WEBVTT 00:01.400 --> 00:06.520 Amen. Okay, we're in Psalm 140 and look down at verse number one. It says, 00:06.520 --> 00:09.000 Deliver me, O Lord, from the evil man. 00:09.300 --> 00:13.020 Preserve me from the violent man which imagined mischiefs in their heart 00:13.820 --> 00:19.740 Continually are they gathered together for war they have sharpened their tongues like a serpent 00:20.380 --> 00:27.220 Adder's poison is under their lips. See la and it's not a misdemeanor tonight is beware of toxicity 00:27.980 --> 00:36.380 Beware of toxicity toxicity refers to the poison how poisonous something is and of course, we know that something that is toxic 00:37.000 --> 00:41.320 can often possess properties that can destroy things, that destroys organisms, that can destroy you. 00:41.320 --> 00:47.320 The Bible says here that there are individuals whose tongues are like serpents, meaning they're like snakes, 00:47.320 --> 00:53.640 they're like adders that possess poison, they possess venom, and they can destroy you. 00:53.640 --> 00:57.560 They can destroy you in a physical way, of course, because there's a lot of crazy people out there, 00:57.560 --> 01:01.400 but of course we know that this is also referring to a spiritual way as well. 01:01.400 --> 01:04.920 This evening I want to preach a sermon where I instruct you 01:05.000 --> 01:10.200 not only to avoid toxic people, but also to avoid being a toxic person yourself. 01:10.200 --> 01:15.520 Obviously we as Christians need to avoid toxic individuals and people who are 01:15.520 --> 01:19.760 toxic, but we need to make sure that we're not the toxic person in a 01:19.760 --> 01:24.920 relationship as well. Amen? And so have the prudence and wisdom to avoid people 01:24.920 --> 01:30.580 who are poisonous, who can damage us spiritually, who can hinder us in a 01:30.580 --> 01:31.900 significant way. 01:32.000 --> 01:34.400 and whom the Bible tells us to beware of. 01:34.400 --> 01:37.760 You know, just as venom of a serpent or an adder can infect the body 01:37.760 --> 01:41.360 and shut down the organs, and like manner spiritually toxic people 01:41.360 --> 01:46.560 can often do the same to us if we don't avoid them and avoid being in contact with them. 01:46.560 --> 01:48.160 Let me read you a couple of verses here. 01:48.160 --> 01:49.680 Romans chapter 3 verse 13 says, 01:49.680 --> 01:54.400 their throat is an open sepulcher, with their tongues they have used deceit. 01:55.500 --> 02:02.420 Excuse me. The poison of asps is under their lips whose mouth is full of cursing and bitterness 02:02.740 --> 02:04.860 Their feet are swift as shed blood 02:05.700 --> 02:11.100 Destruction and misery are in their ways and the way of peace have they not known there is no fear of God 02:11.620 --> 02:16.420 Before their eyes. This is a toxic person, right? They have lips as an adder 02:16.700 --> 02:22.920 They are swift to shed blood. They're full of cursing and bitterness. Their throat is as an open 02:23.500 --> 02:29.020 James chapter 3 and verse number 6 says that the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity. 02:29.500 --> 02:37.500 So was the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body and seteth on fire the course of nature, and it is set on fire of hell. 02:37.500 --> 02:45.500 Every kind of beast, and of birds, and of serpents, and of things in the sea, is tamed and hath been tamed of mankind, but the tongue can no man tame. 02:45.500 --> 02:49.500 It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. 02:49.500 --> 02:55.500 Notice that a lot of the attributes that are associated with toxic people has to do with the things that they say. 02:56.100 --> 03:01.140 It has to do with the words that they communicate, the way people act with their communication, 03:01.140 --> 03:03.540 the things that they say to you, they say to me. 03:03.540 --> 03:09.700 Deuteronomy 32 and verse 33 says that their wine is the poison of dragons and the cruel 03:09.700 --> 03:11.300 venom of asps. 03:11.300 --> 03:17.880 This is basically implying here that wine, of course, we know to be in the Bible referred 03:17.880 --> 03:20.140 to alcoholic or non-alcoholic beverages. 03:20.140 --> 03:24.100 If we were to approach this in a non-alcoholic beverage type of context, we could see that 03:24.100 --> 03:25.260 say, oh, it looks sweet. 03:25.260 --> 03:27.340 It tastes initially good. 03:27.340 --> 03:28.340 It tastes sweet. 03:28.340 --> 03:29.380 But you know what it is? 03:29.380 --> 03:31.580 It's the poison of dragons. 03:31.580 --> 03:34.060 It's the cruel venom of asps. 03:34.060 --> 03:36.100 Go to Micah chapter 7, if you would. 03:36.100 --> 03:39.460 Micah chapter 7, and then we're going to go to 2 Samuel chapter 03:39.460 --> 03:39.980 13. 03:39.980 --> 03:41.400 Micah chapter 7. 03:42.000 --> 03:44.900 and then 2 Samuel chapter 13. 03:44.900 --> 03:47.880 Let me make a disclaimer here in this sermon 03:47.880 --> 03:50.680 is that the people I'm gonna talk about in this sermon, 03:50.680 --> 03:52.400 I'm not referring to Christians 03:52.400 --> 03:54.600 who simply need to grow or mature 03:54.600 --> 03:57.560 or lack a sense of self-awareness, okay? 03:57.560 --> 03:59.840 Obviously, all of us, when we start out, 03:59.840 --> 04:02.440 when we first get saved, we're babes in Christ, 04:02.440 --> 04:04.400 there's a lot of things we gotta work on, right? 04:04.400 --> 04:07.280 And we have a lot of spiritual immaturity, 04:07.280 --> 04:10.000 we lack a lot of discernment, and... 04:10.000 --> 04:12.840 We come with baggage to the Christian life. 04:12.840 --> 04:15.320 And it should be the goal of every Christian 04:15.320 --> 04:17.920 to essentially get rid of the baggage, 04:17.920 --> 04:19.640 go through the process. 04:19.640 --> 04:21.560 Excuse me, my throat is just dry. 04:21.560 --> 04:23.100 It's like an open sepulchre. 04:24.400 --> 04:27.200 You know, it should be that we get rid of the baggage, 04:27.200 --> 04:29.920 that we go through the process of sanctification, 04:29.920 --> 04:35.440 and not necessarily be associated with the old man, 04:35.440 --> 04:38.280 per se, but we shut off a lot of that old man, 04:38.280 --> 04:40.000 become better as the time goes by. 04:42.600 --> 04:49.160 And so the people I'm talking about here are not Christians who are still growing in their faith. 04:49.160 --> 04:52.840 They're still growing in the Lord. I'm referring to people who are intentionally toxic 04:53.480 --> 04:57.480 and fit the description that I'm going to lay out to you this evening through the testimonies of 04:57.480 --> 05:01.960 various people in the Bible. And I have three points for you this evening. And so after I'm 05:01.960 --> 05:05.320 done ripping face, then we're going to play some board games and we're going to be happy. 05:05.320 --> 05:08.120 It's going to be great. We're going to enjoy ourselves. Amen. 05:08.700 --> 05:10.100 Here are my three points. 05:10.100 --> 05:14.940 I'm going to talk about toxic family, friends, and females. 05:14.940 --> 05:16.500 All F's. 05:17.000 --> 05:25.200 Now the last one is females, I might address some males but let's just be honest, the Bible actually warns men more about women than vice versa. 05:25.200 --> 05:31.400 There's more warnings about the strange woman in the Bible than there is warning women about strange men. 05:31.400 --> 05:38.400 So the three points are family, friends, and females, all of which can be found in and out of church. 05:38.400 --> 05:43.400 So point number one is beware of toxic family members. 05:43.800 --> 05:49.880 We're talking about people in your immediate family, maybe even extended family, who are 05:49.880 --> 05:54.220 tempting you to sin or would hinder you spiritually. 05:54.220 --> 05:57.620 We need to be aware of people like this in our personal lives. 05:57.620 --> 06:01.740 Family can often be the main culprit in hindering us spiritually. 06:01.740 --> 06:07.920 They sometimes succeed because they know us for who we really are or who we used to be. 06:08.300 --> 06:11.340 and can often use that as leverage. 06:11.340 --> 06:13.840 You know, you get someone who's newly saved, 06:13.840 --> 06:15.980 and you know, you start serving God, 06:15.980 --> 06:16.820 and what do you have? 06:16.820 --> 06:19.420 You have family members that see you making progress 06:19.420 --> 06:20.520 in the Christian life. 06:20.520 --> 06:23.320 They see you being sanctified, going to church, 06:23.320 --> 06:24.560 reading the Bible, and what do they do? 06:24.560 --> 06:26.660 They begin to criticize you because of that. 06:26.800 --> 06:31.400 They begin to criticize you and try to slow you down 06:31.400 --> 06:35.800 and try to bring up your past and the things that you used to do 06:35.800 --> 06:39.100 and this isn't really you. These are toxic people 06:39.100 --> 06:43.720 that we don't need in our lives, okay? You know sometimes family because they are 06:43.720 --> 06:44.800 close relatives 06:44.800 --> 06:47.800 you know they can be far more successful at tempting us to sin. 06:48.400 --> 06:50.720 Because they have influence over us, you know 06:50.720 --> 06:57.680 Maybe family members you have certain family members to use to sin with did sinful things with and now you're seeking to live a godly life 06:57.680 --> 07:04.520 And they see that they can often be the main culprits to come to you and tempt you to go back into that lifestyle 07:04.520 --> 07:11.080 Go back to that sinful habit and do things that are displeasing unto the Lord only because they know they have influence over you 07:11.080 --> 07:16.320 They're the ones that introduced you to sin in the first place. They're the ones who introduced you to that particular 07:16.400 --> 07:21.360 environment to begin with and to that I say you know beware of the toxic family 07:21.360 --> 07:24.560 member in your life and you may think to yourself well you know I don't really 07:24.560 --> 07:27.840 have a family member that tries to tempt me to sin but you might have a family 07:27.840 --> 07:32.700 member that tries to tempt you to become apathetic towards the things of God 07:33.000 --> 07:37.040 Meaning, oh don't be so, you know, excited about the things of God. 07:37.040 --> 07:38.040 You're doing too much. 07:38.040 --> 07:39.600 You're going to church too much. 07:39.600 --> 07:41.400 You're, you know, evangelizing too much. 07:41.400 --> 07:43.400 Oh, now you're wearing dresses all of a sudden. 07:43.400 --> 07:45.400 Oh, now you're wearing a suit all of a sudden. 07:45.400 --> 07:49.700 You know, these are toxic people, okay, that we need to be aware of. 07:49.700 --> 07:52.400 These are the fire extinguishers, so to speak. 07:52.400 --> 07:55.840 When you're on fire for God, they try to tame you a little bit. 07:55.840 --> 07:58.720 They try to calm you down because you're making them look bad. 07:59.200 --> 08:04.800 And this is very common with Christians who have other so-called Christians as family members. 08:05.600 --> 08:10.400 You know, Christians are just like, well, I've been a Christian a lot longer than you. 08:10.400 --> 08:13.040 I've been in this thing a lot longer than you. 08:13.040 --> 08:15.920 And you're going to tell me what the Christian life is all about. 08:15.920 --> 08:18.160 You know, that's called being salt unto them. 08:18.160 --> 08:19.920 Salt irritates people. 08:19.920 --> 08:23.280 And so when they view that you kind of you're lapping them, 08:23.280 --> 08:25.600 spiritually speaking, they don't like that. 08:25.600 --> 08:26.960 And they want to slow you down. 08:26.960 --> 08:32.080 Beware of the toxic family member that is seeking to hinder you spiritually. 08:32.080 --> 08:33.480 Now you may be sitting there thinking, well... 08:33.600 --> 08:35.400 I don't really have anybody like that. 08:35.400 --> 08:38.240 OK, then ignore me right now. 08:38.240 --> 08:41.640 Don't be that person then, OK? 08:41.640 --> 08:43.520 Let me read to you a couple of passages here. 08:43.520 --> 08:45.640 I'm going to read you from Deuteronomy 13, verse 6. 08:45.640 --> 08:49.800 It says, if thy brother, the son of thy mother, or thy son, 08:49.800 --> 08:52.240 or thy daughter, or the wife of thy bosom, 08:52.240 --> 08:57.040 or thy friend which is as thine own soul entice thee secretly, 08:57.040 --> 08:57.100 you 08:57.200 --> 09:00.340 Saying let us go and serve other gods which thou has not known 09:00.740 --> 09:04.680 Thou nor thy fathers namely of the gods of the people which are round about you 09:04.760 --> 09:10.300 Nigh into thee or far off from thee from the one end of the earth even into the under end of the earth 09:10.300 --> 09:17.280 Thou shalt not consent unto him nor hearken unto him neither shall I pity him neither 09:17.280 --> 09:20.400 Shalt thou spare neither shalt thou conceal him 09:20.400 --> 09:25.160 What is the Bible telling us here? Don't be a respecter of people when it comes to your own family members who are 09:25.200 --> 09:29.840 are trying to cause you to sin, deviate from the things of God, get out of church, or go 09:29.840 --> 09:33.520 to some other false religion, you need to make sure that your loyalty lies with the 09:33.520 --> 09:34.520 Lord Jesus Christ. 09:34.520 --> 09:35.520 Amen. 09:35.520 --> 09:36.520 Okay? 09:36.520 --> 09:38.240 You're like, oh man, but how is that going to work in my marriage? 09:38.240 --> 09:39.240 Well, you know what? 09:39.240 --> 09:42.880 The reality is sometimes Jesus Christ causes division in your marriage. 09:42.880 --> 09:44.200 And you know what? 09:44.200 --> 09:46.720 We're to choose Christ even over our own spouse. 09:46.720 --> 09:47.720 Yes, that's correct. 09:47.720 --> 09:48.700 Amen. 09:49.300 --> 09:55.380 Look at Micah 7 and verse 5, it says, trust ye not in a friend, Micah 7 verse 5, trust 09:55.380 --> 10:00.620 ye not in a friend, put ye not confidence in a guide, keep the doors of thy mouth from 10:00.620 --> 10:02.700 her that lieth in thy bosom. 10:02.700 --> 10:08.140 For the son dishonoreth the father, the daughter riseth up against her mother, the daughter 10:08.140 --> 10:13.260 in law against her mother in law, and a man's enemies are the men of his own house. 10:13.260 --> 10:17.260 Of course we know that this is reiterated in the New Testament by Jesus Christ. 10:17.300 --> 10:20.240 in Matthew chapter 10 in the context of end times. 10:20.240 --> 10:22.800 But we see that even today, right? 