>> Good morning, everybody. Welcome to Steadfast Baptist. Great to see everybody here. I hope
everybody had a great Thanksgiving. We can go ahead and find our seats. We will get started
this morning with our first song. This morning's first song, we'll do song number 327. We just
thank you for this great church, Lord. Thank you for Thanksgiving, this great holiday we
got to celebrate this week. And thank you for everybody here. We just ask that you fill
this room with your spirit. We'll sing out to you this morning. And it's in Jesus' name
we pray. Amen. For our next song, let's go to song number 237. 137. For a song to us
I believe, the cleansing wave. Song number 237. Singing out if not follow along. Song
number 237. Quote that to a non-family member, you can receive a prize. On the inside is
their service times, as well as church-wide soul winning. They meet here at the building.
Regional times just meet at different parts of the Dallas-Forth area, and so you could
see one of the respective leaders four times. We have a couple ladies times, one on Tuesday
my wife leads, and then one, Mrs. Lucy's been helping organize on Thursdays, and so
you got two opportunities there during the day, as well as lots of soul winning every
single day. There's our stats down below. If you have any soul winning to report, we
have a soul winning group chat that we just put our information in there real easy. That
way we can record that accurately. On the right is a list of expecting ladies. We have
several in there to be in prayer for. Please be in prayer for our expecting ladies. Children's
choir practice that's going to resume this afternoon after the evening service. And so
if you are here, make sure to just immediately go to our fellowship room. I think the last
few practices we'll still do it in here, but I think we're still meeting in the fellowship
room for tonight. Ladies Christmas party. There is a sign up sheet on our welcome table out
here in the foyer. And so if you'd like to participate in our ladies Christmas party,
it's completely free of course. And all ladies are welcome to attend. And of course you can
even invite your mother or your aunt or anybody, your mother-in-law even, you know, eh? You
don't have to. I said you can, all right? You can invite any ladies friends or whatever
if they would like to join the Christmas party. We'd just like for you to sign up. That way
we can accurately plan for it. It's going to be at the church and there is a gift exchange
to participate in. If you'd bring something, RSVP in our WhatsApp group and/or on the sheet,
it is nurselings only. And so we want to allow our ladies to have a good time. So that means
us guys, you know, once a year, we got to throw some peanuts at them and let them have
some fun, all right? Upcoming events. Christmas caroling is also December 8th and so we'll
be meeting up somewhere and going out caroling and that's our one ministry to the rich. So
there you go, all right? Children's choirs are going to be performing December 21st and
our cookie bake off that evening Christmas candlelight service is December 24th and then
we have a men's preaching and pizza. There at the end of the year on the back is a list
of our prayer lists. If you have any additional prayer requests, please send them in. We try
to keep this up to date, so if things have been in there for a while, we'll just take
them out. If you feel like it needs to be added back, just let us know and we'll just
keep updating our list as much as we can. Also, we have a Christmas tree over here and
it has some little ornaments, these little red bowed ornaments. They are explained here
in this announcement on the back of our bulletin, but essentially just all the ladies that we're
currently expecting, we just put their names on the Christmas tree with a bow. And so if
anybody wants to, they can just take one and then just get some kind of a little gift for
her and bring it back by December 21st. Again, this is a gift meant to be for the mom, not
for the baby. So you don't have to participate. If you'd like, just grab one. And it's just
completely anonymous. You can just put it back under the tree with their name, and they
can have that by December 21st. You can bring it back as early as you'd like. It's just
please have it back by December 21st. So thanks to those who would participate in that. That's
pretty much all I have as far as announcements. We're going to go ahead and sing our Psalm
of the Week, Psalm 146. It's in our special binders, Psalm 146. If you need, you can use
the King James Bible, but it's a lot easier if you can use the binder music. Psalm 146.
Psalm 146. Chapter number 1. Proverbs 1, the Bible reads, "The Proverbs of Solomon,
the son of David, king of Israel, to know wisdom and instruction, to perceive the words
of understanding, to receive the instruction of wisdom, justice and judgment and equity,
to give subtlety to the simple, to the young man knowledge and discretion. A wise man will
hear and will increase learning, and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels,
to understand a proverb and the interpretation, the words of the wise and their dark sayings.
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction.
My son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother, for
they shall be an ornament of grace unto thy head and chains about thy neck. My son, if
sinners entice thee, consent thou not. If they say, Come with us, let us lay wait for blood,
let us lurk privily for the innocent without cause, let us swallow them up alive as the
grave and whole as those that go down into the pit. We shall find all precious substance,
we shall fill our houses with spoil. Cast in thy lot among us, let us all have one purse.
My son, walk not thou in the way with them, refrain thy foot from their path, for their
feet run to evil, and make haste to shed blood. Surely in vain the net is spread in the sight
of any bird, and they lay wait for their own blood, and lurk privily for their own lives.
So are the ways of every one that is greedy of gain, which taketh away the life of the
owners thereof. Wisdom crieth without, she uttereth her voice in the streets. She crieth
in the chief place of concourse, in the openings of the gates, in the city, she uttereth her
words, saying, How long, ye simple ones, will ye love simplicity, and the scorners delight
in their scorning, and fools hate knowledge? Turn you at my reproof. Behold, I will pour
out my spirit unto you. I will make known my words unto you, because I have called,
and ye refused. I have stretched out my hand, and no man regarded. But ye have said at not
all my counsel, and would none of my reproof. I also will laugh at your calamity. I will
mock when your fear cometh. When your fear cometh as desolation, and your destruction
cometh as a whirlwind. When distress and anguish cometh upon you, then shall they call upon
me, but I will not answer. They shall seek me early, but they shall not find me. For
that they hated knowledge, and did not choose the fear of the Lord, they would none of
my counsel. They despised all my reproof. Therefore, shall they eat of the fruit of
their own way, and be filled with their own devices. For the turning away of the simple
shall slay them, and the prosperity of fools shall destroy them. But whoso hearkeneth unto
me shall dwell safely, and shall be quiet from fear of evil.
Let's bow our heads for a word of prayer. Father God, we thank you for the church services
that we have today, and I pray, Lord God, that you fill Pastor Shelley with your spirit
and help him to preach the sermon that you've laid on his heart, and I pray, Father, that
you would just give us ears to hear the message and soften hearts in the room so that we can
apply this sermon to our lives and serve you better. Love you, in Jesus' name. Amen.
Amen. The title of my sermon this morning is Advice for Young Men. Advice for Young
Men. And I want to look at Proverbs primarily, since the book of Proverbs is really addressing
young men in the Proverbs and is talking about it. And I really just have kind of three simple
points that have a positive and a negative, basically a counterpoint to each other. Three
W's and three L's, all right? And when you understand kind of what the text is saying,
I feel like there's three big points that are being made for young men and that we should
really emphasize from the text and in their lives. And so, you know, if you're a young
man, if you're a teenager or you're now a little bit older than that, maybe you're
18 to 20 or 20 to 25, this sermon is just directed at you for sure. It's just definitely
about you. And I think all of us can gain wisdom and understanding from this particular
sermon, but at the end of the day, you know, it's important to hear what the Bible has
to say on these issues. And I'll just be honest with you. I wish I had heard advice like this
when I was growing up. I did not hear a lot of good advice. I did not understand what
the Bible said on these subjects very well. And there's never a bad time to learn them.
But at the end of the day, we have a few things that the Bible's telling us here. Verse number
one again, the Proverbs of Solomon. Notice that it's plural here, the Proverbs of Solomon.
So we're talking about really, if you think about it, the entire book, in essence, all
the Proverbs that have been stated by Solomon, the son of David, king of Israel. Why? To
know wisdom and instruction, to receive the words of understanding, to receive the instruction
of wisdom, justice and judgment and equity, to give subtlety to the simple, to the young
man, knowledge and discretion. So what is the primary purpose of the Proverbs? It's
to give knowledge, it's to give understanding, it's to give wisdom to the young man. As
a young man, you're not going to know everything in this world. You're not going to have a
lot of knowledge. You're not going to have a lot of understanding. You're not going to
have a lot of wisdom. But you can acquire that through the Word of God, through the
Bible. You don't have to allow experience to be your teacher. You can allow God's Word
to be your teacher. And so point one is this, that you should be wise and not a loser.
Now, why not a loser? Well, if you look up loser in the dictionary, it actually says
this, a person who is incompetent or unable to succeed. And really, you know, the Bible
word here is constantly used as fool. We use fool consistently in the book of Proverbs.
But in our modern vernacular, we don't really use that word very much. It's not often just
thrown out there like this guy is a fool. Typically, it's more likely to say, hey, this
guy is a loser. And if you think about it, if you think about someone that's a loser,
right? Why are people losers? It's a lack of wisdom. It's a lack of knowledge. It's a lack
of understanding. People that are very wise, people that have a lot of knowledge, people that
have a lot of understanding and are using that in their lives to be successful are not going to be
fools, are not going to be losers. And so it's important to read the book of Proverbs and
understand what the Proverbs say so that you can be wise and not a loser. Now this is hammered in
the text. Let's run through several verses really quickly. Look at verse 22. "How long ye simple
ones, we love simplicity, and the scorners delight in their scorning, and fools hate knowledge.
Turning at my reproof, behold, I will pour out my spirit unto you, I will make known my words unto
you." A lot of people are going to laugh about reading the Bible or doing what the Bible says.
They're going to laugh about being in church. They're going to say, "Oh man, you go to church?
