All right, look down at your Bibles at 1st Corinthians chapter 16 and verse number 10
It says now if Timotheus come see that he may be with you without fear
For he work at the work of the Lord as I also do let no man therefore
Despise him but conduct him forth in peace that he may come unto me for I look for him with
The brethren and what I want to preach on this morning is why the youth are despised. Why is it that the youth are?
Despised now go to 1st Timothy chapter number 4 if you would 1st Timothy chapter number 4 a
person who is in their youth basically can range anywhere from puberty all the way to being a young adult and
This is describing when we talk about someone who is in their youth
We often are describing a person who is in their early stages of life
They have their whole lives ahead of them and to be quite honest with you. These are essential live
Excuse me, these are essential years in the life of a young person. Why is that?
Well, these are the years that crucial decisions are gonna be made. They're gonna affect them for the rest of their lives
You know
These are important years where they're gonna make crucial decisions create crucial
Disciplines and habits and make excuse me make decisions
They can either cause them to be successful later on in life or just cause them to be complete failures and just not
Prosper it on really destroy their lives in the latter years
These are the years that mold the disciplines and determine the type of adults that they will be now
Young people this is why it's important that you as a young person seek the Lord
Amen that you're seeking the Lord that you're serving God that you're reading your Bibles that you're dedicating your life to serving
God this is important
Don't waste your young years and your young life on the things of this world
Fulfilling the desires of the flesh and of the mind just doing just living a life of vanity
Why because later on in life you will regret it?
Okay
And in fact the Bible even tells us remember now thy creator in the days of thy youth
While the evil days come not nor the years draw nigh when thou shalt say I have no pleasure in them
God is specifically admonishing us in Ecclesiastes 12 verse 1. He's telling us
Hey as young people we need to remember our Creator remember God
Why because you're you don't have the evil days upon you yet and any adult will tell you hey the evil days are coming
There's gonna come times when you have heartache when you go through times of discouragement and depression
When you start losing your family members when you start going through trials and tribulations when life is not a bed of roses anymore
So when you're young you need to remember that your Creator in these days
Why because you don't have those evil days as of yet?
You know, you don't have the burden of you know
Whatever financial burden that adults may have the health burdens that adults may have you're still young you have energy you have vision
You have your whole life ahead of you, but you know what don't waste those young years living for vanity
You should remember your Creator in the days of your youth. Okay
Now he says in 1st Corinthians 16. He's talking about Timothy and he's instructing those at Corinth
He's saying hey let no man therefore despise him him referring to Timothy
Okay, he says but conduct him forth in peace now. Why would people be inclined to despise Timothy? Is he like a jerk?
You know, it's just like man. I hate Timothy. That guy's just a little punk that guy mouths off all the time. He's lazy
He just plays video games all day. He just doesn't you know have purpose in life. He's just a haughty person
I don't believe this can be said of Timothy
But what I believe or what I think is it because he was young
The natural bent is to despise him. He said what in the world are you serious to just like hate like the young people?
Yeah, because you know, they potentially just don't respect him. They don't take him seriously because he's young
Okay, and young people have a tendency to have a chip on their shoulder
To think that you know, they're all that in the bag of chips that they have all the experience that they need
They don't take admonishment. Well, they can't take instruction
Well, and so automatically in the minds of adults often they think to themselves this person is just a haughty person
This young guy thinks he knows everything there is to know about life. And yet he knows nothing
Okay, and this is why he tells them. Hey Timothy's not that person don't despise Timothy
Okay, and look at first Timothy chapter 4 verse 11
It says these things command and teach let no man speaking to Timothy
despise thy youth
but be thou an example of the believers in word and conversation and charity and spirit and faith in
Purity so Paul is teaching Timothy to counter that potential aggression towards him by being an example
He says look when you go forth and you're leading the church
You're discipling people make sure no one despises you that the balls in your court at that point, right?
You know if someone despises you it's not because it's not the church's fault. It's not the adults fault
It's because you're not becoming an example that people would want to emulate. Okay is what he's basically teaching them there
Don't give the adults a reason to scorn and to despise you
You should live above reproach and excel in these qualities is basically what he's telling them and you know what we should also
Take heed to these instructions as well. Okay and
Try to exemplify this template of Christian living
Etc now today in 2020 if the instruction then
2,000 years ago was not to despise the youth that means the temptation and the tendency to despise them today is so much the more
Because of the fact that you know, we're nearing the end people are waxing worse and worse
you know entertainment in the world has infiltrated churches so much the more and
Children or young people have a tendency to become despised because of their attitude their disposition
Etc, you know young people today can often exemplify attributes that adults can scorn
You know and this is true with every generation, you know
The Bible even tells us in Proverbs 30 verse 11
There is a generation that cursed at their father and doth not bless their mother now that was then
But don't you know a couple people today that they curse their parents they cuss them out
They backtalk them. They even try to get physical and aggressive with them. Yeah, I was one of those, you know
Not me
You know, I could never lift up a hand towards my mom because she would just probably catch it and would meet even more
Okay, I come from a single parent home. My mom basically raised me with my brother and my sister and she
But but you know what her hand was heavy and she was very strict and she was very disciplined and that's one of the reasons
I'm not involved in gangs
That's one of the reasons why I'm still alive today
And in fact, that's one of the reasons probably why I'm a pastor today
Because of the fact that my mom was strict and she disciplined us correctly
But you know what? This can't be said of every generation or of every young person within that generation. There are children out there
There are you young people that curse their father and doth not bless their mother
There was a generation that are pure in their own eyes and yet is not washed from their filthiness
You know, they think they're always right
They think they can do no wrong that the old people don't know what they're talking about. They're not cool
They don't know what they're talking about. They're pure in their own eyes. There is a generation
Oh, how lofty are their eyes? What is that talking about? They're prideful
They're arrogant lofty means they're prideful and their eyelids are lifted up. In other words, they're just like the snobby person
