor the
preacher crying loud and sparing not hey i'm getting up here and screaming all the time
how how hypocritical would it be for me to sit here and scream at you get up here and scream
at you and say you better not scream at your children in your house wouldn't that just seem
really hypocritical like that doesn't really make any sense like how much more of a right like i
would think that a dad has more right to scream at his children than me as just your pastor just
scream at grown men but i think both are right and if you've ever been here you already know that
all right i'm just kidding but and hey i have screamed at grown men i screamed at them not even
just from the pulpit in private and i will occasionally but you know what it's not because
i hate that person it's because i love that person because if i didn't like you i'd just be like bye
bye felicia you know it's just like i don't care honey badger don't care look at john chapter two
oh well i don't think jesus acts like this okay well look at verse 14 this is jesus and found in
the temple house those that sold oxen and sheep and doves and the changers of money sitting
and when he had made a scourge of small cords he drove them all out of the temple and the sheep
and the oxen and poured out the changers money and overthrew the tables and said to them that sold
doves take these things hits make not my father's house and house of merchandise this is the jesus
christ of the bible the jesus christ of the bible comes in and screams and yells and throws tables
over and whips people you know whips at people i don't know if you actually hit them or not
i can't say dogmatically but boy it didn't seem like an idle threat i would venture to believe
it's very likely or possible he did hit someone maybe he never did maybe just the sound of just
that whip cracking was enough i don't know obviously if you were a smart person you just
need to hear it you don't need to feel it but it does say he drove them out of there with a scourge
like i don't think he was just like just joking i wasn't really going to do it and and if if jesus
i mean this isn't even his children this is just grown men in the house of god that he's bringing
in a whip to whip grown men because what they're doing is just so bad they're making the house of
god a house of merchandise and you know what jesus is in there trying to enforce the king of the
castle's rules and the king of the castle is god the father it's his house and god the father's
house to be ruled how god the father wants to be ruled and so jesus comes in and he backs up his
father and says hey i'm gonna whip you out of here and i don't like your punishment techniques
well you know what jesus christ is using a whip to drive people out oh that's not gonna work it
seems like it worked go to hebrews 12 go to hebrews you know it's so silly to me how people act like
these things don't work or something i'm like have you ever heard of the military the military
do you think the military puts up with dissension you think the military puts up with people just
act men going their own way boy they'll punish you fast and hard and and think about it if if
ruling by constraint or ruling by authority doesn't work then why is the military so effective
i mean the u.s military rules the world for a reason it's because they don't put up with junk
you mouth off to your superior you're going to get in trouble you get out of line out of trouble
you just simply falter you just simply fail in any way you don't keep up with the group punished
your bed's messy punished i mean it is militant now again i get it that they're not necessarily
there to love on you but they are there to accomplish a goal and that goal is accomplished
and in in fact while some people i think have a very bitter and resentful attitude towards the
military in general a lot of people have a really positive attitude a lot of people really like love
their brethren that they served with they love some of their sergeants they love some of their
corporals they love some of the generals they love some of the people they served under and they
realize this person actually did love me because you know what they didn't want they didn't want me
to be so sloppy that when i get onto the actual battlefield that i die or i cause one of my buddies
to die or that we cause some kind of an issue or that innocent people are killed or because we lose
the war then invaders come and take over our country and so they're actually doing all those
things out of love and let me tell you something you know we are an army here we are the army of
the lord here and so you know what we don't just play games and when christians are acting sloppy
it's the job of the overseers and the pastors and the rulers to get people in line because we love
you and we love the work of the ministry and we love god and we don't want to see damage in the
house of god we want to get people saved out there and we're doing the lord's work out there and
there's real enemies out there and so we better be in line and you know what there's nothing wrong
with a pastor or a king or a ruler or a dad ruling their house as they see fit because it's important
there are men that want to overcome you we need to be strong we need to be armed and we need to
rule as we see fit and we need to stop tearing down authority we need to put men back in the
driver's seat we need to put men back on their throne we need to put the crown back on men in
their household and say this guy's a king serve him like a king act like he's a king
treat him like he's a king respect him like he's a king you know what jesus respected god the father
like a king these other people were trashing god the father by bringing in all their merchandise
and making money and making the house of god a mockery hebrews chapter 12 look at verse 6
for whom the lord loveth he chasteneth and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth
god punishes his children why because he loves us he chastens all of us notice this and scourgeth
there's just so many people today that they just want to run away from english words he's like i
wonder what scourge means well let's see the number one usage of scourge in the bible is when jesus
was scourged for our sins what do you think that meant what do you think it meant when he got whipped
He was whipped for us.
Another mention of scourge was him making a scourge of small cords
and going in and driving people out.
You know, it's not rocket science.
If the Bible is using scourge in one way, the entire Bible,
why would I then get to Hebrews and then say,
"Oh, scourge here doesn't really mean scourge.
It means light reproof."
No, you're insane and you don't speak English.
Like if you just speak English, you just read the verse and you're just like,
"Yep, yep, no problem."
Because men have the right to punish as they see fit.
But you know what, if you come to the Bible and you just say,
"Man, I've just been listening to all these psychologists,
and I've been listening to all these women talk to me
about how to parent my children."
