All right so we're there in Genesis 2 and if you look at verse number 18 it
says and the Lord God said this is what God says all right this is God's opinion
this is God's matter God's judgment and the Lord God said it is not good that
the man should be alone I will make him and help meet for him.
The title of the sermon this morning is the importance of family the importance of
family. I was going through the sermons that I've preached at blessed up at the
church I realized I've not preached on family for a while and I feel like every
year that goes by our society is trying to destroy the fabric of family the
institution of family and I feel like even the last 10-15 years there's been a
real attempt to destroy the core or traditional family units you know mom
dad children that simple family unit that makes society work and it's such an
important part of life like what makes a strong church is strong families what
makes a strong society is strong families what makes a strong nation are
strong families and this is just built within our DNA for a man to desire a
woman for a woman and man to together to desire children this is just part of who
we are and to fight against that is to fight against our nature to fight
against God's ideal plan for every single person and you know again I'd say
the last 10-15 years primarily because we've seen the rise of same-sex
marriages right and the idea that well maybe a man and a man are worthy to be
called a married couple or are worthy to have a family and to adopt children and
then before you know it you start hearing stories about two homosexual
men adopting boys and abusing those kids giving them out to friends and letting
their friends abuse those children and the reason is because society is trying
to destroy the family structure and of course once you destroy the family what
hope do we really have as a people as a community and I I strongly believe that
well you know the best place in your life is to have a happy family honestly
I I would give up everything in life I would give up the high-paying job I
would give up being a pastor to free churches I would give everything up on
this earth to have a strong and happy family to have a strong and happy
marriage to have children that love me and respect me and for me to love my
children and to appreciate them as they grow up there I don't know if anything
besides my walk with God I don't know what else is greater than the family
institution so great that in Genesis 1 as soon as you begin to read the Bible
God tells us that he created the family and then we get to Genesis 2 and we in
the reading we saw that you know the the process by which God would create a wife
and create that family unit by which they are to multiply be faithful and
multiply and replenish the earth so the title of the sermon this morning is the
importance of family now I talked about the last 10-15 years but really you know
this idea of destroying the family unit stems back to feminism now I don't know
exactly the roots of feminism when that all began I would say probably shortly
after World War two the 50s or the 60s and you know what seems like common
sense all right is this and when I say this you're gonna think I'm just like
this sexist or misogynist kind of person but I want to really think about
this but when women started to desire or to push for the right to vote what does
that mean to you now for society they're doing well women are just looking for
equal footing with man and so to allow a woman to be say pastor do you not think
a woman has intelligence to vote of course I do okay but I want to
understand what is generated right in the past when families were the norm
when families was just societal normal right and you've got the man who who
votes he votes for the next prime minister votes for the next government
who is he voting for is he voting for himself is he voting for man's issues
and forget the ladies issues where I'm just voting for myself my own selfish
needs no when a man was voting he voted for his family he voted on behalf of his
family all right he said look this is the best prime minister this is the best
vision for our nation that's gonna be best for me and my wife and for my
children for the next generation this is the best option for the family so the
man would have one vote per family all right then what happens oh but what are
the women the women need to vote too don't you think they're smart of course
it's my enough that's why husband should talk to their wives and say honey who
should we vote for who's gonna be best for our family and I'll go and cast our
vote on behalf of the family but as soon as you break that divide well women can
vote too what happens now women are voting for women issues right well that
politicians not thinking about my issues as a woman so I'm gonna vote for
this politician and then they're like well I guess I've got to balance the
books I'm gonna vote for the guy who's focused on the men's issues and what
does that create division division in families and no longer is it about the
family and the children and the nation it's about what I need right now me what
I need right I need this as a woman I mean this is meant whatever the next
generation well we're not folks in the family more we're separating the votes
and Brevin this began well this begins the journey as to where we are today
broken homes you know families not being valid not being you know seen as a
priority in life you know today we have many many many households and if you're
this way I'm not having to go you I understand the difficulties we know the
cost of living kids keeps increasing but the main reason do you know the main
reason why the cost of living keeps increasing is because of dual family
incomes in the past that would go to work earning income and one income was
enough to take care of his wife take care of his kids put a roof over their
heads and feed the whole family then what happens women can vote all right
well women can work too again I'm not against a woman working it you know of
itself but what it creates then is this well we can challenge society we can
have dual incomes and we can pay down houses faster we can get out of debt
faster we can get the car faster because we have dual incomes do you think in
2025 it's 2025 doesn't it do you think in 2025 people families are paying down
their houses faster than they did in the 1980s or 1970s they're not paying it
down faster oh but there's dual income yeah because now what you've done is
you've increased it increased the cost of everything so now the man who wants
to be a single income earner and say honey you stay at home I'll look after
you I'll sacrifice myself I'll submit I'll submit in my service to you as a
husband I'm now competing that man is competing against other families with
dual incomes and in order to get ahead or just to be to be just to be level you
got to have a dual income family these days I'm not against you having a dual
income family I'm just saying I understand the process by which you got
here and the reason you're doing it it's not because you want to neglect the kids
not because the wife has just a burning desire to work for another man and some
company you're forced into this situation because the way society has
gone and then what happens mom and dad are working what happens to the kids