Okay
There is a generation whose teeth are as swords and their jaw teeth as knives
To devour the poor from off the earth and the needy from among men sometimes young people
They just don't have a filter when they talk
You know, they're in the streets cussing talking about vulgar things. They're disrespectful towards adults
They have teeth or as swords and jaw teeth as knives
so this goes without saying that sometimes young people or
Older people can often despise young people because of these things now
Let me just say this is that I am speaking from experience now
I'm 34 years old. I still consider myself to be young. Okay, don't why are you laughing? Okay. I don't know why you're laughing
I'm just kidding
But I will say this, you know
I got saved at the age of 21 and when you get saved and you're in an independent fundamental Baptist Church
You come to the knowledge of the truth, you know what the Word of God says
There's a tendency to be a little arrogant and prideful. Okay. Oh, not me
You're probably the one exactly the one that I'm talking about
Okay
You know
There's a tendency to be prideful and arrogant and I remember when I was 21 years
When I was 21 years old that I was prideful. I had arrogance
See, I didn't have the right type of disposition that a young person should have
But thank God that I had a pastor and I had older men to humble me
Okay to put me in my place, you know to kick me off my high horse and to basically show me
Hey, you're not all that you're not all that you're cracked up to be or that you think you're cracked up to be
You know and young people have a tendency to have that attitude sometimes now look especially in a church like this
why because you know what we teach doctrine here and
Young people come to the knowledge of the truth in various subjects at a very early age in their Christian life
And you know what that causes them to do to be puffed up sometimes
To think that they're better than other people. This should not be the attitude of young people today
Especially when it comes to Christians now
One of the reasons I'm preaching this is because thankfully we do have a lot of young people in our church
Amen, we have a lot of young people and this is a good thing. This says a lot about our church, by the way
I'm losing my voice if you haven't noticed. Okay. Sorry. So if I if I crack
It's not it doesn't mean that I'm a young person going through puberty. Okay, I'm
I'm just losing my voice
So this is a lot about our church and the reason for this because you know
A lot of churches are using are losing their young people
You know a lot of churches they're so lame and watered down and so lifeless that they're young people
This is the reason why they're going to the fun centers the liberal churches the the the Democrat type churches
Where they just you just love everyone and everything's hunky-dory. Let's just kumbaya with everyone
They don't take a stance for anything and that's the kind of churches that young people are going to they're flocking towards those churches
Whereas a church like ours, you know, we have young people in our church who are living for God
They're soul winning. They like the preaching of God's Word. They enjoy hard preaching. They love the Lord
They love the lost and this says a lot about our church, you know
It's good to have older people in our church
But it's it's it's in the sense better to have younger people too because that's the next generation
This will secure the longevity of our church
When you have young people when you have a church that only has great heads
I mean that church is not gonna last it doesn't matter how godly they are
You know, they could be the best people in the world
But you know what if that if that church doesn't start reaching some young people
That church is gonna die
And I'm known churches independent fundamental Baptist churches where the pastor was like in his 80s and everyone was in their 80s
And they're just they're just older people sweetest people in the world
But you know what that that will not last very long if they're not reaching the young people and look our church
We don't do things to try to reach the young people like, you know
Have hoochie mom is up here
Dancing and all kinds of worldly things to try to get their attention and if you come we're gonna give you Xbox and all this
Stuff I'm not gonna do that nonsense
You get what you get
Man, if you come this is what you're gonna get hard preaching. You're gonna get some excited zealous ministry
And you know what you better catch up and
That'll rub off on the young people
You know what you one thing about young people is that you they like to for you to tell it to them straight
You don't want you to lie to them. They don't want you to be fake with them
Well great because preaching is not fake
And so when they hear preaching that's unfiltered. It's not hypocritical
Speaks from the heart and uses the Bible they like that
Okay, but unfortunately a lot of churches are not doing that therefore their young people are flocking to these liberal churches or they're just getting
out of church period okay, and
If they do retain any type of youth in their church often these these youth are a bunch of sissies
Just limp-wristed sissy wimpy lame
unzealous not on fire
Hypothetic
Just type of Christians they go there and they go there because it's more of a social club
They just want to hang out with their friends or whatever. They don't go there for the preaching of God's Word
They don't go there because they have purpose in life
They go there because their buddy goes there or because they have there's a girl that they like at the church or something
You know look I'm not saying that's a bad reason to come to church
Okay, you know if you have a girl that you like at this church, and you're coming that's great
But you know the main reason should be the Word of God
service etc and
So that says a lot about our church
But with that being said because we have a lot of young people guess what then there's gonna be a tendency for the young people
To exert these type of quality negative qualities that will cause the older people not just in our church
But just in the community in general to despise them and look young people
Don't be the type of Christian where someone can look at you and says man
I despise this is one of the reasons I despise the youth today in
2020 it's because of guys like this it's because of girls like this
You know we should be examples unto the believers, right?
So let no man despise thy youth. You know the only people that should despise you are reprobates
Right
You know reprobates and false prophets and lame Christians these should be the type of people that despise you
I remember it being at my old church, and when I got saved
I was zealous for the Lord, and I was so winning and you know
I just started out so many my father-in-law taught me how to preach the gospel
I learned about the King James Bible, and I was getting all this new information
And I remember I went to the Bible College. Okay. Don't hold that against me
You know I went to the Bible College there
And I was like questioning people on doctrine and you know the group that hated me the most were the lamest Christians
the soft
effeminate Christians that were like oh, you're just like trying to be spiritual or was like yeah
Isn't that what we're supposed to do is supposed to be spiritual
Oh, you're just like you're just trying to be like like a spiritual a Bible Billy
No, I'm Bible Bruce
Yeah, I thought we're supposed to walk in the spirit not fulfill the lust of the flesh
What day do we live in when you bring up a Bible topic and then people just like oh?
You want to talk about the Bible. What do you want to talk about like baseball or something you want to talk about like Justin Bieber?
What's on your mind?
