Decisor should we be with him now, please strengthen him, fill him with your spirit, preach the word of boldness
And please just give us ears to hear and in Jesus name we pray. Amen
Okay, we're in 1st Corinthians chapter number 11 this morning
1st Corinthians chapter number 11 look down at your Bibles at verse number 1
It says but be followers of me even as I also am of Christ now
I praise you brethren that you remember me in all things and keep the ordinances as I delivered them to you verse number 3
But I would have you know that the head of every man is Christ and the head of the woman is the man and the
Head of Christ is God and the time of my sermon this morning is getting ahead in life
Getting ahead in life now
That's typically a phrase that you would hear when describing or encouraging someone to succeed or excel in their life
But I'm actually specifically referring to the head
Okay, or what the Bible also refers to as authority verse number 3 tells us that the head of every man is Christ
The head of the woman is the man and the head of Christ is God now
Let me do a little bit of an introduction here using 1st Corinthians chapter 11
because obviously that the first portion of this chapter is
Talking about authority more specifically between the husband and the wife
Christ and God and we see that here
Let me go over there over these a couple of verses here to explain what it means here
look what it says in verse number 4 every man praying or
Prophesying having his head covered this honoreth his head now
we obviously understand according to verse number 3 that the head of every man is Christ and the Bible tells us that if a man is
Praying if he's prophesying if he's sowing he was preaching the Word of God
But he has his head covered and I believe it's specifically referring to his physical head
If he has his physical head covered the Bible tells us that he's actually
Dishonoring his head now. He's not dishonoring his physical head
He's dishonoring his spiritual head referring to Christ his authority verse number 5 says but every woman
That prayeth or prophesied with their head uncovered
Dishonorith her head for that is even all one as if she were shaven
So on the contrast it tells us that if a woman prays or prophesies she is out soul winning
She's preaching the Word of God to strangers. She's teaching the Word of God to her children and
She's doing it with her head uncovered
she's actually dishonoring her head now when it says her head being uncovered is referring to her physical head and
When it's saying that she's dishonoring her head, it's not referring to her physical head
It's referring to her husband because we saw in verse number 3 that the head of every woman is
Man, so if a man prays or prophesies
With his head being covered. He's dishonoring Christ and if a woman
Praise or prophesize with their head uncovered
She's dishonoring her husband and ultimately dishonoring Christ as well because he's commanding this right?
And he says for that is even all one as if she were shaven verse 6
For if the woman be not covered let her also be shorn
But if it be a shame for a woman to be shorn or shaven let her be covered now
What does it mean to be shorn where shorn is the past tense of sheer you think of scissors that sheer?
Cuts hair cuts it to a short very very short length
And he says this look if it's bad for a woman to have a shaved head
Okay, because it says shaved as well, and it's bad for a woman to have shorn hair
Then it's even bad for her to have an uncovered for her to have her head
Uncovered now if shaven means completely bald
Shorn means completely, you know, very short then to have her head uncovered means to have short hair. Okay
And look folks, you know, this is not referring to someone who's going to chemotherapy by the way
Okay, if a woman's going through chemotherapy
She loses all her hair if there's some sort of physical thing taking place there where her hair falls out and whatnot
You know, she has no control over that obviously the accept that's the exception and the exception proves the rule
But the Bible saying here when a woman willingly does this to herself. Okay. She's actually dishonoring her head
She's dishonoring her husband
It says in verse number seven for a man indeed ought not to cover his head
For as much why as he is the image and glory of God now
Let's continue reading but the woman is the glory of the man
For the man is not of the woman but the woman of the man neither was the man created for the woman
But the woman for the man now, this is obviously a callback to Genesis chapter 1 verse 27
Where the Bible tells us that you know, God created a man and woman but in he created man in his own image and
He created man in the image. Excuse me. He created the woman in the image of the man
Okay, and this is why in Genesis chapter 3 he says that he calls them Adam
Okay
You know in Genesis chapter 2 you have
God putting Adam into a deep sleep
He removes a rib from Adam and he creates Eve and therefore in chance in chapter 3. He says he calls them
Adam now a lot of people have this misconception that everyone's made in the image of God and that's actually false
The Bible tells us that man is made in the image of God, but you have this this
Feministic
Agenda today that wants to feminize everything including the Bible wants to feminize God
Wants to feminize the men of God wants to feminize the entire world and says well
No, man and woman are made in the image of God wrong
That's not what the Bible says
The Bible says that man is made in the image of God and then the woman is made of the image of man
Why because she was taken from Adam's rib and in fact the Bible says in verse number 9
Neither was the man created for the woman but the woman for the man try teaching that today in 2021
Right people will freak out, you know, it's probably people here freaking out right now. I don't know
But it's true. The Bible says the Eve was made to be a what help meet
unto Adam
Okay, that's what the Bible teaches
Man I don't know that sounds uh
You know, it sounds like a male chauvinist or something like that. Then you have something against the Bible
Okay, this is not my opinion, you know, oh you're misinterpreting that you know
There's certain scriptures that can be misinterpreted dark sayings and parables that can be misinterpreted
But when it's clearly stated neither was the man created for the woman
But the woman for the man, you don't necessarily have to go back to the Greek to figure out what that means
It's in plain English
It says in verse number 10 for this cause ought the woman to have power in her head because of the angels
Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman neither the woman without the man in the Lord for as the woman is of the man
Even so is the man also by the woman but all things of God
Now I want you to notice verse 13
Judge in yourselves. Now. What does that mean? It means this
Think about this judge it yourselves. Okay, you don't have to take my word for it
You don't have to take anybody else's word for it judge in yourselves if you have judgment
Judge in yourselves. He's talking to Christians now. Is it comely that a woman pray unto God?
Uncovered
Now cuddly. What does that mean?
beautiful
You know fair. Is it attractive for a woman the Bible says to pray unto God?