And then you come to this verse and you're like, "Scourge!"
That can't mean what it means.
English words can't actually mean English things.
And you have to just try to redefine words in the Bible.
Instead of just saying, "That's what the Bible says.
Let's look at another place in the Bible.
Oh, scourge, scourge, scourge.
Oh, okay, it means me it's whip."
And then some people get so offended like,
"Oh, God whips his children." Yeah, he does.
Literally and metaphorically.
Literally, in the case that,
hey, in the Old Testament, you commit certain crimes,
you do certain things, you get whipped by the government.
If your country gets too bad, well, then he'll throw you
into someone else's control, some foreign nation like Egypt,
or like the Assyrians, or like the Babylonians,
and they'll physically whip you and scourge you on God's behalf
because of your wicked sins.
And then he'll metaphorically scourge you,
your heart, your belly, your mind,
for all the evil and the wickedness that you do,
and cause you to feel that pain and feel that emotional turmoil.
Look, God will scourge his children.
That's just a promise in the Bible.
We need to stop getting away from this doctrine.
It says in verse 7, "If ye endure chastening,
God dealeth with you as with sons.
For what son is he whom the Father chasteneth not?"
Now, what's the point of chastening?
Chastening is behavior correction.
It's, you know, there's multiple punishments.
Some punishments are designed to cause you to change your behavior.
Some punishments are designed to just stop you.
If you're bad enough, God will just stop you and just send you home.
That's why you have to be a good sheep or you'll be put to sleep.
But in many cases, if you talk about chastening,
the point of chastening is simply just to get better
so that he doesn't go to the final punishment, finish him, okay?
And you don't want God to finish you.
You don't want God to bring you home early.
That's why we fall in line.
That's why we obey the commandments.
That's why we fear God.
That's why we rejoice with trembling.
Yeah, we should come to church and rejoice with trembling.
We sing the praises.
We sing the Psalms and Names and we're rejoicing.
And then the preaching comes and we tremble.
We tremble at God's word.
We tremble in fear before an Almighty God.
For our God is a consuming fire.
It's a fearful thing to fall in the hands of the living God.
We should be terrified of the Lord God because he's,
what the Bible calls a terrible God, not saying he's bad,
saying he's terrifying.
It's a terrifying God that we worship and that we serve.
And God will judge his house and God will judge his children
and God will chasten his children and God will scourge his children.
Why do you think we believe in hard preaching?
Because you know what?
The preaching won't hurt you as bad as the punishment will.
I guarantee my words have never "scourged" you as much
as God will actually deal with you if you actually don't regard God's word.
The pain and the suffering that people are experiencing not going to church,
not serving God, and not being right with God is far worse
than any sermon I've ever preached to you ever.
And you know what?
If a dad screams and yells at his kid, it's not going to destroy him
like the kid going out and doing drugs and getting involved in gangs
and committing random fornication and just breaking all of God's commandments.
Why would a dad get so mad and say stuff to his kids?
Now look, I'm not trying to say that I don't think punishment can be overdone by men.
It can.
Obviously I'm not saying that as men we shouldn't try to
balance grace with punishment sometimes.
Just in general, I'm just not going to stand in judgment of how men rule their household.
If they want to be a little bit harsher than me, that's their right.
That's their decision.
And you know what?
We are supposed to just respect them, period.
This is what's being brought up here.
Look what it says in verse 8, "But if you be without chastisement,
whereof all are partakers, then are you bastards and not sons?
Furthermore, we had fathers of our flesh which corrected us."
Notice this, "And we gave them reverence."
When your father corrects you, you respect them, period.
It doesn't say, "Yeah, but what about in the cases where it went overboard?
It doesn't bring that up."
So you quit bringing it up.
Quit bringing up exceptions the Bible doesn't bring up.
"Well, the Bible doesn't talk about this."
Right, then you don't talk about it.
Man, there's not a lot of preaching on these exceptions
because it's not in the Bible.
Have you ever wondered, like, I wonder why this is never brought up?
Maybe this is not brought up in the Bible.
There's some people that just get, they just preach their whole lives
on things that just are not even brought up.
Why don't we talk about things that are brought up?
Maybe what you're bringing up, the Bible just doesn't care about
your little exception over here.
He says in the rest of this verse,
"Shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father's spirits and live?
For they verily for a few days chastened us after their own pleasure.
But he for our profit that we might be retakers of his holiness."
Notice this, God goes so far as to say
that not only do dads have the right to punish their children
and then they can punish their children.
They can do it at their own pleasure.
Why are you correcting your son?
Because I want to.
Was that biblical?
Yes.
You know how dads get to punish their children?
However they want.
After their own pleasure.
Bible.
Bible says men get to rule and men get to punish after their own pleasure.
Hey, why'd you correct your son?
Because I wanted him to act different.
Well, I don't know if I agree.
Well, go rule your castle however you want to see fit.
Because as for me in my house, this is how I'm going to punish.
This is how I'm going to rule.
It's after my own pleasure.
And you know what the response of the child is?
I respect dad, period.
So point one is this.
Men are the king of the castle.
They get to decide punishment.
Number two, kings of the castle, they get to decide the pleasure.