You know it should be that the atmosphere of our churches amongst the young people should be hey spiritual things amen
And again, I'm not saying that this is the constant conversation of our church, but you know you stick around in our church
This is the common conversation that we have right it's centered around
Biblical things and in fact since we started a revelation series. That's all we talk about
It's in times Bible prophecy. I think sometimes. We just can't wait to end the service
Started another service
Outside talk about the seven seals, okay?
But you know the young people like that they want to learn
Okay, and so this morning
I want to give you a few points to help you to be examples and to avoid being despised
So let me give you a couple things that will cause people to despise you young people
Okay, number one go with me if you would to Isaiah chapter number 40 number one is pride
I already mentioned it, but pride will cause people to despise you
look if you're gonna be despised be despised for the right reasons not for the wrong reasons and
Pride will cause people to just get away from you not want to fellowship with you
You will become an unsavory person in the mouth of those who are around you if you are prideful
You know the Bible tells us these six things that the Lord hate yea seven are an abomination unto them a proud
Look is the first one a
Lying tongue and hands that shed innocent blood when young people are prideful arrogant and snobby
They're despised
When they think they're just better than everyone else
And they're just the cream of the crop and they just they just got it all together. You know what older people
They despise that people just in general despise prideful people right
When people are just arrogant and prideful and one of the reasons young people have a tendency to be prideful is because they have
Vitality they have energy they have life right and they think like well
I'm not gonna die until like I'm a hundred or something not knowing that you know what boasts not thyself of tomorrow for that
No, it's not what a day may bring forth
17 year olds die to
20 year olds die to
25 year olds die to don't have this attitude that nothing can happen to you. You're invincible
You're gonna live forever. No the attitude should be that you need to number your days
That you need to ask God to help you to give you wisdom to number your days and use your days
Efficiently so that you do something significant in this life in case you lose your life tomorrow
Okay, don't be a prideful person
You know when you come to our church young people
You should greet everyone
And let me just let you know something let me just teach you something young people you're not God's gift to this church
Like I know you want the red carpet to be rolled out for you when you come to church is like
I'm here
You know you just want everyone to greet you and treat you with that type of treatment
But you know what you should come here wanting to be a blessing to others
Now what's the opposite of pride humility right?
Being humble
Being willing to go up to others and serve others and be a blessing to others and say a kind word to other people
This is humility pride is when you come to church, and you just plop your bottom down on the seat
Just don't talk to anybody
Why don't you talk to anybody oh because I'm here for the preaching of God's Word bless God
Churches for the preaching churches for God's where I don't got time for that anybody got time for that
Everyone yeah, actually everyone else does that's what they come early to church and talk to people
Okay, well that's not in my personality. Well guess what you as a Christian. You don't have the luxury
To not be social. Did you know that?
Because as Christians we actually literally have the responsibility to go tell a stranger that they're going to hell
That takes a level of social skills that most people don't have
Hey, how's it going? You know and then you just like a couple minutes later. You're going to hell
Right
And the way you believe is wrong, and you got to believe on the Lord Jesus Christ
That takes a level of social skills that most people don't have
But you know what you say well. That's what I do okay. Well. How about here though if you can tell a complete stranger
That why is it hard for you to tell someone you already know? How's it going?
What's your name? What did you do this week?
You know
Some of you it's not that you're spiritual some of you are just prideful is what it is
Okay, you need to break out of your shell you need to go talk to people and look when you come to church
Don't just look for your crew
You know everyone's got clicks in the church and stuff
you know you know you need to get out of your click and go talk to people you I guarantee you a
Church our size. There's people you just don't know
That you've seen for months, and you still don't know them
And you know some people are like oh, yeah
I don't want to say hi to them because I've they've seen me I've seen them for like the last year
And I still don't know their name
You know that's true, so this is what you do you say you know what?
Or you go to their husband or their spouse and say what's the name?
Or you go ask someone else or you could just go to them and say hey, you know I'm really sorry
And I've seen you here multiple times, but I've never actually gone out to you know shake your hand and get to know you
What's your name? You know there's nothing wrong with that in fact? That's that's humble
right
Prideful is just like you just avoid that person because you just don't want to admit the fact that you don't know their name
Okay
So don't be a prideful arrogant snob okay, nothing worse than a Christian snob
Okay
Because the Christian life should be characterized by humility all right and now as I mentioned is this sometimes young people
They feel like you know what they got it all together
They got all the strength that they need all the energy that they need but look at the Bible says in Isaiah 40 verse 30
Even the youths shall faint and be weary and the young men shall utterly fall
But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength that shall mount up with wings as Eagles
They shall run and not be weary. They shall walk and not faint. God is saying hey
Even the young people who are filled with energy and vitality in life even they're gonna faint even they're gonna grow weary
because energy true energy and true
Vitality spiritual vitality comes from waiting upon the Lord praying reading the Bible be strong in the Lord in the power of his might amen
Go to Proverbs chapter 7
Proverbs chapter number 7
So hey the first quality here that you should avoid if you don't want to be despised as a young person is
Pride ask yourself this am I prideful
You know am I arrogant am I snobby do I act like I just I you know?
I'm just all that I think that I'm better than anybody else
If that's the case humble yourself
Okay
Now number two what's another thing that would cause others to despise the youth a zeal that's not according to knowledge
A zeal that's not according to knowledge, okay
When young people lack knowledge understanding and experience, but they act like they have all three
They are despised
right
You know when they act like they know what they're talking about
But then when you hear them talk you like this guy doesn't know what he's talking about
But he acts like he knows what he's talking about that person becomes despised
And look folks
This happens sometimes
Okay
where people would just open their mouths and make a judgment call or give out some some weird information and
They act like they're experts in in that field, but you know according to these words. They're not
It's like this isn't this doesn't even sound right this will cause people to be to despise the youth
Okay
It there's nothing wrong with just saying this. I don't know
There's nothing wrong with not knowing specific things you know that
There's nothing wrong with someone asking you a question in the same. I have no idea
Look I'm the pastor here, and I do that if someone asked me something about Bible about the Bible or something
I just I just don't know I'm just like I have no idea
I would have to look into that or just about life in general if someone asked me something
I just don't know I'm not gonna make up an answer
Just
To just to kind of you know have credibility with people know you actually lose credibility when you give information
That's not valid
Point people to the right person instead right
You know when when we preach on specific sins, and you roll your eyes like it doesn't apply to you
You have a zeal that's not according to knowledge
You know if why if why are you listening to this sermon you're just like
Not this again
First of all check number one pride
But number two you just could have no knowledge or experience of what I'm referring to
You know we want to be the kind of Christians that when we come to church
And we hear the preaching of God's Word we can apply everything
Right it's applicable to us and look
This is important because often Christians when they were young they just get saved
You know they're zealous for the things of God they have a lot of excitement
And they have a lot of enthusiasm for the things of the Lord
But what happens is if they don't couple that with knowledge they make a lot of mistakes
They offend a lot of people they make a lot of mistakes, and they don't have that experience
So what is how can you counter that we'll get around people who do have experience?
