And the old account was large and broken every day, for art was always singing, and never tried to pay, but when I looked ahead and saw it was great and bold,
I said that I'd settle, and I said that I'd love you, love you, love you.
When at the judgment bar I stand before my King
And he the book will open, he cannot write his name
And will my heart be glad while his world will go
He does not know how to settle down
Say, ma'am, lift it up, now, now, my King
I settle it all, yes, the older gap will settle
While we go out, and we'll take our slaves away
Glory to us, my slaves are made
When the older gap will settle long ago
When in that happy home, my saviour's home above
I'll sing great empty story and praise it for his love
I'll never forget the world with things like a stone
He does not need to settle and settle it long ago
Long ago, long ago, long ago
Yes, the older gap will settle long ago
And the records there today, before he washed my sins away
When the older gap will settle long ago
O sinner, seek the Lord, repent of all your sin
For thus he has to mend the future and today
And then he shall win a hundred years to go
I'll pray you, my repenting, to settle it long ago
Long ago, long ago, long ago
Yes, the older gap will settle long ago
And the records there today, before he washed my sins away
When the older gap will settle long ago
There's within my heart a melody
Jesus, Christmas, sweet and low
Here I am with thee, peace be still
In all of my seven days
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus
Sing and stay my love
Here's my empty body
Here's me singing as I go
All my life was wrecked by sin and strife
Here's what filled my heart with pain
Jesus stepped across the loving street
Turn the suffering towards again
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus
Sing and stay my love
Here's my empty body
Here's me singing as I go
Feasting on the riches of his grace
As he made the shells ring free
Always looking on his smiling face
That is my shout and sing
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus
Sweet and stay my love
Here's my empty body
Here's me singing as I go
Though sometimes he leaps through water's steam
Drives all across the way
Though sometimes the past seems rough and steep
See his blood friends all the way
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus
Sweet and stay my love
Here's my empty body
Here's me singing as I go
All my life's brought together now
Siri's coming back to welcome me
Glory on the starry sky
I shall ring my flag till the world's unknown
I shall reign with him on high
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus
Sweet and stay my love
Here's my empty body
Here's me singing as I go
There is coming a day
When the heart it shall come
No more clouds in the sky
No more tears to dip behind
All this peace forevermore
All that happiness on the shore
What a day!
Jump straight from Thanksgiving into the Christmas spirit
Song 424, O come, all ye faithful
Song number 424
O come, all ye faithful, sing it out on the first
O come, all ye faithful
Joyful and triumphant
O come, ye O come, ye to Bethlehem
Come and behold him
For the king of angels
O come, let us adore him
Christ the Lord
Sing choirs of angels
Sing in exultation
O sing, all ye bright
Oh, sign of heaven above
Glory to God, oh
Glory in the highest
O come, let us adore him
Christ the Lord
Yea, Lord, we greet thee
Born this happy morning
Jesus to thee be your glory
Hail
Word to the Father
Now in flesh I be hearing
O come, let us adore him
Christ the Lord
Great singing, everybody.
Let's open up the service now with a word of prayer.
Lower, we thank you so much
It's another awesome day to serve you, Lord.
A great church, great people.
Lord, we just ask that you fill this room with your spirit.
Help bless everything we do.
And help us lift up our voice to you as we sing this morning.
And in Jesus' name we pray. Amen.
All right, for our next song, let's go to the handout.
Should be a handout for what child is this.
If you do not have a handout, raise your hand and we'll get one to you.
What child is this?
Keep your hand up nice and high and we'll get up a handout.
I'll get a handout to you.
What child is this?
Everybody sing it out on the first.
What child is this who laid to rest
On Mary's lap is sleeping
Who mages green with anthems sweet
While shepherds watch are keeping
This, this is Christ the King
Whom shepherds guard and eat to sing
Haste, haste to bring him on
The babe, the son of Mary
Why lies he in such flawless state
Where ox and lamb are feeding
Good Christian fear for sinners near
If I then burn his pleading
Nailed spear shall pierce him
Through the cross be born
For me for you
Hail, hail, the word made flesh
The babe, the son of Mary
So bring him in since old and were
Compass and King to own him
The King of kings, salvation brings
Let loving hearts enthrone him
Raise, raise the song on high
The virgin sings her lullaby
Joy, joy for Christ is born
The babe, the son of Mary
Raise singing.
Thanks for coming to St. Baptist Church.
If you haven't already received a bulletin,
you would like one.
You can lift up your hand nice and high.
One of our ushers can come by
and get you guys a bulletin.
On the front, we're working on Matthew 28
as a new Bible memory passage.
And also in the inside, we have our service
and soul winning times.
We have our church stats down below.
On the right, we have a list
of our expecting ladies,
as well as our prayer list.
And we have several prayer requests there.
If you'd like to have any additional prayer requests,
please email those to us.
And we'll try to get those updated in the bulletin.
On the back, we have a note about our turkey bowl
coming up this Saturday.
And Brother Marcel, you can see him about details
if you're interested in participating in that.
Also, the Ladies Christmas Party is coming up.
So if you've signed up for that,
we'd love to have, make sure you're out there.
It is nursing only.
So make sure that you guys are very helpful with that.
On December 9th is our Christmas caroling.
We have December 25th is our Christmas cookie bake-off.
And then January 1st is the men's preaching night and pizza.
As far as the caroling is concerned,
we'll probably post that into our chat group and stuff
as far as like instructions and everything like that.
If you're not in that, please see me or Brother West
or one of our ushers and we can help you with that information.
Inside of our bulletin, we have a newsletter update.
And I have evangelist Urbanic, who's in the Philippines,
give us a monthly update as far as what he's been doing
and you're able to read through the entire sheet if you would like.
I usually just point out a few of the notable statements here.
He says that him, and he says we,
mostly because he's been training up and creating some disciples there,
some soul-winning disciples that are there with him doing a lot of the soul-winning.
And so they were able to get 495 salvations for the month of November.
And so that's great.
Also they have 2,800 so far since him being out there.
So he's beating our entire church.
And so that's definitely really encouraging.
And that's one of the main reasons why we would send someone to the Philippines
and why we love the Philippines is because of how receptive it is to the gospel
and just the sheer volume of people.
Especially places like Manila and other places.
They're very densely populated.
And so when you go to parks and you go to public areas,
there's hundreds and hundreds if not thousands of people out.
And so there's a lot of opportunity to communicate and talk to people.
If you ever want to go to the Philippines,
a lot of people here in our church have been there, visited.
Some people are even from there.
I would highly encourage you to talk to them about it
because they're way more knowledgeable than I am.
I've only been there one time briefly.
But from even just my brief experience,
the soul winning is very enjoyable
just because there's so many opportunities to preach the gospel.
Most people that are especially younger speak English well enough
that you can communicate pretty effectively
and still get people saved in English.
Additionally, depending on what time of year you go to the Philippines,
it can be pretty affordable.
If you go around December, January, it's pretty expensive.
I didn't even realize that when I went out there.
So it was like about $3,000 to $5,000 if you want to fly
in kind of the December, January window.
But I was looking in like March in some other parts of time,
it's like $1,200.
So that's a lot more affordable.
And the $3,000 flights right now
are like the worst flight you could ever imagine.
It was like a 50 or 60 hour travel time through all kinds of...
It was like going backwards.
It was going like Dubai and then Athens and then New York
and then back here.
I was like, oh, that's weird.
So if you time it right though,
it can be a pretty affordable trip.
And another thing about the Philippines is the dollar goes really far.
So stuff there is a lot cheaper than America
and so really just housing, food, transportation.
I didn't even have to worry about transportation
because they have kind of like an Uber over there called Grab.
And it's very cheap.
It pays like five bucks or something like that.
And you can have them take you wherever you want all the time.
It's pretty easy.
And the food is very affordable.
I mean, you could eat really well,
like really great meals for cheap
pretty much the whole time you're there.
And there are some very nice hotels.
One of the ones I stayed in was pretty cheap
and yet it was like a five star hotel.
And so it was really, really nice.
In fact, the hotel I stayed in was cheaper than the Airbnbs
and it was just like, you know,
might as well just stay in a really nice hotel
because over there a really, really nice hotel
is like $120 a night.
So, you know, like over here that's like Motel 6 or something.
And so that's one of the great things about the Philippines is,
you know, the dollar stretches really far over there
and you can enjoy yourself.
You can stay in nice lodging very affordably.
There's all kinds of every cuisine you could think of, honestly.
And they have...
the soul winning is just honestly really special.
It's a lot of fun.
Plus there's a lot of...
there's just a lot of people over there
that are really zealous for the things they've got,
especially Pastor Stuckey's church.
They're running hundreds of people over there.
They have a couple different church plants.
And so, you know, they had a recent soul winning marathon
where I think they had like 48,
approximately like 40-something people go out
and they had 150 salvations for the day.
And so, you know, that's really good numbers.
Usually if you have about a salvation per soul winner,
that's like good.
And then if you like have double, that's great.
Triple is just like phenomenal.
And so, that's just kind of give you some kind of an idea
of what it's like over there.
And so, just to kind of encourage you,
if you've ever liked to go out there.
Also, Brother James Perry's been out there multiple times.
He's a friend of our church.
He knows that area pretty well
because he stayed out there a lot.
And he comes back so you can pick his brain
on what he's been doing.
Also, if you ever want to go out there,
I can try to get you in touch with
Evangelist Rabbinic or Pastor Stucky.
And also, there's even other churches out there.
