Welcome to Steadfast Baptist Church.
It's great to see everybody here tonight.
If we can go ahead and find our seats, we will get started.
Once you find a seat, grab a hymnal
and go to song number 449.
Song number 449.
Let's all sing it out together.
singing everybody. Let's open up the service now with a word of
prayer. Lord we love you and we just thank you for all the
things we get to do here Lord like soul winning and winning
people under you Lord. We thank you for the efforts this
afternoon and we just ask that you bless those and bless this
church and everything that it does and Lord just help us
sing out to you tonight and bless the the singing and the
preaching Lord and it's in Jesus name we pray. Amen. Alright
Wrong number 75.
if you're coming to St. Vassbaptist Church,
if you do not already have a bulletin,
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and get you guys a bulletin.
On the front, we have our Bible memory passage.
We're getting really close to finishing our Matthew 28.
Who's already quoted Matthew 28?
I'm just kind of curious if we have...
All right, so it looks like we got about 10 maybe already,
so that's great.
Who's going to get it completed?
All right, so we got another maybe 10 or so.
Okay, great.
Thank you for those who are working on the bio memory passage on the inside. We have our service times or soul winning times
Please make sure you're updating our church stats and our group chat as well as the maps in our bins
That would really help us on the right if you'd continue to pray for our expecting ladies
Upcoming events. We have a spring swap April 13th Mansfield soul winning marathon April 19th. That's a Saturday
We'll just be meeting here at the building
And then we'll be going out.
Mansel's really not that far from our church.
It's really just kind of on the other side of Joe Pool Lake.
And so we're just going to be heading west,
and we'll go out soul winning and have lunch out there.
So it'll be a lot of fun.
We have a ladies tea on May 10th.
On the back, we have a list of prayer requests.
So if you'd please be in prayer for them.
and I guess I was told there was some ladies
who ended up getting a lot of gifts together
to give to my wife, and I just,
we're just gonna give it to her after the service,
but thank you to everyone who did do that
to give her a gift and everything like that.
That's really nice of y'all, so thank you so much
for those gifts.
Let's go ahead and sing our Psalm of the Week,
Psalm 117, Psalm 117.
All right, that was Psalm 117, Psalm chapter 117.
Everybody now is offering plates are being passed around go ahead and turn in your Bibles to 1st Peter chapter 3
That's the book of 1st Peter chapter number 3
First Peter chapter 3, the Bible says,
Likewise ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands.
That, if any obey not the word,
they also may without the word be won
by the conversation of the wives.
While they behold your chaste conversation,
coupled with fear.
Who's adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plating the hair or of wearing of gold or of putting on of apparel?
But let it be the hidden man of the heart in that which is not corruptible
Even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit which is in the sight of God of great price
For after this manner in the old time the holy women also who trusted in God
Adorn themselves, being in subjection under their own husbands, even as Sarah obeyed Abraham
calling him Lord, whose daughters ye are, as long as you do well and are not afraid with
any amazement.
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife as
unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers
be not hindered.
Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another.
Love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous.
Not rendering evil for evil or railing for railing, but contrary-wise, blessing.
Knowing that ye are there unto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.
For he that will love life and see good days let him refrain his tongue from evil and his lips that they speak no guile
Let him askew evil and do good let him seek peace and ensue it for the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous
And his ears are open under their prayers
But the face of the Lord is against them that do evil and who is he that will harm you if he be followers of that which is good?
But, and if ye suffer for righteousness' sake, happy are ye.
And be not afraid of their terror, neither be troubled, but sanctify the Lord God in
your hearts, and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason
of the hope that is in you, with meekness and fear.
That, whereas they speak evil of you as of evil doers, they may be ashamed that falsely
accuse your good conversation in Christ.
For it is better if the will of God be so that she suffer for well-doing than for evil-doing.
For Christ also hath once suffered for sins the just for the unjust that he might bring
us to God, being put to death in the flesh but quickened by the Spirit, by which also
When once the long suffering of God waited in the days of Noah, while the ark was preparing,
wherein few, that is, eight souls were saved by water.
The like figure we're unto, even baptism doth also now save us.
Not the putting away of the filth of the flesh, but the answer of a good conscience toward God by the resurrection of Jesus Christ,
who has gone into heaven and is on the right hand of God, angels and authorities and powers being made subject unto him.
Let us pray.
Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for this day.
Thank you for this church, steadfast Baptist Church.
I ask you to bless Pastor Shelley now as he preaches your word.
Fill him with your Holy Spirit and let us all be attentive to-
what you've laid on his heart in Jesus' name. Amen. Amen. I want to look at the
beginning of this chapter. It says likewise he wives be in subjection to
your own husbands that if any obey not the word they also may without the word
be won by the conversation of the wives while they behold your chaste
conversation coupled with fear whose adorning let it not be that outward
adorning of the plating the hair or of wearing of gold or of putting on of a
but let it be the hidden man of the heart
in that which is not corruptible,
even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit
which is in the sight of God of great price.
And I wanna focus here on this verse number four
when it's talking about women and how they should behave.
And that's the title of my sermon
is how women should behave.
how women should behave.
Now, if we were going to ask ourselves
how women should behave,
we should simply just allow the Bible
to tell us what that looks like.
Not come up with our own ideas,
not let the world tell us what women should be like.
We should allow the Bible and clear verses
in the Bible to tell us what women should be like.
And what does the Bible say?
It says, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit.
So the Bible makes it abundantly clear,
women should be meek and quiet.
Now, the word even means specifically.
So the Bible is saying how should women behave themselves,
they should behave themselves in a meek and quiet spirit.
Notice what the Bible says, which is in the sight of God of great price.
Why is it that this is so valuable to God is because very few women in this world
have a meek and quiet spirit.
Now, having a meek and quiet spirit, I do not believe is just a personality.
It's not just like, well, some women have kind of a soft
personality, and then other women have a fiery personality,
and that's how women should behave themselves.
No, all women should strive to have a meek and quiet spirit
regardless of their personality.
And I want to talk about these two words
and what they mean biblically,
and what we're really talking about.
But notice it says in verse five,
for after this manner in the old time,
the holy women also,
who trusted in God, adorned themselves being in subjection under their own husbands,
even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him Lord, whose daughters he are as long as you do well
and are not afraid with any amazement. So the Bible says when you have a meek and quiet spirit,
you are a daughter of
Sarah and that you're being like Sarah and women should strive to be like Sarah if you're to say what woman in the Bible should women pick out
As a character to say this is the character I should try to be you should try to be Sarah
Sarah is a great character in the Bible and is is exemplified in the New Testament as the model woman
For behavior for women. So when other women will sometimes try to teach the Bible or preach the Bible
They never bring up Sarah
And these times I've heard a woman preacher
or some woman that has a platform,
they never bring up Sarah as what they want to be like.
They always want to be like some radical woman in the Bible,
doing something in an extreme scenario,
and then try to paint it in a way that the Bible does not paint it.
And I've heard recently this idea that women should be, quote, fiery,
or that women should act in a fiery manner.
This is not a word found in your Bible, nor is it biblical.
Okay, but I just just to give it a test. I said, okay AI
Who are the fiery women in the Bible?