Everything they rule, they get to rule after their own pleasure.
We just saw that right there.
After their own pleasure.
Point two, whatever dad wants goes.
Not just punishment, all areas.
Go to Song of Solomon chapter two.
You know what the wife and the children should be doing?
Whatever dad wants.
Whatever the king wants.
And again, why am I saying king of the castle?
Because maybe that's the mindset you need to get from now on.
Instead of looking at your husband as just a dude,
you need to look at him as a king.
I mean, boy, girls just fall over themselves
to do anything that the, quote, prince wants.
I mean, we talk about the royal family.
We talk about the royals or whatever.
And everybody wants to get married to Prince Harry
and Prince whatever.
Girls will, girls will do anything to marry that guy.
Girls will wear anything to marry that guy.
Girls would learn any knowledge to marry that guy.
Girls would do whatever he said.
You know what?
That is how you should be to the great and small
of their own household.
Your man is your king.
Your man is your Prince Harry.
Your man is the guy that you're supposed to obey
and woo and do after his pleasure.
Oh, I would if he was a king.
He is a king.
He's the king of your castle.
Therefore, treat him like a king.
Song of Solomon chapter 2, look at verse 7.
"I charge you, oh, you daughters of Jerusalem,
by the rows and by the hinds of the field,
that you stir not up nor wake my love."
Notice this.
"Till he please."
Men get to sleep however and whenever they want
in their own house.
If men want to sleep on the couch,
men get to sleep on the couch.
When?
Whenever they want.
Hey, it used to be dad's chair.
Who knows what I'm talking about?
Dad's chair.
And when dad comes home,
you move out and dad gets to sit there.
It's the captain's chair.
Put dad back into the captain's chair
and he gets to sleep
whenever he wants,
wherever he wants.
Hey, this is my bed.
You know what?
I never get kicked out of my bed.
It's the king's bed.
And you know what?
I have a king bed.
Maybe some of you men need to get a king bed
instead of that queen bed you're in.
I don't have one of these queen beds.
I have a king bed.
And you know what?
I get up whenever I want.
Bible.
I don't know.
I don't know if that's what it meant.
Well, let's keep reading.
Go to chapter three verse five.
I charge you, oh you daughters of Jerusalem,
by the rose and by the high ends of the field,
that you stir not up nor awake my love.
Tilly, please.
I like this girl's attitude.
She says it in chapter two.
She says it in chapter three.
Let's go to chapter eight.
See if the message changed.
Maybe some people are just not reading the Bible.
You're so misogynistic.
I don't care what you call me.
I just like what the Bible says.
And you know what?
I don't hate my wife.
I don't hate children.
And you know what?
I also don't hate men.
You know, all this quote misogynistic labeling.
It's really just men hating is what it is.
I don't hate men.
Men are the king of their castle.
We need to empower men again.
I love men to put them back in their own chair,
in their own bed,
and to wake up whenever the heck they want.
Like a song of Solomon chapter eight verse four.
"I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem,
that you stir not up nor awake my love until he please."
How many times do you have to read this in the Bible
before you just believe it?
For me, it's once.
For you, it should be once.
Here's a three times dose.
Go to 1st Timothy chapter number six.
You know what?
The house should run as the man pleases.
The punishment is as he wants,
and everything is as he wants, however he wants it.
Whatever food he wants, he gets.
And again, I'm real picky about food.
I often bring up food because I relate to food.
I hope you relate to food.
But at the end of the day,
if your husband likes everything I detest,
you make it for him.
If he wants to sit there and put ranch dressing
into his bean chili and drink it as a slushy,
you make it, all right?
This is weird.
If he's a vegan, vegan meals, man.
If he likes all kinds of exotic ethnic food,
if he wants balut, put it on the table, man.
If he likes water burger over in and out,
he's going to water burger.
I'm not getting a lot of amens.
I get it.
Hey, but if you like it, you wear it as a badge of honor.
Hey, I'm for you getting what you want.
If you like things that are different than other people,
praise God for you.
You know what?
Men should get what they want.
Men should get what they are pleased to have.
Men are the king of the castle.
The king just says, "This is what I want," and he gets it.
And we need to empower men and say,
"Men, hey, they're the king of the castle, they get it."
1 Timothy chapter 6, now this extends to all kinds of things,
but I want to show you, even your boss, your boss in a sense,
is the king of his work, he gets what he wants too.
And we should treat our bosses that way.
You know, we say like, "Oh, you just got it so nice."
Yeah, but we have to do that to our bosses.
We should do that to our pastors.
We should do that to our government officials.
We should do that to God the Father.
We should do that to all the authorities in our life.
Men aren't off the hook, men are just the king of their castle.
And we as men used to be boys, and we had to do what our mom said,
and our teachers said, and everybody else said then too.
But then when we became a man, we put away childish things.
Now, how long do I have those authorities in my life?
I still have authorities, but you know what?
Men are the king of their castle, and they should be treated like men.
They should be treated like kings.
1st Timothy chapter 6 verse 1, "Let as many servants as are under
the oak count thrown masters worthy of all honor,
that the name of God in his doctrine be not blasphemed."
Any level of rebellion, any level of just undermining authority is satanic.