I think the plant brothers have visited some other churches
and highly recommend them as well.
And so, there's a lot of resources
if you ever like to travel on that side of the world.
And it's pretty much warm all the time, too.
So, if you like a break from the cold.
So, just wanted to throw that out there.
If you want to read more, read this.
I really like Evangelist Rabbinic giving us
some kind of an update.
And it's not like, hey, this week we sweep the floor
and we learned a few new words.
And we're hoping that so-and-so might come to church one day.
It's like, hey, we got 495 salvations.
It's like, man, that's serious.
You know what I mean?
So, praise God that our investment
in Evangelist Rabbinic is going really well.
That's pretty much all I have as far as announcements.
So, let's go ahead and sing our third song,
Holy, Holy, Holy.
And that's going to be in our handouts.
Alright, that was Holy, Holy, Holy.
In your laminated handout.
Song number.
Well, sorry, Holy, Holy, Holy.
Holy, Holy, Holy
Lord God Almighty
Early in the morning
Our song shall rise to thee
Holy, Holy, Holy
Merciful and mighty
God in three persons
Blessed Trinity
Holy, Holy, Holy
All the saints adore thee
Casting down their golden crowns
Around the glassy sea
Cherubim and Seraphim
Falling down before thee
Which word in our hand
Evermore shall be
Holy, Holy, Holy
Though the darkness hide thee
Through the eye of sinful men
Thy glory may not see
Holy, Thou art holy
There is none beside thee
Perfect in power and
Love and purity
Holy, Holy, Holy
Lord God Almighty
All that works shall praise Thy name
And earth, land, sky, and sea
Holy, Holy, Holy
Merciful and mighty
God in three persons
Blessed Trinity
Great singing, everybody.
Now as the offering plates are being passed around,
go ahead and turn in your Bibles to 1 Corinthians chapter 7.
That's 1 Corinthians chapter number 7.
1 Corinthians 7, the Bible reads,
Now concerning the things
Whereof ye wrote unto me,
It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication,
Let every man have his own wife
And let every woman have her own husband.
Let the husband render
Under the wife due benevolence
And likewise also the wife unto the husband.
The wife hath not power
Of her own body, but the husband.
And likewise also the husband hath not power
Of his own body, but the wife.
Defraud ye not one the other,
Accept it be with consent for a time
That ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer
And come together again,
That Satan tempts you not for your incontinency.
But I speak this by permission
And not of commandment.
For I would that all men were even as I myself,
But every man hath his proper gift of God
One after this manner and another after that.
I say therefore to the unmarried and widows,
It is good for them if they abide even as I.
But if they cannot contain,
Let them marry, for it is better to marry
Than to burn.
And under the married I command,
Yet not I, but the Lord,
Let not the wife depart from her husband,
But and if she depart,
Let her remain unmarried
Or be reconciled to her husband,
And let not the husband put away his wife.
But to the rest speak I, not the Lord.
If any brother hath a wife that believeth not,
And she be pleased to dwell with him,
Let him not put her away.
And the woman which hath an husband
That believeth not,
And if he be pleased to dwell with her,
Let her not leave him.
For the unbelieving husband is sanctified
By the wife, and the unbelieving wife
Is sanctified by the husband.
Else were your children unclean,
But now are they holy.
But if the unbelieving depart,
Let him depart, a brother or a sister
Is not under bondage in such cases,
But God hath called us to peace.
For what knowest thou, old wife,
Whether thou shalt save thy husband,
Or how knowest thou, old man,
Whether thou shalt save thy wife?
But as God hath distributed to every man
As the Lord hath called everyone,
So let him walk, and so ordain I
In all churches.
Is any man called being circumcised?
Let him not become uncircumcised.
Is any called an uncircumcision?
Let him not be circumcised.
Circumcision is nothing.
An uncircumcision is nothing,
But the keeping of the commandments of God.
Let every man abide
In the same calling wherein he was called.
Art thou called being a servant?
Care not for it.
But if thou mayest be made free,
Use it rather.
For he that is called in the Lord
Being a servant is the Lord's freeman.
Likewise also, he that is called
Being free is Christ's servant.
You are bought with a price,
Be not ye the servants of men.
Brethren, let every man wherein he is called
Therein abide with God.
Now concerning virgins,
I have no commandment of the Lord,
Yet I give my judgment as one
That hath obtained mercy of the Lord
For he that is called,
I suppose therefore that this is good
For the present distress,
I say that it is good for a man so to be.
Art thou bound unto a wife?
Seek not to be loosed.
Art thou loosed from a wife?
Seek not a wife.
But, and if thou marry,
Thou hast not sinned.
And if a virgin marry,
She hath not sinned.
Nevertheless, such shall have trouble
In the flesh, but I spare you.
Short, it remaineth that both they
That have wives be as though they had none,
And they that weep as though they wept not,
And they that rejoice as though they rejoiced not,
And they that buy as though they possessed not,
And they that use this world as not abusing it
For the fashion of this world passeth away.
But I would have you without carefulness,
He that is unmarried, careth for the things
That belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord.
But he that is married, careth for the things
That are of the world, how he may please his wife.
There is difference also between a wife and a virgin,
The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord,
That she may be holy both in body and in spirit,
But she that is married, careth for the things of the world,
How she may please her husband.
In this I speak for your own prophet,
Not that I may cast a snare upon you,
But for that which is comely,
And that you may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
But if any man think that he behaveeth himself
Uncomely toward his virgin,
If she passeth the flower of her age,
And need so require,
Let him do what he will, he sineth not,
Let him marry.
Nevertheless he that standeth steadfast in his heart,
Having no necessity but hath power over his own will,
And hath so decreed in his heart,
That he will keep his virgin doeth well.
So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well,
But he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better.
The wife is bound by the law
As long as her husband liveth,
But if her husband be dead,
She is at liberty to be married to whom she will
Only in the Lord.
But she is happier if she so abide
After my judgment.
And I think also that I have the spirit of God.
Let's buy our heads for a word of prayer.
Father in heaven, we thank you for this day
For our church and our pastor.
I pray that you fill him with your spirit.
And enable him to preach the word of God with boldness
And for us to receive the message
And to apply it to our lives
And to glorify you better every day.
We love you and in Jesus' name I pray. Amen.
Amen.
First Corinthians chapter seven
Is kind of continuing a thought
That's coming from chapter six.
And I want to read just a few verses here
Of chapter six at the very end
That kind of helps us get the context.
This is verse 18 of chapter six.
Flee fornication
Every sin that a man doeth
Is without the body
But he that committed fornication
Sineth against his own body.
What?
Know ye not that your body is the temple
Of the Holy Ghost which is in you
Which ye have of God and you're not your own
For you're bought with a price
Therefore glorify God in your body
And in your spirit
Which are gods.
The Bible tells us that we're not only
To obey God in the spirit
But also with our physical bodies
And that our bodies are to glorify God.
Verse one of chapter seven
Now concerning the things where
He wrote unto me
It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
Don't take this verse too far
It's not saying literal just touching
The whole context has been fornication
And I believe that the general consensus
Of the general idea being instructed here
Is it just good for people to keep themselves pure?
Right?
Men should be pure
Women should be pure
They shouldn't be engaging in marital
Activities when they're not married.
And here it says verse two, nevertheless.
So it's saying hey
We want to abstain from this activity
When we're not married
Nevertheless to avoid fornication
Let every man have his own wife
And let every woman have her own husband.
And so for the vast majority of society
For the vast majority of people
The only way to truly avoid fornication
Is to have your own husband
Or have your own wife
Is what the Bible is instructing.
And again I think this is 99% of people
Should most likely pursue and seek marriage
Because they're going to have
The reality of this temptation
Of fornication in their lives.
Now I think it's possible for someone
To still have some level of temptation
But just totally have no real
Desire that's going to overcome them
Or they have an ability to
Prevent themselves from going down that path
And so they seek to simply live a life
Just pleasing unto the Lord
Serving God and never getting married
And the Bible describes that that's
An okay alternative lifestyle
But that's the vast minority
Not the general consensus for us
The vast majority of us need to be married
And to avoid fornication.
Now why are you getting married
According to Paul?
I'm just trying to be honest with the text here
Why is he saying to get married?
He's saying to avoid fornication.
So that means that there's an important aspect
Of marriage that is really crucial
To marriage and that is avoiding fornication.
That's why he's going to bring up
The next few verses here.
He says let the husband render under the wife
And likewise also the wife unto the husband
The wife hath not power of her own body
But the husband and likewise also the husband
Hath not power of his own body
But the wife
Defraud ye not one the other.
So according to the Bible
And this is not my opinion
This is the Bible's opinion, this is God's opinion
That my wife does not have power
Over her own body.
What does that mean?
She doesn't have authority
She doesn't have the ability to make the choice
For herself, I have power
Over her own body.
And so the title of my sermon this morning is this
My wife's body, my choice.
It's my wife's body and it's my choice.
Now I'm just telling you what the Bible says
People are going to be triggered in the world
If you say something like this
Or if you bring this concept up
But it's not my personal opinion
It's not what I'm just trying to create
Some doctrine in my mind
That is literally what the Bible is saying
And the flip is true too
In the sense of this context
Of what we're talking about here
That it's my body and it's my wife's choice
So, but here's the thing
The title of the sermon is my wife's body, my choice
I'm not focusing on that aspect right now, okay?
