Go tell it on the mountain. Let's sing it out.
Go tell it on the mountain, over the hills and everywhere.
Go tell it on the mountain, that Jesus Christ is born.
While shepherds kept their watching, for silent flocks by night.
Behold throughout the heavens, there shone a holy light.
Go tell it on the mountain, over the hills and everywhere.
Go tell it on the mountain, that Jesus Christ is born.
The shepherds feared and trembled, when lo, above the earth,
rang out the angel chorus, that hailed our Savior's birth.
Go tell it on the mountain, over the hills and everywhere.
Go tell it on the mountain, that Jesus Christ is born.
Down in a lowly manger, the humble Christ was born.
And God sent a salvation, that blessed Christmas morn.
Go tell it on the mountain, over the hills and everywhere.
Go tell it on the mountain, that Jesus Christ is born.
Good morning.
Thank you so much for coming to Steadfast Baptist Church.
If you did not already get a bulletin, please lift up your hand nice and high.
One of our ushers would love to come by and get you guys a bulletin.
On the front we have our Bible memory passage, Psalm 146.
We're on verse number 5.
And if you want help working on these, you
can always sing them.
So that's another good way to kind of work on these.
And we put this one to music.
And we're going to be singing that today.
So also on the inside we have our service and soul winning times.
We have our church stats down below.
And then on the right hand side, we have our list of expecting ladies.
We have our prayer list.
Continue to keep everybody in your prayers.
On the back, a couple special announcements.
Christmas day, we're going to be having a Texas brisket lunch,
courtesy of brother Ryan Urbanic.
And I'm also going to try to help him with that as well.
But he's at least bringing food so you can know there's something to eat.
No, I'm just kidding.
And then if you'd like to help, just bring a side dish or dessert.
That'd be great.
So the church can provide some rolls, some brisket, drinks,
everything like that.
So if you guys, obviously that's all you need.
But if you would like to also help with other kind of side dishes
or whatever you like to eat, you can bring that.
And if you bring chili with beans, I don't have to have any.
So that's no problem, all right?
Also, this Wednesday, and I had not announced it prior to,
but we still wanted to do this.
We wanted to have our Christmas cookie bake off.
And so this Wednesday, I know you don't normally come,
but we're starting a new book of the Bible.
We're going to be doing Hosea chapter one.
So it'll be nice and encouraging.
And then that was a joke for some of you, OK?
Obviously, y'all need to learn what Hosea is about.
Wednesday, we're going to be having our Christmas cookie bake off.
And the church is going to provide drinks, so again, like soda, milk,
everything like that.
But if you want to bring some cookies to enter in, again, it's a competition.
So you don't have to technically care about winning or anything like that
if you just want to bring some cookies.
But for those that are interested in competing,
you're automatically approved to be into the competition.
We'll end up voting.
Now, the voting is everyone.
So you've got to impress these children, all right?
They don't have sophisticated palettes or necessarily a viewpoint.
So it's all up for game.
It's all for grabs.
But everybody gets to vote.
This is our one time of year where everyone gets to vote.
You get to vote on cookies, all right?
And we have three categories, best decorated, best tasting,
and most creative.
Now, how this works is you can enter as many cookies
as you want, as far as different kinds.
And you can win all three categories.
So I mean, there's nothing stopping you from having the best decorated, best
tasting, and most creative cookie.
I think last year when we did it, someone unique won every single category.
But of course, it's plausible.
The categories are kind of, to give you an idea,
best decorated means it was really skillful design.
The colors, it looks really sharp.
Something that you'd buy at the store or some kind of professional made it.
Best tasting is pretty obvious that it tastes really good.
And that's the most important category.
Number three is it's creative.
Sometimes people make some really cool looking stuff or have a unique idea.
And so whatever people dream up, they can come and bring it.
And we had some amazing cookies last year.
Some of the cookies were beyond impressive.
And so it's a great time to come to church and to hang out
and to hear Hosea preached, apparently, for some of you.
All right, a couple other announcements.
We will be moving out of this building by the end of the year.
And so just everybody that wants to know where we're going to be meeting,
you need to be on our email list.
And you pretty much should already know if you are or not.
Because we send out emails all the time on a regular basis about church.
So if you're not on our email list, you can fill out a communication card
and give it to one of our ushers now.
Who needs one?
Who needs the?
Yeah, there we go.
So get them a communication card or everything like that.
And so I don't know what to tell you except for just you need to be on the list.
And then we'll tell you where we're going.
Because it might be completely different locations every single service.
And so just to give you an FYI on that.
I do want to make a couple other quick announcements off the record
if Jacob's going to help me with that.
Psalm 146.
All right.
While the offering plates are being passed around,
please turn your Bibles to 1 Timothy chapter number 2.
1 Timothy chapter number 2.
You
First Timothy chapter 2 the Bible reads I exhort therefore that prayers
intercessions and giving of thanks be made for all men for kings and for all that are in authority that we may lead a
Quiet and peaceable life and all godliness and honesty for this is good and acceptable in the sight of God our Savior
Who will have all men to be saved and to come unto the knowledge of the truth?
for there is one God and one mediator between God and men the man Christ Jesus who gave himself a
Ransom for all to be testified in due time where unto I am ordained a preacher and an apostle
I speak the truth in Christ and lie not a teacher of the Gentiles in faith and Verity
I will therefore that men pray everywhere
Lifting up holy hands without wrath and doubting and like manner also that women adorn themselves in modest
Apparel with shame face adness and sobriety not with broided hair or gold or pearls or costly array
But which becometh women professing godliness with good works
Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection
But I suffer not a woman to teach nor to usurp authority over the man
But to be in silence for Adam was first formed then Eve and Adam was not deceived
But the woman being deceived was in the transgression
Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing for
Check that if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety. Let's pray father God
We thank you for our church service this morning
and I pray that you fill pastor Shelley with the Holy Ghost and
Enable him to preach his sermon with boldness and give him clarity of mind
help us to pay attention and Lord soften hearts in the room to receive this message and
Apply it to their lives in Jesus name. I pray. Amen. Amen. So we're in 2nd Timothy or 1st Timothy chapter 2
verses 11 and
If you look there verse 11 again, the Bible says let the woman learn in silence with all subjection
But I suffer not a woman to teach nor to usurp authority over the man
But to be in silence and the Bible teaches that men are supposed to be an authority
Over women and that women are not allowed to usurp authority
Over the man now, of course first Timothy chapter number two is is certainly within a religious context
it's within a church context and
That's of course, you know what the Bible's talking about when it says teach here
It's talking about teaching the Bible teaching the Word of God, but this principle also
Carries forward to just every area of life where the woman and in this essence
It's talking about a husband and wife. The wife is not to usurp authority over her husband
But what's a really important part of this verse is the very first part where it says but I suffer not a woman
And the reality is that men should not allow
women to usurp their authority and
So what the Bible clearly teaches is that men are supposed to tell their wives what to do
Now here's the problem. We could already go home. I mean we already read the verse
Men, tell your wives what to do. I also I could read the verse that says hey wives obey your husbands and everything
You know and then we could just go home right but here's the reality the reality is that many men
struggle in this area of telling their wives what to do and
Their wives obeying what they tell them to do
Okay
And so the title of my sermon this morning is this how to tell
Your wife what to do how to tell your wife what to do because of course, you know
It should just be open your mouth say what you want and let's go home
but for whatever reason we live in a fallen state we live in a sinful world and
Oftentimes women are not obeying their husband and they're not doing what their husband says and I see a lot of men
That want to do the right thing and they want to tell their wife what to do
But their wife just is not following their lead
The wife is not obeying the voice of the husband and I have three
Points this morning. I have three tips
I have three ways to help you to get your wife to obey and I believe if
You are succeeding in all three areas. This will always work
This will always work and the reason why your wife is not