It's blasphemous, it's against the word of God.
That's not my opinion.
The Bible says that the name of God and his doctrine be not blasphemed.
How many preachers today are undermining authority
and it's blaspheming the doctrine of God.
It's blaspheming the doctrine of the Bible.
We need to submit today.
We need to put servants into fear and into subjection under their own masters.
The Bible does not say, "Hey, just do whatever you want."
No, the Bible says, "If you're a servant, you serve under that yoke."
This is not voluntary service here.
This is, "You're under a yoke, and you serve, and this is your master,
and they're worthy of all honor."
Because anything rebelling against authority is satanic.
Satan, of course, hates authority.
And, of course, you have to understand, feminism as a whole is just rebellion against male authority.
And then you say, "Where is it coming from?"
From Satan, who's just a rebel against all authority.
It's just once removed from Satan himself.
And there's just so much rebellion and so much just these antagonists
against the Word of God and against His doctrine and its evil.
The Bible says in verse 2, "And they that have believing masters,
let them not despise them, because they are brethren, but rather do them service,
because they are faithful and beloved partakers of the benefit.
These things teach and exhort."
You know, if you have a believing master, here's one, how about your pastor?
Don't despise, you're not allowed to despise your pastor, period.
And look, you shouldn't even just despise pastors in general.
Saved pastors should just be given a certain level of respect.
Now, here's the thing.
I don't respect false teaching no matter whose mouth it's coming out of.
And we should not respect false teaching.
And even believing masters can preach bad things, okay?
And I think they should be called out for the bad things.
But we should still give respect to that person.
We shouldn't be calling them Bs and Fs and whatever.
Let me tell you something.
If you start calling saved pastors a bunch of derogatory names,
I will take you to task and you'll be thrown out of this church.
I will not tolerate that.
Now again, if you're against false doctrine, I'm against false doctrine.
I make fun of false doctrine.
God makes fun of false doctrine.
We should be fine with this.
But let me tell you something.
You know what?
We should respect saved men of God and believing pastors.
And we should respect their office.
And at the end of the day, we can respect the person and disagree with the message.
And hey, if someone said, if someone preached a whole sermon against me today and said,
Pastor Shelley taught this horrible thing and it was stupid and it was wrong and he was bad,
and they proved that, I would say like, thank you.
Why wouldn't I?
But you know, if someone calls me out and lies about me, well, then yeah,
I'm not going to really respect that.
I'm not going to really appreciate that.
I don't really like slander and lies and attacking.
But at the end of the day, you know, you're not going to attack me by correcting me.
Correction is not attacking.
But there's this mind virus that's going around now that thinks that correcting
people is attack, it's abuse now.
Correction is abuse.
Helping someone is abuse.
Scourging them is abuse.
Chasing is abuse.
Abuse is harm.
Correction is good.
Correction doesn't hurt you.
Lies, slander, these type of things are hurting you.
Don't despise believing masters.
What does it say in verse 3?
"If any man teach otherwise and consent not to wholesome words,
even the words of our Lord Jesus Christ and the doctrines according to godliness,
he is proud."
Now I'm going to go down this list in a minute.
But what is the context of verse 3?
"If any man teach otherwise and consent not to wholesome words."
What are the wholesome words?
Is this a word list of words that are better than other words?
No, it's talking about what verse 1 and 2 just brought up,
which is what?
Submitting to authority.
It's so funny, like, I put out this word list of words in the Bible only,
just words in the Bible only saying, "All these words are pure words."
And they said, "I disagree with this doctrine.
Have you seen this verse?"
And I'm thinking like, "Well, let's read the verse."
Didn't we just read the verse where it says,
"And can sit not to wholesome words even," meaning specifically the words of our Lord Jesus Christ.
"In the beginning was the word, and the word is with God, and the word was God."
Let me explain to you.
Every word in here is a wholesome word.
Like hell and bastard and piss and dung and harlot and whatever else it says in here.
They're all wholesome words.
You know, it's not wholesome words.
It's teaching rebellion.
It's teaching to go against authority.
It's trying to undermine male authority.
That's not consenting unto wholesome words.
Getting up and saying, you know,
if a parent gets up and yells at their kid
and says hell and says whatever, that's fine.
Getting up and saying dads are not allowed to say hell, that's wrong.
That's not consenting to wholesome words.
We should read passages in context.
What's context?
With text, meaning with the other parts of the Bible.
Hey, everything that God says, right.
We need to be godly.
When people are not like this, what does it look like?
What are the people that are against this doctrine?
If we're just going to try and describe, what does this person look like?
If we're going to find a person that's not doing this, what does he look like?
He's proud, but he doesn't know anything.
Not only that, he's doting about questions and stripes of words.
What does scourge really mean?
What does chastening really mean?
And what are these?
They just constantly bring up all these questions.
And let me say this, they always bring up questions.
Not answers, not statements, not clearly laying out what they believe.
Just questions.
Well, what about this, hmm?
You're telling me that wives need to submit to their husband no matter what, hmm?
Well, what if he's like, mean?
Yep.
And then they bring up the most extreme example
that doesn't exist in our church at all.