10:22.800 --> 10:24.320 And let me just remind you, you know, 10:24.320 --> 10:29.000 if you have the liberty to cut off toxic family members 10:29.000 --> 10:31.100 from your life, then do it. 10:31.400 --> 10:38.300 You know, if there's people in your life that you've invited into your life that are criticizing the things of God, 10:38.300 --> 10:42.600 criticizing your leadership, they're criticizing your stance on certain things, 10:42.600 --> 10:46.100 and you're choosing to keep them in your life, you should cut them off immediately. 10:46.100 --> 10:50.200 I would that they were cut off, right? Them that trouble you. 10:50.200 --> 10:52.500 And then that goes for adult children as well. 10:53.400 --> 11:00.400 You know, if there's an adult child, you know, that you have in your life and they are mocking 11:00.400 --> 11:04.760 the things of God, they don't respect your leadership, they're disrespecting you, cut 11:04.760 --> 11:07.080 them off! 11:07.080 --> 11:08.080 Remove them completely! 11:08.080 --> 11:09.080 You say, why? 11:09.080 --> 11:12.760 Well, number one, because you don't want that toxic relationship in your life. 11:12.760 --> 11:16.640 But number two, let me also say this, they can often poison the other children to also 11:16.640 --> 11:18.240 have that same disposition towards you. 11:19.000 --> 11:21.320 So in order to prevent that leaven from spreading, 11:21.320 --> 11:23.440 that toxicity from spreading in the family, 11:23.440 --> 11:25.640 you need to make sure you cut people off like that. 11:25.640 --> 11:27.480 OK? 11:27.480 --> 11:30.920 You know, adult children that are involved in sin, 11:30.920 --> 11:33.040 they're involved in iniquity, they've 11:33.040 --> 11:34.960 been excommunicated from a church, 11:34.960 --> 11:36.560 they're involved in things they shouldn't be doing. 11:36.560 --> 11:38.080 You know, you should remove people 11:38.080 --> 11:39.680 like that from your personal lives, 11:39.680 --> 11:41.160 because you're a Christian, and you 11:41.160 --> 11:44.520 need to practice ecclesiastical separation from them. 11:44.900 --> 11:47.080 removing toxic people from it. 11:47.080 --> 11:50.120 Don't make exceptions for people just because they're your family members. 11:50.120 --> 11:53.240 Now look, obviously you might be in a situation where you can't control that. 11:53.240 --> 11:55.880 You might be in a situation where your mom and your dad 11:55.880 --> 11:57.980 are involved in a particular sin 11:57.980 --> 12:00.460 and you know what? You can't really do anything about that. 12:00.460 --> 12:02.100 You can't move away, 12:02.100 --> 12:03.760 you can't rebuke them 12:03.760 --> 12:05.120 because they're paying the bills. 12:05.120 --> 12:06.220 Here's what you could do. 12:06.220 --> 12:07.920 Grow up, get married and move out. 12:09.900 --> 12:12.500 If you're in that situation, there's nothing you can do. 12:12.500 --> 12:16.660 Sorry, that's your lot in life until you become desirable 12:16.660 --> 12:18.500 to some human being in this world, 12:18.500 --> 12:19.740 and they would want to marry you, 12:19.740 --> 12:23.380 and then you can live happily ever thereafter. 12:23.380 --> 12:24.580 Look at 2 Samuel chapter 13. 12:24.580 --> 12:27.820 Let's look at an example of toxic family members. 12:27.820 --> 12:29.260 Let's look at Amnon and Jonadab. 12:31.400 --> 12:36.980 Second, sammy 13 verse 1 says and it came to pass after this that absalom the son of david had a fair sister 12:37.200 --> 12:41.200 Whose name was tamar and amnon the son of david loved her? 12:41.880 --> 12:48.440 Anna was so vexed that he fell sick for his sister tamar for she was a virgin and amnon thought it hard for him 12:48.440 --> 12:50.440 To do anything to her now. This is weird 12:51.600 --> 12:53.320 Okay, it's super weird 12:53.320 --> 12:55.960 You know i don't know what's up with this dude okay? 12:56.600 --> 13:00.600 You know, this guy has a major crush on his half-sister. 13:01.100 --> 13:07.380 Tamar and the Bible says in verse 2 that he's fallen sick for her meaning that he's just kind of like he's become just 13:07.860 --> 13:12.000 Obsessed over her. He is has this inordinate 13:12.740 --> 13:13.800 affection 13:13.800 --> 13:21.060 Towards his sister and you know he he's having he's struggling with these thoughts and he's struggling with these emotions 13:21.060 --> 13:25.680 And he's finding it hard to do anything to her because he knows that would be wrong to do so, right? 13:26.500 --> 13:31.500 So, you know, if we were to just take this one part of the equation, 13:31.500 --> 13:35.000 this one variable out of the equation, like it was her sister, 13:35.000 --> 13:38.000 we can say, like, maybe there's people in this world that exist like that. 13:38.300 --> 13:42.300 You know, a young man can fall in love with a woman, 13:42.300 --> 13:45.300 and he can become overly obsessed with her and all this stuff. 13:45.300 --> 13:49.300 These are natural emotions that people can experience, 13:49.300 --> 13:51.300 and they kind of need to work through them. 13:51.300 --> 13:54.300 They kind of need to let it die out, 13:54.300 --> 13:56.300 and pray through it if you're a Christian, 13:56.300 --> 13:59.300 and not allow those things to consume you. 13:59.300 --> 14:01.300 And then later on down the road, 14:01.300 --> 14:04.300 you grow up, and you mature in your faith, 14:04.300 --> 14:06.300 and you know you just kind of get 14:06.300 --> 14:07.300 over it. 14:07.300 --> 14:10.740 And you're just like, that was kind of stupid that I felt that way, you know? 14:10.740 --> 14:12.100 I wasn't really in love, I guess. 14:12.100 --> 14:13.540 I was just kind of feeling that way. 14:13.540 --> 14:16.740 You know, because young people just kind of act dumb sometimes, right? 14:16.740 --> 14:24.100 They just are easily enveloped in this fantasy world in their mind towards an individual 14:24.100 --> 14:25.260 and then they can feel that way. 14:25.260 --> 14:28.060 So you know, it's kind of natural that you felt this way. 14:28.060 --> 14:31.180 Obviously, it's weird that it was towards his sister, but let's just ignore that part 14:31.180 --> 14:33.700 for just for the sake of the story, right? 14:33.700 --> 14:34.300 You know? 14:34.700 --> 14:36.300 for the sake of the principle. 14:36.300 --> 14:38.100 So it would have been good if he just, 14:38.100 --> 14:39.220 OK, he's struggling. 14:39.220 --> 14:41.500 He probably would have gotten over it later on. 14:41.500 --> 14:42.940 And he is the king's son. 14:42.940 --> 14:44.340 He would have met some girl. 14:44.340 --> 14:45.380 It would have been great. 14:45.380 --> 14:48.660 And he could have just kept this to himself 14:48.660 --> 14:52.540 and not be embarrassed for the last 4,000 years, 3,000 years, 14:52.540 --> 14:56.460 over the fact that he had a crush on his sister. 14:56.460 --> 14:57.500 But here's the problem. 14:57.500 --> 14:58.740 Look at verse 3. 14:58.740 --> 15:00.460 Amnon had a friend. 15:00.460 --> 15:00.700 Thanks for watching! 15:01.400 --> 15:05.000 Now this friend is his cousin, his family. 15:05.000 --> 15:07.880 So it says, but Amnon had a friend whose name was Johnadab, 15:07.880 --> 15:09.800 the son of Shimeah, David's brother, 15:09.800 --> 15:12.880 and Johnadab was a very subtle man. 15:12.880 --> 15:15.080 So if the story ended in verse two, 15:15.080 --> 15:16.840 it would have been great, and I'm sure we would have seen 15:16.840 --> 15:18.480 Amnon living later on. 15:18.480 --> 15:22.280 But the problem is, he had a toxic family member 15:22.280 --> 15:23.840 by the name of Johnadab. 15:24.100 --> 15:27.140 Okay, and the Bible's telling us here that he's a very subtle man. 15:27.140 --> 15:29.780 Now, there's a reason the Bible's using this terminology. 15:29.780 --> 15:33.780 It's because of the fact that it's trying to help us to realize that he kind of, 15:33.780 --> 15:36.420 he kind of pictures Satan here, right? 15:36.420 --> 15:41.700 Satan in the serpent in Genesis 3 was more subtle than all the beasts of the field. 15:42.100 --> 15:46.100 And we see that the cousin here, Johnadab, is a very subtle man. 15:46.100 --> 15:51.140 So obviously, the Bible is giving us this picture that he is very cunning. 15:51.140 --> 15:53.580 He's being introduced as like, okay, what's this guy all about? 15:53.580 --> 15:54.820 What's he going to do here? 15:54.820 --> 15:59.740 Verse four, and he said to him, why art thou, being the king's son, lean from day to day? 15:59.740 --> 16:01.380 Will thou not tell me? 16:01.380 --> 16:07.020 Let me just say this, beware of who you divulge your emotions to. 16:07.020 --> 16:07.700 Okay? 16:08.500 --> 16:12.300 You need to be careful who you divulge 16:12.300 --> 16:15.800 your innermost emotional thoughts to. 16:17.800 --> 16:20.300 You know, sometimes we just gotta let it out, right? 16:20.300 --> 16:21.500 You know, sometimes we just, 16:21.500 --> 16:22.900 and it's good for you to have someone 16:22.900 --> 16:25.300 that you can confide in, you know, 16:25.300 --> 16:27.200 some, like a godly person that you know 16:27.200 --> 16:29.200 will not be a tail bear, someone who's trustworthy, 16:29.200 --> 16:31.600 someone who's mature, but don't choose like 10 of them, 16:31.600 --> 16:33.100 though. 16:33.100 --> 16:34.700 I would even choose five of them. 16:35.300 --> 16:38.560 I'd choose maybe like one or two if that. 16:38.560 --> 16:40.720 And you know, you should have someone like that. 16:40.720 --> 16:42.640 But you gotta be careful who you talk to, 16:42.640 --> 16:46.980 because sometimes people just wanna hear your drama 16:46.980 --> 16:50.340 just so they can use it against you later on. 16:50.340 --> 16:52.780 Or even like in this case, at the very moment. 16:52.780 --> 16:55.840 So he's like, why aren't you telling me what's wrong, man? 16:55.840 --> 16:57.860 And Amnon said to him, I love Tamar, 16:57.860 --> 16:59.940 my brother, absolute sister. 16:59.940 --> 17:01.360 Now if John of that was a righteous person, 17:01.360 --> 17:02.860 he'd be like, that's weird, bro. 17:04.000 --> 17:06.000 Have you told anybody else about this? 17:06.000 --> 17:08.000 Okay, good. Don't tell anybody else. 17:08.000 --> 17:10.500 Let's find you another woman in this kingdom. 17:10.500 --> 17:12.000 You're the king's son. 17:12.000 --> 17:14.000 Like, your sister, really? 17:14.000 --> 17:16.000 That's gross, right? 17:16.000 --> 17:20.000 That's what a righteous family member would have done. 17:20.000 --> 17:22.500 Now, if you have a family member that admonishes you 17:22.500 --> 17:26.000 in a very spiritual, righteous way, praise God for that. 17:26.700 --> 17:31.500 That's great. If you have someone that you can share your heart with, maybe it is a cousin, 17:31.500 --> 17:36.140 or a brother, or a sister, and they give you good scriptural advice, 17:36.140 --> 17:38.940 they encourage you in a righteous way, that's awesome. 17:39.700 --> 17:44.640 To have someone you can share your heart with and they're just like you know what these emotions are normal 17:44.640 --> 17:50.760 But don't tell anybody you need to make sure that you just get over this and I'm gonna be there to help you hold 17:50.760 --> 17:56.620 You accountable to this you know and you need to make sure you marry righteously. This is not God's will 17:56.700 --> 18:02.820 It's not a natural thing for you to want to you know give in to you know that would have been the right answer 18:04.000 --> 18:11.600 But instead, what does John of Dab do? He basically helps him to construct a plan to rape the sister. 18:13.120 --> 18:18.400 Verse 5 says, and John of Dab said to him, lay thee down on thy bed, make thyself sick, 18:18.400 --> 18:23.440 and when thy father cometh to see thee, saying to him, I pray thee, let my sister Tamar come and 18:23.440 --> 18:28.000 give me meat and dress the meat of my sight, that I may see it and eat at her hand. 18:28.700 --> 18:33.200 So Amnon lay down, made himself sick, and when the king was come to see him, Amnon said unto the king, 18:33.200 --> 18:39.040 I pray thee, let Tamar, my sister, come, and make me a couple of cakes in my sight, that I may eat at her hand. 18:39.040 --> 18:43.200 So instead of, you know, admonishing them, correcting him, rebuking him, 18:43.200 --> 18:45.440 what does he do? He's just like, I got a plan for you. 18:45.440 --> 18:50.700 You know, why don't you fake like you're sick, request for her to take care of you, 18:50.700 --> 18:54.080 and the implication there is like, then you can do whatever it is that you want to do. 18:54.080 --> 18:55.440 It's godless, wicked. 18:55.600 --> 19:04.240 Okay, this is a toxic cousin here. Look at verse seven. So you know he requests for this. Verse seven says, 19:04.240 --> 19:10.720 Then David sent home to Tamar saying, Go to go now to thy brother Amnon's house, dress him meat. So Tamar 19:10.720 --> 19:15.760 went to her brother's Amnon's house and he was laid down and she took flour, kneaded it. And so for skip 19:15.760 --> 19:19.840 down to verse number, let's see here. Look at verse 11. 19:20.500 --> 19:24.660 And when she had brought them unto him to eat, he took hold of her and said unto her, 19:24.660 --> 19:26.300 Come lie with me, my sister. 19:26.300 --> 19:28.580 Like, bro, my sister? 19:28.580 --> 19:33.300 Like, that just seemed weird. 19:33.300 --> 19:37.100 And she answered him, Nay, my brother, do not force me, for no such thing ought to be 19:37.100 --> 19:38.100 done in Israel. 19:38.100 --> 19:41.820 Do not thou this folly, and whither shall I cause my shame to go? 19:42.200 --> 19:45.320 And as for thee thou shall be as one of the fools in Israel 19:45.640 --> 19:51.800 Now therefore I pray thee speaking to the king for he will not withhold thee hold me from thee. So, you know 19:52.800 --> 19:57.240 Tamar is just like, hey, at least go about this the right way if this is what you want. 19:57.240 --> 20:03.640 Request the king to allow you to marry me and vice versa. 20:03.640 --> 20:05.840 And he's not going to stop you. 20:05.840 --> 20:07.040 Why are you going to do it this way? 20:07.040 --> 20:11.520 Why are you going to rape this woman in order to satiate this desire? 