I just asked Grock AI, I said like,
hey, who do you think are the fiery women in the Bible?
This is what it says.
This is number one, Deborah.
Said Deborah is the number one.
Number two, Jail.
Number three, Esther.
Number four, Rahab.
Five, Miriam.
Six, Mary Magdalene.
Seven, the woman at the well.
So according to AI,
these are the quote fiery women of the Bible.
And, of course, it was giving it to me in a context of it being positive or something like that.
But, you know, I just wanted to see, okay, what does the internet say?
Because that's usually what the world says.
You know, like AI is not actually thinking, AI is not actually intelligent, it's just
simply doing what it's programmed to do.
What does it program to do?
Take what a whole bunch of people said online and mold it together into a response into
an answer.
So many cases what AI or the internet does is it just kind of gives you an idea of what
the general consensus is or what a lot of people believe.
And so I just wanted to see kind of what that says.
It doesn't matter what most people believe,
it just matters what the Bible says.
And if the Bible is saying that Sarah is kind of unique
and that the women that are like her are unique,
I shouldn't expect the vast majority of people
to agree to that opinion.
Otherwise, Sarah would be a dime a dozen.
You know what, Sarah's not a dime a dozen.
There are very few women that are actually meek and quiet.
But I believe this is how women should behave themselves.
No, when we think about meekness,
the Bible says that Moses was one of the meekest man
But Moses is not a character that seems soft, weak.
He's a very strong leader.
He makes strong statements.
He yells and screams at the people.
He breaks the Ten Commandments.
I mean, this guy is rough.
What does meekness mean?
Meekness is simply humility.
It's Moses did not think of himself as a great person
and did not try to elevate himself,
but rather God elevated him.
Moses was willing for other people to be used,
for other people to speak.
In fact, he allowed his brother Aaron
to be the guy who spoke too thorough.
Because Moses was meek, he didn't have to do it.
He didn't have to be the guy.
In many ways, he didn't even want to be the guy.
But he did want the job to get done,
and God told him to do it,
so therefore he was willing to do it.
So Moses was meek in that regard.
In the same way, women should also show meekness
in the sense that they're humble.
humble in the sense that they don't feel like they have to take charge,
they don't have to put themselves in positions that they haven't been given,
they don't have to take over things. They simply are secure in the role that God has put them.
They're fine with being who God has made them, with being a woman. Today, feminism has destroyed
being feminine. Feminism has destroyed femininity because being a woman is a great thing. We need
We need women to be women.
We don't need women to be men.
We need women to be women so that men can be men.
And we have today just roles
who's constantly reversing themselves
and women feeling like they have to be a man to have value.
No, a woman being a woman is of great price
in the sight of God.
And of course, us men, we all in our heart,
we want our wives to be a woman.
We do not want our wives to act like a man.
To be like a man, to dress like a man,
to talk like a man, to try and lead us like a man would.
No, no, no, we want a wife.
We want to help me.
We want someone to come alongside of us
and be different than us.
We like you because you're different.
We don't want you to be like us.
Now in the second aspect of this, not only humility,
women are supposed to be quiet.
It's not just this, like, thing where it's saying
women aren't allowed to speak or something,
or they're not allowed to talk.
That's not what it's bringing up at all.
I want to go to 2 Thessalonians, chapter number 3,
and help us kind of get an idea of what this word could mean.
But obviously, we sing songs in our church.
Do women have to be quiet during the song service?
No, of course not.
In fact, I love the women singing,
and my wife is an incredible singer,
and she sings loud, and I love that.
I love it when my wife is singing loud.
So there's nothing wrong with a woman singing loud.
There's nothing wrong with a woman talking.
It's not like women's voices need to just be silenced
or something like that.
But what we have to understand is that quietness in the Bible is associated with
minding your own business. That is what quietness is associated with.
And I want to show you this in 2 Thessalonians chapter number three, verse number six.
Now, we command you, brethren, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that you withdraw
yourselves from every brother that walk at this orderly and not after the tradition which
he received of us.
For yourselves know how you ought to follow us, for we behaved not ourselves disorderly
among you.
labor and travail night and day,
that we might not be chargeable to any of you,
not because we have not power,
but to make ourselves an example unto you to follow us.
For even when we were with you, this we commanded you,
that if any would not work, neither should he eat.
For we hear that there are some
which walk among you disorderly.
working not at all, but are busy bodies,
now them that are such, we command and exhort
by our Lord Jesus Christ,
that with quietness, they work and eat their own bread.
The word quiet is not only applied to women.
The word quiet is also applied to men.
What does it mean for a man to work with quietness?
It's not saying he doesn't speak.
It's saying he's not going around
He is just with quietness just providing for himself taking care of himself and nobody needs to know anything that's going on
What would be the opposite of this?
This would be like someone coming into our church and just going around every single person
bothering them about their work
bothering them and saying like oh man I don't have any money oh man I can't
ever get a job oh man I just need a few bucks and they just go around and they
just rip every single person off in the congregation and you know what the Bible
says if someone does that we're supposed to point them out in the
congregation and admonish them to say you're doing something wrong leave
We are not allowed to just enable people to not work
and just get handouts from the members of the church.
And you know who's at fault?
The people that are giving the handouts.
You do not give handouts to young single guys
that will not work.
If there's a guy in our church, I mean, look,
men are supposed to provide for their wives
and their children.
How can a single guy not pay his own bills? Like what are you doing?
You should be working 80 hours a week or something. I mean, how could you not provide for yourself?
That's a shame, it's an embarrassment,
it makes Christianity look bad.
In fact, when we were driving back from soul winning,
there was a sign up on the pole,
and it said, no street charity,
and then it just had a big line through it.
It's like even the world realizes,
we don't just give money to people that won't work.
You know I give money to people, people that work.
Hey, if someone's down on their luck someone gets sick someone gets injured something bad happens to them
Hey, there's nothing wrong with coming alongside and helping that person and doing good in that person
I would like to help that person, but you know I like to help people that didn't ask me for it
People that are coming to me and trying to beg me for all these handouts. That's a red flag
And it's like oh, okay. Well, how about some work and they're like
Yeah, because that's not how it works in the house of God.
We should all here be working with quietness
in the sense that we don't need to go around bugging each other
and being a busy body and telling everybody sob story.
And of course, what a pan-enters love to do.
They come up to you and just start telling you
all these stories that you don't want to hear.
My cousin, you know, ran over my dog and then my car broke
and then my sister was supposed to meet me
and then I couldn't find her and just like,
bro, I know you're lying.
Like nothing that you're saying is true you told me this story last week
You know and so we should not be a church that just gives money indiscriminately to people that won't work
You're actually making their lives worse
Do not give money to people that will not work men need to work with quietness now
Let's take that and then go back to women if it means for a man to be quiet
What does that mean for a woman?
The same thing that she's minding her own business.
She's not going around getting involved
in other people's lives, being a busy body.
Go to 1 Timothy 5.
We're really close.
1 Timothy chapter number five.
Look at verse 11.
having damnation because they have cast off their first faith.
And with all they learn to be idle,
wandering about from house to house and not only idle,
but tatlers also in busy bodies,
speaking things which they ought not.