They'd be like, what about this steroid-using,
roid-raging, drunk, alcoholic psychopath
that is just mashing his wife's face into the ground
and stomping on her because she rolled her eyes?
Are you saying that she has to stay with him?
And I'm like, yes.
But you know how many women in our church
are dealing with that issue?
Zero.
Just in the same way that I tell men,
hey, stay with your wife no matter what.
And I don't bring up this weird example of some woman,
some crack whore, meth addict that's a prostitute
and opens her legs to every Johnny on the spot
and say like, stay with her.
Because you know what?
That would be disrespectful to the women in our church
to say that that's happening.
And the same way it'd be disrespectful to act like
this hypothetical boogeyman guy that you just dreamed up
exists in our church either.
So then wives don't have to really submit to their husbands
or that men should leave their wives in some extreme example.
Well, you know what?
Hosea was told to stay with his wife and give her money.
That's weird.
And you know what?
I'm just not going to go against authority.
I'm not going to go against the institution of marriage.
I'm not suggesting for women to leave their husbands for any reason.
I mean, think about the Bible.
Just let's think about the Bible.
Doesn't Abraham's son have to consent unto death?
Doesn't Jephthah's daughter have to consent unto death?
I want to elaborate on this more in the evening, but doesn't Hagar?
She's treated very harshly and very poorly by Sarah, her mistress, runs away,
and then God shows up and says, "Get back to your mistress and submit to her."
I mean, what's the problem here?
Look, if your master is a terrible master, that's their problem.
Doesn't Jacob have to submit unto Laban even though he's changed his wages 10 times
and ripped him off and done all kinds of evil unto him?
There's this idea like, "I only serve as long as I like how I'm being led."
No, you just follow your leader.
Now, yeah, is there some boundary like, "Hey, my leader's jumping off a cliff into hell."
Yeah, well, I'm going to get saved.
My leader's trying to not serve God.
Okay, yeah, well, I'm going to serve God.
But within the boundaries of the Bible, you follow your leader, period.
You submit to them, and the guy that says anything else is proud, knowing nothing,
doting about questions and strikes of words, where it's come with envy, strife, railings,
evil surmising, perverse disputings of men of corrupt minds, and destitute of the truth,
supposing that gain is godliness from such withdrawal of thyself.
The Bible says this is what that person looks like that disagrees with us.
He's constantly envious, he's constantly causing strife,
he's constantly railing, and he's dreaming up all this evil surmising.
He's just dreaming up all this evil that doesn't even really exist.
It's making things up.
That's what's happening.
I've seen this happen all over the world.
I'm seeing it happen even amongst fundamental Baptists.
I'm seeing this happen even amongst friends of ours.
It's crazy.
Go to 1 Peter chapter 2, go to 1 Peter chapter 2.
Don't get this virus of the mind that says,
"I will submit to my leader as long as they're doing right."
Nope, believing master, submit.
Unbelieving master, submit.
Good master, submit.
Bad master, submit.
Just submit.
Why do the children of Israel not leave Egypt until Pharaoh told them to leave?
Have you ever wondered that?
Have you ever even thought about it?
Do you think Pharaoh was a good master?
Do you think Pharaoh was treating them really nice?
Do you think Pharaoh was leading by example?
They could not go until Pharaoh said.
Now, they could have gone physically,
but God wouldn't have protected them and driven them out of there.
They had to go when God was saying it was time,
and God says you can't go until Pharaoh says you can go.
Have you ever read the Bible?
Oh, Pharaoh's such a great leader.
Come on.
What does the Bible say in 1st Peter chapter 2 verse 17?
Honor all men, love the brotherhood, fear God, honor the king.
That's also the king of your castle.
Servants, be subject to your masters with all fear,
not only to the good and gentle, but also to the froward.
Oh, my husband's so froward.
Submit.
Hey, when can I leave my husband?
Never.
When can I attack him?
Never.
When can I not do what he wants?
Never.
Well, but he's froward.
That's your problem.
But honestly, it's not your problem.
It's his problem.
Abigail had a froward husband.
She didn't leave her husband.
She just prayed that he would die.
I mean, look, people bring up the most extreme scenarios.
Like, my husband's a reprobate.
And it's like, okay, let's pray for him to die.
But Abigail didn't leave him.
Now, when he was drunk, she may have slept somewhere else
and wake--waked until he was sober to go talk to him.
But she didn't leave house.
She didn't leave him.
She's still under his authority.
And then God kills him.
God kills him.
You know what?
Why don't people just not fear God?
I mean, have you seen the world today?
Filled with all kinds of diseases and cancers and illnesses
and just car accidents and just evil.
People getting shot for no reason.
It's all coincidences.
Everything's literally a coincidence.
Or you could just say maybe God's just judging people all the time.
And you never know when God may close the door on you.
That's why you should fear God.
Did you notice?
Be subject to your masters with all fear.
When people disregard their master, go against their master's wishes,
they get punished severely in the Bible.
What does it say in verse 19?
"For this is thank worthy of a man for conscience toward God and your grief,
suffering wrongfully."
God would never want me to suffer wrongfully.
No, no, no.
For this is thank worthy.
God is saying you're awesome if you suffer wrongfully.