Oh, you go to church three times a week? Oh, you go to Steadfast Baptist Church? Or you go to a
Baptist church? Oh, you're a Protestant? Oh, you're a Christian?" They'll just throw out all these
labels and accusations and try to make you sound bad or sound like that's dumb. No, not going to
church and not reading your Bible, that's what's going to make you a loser. Going to church will
make you wise. Reading the Bible will make you wise. Hearing from someone that's actually going
to teach you something is going to make you wise. You know, going to the Catholic church and having
a cracker shoved down your throat is not going to make you any smarter. Like, what do you think
you're actually gaining intellectually from going to the Catholic church? You're not gaining
intellectually whatsoever. It is a ritual, it is a ceremony for the guy to walk around and spray
water on you, toilet water, and to simply just shove a cracker down your throat, drink a little
bit of alcohol and leave. You know, that is not going to benefit you in your life. Coming and
hearing the Bible, being read, being preached, being sung, will actually help you grow, will
actually give you wisdom. You need to go to a church where you're going to be challenged to read
the Bible, to be challenged to understand what the Bible actually says, and for it to apply in your
life and to make changes in your life. And look, people that come to church and do what the pastor's
saying and actually reading their Bible, they're going to be more successful than if they don't.
It's just that simple. People are not constantly destroying their lives from doing what the
preacher is saying. They're not like, "Oh man, I went soul winning a little too much," or, "I started
reading my Bible a little too much," or, "You know what, I made my husband a better meal and it just
ruined my marriage." "Oh, my husband started making more money and providing for us a little too much."
You know, "Oh man, I forgave people a little too much," or, "I dressed a little too modestly." You know,
it's like no one's ruining their life from following the Bible's advice. You know why people
are ruining their life? Because they're not doing what this book says, and they end up becoming a
loser. You need to go to church. Idiots will make fun of the Bible and church and good preaching.
Losers are the ones that are constantly attacking church and are constantly attacking
men of God and preachers. You know what? They are the fool. Look at chapter 2 verse 11. The Bible says, "Discretion
shall preserve thee, understanding shall keep thee, to deliver thee from the way of the evil man,
from the man that speaketh froward things, who leave the paths of uprightness to walk in the ways
of darkness, who rejoice to do evil, and delight in the frowardness of the wicked, whose ways are
crooked and they froward in their paths." So the first part of this particular proverb is saying
that the Bible is going to give you the discretion to not follow the evil man, to not go with the
evil man, to not be like him. What is the evil man like? Well, he's froward. What is froward?
He's just against everything, just always attacking everything. And let me tell you something. I can't
stand people that are for nothing. They're the most frustrating, infuriating people on the planet.
You know, I would way rather be around someone that disagrees with me but has a has a really strong
fervor for that than someone that just is simply against everything and hates everything. Now,
that's the most frustrating person to be around. It's someone that's just against anything and
against everyone and it just doesn't like anything. Who wants to be around that person? No one. That's
a froward person. You should be away. You should get away from froward people. Look, you want to
go to a church where you like the church. You want to go to a church where you like the pastor.
You want to get a bible where you actually like it. You know, the froward person is like all
bibles have issues. The froward person says all churches have issues. All pastors have issues
and everyone has, my boss has issues and my parents have issues and then you pretty much
learn everyone has issues but them, right? Everyone's a bad person and everybody has issues
and everybody you can't listen to and no one's smart enough and at the end of the day they're
just a scorner, they're a throw-ward person, they're the evil man. You don't want to be
around people like this. Now look, I understand there's a lot of bad in this world. There's
a lot of evil, there's a lot of things to be critical of but at the end of the day find
some things that you can like, find some things that you do love, find some things that you
can support and just get behind those things and rally around those things. If Jesus Christ
can be on our side, how come you can't be on our side, right? I mean if you think about
it, if Jesus can use us, then why can't you be friends and support people where you can
support them and like people? And you know what, we should have a positive attitude about
the things of God, about church, about God's people, no matter what their little imperfections
are, because I guarantee you have problems too. And you don't want to be around this
person. You want to have the discretion to realize, oh, this person's not attacking things
for a legitimate reason. He's just a froward person. He's just against everything. He's
just against everyone. He's never going to be happy. He doesn't have friends. You know,
you also notice that the froward person's always complaining about not having friends.
And it's like, well, it's because you're froward. It's like, oh, the problem is, y'all aren't
friendly. No, no, no. The problem is you're not friendly. Because a man that has friends
must show himself friendly, is what the Bible says. And look, the Bible will give you the
wisdom and the discretion to understand, hey, I should be a kind person. I should be friendly
towards people. And look, if you are someone that's very smart, has a lot of wisdom, you're
friendly and you're kind, people want to be your friend. You know how people don't want
to be your friend? Because you're stupid, you're a loser, and you're forward. That's
why. I mean, why would I want to be around someone that's going to say stupid things
that's against everything and is not friendly towards me, is against everything? Well, I
don't want to be around that person. I want to be around people that are positive and
smart and kind and want to extend grace one for another. Someone that's going to be friendly
towards me, I'm going to be friendly back towards them. Now, it also brings up the strange
woman, verse 16, "to deliver thee from the strange woman, even the strange which flattereth
with her words, which forsake of the guide of her youth and forget of the covenant of
her gods." But it protects you, wisdom protects you from the evil man and the strange woman,
which is a point we're going to get to in a moment. But wisdom is just basically going
to give you life advice in every category. Just all the people you should hang out with,
all the people you shouldn't hang out with, the things you should do, the things you shouldn't
do. But wisdom is going to help you be wise, not having any wisdom, you're just going to
be a loser, you're incompetent, you're unable to succeed. Proverbs 3 verse 13, the Bible
says, "Happy is the man that findeth wisdom and the man that geteth understanding." Verse
14, "For the merchandise of it is better than the merchandise of silver and the gain thereof
than fine gold." She is more precious than rubies and all the things that thou canst
desire are not to be compared under a length of days in the right hand and her left hand
rich as an honor. Another thing, the Bible is really clear on this subject. If you have
a lot of wisdom, you have a lot of knowledge, you have a lot of understanding, you will
very likely be able to bless yourself financially. You'll be able to gain financial means, you'll
be able to acquire wealth in this world, and there's nothing wrong with that. But the Bible
is saying wisdom is still better than acquiring the wealth. Because here's the thing, having
all the wealth in the world is not as important as living a longer life and being happy and
healthy in that life. Because if you think about it, the people that are extremely rich,
the people that have infinite money, they would give all of it away if they could extend
their life and/or be healthy and be happy. They often are trying to buy their happiness.
They're trying to extend their life. They're trying to acquire the things that wisdom actually
gives you. So, you know, what's better than having a bunch of money is having wisdom.
And having the wisdom to know, hey, if you honor your father and your mother, your days
are going to be long upon the land with the Lord thy God giveeth thee. You know, a lot
of people are obsessed, and I use this word lightly, these obsessed might not be strong
enough word. They are obsessed with the ingredients and food. They are obsessed with that and
think that that is what's going to preserve your life. Whereas there's zero Bible verses
on that. And there's infinite Bible verses on honoring your father and your mother. And
is it any coincidence that even some of the most wicked evil people on the planet are
the most obsessed with the ingredient list? Go to Whole Foods. It's a weird clientele.
And I'm thinking like, man, if you just follow God's commandments, you might be better off.
Now look, I'm not saying don't eat healthy. I'm just saying, at the end of the day, you'd
be better off eating junky food and following God's commandments than eating so great and
just being a wicked evil person. And people, again, I'm not, I'm not down on you. If you're
like, we're going to eat the most organic, clean, I grow all of my food. We eat grass
fed beef only. We drink the milk from the teat, literally of the cow. Okay. I'm for
you. You go. I'm on your side. But let me tell you something more important is following
God's commandments. Young men, young men, you need wisdom today and you need to follow
God's commandments. And that wisdom is going to give you the long life, not just the food
source. And often, you know, you see people living to be 90, 100 years old. They're still
in McDonald's drive-thru. They're smoking five cigarettes a day, you know, and you're just
thinking like, "How in the world are you still kicking?" It's like they probably obeyed mom and
dad really well, you know what I mean? And again, this is, someone's going to say like, "Wow, I'm
going to get us, you know, I'm going to get a Happy Meal after this," you know. No, no, I'm not
saying that. I'm just saying, you know, maybe we should emphasize more God's commandments
than some of the things that aren't as important than the things that aren't as emphasized in the
Bible. And, you know, being hyper-obsessed with the things that really aren't there.
You know, hey, if you have great wisdom, you're going to get a good job. Let's just think about
it. Let's just be honest for a second. Anybody that has a good job, why do they have it and you
don't? Now, this is what the lazy person will say, "Well, you've got to know somebody," right? And
that's sometimes true. But let's just be honest. Really good jobs, people that make good money,
it's because they have knowledge that you don't have. It's just that simple. If you look at jobs
that you want to have, and you say, "Why would I put in an application if they do not receive it?"
Because of your credentials, they'll say, "You don't have enough knowledge. You don't understand
this subject. You don't have enough experience. You don't have enough skill to do this particular
job." And look, it doesn't matter what job we're talking about. Whether it's a master plumber,
a master electrician, whether it be in the supply chain management industry,
whether it be in finance or accounting or in medical or being a lawyer. Why is it that the
lawyer makes money? Because of the knowledge that he has. Why is it the doctor makes money? Because
of the knowledge that he has. Why is it that the plumber that owns his own business makes so much
money? Because of the knowledge that he has. There's a separation between people making money
and the people not making money. It's called wisdom. It's the understanding. And if you have
the understanding, if you have the knowledge, you will be able to position yourself in the job force,
in the career market to make good money. So young men, let me tell you something. If you want to make
good money in this world, it's going to come through wisdom. That's why you should read books.
