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We are in first Timothy chapter number five in verse number seven where the Bible reads here and these things give in charge that they
May be blameless, but if any provide not for his own and especially for those of his own house
He had to denied the faith and is worse than an infidel
At the time of my sermon this morning is the infidel. Okay, the infidel not so term that
I think the world has thrown around a whole lot meaning like someone who says it someone who's a traitor
Or something to that extent but really if you look at the biblical definition of what a infidel is it's simply an unbeliever
Okay in first Timothy chapter 5 we see specific
Instructions for how to deal with widows and a widow simply someone a woman who basically has lost her husband
okay, and of course a
it just slipped my mind a male widow is a
Someone tell me
Widow work, right? Is that correct? But specifically this is referring to a woman who has lost her husband
Okay, and it has not remarried now
it gives specific requirements for what type of widow should be cared for and look this is important because as
I mentioned on Thursday, sometimes people come to church and they see churches at what as an ATM
All right
they come to church and they want to basically just leech off of the peak God's people and just take advantage and
Off of compassionate people who are willing to help people out
But you know what? The Bible specifically tells us that we're not to do that
We're not just supposed to give our resources to just whomever comes through the walls of these doors
You know, there's people who have come here and they're drunks. I mean just before the service
There's a guy who was outside with the ticket
Okay, come on my beard about this big wanting to come to church and it's like no you can't come in here
We don't allow drunkards in the church
Okay. Oh, you're not compassionate enough. No, you need to start reading the Bible and see what God says about these things
This is not an ATM
People don't can't just come in here and ask for money and we just dish it out. Like it's nothing
No, there's requirements for these things
There's a requirement for it to be able to help God's people in God's house
Now look if they're saved they're down in their luck if they come to church
Guess what we can help those people if they truly want help
Okay, look God's people are so compassionate that they're willing to help someone out like that
But other people just come in and they just want to say that they're Christians and they want to say that they're believers
But they're not they just want some money for their crack
They just want some money for their for their for their drinking problem that they have. We're not helping people like that
The guy who was here is just like Jesus is Lord. This is like, all right
Well, glad you noticed that but you can't come to can't come in here
Yeah, I was like you're drunk
He's like, I'm not drunk and as he's saying that the alcohol is just reeking out of his breath
You know, we can't just help it
The Bible says in Proverbs 29 verse 7 you have to turn to the righteous consider it the cause of the poor
But the wicked regardeth not to know it
Do you know what that tells me that tells me that churches that have Christians that just accept anyone in the church and just financially
Help anyone they're wicked
Because it says the wicked regardeth not to know it's just like yeah, go ahead come in if you're drunk
You're an adulterer you you do whatever. Yeah, come in
We would just give you any kind of money you want. No, the Bible says that the righteous will consider the cause of the poor
Why are you poor? Why do you need money? Why are you down on your luck? Well, I thought this was church
Yeah, that's why I'm asking you these questions
Because biblically that's what's supposed to be done. Okay
God did designate local churches to care for widows though in their assembly
All right, go to Acts chapter 6 hold your place there in 1st Timothy chapter 5 and go to Acts chapter 6
The
Bible says here verse number one in those days when the number of the disciples was multiplied there arose a murmuring of the Grecians against
The Hebrews because their widows were neglected in the daily ministration
Then the twelve called the multitude of the disciples unto them and said it is not
Reason that we should leave the Word of God and serve tables
Wherefore brethren look ye out among you seven men of honest report full of the Holy Ghost and wisdom
Who you may appoint over this business
But we will give ourselves continually to prayer and to the ministry of the word
so we see the issue that was taking place here was that widows were being neglected in the assembly and
We don't have this problem
But we see that this is when deacons are start to get ordained to help out with the daily administration of the widows
We don't have this problem because their church is not big enough for that. You know as our church grows guess what?
We're gonna have widows
We're gonna have different people from different walks of life that are that you know have succumbed to whatever situations
Hardships and whatnot, but we don't have that today they did so at this point because it's grown so much
They need help with the daily administration of the widows who are found within their assembly now go back to 1st Timothy chapter 5
And look with that thought in mind look at verse 3. It says honor widows that are widows indeed
So when the Bible says to honor it's referring to helping them with the with resources with money with food
Etc it says honor widows, but look what it says that are widows indeed
That means that are real widows you say someone would actually come and act like they're a widow
Absolutely, there's some money-grubbing people out there
In fact, there's a story of someone who claimed to have had a husband that died in the towers on 9-11
And she created this entire story of how he died and and and they started like a GoFundMe type of a thing
And they give her all kinds of money and thousands of dollars to help her it turns out she wasn't even married
She never had a husband. He never died. That's a wicked person
But it exists there's people like that and they try to take advantage of God's people
Compassionate people that's why it's important to be compassionate, but we have to have some smarts. Okay, you got to have some discernment
All right, how you deal with people says honor widows that are widows indeed
But if any widow have children or nephews
Let them learn first to show piety at home and to requit their parents for that is good and acceptable before
God so it's saying here because people have different interpretations of verse 4 and
Often what people will say well is well, you know, if if someone's a widow and they have children or nephews
This is what I believe is referring to at that children and nephews and when I think what it's referring to is adult children and nephews