God does not say, "Oh, you poor little victim, you.
Let's go to some liberal feminist lawyer and take him to the cleaners."
No, the Bible says suffer wrongfully.
That's why you should be careful you marry.
Go to 1st Peter chapter 3, 1st Peter chapter 3.
Well, God doesn't want me to live this life.
God wants me to live a different life.
No, no, that's the life God picked for you.
Sorry.
And all you poor little housewives living in such an oppressive, oppressive, oppressive kingdom.
I mean, the children of Israel and Egypt were 400 years.
If I put you, if I just traded places with you with some chick back then
for five minutes, you would be screaming to come back.
You would just be, you'd be like, please, there's no dishwasher.
There's no remote vacuums.
There's no air conditioning.
You got to have food on the table that you handmade or you don't eat.
You don't even have, there's no fruit.
You're not getting just fresh strawberries and grapes and apples whenever you want.
There's seasonality. I mean you just don't even understand how good you have it.
And it's so funny the people that have it the best feel like their life is the worst
and the people that have the worst they're so thankful for the little things that they get.
Hey start treating your husband like a king and maybe you'll start feeling like a queen.
Well but he's just, he's just not worth it.
He's not worthy of that.
He doesn't deserve it.
Who cares if he deserves it?
Verse one, "Likewise, be wise, be in subjection to your own husbands,
that if any obey not the word,
they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives.
While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear."
What does the Bible say?
Obey your husband when he's great.
No, obey your husband period.
Well, what about in this situation where he does not obey the word?
Submit, submit and have chaste conversation coupled with fear.
Now, you're not afraid of your husband.
You're afraid of God.
You're afraid of God dealing with you.
And look, no leader, this is why it's so important.
None of us men will ever be a perfect leader.
If I get up here and say, hey, if your house isn't going well, men,
just lead a little bit better.
Well, then we're all just doomed.
It's over.
Your husband will never be a perfect leader.
You'll never agree with all your husband's decisions.
You'll never like how your husband punishes your children every single time.
Punishment isn't even fun.
You may even think like, I don't really agree with how he did it.
And you're inside, but then you just, you know what?
You just give him respect anyways.
I don't like how long he slept the other day.
Doesn't matter.
Tilly please.
I don't like where he wants the dad chair to be in the living room.
That's where it's going to be.
I don't like the car he picked out.
That's the car you're going to have.
I don't like the meal that we have to have this evening.
That's the meal you're going to have.
Hey, I don't like, I don't like the church that my husband's dragging me to.
Go, sit down, shut up and just enjoy church anyways.
Oh, but I have a choice.
Yeah, you have a choice to just hurt yourself too, right?
I mean, hey, I have the free will to punch myself in the face right now.
Do you think I should do that?
Do you think it's a cool idea?
Let's just bring up every hypothetical of every free will decision people can make.
Yeah, I'm not a Calvinist.
We all have free will.
But you know what?
It's stupid to go against your husband.
It's wicked.
It's ungodly.
It's satanic.
Period.
I just don't think that he deserves it.
Shut up.
Go to Joshua 24.
You know what?
The men are the king of the castle.
You wouldn't talk to the king that way, then don't talk to your husband that way.
If you stood before King James, how would you talk to him?
That's how you should talk to your husband.
I have to use somebody that in theory you might respect.
I don't know. We have very little people today. If you are single and you are trying to become the princess of the royal family in England,
how would you talk to that guy? That's how you talk to your husband. That's how you respect his decisions.
Whatever he wants goes. So number one, if the king of the castle gets to decide the punishment of his household,
everything's gonna be after his pleasure. And here's the third thing that's really important, is the whole family needs to get on the king of the castles program.
It is his program that we're on. It's his punishment, it's his pleasure, and it's his program.
What is that program? Whatever church he wants, whatever job he's gonna have, whatever house he wants to have,
whatever part of the world he wants to live in, whatever his vision is for the family.
Hey, we're gonna get on dad's program. We're getting on the father's program.
It's his house. It's his kingdom. It's his castle. You're going to live in his castle.
You don't get to decide where that castle's at. You don't get to decide what dragons he's gonna go fight.
You don't get to decide anything. It's his program. Just get on his program.
Joshua 24 verse 15, "And if it seem evil unto you to serve the Lord, choose you this day, whom ye will serve,
whether the gods which your fathers serve, that were on the other side of the flood,
or the gods of the Amorites, and whose land ye dwell. But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord."
He didn't say I will serve the Lord. He said we will serve the Lord.
Oh, well you know what? My dad took me to an old Ivy Church. Well, you know what? I'm taking you to a new Ivy Church.
How many men are being drug out of the church they want to go to by their wife?
We need wives to put their husband into the king's chair again and say wherever the king wants us to go to church,
that's where we're going to church. And people say, "We don't need this kind of preaching."
Yeah, but you and I both know there are women dragging their husbands out of a good church.
You don't sit here and act like, "Oh, you're sitting over the top." No, this is affecting people's lives.
And they need to get on the king's program, whatever the king wants.
What vision do you want for your family? That's the vision you have. Go to Genesis chapter 35.