Oh man, I don't want to read. Okay. So you don't want to make money. Now look, at the end of the
day, some people have great jobs and can make good money and they don't read that much. But let me
tell you something, they work with their hands and they're good with their skills, like their
physical skills, and I guarantee they still have a lot of knowledge that you don't have. You know,
you look at an expert welder or you look at someone that uses their hands, a mechanic or something,
boy, they're very knowledgeable in the work that they're doing and you're not capable of doing that
particular work. They may not have to read a whole bunch necessarily, but they're very skilled and
they have a lot of knowledge in their subject. Look, you want to make more money, get more
knowledge, get more wisdom. And as a young man, you're starting out young, you might as well just
max on wisdom, max on knowledge and max on understanding if you want to have good pay.
And if you don't want to make any money, okay, be like the bum that sits on the street corner
and doesn't know anything, be a loser. But let me tell you something, you want to make good money,
it's one thing knowledge, it's one thing wisdom, that's what's going to separate you in the
workplace. But more importantly, more importantly than all of that, I know you like making money,
more important is living a long life. More important is just being right with God and living a happy,
blessed life. And that's what wisdom will actually give you. Wisdom will not only give you that,
it's like, it's like the showcase showdown or whatever. It's like, you know, what do we
have in the first one? First one, good job. Second one, long life. Third one, happiness and
blessed. What are you going to bid? And you're just like infinite. Why would I not? I mean,
you can't even put a price tag on this stuff. It's literally priceless. Therefore, you need to get
wisdom as a young man. How do you get that? How about reading the book of Proverbs?
You should be reading it all the time, memorizing it, studying it, and applying it into your life.
Go to chapter four, look at verse five. Proverbs chapter four, verse five, the Bible says,
get wisdom, get understanding. Notice this, forget it not. You know, you can read the Bible and you
can know it really well and then you stop reading and you'll forget it all. You can memorize an
entire chapter of the Bible and then you don't quote it for a few weeks and then it's just like
gone. It's really easy to forget things. And what does the Bible say? Get the wisdom, get the
understanding, but don't forget it. It means you have to keep applying it. You keep going to church.
Oh, I've already heard this sermon. Well, maybe there's aspects of it you forgot. Maybe there's
Bible references you forgot. Maybe you're not applying it in all the areas of your life. So
maybe you need to be reminded again on that particular subject matter. Hey, we all need
reminders. I need reminders in my phone for all the things I sign up for. I constantly have doubly
booking myself on my calendar or forgetting things. Hey, I need reminders for anything
and everything. Hey, when I cook, anytime I've ever cooked, I have to set a timer. If I don't set a
timer, I will forget. And so I just know for a fact, I need a reminder. If I'm cooking pasta,
I always put something on. I'm just like, set the timer. Why? Because I want to eat pasta al dente,
right? I want an exact type of pasta. Because if you overcook pasta, it's just a wet noodle and
everybody hates a wet noodle, right? A wet noodle preacher is just the worst and a wet noodle in
life is just the worst, okay? So you want it to have a little bit of firmness in that pasta.
And you got to know, hey, this pasta takes six minutes, this one takes eight minutes,
and this one takes 10 minutes, right? And you want to put that time, because if I put it in there,
I'm always just thinking and doing and going, I'm going to forget. I need that reminder. And the
reality is, hey, I need that reminder to read my Bible. I need that reminder to go to church.
I need that reminder from preaching. I need reminders in my life. Children need constant
reminders to do right. And you know, as a young man, don't think, well, I've already read the
book of Proverbs. No, read it again. Read it again. And then once you think you know it, read it
again and then read it again. And what you'll understand as an as you age is you'll read the
book of Proverbs and you think you understand it and then fast forward a few years of life.
And you'll be like, wow, I see this from a completely different perspective than I did
before. And I have another layer of understanding that's going on top of this. Wow. I wish I kind
of understood it this way. Look, you can read the Bible over and over and over and you'll see new
things, other concepts, more experience in life will help you to gain greater understanding of
the Bible and how to apply it. That's why it's important to constantly read it, memorize it.
Many times when I've memorized passages in the Bible, I don't, I didn't really understand it.
Plenty of verses, there's plenty of things in the Bible I'm just kind of memorizing,
regurgitating and I'm just like, I just don't really understand this. I don't really get it.
And it's not until months, years later that that verse triggers and I have a greater appreciation
or understanding of what that verse actually means. That's what it means to meditate upon
the word of God is, you know, just constantly you thinking about it, quoting it, singing it, and then
someday it'll click and you never know when that stuff is going to click. But as a young man,
you need to, you know, read the Bible and read the book of Proverbs repeatedly to get wisdom
so that you're not a loser. Now I'm going to move to my second point is emphasized here in the book
of Proverbs. We can keep hammering this point, but the second one, and this is kind of in chapters
five, six, and seven, this is really hammered, is the problem of lust. You know, you don't want
to be a loser and you don't want to be constantly just lusting after things. So what the Bible is
saying is that you should get a wife. The second W is a wife. W number one, wisdom. W number two,
a wife. L number one is being a loser. L number two is lusting constantly. And you know, the Bible
is really clear in first Corinthians chapter number seven, the way to avoid fornication
is to get a wife. I mean, that's just what the Bible says. And as a young man,
if you're in the 99.999 percentile, you probably just need a wife. You know, there's gonna be
exceptions. The Apostle Paul brings it up and God bless the exceptions out there.
But for the most of us, we're not the exception, we're the rule. And at the end of the day,
the only way to really avoid lust is just to get a wife. And again, you're not going to completely
avoid it, but it's a way to at least satisfy that natural desire in your life. And it's a way to be
pleasing unto God. And so you should seek for a wife. Now, Proverbs chapter 5, look at verse 3,
"For the lips of a strange woman drop as in honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil."
Now, here's the thing you have to understand about this text, and this is something I don't
think young men understand, is the Bible does not paint this woman, in verse number 3, as anything
but positive. If you think about it, right? It says that her lips are going to be like a honeycomb
and her mouth is smoother than oil. It's saying everything about this is desirable. Everything
about this just looks attractive. It's something you want. It's something you desire, and it's
something you'll enjoy. I mean, you're going to enjoy the lips. You're going to enjoy the mouth.
You're going to enjoy what she has to say. What she says to you is just going to sound so appealing,
so attractive. It's something you're desiring. What does it say in verse 4? "But her end is
bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword." It's a trap is what the Bible is saying. So think
about the little mouse. The little mouse is running around and then he sees some peanut butter.
He sees some cheese. There's nothing wrong with the peanut butter. Nothing wrong with the cheese.
It sounds good. In fact, he might get up there and this is the tastiest peanut butter he's ever had.
It's the tastiest little cheese square that he's ever had. It's never been so easy. It's just out
there. It's tempting. It's just like ready for him. But here's the problem. Once he steps on
that trap and he hits the button or he steps on the mechanism, it's just gonna be like BAM dead.
Or paralyzed. Or it's got his leg. Or now he's just he's just doomed. You know it could be like
that sticky paper. Have you ever seen that sticky paper they just put out by a hole and then the
mouse comes and he just jumps and then he's just like and he's caught. And I was just thinking
like man they should put that out near the tunnels in New York City. See what they catch. Catch some
big rats I'll tell you what. But at the end of the day you know hey it's just saying there's
nothing that the trap is going to look appealing. The trap is going to be something that's out there
and you know as a young man you know you need to stay away from whores. You need to stay away from
women that are going to flatter you. This strange woman and you know it's not saying that she's
weird. That's not what it means by strange. Essentially it's just someone you don't really
know and often it's very alluring to want to you know talk to people that you don't really know.
The mystery woman. The woman that you you don't know much about because the woman that you've
grown up with the person that you're familiar with you probably know man this one's a whore
you know or this one's you know a nice girl. You probably kind of know that. The strange woman you
don't really know her and so you get involved with someone that you're not really aware of.
You don't know much about. It can be a giant trap. You need to be careful of this woman you don't
know much about. That's strange unto you. That you have no real information. You know that's a
dangerous way to go down this road. It says in verse five her feet go down to death. Her steps
take hold on hell. Lest thou shouldest ponder the path of life. Her ways are movable. That thou
canst not know them. You know you think like oh I can fix her. No you can't. You don't even know
where she's going. What she's doing. And she will break your heart. She's a man eater. Says in verse
seven. Hear me now therefore you children and depart not from the words of my mouth. Remove thy
way far from her and come not nigh the door of her house. Lest they'll give thine honor unto others
and thy years unto the cruel. Lest strangers be filled with thy wealth and thy labors be in the
house of a stranger. You know you could be very wise as a young man. You could work really hard
and make a lot of good money and then you just get the wrong woman and she will destroy your life.
She will rip your heart out and destroy it. She'll take all of your money through child support and
alimony and from divorce proceedings and she's just going to trash you. And notice what it says,
all of your wealth you're just going to end up giving it to other people. To the divorce lawyer
number one, divorce lawyers are the worst. I mean think about it they're preying on people that have
bad marriages. They're extracting the wealth out of people that are in a bad marriage situation.