Okay, let them learn first to show piety of home
That's referring to the children and nephews and to requite their parents for that is good and acceptable before God
So if me as a as a as an adult if my mother who is married and my father passes away
Guess what? I'm supposed to take care of my mom. I'm responsible for my mother
I'm responsible to take care of her until whenever she needs that's my responsibility
Why because it says requit their parents for that is good and acceptable before God that means repay them
Repay them for all the food
They've ever given you in the clothing that they've ever provided for you and be kind to them and take care of them
But there's another interpretation. I'm not necessarily against this. It's basically saying if there's a widow
Who passes away and we'll see later on that's under 60
She needs to go back home to her parents so that her parents can take care of her
Okay, and I'm not against either or I think both of them are right
Both of them are biblical and look at what it says in verse 5 now
She that is a widow indeed and desolate trusted in God and continueth in supplications and prayers night and day
But she that liveth in pleasure is dead while she liveth
So nowhere does it say that someone who is a widow just is taking care of the church no matter what age there are
No, it's saying there
Hey
If they maintain good works if they've helped the poor if they have a good rapport before the church guess what then the church should
Be able to take care of them if need be
But if they have children and nephews who are adults the children nephews ought to take care of that person
Okay, that's a bit of you see this concept of these
Retired not retirement homes, but these homes where they just put their parents in that's not biblical
In fact, that's evil to do something like that to your parent
No one should ever try to put their mom or dad into a retirement home with a bunch of you know
Older people where they just are just left there and forgotten about that's wicked and evil
We ought to have the desire to take care of our mothers and fathers those who have grown old
Those who are no longer able to take care of themselves
We need to make sure that we take the responsibility to take care of them not just leave them somewhere
But we live in a society that just abhors parents
That just hates them and just like drop them off at some home
And by the way, most of those places they abuse the people who are there you don't take care of them
They hate it there. You know, my mom is
73 years old. Okay, and she lives by herself and she's kind of just this
Type of well, she's really strong-willed. Okay, she's worked her whole life
She never got married my father left long ago, you know after I was born or excuse me
It's shortly thereafter after I was born and she's just always worked now. I'm not for my mom working
Okay, I'm not for any woman working and we'll get to that in just a little bit. Okay, I'm completely against that
Our church is completely against that
Okay, but my mom works and she's always had to work to pay the bills and to be quite frank with you
I'm kind of thankful that she still works
Even though I'm against in the sense of as far as the roles are concerned because it's keeping her alive
In fact, she thrives thrives off of work and that's why she's able to be so mobile
She's the only 73 year old lady that I know that drives an f-150 truck
She loads her own furniture
You know, she's making deals and all these things and I
Mean my mom don't mess around she makes she pays them
She pays her own bills and I always tell her mom if you need help tell me if something ever happens
Just come live with me, you know, she's like, oh, I'm fine. You know, she goes I want to help you
I'm like, no, I'm like if anything ever happens and you feel like you can't make it or something like that
Just come live with me. You could live with me as long as you want
Okay
Until whenever you're welcome
You're always welcome to come in my house because my mom took care of me since I was a little child
You know since I was a baby she she put food on the table
She took care of me, but she has his attitude
It was like no, I'm just gonna take care of myself and that's good to a certain extent because you know
She's older and typically people who are in her age. They can't do the things that she's doing
You know lifting up dressers and just throwing them on the truck and stuff like that and unloading them
But she does it, you know, but you know one thing I never want to do to my mom
I never want to stick her in some
Retirement home, you know because at that point she's gonna begin to decay and eventually she'll die
Okay, she thrives off of work and I'm not for necessarily her working
But I'm talking about for her age look at verse number nine
It says let not a widow be taken into the number under three score years old having been the wife of one man
So now it's instructing the church here
And it's saying look if you're gonna take care of a widow
You got to make sure that she is under three score years old a score is 20
So three score is 60 years old. Okay, that's what that means under three score having been the wife of one man
Well, well reported for good works
So she needs to be someone who's doing good works
And if she have brought up children if she have lodged strangers if she have washed the Saints feet if she have relieved the afflicted
If she have diligently followed every good work, so it's not just any widow
It's someone who has a good report of the people who are within the church
They see that she's done these things take her in we can take care of her. Okay, I
Verse11 says but the younger widows refuse
It says if they're young under three score years old if they're younger we need to refuse them
Why for when they will have begun to wax wanton against Christ
They will marry having damnation because they have cast off their first faith
So this is what happens
When there is a young widow or let me say this just a young girl in general who has no authority over her life
Okay, it says here and with all they learn to be what idol
wandering about from house to house
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Not only I know but toddlers
Let me let me explain what a toddler is it's a gossiper in Spanish is that she's Mosa
But
Tattlers also in busybodies speaking things which they ought not to okay, which are not I will therefore that the younger women marry
bare children bare children bare children and more children
Guide the house given an occasion of the atmosphere to speak reproachfully for some are already turned aside after
Satan so God says if there is a woman who is a widow and she's under three score
Right and or just the young woman in general, you know, what God's will is for that young lady is to get married
To have children and guide the house
None of this feminazi junk do you see out there in the world today?