Doing what you tell her to do is because you're failing in one of these three areas that I'm going to talk about this morning
Now I want to say this, of course, no woman's gonna be perfect
No wife will always do everything you say and never make a mistake because we're all human. We're all going to make mistakes
We're all gonna fall short
But the essence of this is more from a big picture that your wife is trying to basically do everything that you're saying
She's going with you in the major life decisions
You're able to basically give her instruction and she's gonna generally follow it
Obviously never being perfect never doing everything always exactly right. That's reality
You also do not follow God's commandments perfectly as a man you often often fall short
But generally speaking God looks at us and can still say hey
This guy's following my ways and doing right even though he has daily sin daily problems is not always perfect
Okay
So we want to also guide our wives and guide the women in our lives to do likewise and to follow our lead
Now this is so important go to Esther chapter number one
Go to Esther chapter one, and I'm gonna turn to a lot of Bible this morning
Please please follow along in the Bible because the Bible is what's going to change your heart and mind
You know, I can get up here and rant and rave and scream and make a lot of logical sense
But often that won't have a lasting impact
what has a lasting impact is hearing the words of God ring in your heart and your mind your ears and
For that to carry forward with you because if you're saved you have the Holy Spirit
And if you have the Holy Spirit inside of you, he will remind you things in the Bible
He may not remind you everything I say
But he will mind you of everything Christ said and remind you everything that the Bible said and so it's important
To see the Word of God to hear the Word of God and let it ring and meditate in your ears
now
If you want to you want to talk about a constant problem in the Bible
It's wives not obeying their husbands and not doing what their husbands say
Of course in Esther, it's a it's a pretty big deal because the Bible says here go to verse number
10 it says on the seventh day when the heart of the king is married wine
He commanded the human biz the Harbona big the at a bag the Zethar and carcass the seven chamberlains that serve in the presence of a
hazardous the king to bring Vashti the queen before the king with the coin the crown royal to show the people and
The prince is her beauty for she was fair to look upon
so the king is
Giving commandment to servants to ask his wife to come and he doesn't even have he's not even telling her directly
He's having his servants tell his wife what to do
And of course, what should the wife do just obey right just do whatever husband asks of her and it says in verse 12
But the Queen Vashti refused to come at the king's commandment by his chamberlains
Therefore the king was Roth or very Roth and his anger burned in him
So here we have a picture of a marital dispute now if you've been married this happens, okay
I remember going to a
group at a church one time
me and my wife were in this marriage group and
it was kind of like we call life groups or sell groups or something like that and
You know
it's about it's focused on marriage and improving your marriage everything like that and the leaders kind of talking about how to deal with
Conflict and fighting and this one couples just like we've never fought
It's like they've been married for multiple years and they weren't saying like we don't fight on a regular basis
they were saying they've never fought in their entire marriage and
It was just like you're a liar
You're either a liar or you don't like each other because if you like each other you're gonna hang out and when you hang out
You're gonna have problems. Okay, that's just the reality. You know, if you're not fighting it's because you don't care about each other
That's the reality. Okay, so you're gonna have issues. You're gonna have struggles. You're gonna have marital strife
Okay, of course in a perfect world Vasti would just be yes my lord and just do whatever but she refused now
Here's the problem. This is a big deal because he had seven of his servants seven of his workers
Come and tell his wife what to do and she refused in the presence of all of them
So it's not like she's disobeying her husband privately
She's disobeying her husband publicly for the whole world to see the whole world knows
No, I don't do whatever my husband asked me I do whatever I want now
Let's see what the Bible says a little bit further. It says in verse 15
What shall we do under the Queen Vasti according to law?
Because she has not performed the commandment of the king of hazardous by the Chamberlain's now. This is another thing they're saying, you know
Even though she's your wife. There is a law that no one's allowed to disobey the king period like this
This you've not only broken the marital bond that you have the marital agreement of husband wife
You're breaking the law in a severe way by refusing to obey the king and so they're like, hey
What are we gonna do about your wife? She broke the law?
She is a criminal
she has done something very wicked here and
It says a verse 16 and the mute can answer before the king and the princes Vasti the queen have not done wrong to the king
But also to all the princes and to all the people that are in all the provinces of the king of hazardous
Notice what they said and they're talking about his wife. Can you imagine talking to the king about his wife?
Hey, I just want to make sure that you understand your wife didn't burn you
She burned us
She burned our entire city. She and she did every single Kingdom every single person in the entire world
she burned
She disrespected and is trying to destroy our entire country all of civilization
Mankind as a whole this makes me think of another woman Eve
Who destroyed all of mankind with her rebellion with her sin, right?
Now, what is this? What does he say?
For this deed of the Queen verse 17 shall come abroad unto all women
So that they shall despise their husbands in their eyes when it shall be reported the king of hazardous commanded Vasti
The Queen to be brought in before him, but she came not he says look if she wins this battle
If you just let this go
Every single woman in the entire land every woman on the planet will rebel against their husbands, too
This is such a big deal
Says a verse 18 likewise shall the ladies of Persia and media say this day unto all the king's princes
Which have heard of the deed of the Queen thus shall there arise too much content and wrath?
too much
Look you say how many times does she disobey her husband once you say how many times is it unacceptable once?
He said just from one time. It's too much content. It's already too big of a problem
And he says this if it pleased the king let there go a royal commandment from him and let it be written
among the laws of the Persians and the Medes that it be not altered that Vasti come known before King of hazardous and
Let the king give her royal estate unto another that is better than she
This is severe
Okay. Now now here's we have their sin. He ends up kind of like just divorcing his wife in a sense. That's wrong
Okay, you don't if your wife does obeys you one time you don't divorce her. Okay, folks
That is not the moral of the story and of course
this is a spiritual picture of how the children of Israel are pictures Vasti and
Because they rebelled against God the Father God had to replace them with someone that's better
And you know, it's better than the synagogue of Satan Jews is Christians. And so God replaced the synagogue of Satan, you know
Christ rejecting anti-christ with us who believe on Christ or the children of God
Okay, and of course, that's the spiritual picture we have in this book, but don't miss the carnal truth here
that you cannot allow
Rebellion from your wife because it doesn't just ruin your relationship. It ruins every relationship. It touches and it sees
You you want to destroy your children's relationships allow your wife to just run shot over you
And I'll tell you when there's a public spat
When there is a public issue where it's clear the husband wants a and the wife wants B
Let me tell you something as a man
You never ever ever ever let her win never
Because you're gonna destroy all kinds of other relationships and you're gonna allow other women to think
Oh, well, we can rebel against our husbands, too
And look as a man as a man I suffer not a woman to teach nor usurp authority over the man
That's what the Apostle Paul said
Hey, I'm not gonna let my wife win this battle because if she wins this battle
I've basically just burned my man card and I'm gonna burn the man card of every other man
And I'm just gonna let feminism take over the world and let me tell you something feminism has taken over our world
Why because men didn't let their they just let their women take over
They just said you know what you're about and I'm gonna do nothing about it
You know, I'm not agreeing with King Ahasuerus method here, but I do agree with this he dealt with it
He dealt with the problem. He dealt the situation
He did not allow her to just do whatever she wants and get away with it
Go if you would to first Kings chapter 21 first Kings chapter 21 now Genesis chapter 3
We have Adam and Eve and and who basically is the downfall of Adam his wife
Adam never took the fruit Adam wasn't planning on disobeying God
But what happened Eve?
basically
Entices her husband and gives her gives him of the food and he eats with her, you know
If you study Genesis the Bible says that God commanded the man to not eat of the tree in the midst of the garden
Then he created Eve
So who does who is God expecting to teach Eve not eat of the fruit of the tree of the garden?
