which is
My last name is Stevie.
My last name is David.
David.
My first name is David.
David.
Do you know what I'm saying?
Because I get a lot of my feelings
instead of getting normal.
Yeah.
I was like meant to be here today.
But I came for a wedding
to study.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
I guess I don't know.
I don't think I know what you mean.
Yeah, but I don't know what you mean.
No, no, no.
You have no choice.
No words to say?
I don't know.
How are you?
My wife is from Brazil.
She's from Colombia.
I'm from Chile.
Where are you from?
I don't know.
I'm from Spain.
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Yeah, thank you.
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All right, brethren.
All right, brethren. Please, find your seats and grab your hymnals.
Grab your hymnals and let's turn to hymn 2.
Let's start off the service
by singing Glory to His Name.
hymn number two glory to his name please and when you have found it can you
please stand hymn number two glory to his name
all right let's sing it up
down at the cross where my Savior died down where for cleansing from sin I cried
there to my heart was the blood applied glory to his name
glory to his name glory to his name
there to my heart was the blood applied glory to his name
I am so wondrously saved from sin
Jesus I swear they abide within there at the cross where he took me in
glory to his name glory to his name
glory to his name there to my heart was the blood applied
glory to his name
oh precious fountain that saves from sin I am so glad I have entered in
there Jesus saves me and keeps me clean glory to his name
glory to his name glory to his name
there to my heart was the blood applied
glory to his name come to this mountain so rich and sweet
cast thy poor soul at the Savior's feet plunge in today and be made complete
glory to his name glory to his name
glory to his name there to my heart was the blood applied
glory to his name yes heavenly father lord we come to before
you lord this morning lord to give you glory to give you praise and
lord we want to praise of course your son the lord jesus christ who is our
savior lord the foundation and the head of this
church and lord as we sing our praises i pray that you receive it
i pray that we be a sweet smelling savior to you lord and that
lord we love you so much because we you first loved us lord and i want that
to receive by you i pray that your holy spirit will work in our hearts and minds
lord as we learn from your word today in jesus name we pray amen
you may be seated all right hymn number 424 please 400
424 424 424 oh come all ye faithful 424 oh come
all ye faithful
oh come all ye faithful joyful and triumphant
oh come ye oh come ye to bethlehem
come and behold him born the king of angels
oh come let us adore him oh come let us adore him
oh come let us adore him christ the lord
sing choirs of angels sing in exultation
oh sing all ye bright host of heaven above
glory to god all glory in the highest
oh come let us adore him oh come let us adore him
oh come let us adore him christ the lord
yeah lord we pray for this happy morning
jesus to live be all glory
word of the father now in flesh appear
oh come let us adore him oh come let us adore him
oh come let us adore him christ the lord
all right great singing 191 please one nine one in my heart there rings a
melody 191
in my heart that rings a melody
i have a song that jesus gave me it was said from heaven above
there never was a sweeter melody there's a melody of love
in my heart there rings a melody there is a melody with heaven's harmony
in my heart there is a melody there is a melody of love
i love the christ who died on calgary for he washed my sins away
it will create my heart a melody and i know it's there to stay
in my heart there is a melody there is a melody with heaven's harmony
in my heart there is a melody there is a melody of love
to be my endless fame in glory with the angels i will sing
to be a song with glorious harmony
in my heart there is a melody there is a melody with heaven's harmony
in my heart there is a melody there is a melody of love
all right please say goodbye to us now and turn to song of solomon
chapter eight song of solomon chapter eight brother ramsons coming up for the
reading song of solomon chapter eight thank you
song of solomon chapter eight
oh that thou wert as my brother that sucked the breasts of my mother
when i should find thee without without i would kiss thee yea i should not be
despised i would lead thee and bring thee into my
mother's house who would instruct me i would cause thee
to drink of spiced wine the juice of my
pomegranate his left hand should be under my head and his right hand should
embrace me i charge you or daughters of jerusalem
that you stir not up nor awake my love until he please
who's this that cometh from the wilderness
leaning upon her beloved i raise thee up under an apple tree the apple tree
there thy mother brought thee forth there she
brought thee forth and bear thee that bear thee
set me as a seal upon thine heart as a seal upon thine arm
for love is strong as death jealousy is cruel
as the grave the coals thereof are coals of fire
which hath a most vehement flame many waters cannot quench love
neither can the floods drown it if a man would give all the substance of his
house for love it would utterly be contempt
we have a little sister and she hath no
breasts what shall we do for our sister in the
day when she shall be spoken for if she be a wall
we will build upon her a palace of silver
and if she be a door we will enclose her with boards of cedar
i am a wall and my breasts like towers then was i in his eyes as one that found
favor solomon had a vineyard at balhamon
he let out the vineyard unto keepers everyone for the fruit thereof was to
bring a thousand pieces of silver my vineyard which is mine is before me
thou or solomon must have a thousand and those that keep the fruit thereof
200 thou that dwellest in the gardens the companions harken to thy voice cause
me to hear it make haste my beloved and be thou
like to a row or to a young heart upon the
mountains of spices let's pray lord thank you for this
morning we have gathered the church please help us to understand the
preaching of your word pray for pastor kevin please fill in with your holy
ghost to preach your word with power and with authority
in jesus name we pray amen
thank you
all right appreciate that so we are up to the final chapter of the song of
solomon i hope it's been beneficial to understand what god's standard is of
marriage and where you are weak in certain areas i
strongly encourage you to line yourself up your marriage or you
know your life as much as you can of course with the word of god
and we have great instructions from this book for both husband and wife
let's start there in verse number six it says set me as a seal upon thine heart
as a seal upon thine arm for love is strong as death the title
for the sermon this morning is love is strong love is strong when it
says as death you know uh once you're you're dead
you're dead right it's not like you're coming back to life i mean just
i'm not talking about the resurrection here we're just talking about death in
general right well that's how strong love is you know
once you uh have passed on you have passed on as
it were that body is not going to come back to life
you know once you have found love that love will never die
and you say well you know there was this person i used to love and i don't love
them anymore that's not real love them because it says here that love is strong
as death if your love so-called love is not as strong as death
then it's not true love okay let's start there in verse number one
song of solomon chapter eight verse number one it says uh so the wife here
is speaking to her husband she says oh that thou works as
my brother that sucks the breast of my mother i
when sorry mother when i should find thee without i would kiss thee yea
i would not be despised okay quite an interesting way of describing this
now don't forget that you know the book of song of solomon is
it's a song it's the song of solomon right the song of songs