I will therefore that the younger women,
Mary, bear children, guide the house,
give none occasion to the adversary
to speak reproachfully for some are already turned aside
after Satan.
Women being tatlers and busybodies is satanic.
It's of the devil.
It's carnal, it's devilish, it's wicked, it's wrong.
Women should not be going around constantly gossiping,
getting stirred up, trouble and strife,
entering into other people's families and lives
and businesses and talking about all these other people's
lives and children and what their dress looks like
and what their house looks like
and what their makeup look like
and what their hair look like
and getting involved in other people's drama.
It's satanic.
Women should be quiet, meaning what?
Instead of worrying about everybody else,
how about you worry about yourself?
How about you worry about your family, your husband?
Look, man, if you have a husband, if you have children,
if you're doing homeschooling,
you could be more busy than you have hours in the day already.
Let alone making meals and cleaning and just I mean if you want to read the Bible if you want to educate
I mean there is more to do than you could possibly do
But some women don't want to do that. So, you know what they learn? They learn idleness
Did you see what it said and with all they learn to be idle that means they learn how to be lazy
lazy 101 and you know what there's a lot of women that'll teach you idleness 101
What do they do they're wandering about from house to house?
It says and not only idle but tatlers also in busy speaking things
Which they ought not you shouldn't speak everything, you know, it's like these people go on the I'm a crusader for truth
I have to just tell everybody all the truth and all the things that are going on
No, no, you're just a tatler and a busy body and you're actually of Satan. Yeah, you know tattling can be true
But just because it's true doesn't mean it's not satanic for you to go around and spreading that message
Because it's not your business. You're supposed to be quiet and minding your own business
Women are supposed to mind their own business. You know what they should be focused in on is their husband
You know instead of dreaming up what evil somebody's doing in their family. Why don't you learn a new recipe?
Right. I mean, why don't you learn how to make a new meal for your family?
Instead of just warming up SpaghettiOs or something for dinner
You could actually learn how to make it from scratch or something
You know this week or I think last week. I don't know it's recently my wife learned how to make tortillas
So she made quesadillas just completely from scratch and look I didn't tell her to do that
I didn't ask her to do that
But I'm so glad that she's learning how to make tortillas rather than going around spreading gossip about a bunch of people
And attacking a bunch of people online
She was with quietness, just working at home,
doing her own thing, busy with her own kids.
In fact, often my wife is talking to me about how
she feels like she can't get all the things done
that she was hoping to get done,
because there's so much to get done.
And then you see these women that supposedly
are homeschooling and raising all these kids and so busy,
but they have time to comment and post
on every social media event.
And they have all this time to write monologues, monologues online.
Look, this is Satanic, and it is a bad, bad example,
especially a pastor's wife to do such a thing,
because you're supposed to be an example under the other ladies.
And often what the pastor's wife does in moderation,
the church members will do in excess.
And when you see a wife of a pastor
that is constantly blowing her mouth and running her mouth
and just doing stuff that she shouldn't do,
you'll notice the people that follow her do it way worse.
More, because they see that example and they think,
oh, that's what I'm supposed to do.
I don't talk to my kids,
I talk to a bunch of trolls on the internet.
I mean, what husband comes home and is like,
how was your day?
What did you do?
Well, I didn't teach Johnny how to read.
I was arguing with this oneness heretic online.
Actually, I wasn't even arguing.
We were friends, we were buddies.
We were talking about how we hate the new IB together.
And then I was watching this other guy's troll videos
online and watching all his videos and commenting on him
and talking to him about how he's getting divorced
from his wife.
I mean, is that really what women should be doing?
It's just spending all of their day talking to trolls online,
harding trolls comments,
spending all their time just online.
It's like, where's your family that you love so much?
I mean, can you really riddle me this?
You don't, you spend all this time online.
How can you really love your children then?
How are you spending all this time talking to your children,
ministering to your children, doing good to your children?
When you just seem to be online and seeing everything
and making all these posts, it just doesn't make sense.
And then bragging about how you're fiery.
You know, being fiery is not a word in the Bible
that has anything to do with women.
Unless it's like a woman going to hell and she's on fire,
I don't know.
Like, I'm just trying to be honest.
Like, don't you think if you were a Bible teacher,
you would use a word in the Bible
that would actually relate to the topic?
If you're gonna say, how should women be fiery?
That's just not found in the text.
Now, I saw, I saw, you know, this is not just coming from AI.
There's some person that put this stupid post out there.
And they were saying, I want to be like the fire woman
in the Bible, and her list kind of matched this list.
But this was the list.
It was Jail, Hadassah, Abigail, Debra, Priscilla, and Lydia.
Now, this is what's so funny to me, is Lydia.
Don't you just remember how fiery she was?
She's the seller of purple.
I mean, man, you know, when you got purple from her,
it was fiery, man, you know?
I'm like, talk about just twisting the Bible
to fit your narrative.
And, you know, this is what I really noticed
is the word Hadassah.
Now, who knows who Hadassah is in the Bible?
Okay, yeah.
This is what I want to say.
If you ever give a list of names and you use Hadassah,
you're a holier than thou.
That's right.
Okay, you want to know why?
The word Hadassah is found in the Bible once.
and it's the name of Esther.
Now you know how many times Esther's mentioned in the Bible?
56 times.
What person would choose the name Hadassah over Esther
when Esther's used 56 times more in the Bible?
Esther's the name of the book in the Bible about Esther.
but then you want to put Hadassah.
You know why you want to put Hadassah?
Because you're fake.
Because you're fake and you want people to think
that you're smarter than them.
So you're like, Hadassah.
It's like, bro, we get it, you're so smart.
Oh man, Hadassah, right?
Nobody uses that except for in like Bible trivia.
Like if you were making a Bible trivia test,
you might put it in there like,
what was the name for Esther that was only used one time?
Hadasa, okay, good job.
But you're not gonna like make a public post
and be like, I wanna be like Hadasa.
It's like you're trying to be exotic or something like that
for the case of being exotic.
It's like, you know, a person that wants to communicate
a message is not trying to pull one over the congregation
and make it seem like they're smarter.
They use plain language,
the common and the vulgar tongue for people to understand.
And vulgar is not me behind closed doors.
It's vulgar in the sense that it's common, okay?
Volgar means common like the Latin vulgate that meant it was a common translation
Meaning instead of using these exotic names. They're using the common names just like if someone was like, what's your favorite Apostle?
Simon
No, it's Peter like no one no one would be like Simon, you know, we think of Peter, right?
It's a people trying to be exact the exotic like my favorite character in the Bible is Delta Shazzar
or Daniel, you know, it's like, come on,
don't be so arrogant and such a holier than thou
and try to act like you're better than everybody.
If you ask the internet what fiery even means,
let's go to Titus chapter two, I wanna go there,
we're pretty close, but fiery in the dictionary,
this is what it says, quick tempered, passionate,
angry, uncontrollable, aggressive.
Now, who in here wants their wife to be like that?
Quick-tempered, passionate, angry, uncontrollable, aggressive.
And usually what they do is they just circle the word passionate
and just ignore all the others.
And then when they're angry, they're like, no, I'm just passionate.
