you
alright everybody welcome to steadfast baptist church thank you for being here this afternoon
go ahead and take care of your hymnals
we'll get started with our first song
go ahead and turn to song number 162
to god be the glory
song 162
again that's song number 162
to god be the glory
great things he had done
so loved he the world
that he gave us his son
who yielded his life
an atonement for sin
and opened the light
of the world
to god be
the glory
to god be
the glory
to god be
the glory
and opened the life
gate that all may
go in praise the lord
praise the lord
let the earth hear his voice
praise the lord
praise the lord let the people
rejoice
oh come to the
father through jesus
the son and give
him the glory great
things he had done
oh perfect
redemption the purchase
of blood through
every believer
the promise of god
the vilest
offender who truly
believes the
moment from jesus
supported receives
praise the lord
praise the lord let the earth
hear his voice praise
the lord praise the lord
let the people rejoice
oh come to the
father through jesus
the son and give
him the glory
great things he had done
great things he had
taught us great things he
had done and
great are rejoicing
through jesus the son
but purer
and higher and greater
will be our wonder
our transport when
jesus we see
praise the lord praise
the lord let the earth
hear his voice praise the
lord praise the lord
let the people rejoice
oh come to
the father through jesus
the son and give
him the glory
great things he had done
amen
word of prayer
thank you that we could all be here this afternoon
to hear again the preaching of your word
and I just pray you'd help us to hear the message
and apply it to our hearts
and bless pastor Shelley
fill him with your holy spirit give him boldness and utterance
to speak your word to give us more wisdom today
we love you father and we pray this things in
jesus christ's name amen
next song is going to be psalm
67 in your white handouts
there if you want to raise up your hand
and usher we'll try and bring one to you
psalm 67
you can always take out your bible
again
that's psalm 67
oh god
let all the people
praise thee
oh let the nations be glad
and sing
for joy
for thou shall judge
the people
righteously
and govern
all the nations
upon earth
the nations upon earth
see the hall
is the oh god
let all the people
praise thee
oh let the nations be
glad and
sing for joy
then shall
the earth yield her
and grace and god
even our own god shall bless us
god shall bless us
and all the ends
of the earth
shall fear him
let the people praise thee
oh god
let all the people
praise thee
oh let the nations be glad
and sing
for joy
amen
go through announcements now
thank you so much for coming to
steadfast baptist church
again if you didn't get a bulletin already
could you lift up your hand on the front we have
Exodus chapter 20 we're on week number 3
we also have no other gods before me
on the inside we have our service and soul winning
times obviously we're having a modified schedule
this evening the Spanish
services and our soul winning is cancelled
for today just due to all the
snow and the
driving conditions being a little bit worse
and it's supposed to even continue snowing
throughout the evening and so the
goal is to get everybody home safely
please make sure to just use caution
when driving home
also other soul winning times
for this week just make sure to pay attention
to either our Facebook group
or we may send an email out if there's any
kind of other alterations
in regards to soul winning but nothing
to announce just yet
it's likely the Tuesday soul winning time
for the ladies may not meet but I'll give you
I'll have my wife update
everyone on that also
we have our expecting ladies in our prayer list
please keep those in mind also there's a sign up
sheet for those that want to
go down to pure words to hear pastor Mahih on the
21st if not there's
definitely going to be some great preaching
here as well just make sure you're in church
on the back we have the Galveston
Marathon March 6
and we'll be meeting
on Galveston Island so
there'll still be
people that are gathering
at the church like in the morning and
having like breakfast and then we'll drive out
to Galveston Island but we'll
probably have it to where we're going to
meet still in a central location in Galveston
for those people too so that
not everyone has to meet at the church
so it'll kind of be like two rendezvous points
and we'll give you that information
just because if some people are staying
near Galveston it's kind of weird to like drive
all the way to the church and then drive all the way back to the soul winning
so we'll kind of have two rendezvous
points for people that want to meet at the church
and then go and those that are just
going to meet us there in the Galveston
area specifically
also we have a mega marathon
April 3rd we also have
the 4th the evening service
the Lord's Supper
May 8th we're going to have a ladies tea
in honor of Mother's Day
so all ladies and their daughters
will be welcome to participate
and to celebrate
even if you don't have a daughter you have a mom
so everybody has a mom
that's an iron clad guarantee or you're not alive
and then also
May 20th through the 22nd
we have the men's retreat
and really excited about this
it's very similar except for this time
you might actually bring like a towel or
sheets or a pillow or whatever
so I kind of
called it affectionately prison camp
last time this one will be light
prison camp okay so it'll be
a little bit more prepared for it but
it was a lot of fun all the guys that went down
there had a really good time
and so I really encourage you if you can make
it it's definitely
a unique experience
a lot of the guys told me they've never had that much fun
or they've never enjoyed some kind of retreat
like that before and so I got a lot of
good feedback from people maybe they
were just flattering me I don't know but it
seemed like they were really genuine so
I'm really excited about this
and encourage you guys to come down there
let's go ahead and go to
our third song for
this evening this afternoon
261
Turn your eyes
upon Jesus
261
again that's song number
261
Turn your eyes upon Jesus
261
Oh soul are you weary
and troubled
the light
in the darkness
you see
there's light
for a look at the
Savior
and life
more abundant
and free
Turn your
eyes
upon Jesus
look full
in his wonderful
face
and the things
of earth will grow
strangely dim
in the light of
his glory and
grace
Through death into
life everlasting
He passed
and we follow
him there
over us and no
more at dominion
for
more than
conquers we are
Turn
your eyes upon
Jesus
look full in
his wonderful
face and
the things of earth
will grow strangely
dim in the
light of his glory
and grace
his word shall
not fail you he
promised
believe him and all
will be well
then go
to a world that is
dying
his perfect salvation
to tell
Turn your eyes
upon Jesus
look
full in his wonderful
face
and the things
of earth will grow
strangely dim
in the light of
his glory and
grace
Amen. Go ahead and turn in your
Bibles to 1 Peter chapter number 3
1 Peter chapter number 3
1 Peter chapter 3
Likewise ye wives be in subjection to your own
husbands that if any obey not the word
they also may without the word be
won by the conversation of the wives
while they behold your chaste conversation
coupled with fear
whose adorning let it not be that outward
adorning of plaiting the hair and of wearing
of gold or of putting on of apparel
but let it be the hidden man of the heart
and that which is not corruptible
even the ornament of a meek and quiet
spirit which is in the sight of God of
great price for after this manner
in the old time the holy women also
who trusted in God adorn
themselves being in subjection unto their
own husbands even as Sarah
obeyed Abraham calling him Lord
whose daughters ye are as long as you do
well and are not afraid with any amazement
Likewise ye husbands
dwell with them according to knowledge giving
honor unto the wife as unto the weaker
vessel and being heirs together of the
grace of life that your prayers be not
hindered. Finally be ye all
of one mind having compassion one
of another love as brethren
be pitiful be courteous not
rendering evil for evil or railing
for railing but contrary wise
blessing knowing that ye are
thereunto called that you should inherit
a blessing for
he that will love life and see good days
let him refrain his tongue from evil
and his lips that they speak no guile
let him eschew evil and do
good let him seek peace and
ensue it for the eyes of the Lord are
over the righteous and his ears are
open unto their prayers but the face of the
Lord is against them that do evil
and who is he that will harm you if
ye be followers of that which is good
but and if ye suffer for righteousness
sake happy are ye and be not afraid
of their terror neither be troubled
but sanctify the Lord God in your hearts
and be ready always to give an answer
to every man that asketh you
a reason of the hope that is in you with
meekness and fear having a good
conscience that whereas they speak
evil of you as evildoers they
may be ashamed that falsely accuse your
good conversation in Christ
for it is better if the will of God be so
that ye suffer for well-doing than
for evil doing for Christ also
hath once suffered for sins
the just for the unjust that he might
bring us to God being put to death
in the flesh but quickened by the
Spirit by which also he went and
preached unto the spirits in prison
which sometime were disobedient when
once the longsuffering of God
waited in the days of Noah while
the ark was a preparing wherein few