But I am saying clearly
The opposite's true
And you know for many men
They would think like that's not necessary verse
But I'll be honest it isn't necessary verse
And there are people in situations where
You know what?
Hey even the man sometimes have to
Show due benevolence
When they're not just naturally doing that
It says in verse 5
To fraud you not one the other
With consent for a time
So what the Bible is saying is
The only way
You could deny your spouse
Is when they make that choice
That's what it's saying
The only way you can deny them is when they say
It's okay because we are
Doing something specific
And what is the specific thing?
It says that you may give yourselves to fasting
And prayer and come together again
That tempt you not
For your incontinency
Simply means lack of control
Or lack of self control
It can be used in multiple
Contexts
Sometimes it's used in the context of the bathroom
And you don't want to have incontinence
When it comes to that particular area
Of life
But it's also saying
Why did you even get married in the first one?
I mean think about it, what was the whole context
Of why people are getting married?
To avoid fornication
So then when you take that aspect away
Which then what is the Bible saying?
Well now you're allowing the devil
Now you're allowing Satan
To tempt you
And to cause you to possibly stumble
Because of the fact that you're having
This lack of self control
And it's not saying
Like you're just a weaker brother
Or you're just a bad person
Or whatever
It's just simply saying this is just how
The world works
This is just a natural course of action
And it makes sense
If I walk into a restaurant I expect to eat
It'd be kind of weird
If I show up at the restaurant
And they say hey we're not going to serve food anymore
You'd be like well then you're not really a restaurant
And in the same way
If you get married
And they say hey this isn't on the table anymore
This isn't on the menu anymore
Well then it's like
That was the whole point of marriage
And notice what it said defraud you not one the other
You're defrauding them
And you go into the restaurant
To get food right
You make an order maybe you pay for it
Like imagine you walk up to the cash register
You order hey I want a double cheeseburger
Here's twenty bucks or whatever
It's so expensive these days I don't know
That's like five guys prices or something right
It's like twenty bucks or something for fries
And a burger and they say no problem
Take your money
And then you're waiting
And you're just waiting and you're waiting
And they're like oh by the way
You'd be like wow you defrauded me
This isn't right
I paid I ordered this
This is what I wanted you know
I'm excited about a double cheeseburger
And then they've taken off the menu
Well you know what that person's probably
Not gonna say well I'm never gonna eat again
They're probably gonna go somewhere else
And eat
Why but they would have eaten the burger
That's what they wanted
They're going to eat the burger if it's offered
But by taking the burger off the menu
Now you're putting this person in an uncomfortable situation
You're putting them in a bad spot
And what the Bible is saying is you know what
Don't do that
The whole point of marriage in the first place
Was to show due benevolence
And so when it comes to my wife's body
It is my choice
And it's you know what the due benevolence
Is something that she owes me
That was the whole point of marriage
And that is not something that she gets to decide
That is something that I get to decide
And that is what the Bible says
I don't really care what the world thinks
I don't care what therapists think
I don't care what everybody else's marriage is like
Because it's my wife's body and it's my choice
And you know what that's why I got married
Go to the song of Solomon chapter 4
Song of Solomon chapter 4
And the reverse is true as well
The reverse is true
That what I signed up for
Is that when my wife wants a meal
She gets a meal
When my wife wants what she needs
She gets what she needs
And you know sometimes people
Get really weird about all this stuff
And you know just to be clear
Because you know I want to be clear
This morning about certain things
Is the consent in this part
Of the relationship happened when you said I do
Okay
Now some people in this world are so weird
And there's so many goofed up ideas on marriage
There are Catholics and there are all kinds of false doctrines
And people that are saying things like
Dubin Evelyn's and marriage is sinful
I mean there are Catholics
And there are different religious groups
That will teach that to have relations
Between husband and wife is somehow wrong
It's sinful, it's bad
And that's why they eat raw potatoes
To quench that desire
But I'm telling you raw potatoes
Isn't going to fix the problem
And you know that's a silly idea
And they'll say yeah well sometimes
I mean you know what if one person's
Just not as jazz as the other person
Or whatever
Okay well sometimes we do things
That we don't necessarily like
Or we're that jazzed about
And that's okay
Just like you know I put on clothes today
And I put on clothes every single day
And my wife washes all of them
You know I never pick out a shirt
From the cabinet and I'm like
Hey when you wash this were you in a good mood
I'm only wearing I'm only willing to wear
Clothes that you washed when you were happy about it
Or do I just put on the shirt
And I don't really care what her attitude was
When she washed it right
What if I came home and I said
Hey were you happy when you made this burger
Are you smiling
In fact she could be mad at me right now
But if the burger's good I'm going to eat it
You know what I mean
Like I'm not sitting here judging
Every aspect of her life
Like hey I came home and the house was clean
But I think you were complaining
While you cleaned the house so you know I don't
You clean it again
Right I mean is that how we really
Operate is that how we really work
You know and sometimes people they get these
Strange and weird ideas about this stuff
You go to work and your boss says
Hey I need a new report on my desk
Hey you need to do this report
And you're like in your mind you're thinking
Like I don't really want to do this report
But you know what you do
You just do the report because it's your job
And you know what I don't do
When my boss says hey I need this report
Stay a little extra stay a little late
Get it done put on my desk
And then I do it and then I come home
Like honey my husband or I'm sorry
Honey my boss raped me at work
That would be weird because that's
Like a triggering word
My wife would be like what happened
He asked me to do an extra report
What what are you talking about
You know that's not the right word
For that type of a situation
Okay but you know what you go into the
World today you go ask a psychotherapist
Yeah I call them psychotherapists
Today all these kind of weirdos
And they'll say like well if you
Just were a little uncomfortable
Or if you just felt a little bad
Or you might have you know you were
Just not a hundred percent yourself
Or something now it's rape
And it's like that's ridiculous
And then people use this triggering
Language to make it sound like
Something that is not at all
Okay and so you know we don't
Want to use triggering language
To describe things that are not true
You know just like the words
Abuse are just such an
Extreme word used today
You know you go to work
And you show up late
And your boss is like hey don't be
Late again and yells at you
And then you come on like my boss
Is verbally abusing me
Like that that's just this is
Like libtard talking points
Okay and this is not biblical
Stuff and you know what people today
They're just so easily triggered
By almost anything negative
Anything they don't want to have to do
Anything they don't like
And the reality is that is life
You think that I want to drag
My carcass off the work and pay bills
Every single day of every single second
No and you know what there's
Aspects of marriage there's aspects
Of life where we don't necessarily
Enjoy every single second
Or like every single aspect of it
Or it's like the best experience
We've ever had in our entire life
But you know what it's life
But you know what the Bible is not saying
Here in 1 Corinthians 7
Hey if you're not 100% jazzed
Then it's off the table
No it's just saying the other person
Gets to make this choice not you
That is what the Bible is saying
Now let's read some other passages here
Song of Solomon is a great place
If you want to be better at marriage
Read Song of Solomon
Now here's the hard part about marriage
You can only fix yourself
Let me say this again
The hard part about marriage
You can only fix yourself
This is what everybody wants
Will you please fix my spouse
And it's like no one can do that
Everybody has free will
Everybody gets to decide whatever they're going to do
But you know what you can fix yourself
Now here's the thing
I make things clear to my wife
My expectations and what I want
And I'm trying to help her
And I'm trying to lead by example
And ultimately it's my choice
But at the end of the day
You can only take a horse to water
You can't force him to drink
You can even put his nose in the water
But you can't necessarily make him swallow
But here's the thing about
This particular book of the Bible
Is we need to have the right attitude
And mindset and just accept this
Song of Solomon chapter 4
Look at verse 12
A garden enclosed is my sister
Now this is a husband talking about his wife
And of course there's spiritual metaphors here
Of the Lord Jesus Christ and the church
And there's all this great imagery
But we have to understand the carnal truths
That are being expounded to
And it's like there's so many layers
To the song of Solomon
You have like a literal garden
With literal vegetables
Then you have like a husband and his wife
And then you have Jesus and the church
So you have like all these different layers
Being packed into this particular book of the Bible
But he's using a metaphor of his wife
Because he's calling her a sister like
We're not literal sister
But your sister in Christ
He's saying she's like his sister
And he's comparing her to a garden
He's saying about her a spring
Shut up a fountain sealed
So he's using multiple metaphors here
She's like a fountain, she's like a garden
Thy plants are an orchard of pomegranates
With pleasant fruits, campfire, with spikenard
Spikenard and saffron, calamus
And cinnamon
With all trees of frankincense, myrrh and aloes
With all the chief spices, a fountain of gardens
A well of living waters
And streams from Lebanon
Awake, O North Wind, and come
Thou, South, blow upon my garden
That the spices thereof may flow out
He's saying, may my wife
Has all these great attributes
You know, and think about it
You know, as a husband praises his wife
There's often many things he likes about his wife
He may like her personality
Her laugh, her smile, her hair
The way she cooks
There's just like all these different things
That he likes about her
And what does wind do?
Wind carries the scent of a garden
To where you can smell, oh, I can smell
You know, the cinnamon
And I can smell all these different spices
And of course a garden can have all kinds
Of different fruits, it can have apples
And all these different scents
And often fruit is a pleasant scent
Many times people that have candles
Or senses or all these things
They have a fruit smell to them
Because people like the smells of fruits
And so they're getting these aromas
From this particular garden
And it's talking about a man
Pleased with his wife
And all the different characteristics
But then notice what it says
At the end of this
Let my beloved come into his garden
And eat his pleasant fruits
It's just an open door
Hey, whatever he wants
I'm the garden
I'm open for business
He can come and he can enjoy
Whatever aspects of the garden that he wants
Whenever he wants
Because you know what?