in some bibles and so of course it's very poetic and it uses very expressive
language here and she's not saying that she literally
wishes her husband was her brother that she grew up with
the thought here and of course you know raised by her mother
is that we've seen in this book how much she desires to be with her husband
how much her husband desires to be with the wife and i can sort of relate to
this you know and you know i met my wife
christina when i was i believe i was 18 2019 along those lines and i remember
when i met her and how much i enjoyed her company i
remember wishing that i knew her earlier in life
like and like you go well that's 19 you were really young yeah in hindsight now
that was really young but when i was that age i was thinking
man you know i would have much rather have gone to the same school as
christina you know known her when she was younger
and spent even more time with her got to know her even longer
and so that's what i believe she's describing here that she just wishes
she had known him all her life you know not just after getting married and
you know i guess the dating time whatever whatever that period was to get
to know each other she just wishes she just knew him from
the very beginning and that's what she's obviously like i know that's
because that was my feeling so i don't know if that's how you feel about your
spouse but i remember feeling that way just man i've got these
18 19 years you know i graduated from high school you know and i've known all
these people i i kind of wish i knew my wife
earlier like like she's much more valuable than the people that i got to
know those first 18 19 years and so i can
definitely relate to this and then she says
at the end of verse number one when i should find thee without
you know without the word without is outside of
okay so this is saying basically and what does she do when she finds you
outside of i would kiss thee yea i should not be
despised and so you know we've looked at this
before and i said look there's nothing wrong
with some level of public affection like when my wife is here because my wife
doesn't get to come to this church very often with my family
you know i i don't know if you notice this so i try to make a point of
putting my arm around my wife okay i try to make a point of being close to her
and uh because i want to set an example to this church that
i'm not this detached pastor that just you know travels to sit and just to get
away from my family in fact that's not even that's not even
the desire at all you know and i want to you know just demonstrate some public
affection so the church knows hey yeah you know what we don't see the
pastor's family very often but when we when they are together we
definitely see love we definitely see uh protection and so i kind of go a little
bit out of my way more so when i'm at this church
than i am with new life practice church to show my wife affection so
you know there's nothing wrong with some public display of affection
many of us were at a wedding yesterday weren't we and and there was you know
you may now kiss the bride and you know there was a public display of
a kiss right there in front of many witnesses there's nothing wrong with
that in of itself and uh you know it's good it's healthy
it's good for especially this new generation to see
you know a christian couple who love each other that shows some level of
affection but of course you need to also
understand that we need to have certain boundaries you know you don't want to
obviously as we look here there's going to be you know
that further intimacy there's much a much more of a deeper intimacy that
takes place between the husband and wife and there
are some things that need to be kept in private
there are some things that you're not going to just publicly display you know
it's quite filthy you know i was um i took my kids to to
martial arts just a few weeks ago and i was there just waiting in the car
waiting to pick them up and there was a young couple there just just in a park
just being gross i mean you know i mean just
it's just too much just too much going on there and that's why she says that
you know i should find thee without like you know we're going to go to a place
where there's no one else we're going separate and and so the if the the the
deeper affection the deeper intimacy is taking place in a
private setting she says i should not be despised okay
because people aren't going to be obviously observing the intimate
relationship in that sense and so it just gives us an idea of making sure
that we set some boundaries when we show some public displays
of affection and you know this should go as well with the things that we speak
about okay uh being careful about how much we
speak about there was a time when you know i was recently married and um i
was working a job and one of my one of my work colleagues wanted to know
he was just asking too much he was just asking way too much information
about my intimate life with my wife okay and i was like i just had to go at him i
said look that has nothing to do with you all right i
mean what i what i get up to my wife in that
sense has nothing to do with you you don't need to be asked those are
inappropriate questions all right i don't know exactly what i
said to him all right but the guy was taken back
you know and then he came up afterwards you know he kind of kind of
left and then he came and said sorry to me and he said yeah that was
inappropriate but you know this is what the world is
like that they often like to just bring up these intimate details
you know very physical details and you know we need to
you know be christians that yes we understand the right place
uh for this intimate relationship but also the one that we speak about
with this within this information ought to be your spouse
you know not just a public display no filter in your mouth
just telling dirty jokes and just giving you know unnecessary details about your
relationship that should not be the case it's the woman says i should
not be despised you know people that are just have no
filter about you know the sexual side of marriage
that they've got just just no boundaries they they become
despised people observe them go man you know yeah they might laugh at the joke
but eventually they're like i don't want anything to do with you
like you know what you've you've got a dirty mind like you've got a perverted
mind you've got no boundaries you know i
don't want to be around i don't know that's how it ought to be anyway that's
how especially amongst god's people we ought not to want to be
around people they just talk about perverted things
you know private matters there ought to be some boundaries
okay even she says i should not be despised because they're keeping it in
the boundaries of marriage okay they're not speaking about this or
exposing themselves in a very public way and so brethren
please be careful about not just what you do physically
but also what you speak about or you might find yourself to be
despised because you've gone too far you you've not
kept it within the boundaries of well how we learn about this stuff in the
word of god let's keep going there verse number two
she says i would lead thee and bring thee into my mother's house
who would instruct me i want you to notice that she says look i i would you
know especially if you were uh you know we've known each other for a
long time i would bring you to my mother's house
who would instruct me she's saying look my mother
is the one who has given me instruction on on being a wife
she's given me instruction on romance she's given me instruction
about who to look out for in marriage and parents we need to remember this
because we do live in a perverted world we do live in a in a hyper
sexualized world i mean you can't even go to the shops without
there being some poster some advertisement that's trying to draw
your eyes away from your spouse okay you can't turn on the tv you know
even if you're just watching the world cup of soccer or something
there'll be some advertisement that's trying to draw you away
you know uh to to just appeal to your lusts but we have to be careful we live