20:11.520 --> 20:17.520 Verse 14, habi, he would not hearken unto her voice, but being stronger than she. 20:17.900 --> 20:20.660 forced her and lay with her. 20:20.660 --> 20:23.420 Then Amnon hated her exceedingly, 20:23.420 --> 20:25.540 so that the hatred with which he hated her 20:25.540 --> 20:27.460 was greater than the love with which he had loved her. 20:27.460 --> 20:28.580 And Amnon said unto her, 20:28.580 --> 20:30.740 her rise be gone. 20:30.740 --> 20:33.300 And so it's that story, and of course we know that. 20:33.600 --> 20:36.040 And then ended up dying because of this. 20:36.040 --> 20:39.200 Absalom ends up murdering Annem because of it. 20:39.200 --> 20:45.000 And a lot of family drama arose because of this particular sin. 20:45.000 --> 20:47.280 But who's the one who's behind all this? 20:47.280 --> 20:49.300 It was the toxic cousin. 20:50.000 --> 20:54.080 It was the toxic cousin who gave Amnon bad advice. 20:54.080 --> 20:58.080 He helped him to construct the plan to rape his sister, 20:58.080 --> 21:01.520 thereby causing Tamar to be raped, 21:01.520 --> 21:03.920 thereby causing Amnon to lose his life, 21:03.920 --> 21:06.480 thereby causing Absalom to become bitter towards Amnon, 21:06.480 --> 21:09.680 towards his father, and essentially disrupting the kingdom. 21:09.680 --> 21:12.800 Why? Because there was a toxic family member involved. 21:12.800 --> 21:14.880 You better beware of that toxic family member 21:14.880 --> 21:16.080 that you have in your life. 21:16.900 --> 21:22.100 The one who manipulates you, the one who is just constantly putting you down because you're a Christian, 21:22.100 --> 21:25.700 you're trying to serve your husband, you're trying to love your wife, 21:25.700 --> 21:30.340 you're trying to raise your kids in a godly manner, and they're just constantly talking down on you, 21:30.340 --> 21:33.380 constantly putting doubt in your mind, constantly questioning the word of God, 21:33.380 --> 21:36.340 constantly giving you bad advice. Get away from people like that. 21:38.500 --> 21:40.900 And you know, once Amnon dies, you 21:40.900 --> 21:44.860 know who's the one who basically tells David what happened? 21:44.860 --> 21:46.100 It's John of Abbey. 21:46.100 --> 21:46.700 You know what? 21:46.700 --> 21:47.500 That's what Satan does. 21:47.500 --> 21:50.260 He tempts you to sin, and then he accuses you to the Father. 21:50.260 --> 21:50.540 Right? 21:50.540 --> 21:51.900 Like, oh, look what he did, you know? 21:52.600 --> 21:59.080 He's there to see your downfall. Okay? John of that provokes Amnon to sin. He planted the seeds 21:59.080 --> 22:06.120 in the mind of Amnon to commit this grievous sin. And he's there to see the outcome. And essentially 22:06.120 --> 22:12.200 he's not affected by it at all. Go to first Kings chapter 21, first Kings chapter 21, if you would 22:12.200 --> 22:18.920 first Kings chapter 21. You know, beware of the ants, you know, who's highly esteemed in your family 22:18.920 --> 22:20.600 as being the one who gives all the best. 22:20.600 --> 22:25.400 best advice, beware of the uncle, especially the uncle, okay? 22:25.400 --> 22:29.200 You know, beware of the cousins, beware of the brother. 22:29.200 --> 22:31.960 We need to make sure that we're not respecter of people and say, well, they're my family 22:31.960 --> 22:34.320 and so, you know, blood is thicker than water. 22:34.320 --> 22:37.640 Okay, if you want to go by that philosophy that blood is thicker than water, the blood 22:37.640 --> 22:40.760 of Christ is thicker than that. 22:40.760 --> 22:45.320 We need to realize that the family that we should esteem are those who actually serve 22:45.320 --> 22:46.300 more people to talk and 22:46.820 --> 22:46.300 every little thing you 22:47.400 --> 22:46.300 know. 22:46.400 --> 22:48.600 and obey the word of God. 22:48.600 --> 22:52.560 Not at the exclusion at providing for our family members. 22:52.560 --> 22:55.960 If they're under our household, they're under our jurisdiction. 22:55.960 --> 23:01.080 I'm just saying, don't just choose a family member based upon blood when they're out here 23:01.080 --> 23:06.280 blaspheming the Lord and giving you bad advice and trying to lead you astray in an intentional 23:06.280 --> 23:07.280 way. 23:07.280 --> 23:08.480 You know, criticizing your spouse. 23:09.100 --> 23:12.700 Constantly putting down your husband, putting down your wife. 23:12.700 --> 23:15.400 You know folks, you better make sure you defend your spouse 23:15.400 --> 23:18.200 to the people criticizing them. 23:18.200 --> 23:22.300 You better defend your spouse to your mother or your father. 23:22.300 --> 23:24.500 If your mom is saying stuff about your spouse, 23:24.500 --> 23:27.200 you better stand up for your spouse. 23:27.200 --> 23:30.700 And be like, hey, watch your mouth. 23:30.700 --> 23:32.900 You don't talk that way about my wife. 23:32.900 --> 23:33.400 OK? 23:34.100 --> 23:35.820 You know, you don't talk that way about my wife. 23:35.820 --> 23:37.780 You don't talk that way about my kids. 23:37.780 --> 23:38.940 That's not, we don't do that here. 23:38.940 --> 23:39.820 And you know what? 23:39.820 --> 23:42.840 If they apologize and never do it again, it's good. 23:42.840 --> 23:45.940 But if they keep doing it, be like, don't ever come around. 23:45.940 --> 23:49.900 I'm not gonna tolerate people blasting my wife. 23:49.900 --> 23:52.580 You shouldn't tolerate people blasting your husband, 23:52.580 --> 23:55.680 you know, gossiping about them, putting them down, 23:55.680 --> 23:57.420 talking trash about them. 23:57.420 --> 23:58.420 Where's your loyalty? 23:58.420 --> 23:59.980 Your loyalty should be to your spouse 23:59.980 --> 24:01.200 and to your children, amen? 24:03.000 --> 24:07.080 So I don't know, and you know, there's been times in my personal life where I've literally cut off 24:07.080 --> 24:10.320 blood relatives because they criticized my spouse. 24:10.320 --> 24:14.040 Which I don't even know how you can criticize my wife, like she, she like never talks. 24:14.040 --> 24:17.360 You know, it's like, she just, she's there, you know? 24:17.360 --> 24:22.560 But I remember a family member criticizing my wife, trying to use a situation 24:22.560 --> 24:27.800 and trying to manipulate a situation, and I said, like, I will never talk to you ever again. 24:28.000 --> 24:31.400 And I blocked that person, and when family members came, 24:31.400 --> 24:32.520 they're like, hey, what's going on? 24:32.520 --> 24:33.000 Do you know what's going on? 24:33.000 --> 24:34.120 I'm like, I don't know. 24:34.120 --> 24:35.080 I'm not interested. 24:35.080 --> 24:36.700 Until that person comes and apologizes 24:36.700 --> 24:38.400 for what they said against my wife, 24:38.400 --> 24:41.640 I'm not interested in talking to that person. 24:41.640 --> 24:44.240 I don't care if I grew up with this person. 24:44.240 --> 24:49.480 If I've known them my entire life, my loyalty is to my wife. 24:49.480 --> 24:53.120 And so get away from toxic family members 24:53.120 --> 24:54.720 who undermine your authority. 24:55.200 --> 24:58.360 who undermine your husband's authority, 24:58.360 --> 25:02.200 who are constantly criticizing the way you do things. 25:02.200 --> 25:03.280 Oh, you homeschool? 25:03.280 --> 25:05.360 Oh, how are you guys doing that for? 25:05.360 --> 25:07.360 Oh, man, oh, that's why you do that? 25:07.360 --> 25:09.720 Why are you wearing dresses? 25:09.720 --> 25:11.160 You shouldn't be wearing dresses. 25:11.160 --> 25:14.120 Don't let them tell you what to do. 25:14.120 --> 25:16.480 Girl, just stand up for yourself. 25:16.480 --> 25:19.880 Girl, you're in your prime, girl. 25:19.880 --> 25:23.120 You know, if I walked in in a conversation like that, 25:23.120 --> 25:23.200 you 25:24.100 --> 25:28.100 You know, you guys know jazz from French Prince of Bel Air? 25:28.100 --> 25:29.300 You know, every time he gets thrown out, he's like, 25:29.300 --> 25:29.800 ah! 25:29.800 --> 25:31.300 He just gets thrown out. 25:34.200 --> 25:38.760 Why? Because first and foremost, obviously our loyalty is towards the Lord Jesus Christ. 25:39.200 --> 25:44.400 but also towards those who he's placed in our lives, such as our spouse, our children. 25:44.400 --> 25:47.520 The Bible tells us in Luke chapter 14 and verse 26, 25:47.520 --> 25:50.800 if any man come after me and hate not his father and mother and wife and children and 25:50.800 --> 25:55.200 brethren and sisters, yet his own life also, he cannot be my disciple. 25:55.200 --> 25:59.920 This is not saying that our loyalty to Jesus Christ should be hatred towards 25:59.920 --> 26:04.240 our relatives, towards our spouse. It's saying that our loyalties should almost 26:04.240 --> 26:06.880 seem as though it's hatred towards others because 26:07.200 --> 26:12.800 We love the Lord and we're loyal to Him and we're going to choose Him above everyone else. 26:12.800 --> 26:15.640 Let me read you another scripture before we get into 1 Kings. 26:15.640 --> 26:16.840 Actually, let's skip 1 Kings. 26:16.840 --> 26:17.840 Go to Matthew 12. 26:17.840 --> 26:20.160 Matthew chapter 12. 26:20.160 --> 26:21.080 Matthew chapter 12. 26:23.900 --> 26:30.900 I was going to use First Kings to talk about the fact that we need to make sure we stay away from family members that are enablers. 26:32.900 --> 26:37.900 Don't raise your family in an environment of enablers. 26:38.900 --> 26:47.900 If there's someone in your family that's committing grievous sins and they know that, we should not be participating in enabling them in that sin. 26:48.700 --> 26:56.480 Okay, we should still exercise first Corinthians chapter 5 and cut that person off from our life until they decide to repent and not make 26:56.700 --> 26:58.460 exceptions for these individuals 26:58.460 --> 27:06.220 Okay, you know and you have people like for example Jezebel said that she stirred up a have to commit these sins 27:07.100 --> 27:09.500 And let me read to you Jeremiah 23 verse 14 says, 27:09.500 --> 27:11.420 I have seen also in the prophets of Jerusalem 27:11.420 --> 27:12.300 a horrible thing. 27:12.300 --> 27:14.780 They commit adultery, walk in lies. 27:14.780 --> 27:18.700 They strengthen also the hands of evildoers. 27:18.700 --> 27:20.140 And we don't want to be guilty of that. 27:20.400 --> 27:24.600 We don't want to be guilty of strengthening the hands of sinful people. 27:24.600 --> 27:28.100 If you have someone in your family who's a Christian and they're committing fornication, 27:28.100 --> 27:30.200 that needs to be cut off and they know that it's wrong. 27:30.200 --> 27:32.700 They know they need to repent and they're unwilling to do so. 27:32.700 --> 27:35.600 You should have the integrity to cut that person off. 27:35.600 --> 27:37.000 That's a toxic individual. 27:37.000 --> 27:39.100 That's leaven that will leaven the whole lump. 27:39.100 --> 27:42.900 And you know what? You're providing a bad example for your children by tolerating that sin. 27:44.000 --> 27:45.000 You gotta think about it, folks. 27:45.000 --> 27:48.580 It's not just loyalty to principle, loyalty to Jesus Christ. 27:48.580 --> 27:51.600 It also just sets a bad example to your children. 27:51.600 --> 27:53.720 Because your children is like, oh yeah, we're against fortification. 27:53.720 --> 27:55.560 Oh, mom, dad, but how come you're cool with it 27:55.560 --> 28:00.800 when it comes to auntie and uncle and cousin so and so? 28:00.800 --> 28:01.760 But it's OK with them. 28:01.760 --> 28:02.560 They're Christians. 28:02.560 --> 28:03.040 They're doing it. 28:03.040 --> 28:04.520 You seem to tolerate that. 28:04.520 --> 28:05.720 That's called being a respecter of people. 28:05.720 --> 28:07.400 You're a compromiser if that's you. 28:07.400 --> 28:07.900 OK? 28:08.400 --> 28:12.160 You know, we need to make sure that we remove ourselves from toxic individuals. 28:12.160 --> 28:14.160 Look at Matthew 12 verse 46. 28:14.160 --> 28:17.600 It says here, while he yet talked to the people, referring to Jesus, 28:17.600 --> 28:22.000 behold, his mother and his brethren stood without, desiring to speak with him. 28:22.960 --> 28:27.440 Then one said, behold, thy mother and thy brethren stand without, desiring to speak with thee. 28:28.800 --> 28:31.600 This is what Jesus said, oh, the blessed mother. 28:33.520 --> 28:34.640 Everyone move out of the way. 28:35.300 --> 28:38.500 This is the reason you guys are gonna get saved, 28:38.500 --> 28:42.000 is because of the blessed holy mother. 28:42.000 --> 28:42.840 Eh. 28:44.680 --> 28:47.820 Verse 48, but he answered and said to him that told him, 28:47.820 --> 28:51.260 who is my mother and who are my brethren? 28:51.260 --> 28:53.700 Man, talk about a diss. 28:53.700 --> 28:54.540 Who? 28:56.040 --> 28:57.740 Your mom and your brother stand with that? 28:57.740 --> 28:59.060 Who? 28:59.060 --> 29:00.400 Who's my mother and who are my brethren? 29:01.400 --> 29:03.640 And he stretched forth his hand toward his disciples and said, 29:03.640 --> 29:05.640 Behold, my mother and my brethren, for whosoever shall do 29:05.640 --> 29:07.240 the will of my father which is in heaven, 29:07.240 --> 29:09.700 the same as my brother and sister and mother. 29:09.700 --> 29:11.200 You know what this demonstrates to me? 29:11.200 --> 29:13.700 It demonstrates that God expects us to be loyal to those who do 29:13.700 --> 29:17.000 the will of God and not to be a respecter of people, 29:17.000 --> 29:20.280 to blood relatives, just because they're blood relatives. 29:20.280 --> 29:23.320 You know, if you have a relative that is a complete drunkard, 29:23.320 --> 29:26.120 they're a drug addict, you need to cut that person off from your life. 29:26.900 --> 29:29.940 Well, we kind of grew up together and we just know each other. 29:29.940 --> 29:35.140 Yeah, you're being a bad testimony to him and to everyone around you by tolerating that. 29:35.140 --> 29:38.820 You're being a bad testimony to your kids because they're seeing that you're still buddy buddies 29:38.820 --> 29:44.020 with someone who's a pot smoker, they're a drunkard, they're a drug addict, they're compromising the 29:44.020 --> 29:50.020 word of God. We need to make sure that we get rid of, listen to this, toxic family members. 29:51.900 --> 29:53.800 And again, you might think to yourself, 29:53.800 --> 29:55.940 well, all my family members are here. 29:55.940 --> 29:57.660 Well, good for you. 29:57.660 --> 29:58.700 Praise God for that. 29:58.700 --> 29:59.500 That's what I have, too. 29:59.500 --> 30:00.700 My family's in church. 30:00.700 --> 30:02.620 I'm just talking to those of us who may not have 30:02.620 --> 30:03.900 all our family in church. 