Okay, or it's just like well, you just do your own thing
You're your own person if you get a boyfriend get married. It's 50 50 50 50 nothing
The Bible says for that person to get married and to bear children
That is the greatest role for a woman to have
Okay, and don't let society and dr. Phil and Oprah Winfrey
Tell you what you ought to be when you grow up
You know how you got to be a business woman and own
You know your own possessions and make sure you take care of yourself and don't let no man tell you what to do
She's wicked as hell. Stop turn off open Winfrey
She don't know what she's talking about
And I don't care if we're in 2018 or what year we in the Bible says that this is the role of a woman
look if any woman box at this
Then you know what you're you're you're not reading the Bible
This is what the Bible says
Okay, that's a biblical concept. I understand there's there's there's different circumstances and situations
But generally speaking this is what a young woman ought to do
Hey young ladies, you have to desire to get married get married soon
You know, that's a great great position
That's a great role to fulfill you will be fulfilled if you if you get married and if you have children and and and be
A keeper of the home. That's what God's will is for you
In fact, if you don't then you will be idle
You'll be a chismosa a tattler and you'll turn aside after Satan according to the Bible
So in order for you to be protected of these things
You have to get married have children guide the house
That's God's role for you
Okay, don't don't give me the look. All right, you know, you don't know my situation, you know
I'm not saying I don't care about your situation, but I care what God says
Okay, that's what God says and if you are reading something differently they come show me after the church
But you're not gonna find something different because we just read it. That's what it says
now
Go to 1st Timothy chapter 2 look what the Bible says in verse 13 of 1st Timothy chapter 2
For Adam was first formed then Eve and Adam was not deceived but the woman being deceived was in the transgression
Notwithstanding she shall be saved say from what from turning the side after Satan as we saw in chapter 5
She shall be saved in childbearing if they continue in faith and charity holiness with sobriety
Hey, you want Satan if you don't want Satan to come and eat you up alive
Turn you into a chismosa and all those other things that we read
You know what you need to do? You need to get married and have children guide the house
That's the best life
For a woman. Okay. I don't care what anybody says
I don't care what YouTube comments they put and you know, you're a chauvinist pig pigs are females
Call me a hog if you want
That's what that's biblical
Okay, now go back to chapter 5 verse 16
It says if any woman man or woman that believeth half widows
Let them relieve them and let not the church be charged that it may relieve them that are widows indeed
So it's another word to say look if there is if you
Have a widow in your family. You should be the one taking care of them
But if that's not the case, then we will relieve them. Okay, who are widows indeed is what he's saying there
Alright now look at verse number seven
It says these things given charge that they may be blameless
But if any provide not for his own especially for those of his own house
He had the night of faith that is worse than an infidel now
You know people have taken that verse to say well, you know that see you could lose your salvation. I've had people tell me that
First of all, you don't provide for your family to get saved
Okay, you say well you denied the faith
That's not what it's talking about because you don't get saved nowhere in the Bible
We say where you see the verse that says, you know
If you provide for if thou shalt provide for that family thou shalt be saved
Okay
What is this referring to go to first Timothy chapter 1?
Look at verse number 3
Says and I besought thee to abide still at Ephesus when I went into Macedonia
That thou mightest charge some that they teach nor the doctrine neither give heed to fables and endless genealogies
Which minister questions rather than godly edifying which is in faith
So do now the end of the commandment is charity out of a pure heart and of a good conscience and of faith
Unfamed unfamed means this just without hypocrisy
So someone who does not provide for his own family. Guess what the Bible says that you are you've denied the faith, which means you're a hypocrite
Because you're claiming to adhere to a Bible that actually teaches us to work and to provide for your own family
And if that's something that you're propagating, but you're not living guess what you are a hypocrite
You've denied the faith according to the Bible
Okay, look at first Timothy chapter number three in verse number eight in reference to the Deacons
It says here in verse number eight
Likewise must the Deacons be grave not double-tongued not given too much wine not greedy a filthy lucre
Holding the mystery of the faith in a pure conscience. That means without hypocrisy
See someone who has a clear conscience has not violated their conscience in other words
No that they're supposed to be doing something and they don't do it that violates your conscience
Well someone who provides for his own house
Guess what? They're not buying to have a pure conscience because they're taking care of the responsibilities their roles in life now
Go back to chapter 5
I'll read to you from first Timothy 6 10 says for the love of money is the root of all evil
Which while some coveted after they have erred from the faith and pierced themselves through with many sorrows and that's really the the the point
Of this is that people who don't provide for their families have erred from the faith
Now this may be something you just don't know but guess what today this morning, you'll know
Right, you won't be able to leave here and say I have no idea what he's talking about, you know
I think I need to study the matter out more
You won't have to do that
I think it's gonna be very clear at the end of this
Okay
Chapter 5 verse 7 says or excuse me verse 8 will read it against us
But if any provide not for his own especially for those of his own house
He had the night of faith and is worse than an infidel now that word infidel is only found twice in the entire Bible
But the synonym of infidel is found multiple times throughout the Bible
But the word infidel the actual word is only found twice in a New Testament go to 2nd Corinthians chapter 6
2nd Corinthians chapter 6 will actually define for us what an infidel is. Okay
Now in 1st Corinthians 6 the latter part
the main concept or the thrust of that chapter is to be separate saith the Lord and
Touch not the unclean thing and I will receive you the Bible says so the Bible is teaching us about separation
Which is a biblical concept to be separated from the world separated from those who are not saved
Separated separated unto God. Okay. Now the question is this
How do you how do you live a separated life? Well, it tells us in verse number 14 be not unequally yoked together
with
Unbelievers, okay. Now, what does it mean to be yoked? It's not talking about like an egg yolk
Okay, it's like don't share scrambled eggs with unbelievers or something, right a yolk is a device that they would place around the necks of
Two beasts and they would work together for a common cause is what it is. Okay, that's what it's referring to now
And it's telling us here just as the beast is, you know
Yoked together with another beast for work to work for a common cause you shouldn't be that way with people who don't believe
People who are not Christians
Let me put it to you. Let me put the cookie on the bottom shelf your best friend shouldn't be in some unsafe person
Your closest buddies are not to be those who are not believers
Because what commonality do you have with someone who's just not saved nothing and God is telling us
If you're gonna live a separated life
You want not to be rubbing shoulders with unsaved people and I'm not talking about, you know
Your friend who's unsaved who you're trying to win to Christ
Okay, but you know what after a couple years
If you haven't won up to Christ you need to move on
Yeah, I just love them so much
But you know what?
They're gonna end up influencing you and causing you to slip causing you to be worldly and carnal and disobedient to God
So rather than you know, trying to please your friend or help your friend
Why don't you please God and the Bible tells us that when a man's ways please the Lord
He maketh even his enemies to be at peace with them, you know, and you know some of you just got to drop your old friends
You know, why do you have to hang around with them all the time?
Well, I just want to see if they watch after the tribulation
Give them the DVD and if they have any questions, they'll let you know
And here you said well, what am I supposed to do? I don't have any friends. What about these people here?
What about me?