Talk about attacking the vulnerable. Talk about attacking people and then just taking advantage
of them. And you know a lot of divorce lawyers are these women, these nasty evil disgusting women.
They have little billboards up in the mall and everywhere. It's like divorce your husband and
double your closet size. What a lie. She would only get like 10% increase. Okay let's just be
honest all right. No one's doubling their closet size by divorcing their husband. Okay and at the
end of the day you know they're gonna also have to move into a smaller house or an apartment. They'll
probably end up having actually a smaller closet overall. They'll probably have a smaller closet
size and less money and less budget. You know what divorcing your husband will wreck your finances
and you know what marrying the wrong woman will destroy you financially. You know marrying the
right woman will bless you financially. Marrying the wrong woman will destroy you financially
and not even just marrying just getting involved with. You know you can get it there's a lot of
celebrities. There's people like Elon Musk, people that are powerful and wealthy that have these
strange women come and they're just trying to get pregnant to then sue them. They're just trying to
lie with them so they can bring a sexual harassment lawsuit against them. They're just going to try
and do anything and everything they can to take advantage of those men and to lie and just ruin
their reputation, ruin who they are, ruin their finances. You know you need to stay away from the
horish woman, from the strange woman. You know you want to marry a woman that fears God, that's a
modest godly woman, that is not after you and your money. You know these type of women can destroy
you. That's why you need to read the book of Proverbs constantly and figure out what kind of
woman that you need to be looking for. Look at Proverbs chapter six, go to Proverbs chapter six,
and let me emphasize this. It's a woman you should be looking for. Beware, be careful of the woman
that finds you. I'm not saying that it's always bad, but for the most part that's what the
horse women are like. They're finding you. They're coming out and seeking you. You need to be the one
going out and seeking her and finding the modest, the kind, the woman that's meek, the one that's
quiet, going out and approaching her and talking to her. Because think about it, she can't change
her personality overnight. You know, if this girl is just online getting attention from men all day,
every day, just constantly posting pictures of herself dressed immodestly online, you know,
don't think that you're her knight in shining armor that you're going to come and start dating
her and marrying her and she's just going to not want male attention all of a sudden. You know,
if there's a woman that's not constantly seeking for male attention all the time,
you know, that's the kind of woman you probably want to marry because she's not going to
constantly seek for male attention after you get married too. And let me be honest with you,
I don't want a wife that's going to constantly just be posting her body and posting anything
and everything online just to seek male attention. Just trying to see how many men can be interested
in her, you know, that's the kind of one that's movable or ways are movable. You can't,
you can't know them and she will ruin your life. She will ruin your life. And at the
end of the day, we as men, hey, we have natural desires towards women and we need to satisfy
those. But you know what? You should satisfy them with a godly, meek and modest wife,
not with the whore-ish woman. Proverbs chapter six, verse 23 says, "For the commandment is
the lamp and the law is light and repulsive instruction of the way of life to keep thee
from the evil woman, from the flattery of the tongue of a strange woman. Lest not after
her beauty in thine heart, neither let her take thee with her eyelids." Notice what it
says in verse 25, "Lest not after her beauty in thine heart." You know, it's not like this
woman is unappealing, she's very appealing. That's the problem, that's the reason why
it's a trap, that's why it's so dangerous, is that she's trying to entrap you with only
her beauty. And you know what, you should not be interested in a woman only for her
beauty. That should be maybe the first thing that you maybe consider like, "Hey, I find
this woman attractive." But then you need to go well beyond that. You need to be attracted
to her personality, you need to be attracted to who she is as a person and finding out
what she's like and investing in that relationship so that you can have a good communication.
You can enjoy her company, you like talking with her, you like doing things with her.
Not just, "Wow, she's pretty." Bible is warning against this lust not after her beauty. Why?
Because the evil woman will destroy you. Verse 26, "For by means of a horish woman, a man
is brought to a piece of bread, and the adulteress will hunt for the precious life." You know,
women will, that are evil, these evil women will often, it's kind of like a sport to them,
it's kind of a game to them to ruin men and just to destroy men and to try to trap them.
Think about Potiphar's wife. Potiphar's wife is a married woman and she wants to destroy
Joseph's life through adultery. And of course, he doesn't even commit adultery and then
she still destroys his life. Why? Because that's what's in her heart. She was an evil
woman and she wants to destroy men. There are evil women in this world whose only goal
and only aim is just to destroy men. They hate men and they are a man eater and they
will destroy you. That's why you need to stay away from those type of women. It says in
verse 32, "But whoso committed adultery with a woman, lacketh understanding he that doeth
it destroyeth his own soul." You should just stay so far away from a married woman. Just
stay super, super far away from married women. Don't get really close with them. Don't have
private conversations with them. You know, I'm not saying you have to be mean, but at
the end of the day, you know what, if you work in a workplace where there's other women
or married women, you know what, just keep it as professional as possible. Don't be
charming. Don't flirt with them. Don't go and have lunch with them. Obviously if it's a big
corporate thing and you're all together, okay, but don't have private lunches with them.
Don't have private communications with them. Don't go hang out with them. Just stay away
from married women. And really, if you're married, just stay away from all women, except for yours.
At the end of the day, you know, adultery is a dangerous thing. You know, for a young man,
if you lie with another man's wife, he may literally kill you. I mean, this is what the
text is saying. It says in verse 34, "For jealousy is the rage of a man, therefore he will not spare
in the day of vengeance. He will not regard any ransom. Neither will he rest content, though
they'll give us many gifts." You know, unfortunately, sometimes you kind of have a negative daydream or
negative thought. And it's like, even though I'm a pastor, even though I love the Bible,
even though soul winning is very important to me, if some man were to do anything to my wife,
I think I would kill him. Okay? And I'm not saying that because I'm trying to act tough. I'm just
saying, I'm just trying to be honest. I'm just saying like, I feel that way. So if I feel that
way, how much more with just your average Joe that doesn't even care about the Bible, that doesn't
have much to live for. Boy, you take his wife and he may literally slaughter you. He may kill you.
Like this is a stupid thing to do. You should just stay super far away from other women. And even if
they're not married, you still need to stay away from them because it's wicked and evil. The Bible
says marriage is honorable and all and the bed undefiled, but whoremongers and adulterers, God
will judge. You cannot just go out and commit adultery and think you're going to get away with
it, especially as a saved Christian. Even more so going to a church like ours where you've heard
the warnings, you've heard what the Bible says. Boy, I just feel like you're almost guaranteed at
this point. If you have this much knowledge, you'll probably just get some kind of SCD.
You could just, you could possibly get beat up. You could possibly have your wife just trash you
and response, which I'm not saying that that's right. But you know, if you push your wife to
some uncomfortable limits, she may do evil things to you and that's wicked. But let me tell you
something. Do not go out and commit adultery and think you're just going to get away with it.
You know, you will be taken to task and God will take you to task. You need to stay away from this,
get a wife and be satisfied with your wife. Go back to chapter five and look what it says
in verse number 17. It says, it's talking about waters. Let them be thine own lonely and not
strangers with thee. Let thy fountain be blessed and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be
as a loving hind and pleasant row. Let her breast satisfy thee at all times and be thou ravished
always with her love. And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman and embrace the
bosom of a stranger? Look, you shouldn't be going and committing fornication with women you don't
know. It should be in marriage with your wife that you do know. You should know who your wife is so
that you can know your wife. And you shouldn't be knowing strange women. You should stay far,
far away from that. Notice what it says specifically in the text. You should be satisfied
at all times with her. How do you solve lust? You have a wife and you're satisfied with her at all
times. And you're not chasing after other women. You're not lusting after other women. You're not
going down this other path. You know what? As young men, you have a desire for women. It's natural.
It's normal. How do you satisfy that? Get a wife and to be satisfied with her. That is the only
cure to this. And why are so many men destroying themselves a day? Because they're not getting a
wife and they're not satisfied. And they're wasting much of their day, much of their time,
much of their money on lust. They're just simply lusting after things that they can't have that
they'll never have that they want. And you know what? They should just find a wife and be satisfied
with her. This is just the key instructions. You know, as a young man, I didn't understand this either.
The Bible's constantly talking about the strange woman that she flatters. Look at what it says in
verse four and five of chapter seven. It says, "Say unto wisdom, thou art my sister, and call
understanding thy kinswoman, that they may keep thee from the strange woman, from the stranger
that flattereth with her words." Look, there are women out there that will tell you, "Hey,
you're so attractive. Oh, you're so handsome. Oh, I love you." They don't mean it at all. They're
lying. And yet, young men that maybe feel a little insecure or just maybe they've never had very much
just attention from women, they can be taken advantage of very easily by a whorish woman.
Why? Because you now hear this woman and she's saying this, you're thinking like, "Yeah, I guess
I am super attractive. I must be this forbidden fruit." You know what I mean? And just as this
forbidden fruit, all these women, they're just so into me. Maybe she's lying. Maybe she's flattering
you. Don't think that you're just so special and just such a stud and just all these women
just think you're so awesome. Look, you know what? Be leery of women that are just so forward,
that they're just so coming onto you and giving you all this praise, especially when you know
it's not true. And look, there's some men out there that are just very attractive. They're tall,
they're dark, they're handsome, they have money. And maybe women, just all the women are just like,
he is a stud, you know, he is that. But it's like, if you're not that, you're not tall,
you're not athletic, you don't have very much money, you're dressed kind of ragged,
and she's saying all this, she's lying to you, okay? And it takes humility to sometimes realize,
you know what, I don't think that I'm that, you know, awesome. I don't think I'm that great.