well someone's got to raise the kids don't they well let's put them into
childcare you know let's put them in aftercare hours after school because
we've got to work the longer hours to get ahead and for you know what the
family structure just begins to fall apart you know children are not being
raised by their parents and so I just did a quick Google search for the sermon
today and here are reasons why families are breaking down according to just
secular society like I said economic pressures and overwork dual income
households long working hours social norms and expectations changing gender
roles all right now if a woman decides today to say you know what I'm going to
stay at home and raise my kids what does society think of that oh you know how
demeaning how you know oh she's just she's just a housewife let's look down
on her you know what can't you work a job can't you get an education and
people get it's amazing that people get angry about this you know why ladies get
angry about this it's because they know they should be doing that too and they're
upset they're upset that I should be doing that and so it's just easy to make
me feel better by pulling down putting down the mums who stay home and raise
their kids but that gender role the pressure you know our daughters are
being raised and they've been pressured just to people I better go and get myself
a job just so I can be valued in the world you know it's not really what they
want they want to be at home they want to be stay-at-home mums and raise the
children and be looked after by men but no society is changing
individualism this is what I mentioned about voting individualism it's about
well this is what I've earned and this is what you've earned and this is what I
spent for my things this is what you spend for your things society's breaking
down was just about me me selfishness when the man would work the money would
come in it's not all for my man cave and for my video games as a man no no it's
for the family this income takes care of my wife my children I better be frugal I
better make sure they have what they need first and if there's anything
left over then I'll put it in my man cave or whatever it is right but that's
you know technology and media influence social media social media is destroying
families why I'll just look up my my girlfriend from high school just see
what she's up to oh she's uh her relationship is complicated right now
oh just see what's going on in her life you know I'm not being satisfied by my
wife in our communication because she's working long hours I need some
friendship and or vice versa my husband's never around to talk to me
because he's playing Call of Duty so I'm gonna go and just reach out to my
friends out there on the social media I'm not against social media I'm not
against these things in of itself but you understand that all of these things
where we can't share socially in families you know it's been replaced by
screen time it's been replaced by Facebook and tick-tock and what else do
you guys use telesham and and sinal signal or whatever it is whatever I know
what people call different things anyway all that's replacing the screen time is
replacing family time and I'm guilty of this as well it's not uncommon for me to
be eating at my dinner table I'm like oh someone's message me you know I should
just throw the thing out and spend time with my family you know I speak to my
kids divorce rates and family structure divorce no fault divorce today right
whatever reason whatever argument we get into divorce you know I don't believe
that word divorce should even come out of your mouth if you're married don't
let it it might if it even if it's in your heart what does it say about the
heart in the mouth at thank you brother out of the abundance of the heart the
mouth speaker so if it does enter the heart you have them to have a lot of
self-control don't allow that word divorce to come out emails please
husbands and wives do not allow that is the most damaging word to your family
that is most damaging words your marriage even if you have a sensation I
don't know don't even say it you know what family and I'll go into this all
that later on but family is created also that we can learn how to deal with
conflicts people don't know how to deal with conflicts today as soon as the
conflict I'll go run away from it oh you should have learned any family when
husbands and wives arguing they don't see eye to eye you got to find a way to
get along and push forward when children don't agree with the family's
instructions shouldn't need to learn that right to submit my will to my
parents will but today when someone has a conflict on the workplace or whatever
I've got to quit I don't like my boss when she said some nasty words to me or
something like this we're creating generations of weaker and weaker people
snowflake generation but I don't blame the snowflake generation I don't like
we call the snowflake it's a generation that raised the snowflake generation and
the generation that raised that generation that raised that generation
we are going on this societal decline and it's destroying our families so
brethren title so many is the important importance of family the importance of
family come with me to Genesis 1 please Genesis 1 why is family important I've
got seven points for you this morning seven points point number one the reason
why family is important number one is because family is God's design all right
family is God's design Genesis 1 27 so God created man in his own image in the
image of God created he him male and female created he them and God bless
them look there's a blessing to be in family and God bless them and said unto
them be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth and subdue it and
have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the fowl of the air and over
every living thing that moveth upon the earth brethren family is God's design
that's why it's important all right look at it like what is more important the
family he says look you two guys combined man and woman married couple is
greater than all the fish of the sea all the fowl of the air over all living
thing that move upon the earth marriage is greater than anything else God has
created on this earth that's why that man and woman have been given dominion
over all of God's creation what is greater than marriage I mean saying God
aside we understand God is the greatest of all but what is greater if that is
the the institution that God gives dominion over the entire earth brethren
this is God's design society churches nations thrive with families it's just a
part of God's process all right it's such an important part come with me to
Genesis 2 Genesis 2 please Genesis 2 24 families God's design and look if you
come from a broken home or something like I'm not trying to make you feel bad
in fact if you come from a broken home you should be saying pastor Kevin's
rights but to the other families here the other marriages you should be saying
you know what I've gone for a broken home situation I've seen the disasters
it causes please don't make the same mistakes that I've made please don't
make the same mistakes that my parents have made please follow God's design for
your life if anyone should be preaching this louder than anyone else it's those