Can I be your friend
You know, we need friends in church
Christians need to be our friends. I
Don't like the people at church then you got issues then you're too worldly is what it is then
Okay, because save people you ought to be able to get along with safe people not all say people
I understand some people say people are just like wicked and also I'm talking about safe people who love the Lord
They love the Bible. They love the things of God
You ought to have commonality with them and that just be around if you're always comfortable around unsafe people you got problems
You need to get right with God
You know, well, this is my best friend since we grew up, you know, we were both in diapers together or whatever
I don't care. God doesn't care about that
You know, they don't have the Holy Spirit of God living within them
You you should love them to the point where you want to win them to Christ
But if they reject that you need to move on I had friends for years before I got saved
But once I got saved I dropped all of them because they're bad friends
Okay, and what I did this is this you could take this or leave it
But this is what I did to get rid of my friends. Okay. Number one. I went to church
That's a good start and I went to church consistently
Okay, so that means if my friends wanted to see me guess where they have to go church
Pretty simple second thing I did was I deleted all their phone numbers off my phone
So that so that I can't call them. Okay. Here's the third thing and this is extreme, but it helped me
I got a new number
So they in case you know, I was discouraged or I was down in the dumps and you know
And Satan can just you know, speak to my friends and say hey call Bruce, you know
They couldn't get a hold of me and I couldn't get a hold of them
So I come I cut all ties with my you're a cultish no be separate
Sayeth the Lord and look if they really wanted to get a hold of me
Just come church
And I'll tell me if you ever look for me third Thursdays and Sundays. I'm in church
Here's the address you guys but you know what? They're not real friends because they never even came
They never came so and most of those friends are not worth having anyways
You know, they're they're they're drunkers or they smoke pot or they're you know, revilers, whatever it is
You don't want to be around those people because you know a companion of fools will be destroyed
Okay, you need to get some good godly friends in church start meeting people and look be social in church
Don't just come here to go sowing or just here preaching and just like you're out make some friends
At church get to know people
Say hi
What's your name?
You know stuff like that
You know, what do you do for a living where do you live, you know interrogate people
Well, I'm saying just get to know them make some friends here and look the people here are great
We're not weird or anything that we're not like, you know weirdos, but some aren't I'm just kidding
But for the most part look, this is where your friends should be, you know, it's not a social club
But this is where our social atmosphere takes place. Is it the church?
Okay, but it says there that we all not to be yoked together with unbelievers
So that's in start conscious where we see in Matthew 11 where Jesus says take my yoke upon you
You see a yoke is a device you used to work, right?
We're got Jesus says take my yoke upon you for my burden is light
We ought to Center our lives around working for the Lord and in between working is what we do. We fellowship one with another
So don't think that when we went to Santa Maria, they're just like so winning so winning
We're just gonna go so winning no rest. No, nothing. No, we had a blast
We a we played catchphrase
We got a little crazy playing catchphrase a little bit a little a little bit of yelling playing catchphrase
You know, we fellowship we laughed
Then we went soul-winning and after that we had tacos
And look pastor Anderson said it and he said it best. The fellowship is just as important as a soul-winning
Cuz we hang out with each other talk laugh poke fun at each other, you know, have a good time that's important
Cuz it's not just I'm here. I know I'm here to do so any brother
Okay, then go do so winning while we fellowship then if you want to be a party Cooper
I'm all for sowing but you need to make some friends. Okay?
Look what it goes on to say
So by the way, so, you know you can either work
For the Lord take that yoke upon you which is a great yoke
The burden is light or you can be involved in the unfruitful works of darkness
The Bible says, you know have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them
You know if you're like, oh, but I just miss my friends, you know
We're start reproving them and you start detesting the things that they do
Okay
Look what it goes on to say it says in verse number 14 be naive unequally yoked together with unbelievers for what fellowship has
Righteousness with unrighteousness and what communion hath light with darkness and what Concord hath Christ with Belial or what part has he that believeth?
with an infidel
so the opposite of a believer is what an infidel which means an
Unbeliever. Okay, so it gives us the contrast of the two and it says what agreement hath the temple of God with idols, etc
So
That's what an infidel is. Okay, an infidel is simply an unbeliever now go back to first current first Timothy chapter 5
So with that in mind that's what he's telling us
He's talking about an unbeliever. It's not like some godless person. It's not a reprobate is what I'm saying
Okay, an infidel is simply an unbeliever. So what should be our attitude towards the unbelievers?
Number one we should desire to win them to Christ
Okay, so we shouldn't we shouldn't have this Amish mentality, right?
Where it's just like us for no more, you know, no one's welcome in the sense
You know, no one's welcome to Christ and everyone's ungodly, you know, except for us. No, we ought to love the infidel
Okay, not like the Muslims who want to kill the infidel
You know Christians want to win the infidel to the Lord
Christians want to see them saved Christians want to see
People come to Christ and when they get saved they get right with God and start reading the Bible
They start praying start learning how to how to do soul winning and cleaning up their life
That's what we want for the infidel and once they get saved
They're no longer an infidel, but they're a fellow citizen according to the Bible according to Ephesians chapter 2
but the Bible says in Luke 12 verse 46 the Lord of that servant will come in the day when you look at not for
Him and an hour when he is not aware and will cut him in sunder and will appoint him his portion with the unbelievers
You see unbelievers are going to hell
Unbelievers are gonna have their portion their part in the lake of fire which burneth with fire and brimstone, right?