Her husband her husband was supposed to teach her her husband was supposed to give her those Commandments and he totally failed
Now first Kings chapter 21 look at verse 25
But there was none like unto Ahab which did sell himself to work wickedness in the sight of the Lord
Whom Jezebel his wife stirred up. Why was Ahab such a terrible person because his wife
Was leading that relationship because his wife was telling him what to do and he was doing whatever his wife wanted
Go to first Kings chapter 11 go to first Kings chapter 11. Now the Bible commands in Deuteronomy chapter 17
Neither shall he multiply wives to himself talking about the king that his heart turned not away
Neither shall he greatly multiply to himself silver and gold
Let me tell you something many men fail to serve God because of their wife
because of their wife and
You know what? You should not allow
Your wife or a woman to stop you from serving God from stopping you to doing that which is right
First Kings chapter 11 verse 4 for it came to pass when Solomon was old that his wife's turned away his heart after
Other gods and his heart was not perfect or the Lord is God as was the heart of David his father now
I'm just reading the Bible for you is the but the Bible is saying the reason why Solomon didn't love God as much is
Because of his wife's it didn't say because of his sin didn't say because of what it's because of his wife
That means a wife can stop you from serving God from loving God from doing that which is right
Go to Genesis chapter 16 Genesis chapter 16. Now. I'm just giving this is just the foundation
I just want to prove beyond a shadow of a doubt that the Bible has so many examples of men that
didn't serve God because of their wife and
It's just it's a consistent theme
Genesis chapter 16 verse 5 and Sarah said unto Abram my wrong be upon thee
Now here's what you have to understand when your wife causes you to sin causes you to be drug away from God
It's your fault. Still it's not her fault. It's your fault and
Some people would hear this sermon and think like oh, it's against women. I don't care what your wife does
I care what you do as a man
You know, this sermon is about the men not leading their wives. It's not about wives obeying
We already we already established that they're not gonna do very good at that
You have to reign them in you have to basically tell them what to do and you know, Sarah is
Pretty much lauded in the Bible as one of the greatest women in Bible. I
Mean if you're gonna try and find a woman that was just great like to marry a great woman
I mean according the Bible she's the most attractive woman on the planet
Basically, not only that she's a great cook
We understand that according to the scripture she was one of the most obedient wives ever recorded in history
but even she
Caused her husband to not follow God's commandments to commit adultery
To go and lie with another woman and then whenever the the problem arises where oh, that was a bad decision
Notice she didn't say. Oh, that's my problem. She said it's your problem
So
This is why it's so important that as a man you tell your wife what to do because you have to live with the
consequences of your decisions and
You have to deal with those problems and as a man
You should know what's going on in your life so that you can make the right decision go to judges
Chapter 14. I want to go to judges 14, you know in judges 19
Which is a really bad story as far as just as it's a horrible situation that happens where a man's
concubine gets molested by a bunch of predators the AI DS community and
They kill her and you say how did they get there?
But if you start in that chapter in chapter 19, it tells you that the Levite took to him a concubine out of Bethlehem, Judah
Now here's some problems number one Levites are supposed to marry Levites
Why is he marrying or why is he with a woman that's not from Levi
Secondly, why is it a concubine and not a wife?
You know
That's another serious issue that this guy has and then another problem is that woman has such a close relationship with her father-in-law
She can commit adultery leave her husband and her father
The guy's father-in-law takes her in
You know, what what a wicked man that would interfere in the marriage of his children
Especially when your daughter is in such the wrong that she commits adultery against her husband
You better not be a rescue shelter for your adulterous daughters and say oh, yeah
You can just do you can whore against your husband and do whatever you want and you can always come home to daddy now
Here's the thing if your daughter or son was married to an axe murdering predator. Sure take them in
Okay, I'm not saying that you wouldn't shield them from some like extreme reprobate situation
Well, you know what? I'm not gonna shield my children because they commit adultery
I'm not gonna shield my children from the consequences of their actions and having to deal with their situation
You know what you do wrong you deal with it. They do wrong you deal with it unless it's one of these extreme
Extreme situations. I wouldn't even consider it and even then I probably won't even do it because Abigail had to live with nay ball
If Abigail is living a ball you have to live with whatever that's why you know
You better pick someone wisely to marry
You better pick the right person to go live with because you're living with them from now on it's like bye
You know see ya, but you know what? There's a lot of parents that meddle
There's a lot of parents that get involved and they're always like I just wanna let you know you guys have a fight
You can always come over here
You know if they don't do you they treat you poorly you can always come, you know, we need to adopt the Japanese culture
Where it's like if you disobey your husband he can ship you back to dad and he'll smack you around until you get right and
Then send you back, you know, it's like he wasn't he wasn't there as a shelter
It's like a shame if you go back to dad because he'll be like you better obey your husband because this is embarrassing
This is wicked. You better not be a vasty, you know get back to your husband and you obey him
but that's not what happened that situation and
We have here in judges 14 look at verse 17
This is Samson's wife and she wept before him the seven days
while their feast
Lasted and it came to pass on the seventh day that he told her
Because she lay sore upon him and she told the riddle to the children of her people
You know what? I like about the story is it proves that Samson's actually a weak person
Did you not realize like we always think of Samson's being strong and it arguably he's the he's like one of the most physically strong people
while God spirits upon him
But here's the problem
He is so weak when it comes to women and he can't tell his wife what to do
And because of that it destroyed him, you know, you could be one of the greatest Christians ever
But you know what?
You don't get your wife in control and you completely destroy yourself and your wife and everyone around you because because Samson
Allowed his wife to nag and cry and complain and he gave in to her what happened
Well, eventually his wife was killed his wife was burnt with fire
Her dad was burnt with fire and Samson had to move on to a bunch of other string of whores and terrible relationships
Why because Samson didn't rule his house and as a man if you are gonna be a man
You have to take the authority and never give it to anybody else
The Bible says give not thy strength unto women, you know why because you can
Allow yourself to be in control no matter what
The woman cannot take your power from you. You can only give it to her now go through the first Corinthians chapter 9
I'm gonna give my first point
They can't take it from you
You know, it's so silly
We live in a country and in a world where women are just in so many positions of power and authority today
Because men gave it to them men gave them all kinds of stuff, you know abortion, you know
We talked about abortion and people wish that abortion didn't exist
In our country, but you know why abortion exists is because women can vote. I
Mean if women could not vote in our country men
overwhelmingly vote against abortion
You know if we were to look at any moral issue any issue that's a serious issue in our country
You know is always the most there the largest demographic in support of wickedness. It's always women
You want to know the Democrats?
biggest fan base is women I
Mean there's
Don't argue with facts
Why is it that women are more inclined to go to evil and do wickedness than men? It's just nature
I mean, who's the one being tempted by the devil in the garden? It was Eve
So, of course because they're weaker the devil attacks them more and based on that combination
Women are more likely to go into evil more likely to do wrong. Is that sexist?
I don't care if it is or not
Now here's the thing. I don't hate women, you know
There was a label you things like sexist or whatever like you hate women. I don't hate women. I'm married to one
Look folks. She's the most important person on the planet to me
I love her more than all of you combined times a trillion
And throw my children on top of that. It's like I love her more than anything
She's the greatest thing ever, you know, women are wonderful. There's nothing about women that makes me think
You know what? I love that. I love women God created the greatest thing. I mean when Adam woke up, he's like, whoa, man
I mean look folks. That's not sexist to say though that women are weaker
It's called reality. It's not sexist to say that women are more inclined to do evil than men and
Here's another fact notice that there's more single men that come to our church than single ladies
Why is every fact always in support of what I'm saying? I mean every fact by and large and you really
And I'm gonna get there in a second
But when you look at even the great women of the Bible, they have a man in their life, you know, you don't see these
Joan of Arc types or something like that
You don't see these just women that are just all out there by themselves as championing the Christian faith. Usually they have a man alongside
Helping them guiding them leading them. Okay. That's why it says in 1st Corinthians chapter 9 look at verse 5
This is possible speaking have we not power to lead about a sister notice what the Apostle Paul didn't say to have a sister lead him
about
and
Here's point number one if you want to
Be successful in telling your wife what to do if you want to know how to tell your wife what to do
You need to lead by example. You need to lead by example
the Apostle Paul is of course a great example and
He's saying hey, wouldn't I have the ability to lead about it says of course in the marital relationship?
The husband is gonna lead about his wife. Of course. It says a sister notices a wife you say what's a sister?