It's his garden, it's his choice
He wants to walk into his garden
I mean, think about it
You own a garden
Shouldn't you be able to walk into the garden
And see, hey, here's an apple tree
I want to pluck an apple off right now
And eat it
Does he have to ask anybody
Hey, can I pluck an apple off of my own tree
And eat my own apple?
My dad gardens all the time
And he has all these tomato plants
That he typically grows
And he really likes cherry tomatoes
And if you know anything about my dad
In harvest season, when he walks through there
He'll just grab a cherry tomato off
And just throw it in his mouth
Right then and there
He's just walking through
Just popping cherry tomatoes in his mouth
And now I like tomatoes
I'm just not that hardcore
To just start just eating raw tomatoes
Or whatever
But he loves it
Tomatoes are even a fruit
And I think in a technical sense
But he walks through his garden
He eats tomatoes whenever he wants
Because it's his garden
It's his tomato
It's his choice
And you know what?
It's the same concept
That's being driven here
In Saunga Solomon
That this is how marriage should work
That both parties are open for business
And it's their choice
Go through it to Proverbs, chapter number five
Now the world will not tell you this
The world has a perverted mindset
In this area
The world says my body, my choice
About everything
And you know what?
I'm not saying that there couldn't be a context
Upon which that's true
And of course, you know
That statement by itself is kind of true
In some ways
It's usually used in a context though
That has nothing to do with my body
Because they're talking about abortion
And they're talking about a baby
That's not their body
But obviously when you go to the doctor
It should be your body, your choice
The doctor shouldn't get to choose what they're doing
But in marriage
You actually signed over part of your rights
Part of your body's decision making
To your spouse
And you said hey
It's my body
But it's now your choice
And this is an important thing
You know, it's a spiritual concept
That will bring up later
But the Bible literally says
That you're bought with a price
Therefore glorify God in your body
And in your spirit
So in the same way that we're bought
By the Lord Jesus Christ
And we have to honor and glorify Him
And do what He wants with our bodies
Is the same way that a husband and a wife
When they sign up for marriage
They do what their spouse wants
That's what marriage was
That's what you signed up for
If you're saying I don't really like this
You must have not understood marriage
Because that was literally the contract
That was literally what you were signing up for
That was literally what you were vowing
That was literally what you were saying
And that's what the Bible is commanding
But the world today will try to use
Dube and Evelyn's as a weapon in marriage
Where husbands and wives will weaponize
Marriage against their spouse
And they'll say no
You want to come into the garden
20 bucks
You want to eat fruit off of your tree
Well, you got to first do all this work
You got to do all these things
You got to do my...
No, no, no
That's not how marriage should work
Marriage should work as
Hey, the garden's always open
The garden is always open
And you know what?
It's my wife's body
It's my choice
Proverbs chapter number 5 verse 15
The Bible says,
Drink waters out of thine own sister
And running waters out of thine own well
Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad
In rivers of waters in the streets
Let them be only thine own
And not strangers with thee
Let thy fountain be blessed
And rejoice with the white of thy youth
In the same passage of song of Solomon
That we read
He talks about her being a fountain in the spring
Similarly, it's using that same
Language of metaphoric speech
Here in Proverbs chapter number 5
To describe a wife as being a fountain
Rejoicing with her
Verse 19
Let her be as the loving hind
And pleasant row
Let her breast satisfy thee
At all times
This sounds like 24-7
Now, isn't this...
I mean, I'm trying to be honest
Isn't this consistent?
First Corinthians chapter number 7
It's the husband has power over the wife's body
Song of Solomon chapter number 4
We have, hey, it's a guard
Let him come into his garden
And eat his pleasant fruits
Then we have in Proverbs chapter number 5
Let her breast satisfy thee
At all times
Notice how the Bible describes marriage
Not the world
Not what your parents said
Not what other people do
What does the Bible say?
The Bible says you're open for business
And you know what?
It's my wife's body
It's my choice
That's what the Bible is saying
And be thou ravished always
With her love
Why would you do that?
Why would you always be ravished
With your wife's love?
Why would you do that?
Well, it says,
And why wilt thou my son
Be ravished with a strange woman?
What was first Corinthians chapter 7's context again?
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah
Satan tempts you not for your incontinency
What does it say here in Proverbs chapter number 5?
Why would you embrace the bosom of a stranger?
Why would you love a strange woman?
So it's like, you know, I can't
I couldn't be like, hey, honey
I'm no longer going to eat dinner at the house
I'm no longer eating any of your meals
There's no way I'm going to never eat again
Like, that's just an unrealistic expectation
For anybody to say, I'm done eating
I got to eat somewhere
And if I don't want to eat McDonald's
If I don't want to eat Indian food
I want to offend you with food
That's why I always bring up all these things, right?
If I haven't offended you by food yet, you're not listening
But here's the reality
If I don't want to eat that, then I got to eat at home
And the reason I got married is so that I could eat at home
And it's saying, hey, if you don't have home
If you're just open for business, you know
Well, then you have a problem
Because someone needs that
And, you know, do you really think
Do you really expect me to believe for one second
That every time I've ever given my wife a back massage
Or a foot massage or done anything
I was just like super jazzed about it
I mean, think about it this way
You know, when your back itches
Is your right hand over here been like
Man, I can't wait to rub the back
Like, I'm just so excited
Yay! This is the best part of my day
You know what happens when you start rubbing your own back
Your fingers start hurting
It's uncomfortable
Maybe your shoulder, your arm gets tired
Because you're trying to do something
Have you ever given someone a back massage
You know who enjoys the back massage?
The person receiving the back massage
Okay, but it's called a back
Because you can't even reach your own back everywhere
Especially if you're Arnold, you know
He can't even get there
He's just like, I hate to strong
But the reality is
You scratch someone else's back
And it's like
If my wife does a great job rubbing my back
But she's not that jazzed about it
I'm like this
You know?
I mean, sometimes you just want a back massage
Sometimes you just need something
Or whatever from your spouse
And that's why you get married
Two are better than one
And that is just how the world works
Plus, sometimes, you know
You weren't that into it
But you start down that path
And you end up changing your mind
And it's great anyways, okay
That's just how the world works
But you know what, I don't want
I don't want to come home to my own house
And it's like the kitchen's closed
Now, go over to 1 Timothy 2
Go to 1 Timothy 2
There's someone close to me
So I'm going to try and use some discretion
On who this is
But there's somebody close to me
That when I was at their house
They had these rules about the kitchen
And I'll just tell you
It triggered me, all right
But the rules about their kitchen
Is after dinner
The kitchen was closed
And I'm like, what do you mean?
Like, we had dinner at 6 p.m.
It's midnight
And I'm hungry, you know
I'm going in there
And I want to eat something
It's like, no, no, no
The kitchen's closed
And it was like, no!
I don't like this house rules
Okay?
And it wasn't
You know, I was a kid
But I'm like, it was also closed
To the men of the house
And I'm thinking like, no, no, no
If the men of the house want food
They should be able to go in the kitchen
And get whatever they want
Whenever they want
It's their house, it's their kitchen
You know what I mean?
And so I don't like this
You know, hey
We have this 10-minute window
Where you can eat or whatever
And that's the only acceptable time
No, no, no
It should be my kitchen
My choice, right?
My wife, it's my choice
And I'm trying to be honest with you
I think that the Bible's clear on this
Like, I don't think I'm just like
Up here saying like, this is my personal opinion
You're just saying that
Because you're mean and selfish
No, no, no
I'm telling you what the Bible says
And you know what?
I'm jealous
I'm not selfish
You know what jealous is?
Wanting that which I own
And it's my possession
My wife is my possession
And it's her body is my body
And we become one flesh
And I'm very jealous for my wife
And so she is open for business
For me when I want
Because that's how the world works
Now of course, we're not
I'm not trying to say
Even though it's my garden
And my choice
You know what?
I'm not going to walk into the garden
And just start trashing the tree
I'm not going to start beating up the tree
I'm not going to start damaging the tree
I'm not going to just strip all the fruit off of it
And throw it away and treat it poorly
No, no, I'm going to love my garden
I'm going to be gentle to the garden
I'm going to extract the fruit properly
You know, there's a right way
To get the fruit off the tree
And there's a bad way to get the fruit off the tree
You can take fruit off the tree
Without hurting the tree
And then you could literally
Just start ripping off branches or something
You know, that's obviously not wise
That's not the good thing
And if you want your garden to produce
Really good fruit
You're going to take care of it
You're going to love it
You're going to nourish it
You're going to water it
You're going to plant it
You're going to do all these things
And so that aspect of marriage
Let me make it clear
If you want to have a great garden
You've got to water it
And you've got to plant
And you've got to tend to the garden
And you've got to care for the garden
And the more you do
The better garden experience you're going to have
But you know what?
At the end of the day
It's still my garden
It's still my choice
And so you know what we really want in this world?
Is benevolent dictators
That's what the world needs
Is benevolent dictators
And it always works best when you have both
When you're benevolent
But you let people walk all over you
It's horrible
When you're a dictator
And you have no benevolence
It's horrible
What we really need is
Benevolent dictators
Men and leaders that are going to make decisions
That are positive for both parties
Making the right decisions
And you know
Just because it's your right
Doesn't mean that men should just
Throw out all romance
Throw out all love
Throw out all cherishing
No, we should nourish and love
And cherish our wives
And care for them
And you know what?