She must be probably flattering me. Hey, you know, go find a woman that'll be honest with you.
And she's like, well, I like your personality. You know, that's the kind of woman that you
should marry, you know? Well, sometimes you're funny, you know? You know, a woman that's a
little bit too honest with you is way safer than the woman that's just constantly flattering
everything about you. Those are the strange women flatters. You know, again, I'm just telling you,
young men, I wish I had known this. I wish I had known that the the whoreish women will just tell
you everything you want to hear, but they're lying. It's not real. It's not sincere because
she'll tell that to every guy. She'll tell that to any man. And as soon as she's used you and abused
you, she'll move on. Look at verse 10, "And behold, there met him a woman with the attire of a harlot
and subtle of hearts." So notice it helps us a little bit more the strange woman. Who's the
strange woman? She's one that flatters you. She's evil. She wants to commit adultery.
And specifically, she says here that she's wearing the attire of a harlot. Now sometimes you have to
pick up on subtle clues. Maybe she's a single woman. You're a single guy. So there's not really
any chance for adultery there. But if you're hanging out with her and she's bringing up how
she would commit adultery, that should just be an immediate just red flag. I don't want anything
to do with this woman. You know she brings up she's talking about married men in your presence like
oh man that guy's so attractive you know or I would love to be with this particular person
that's married and you're just thinking like why why would you be so interested in committing
adultery? Why are you this home wrecking horror in your heart and in your mind? If out of the abundance
of the heart the mouth speaketh. You know what you should want a woman that's not just sitting there
just on a hair trigger ready to commit adultery. You know what would actually be a good thing
is in in your life you know whether it's a movie tv tabloid online something you see a woman that's
a home-wrecking horror that commits adultery and she's just like man what a disgusting woman oh
man what a terrible person oh and she's shaming that person to you then you're thinking like oh
wow this is a good this is a good woman this is a woman that actually thinks negatively about
adultery doesn't think like oh it's on the table for me if it was the right person if it was some
celebrity if it was some attractive guy if it's some rich guy you know what she she disdains women
that are whores she disdains women that commit adultery you know that's the type of woman that
you should be seeking for young men not a woman that would commit adultery you want a woman that
would not commit adultery that's why divorce and remarriage is kind of foolish because if you think
about it divorce and remarriage according to the bible is committing adultery so if the person's
willing to be with you after they've been divorced they've already said i'm willing to commit
adultery if they're already willing to commit adultery what's going to keep you feeling like
oh she wouldn't do it again that's a dangerous scenario it's a dangerous situation you should
recognize hey i don't know if i can trust this woman she's already ready to commit adultery with
me the other way back to chapter six and i'm gonna give you my last uh proverb here and again there's
so many more proverbs in the book of proverbs just kind of highlighting the three things i think are
so so important for young men number one you need to get wisdom and not be a loser you need to get
a wife so you're not constantly lusting after the strange woman the third one is that you need to
work so that you're not lazy so what are the three w's being wise getting a wife and working what
are the three l's being a loser lusting and being lazy and these are emphasized in the book of
proverbs and this is my advice to young men you need to really do these things proverbs chapter
six look at verse four give not sleep to thine eyes nor slumber to thy eyelids deliver thyself
as a roe from the hand of the hunter and as a bird from the hand of the fowler go to the ant
thou sluggard consider her ways and be wise which having no guide overseer or ruler provided their
meat in the summer and gathered their food in the harvest how long wilt thou sleep oh sluggard
when wilt thou rise out of thy sleep yet a little sleep a little slumber a little folding of the
hands of sleep so so thy poverty come as one that traveleth and i want as an armed man notice the
bible is coupling someone that's lazy with sleeping why well you go to the job and who's the lazy
guys the guy that slept in and comes in a late work or work late why is it that every time you
find a homeless person they're just sleeping in the middle of the day they're not sleeping because
they've been working too hard i mean it's not like they've been doing a lot of toiling labor
why are they just constantly sleeping why are they always laying around and doing nothing why
because you know sleeping makes you tired and then when you're tired you're lazy and then when you're
lazy you're tired and then you're tired you're lazy look there's a tight coupling between being
lazy and being tired say man i'm tired all day well maybe it's just because you're lazy because
your body responds to what you do you know if you work out you'll actually be less tired you'll
have more energy for the day if you get up early you'll have more energy for the day if you work
you'll have more energy for the day why is it that when you finally sit down and you kind of get easy
all of a sudden you just get tired i mean there's times where i'm just like active and then as soon
as i sit down i'm just like wow i'm tired your body responds to what you're doing and you can
just sit there and just sleep and just take your little siesta you know what that's not going to
actually give you productivity in this life you know as a young man you need to work and not be
lazy not be slothful look at chapter 10 verse 4 proverbs 10 verse 4 he becomeeth poor that deals
with a slack hand but the hand of the diligent maketh rich he that gathereth in summer is a wise
son but he that sleepeth and harvest is a son that causeth shame how many young men how many
generation z and zoomers today spend their entire summer sleeping in and playing video games all day
as opposed to actually getting up and going out and working during the summers and then they claim
oh man i can't buy a house oh man i can't buy anything oh i don't have any money oh in the 1950s
they were just handing out free houses and cars and wives that's what nick fuentes said you know
so i just believe it you know it's like this is not how it worked actually in the 40s you were
drafted and you went to normandy beach to get shot out by a bunch of germans that's what actually
happened they were just handing out free houses and free cars and whatever you know this this
nonsense that people think like oh man we just we just have it so bad look you probably never
had it so good honestly there's almost like no time in history where it's been easier to have
money or a wife or to have wisdom all the things i'm saying i guarantee i personally believe it's
easier right now to have all these than it's ever been before look you have the internet where you
can have infinite access to wisdom as soon as you can we have an abundance of king james bibles we
have great churches in america today we have great preaching online you can just max wisdom right
now you can go on youtube and learn anything right now used to be you'd have to go to college to get
in certain wisdom and certain instruction nowadays with the access of the internet you can pretty
much learn anything and gather so much wisdom today there's so many jobs technology is exploding
there's so many industry opportunities if you're learning if you're smart if you're wise you can
get anything and look there's like eight billion people on the planet that's a lot of options for
wives like the number of wife opportunities is so high most men are not even getting married or
trying to get married so there's even more women on the single market than there's ever been before
not only that as an american you have this magical thing called a passport where you can virtually go
to any foreign country and get a wife there too and look when you go abroad it's just even that
much more likely they're going to be into you i'm just telling you there's american privilege
there's american privilege as a man you know i don't really feel sad for these guys that are
constantly complaining about not getting a wife you know why they don't have a wife is they don't
want a wife that's why look you have so much opportunity so much you know why you don't have
one because you're lazy it's not you're working for a wife if you'd actually work for one you
could go out there and get get one what are you even doing in the summer you know playing video
games will never get you a wife sleeping in is not going to get you a wife being lazy and being a
derelict and being stupid is not going to get you a wife listening to nick fuentes is not going to
get you a wife listening to andrew tate is not going to give you a wife you know hating on churches
and making troll videos against churches is not going to get you a wife you need to go out and
find a wife and you know what it takes a little bit energy it takes a little bit of effort it
takes some work who's so fine with the wife find it the good thing and obtain a favor of the lord
you know i'm not saying that it's just super easy i'm just saying it's way easier than let's just
go back to what i don't know the 1800s or the 1700s you're just on the the pioneer land you're
just out there and back then it used to be that you'd actually have to get the father's permission
so he'd look at you and say oh you don't have any money you're not attractive you're not athletic
you don't have anything you can't have my daughter buy there's three women in this town that are even
on the market and you're not one of the guys that are gonna you're not i'm not interested in you
right i mean that you you could literally find a wife on the internet you don't have to get dad's
blessing in many cases anymore i mean it's it's never been easier stop believing lies out there
stop believing all the trash out there if you want a wife go get one you know what the reason why
young men are not getting a wife is because they're not wise and because they're not working hard
because look you work super hard you're going to you're going to have the women lining up
if you don't work hard you're not going to have them lining up david had them lining up i'm just
telling you what all right jacob all of the all the men of the bible have not this problem be like
the men of the bible strong they're prosperous they're wise you know that's what women want
you know it's so it's so hypocritical how the single guys today they want a wife that's just
like super fit super attractive to just be a complete virgin and be super godly super
submissive that's the list that they want and then they can't even just work out have some money you
know go out there and and talk to them it's like it's a huge hypocritical viewpoint you know if
you're a young man let me tell you something work out get strong have wisdom get some money
and you won't have a problem in this area don't be afraid in fact you should just be you should be
picky you won't you won't have to sit here and think like oh man i can't find one you'd be like
which one do i choose what are my preferences what do i want do i want to import do i want domestic
do i like the texas chili do i like you know ohio chili or whatever i don't know you know you can
just eat do i want canada i mean you can just go anywhere mexico do i want south america do i want
african i mean you can just have your pick of the litter that's just how life works just be humble
enough to recognize you're the problem quit blaming all the women you're listening to too
much nick fuentes look at what it says in verse 26 as vinegar to the teeth and as smoke to the
eyes so is the slugger to them that send him you know this is how i feel anytime i'm like
encouraging single guys to talk to young women sometimes it's like it's smoking the eyes and
vinegar it's just like what in the world man just go talk to her lazy you should be running go
catch her while she's dancing proverbs 12 verse 24 the bible says the hand of the diligent shall
bear rule but the slothful shall be under tribute you know if you're just lazy you're not going to
be in charge if you do this you're going to have to pay more taxes if you're diligent you're going
to be in charge you know here's just here's some advice okay all you single guys you don't like
what i'm saying okay pick any guy in this room that's married and just say how did you get your
wife it'll be like oh well samson's like oh i just walked through the girls he was already dating
someone i was like dump him and go out go out with me it's like you asked brother ben he's like he
just walks up to a girl just like put your number my phone we're going out it's like you just ask
the guys in this room and then they did this like heroic act they just went up they approached them
they're just like let's go let's get married get in the car and you're just like what do i do that
that's what you do go ask one of these guys you know what you're not going to hear you know i was
just sitting there playing video games and just the ceiling tiles opened and this woman just came
out of the sky and just fell in my lap and it was like can i make you a sandwich doesn't happen
it's like ask brother sam it's like he travels across the the world to go meet ladies in another
country yeah they're putting in some serious money some serious effort some serious time
they're approaching women they're talking to them why because they want a wife that's why they have
one you have to go out there and get one oh well i don't have one well you're gonna be under tribute
Like in Proverbs 13 verse four,
"He that keepeth his mouth keepeth his life,
"but he that openeth wide his lips shall have destruction.