Uncovered
Verse 14 that's not nature even nature itself teach you that if a man have long hair
It is a shame unto him verse 16, but if any man seemed or excuse me verse 15
But if a woman have long hair it is a glory to her for her hair is
given to her look what it says for a
Covering so when the Bible is mentioning in verse 4 and 5 regarding being covered or uncovered
What is it talking about the hair and the length of it?
Okay, because it says in verse 15 that long hair is given to a woman
for a covering
So what is the Bible teaching here that if a woman has shorn shaven or uncovered
Uncovered head. It's basically saying that they don't have long hair
Okay, I
Think you're looking too much into this. No, this is pretty clear in the Bible and look you have religions today such as
La Luz del Mundo. Okay. I know I said that like I don't speak Spanish, but you know
La Luz del Mundo
Okay, where they literally will come to church and command the people to wear like doilies on their head
The ladies to wear doilies, you know because they have to have their head covered if they're praying or prophesying
They can't have their head uncovered needs to be covered with a doily or something
But folks that's just ignorance of the scripture because it tells us clearly here. What does it mean to have a covering?
It's referring to having long hair, right and I want you to notice in verse 14
It says doth not even nature itself teach you that if a man have long hair
It is a shame unto him tell that to the guy who has the man bun
More specifically tell that to the pastor who's sporting the man, but
Pastor shameful who has long hair
He's ashamed and you know what the Bible says he's praying and prophesying like that. He's dishonoring Christ
So every time this liberal pastor gets up behind the pulpit he preaches he prays
He expounds the Word of God and he has long hair. He's got himself a man bun
You know what? He's doing. He's actually dishonoring Christ
Why is he dishonoring Christ because he's covering his head which is figurative of Jesus Christ who is his head you understand
So, what is a man to do cut his hair short
Obviously there's no, you know
Specific details on how a man should cut his hair how short it should be. Okay
You know some people have it longer than others, but but here's here's the main thing. Okay, is that you just gotta look like a man
Okay
It's too much to ask
You just have to look like you're a male like a man and if people have to wonder
You
Know what are you or what are you doing or
You know, what is that
If they have to look on your head and say what is that
Then obviously that's an indication there that you're not following these biblical guidelines
Because it says doth not nature even teach you
Okay, what does that mean when it says doth not even nature teach you it's saying this what's natural
You know, what is natural what is unnatural
You cringe when you see a man bun
When you see a guy with the scrunchie and he's just like doing the thing
You know when your wives do that and they're just kind of like like this and putting their teeth and they're just like
And then they do that whole thing. I'm like
You learn that
The Bible says it's a shame and because it's a shame it's actually sinful
So, well, how do you know if it's sinful because of the fact that you're dishonoring Christ and when you dishonor Christ you're sinning
So the main teaching here is this is that a man should have short hair but a woman should not okay
Now you say what is the proper length for a woman to have well again, is it questionable?
Okay, you know, I don't think women should have fades
Is that too much to ask
Does everyone know what a fade is who doesn't know what a fade is raise your hand? Okay
I don't have a fade right now because I haven't gotten a haircut who has a fade on right now
Let's see look at Ray everyone look at Ray that's a fade right there if women ladies if your hair looks like that
It's a shame
It is a shame regardless of what the culture teaches, right? I
Don't agree with this teaching then you know what then you're just undermining the Word of God and you've been
Influenced and you've been brainwashed by this world to see
Biblical things the world's way and to see it as oh, well, this is this is shameful
That's what that's what people think of this world
It's shameful for for men to say this behind the bulb and shameful for you didn't even say that short hair on women is sinful
No, it's biblical is what it is
Don't call good evil and evil good
So we see here that he specifically and look this is referring to make no mistake about it
This is referring to physical hair. Okay, that's on your head. Why is it so important?
Why has gotten put God placing such an emphasis on this because of the spiritual application to it and the spiritual application
Is this is that when you pray or prophesy as a man with your head being?
Uncut or being covered you're dishonoring Christ and a woman who does it
Uncovered is dishonoring her head, which is her husband. What if I don't have a husband then you're dishonoring God
You're dishonoring your father
You're dishonoring the Lord
okay, and
So the main teaching of this and don't get so caught up in the teaching of the hair that you miss the actual spiritual application
Okay. Now the hair is important. Okay, you know men don't look like a fag
Is that so much to ask for
Okay, don't look effeminate and by the way being effeminate is sinful
Acting effeminate looking effeminate when a man looks and acts and talks like a woman. It's sinful
Look folks people men who are effeminate aren't necessary. They're not a sodomite
They're not a queer, but they just act like a woman
Okay, and it's sinful to do that and it's unfortunate because you know parents today are raising their children the next generation
To be effeminate men
Okay to look effeminate to wear pastel colors
You know to have long hair or look like a woman and be soft and be all emotional. It's not right folks
It's not biblical
The Bible says to be a man, okay
So that was free. So why is this concept of authority so important? Why is 1st Corinthians 11 really hitting on that?
Well because of the fact that you know, as I mentioned today people despise authority
People despise authority to despise the authority of their parents that despise the authority of their spouse
You know their husband is that despise their bosses. I
Mean you have I've seen some billboards, you know over in Los Angeles where it says are you being mistreated by your boss?
You know call me we'll sue them or something. You know, it's like what and what do they consider to be a mistreatment?