It's talking about a wife and why is it called the sister because we're brothers and sisters in Christ, of course
So my wife is my sister, you know in the book of Song of Solomon
He talks about his wife my sister my spouse
Okay
So, of course my wife is not only my wife
She's my sister in Christ and it's my job to lead my sister just as minute
I'm sorry just as the children in this room
That have big families and you have men you have you have women and that you have the boy the brothers and the sisters
the brothers are supposed to protect their sisters and they're supposed to lead their sisters and
Defend their sisters and to help their sisters because they're the weaker vessel and just in the same way we've grown up
We're still brothers and sisters and we need the men to lead the women not the other way around
And if you want to be successful in the marriage relationship, you need to be a great example on your wife now
Go to Genesis
37 go to Genesis 37. I want to
take a kind of an analogy the Bible uses to help you better understand this point, but
The Bible is
Our lens or commentary on the universe it helps us understand everything that exists and everything in this world
points to biblical truths
every creation
Every item every object it all points to the gospel of Jesus Christ
It all points to the glory of God, you know in Romans chapter number one
It talks about how these things are manifest that they don't have any excuse
Why because God's powers just manifests that everything about it is clear and even the heavenly bodies
illustrate spiritual truths for us now in Genesis 37
verse 9 the Bible says and he dreamed yet another dream talking of Joseph and
Told his brethren and said behold I've dreamed a dream more and behold the Sun and the moon and the 11 stars
made obeisance to me and he told it is to his father and to his brethren and his father rebuked him and said unto
Him what is this dream that thou dream shall I and my mother and thy brethren indeed come to bow down ourselves to the
to the earth so
Joseph gives a dream he says there's a Sun Moon and stars and they're all gonna bow down to me and then as
His father interprets the dream correctly. He's saying a father
Mother and
Brethren, so who's the father and the illustration is the Sun who is the mother?
It's the moon who is the the brethren. They're the stars
Now, what do we know about the heavenly bodies? Of course, we know that they're all spheres
Okay, folks. All right, we know that
here's another thing the moon while it's a light is actually more accurately in
Scientific terms described as a mirror
Because the moon itself doesn't have light and
Of course, this is evident because we don't have a full moon every single day every single night
How could you even have a partial moon if it was itself?
Illuminated of course the Bible talks about all the different phases of the moon
It's not like the Bible didn't realize that the moon itself is not
Generating light itself, but it is a light because of its mirror properties the fact that it mirrors the Sun
So it reflects the Sun's beams it reflects the Sun's radiance
Now this is how a marriage works
Where the father the husband is the Sun and he's radiating glory
He's radiating beams and the wife is going to reflect
Her husband's glory. She's gonna reflect her husband's radiance
So the brighter the Sun shines the brighter the moon shines
The less than the Sun shines the less the moon shines now, I want to go to another place good Isaiah 30
Go to Isaiah 30. So what does this mean?
The reason why your wife oftentimes is not shining brightly is because you're not shining
because she's simply a mirror and
I could give you personal anecdotal stories of this just consistently
But it's just evident that a wife almost always just morphs and takes on the persona of her husband
She's a reflection of her husband in so many ways. I've seen so many women
They're a certain person then they get married and they're just a reflection of the husband and they just do whatever the husband says
You know, I know tons of women they're raised in a certain church and then whenever they get married
They're the exact religion of their husband. That was completely different
Why because often women are just a reflection of whatever the husband believes, you know, they didn't like football now they like football
They they didn't like Outback now. They like Outback. Okay, they've used to put beans in the chili now
They're right with God and don't put beans in the chili. Okay, they're going to reflect their husband's
Characteristics in every area of life whether they even admit it or not
You'll you'll start speaking the way that they speak you'll act the way that they act you're gonna go to the same places
Do the same things have the same likes have the same dislikes
You're gonna start reflecting your husband whether you like it or not. That's just the reality
Now in Isaiah 30 look at verse 26. The Bible says this moreover the light of the moon shall be as the light of the Sun and
the light of the Sun shall be sevenfold as the light of seven days now the
Context of this is God is punishing
The earth he's pouring out wrath and what he's saying is that the moon is gonna shine as bright as the Sun will
But then the Sun itself is seven times hotter
So in order to get the moon to the point where it's like the Sun the seven as the Sun has to be seven times hotter
Than itself was so what does this tell us? It tells us as the Sun gets brighter. What happens the moon gets brighter
As the Sun gets hotter the moon gets hotter
Okay, and this parallel works in your relationship that as you shine brighter
The moon is going to reflect your persona. It's gonna reflect your beams your radiance your brilliance
okay, and
You know to have the the moon be as hot as the Sun the only way you're gonna spring status you go to Phoenix
Okay, we're at night. It's still a hundred degrees. Okay. You're like what in the world's going on here
but of course you could have in a human relationship you can have a woman that's shining like the moon and
Then eventually she starts shining like the Sun and you say how you have to be seven times hotter
You say like my wife isn't very zealous will become seven times more zealous yourself
Well, my wife is struggling in this area. Okay, well then be seven times better in that area yourself
Now this is a consistent theme go back to the first Timothy chapter before
We were in chapter two, but go to chapter four first Timothy, I want to show you another verse here, you know
I'll say this point one. I'm not gonna spend as much time on as a couple of other points
I have this morning, but it's probably the most important
Because if you are a good example
whether your wife
Consciously thinks about it or not. She's gonna end up emulating and following a lot of your example and
And here's the thing
When you're a bad example
It's almost impossible to find a wife that's gonna still do the right thing. If you're a scumbag
it's almost impossible for your wife to obey you if
You're just a hypocrite if you come to this church and you hear all kinds of good preaching on things and you're a good marriage
Advice and marriage tips and then you employ none of them expect your wife to also employ none of them
You
Know if you are not spending time with the children and with your wife and you're not spending time with the Lord
Don't expect your wife to
Don't expect your wife to just be the virtuous woman while you yourself are just playing video games and being lazy and
Drinking alcohol and not working hard and being just a complete hypocrite and a complete loser
Because let me tell you something
Whether or not it's right or wrong it's human nature and your wife is just generally never going to be great when you suck
You want your wife to be great then be seven times greater than her
Seven times not like well, I'm a little bit better than her seven times
Whenever you feel like you're seven times greater you say like I'm reading the Bible seven hours now
I can expect her to read it for an hour
You laugh I'm being serious
You don't sit here and pick your wife apart pick yourself apart and say you know what? I know why my wife sucks
It's because I suck
You know why my wife is not shining bright, you know, when you look at the moon, it's never the moon's fault
I'm never looking the moon. Like why aren't you shining?
It's the Sun's fault the Sun's doing something weird or the Sun has problems
Of course, you know if you read in the in times it talks about how the moon the Sun's darkened and guess what happens?
The moon's darkened you want to know why it's because when either when the sunlight's not getting in the moon, it's dark
Now that could be explained by maybe the heavenly bodies perhaps one of the closer planets or a comet or something is
Traveling in the in the kind of in between and it's causing that problem. And of course, this is always the case, right?
Why is there marital problems because there's something in the middle causing problems stopping the relationship from going?
Well, you need to get that comment or plan it out of the way so that you're shining bright on that moon
first Timothy chapter 4 verse 11
these things command and teach let no man despise thy youth but be thou an
Example of the believers in word and conversation and charity and spirit and faith and purity. Here's another thing if your church is bad
You're probably bad as a leader
Why because in the same way that a husband and a wife reflect each other often a church is gonna reflect its pastor, too
Whereas the pastor if you want to have a great church, you have to be seven times greater
You have to be better you have to be leading you have to be a great example
So that your church has something to follow
Whereas you know when you're not even soul winning
How can you expect your church members to go soul winning and I'm not saying there is an exception to these rules
What I am saying is that generally speaking when the pastor is not
Excelling in a particular area the church often is gonna mirror that
The church is gonna have that same problem and that same issue and and deal with all kinds of problems
They're gonna start putting beans in the chili and then pretty soon they're gonna start putting rice in the chili and then pretty soon
they're gonna start putting gummy bears and
You know, whatever other weird stuff, you know
Soy, they're gonna start putting tofu in the chili. You think I'm joking
Pretty soon you'll go to a chili competition and it'll be vegan and I'm not joking
There are people that bring vegan chili to a chili competition and it's like how did they get that far down there?
It's because they let beans get in the chili
You know what never happened. We never had a vegan chili at our chili competition. But you know what there are certain churches
I won't name them
Oklahoma City that puts beans in their chili and
They have vegan chili showing up a little 11 limit the whole lot folks
You don't even know why I'm so strict on these things
You know, if we don't we don't hold Texas to Texas we'll be California pretty soon
Hey, if we aren't a fundamental Baptist Church will be Joel Osteen pretty soon
And you know what? I'm not interested in seeing how liberal and weak we can get I'm interested in seeing how bright we can shine
And you know what as a man you need to be a great example to your wife and say you know what?
I want my wife to be better. So I'm gonna be better
Go
Go to Genesis chapter. Well, we've already talked about go to chapter 2. Let's read this again
Here's point number 2 point 1 lead by example point 2 is this command the scripture be followed
Did you remember the verse I already read for you?