When they're quick-tempered, no, I'm just really passionate.
When they're uncontrollable, I'm really passionate, you know.
It's just like, no, being fiery is not something that men find attractive in women.
You know, they like women to be women.
They don't want to fight with you.
They don't want to argue with you.
They don't want you to be uncontrollable.
They don't want you to be overly aggressive.
You know, this is not a quality
that a man wants and a wife.
Men want their wives to be meek.
They want them to be quiet.
They want them to stay involved in their business.
And look, I want my wife focused in on me.
You know, if there was like a bunch of guys
that my wife hated.
The last thing I'd want to do is for her to always be talking about them
When wouldn't you feel a little uncomfortable if every time you hung out with your wife? She was just always bring up another guy
Even if it was a negative context you kind of start to weird you out like why are you so obsessed with this other guy?
Like why are you always bringing him up?
Oh, I saw his sermon and I saw what he was doing and I looked at his post and I was looking at his pictures
And I was watching his podcast and it's like that would I would be like stop
Wouldn't you as a normal man be like,
you're not allowed to just obsess about this other guy?
Whether it was positive or negative,
that would just be weird and inappropriate.
You know, I want my wife to obsess about me.
I want my wife to be obsessed with what I'm saying,
with what I'm doing and what I'm working on
and my food prep and my children and my house and my stuff.
That's what I want my wife to do because she's my wife.
And, you know, that's what women should do,
is you should focus on your husband.
That should be the man in your life.
That should be the guy that you're dreaming about,
thinking about, talking about, bringing up.
Think about your husband, to love your husband
and to love your children, is what the Bible says.
Look at Titus chapter two,
it's telling us how women should behave.
Verse three, the age of women likewise,
that they be in behavior.
As we come with holiness, if you miss that word,
you might get confused about this whole passage.
It's not talking about a college system,
how to run a college, it's about how to have behavior.
Now it says, not false accusers, that's the first thing.
You know, it's just crazy how many women
they just love to just make false accusations.
They just say all kinds of things that are wrong.
Not giving to much wine, teachers of good things,
that they may teach the young women to be sober,
to love their husbands, to love their children,
to be discreet, chase, keepers at home,
good, obedient to their own husbands
at the word of God, be not blaspheme.
You say like, how would a woman teach this?
It's not a formal education.
Look if the if the older women are just in the house making meals for their husband
Well, you know, it's gonna teach the other women. I guess I'm gonna do that, too
Whereas if the women are Gallivanting on the town going around doing their thing blowing their mouths off hanging out
Having this social club. Well, it's not gonna teach them to be at home
You're not gonna be doing that. You want the wife in the home. I want my wife at home. I want my wife in the kitchen
You know those tortillas aren't going to make themselves.
You know what I mean?
Hey, if you make homemade food, it takes time.
Anybody that knows making meals, I mean,
why is it that there's this huge industry of fast food
and pre-made food and processed food
is because they're trying to get to that goal quicker?
But you know what, we need to reverse that a little bit
in our culture and society and say,
you know what, maybe the Y should get back to the kitchen.
not to somewhere else in the world.
You know, they need to work with quietness.
They love their husband, then you love your husband.
They love their children, you love their children.
To be discreet, meaning you're not being a tatler.
What's the opposite of a tatler is discretion.
A discretion is you hear something
that you, you know, is kind of juicy.
You hear something about someone that you'd like to tell other people you hear something
That's really interesting that could make it on a tabloid and you don't tell anybody
You don't say that's being discreet. Hey, you see your husband doing something. You don't bring it up
You see your kids doing something. You don't bring it up. You see some lady dressed inappropriately. You don't bring it up
That's discreet. That's discretion. You know, what's a tatler?
Everything you can think of you just let everybody know
Revealing all kinds of secrets telling people this that's not being very quiet and it's not being very meek
You know, being quiet is keeping to yourself.
Hey, if you come across embarrassing information
about other people, you keep it to yourself.
You don't go around and just blather that to everybody.
You know, I've even heard, and I don't know if it's true,
but it wouldn't surprise me that there's pastors
who they have members come to them,
tell them, you know, their embarrassing life secrets,
and then they just go and tell everybody.
And they go and they spread it to their friends or they spread it to the people they hang out with or whatever.
You know what, there's like no sanctity between the pastor and church member confidence.
And you know what, that's wildly inappropriate.
Obviously, any pastor could make a mistake in that area,
but you know what, that should not be a common thing.
That should be extremely rare,
and we shouldn't be going around
revealing secrets from one another.
If someone in this church is your friend,
and they come to you and they tell you something
that's a little embarrassing or something bad that happened,
don't go spread that to everybody.
Don't go and tell everybody their problems
and their secrets and their issues and whatever.
You know, we need to have some discretion.
A good church, people are trying to cover for each other.
A bad church, everybody's ready to just trash everyone.
Trash one another gossip about everybody get everybody behind, you know, stabbing joys on the back be a backbiter
We don't want to be like that. We want to cover
transgressions and of course we need wives to be good
Obedient to their own husbands. Why so the word of God is not blaspheme
God looks bad when women are gossiping
God looks bad when women are tattling God looks bad when women are trying to be aggressive and fiery
Yes, that looks bad.
It's wrong, it's not of God, it's of Satan.
First Timothy, chapter number two.
We're just looking at all kinds of verses here.
And you know, I don't think it's a coincidence
that a lot of these verses are in the pastoral epistles
because you know who should be telling women how to behave?
The pastor.
not the pastor's wife, the pastor.
You know, it gets up and tells women how to behave,
the word of God, and the pastor is supposed to get up
and preach the word of God.
And it's embarrassing when a pastor's wife
feels like she has to do it.
It sounds like the pastor's not getting the job done.
You know what?
The pastor's wife needs to shut her mouth
so the pastor can get up and then tell the women
how to behave.
But you know what?
When he can't even tell his own wife how to behave,
how is he gonna tell the rest of the congregation?
You know when you can't even preach things at your house, how are you going to preach them at the house of God?
You have to first get your house in order before you can get the house of God in order and boy
Whatever weaknesses the pastor and the pastor's wife have often will be magnified in a congregation
You'll see and look I'm not perfect. My wife's not perfect, but she's real close and
You know at the end of the day, whatever weaknesses and imperfections we do have
it is going to hurt the congregation.
And so we should strive to be better.
And I hope that I can work on issues that I have.
And I hope I can become a better Christian.
I hope I can become a better husband.
I hope I can become a better father.
I hope I can become a better preacher.
You know, I don't think I've peaked.
I certainly hope not.
I certainly hope I can become a lot better preacher every year.
But at the end of the day, you know what?
We need to submit ourselves to a church where the man of God is going to get up and tell the husband's how to behave.
He's going to tell the wives how to behave.
He's going to tell the children how to behave.
He's going to tell all of us how to behave because it's not his opinion, it's the Word of God's opinion.
And we need the Word of God being thundered forth in churches today because women are out of control.
Women have gone crazy.
And we need some men to get them back in line.
We need men to stand up and be men
so women can be women again.
It's like, ah, you sound like you hate women.
You know what?
I love women.
Women are fantastic.
That's why I'm preaching this
is because I want women to be women.