So therefore we ought to love the infidel. Okay, not just look down upon them and just fight with every single person
There's people out here. Look, this is a guy who came on Thursday, right?
he came and he sat down and
He looked like he was just not all there
We get people the benefit of that and Paul began to witness to him sort of brother Paulides
But he just wasn't having it
He just kind of wanted to be a nuisance and he didn't want to leave like they're asking
All right, I think it's time for you to go and he's just like wasn't moving now
Here's the cool thing about our church. We got a lot of men here who know how to fight
We're not trying to fight but they got
Boxers we got boxers. We got jiu-jitsu specialist purple belt blue belts all these things
And so as soon as we find out he want to leave we just all kind of surrounding him
He looked at us and said, okay, I think it's time for me to go
And he got up and walked out
Fire station. Oh
Yeah, he was gonna go to the fire station
He came back if you guys heard someone banging on the window. That was him earlier today
Okay, but here's the thing is people like that, you know, we're not gonna tolerate that but you know
Not every person is like that idiot
When we go on so many not every person is gonna be like that fool out there
Banging on the windows and talking all kinds of crap. Okay. Most people are just they're lost
They're on the way to hell though, you know, and we want to give them the gospel so they can be saved
The Bible says in 1st Corinthians 14 23 if therefore the whole
Church be come together into one place and all speak with tongues and there come in those that are unlearned or unbelievers
Will they not say that ye are mad?
But if all prophesying there come in one that believeth not or unlearned he is convinced of all he is judged of all and thus
Are the secrets of his heart made manifest and so falling down on his face
And so falling down on his face he will worship God and report that God is in you of a truth
So the Bible tells us that man we ought to win these unbelievers. Okay, these people are not saved now
What's another thing that we need to do with the with the infidel?
We should strive to not be worse than them
You guys got that
Because in 1st Timothy chapter 5 it says he had denied the faith and is an infidel
Does it say that no, it says you're worse than an infidel
That's harsh
He's like you're worse than an unbeliever and look there's Christians who act worse
Than unbelievers. That's not biblical read 1st Corinthians chapter 5
How fornication was commonly reported not so much as even named among the Gentiles
These are saved people who are involved in fornication that wasn't even named amongst saved people
I've met some people that they just live a wicked life
And you look at examples in the Bible you see that all over
You know David who's a man after God's own heart
You know acting like a mafioso and killing off Uriah
Committing adultery
Doing all kinds of wicked stuff, but he saved
But sometimes save people do worse and you say well, why is it saying?
That he's worse than an infidel because you know what infidels even infidels provide for their own families
Even unsaved people who are not believers know how to work hard
Even unsaved people who are not saved. They don't even have the Bible
Know that it's right to provide for your wife for your children and to help your family
With any kind of resources that they need they don't need God for that. Did you know that?
Now luckily we have the Bible that reinforces that and teaches us why we should do those things
But you know, I mean if you don't believe me look at your average
Mexican household
Okay, the average Mexican household the dad. I mean this guy comes from Mexico
No papers starts his own business and pays for like a house he paid he provides for the whole household
He makes sure he puts food on the table because that's just what he was taught
How to do the Bible is not needed for that. Just common sense is needed for that
But you know now that we're saved we have the Bible to teach us. That's what we need to do
Okay, because that's right to do and if we don't do it
We have denied the faith and we're worse than the unbelievers who actually provide for their own household
You see it's hypocritical for us to come and say, you know, we have the Bible King James always it
But you're not fulfilling the things that the King James Bible tells you to do
You're worse than an infidel
according to the Bible
Okay
The Bible says in Ephesians 4 verse 17 this I say therefore and testifying the Lord they henceforth walk not as other
Gentiles walk in the vanity of their mind that goes to show us that someone who's saved has the potential to walk as other Gentiles
Walk and that's in reference to saved and unsaved
Okay, and we ought to have to go to say man. I don't want to act like some unsaved person who doesn't have the Bible
You know, we have the Word of God. We have the Holy Spirit of God living within us. We have hard preaching
Instructions things that will teach us, you know to whomsoever much is given of him shall be much required
So if you we have all these resources, we have no excuse as to why we're not fulfilling our roles in our in our personal lives
so
Let's see here
Now go to Titus chapter 2
Titus chapter 2
I'll read to you from 2nd Corinthians 12 14 says behold the third time
I am ready to come to you
Now will not be burdensome to you for I will seek not yours but you for the children ought not to lay up for the parents
But the parents for the children, so the Bible tells us over and over again parents ought to take care of their children
They ought to provide for their children and so on and so forth. Look at Titus 2 verse 1
It says here but speak thou the things which become sound doctrine that the aged men be sober grave temperate sound in faith and charity
And patience the aged women likewise that they be in behavior has become its holiness not false accusers not given too much wine
teachers of good things
That they may teach the young women to be sober to love their husbands to love their children to be discreet
Chase
Keepers at home good obedient to their own husbands that the Word of God be not blasphemed now. I
Don't have Facebook and I'm always tempted to get Facebook and then when I ask someone
Hey, should I get Facebook every single person who tells me they said don't do it
Don't get it. I'm like, really? Are you sure you'd they're like it's drama and I'm not just talking about in our church
I've been to multiple churches where they say just don't do it
It's just drama and I don't like drama
So I just don't do it. So I just get the drama from you guys when you guys hear about it
They're like, yeah on Facebook those screenshots something they'll send it to me and then I'm reminded wow
There there is a lot of drama Facebook
Now social media is a blessing. It could be it's a huge blessing because we could use it to our advantage
But someone who is idle a tattler
That's grounds for someone who just they just wax worse on Facebook
You know and you can't tell me who's someone who's constantly on Facebook
Constantly commenting constantly giving their opinion. You can't tell me that they're discreet chasing keepers at home
You know why because a woman who stays home is busy
Especially if they have children
Diapers keep you busy
Cleaning the house keeps you busy. You don't have time. I have a hard time
Just getting my wife to answer text messages from me
And she's like sorry, I didn't see my phone
Bruce made a mess and Kyla pooped on herself and all these is like all these things take place. She doesn't have time
To just waste time on Facebook or an Instagram, you know, look, I'm not saying that they my wife goes on Instagram
But that's not her life
Some people that's her life. They are the ordained ordained to the ministry of Facebook
That's her life. Amen
It's true
You know, we need to get back to biblical Christianity where hey we teach the younger women to be keepers at home
Okay, and look keepers at home means that's your home is is is your project
Okay, taking care of your children teaching them. Look people are like, oh, I don't think I could ever homeschool
Well, you know if you turn off the stinkin Facebook and pick up a book on how to homeschool, maybe you could I
I
Just don't think I can teach. Well, yeah because you're always on social media and you're using autocorrect all the time
That's why you can't spell
That's why you're having a hard time teaching your kids those things
You know, we can do a lot if we get rid of a lot
You see what I'm saying?