These things command and teach as a pastor commands his flock in the same manner a husband commands his wife
Now if you want to get your wife to follow you the best commandments are gonna be that of the scripture
And let me tell you something the scripture is sufficient you want to get your wife to do what's right
The scripture has all the verses you need
That's why you need to appeal the scripture. And of course that doesn't make you the bad guy. You're not the bad guy
Hey, this is what the Bible says. You need to do what the Bible says. Hey, let me give you some verses
You know, it's really hard to tell your wife what the Bible says when you don't know what the Bible says
You know, you might be struggling to give your wife good suggestions because you don't have any good suggestions and let me be honest
I don't
But you know
The Bible has a lot of good ones and I can appeal to scripture and I can command that the scripture be followed and this
Is always the case. How can your wife argue with you when you're saying this is what hey better do it. God said
She can't argue with that. She can argue with you
You know what? How are you gonna argue with the Bible? And of course they still will but you know what?
They start getting hurt in their heart, you know
They're grieving the Holy Spirit and because they're saved
They're gonna they're gonna want to change and God can change their heart and there's been times where me and my wife have had
Disagreements and I'm appealing to the scripture and the things that are right and I didn't think it would happen
But I just prayed that God would change her heart and her heart changed
You know why it changed because I was appealing to scripture and I'm commanding scripture to be followed not just my arbitrary rules
You know if I make up arbitrary rules, it's gonna be almost impossible to get my wife to follow
But if I appeal to the scripture and I say this is what the Bible is saying
You better do it. You know, this is what is right and Adam should have taught his wife
Hey, this is what God said don't eat of that tree
I didn't tell you that God told you to do that and you ought to fear God
Look at it says in verse 72 verse 12 again
But I suffer not a woman to teach nor to usurp authority of the man but to be in silence for Adam was first form
Then Eve and Adam was not deceived but the woman being deceived was in the transgression
Notwithstanding she should be saved in childbearing if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety
so, of course, you know what saves your wife you have given her lots of children to raise and
Telling her what to do and ruling over your house. You know, what's not gonna save her is letting her lead
It never works. There is no relationship in the Bible where the wife is leading her husband and it's successful
None, there's none of them where the husband's like, I don't think we should follow God and the wife's like
Let's follow God and thousands like okay
You know when that happened in the Bible? Oh, yeah, I didn't read it
You know what happens the husband leads his family the husband leads his wife the husband
Encouragers go to 1st Corinthians chapter 14 1st Corinthians chapter 14 now
I am not saying oh, well, my husband's not giving me good spiritual advice. I guess I just do whatever I want then
No, no you do right period
You know, I'm not saying you know there I've known people
Personally where it's pretty obvious that the wife wants to serve God and the husband's not
And you know what? Praise God for those women, you know
Those men do not deserve it because it's really hard to find a woman that'll even just obey
Let alone the woman that's gonna exceed your righteousness
So if you have that, you know woe unto you if you're not following it because God killed Nabal
So, you know, yeah, I can't imagine why God would want to sit here and just let a woman who wants to serve him not
Serve him that's a dangerous position to be in if you're a man holding your wife back from serving
God God might kill you and give her a better husband. Oh
I don't believe that. Well, don't test God
God will just kill Nabal. Okay, God can kill all kinds of people for whatever reason, you know
And the last thing you want is someone being held back from serving God
And you know as a man my wife can't hold me back from serving God
But as a wife you could be held back by your husband
You could be prevented from doing certain things that are spiritual that you really want to do
And you know what? That is a dangerous place to be as a man. You better not ever hold your wife back from serving God
Okay
Now in 1st Corinthians 14 look at verse 34
Let your women keep silence in the churches for it is not permitted unto them to speak but they are commanded
to be under obedience
How dare you command your wife?
What does the Bible say they're commanded to be under obedience?
How is your wife gonna obey you're gonna command her to obey you're gonna tell her what to do and it says this as
Also say at the law. He didn't say like only the law he's saying hey
I'm commanding them be in obedience and the laws commanding to me obedience
Where it's a it's a two punch. It's the left hook and the right hook just BAM
Obey
But you know what? We need some men to be commanding their wives
Verse 35 and if they will learn anything
Let them listen to Joyce Meyer. Oh
Wait, that's what I said
Let them ask their husbands at home for it is a shame for women to speak in the church
Look, there is a church across the street where the pastor lets his wife get up and preach sermons
The house church
It's pastor so-and-so pass I would love for her to preach that verse
Here's my challenge to the house church is hey let your let your wife teach us what that verse means in the King James Bible
I
Bet that verse isn't getting thundered forth from the pulpit
And you know why there's so many marriages that are being screwed up because they have a literal
Woman teaching them the Bible from the pulpit
What a shame and an embarrassment in our country that we have women teaching the Bible. I
Mean, how could any country have respect for America when they look at our country and they see women teaching the Bible
The Apostle Paul says I'm not gonna suffer that I'm not gonna allow that
How dare you talk about that against me?
Look they should sit down and shut up and ask their husband what the Bible says and you know
What's embarrassing is all the men that are married to a woman teaching the Bible?
You know, it's more embarrassing than a woman teaching the Bible being married to her. I
Mean that is I mean you just literally said I have no
Male body part. I I just I just burned my man card. I
Said you know what honey? Can you open the pickle jar?
Honey, will you open my door for me? Hey, honey. Can you tuck me in at night? Hey, honey
There's someone at the door. Will you go check and make sure it's safe. I mean, what kind of man are you honey?
Can you pay for this meal?
It's honey, can you please teach the Bible for me today?
What a joke what a joke of a society we live in and
People wonder why we have Joe Biden's our president
When they let a woman teach them the Bible. Oh
You think you think the women pastors are gonna take this country back?
When does that ever happen? When does a woman ever build a successful church?
When is a woman ever started a soul-winning movement? When is a woman ever champion for the faith of God's Word?
You know, when is a woman gotten up and just been like man? I'm a hardcore King James only
fundamental
Baptist-believing, you know
When do the women get up and preach and say let's obey our husbands and do everything they say and let's have a long hair
And let's wear dresses and skirts, you know, they have short hair pants on and they're telling women to get a career
They're teaching women how to be a man
Because when they teach, you know why they're teaching women to be men so they can tell their husbands what to do
Instead of men teaching men how to be the man, you know, who's the man the one who wears the pants
He knows the man the one that tells his wife what to do
You want to know who's the man in the relationship the one who gets their way?