that is eight souls were saved by
water the like figure
where into even baptism
that also now save us not
the putting away of the filth of the flesh
but the answer of a good conscience toward God
by the resurrection of Jesus Christ
who has gone into heaven and is on the
right hand of God angels and
authorities and powers being made subject
unto him so a word of prayer Lord
thank you so much for this day and thank you for the
sermon this morning for the food we had
I pray that you would bless the sermon as well
that you help us all to improve our marriages
Lord that you fill passage like the Holy Ghost
and in Jesus name we pray amen
man let's look back at the
beginning of this chapter verse number one the Bible
reads likewise ye wives be in
subjection to your own
husbands and
I preach this morning on how men can
improve their marriage and I'm preaching a counterpart
this afternoon and how women
can improve their marriage
and so like I said
it takes two to tango in any marriage
and ultimately you can
only affect your own
personal decisions your own personal
choices and
so this is kind of the
counterpart where women
also have the opportunity to
strive to be the best wife that they
can possibly be regardless
of who their husband is or how
great a husband they're married to
and I have three
points and then I'm going to kind of give you some
statements again it's going to be organized kind of the
same manner but my first point
is this women need to submit
women need to submit and
specifically to their own husband
if you want to improve your marriage
it's through submission today
and the Bible makes this very clear let's
read a little bit more in this passage again
it says if any obey not the word
they also may without the word
be won by the conversation
of the wise
while the beholder chase conversation coupled with fear
who's adorning let it not
be that outward adorning
of plaiting the hair or wearing of gold
or of putting on of apparel
let it be the hidden man of the heart
and that which is not corruptible
even the ornament of a
meek and quiet spirit which
is in the sight of God of great
price and it's interesting how
the Bible is worded here it says
in verse four the hidden man of the heart the Bible
says that a woman
instead of adorning their outward
man that they really
should be adorning their inward man
and their inward man
is that of a meek and
quiet spirit if they want to be godly
if they want to be a good wife and
you know being quiet is a
feminine attribute you know
it's not a manly attribute
it's a feminine attribute and
today we have a lot of women who
don't want to be quiet they want their
voice to be heard you know the
feminist movement you know our voices
will be heard and you know they're going
out and they're loud and they're obnoxious
and everything like that it just
shows how ungodly they are because
a truly godly woman would be
one who's very quiet one who's
very meek and unassuming and
ultimately she's in subjection
to God or I'm sorry
as well as God but obviously her husband as well
and notice how God says this
he says that in the sight of God
it's of great price
so you know women they love to
adorn themselves on their outward appearance
their clothes their hair you know
whether that be makeup or
all the different ways they all the accoutrements
and all the different things they can do
their purse matches their outfit
and you know they've got special braids
in their hair they've got the tiara
or they've got you know a veil
I mean the bonnets and the hats
and just everything that goes
I mean there's so much right
and women really they spend
so much time adorning themselves
physically and the Bible
tells us that it should be the exact
opposite it should be that they're spending
all their time adorning themselves on the
inward man on their hidden man
not on what's visible
and really we see the ploy of the
devil the devil likes to attack
us where we're most vulnerable and
women they're most vulnerable
in the area of wanting to
adorn themselves physically
you know and again you know you can't take
these verses and run with them
and take them out of balance because
obviously it's not saying
here that wearing you know
having plates in your hair
or having gold is going to be
wrong because notice the next one putting on of
apparel okay obviously
all women are supposed to wear clothes okay
so it's not saying don't wear clothes
it's not saying don't try to be
attractive or don't put on
things that are nice or you couldn't have an
earring or something that's sinful
you know people take this to a weird extreme
where they try to look as
Amish as possible and that's also
not the Bible saying what it's saying
is that your emphasis your focus
is not on the outward appearance
it's more on the inward appearance it's more on
being a godly person
having a meek and quiet spirit
it says in verse number five
in this manner in the holy time the holy women
also who trusted in
god adorned themselves
being in subjection under
their own husbands so here's the thing you can
please the world today by
trying to dress and act and look like
them or you
can be in
subjection to your husband and then
god likes the way that you're dressed and
not in the favor of your physical clothing he's saying
on the inward man the question
is who are you truly trying to impress
today and let me give you some bad news
no matter how much you
doll yourself up the world will not be impressed
the world will not
care the world will always
tell you that you're inadequate the world will always
tell you that's out of fashion you need the
new the new fashion the new
dress the new whatever and again
today's worldly fashion is
never going to match an independent
fundamental Baptist I mean the clothing
options that they have for women today
are so ungodly they're so
modest they're revealing of their
bodies they're sometimes
cross-dressing you know it's all
kinds of weird stuff that's going on
and if you're going to try and dress like the
world they still won't be impressed
even if you do it exactly like they say
they'll say oh that was last week
you know oh that was that was
five minutes ago you know because it's always
the new fashion and you got to
be ahead of the curve some of us are ahead of
the curve or whatever and really
I feel like it's just a it's all a scam
they're like let's see what they can we can
sell them next trash bags you know there's
they'll just design a new trash bag that women
wear and they're like it's the new fashion you know it's like
women just fall for it because
they just spend all this money I mean the things they
have on these runway models like in
France and all that stuff it's bizarre
you know it makes me feel like I'm living in the hunger
games or something living in the capital
you know these people the way they're dressing is so
weird and again
that's not your objective
in life is to see how weird you can get
and how much you can dress yourself
up now really you need to work on the
inward person and notice
those women trusted in God
because at the end of the day
no one's going to go around and praise
you for being an independent fundamental
Baptist godly woman
people are going to go around and look at
you like wow you're so godly
oh you look so nice they're
going to say oh you're better than me because
you're wearing a dress because you're wearing a skirt
oh you know you're not showing up your cleavage
oh you're not showing us off your thigh
you're not showing us off your buttocks or whatever
you're not walking around like a whore
and so you know what it reproaches them
because you don't look like a whore today
but let me tell you what you should trust in
God and not in the world
why would you want to be a whore you're
still not going to impress them
and then you know what you're going to really do you're going to
attract some really bad guys
you're going to attract men
that look at you when you look like a whore
why do you want to attract that guy
why do you want to attract
Howard Stern
why do you want to attract
Donald Trump
why do you want to attract all the scumbags
and sleazebags of the day
the casino owning
strip club owning guys
you know why don't you dress like a godly
woman and be above
reproach look stop
trusting in the world and trust in God
verse 6 it says even as Sarah
obeyed Abraham calling him lord
oh she obeys her husband
yeah because
that's what the Bible says
that's what Sarah was like
you know why don't you whenever someone
criticizes you say oh do you not like Sarah
in the Bible
you do it your husband you know someone
will say hey can you go do this well I have to ask my husband
oh why is he in charge
of you yeah do you just not like
Sarah in the Bible
what other Bible stories do you not
like do you not like Ruth
do you not like oh do you not like
the story when Jesus Christ is in the garden of
Gethsemane he says not my will but thine be done
did you not like that story
because you know that's the example for women
today and why is it so
demeaning for a woman to obey her husband
when it's not demeaning for
Christ to obey God the father
yet the world
wants to brainwash you the world
wants to attack you and let me tell you what
when you live godly they're not
going to praise you they're not going to
say oh wow you're so great
go girl you know
they're going to be like why are you attacking
us and why are you you know
why don't you let your voice be heard and you're so
repressed you know they ask you like
you know write a message
if you're if you're hurting you know send us
an SOS or whatever are you okay
you know and you're like I'm fine
you know I like it I'm
I'm good I don't have to let my voice