So it's just I just can't well you can't because you don't want to because you want to hold on to whatever X Y & Z
That's why
Ladies need to be keepers at home and I will always stick to that. I will always teach that I will always preach that
Doesn't matter who comes in here what situation you're in
I gotta tell you what the Bible says and if you're not in that situation
Then you know what and you're like, well, I can't do anything about my situation then teach the next generation to be that way
Okay, don't uplift yourself as being someone who's just independent. They got it all together outside of God's order
Don't bring that into our church
You make sure you tell the younger people the younger ladies hey, you should be a keeper at home
That's the best life for you. I love the fact that dr. Rita tells every single lady that
She tells everything she even I don't think she minds that I say this
She'll tell them don't make the same mistake that I made
She'll tell them that
You know, so there's credibility behind those words right there
She goes you need to be a keeper at home be a wife bear children. Don't make the same mistake that I made
So I'm not just talking out my neck here this is fact because it's the Bible but I haven't met people who have said that as
Well, dr. Reed is a perfect example of that
Okay now
The Bible tells us that a man ought to provide for his own household. Okay, not a 50-50 not a woman working
No, it's just well, we got so many bills to pay. This is what you need to do. Okay?
If there's all kinds of bills to pay you need to get rid of some stuff
How about getting rid of your cable TV, that's right
How about lowering your standard of living
Because that's why your wife's working
Alright because of the standard of living now
Let me give you my personal testimony. Okay?
My wife used to work. Oh
Yeah
So I'm speaking from experience here. My wife used to work at church
Before we got married and after we got married, okay, I
Used to work for the church now. I
Got paid very poorly
At the church that I had that I came from. I mean below
minimum wage
Like really below minimum wage for years. Okay
But I remember when I was coming across these concepts and principles. I
Could not justify my wife continuing to work and I said you need to stay home. You're not gonna be working anymore
And he's just like well, how are we gonna make it? It's like well, you know
We'll figure it out
Because better is a dinner of herbs where love is then a stalled ox and trouble therewith
You know
So we'll figure it out with my my below minimum wage paycheck
We'll figure it out and we figured it out. She stayed home. She was not I said, I want you to raise my son
I want you to teach him. I want you to homeschool him and
And you know, we're just we're gonna go without some of the luxuries of life
But see here's the thing some people don't want to go without
the luxuries of life and
Then you're saying this a lion is in the street a lion is without well, the lion is called cable
The
Lion is called XY and Z possessions that you don't want to let go of
Okay. Now look, this is our truth, but we need to talk about this
This is fact
Okay
And you need to hear this because if not, I'm not a good pastor and I'm not a good preacher if I'm not telling you
That this is what God requires of you
Get rid of the lion
There is look if we walk out there's there's a possibility
That there will be a lion in the streets when I walk out right now. There is a possibility
I mean, is it impossible? No, it's not impossible. There's a possibility
But should I stay inside because of that one in a million possibility that it could be outside?
No
What it is is an excuse is what it is and we need to get rid of excuses
Okay, look
Lower the standard of living and you can make it. I
Made below minimum wage and I took care of my wife and my newborn son
And if I don't know if you knew this but no newborn children they have these thing called diapers
Does anybody know that?
They're expensive
they cost a lot and
aside from them to have a bunch of other stuff that they need because they can't take care of themselves, you know, and
You know
But we did it we made it happen
But you know what? I was the happiest man in the world because my wife stayed home
And look people try to tell me oh, you know, just just let her work for the college
Just look I'm like no
Not working for anything. She's working for me
She's staying home. She's gonna work for me because I'm putting food on the table. So she's gonna work for me, you know and look
This is not in my notes. But look if you have a wife who works in the world, she has two bosses
Just chew on that for a little bit
She has you but she has her other boss as well
And she has to do what her other boss tells her to do
My wife had another boss
Not good
Most of the strain in a marriage comes from that right there
Because there's two bosses and and you can't yeah, but I'm allowing her to work there, you know, I'm telling her
two bosses
You're allowing her to be under a man to tell her what to do
Heck no, I'm not doing that
Have another guy tell my wife what to do
That's crazy
You're crazy didn't call me crazy
You know to have another guy tell my wife what time she could come in what projects to do what time this and that no
No, the biblical role here is that a man puts food on the table and look if you're in that situation
And your wife does not have the faith
You need to step up as a man and say hey i'm gonna take care of you
I will put food on the table. You will never starve
In fact, you will never even go without whatever it is that you want
I will provide that for you
Don't worry about it. If I have to i'll work long hours. I will never miss church
You're asking too much is god asking too much when he says that
You think your responsibilities will conflict if you do that? No, if this is what god wants it's gonna work
You
Know and by the way, look i'm so sick of hearing this of you know, well, you know the cost in california is just so crazy
The cost of california. I just don't know how i'm gonna do it
Okay
Then you're a hypocrite because you go out
And you tell people about the lord and you want them to place their faith in the bible what the bible says about eternal life
And then you turn around say well, but god can't provide for my needs though. Not in california
Only in areas where he can provide, you know, he's a god of the hills but not of the valleys
Kind of thing you're a hypocrite
Cannot god provide
Can't goshan, you know why egypt is just being destroyed
By the plagues goshan was the only place it was flourishing
It was prosperous and not one of the plagues touched that area. You know why because god did that
So it doesn't matter you think god can't say man. Yeah, I can't work in california
I can't provide that's way too much money right there. I got a lot of children
Yeah, I gotta help all my children and you're just gonna have to put up that's garbage
You know if I was able to do it below minimum wage salary in california
Okay with my rinky dinky car
That got sustained for like a long time
He did I that's because i'm not a mechanic at all. Okay, anybody a mechanic in here? Who's a mechanic?