Go to 1st Corinthians 7
Let me say this the Bible tells us we ought to obey God rather than men
You know what if there's a conflict between God and my wife. She is not allowed to win
Period
So then they there in the flesh cannot please God my life is not here to please my wife it is here to please God
You want it? Oh, that sounds like she's not gonna get her way. Sometimes you better believe it
You know what I am NOT here to serve my wife
My wife is here to serve me and I'm here to serve God and if I allow anything to get in between me and God
It's because I hate God
Because I hate my purpose
I hate the fact that God made me a man
You know all these people that hate that they're a man and they go and basically get a transvestite surgery or whatever
That's what a lot of men are doing spiritually where they're just letting their wife
emasculate them and basically turning in all of their their male body parts spiritually and just said why don't you just
Rule the house. Why don't I just put on a dress spiritually and allow you to lead me around and let's go to Joyce Myers
Church or not even I mean look how how come men aren't the one dragging their wives the church
Men should be dragging their wife the church not the other way around and I guarantee if we go to that church
there is more women than men there I
Guarantee if we go down to Todd White's church. There's more women than men there
I guarantee we go down to the the Baptist Church down here first Baptist Church Halton City. There's more women there
There is going to be virtually more women in almost every single church in this area except for steadfast Baptist Church
And you say why is that because you can tell the church that wants to serve God more men are gonna be in that church
Then the church that's not wanting to serve the church. That's the worst spiritually is gonna have the most women and
The church is the most righteous is gonna have the most men now, of course that doesn't mean women won't be there
You know praise God we have single ladies that come to our church
Praise God for them praise God that there's some women that are willing to try and serve the Lord
You know, even if they don't have someone leading them, but that is an exception
That is not the rule
Look what it says in first Corinthians chapter 7 verse 32
But I would have you without carefulness he that is unmarried care for the things that belong to the Lord
How he may please the Lord, but he that is married care for the things that are of the world how he may please his wife
You know what sometimes getting married will distract you from serving God
To the point where you just won't even do it and you say you know what? I'd rather please my wife than please God
Why because they just don't want the fight. They don't want the problems. But you know, I find that usually
It's only like one or two times that you really need to just lay down the law
You know
I think men have this idea of like well
I just don't want to have this fight for the rest of my life or I don't want to just constantly
You know have this issue, but it's like you start leading by example and you set the right precedent
You're you're good
But here's the problem if you allow your wife to win and you set the wrong precedent
Be ready to fight with your wife for the rest of your life
Be ready because they already learned. Okay, as long as I complain and cry and beg him or whatever
He'll just give me the answer to the riddle
You know as where Samson said never don't even ask again
And then when he didn't give her the riddle, she would never have asked again in the future
But you know what because he gave in guess what happens the next time she wants to know something
She's gonna cry for seven days again. That was seven days who wants to be nagged by their weight wife for seven days straight
But when you give in you're gonna you know what you're gonna have
nagging for your entire life
She will always buck at everything you say she will never obey she'll never listen to you
She'll never go where you want and your whole life. You'll just be led by her down a dark road
Into just just destruction you do not if you know, it's right and your wife's wanting to do something. That's not right
You never ever ever ever cave ever
You're setting yourself up for a life of misery and whoa whoa unto the man that lets his wife lead him
Whoa unto the man that gives in and caves in and just allows his wife to tell him what to do
Go to Hebrews chapter 12
You want to know what a man is? It's the one who rules
Think about this if you live in a household and the children do whatever they want. There's no parent
There's no parent and
If you live in a house where the wife does whatever she wants there's no man in the house
There's no man in the house. You know that the man is supposed to take charge. He's supposed to command his wife
Look what it says in Hebrews 12 verse 8
But if you be without chastisement where of all our partakers then he bastards and not sons
You know what God's saying? Hey, if you don't ever get punished, it's like you don't even have a father
Why because if you out there a wife and you never ever get corrected you never get instructed you never put
In your place, it's because you don't have a man in your life
Because you need a man to get you in line and you know what men need to rule their wives
Go if you would to first Timothy 5 go to first Timothy 5, you know
I'm just gonna read for you some places in the Bible Bible says in Ecclesiastes. This is what Solomon said
Behold this have I found say the preacher counting one by one to find out the account which yet my soul seeketh
But I find not one man among a thousand have I found but a woman among all those have I not found, you know
You know Solomon said he said I can find one out of a thousand men. That'll serve God. I
Can't even find one woman out of a thousand that'll serve God
Now that doesn't mean it's impossible to find it's not necessarily not as one out of ten thousand but it's in reality
It's like one out of a million
It's so rare
That's why the Bible says who can find a virtuous woman her her price is far above rubies
It didn't say like oh, it's easy to find women that will just serve God. It says it's almost impossible
And what is that chapter Proverbs 31? Oh, yeah, it's about the virtuous woman
Now, you know what? Let me give you an let me give you a little tip about the virtuous woman
She's married
Did you realize that the problem is like hey, where can I find this virtuous woman?
She's married
It's like all these single guys. They want to find the virtuous woman. You will never find it
Because the virtuous woman's married
You have to get one and then make her virtuous
It's like it's like trying to find a moon that's already shining without a Sun
It doesn't exist. You have to find a good-looking moon and start radiating on that moon
Okay, but it's like oh well, what about Deborah
Okay. Well, let's just you know, you know when Deborah's mentioned the Bible
Let me read it for you and Deborah prophetess the wife of Lapidoth
She's married and why is it the first time she's mentioned it's like oh, yeah, she's the wife of somebody
It's look it's a consistent theme in your Bible folks. You know, how about jail?
She's a great woman right when she's first mentioned is the wife of Heber
Why is it mentioning that they're married because look the great women of the Bible are often just married already
And of course, it doesn't mean that there wasn't women that weren't married that didn't do something good at some point in their life
Of course when they're younger, you know, you got people like Becca Rebecca's a great woman
She's not even married yet
But of course she ends up that's why she gets married and that's why she's so desirable is
because of she already showed a lot of good attributes, okay, and
Usually when you find women that were great in the Bible that weren't married yet or something. They have some serious sin issues
It's like Rahab the harlot
Okay
Mary Magdalene who was had filled with devils and all kinds of stuff the woman at the well, okay
Yeah, she's a great like soul winner not so great in other areas of her life
Okay
Yeah, you could find people like Daniel
Not
Married great man ago. Where is the eunuch woman?
You know, even when you find women that are serving God on their own
They were a wife at one point and then now they're a widow
like a widow for four score years or something like that because often it's the woman that were led by a good man and
Started getting a lot of good sunlight in their life that helped them become the woman that they are today first Timothy chapter 5
No, I'm gonna prove this with the Bible
Verse 11, but the younger widows refused for when they have begun to wax one against Christ
They will marry having damnation because they've cast off their first faith
You know the Apostle Paul saying I will not ever give a dollar or a cent to a young widow
she needs to get married and
He's saying why because if I start paying if I just start paying the bills of women and they don't have a husband
They're gonna turn bad
They'll eventually just stop serving God and they'll just marry some bozo. That's what it's saying
It's just saying they won't be satisfied just being taken care of and going to church because they're too young
They're gonna have too much desire and they're gonna just marrying, you know, some loser Fabio with long hair
Okay, they're gonna marry some weirdo or something like that. So they need to just go ahead and get married in the Lord now
That's why it says in verse number 13 and with all they learn to be idle
Wandering about mouse the house and not only idle but Tatler's also and busybodies speaking things with the odd
Not I will therefore the younger women marry their children guide the house give none occasion the adversary to speak reproachfully
For some are already turned aside after Satan. So what he's saying is look the women
If you just give them all the stuff that a man is supposed to give them, but they don't have a man
They're gonna go bad. They're gonna start gossiping. They're gonna start getting into things that they shouldn't they're gonna have all this free time
To do whatever they're going to eventually just marry some loser or hook up with some lose
I mean think about the woman at the well, she had five husbands folks and
The guy she was with currently is not her husband. Why because that's what women are gonna be like
They're gonna gravitate towards that and they're just gonna you know wax one against Christ
They're not gonna be satisfied just serving Christ
Just carte blanche and this is what's so bad about our society is we have so many women like something like welfare on
Government programs and whatever and they become the worst women
Because they they think oh I can do it on my own and they just become the biggest gossips
They just turn aside after Satan. I mean as a woman you should just decide I need a man in my life
I mean, that's just reality
You know the moon needs the Sun
The moon will never shine without the Sun and you know what women should just decide I need a man in my life
You know whether it's my father whether that's my husband
You know, I need a man in my life until you get to this that age the Bible talks about, you know
They're supposed to seek for marriage. They're supposed to seek for a man in their life
they're supposed to seek for someone to lead about lead them about and
That's just the reality if we go to Proverbs 31 go to Proverbs 31. What was this second point?
Is that you need to command your wife?
To follow the scripture command your wife to follow the scripture the Apostle Paul's telling him
Hey have her get married bear children guide the house
You know as a man, you need to tell her these things like you're gonna you're gonna have bear children
You're gonna guide the house and you can get really specific and I encourage you to go get really specific
But when you have too much idle time, it is gonna destroy you and it's not just women folks
Almost everything I'm saying is the same for men
I mean David when he doesn't go out to war at the time that Kings to go to war what happens he ends up getting
in all kinds of sin
Women are not busy doing that which is right are gonna get into trouble
You know, you know what Adam should have done
He should have been having Eve make him apple pie at home
So she wouldn't have been tempted to go and touch the wrong tree and be tempted by the devil
They should have been eating steak for dinner or a snake for dinner, you know
As opposed to you know, allowing that thing to whisper in her ear, okay
And
You know if your wife is not busy make her busy
If your wife is not busy make her busy you say how make her life harder
To make it better. Is that you know, stop making food from a box. Everything's from scratch
And you know, you need to get a good palate so that you'll actually make your have your wife make you good food
Okay
If you eat McDonald's all the time, you might just it's like good luck. Okay?