"The soul of the slugger desireth and hath nothing,
"but the soul of the diligent shall be made fat."
You know why you always wanting stuff
and you don't have it?
Because you're lazy.
There's really no difference between these two people
from a desire perspective.
You know what?
We both want a good job.
We want a good wife.
We want a nice house.
We want a nice car.
What's the difference between these two people?
One works and gets it.
One is lazy and just sits there and wishes he had it.
It's not one's covetous and the other's not.
No, they're both coveting.
They're both desiring.
It's just one's lazy so he doesn't have it.
The other one works hard and so he acquires it.
You know why people have nice stuff?
'Cause they work hard and they get it.
You know why men have nice wives?
'Cause they went out there and got it.
That's why they have these things.
If you want something,
work hard and go out there and get it.
Proverbs chapter 13, look at verse 11.
Wealth gotten by vanity shall be diminished,
but he that gathereth by labor shall increase.
Now, of course, you wanna be careful how you get your wealth.
You wanna get your wealth by knowledge,
by wisdom, by working hard.
You can, of course, acquire wealth
through sinful means, through evil means.
That's not gonna end up lasting.
That's not the kind of wealth that you want.
You want wealth that you're working hard for
and that you're smart and you can get it again.
Proverbs 15 verse 19.
The way of a slothful man is a hedge of thorns,
but the way of the righteous is made plain.
Proverbs 18 verse nine.
He also that is slothful in his work is brother
to him that is a great waster.
Show me someone that's wasting stuff
and I'll show you someone that's lazy.
Proverbs 19 verse 15.
Slothfulness cast them into a deep sleep
and an idle soul so suffer hunger.
Let me tell you something, you young men,
you boys out there, stop being so lazy.
Work hard.
Life is not gonna give you freebies.
Life will take everything from you.
You will work hard and then the government
will just take money from you.
All kinds of over taxation.
You're gonna work hard and you buy something
and then someone steals it.
You work hard and you do things
and you ask somebody to work for you
and they rob you, they rip you off, they lie, they steal.
You do work for customers and they don't pay.
You go out and you do a big work, someone sues you
and you just lose all this money to the lawyer.
You know what, life is hard, life is difficult.
Nothing is fair.
And let me tell you something,
you think your mom and dad are mean,
you're just lying to yourself.
Your mom and dad, if they discipline you,
if they're yelling at you,
if they're criticizing you saying,
"Work harder, stop being lazy, stop being sloppable."
They're trying to help prepare you for life.
Because life is not fair, life is extremely hard.
You will constantly be taken advantage of,
ripped off, stolen from, moths are gonna come,
rust, decay, you're gonna buy food and it's gonna spoil.
I remember I bought this like really expensive meat one time.
It was like prime rib or something like this.
I don't know, it's just stupid expensive.
And it was on sale, so I was like excited about it
because it was like half off or something,
but it was still very expensive.
I got all this meat and I put it in our freezer
and then I come out and someone had left the door open
so it just completely ruined everything in the freezer.
So it's like not only do you lose hundreds of dollars
in meat and goods and products, you have to clean it up.
Talk about the worst things is cleaning up spoiled meat,
spoiled ice cream.
All the ice cream just like exploded all over
and it was just gross, it was horrific, it was awful.
Look, that stuff's gonna happen.
You're gonna spill things, you're gonna break things.
Things are gonna get destroyed.
You know what, that is life and the more lazy you are,
the more you're just gonna allow those things
to drag you down.
You have to be someone that works hard,
that's gonna fight off all of the enemies,
that's gonna make sure you don't get taken advantage of,
more than you're gonna just life.
I mean, there are some hard lessons that life will teach you.
You know, learn them as a young man in the house.
Don't be someone that your parents have to tell you
to do everything.
Hey, if you are supposed to take out the trash young men,
take out the trash without having been told.
If you're supposed to clean up, clean up your room,
clean up your room, make your bed, clean up the table,
do the dishes, do your schoolwork, do your chores,
mow the lawn, whatever it is.
Clean the car, clean your clothes, whatever it is.
Do the laundry, whatever chores.
Just do it without having been told.
Be like the ant, which is providing us meat in the summer.
Quit being lazy.
And let me tell you something, the person that's lazy,
we're gonna go there and knock on their door this afternoon
to give them the gospel.
But you know what?
We're gonna see the fruit of laziness.
What is it gonna be?
Needles out everywhere and trash everywhere
and drugs everywhere.
And you open the door,
there's cockroaches all over their carpet
and they can't even pay their bills.
And you just hear this smoke alarm, beep.
Dude, I'd rip that thing off the wall
before I'd allow that to keep going.
I mean, you're so lazy,
you can't even change the batteries in the smoke alarm.
That's the kind of life you're gonna live,
where it's just a constant beep.
That's so annoying.
I'm not in a hospital checking on your heart.
And at the end of the day, you know,
you should not be someone
that's just constantly lazy and sloppable.
Do your chores.
Hey, do things your parents didn't even ask you to do.
'Cause pretty soon you'll be an adult and you'll realize,
wow, I wish that's how my children would act.
I wish that's how my wife would act.
I wish that's how my employees would act.
You know, be that kind of person.
Quit being so sloppable and so lazy.
Look at chapter 19, verse 15.
Sloppableness cast in the deep sleep
and idle souls will suffer hunger.
You know why you're hungry 'cause you're lazy.
Verse 25, 21, chapter 21, verse 25.
The desire of the sloppable killeth him,
for his hands refused to labor.
He coveteth greedily all the day long,
but the righteous giveth and spareth not.
Proverbs 22, verse 13.
Here's the excuses we hear from the lazy people.
The slothful man said, "There is a lion without.
"I shall be slain in the streets."
There's always all these excuses.
You know why people are lazy?
It's not because there's an actual lion.
It's because they're lazy.
It's that simple.
They don't wanna work.
"Six days shalt thou labor," is what the Bible is saying.
I'm not gonna go through all these verses.
I'm gonna remind you of these points
and I wanna give you a little bit of personal advice here.
Number one, we need to be wise and not a loser.
You know why you're a loser?
Because you're not wise.
You know why you're not wise?
'Cause you didn't read the Bible.
You don't read the Bible,
you don't read the book of Proverbs, that's why.
And you won't be successful.
Number two, you're constantly wasting time lusting
instead of just having a wife
and being satisfied with her at all times.
Number three is that you're so lazy and you're not working.
And look, all these things work together.
All these things tie and have overlap
and they come together
and they'll make you more successful.
I wish I knew this when I was 13 years old.
I wish I knew this when I was 14 years old.
I wish I knew this when I was 15 years old.
So again, I'm just gonna give some personal advice
mixed in with what the Bible is clearly saying.
So if you're a young man, if you're a 13 year old,
just pay attention 'cause I'm giving you some advice.
If you're a young man, you're 13 or over,
you should be reading the book of Proverbs daily.
And here's an easy tip.
Just read the Proverb chapter corresponding to the day.
If it's the 10th, today's November 30th,
you know you should read Proverbs 30 today.
And then it's the first, Proverbs 1.
The second, Proverbs 2.
Just read it every single day.
Just always be filling your mind
with the wisdom of the Bible.
Number two, you should just be reading the whole Bible
on a regular basis.
Probably only take you a couple minutes.
Then you should do some daily Bible reading as well.
Read a couple chapters, get a daily Bible
or get a Bible reading plan or get something
and just systematically go through the Bible,
check it off, just make sure you're constantly reading it.
Here's the third thing, this is my tip,
is learn a foreign language when you're 13.
Learning a language takes a lot of time, like years.
Boy, you're not gonna learn it overnight.
It'd be nice if you start learning at 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18.
After five, six years in, you might actually get to a point
where you have a lot of competency in a foreign language.
You might as well do it.
Learn a foreign language and start learning it now.
You know, the Bible says in 1 Corinthians 14,
I would that you all speak with tongues.
I mean, the apostle Paul is pro speaking
in foreign languages.
But then he says this, "but rather that you prophesied."
Here's another thing you need to do as a young man,
learn how to give the gospel.
More importantly, the foreign language
is start learning how to give the gospel.
If you're 13 years old,
you should start learning how to give the gospel
and falling along.