30:04.300 --> 30:11.240 Okay, and I'm here to remind you that God still expects us to practice biblical separation from people 30:11.240 --> 30:18.400 who are involved in sin. They are called a brother, but they're a fornicator, they're a drunkard, they're a raider, 30:18.400 --> 30:21.940 they're an extortion, they're an idolater. The Bible says, would such a one know not to eat? 30:22.820 --> 30:30.760 Why? Because they're toxic. It's leaven. It can spread. It can corrupt you. Go to 1 Kings chapter 12, 1 Kings chapter 12 if you would. 30:31.400 --> 30:33.400 1 Kings chapter 12. 30:33.400 --> 30:34.400 What's the title of the sermon? 30:34.400 --> 30:38.160 The title of the sermon is, Beware of Toxicity. 30:38.160 --> 30:40.120 You've got to beware of toxic family members who 30:40.120 --> 30:41.320 are trying to hinder you. 30:41.320 --> 30:42.880 They criticize you. 30:42.880 --> 30:44.640 And let me say this. 30:44.640 --> 30:48.480 I believe that we need to honor our parents. 30:48.480 --> 30:50.280 We need to make sure we honor them, right? 30:50.280 --> 30:51.800 Love and honor our parents. 30:51.800 --> 30:56.200 But if you are a father, if you are a mother of children, 30:56.200 --> 30:56.500 Thank you. 30:56.600 --> 31:00.920 Yes, you're obligated to honor your parents, but not beyond the scope and the boundaries 31:00.920 --> 31:02.780 of the Word of God. 31:02.780 --> 31:06.480 Meaning that if your parents are criticizing the things of God, especially in front of 31:06.480 --> 31:09.600 your children, don't tolerate that. 31:09.600 --> 31:11.240 Don't tolerate it. 31:11.240 --> 31:17.640 You know, criticizing your parenting, criticizing the way you do things, don't put up with it. 31:19.200 --> 31:21.940 You know, it's a privilege to allow our parents 31:21.940 --> 31:23.500 to be involved in our lives. 31:23.500 --> 31:26.300 It's a privilege for us, but it's also a privilege for them. 31:26.300 --> 31:30.140 Because you know, grandparents love their grandkids, right? 31:30.140 --> 31:32.340 Well, if they want to maintain that privilege, 31:32.340 --> 31:35.120 they need to do it on our terms. 31:35.120 --> 31:36.380 It's the way it works. 31:36.700 --> 31:44.860 Okay, don't be a little compromiser and just well, you know when when Nana's around when Pawpaw's around 31:45.100 --> 31:49.080 Then it's a little different. We need a taller no they need to abide by 31:49.640 --> 31:51.280 Scriptural rules that you have in your home 31:51.280 --> 31:55.960 they need to respect your authority and don't allow anybody who just come into your house and 31:56.320 --> 31:58.980 Undermine your scriptural authority in front of your kids, especially 32:00.480 --> 32:02.560 You don't have to do that and look 32:03.100 --> 32:07.800 Don't encourage that don't allow that don't allow your 32:08.620 --> 32:13.840 Mom and dad to not only undermine your authority to your kids, but also to try to teach them to lie 32:14.420 --> 32:21.140 To try to teach them to to adopt wicked habits against your authority. That's wrong. It's wicked. It's toxic 32:21.140 --> 32:25.720 There's nothing wrong with saying hey if you do that again, you're not gonna see these kids ever again 32:27.300 --> 32:28.980 because this is a Christian home, 32:28.980 --> 32:31.400 we're not gonna teach our kids to be rebellious against us, 32:31.400 --> 32:34.400 to normalize lying to their parents 32:36.620 --> 32:37.820 and withholding information, 32:37.820 --> 32:41.400 because you're telling them to do so, that's wrong. 32:41.400 --> 32:43.340 And so beware of toxic family. 32:43.340 --> 32:46.840 Point number two, beware of toxic friends. 32:48.020 --> 32:51.940 You need to watch out for people who claim to be friends, 32:51.940 --> 32:54.700 but they're like inwardly want your downfall or something. 32:55.400 --> 32:56.400 toxic people. 32:56.400 --> 32:57.400 Okay? 32:57.400 --> 33:00.400 And look, there's people out there like this, I'm just telling you right now. 33:00.400 --> 33:01.400 Okay? 33:01.400 --> 33:03.400 You're like, why I got so many friends on Facebook? 33:03.400 --> 33:05.400 They're not your friends. 33:05.400 --> 33:06.400 Okay? 33:06.400 --> 33:09.400 You know, these are frenemies in a lot of instances. 33:09.400 --> 33:10.400 Okay? 33:10.400 --> 33:13.400 You need to watch out for friends, even if they're Christians. 33:13.400 --> 33:19.400 Because Christians can often also be guilty of envy, covetousness. 33:19.600 --> 33:24.600 You know, feeling a sense of strife and emulation within themselves against you. 33:24.600 --> 33:25.600 Okay? 33:25.600 --> 33:30.600 You know, obviously, the Bible tells us to show ourself friendly, to be a friend to all. 33:30.600 --> 33:34.600 But we need to make sure we choose our close friends carefully, 33:34.600 --> 33:38.600 and not, you know, choose people who inwardly don't really like us. 33:38.600 --> 33:39.600 Okay? 33:39.600 --> 33:41.600 And that is the real thing. 33:41.600 --> 33:43.600 Now, what's a good example of this? 33:43.600 --> 33:46.600 Well, when I'm talking about toxic friends, I'm talking about friends... 33:46.800 --> 33:50.800 who claim to support you or want to give you advice, 33:50.800 --> 33:52.720 but they always give you bad advice. 33:52.720 --> 33:55.680 So the outcome does not come out in your favor. 33:55.680 --> 33:57.120 There's people like that. 33:57.120 --> 33:59.840 Look at 1 Kings 12 verse 1. 33:59.840 --> 34:01.520 It says, the Rehoboam went to Shechem, 34:01.520 --> 34:05.040 for all Israel will come to Shechem to make him king. 34:05.040 --> 34:08.040 And came to pass when Jeroboam the son of Nabat, who was yet 34:08.040 --> 34:09.280 in Egypt, heard of it. 34:10.000 --> 34:14.000 for he was fled from the presence of King Solomon, and Jeroboam dwelt in Egypt, 34:14.000 --> 34:18.240 that they sent and called him. And Jeroboam and all the congregation of Israel came and spake unto 34:18.240 --> 34:23.760 Rehoboam, saying, Thy father made our yoke grievous. Now therefore maketh thou the grievous 34:23.760 --> 34:30.480 service of thy father, and his heavy yoke which he put upon us lighter, and we will serve thee. 34:31.040 --> 34:36.080 And he said unto them, Depart yet for three days, then come again to me, and the people departed. 34:36.500 --> 34:45.740 King Rehoboam consulted with the old men that stood before Solomon his father while he had lived and said how do he advise that I may answer this people? 34:45.740 --> 34:50.320 So he's like you know this guy's willing to just kind of give me the reins to the leadership 34:50.320 --> 34:55.700 All he's saying is that we need to make sure we're a little nicer than my dad my dad was pretty strict 34:55.820 --> 35:00.520 He kind of ruled with an iron fist and so what do you advise that I do? 35:00.900 --> 35:02.740 They speak unto him, saying, verse 7, 35:02.740 --> 35:05.900 if thou wilt be a servant unto this people this day, 35:05.900 --> 35:07.780 and wilt serve them, and answer them, 35:07.780 --> 35:09.480 and speak good words to them, 35:09.480 --> 35:11.820 then they will be thy servants forever. 35:11.820 --> 35:12.860 Now this is not the sermon, 35:12.860 --> 35:15.140 but verse seven gives a lot of good things there, right? 35:15.140 --> 35:15.980 There's a lot of good advice. 35:15.980 --> 35:18.480 In fact, these are New Testament principles that we see, 35:18.480 --> 35:21.620 right, being a servant, speaking good words to them. 35:21.620 --> 35:23.120 He says, they will be your servants forever. 35:23.120 --> 35:26.660 If you just behave yourself wisely to these people, 35:26.660 --> 35:28.000 they'll serve you, okay? 35:29.300 --> 35:35.060 Verse 8, But he forsook the counsel of the old men, which they had given him, and consulted with 35:35.060 --> 35:41.140 the young men that were grown up with him, which stood before him. And he said unto them, What 35:41.140 --> 35:46.740 counsel give ye that we may answer this people who have spoken to me, saying, Make the yoke which thy 35:46.740 --> 35:48.260 father did put upon us lighter? 35:48.800 --> 35:53.460 And the young men that were grown up with him spake unto him, saying, Thou shalt thou 35:53.460 --> 35:58.100 speak unto this people that spake unto thee, saying, Thy father made our yoke heavy, but 35:58.100 --> 35:59.540 maketh it lighter unto us. 35:59.540 --> 36:04.300 Thou shalt say unto them, My little finger shall be thicker than my father's loins. 36:04.300 --> 36:08.620 He was like, man, you need to stand up for yourself and say, you think my dad was bad? 36:09.000 --> 36:11.280 I'm going to be worse. 36:11.280 --> 36:12.280 I'm going to whoop you. 36:12.280 --> 36:15.280 My little finger is going to be thicker than that, than his loins. 36:15.280 --> 36:19.440 He's basically saying like you didn't see nothing yet. 36:19.440 --> 36:25.080 Now whereas my father delayed you with heavy yoke, I will add to your yoke, my father hath 36:25.080 --> 36:28.920 chastised you with whips, but I would chastise you with scorpions. 36:28.920 --> 36:29.360 Good night. 36:30.000 --> 36:35.360 Jeroboam and all the people came to Rehoboam the third day as the king had appointed saying come to me again the third day and 36:35.360 --> 36:40.520 So forth and of course he tells him this now obviously this ended up causing the split of the kingdom 36:40.680 --> 36:43.820 Because of this bad advice now we have to know that this is of the Lord 36:43.960 --> 36:51.080 But it also demonstrates that these people who are giving this advice didn't necessarily have the kingdom in its best interest 36:52.000 --> 36:56.320 It wasn't necessarily looking to see, OK, what's the best outcome that we can provide here? 36:56.320 --> 36:57.800 What's the best solution? 36:57.800 --> 37:01.440 They're just like, you need to just tell them how it is. 37:01.440 --> 37:03.120 You just need to tell the truth. 37:03.120 --> 37:06.360 You just need to make sure that you just stand your ground. 37:06.360 --> 37:11.440 But it wasn't necessarily a wise answer, and it caused the kingdom to be split. 37:11.440 --> 37:15.120 Now, what is a principle that we can learn here when it comes to friendship? 37:15.120 --> 37:18.640 We need to make sure, first and foremost, that we pick our friends wisely. 37:19.800 --> 37:22.300 And then also, just because they're your friends 37:22.300 --> 37:25.440 doesn't mean you need advice from them. 37:25.440 --> 37:26.900 You don't need advice from every friend. 37:26.900 --> 37:27.400 Why? 37:27.400 --> 37:30.000 Because most of the time, your contemporaries, 37:30.000 --> 37:32.560 they're pretty dumb. 37:32.560 --> 37:35.520 And sometimes they're as dumb as you. 37:35.520 --> 37:36.880 OK? 37:36.880 --> 37:38.380 Amen? 37:38.380 --> 37:39.880 Sometimes they just got bad advice. 37:39.880 --> 37:41.920 They just kind of come up with it on a whim. 37:41.920 --> 37:43.000 Go to the old men. 37:43.800 --> 37:46.500 Go to the people who have experience, 37:46.500 --> 37:49.340 you know, they don't got a dog in the fight, 37:49.340 --> 37:52.220 they don't necessarily have anything to prove, 37:52.220 --> 37:53.800 they have your best interest in mind, 37:53.800 --> 37:55.880 you know, sometimes your contemporaries, 37:55.880 --> 37:58.440 they're just bad influences. 37:58.440 --> 38:00.320 And look, I'm not saying don't have friends, 38:00.320 --> 38:02.760 but I'm just saying, your closest friend 38:02.760 --> 38:06.560 that is like your age doesn't always have the best advice. 38:06.560 --> 38:07.300 Okay? 38:07.600 --> 38:13.840 So you know you need to be careful that you don't have certain friends around you that are toxic because let me just say this 38:13.840 --> 38:18.600 There's some things that there are friends around you they will advise you because they know that's a bad decision 38:18.600 --> 38:21.720 They want you to make that bad decision because they want to look good in 38:22.480 --> 38:24.200 comparison to you and 38:24.200 --> 38:27.080 You need to be aware that does that really exist yes that exists 38:28.040 --> 38:30.040 There's some dudes out there that are just 38:30.800 --> 38:31.920 toxic 38:31.920 --> 38:34.060 There's friends out there that are just toxic 38:34.700 --> 38:41.180 There's people out there that they don't really care about you. 38:41.180 --> 38:43.580 They will flatter you. 38:43.580 --> 38:46.740 They will lie to your face because they don't really care. 38:46.740 --> 38:51.180 I prefer the friend who tells me I'm fat and says, yeah, 38:51.180 --> 38:55.060 you're a bit overweight and you've got to work on that 38:55.060 --> 38:55.540 or whatever. 38:55.540 --> 38:57.340 And instead of, oh, you look great, man. 38:57.340 --> 38:59.700 Take off your shirt, bro. 38:59.700 --> 39:00.780 You're jacked, bro. 39:01.800 --> 39:05.800 Just straight causing delusions, you know? 39:05.800 --> 39:08.880 You think it's cool if I take off and do it, bro? 39:08.880 --> 39:11.400 You're more jacked than me. 39:11.400 --> 39:13.080 And then everyone's just like, pfft. 39:13.080 --> 39:15.120 Blech. 39:15.120 --> 39:17.880 Because you just look disgusting. 39:17.880 --> 39:19.680 But you know there's toxic people out there 39:19.680 --> 39:21.920 that will lie to you like that. 39:21.920 --> 39:23.900 Just because they want to embarrass you. 39:24.100 --> 39:24.940 You know what I mean? 39:24.940 --> 39:26.400 They want your downfall. 39:26.400 --> 39:28.160 You need to make sure that you have 39:28.160 --> 39:30.160 the right people around you. 39:30.160 --> 39:33.740 And look, it's good to have friends 39:33.740 --> 39:37.860 that challenge each other, but don't necessarily 39:37.860 --> 39:39.900 keep friends around you that are constantly competing 39:39.900 --> 39:40.500 with you, though. 39:42.500 --> 39:45.380 Meaning that like and look if you're competing with your friend 39:45.380 --> 39:51.560 It's like a healthy competition where they want you to succeed and you know you want them to succeed and you guys kind of you know 39:51.560 --> 39:53.560 Iron sharpened it iron. That's one thing 39:54.140 --> 39:59.480 But then there are other friends out there who are just toxic who compete with you because they don't want you to succeed 39:59.480 --> 40:01.400 They want to be better than you 40:01.400 --> 40:07.420 You know they want to gloat of their success. They want to brag about their success to you. That's a toxic friend 40:09.000 --> 40:13.280 And look, if you're that friend and people are talking about their success to you, praise 40:13.280 --> 40:14.880 them for it. 40:14.880 --> 40:16.520 Rejoice with them, they rejoice. 