And look there's people in our church who've been around the block
There's been around there's people in our church who have experienced life take advantage of that knowledge
You know I commend the older people that are in our church who are older than me that follow me
I'm their pastor, and I'm younger than them, but you know what I'm not so arrogant and prideful that
I will not go to them and say hey. I need your advice on this area. Why well you're the pastor
You shouldn't do that. Well. Why would I not take advantage of someone who has knowledge who has been in this on this earth?
longer than I have
Pride says I can't go to anybody
Right humility says well. I need anybody as many people as I can a multitude of counselors their safety, okay?
Look at Proverbs 7 verse 5 says
That they may keep thee from the strange woman referring to God's Word the wisdom of God's Word from the stranger which flatter with
With their words for at the window of my house. I look through my casement and beheld among the simple ones I
discerned among the youths a
Young man void of
Understanding the Bible says passing through the street near her corner
He went away to her house in the twilight in the evening in the black and dark night and behold there met him a woman
with the attire of an harlot and subtle of heart, so this guy is
Establishing a relationship with the whore
Whores in the Bible guys, okay?
Establishing a relationship with the whore and why is that because he lacks understanding
he
Is acting foolish?
Now look this was written a long time ago, but nothing's changed
Nothing has changed how many can you attest to either your personal life or someone that you know who's a young person who fell in?
Love with the wrong person
Right how many you say I know of a person who fell in love with the wrong person and you try to knock some sense
It's that person. They're just like but I love them
It's
Like he's a crack addict
He sells drugs he's been in and out of prison. It's just like but I love him I
Can change him?
It's just like you lack understanding you're like a youth you know me. It's just like I
Love her. It's like she's she's trying to bankrupt you
She's trying to take your money
Like how much does she need?
You've met people like that right I met plenty of people like that
Where it's just like you try to talk sense is like be logical think about this, and they're just like I am thinking
I'm thinking about her. I'm thinking about him, and they're just in love
And you just can't knock any sense into these people and by the way parents
This is why it's important that you win the hearts of your children
Right it's important that you win the hearts of your children so that they trust you
Okay, so that when you come to them you say hey, honey. You know there's this person is just not really good for you
He just looks like a bad guy
You know
She might like him, but she'll say well. You know dad
Because I trust you and I know you have my best interest in mind. I'm gonna. I'm gonna trust you with that
That's what we want right we want our sons obviously
We're not gonna. You know just determine who they marry, but you know we want our sons to come to us and say hey dad
What do you think about this?
You know what's your thought on this should I be dating this person? It's like son. She's 40 years old
No you shouldn't
And he's like 17 or something or whatever you know it was like not a good idea. It's like you sure dad. You know
He's like yeah, I'm pretty sure about that
Now you know you think that's funny, but but the reality is is that
Some young people are that stupid
Right they're that dumb where they just cannot see the logical aspect or the ramifications of their actions
Okay, and because they can't see the ramifications of their actions
They need people with experience and understanding to filter their situation and say talk some sense into this person say hey
This is not a good idea
Okay, but hey on the flip side sometimes
You know some young guys or some young ladies just don't have any understanding, and it's just like hey guys
There's this young lady. She's a godly lady you should go for and they're just like no
I don't really you know think you know
They need some sense to be knocked into them as well
So the lack of understanding goes both ways
Okay
What I'm saying is this is that zeal is great, but you need zeal that's according to knowledge
Okay, you need to make sure that you grow in knowledge you look obviously
There's some aspects of life that have knowledge that you will not get until you know they require years
Right it requires for you to make mistakes it requires for you to have failures etc
But the way you supplement that is by asking counsel from those who have been through that road before okay?
And there's nothing wrong going with an adult who has a successful marriage has raised children
Successfully and asking them for advice
Look, I have little ones don't ask me my advice for your adult children
You know ask other people ask brother Eddie
Ask brother polities ask brother Albert ask someone else who actually yourself
I mean do you don't you feel bad that you're doing no, I don't because here's the thing at the end of the day
I want you to succeed in your family
I want you to succeed in your marriage
And you know what I can give you my opinion as far as what to do with adult children
but at the end of the day you should go to those who have successfully done it and
So a zeal that's not according to knowledge now go with me if you would to first Corinthians chapter 13
So if you have pride that will cause people to despise you despise your youth if you have a zeal
That's not according to knowledge people will despise your youth. Here's number three, okay?
Immaturity
Will cause people to despise your youth
When people are absent of the aspiration to just grow up
Adults despise that
okay, the worst thing in
2020 is
grown men
Who are you know physically?
adults
but
Emotionally mentally spiritually, they're just babies
You know a grown man who has a family a wife and children, but he's still playing video games
Okay, now look if you play video games. Just don't tell me I
Don't want to hear it, okay
That's cool. You mentioned that cuz I I play video games. Are you gonna stop as well?