Hey, if you're younger than this than you can, praise God.
I'm not down on anybody doing this younger.
I'm saying by the time, if you're a hit in 13,
you've been in a church like ours,
you should start learning how to give the gospel
because it'll benefit your entire life.
He that win his souls is wise, is what the Bible says.
And you never know when you're gonna get alone with someone,
it's brought up.
You wanna be skilled enough to be able to get
that person saved in that moment, that coworker,
that family member, that stranger, that whoever it is,
that you're ready, hey, I could get this person saved
if I'm alone with them, if I have that opportunity.
I'm skilled enough and I can do it.
I mean, I learned, I didn't learn.
I tried to give the gospel when I was five years old,
just because I had the opportunity.
I was hanging out with my friends, neighbors
in the backyard and they were talking about it.
And I was like, hey, I was trying to give them John 3:16.
I was trying to help them get saved.
You know what, there's never a bad time to start.
So don't hear me.
I'm just saying, if you're at 13
and you're in a church like ours,
learn how to give the gospel as a young man.
Now, between the ages of 13 and 15,
I believe that you should start exercising
and working out as well.
You should put some effort and energy.
And look, there's different types of body types.
You don't have to be like super buff,
but you should exercise and work out.
You know, there's a running body, there's a swimming body,
there's a powerlifting body,
there's a football body, there's a linebacker body,
there's a golfer body.
Hey, all of those things are fine.
Just find one of those that you want and get it, okay?
There's the basketball.
I mean, a lot of basketball players are very thin,
very athletic, they can run a lot.
You know, the football player is big and bulky,
he doesn't have as much agility.
There's nothing wrong with either of these body types.
But you know what?
The lazy, fat, skinny gamer is not the body type.
Don't get a dad bod when you're 14, okay?
You should work on exercising and gaining some strength.
Not only that, I think you should work some odd jobs
and save money.
You know, may not be able to get employed traditionally,
but you know what, if you can mow lawns,
if you can go out there and help people clean stuff,
work on stuff, build things, you know what?
Do as much as you can and just start saving that money.
Don't spend it, save it, just start saving money.
Then by the ages of 16 and 17, this is what,
if you're ages 16 and 17, this is what you should do.
You should look at a list
of the high paying jobs of the future
and pick a career that you want.
You should just look and say,
"Hey, I'm interested in this career."
And you should start pursuing that career.
The Bible says where there's no vision, the people perish.
Now, I'm gonna give you some tips here.
You need to do your own research
'cause it's gonna constantly change and evolve.
If you're listening to this sermon,
five minutes after I preach it, it's probably outdated.
But I'm just giving you, I did it myself.
I just looked it up.
If I was 16 right now, I would just look it up.
These are the jobs of the future.
I just looked up what are the most high paying jobs
of the future.
This is what it recommended.
Now it recommended several different industries,
technology, healthcare, engineering,
and then other high demand careers.
In the technology section, it said data scientists,
software developers, information security analysts,
AI and machine learning experts, cloud solution architects,
UI/UX designers, in the healthcare, nurse practitioners,
physician assistants, medical and health service managers,
physical therapists, mental health counselors,
green energy and engineering.
It says wind turbine service technician,
solar photovoltaic installer, robotics engineer,
electric vehicle specialist.
Other high demand careers, financial analyst,
market research analyst, project management specialist,
statistician, sustainability officer.
So those are the things that I found.
Obviously there's traditional careers
that are gonna of course make money.
Lawyers and doctors, things like that.
And then of course, not listed here,
but highly skilled blue collar workers.
That's not really mentioned that much,
but again, there's plenty of people
that are highly skilled electricians, plumbers,
all this kind of stuff that make good money.
If you wanna make good money in one of those fields,
maybe you just like that kind of work,
you should strive to own your own business.
The way to make the most money
is typically just owning your own business.
It doesn't even matter if it's a simple business.
It doesn't matter if it's just a cleaning business.
You could be cleaning carpets,
just start your own business
and you'd probably make more money.
In construction, you know, you pay $100,
you can become a general contractor like that on Texas, right?
Start your own construction company,
do plumbing, do kitchen remodels,
do bathroom models, do something.
You know, that's a great way.
But you know, whatever you like, pick a picture.
Hey, this is the kind of job I want
and this is the kind of money I wanna make
and just start going towards that goal.
At 16 or 17, at the age where you're gonna start getting jobs.
Now, I looked at the World Economic Forum,
which I know they're not your favorite industry.
But here's the thing, they do dictate a lot of things
that change and evolve in the markets.
This is their recommendation for jobs
and not recommendation for jobs.
Top largest growing jobs, farm workers,
light truck and delivery services drivers,
software application developers,
building framers, finishers and trade workers,
shop sales persons, food processing and related trades,
car, van and motorcycle drivers.
I don't even know what that means,
but it is on here.
Nursing professionals, food and beverage service workers,
general and operation managers,
social work and counseling professionals,
project managers, university and higher education teachers,
secondary education teachers, personal care aides.
So they say all these jobs are supposed to increase
and grow in the next 10 years.
These are jobs that are declining,
pass years and ticket clerks.
That's pretty, I mean, AI is gonna take those jobs.
Administrative assistants and executive secretaries,
building caretakers, cleaners and housekeepers,
material recording and stock keeping clerks,
printing and related trade workers,
accounting, bookkeeping and payroll clerks,
accountants and auditors,
transportation attendants and conductors,
security guards, bank tellers and related clerks,
data entry clerks, client information
and customer service workers, graphic designers,
business services and administrative managers,
claims adjusters, examiners and investigators.
Now again, a lot of these jobs on the other side
are typically just like a data entry,
just manually typing things or something like that,
no brain power, not really thinking about it.
Those jobs will be taken away.
But, you know, even in those industries,
there's still gonna be people that have their own businesses,
that are still using their brains and stuff
and they're gonna still thrive.
But a lot of the brain dead activities
that are done in society, those jobs will be taken away.
You know what, people are worried about AI.
You know why you should be worried about AI?
'Cause you're stupid.
If you are smart, AI is gonna be a blessing to you.
You will make more money and have higher wages
and have a better job if you are smart.
If you're not smart and you're not hardworking,
AI will replace you.
AI is going to replace the lazy and the derelict
and they're pretty much just gonna all be Uber drivers
and Amazon truck drivers and whatever.
Just some kind of a service
that they can't necessarily replicate yet.
But you know what, the hardworking will always thrive.
Don't be afraid of technology.
You know, my dad was a computer programmer.
He worked for IBM.
He was hired to work for a company as a consultant.
And he was coming in,
he was supposed to write a computer program
that did the work of all the secretaries
at this particular establishment.
And he said everyone there hated him
because they were all afraid.
They said, man, if he gives us all a computer,
we're gonna lose our jobs.
Said all of us are gonna just completely be gone
and wiped out.
And so they all hated him.
He wrote a program, built it, they all got computers
and they started doing their job.
And they said, they kept every single employee
and all the employees could do their jobs even better
and more efficiently.
And then they were like, wow, I actually like this
technology and they actually ended up liking my dad.
Why?
Because it wasn't like the technology was gonna take
their job away, it just made it do them better.
Right?
It's like, it's not like the nail gun's gonna replace
the carpenter, it just made it a little easier.
You don't have to use the hammer as much.
Right?
And in the same way, technology is typically going to aid
the wise builder, the wise person.
The person that's afraid of technology and afraid
of learning, they're gonna continually stay in the dark
and they're gonna be left behind.
You know, you should as a 16 year old say,
"Hey, I wanna have this job."
So then at 16 and 17, get jobs that relate to that.
Don't go work at McDonald's.
Don't just go work at some stupid job that has no skills.
You know what?
Pick somewhere that you're gonna get some skills
or some information or experience toward your career.
That's what I would do.
Work towards getting at career.
You know, there's a person that asked me
when they were 16, 17, "Hey, what should I do?"
And I said, "Hey, just work, get experience."
They didn't even go to college for that,
and now they're thriving, they're doing good.
You don't have to necessarily go to college.
Now, if you're 18 to 25,
I would say you should try really hard
to get a job in the actual career field.
You know, in 16, 17, you should try,
but if you can't, okay.
But if you're past 18,
you should just definitely get a job
in the career path that you're headed towards,
in the direction you want.
You should only go to college
for a specific job that you wanna get.
If there's a job out there
that requires college education
or is gonna help you to acquire that job
or more successful, I'm for it.
There's nothing wrong with higher education.
Do not go to college to play beer pong.
Do not just go to college on a whim.
You should only do it strategically,
on purpose, because you need that job.
Also, do not go to college
to not get an extremely high-paying job.
Because you cannot go to college
and typically make just as much money
as a lot of lame college degrees
and a lot of college degrees
that are not really aimed at getting high-paying jobs.
If you go to college, it should be specific
and it should be for a high-paying job.
Otherwise, I don't recommend it.
I think you should stay away from it.
There's a lot of strange women there.
As a young man, if you're 18, you know what you should do?
You should stay home and you should work and save money.
Save money.
They say, "Oh, I can't buy a house."
Look, there's many programs out there to buy a house
on literal to no down payment, but let's just take a minimum.
Even if it's just a 5% down payment.
I did this just to test it.
I looked, I found a house that I would consider buying
and living in, in the Dallas-Foreworth area.
It was like, just kinda south of Arlington.
Nice area, nice neighborhood.
It's a three-bedroom, two-bath house.
It was like $250,000, okay?