in such a wicked society and even more so our children
i mean i've seen things get worse and worse in my generation
you know when our children grow up it's going to be much worse much worse
we need to in parents we need to instruct our children about marriage
about relationships about being romantic you know we are men
dads we need to instruct our boys how to treat a woman
and mothers you're to instruct your girls how to treat a man this is so
important otherwise the schools are going to teach
them filthiness the media is going to teach them filthiness
you know their friends are going to teach them filthiness parents we must
step in and give instructions to our children
and see how the wife says hey my mother would give me instruction
you know she would instruct me she said in verse number two i would cause thee
to drink of spiced wine of the juice of my pomegranates
and so she's saying look make sure just teaching how you offer yourself to your
husband you know make sure that you're someone
and of course with the light of the rest of the bible that you're submissive to
him that you respect him they don't you know
you don't talk bad about him to your friends
etc etc these are good instructions that you can give your children
now what i want you to do is please turn keep your finger there in song of
solomon chapter 8 and turn with me to proverbs 31
turn with me to proverbs 31
proverbs 31 is known as the chapter of the virtuous woman
and if you're a lady you know i strongly recommend that you really pay attention
to proverbs 31 but before we get to that uh virtuous
woman we have some instructions that the
mother gives to a king here in proverbs 31
verse 1 proverbs 31 verse number one
not only should mothers give instruction to their daughters
but mothers you have the right to give instructions to your sons as well
they are under your authority okay even though husbands are the head of the wife
you know mothers you are over your children whether they're boys or girls
and you see here the instruction that a mother gives to
her son in verse number one it says the words of king lemuel
look at this the prophecy that his mother taught him
you see his mother taught him great truths great prophecies
taught him the bible gave him good advice hey wonder what advice his mother
gave to a king okay verse number two she says what's my
son and what the son of my womb and what the
son of my vows she says look at this verse number three
give not thy strength unto women nor thy ways to that which destroy of
kings she instructs the son look don't just
give yourself to women okay you notice the plurality there
okay no just think look one woman for life king lemuel
all right one woman don't just think that you know your life is just to
uh you know uh try before you buy and and sleep around with as many people as
you want look that's going to destroy you that's
going to destroy kings don't you give yourself you know just
chasing every skirt that you find okay know that which destroy of kings
kings so you can see she's very she's given
clear instruction here and again you say are you sure that's
weird i know because that's the instruction my mom gave me
okay i'm not some king okay my mom said look
you know when you start dating you know make sure you find a christian girl
that was number one she goes find a christian girl i disobeyed that i found
a catholic girl but i got her saved and then i married
her okay
all right but you know she said look wait and and you know the purpose of
dating is to get married all right you don't want to just date
someone so oh yeah i've got a girlfriend look at me
who cares you date someone for the desire to get married one day
why would you give your love time and attention for you know for you for weeks
and months and maybe years to someone then you're like oh i can just get rid
of her and find someone else what a waste of life what a waste of time
okay don't give your strength unto women all right hey give your strength to a
wife that's what you ought to be doing you
know dating ought to be something by the way i'll give you
just some quick pointers here to the girls
don't date a guy that's not ready to get married don't waste your time
you can be friends with guys that you're interested in hopefully they mature
hopefully they find a job hopefully they demonstrate that one day
they can get married and provide for you at that point yeah fine date them
okay but you don't want to date a bum i tell you now
there are too many women in society today that have married
bums they have married gamers that spend all their night all their time
just playing video games and giving no attention to their wife
you know they're just living off the inheritance that they've received
they're too lazy to go get a job and provide for the family
okay let girls be careful about who you date i'll give you some advice now
all right and hopefully your parents you know say yes that's right okay
and and boys i'd say don't start dating until you're ready to look after someone
all right give your attention give your strength not toward women
give your strength to a good education give your strength to a good job
okay get yourself in a position where you say you know what not only can i
provide for myself but now i can provide for a wife okay and
once you have set yourself in that position
say lord please help me find someone that i can marry okay
do it the right way hey remember when god created adam and eve
okay you say well he married on day number one yes but before he got married
god gave him a job remember that he had to he was a gardener
not one job to name all the animals another job to take care of the garden
okay once he had his job then god gave me
okay then he had his deep sleep from working so hard god took that rib
and made him a wife okay that's the right priority okay
and i'm just saying look don't waste your time dating until you're ready
to get married okay otherwise you're opening up yourself to
lust and fornication and look that that that emotion
those desires they're too strong for you okay the title for the sermon is
love is strong you don't want to open yourself up to temptations that are very
strong that are very natural okay but they're
very strong and very natural supposed supposed to be in marriage okay not
before marriage so please be very careful about who you
date young people let's keep going there she continues
there in proverbs 31 what destroys kings verse number four
it says it is not for kings o lemuel it is not for kings to drink wine
nor for prince's strong drink so she warns him
hey don't just chase women don't chase women and don't drink alcohol
i mean that's pretty good advice isn't that like the complete opposite of
what's going on right now in this world the complete opposite okay once you turn
18 oh now you can drink alcohol okay sleep around as much as you want and
and you know don't tie yourself down to a marriage that's the advice you get
from the world you see the bible's advice hey the
words of a mother to her son that she loves
is the complete opposite parents we need to be on the same page as the bible
you know instructing our kids instructing them
the complete opposite to what this world is teaching them please don't just
leave your kid oh well that teacher will teach you know that that teacher will
look after them you know oh their uncles and aunties
they'll teach them good things well bring them to church because they'll
hear good things from the pastor look that your kids don't love me as much
as they love you okay they'll hear advice from you and
children you take advice from your parents because
no one loves you more than your parents okay now i love
children i love the children in our church of course i do
but i don't love them as much as their parents love them okay you've raised
them you've worked hard for them you've provided for them
okay of course your parents are going to love their children much more than
anyone else make sure we give them good advice
well let's uh can you please turn to me to the book of titus turn with me to
titus in the new testament titus chapter two and verse number three