that have broken families okay and Genesis 2 24 says this Genesis 2 24
therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his
wife and they shall be one flesh you know God always wants us to operate
under a family when you're born into a family God expects mom and dad to be
there for you your whole life until you're ready to leave mother and father
to go leave my roommates no to cleave unto a wife to get married God's plan
for human beings is that we're born into a family and the only way you get out
of that family brethren is to get into a new family to start a new family okay
God understands the importance of the family design okay he designed it he
created it he wants us to operate in families and again I'm not trying to if
you are going to broken home whatever I'm not trying to make you feel horrible
because we know where sin leads we live in a sin-cursed earth we have sinful
bodies we know that sin destroys the design of God okay it's not by accident
that families are falling apart it's not by accident that families break apart or
that society is trying to destroy families it's because of sin sin always
destroys that which is perfect in the eyes of God so I understand okay yeah
broken homes this and that you know I mean God is greater than all praise God
that you're saved praise God that even if you don't have an earthly family you
have a spiritual family praise God that you've got a Heavenly Father all right
that looks down and cares for you that you've got brothers and sisters in the
Lord here at blessed up Baptist Church and other believers you come across
you've got a spiritual family even if your physical family has fallen apart
okay but I want to understand even though that's the case physical
biological families are super important in God's design for the earth can you
come with me to 1st Corinthians 11 1st Corinthians 11 so the first reason why
families are important is because family is God's design and young people or
younger people please try to look there are times you have to leave mom and dad
I understand I understand right all right I mean if you're like in a
war-torn country all right and there's no hope for you and your parents send
you to a better place like Australia and you you can only go on your own they do
that for your benefit I know you know but ideally okay children you want to
stay with mom and dad until you get married that's gonna be best for your
life I mean I don't think it takes and look I've never lived alone but I can
imagine that let's say I'm 20 years old 22 years old and I'm just mom and dad
I'm leaving the house I'm just gonna go and make my own life I can just see
myself getting into all kinds of mischief all kinds of sinful pleasures I
can see myself destroying my life and I've never even had to put myself in
that position I think if we're honest if we're just on our own without any
accountability we can get into some horrendous sins we can get into a really
bad place in our lives this is why family is so important but point number
two you're in 1st Corinthians 11 point number two is family is important
because it instructs it instructs in structure and authority structure and
authority I feel that we don't know anymore I just I look at the I look at
the world and I look even amongst church members and and brethren it's like we
don't know where our boundaries are anymore and every conflicts I'm telling
you this like I'm being honest every conflict I've ever seen in my churches
every conflict I've seen in other churches like I kind of think what I
have nothing to fight with you about I I have nothing to argue and get upset
with you over that's how I feel but why does that happen in church because
people don't know boundaries people don't know structure and authority
structures and levels and people begin to interfere in mingle in other people's
lives and when you do that brethren you just understand God's giving you
boundaries which is your family all right you say interfering other
families you're gonna create conflicts 100% of the time even with good
intentions I meant well I meant to help that family pasta yeah but get involved
in situations that have nothing to do with you see family instructs us in
structure and authority like you're born right and you've got Oh mom and dad
there's authority they take care of me they change my nappy they feed me they
change my clothes they bathe me and then you get older you can start doing those
things on your own okay but the structure you don't just get handed
over to the next-door neighbor and the next-door neighbor is gonna bathe me
and no no there's this there's boundaries of structure I don't know
what the next-door neighbor is gonna do with we're not going to risk our little
baby in the hands of another person it creates a structure it creates
authority structure Oh dad dad I need you you're the boss you're the one that
makes the money that I've got you know I have this I have that we create that
environment where we we run to our parents and we have needs when we need
help right when we need some assistance in our life look at first Corinthians
11 verse number one be followers of me even as I also am of Christ now by the
way Paul is writing this and Paul was not a married man he was given the gift
he was a eunuch for the kingdom of God's sake he was married and I'm using that
term loosely he was married to the kingdom of God all right he wasn't
focused on family but it even says this in his teaching verse number two now I
praise you brethren that you remember me in all things this and keep the
ordinances as I delivered them to you now we think of ordinances if you
continue later on it's about the Lord's table and that is an ordinance that we
follow but don't get too carried away with the word ordinance it just means
order okay just means order so like if a police officer gives you an order
that's an ordinance all right he says look there are things you need to keep
in order okay as I deliver them to you and this is the order he says in verse
number three but I would have you know that the head of every man is Christ
this is the proper order everybody is subdued on the Christ Christ is the head
of every man that's the proper order right if we would say no no I'm in
charge of Christ that no you're disorderly you haven't got a proper or
in life okay but let's continue that the head of every man is Christ and the head
of the woman is the man and the head of Christ is God even Jesus says I've got a
head that's God the Father Christ does not has not done anything like where to
follow after these steps he came and set us an example one example Christ has
left us is the example of being subdued under our head under authority and for
Christ it was his Heavenly Father that was above him and for every man Christ
is over you he's your boss he's your Lord he's watching what you do with your
life and for women it's the man not every man and not this man okay the man
there is your father or your husband remember God wants us to operate in
families so if a daughter is born into a family she's got her dad there's a
reason why when we conduct weddings quite often the father would walk his
daughter down the aisle and give the hand of marriage to the other man you
are now her head okay that is what it symbolizes we're transferring headship