You know make your you could have your wife make clothes
you could have your wife shop at more stores for better prices because I
Do a lot of shopping myself for groceries and things that I like to help out and I just know
There are certain products at certain stores that are cheaper, but you can't like there's never a one-stop shop
There's not like just one store that always have the best prices
It's like they kind of have strategic things some stores have a really good price on certain products
Other stores have a really good price on a completely different product and I mean, it'll vary greatly
I mean you can have it where it'll be two three times more expensive at a particular store for the same product
That you would be buying and I know gas is a factor
But just generally speaking if you know the right deals and you're going out shopping spend more time going shopping. Don't let some
Thug or whatever, you know go and shop for you because they always suck at it. Anyways, all right
Make her learn things make her do her chores
You know
I'll say this I never do laundry or help with laundry and I'm not saying that's for you in your household
You can decide whatever you want. I help make a lot of meals. Maybe you don't want to ever help make a meal
Okay
but there are certain tasks that I will never help with because I did not gonna take that away from my wife and
And this is why I always joke with her but it's serious cuz I think I want to keep you employed
You know, it's like hey you left some clothes over here. Yeah, I want to I want to make sure you staying employed
You know, it's like I want you to have plenty to do around here and I'm doing a good job at giving you lots of
Work. Okay, you're welcome
Proverbs 31 look at verse 16. She consider the field and buyeth it with the fruit of her hand
She planted the vineyard, you know have your wife do a garden
Get
You know some hard physical labor
Look at verse 17. She girded their loins with strength and strengthen their arms. Here's one make your wife work out
How are you gonna strengthen your arms? You actually have to do work, you know tik-tok isn't gonna strengthen your arms folks
Okay, Facebook isn't gonna do it Pinterest for sure is not gonna do it. Okay
You know, it's gonna actually strengthen those arms is working
Putting those hands to good use, you know causing your why I mean there's nothing wrong your wife being physically strong
That's great
You just be seven times stronger
Hey, you know what you be seven times stronger and then your wife get stronger and then you get stronger. Okay?
There's a lot and why is it that her arms are getting stronger because she's working
She's doing stuff and you know women's arms are by nature very weak
Like they can have a really strong lower body naturally, but their upper body is usually a lot weaker
So it might take a lot of effort, you know holding babies while they cook
Holding that car seat going around do some work and let me tell you something when you work out. It gives you energy
It also releases dopamine in your head
It also helps you have less injuries feel better about yourself and you feel more useful
So it's like oh, how dare you make your wife work out? Well, look it has every benefit you could possibly wish for
She's gonna have less depression less mood issues less injuries
Of course the more healthy you are the better looking you're gonna be the better they're gonna feel about their body
You know all those clothes you have in the closet. She can't wear she start wearing them again. Okay, whatever the issues are
It's gonna be a positive thing
You know what sometimes you need to command your wife to do that which is right I
I'll be honest. I won't work out unless I have someone telling me what to do. So
You know, it's not like my wife's any different, you know, I need the same kind of encouragement as well
Proverbs 31 verse 23 her husband is known in the gates
Did you notice in the middle of this chapter? It just says oh, yeah, by the way, her husband's awesome
Her husband's a leader her husband sits with the elders her husband's known in the gates
You want to know why this woman's so awesome because her husband's awesome
You know, it doesn't say oh her husband plays video games all day
Her husband's known on reddit
Her husband is you know, it's like her husband is like a leader in the community
Her husband's making a different in the community
Look at verse 26. She openeth her mouth of wisdom and in her tongue is the law of kindness
You know, it used to be that old adage
They will say my mother would always say if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all
You know where that's coming from the Bible. Look what it says in her tongue is the law of
Kindness meaning she has a rule. She has a law
She has a commandment that she is only allowed to be kind
You know women should have this attribute where they are they're kind
You know what not criticizing their husband
Not criticizing people all the time not gossiping about other women. No, no, you have a law and your law is kindness
You say but no kindness
If you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all
Good Ephesians 5 good Ephesians 5
Here's my last point, okay, and here's here's the reality we need to lead by example
we need to tell our wives what to do and I think that an art style church a lot of men do these first two and
Then they get confused why it's not working
They'll say like well, I'm going to church. I'm reading my Bible and I'm telling my wife make me stuff
I'm
Telling my wife do whatever I want, you know, and for some reason it's just the axes are grinding and it's not working
Here's the third reason here's probably the most important for a lot of people in our style church is you have to love your wife
You have to love her because you know a harsh dictator is only gonna get so far in obedience and
really your wife is gonna obey you better out of a heart of love and appreciation more than just a
ruling dictator that's ruling with fear and just
Do it now, of course, they should I'm not saying don't but what I'm saying is the reality is a lot of times
Why is aren't obeying their husband?
They're not doing what they said not because they didn't say it not because the husband isn't doing right
so because the husband doesn't love them and
It's hard to be motivated to serve someone that doesn't love you
It's hard to do the right thing when there's not any kind of mutual respect or care
or affection
Ephesians chapter 5 look at what it says in verse 25 husbands
Love your wives even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it that he might sanctify and cleanse it
With the washing of water by the word now it says in verse 29
No, no man ever yet hate his own flesh would nourish and cherish it. You should nourish and cherish your wife
You should realize she's a great value. She's the greatest things ever happened to you and
She's way better looking than you. Okay
And
Notice you still cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, right?
You're supposed to tell her what to do and clean her up with the Bible. But but at the same time
Here's my philosophy and I believe this is gonna help you is I will never compromise on the Bible
But I'll compromise all day long and things that are not the Bible
So what does that mean? It's like you're coming to church with me on Sunday morning
There is no there's not another option
it's already been decided and if I need to I'll pick you up and put you in the car and
Then I'll pick you up and put you in your chair
Okay, and I'll hold you down during the service if I have to
I'll turn the by I'll help I'll hold your hand while you turn in the pages with me
But you know what I'll say this I'll go wherever you want for lunch
Now here's a problem she'll be like, well, I don't know
So then you have to know your wife because you actually love her and you say we're going to your favorite place
You know, even if I don't like ranch dressing you love ranch dressing. So we're gonna go and get some ranch dressing. Amen
Right. Why because I love my wife
and
Of course, I'm not perfect. But what I'm saying is that we should all
Be willing as men to make compromises and sacrifices for our wives
But just never when it's a sacrifice in the commandments of the Bible
That's not there's not an option here
You can't complain or nag me enough to get me to stop following God's commandments and not doing what's right
You know what?
If you want me to do other things
You want you want to live this place? You want to go this place? You want to do these things gonna wear this stuff?
I mean look I go shopping sometimes with my wife. I
Absolutely hate shopping. I
I'm not joking when I say I'm not joking. I'm not exaggerating
If you said pastor silly
Dylan can punch you in the face or you can go shopping all day. I would take the punch in the face
And he could probably pack a pretty good punch
It's like because as soon as the punch is over I can then go enjoy the rest of my day
Whereas shopping hurts the whole day and there's some they're like I can walk and play golf
Like I could walk miles and carry my golf clubs and swing and I'm less tired than just standing in a store for like 30
Minutes you like start standing in the store and you're just like getting boozy and your legs are not like locking up
And then you have to possibly spend money talk about hurting your heart I'm like hurt my body over my wallet, okay folks
And it's like everything just gets more expensive every second and you look at all the gimmicks
They're like, huh? We marked it up a thousand percent and then knocked it off 50
It's like honey. We're gonna save so much money. It's like no
You never save money by spending it. Okay, never
Go to Song of Solomon. All right, I'm gonna finish the sermon I promise
Caution says husbands love your wives. You know, we should be tender and gentle and
Sacrificial and we should care what our wives want. We should know what our wives want. We should study our wives
We should put effort and energy into our wives, you know at the end of the day. I'm gonna tell her what to do and
Often you know when you get really good at this there's less and less of the back and forth, you know
I don't even I don't even let my wife order at the restaurant. I just order for her
because I'm better at ordering for her than she is and
I mean that in all seriousness. She'll order bad stuff for her
Like I'm not saying like health-wise I'm saying like she'll just make a mistake and realize that that's not that's not what I know what she
Wants I know what she needs to get and I don't need to waste time and make her uncomfortable with the waiter or whatever
I'm just like this is exactly what she wants because we'll go to Outback and she doesn't like
Tomatoes or onions in her salad, but she'll be like, I just feel awkward like asking for two things
So I'll just only ask for one and I'm like, no, let's get both out, you know
I'll tell them you know, hey make it this way and it's like sometimes your wife
Just feels uncomfortable about situations doesn't know how to handle things and you just handle it for them
You buy the things for her you do that
You hold the door for her you help her with all you study your wife you pay attention to what she likes
You take her out to the places that she likes
I mean you need to do things that show you actually care about her if you don't even know what your wife likes
It's because you don't love her
Just like if you don't know what God likes it's because you don't love them. I
Mean
It's there's so many men out there. They're like, oh my wife never does what I want
It's like you don't even know who your wife is
Don't know anything about her. You don't even care about her. Why is she gonna be so motivated to serve you?