titus chapter two and verse number three
now remember we're looking at how a mother would instruct her daughter
well within church you know we are a church family we are brothers and
sisters in the lord we need to remember that as well
and it is important that we're going to look at this part here that aged women
the older women also give good instruction to
the younger ladies in our church if that if that situation
is there okay look at verse number three titus chapter two verse number three
it says the aged women likewise that they be in behavior as become of holiness
not false accusers not given so much wine
teachers of good things so ladies as you get older
as you gain more experience more life experience and you know you've had a
family your children have grown up and you know you say well how old is aged
in my opinion i'll just give you my opinion because we have we do learn in
the bible that if you're under 60 you're considered
young if you're under 60 and you're you're a
widow you know the bible you know instructs that person that
woman to get married okay so i would say an aged woman just if
you want a you know a rule of thumb you know i can't be too dogmatic on this i
would say an aged woman here represents a woman that's over the age of
60 okay why is that because she has time like
generally speaking if you're 60 years old your children have grown up
like generally you're not going to be tied down with little kids you know
you're going to have a lot less responsibilities
but you've gone 60 good years at least of
learning about the world you know serving christ you know having gained
much experience and those aged women are then able to
give their time because you know their children have grown up they've got a lot
more time on their hands they've actually got the time to give
good instruction to other younger ladies in the church
okay you say what instructions are they to give them
well it says here in verse number four these are the instructions this is what
they have to teach for some form they may teach
the young women to be sober yeah so hey get away stay away from that alcohol
okay but sobriety means a sound mind okay just
you know being in control you know ladies
and i think ladies you you know this i'm not being you know
i think ladies are different to men you know you but
sometimes ladies can get too emotional okay
and look the emotions that ladies experience are the same emotions that
men experience but generally speaking men are able to
have just a lot more control over their emotions
ladies sometimes just it's they struggle you know
and when a man has no control over his emotions it's kind of effeminate
you know and so uh ladies you know you need to be sound mind you know of
sober you need to be of sound mind okay don't get overly worried and don't
get overly you know uh you know just just
concerned about you know the smallest of matters
you know sometimes ladies lose sight of the big picture of the great things that
are happening for them and they just find the little issues and they worry
and stress about the little issues without rejoicing and being thankful for
the greater things that god has given them
but they had to be sober it says uh to love their husbands
that's good instruction all right look if an older lady in church says oh you
know you need to get away from your husband
you know instead of talking to your husband about problems come and talk to
me about no no wrong that's the wrong if you're getting
instructions from a lady that are contrary to what we've seen here
stop receiving instructions that person please they're not giving you biblical
advice okay they're telling you look love your
husbands all right instead of speaking horribly about them instead of
criticizing them to your family your friends
love them love your husbands what else to love their children all right
oh that's such a burden oh so much of my life is taken up
looking after kids oh love your children i mean what more
could you want in life what's the greatest thing you could have in life
an extra house going to holidays all across the world
or being given a human being a life it took you know a child that can serve
god and can be in heaven with you for all
eternity that's the greatest thing any family could have
love your children verse number five to be discreet chased keepers at home
look if a lady in church says oh go go just go and get a job
go and chase a career don't worry about the family
look no that's the wrong advice don't listen to that woman
okay listen to the woman that says hey be a keeper at home
look after your household all right why would you want to look after some other
stranger's man's company when you can be looking after the
house that god has given you the people that you care about
good look at this obedient to their own husbands
by the way husbands if your wife is going to be obedient to you
that means you have to give them some instruction
okay you have to direct them a little bit so they have the chance to obey
okay so husbands you've got to be the leader you've got to be the leader
a loving leader not a dictator a loving leader
you know someone that you know your wife can look at says you know what the
decision she makes is going to be best for me best for my
family okay i know i can trust him because he loves us
okay because he's proven himself to be a man you know he's proven himself to be
following the biblical principles of a man
and of course she's going to be obedient towards you in that sense
it says that the word of god be not blasphemed
so if you're not doing these things ladies wives then the word of god is
being blasphemed that's what it's saying okay this is what our life ought to look
like this is the kind of instruction that the
older ladies the aged women are to give to the younger women in the church all
right back to song of solomon please and chapter number eight verse number three
song of solomon chapter eight verse number three
she says his left hand should be under my head
and his right hand should embrace me so again that that physical affection
you know very close affection which they're doing without they're not doing
that out in the open public okay uh verse number four i charge you
oh daughters of jerusalem that you stir not up
nor awake my love until he please who is this and verse number five is
probably the hardest verse that i could figure out in this chapter
and i'll just give my thoughts around this who is this that cometh up from the
wilderness leaning upon her beloved i raise thee
up under the apple tree where thy mother
brought thee forth there she brought thee forth that bear
thee now it could be that the mother of the
wife is saying these words it could be she's because she says i
raise thee up under the apple tree remember she was getting instruction from
her own mother my mother would instruct me
she says look i raise you up under the apple tree and then where thy mother
brought me but then and then it's kind of like well now it sounds like she's
talking about herself in a third person if that's the mother
so maybe it's not the mother you know and look at the end of the day i don't
think it matters too much you know you can have your opinions i've you know
i've got some thoughts that i'm not really settled upon
but i think we find something quite interesting uh it's well
it says uh in verse number five there thy mother brought thee forth
so you can see that she was born under this apple tree okay she gave birth
to her daughter not in a hospital okay not that that's not that sinful anything
like that but she did it out in the open under
the shade of an apple tree now i do believe that's what took place
uh for this uh wife here but i think there's a greater teaching here
because you may recall earlier in the song of solomon that her husband was
referred to as an apple tree do you remember that well she was the
lily of the valley the rose of sharon and the husband was then compared to the
apple tree okay so if you took that to understand
again the mother giving instruction to her daughter
it makes a lot more sense as well it says i raise thee up