you know the person that has to speak
is very prideful
only a prideful person has
to have their voice be heard has to
be known has to tell them what their
opinion is you know someone that's humble
and someone that's meek says
you know what other people can voice their
opinion I'd rather just hear what they have to say
I don't have to voice my opinion
I don't have to go and tell everybody
what they're going to do you know I can
just worry about my realm of authority
and my children go if you went to
Colossians chapter number three go to Colossians
chapter number three
point number one is women need to submit
the Bible tells us very clearly
that women are supposed to submit under their own husbands
and you know in this church
if you get married by you know
our church one of the
parts of the vows is to love cherish
and obey and it's not
for the man the man doesn't say that one the man
doesn't say to the wife to love cherish
and obey he says love and cherish the wife
says love cherish and obey
because that's what the Bible
says because Sarah obeyed
and you know what in
order for someone to lead someone has to
obey in order for someone
to lead someone has to follow
in order for you to have unity
you need one person to make the decisions
and you know what this works out in all
kinds of other areas of life and you know
there's people in here that aren't even married
and you know God willing
you know if they desire marriage they'll be married one day
but you can take everything that I'm teaching
you right now and just
apply it to your job at work
and it's going to be the exact same
you can apply these principles no matter what
these principles are going to be the same
and really ultimately when we look at
a relationship in marriage it's the
same as a
parent and
a child in some ways not every way
it's the same as a boss to an employee
it's the same as
God the father to Christ and it's the same
as Christ to the man and it's the
same as me as the
pastor unto Christ you know that I'm supposed
to be in submission to him and
perfect submission you know
there's the same level of authority and the
same level of obedience and it doesn't
matter who's your authority you're
just supposed to obey your authority
and I notice that people who are constantly
in rebellion to the authority that they
have all of the
people that are subject unto them
end up emulating the same type of
behavior you know if you really want your kids
to obey you in the home
here's my question how obedient
are you to your husband
how do you treat your husband because
the same way that you treat your
husband is going to often be the way that
your children treat you are you
submissive to your husband you obey
your husband you do what your husband says
you know are you talking
back to them all the time well expect
your children to treat you that way
Colossians chapter 3 look at verse 18
wives
submit yourselves unto your own husbands
as it is fit
in the Lord now fit is like
suitable and you know
the Bible's making it more neat
and it's just saying look as
suitable as appropriate
as it is for a person to
submit to God and to the
Lord to the Lord Jesus Christ it would be the
same for a wife to submit
to her own husband and the same
would be hey an employee
to his employer you're supposed to be
submissive you're not supposed to
usurp the authority that's been placed
over you and go if you went to Ephesians
chapter 5 now
you know I know that you living here in
America I guaranteed
none of the women in here were just forced
to marry their husband here's the thing
no one forced you to submit
to that relationship
just like you know probably ever in
this room you chose to work
for the company that you're working for
so if you choose to submit yourself
then submit you know
they're not forcing you to be
their employee necessarily
obviously when we get into communism it'll be
different okay I have to preach differently I'll be like remember back in
the day when you didn't have to just do
whatever they told you but I'm just saying
you know in most cases in the world
people are choosing
who they want to marry and people are choosing where they're going to work
and whenever you choose to submit
yourself hey submit
hey you know people
they get mad at this church sometimes they're like
well I don't want to do what Pastor Shelley
said or I don't want to listen to that
sermon or I don't agree with this program it's like
go to any other church
hey the door's open
hey you can go at any time you can
leave at any time but you know what if you're
going to come to this church why don't you just submit
to the authority that you're under
instead of always trying to buck
at the authority and try to pick
everybody apart and always getting mad
at everything they do you know
why don't you just go ahead and just submit
and be in submission to the authorities
that have been put in your life and especially
the ones that you're choosing
I have
how many people are forced to be here
except for my family okay
I mean you're not
I mean obviously my employee but you know he chose
to work for me alright
I asked him if he wanted to work for me okay
anybody that works for me
it's going to be they choose to work for me not that
I'm forcing them to work for me
people that come to this church you're not being forced to be here
but if you're going to be here go ahead and submit
while you're here okay
go ahead if you say I don't like this church
okay well the other church that you go to
submit to that church
do what they say
be obedient
submit to the rulers
now look at Ephesians chapter 5 verse 22
wives submit yourselves
unto your own husbands
as unto the Lord
you say why are you making this such a big deal
Pastor Shelley what's interesting
every time the Bible brings up wives
this is the first thing that it brings up
you know for the men it was like love your wife
for the women it was like
obey submit submit
submit be in submission
obey obey obey why
because that's the most important thing that a wife
can learn it's one of the most difficult
things for women to do is just to go ahead
and submit and you know in America today it's a lot
harder than it used to be
it used to be if a wife wouldn't
submit to her husband in public
people would be would
gasp you know if a wife talked back
to her husband if a wife disobeyed
her husband if a wife did something
you know it would be it'd be shame
it'd be folly people would look
down upon them today you
would get it you'd be like viral you know
everybody's like whoa look at this woman go
and she stuck it to her husband
you know it's now the TV show
you know that's modern family where
the wife's sticking it to the husband and she's
telling him what to do and whatever
you know it's a shame and it's a folly
and it makes no sense and that
level of rebellion is just being manifested
in this world today people
are just so rebellious
children are so rebellious
why are children more rebellious now than ever
because wives are rebelling
against their husbands that's why
you know if a wife
submits to her husband it's gonna
be easier for the children than to submit
to her and to
their father you know when they see
the mom not obeying the
mom not submitting the mom
not doing what's right why would the
children have to I mean if
the mom's not doing it you know I'll be
like mom and I'll tell dad what to do and I'm
smarter than dad look every teenager thinks
they're smarter than their dad
so if you as the wife
also think that you're smarter than
your husband and you're gonna tell your husband
what to do I guarantee your teenagers
will have the same attitude
they'll have the same philosophy
and it's interesting how everybody's
smarter than their husband how's that possible
I mean
maybe it's in some cases true
because they're just addicted to video games and football and beer
but you know it ought not be so
you know you ought to go ahead and sober up
throw the marijuana in the trash
throw the alcohol in the trash
grow up get a pair
start leading start being a man
look the Bible says they're the weaker vessel
and you know when men start leading in their home
it's easier for women to submit
but I don't care if you're married to the biggest
soy boy on the planet submit to him
hey
if you're married to PB Herman
you better submit
I didn't force you to marry him
that was a bad decision
but at the end of the day you're supposed to
submit to your husband no matter
how weak of a leader
he may be
and you know what by you submitting maybe you'll encourage him
to be a stronger leader
go if you would to 1 Timothy
chapter 2
the Bible says that the head of the woman is the man
the apostle
Paul said that he had the power
to lead about a sister
and we need some men to lead women today
but you know what no matter how
bad a leader men are today as long as
you submit he's still leading
as long as
you just go ahead and just whatever
he's doing just let him lead
and you know what even if he's a weak leader at least let him lead
let him be a weak leader
don't say well he's a weak leader so I better
take over no continue
to let him being a weak leader and maybe
once he's a weak leader and he sees
the failure in his leadership he might get better
but if you just go ahead and take over
he's never going to lead
he's never going to be the man that he's
supposed to be 1 Timothy chapter 2
verse 8
so notice how is a woman supposed to be godly?
she has good works
she's known by her works by the things that she does
not by the way she dresses herself
not by the way that she adorns herself
verse 11
notice how the Bible words it
you say well what does subject
what does usurping authority look like?