Yeah, amen everyone's on the same board as me right i'm brother perry brother perry he's he's a good mechanic right
You know, i'm not a mechanic god sustained all those things and I just remember thinking I told my wife
I said we're just gonna have to step out in faith
Obey god and even if we're broke doing it. Guess what? At least we have the conscience of knowing we're doing it god's way
So don't be afraid and don't start looking at all the giants in the land
Why don't you be like caleb?
And say no
We can do this. God has given it to us given given the victory already
We can make it happen. Stop looking at all the excuses and all these things make it happen
And look as men we need to make it happen
We need to make sure we said no it's possible we can do it we can we can make it happen if we have to eat
beans and rice
If we have to get a rinky dinky car
That makes noises five miles, you know, five blocks down I had this car where you knew I was coming like two hours ago
Bruce is coming. I can hear him
And it was humbling but guess what at least I was taking care of my family
I was providing for my wife and my children and I can come home and say i'm the king of my household
You know and look
Women were not designed to be in the workforce
I didn't say they weren't designed to work because there's work that women have to do i'm talking about to be in the workforce
Outside to work a secular job. They're not designed it causes a lot of stress
on a woman
You don't believe me talk to dr
Rita she knows all about it causes a lot of stress and much of that stress actually impedes a woman from being able to have children
Children
Is that fact right?
She's not in your head
Why because it's not natural
Okay, we're supposed to take on the stress
We can handle the stress
Even if we have physical ailments, we can always handle stress way better than women can we thrive?
Under stress we need pressure and stress i've been stressed out this whole week, but it's been great
Man I love if there's no life had no stress life would suck it would be like boring
Like nothing to do, you know
No stress is good for us
late nights working
early mornings trying to meet deadlines
Physically tired. It's great
It would be a horrible life without stress
Stress is good, man
You know
So you can handle it and it's typically and let me say stress comes in intervals
I'm talking about intervals as far as seasons is concerned because that was a season for us. We were just struggling, you know
Just but you know what? I can look
And people constantly offer my wife jobs. It's just like she's not working
No
Oh, but you could have so much more money and you can you can do this and you guys can have fun
I can have fun at home
Pull out a board game or something
You know, we can take a walk to the park
We can go hold hands at the beach
We can go have one ice cream together
Look costco
Amen
Hey, we've had many dates at costco
sharing ice cream
You know
perfect
And look learn contentment
You don't need like the most luxurious things to enjoy life
It's sometimes the most simplest things in life that helps us to just enjoy life
And look you better learn that especially if you're thinking of having children
Because once your children grow up they're going to have your appetites
And if you don't teach them to be content with the things that they have the ice cream or whatever it may be
They're going to make your life miserable
I've shared this before my wife used to say that during christmas, you know, my my wife's family the brothers
There's eight of them eight brothers and sisters
You know, and they kept having they didn't believe in birth control
They just kept having children until they couldn't have no more
And they said during christmas the mom would take them to where to toys r us
No to the 99 cent store
And say go get stickers
They're like wow stickers, you know little things that the girls put on their hair or whatever
The you could each get like three five things or whatever and they're just thrilled to death about it
I want that
Because that saves my wallet
And it makes my kids happy
You know, my son bruce doesn't know about a lot of toys and he will never know about certain specific toys
Because what it does he doesn't know won't hurt him, you know, he's content with the box that I bought him or whatever, you know
He just likes, you know certain things and so
You know learn contentment
But you need to fulfill your role in life
Okay, and look in first timothy chapter five
Both of them can give can be given over to satan. Why because they're not in a role
So the woman who's not having children becomes a tattler and is given over to satan because she's not fulfilling her role
The guy who's not providing for his family is worse than an infant. Why because he's not fulfilling his role
Makes sense so in order for us to thrive and be obedient to god
We need to make sure we're fulfilling our role. So when my wife stopped working
You know, it was great because now she can have my meals ready when I would come home
She's not restricted to a strict schedule
You know, she could do whatever she wants at home
She can do whatever she wants. She has way more freedom
Working for me than working for someone else
Way more for the stress is this there's the same amount of stress because of the children
But it's not the same stress as if working in in the field or whatever
You know because she's got a good boss man
I give her you know days off or whatever and
Hook her up
you know
she
Makes her own schedule whatever she wants to do and she says hey, can I get this? I'm like, I always tell her
Get whatever you want
She's like wow, I think we need this. Hey, and I want to buy this and i'm like just get it
Buy whatever you want because I want my wife to know that it's enjoyable to be at home
You know, I want my wife to say I love being a stay-at-home mom
And I want her to teach my daughter kyla
to be the same
I say kyla, it's awesome staying at home and working for your husband. It's great
Now look if this isn't your situation, I don't hate you
You know, i'm not your enemy because I tell you the truth in fact, I love you and that's why i'm telling you
What if I was some weakling pastor?