Go to Genesis chapter 35. Obviously men need to be a good leader and they should make good decisions,
but you know what? You get on his program. Now obviously if your husband says, "We're not going
to go to church," I believe the wife has the right to go to church. But at the end of the day,
we need to get on the husband's program. And again, if your husband is like in the
Ananias and Ziviris scenario saying, "Let's lie to church," you don't lie to church. Okay, I'm not
taking it to some extreme to say, "Wise, disobey God over your husband." No, no, no, no. Obviously
we live under a tree of hierarchy and authority and we obey the higher powers, but everything
underneath God's umbrella that the husband's umbrella is, you're just in that umbrella and
you're on that program and you follow his leadership. And look, obviously if you're in
my church, hearing this preaching, he's not dragging you to the Roman Catholic Church.
He's not dragging you to some church that's going to violate your conscience to go against the things
of God. And you know, a lot of women that get drugged to a church like ours, they end up realizing
it's not that bad, it's not that scary. There's actually a lot of perks to coming to our church.
All the free baby showers, all the free women's events. Hey, I mean, you guys, you ladies don't
even realize how nice it is to have a husband that'll pay all the bills. I mean, it's not as
easy as it has been in the times past. Men have to work really hard to pay all the bills, and they
can work really hard and still even struggle to pay the bills. And you know what? You should
respect him if he's paying the bills. I don't care if you live in a one-bedroom efficiency
laying on a mat on the floor. You respect him. Paying the bills is hard. And you know what?
If he says we're going to church, you just get dressed and go to church. Genesis 35 verse 1,
"And God said unto Jacob, Arise and go up to Bethel and dwell there, and make there an altar
unto God that appeared unto thee when thou fledst from the face of Esau thy brother. Then Jacob
said unto his household and to all that were with him, Put away the strange gods that are among you
and be clean and change your garments, and let us arise and go up to Bethel. And I will make there
an altar unto God who answered me in the day of my distress and was with me in the way which I went.
And they gave unto Jacob all the strange gods which were in their hand and all their earrings
which were in their ears and Jacob hid them under the oak which is by Sheikah. Jacob says, "Hey,
you're not going to have this type of worship. You're not going to have this sin in your life."
He commands his whole household, "We're getting right with God. Give me all this junk and we're
going to get right with God." And you know what? Men need to get their house in order and men need
to rule and men need to be submitted unto. When he wants to serve God, you serve God with him.
Go over to Jeremiah 35. We're going to end on a story here. You know, the Bible says
in 1st Corinthians 10, it says, "Why is my liberty judged of another man's conscience?"
And I'm not going to take all the time to explain that. I wanted to. I'm out of time.
But here's the thing. I have liberty to rule my house however I see fit. My punishment, my
pleasure, and my program. If you don't like it, if your conscience is like, "I don't really like how
Pastor Shelley does it," but you don't have a clear verse on the Bible, I don't care. Because
you know what? My liberty, my freedom, is not judged by your conscience and vice versa. Your
liberty is not judged by my conscience. So if you have a different standard, you have different
rules in your household, don't judge me and I won't judge you. And we'll just say, "Hey, you're king,
I'm king, we're all kings. Let's go serve the king and let's get on his program." We accept
God's punishment, we do whatever God pleases, and we get on God's program. And let me tell you
something, God respects male authority, God respects the man in the household. He sees him
as a king. Look at Jeremiah 35 verse 5. So this Jeremiah says, "And I sat before the sons of the
house of the wreckabites, pots full of wine and cups, and I said to them, 'Drink ye wine.' But
they said, 'We will drink no wine.' For Jonah dabbed, the son of Recap, our father commanded us,
saying, 'Ye shall drink no wine, neither ye nor your sons forever. Neither shall ye build house,
nor sow seed, nor plant vineyard, nor have any. But all your days ye shall dwell in tents,
that ye may live many days in the land where ye be strangers.' Now look, everything that was brought
up by this guy is not a Bible commandment. There's nothing in the Bible that says you can't drink
wine. There's nothing in the Bible that says you can't build houses. There's nothing in the Bible
that says you have to dwell in tents. But you know who said that? The king of the castle said that.
And as soon as the king of the castle says that, well, now you can't do it. Hey, we can't drink
wine. Dad says we can't, because dad is the king of the castle. And you know what's interesting
about this story? And I want to make you a little nervous here. They don't live under daddy's roof
either, and daddy's rules still apply. The Bible says honor thy father and thy mother. It doesn't
say until you turn 18, until you think you're smarter. It doesn't even say this, until he dies.
It's just period. We need to put dads back on their throne. Whatever dad says goes. Now,
we should take that responsibility carefully as men and make reasonable rules. I think we should
be reasonable, but if dad says no wine, no wine. Now, skip to verse 14, the words of Jonadab. This
is God talking. The son of Recap, that he commanded his sons not to drink wine, are performed. For
under this day they drink none, but obey their father's commandment. Notwithstanding, I have
spoken unto you, rising early and speaking, but you harken not unto me. God's saying like, how in
the world are these people following just their dad's rules, and then my children are breaking my
rules? This is just crazy. You should be following my rules more than dad, but they're following
dad's rules. But then he explains how he believes this. Look at verse 18. This is God again,
speaking through the mouth of Jeremiah. Jeremiah said in the house of the recubites, thus saith the
Lord of hosts, the God of Israel, because you have obeyed the commandment of Jonadab your father,
and kept all his precepts, and done according unto all that he hath commanded you. Therefore,
thus saith the Lord of hosts, the God of Israel, Jonadab the son of Recap shall not want a man to
stand before me forever. He says, hey, because you obey dad, you guys are going to live forever.