Buy them nice things
And take them out to nice dinners
And talk sweetly to them
And give honor under the weaker vessel
We should do all the things
That we need to do
But at the end of the day
It's my wife's body
And it's my choice
And I'm not going to take that authority
Away from men
And say, hey, men
You're not allowed to go into your garden
No, men should be able to go into their garden
When they want
But you know what?
Men should take care of their garden too
Both
We need both
But we have an epidemic in this world today
Where gardens are closing
Gardens are shutting down
Men are not allowed to be the husband men anymore
Men are not allowed to wear the pants anymore
And you know what?
It's epidemic
It's epidemic because it's causing so much adultery
And so much fornication
And so much sin
And so much smut
And so much evil
Because our society has become perverted
And become weird
And women today
Don't have the right mindset
They're using due benevolence as a weapon
And not as a garden
It's wicked
It's wrong
It's destroying marriages
It's destroying society
And let me tell you something
One of the keys to marriage
One of the keys to marriage is due benevolence
That is the glue that keeps the relationship together
You know, the reason why I like restaurants
Is because they keep making good food
And they keep serving it to me
When they stop making good food
And they stop serving it to me
I stop going
And you know, there's a lot of aspects of the restaurant
That I like on top of that
In addition to, but you know
If they jack the price
But they still have a good product
They probably still pay for it
You know what I mean?
Hey, if my wife needs some things
That are a little fancier in life
Or needs some nice things every once in a while
I'll pay for it as long as the garden stays open
You know what I mean?
It's like, hey, I'm here
It's hurt in a sense
It's my body hurt choice too, right?
If she wants me to work really hard
And provide for our family
And do good things
So that she can have nice things
Hey, we need to make sure
That we have a reciprocal arrangement
And we're providing for each other
And taking care of each other
And doing good unto each other
But you know what?
This world is screwed up
And they use triggering language
They use triggering language
To describe things that are not real
You know, my boss has never raped me
Okay, folks?
And that's just ridiculous
My boss never abused me
But you know what?
I've been held up by bosses
I've been let go from workplace environments
I've been told to work nights and weekends
I've had to do all kinds of grueling, nasty work
I've had to do things I didn't want to do
I've had to work with people I didn't want to work
But you know what?
I'm never going to use that stupid, libtard language
To describe something that's not real
And you know what?
People that weaponize language against their spouse
It's just really
You're cutting yourself
You're hurting yourself
Don't use triggering language about your spouse
That's not legitimate
That's not real
You know, and what you really do
Is you undermine people
That actually have real issues
There are some people that have had
Very extreme weird things happen
Even in marriage
And when you use this over-the-top language
For stuff that's not real
You're basically poisoning the wealth
For everybody else
You're the boy who cried wolf
For everybody else
Because now no one takes it seriously
So many women have lied about
What a man has done to them
To where it's now
It's like questionable
If these women are being honest
Or being sincere
And we kind of don't give them
As much benefit of the doubt as we should
Just because of how many liars there are
And we shouldn't add to that
We shouldn't contribute to the deception
We should make sure that we're accurate
And basing everything on reality here
Now, first time in the chapter 2
Brings up another point of this
That I want to discuss
And I'll be honest with you
What I'm saying is not popular
People outside of this church would say
It's weird, extreme, crazy
You know, I think they're weird
And crazy and extreme
I think it's weird to dedicate my life
To a woman and to be willing
To pay all of her bills
And to say I'll never divorce her
When that is not on the table
I mean, all ready to the disciples
Were asking Jesus about this
And they're just thinking like
If the case be so
It's good not for a man to marry a woman
He's like, what in the world?
I'm stuck with her forever
No matter what
It's like, yeah
But you know when that's on the table
It's like, okay
First in the chapter 2, verse 12
But I suffer not a woman to teach
Nor do you serve authority of the man
But to be in silence
For Adam was first formed then Eve
And Adam was not the seed
But the woman being the seed
Was in the transgression
Not withstanding
She shall be saved in childbearing
If they continue in faith
And charity and holiness and sobriety
The Bible says that women are saved
Through childbearing
Now, are we talking about
Salvation of going to heaven?
No
We're talking about a different salvation
What is the salvation that we're talking about?
Not being deceived
Not being in the transgression
Not being taken advantage of
By the wiles of the devil
Why?
Because they're busy working
They're busy taking care of children
They're busy raising a family
And because of that
They're gonna have less temptation
Less likelihood to be taken advantage of
By this world, the seed, by this world
I mean, who do you think
Voted for Kamala Harris?
Yeah
Do you think it's mothers raising
6, 7, 8, 9 kids?
Or do you think it was women that have
No husband and no children?
Yeah
And a short haircut and pants
And voted for Hillary too?
Yeah
I'm just telling you
The salvation here to the child-bearing
And being more conservative and God-fearing
And then the people that for bear child-bearing
And don't want to have children
And kind of having a wicked satanic agenda
And I'm not saying there isn't
Exceptions on both sides
There obviously is
But just generally speaking
This is a kind of a general truth
And the Bible's saying
This is how women are saved
Therefore, since it's my wife's body
Though that bears the child
That has to go through
Ruling 9 months of pregnancy
Go through the incredible pain
And suffering of childbirth
Not only that, the postpartum
Not only that, breastfeeding
Not only that, being the primary
Caregiver of my child
You have to be honest
That she bears the weight of children
It's not even a fair comparison
But you know what?
It's my wife's body
And it's still my choice
But I want to make it clear
When I'm saying this
And what I'm saying
I cannot have children as a choice
I can't press a button and have children
No one can
No one...
And again, there are people that try to do this
With like test tubes
And all kinds of weird stuff
Even then you can't necessarily force it to happen
And I don't think you should do that at all
I think that it's wrong
But I am saying that
No one can technically press a button
To have children
But you can press buttons to not have children
And what I think the Bible very clearly teaches
Is that me and my wife
Do not have the right to press the button
Of not children
Of saying, what would be the number one way
To not have children?
Point one, due benevolence
If you don't have due benevolence
Well, having children is completely
Taking off the table
It like literally can't happen
Okay?
Go if you would to another place
Go to Genesis 38
You know, my wife
At one point we
You know, we're not very wise
And we end up using birth control
And at the end of the day
You know, I regret that decision
I wish that there wasn't a period of time
That we did that
But I'm just being honest with you
That's a fault of mine
That's a sin of mine
I wish I hadn't done that
But we did
But you know what, now
I'm not...
That's not on the table again
You know, we're not going to do something
Like that anymore
And I've decided that that was wrong
And so, it is my wife's body
But I'm not going to put her on birth control
Also, what I'm not going to do
Is I'm not going to get her tube-side
Now, here's the thing
I was told that I was a selfish, wicked person
For not getting a vasectomy
And I'm like
Well, never going to happen
Okay?
And again, my wife doesn't want that anyways
Okay?
And I believe that would be wrong
Now, if you've done that
You can't necessarily always reverse these things
I don't think that God's...
We have to be clear
God's not like perpetually mad at us
For every sin
It's not like I lied 20 years ago
And God's still mad at me
For that one lie
Right?
Especially if I've confessed it
And forsake it
And said, sorry, right?
So, you know, a lot of these sins
That people commit
Are kind of a one-time thing
And then you just move on with life
Right?
People get divorced when they're married
I don't think God's like constantly going to
Rain on your parade of marriage
Just because you did that
But let's be honest
He was mad that you did that
He was mad when you did that thing
And you shouldn't have done that
But you know what?
Just say you're sorry and move on
And that's life
But sometimes you do the thing
And God's mad
And he punishes you right then and there
For doing it
It's called Onan
Look at Genesis chapter 38
And look at verse number 8
And Judah said to Onan
Go in unto thy brother's wife
And marry her and raise up seed to thy brother
And Onan knew that the seed should not be is
And it came to pass
When he went in unto his brother's wife
That he spilled it on the ground
Lest that he should give seed to his brother
And the thing which he did
Displeased the Lord
So notice, God's mad
About the thing he just did
And then what happens?
Well, the Bible makes it clear
That wherefore, meaning why
He slew him also
So it's just saying
Hey, you did that
And then God just killed him
Now, again, does that mean that every single person
That does birth control or something
God's just going to kill right on the spot?
No, because our world still has
A lot of people in it, okay?
And if he was just dropping people like that
You know, almost no one survived
Probably, okay?