I don't want you to get confused
and try to be something that you're not.
because you know what?
We need more women in this world to be women.
We need more godly mothers,
and we need more godly sisters,
and we need more godly wives,
and we need more godly women in general.
And you know what?
Some of the women in this church are great.
I mean, some of the women in this church
are fantastic soul winners.
our fantastic servants.
They help us accomplish so much work at this church.
They keep our church looking nice.
We have lots of young ladies in our orchestra
and in our band.
I mean, women are of great value.
They're what gave us life.
I mean, they brought us into the world.
Praise God for mothers.
And mothers are the ones that the children want more.
You know, none of my children are like,
want me, they're like, mom's way better.
When they're sick, when they're tired, when they're hungry.
I mean, virtually every way, they love their mother
because she's a mother.
If she was acting like me, well,
they wouldn't have that special mother in their life.
The one that's home, the one that's there to nurture them,
the one to guide them, to love them,
to be, you know, a different.
aspect of the relationship than a man.
Men bring something different to the table than women,
and we need women in these children's lives to be women.
You see, single mothers often becoming the man
in the relationship, and then they don't have a mother again.
We want moms to be moms.
And in order for moms to be moms, we need dads to be dads.
And we need men to be men.
We need men to tell their wives how to behave.
And we need to go to church where the pastor is going to get up
and back up the men and tell everybody what the Bible actually says on these issues.
First Timothy chapter, I don't know if we read this, let's read it.
verse 11, let the woman learn in silence with all
subjection, but I sever not a woman to teach, nor do you
superthority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam
was first formed, then Eve, and Adam was not deceived, but
the woman being deceived was in the transgression, not
withstanding, she shall be saved in childbearing if they
continue in faith, and chariot in holiness with sobriety."
Now, of course, this is not talking about spiritual
salvation. What are they going to be saved from? Well,
they're going to be saved from the temptations of sin that
being the tattler, being the busybody,
because God gives them a lot to do.
Being a mother is a hard job.
I think that in some ways it's way harder than the job I have.
Some ways it's not.
Some ways it's way harder because it's like,
my wife doesn't really get to clock out.
You know, and so that's definitely really hard and in some ways my wife's harder job is harder because she doesn't get paid really
You know, she doesn't really get like some kind of a obvious paycheck
So she may not get that psychological reward of like I earned this money or something like that
She doesn't necessarily have a boss give her a praise report the same way or she doesn't get to work with other
high-level colleagues.
You know, when we go to work
and we get to talk to other smart people
that can be enjoyable,
she often has to condescend
to men of low estate, our children,
and has to have really basic conversations.
You know, teaching children how to read is mind-numbing.
That's why there's so many memes and jokes about it,
because it's just like,
it's just so frustrating to teach a child how to read.
It really is.
But you know what?
Praise God for all the women that taught us how to read.
So that we could read the King James Bible.
So that we could understand and and be successful in our jobs and in our lives
You know, we need women or lives go to 1 Corinthians 14. I want to go another place here
You know women need to be
Focused in on the work that God has given them not the work
He hasn't given them and God has not given women the job of being the pastor of being the teacher
of the church.
She's the teacher of the children in the home.
But you know what that takes?
It takes meekness.
It takes humility to say, you know what?
I'm fine teaching my children at home.
I don't need to go around teaching everybody else.
And look what it says in 1 Corinthians chapter 14, verse number 34,
Let your women keep silence in the churches,
for it is not permitted unto them to speak.
But they are commanded to be under obedience,
as also sayeth the law.
And if they will learn anything,
let them ask their husbands at home,
for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.
Now...
We live in a unique time because we have the internet,
we have cell phones, and communication has exploded.
The way to communicate to a mass audience
in a singular way is so unique to history.
In times past, if you're going to church
and you're never allowed to speak,
which church is the congregation where we all get together?
You're not allowed to speak.
And then if you have any questions
and you're only allowed to ask at home,
you're never gonna learn from anywhere but church
and your husband.
That's the only way you're gonna learn.
But now today, because we have the internet,
because we have social media,
it's afforded people to have this ability
for women to reach a large audience
in a very short period of time.
And as a result of that, many women have fallen in this trap of thinking that they need to teach the Bible now all of a sudden.
But think about it, for the first 6,000 years approximately of human history, this didn't happen because it can't happen.
Right? I mean there's just no way for women to just spread this broad message to a bunch of women the way that the Internet has caused it to be enabled.
For the vast majority of human history,
churches were just run by men and it was the patriarchy
and women were never allowed to teach and preach.
It's only kind of in the recent last 50 years or so,
you have a bunch of dykes and women preachers
like Joyce Meyer, like Beth Moore,
like these women getting up and preaching
and teaching the Bible.
You don't have all these commentaries
written from Joan of Arc or all these women
throughout history because they weren't.
ever in those positions it's unique to now that women are now teaching the Bible publicly
in a big way to large audiences it's completely unique and here's the thing any doctrine that's
right is not unique to one moment in history word of God is universal and if women needed to get
up and teach other women the Bible riddle me this when was that possible at the time of Christ how
How is it possible at one hundred eighty or two hundred eighty or three hundred eighty or four hundred eighty or five hundred?
I mean you're gonna tell me that the
Commandment in Titus chapter two of the aged women teaching the other women was only for right now when they have the internet
No and look. Oh, well, we're missing out
Yeah, because the last 50 years of Bible teaching by women has really helped America hasn't it?
It's really exploding in righteousness and femininity.
That's biblical, no, it's feminism,
which is teaching women to be men
because they stepped into a role to be a man.
It's an instant oxymoron for a woman to get up
and start having these women Bible studies
and teaching women publicly.
It's wrong, it's satanic, it's not what the Bible says.
They're not permitted to speak.
They shouldn't be speaking.
They should be put back in the kitchen.
Ah, but I'm gonna try and be like jail or something.
Jail was a woman in the, go to, let's go to judges, all right?
What does the Bible actually say about these characters?
Cause it's like women dream up Zena, the warrior princess,
and then insert jail's name on her or something.
And I'm thinking like that is not who jail was in the Bible.
Let's see what the Bible says about these characters.
For a second time, I'm not going to read all these passages.
I had a little bit more that I wanted to read,
but, you know, honestly, you can read about Debra and Jail.
This is like their go-to, is Debra and Jail,
which they're in the same story.
Debra and Jail are in the book of Judges
at the same time in history.
What is the timeline?
The children of Israel have done evil
in the sight of the Lord,
and they've been delivered to their enemies.
And there's no one to deliver them.
There's no man that's standing up in the entire nation.
There's no man on the earth doing anything about it.
They have extremely weak leadership.
Beirac, Obama, I mean, just Barack, okay, that's all right.
Whatever. It's Beirac is in charge,
and it's just no one's getting the job done.
They're being oppressed by their enemies.
So finally, Debra's like, just tell Beirac to come here.
She's mostly just sitting under a tree.
People are just coming to her for judgment.
which, hey, she's not aggressive,
she's not going out there,
she's not trying to just push some agenda,
but she does eventually just ask Bayrack to come.
And she has a word from God to him,
and she says, Bayrack, go to the battle.