under the apple tree so if you want to take this a little bit further
it sounds like the mother instructed her daughter hey when you get married
you are under the authority of that apple tree the man
you are under the authority of your husband okay you are starting a new
family unit okay and he becomes your head and girls
please remember this your dad is your head okay right now
before you're married your dad is the head okay the head of the family
but when you get married your head becomes your husband
there's a change in authority and the reason i'm saying this is because
one of the worst things that you can do for your marriage okay
is when you have marital problems is to run to your dad
look he's got no more say he he is not your authority
anymore i know he was your authority for some 20
years potentially but the moment you got married your head your authority
has become the apple tree your husband okay the worst things that you can do
is run to your in-laws and and and complain
about all the problems in your marriage now look
the only exception would be this you know if your husband
is physically abusing you you know if your husband is physically
beating you up you know it's not a safe place to be you know in that sense
then of course you need to get help okay but
i mean that you know most marriages are not going to be like that the vast
majority okay why would you take your problems to
your in-laws you know your in-laws are older okay
it's very unlikely they're able to do something to help you're just going to
stress them out you know they're at a point now where
they just need to just enjoy the rest of their life they probably don't have
that many years ahead of them you don't just take all your problems
and take it to your parents or your in-laws
okay that's not going to help your marriage you say well i've got problems
passed so what am i supposed to do then you come together husband and wife
and you talk about your problems you fix it amongst yourselves you know
and when you do that you build your marriage
when you do that you have a greater care and appreciation
a greater trust toward one another that's what you do with problems you
know there are times my wife and i don't see eye to eye on certain things
and i'm sure there are times that i've gotten frustrated my wife and wife's
gotten frustrated at me you know what we don't do we don't just
pick up the phone and ring our parents what are they going to do about it if
you need to talk to someone beside your spouse who you talk to
god you take it to god i mean here's the one that can help you
here's the one that can change the heart of your spouse right
here's the one that can do those works your parents can't do that why
why make them stress why make them worried and then make them look you
know think badly of your spouse that's not
going to go well for your family and so this is what i believe you know
the mother who's teaching her daughter hey
your father is the apple tree i mean you've been raised under that okay
here's the one that gives you shadow protection here's the one that feeds you
the apple he's the provider of the family house let's keep going
in verse number six set me as a seal upon thine heart
and a seal upon thine arm okay so look she's saying look seal your
heart with me right uh man our hearts ought not to be
toward anyone else okay it's to be sealed no my heart is
sealed and it's to my wife and wife alone
and not just my heart but my arm this arm is not to embrace other women
okay it's still for my wife alone all right
and she's saying that to her husband please you'll soon see she's getting
jealous okay she's getting jealous and look
this is part of life you know you you if you're married and
you get times of jealousy let me just say that's actually a good
thing okay because it shows that you have
love and affection for your spouse you know uh wives
obviously don't want their husbands spending time
and checking out all the girls that walk past okay men that's something you have
to control and men you know just as much as i do
husbands you don't want your wife just hanging around with a whole bunch of
dudes all right i'm just going to hang around
with my old high school friends my you know you don't want you want that for
your wife seriously what's wrong with you if you want that
something wrong with you okay there's jealousy all right and you soon see
you know she's asking look please uh seal your heart seal your arms
not to anyone else then she says these words for love is strong
as death this is why when we get married we say
till death do us part if you truly love someone
it's till death okay if you if you if you say no i've lost i don't love them
anymore you never loved them in the first place
i tell you that how much did god love us till death
jesus christ died for us okay that is real love god
is love and you know how much if you know if you you'll know if you have real
love if you're willing to die for that person
okay and let's uh been married for 30 years and we just don't love each other
and then you didn't love each other okay we're just lying to yourselves you
just lying to yourselves and you think it's just easier life will be
easier getting divorced and finding someone else
it's not going to be easy you're just going to create a whole bunch of new
problems new complications in life okay till
death do us part and by the way that ought to be the
next thing you know our young people when you start dating
you know you start making that decision is this the person that i really want to
get married to you know you need to make that decision
am i willing to die for this person am i am i willing to make this one person
my partner for the rest of my life and if you say no i can't i can't or
stop dating that person okay because it's not going anywhere
it's not real love real love will be till death
that's how strong it is okay it says jealousies can see that
jealousy is mentioned jealousy is cruel as the grave
the coals thereof are coals of fire which have a most
vehement flame so when your spouse gets jealous
and you're like come on honey just get over it listen
you just can't put out a fire like that like if there's a bushfire right and we
get bushfires every year and as a vehement fire just burning out
of control you can't be like oh come on fire just
just just stop no you you got to fight the fire
you got to put it out you got to do you got to put a lot of work a lot of
effort to quench that fire don't you you know but again jealousy is good you
need to understand society has taught us that jealousy is
wrong or sinful no it's not again the emotions that people feel that are wrong
and sinful is envy and envy has to do with things
that do not belong to you you know you look at other people's things and you
become envious i want that no jealousy is good and proper the
lord's name is jealous jealous are things that belong to you
your wife belongs to you you know if your wife your husband
belongs to you your children belong to you we have to
be jealous for these good things i don't want my my you know my wife's
arms around some other man or vice versa that's jealous that's good and even if
it just kind of resembles that even to the
smallest thing even if my husband did not intend
that at all for example if you're a wife that
jealousy is still going to burn there okay it's just that's how god has
created us jealousy is good because it caused us to
be protective of the things that belong to us we
don't want someone else to come in and damage the precious things that god
has given us can you please keep your finger there
and turn to proverbs chapter 6 proverbs chapter 6 and verse number 34
proverbs chapter 6 and verse number 34
so in song of solomon we're looking at a wife that was getting jealous
all right now in proverbs chapter 6 we see a man who gets jealous
okay in proverbs chapter 6 verse number 34 it says
for jealousy is the rage of a man so that's the next thing i want you to
realize when someone gets jealous which is a good thing
it's going to quickly lead to rage quickly lead to anger
okay the rage of a man i mean i think one of the things that a man
can get most angry and furious about is seeing his
