Book of 1st Timothy and if you remember back in chapter number 3 the Apostle Paul states in verse 15
But if I tarry long that thou mayest know how thou oughtest to behave thyself in the house of God
which is which is the Church of the Living God in the pillar and ground of truth and
So much of what we see in 1st
Timothy is basically instructions on how people should conduct themselves in the house of God
You know a lot of what we see in chapter 1 is
Regarding doctrine the types of doctrine you should teach and then forbidding others to teach other doctrines that are not found in the Bible
We see chapter 2 and then going into chapter 3
Talking about the qualifications of a pastor and how you need to have the right man for the job
This is a proper way to conduct yourself in the house of God by having the right type of leadership
Chapter number 4 goes into making sure that you're teaching you're given attendance to doctrine to exhortation
To reading in order for you to teach the right type of doctrine
So a lot of what we see is one thing that constantly is reiterated is just hey
This is how you're supposed to conduct yourself. This is the way you're supposed to behave now in chapter 5
Really homes in on this topic of widows and how is it that we're supposed to behave towards widows?
What is the church's stance on widows? Are we supposed to take care of them?
What widows are we supposed to take care of are there are there is there a
Criteria that they're supposed to meet so on and so forth now look at verse number one
First of all, we're gonna look at what the Bible says here
It's talking about having an appropriate relationship in the church amongst the brethren
It says in verse number one rebuke not an elder but entreat him as a father and the younger men as
Brethren, so this is pretty self-explanatory
But it's basically saying hey an elder and this can be viewed in two ways one
It could be referring to a person who is literally an elder and age
someone who is just a lot older and ancient as the Bible would call it or is just referring to church leadership a
Pastor an evangelist a deacon and the Bible is telling us here that you should never rebuke an elder
Okay
So in other words with the implication here is that you may disagree with the leadership, right?
You may disagree with the leaders you may disagree with you know, you may have deferring opinions
But it should never get to a point where you think
You are so correct that you can just go up and rebuke the elder now
We're not talking about a false prophet. Okay, first of all, if it's a false prophet, you should even be in that church
First and foremost why even go and rebuke the pastor when you're actually attending the church service there
Okay, you like well, you know, I feel like it's my responsibility to go tell that false prophet, you know, give them the business
Yeah, but here's the thing. You're part of his business because you're attending that service
We're talking about people who are saved right and there's gonna be times when you disagree with me I disagree with you
But here's the thing. The Bible says that you're supposed to entreat them as a father
What does that mean you approach them respectfully if you feel like it's an issue in the church if you feel like it's an issue
Between the pastor and the member and you feel it's it's important enough to address then you have to entreat them
But don't rebuke them
Okay, and often this comes through people who are just arrogant ignorant and immature in the Lord
Right where they feel they have the right to go and just rebuke anybody and correct anybody when in actuality they don't
Okay
The Bible's telling us here not to rebuke an elder and treat them as a father and look may I say this I've had
Many leaders in my life who I disagreed with and you know leaders that were blatantly wrong on an area
But I never rebuke them. In fact, I allowed myself to be rebuked of them
Tell me that I'm wrong
Correct me reprove me reprimand me even though when we left that conversation
I still felt as though my opinion was correct. I was right. But here's the thing. I never raised my voice at them
I never yelled at them because of the fact that the Bible tells us that we're not supposed to rebuke the elder now that I
Try that I tried to entreat them and try to you know
You know talk to them and and show them why I believe what I believe or why it is that I do the things that
I do absolutely, but you know there came a point where they weren't willing to adhere to them at that point
You just kind of kind of have to walk away from the conversation
But what do you not do rebuke them? You don't rebuke them. You don't reprove them. This is an inappropriate
response to differences of opinion, okay
now
Verse number two says the elder women as mothers the younger as sisters with all purity
So it's telling us here that you know, men should not be disrespectful
Towards the elders, you know people in general should not be disrespectful towards the elders
And in fact, you know
They're supposed to rise before the hoary head and show them respect
Give honor to those who are in spiritual leadership and many to view the younger women as sisters
so in other words, this means that you're not to speak ill of them or
You know have an inappropriate relationship with them where you just kind of treat them like one of the boys
Right supposed to treat them with respect as though they were sisters your physical blood sisters, right?