And then Bayrack's like, I'm only gonna go if you go.
Talk about a weak guy.
He has to drag some woman out there
to the battlefield with him.
And she says, fine, I'll go, but here's the problem for you is you're not going to actually
get the victory.
Another woman's going to get the victory.
You know what the whole point of this passage is?
It's to shame weak men.
It's not to say, here's the model of women in the world.
It's to say, here's what it looks like
when you have weak men, weak leaders, weak pastors
that won't do the job.
Well, sometimes a woman or every once in a while
just be like, can you please do it?
Can you please preach it?
Can you please do something about our enemies?
But because Bayrack is so weak,
he doesn't even get the victory.
Jail gets the victory.
Him and a bunch of children of Israel go and fight.
They win the battle.
Cicera.
escapes and then jail comes out to meet him says hey come into my tent
Notice where she's at again
The tent she's at the tent then
He get he asked for water. She gives him milk
All the great women will give you milk, okay?
milk is a good doctrine and
Then she gives him butter. He gets all tidy, you know tucked up in bed. She puts the blanket over him
And then as soon as he falls asleep, she gets out the nail
and she just spikes it into his temples and just kills him.
Now there's a song that Deborah and Bayrack sing about this
and they talk about jail.
Let's read a little bit of this song.
It says in verse number six,
in the days of Shamgar, the son of Anath,
and the days of jail, the highways were unoccupied
and the travelers walked through byways.
Why are the highways unoccupied?
It's because there's so much danger.
There's so many bad things happening,
and there's no judgment that everybody's afraid to travel.
Traveling is basically just too scary, too dangerous,
and that's why they're going by byways,
meaning they have to sneak around
because it's just such a dangerous time in the world.
So when women are the judge,
it's saying it's the worst time in human history.
I mean, think about it like, I want to be like Deborah.
Oh, you mean you want to be in the worst time in history?
Like, if Debra was causing the world to be great,
then you would think this would be a high point in human history.
No, high points in human history are Solomon, not Debra.
This is like the lowest of the low times
when you have to get to a woman to help you, okay?
And it's saying, in the days of jail also, it was like this.
It says, the inhabitants of the villages ceased.
meaning people are just dying, no birth, no children,
nothing good happening.
They ceased in Israel until that I, Deborah, rose,
that I rose a mother in Israel.
So think about it this way,
your entire nation's crumbling before your eyes.
No man will fight the battle.
You're even potentially, who's that gonna threaten?
That's gonna threaten you, that's gonna threaten your children,
that's gonna threaten your grandchildren,
that's threatening your entire life.
And you know what?
Has the right to defend herself and her children from eminent death when no one will get the job done
And that doesn't mean that she's not meek or quiet
Look, I believe with all my heart that as some guy comes and knocks on you ladies door at night and your husband's not home
You're gonna get the shotgun out
You're gonna get the gun, you're gonna blow his head off.
And you might pull a jail.
But you know what you're not doing?
You're not putting your six-shooter on your hip
and walking up and policing the streets at night.
As some fiery boss babe or something like that.
You're not gonna go join the police force, right?
I mean, look, that is not the right model.
Women should not join the police force.
Women should be in the house.
But let me tell you something.
Women should be a sharp shooter.
Hey, I have no problem with women knowing how to defend themselves when someone comes and there's danger in the household
When her family and her life are threatened. Yeah, let's smoke his head off
But you know what we're not going around
Trying to do that proactively. Hey
Cicera came by her tent and she's like all right. Here's an opportunity
No one's getting the job done. I'll get the job done
Because why? She wants to protect her family. She wants to protect her nation. She's rising up a mother a mother protects
It's young. You look in the wild mother animals will often protect and fight very intimidating beasts to protect their young
You know because they have that instinct to protect their young that doesn't make them these fiery women
That makes them a loving mother that wants to defend their family
It says in verse number nine,
my heart is toward the governors of Israel
that offer themselves willingly
among the people, bless ye the Lord.
This is an interesting verse
because women governors today would say like,
I'm like Deborah, no, she wasn't a governor.
Her heart was towards the governors.
She wants the men that are governing
to actually do their job.
She doesn't want to replace them in the government.
Women should not be in government.
Women should not be governors.
Women should be in the tent.
It says, speak ye that ride on white asses,
ye that sit in judgment and walk by the way.
She's saying, you guys need to judge.
You guys need to govern.
You guys need to lead.
You guys need to fight the battle.
She's wanting men to lead.
That's Deborah, not her.
She's wanting to be quiet.
But when no one will get the job done obviously
When push comes to shove she's willing to just tell them hey guys get out there and defend us get out there and protect us
okay, and
We get to jail. Let's skip all the way down to short verse 24
Blessed above women shall jail the wife of heaver the keen and I be blessed shall she be above women in the tent
Notice again jails in the tent. She's in the kitchen
I mean, how could she not be in the kitchen
when you think about what it says next?
He asked water and she gave him milk.
She brought forth butter and a lorry of the dish.
Why is jail being praised?
Her food.
And think about this.
I know this is hard for you ladies
to grasp your mind around because of modern technology,
but you don't just get butter.
You know how you get butter by churning of milk?
means that you're a hard worker.
It means that you were actually in the kitchen
making the, but the only way you had butter
is that you had to work really, really hard
and put a lot of effort and energy into.
It's a luxury from the hard work
of a wife actually doing her job.
So what was jailed in?
Jail wasn't on social media posting all day.
She was in the kitchen making butter.
Yeah.
And she actually had butter to offer
to this man that came into her home.
That is the type of woman that the Bible's praising, but you know when women say I want to be like jail
They're not saying I can't wait to be in the kitchen making new recipes
They're saying I want to be this like boisterous woman going out and fighting men. You know, that's the bad attitude
That is not what the Bible teaches. Oh, I want to be like Esther because she's fiery. No Esther's not fiery
It was a vasty and she got fired
The fiery woman got fired, she got replaced.
Go to Esther chapter one, go to Esther chapter one.
Not Hadassah chapter one, Esther chapter one.
Look, jail was a kind woman
and she used her strengths to her advantage.
She's a hard-working woman, and she used the butter,
she used the milk, she was praised,
she smote off the temple of sister's head, amen.
And she was willing to do that, and it was a difficult task,
and it showed a courageous boldness.
But you know, it wasn't like she's going out
trying to fight the battle, she wasn't on the front lines,
she wasn't trying to do something on her own,
she just simply stepped up to the plate
when the need arise.
You know, and it's not like her husband was there.
I mean it's a bear how embarrassing would this have been if the husband was home
You know, it's like if I'm in a fight with a man
It's embarrassing if your wife has to get involved and think about this
You know why the wife got involved because you were losing
Not because you're winning. I mean if you're winning the battle the wife doesn't feel the need to get involved in the fight
She gets involved in the fight because you can't win
and you're too weak and pathetic
and she's mad at you losing
so she tries to get in there.
But you know what, it just makes you look even weaker
when your wife's fighting the battles for you.
You know, women need to be meek and quiet,
not getting into the fight, not attacking people,
not running their mouth online,
you know, not being a busy body,
not getting involved in matters that don't belong to them,
worry about your own family.