Who's afraid to offend you some sissy pastor? They don't want to tell you the truth. Come on
You know, you should leave if that was the case
But at least I have the gall and the guts to tell you what the bible says at the risk of offending you
And look churches today they've completely changed on this position
Completely
Even people that i've known they believe it wasn't right for a woman to work in the workforce
Now their wives are working who are pastors
You know now their leaders have have wives that are working in the work in the workforce and they'll say this. Yeah, but I led her
You just gotta say that is what it is
You know because they want all their toys
Okay, so they rather violate the bible violate scripture so they can have their toys
So they can have nice dinners and all these things and all these all these luxuries forget all that
Obey god in the bible and you enjoy the small things and when you get something that's nice, you'll appreciate it a lot more
When you get something luxurious like tri-tip, you know, we appreciated that it was like it was good
You know
You appreciate those things more
But what do we have today pastors who are now compromising on this on this thing right here
Where their wives their pastors and their wives are working
in the workforce
You're a weakling for a pastor if you let your wife do that i'm talking about for pastors
You're a weak leader
And that's not right to teach your people that you should do that because now you get into this whole 50-50 who's in charge then
Well, i'm in charge not from not from nine to five you ain't
You ain't in charge from nine to five you can't call your wife and tell her to come home, can you
That's right
Yeah, she's got another boss at that point
You know and ladies make sure that when you get married you married to a guy who can provide for you
Okay, i'm not saying he has to be like
You know, you have to marry like an ugly guy since like that but you got to make sure that the guy knows how to work
And is going to provide for the family
Okay, he knows how to work. He can keep a job
Keep a job
Able to pay the bills
And get the job done because that's a good expression of love my I tell my wife
You'll never have to worry about anything ever again
You'll never have my kids will never have to worry about I will starve
The affliction will come upon me before I ever let my family ever starve
But look, you know what? That's not gonna happen because god provides for me
And if I obey god in his word, guess what he'll continue to provide for me my mom and look
No one has an excuse why they can't work
So just say that right now
My mom has massive arthritis
Especially during the winter. It's bad
Where just she feels like her bones are just gonna break
Bones are just gonna break
She has pains all all the time
Okay, because she's just getting older as she gets older
You know, the body wax is old and there's just all kinds of pains that she has and but you know what?
She gets up in the morning and she works
She makes it happen and i'm not even saying that's right. I told my mom just come live with this but she refuses to
So if a 73 year old lady
Who can do that
How much more can a young man work
My foot hurts
I got an ingrown toenail
Get a knife get that thing out and go to work
Pain no pain no gain
And thank god for the pains that you have because it shows that you're alive still. Amen
It's like man i'm alive. I got i'm hurting right now. That means i'm alive
Hey, you know better to have some pain than for you to be dead and then knowing who's gonna provide for your family next
You know work learn to love to work don't be lazy work find a job
Do what you have to do to provide for your family because it's biblical don't be worse than an infidel
It's in the bible
Okay
And look thou that teaches another teaches not thyself
Thou that teaches that we ought to believe the bible and have faith in the bible teaches not thyself
You know, are we supposed to go from faith to faith?
And continue to have growing faith and believing that god can can provide for our needs absolutely and look
It's the best feeling when you pray and your prayers get answered
It's like god, you know
We don't have the money that we need and god just drops 500 bucks for the needs that we have
I mean i'm like man
God can do it, you know you because you know you believe what you like I believe but help thou mine unbelief
We had multiple times my wife and I won't when this is like we're short
On money because my paycheck wasn't like a whole lot
And my former job did not allow me to work a second job
If I was going to keep that job at that church, I had to only work at that job
I couldn't work a second job. In fact, I remember I got a second job and someone ratted me out
They ratted me out for my job and then he had me quit that job
Sucked but you know what during those times I remember praying
Saying god, please provide
This amount of money, please provide this specific amount and god would come through all the time
All the time, you know why because god owns the cattle on the thousand hill. He owns all the silver and gold
I mean and here at the end of the day i'm like lord i'm working for you
I'm preaching the gospel
I want to provide for my family
I'm reading my bible. I'm trying to do the best that I can to live life that's pleasing to you
Can you please provide for this and he would always he always would because he's a good god
Oh, it's just different for me do you have a different god
You know, what's what's the difference
No, the difference is you're not willing to step out in faith
That's the difference man up
Okay
And lastly look we should never go to the infidel for spiritual matters
We obviously understand that the bible tells us in first corinthians 6 5 I speak to your shame
Is it so that there is not a wise man among you?
No, not one that shall be able to judge between his brethren
But brother goeth to law with brother and that before the unbelievers, you know
We ought not to go to the law to the unbelievers for spiritual matters
Okay
You know, obviously we go to unbelievers to learn certain specific things and instructions and wisdom because often the children in their generation
Are much wiser than the children of light according to the bible, you know
Sometimes unsafe people have a lot of wisdom and experience in certain things and we can learn from that
But when it comes to spiritual matters, we're not to go to the unbelievers, you know, the john mccarthur's
Oh, no, he says he's a believer. He's not a believer
There hasn't that guy is a devil
Okay, I don't get when I say believer. I mean someone who's actually saved
They believe the bible. They're not denying the blood of christ and the trinity, you know, no, they they're actual believers
We ought to learn from them not from excuse me. We ought to learn from people who are saved not these unbelievers
And so what's the message for today? You know
We ought to love the infidel win the infidel, but you know what? We ought not to be worse than the infidel
And we're not better than the infidel, but you know what? We are we're better off
Because we're saved
We're better off not only because we're saved but you know what we got a king jane's bible
We got instructions things that can benefit us. We need to obey it. Amen
All right. Let's pray father. We thank you for
Your word lord and thank you for those who are patient with me and taught me these concepts
I had great examples in my life that I can learn from
And um, there were hard truths and things that I didn't learn growing up. So I know what it's like
Hearing the this this concept and this doctrine for the first time. I pray god that you'd help us lord help us as men specifically
And if we're even gonna if we're gonna make it in this wicked world
With all these false ideologies and concepts in the world just constantly trying to push their agenda down our throat
We need to make sure that we're biblically in line with what you say within your word and help us as men to to
Fulfill our roles as providers
For our wives and for our children and to make sure that our wives and our children have confidence in us that we can provide
We can work we can fulfill our roles in life and I pray that you'd help us to do so in jesus then we pray
amen
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