wife potentially being flirtatious with some
other man i don't think something's going to slap that man as hard as that
okay that's going to bring him to rage all right
it says therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance
he will not regard any ransom neither will he rest content
though they'll give us many gifts and of course the context of this is adultery
you know if if your spouse commits adultery
you know if your wife ends up committing adultery you know what it says here
that that man will not spare in a day of vengeance
you know there could be an opportunity where that husband gets a hold of his
wife or gets a hold of of that other man he's not going to
spare this is this is very dangerous this is a very dangerous time
okay because jealousy is meant to be good meant to be protective
but when you go and commit some grave sin like adultery
you know this happens many times where the other spouse might go and
literally murder you know the the partner that may be
cheated or the person that they cheated with
or both this happens in the world okay because this is the rage
you know you've committed yourself you know it was meant to be till death and
you've given yourself to someone else there's nothing worse than adultery
there's nothing worse for the feelings the anger the rage
that it causes with people that's why we need to protect our hearts we need to
seal our hearts don't we if you're married you seal your heart
that's it this is the person you seal your arm no i'm not going to
embrace some other woman right you seal it you protect it because
you don't want your spouse to get to this point
where they end up losing control okay because of the grave sins
that you may have committed back to song of solomon chapter 8 verse
number 7 song of solomon chapter 8 verse number 7
as i said the title for this sermon was love is strong and you're
beautiful
you
testing one two three testing one two three all right so love think if not
evil
what else do we see here uh verse number six rejoice if not iniquity
okay but rejoice if in the truth bear full things
believe of all things hope of all things endure of all things you know what that
what that means believe all things hope of all things
you know that you have a positive mindset about your spouse
that you're not just thinking negative all the time
okay you know wise if your husband's worked hard
and he's put a roof over your head and you get to eat every day
you know be positive-minded don't be like oh we just don't have
enough money to go and eat at that restaurant
you know i say this to the people on sunshine coast because it's such a
beautiful place to live i often say to them look you are so
blessed you know you go to other places in the world
and people don't even know if they're going to have food on the table
people struggle to have a roof over their heads
you know we need to think positive-minded
if you look if you ladies if you live in a house and you get food
why don't you just thank god that god has given you a man who's a hard worker
okay why is he working hard for himself not for you
for the children for the family okay i've said it before this society has
the men today they're so effeminate so lazy so self-centered they can't be
bothered to work but you've married a man who's given you
so much hey be positive you've got so much more
than what these other women who are complaining about their husbands
who don't look after them and they're the ones that have to go out and be the
breadwinner because their husbands are too lazy
it's been been positive-minded there's always negative in life
there's always going to be some level of negative in marriage
but what are you going to give your attention to the negative things or the
positive things because i'm i'll tell you now i'm sure if
you consider the positive your blessings it's going to heavily
outweigh the little problems that you have in life as well
and then look at verse number eight charity never
faileth the title for the sermon was love is strong
love will never fail okay never fails you cannot say i used to love her i
don't love her anymore no because true love never fails okay
there's only two options number one you never really love them in the first
place or number two you do love them you're
just too lazy to maintain that relationship
okay you're just too lazy you know you've learned the way of the world
now god's ways hey work on your marriage spend time together
love one another okay and look just i don't know about your marriages just
think about it yourselves does your love line up with what you see in the bible
or does it not and if it doesn't don't panic and go maybe i don't
no don't panic if you're married that's the person once you have said i do it's
death to death uh to death was part then you fix it
and if you can't fix it you go to god and say god can you fix it
because you are love i need the love that you have god so i can give that to
my spouse back to someone solomon chapter eight
verse number eight someone solomon chapter eight verse
number eight
the wife says we have a little sister and she hath no breasts
what shall we do for our sister in the day when she shall be spoken
so i'll just break this down for you it's not saying that some women
are larger than other women in that capacity when it says yeah
it's that she's not gone on breasts it means she hasn't hit puberty yet
okay because that's only what happens right normally a little girl she's
bare chest you know she doesn't have breasts in that same sense but then when
she hits puberty that develops all right and the reason i know that is because
she goes uh what shall we do for our sister in the
day when that she shall be spoken for the day that she should be spoken for
the day that she gets married okay she's spoken for she belongs to that
man okay so you can see that she's talking about
just her little sister that she has that hasn't hit puberty yet and she's
saying hey you know how can we increase you know as she as she grows and and
she becomes a woman how can we help her you know in in
getting her to find a man you know to find a husband again
there's nothing wrong with that there's nothing wrong especially family
helping you know their brothers and sisters or their parents even their
children helping them find the right spouse hey
what can we do to help our children be ready for
marriage to find the right person we already saw
that parents are to give instruction to the children in this area
okay but you know we see some things that she recommends
verse number nine she goes if she be a wall and a wall just means
she's upright she's grown right a wall is something that gets built that gets
higher and higher and so she's developing right she's
if she'd be a wall or like fully develops fully built
she goes we will build upon her a palace of silver
and if she be a door we will enclose her with borders of cedar
again very poetic language she's just married to okay so she's considering
these options hey how can we help her on that for that
day when she shall be spoken for and then she says about herself in verse
number 10 i'm a wall and my breasts like towers
then was i in his eyes as one that found favor
so of course she is matured she has grown she's obviously
gone through puberty and she's older and she goes because
after that fact is when i found favor in the eyes
of the king of my husband in that regard okay we learn a few
things here i don't want to go on a tangent too much here
but we learn that it is not normal it is not
natural for a man to desire a girl like a little girl all right like like
when it comes to islam and mohammed okay he was a pedophile okay how old
was the girl that he married was a nine years old six and consummated
the marriage at nine if that's correct okay that is not normal that is abnormal
that is contrary to god's word you must understand that person is a
reprobate that person does not have love okay that is not
normal you know any culture or society that's
married off their children you know at six nine years old whatever
that is wicked that is filthy that is not the way of the bible