You know I'm not planning really to stop. I'm just saying that's what I do you know
If you play video games, okay, but you know what that shouldn't be your life
to some people that's their some men that's their life and
Look if you're getting a little embarrassed right now
That means you're probably spending way too much time playing video games
If you're blushing right now, and you're just kind of you just can't wait to point number four comes up
You're the one I'm talking to okay
I
Maturity look I
Remember growing up as a little child and even going into you know 12 13. I couldn't wait to be an adult I
Couldn't wait to get married. I couldn't wait to have a job. I worked my first job when I was like 12 or 13
Because I wanted to grow up. I wanted people to respect me. I wanted to be able to provide for a wife and kids
I wanted to be a man
That's not the case today
Today men don't want to grow up. They want to remain a Toys R Us kid
They live in this Peter Pan society, they're just like I don't want to grow up. I'm a Toys R Us kid
It's just like you need to grow up
And look young people if you don't want people to despise your youth you need to grow up
You know there should be an aspiration a desire with you to say man
I need to get my stuff together because I want to get married one day. I want to move out
Live with my wife have children have a successful family lead a family unit be responsible. That's what I want for my life
But instead what do you have I want anime?
I'm getting on anime right now
The Bible says in first Corinthians 13 when I was a child I spake as a child
I understood as a child when I became a man I put away childish things
Okay, now. What is anime?
It's Japanese animation
Pokemon you know yugioh
What else dragon who said that
Dragon Ball Z. Give me another one
This points for you full metal alchemist
That's like that's like level five
Now look guys
This is nonsense
And look I know how this works basically when it comes to anime some people like it's act
It's an actual world to them
And I think even Moses told me is like this is like a form of escapism for some people they escape to that realm
You know and sometimes you wonder like this guy. You know he's
He's a good guy. He's a good person, but there's a level of immaturity. Where does that come from it comes from anime?
It comes from anime. Why don't they want to get married anime because they're married to some stupid drawing
Some blonde Japanese animated girl
You know on the screen that they're in love with it's funny, but it's ridiculous get yourself a real woman
That's some animated Japanese girl Sailor Moon or what is that?
This is nonsense folks
Look I
Remember being seven years old six years old I'd watch Batman. Okay. I watch spider-man I
Watch Superman
Yeah, I watch x-men
Okay
All right, man. This is you right here, right?
And I would watch these but you know what I remember like after a while you turn it off
Cuz after a while. I'm just like I see my brother working. I see adults. I see men. I'm like I want to be like that
And I know I can't be that way if I'm watching cartoons
playing with toys
You know I want to get married one day, but you know what we got to put away the anime
If that's gonna happen you know why cuz no woman is gonna respect a 25 year old guy
Who still watches anime?
Unless you hide it from her then you guys get married and now she's stuck
She's like dang. I didn't know this is part of your life
He's like it's not part of my life. It is my life
You know immaturity folks
You know there might be some guys in here who secretly live in this world
Well this world is gonna come crashing down this morning
Because you should move on and grow up okay look grow up be responsible grow up get a job
Get a job
And I'm not look notice that I'm not saying get a perfect job, right?
The perfect job is where you have your perfect wages the perfect hours your boss is an independent fundamental Baptist
On your break you guys go sowing together
This doesn't exist
He said what should I do Little Caesars
McDonald's something where you you work, and then you earn money
This is what you should do
Look when I was 12 years old. I got a job washing dishes, and I got paid under the table, okay
But I told the boss. I was like I want to work. You know I want to help my mom pay the bills I
Was like I want to help my mom with the groceries
I want to help her with something and look the money that I earned didn't even do much
But just the fact that I gave it to her
Said something right I was like after school. I'll come here, and I'll work and I remember I remember
I told my mom was like mom
I got a job all this I need you to give me a ride to work, and she's uh
I'm not giving you right to work
She's all you drive yourself to work. I'm like. I'm 12
and she's like it's fine just gas pedal and
I'm like she's like you know how to get to work. You know the directions like yeah, no well take the freeway
I like I've never been on the freeway. She's like it's fine. Just stay on the far right lane
The slow lane you'll be fine
Put on your seatbelt look both ways you're good
Yeah, you know I'm thankful for that though because I became a responsible young man at a very young age
You know and you know what I wasn't thinking about anime. I wasn't thinking about Sailor Moon. I wasn't thinking about Pokemon
Look this is why you have these old guys in their 30s and 40s still playing Pokemon cards and going to the conventions and stuff
Well, that's a form of making money though, and I can make money doing that yeah, but here's the thing you're a Christian
You are a Christian
Okay, you can make money off of gambling, too
All right, you can make money off of selling drugs, too
Doesn't mean you should
Okay
look
When Paul sent Titus to go ordain elders
To provide that which is lacking in those islands and to go provide elders and train people I guarantee you
he wasn't involved in childish activities this man Titus was discipling men and
In fact in Titus chapter 1 Paul's given him the qualifications of a pastor for a man. This guy is young in
Chapter 2 he's like this is what you're supposed to be preaching
Tell him the aged women the young man the young the young woman the older man to be grave
I mean he's this instructing and discipling older people
And then at the end of chapter 2 he says this let no man therefore despise you
He says these things speak and exhort and teach and let no man despise you
Why because hey you can't despise a young man who's got his stuff together who's teaching others who's discipling others, okay?
So what I'm saying is this is you know what will cause you to be despised
Amongst the community and even amongst in a church is a lack of maturity guys
I'm gonna grow up and look I don't say this because I'm mad at you. I don't get mad when people watch anime
You know I just I just I'm just like disappointed
It's just disappointing is what it is
Because I feel like you've been given much
Right you've been given the King James Bible salvation. It's like God has chosen us to be like the elite
right
Giving you all this knowledge and wisdom and Bible and doctrine. You know you know how to preach the gospel
He's given you so much, and yeah, you're still choosing the the rudiments of this world
the weak and beggarly elements of anime
It's like why are you doing? Why are you building those things which you've destroyed?
It's time to grow up
Okay
You know maturity recognizes that today's decisions bring tomorrow's judgments
So you know what mature people do they think about?