from the father to headship to the husband this is God's proper order of
authority and structure now drop down to verse 11 just in case because this is
what happens when you teach this in 2025 this is what happens the feminism in you
will go pastor said I'm of lesser value than a man and I'm not important as a
man really because Christ said he's the father is Christ not as important as the
father really well look at verse 11 nevertheless so even though this is the
proper order of things nevertheless neither is the man without the woman
neither the woman without the man in the Lord according to God no man is not
better than woman man is is impossible without a woman because the woman has to
give birth to a man but neither is a man without a woman without a man what to
see us is this equality amongst the sexist amongst the sexist amongst the
sexist okay and then it continues in verse number 12 for as the woman is of
the man how is the woman of the man remember Adam's rib was taken and create
the woman was created right even so is the man also by the woman because a man
needs to be born by a woman but all things of God again this is not man
versus woman this is not man voting for man's issues and women voting for
women issues no we're equal in the sight of God but this proper order to our
families you see families instruct us instruct us in structure and authority
you know what broken homes creates and I don't know this is a stat in America
children that grow up without their father I believe that like 85% of
children in like in prison like in juvenile prison 85% of them are from
fatherless families so you don't create a structure in the house you don't
create authority and boundaries in the house how do you expect your children to
go into society and understand authorities and understand boundaries oh
I better not go into that store and steal when they learn that from oh
because I wasn't allowed to steal from I'm in that all right or if I did
something if I cheated if I lied if I stole from mum and dad I got
disciplined there's authority there are consequences to actions I've let that
in my family home subconsciously just growing up so you go to society and you
do the same thing I have to respect mum and dad you go to work I better respect
my boss I better respect the authorities that the government has put over my head
I better not just think I can interfere in everybody's issues break into people's
houses and just have my way all the time no that will cause you to be put
into prison see family instructs us in structure and authority can come with me
to Ephesians 6 Ephesians 6 we're gonna bounce around a little bit in the Bible
Ephesians 6 please Ephesians 6 and verse number 1
Ephesians 6 1 you guys know this children this is for the children in
church I know you're young but children this is what you need to take away from
the sermon this morning children obey your parents in the Lord for this is
right so the child doesn't need to worry about what is right and wrong so much
just obey mum and dad mum and dad's asked me to do something I better do
what they say this is right in the Lord verse number two honor thy father and
mother which is the first commandment we've promised honor oh man I better
honor my parents what does this create society honoring the elderly right I
remember when I used to go to high school I'd have to catch a train and
all that and quite and especially cause it's school hours you've got trains full
of school kids and I went to a Christian school but you know we were told by our
teachers if there's ever anybody without a seat your kids you've got energy you
got strength you got stamina you get up and let those people sit down you're
honoring those that are older you're honoring the elderly you're honoring the
pregnant woman who doesn't have a seat you're honoring the disabled right but
whatever say you catch a train I've done it I caught the train many times from
the from the airport to come into Fairfield to preach for you guys and
their school kids their legs are all over the chairs there are people
standing up nowhere to sit and all the school kids are taking up the seats
there's no honor there's no respect they're not getting it from their family
so they don't know how to give it in society see point number two is families
are important because instructs in structure and authority by the way
usually they're in Ephesians 6 let's just finish it there in verse number three
well let's read this message again all thy father and mother which is the first
command we've promised that it may be war with thee thou mayest live long on
the earth boy you know if a kid wants to have a
long and happy life all they have to do at the very beginning is just honor mom
and dad just obey mom and dad all right and they have a long and happy life well
again that plays into society you get into society and you better honor the
authorities that you know you honor your boss guess what's gonna happen you're
not gonna get fired you honor your boss you're gonna work harder you honor your
boss you're gonna get promotions you're gonna get the pay increases your life is
gonna be better when you're able to honor the authorities that God's put
over your head but all of that begins with a family you're in first you know
in first Corinthians are you still show screenshots I think yeah come back with
me to first Corinthians 11 please actually come with me to John 14 come
with me to John 14 sorry guys come with me to John chapter 14 John 14 the third
reason why family is important the third reason is that it teaches us about the
nature of God the third reason is because it teaches up about the nature
of God we've already kind of touched upon this you go to John 14 I'll just
read to you again from first Corinthians 11 3 but I would have you know the head
of every man is Christ and the head of the woman is the man the head of Christ
is God you see even within the nature of God believe it or not there's order
and there's authority the one that has the highest but we'll believe in the
Trinity one God in three persons you say explain it to me pastor just read your
Bible all right there is nothing in creation there is no other being that is
the same as God that I can give you a a power exact parallel of who God is but
God reveals himself by his word and there's father the son and there's the
Holy Ghost and when you think about that word father son what does that tell you
authority structure order okay and and God is the head of the Sun look at John
14 verse number 28 John 14 28 this is at the Last Supper before Christ is taken
arrested and crucified okay he's going to be taken away from his disciples but
he's going to resurrect from the dead and he's going to come see his disciples
again all right in first sorry in John 14 28 he says these words he's trying to
comfort and encourage his disciples John 14 28 you have heard how I said unto you
I go away so he's been talking about how he's gonna be arrested and killed right
I go away and come again unto you that's after the resurrection if you loved me
you would rejoice because I said I go unto the father for my father is greater
than I these are the words of Jesus he says the father is greater than I you
see this is when you think about families who has the highest authority