okay that is not god's way okay so you know what
that that is that is gross and that is not normal that is
but i think parents we have to be careful there are strange people there
are this world is getting worse i'm just
saying okay this world is getting worse and it's not just our daughters it's our
boys too little boys they get you know uh attacked and there
are wicked people out there okay but it's it's essentially god is
here and i'll show you some other passages god is making sure
that children are very protected in this sense okay they haven't matured
they haven't gone through puberty they haven't got this they haven't mentally
they cannot process you know what it is to be married and to
be intimate with one another okay if i can get you to turn with me to
turn with me to numbers numbers chapter 30 turn with me to numbers
keep your finger there in song of solomon please turn with me to numbers
chapter 30 please numbers chapter 30
and this is this is something that is you know reinforced in the bible quite a
few times while you're turning to numbers 30
i'm going to read to you from first corinthians chapter 7 verse number 36
first corinthians chapter 7 and verse number
36 this is the instruction to paul to the corinthian church he says
but if any man think that he behave himself
uncommly toward his virgin it says this words
if she pass the flower of her age and need so require let him do what
he will he sin if not let them marry
once again paul is saying look if someone has not hit puberty
they are not right to get married okay this has been reinforced again for us
in the bible numerous times okay
it is not natural it is not normal to desire someone that young
okay muhammad was a pedophile muhammad was a reprobate
okay why would you follow that religion when your founder
committed such filthy acts okay such a wicked man
while you're you're in numbers chapter 30 look at this numbers chapter 30
verse number three because then here's the other mistake some christians
make they're like well then god is saying that
as soon as a girl hits puberty they should get married
look some girls hit it at 12 maybe 13 right that's kind of the age
well are you going to marry off your 13 year old
are you 12 year old whatever is that what is it do you think that's what the
bible is saying to you and number one god has given us a clear
boundary that is not normal okay number two it's
not saying as soon as someone hits puberty that's it they're ready to get
married okay that's what it's saying okay because
fathers you have a responsibility okay to
nurture and take care of your daughters till the day that you find or they find
themselves a good man that's going to love them and care for
them okay and that age i got married when i was 22 some people get married
when they're 17 okay but you know parents you ought to be
the one that is able to determine this decision
okay god's not saying all right your child's got to give us number three it
says if a woman also vow a vow unto the lord
let me just give you let me let me bring it to the context of what we're
discussing a vow is a promise so if a boy goes up to a girl will you
marry me and she says yes i'll marry you that's a vow that's a promise yes i will
marry you okay that's that's a huge vow okay and it's
okay let's just take that right she says to some man
yes i'll marry you all right if a woman also vow a vow unto the lord
look at this and bind herself by a bond okay so of course when you say that it's
a bond been in her father's house in
her youth okay so she's still a young lady
and she's under the authority of her father okay and she makes a vow she
makes a promise yes i'm going to marry you
okay look at verse number four and her father hear
the vow so she goes up to her dad says dad you know what i'm getting married to
you know this this gaming bum right this is a cop this loser i'm gonna get
married to him because we're just so in love
all right if her father hear her vow and her bond wherewith she have bound her
soul and her father shall hold his peace at
her then all her vows shall stand and every bond where if she have bound
her soul shall stand sorry i've got to turn to numbers
myself because i didn't actually get all the whole thing
numbers chapter 30 verse number three so dad you have a decision if she says
look i got i decided to get married and you hold your peace you say okay honey
that's fine you know well she's bound by that promise
okay but then if we keep going then verse number five
but if her father disallow her in the day
that he heareth not any of her vows or of her bonds where if she have bound
her soul shall stand so none of the vow shall stand
and the lord shall forgive her because her father disallowed her
okay so dads if your 13 year old girl comes up to you
says dad you know my 14 year old boyfriend and they shouldn't be dating
anyway i just covered that earlier but you know
i promise that i'm going to marry him and you go honey
that's ridiculous this guy doesn't work a job he's a bum
all right no you're not going to marry him well that's biblical you've
cancelled it okay so my point is this it's not just
saying okay she's 13 she's hit puberty marry her
off no dads you have a responsibility okay
this is your say you know this is why traditionally in marriage we even saw
that yesterday right who he gives this woman over to to
marriage or something along those lines and the father says i do okay that's the
right way okay yeah i i've given her permission
okay i approve of this all right and if you didn't approve of
that should have been approved a long time ago before the marriage day
okay it's meant to be on the day of the vow of the house okay that we're made
yes i'm going to marry you that's the day
when you hear about it okay the day you hear about it so even if it's the next
day or if it's the next week or if it's next
year the day that you hear about it you are allowed to say no and god says
all right that's fine that's exactly how it ought to be
so fathers you have responsibility obviously i'm not going to let let my
13 year old girl get married okay because i've got authority over her
okay i'm just going to show you in the bible okay how god
hands that responsibility over to their fathers
all right let's keep going there back to song of solomon chapter 8
so song of solomon chapter 8 please in verse number 11
song of solomon chapter 8 verse number 11
it says solomon had a vineyard at baal hamon
we've seen this many times that solomon of course as the king he's got
prosperity he's got vineyards he's got investments
he's got holiday houses and i've said to you look this is not
wrong or sinful in of itself okay if god blesses you
you've worked hard you know and you're able to have investments well praise god
for that okay you know remember money is not the
root of all evil the love of money is the root of all evil
okay but you know if you've been blessed and you've got these things great it
says here um everyone for the fruit thereof was to
bring a thousand pieces oh sorry i didn't finish it i'll read
verse number 11 again solomon had a vineyard at baal hamon
he let out the vineyard unto keepers so he's he's renting out his vineyard
all right so you might have an investment property that you rent out
to someone else so that's what basically solomon's
doing okay everyone for the for the fruit thereof was to bring a
thousand pieces of silver so i don't know if this was a monthly
charge or whatever it was but the cost to rent the vineyard would be a
thousand pieces of silver okay so you can see hey
he's got investments he's making some side money that's fine
okay let's keep going there verse number 12 she says the wife says
my vineyard which is mine she's got her own vineyard too
okay so you say well maybe this is teaching us
you know husbands you've got your finances and
you've got your investments and wife you've got your own investments and
you know when it comes to marriage make sure you just keep it all separate
and you know you live off what you make and i'll live off what i make and
we'll just have separate bank accounts so there's nothing in common between us
financially is that what it's teaching here well