Their their actions they think about the decisions
They're gonna make the Bible tells us in
Ecclesiastes 11 9 rejoice
Oh young man in thy youth and let thy heart cheer thee in the days of thy youth and walk in the ways of thine
Heart and in the sight of thine eyes, but know thou that for all these things God will bring the judge
God will bring thee into
Judgment so he's telling them hey your days and your youth and walk in the ways of thine heart if you want to and you
Know go your way, but just know this God will bring thee into judgment
What does that what is he saying your actions have consequences?
Okay
So look this should be the desire of every young man one of two things, okay
Number one if you don't want to get married yet. There's nothing wrong with you
Okay, you don't want to give you like well. I don't really feel like getting married
Okay, then dedicate your time to serving the Lord dedicate your time to work to learning how to work
Because the man should learn how to work
Dedicate your time to learning how to work and serving the Lord
This should be what your time is dedicated to but you feel like well. I do want to get married
Okay, dedicate your time to learning how to work
That's just like never changes
and
seeking a spouse and
By what I mean by seeking a spouse is preparing to be the kind of man that should deserve a spouse
right
Becoming the kind of man that deserves to have a spouse that you would want you know your wife to be proud of
Okay, and look. I know people in my personal life. They're literally in their 40s
50s
Still bumming money off of other people
Not working if they had it if they had it their way they would still live with mom
Right they would still live with mom and they have children at a wedlock, and they're just losers
That is a loser life folks
We're like well. I'm not doing that yeah, but your little anime habits gonna. Take you to that route
That's
Your that's your endgame there, buddy
You want to be anime you like anime you want to just not let go of the the childish things of this world
It's instilling with you a type of mentality and discipline. That's gonna affect you when you're 40
That's why you see guys in their 40s and 50s still hanging out with the like the young guys
Why because they're not hanging out with their wives. They're not hanging out with their children
They're not doing that which is significant in this world, okay?
Go with me if you would to Proverbs chapter number five Proverbs chapter five so immaturity guys
Will cause people to despise you
Okay
It'll cause people not to respect you if you don't grow up
You know every man should desire to be respected right I?
Want to be respected by my wife. I want to be respected by my children
I want to be respected by my church members, but just people just in general. That's what a man desires
But you know what you're not gonna be respected if people find out that you're like watching anime if that's your life
Okay, because people look down on stuff like that
This is this this is for children
All right, what's another thing that caused people to despise the youth a lack of commitment
Okay, when the youth don't commit their lives to a worthy cause they are despised. This is why I like young people today
They like to sleep around and fornicate and do you know the guy wants to be a playa playa?
He wants to have all kinds of girlfriends and stuff. You know that is wicked. It's wrong. It's filthy
It's garbage
You should desire to be with one woman amen
Young people like to do those things and have multiple partners, and they think that's that's an admirable
Attribute, but it's not it just shows that you have a lack of commitment. You're unstable right
It's a filthy attribute actually you know what and by the way
Let me just say this is that the consequence to sleeping around and fornicating and going around with different types of partners
You know that's why you're gonna get STDs. That's what you're gonna get syphilis and gonorrhea and potentially AIDS
At that point it's not fun
It's not fun when you have herpes
This is disgusting why are you talking about that good think think that it's disgusting think that it's filthy know that it's wrong
It's wicked and it's filthy and it's gonna destroy your life that way it deters you from ever doing something such a thing
You know it's not cool
To have multiple girlfriends and sleep around with multiple partners. It's disgusting and it's filthy
There's there's a virus out there called AIDS
There's a virus out there called herpes and gonorrhea and chlamydia
That's not necessarily fun
I
Commit to one spouse amen
Look what the Bible says in Proverbs 5
And look young people have a have a hard time committing to a job
I have a hard time committing to a woman one woman have a hard time committing to anything
You should be characterized by consistency and faithfulness
Look at the Bible says in Proverbs 5 15 drink waters out of thine own cistern and running waters out of thine own well
Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad and rivers of water in the streets
Let them be only thine own and not strangers with thee let thy fountain be blessed and rejoice
with the wife of thy youth
Hey, if you're married and you're young rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Amen
You should be faithful. You should be
Committed to your spouse and look often a person who is not faithful to their spouse. They're just not faithful in any area
Jumping from job to job to job to job. They can't hold anything down. They're not excelling in their personal life because of that. Okay
Go with me if you would to 2nd Timothy chapter 3
2nd Timothy chapter number 3
What's another quality will cause people to despise you be narcissistic
You said what is that
When it's all about you
Right when you're self-absorbed
When every time you walk by a mirror, you're just like
When every time you walk by a car and there's like a window in the car you're just like
You just constantly have to look at yourself in the mirror, right
You're narcissistic, I don't really appreciate that then stop doing it
You
Know when like the mirrors your best friend you're constantly looking at yourself in the mirror constantly look, you know, just
Absorbed with yourself. You're just constantly you're consumed with yourself. You're in love with yourself
Look at the Bible says in 2nd Timothy 3 1 this know also that in the last days perilous time shall come
For men shall be lovers of their own selves
Covetous boasters proud of blasphemers this disobedient to parents
unthankful
Unholy when the youth becomes self-absorbed
Selfish and vain they're despised
Okay
Look folks
This is why I'm not sad and I said it last week and I'll say it again. I'm not sad that Kobe Bryant died
I know a lot of people are offended by that and they're just like how can you say that?
I want to talk to those people and say that he pay your bills
Does he even know who you are
Right that guy made millions off of you
And I'm not saying despise him. I'm not saying we should hate him. You know, I'm not saying that but what I'm saying is this is that
People who are in the sports industry whether UFC or even NBA or whatever these people are self-absorbed
These people are narcissistic. It's all about them
right
It's all about them. It's all about their image
It's all about who they are having the right type of body and you know, it's it's just all about them
You know, that's why followers on Instagram
It's kind of a fallacy, is it?