Because there's almost everybody in society
Has exercised some form
Of some kind of a birth control or something
But I also think it's clear here
You know, from the context
That it's not like
This act is sinful
It's the motivation behind the act
In the sense that Onan doesn't want to have children
And so by refusing to have children
God slays him
So, you know, some people get
Over the top with things in the Bible
It's not saying that men and women
Can't enjoy themselves
And if it's not a perfect procreation event
Then it's sinful or something
Because literally, Catholics will teach
That if you do anything
Not with like 100% chance of procreation
That it's sinful again
Wrong, I don't believe that
I don't agree with that
You know, marriage is honorable and all
And the bed undefiled
But Hormongers and adulterers God will judge
This is someone refusing
Refusing, refusing to have children
That's completely different
Okay, so someone that's refusing
To have children and will not have them
For, you know, the future
God could potentially punish that person
Severely and we see that evidence in the Bible
Now, he may not punish them
With this kind of same punishment
Frankly speaking, God in the Old Testament
Just gives us a lot of harsh examples
Just to warn us, I think
But then he gives us a lot of grace and long suffering
But that's not for us to test God
And to tempt God because God literally
Could bring this same punishment to people
And we don't want to take these things lightly
We want to take them seriously
So when it comes to me and my wife
We're not going to be Onan and we're not going to say
We're not going to have children
Now, if we did do that
Or if we had made a decision
That caused that
I would just say, God, I'm really sorry
I did that, please forgive me
And then just move on with my life
And then when it struck lightning, go in a safe place
Okay, you know what I mean
But at the same time, I'm just saying
Like, I don't think God's just like
Permanently mad at people
If this is something you did two years ago
Five years, I wouldn't even worry about it
I just encourage other people to make the same decision you did
Right? And just say, hey
And if you're in the ability
You have the capability to say like, let's stop doing this
Then I would encourage you to stop doing that
And as men, I believe
Men have
The decision here
It's my wife's body, but it's still
My choice
And so you know what I'm not going to do
I'm not going to ask my wife permission
If we can have children
I also don't get to fully make that decision
All I do is
Point number one
Point number two
And pray that God will take care of it
And God will do what's best for me
And God will continue to bless
And you know what, I love all six of my children
And I would love if I have more
My wife hopes that we have at least 10
And I'm thinking like, how am I going to pay for that
She keeps telling me twins and I'm like
No, okay
That's going to get to another point here
That's point three
Go to numbers chapter 30
I always have to be careful
When she says that
That I immediately say no
Okay, and I'll explain why
She thinks she wants that
Okay
Now obviously we had twins
We would love both of them equally
And it would be great, but man
One is hard enough folks, okay
Two at the same time
I would bless you if you had them
I know people have had even more
I met someone that had quadruplets
And I'm thinking like, wow, you're braver than me
Man, I don't even know how you do that
Like
I don't have to hold two babies
She has to hold two babies all the time
I have to hold two babies all the time
Like there's no one to pass that off to
Right?
How does that even work?
I would think like it's one always waking up the other three at night
Like literally there's no sleep
I would think
I mean cows have lots of udders
But I don't think there's four
I don't even know how it works
It just seems impractical
I think that the only way those things happen
Is when people are doing the test tube stuff
Because with the test tube thing
They fertilize like
In some cases in the past they fertilize
Like three, four, five eggs
And then they'll shoot them all
And hope that one sticks
Well, four stuck
I totally against that
I don't really agree with that
I don't think you should do that
But at the same time
If you did that I'm not going to kill you
Or something, I'm not going to crucify you
Numbers chapter 30, look at verse 6
The Bible says
And if she had at all
And husband
When she vowed
Or uttered out of her lips
Wherewith she bound her soul
And her husband heard it
And her bonds wherewith she bound her soul
Shall stand
But if her husband
Disallowed her on the day that he heard it
Then he shall make her vow
Which she vowed
And that which she uttered with her lips
Wherewith she bound her soul
Of none effect
And the Lord shall forgive her
I like how God describes marriage
Men can just do whatever they want
But, here's the thing
So if a wife says to God
Think about it, Hannah, she prayed unto the Lord
She asked of the Lord
She said, hey, if you give me a child
I'll lend them unto the Lord, I'll give them unto the Lord
If Elkeina, and it doesn't have to be
The day that Hannah said it
It's the day that Elkeina hears about it
It's the day that he knows about it
If he heard that
He could say like, no
That's not going to happen
And what does the Bible say?
Whose opinion does God respect?
The man, he says it's
None effect
Zero
And meaning when she ends up breaking whatever vow
Or she doesn't do what she said
Because the husband said no
God's not going to hold that against her
God's not going to do anything to her
As a result of there's no consequence
There's no ramification for having not
Fulfilled that vow
But, you know, if there's some reason
A wife decides to make some decision
And the husband says no
Well, he can do that
You know, if the wife says
Okay, I'm going to put beans and chili
The husband can say no
Right?
I'm just telling you
What the Bible is saying here
And, you know, when it comes to food
The only preferences that matter
The only person's opinion that matters
Should be the husband anyways
You know, I'm really
Opinionated
Okay
And I'm very picky
When it comes to food
And I have weird views on food
Okay, not everybody's going to agree with me
That's why I said literally on day one
And some of you can testify this
Day one of me being your pastor
I said I don't like ranch dressing
Tea and coffee
Who heard me say that?
Because I wanted to offend you
As much as possible on the onset
I just wanted to get it out of the way
And just say this
So that you wouldn't hold it against me
In the future when you learn later, okay
Now here's the thing, if you live in Texas
And you don't like ranch tea and coffee
They're going to look at you like you're a weirdo
There was a literal commercial
For Pace Salsa
Who knows what I'm talking about, Pace Salsa
And they're asking where it's coming
The salsas coming from and this guy are in the campfire
And he's like, where are you from?
He's like New York City
And they're like, New York City
And they're like, what's wrong with you?
He's like, I'm born in New York
So I also told you
I was born in New York
But I chose Texas, okay
All right, I'm a Yankee
I'm from the Union
I'm from the North
But I chose the South, all right
And you know what, it's more important to choose Texas
Than to be born in Texas, right
It's more important to choose to be a Baptist
Than to be born a Baptist
And the reality is
Sometimes I have really, really, really
Opinionated views
I've heard
People say like, their kids
Will sometimes pick up on my language
And I'm thinking like, oh man, that's weird
But it's kind of funny
They're like, hey, let's go to Water Burger
And they're like, no, Pace Shelley says it's gross
And I'm like, I saved you
But here's the thing
If dad says we're gonna eat Water Burger
They're gonna eat Water Burger
Hey, I rip on
I mean, if you know me
You know I rip on Indian food, okay
But here's the thing, if dad wants Indian food
She's gonna make him Indian food
And you know what, if they want yogurt on the rice
Put yogurt on the rice, I mean
Do it, right
Now
I can appreciate this because my dad
Has the weirdest food ever
Like, strange
Okay, my dad
Would eat pineapple mayonnaise sandwiches
Who's ever eaten this
Right, because it's weird
There was literally nobody
I was shocked and horrified
I'm like, this is gross
You're gross
Like there's nothing like
And you know, I'm kind of over the top about this stuff
I'm not like trying to offend him
I'm just thinking like, I'm trying to help him
Like this is weird, dude
Okay, my dad puts salt on his watermelon
Which
Who does that? I know some, yeah
You're weird too
He does all kinds of weird things
He puts peanuts in coke
Okay, and then he eats
The peanuts out of the coke
And then he ruins the coke completely
Okay, my dad just
And my dad's food preferences are just
Strange, he eats
He likes everything bland with no flavor
No, like just the most basic thing
He's like, go to a Mexican restaurant
He just wants a meat and cheese taco
You go to an American restaurant
I just want a plain cheeseburger
You got, I mean it's just like
He refuses to eat any Asian cuisine
Any, like
We had great Thai restaurants back home
We had great Asian cuisine
He wouldn't eat any of it
He just wants pinto beans plain
Just
It's like whatever
But you know what, it's his house
It's his wife
It's his choice
And whatever he wants
Now here's the thing, whatever my preferences are
Are going to be different than yours
You may think things I like are weird
I think things you like are weird
And we can just both think that we're weird together
Food's really opinionated
People have really strong opinions
You know, and this is another thing that my dad liked
My dad liked
The chocolate chip cookies that my mom would make
Burnt
I'm like, what's wrong with you?
Like I don't want to say like
That's objectively wrong
Okay, but for some reason
This is how he liked it
There's always great
Wonderful chocolate chip cookies
And then you burnt them a little bit
And so finally I convinced my mom
To take out the batch
And put the good cookies aside
And then put the bad ones back in
And burn them
But I'm like, it was frustrating
That my dad would want burnt chocolate chip cookies
I'm thinking like, what's wrong with you?
You know, that's how the world is
The world is
Everybody has their burnt chocolate chip cookie
Everybody has their pineapple mayonnaise sandwich
And you know, at the end of the day
Don't try to force me
To eat your burnt cookies in pineapple mayonnaise sandwich
Okay
And I won't force you to eat filet
And, you know, things that I like
These horrible things that are good
Chili without beans in it or something
What a shocking experience
You had to go through a horrifying experience
Chocolate cake, you know, or something like that
But at the end of the day
Yeah, obviously I think my food preferences are superior
Because I'm me
And you think yours are your way
And every man gets to rule his own house
Every man should get to rule his own house
As he sees fit
And if the wife says
I want to do this, the husband can say
No
If she even makes a vow to God
I swear to God, I'm going to do X, Y, and Z
The husband can say no
Because it's my wife's body
And it's my choice
I got a wife
I did not marry a business partner
I did not marry a boss
I didn't marry a boss babe
I just married a babe
You know what I mean?