in the family the father the man has is the head of his wife okay the father has
the highest authority in the family structure brethren when when children
grow up in that environment dad's the boss you know what that teaches them
that teaches them something about God the father is the greatest my will needs
to be subdued to the father's will not my will be done but thy will be done
just like Christ gave us the example so Christ is trying to encourage his his
breath his disciples look when I die I'm going to the father so rejoice all
right rejoice about it I'm gonna go up to heaven I'll be with a father but I'm
coming back and came back at his resurrection but I want to show you how
when children grow up in a family they start to understand God they start to I
mean obviously fathers are not going to be like if you have a happy family loving
family children generally think that dad is the strongest one the bravest and
most wonderful man who never makes any mistakes right but then they grew up in
teenagers and they realized oh my dad's not exactly what I thought he was all
right because they see the cracks they see the hypocrisy they see the failings
but by then they've learned enough about their father and who the father ought to
be where if they're saved their eyes should be start to be set upon the
Heavenly Father and what they learn about dad about being my provider the
strong one that I can run to every single time you know you start teaching
your children oh it's actually God the Father I'm just an example you know I'm
just to teach you on this earth for the 20 30 years whatever it is that you're
with me you know about the Heavenly Father but your eyes need to be on the
Heavenly Father who's never hypocritical who never fails all right we fail we
know that men we fail but you know kids little kids they think that dad's never
fail honestly that's what I thought about my dad as a kid I thought he's the
strongest man he wins every argument he's never wrong and then I realized oh
okay well he's wrong quite often and then when I'm a dad I realized I'm quite
wrong I'm wrong quite often too and but that's a matter you know the kids learn
that process that the highest authority is their father and then their eyes are
set upon God the father teaches us about the nature of God you know the Bible
says in Ephesians 6 for just read to you and your father's provoke not your
children to wrath but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord
we raise them according to the way God wants us to raise them the nurture and
admonition of the Lord so we raise them how God wants them raised so that way
right when they when they develop and grow they've got the same outlook the
same desires the same thought about who their father raised in heaven because
they've learned that from their earthly father can you come with me to 1st
Corinthians 15 come with me to 1st Corinthians 15 please it teaches us
about the nature of God God the Father God the Son have you ever wondered about
that do you know within God's nature there's family not only is there
structure and authority within God's nature there's family okay Adam and Eve
we're not the first family God's nature is family this is why it's important
this is why it works cuz God works God's perfect in his nature and the best place
to be is to have a strong and loving family brethren 1st Corinthians 15 the
reason I want to show you this is because some people struggle with that
I've had people leave my church because they think I'm saying that Jesus I'm
lesser God no he's equal to the father he's equal to the father just like a
wife is equal to a husband you know there is there is a man is not better
than a woman a woman is not better than a man we just have different roles we
have different responsibilities there's order right your boss at work is not a
better human being than you okay it's just a human being our Prime Minister
you all know he's not a better human being than you okay but he's got a higher
office it's got you know there is structure even in the way we run a
nation the reason I want to show you this is because some people have the
sort of twisted understanding of God's nature and the only reason I looked into
these things because of the whole oneness controversy going back years
ago alright and I once got asked well Kevin what do you reckon when when when
we all go into eternity and the new heavens and new earth and you know who
seats in on the throne is that do you still believe there's a father and a son
you know the son sitting at the right hand of the father or is it just one
you know unified force or something like this right well look again we know God's
nature by the word okay and in 1st Corinthians 15 24 it says then cometh
the end this is the end of the millennium okay when he shall have
delivered that he is Jesus when he shall deliver up the kingdom to God even the
father when he shall have put down all rule and all authority and power at the
end of a thousand year reign of Christ Christ gives his kingdom to the father
all right you know afterwards God creates a new heaven the new earth right
look at verse 25 for he that's Jesus for he must reign till he have put all
enemies under his feet the last enemy that shall be destroyed is death we know
when death is destroyed when it's cast into the lake of fire death and hell
were cast into lake of fire this is the second death right so we know this at
the end of millennium the last enemy that shall be destroyed is death verse
from 27 for he for he that's God the father have put all things under his
feet under the feet of Jesus but when he saith all things are put under him it is
manifest that he is accepted so the father is the exception which did put
all things under him so when God the Father puts everything under the feet of
his son Jesus the exception to the rule is God the Father himself okay who put
all things under the feet of Jesus and look at verse 128 and when all things
shall be subdued unto sorry unto him then shall the son the son who's the son
Jesus then shall the son also himself be subjects are Jesus gonna be subjects
unto him that's the father that put all things under him that God may be all in
all so what do we learn about Christ in eternity even in eternity the son is
subject to his father it's not like oh he became subject to the father when he
became man when he was born in Bethlehem's manger that's when he finally
no no he always has been that's God's nature structure order family that is
who God is all right and and the best way to understand your family or to
appreciate your family and understand the importance of strengthening your
family is to understand this is God's nature this is who he is and it gives us
a slice of who he is by allowing us to get married and having kids and and
having some level of order and structure in our lives you see family teaches us
about the nature of God this is why family is important can you see how
society is trying to destroy families and by destroying families it destroys
people's understanding of who God is
come with me to Genesis to please back to Genesis to Genesis to the fourth
reason why families are important is because it satisfies our social needs
it's supposed to satisfy your social needs okay social media is not supposed
to satisfy your social needs family is supposed to do that because you're