Worry about your life and what you're doing.
Better yourself.
Quit worrying about everybody else.
You know, these women that say like,
but I just care so much to help other ladies.
No, you don't.
You're only doing it for attention.
Everything you're doing is for yourself.
You don't actually love other ladies.
You don't actually really wanna help other people.
Because if you really wanted to help ladies,
you would model for them being a meek and quiet woman.
You wouldn't go around running your mouth
and getting involved in matters that you shouldn't.
And you know, what wives really need to do,
and this is important, is they need to obey their husbands
and set a good example of never going against them,
especially publicly.
Esther chapter one, verse nine says,
also vastly the queen made a feast
for the women in the royal house
which belonged to King Ahasuerus.
Don't let this verse skip by what I just said.
Let's read it again.
Also, Vastie, the queen, made a feast for the women.
She's in women's industry.
Vastie's so interested in helping the women.
Oh, I just love the women.
I'm gonna make a feast for the women.
And you know what? She's not doing it for the women.
She's doing it because she wants the attention, folks.
She likes the attention,
and it's obvious that she doesn't care about the women
because she's gonna harm all the women
by disobeying her husband here in the next few verses.
Says on the seventh day,
when the heart of the king was married with wine,
he commanded Mahumum,
Bista, Harbona, Bigtha,
Abagtha, Zethar, and Carcass.
These names did not catch on, I'll tell you what.
the seven chamberlains that served in the presence
of a hazardous, the king, to bring Vashti, the queen,
before the king with the crown royal,
to show the people and the princes her beauty,
for she was fair to look on.
But the queen Vashti refused to come
at the king's commandment by his chamberlains,
therefore the king was very rough and his anger burning him.
So Vashti makes a meal for women.
King of Asurus says, will you come?
Come to my meal.
I want you to hang out with me.
You're my wife."
And she says, no, this is bad.
This is very, very, very, very bad.
Notice what these guys say.
Let's skip a little bit ahead.
Verse 16.
Mimucan answered before the king and the princes,
vastly the queen had not done wrong to the king only,
but also to all the princes and to all the people
that are in all the provinces of the king of Hazarus.
Hey, she ruined it for everyone.
This woman is bad news for this deed of the of the queen. She'll come abroad and all women
So that they shall despise their husbands and their eyes when it shall be reported the king has just commanded
Vasity the queen to be brought in before him, but she came not
Likewise, so the ladies of Persia and media say this day unto all the king's princes
Which have heard of the deed of the queen thus shall there rise too much contempt and wrath
He's saying you're going to just cause it to where none of our wives will be any of us ever again
If your wife can say no to you then our wives can definitely say no to us
And you're gonna cause too much contempt too much wrath too many problems
You know, this is just not something that can be tolerated
If it please the king, let there go a royal commandment from him
and let it be written among the laws of the Persians and the Medes,
let it be not altered that Vashti come no more before the king of Hazris,
and let the king give her royal estate unto another that is better than she."
You know what's sad is that women will get mad at me and get mad at what I'm saying.
And they'll say, I just don't like what he's saying.
I can't believe my husband being charged.
You know what? I'm going to still tell my husband what to do.
You know what I'm still gonna order them around. I'm still gonna dress like a man. I'm still gonna do whatever I want
I'm still gonna have all my ladies parties, and then you know what her husband does
Here's the divorce papers, honey
People that come to this church
Hey, oh you're just preaching hypotheticals bastard Shelley. No, no, no. Hey wise. Why don't you just do what your husband says?
And you know what divorce is wicked and no man should do that, but boy don't beg for it
Don't push a bunch of guys to just give that to you. And you know what you should stay away from those kind of people
Should be hanging out with them because notice that when Vasity does this this can hurt other people
And when you're around other people, if you're around women
that are talking trash on their husband,
you should get away from them.
If you're around women that are saying no to their husband,
you need to get away from them.
You don't want to pick up that attitude.
You don't want to pick up that cancer.
You want to do what your husband says.
And you know, I will never divorce with my wife,
but I can't say that about other people.
I can't say that other men wouldn't make that dumb decision.
And boy, when you are just this rowdy, loudmouth feminist,
there's a lot of guys that are just going to say,
bye, I wanted a wife.
I don't want a Vashti.
I don't want a fiery woman, because that's not biblical.
It's not what the Bible says.
And yeah, maybe there's a weak, spineless coward out there
that wants a fiery wife to tell him what to do and what to wear.
But you know, most men aren't like that.
Most men can't be happy in a marriage like that.
Most men will actually fight with their wife a little bit
because they don't wanna live in that submissive role
for the rest of their life.
And you know, we need some men that are willing
to tell their wives no every once in a while.
And how should women behave?
They should just be meek and quiet and just say,
oh, I'm not in charge.
My husband said for me to come, I'm gonna come.
That's my job.
What happens she gets replaced with Esther and of course all this is spiritual because Vashti pictures Israel
Who rebelled against God and they get replaced with a new Israel?
Which is the Gentiles which is us who believe in Jesus Christ and we're the Esther
We're the Esther. She's the Vashti and of course Esther go to chapter 5 is the exact opposite of Vashti
Vashti makes a meal for the women
and doesn't come at the king's commandment,
Esther makes a meal for her husband.
And she asks a petition of him.
It's so funny that they think like, this is being fiery.
It's like, what is Esther being fiery?
Asking her husband a question.
In the most polite way possible.
In fact, it's so polite,
she dresses herself as pretty as possible,
puts on her best garment,
comes in softly to approach him.
And then when he asks, what do you want?
Can I make you a wonderful meal?
I mean, how many times would we be upset with our wife
to put on our best outfit and ask us to make a meal?
And they're like, man, you're just so fiery.
You're aggressive, you're uncontrollable,
you're so quick tempered, this isn't even reality.
It's the exact opposite.
It's like a dream come true.
And she's even afraid to come and talk to her husband
and disrupt him from his work.
Because, you know, a godly woman
is not just calling her husband at work every five minutes.
Don't do it, ladies.
If your husband's working, let him work.
Now, if you're gonna put on your best outfit
and say I have a meal prepared for you
and you're gonna ask occasionally, okay.
But don't just call him and just be like, hey, what's up?
He's like, I don't know, I'm working.
Well, you just want to talk for the next 20 minutes?
No.
Like, we got to work, okay?
Now, you can't be put to death
if, you know, King of Hazards does not extend his scepter.
She's literally put to death
for disrupting him during his work.
That's how important work is.
Hey, you know what?
Men need to think that work's important, okay?
It's okay to just not answer every call
that your wife makes.
If she's bothering you too much,
you need to just get your job done sometimes, okay?
We're not here to serve them.
There are help me look what it says in verse 1 of chapter 5 now it came to pass on the third day that
Esther put on a royal apparel and stood in the inner court of the king's house over against the king's house and
The king sat upon his royal throne in the royal house over against the gate of the house
And it was so when the king saw Esther the queen standing in the court that she obtained favor in his sight and the king held
Out to Esther the golden scepter that was in his hand so Esther drew near and touched the top of the scepter of the scepter
Then said the king under what will thou Queen Esther and what is thy request it shall be given thee
To the half of the kingdom
He's like hey, you can have whatever you want up to the half of the kingdom
What do you want car shoes new house?
trip
This is what she says in Esther answered if it seemed good under the king let the king and Haman come this day into the
Bank with that I've prepared for him
Hey, you can have whatever you want. Will you come to a meal that I prepared for you?