it sounds like
if I'm reading this verse right
it sounds like it says talking
because notice the way that you ensure
that you're not usurping authority
how do you do that?
you're in silence
verse 13
for Adam was first formed
you know that tells me that the creation order
is important
that God created things on purpose
he didn't accidentally create the man first
he created the man first for a reason
because he's supposed to have the preeminence
in that relationship he's supposed to be the leader
he is first
Eve is supposed to be submissive
in that regard
she doesn't have that same preeminence
in the world today men get the preeminence
it's a man's world
sorry that's how God created it
I'm not upset with that
I like that
I don't want it to be any other way
because that's what God decided
not because
you just happen to be a man
you just want it to be a man's world
it's not even a man's world anymore
it's supposed to be
I want it to be a man's world because that's what God said
and that's the best way to live in harmony
with God and his commandments
and you know what women
should just realize it's supposed to be a man's world
and let him be the man
verse 14
Adam was not deceived but the woman being deceived
was in the transgression notwithstanding
she shall be saved in childbearing
if they continue in faith and charity and holiness
now some people
they like to teach a works based salvation
or they twist the word
saved a lot of times in the bible
but here's a really good example
of how having children
isn't going to get you into heaven
the Mormons are trying to have lots of babies
but it's not going to get them into heaven
it's not about having children
what is the saving that's happening
because the word saved could be used in multiple ways
in the bible
a lot of people just like to look at the word saved
and they just think that must be the way that I get to heaven
that's not necessarily true
because the bible says he that endureth under the end
the same shall be saved
that's not saying you're necessarily going to go to heaven
it's just saying you're saved from that physical wrath
that physical tribulation
now obviously it is in somewhat tandem
with the fact of those who are technically saved
but that's just not what that's really referring to
and in this verse
it's being saved from
the deceptions of this world
from transgressions of this world
the devil tempted and tricked Eve
with the forbidden fruit
with the fruit on the tree of the knowledge of good and evil
but you know what, if she was busy
with the task that God gave her
perhaps she wouldn't have all the idle time
to get deceived
and to go into that transgression
go into that sin
and you know what, women who are idle
who have nothing to do
it's easier for them to sin
than a woman who's busy taking care of children
and you say oh taking care of children is so hard
it's so difficult to take care of children
it's so difficult to
you know, cut up their meals
and you know
to clean up all the vomit
and to do all the breastfeeding
and I never sleep ever
and I never have any joy
maybe that one's a little
exaggerative but sometimes it feels like that
and you know, just all the different
difficulties of being a mother
and having all these kids
and it's like I have no one to talk to
you know, and their communication's so low
and it's all these burdens
well let me tell you something
the way of transgressors is harder
you know what's really hard?
having an STD
you know what's really hard?
when you get knocked up by a loser
who abandons you
and not only do you have to raise kids
you have to work too
you have to work night shifts
and then raise those kids
and then usually you're letting some other random person
raise your kid
who could possibly be molesting them
you know what's really hard to sleep at night?
when your kid's been molested
you know what's really hard to sleep at night?
when your kid hates God
when your kid goes missing
when your kid gets hurt
when your kid marries a horrible person
when your kid's a drunk
when your kid's a loser
you know what that's really hard
you know what's really hard?
women that have no children
and they're sitting in the nursing home
and nobody cares about them
and they just cry night after night
after night because nobody cares about them
see them from their work, from their job
they're not going to have
and now that they're old, guess what?
putting all on their fancy clothes doesn't really matter anymore
you say, oh, it's so hard to have all these things
you know what's really hard?
being wicked
you know what's really hard?
going against God's commandments
that's what's really hard
you think that it's hard?
you don't even know what hard is
you know what's hard?
being addicted to drugs
being addicted to meth
and cocaine
and being a whore when you don't even want to
just to get the next high
that's hard
you know what's hard?
having no one love you
no one care about you
no one to protect you
and you're laying in bed at night in Portland, Oregon
wondering when the next antifa of people
are going to come through and murder you
because you know what?
if you take off and you have no guy to protect you
because you won't submit to anybody
you know it's hard when you're going through a hard time
and you don't have a husband that loves you
and wants to take care of you
you don't have kids that look up to you
you know what?
there is way, way, way, way worse harder things in life
and the Bible is saying
you know what? she's going to be saved
how is she going to be saved?
in childbearing
you're going to be saved from all that heartache
and that woe
charity and holiness with sobriety
it's hard when you're drunk all the time
hard when you're drunk
and you end up
giving your kid a
deformity because you're a drunkard
you know
even the secular world
says that women who drink while pregnant
can cause severe damage to their baby
I mean there are signs they won't give you an
alcoholic beverage if they can tell you're pregnant
the world won't
the world won't give this to you
women do that
you know it's hard having a child that's been
deformed and horribly damaged because of your
alcohol abuse
because of your drug abuse
you know what? that's why you're supposed to be sober today
go to 1 Corinthians chapter 14
go to 1 Corinthians chapter number 14
oh I have it hard
my life's so hard
no it's not
it's just because you have nothing to compare it to
it's just because you're
looking at the Hollywood lies
today of Mary Tyler Moore
being the successful businesswoman
and you know
the Bill Cosby show where you have the successful
businesswoman and you have all these things
yeah the problem is
Cosby is your
husband then you find out all your kids
were molested by him
and then you find out he was raping all these
women and abusing them
I bet that's a real nice life now
that you're out working and whoring yourself
at work so then your husband
has no one to be with and obviously I'm taking the
TV show in real life and remixing them
but at the end of the day it's similar
and you watch the TV shows and
you want to believe that that's what reality
looks like oh that's what it would be like if I had
a job and oh that's what it would be like if I had
less kids and oh that would be what it's like
if I was pretty and beautiful
look
the pretty beautiful women in Hollywood they
treat like dirty scummy whores
have
you heard of the hashtag me too movement
it's like the worst women
are like I'm a victim too
all of them are victims
they're all victims of themselves
why because they're just a dirty disgusting
skank whore and they can't even
live with themselves they're constantly taking pills
trying to kill themselves and even
when they have so much money they're like
when Noah Ryder who's going and
stealing stuff in the store
because she still doesn't have enough
you know when you'll have enough clothes
never
the billboard's a lie
says hey you know divorce your husband
and get half the closet first of all you won't get half
because he doesn't have half already
number two once you get that whole closet
filled up you'll still want more
you'll never be satisfied
you'll never have it all and
at the end of the day that's not where satisfaction
comes from you know where satisfaction comes from
you know where true joy comes from
seeing your children walk in the truth
I have no greater joy
than that my children walk in truth
you know it's a really bad heartache
because when your children aren't walking in truth
like in first Corinthians chapter 14
verse 35
let's read verse 34
let your women keep silence in the churches for not
permitted unto them to speak but they are
commanded to be under obedience as also sayeth the law
and if they will learn anything
let them ask their husbands at home for it is a
shame for women to speak in the church again
you know women are supposed to ask their husband what to do
and
you know some people get a little offended by this
but notice that it does not say
ask the other women in the church
hey you want to improve your marriage today
ask your husband
what you're supposed to do
hey I want to know
you know how to make this or do this
or where to go or the home school or whatever
ask your husband
don't ask another lady
and it sure doesn't say
hey you as a lady start teaching all the other ladies what to do
no notice it says in verse 35
let's read it again because I'm reading the Bible
I don't know what you're reading
look what it says
if they will learn anything
now if you ask a Calvinist
they might not know what anything means
but let me tell you what anything means
anything
and you know what I don't care how gently
women lead other women
it says for a husband
to be the one who teaches his wife
oh I want to learn something
ask your husband
and you know what it will help your marriage
you know what ruins marriages
when women tell them all the things that they're doing
they have a different situation
they have a different husband
they have a different lifestyle
it may even cause problems in that person's marriage
because you know what
you're not thinking about what their life's like
but when he has a pastor
my schedule is like crazy
okay
and maybe I could make it better
right now I'm torturing myself with a weird schedule
okay
but like my schedule is super bizarre