what does she say she says my vineyard which is mine is
before me okay thou o solomon king solomon her
husband must have a thousand and those that
keep the fruit thereof two hundred she goes not only does my
solomon my husband gets a thousand dollars or thousand let's say a thousand
dollars right for renting out the vineyard
well even my vineyard solomon gets a thousand dollars okay
and they get 200 so the people that uh you know growing things in the vineyard
they make two hundred dollars all right and then they've got to pay the
rent of a thousand dollars for example to
solomon all right so they're making a 200 profit
solomon's making a thousand dollar profit
on this investment and but what i want to take out of that brethren is that
even though it's her vineyard you see that it's solomon that's
controlling the finances okay and i truly believe men used to be
ought to be the one controlling the finances
you know i think that also elevates you to a level of authority once again
just showing you know that you can manage money you know that you and again
hey these these uh properties these investments these finances
what do we see they are shared okay they are shared
it's not just this is my thing and this is your thing listen they live together
they're one flesh finances and property are shared okay
you know the property that i have 50 percent in my name
title says 50 percent in christina's name it's a shared property
okay i don't have some side thing that's just mine mine alone
okay no when it comes to marriage we have to share this
together okay the finances are to be shared
all right so just keep that in mind you know i don't want you to be people when
you're married to be two people living under one house
but living completely different lives even financially you know we need to be
understanding of one another you know sharing that
the benefits and the blessings uh together verse number 13
she says thou that dwellest in the gardens the companions harken to thy
voice cause me to hear it man this is
something else that you need to learn okay when you go through life when you
go through to work or whatever it is that you hang out with the boys
okay your companions harken to your voice they hear your voice
you got you guys talk sometimes men we go out have lunch together don't we we
have a bit of chat a bit of fellowship you know join each
other's one company again nothing wrong with that in of itself
but then she says cause me to hear it just look don't just talk to your mates
and your work colleagues talk to me i want to hear your voice too
husband you know you've gone to work you've been there eight hours nine hours
ten hours in a day you know you talk to all your workers
etc your colleagues when you come home don't be quiet
that i'm too tired to talk honey because i want to hear your voice
i want to be your companion i want to be your friend
so husbands remember this when you come home from work one day
and your wife says honey you don't talk to me talk to me i've been home all day
i've not had any adult interaction can you please let's have a chat
don't get frustrated your wife this is biblical she ought to feel that way if
she truly loves you if her love is strong she's going to
want to talk to you okay and you're going to want to have to
talk to her you know so chat find something in common do
things together you know enrich your marriage build
your marriage make time for conversation and then the
final verse verse number 14 she says make haste my beloved she goes
come on hurry up i want to spend time with you and be
there like a row or a young heart upon the mountains of
spices and that's how we end song of solomon
chapter eight but i do want to just bring you to this
thought she says look make haste be like this this uh dear that's you
know skipping upon the mountains you know making its way back home i
want to spend time with you after you've been out there working all day so
i want to just bring you back to just something that we did look at earlier in
song of solomon chapter two okay go back to song of solomon chapter
two and verse number eight song of solomon chapter two and verse
number eight so wives you ought to desire you know
you're not to be like oh man my husband's going to be home at
five ah you know now now now we've got to get
you know now it's going to be a disaster i enjoyed my day till my husband now is
coming oh man no that's wrong she's like make haste
come early if you can right but you know what husbands we ought to
be that way as well okay song of solomon chapter 2 8 it says
the voice of my beloved behold he cometh leaping upon the
mountains we saw that earlier skipping upon the hills
is that you husband when you finish your days of work
that you're leaping like whoa can't wait to see my wife now
are we making a detour i'll just go somewhere else
no we ought to be sleeping and skipping upon the mountains skipping upon the
hills verse number nine my beloved is like a
row a young heart which was taught in chapter eight
behold he standeth behind our wall he'll look a forth at the windows
showing himself through the lattice listen this guy can't even wait to see
his wife before he even opens the door he's
already looking through the window is my wife there
he's looking through the windows verse number 10 my beloved spake
and said unto me rise up my love my fair one
and come away he's like honey i've just finished work
come on let's go out let's go out on a date let's go and spend time together
you know i'm so excited to see you rise up my love
my fair one and come away and just to tie this
you know and so men you know you ought to be excited to see your wife
wives you ought to be excited to see your husbands after a day's work and
husbands you ought to be excited to see your wife after you've labored hard
but again the spiritual teaching that i took out of this in chapter number two
is that one day of course christ is going to come back you know he's going
to say these words as it were unto us rise up my love
my fair one and come away you know one day the lord's coming back
and he wants his people his believers his children to be with him in heaven
for all eternity the day of the rapture is coming you
know that same excitement you know we often often talk about i can't wait for
the rapture can't wait to be with jesus you know what right now you ought to
have that love and excitement for your spouse
can't wait to be with my husband can't wait to be with my wife
you know after a hard day's work all right let's pray
heavenly father lord i want to thank you lord for the song of solomon
lord there are so many things that we can learn about in marriage and lord
even as i prepared these things and taught
lord i realized where there were failings in my area of life and lord i
just pray for each marriage each husband each wife that's here lord i
just pray that we would not just grow cold we would not
just let things slide lord but we would just be
as romantic lord as we were from day number one even more so lord
i pray that our love will grow that our love will be strong our love will never
fail but lord we need your help you're a god
of love lord we need the love that you you can give us lord to then pass that
on to our spouse so lord i do pray that you help us in our marriages
and for those that are single those that are going to be married lord i do pray
that they will take some of these words lord and they will start their marriages
on the best foot forward we pray these things in jesus name amen
all right brethren please take your hymnals and turn to hymn number 17
hymn number 17 and before we sing hymn number 17
sorry guys i'm always out of practice on a sunday here with you guys
i normally ask you about birthdays don't i so are there are there any
birthdays this week anyone celebrating a birthday yes
brother daniel your birthday on tuesday ah praise god
happy birthday daniel amen
any wedding anniversaries well we know that this time next year there's going
to be a wedding anniversary don't we brother tim since the sheiling
that's going to happen praise god for that um all right so i wasn't meant to
be here