Well, because they're not paying them what they think they deserve to be paid
Well, here's the thing either labor and work and get paid what you deserve or just go find another job
Don't sue your boss
That's wicked. But it's a generation who despises authority. They hate their boss. They hate their job
They hate their husband. They hate their parents. So why would they hate their parents? I don't know because they grew up with Eminem
Who
All he talked about was hating his mother
Now he wanted to kill his mother and do all these wicked things to his mom and the generation that listened to that
Began to also hate their parents. They listen to that music. They disrespect their parents
They despise authority the Bible tells us in second Peter chapter 2
But chiefly them to walk after the flesh in the lust of uncleanness and despise government
Presumptuous are they
Self-willed they are not afraid to speak evil of
Dignities, you know the Bible actually teaches that submission is a godly attribute
It's a virtue to be able to submit to authority is not only a command but it's actually a virtue
It's actually a sign of spiritual maturity. It's a sign of godliness
It's a sign that you are obeying God's Word if you submit to authority
okay, and
This morning. I want to talk to you about how to get ahead in life
Okay, and yeah, you know a part of it is you know how to become successful and excel and you know what submitting to authority
it's anonymous with
succeeding
because if you truly want to succeed in your Christian walk if you really want to succeed as a spouse as
A child as a church member you have to get ahead in life
You need authority and you need to submit to that authority
Okay, now turn with me if you would to first go to a Colossians chapter number one
Colossians chapter number one
How to get ahead in life you get ahead by submitting to a head, okay
Number one, let's let's go through the different areas of authority in the Bible number one submit to God and his word
That's pretty simple, right?
You got to submit to God and his word
How are you gonna get ahead in your Christian life by submitting to God and his word? Well, I am submitted to God
Well, how are you taking this preaching then?
I am submitted to God. Well, how do you react when you get something when you're
Taught something that goes against the grain of what you have learned in times past
How do you respond to something when something's being preached that goes against your preconceived ideas?
But it's proven from the Bible. Are you submitted to God?
Because if you're not then you just submit it to the ideologies of this world
You're paying God a lip service, but you're not really submitted to God and his word
What does it mean to be submitted to God and his word?
It means that you're willing to adhere to obey and be open to the instructions of God's Word
Now look at Colossians 1 verse 16 for by him the Bible says we're all things created that are in heaven and that are in
Earth visible and invisible whether they be thrones or dominions or principalities or powers all things were created by him and for him and
He is before all things and by him all things consist
What is the same and saying that Jesus is the most important person in our life?
He is before all things
So he's more important than your spouse. Did you know that he's more important than your children? Did you know that?
He's more important than your dreams and your aspirations than your goals than yourself
He's the preeminent one
And in fact, it says in verse 18 and he is the head of the body
The church who is the beginning and the firstborn from the dead then in all things
He might have the preeminence for it pleased the father that in him should all
fullness
Dwell, so what do we see first and foremost God is the head and more specifically for us Christ is our head
So we need to start off with the right
Authority and that is God and his work and let me say this if you're able to submit to God and his word and his
authority
It's very likely you're gonna be able to submit to the earthly authority that he has set forth in your life
Okay, the Bible says submit yourselves therefore to God
Resist the devil and he will flee from you first Peter 5 6 is humble yourselves
Therefore under the mighty hand of God that he may exalt you in due time
So the most obvious authority is God the most obvious authority is the Word of God
You say well, I get that. Okay
But you know, there's gonna come times when something is gonna be preached that goes against the grain of what you've been taught before
Because you've gone to college
You've gone to a university
You've been taught other things you've been taught the feminist agenda
You've been taught to love and praise the wicked of this world and you're like, well, I don't know if I really agree with that
Well, then you're not really submitted to God in his word then
Are you saying that God requires like 100% allegiance to his word? Yes, of course
It's the most it is our final authority. Let me say this the Constitution shouldn't be your final authority
You know a lot of Christians today these Republican conservative
Libertarian Christians though. I'm sure many of them mean well they had the Constitution as their final authority
They can quote you the Constitution of the United States far greater than they could quote you the Bible
That's wicked folks. What does that show that shows that their final authority is a piece of paper and
Not the Word of God
Now does the Constitution have some good stuff in it? Of course, but you know what? That's not my final authority
The final authority should be the Word of God. You should study the Word of God more than the Constitution
You should study the Word of God more than the laws that are being passed in this world
Why because that the law of the Lord is perfect the laws of this land are imperfect
Okay
Now is there an extreme to submitting to God? Yes, there is like what there's an extreme to that
Absolutely, because you know what? There's people who say well, I'm submitted to God. Therefore. I don't need to submit to anyone else. I
Follow God I
Have God I don't need a pastor. I don't need a husband. I don't need a I don't need my parents
I don't need any kind of authority. I submit to God and God only will I adhere to
well, that's an extreme and
It's hypocritical and it's actually a lie
Because anybody who says they submit to God, but they don't submit to earthly authority
Obviously they're lying because they don't even read the Bible where it says to submit to earthly authority
So president I'm submitted to God and God only and his word I don't need anybody else
Okay, then let's open up that Bible that you supposedly submitted to and let's open up to Ephesians chapter 5
Let's open up to Hebrews chapter 13
Let's talk about what the Bible actually says that you claim to be your authority about earthly authority
Well, yeah, well, I don't agree with that then you're lying
You're not really submitted to God now, are you?
First Corinthians 11 verse 1 starts off by saying
Paul says this be ye
Followers only of God no be followers of me
Even as I am even as I also am of Christ
So obviously we submit to earthly authority when they're following the ordinances of God, right?
And even if someone is not following the ordinances of God, for example
You're unsaved boss, which we'll get into in just a bit if they're not causing you to get involved in sin
You should still submit to that
Why because the Bible actually says you're supposed to submit it to him as unto the Lord
So people can take this to an ungodly extreme go to Titus chapter 3 if you wouldn't Titus chapter number 3
How do you how are you gonna get ahead in your walk with God where you need God and the Word of God as your?