40:16.520 --> 40:17.880 Be happy for them. 40:17.880 --> 40:23.040 Don't have emulation, don't have strife, don't have envy in your heart for them. 40:23.040 --> 40:24.040 Rejoice in that matter. 40:24.040 --> 40:25.040 But you know what? 40:25.040 --> 40:28.360 If there's people who are constantly bragging to you about that, they're constantly saying 40:28.360 --> 40:31.760 stuff like that and you might have this indication like, I think this person is just kind of 40:31.760 --> 40:33.560 like doing this to kind of put me down. 40:34.200 --> 40:35.240 You know what I mean? 40:35.240 --> 40:38.600 Then it's time to just fellowship with someone else. 40:38.600 --> 40:41.400 It's time to find a new friend. 40:41.400 --> 40:45.280 And look, in our church, you don't have 40:45.280 --> 40:49.880 to be best friends with everyone. 40:49.880 --> 40:51.640 We have to be diplomatic. 40:51.640 --> 40:53.960 We have to be friendly. 40:53.960 --> 40:56.840 But we don't have to be best friends with everyone. 40:56.840 --> 40:58.960 We don't have to hang out with everyone. 40:58.960 --> 41:01.200 We just have to be good Christians with one another. 41:01.800 --> 41:03.340 You know, there's people in our church 41:03.340 --> 41:06.680 who I'm very friendly with, and we get along great, 41:06.680 --> 41:08.520 but we're not best friends or anything. 41:08.520 --> 41:10.160 And it's not bad. 41:10.160 --> 41:12.240 It's just normal. 41:12.240 --> 41:13.560 It's not bad, right? 41:13.560 --> 41:16.320 Jerry and I, you know, he's my church member. 41:16.320 --> 41:18.040 I enjoy his company, but him and I 41:18.040 --> 41:19.920 aren't necessarily best friends. 41:19.920 --> 41:20.420 Right? 41:20.420 --> 41:21.200 I don't think we are. 41:21.200 --> 41:22.400 If you think we are, sorry, man. 41:22.400 --> 41:22.900 OK. 41:25.100 --> 41:27.100 You know, we're not best friends, okay? 41:27.100 --> 41:28.100 No, I'm just kidding. 41:28.100 --> 41:30.100 We're good friends, and I'm like that with a lot of church friends. 41:30.100 --> 41:32.100 There's nothing wrong with that. 41:32.100 --> 41:34.100 Don't think, oh, just because they're in our church, 41:34.100 --> 41:36.100 we have to be the closest of friends or something. 41:36.100 --> 41:38.100 No, because there's other people that just click with other people 41:38.100 --> 41:41.100 more than others do with others. 41:41.300 --> 41:44.700 So we just gotta realize that you need to choose your friends wisely. 41:44.700 --> 41:48.500 When I say friends, I mean it as in those you can fight in, 41:48.500 --> 41:51.700 those that provoke you into love, into good works, 41:51.700 --> 41:54.300 those who don't want your downfall. 41:54.300 --> 41:57.100 And you know what? If this person has a track record 41:57.100 --> 41:59.500 of just constantly putting you down, 41:59.500 --> 42:01.900 constantly mocking your success, 42:01.900 --> 42:04.900 constantly just bragging about their success 42:04.900 --> 42:07.500 in order to make you look like a complete loser, 42:07.500 --> 42:09.300 then it's time to go fellowship with... 42:09.300 --> 42:10.940 someone else. 42:10.940 --> 42:11.820 What do I tell them? 42:11.820 --> 42:14.100 Don't tell them anything. 42:14.100 --> 42:16.980 Just ghost that fool. 42:16.980 --> 42:20.020 Just when you see them, go talk to someone else. 42:20.020 --> 42:21.780 Just go talk to someone else and be like, hey, 42:21.780 --> 42:22.740 it's good to see you. 42:22.740 --> 42:23.240 Hey. 42:23.240 --> 42:25.980 And just like, you know, find someone that you're, you know, 42:25.980 --> 42:28.100 just call someone out or something. 42:28.100 --> 42:29.860 That's what you need to do. 42:29.860 --> 42:31.860 OK? 42:31.860 --> 42:34.180 And so you're like, how do I know if I have a toxic friend? 42:34.180 --> 42:35.780 What kind of advice do they give you? 42:37.300 --> 42:41.040 The advice they give you, has it actually helped you? 42:41.040 --> 42:42.420 Has it made you a better Christian? 42:42.420 --> 42:44.140 Has it helped you in your endeavors 42:44.140 --> 42:47.980 to become successful at your job and your spiritual life? 42:47.980 --> 42:50.180 If you feel like every single piece of advice you get, 42:50.180 --> 42:52.580 you just go down the drain, down the toilet, 42:52.580 --> 42:54.780 first of all, it's time to just find someone new 42:54.780 --> 42:57.420 to get advice from. 42:57.420 --> 43:01.300 Walk not in the counsel of the ungodly, the Bible says. 43:02.700 --> 43:05.260 The Bible tells us in Proverbs 12, you don't have to turn there. 43:05.260 --> 43:06.860 Go with me if you would. 43:06.860 --> 43:08.780 Go to Judges 16. 43:08.780 --> 43:10.820 Judges chapter 16. 43:10.820 --> 43:13.900 Proverbs 12 verse 5 says this, the thoughts of the righteous are right, 43:13.900 --> 43:17.140 but the counsels of the wicked are deceit. 43:17.140 --> 43:21.060 Proverbs 14 verse 7 says, go from the presence of a foolish man, 43:21.060 --> 43:25.100 when thou perceiveest not in him the lips of knowledge. 43:25.100 --> 43:29.420 And look, if you keep going back to that friend after that friend has been a piece of crap, 43:29.420 --> 43:30.500 that's your fault. 43:32.500 --> 43:35.780 You got no one else to blame but yourself. 43:35.780 --> 43:38.200 You just like having toxic people around you. 43:40.600 --> 43:45.680 So you know the Bible says also in Proverbs 19 verse 27 cease my son to hear the instructions that causeth 43:46.080 --> 43:48.080 To err from the words of knowledge 43:49.280 --> 43:55.300 Confidence in an unfaithful man Proverbs 25 verse 19 in a time of troubles like a broken tooth and a foot out of joint 43:55.300 --> 44:00.960 You see a good friend the Bible says loveth at all times if you're down in the dumps 44:00.960 --> 44:02.960 You know a good friend does tries to pick you up 44:03.720 --> 44:07.760 You know if you're on the brink of quitting a good friend will tell you to keep going forward 44:09.200 --> 44:12.000 Not aid you in getting out of church. 44:12.100 --> 44:13.100 Right? 44:13.200 --> 44:15.400 It's not someone who's just like, yeah, just give up. 44:15.500 --> 44:17.100 It's over with. 44:17.200 --> 44:17.900 I saw a reel like that. 44:18.000 --> 44:18.700 It's super funny. 44:18.800 --> 44:20.380 But you know, give up. 44:20.480 --> 44:22.240 Someone's got to stay behind and tell the story. 44:22.340 --> 44:23.880 Not everyone's going to make it. 44:23.980 --> 44:24.580 You know what I mean? 44:24.680 --> 44:25.380 Go back. 44:25.480 --> 44:26.780 Gather your thoughts. 44:26.880 --> 44:28.420 Go back to the drawing board. 44:28.520 --> 44:30.080 But you know, a good friend is someone 44:30.180 --> 44:31.380 who is born for adversity. 44:33.300 --> 44:36.580 A good friend recognizes that his friend is struggling 44:36.580 --> 44:40.100 and tries to come up with every single possible solution 44:40.100 --> 44:42.180 to keep that guy in the fight. 44:42.180 --> 44:44.620 Keep that guy in church, right? 44:44.620 --> 44:46.780 That's what a good friend does. 44:46.780 --> 44:49.660 A good friend doesn't brag about how good of a friend he is, 44:49.660 --> 44:52.220 he just actually gives his friend good advice 44:52.220 --> 44:54.060 to keep him in the fight. 44:54.060 --> 44:55.820 You know, he loved it at all times. 44:57.100 --> 45:02.740 Proverbs 18 verse 24 says Amanda hath friends must show himself friendly and there is a friend that sticketh closer 45:03.220 --> 45:05.220 Than a brother the Bible says 45:05.620 --> 45:07.060 Okay 45:07.060 --> 45:14.260 Proverbs 27 verse 9 says ointment and perfume rejoice the heart so doth the sweetness of a man's friend by hearty counsel you got a sweet friend 45:15.220 --> 45:17.220 He should give sweet counsel 45:17.620 --> 45:21.540 You know if you're discouraged you want to throw on the towel and you tell your friend 45:21.540 --> 45:24.460 He's like and he's just like yeah, you should quit for sure 45:25.400 --> 45:26.720 Go to a different church, yeah. 45:26.720 --> 45:28.560 That's probably what you should do. 45:28.560 --> 45:30.560 That's not sweet counsel. 45:30.560 --> 45:32.520 That's bad advice. 45:32.520 --> 45:33.640 And let me just say this. 45:33.640 --> 45:36.520 If there's anyone who's struggling in our church 45:36.520 --> 45:40.360 to stay in church, you better never give that advice. 45:40.360 --> 45:42.400 Or you're going to quit anyway, so you might as well just 45:42.400 --> 45:43.660 get going or something. 45:43.660 --> 45:45.120 That's wicked. 45:45.120 --> 45:45.920 That's godless. 45:45.920 --> 45:47.840 You're a horrible, horrible friend. 45:47.840 --> 45:49.320 You're a toxic friend if that's you. 45:50.100 --> 45:52.220 I just didn't think they were going to make it. 45:52.220 --> 45:52.820 You know what? 45:52.820 --> 45:54.460 You're not going to make it then. 45:54.460 --> 45:56.740 Because you're such a toxic friend. 45:56.740 --> 46:00.100 You're such a toxic friend that you have no faith in people. 46:00.100 --> 46:02.500 You're not willing to provoke them to love into good works. 46:02.500 --> 46:03.500 And you're just discouraging them 46:03.500 --> 46:04.900 from continuing in the faith. 46:04.900 --> 46:07.140 That's godless. 46:07.140 --> 46:09.260 I want people to remain in church 46:09.260 --> 46:11.380 and just fight through tribulation, 46:11.380 --> 46:14.220 fight through anguish, fight through depression, 46:14.220 --> 46:15.780 and not throw in the towel. 46:15.780 --> 46:16.280 OK? 46:16.280 --> 46:16.400 you 46:17.200 --> 46:17.700 How about this? 46:17.700 --> 46:22.200 Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. 46:22.200 --> 46:27.900 You know, a good friend will do everything possible to keep his friend in the fight. 46:27.900 --> 46:31.400 He will admonish him, create solutions. 46:31.400 --> 46:33.100 He would try to pray for him. 46:33.100 --> 46:38.000 He would do everything possible to make that person not faint in his mind. 46:38.000 --> 46:38.500 Okay? 46:39.500 --> 46:42.700 Beware of toxic friends. 46:42.700 --> 46:45.700 Beware of toxic family members. 46:45.700 --> 46:49.200 And lastly, number three, beware of toxic females. 46:53.300 --> 46:58.500 You know the Bible gives us more explicit warnings against women for men than it does men for women. 46:59.500 --> 47:00.200 That's true. 47:00.400 --> 47:04.000 Like why do you say females? There's toxic males out there too. 47:04.400 --> 47:05.500 We're not talking about them. 47:06.000 --> 47:07.700 And the Bible doesn't emphasize that a whole lot. 47:08.000 --> 47:08.600 Okay? 47:09.300 --> 47:13.500 The Bible emphasizes a lot when it comes to toxic females though. 47:14.100 --> 47:16.300 A lot. I mean the entire book of Proverbs. 47:17.600 --> 47:19.600 You want to debate that with me? 47:20.700 --> 47:22.200 See me after the debate. 47:22.200 --> 47:25.620 We can talk about it every while. 47:25.620 --> 47:28.240 In fact, let's look at this. 47:28.240 --> 47:29.780 So what do you mean by toxic females? 47:29.780 --> 47:34.040 Destructive, godless women that can just destroy your life. 47:34.040 --> 47:37.180 That's a real thing. 47:37.180 --> 47:37.680 You know what? 47:37.680 --> 47:41.420 The Manosphere is one of the faggottiest movements ever. 47:41.420 --> 47:44.180 But sometimes it's rooted in just their experience 47:44.180 --> 47:45.140 with toxic females. 47:45.500 --> 47:48.640 And unfortunately they just paint women with the broad brush and say like all women are bad. 47:48.640 --> 47:50.640 We know that's not true. 47:50.640 --> 47:54.940 Because those of us who are married, we got ourselves a good woman, amen? 47:54.940 --> 47:59.480 But you know, they've had experiences with people like this and it is true. 47:59.480 --> 48:01.820 It's a real thing, okay? 48:01.820 --> 48:04.160 Now let's look at an example of a toxic woman. 48:04.160 --> 48:05.260 We're not even talking about Jezebel. 48:05.260 --> 48:07.660 I mean that's super toxic. 48:07.660 --> 48:09.660 Right? Never name your daughter Jezebel. 48:10.800 --> 48:12.800 Let's look at another one, okay? 48:12.800 --> 48:15.600 Never name your daughter Jezebel or Delilah. 48:15.600 --> 48:16.600 Okay, just kidding. 48:16.600 --> 48:18.100 Look at Judges 16 verse 4. 48:18.100 --> 48:20.200 And it came to pass afterward that he loved a woman 48:20.200 --> 48:23.400 in the valley of Sorek whose name was Delilah. 48:24.600 --> 48:29.640 the lords of the Philistines came up unto her and said unto her, Entice him, and see wherein his 48:29.640 --> 48:34.280 great strength lieth, and by what means we may prevail against him, that we may bind him to 48:34.280 --> 48:40.360 afflict him, and we will give thee every one of us eleven hundred pieces of silver. So they hired 48:40.360 --> 48:41.200 Delilah. 48:41.400 --> 48:44.680 You know, and Samson, you know, he's an idiot. 48:44.680 --> 48:47.980 He's just, you know, he's a fornicator, he's backslidden, 48:47.980 --> 48:51.400 and he's just like, he's head over heels over this woman. 48:51.400 --> 48:53.480 But this woman wants his downfall. 48:53.480 --> 48:56.440 This woman is just a toxic woman. 48:56.440 --> 48:58.240 Delilah said to Samson, 48:58.240 --> 49:00.840 Tell me, I pray thee, wherein thy great strength lieth, 49:00.840 --> 49:03.200 wherewith thou mightest be bound to afflict thee. 49:03.200 --> 49:04.540 And Samson said unto her, 49:04.540 --> 49:06.940 If they bind me with seven green wits, 49:06.940 --> 49:07.100 you 49:07.200 --> 49:10.000 that were never dried, then shall I be weak 49:10.000 --> 49:11.760 and be as other men, another man. 49:11.760 --> 49:14.000 Then the lords of the Philistines brought up to her 49:14.000 --> 49:17.200 seven green wits which had not been dried, 49:17.200 --> 49:19.420 and she bound him with them. 49:19.420 --> 49:22.880 Now, let me tell you how stupid Samson is. 49:22.880 --> 49:26.000 He tells her this and then she does it. 49:26.000 --> 49:27.520 And you know, at that point you'd be like, 49:27.520 --> 49:30.460 why are you doing this if I told you this is my weakness? 49:30.460 --> 49:33.120 But he's just like, he doesn't even see it. 49:33.120 --> 49:34.400 Love is blind, you know. 49:37.000 --> 49:42.360 Verse 9 says, now there were men lying in wait, abiding with her in the chamber. 