You're going to live long lives. You're going to always stand before me. You're going to always
be in the house of God. Boy, wasn't that pretty important to follow that rule? Oh, but they could
have left whenever they wanted. Yeah, they could have left and died and had no legacy, no heritage,
been severely chastened and punished by God. Yeah, if you don't want to be a good sheep,
you can be put to sleep. But don't think that you can just do whatever you want without punishment,
without recourse. You know, the word volunteer means to do something for free where there's no
consequence, right? I could go volunteer at some homeless shelter tomorrow and if I quit, there's
zero punishment because it's volunteer. You know, I'm not volunteering at my job. If I decide to
just not go in and then my boss is like, what's up? And I'm like, I just don't want to work anymore.
I just don't like it. You're mean. You have rules. You made me clock in. Bye. There's a consequence.
Yeah, women could just do stupid things, but there's going to be a consequence if they leave
their husband. There's going to be a consequence when you break God's commandments. There's going
to be a consequence when you go against God's word. There's going to be a consequence when
you despise your husband. Yeah, my cow became barren because she despised her husband David.
Yeah, there's a punishment. Yeah, if the husband just deemed that his wife, he's like concerned
about her, he could make her drink bitter waters of the jealous waters to figure out where she's at
on the issue. And God would punish her severely for doing that. God will punish you. God is saying,
"Hey, Gar, go submit back under your wife." God is saying, "Hey, I commend the sons of Recap."
Because you know what? They did what dad said because he's the king of the castle. We should
have men ruling in their households. And you know what, children? You better not stand in judgment
of your father. Your dad is right. The father is right. Go to Ephesians 5. Colossians 3 says this,
"Wife, submit in your own husbands as it is fit in the Lord." You obey the husband like he is the
Lord. Children, dad is right. And let me say something. If it's not Bible and your dad says
something different than me, dad is right. Pastor Shelley is wrong. Your dad is the right one.
You do what your father says. Now look, generally speaking, I'm preaching a lot of Bible and we
just do the Bible period. But when I express a personal opinion, if your dad disagrees,
if your dad says, "Hey, it's different," your dad is right and you do what dad says every time.
Wives, you do what your husband says. He is right. Ephesians chapter 5 verse 22,
"Wives submit unto your own husbands as unto the Lord." I mean, I think you're dramatic. He's not
a king. Okay, don't treat him like a king. Treat him like Jesus then. Is that better for you? Does
that help you a little bit better? Let's say Jesus was taking a nap a little too long. Would you go
bug him and get mad at Jesus? If Jesus wants food, would you be like, "I don't want to make that,"
or would you just make it? If Jesus said, "Hey, we're going to go to this church," would you be
like, "I don't like that church." If Jesus says, "Put beans in the chili," you put beans in the
chili. Hey, whatever Jesus says goes, right? That's how you're supposed to treat your husband.
He's sitting on the throne. Look at chapter 6 verse 1. "Children, obey your parents and the Lord,
for this is right." What's right? Dad. That's right. Dad is right. You just think the dads
are always right. Right. Yep. You think however dads punish their children's right. Yep. You
think whatever dads want, however they please is right. Yep. You think the dad's program's right.
Yep. Yeah. And all the correction. Hey, anytime we're off with the word of God, we should all
adjust and change. But when it's not in violation of this, let men eat of all the trees of the
garden as they see fit. Let men sleep however they want. Hey, let men use whatever words they want.
I don't care. Let men say whatever they want. Let men scream however they want. It's Tim the
Toolman. Hey, it's his castle. He gets to rule as he sees fit. And you know what? Go to a church
where you're going to be empowered as a man, not where you're going to get snipped, literally or
spiritually. Let's close in prayer. Thank you Heavenly Father so much for giving us the word
of God and giving us authority. Thank you so much for empowering men to rule their households. I
pray that we would take that great honor and that privilege and we would be benevolent, that we
would love our wives, we would love our children, that we would try to be a good example, that we
would go to bat for them, that we protect them, that we would cherish them, that we would treat
them with respect and honor. But I pray that you would help the ladies and that you would help the
children to see that the husband is given a special place of authority. He needs to be treated with
respect regardless of how they feel, regardless if they like it, that they would just decide to just
submit themselves. I pray that there's wives that have to submit themselves and they're being treated
wrong, that you would give them a good attitude about it anyways. I pray that you would help
marriages to get stronger and better. I pray that you would help the ladies to have the right attitude.
I pray that you'd help children to respect their dads and I pray that you would help us all as
children to have respect under you, respect under your word, that we would respect your punishments,
we would respect your pleasures and we would respect your program when we just get on it.
In Jesus name we pray. Amen. All right in closing let's go to song number 210. Song number 210.
Wonderful grace of Jesus greater than all my sin. Song number 210.
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