Final authority and let me be more specific. You need the King James Bible
As your final authority
Not the NIB not the ESV not the STD not the LGBTQ elemental P
Version you need the King James Bibles your authority
How do you know that is the perfect Word of God well first of all, I accepted my faith
First and foremost, but it doesn't take much investigation in these modern versions to see that there are perversions of God's Word
When they remove whole verses out of the Bible, they change complete meanings
They they downplay the the deity of Jesus Christ. They remove the blood they change the gospel
I mean, there's all types of perversions within those new versions
Yeah
But I see contradictions in the King James Bible well anytime someone tells me that I close the Bible and I say to show me then
Because often people who say they're just parroting what someone else has said they can't point to you to a contradiction because there is those
Contradictions in the Bible and don't take my word for it look. I've read this Bible for 14 years
Multiple times over and over again. I've never seen a contradiction and if I even see something that maybe I don't understand later on
I end up understanding it
There's no such thing as a contradiction in the Bible
Now if you have these modern versions there's tons of contradictions
All over the Old and New Testament, there's all types of contradictions. There's all types of heresies and false doctrines
Because it's the devil's Bible
Look what the Bible says in Titus chapter 3 verse 9 but avoid foolish questions and genealogies and contentions
Strivings about the law for they are unprofitable and vain a man that is a heretic after the first and second admonition reject
Knowing that he that is such is subverted and sinneth being condemned of himself
The Bible tells us here that a person who's unwilling to be admonished by the Word of God
After the second admonition you should reject that person
Why because they've actually subverted their undermining the Word of God in other words the Bible is no longer
their final authority
Now this is obviously applicable to unsaved people, but I think sometimes it could be applicable to save people as well
Because saved people can undermine God's Word as well because of stubbornness because of pride because of preconceived ideas
Because they're conditioned to think a different way
But I will say this, you know if you're saved
Doesn't doesn't matter how extreme my preaching can get if it's biblical it may rub you the wrong way
But you if you see it in the Word of God, you're like, okay, he's right about that, but that's just kind of harsh though
I'm sure many have thought that listening to preaching
we had a visitor one time at the old building, you know, the one that got bombed and
It was like a first time but but the person who invited him said she saved he's like she saved
She got saved a long time ago
She saved and I just saw having to be you know, preaching on riparates or something and I'm like man
They picked up what a day they picked him to bring their sister or whatever to church
I was like, but I already prepared this sermon. So I got a letter just I got to just do it, you know
and I just be myself just you know foaming out the mouth and just ripping and
then afterwards, you know, I wanted to go greet her and she was like
Everything you said was true and I learned something new today
And
You know, he told me she was saved and here's the thing if a person is saved
That means they got the Spirit of God in them
They have the Spirit of truth and when they hear the Word of God and they see it
They're like, okay, it actually says it in the Bible sounds really mean, but I guess it's true though
It sounds pretty crazy, but I guess it's right there. I can't really like fight it. I guess it's what God says
They have that type of attitude
I'm leery if people are like, well, it says about I don't even care though. I don't I still think it's wrong
At that point are you even saved them?
So you need to in order to get ahead in your walk with God
You need to submit yourself to God and his word go to Ephesians chapter number five if you would
Ephesians chapter number five talk about getting ahead in life
How about getting ahead in your marriage?
Well, guess what? You need to submit one to another
And more specifically the wives need to submit to their own husbands, oh my
Look at Ephesians chapter 5
Verse 20 giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ
Now most men want to skip to verse 22
Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord. Hey, I mean, it's still Bible though. It's there
Let's pray
But we got to go to verse 21 first
And verse 21 says submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God
Okay, I'm explaining to you what that means in just a bit. But let me get on the wives real quick. I'm just kidding
Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands. I'm kidding as unto the Lord. Why why?
For the husband is the head of the wife
Even as Christ is the head of the church and he is the Savior of the body
Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ so that the wise be to their own husbands in everything
So look no woman would ever say no wife would ever say Christ is not the head of this church, right?
right or
No wife would ever say well, you know, we'll submit to cry as a church will submit to Christ
Unless you know he you know, I start going through trials of tribulation or something like that
Unless I feel like I'm not being provided for unless I feel like he's doing me wrong or he's not answering my prayers or he's
Being mean to me or something like that at that point. The church is not subject to Christ
No one would say that because it's stupid
I don't even think anybody would even think that
But you know the parallel that he's drawing there that the wife is to submit to her husband
Even as the church is subject to Christ
So
The husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church
So just as Christ is the boss of this church
The Bible tells us that the husband is the boss of the woman
Now that rubs people the wrong way today
But it shouldn't folks. It's natural. It's biblical man. I feel like people are gonna make fun of me
Yeah, of course, they're gonna make fun of you
Of course they're gonna mock you cuz they mock God's Word they hate God's Word
They don't agree with these things, but that should come as no surprise to you
But are you saying like I gotta submit to my husband and just serve him and make him happy. Yes
Why is that so weird?
And I love this example
You know because the world would say well, that's so wrong and you know women's rights and all these things
But here's the thing. They think it's okay
For a woman to work out in the workforce as a waitress
Serving complete strangers
Smiling would you like me to fill up your water?
Would you like dessert
Having a great attitude now, obviously not all waitresses are like that some of them is just like oh man
You're not getting the tip. No, I'm just kidding
You know, but they they'll serve complete strangers with the smile on their face with the great attitude
They're there. They're waiting upon their customer
Can I fill up a coke?
tea
Anything else? Would you like a box to take that home and
The world would look at that and praise it and see look at this lady
She's got her stuff going on. She's free
But if a woman does that to her own husband and all of a sudden is like, oh man, this is so evil
How can you do that to your own husband? Oh
You do it to like 50,000 different strangers throughout the week
Be kind to them throughout the week, but oh god forbid that you would do it to your own husband though
How wicked is that?