A wife babe
I got a trophy wife
That's what I got
Now, go through it to 1 Corinthians chapter 14
Point one of the sermon is this
On dupe and evidence
It's my wife's body, but it's my choice
When it comes to
Children, it's my wife's body
But it's my choice
When it comes to my wife making vows and promises
For her life
It's my wife's body, but it's my choice
When it comes to learning
When it comes to education
It is my wife's body
But let me explain something to you
It is my choice
Now, look at 1 Corinthians
Chapter number 14
And look what it says in verse 34
For God is not the author of confusion
But of peace
As in all churches of the saints
Let your women keep silence in the churches
For it is not permitted under them to speak
But they are commanded to be under obedience
As also say at the law
And if they will learn anything
Let them ask their husbands at home
For it is a shame for women to speak
In the church
The Bible says when women want to learn the Bible
When women want to understand the word of God
That they are to ask their husband
And their husband is to be the one
To instruct them, to guide them
To teach them and help them to grow
And to learn
It is not her choice on how to learn the word of God
It is my choice on how she learns the word of God
Now, that does not mean
And what I'm not saying
Is that she is limited
To my knowledge
She's limited to my understanding
She's limited to my instruction
She's limited to my choices
So if I want my wife
To learn something in the Bible
That I don't understand
Or that I am not fully capable of explaining
I can recommend to her
Provide her with the ability
To access those resources
My wife is not limited
To my knowledge
My wife can be much smarter
Than me, but at the end of the day
I get to decide which sources
She is going to reference
What information she's going to learn
Who she's going to listen to
And who she's not going to listen to
And I believe, and I think
The Bible sets the same precedent
That this would extend
To all areas of learning
That when my wife wants to learn something
That I should have the authority
To help her decide
Where she's getting that information
And not that she can on her own
Just read any feminist book
Any feminist blog
Go ask Oprah
Or whatever she wants
Or go ask some divorcee
Whatever her opinion is
No, no, no, I want to vet the sources
Of information that are flowing to my wife
And that makes logical sense
And I have made decisions like this
Now one of the things I did
I made my wife
Read the book called
The Bridge at Andow
She would have never read that book
If I didn't make her
But I wanted her to read it
And so I just said, hey, here's the book
Read it, and you know what she did
She read it
It was great, it was a cool experience
Now
I didn't have to sit down and read it to her
She's not limited to me explaining it to her
I let her read the book
But I wanted her to read it
Okay, here's another thing
She used to a long time ago
I feel like a decade
Maybe I'm wrong on the timeline
She would read this blog
Called The Matt Walsh Blog
And sometimes
Some of the things that he would say were good
Some of the things he said I agreed with
He's conservative, he's a pro big family
A lot of things, but here's the thing
He's Catholic
And occasionally she would bring up something
That she had read and she's sharing this with me
And I said, you know what, I want to find out who this guy is
And I started reading about him and studying
And I was like, oh, this guy is a Catholic
He has a lot of weird views
And then I ended up telling him, I don't want you to read his blog anymore
Because he's kind of poisoning your mind
With bad views and bad ideas
And I told her I didn't want her to read that anymore
And she didn't
And why? It's my wife's body
But it's my choice
I don't want you reading his junk
Right now, because I looked it up, I vetted it
And I don't think it's a good source
If he was just giving random advice
Okay, but he's putting a lot of
Bible into it
And Catholicism and false doctrine
And false doctrine poisons the mind
I don't want my wife getting poisoned
By some Catholic subverting her
And causing her to have weird ideas
And weird views
So you know what, I'm telling her
That's not a good source of information
If she wants to listen to certain people
Pastor Anderson and Pastor Jimenez
And other men of God that I like
And are good guys, go for it
Knock yourself out, hey, you want to go to the library
And read books, hey, you want to learn about
How to cook and clean
And all this kind of stuff
And you want to watch videos from people
That's great, but you know what, I reserve the right
That if I don't like somebody
If I don't like their methods
She's like, hey, I was watching this video
On how to make Indian food, shut it off
You know what I mean?
It's like, hey, no
Not for me, that's for the other guy
Now look, I looked up
I was just curious
I looked up like top cuisines
By country
And somehow India's like always in the top five
So maybe I'm wrong
But it doesn't matter because
For my personal preferences, I'm right
Even if I'm wrong, maybe India has good food
It's not the guys that are
Cutting the meat with their toes though
I'll tell you that
First Timothy 2 back, go back to this
And I'll finish my last point here
But point one, do benevolence
It's my wise body, but it's my choice
Point two, it's children
It's my wise body, it's my choice
Point three, when she makes a vow
It's my wise body, but it's my choice
Point number four, it's my wise body
When it comes to learning
But you know what, it's still my choice
And here's the last one
Is in serving God
When it comes to serving God
It is my wise body, but to some degree
It's my choice
And what's one of these
Look at verse nine
In like manner also that the women
Adorn themselves in modest apparel
With shame-facedness and sobriety
Not with broided hair or gold
Or pearls or costly array
I believe that the husband
Has right to tell his wife
What she can and cannot wear
Because that's part of serving God
I don't want to allow my wife
To come to church, not in modest apparel
I want her to come to church
In appropriate
Conservative clothing
I don't want her to dress like a whore
I don't want her to dress like Hillary Clinton
I don't want her to dress like a witch
I want her to dress like a godly
Conservative woman
And you know what, I still want her to be beautiful
I still want her to be attractive
I don't want her to be like this
Amish weird garb
But at the same time, she can be wearing
Modest apparel
She's not wearing some bright, shining, glowy
Prom dress or something like that
You know those churches
Where the pastor and the pastor's wife
It's just like pastor and pastor's
So-and-so
They're like wearing these like thousand-dollar suits
And thousand-dollar dresses and whatever
And it's about a show
You know, there's a certain demographic
Where it's all about the dress
When you go to church
Go over to Genesis chapter three
Genesis chapter number three
You know, when it comes to serving God
It is my wife's body
But it's my choice
Here's something that people don't realize
But I'll just make it clear
Because
Some things when it comes to dress are not
Sinful
It's just preference
And even the way they fashion themselves
Hair or whatever
But
I do not believe
At all if a woman wears makeup
If a woman wears makeup
That's her prerogative, that's her preference
I don't think there's anything sinful about it
I'm not going to disparage a woman for doing it
There's nothing in the Bible that says that they can't
But I personally don't like makeup
On my wife
I think that she's so beautiful
There's nothing to cover up
You know, you don't need cover up
For her, she's already
Exactly how I like her
And so I tell her not to wear makeup
If I didn't tell her to do that
She still likes it, she still prefers it
And she would want to
But I'm telling her and she doesn't do it
You know what that means?
That it's my wife's body but it's my choice
You know what that means? That she's submitting to me
That she's being subject to me
That even though she doesn't even agree
Or want to, she's doing what I want
Because I'm her
Husband
And you know what that's how a good marriage is
Where husbands tell their wives to do things
And they just do it even if they don't agree
And sometimes even men
Do things for their wives that they don't want to do
Because they want to please their wife
Any time you've ever caught me
At a shopping mall or anywhere
It was not what I wanted to do
In fact, a lot of the clothes that I wear
I probably would have never picked it out
But at the end of the day
My wife likes it, my wife wants me to wear that
And I'm just like, yeah, let's put it on
Let's do it! Let's go!
Right? Because, you know
There's a give and take in marriage
But at the end of the day when it comes to authority
We are seeing what the Bible is saying
The husbands holding the authority
Now, Genesis chapter 3
Look at verse 16
And then she doesn't wear makeup
That's a rule
I literally rule over my wife
And that's one thing
Now again, if your husband says
I like that or I want you to do that
Then do it
If he says don't wear green
Don't wear red, don't wear blue
Then don't do it
Like, you can make arbitrary rules if you want
I'm not suggesting you should do that
Because it might be weird
But at the end of the day
The husband is to rule over his wife
Don't watch or listen to the Matt Wallace blog
Don't do it
Don't put beans in the chili
Don't burn the cookies
Okay?
I get to make rules for my house
I get to decide things for my house
I get to decide things for my wife's body
Because that's what the Bible
Has instructed me and given me this authority
Go to Genesis 18
We're really close
Genesis chapter 18
And when it comes to serving God
I'm going to make decisions
That I think are going to help us
As a family serve God
I think that my wife
Who's coming to church
Dressed modestly and conservatively
Is going to be positive
For our spiritual growth and benefit
Genesis chapter 18 verse 19
The Bible says, for I know him
Talking about Abraham
That he will command his children
In his household after him
And they shall keep the way of the Lord
Not only his children, his household
Abraham commands his household
And they follow his example
It's not my wife's decision
Where we go to church
It's my decision
Go to Joshua 24
And your body will be in a seat
In steadfast Baptist Church
Because you know what, it's my wife's body
But it's my choice
And we're going to be Baptist
And we're going to be fundamental Baptist
And we're going to be independent
Fundamental Baptist
And we're going to be new
Independent fundamental Baptist
And we're going to be king James only
And we're going to be soul-winning
And you know what, we're going to believe
In hard preaching
And we're going to go to a church
Where the man says it's my wife's body
And I don't want this feminism crap creeping into my church and in my house.
And you know what?
I'm going to tell my wife and my children how we serve God.
Get that NIV and throw it in the trash.
Take your Southern Baptist crap and throw it in the trash.
Take your doctrinal statement that says we believe the originals and get a King
James Bible.
Get your repent in your sins and burn it and get a repent by putting your faith in Jesus
Christ Gospel.
Instead of having your stupid lifestyle evangelism, get confrontational soul winning.
Hey, as for me and my house, we're not going to sing Hillsong.
We're going to sing I surrender in the hymnal.
I surrender all in the hymnal.
We're going to sing Jesus loves me.
We're going to sing the B-I-B-L-E.
We're going to sing to God be the glory.
We're going to sing praise him.
We're going to sing the good old fashioned hymns.
We're going to sing, oh, holy night.
We're going to sing, holy, holy, holy.
We're going to sing Psalm 139 and we're going to sing it loud.