Because here's the thing is just like you may be able to follow him or follow her and she may even follow you
But that does not mean anything at all
You know what it means it means they click the button
They just click follow, okay
A lot of these people are just self-absorbed and narcissistic
Okay, you know when they have their images everywhere and people are just bowing down to their to their image
This is not a quality that you should have, you know, we should not be lovers of our own selves
We should be lovers of God and a lover of people
Take the take the attention from off ourselves and put it upon others. Okay now look
Don't don't go the other extreme though
Where you just don't take care of yourself at all
Okay, like well, yeah, I mean I like that point on our system. I'm not even gonna shower
I'm not gonna comb my hair. I'm not gonna brush my teeth because I don't really care about my I love others
Okay, then if you really love others then brush your teeth
If you really love others then take a bath then put on deodorant
I don't want deodorant because it has all that toxic. Okay, then do something so you don't smell
Right
Be kind to others by not offending others
with your odor
I'm not it's funny, but it's true
Okay, so there needs to be a balance, you know
Don't don't just come to church or go in public and you just look like you just woke up out of bed
You still got the stuff in your eyes and stuff and like, you know dry saliva on your cheek or whatever
You're just like I don't care about what people think and I'm not self-absorbed, you know
Yeah, but you know, you're still an ambassador for Christ though
Right, you're still representative of Jesus Christ
There needs to be a balance between the two and you know, take the green stuff out of your teeth
You know take the green stuff out of your eyes
You know a mirror is not bad to see if there's any like imperfections
But what people do is they use the mirror to just look at their so-called perfection
Is there to show you like oh man, you got like a booger that you should remove from your face, okay
You know the Bible tells us in 1st Peter chapter 3 verse 3 who's adorning
Let it not be that outward adorning of plaining of the hair and of wearing of gold and a putting on of apparel
But let it be the hidden man of the heart and that which is not corruptible
Even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in a sight of God of great price
All right, let me get on makeup for a little bit. Okay?
Makeup's not bad. You know, my wife wears a little bit of makeup, but some people do it. They just go overboard
I've seen videos
Where like a woman will have like makeup and I know a lot of ladies are gonna get offended at this
You know too bad. Okay, you know they they wear they like they put their face on
And then when they remove the makeup, it's like it's a different person
So
How'd you how'd you do that they literally had my wife was telling me they literally have tutorials and
Ladies, you know what I'm talking about, too
They have tutorials where you can put makeup on to make it seem as though you have like high cheekbones
You guys know what I'm talking about? Although he's like
You know what I'm talking about you can live you can literally change the features of your face
And look like a completely different person
They literally like put like makeup on in such a way where it makes them look thinner and skinnier
But it's just an illusion
It is an illusion
Okay, what's what's important what's important is a meek and quiet spirit
That's what's important
And again, don't take this to the extreme and just be like, you know, okay. Well, I'm just not gonna do anything
I'm gonna just like come to church
I'm just gonna roll out of bed and just come to church or going public like that. I'm not saying that
Okay, what I'm saying is there needs to be a balance
Right now if you like I'm completely against makeup. Amen more prior to you then great
You know, I'm not against that either. What I'm saying is this is the priority should always be on the meek and quiet spirit
Which is what God is concerned with is how are you inwardly?
Okay, you know what kind of person you are on the inside I know that's cliche but it's it's true though
Cuz here's the thing, you know if you marry a woman who?
paints her face on
For an entire life, you know when she's 60
80 you know, it's not gonna help anymore
Just being honest okay, you said what's gonna be important to me who she is on the inside
That's what's gonna be important. I'm not saying looks are not important. Look. I believe my wife is beautiful
You know, I'm very much attracted to my wife
I love the way she looks but you know what as we grow old looks are no longer gonna matter folks
It's gonna be who my wife is on the inside. It's her inward person that matters you understand
So don't be this narcissistic person where you just you just got to look immaculate and you just got a cake on
You know, hey guys don't be so narcissistic do you just become this effeminate little faggot II guy
Don't pluck your eyebrows
You know
Don't pluck your eyebrows. Don't what else what else do guys do that are effeminate? What what shave?
I
Be shaving I shall be weak and be as other men. That's what Samson said man buns. Oh, I
Already got on man bun last week
If you want your eyebrows shaped I got it
I
Some guys are very narcissistic in that manner you go on Instagram and these guys are like super self-absorbed
there
What is that
You
Know where they're just so self-absorbed and they just they just live on social media and taking big
Have you ever been on a grid where it's just nothing but them their face
It's nothing but their face
You know that means they love how they look
And I know Instagram is where we can take pictures of ourselves and our families and stuff or whatever eating food and all that
But some people literally I've gone through grids where it's literally their face the entire time
It's just like do you know no one's hitting the like on this on any of these?
The two likes do you have is is your wife and you or like someone else in you, you know?
Narcissism
Being narcissistic
Can cause you to be despised
Okay, it can come why because people don't like a prideful
narcissistic self-absorbed person
Okay, and again don't carry this on the two extremes just be balanced
You know, hey, well, I believe when you come to church you ought to you ought to bring your Sunday's best
You ought to come. Hey, we're coming to God's house. This is the king's house
You're coming to God's house the king's house dress like you're you know
Like you're gonna meet a king
Jesus Christ
You know, I know if Trump were to come in here you if you were to go before Trump you dress up
Right a bunch of Republican people, you know, if if Trump were coming if Trump said that he was coming to your house
You clean up you wear your best tie your best suit
Forget Trump. What about Jesus?
You know when we come to God's house, this is the most important house that you can attend
We ought to wear our best here. Right and look if your best is like an iron shirt polo
You know with khakis or whatever. Amen
What I'm saying is this is that you should be balanced and you should wear your best if that's what you have
But not at the expense of the inner man. The inner man is the most important one. Okay
All right, let me skip some ones here go with me if you would choose first Corinthians chapter 8
Narcissistic
self-absorbed immature
prideful
Arrogant zeal without knowledge. These are the qualities that will cause you to be despised as a young person. Okay?
How about this being disrespectful towards authority and elders that will cause you to be despised
Or how about this not being teachable?