Folks and don't try to justify yourself
Justify the Bible to unsaved people you just say yeah, I believe that that's right. That's what I believe
Yeah, that's that's so archaic. Yeah, I'm okay. I'm an archaic kind of Christian. I'm an archaic Baptist. I believe in old stuff
Yeah, that's what I believe cuz here's the thing you try to do apologetics with them and try to like convince them
They're not gonna be convinced. They've been they've been
Dooped by this world
To think otherwise and they will more readily respect you for just being stubborn and say well, I believe it
I don't care what you think
That sounds old. Yep
It's old. I was really old and I believe it
You're not embarrassed no, I love what God's Word says and I love that I'm a man
I
Do
Now go to go with me if you would to first Peter chapter 3
First Peter chapter 3
And that weird, you know that the world would think that that's they would praise a woman for doing that
But all of a sudden she wants to do it to her own husband all of a sudden. It's madness
It's madness. It's not madness folks. And guess what, you know
The woman who stays home is actually better taken care of than the woman who's working at the restaurant or whatever
She has to waste all her gas going over there
Serving idiots. Sometimes people were just mean to her or whatever. Maybe they don't get a tip at least the husband
You know, he's like hey, you don't have to wear a uniform. You can stay in your bathrobe if you want
Schedules free kind of do it, you know, just make me my pancakes in my coffee
I
Look at first Peter 3 verse 1
Likewise he wives be in subjection to your own husbands that if any obeyed not the word
They also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives
So, you know what actually wins your unsafe husband faster than your preaching?
aka nagging
Actually wins them faster is is your conversation and that's not referring to your words referring to your behavior
Your
Submission to your husband will actually cause them to soften their heart and be open to the gospel. That's right. I
Don't believe that. Well, let's just take verse 1 out then. Oh
Man, yeah, you're right. Let's just complete. Let's just blotch this out. Let's just use the NIV version or something
Verse 2 while they behold your chase conversation coupled with fear whose adorning
Let it not be that outward adorning of plating of the hair and of wearing of gold and of putting on of apparel
But let it be the hidden man of the heart and now which is not corruptible
Even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit which is in the sight of God of great price now
This isn't saying that you can't
You know wear these things. I'm sure your husband will appreciate you being well put together
But he's saying don't just depend on that
What the man will look for is the meek and quiet spirit
That actually holds a greater price
For after this verse 5
Manner in the old time the holy women also who trusted in God adorn themselves being in subjection to their own husbands
Even as Sarah obeyed Abraham look what it says calling him Lord
Whose daughters ye are as long as you do well and are not afraid with any amazement
So Sarah called Abraham Lord now
You know, whatever floats your boat guys, I mean I'm not into that stuff
I personally know people who were into that stuff. Like I want my wife to call me Lord. It's like that's kind of weird
You're you're on a power trip or something
What is basically saying though? She did call him Lord is basically saying cuz Lord means what boss?
Now I'm not into my wife calling me boss either
Hey boss, it's kind of weird
But
It's the recognition that he is the lord of the house
he is the boss of the house and it says be not afraid with any amazement and
You know what a lot of people today there are amazed at this
What?
All right
So wives to meet yourselves if you want to wise if you want to have a successful marriage
Really simple submit yourselves into your own husband
And you know that means is that the husband can command the wife
Man command sounds so harsh, but it's what the Bible says them
Command the wife the woman is supposed to obey the commandment of their of her husband
Now, let me say this is that men should seek to submit to their wives as well. What? Oh
Oh, hold on a second
Not submit to her commands because the woman should never command the man
What are they submitting to well with courteous benevolence submit to their desires and wants?
Because here's the thing God has given this commandment
With the assumption that you're a mature young man
Old man or whatever you are
Who who will not abuse their power and the four right
Okay, and let me just say this if you have to tell your wife that you're the boss
Okay, obviously that shows that you're probably not very mature in the Lord
People who have to go around telling people they're the boss and I'm the boss of you. I'm the lord of this house
I'm like Abraham. You're like Sarah
Ephesians 5
You know that that's not necessarily
Comely
Your conversation your godliness should already display that
Where your wife just she doesn't have to be told that you're the boss. She'll tell others that you're the boss
But with that being said, you know with courteous benevolence you should submit to the desires and wants of your wife
Look what the Bible says in verse 7 likewise he husbands dwell with them according to knowledge
Giving honor unto the wife as unto the weaker vessel and as being heirs together of the grace of life
That your prayers be not hindered go to 1st Corinthians chapter number 7. So men need to learn to be benevolent towards their wives
not harsh
Not well, it's my way or the highway not it's whatever I want. They need to be able to rule with benevolence and
Be willing to compromise sometimes your own desires and wants for the sake of your wife
Okay
And look, let me just say this is you would do well
To submit to your wife sometimes too because your wife has wisdom
She's not like a piece of meat folks
She has one purpose to procreate and that's it that's stupid
Your wife, let me just say that some wives are actually smarter than their husbands. Okay
And you know what you would do well
To seek out the wisdom of your wife
Right
Seek out the wisdom of your wife and you know what you want to eat raising canes, but she wants sloot soup soup plantation
Just go with the soup plantation every once in a while
Speaking from experience folks. Listen to me
I'm speaking from experience
So why if you're the boss
Well, because I'm not I'm not trying to be just some hard boss
I'm trying to be benevolent and I want my wife to love me. I want her to follow me
I want her to be inspired to follow me not feel like she's forced to follow me
I want her to want to follow me
I want her to want to submit to my authority and what makes her want to do it when I'm courteously
benevolent towards her desires and wants
You understand you just submit to what she wants. Okay. What do you want to do? Well, what do you want to go eat? Okay
Where do you want to go or if she comes to you in appeals?