49:42.360 --> 49:44.840 And she said to him, the Philistines be upon thee, Samson. 49:44.840 --> 49:49.240 And he break the wits as a thread of tow is broken when it touches the fire. 49:49.240 --> 49:51.480 So his strength was not known. 49:51.480 --> 49:55.320 The liable sentence to Samson, behold, thou hast mocked me and told me lies. 49:55.320 --> 50:00.040 This is a manipulator right here, because she's mocking him and lying to him. 50:00.040 --> 50:00.540 Right? 50:01.720 --> 50:02.440 Now tell me. 50:03.400 --> 50:05.280 I prayed you, wherewith thou mightest be bound. 50:05.280 --> 50:09.160 Now, you know, Sanson will be like, no, I don't think I will. 50:09.160 --> 50:12.400 Because I told you, and then you actually did that. 50:12.400 --> 50:14.680 But he's just an idiot. 50:14.680 --> 50:15.920 He is an idiot. 50:15.920 --> 50:16.720 Can I get a witness? 50:16.720 --> 50:18.240 Right, amen? 50:18.240 --> 50:20.080 I was like, bro, what are you doing? 50:20.080 --> 50:20.600 OK. 50:21.900 --> 50:26.700 Verse 11 he said unto her, If they bind me fast with new robes that never were occupied, 50:26.700 --> 50:32.220 then shall I be weak and be as another man. Delilah therefore took new robes, bound him therewith, 50:32.220 --> 50:36.540 and said unto him, The Philistines be upon thee, Samson. And there were liars and weight abiding 50:36.540 --> 50:41.900 in the chamber, and he break them from off his arms like a thread. And Delilah said unto Samson, 50:41.900 --> 50:45.080 hitherto thou hast mocked me and told me lies. 50:45.500 --> 50:47.100 Tell me wherewith thou mightest be bound. 50:47.100 --> 50:50.300 He said unto her, if thou weavest the seven locks of my head with the web, 50:50.300 --> 50:53.900 and she fastened it with the pin, so forth, skip down to verse 15. 50:53.900 --> 50:59.980 And she said unto him, How can thou say, I love thee, when thine heart is not with me? 51:01.260 --> 51:05.340 It's like, woman, you literally try to get me murked. 51:07.660 --> 51:09.180 You almost got me killed. 51:09.180 --> 51:11.660 I told you where my strength lied, and you try to do that. 51:12.200 --> 51:17.000 And you're saying that I don't love you, but he's, he, you know. 51:17.000 --> 51:21.320 Bro is just a weakling, okay? 51:21.320 --> 51:23.080 How can someone say I love thee? 51:23.080 --> 51:24.520 One night, heart is not with me. 51:24.520 --> 51:27.200 Thou has mocked me these three times, 51:27.200 --> 51:30.200 and has not told me wherein that great strength lieth. 51:30.200 --> 51:32.840 It came to pass when she pressed him daily with her words 51:32.840 --> 51:36.040 and urged him so that his soul was vexed unto death. 51:36.040 --> 51:36.100 you 51:36.600 --> 51:38.600 Then he told her all his heart and said to her, 51:38.600 --> 51:40.840 there has not come a razor upon my head, 51:40.840 --> 51:43.480 for I have been a Nazarene unto God for my mother's womb. 51:43.480 --> 51:45.680 If I be shaven, then my strength will go for me, 51:45.680 --> 51:47.600 and I shall be weak and be like any other man. 51:47.600 --> 51:50.360 So he's like, all right, leave me alone. 51:50.360 --> 51:52.120 You're nagging me. 51:52.120 --> 51:54.360 Because she's just constantly telling him, constantly telling 51:54.360 --> 51:54.860 him. 51:54.860 --> 51:56.560 He's like, fine, if I shave off my head, 51:56.560 --> 51:57.920 then my strength will go for him. 51:57.920 --> 52:01.020 It's like, what are you thinking? 52:01.020 --> 52:04.200 You know, he didn't have a friend. 52:05.600 --> 52:10.040 They can tell him, like, hey bro, I think she's trying to kill you. 52:10.040 --> 52:12.120 Hey bro, I'm not envious at all. 52:12.120 --> 52:13.240 OK? 52:13.240 --> 52:15.960 I'm not trying to put you down or anything like that. 52:15.960 --> 52:17.720 But she's trying to kill you. 52:17.720 --> 52:19.880 I don't know how you don't see this right now. 52:19.880 --> 52:21.800 And he doesn't. 52:21.800 --> 52:24.560 But you know, a lot of young men are like this, though. 52:24.560 --> 52:25.120 Even today. 52:25.120 --> 52:25.300 you 52:26.600 --> 52:30.360 And when Delilah saw that he had told her all his heart, verse 18, she sent a call to the 52:30.360 --> 52:34.280 lords of the Philistines, saying, Come up this once, for he had showed me all his heart. 52:34.280 --> 52:38.120 Then the Philistines, then the lords of the Philistines came up unto her, brought money 52:38.120 --> 52:42.280 in their hand, and she made him sleep upon her knees. And she called for a man, and she caused 52:42.280 --> 52:47.480 him to shave off the seven locks of his head. And she began to afflict him, and his strength went 52:47.480 --> 52:51.720 from him. And she said, The Philistines be upon thee, Samson. And he awoke out of his sleep, 52:51.720 --> 52:54.520 and said, I will go out as other times before, and shake my 52:54.600 --> 53:00.880 And he wished not that the Lord was departed from him and we know exactly how the story ends his eyes are gouged out 53:01.080 --> 53:05.720 He is grinding the mill like a beast and of course he ends up committing suicide 53:06.560 --> 53:09.860 Thereafter okay, what does it show us young men? 53:10.680 --> 53:13.520 Beware of toxic females, okay 53:14.600 --> 53:19.640 This is important because again. This is a real thing you know and in fact 53:24.700 --> 53:28.860 It's so real that there's a movie that came out recently. 53:30.020 --> 53:32.440 It's a movie called Obsession. 53:33.580 --> 53:36.540 Okay, now let me just say this. 53:36.540 --> 53:38.080 I don't recommend anybody to watch 53:38.080 --> 53:40.080 that stupid godless movie. 53:40.080 --> 53:42.100 If you've already watched it, 53:42.100 --> 53:44.360 obviously it doesn't apply to you now. 53:44.360 --> 53:47.100 But after this, you shouldn't watch it again. 53:47.100 --> 53:47.100 Alright. 53:47.600 --> 53:52.780 It is a stupid godless movie and you know, let me just give you a synopsis of what the movie is about. 53:52.780 --> 53:55.040 I'm gonna- spoiler alert on this, okay? 53:55.600 --> 53:58.160 And most of you are like, I already know what it is about. I saw it already. 53:58.160 --> 53:59.440 Now, I've never seen the movie. 53:59.440 --> 54:05.000 I feel like I have only because there's so many reels on Instagram that show a lot of scenes 54:05.000 --> 54:07.200 and I feel like I've seen enough that I know what the movie is about. 54:07.600 --> 54:09.600 But this is basically what it is, okay? 54:10.360 --> 54:13.640 The story follows a guy named Bear. What kind of name is that? 54:14.900 --> 54:19.060 who is just madly in love with his long time friend, Nikki. 54:20.180 --> 54:23.520 So this guy, he's like the Amnin dude, okay? 54:23.520 --> 54:27.240 He's like sick over this girl Nikki, okay? 54:27.240 --> 54:29.080 You old folks just ignore me right now, 54:29.080 --> 54:30.320 you're just like, what kind of, you know. 54:30.320 --> 54:32.260 This is horror, by the way. 54:32.260 --> 54:33.540 This is like a horror movie. 54:33.540 --> 54:37.140 Horror movie for me back in the day was like Freddy Krueger. 54:37.140 --> 54:40.020 Right, it was like Jason, Hellraiser, Freddy, 54:40.020 --> 54:42.400 now it's just like a relationship. 54:43.600 --> 54:46.960 It's just like horror. 54:46.960 --> 54:49.000 It's like the scariest thing is to be involved 54:49.000 --> 54:51.680 in a crazy relationship. 54:51.680 --> 54:53.080 Man. 54:53.080 --> 54:58.720 So he's so desperate, OK, to have this girl love him, 54:58.720 --> 55:01.320 that he has to use this mysterious object called 55:01.320 --> 55:02.880 the one wish willow. 55:02.880 --> 55:03.720 OK? 55:03.720 --> 55:07.480 It's like a stick that he finds at some weird store. 55:08.200 --> 55:13.040 And basically, he breaks it and he wishes for this girl, Nikki, 55:13.040 --> 55:16.040 to just fall madly in love with him. 55:16.040 --> 55:18.800 And she does. 55:18.800 --> 55:20.840 And at first, everything's working out, 55:20.840 --> 55:23.800 but then her affection becomes extreme and dangerous. 55:23.800 --> 55:25.280 She starts killing people and stuff 55:25.280 --> 55:29.040 and just doing some of the most psychopathic things ever. 55:29.700 --> 55:32.460 And that's pretty much what the movie's about, okay? 55:32.460 --> 55:34.320 And you know, you would think like, 55:34.320 --> 55:38.480 once he realized like, oh dang, she's a psychopath. 55:38.480 --> 55:41.660 Like this didn't work out, like let's break up or something. 55:41.660 --> 55:44.340 No, he continues with this, right? 55:44.340 --> 55:47.740 Because there's dudes in this world that are like that. 55:47.740 --> 55:50.400 And let me just tell you something, obsession, 55:50.400 --> 55:53.180 though it's a fantasy, it's fiction, 55:53.180 --> 55:55.640 it's actually a documentary on toxic latinas. 55:55.640 --> 55:55.800 you 55:59.200 --> 56:01.040 It is a documentary on toxic latina. 56:01.040 --> 56:06.720 I'm convinced that the director dated a toxic latina 56:06.720 --> 56:10.280 and was just like, this will make a great horror movie. 56:10.280 --> 56:11.680 He's like, we just have to add some sort 56:11.680 --> 56:14.160 of supernatural element to this, because we've 56:14.160 --> 56:16.440 got to figure out how this girl would become this way. 56:16.440 --> 56:18.960 Oh, one wish willow. 56:18.960 --> 56:21.040 So I'm sure he had some sort of experience 56:21.040 --> 56:22.720 with the toxic latina, and we're just like, 56:22.720 --> 56:23.840 we're just making a movie. 56:23.840 --> 56:24.340 OK? 56:24.340 --> 56:24.600 Thanks for watching! 56:26.100 --> 56:27.600 It's a stupid movie. 56:27.600 --> 56:31.760 It's, you know, I don't recommend for anybody to watch it. 56:31.760 --> 56:35.100 There's gore, I'm sure it's rated R. 56:35.100 --> 56:36.740 You know, it's godless. 56:36.740 --> 56:38.540 You should not watch it, okay? 56:38.540 --> 56:40.240 But let me say this, movies like that 56:40.240 --> 56:43.940 seek to normalize that type of behavior. 56:43.940 --> 56:47.440 I'm talking about the behavior of Nicky, okay? 56:47.440 --> 56:50.080 And you know, a lot of women are like, I'm Nicky. 56:50.080 --> 56:50.200 you 56:50.500 --> 56:52.100 No, no, no, no, no, no. 56:52.100 --> 56:55.260 Nikki is a fictional character that was made that way 56:55.260 --> 56:57.340 with a willow, a one-wish willow. 56:57.340 --> 57:01.340 You're just naturally a toxic woman. 57:01.340 --> 57:03.600 You're toxic without the one-wish willow. 57:06.000 --> 57:10.180 Bear! Bear's the villain! Bear is a fictional character! 57:11.780 --> 57:17.500 No one in this world can make a one-wish willow to make someone madly fall in love with them and do all that stuff. 57:17.580 --> 57:22.620 Bear's not real. Obviously there's people in this world that are like Bear. They're a bunch of limp-wristed, 57:23.280 --> 57:26.140 effeminate, you know, mommy-issue boys 57:27.640 --> 57:30.420 who want a woman like that. I don't know why you would want someone like that. 57:31.400 --> 57:35.400 But let me just say this, if you're a woman that identifies with that psychopath, 57:35.400 --> 57:37.960 you got issues. 57:37.960 --> 57:42.600 Because Nikki was made that way through one wish willow, you weren't. 57:42.600 --> 57:46.040 Now look, if you're like, well, I've been through some things in my life that 57:46.040 --> 57:51.560 has caused me to be this way, okay, I'm sympathetic towards that, but you're a Christian now. 57:51.560 --> 57:57.720 You're a Christian, you have the Bible, you have the Holy Spirit, stop acting like Nikki! 58:01.000 --> 58:04.200 And look, young men need to be discouraged from pursuing a woman like that. 58:04.200 --> 58:09.200 And if you're a dude and you like Nikki from that movie, get right with God. 58:09.200 --> 58:17.200 Oh man, I get you, Bear. I get it, Bear. I can see why. What do you mean? 58:17.200 --> 58:23.200 The scenes that I've seen, it should like literally make any dude sick to their stomach 58:23.200 --> 58:26.900 that a woman would actually be that way. And look, there are women like that. 58:27.300 --> 58:29.540 The scenes that I've seen, I feel like I've seen this before. 58:34.100 --> 58:40.700 Let me say this the parents shouldn't shouldn't let their daughter watch that movie for fear that they may think that behavior is appropriate and 58:41.180 --> 58:44.020 Don't let your boys see it for fear that they may want someone like that 58:45.020 --> 58:50.620 Then you'll be like Esau where his parents are like the women he marries are just a grief of mind, right? 58:51.220 --> 58:53.220 Because they got a Nicky in their life 58:53.540 --> 58:56.340 Pursue a godly woman who is level-headed 58:57.600 --> 59:00.440 Not a toxic Latina, a toxic Asian. 59:02.040 --> 59:03.380 You know, mostly it's toxic Latinos, 59:03.380 --> 59:04.640 though that's just where they get it from. 59:04.640 --> 59:07.820 That's why they chose a Latina to play the role, okay? 59:07.820 --> 59:12.100 You know, we should endeavor to tell our boys, 59:12.100 --> 59:14.840 hey, this is not appropriate behavior at all 59:14.840 --> 59:16.840 for a woman to be this way. 59:16.840 --> 59:20.040 This is godless behavior, this is not right, 59:20.040 --> 59:23.800 and you should never pursue a woman like this. 59:23.800 --> 59:24.600 Peace. 59:24.900 --> 59:27.920 Pastor you don't understand though. He was she was made that way 59:28.820 --> 59:30.820 It's a movie 59:31.580 --> 59:36.500 It's a fictional movie she was made that way in the movie, but you know what that's not reality 59:37.780 --> 59:41.960 Reality is there are women who are like that without the one wish willow. That's the reality okay? 59:44.900 --> 59:46.900 Go to Ecclesiastes chapter 7. 59:47.500 --> 59:49.500 Ecclesiastes chapter number 7. 59:51.100 --> 59:56.700 And look folks, again, you know, if you are a toxic man, a toxic male, toxic female, 59:56.700 --> 01:00:02.400 you know, oh, you just grew up that way, you just had experiences in your personal life that has molded you into being that way. 01:00:02.400 --> 01:00:05.200 Okay, but you know what? Now it's different though. 01:00:05.900 --> 01:00:12.500 Now you have a church, you have right preaching, you have the Holy Spirit, you have the new man that transcends that nature. 01:00:13.200 --> 01:00:16.560 And you know what's not cute to be like a psychopath. 