So faithfully when you don't even care to learn anything about her
You don't even know what she likes
Song of Solomon look at verse 1 the song of songs, which is Solomon's let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth
For thy love is better than wine, you know, if you want to understand something about marriage song of Solomon
they are physically affectionate all the time and
As a man, you should be physically affectionate with your wife all the time, but of course in a sincere way
You know, she wants to be kissed by him why because it shows to her that he cares about her he's thinking about her
He likes her
You know physical affection is very important in a relationship. If you're not showing physical affection
You're failing in a relationship. You need to be showing consistent putting your arm around her hold her hand
You know giving her
Intimate embraces on a regular basis letting her know that you like her and not just for you know
The reason men get married but just on a regular basis showing care and affection and love and gentleness
You know women love this
Verse 13 a
Bundle of myrrh is my well beloved unto me. He shall lie all night betwixt my breasts
Here's another thing spend time with her
You know, why it is probably the number one reason women disobey you is for attention
Women will rebel for one reason. They just want your attention. It's not that they're really wanting to be rebellious
They're just so jealous for your attention that they're willing to just do anything to get it
Even to the point of sinning even to the point of just being rebellious
They'll just do all kinds of weird stuff just see a patient. They'll spend money that they shouldn't just so you'll pay attention
They'll do something you told them not to do just so you'll notice them because they would rather have negative attention from you
Than no attention and if you're not giving her any attention, she'll start giving you plenty of negative attention
So it's like I want to eliminate negative attention and give her lots of positive attention spend time with your life
You know if I had a job where I'm not seeing my wife on a regular basis I would change jobs
This is not worth it. You know notice what it says all night. He's with his wife
It didn't say like oh well
He's just off doing his own thing no no your wife loves it when you're around her and spending time with her and you're there
At night, you know my wife has our time even sleeping if I'm not there at night, and it's it's a consistent thing
It's not like my wife all of your wives, okay?
Maybe we don't want to be touching, but we are in the same area, okay?
Go to chapter 2 look at verse 4
He brought me to the banqueting house and his banner over me was loved stay me with flagons come for me with apples for
I'm sick of up. You know what?
He's taking her out to nice places to eat
I'm meant to read one of the verse chapter 1 verse 17 the beams of her house are cedar and are wrapped of her they
Have a nice place to live
You know you want your wife to obey you
Give her physical affection all the time spend plenty of time with her give her a really nice house to live in
Take her out to nice places to eat
Go to chapter 4
Look at verse 9 now. It's ravished my heart my sister my spouse
I was ravished my heart with one of thine eyes with one chain of thy neck how fair is thy love
My sister my spouse how much better is thy love than wine in the smell of thine ointments than all spice
You know he does in this chapter, and I'm almost all the chapters. He's constantly praising his wife's beauty
You know your wife loves for you to compliment her, and you will never be done complimenting her
She can never be complimented enough. You can never tell her she's beautiful enough. You can never compliment her attributes enough
She is insecure and she needs you to provide that security by constantly reminding her of how beautiful
She is at all times
On a regular basis chapter 6 verse 9 my dove my undefiled is but one here's another thing
You need to communicate to your wife
She is the only one the worst thing you can do in your relationship is compliment other women's beauty
All other women are butt ugly compared to my wife
They're like they might as well be men
My undefiled is but what my under my my I'm sorry yeah, yeah undefiled, but one my beloved is one
the only one
It's like man. Why is my wife not you know obeying me?
it's because you're always thinking about other women and focused on other women and
Focused on yourself and doing your own things and you're a selfish lazy jerk, and she doesn't want to serve you
It's like
All these problems, and you know what men often want to do they want to complain to me and act like they have a bad
Wife no, you're bad
My wife's rebellious you're rebellious
You
Know what I'm just sick and tired of men complaining about their wives
That is a woman attribute
You know what a man does he fixes the problem
He doesn't complain about it women do that women coming to you like I have this problem. You know what miss they fix it
You know I don't want to fix. I just want to talk about it
It's like no no no as a man you just fix problems
You don't sit here complain about them and
Worry about them and look I guarantee every man in this room is not sitting here like check got it check got it check got it
Maybe Jacob, but that's why he's single no
He's getting a lot out of this sermon this morning, okay?
I'm just giving him a hard time
Look folks you say. Oh, I don't know if I can get my wife to obey me
If you're leading by example you're commanding her to follow the scripture, and you're loving her with physical affection
Romance you're spending time with her you're giving her a nice house
You're giving her nice food, and you're constantly praising her. Let me tell you something. She will do everything you tell her to do
And I guarantee the women in this room while they're not allowed to scream amen
They're thinking like wow that sounds great
My husband's gonna lead by example. He's gonna be a righteous man that I can follow
He's gonna teach me the Bible, and he's gonna spend so much time with me loving on me doting on me
Giving me a nice house taking me out on restaurant. You know giving me something important to do with my life
Helping me with that instructing me in those words. That's what every woman wants the women out here. They want that
That's why they're so unhappy
Every feminist is unhappy have you ever met a happy feminist they don't exist. They're always recovering
They're always having mental health days. They're always needing to just detoxify or whatever
They will never be happy
Every woman is unhappy without a man in their life
The man is what makes a woman happy, and you know what when you're not a real man your wife's not happy
Your wife's not gonna obey your wife's not gonna do what you want don't be letting Vashti
Tell you what to do you know what get an Esther in your relationship
You know make an Esther
Be be the brightest Sun you can be so she can be the best moon that she can be you know what the last thing?
I want to hear is how the moon isn't shining bright
You know why the moon is it shining bright because you're not shining bright
And you know what stop worrying about how your wife is struggling and start worrying about you I?
Don't I don't want to hear it if you're a man in this room you fix yourself
You fix your problems
I already gave you a lot of suggestions if you do every single thing on this list
Perfectly then you come talk to me, and then I will give you other advice then I will help you
But until then you know focus on what the Bible has already instructed us, and you know what start telling your wives what to do
Let's go some prayer. Thank you Heavenly Father for the Word of God. Thank you for giving us such clear instruction
I pray that you would have strengthened men's hearts in this room today. You'd strengthen men's hearts in this country that they would start
Exercising authority over their wives because that's what they want. That's what they need what our country needs
That's what our state needs. That's what our church needs. That's what every marriage needs is a man
We have a lack of men in this world
We have a lack of godly men that will serve the Lord that put him first
That are willing to rule what he's given them authority over and I pray that we wouldn't be slothful as men
we would take our jobs as the most important job as the leader and
That we would encourage our wives and our family and our children and in our entire community
To follow your commandments and to see the fruit of that work and in Jesus name we pray men
For a final song this morning we will turn to
420 there's a song in the air
There's a song in the air there's a star in the sky
There's a mother's deep prayer and a baby's low cry
And the star reigns its fire while the beautiful
sing
for the manger of
Beth the
him cradles a king
There's a tumult of joy for the wonderful birth
For the Virgin sweet boy is the Lord of the earth
By the star reigns its fire while the beautiful
sing
for the manger of
Bethlehem cradles a king
In the light of that star by the ages
And that song from a bar has swept over the world
Every earth is a flame and a beautiful
Sing in the homes of the nations that Jesus is King
We rejoice in the light and we echo the song
That comes down through the night from the heavenly throng
I wish out to the love the
evangelical
So we have one baptism real quick, sorry we have just stay seated for just a second we have Clayton coming for baptism
You