You know a certain command that you've given and say well, maybe that's not the best idea. Maybe we should do this submit to that
because you know, she might have the wisdom and may see something that you don't in that regard and
This you know who needs this the most is young men
Who just get married
Especially like in a church like this. Just like man can't wait to be the boss. I can't wait to tell my wife what to do
It's gonna be great
Young men need this Marcos needs this
Just kidding, he's gonna be benevolent he's gonna be
I'm just kidding
They need us because they could they go on these power trips
You know
They can get on these power trips and
What they need to recognize is they're not to abuse their authority that God has given to them
You know, they need to lead their wives love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it
And be benevolent. Look what the Bible says in 1st Corinthians 7 verse 3
Here's an example of submitting to your wife
it says verse 3 let the husband render unto the wife do benevolence and
Likewise also the wife unto the husband the wife hath not power of her own body
But the husband and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife defraud ye not one another
Accept it be with consent for a time that you may give yourselves the fasting and prayer and come together again
That Satan tempt you not for your incontinence see now
What is this referring to the physical relationship between a husband and wife?
You know what the Bible says if the wife desires that physical relationship with the husband
The husband is not to say well, I don't feel like it or something. Now. I have no idea of
Any husband that would actually do that and if that's you your estrogen levels are probably too high
But if it happens you have no power over your own body
You know what that means is that you know what if your wife likes you in a certain type of suit
You should wear that certain type of suit unless it's like some pastel color of course
Because at that point you you can tell her you've taken this too far
I'm not submitting to this and now I should not remain a benevolent ruler
Throw that pink tie in the trash
But if your wife is like, you know, I like this what you're wearing here and I prefer this and you know do it
Yeah
Yeah, but you know, I don't think everyone else like who cares what everyone else likes and press your wife
Submit to your wife in that area. Why because your body's not your own
belongs to your wife, right?
I'm careful to say this cuz
If your wife wants you to lose some weight don't get any idea sir, you know, hey you got to do it
Let's
Move on
You knew what you're getting into when you married me
What it's saying is that each of our bodies actually belong one to another doesn't belong to ourselves anymore
All right, and this is the area where it says to submit to
You know if you this is what your wife wants you should with benevolence and courteousness
Submit to that because you love your wife
Okay. Now are there extremes to this? Yes
wife should never submit to their husbands in areas of sin and
You know people always bring up these hypothetical scenarios or whatever
They're just like what if you know, I'm trying to homeschool but my husband doesn't want to homeschool and you know
How can I you know, it's sinful. Well, let me just say this
Okay
That if a husband doesn't he wants to put his kids in public school and
You want to homeschool obviously homeschooling is superior. Okay, but the husband is like no
You're not sinning by doing that
And let me say this your children are not sitting by going to a public school
Going to a public school is not sinful in and of itself
Okay, it's the activities that take place at that school
That is sinful obviously, right? Okay
so at that point the wife needs to
Compensate for whatever is being taught at that school and when they come home teaching the Bible
Go sowing with them bring them to church
Get him fellowship with believers
Try to involve the Bible as much as possible in their children's life as much as you possibly can
But don't say like oh man, you know, he doesn't want to homeschool. He wants to take him to public school
But you didn't even come to church
Why are you complaining and
This is the plight listen to me. This is the plight of marrying a person who does not have the same biblical values
That's just what happens sometimes and you just have to kind of deal with that
Like man, that's not so doesn't sound like a happy ending for me
But you know, yeah, but it could be a really good start to someone who's not married yet, right?
To take this advice and say okay. I need to look out for that. We need to make sure we have the same biblical core values
Okay, so yeah, there is an extreme to this when it comes to you know, people can abuse their power etc
And do that now go with me if you would to go to Ephesians chapter 6
How to get ahead in your marriage will submit to your husband
Husbands submit to your wife with benevolence to her wants and her desires every once in a while
Go to the restaurant that you hate going to
Go to Chipotle go to Del Taco
Go
To you know soup plantation or whatever
Number three children need to submit to their parents
How are you gonna get ahead in your life expectancy kids by submitting to your parents
Why well because Proverbs 30 you're in Ephesians 6 Proverbs 30 says this in verse 11
There is a generation that cursed their father and
Doth not bless their mother there is a generation that are pure in their eyes and yet is not washed from their filthiness
And they need to get spanked
Need some spankings
Back in my day I
Got spankings folks. I
Feared my mom. I
Didn't fear my dad cuz I didn't grow up with my dad
So my mom had to like double up on the whoopings
Okay, and you know what I learned to submit to my mom
As my parent and I feared my mom
I followed my mother and whatever she wanted me to do I did because I feared her and you know what I
Believe that that has caused me to live up until this point
You see you're still young yeah, but people who grew up where I grew up didn't even live past 20 sometimes
They get involved in gangs they get involved in drugs they get involved in all this nonsense
You know what happens they die or they go to prison
Ephesians 6 verse 1 says children obey your parents and the Lord for this is right
Honor thy father and mother which is the first commandment with promise
That it may be well with thee and thou mayest live long on the earth. Hey, here's good life insurance for you kids
And don't think you'll live forever because sometimes
You don't
You don't live past 20
Sometimes you don't live past 18
Here's a good life insurance for you obey your parents and honor them
Don't disrespect your parents don't talk back to your parents
Don't talk back to your parents. Don't scorn your parents obey them don't
Don't don't do exorcisms on your parents
Fine
It's like you have epilepsy
Are you having a seizure?
When they tell you to go throw out the trash go throw it out with a good attitude
When they tell you to go make your bed and clean your room go do it
Submit to that
Do it cuz it's right to do because it's gonna extend your life now look if you don't live with your parents
You're actually not subject to this commandment
Right
Because I believe that as long as you're living under their roof
And they're paying the rent and they're providing for you, and they're doing all these things they have that rule over you
But as soon as you're gone from that you don't have to necessarily submit to your parents, but you still honor them though
Not disrespect them
Now look let me just say this is that
It's really easy to submit to your husband when you both already agree on going to church
So we're going to church. It's like okay. Yeah. Oh no
You know submit to your parents in areas that it's easy to submit to
You know what's hard and requires faith is when your parents or your husband makes a judgment call
That's not black and white
It's like a gray area
Because there's there's times in a person's life where they have to make judgment calls
Where they have to do what they think it's best for the organization for their parents
Whatever it may be and at that point it requires for you to step out in faith and submit to that will
You know I had to submit to the will of my father-in-law
Prior to him being my father-in-law even though I didn't agree with a lot of stuff that he did
They weren't even necessarily sinful. It's just
Kind of annoying
Okay, don't look at me like that. You know the story
It's just like man. This is extreme like this is what I have to do, and it's just like ah
It was it was a grief, but you know I did it because of the fact that I felt like his judgment was better than mine
Now what I do think is different with my children yeah, I'm gonna do things different with my children
But I still believe in the principle of submitting even to the judgment of that authority as long as it's not sinful
So there is an extreme to that okay
When parents are trying to cause you to sin obviously you don't do it well, what if they do though well?