and so things for my wife are different
you know sometimes I work a lot in the evenings
or I have weekends
and like our family day is Monday
you know where we try to like most people
spend time on Saturday or something
and we end up on Mondays or whatever
and sometimes that changes
and it's all over the place and we're traveling
so my wife might be able to do something
that other women can't do
during the middle of the day
right
or vice versa
and it would be wrong for my wife to go around and tell her
well you do this during this time
you know or you go and partake in this
this is what I do this is how I do it
you know you have a different situation
why don't you ask your husband
well then why did God say this
and you know what I'm not saying that women
can't teach women certain things
I'm not saying that but you know you should ask
first your husband
and if your husband says you know what why don't you ask
this other lady specifically about how
she does it then go for it
but you know what you shouldn't just get unsolicited
advice from all kinds of different women from Oprah
Oprah you know
she's not going to give you good advice anyways
Ellen DeGeneres is not going to give you good advice
and you know what even in the church
some women may not
be the right person to get advice from
why don't you ask your husband
and then let him give you some advice
why don't you let him dictate where
you're getting your information from
go if you would to
Titus chapter 2, Titus chapter number 2
what's our point
point one submit to your own
husband submit to your own husband
hey who am I supposed to obey
my husband if you're a wife you
submit to your husband who else
that's it that's your supreme
authority you know
and whenever I work for a company
you know what I don't do I don't go
look at the competitor and see
how the competitor does it and then start doing
it that way I say hey boss
how do you want me to do it well
they you know they're not using you know
Apple products they're using Microsoft
products so I got my Microsoft computer boss
and he's like well that's stupid because we have
Apple products here you know
or whatever that doesn't
that's not how it works and that's the same way
why is a woman going around and asking
other couples what they're doing what they're supposed
you know no and you know if a woman
comes to you and asks you an inappropriate question
you should say I think you should ask your husband
because this is what I asked my husband about that
how to cook
clean whatever he wants me to do he's
going to tell me what to do
not you not your relationship
and it also you're always
going to get a whitewashing from another woman
and you're going to end up being envious of their relationship
well I get all this great stuff and I have
all this stuff you know
look you're going to have a different budget from
your husband you're going to have a different house
you're going to have different kids you're going to have a different schedule
you're going to have all these things that are different
why does it make sense to go around
and ask other people how they're doing it
ask your husband how he wants you to do
it
but women want to go around
and they want to tell you what to do there's how many
blogs are there I don't even know
there's like a million blogs out there
and YouTube videos
women just want to go and tell every other
woman what they're doing and how they do it
and you know it's big
business I'll tell you what but it's not a meek
and quiet spirit number one
and it's also teaching other women
not to submit their own husbands but submit to
the blog and end up
critically thinking above and beyond
what their husband's saying I'm not saying don't be
a critical thinker what I am saying
is you should let your husband lead you
and whenever your husband tells you something
to do you know there's some women
they'll do everything that their husband wants
but not right away
they'll nag him about it
they have nagging submission
and nagging submission is almost
worse than not even doing it
I don't know it's kind of a toss up but I'll
I'm going to show you some verses here in the Bible here in a moment
but look what it says in Titus chapter 2 verse 9
exhort servants to be obedient
unto their own masters
and to please them well in all things notice this
not answering again
now again if you're not married this verse was intended
for you anyways saying hey obey your master
but you can apply to marriage
saying when your husband gives you a commandment
tells you something to do
well I don't want to do that
I don't like that
well that's not what I would choose
well that's dumb
but I'll do it
it's like that sucks
you don't want to give somebody
some kind of a command or tell them to do something
you know try that at your work
you know and it's so funny
women love to want to go work
but they would never act like that to their boss
or they'll get fired
go to Proverbs chapter 21
go to Proverbs chapter 21 for a moment
the Bible says therefore the church is subject
unto Christ so let the
wives be to their own husbands and everything
you say what is a wife
supposed to be obedient and everything
now obviously there is a caveat in the
sense that you know if your husband's
asking you to sin
you don't have to sin
you shouldn't sin
but in this sermon
I don't feel the need to caveat every single statement
hey obey
how many times is it really
when we look at marriage
is the biggest problem in our country
husbands are constantly forcing their wives
to sin
or is it that wives just don't want to obey their husband
when it's legitimate
that's really the big issue
Proverbs 21 look at verse 9
it is better to dwell in the corner
of the housetop than with a
brawling woman in a white house
and the Bible makes it clear that
the worst thing is to have a woman brawling with you
meaning what? she's resistant
to your authority
she's resistant to your leading
she's resistant to your commanding
you know a wife is supposed to just
obey and submit and to follow
that's what's better
I'd rather have you know a woman
who's not working on her physical appearance at all
but obeys me
than just all dolled up
dressed to the nines
wearing the fanciest garment and all the gold
and all the jewelry
and her hair's you know coming out to here
whatever
and I'm like where's dinner
and she's like make your own buddy
I look too good
I've been working on my appearance
it's like well go make me a sandwich
while you're at it
I don't care about all that
you know men just want
a wife to submit
they just want a wife to obey
they want her to do what he says
and it says this guy's like well okay
I'm just gonna go up to the attic
I'm gonna go hide in the attic and eat some corn chips
or something
a hungry man
Proverbs 21 verse 19
it is better to dwell in the wilderness
than with a contentious and angry woman
you know
if you really want your husband to dwell with you
I feel like you cannot argue with him
if you want him to be around you
you can't argue with him
you can't be contentious
what's contentious is just willing to contend
with everything
there's every statement
there's something wrong with it
everything he says, everything he does
every kind of rule
there's just something like well that's not right
and why are you doing that
and just trying to pick a fight about everything
and why is the plate over here
and why did you put the toilet paper on wrong again
and you know why are you saying this
and oh I wish you'd do this with the kids better
and you know why don't you
you know just constant nag
and constant contention
and constant strife
and why did you not take this out
and why didn't you do this
and where are you at
and why didn't you call me
and you're just like I'm ready to leave
you're like bye
and he's like it's cold out
but I'd rather be out there
I'd rather face the bitter cold
than just have my wife just constantly
nagging my ear off
go to Proverbs 25
and she's like well I'm doing what he says
yeah but if you're complaining the whole time
it doesn't really work
it doesn't feel like submission
and you know what your boss
you could do everything at your job perfect
but if you're constantly nagging your boss about it
you will be fired
sure fine
yeah I'll come in at 8
yeah I'll leave at 5
okay sure you want me to work
the whole time too
you want me to really fill out the time sheet
you know you really want me to actually get those reports in
you know
okay it's like
what do you mean okay you know you're going to get fired
you just say yes sir and do it
Proverbs 25 verse 24
it is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop
than with a brawling woman in the white house
exact same verse
I mean it's identical
okay
it's important
and you say why does it say this
because women have a proclivity to argue and be contentious
and to fight with their husband
go if you would back to 1 Peter chapter 3
point number 1 submit
and really that's the biggest point
look you want to improve your marriage
just get better at obeying
just get better at submitting
and get better at never arguing
never back talking
never answering again
whatever your husband says just goes
and you say oh man
if I did that
what would my life be like
well maybe your kids would be like that
I bet you every mother in here would say
I wish my kids when I told them to do something
would just say yes mom and do it
and they get all mad about how they constantly contend
they constantly fight
they constantly nag
and they're constantly disobedient
you're like no I know exactly what that's like
and it's interesting how you can
you can understand these concepts
when you look downstream
well you need to look upstream too
and you say well my wife's really nagging me
okay well are you nagging God
are you disobedient to God
are you submitting to God as a husband
you know it all rolls downhill
number 2 look at verse 2
1 Peter chapter 3 verse 2
while the beholder chase conversation
coupled with fear
look at verse number 4
but let it be the hidden man of the heart
and that which is not corrupt
which in the sight of God a great price
now God not only wants you to be submissive
he also wants you to serve
women need to serve
their husband
chased conversation
now you say chase what does chase mean
well just add an in to it
what is chase in?