Wow, what do you think Vashti would have said?
Can I get John the Baptist's head on a platter?
Yeah, what would Vashti have said?
She wouldn't have said, hey, I made a meal for you.
She made a meal for the women.
Esther made a meal for her husband.
You know, these women ministries,
hey, why don't you minister to your husband, lady?
Why are you so worried about ministering to other women like you as if you care or something and look
I'm not saying that there isn't ladies in our church who don't make meals for women that had had given birth recently and
Help other ladies occasionally, but you know what your main ministry is your husband
Your main focus should be him and not neglecting him over other ladies
Look at verse 4 and answer answered if it seemed oh, sorry, we already read that go to verse 8
If I found favor in the side of my king, so he came to the banquet
He asked her again. What do you want if I found favor in the side of the king and if it be pleased the king to grant my
Petition and inform my request let the king and Heyman come to the banquet that I shall prepare for them
And I will do tomorrow as the king has said
so
He comes next he's like hey, what do you want now? I just want to come to another meal. I
Mean this is not fire. This is the opposite of fiery
And notice how she talks to her husband.
If I have found favor in the sight of the king,
and if it pleased the king to grant my petition.
Wow, what if women talked to their husband like that?
What if women said, honey, if you're pleased with me,
and if you're willing to do what I would like,
can you please do this?
As opposed to just like, when are you gonna get this done?
You know when you're gonna finally do this, you know your honey do list or whatever. It's just like
Just just nagging complaining. Oh, you never do what you're supposed to do. You never do your job. Look, I'm not your servant
You're not my boss
This is my boss right here
Okay, and I'm your boss. I don't go into my work. I have a job. I don't go to my job and tell my boss what to do either
I'm not like hey, when are you gonna give me my raise?
He's gonna be like here's your slip your pink slip. You're fired. You know, it's not how it works
It's not how it works in the world
Look at chapter seven, let's just fast forward.
So finally she gets to ask him something.
Chapter seven, verse three.
Then Esther, the queen answered and said,
if I found favor in thy side, O king,
and if it pleased the king, let my life be given me
at my petition and my people in my request.
So what was the whole purpose?
She didn't want to die, and she didn't want
her whole nation to die, and so she's asking her husband
to deliver her and to save her, right?
And it says in verse four,
for we are sold, and I and my people
to be destroyed, to be slain, and to perish.
But if we had been sold for bondmen and bondwomen,
I had held my tongue, although the enemy
could not countervail the king's damage.
Think about what she just said.
She's so submissive, she's so meek, she's so quiet,
that if she had been sold into slavery
for the rest of her life,
she would have not even interrupted the king's work.
That is not fiery that is the exact opposite of fiery, but was there a boundary where she was willing to make a move?
Yeah, when her life was on the line when other people's life was on the line. She said you know what?
I'm not willing to go that far. I'm not willing to just do nothing and again
Women should be meek and quiet as their default and if you if you back them into a corner and you're gonna tack their young
Okay, mama bear can come out. You know what? You should not live your life on mama bear mode
should not live your life as Jezebel.
You know, what's a fire woman in the Bible?
Jezebel.
Another woman in the Bible that's fiery is also Jezebel.
There's two.
And let me tell you something.
Don't be Jezebel.
Be Sarah.
We want women to be Sarah,
and we want them to be meek, and we want them to be quiet.
And you know, don't let the world tell you
what women should be like.
Don't let feminism destroy these things, you know, what I'm saying kind of seems spicy
But it really hasn't been throughout history. There's been plenty of times where this is just the norm
Everybody been like, yeah, of course. This doesn't even make sense why women would act this way
But we've been in in America specifically just brainwashed with so much feminism
You know, why do you think it is that a lot of men
want to even consider marrying women from foreign countries
is because they're not inundated with as much feminism?
But let me tell you something, even if you were raised
in a country that was a lot less feminist,
coming to America can spoil you.
You can get used to the ways of the women here.
Do not allow them to change your mind
of what you were raised to believe what the Bible says.
We need to submit ourselves to what the Word of God
says in every area.
And we need to be godly and of course, you know some people would say like oh you look down upon women
Or you think they're less important. No, I think that they're super important
And they're equal in the value of God's eyes, you know men are not more important than women
Women are not more important than men, but we both have our roles
And we need men to have the humility to say I'm gonna lead and we need women to have the humility to say I'm gonna follow
And this is going to cause us to have great marriages,
to have the best crop of children that we can have,
to have a godly church,
and honestly, to be the envy of the world.
I mean, look, the world out there,
if you could talk to them...
Behind closed doors. There's not any no one's going to see what they have to say and you're like look
My wife does whatever I tell her to do. She makes me meals at home. She obeys me
She dresses like a woman they would think like how in the world do I get one of those?
We are the envy of the world folks and you know what there's a lot of women you may not believe this
But there's a lot of women that say man, where could I find a guy that'll pay all the bills?
That'll tell me what to do
That'll take me to a good church that'll help me understand the Bible that wants to sacrifice for me
That would take a bullet for me that'll never leave me
That'll never forsake me that'll put up with all my hormones and put up with all of my drama and all my stress
You know and there's a lot of great men in this church that are willing to do that and step up to that call
And we are the envy of the world because this is the best life
This is the best life.
Don't get away from church.
People that get out of church,
they screw up their lives so fast.
It's a way to just ruin your life.
You know, doing this, you'll be sound and safe and secure.
Let us not be the people that are trashing
the Word of God and trashing church.
Let us just believe the Bible, even if it's uncomfortable.
And you know, you might think like,
I think some of the things you said were mean or harsh.
No, no, not doing what I said will be mean and harsh.
Getting divorced will wreck you.
I mean, that'll just wreck your life.
Getting married to someone
that's not gonna fulfill one of these roles
will ruin your life.
Not doing this will ruin your life.
You don't wanna destroy your family and those around you.
Let us be an example unto others.
Let us teach the other women how to behave
by modeling it, by being in behavior.
Let's close in prayer.
Thank you Heavenly Father so much
for these great chapters of advice and wisdom.
Thank you for giving us clear and distinct roles as men and women.
I pray that the women would not be discouraged about the role that they have in life, but
rather they'd be excited to be wives, excited to be mothers, excited to be meek and quiet,
and to be focused in on the life that you've given them.
I pray that you would bless all the women in our church, that you would help them with
their duties, with their responsibilities, that they would see the importance and the
of going out and even preaching the gospel,
serving in church,
doing the things that you would have them to do,
reading their Bible, being educated.
I pray they wouldn't be tempted to be like men.
They wouldn't allow feminism to come in and spoil them.
And I pray if any woman ever gets into a situation
where they have to defend themselves,
they would have the courage and the bulls to do so.
But they would regularly feel a desire
to be meek and quiet.
In Jesus' name we pray, amen.
All right, in closing, let's go to song number 66, song number 66 at Calvary.
getting everybody growled.