Is it the best house ever?
No.
Is it better than the house I started in?
Yeah, it was better than the house I started in.
That's about as cheap as you're gonna get into a house
in the DFW area unless you live really far out, about 250.
Well, in order to do that,
you'd have to have a 5% down payment plus closing costs.
You pretty much need about $20,000.
But here's the thing, if you live at home for an entire year,
you're telling me you can't make $20,000?
I mean, you're gonna make way more than that.
You're gonna make 40, 50, 60, even upwards
if you've been working hard, striving for that,
putting effort and energy.
But here's the problem, as soon as you move out,
now you've taken away that advantage you had
to just save a bunch of money to start life well, okay?
So it's like, oh, why should I stay with my parents
for a few years?
Well, you could save a lot of money.
Not only that, if you wanted to own your own business
or go into that industry,
you could end up saving 50 to 100 grand
to invest in your own personal startup or business
when you're 18, 19, and now you're ready to go out there
20, 21 years old, start your own business,
do some kind of work.
A lot of guys, what they're doing
is they're just getting a hundred K in student loan debt
to get a worthless degree.
And then they get in the job market
and they're getting the same jobs
they could have probably gotten at 18 or 19.
And you know, you're kind of setting yourself up for failure.
All you did is just give a bunch of money
to a bunch of liberal atheists and Jews that hate you.
And you're borrowing from your future.
You should only borrow from your future
because it's gonna directly benefit you.
Do not just go out and get a bunch of debt.
Don't just get a bunch of credit cards.
You know what, stay home, work, save a bunch of money.
And look, I'm not even saying you have to buy a house,
but you can.
You know, you could also just, once you decide to move out,
get a cheap apartment and take the difference
between that cheap apartment
and what it costs to buy a house,
and you start investing it into the market, the stock market.
And I'm not saying like picking and choosing stocks.
Just pick like the S&P 500 general index fund
and just put money in that.
And look, there's never a bad time
to start putting money into that
because what you can do if you put money into a stock fund,
and I'm not talking about your 401k.
I'm talking about you just as a young man.
Let's say you're 18 years old.
You just start putting 10 grand a year into this fund
or even more, 20, $30,000.
You're just buying into a general stock fund.
You know what you can do?
You can borrow against that money.
You say, "Now I wanna start a business when I'm 25."
You could have 100, 200, $300,000 in there
that you can borrow against to get a loan
to start your new business, to start your accolades,
to do whatever you want.
You walk into the bank and say, "I have no money, no assets.
"I need to start a business.
"I want a loan.
"I need this."
You can't get it.
And the reason why you make money
is you have access to wealth.
You know what?
You wanna go out there and buy a house,
flip it, do real estate investments.
Having money is gonna only help you.
Plus you're protecting yourself against inflation.
Look, you gotta live somewhere though.
Eventually buying a house typically makes sense
because you gotta spend money on living somewhere.
Your wife probably wants to have a nice house
and you need that money to, hey, put it down on a house.
Owning a house is a good decision.
It'll help you have money.
It'll help you to use it to elevate to the next layer.
There's been many people, they buy a really crappy house,
like a really crappy house as their first house,
and they spend two years fixing it up and then they sell it
and they move to another nicer crappier house
and they fix it up in two years
and they just keep compounding this.
And then they start that at 18, 19, 20 years old.
By the time they're 40, they're living in a beautiful house.
But you know what?
Most people, they didn't even want to start there.
They didn't want to go there.
They didn't want to go down that road.
Why? Because they're lazy.
Hey, if you're lazy, you can do whatever you want.
You can sleep in and never enjoy your life.
The reason why people have stuff is they work hard.
I wish I was told this stuff when I was a young man.
By the time you're 25, if you haven't already started,
I think you should start considering saving for retirement.
You know, doing a 401k.
If your company offers you a 401k match,
you should always take it.
It's free money.
Even if you took it, here's the thing that's weird.
Even if you took it and you just took all the money
out of retirement because of the match,
you'll still make money even paying stupid taxes on it
because it's just free money.
You should always take the 401k match
from your company and invest it.
And if you can leave it alone, do it.
If you invest at 25 or younger till you're 50, 60, 70,
you're gonna have plenty of money to use and to help
and to strategically place yourself for life.
Hey, this is what I would,
don't take the advice of someone like Andrew Tate
who's telling him to give him money
so you can become a hustler.
You will fail.
You know, America needs to wake up
and come out of its stupor.
And we need young men to start investing in themselves
and investing in their future,
not investing in Andrew Tate's future
so he can sleep with another whore.
Don't go buy, look, worse than going to college
is buying his financial program.
He's signing up.
Do not sign up for anybody's financial program.
Oh, I'm gonna teach you how to make money in real estate.
Do not buy that.
I'm gonna teach you money how to invest.
Do not buy that.
Do not buy these pyramid scheme things.
You're only gonna enrich those people.
Think about it, if I knew the secret
how to make all this money in real estate,
why would I sell it to you for 50 bucks?
I don't even know you.
You're gonna be competition for me immediately.
I would never tell you that.
I would never help you.
If I was an evil, and these people are evil,
can I be well, I will tell you this for free.
I'll tell you how to make money for free
'cause I don't care, I'm not interested.
I'm not competing with you.
I'm on your team.
Andrew Tate is also, people think that,
I wanna be Andrew Tate, and yet he doesn't do any things.
He's not wise, he doesn't have a wife,
and he doesn't work.
He is a prostitute.
If you wanna understand how did Andrew Tate get money,
he literally prostituted himself online.
He created a online prostitution business,
and then he himself was the person
who chatted with all the men.
This is self-admission.
He will admit to you, this is how he made his money,
how he got rich.
But that is not how you wanna get rich as a young man.
And let me tell you something,
you're not a fact, so you're not gonna do it, okay?
Don't think like, "Oh, I wanna be like Andrew Tate."
Okay, then prostitute yourself to men online.
Hey, you can make money by charging interest
and opening prostitution rings and selling drugs
and whatever.
But you know what?
That's like what Proverbs 1 was warning you against
when it said, "My son, if sinners entice thee,
"consent thou not."
Andrew Tate's trying to say, "Let's all have one purse.
"Come join our hustler's university
"and I'll help you get wise and have all this money."
Look, it's lies, it's scams.
You know how you get money?
You work hard.
Don't be like this loser.
Don't go after all the harlots.
He's not satisfied.
That's why he has to have a new girl every week
and probably a guy mixed in, if I were to guess.
In fact, he even said, he said publicly recently,
he said once you have all this money
and you've been around enough,
women aren't even interesting anymore.
Wow, wow.
And he said that he would rather be a guy that's a 10
than a woman that's a one.
So you can just, you can figure out how to translate that.
Look, we need to wake up as a country
and we need our young men to get to work.
And you know what, you need to get some wisdom.
You need to get a wife and you need to work.
You know, I wanted to go through this, but I'm out of time.
You know, the prodigal son wasted all of his money
on harlots and on righteous living.
You know, as Americans, we've done that.
As America for a while, we've just got sucked into
just wasting all our money on drugs and alcohol
and women and not working hard
and becoming very lazy as a society.
And you know what, we need men to come to themselves
and wake up and say, hey, it's time to get to work.
It's time to get some wisdom.
It's time to get a wife.
And look, if you do these three simple things,
you will be very successful in life.
You read your Bible every day
and you study what the Bible has to say
and you get lots of wisdom from the Bible.
You get you a wife that actually fears God
and is gonna love you and you work,
you will be successful.
But if you don't care what the Bible says,
you're gonna end up being a loser.
You're gonna constantly lust after things
that you're never gonna have.
And at the end of the day,
we'll just see what you're really like.
You're just a lazy person.
You're just a lazy, lazy, lazy person.
You know, you go find me a normal person in our church
or in our society that has good money,
has a nice house, has a nice wife.
I'll show you someone that works.
You want something in this world,
you gotta work for it.
And you know, I hope the young men
will take the Bible's advice seriously.
Read your Bible and work super hard and find a godly wife.
She'll be the best thing that ever happened to you.
Let's close in prayer.
Thank you Heavenly Father so much
for giving us wisdom in the book of Proverbs.
I pray that the young men in this church
and the young men in our country could wake up.
They could start reading their Bible more.
They could get some practical advice.
They would stay away from the whoreish women.
They would stay away from the froward and evil men
that are just against everything.
They would actually love church.
They would love the Bible.
They would love the word of God.
They would find a wife to love.
And I pray that you would put some kind of a mindset
in them to work hard.
Give them a mind to work.
Help them to invest in their own future.
Help them to invest in their own career
and their own family and to actually get themselves,
drag themselves out of this debt-ridden society,
of all the lies and all the propaganda of this society.
I pray that you would just bless the men in this room.
I pray men that are looking for a wife,
that you would give them wisdom and a work ethic
to go out and find one.
You could bless their marriages.
I pray that you would help men to invest in themselves
and invest in their lives.
I pray that you would help us to have a work ethic,
to actually put in a bunch of effort and energy.
And I pray if anybody in this room has just been lazy,
is in a bad place, they'll be humble enough
to recognize it and start working now.
In Jesus' name we pray, amen.
- All right, for our last song this morning,
let's go to song number 210.
- Song number 210, "Wonderful Grace of Jesus."
Song number 210.
(piano music)
We'll all sing that out together.
Song number 210.
♪ One of the saints shall raise me ♪
♪ And transfer me ♪
♪ For the old and still I transfer ♪