discipline
so if someone is chased what does that mean
they're disciplined
disciplined conversation
now conversation could mean
what we typically think of
how you speak how you talk
it can also just be in reference to your lifestyle
just how you are your works
your persona who you are
and it's saying disciplined
or self controlled lifestyle
you know
and if you're having a self controlled lifestyle
you know you realize I'm submitting to him
I'm going to end up serving him
but that's a great thing
go over to Proverbs 31
I'll read for you Genesis 2
and it says in the word God said
it is not good that the man should be alone
I will make him and help meet for him
now the word meet there
m-e-e-t means suitable
appropriate fit
ok so he's like
I want to make someone that's going to help
Adam that's suitable for him
you know the polar bear wasn't suitable
the porcupine is real not suitable
not a cuddler ok
the giraffe is awkward
so you know what was suitable?
the woman
he married his rib
that was the best option that he had
but at the end of the day
she was made to help him
she is supposed to help him
so if you're going to help him
serve him
if you serve your husband you improve your marriage
if you look at your husband as hey this is the person
I'm serving
this is the person that is over me
this is the person I'm supposed to be obedient to
this will improve your marriage
Proverbs 12 says a virtuous woman is a crown
to her husband
but she that make it ashamed is his rottenness and his bones
you can be the best person in your husband's life
or the worst person in your husband's life
a wife
is either the absolute best
person in a man's life
or the absolute worst person in a man's life
and you know what?
you get to choose which way you're going to go
and you know who's going to be the absolute best?
the one that's obeying and serving
you know who's going to be the absolute worst?
the one who's rebellious and does nothing for him
that's my ex-wife
you know
and no guy has anything good to say about his ex-wife
he's like she's married to the devil
she makes the devil blush
or whatever
why? because a woman is either going to be
the absolute crown on your head
or it's going to be the rottenness in your bones
and you say what about the good one?
Proverbs 31 look at verse 10
so notice that a good woman
is going to do good under her husband
a godly woman, a virtuous woman
she's going to serve her husband
and notice she's never going to do evil to him
and notice what it says
all the days of her life
don't let that escape you for a moment
think about that verse
which days
is she a good wife?
all the days of her life
which day does she
nag her husband?
well it says not evil
all the days of her life
what day is she disobedient to her husband?
not evil all the days of her life
that's a tall order
that's a tough
and again, hey, when you go to work
you should do no evil to your boss
to your company every day
all day, all the days
of her life, if you want to be the virtuous
woman, you know what you're going to say?
I'm going to serve my husband every day
and let me tell you how to be a really
good servant
you don't only do what you're told
without arguing
you also anticipate the wants and wishes
of the person
especially in this case, your husband
you want to be the best servant
you not only do everything your husband says
you anticipate
all the wants and wishes of your husband
and do that on top
go above and beyond
look, you want to get promoted at work?
don't just do everything you're told
go above and beyond what you're told
hey, work later, work longer
do more
hey, whenever your boss wants to do a little bit on the project
do a lot on the project
go above and beyond, put in extra hours
make sure it's really good
hey, that's how you get promoted in your job
that's how you get ahead in your job
hey, if you want to be a great wife
you not only do what your husband tells you
anticipate his wants and his wishes
and go above and beyond
do it even better
you say, why would I do that?
it's called improve your marriage
hey, you want to improve your marriage
obey your husband more
in every single way, all the days of your life
you serve him all the days of your life
I guarantee no man in here is thinking, oh, I don't want that
go to Hebrews chapter 13
I'm almost finished with my three points
then I'm going to give you the same 25
just statements for you to think on
to chew on
and don't be thinking
as the women in here
don't be thinking, I really like the morning sermon
and you men don't be thinking
that afternoon sermon was fire
you think about yourself
and even if you say
I can't wait for them to employ
all those things in their life
I can't wait for them to get
I printed out those 25 things
Pastor Shelley said and I'm going to put it up for him
I'm going to put it in his lunch box
no, you get the ones for you
and you worry about those
you say, even if my spouse
doesn't import any of this
if they get worse tomorrow
I'm going to do better
don't wait for your spouse to do good
you just start doing good right away
here's my third point
women not only need to submit
serve, they also need to salute
their husband, salute their husband
look what it says in Hebrews 13 verse 24
salute all them
that have the rule over you
and all the saints, they of Italy salute you
the Bible says to salute, notice this
all that have the rule over you
think about a salute
I usually think of Germans
salute, you know, whatever
but what is the picture
or you take your military
they salute the president
or they salute their commanding officer
but what's the essence of saluting?
it's respecting, isn't it?
it's fearing
it's having reverence and honor
towards that person that's over you
and notice what the Bible says
salute all them that have the rule over you
go to 1 Peter chapter 3
go back to that
I'm going to show you this point again
but wives should salute their husbands
and I'm not saying like
you know, when he comes home
it's like, I'm so glad you're home
yes, Lord
you know what?
you can salute him with your words
you could say, honey, I'm so glad you're home
I was so happy that you're home
let me take your hat
let me take your coat
let me take your briefcase
you know, there's other ways to
salute a person rather than just a little
military salute
or just, you know, have all the
kids and you just lined up just like
he comes in
hail husband of home
and great father and leader
of the north
you know, obviously I'm not getting
super weird
but you know what?
if you did that, I guarantee you would feel pretty special
he'd be like
he'd be like, I'm not missing
coming home
I can't wait for that salutation
and you know what?
if you
as soon as your husband comes home
oh, finally
where have you been at?
oh, take the screaming baby
take out the trash
take out the trash already
he's like, he pulls in the
parking lot and he's like, I'm just going to sit here for a few minutes
he's about to pull around the corner
and he's like, I don't know
but if he's waiting for that Hitler howl
you know, he's just like, he's racing home
I'm telling you what
you laugh and I'm trying to
be funny here a little bit but I'm also
being serious
I'm being serious
if you salute your husband, if you treat him with respect
you know what? he'll want to come home, he'll want to be around you
1 Peter chapter 3 verse 2
while they behold your chaste conversation
coupled with fear
now that fear is not because he
hits you, that fear is because
you respect him
that fear is because
you respect him
and you know what? it's hard to respect
someone that's not worthy of respect
you know what? just respect him anyways
because he's still your husband, still married you
he's still the man over you
and you know what? even
in his imperfections
and you know what? he has lots of problems
you can still respect him and that's how you
get the salute, you know the military doesn't think
like, well my commanding
officer doesn't really deserve respect
today, they just, yes sir
he's just in that position
so he automatically commands respect
your boss automatically commands respect
whoever's over you
just automatically commands respect
look at verse 5, for after this manner
in the holy time the holy one also who trusted in God
adorn themselves being his objection to their own husbands
even as Sarah Obeid Abram knows this
calling him Lord, there's your salutation
she called him Lord
and you know what? obviously
it's not going to be like Lord Shelley at home
but what would be a modern equivalent?