01:00:16.560 --> 01:00:18.920 That's not cute at all. 01:00:18.920 --> 01:00:24.040 And look, the scenes that I've seen in that movie on reels, 01:00:24.040 --> 01:00:26.360 it just annoyed me. 01:00:26.360 --> 01:00:29.640 You know, it was just like, I feel like you don't love me 01:00:29.640 --> 01:00:30.320 the way I do. 01:00:30.320 --> 01:00:34.240 I'm like, if a woman ever said that, I'd be like, all right, 01:00:34.240 --> 01:00:35.840 we're done. 01:00:35.840 --> 01:00:36.600 Done. 01:00:37.500 --> 01:00:40.740 So let me give you a personal testimony of a toxic 01:00:40.740 --> 01:00:42.340 Latino that I dated at one time. 01:00:42.340 --> 01:00:45.340 Now this is BC, okay, before Christ. 01:00:46.380 --> 01:00:49.120 I was about 17 years old, okay. 01:00:50.180 --> 01:00:51.600 And I remember. 01:00:52.500 --> 01:00:54.540 I was hanging out with my buddies, 01:00:54.540 --> 01:00:57.340 and he had a sister who had all these friends 01:00:57.340 --> 01:00:58.980 that were older than us. 01:00:58.980 --> 01:01:01.340 And one of them I was just interested in, 01:01:01.340 --> 01:01:03.540 and so I ended up talking to her, 01:01:03.540 --> 01:01:06.140 and I got her number, and then I took her on a date. 01:01:06.140 --> 01:01:08.540 First date was good, it was great, you know. 01:01:08.540 --> 01:01:10.220 It was just normal. 01:01:10.220 --> 01:01:11.940 Second date, a little weird. 01:01:13.260 --> 01:01:15.460 She said some things that were just kinda weird, you know. 01:01:15.460 --> 01:01:18.020 I was just like, all right, whatever. 01:01:18.020 --> 01:01:19.300 She's willing to overlook it. 01:01:19.400 --> 01:01:22.940 She was a Latina, by the way. 01:01:22.940 --> 01:01:25.780 So one day, this is like week two, OK? 01:01:25.780 --> 01:01:27.420 And she was older than me. 01:01:27.420 --> 01:01:29.220 And it was cool because she's older, 01:01:29.220 --> 01:01:32.340 she's a friend of my buddy's sister, and all that. 01:01:32.340 --> 01:01:34.980 And so one day, I don't know if I'm 01:01:34.980 --> 01:01:38.660 coming back from school or work, but I was coming back home. 01:01:38.660 --> 01:01:44.140 And I walked through the door, and my mom is just furious. 01:01:44.140 --> 01:01:47.260 And she's just like, who are you giving your number to? 01:01:47.900 --> 01:01:50.540 Because in those days, we just had house numbers. 01:01:50.540 --> 01:01:52.780 I didn't have a cell phone. 01:01:52.780 --> 01:01:53.820 And I'm like, what do you mean? 01:01:53.820 --> 01:01:57.220 She's like, someone's been calling this house, 01:01:57.220 --> 01:02:00.020 some girl's been calling this house over and over again. 01:02:00.020 --> 01:02:02.500 And in these days, we have like caller ID, 01:02:02.500 --> 01:02:05.900 and we had answering machines like with tape. 01:02:05.900 --> 01:02:08.500 So you have to press a button and you get an answer. 01:02:08.500 --> 01:02:10.260 I know you guys, Jen's ears don't know what I'm talking 01:02:10.260 --> 01:02:12.220 about, but this is the way it worked back 01:02:12.220 --> 01:02:13.540 in the dinosaur era. 01:02:13.540 --> 01:02:14.040 OK? 01:02:14.040 --> 01:02:14.200 you 01:02:15.500 --> 01:02:17.540 And he's just like, someone's calling. 01:02:17.540 --> 01:02:20.140 They're yelling on the answering machine. 01:02:20.140 --> 01:02:21.720 And I'm like, oh, it's my friends. 01:02:21.720 --> 01:02:24.780 I'm thinking it's my buddies who are playing a prank on me. 01:02:24.780 --> 01:02:26.900 They're just trying to get me in trouble with my mom or something. 01:02:26.900 --> 01:02:28.700 I'm like, oh, it's probably so-and-so. 01:02:28.700 --> 01:02:29.980 Let me listen to it. 01:02:29.980 --> 01:02:33.100 And it did not occur to me that it might have been this woman. 01:02:35.840 --> 01:02:38.500 Because she said that she was yelling on there and all this. 01:02:38.500 --> 01:02:39.500 So I was like, all right. 01:02:39.500 --> 01:02:40.060 So I look. 01:02:40.060 --> 01:02:41.340 15 missed calls. 01:02:41.340 --> 01:02:41.500 you 01:02:44.100 --> 01:02:45.260 I was like, 15? 01:02:45.260 --> 01:02:48.780 I was like, man, these guys are going overboard on this. 01:02:48.780 --> 01:02:51.400 15, 10 of those 15 were messages. 01:02:54.400 --> 01:02:58.860 One of those messages was the craziest one. That's the one that sent my mom over the edge and got me in trouble 01:03:00.160 --> 01:03:02.380 And she's like listen to it, and I'm like and I'm listening 01:03:02.380 --> 01:03:05.080 I'm like man. What is because my I had a friend. I was just what's this guy doing? 01:03:05.080 --> 01:03:07.360 Did he really do this? He went kind of overboard on this 01:03:08.640 --> 01:03:11.700 so you know a couple of the messages it was a girl and 01:03:12.740 --> 01:03:20.400 She's just like where are you just kind of and I'm like I feel like I know this voice and then the the last message 01:03:20.400 --> 01:03:21.400 is just like 01:03:21.700 --> 01:03:27.420 She's just like, why don't you answer your blanket phone? 01:03:27.420 --> 01:03:31.660 And I remember thinking, that's the girl. 01:03:31.660 --> 01:03:35.980 And I felt like my stomach was right here. 01:03:35.980 --> 01:03:39.060 And I was like, no, this is that girl. 01:03:41.600 --> 01:03:45.440 And then immediately I thought to myself, oh, this is over. 01:03:45.440 --> 01:03:50.560 I must sever this person off immediately. 01:03:50.560 --> 01:03:52.520 I was like, that's crazy. 01:03:52.520 --> 01:03:53.800 This is week two. 01:03:56.300 --> 01:03:57.980 Me too. 01:03:57.980 --> 01:03:59.700 OK. 01:03:59.700 --> 01:04:03.060 And again, she's like cussing on there, like, why won't you 01:04:03.060 --> 01:04:04.660 answer your blanket phone? 01:04:04.660 --> 01:04:06.780 And you don't love me the way I do. 01:04:06.780 --> 01:04:10.020 I'm just kidding. 01:04:10.020 --> 01:04:11.340 Weird stuff. 01:04:11.340 --> 01:04:13.540 When I saw those clips, I'm having flashbacks. 01:04:13.540 --> 01:04:14.780 I'm like, ah! 01:04:17.100 --> 01:04:18.860 So then I went up to my mom and was like, 01:04:18.860 --> 01:04:19.900 I'm sorry about that, mom. 01:04:19.900 --> 01:04:22.140 It'll never happen again. 01:04:22.140 --> 01:04:25.220 So I thought to myself, man, this chick is crazy. 01:04:25.220 --> 01:04:26.900 I'm like, I've got to figure out how 01:04:26.900 --> 01:04:29.500 to sever this relationship so that she doesn't stalk me 01:04:29.500 --> 01:04:30.700 anymore. 01:04:30.700 --> 01:04:33.040 And I'm like, if I personally break up with this girl, 01:04:33.040 --> 01:04:34.380 this is good advice for you. 01:04:34.380 --> 01:04:36.500 I was like, if I personally break up with this girl, 01:04:36.500 --> 01:04:38.460 she's going to keep calling. 01:04:38.460 --> 01:04:39.660 I said, I got an idea. 01:04:39.660 --> 01:04:41.700 So what I did was I went to my buddy's friend 01:04:41.700 --> 01:04:43.580 and I said, I'm going to ghost your friend, 01:04:43.580 --> 01:04:45.100 and I want nothing to do with her. 01:04:45.800 --> 01:04:48.100 And ghosting wasn't her term, but it was basically like, 01:04:48.100 --> 01:04:49.900 I'm not going to tell her that I'm breaking up with her. 01:04:49.900 --> 01:04:51.200 You're going to tell her, and you're 01:04:51.200 --> 01:04:52.640 going to tell her all the reasons why, 01:04:52.640 --> 01:04:54.160 and you're going to tell her that my mom even 01:04:54.160 --> 01:04:55.560 knows everything that she said. 01:04:55.560 --> 01:05:01.120 Therefore, she'll be so embarrassed that my mom knows 01:05:01.120 --> 01:05:04.560 and her friend knows that she will never contact me. 01:05:04.560 --> 01:05:05.520 And it worked. 01:05:05.520 --> 01:05:07.400 And she's like, no, you need to contact me. 01:05:07.400 --> 01:05:08.640 I'm like, mm-mm. 01:05:08.640 --> 01:05:11.000 I'm like, I want nothing to do with that girl. 01:05:11.000 --> 01:05:11.100 you 01:05:11.700 --> 01:05:14.420 I was like, no offense to you. 01:05:14.420 --> 01:05:16.340 I'm like, I'm not against you, but I'm just telling you 01:05:16.340 --> 01:05:20.260 right now, that chick is crazy. 01:05:20.260 --> 01:05:21.940 And I said it in different ways. 01:05:25.340 --> 01:05:28.100 Different verbiage. 01:05:28.100 --> 01:05:29.340 I'm like, she's crazy. 01:05:29.340 --> 01:05:30.780 I want nothing to do with her. 01:05:30.780 --> 01:05:32.820 And you tell her that I want nothing to do with her. 01:05:32.820 --> 01:05:36.540 You tell her never to call my house ever again. 01:05:36.540 --> 01:05:38.540 And I said, if we ever hang out. 01:05:38.800 --> 01:05:42.160 As a group, you better let me know if you're inviting that girl. 01:05:42.160 --> 01:05:44.360 Because if you do, I'm not going. 01:05:44.360 --> 01:05:46.360 I was like, that girl is crazy. 01:05:46.360 --> 01:05:47.280 And she never did. 01:05:47.280 --> 01:05:47.720 And you know what? 01:05:47.720 --> 01:05:49.960 You're like, how did you know to cut it off like that? 01:05:49.960 --> 01:05:53.640 Well, because I had a brother who only dated toxic Latinas. 01:05:53.640 --> 01:05:57.760 And I saw the absolute hell that he went through with them. 01:05:57.760 --> 01:06:00.000 So as a kid growing up in that environment, 01:06:00.000 --> 01:06:03.640 I remember thinking to myself, I don't want that. 01:06:03.640 --> 01:06:05.160 Give me the quiet girl. 01:06:06.200 --> 01:06:11.480 That's why I married Sarah, she's just really quiet and she's not toxic at all. 01:06:11.480 --> 01:06:14.840 In fact, I'm probably more toxic than she is. 01:06:14.840 --> 01:06:17.560 I'm probably more crazier than she is. 01:06:17.560 --> 01:06:21.020 But I remember thinking to myself, like, man, I do not want that. 01:06:21.020 --> 01:06:24.720 But here's the weird thing is if you're a young man and you're like, man, that would 01:06:24.720 --> 01:06:25.560 be so good. 01:06:27.900 --> 01:06:30.340 What's wrong with you? 01:06:30.340 --> 01:06:31.940 What do you mean? 01:06:31.940 --> 01:06:35.820 You want someone to kill your cat and stare at you 01:06:35.820 --> 01:06:38.260 in the middle of the night? 01:06:38.260 --> 01:06:42.340 I feel like you don't love me the way I do. 01:06:42.340 --> 01:06:43.260 That's what they do. 01:06:43.260 --> 01:06:46.340 That's what the girl was doing in that movie. 01:06:46.340 --> 01:06:47.340 Oh, you don't understand. 01:06:47.340 --> 01:06:48.100 It's really scary. 01:06:48.100 --> 01:06:51.460 She walks backwards. 01:06:51.460 --> 01:06:53.460 First of all, if that scares you, you, man. 01:06:53.460 --> 01:06:53.700 you 01:06:54.000 --> 01:06:54.880 You're a wimp. 01:06:54.880 --> 01:06:57.440 No offense to anybody. 01:06:57.440 --> 01:07:00.920 Walking backwards scares you now? 01:07:00.920 --> 01:07:02.240 No. 01:07:02.240 --> 01:07:03.400 She looks like a retard. 01:07:07.800 --> 01:07:09.960 You know, be aware of that stuff. 01:07:09.960 --> 01:07:11.840 Look, why are you making such a big deal about it? 01:07:11.840 --> 01:07:15.560 Because, you know, that's not appropriate normal behavior. 01:07:15.560 --> 01:07:17.440 And those aren't appropriate attributes 01:07:17.440 --> 01:07:20.920 that a Christian man should be seeking for in a woman. 01:07:20.920 --> 01:07:22.440 You say, what kind of woman is that? 01:07:22.440 --> 01:07:24.240 A psychopath. 01:07:24.240 --> 01:07:26.800 That's completely contrary to the word of God. 01:07:27.400 --> 01:07:30.800 And again, you're a parent, don't be showing that to your, 01:07:30.800 --> 01:07:33.180 I'm not gonna police your home, 01:07:33.180 --> 01:07:34.020 I'm just telling you right now, 01:07:34.020 --> 01:07:35.920 my kids would never watch something like that, 01:07:35.920 --> 01:07:38.720 because I don't want my daughters to be psychopaths. 01:07:38.720 --> 01:07:41.240 I don't want them to think that it's okay to walk backwards. 01:07:43.240 --> 01:07:44.720 And to tell their husbands, 01:07:44.720 --> 01:07:46.560 like it's not, you don't love me the way I do, 01:07:46.560 --> 01:07:47.880 it's not mutual. 01:07:49.400 --> 01:07:50.800 And I don't want my sons to think that, 01:07:50.800 --> 01:07:52.480 oh yeah, that sounds pretty good. 01:07:52.480 --> 01:07:55.380 I wanna be entrenched in a relationship like that. 01:07:56.000 --> 01:07:58.500 where, you know, the woman loves me so much 01:07:58.500 --> 01:08:01.000 she just kills everyone who's around me 01:08:01.000 --> 01:08:03.500 just to keep me to herself. 01:08:03.500 --> 01:08:05.500 You're weird. 01:08:05.500 --> 01:08:07.000 And you know what, if that's you, 01:08:07.000 --> 01:08:09.000 and you like that stuff, 01:08:09.000 --> 01:08:10.500 and you like that kind of woman, 01:08:10.500 --> 01:08:12.500 you know, you need to allow the Spirit of God 01:08:12.500 --> 01:08:15.000 to transcend that stupid flesh of yours 01:08:15.000 --> 01:08:17.500 and renew your mind and become a righteous person 01:08:17.500 --> 01:08:19.500 because that's not a righteous desire. 01:08:19.500 --> 01:08:20.000 It's not. 01:08:21.000 --> 01:08:22.440 It's not a righteous desire at all. 01:08:22.440 --> 01:08:24.960 Plus, Bear looks like a fag anyways. 01:08:24.960 --> 01:08:29.760 He's super wimpy, and he's just like, I love you. 01:08:29.760 --> 01:08:31.600 Bro, she killed your cat, bro. 01:08:31.600 --> 01:08:33.440 Or she's feeding you your cat. 01:08:33.440 --> 01:08:37.320 She's doing all kinds of psychopathic things. 01:08:37.320 --> 01:08:39.920 How do you not, after all that behavior, 01:08:39.920 --> 01:08:43.480 just walk away from them and be like, you know what? 01:08:43.480 --> 01:08:44.760 I made a mistake. 01:08:44.760 --> 01:08:46.500 I'm going to put a restraining order on you. 01:08:46.900 --> 01:08:49.300 So you never come near me ever again. 01:08:49.300 --> 01:08:52.200 You know, and move, just move yourself to a different state. 01:08:52.200 --> 01:08:55.600 But it just maintains, it just stays in that relationship. 01:08:55.600 --> 01:08:57.900 But you know, that's a documentary on lame dudes too. 01:09:00.100 --> 01:09:04.100 I've known guys who dated toxic, and they just stayed with them. 01:09:04.100 --> 01:09:08.300 They just put up with all the psychopathy. 01:09:08.300 --> 01:09:09.820 And you know what? 01:09:09.820 --> 01:09:14.980 As a Christian, you should seek to be as far away from that 01:09:14.980 --> 01:09:15.800 as possible. 01:09:16.200 --> 01:09:19.640 And some of you are like, I have no idea what you're talking about. 01:09:19.640 --> 01:09:22.280 Like, is this like a real thing? 