We're going to go to the church where there's protesters and it's ugly and there's
drama and the preacher gets mad and he preaches too long.
Sorry, I can't fix it, all right?
She's stuck with me.
You know what?
That's the kind of church I'm going to go to and that's the kind of attitude we need.
We need men that are going to start making decisions again.
And I'll tell you, it's real.
It's real.
Men say, man, I'd love to go to Steadfast Baptist Church but my wife won't let me.
Man, I'd love to go to an IFB church that's hot and red, fiery preaching and
it has soul winning and that says that men are in charge but my wife won't let me.
But my wife doesn't want to go to that church.
Well, you know what?
It's my wife's body but it's my choice.
Joshua 24, look at verse 15, and if it seemed evil unto you to serve the Lord,
choose you this day whom you will serve, whether the gods which your
father served that were on the other side of the flood or the gods of the
Amorites and whose land you dwell.
But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.
My wife will serve the Lord as long as she is my wife.
My children will serve the Lord as long as they're under my roof.
Now, if I'm dead or my children leave the house, they're going to get to the
other side whatever they want.
I hope they serve God.
I can't force them anymore but you know what?
I can force them right now.
And you know what?
I'm going to do that.
Go to Romans 12 and we'll finish.
Go to Romans 12.
I know it's my wife's body but I love her too much to not let her serve God.
I know it's my wife's heart and I know it's my wife's desires and I know it's
my wife's passions but you know what?
It's my choice and I'm going to try and make decisions that I know are
better for her even if in the moment she doesn't agree, even at the
timeline she doesn't agree.
And let me tell you something.
There's a lot of things about our life right now that 10 years ago
would have probably shocked, horrified, and scared her to death.
And I guarantee right now she's thankful and she's glad that we came down this
path together.
And you know what?
There are things in our marriage.
There are things in our relationship that she had right that I didn't have
right and I'm glad that she held me accountable and that I fixed things
in my life too because you know what?
I'm not better than her but I'm the leader.
And as the leader I need to make sure that I'm taking our family where
we need to go.
I know what God didn't give me postpartum.
God didn't give me crazy hormones when we get pregnant.
God didn't make me an indecisive woman.
God made me a man.
And as a man, I'm logical.
As a man, I'm practical.
As a man, I know what's going on in this world.
And so I need to make the decisions.
I need to be a leader.
I need to step up to the plate and I need to say, hey, I know it's
my wife's body but it's my choice.
Take your feminism crap and shove it because I don't want it.
You've got to be partners and you've got to be 50-50
and you've got to see what she wants.
You've got to be like, no, no, no, no, I know.
It's my wife's body but it's my choice
and that's how life is going to work.
And you say, oh, but what do you want?
She wants.
That's what she wants.
Did that ever cross your mind?
I mean, that'll just blow.
Like this is what actually causes feminists' heads to explode.
It's not what I'm saying.
This is what causes her head to explode.
My wife's saying, like, I like that sermon.
I agree with that sermon.
They're like, oh, they're like, these poor oppressed women, oh.
It's like, dude, that's what she wants.
She doesn't want a weak, effeminate man
that she can push around and tell
what to do all the day.
She wants them every once in a while
to grab the bull by the horns and show her who's
the cowboy.
We're in Texas, amen?
Now, here's the thing you say like, oh, I don't like this message.
Well, you know what?
You're not going to like Christianity, because you
know what?
The Bible says that we're in the same boat.
We're the bride of Christ as a conglomerate.
And you know what?
It's not our body.
It's Christ's body.
And it's not our choice.
It's his choice.
Romans chapter 12 verse 1, I beseech you therefore, brethren,
by the mercies of God, that you present your body as a living
sacrifice, wholly acceptable unto God, which
is your reasonable service.
You know what?
Our bodies are a living sacrifice to Jesus.
A wife is supposed to be a model of how the church submits
to Jesus Christ.
And so I can take the same application.
If you've been listening to me like,
I can't wait for my wife to do all of this.
I can't wait for her to fix herself.
Say, you know what?
I am the bride of Christ.
And I need to take everything I just heard
and apply it to how I act with Jesus Christ.
And the sense that it's his decision making for me.
What he wants me to do with my body.
How he wants me to behave.
He wants me to submit.
He wants me to use myself.
He wants me to have children.
He wants me to make vows.
When I say, I want to do this.
But then the Bible says no.
OK, I guess I'm going to do what the Bible says.
When I want to learn something.
And he says, no, no, no, learn this.
When I say, I want to serve something else.
And he says, no, no, no, serve God.
Serve God.
And we need Christ to drive the train, not ourselves.
And in the same vein, you're really
showing your contempt for Jesus for the things of God
and Christianity when you won't submit to your husband.
Because we as the conglomerate as a church
are supposed to model how we serve Christ.
And let me tell you something, men.
Sometimes women follow example.
If your wife isn't the way you want her to be,
let me ask you, are you the Christian
that Christ wants you to be?
Because I think the better Christian you are,
I think that the more you're showing her
the example of how you submit to what Christ wants
in your life, the easier you will make it for your wife.
Now, you could be a perfect husband.
You could still have a wife that
makes bad decisions is rebellious.
It exists, it's reality, it happens.
But if you're wanting things to change,
try to be better yourself.
Try to work on yourself.
But at the same time, please have the courage.
Please have the bravery.
Please have the mindset of saying,
I know it's my wife's body, but it is my choice.
And start making choices.
Start making decisions.
Please rule over your wife.
She wants it.
God wants it.
We all want it, okay?
Society doesn't think they want it, but they do want it.
We don't like these loudmouth, obnoxious, bossy wives.
Everybody can't stand it.
Everybody is annoyed by it.
Nobody wants it.
And really, they're just screaming.
Someone rule over me.
They're wanting that to happen.
Do it.
And you know what?
We need women to be told where they're going to church
so that Stephen Fertick can shut down.
So that Joyce Meyer can shut down.
So that a lot of these weak, effeminate, queer churches
will shut down, because frankly speaking,
if you go to the non-the-non with me,
you'll find tons of women there, more than men,
and you'll find a lot of men that were drugged there
by their wives, not the other way around.
You don't find a lot of alpha males
going to these limp-risted, weirdo,
non-denominational type churches.
It's a lot of beta males.
It's a lot of guys drugged there by their wives
that are not willing to lead, not willing.
They basically just want to watch football and drink beer
and not be nagged by their wife,
so they just go to church every once in a while with her,
but they don't care about the preaching.
They don't care about the church.
They're not plugged into stuff.
And in fact, many of the men stay home
and drink beer and watch football
while their wife goes to some garbage church.
Praise God for men that want to come to church more
than to watch some game and act like a child.
We need men to rise up the day and to rule their houses
and to rule their wives and to tell them what to do
and to say, hey, I know, honey, it's your body.
But it's my choice.
Let's close with prayer.
Thank you, Heavenly Father, so much for giving us wives.
Thank you so much for giving us families.
Thank you so much for giving men the authority
and the ability to rule in their household.
I pray that you would encourage men,
that you would encourage the husbands
to take that responsibility seriously.
I pray that you would soften the hearts of wives,
that you would help them to realize the need
for them to give their husband a power and authority.
And I pray that anybody that's struggling,
anybody that's having difficulty,
that you would just encourage both the husband
and the wife, they would help the wives
to be more submissive, to not fear,
giving and trusting their husbands with power and authority.
And I pray that you would give a loving
and a kind and a gentle heart unto men
that they could lead.
But they would also have bravery
and they would have a sense of authority and power
and they could make good decisions for their family.
I pray that we as a church would understand
the leading and the prompting of the Holy Spirit
and the guidance that comes from the word of God
that we would become more submissive,
that we become better examples
and that we would be living sacrifices,
that we wouldn't do the things that we want with our body,
but rather we would submit our bodies
into the service of Christ.
I pray that you would help bless us
as we think about Christ and what He did for us
this Christmas season in Jesus' name we pray.
Amen.
All right, in closing,
let's go to song number 432.
Ahem.
Song number 432.
Angels from the realm of glory.
Song number 432.
I sing it out real out on the first two.
Angels from the realms of glory.
Bring your final all the earth.
You sing creation's glory.
Now proclaim Messiah's birth.
Come and worship, come and worship,
worship Christ the new Lord King.
Shepherds in the field of hiding.
Watching all your walks by night.
God with bandits bowed his eye.
Yonder shines the infant light.
Come and worship, come and worship,
worship Christ the new Lord King.
Changes in your contemplations.
Brighter visions came upon.
Seek the great desire of nations.
He has seen his new star.
Come and worship, come and worship,
worship Christ the new Lord King.
Saints beat for the alterpending.
Watching all info and fear.
Suddenly the Lord ascended.
In his temple shall appear.
Come and worship, come and worship,
worship Christ the new Lord King.
Let's go ahead and sing one more verse of that.
I like that last verse.
Let's go ahead and sing it one more time together.
Everybody sing it out.
Last verse, all together will allow.
Saints before the alterpending.
Watching all info and fear.
Suddenly the Lord ascended.
In his temple shall appear.
Come and worship, come and worship,
worship Christ the new Lord King.
Sister Nala coming for baptism.
She's 13.
When I say the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Ghost,
you're going to hold your nose and dip you down and bring you back up.
Okay. Sister Nala,
have you trusted Christ as your Savior?
Then I baptize you in the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Ghost.
Buried in lightness of his death.
Raise the walk in newness of life.
Make sure to congratulate our baptism.
You guys are dismissed.