yes sir
and I'll tell you what
when you add a salutation
to your language, it changes your attitude
towards the person
when you change how you speak to a person
it'll change your attitude towards
that person
if you tell your boss yes sir at work
you'll want to be more obedient to him
you'll want to obey him more
you'll have more respect for him inherently
and you know what? they deserve that respect
because they've been put in that position
and you know what? if your boss has a title
if your boss has some kind of an accolade
or whatever, give him that accolade
you know, give him that title
it shows him that respect
and you know what? respect your husband
your husband deserves respect
and notice
Sarah is obeying Abraham
calling him Lord
but really it's because she's in subjection to God
because she trusts God
she's not saying like he really deserves it today
and you know what? you're like Sarah
as long as you do well
what if you don't do well? you're not like Sarah
you should honor and respect him
when he comes home
you know what? he's in charge
and you should be glad that he's home
now I'm going to give you
I'm going to give you 25 statements here
just a few verses
just to think about and chew on too
but what did I teach?
hey, if you are a woman
and you say I want to improve my marriage
I want my marriage to get better
submit, serve, salute
hey, that'll fix a lot of problems
but let me give you some practical ways
that this looks like
number one, be your husband's helper
and this is kind of in the submit category
so we're thinking about submitting
be your husband's helper
I'm going to show you another verse here
be your husband's helper
do you help your husband
or are you
causing more work for him?
does your husband look at you and think
wow, I like it when I'm around her
because she's always helping me
or is he thinking this is a detriment
you know, if your boss looks at you and thinks
man, you're more work than you are help
your job's in trouble
and obviously most employees
when they first get hired
let's just be honest, they're more work
than they are help
and really you have to grow in your role
and start becoming more help
than you are work
you don't want to be a detriment, you want to be a benefit
and as a wife, you should be a benefit
not a detriment
look what it says in 1 Corinthians 11 verse 8
for the man is not of the woman
but the woman of the man
neither was the man created for the woman
nor the man
that's an intense verse
it says the man was not created
for the woman
notice what it says, the woman
for the man, you say
what's my purpose
to help him
to be his
help me
he's not there to help me, I'm there to help him
and I'm not saying that husbands
shouldn't help their wives
but what I'm saying is that the primary function
is that the wife is helping
the husband
not vice versa
my job is not to go around and help my wife
my wife's job is to go around and help me
and you know what?
she helps me a lot
I've got four of them over there with one on the way
that's a big help
being around the kids is tough
I like going to work sometimes
because it's rough
not because I want to get away from her
but the kids, it's rough
she takes care of them
she helps make the meals, she helps clean the house
she helps do the laundry, she helps do all these kind of things
that I would have to do
but I don't
and you know what, you as a man, you should appreciate
the things that your wife's doing
that you probably take for granted
some of you may not be that good a cook
probably look different if you had to cook all your meals
okay
you just go out to eat and you look different too
number two
give your husband first place in your life
is your husband the priority in your life?
number three
do not brag about other men
it's like men shouldn't brag about other women
women shouldn't brag about other men
Johnny Depp's a fag looking dude
he's a queerbait
he might even be a queer, I don't know
someone knows
Robert Downey Jr., he's probably a fag
isn't he a fag?
Kevin Spacey, he's definitely a fag
you know, all your heartthrobs are probably just fags anyways
quit liking fags
he wouldn't want to be around him
he wouldn't even be interested in you
don't brag about other men
and don't even brag about your father
just make your husband your hero
number four
if your husband is unsaved
do not antagonize him about church
if your husband is unsaved
do not antagonize him about church
and again, you're supposed to submit into your husband
now, look
if I was in a situation where
I was married
if you're putting yourself in the wife's position
and she's married to a man
and he's not going to take her to church
I would still go to church
I'm still going to serve God, I'm still going to read my Bible
I'm still going to pray
but I'm not going to come home
and then nag him about not going to church
he's not even saved
I'm going to pray for him
and encourage him
and be kind to him
and if the opportunity arises
and it's not a bad thing
maybe I'll give him the gospel or whatever
but I'm not going to nag him
about church
and in fact, even if he is saved
you shouldn't antagonize him about it
you shouldn't antagonize him about anything
number five
boost your husband
do not tear him down
boost your husband, do not tear him down
focus on the good things about your husband
and just tell him that
don't tell him all the things he sucks at
because I'm sure there's plenty
I'm sure you could criticize me up and down
if you wanted to
I'm sure there's tons of things that I could do better
but you know what, you should just boost your husband
and the things that he's doing well
put your husband before the children
now that's even more specific than the other one
but look, your children are not the top priority
you're a wife first, a mother second
you are a wife first
and a mother second
and that also goes with grandchildren
and great-grandchildren
you're not a sister first
you're a wife first
you're not a daughter first
you're a wife first
do not take the children's side in discipline
never
and that can be hard because obviously
you know, women are more empathetic
so when they see a father disciplining the child
they're like, oh man, I want to rush to his rescue
and tell him, or be mad
look, never undermine the authority of your husband
just accept his discipline
number eight, never argue with him
that's a hard one
but it's real
you say, I don't agree with this one
just agree
we're in the Bible to give a caveat
when do you see any godly woman arguing with her husband
and it turned out well?
it never turns out well
how many times should people argue with their authority?
they just shouldn't
they just submit
I'm not going to argue with God
and you shouldn't argue with your husband
just never do it
just stop doing it
number nine, this is going into the service category
let your husband know that you love him
you should constantly tell your husband that you love him
and again
while women
probably need words of affirmation
more than men
men still need it
men are a bunch of babies
we're real sensitive
we need like a constant cheerleader
you missed out on being a cheerleader in high school
well now's your chance
you get to be cheerleader at home
and you've got one guy that you're cheering for
and he may lose every game
but you're still cheering for him
hey, I've noticed that the cheerleaders
for the losing team
they still cheer
and they're still like
F-I-G-H-T
fight, fight, fight, go, we're going to win
it's like 50 to nothing
and they're doing somersaults
and they're like, fight, we're going to win
and it's like your bank account's got five bucks in it
and you're like, we're going to win
yeah, fight, woo
it's hard
but you know what, just let your husband know that you love him
just tell him that you love him
regardless
and you know what, it probably means more to your husband
when you're going through a rough patch
than when you're going through a good patch
to give him those words of affirmation
number 10
be interested in his activities
you know
just like I said
for the men to go shopping, which I detest
women should also
make an effort to appreciate
and enjoy the things of your husband
number 11, have everything done before your husband
gets home
to maximize your time with him
I've noticed, I've seen women, they complain
about their husband not wanting to spend time with them
yet
when they come home, they haven't even started
on dinner
and I've seen it in cases where it's not like
they were having a rough day with the kids or something
like, there wasn't really an excuse, they just were lazy
about it
and I'm thinking like, hey, if your husband knows
that dinner's going to be hot at 5.30
he's going to make an effort
to be there at 5.30
but if he knows she's always slacking
and dinner's usually not ready until 6.30
he might slack on his way home
because there's not any real pressing effort
and you know, if you want to maximize your
time with your husband, then why don't you
say, hey, everything's done
I have
all of my attention, all of my
focus is on you, hey, when he's at work
get everything done and you have to
get done, and anything that you can say
you know what, I can get that done tomorrow
I'm going to put on a back burner
I'm not going to be a Martha about it, I'm going to be a Mary
and when he's here, I'm going to give
him time, and whenever he's
not here, I'm going to be a Martha
all day long, but you know what
when you go ahead and you waste all the time
that you have when he's not there
and then you're so busy when he is
there, it kind of shows
that you don't really care that much