This will cause you to be despised if you can never be instructed if you can never be corrected or approved
People will despise you
Okay, let me say this some of the older people that can't take correction
It's because they couldn't take correction when they were younger and they built that habit of always being right never being wrong
You can't tell me that I didn't I never do anything wrong. Like you're arrogant. You're prideful. You're puffed up
You don't know what you're talking about. You're not teachable
Okay, and look if you want to succeed in our church
If you ever want to be sent out of our church or even be a team leader, which is a lofty position
You need to be teachable
You know what? That means that means when a team leader tells you you've done wrong take it take it like a man
If he tells you you've done wrong or you didn't do something right don't try to just defend yourself
Just say you know what? I didn't see that before but thank you for telling me that
Take it like a man be a teachable person 1st Corinthians 8 2 says if any man think he that he know with anything
He know with nothing yet as he ought to know
You know the person who thinks he knows and anything or everything doesn't know anything at all
The person who will know a lot of things is the person who's willing to admit. I don't know much
But I'm willing to learn I'm willing to be taught I want to learn teach me be a teachable type of a person. Okay
I'm out of time
Let me see here go to Proverbs 14 Proverbs 14
I was gonna talk about the lack of initiative can cause you to be despised when you're apathetic
When you just don't take responsibility a lack of experience
When you when the youth disregard counsel of those who have been around the block you are despised
You know you think of David when he was about to fight Goliath
He went to Saul and you know what it's all say you're buddy youth and what did what did David say?
Yeah, but I killed a lion and a bear
He said well isn't that being prideful no because when he was given armor he said this I cannot go with these four
I've not proved them
So he knew his strengths, and he knew his weaknesses you understand all right. Here's the last one a lack of discretion
Can cause you to be despised what I mean by discretion just not thinking when you talk
Okay, when the youth speak without thinking they're despised
Look at the Bible says in Proverbs 14 29. He that is slow to wrath is of great understanding, but he that is hasty of spirit
exalted folly
Whoa
What does it mean to be hasty and spear you just blurt out? Whatever just comes to mind you just let it fly
You know what the Bible says you're not exalting Christ. You're acting you're actually exalting your own foolishness
When you just blurt out everything that comes to mind what you actually show is that you're an idiot oh?
You shouldn't call people in church idiots. This is what the Bible says
You know why because it takes wisdom to filter what you're going to say
You don't just blurt everything out if you have something to say think about it for a while and say man. Is this stupid
Is this gonna make me look stupid is this gonna cause people to despise me as a youth
Yes, I'll say it anyways
Then you're really stupid
But if you're like yeah, I think that's gonna cause you know
Then and you don't say it that you know what you're a wise person
Because a wise person holds it in until afterwards and look sometimes things need to be said amen
Sometimes the truth needs to be told and it's the perfect timing or maybe it's not the perfect time excuse me
The truth needs to be told and it's not the perfect timing you wait until afterwards
maybe you're ticked off and
You need to say the truth
But you're too mad and you're gonna say it in a way that's gonna cause your brother to be offended and his
Contensions are gonna be like the bars of a castle the Bible says maybe that's not the right time to say it
Maybe you need to wait a little bit. Okay, look at Proverbs 29 verse 20
I'm gonna reach you from Ecclesiastes 7 verse 9 be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry for anger rested in the bosom of
Fools, you know a guy who is soon angry is a foolish man. A
Guy who can't control his temper is a foolish person the Bible says
He that hath no rule over his own spirits like a city that is broken down and without walls
He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty and he that rule at the spear than he that taketh the city
You know why cuz he's able to control his emotions
You know, you said well you're getting here right now. Yeah, cuz I planned it. I
Plan to get angry, but you know if you have a short fuse
And you just can't control your temper and you just get mad at the drop of a hat when someone corrects you. You're a fool
You're a foolish person. You need to make you need to rule yourself
Okay, in fact, I would say this you're just an emotional person you've consumed far too much soy
Yeah
You know, we need to be meek which is strength that under control
Okay, look at Proverbs 29 20 see us thou a man that is hasty in his words
There is more hope of a fool than of him. Oh, man. I made a mistake then
Cuz I said you're a fool if you're hasty in spirit actually the Bible says a fool actually has more hope than you do
Ouch
So here's the thing young guys
You know before you decide to tell a joke
Before you decide to blurt out a statement think about what you're gonna say before you do it
Well, I'll just pick up the scraps afterwards if I mess up no
No, and look let me say this, you know, especially if you're looking for a spouse
Be the type of person that is able to filter what you're saying
In your mind before you actually blur it out because if you don't you will be despised and look here's the worst place to be
When you think you're not being despised
No, I don't love me
Everyone thinks I'm great. That's the worst place to be
Everyone thinks i'm great
That's the worst place to be
So analyze yourselves evaluate yourselves young people and think man
Do I have any of these qualities in my personal life and look i'll be the first one to say this when I was young
I had many of these qualities
I struggled with many of these things
Okay
there
prideful zeal without knowledge no discretion
Because this is just something that's common amongst young people
But here's the thing. You don't want to remain that way
The 50 year old who's still into anime
That's the only thing I didn't have actually
I wasn't into anime. Okay
But the 50 year old is still into anime the 50 year old who is still angry and wrathful the the 50 year old who?
Still doesn't have discretion. He never fixed it when he was young. He never fixed it in his 20s
He never fixed it in his teens. Okay. So what's the message today? The message is simply this grow up
Amen
Grow up and if this list was too long for you
Then just pick one that you can work on for now. Amen
Inspire heads on our board of prayer father. We thank you so much for your word
And thank you for the example of the bible. Thank you for examples in our living examples that we have in our personal lives
who exemplified manhood
exemplified what it is to be a responsible person
And inspired us to be the same. I pray god that you'd help us lord to
Be people lord whether young or old
They would not exert any of these qualities help us to
Be humble to have a zeal that's according to knowledge to continue to grow in grace and in the knowledge of our lord and savior
Jesus christ to be discreet with our words lord
and to understand that
Our actions have consequences and I pray god that you'd help us help our young people
Thank you so much for all the young people who are here today
I love all our young people and I feel they got a bright future ahead of them
But these are some things that will tighten up the screws and and help them to become
Better christians and more honoring unto you and in jesus name we pray. Amen