amongst other people right Genesis 2 18 and the Lord God said it is not good
that the man should be alone man it's not good for you to be alone I will make
him and help meet or suitable for him he says man you know we are social
creatures God's created us to desire to be amongst other people and so God's
solution is marriage God's solution is children all right the family units look
at verse number 19 you know sometimes we are before we listen sometimes we kind
of um kind of I don't know I'll say the word laugh but I'm not sure if the word
laugh is right we laugh like at the at the cat lady right though the woman who
has a hundred cats in her house and that's like her how she fulfills her
social needs right the cat lady rather than having children and it's what
happens right though the longer people have without having kids and then women
can't have kids they want to subdue they want to they want social interaction so
it's like well I'll buy a dog I'll buy a cat nothing wrong yeah I'm not against
pet I got a dog by the way okay I got a dog but people try to satisfy the social
needs with animals all right now God gives us this lesson here in verse
number verse number 19 so God says it's not good for man to be alone right so he
teaches us something in verse 19 and out of the ground the Lord God formed every
beast of the field and every fowl of the air and I love I love parrots and one of
my favorite animals I love parrot I had a parrot pet parrot loved it okay nice
patted it would eat food out of my mouth you know but it says there and
brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them and whatsoever Adam
called every living creature that was a name thereof but look at verse number 20
and Adam gave names to all cattle and to the fowl of the air to every beast of
the field look at this but for Adam there was not found and help meet for him so
out of all the animals every single animal whatever your favorite animals
are you're a dog person you're a cat person you're a bird person it's not
going to satisfy your needs your social needs animals are great you know you
subdue them have dominion over them have them as pets you know don't mistreat
them don't torture them they're God's creation but they're not a human being
all right and social media is not a human being it's not a real person you
guys know we all use Facebook and we post the happy things only we post the
soul-winning we post the good things but I never seen brother Tim posts when he's
crying right when he's having a hard time right or me when I'm having some
difficulty in life I better post this on Facebook no we post it when we're happy
family out there that's not real life real life has everything the problems
and the happiness to join the sadness the sorrows and the hurt and the
difficulties the social interaction of human beings should be fulfilled in a
family should be fulfilled especially between husbands and wives can you come
with me to 1st Timothy 5 1st Timothy 5 why do you think adulteries take place
you think it's well I partly it's because women have entered the workforce
like I said we need dual income families to be able to pay off our house
faster but a paying off slower than you ever have right and then you have women
in the in the workplace and men are working there for eight hours or ten
hours a day and instead of spending eight or ten hours with their wives
they're probably spending eight and ten hours with their co-workers every day
Monday to Friday what do you think happens feelings develop emotions and
probably the social interaction at home is not happening right our wife is at
work and you know she feels like her husband ever speaks to her my husband's
always playing Call of Duty or whatever it is you know whatever video games I
mentioned video games because that is a problem amongst men today it's a major
problem so who can I talk to or even stay-at-home wives you know that's even
stay-at-home wives who've been all day with the children that you know husband
comes home he's been out there for eight ten hours at work and traveling time and
I know what it's like men we get tired we just want to come home and just relax
just sit down and just chill out and our wives are like how was your day what's
going on they want interaction they want an adult with you to talk to and men
like sometimes it's fair to get tired but you need to understand your wife is
desire and social interaction she needs to talk to you we created this way this
is family you know we see Jesus constantly speaking to his father when
he came to this earth constantly going to him in prayer every time he achieved
something great we need social interaction husbands when you're tired
from work if you must go just spend some time with your wife just talk to her she
needs it you need it strengthen our marriage that our feelings or emotions
don't start to be drawn towards some other woman or something like this but
look at first Timothy 5 first Timothy 5 13 this is for the ladies so ladies
please don't get offended at me that's what the Bible says and we've all they
learn to be idle these are women without families these are women that are
unmarried without kids and I'm not painting a broad brush here I'm just
saying this can happen to everybody okay and we've all they learn to be idle
wandering about from house to house and not only idle but toddlers also and busy
bodies speak in things which they ought not so to combat this I will therefore
that the younger women marry bear children guide the house look at this
this is so important give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully
for some are already turned aside after Satan Paul says to pastor Timothy
pastor Timothy there are some ladies in your church that are following after
Satan so what are they doing are they worshipping a devil or something like
this are they sacrificing children no they're going about from house to house
to house being a gossiper this is the way of the devil this is what this
because you know why this happens and I look I'm not there's nothing wrong with
a lady visiting another lady right hanging out grabbing a coffee right I'm
not against that please me don't misunderstand don't think my wife's just
in chains you know at the kitchen and you know or like the chain only allows
it to make a sandwich and take so far enough to be able to change the baby's
that nappy or something like that no no I'm all for ladies interacting but you
see what keeps you busy ladies and same for men the Bible also speaks of you
know of men who don't work they also become gossipers okay when we're not
fulfilling our primary objective that God's given us Satan finds a foothold in
our life and starts to destroy relationships because we seek social
interaction well I'm not married pastor Kevin okay I don't have kids pastor
Kevin so I'm gonna spend time with my girlfriends I'm gonna go visit fine
fine I'm not against it but understand where this leads before you know it you
can just be talking about your life encouraging one another you know talking
about the Lord and how the Lord's come through in your life and just enjoying
each other's company and sharing I don't know crafts and sharing interest and
before you know it this is what happens also what do you think of sister so