01:09:22.280 --> 01:09:23.680 Yes, unfortunately, it's real. 01:09:23.680 --> 01:09:25.880 You know, as a pastor, I have the uncomfortable job 01:09:25.880 --> 01:09:29.520 of talking about these like trends sometimes. 01:09:29.520 --> 01:09:31.440 And I have to talk about them, because sometimes they 01:09:31.440 --> 01:09:35.280 can creep into church a little bit, where people in church 01:09:35.280 --> 01:09:37.320 get into this stuff. 01:09:37.320 --> 01:09:39.600 You know, obviously, the pastor doesn't know about it. 01:09:40.100 --> 01:09:42.180 He's not going to tell the pastor about it, 01:09:42.180 --> 01:09:45.060 because then he's going to preach on toxicity on Sunday 01:09:45.060 --> 01:09:45.700 night. 01:09:48.200 --> 01:09:52.600 But it's important for you to stay away from toxic females. 01:09:52.600 --> 01:09:54.600 That behavior is not normal. 01:09:54.600 --> 01:09:55.600 It's godless. 01:09:55.600 --> 01:09:56.280 And you know what? 01:09:56.280 --> 01:09:58.280 You don't need a one-wish willow to get that. 01:09:58.280 --> 01:10:00.760 You just need to go out in the world 01:10:00.760 --> 01:10:01.920 and find someone like that. 01:10:01.920 --> 01:10:04.240 But you should find someone in the house of God 01:10:04.240 --> 01:10:06.680 who's level-headed, who loves the Lord. 01:10:06.680 --> 01:10:07.360 And you know what? 01:10:07.360 --> 01:10:09.000 Women are naturally emotional. 01:10:09.000 --> 01:10:13.640 But may they never feed you your cat, though. 01:10:13.640 --> 01:10:15.400 Can we just have that standard, please? 01:10:18.500 --> 01:10:22.660 And you know what, it's normal to be needed, right? 01:10:24.300 --> 01:10:25.760 Want to be needed. 01:10:25.760 --> 01:10:27.800 We all want to be needed, okay? 01:10:27.800 --> 01:10:30.300 I want my wife to need me. 01:10:30.300 --> 01:10:32.380 And I'm sure my wife wants me to need her. 01:10:32.380 --> 01:10:34.840 That's a normal thing, okay? 01:10:34.840 --> 01:10:38.920 But you know, let's not be so enthralled in that 01:10:38.920 --> 01:10:40.600 that we just become weirdos. 01:10:41.000 --> 01:10:40.600 And I'm sure my wife wants me to need her. 01:10:43.460 --> 01:10:40.600 That's a normal thing, okay? 01:10:45.140 --> 01:10:40.600 But you know, let's not be so enthralled in that, 01:10:42.000 --> 01:10:46.280 Okay, or it's just like you know oh you didn't say there 01:10:46.280 --> 01:10:53.880 It's just like every little thing just kind of just knocks you off kilter, and you can't function properly you are a Christian 01:10:54.560 --> 01:11:00.680 You are a believer you are a woman of God you are a man of God behave like it 01:11:00.680 --> 01:11:04.080 Hey, you know walk worthy of the vocation wherewith you are called 01:11:04.760 --> 01:11:07.140 Let me just say this have some shame about yourself, too 01:11:07.740 --> 01:11:09.400 Okay, be ashamed of that 01:11:10.300 --> 01:11:13.060 You know, when boys watch Superman, 01:11:13.060 --> 01:11:14.360 they walk away with saying like, 01:11:14.360 --> 01:11:16.740 I want to save the world. 01:11:16.740 --> 01:11:17.580 Right? 01:11:19.160 --> 01:11:23.320 They watch Batman, they're like, I want to fight crime. 01:11:23.320 --> 01:11:24.360 Right? 01:11:24.360 --> 01:11:25.860 I watched Power Rangers when I was a kid, 01:11:25.860 --> 01:11:27.620 I want to beat up putties. 01:11:27.620 --> 01:11:28.460 Right? 01:11:32.260 --> 01:11:34.220 That was just the, now I was just like, 01:11:34.220 --> 01:11:36.800 I want to grow up and be a psychopath woman. 01:11:39.900 --> 01:11:43.340 who walks backwards and scares the living daylights out of my boyfriend. 01:11:45.260 --> 01:11:48.700 And you're like, oh, you're exaggerating. I'm not exaggerating. You go on the 01:11:48.700 --> 01:11:53.340 comment sections of these videos that are being played. There's tons of people who are for this 01:11:53.340 --> 01:12:02.140 behavior. He's the villain. He's the villain. He's the one who did all this. It's a fake movie. 01:12:03.740 --> 01:12:06.540 You're just superimposing who you want to be into that movie. 01:12:10.000 --> 01:12:12.040 You know, it's a documentary on toxic Latinas, 01:12:12.040 --> 01:12:14.600 and that's a fact. 01:12:14.600 --> 01:12:18.120 Look at Ecclesiastes 7, verse 26. 01:12:18.120 --> 01:12:20.640 You're like, oh, show me a verse in the Bible. 01:12:20.640 --> 01:12:21.960 OK. 01:12:21.960 --> 01:12:24.600 I find more bitter than death to woman. 01:12:24.600 --> 01:12:31.400 Now, like right there, Solomon's on it. 01:12:36.500 --> 01:12:40.400 700 wives, you're going to find a toxic woman in there. 01:12:40.400 --> 01:12:42.720 Right? 01:12:42.720 --> 01:12:49.600 He got 700, and he's just like, I find more bitter than death 01:12:49.600 --> 01:12:54.680 a woman, whose heart is snares and nets. 01:12:54.680 --> 01:12:57.480 And I want you to notice this, and her hands as bands. 01:13:05.900 --> 01:13:07.900 That's called obsession. 01:13:09.340 --> 01:13:13.660 Okay, and look I want my daughters to love their husbands. Yes 01:13:13.740 --> 01:13:19.820 I want them to worship the ground that their husbands walk on and to treat them as the lord of the house 01:13:20.140 --> 01:13:22.300 And i'm going to train them to be as such 01:13:23.100 --> 01:13:26.640 Okay, but there's a big difference between that and nicky 01:13:29.400 --> 01:13:35.800 You know, not walk backwards and do all kinds of weird stuff. 01:13:35.800 --> 01:13:36.720 OK? 01:13:36.720 --> 01:13:38.880 He says her hands are as bands. 01:13:38.880 --> 01:13:39.680 And look what it says. 01:13:39.680 --> 01:13:44.000 Who so pleaseth God shall escape her, 01:13:44.000 --> 01:13:46.560 but the sinner shall be taken by her. 01:13:46.560 --> 01:13:47.400 OK? 01:13:47.400 --> 01:13:50.120 So it's saying, like, you know, if you don't please God, 01:13:50.120 --> 01:13:52.240 God's going to punish you with a woman like that. 01:13:53.500 --> 01:13:55.840 Now look folks, if you're like a Christian, you're like, 01:13:55.840 --> 01:13:58.500 well I feel like, yeah, that's me then. 01:13:58.500 --> 01:13:59.620 Well, here's the good news. 01:13:59.620 --> 01:14:01.580 The good news is you're a Christian. 01:14:01.580 --> 01:14:03.460 The good news is you have the Bible. 01:14:03.460 --> 01:14:05.140 The good news is you have the Holy Spirit of God 01:14:05.140 --> 01:14:05.940 dwelling within you. 01:14:05.940 --> 01:14:07.940 The good news is you're under the sound of my voice 01:14:07.940 --> 01:14:10.460 right now, meaning that there's hope. 01:14:10.460 --> 01:14:12.220 Amen? 01:14:12.220 --> 01:14:13.880 There's not hope for these people out there 01:14:13.880 --> 01:14:15.420 who think this is normal behavior 01:14:15.420 --> 01:14:16.700 and just kind of go with it. 01:14:18.100 --> 01:14:24.580 Behold this have I found say the preacher counting one by one to find out the account which yet my soul seeketh 01:14:24.580 --> 01:14:30.460 But I find not one man among a thousand have I found but a woman among all those have I not found 01:14:30.460 --> 01:14:32.460 there's a lot more that I can say about that, but 01:14:33.140 --> 01:14:35.060 Here's the point 01:14:35.060 --> 01:14:37.060 beware of toxic females and 01:14:37.620 --> 01:14:43.800 You know don't ever think that that should be the objective for you is to find a woman who's an absolute psychopath 01:14:44.700 --> 01:14:46.700 And look, that's why it's important, young men, 01:14:46.700 --> 01:14:50.500 and I'm preaching to the men who are not married. 01:14:50.500 --> 01:14:52.420 Very important, okay? 01:14:52.420 --> 01:14:53.960 I'm preaching to you, I'm not preaching to people 01:14:53.960 --> 01:14:55.000 who are not married, I'm preaching to the young men 01:14:55.000 --> 01:14:57.440 who have not yet gotten married, okay? 01:14:57.440 --> 01:14:59.220 That's why it's important for you to not just jump 01:14:59.220 --> 01:15:03.980 into a relationship hastily, and now put in some thought 01:15:03.980 --> 01:15:05.500 into what's going on, right? 01:15:05.700 --> 01:15:08.620 You need to make sure that you observe, 01:15:08.620 --> 01:15:12.580 you know, is this girl all about the obsession movie? 01:15:12.580 --> 01:15:14.580 If her favorite movie is Obsession, 01:15:14.580 --> 01:15:17.380 just check it out, like okay, it's nice knowing you. 01:15:17.380 --> 01:15:18.500 You know what I mean? 01:15:18.500 --> 01:15:20.700 I love that movie so much. 01:15:20.700 --> 01:15:21.540 Why? 01:15:21.540 --> 01:15:22.380 Why? 01:15:23.380 --> 01:15:24.940 Why? 01:15:24.940 --> 01:15:28.060 There's nothing good about that movie. 01:15:28.060 --> 01:15:29.780 Hey, I'm saying it right now. 01:15:29.780 --> 01:15:31.740 There's nothing good about that movie. 01:15:31.740 --> 01:15:33.100 That movie's trash. 01:15:35.200 --> 01:15:37.700 Amen. 01:15:37.700 --> 01:15:41.400 I can't say amen because I got people in my family 01:15:41.400 --> 01:15:42.400 who love that movie. 01:15:42.400 --> 01:15:44.720 Amen. 01:15:44.720 --> 01:15:46.360 Stand up. 01:15:46.360 --> 01:15:47.680 Amen. 01:15:47.680 --> 01:15:50.360 That's a trashy movie. 01:15:50.360 --> 01:15:52.440 And we need to make sure that we, 01:15:52.440 --> 01:15:54.120 you say, why are you so mad about this? 01:15:54.120 --> 01:15:57.080 Because I'm trying to shame it so that people don't identify 01:15:57.080 --> 01:15:58.920 with that psychopathy. 01:15:58.920 --> 01:16:00.120 And they don't think it's normal. 01:16:00.900 --> 01:16:04.140 They don't empathize towards a fictional character 01:16:04.140 --> 01:16:05.900 and think that's normal behavior. 01:16:05.900 --> 01:16:08.740 You know, why don't you spend more time reading the Bible, 01:16:08.740 --> 01:16:12.340 spend more time living a godly life, being a godly woman, 01:16:12.340 --> 01:16:15.140 and teaching your children, don't be like that. 01:16:17.700 --> 01:16:18.700 It's important. 01:16:18.700 --> 01:16:22.940 The Bible says, who so findeth the wife, findeth the good thing, and obtaineth the favor of 01:16:22.940 --> 01:16:23.940 the Lord. 01:16:23.940 --> 01:16:26.340 The mouth of a strange woman is at a deep pit. 01:16:26.340 --> 01:16:31.100 He that is a hoard of the Lord shall fall therein, the Bible says. 01:16:31.100 --> 01:16:32.100 Proverbs 19, 14. 01:16:32.100 --> 01:16:38.020 House and riches are the inheritance of fathers, and a prudent wife is from the Lord. 01:16:38.020 --> 01:16:42.100 Now look, folks, again, if you come from that background, okay, I get it. 01:16:42.100 --> 01:16:43.100 But you know what? 01:16:43.100 --> 01:16:44.420 Let's not add more to that. 01:16:45.200 --> 01:16:47.780 by watching movies like that and identifying with it. 01:16:47.780 --> 01:16:50.520 Leave that in the past. 01:16:50.520 --> 01:16:52.880 Leave it in the past. 01:16:52.880 --> 01:16:55.800 I feel like I'm Mickey. 01:16:55.800 --> 01:16:59.280 Put on the new man. 01:16:59.280 --> 01:17:02.120 You're basically saying, I'm that old man. 01:17:02.120 --> 01:17:03.560 That old man is me. 01:17:03.560 --> 01:17:06.480 Well, put it away with the ungodly lust, 01:17:06.480 --> 01:17:08.960 that corruptible part of your aspect. 01:17:08.960 --> 01:17:10.120 Die to self. 01:17:10.120 --> 01:17:13.000 Crucify that thing, because it's not honoring to God at all. 01:17:13.500 --> 01:17:14.500 Okay? 01:17:14.500 --> 01:17:15.900 And so what's the sermon today? 01:17:15.900 --> 01:17:16.900 The sermon is simply this. 01:17:16.900 --> 01:17:19.580 Beware of toxicity. 01:17:19.580 --> 01:17:24.860 And all of us have the potential to be a toxic person because we have the unregenerated aspect 01:17:24.860 --> 01:17:27.100 that we're being dwelling within us. 01:17:27.100 --> 01:17:32.020 We need to make sure that we transcend that through Bible reading, through godly preaching. 01:17:32.020 --> 01:17:35.560 You know, hey men, don't be a wimp. 01:17:35.560 --> 01:17:36.560 Take some leadership. 01:17:36.560 --> 01:17:36.800 Thanks for watching! 01:17:36.900 --> 01:17:39.200 Get your confidence from the Lord. 01:17:39.200 --> 01:17:43.120 Make sure that you grow in your appetite for righteous things. 01:17:43.120 --> 01:17:46.880 Hey ladies, don't be Nikki. 01:17:46.880 --> 01:17:49.280 Don't identify with Nikki. 01:17:49.280 --> 01:17:50.400 OK? 01:17:50.400 --> 01:17:52.240 And I'm sure the actress who played her 01:17:52.240 --> 01:17:55.800 is just sick and tired of that character already. 01:17:55.800 --> 01:17:56.520 OK? 01:17:56.520 --> 01:17:57.720 You know? 01:17:57.720 --> 01:17:59.560 And don't raise your daughters to think 01:17:59.560 --> 01:18:01.000 that's an honorable thing to do. 01:18:01.000 --> 01:18:03.680 You know, raise your daughters to be like your wife. 01:18:04.800 --> 01:18:08.960 I hope my daughters grow up to be like my wife Sarah. 01:18:08.960 --> 01:18:10.480 That's what I want. 01:18:10.480 --> 01:18:14.480 I want them to copy her and behave like her, 01:18:14.480 --> 01:18:16.400 think like her, talk like her. 01:18:16.400 --> 01:18:18.240 That's exactly how I want her to think. 01:18:18.240 --> 01:18:19.080 You know why? 01:18:19.080 --> 01:18:20.560 Because my wife walks forward. 01:18:25.000 --> 01:18:26.920 Let's pray. Father, we thank you so much for your word. 01:18:26.920 --> 01:18:32.040 I pray you bless us as we go on our way, Lord. Help us or help our minds to be reformed and not 01:18:32.040 --> 01:18:39.880 to envy sinners, Lord. Not to think as the unrighteous. Lord, help us not to think as 01:18:39.880 --> 01:18:42.280 the Gentiles think in the vanity of their minds. 01:18:42.900 --> 01:18:48.340 And I pray that Lord you'd help us to have our minds renewed, that we would desire righteousness 01:18:48.340 --> 01:18:56.420 Lord and separate ourselves from toxic people who are can and are hindering us spiritually Lord. 01:18:56.800 --> 01:19:01.680 I pray that Lord you'd help us to have the discernment to do so, to separate ourselves 01:19:01.680 --> 01:19:07.680 from toxic family members, from toxic friends who are giving us bad advice, Lord, who may 01:19:07.680 --> 01:19:13.600 be praying on our downfall, and also from toxic females and yes, even males as well. 01:19:13.600 --> 01:19:19.600 I pray that you'd help us to have an appropriate biblical standard in the people we choose 01:19:19.600 --> 01:19:20.600 in our personal lives. 01:19:20.600 --> 01:19:22.240 We love you, we thank you, pray this thing in Jesus' name, amen. 01:19:26.800 --> 01:19:29.720 Song number 24, and can it be? 01:19:29.720 --> 01:19:32.000 Song number 24.