Here's the thing in my experience as long as you're walking with God teenagers look up here as long as you're walking with God
You're reading the Bible you're praying you're keeping your heart clean. God will deliver you from those types of situations
Because the heart of the the heart of the king is in the hand of the Lord and as the rivers of water he turned
It to where the server he will
He can turn the heart of your parent to favor you in an area of godliness
Not put you in a situation where you have to sin
So here's what you do if you have if you're in a situation where maybe your parent is
Trying to cause you to sin walk with God, and it's not gonna happen. I promise you
It's not gonna happen
Go to first Peter
Actually that let's skip this go to first Peter chapter 5
My fourth point was gonna be employees submit to your employers, okay, basically you need to submit to your boss and
That's even if they're not a Christian
Okay, oh, yeah, you don't know my boss. He cusses me out and treats me like dirt sometimes, and he puts me down
deal with it
If they're a forward boss just deal with it
Okay, you know don't expect every single employer to be a Christian because it's not gonna happen
And look we I've worked for some employees that are actually Christian in the secular realm, and they're still bad
There's still kind of fraud okay?
Well, what's the limit the limit is this when they try to get you to be dishonest?
And I've worked some for some Christian employees who try to get me to be dishonest and that's wrong
Not to submit to that okay. You shouldn't submit to that excuse me
Now here's the last point
Church members how to how to get ahead in church
Church members submit to the pastor
Submit to me
First Peter 5 5 says likewise younger submit yourselves unto the elder elder is just another way of saying pastor
Yea, all of you be subject one to another and be clothed clothed with humility for God resists the proud and giveth grace to the humble
This is my last point
What does it mean to submit to a pastor?
To submit to a pastor means you recognize me as the leader of this congregation
You don't try to undermine my leadership right okay? Now. What are some ways you can undermine my leadership sup Bruce?
Sup bro
Now I'm your bro there
But let me just be honest is I'm the pastor here though right I earned that position
I met the qualifications call me brother me here
You can call me pastor, but sometimes looks and sometimes I've known people for quite some time brother Albert every once in a while
He'll he'll call me Bruce and not out of disrespect. Just he's just known me for a long time
Okay, and sometimes people will do it just out of accident or something, but they don't do it out of disrespect
I'm talking about people who actually do it to undermine authority
Well, they'll do it like in a public setting or something like oh hey Bruce
Sup Bruce
That's disrespectful folks
Okay, and and we don't really have that
Problem here. I've never had a situation here. Maybe in times past there was but less there should be a situation like that
You know you need to recognize me as a leader of the congregation
What does it mean to submit to me you respect and follow my judgment calls?
It's easy to submit to what I'm saying when I tell you to come to church
Duh
Don't sin. Yeah, I know
Go so any guy man, but what if I make a judgment call on something? That's a gray area
Okay, and we had a situation like that during kovat, right
Where I have to close down the church for about a week and a half and
even then it was like what 15 people in the service 20 people in the service and
People were just all they're just freaking out. I can't believe you closed the church submitting to the enemy and ah
Criticizing my my judgment calls you know cuz it's easy to be a quarterback on Monday
right
It's easy to know you know what to do in the UFC fight when you're actually not on the ground
What he should have done is the armbar he should have slipped out his hips a little bit
It's real simple this guy doesn't always do it
Yeah, it's easy for you to do that right. It's different when you're right here
It's different when you're responsible for hundred plus people and I have to make a judgment call
So what does it mean to submit to the pastor means?
Respect you don't have to agree with it
But you should respect my judgment calls
Okay
Why because I believe I have the Spirit of God
And you know what let me just say this there's gonna be a time when I make a judgment call and I'm wrong
And I and I mess up or something because I'm imperfect I'm a sinner and maybe I make a wrong judgment call
You know at that point. I have Romans 828 on my side
Because all things still work together for good to them to love God to them who are called according to his purpose
And it'll still work out together for good, but I just expect for you to respect my judgment call
Okay
Now what else does it mean to submit to the pastor you esteem my instruction and admonishments
So when I'm preaching and maybe it seems a little harsh
Just know this I'm saying it. I am saying out of a heart of love for you
You may not know that right away
But I will say this the people who have known me the longest who have been here from the beginning
They know that to be true
Cuz here's the thing when I preach on your sin when I get on specific topics like submission and all these things
You know I'm I don't benefit from that from you changing and being that way
Like I'm like all right great. My will is being fulfilled in their life
Like there's not some nefarious agenda of my room just like now she's submitting to her husband now. She's gonna be happy ha ha ha ha I
I
Don't benefit from that who benefits from that you do who benefits from the admonishments you do
So what does it mean to submit to the pastor it means that you esteem the instruction the admonishments that he gives
When I preach on sin when I hit on specific time when we have family time as I like to call it
You don't just take it as oh he has something against me. Oh, he's just mad at me
Oh, he's just this and that no. I'm saying it cuz I love
They genuinely love the people in our church
Now here's the thing people
People have trust issues with leaders sometimes
Okay
Why why do they have trust issues with leaders sometimes because they've had a bad leader in times past who abused their power
Okay, they abused their power. They steal from the plate or they abused their church members
Whatever maybe and it causes them to have reservations about leadership
Okay, and I'm maybe there's some people here who you've had a leader in times past or you've heard of leaders going south
especially like in the new IFB
Well, how do we know if pastor me? He is not gonna go south. You don't know
But it but if you keep wondering that then maybe you should just go somewhere else
Why be at a church where you're constantly just wondering? Oh, man, what's he gonna do? What's he gonna do?