you want to improve your marriage? Get everything
done and maximize the time that you have with him
because you know what, you're not going to
give every second with your husband, so why don't you just
maximize the time you get
number 12, be beautiful and appealing
now obviously
you know, the emphasis is not
on the outward
appearance, but you know what, don't let the outward
appearances go
Bible doesn't teach like just
try to be as unattractive or unappealing
as possible, it's saying that the most
important aspect is the inward person
but you know what, the outward still matters
hey, you should still dress feminine
and act feminine and be
as attractive as you possibly can and be as appealing
as you possibly can
and 13 follows on this, dress the way he
wants, you know, don't dress the way you want
dress the way he wants
if he doesn't like a certain garment, don't wear it
if he likes
the way you dress, if he likes another
way that you dress better, do that
if he likes a certain way you do your hair, do your hair that way
stop worrying about what Vanity Fair likes
and start worrying about what your husband likes
that's the only person that matters
anyways, when it comes to your physical appearance
14, be a good listener
that'll help you
that'll help you on that meek and quiet spirit
15, be frugal financially
you know, when we read Proverbs
it says that his husband does
safely trust in her so that he
shall have no need of spoil
no need of it
why? because she's frugal financially
16,
never criticize his parents
17, encourage him to take the lead
hey, your husband's not leading well
encourage him
whenever there's a decision and he's indecisive
don't go ahead and make the decision for him
encourage him to make a decision
encourage him to lead
encourage him to do that which is right
number 18, do not
boss your husband
do not tell him what to do around the house
stay away from
strong suggestions or orders
it's just
plain
I don't want to tell him what to do, just don't
and if you're like
well I'm not a wife, I'm a dude
okay, well don't tell your boss what to do
and if you have
anything you want to say to him
don't tell him
don't be a strong suggestion or an order
just say
if you please
if this is what you want
not my will but thine be done
number 19, have fun together
think of things that are fun to do
number 20, think of a way to help him
accomplish his tasks
whether that be making his lunch
you know, maybe he makes his lunch
maybe you can start making his lunch for him
you know, put a note in his lunch
I worked with a guy and his wife
put a note in his lunch
every single day
I'm sure that that made him, and you know what
it was special to them
and he didn't go around bragging about it
I just happened to notice
because I'm a pretty observant person, I had lunch with him all the time
and I finally just kind of like
realized what was going on
you know, think of ways to accomplish
things for him that he's already doing
number 21, satisfy his needs
you know, the Bible says
to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife
you know, one of the reasons men get married
is to
be intimate with his wife
whole point
and you need to satisfy
his needs, not yours, his
think about what his needs are and say
satisfy his
you say, why would I do that?
look, this is to improve your marriage
you want to improve your marriage?
I'm giving you a lot of practical tips
and I'm a man, I know what they like
you know
and I know what the Bible says
I've got four more for you, okay
here's the salute category
be home when your husband is home
it's going to be impossible to salute your husband at home
when you're not there
how can you even do that?
23, be pleasant at home
that might be a tall order
but be pleasant
at home
24, praise him for the good things he does
make your husband feel important
for you to be a queen
you have to make him a king
make your husband feel important
last one, cheer for him to succeed
cheer for him to succeed
and this is kind of the last one
and I think it's really important
cheer for him to succeed
what does that mean?
if you and your husband disagree on a decision
and you think what he's doing is wrong
and you think he should do something different
you need to change your attitude
so much that you're cheering
that his decision will work out
oh, I don't like that he took this job
no, your attitude would be like
I hope he's really successful at that job
why I don't like where we move?
well you should actually cheer
that that decision is going to go well
I don't like where he's going, what he's doing
it doesn't matter
you need to start cheering that he's going to be successful
in the decisions that he makes
because guess what, it's going to affect you
I think some women
they want their husband to fail
in the decisions they make
so they can say this
I told you so
I told you you shouldn't make that decision
they're like hoping that their husband fails
in some of the decisions that they make
no, you as a wife
should only
cheer for the decisions your husband makes
you should want every
single decision your husband makes
to work out
and let me give you an example in the Bible
and I'll close on this
we're talking about Sarah, right?
Abraham
or Abram told Sarai to lie
that they were even married
and that was weird
and it ended up being a really bad situation
but she still did it
and
she wasn't like actively lying I don't think
I don't think she was going around just saying like
I'm not his husband or whatever
but she just said hey he's my brother or whatever
and she was trying to use discretion
and obviously she's put in a weird situation
but
what would have been the failure in that situation
for some guy
to take her and marry her and just have a different
life or whatever
but somehow God had mercy on Abraham
and he closed up all the
wombs he rebuked Pharaoh
he rebuked Abimelech because he did it twice it was weird
he's like we've done this again
before why are we doing this again
but she was obedient both times
the Bible says she was a good example of someone
that obeyed Abraham, okay
and then
it ended up God blessed Abraham
out of that horrible situation didn't he
but what
why would Sarah want to have cheered
against Abraham in that situation
and been like I hope it goes really bad
no it ended up going really well somehow
and you know what God can take your husband's
crappy decisions and turn them into good things somehow
and that's what you should want
you should want for things to go
well for your family and for your husband
I need to cheer for your husband
because in your heart you just you're his helper
you're his one person
on this planet that's just always for him
no matter what
you know they say a dog's man's best friend
and I don't like dogs that much
but why do they say that
because a dog's happy with you no matter what
a dog's like you on your team no matter what
he'll lick your hand and
he'll come curl up in your lap and he's your buddy
and he's always on your team
but it should be the wife is the one that's like that
it should be the wife is just always on your team
you know the dog's not going to argue with you
you tell the dog to do
he just does whatever you tell him to do
a good dog
you can train him to just submit and obey
he'll just serve you
and he'll salute you even
I mean dogs are so excited when you come home
I've known a guy he had a dog
it would pee on his leg every time he came home
because he was so excited to see him
it was just so excited
and look I'm not saying that women need to be exactly like a dog
but I am saying you could learn some things
from Fido
why don't you say
I'm going to be man's best friend
I'm going to be my husband's best friend
and I'm going to what? I'm going to submit to him
I'm going to serve him and I'm going to salute him
let's go in prayer
thank you Father so much for your word
thank you for these commandments
I pray that you would motivate men and women in this room
to love and cherish their spouse even more
that you would help women to submit to their husbands
that they would just trust the Bible
and not the world
they would trust the Bible and not their own logic
they would trust the Bible and not their friends
and how they were raised
but rather they would try to be like Sarah
and I pray that you would just
help bless people's marriages
you would help encourage them to
have more intimacy
to have more love
and no matter what happens in their relationship
they could see the motivation
and the benefit of just serving their spouse
to the best of their ability regardless
of the situation
I pray that you would lead them in this room
that we would learn something from the sermon
in Jesus' name we pray, Amen
Amen
with that let's take out our hymnals for the last song
for this afternoon
it's going to be song
187
Jesus Loves Me
song number 187
in that song number 187
Jesus Loves Me
on the top
Jesus loves me
this I know
for the Bible
tells me so
little ones
to hear
Jesus loves me
this I know
for the Bible
little ones to
Him belong
they are weak but
He is strong
yes Jesus
loves me
yes Jesus
loves me
yes Jesus
loves me
the Bible tells me so
Jesus
loves me
He who died
opens
gate to open wide
He will wash away
my sin
let His little child
come in
yes Jesus
loves me
yes Jesus
loves me
yes Jesus
loves me
the Bible tells me so
Jesus
He will stay
close beside me
all the way
Thou has bled and died
for me
I will henceforth
live for Thee
yes Jesus
loves me
yes Jesus
loves me
yes Jesus
loves me
the Bible tells me so
Thank you all for coming today
Y'all get home safely. God bless. Take care.
Thank you.