into our church we think about how the way they rate rate the way they raise
their kids don't you think that husband should be doing more to blah blah blah
blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah as soon as that interaction
becomes about others you are doing the work of Satan what did I say earlier the
number one reason we have conflicts at church is because people do not respect
their boundaries oh let's talk about this family let's talk about that lady
did you see how she was dressed the other day look it destroys relationships
it destroys friendships it's the work of the devil so how do we combat that this
I have social needs all right you get married you have kids your family is
what provides your social needs it's supposed to anyway not social media all
right not hanging around at your girlfriend's house and boys are you guys
going to hunt sometimes and I'm not against that but boy if that becomes
your life man I can't I can't wait to get on holidays so I can go hunting with
the boys at church it's if that's your priority rather than man I can't wait to
spend more time with my wife and take her out to a new restaurant that we
heard about then there's something wrong in your priorities families are
important please protect anyone that's married here today kids that have a mom
and dad please understand the importance of your family it's not just human
beings you know bringing a better new generation and you know it's it's God's
nature it's God's way it's what makes you happy fulfilled all right I'm gonna
I'm gonna speed up now brethren I've only done four points just the last
three points I'll be very quick the Bible says in Ephesians 5 25 husbands
love your wives even as Christ also loved the church we saw there earlier in
Ephesians 2 verse 4 verse 4 that they met on I didn't read that passage but
anyway Titus 2 verse 4 about women that they that they may teach the young women
to be sober to love their husbands to love their children husbands or to love
your wives and your children and say you know your children obviously and and
and mothers your tool and wives are to love your husbands until you're to love
your children family supposed to be built upon love
imagine bringing a child into the world and the first experience is love from a
family teaches about the nature of God God is love they grow up that loves me
mum loves me my siblings love me that's gonna create good mental health a good
personality and character for life to understand that love is the principal
thing in life I'd better treat my neighbor as I want to be treated trip
right but I better love the lost because Christ's love was so great that he gave
himself for sinners it will change our perspective of how we view other human
beings when are brought up in a environment of love families are
important because it's a built upon love and man if you're born into a
broken home and I'm sorry if you were I'm not but you know that you didn't
really learn love mum and dad got divorced mum cheated on dad dad cheated
on mum you know I'd go to you know and it was a weekend to visit dad he'd say
horrible things about my mum and when I go and visit mum that weekend she'll say
horrible things about my dad what kind of environment I gonna create for the
kids so the fifth reason why your families are important to us it ought to
be built upon love it is a bit it's supposed to be built upon love all right
so husbands love your wives even as Christ also loved of the church do you
guys believe that Christ loves blessed old Baptist Church all right how much
and gave himself for it that's how much Christ gave he laid down his life for
you and I for this church that husbands that's your job you ought to be willing
to die for your family die for your wife that's how much else to love her where
my life is her life is so much more important than mine I'll just I'll give
it up for her that's what we go to work that's what we give up the eight ten
hours we give up part of our life to make sure our wives and families have
what they need and personally myself I'm just speaking about myself all right I
would rather work the second job I would rather work the third job before I send
my wife out to work I'd give my I'd give 12 hours 16 hours you know of my old lay
it down all to make sure my family has what they need before I start to break
it apart number six there are six reason why your family is important is because
it's dependent upon service not selfishness now if you are a single
person and you know you've lived a single life for a long time one of the
biggest changes in your life is when you get married because when you're single
it's kind of just about you I need a car I need a job I need friendships I need
this I need that I need that I need this so this this when you get married oh
what does my wife need and wife what does my husband need and they have kids
oh what do my kids need right it creates an attitude behavior a life of
service it's no longer about selfishness and fulfilling what I need it's about
what does my family unit need to get ahead to push forward again Genesis 2 8
and the Lord God said it is not good for the man to be alone but I will make and
help meet for him women do you know you were created to serve your husbands and
the feminists how dare you say that how dare you say women were created for men
and I've said this before but imagine it was reversed if God said all right woman
I'm creating you a man you need it's not good for a woman to be alone you need a
man to help you the feminist be like I don't need a man how dare you say that I
need a help you can't satisfy the feminists doesn't matter but we're
created to serve husbands you work hard and serve faithfully wives submits your
own husbands and everything as God describes and Brethren it creates a
characteristic about you that is willing to serve willing to be humble when
you're single for a long period of time it's about me me pride what I want not
on purpose not because you're a wicked person it's just you just don't have
anyone else to serve and we know that we know who God elevates we know who God
promotes we know who God exalts those that are abased those that are humble
those that serve the greatest in the kingdom of heaven are those that are the
most humble according to Jesus Christ and so the sixth reason why your families
are important is because it's dependent upon service we're there to serve each
other and not selfishness and the last one that I do want to focus on a little
bit Brethren is coming me to Matthew 18 coming me to Matthew 18 point number 7 I
spoke about the snowflake generation not that I hate the snowflake generation I
feel sorry for the snowflake generation previous generations have let them down
okay because previous generations have all the broken homes and all the broken
families and but Matthew 18 I'll just quickly read to you verse number 15 and
by the way this applies but I want to apply this to family this is a regarding
Church Matthew 18 15 moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee go
and tell him his fault between thee and him alone and he shall hear thee thou
has gained thy and if sorry and if he shall hear thee thou has gained thy
brother so if me and brother Anthony oh let's say I brother Anthony offends me
right we're just he says you know Kevin you're an idiot I hate you whatever I