Is he gonna go south? Is he gonna be is he a heretic?
Why don't you just go somewhere else
That's my admonishment
Because you should be able to come to church and love your pastor and know that your pastor loves you
Should be able to come to church and love one another. This is like an oasis for us, right?
It's a place where we just are refreshed. We have a good time
it's not a place where you're off where you're supposed to be defensive over everything and
Sometimes people have trust issues because they've had bad leadership in the past
But please let me just say this don't have that attitude towards me I
Don't think I've given you a reason to have that attitude towards me
Right, and you know if you've been harmed in the past by a bad leader, I'm sorry about that
You know that that that sucks that that happened to you, but this is a different church
This is a different leader. This is a different pastor and
You shouldn't have those same reservations anymore
Okay, and that's not to say that I'm not gonna fail you because I'm a human being and sometimes I'll fail
Okay, but what I'm saying is this is that?
You know if you continue to have attitude of that attitude towards me or any other authority, you're not gonna get ahead in life
We're never gonna get ahead as a church if you have those reservations. Yeah, but I've just heard too many bad stories
Yeah, but I've heard a lot of good stories too, though
So
I see your bats. I see your bad stories, and and I throw in good stories
Okay, I see that hand and this is what I'm this is what I'm putting to the table
I have no a lot of good stories. I've had a lot of good pastors in my life
I have a lot of good pastors as friends who are leading their church well
Don't allow your bad experiences with other pastors
Or leaders destroy what you can have going on here
Because it's gonna ruin your experience here as a church member
You can't enjoy church
You can't enjoy the preaching you can't enjoy the fellowship you understand go to Hebrew chapter 13. This will be their last scripture
Promise
Hebrews 13 verse 7 says remember them that have the rule over you
Who have spoken unto you the Word of God whose faith follow considering the end of their conversation now
Is there an extreme to this absolutely?
There's pastors who abuse their power
There's pastors that use people that
They they want to become a pastor because they want to be a big shot
They want to steal money. They want to abuse people or children
reprobates, right
They want to take advantage of individuals
They have zero love for the people in their congregation and they abuse their power that absolutely exists
Bible calls them false prophets and teachers
and
They need to be exposed for who they are
Look at verse 17
So there is an extreme to this. Let me say this. I don't think we have that extreme here
Okay
Now what do you gain why is it important for you to submit to the pastor look at verse 17
Obey them to have the rule over you and submit yourselves
For they what watch for your souls
So, why should you submit to me as a pastor because I'm watching for your soul when I'm preaching on your specific topic or sin
I'm watching for your soul. I'm watching for the souls of the children. I'm watching for the souls of our church
It's not because I have some you know
Agenda behind it. I don't have an ulterior motive. The ulterior motive is this I'm watching for your soul. I
Want to make sure you're not destroyed. I want to make sure that Satan does not devour you and your family
I watch for your soul as they that must give an account
That they may do it with joy
So at the judgment seat of Christ, I need to give an account for every single one of you. Did you know that?
There's
A special kind of judgment that we get as pastors
We give an account for the people in our church and I want to do it with joy. I want to say
Oh, yeah, Maury. I know Maury
Can't sing a worth a lick, but the guy's godly he leads his family
Okay, he knows I tell it cuz I love him
Trust me
Whoever thinks I was just really mean to Maury right now. I
More he knows that I love him, I think
But I want to give an account and say you know Maury
Yeah, I more was a great church member always serving the Lord led his wife and his children
Got a bunch of people saved
He read the Word of God. He was an asset to our church Lord
It was a blessing to have him in our church
What about so-and-so?
They're saved yeah, they're saying people yeah, they're saying they got saved they got saved. Yep anything else I
Want to do with joy not with grief it says
For that's unprofitable for me
No, it's actually unprofitable for you. It says
So I actually don't lose anything at the judgment seat of Christ
You
Lose something
So I don't gain anything out of you submitting to me, but you can't lose something
at the judgment seat of Christ because it's unprofitable for you if you don't and
Again, this is not submission. What you just do as I tell you
You need to do as I tell you do as I say
You need to obey me just this power trip. That's not the kind of leadership that I believe this is referring to
It's saying very basic
Recognize me as the leader of the congregation
respect the judgment calls
you know accept the admonishments that I give and
Trust me
Trust me sometimes
What's the sermon today get ahead in life
Get some authority. You know, you want to get successful you want to excel in your life. You need a head
You cannot do it by yourself you cannot do it without God you cannot do without the Bible
You cannot do it without your husband. You cannot do it without mom and dad. You cannot do it
You can't excel in the secular workplace without your boss and you cannot do it in a church setting without your pastor
Therefore get ahead. Amen. Let's buy our heads on a word of prayer. Thank you Lord for your word
Thank you so much for the authorities in my life Lord
Whether it's my mom Lord my the different pastors that I've been privileged to be under
Lord I'm thankful for my wife thankful for just all the authorities Lord even authorities that are not necessarily
I'm not in their area of jurisdiction, but I've chosen them to be somewhat of an authority in my life Lord. I
Appreciate them Lord and I see the value in submitting to earthly authorities
In order for us to succeed we need that and I pray Lord that as a church
We continue to grow and thank you so much for the growth that we've seen so far. Our church is growing and for me
It's a testimony that people are submitting themselves under the mighty hand of God
They're developing the right type of authority in their personal homes Lord in their homes and their personal lives
I pray God that you'd help us to continue to excel and succeed and
to keep the heads in our life happy and to submit to them and