hate oh my god man how what do you whatever oh I don't know he hope you
don't mind brother but he grabs my wallet and steals 50 bucks and I find
out about his I don't care it wasn't me but I know it's him right it's on the
it's on the camera there and I've got an offense with him well what should I do
according to the Bible I should go to him one-on-one and gain my brother I
should not go to ash ash can I tell you what brother Anthony did to me brother
Tim can I just can I get your thoughts on Anthony has he ever stolen anything
from you and go around the church what do you think about brother Anthony guys
because he's done something horrible to me you know that I need your prayers
brothers brethren I need you all involved to be praying for me because
brother Anthony has offended me man that's caught that'll that'll destroy a
church church split and whatever boy all kinds of problems brethren where to go
one-on-one the Bible teaches us conflict resolution and just not generation
snowflakes do not know how to deal with conflicts they'd rather run away from
conflicts the Bible says in Matthew 5 9 blessed are the peacemakers for they
shall be called the children of God children of God should be peacemakers we
should be able to deal with conflicts why do we have generations they that
cannot deal with conflicts why do we have a generation that they their boss
gets upset with them at work something and harsh gets there there's some
conflict and they quit work immediately because they've not learned how to
resolve conflicts the the seventh reason why family is important is because you
learn conflicts resolution you can't escape husbands and wives you're married
to death do us part so and guess what happens husbands and wives you're not
the same person you haven't got the same way of thinking you haven't got the same
thoughts of resolution or answers or direction all the time so guess what
husbands wives have to come together figure things out compromise what they
have to compromise all right find a way to find an answer yes the husband is
ahead of the wife he makes the final call he makes a final decision but
before that final decision he's supposed to interact with his one flesh think
about what is best my wife what is best for my kids and then I'll make a
decision instead of conflicts people have conflicts and before you know it
it's divorce what about siblings man I've had 12 running around in my house
guess what happens oh he took my toy it was my turn to play with that he broke
my whatever it is right it's my turn to play video games you know he had half an
hour he's paid for 35 minutes dad it's my turn and squabbles and just a bunch
of children you know so what what happened what what all right leave the
family now all right the five-year-old had a fight with the eight-year-old right
the eight-year-old you can leave the house because you're older is that what
happens no you've got to make peace don't you you got to resolve problems
you got to learn how to get along you have to learn how to share you have to
learn how to say sorry you have to learn how to say I had a forgive all
right you have to learn the whole process because you can't get away from
the house families by default have to resolve conflicts otherwise it doesn't
work and sometimes you've just got to be the one that says not my will be done
but I will be done Jesus said that's a great example all right and sometimes
you just have to lower yourself and go I think I'm right but for the best of
peace amongst my family I better get along and forgive and move on well you
learn that we're in the family so then when you go out to society and you go to
church and you have a squabble with a brother or sister you've already learned
from the family how to resolve conflicts you just do the same thing one-on-one
brother look this happened I'm sorry or look I'm just letting you know this
offended me and needs to raise your attention or whatever it isn't all right
sorry please forgive me I was an idiot you know I didn't mean it whatever let's
just forgive love your brother I love your sister let's just get on with it
let's serve the Lord faithfully together all right at the workplace something
nasty gets said or whatever it is you just either you've grown thick skin by
then and you just like well that's how it is or you try to resolve and find a
solution right find a way forward for the best of the business but where does
this all happen in the family the seventh reason why families are
important is because you learn conflict resolution all right brethren told for
the sermon this morning was the importance of family please get your
outlook on your family from the Bible from God's Word please understand your
family is a slice of the nature of God okay and God's perfect and God's good
and in him there is no darkness at all that ought to be a family it's the best
way it's for for societies to grow it's the best place for your children to
learn it's the best place to find companionship and you know you know if
husbands have to get away from their wives to get their social needs or wives
have to get away from the husband's there's something not right there you
need to figure it out I'm not saying your family's destroyed just need to
solve it we're all sinners we have place I'm sure every family I'm sure everybody
would say one of these seven points is a point that I need to strengthen in my
own family if you paid attention all right so please don't let society tell
you that families are pointless that two men can be a family or two mums you know
it can be a family I mean broken homes create so many can so much confusion
when you got stepdad over here you got biological dad over there it's like yeah
man it's a mess now look again finally the last thing I want to say about this
so fam for those families that are together keep it together strengthen
your family please it's what God requires of you but just lastly on those
that have broken homes you have broken home today or you've grown up in a
broken home don't despair I don't despair if you can fix it fix it praise
God get God's help to fix it all right but secondly if it's unfixable just
remember God's put you into a spiritual family please remember okay I'm your
brother in the Lord I love you as a brother you need a brother you got I got
my brother I don't speak to my siblings you got past the Kevin I'm your
spiritual brother okay the same blood that runs from my veins runs in your
veins the blood of Jesus Christ that cleanses us from all sin we share the
same blood all right not physically spiritually your brother sisters here at
church we have our Heavenly Father in heaven I can go to at any time you know
if you and me siblings right we come together you say pastor Kevin I got a
need I have let's go to that let's get let's get together let's go to dad let's
go to God in prayer let's tell him these are your needs let's go to dad he'll
sort it out and so don't despair if your earthly family has fallen apart you may
never have the family that God has created for us in the scriptures but
please remember that you've got a spiritual family which is greater than
all because guess what that family is going to continue for all eternity for
all eternity to that spiritual family all right brethren let's pray