Protect them care for them within the boundaries of appropriateness, of course
So this is just telling us. Hey, this is the way you're supposed to behave yourself in the house of God
This is not a free-for-all. You can't just act away
you know, however, you want to act and just disrespect anybody and
Rebuke the elder and just treat the women
However, you want to treat them treat the men the way you want to treat them. No, there are restrictions
There are rules in the house of God and these things are to be done decently and in order look at verse number three
Now we're gonna look at having an appropriate relationship in the church in regards to the widows
Says in verse number three honor widows that are widows indeed now
What is the widow a widow is a label given to a female?
Who has been loosed from the law of her husband in other words her husband has passed away no longer living right and
A widow is basically a define in verse number five as someone who is desolate and in fact look at verse number five
It says now she that is a widow indeed and desolate desolate of what of a husband. This is what a widow is and
widows are spoken of extensively throughout the Bible and they're often coupled with
Fatherless, right and the implication for both groups is that the man responsible for them is no longer present and can no longer provide for
their physical financial needs
There are plenty instructions that God had given to the nation of Israel regarding widows
However, the specifics in regards to how the local assembly
Was not really made clear until first Timothy chapter number five
And in fact in Acts chapter 6 you see that the Grecians came to the Hebrews and they were talking about how the widows
Were being neglected in the daily ministration and we see that at that point
Deacons were ordained and in order to provide for them to help them during this time so that
The men of God can give themselves over to the Word of God and not serve tables. Okay, that's actually the wording that's used and
So we see that even during the book of Acts
The relationship or how the church churches were supposed to provide for widows wasn't really made clear
Verse
Three tells us that honor that widows are supposed to be honored
But here's the thing. They're actually supposed to be widows and there's a there are there's a criteria that they have to meet
So it's not like just some whatever widow comes from off
The street can come into our church and then expect to be provided for you
There's people who have that opinion and say well
This is just referring to any widow who's above 60 could come into the church and say hey, I need help
I don't have a husband. I don't have children doesn't work that way
Okay, because remember this is in context of what the local assembly and there's certain things that the local assembly has to observe
Within that person in order for them to judge and discern whether they meet that criteria to be provided for by the church
now why is that important well because
Then just like today people see people spell church this way ATM
Right. So how do you spell church ATM?
They think that they can just come to church and get a bunch of free money, right?
And look that's how it was back then because people would go up to the Apostles and ask for money and what a Peter say
You know silver and gold have I done but such as I have give ID, right? And so
Here we see that God is telling them and instructing them via the Apostle Paul
The widows are to be honored they are to be provided for but they need to meet a specific
Criteria in order for them to receive that relief that help that we're gonna look at
Okay, by the way to honor not only means respect obviously we understand that honor means to respect but it means to provide for financially
If you think of Proverbs chapter 3 where the Bible tells us to honor the Lord with what thy substance
Right and with the firstfruits of thine increase and so honoring doesn't just mean respect
Reverence it also means to provide for financially as well
This is what the Bible tells us in Exodus chapter 20 to honor thy father and thy mother. This is referring to
Providing for their financial needs when they are in need, okay
So the instruction here is that the local assembly has the responsibility to care for those who are widows indeed
Okay
and again a woman a widow is a woman who is married one who has a
Had a husband that passed away and the reason that's important to clarify is because some people say well, I'm a widow
Yeah, you know, I'm a widow. I don't have a husband but it's not because their husband passed away
It's because they got a baby daddy
Right the committed fornication had a baby and now that man forsook her and she claims to be a widow
It doesn't work that way. Okay, that is according to the Bible
Fornication and that child according to the Bible is considered a bastard. Oh, that's foul language
I can't believe you would say something like that. Well, you got to take it up with God because he's the one who says that
okay, a
Widow indeed first and foremost is a woman who had a husband and that husband died
Not you know left them not
Didn't marry them but just slept with them fornicated with them had a baby and then just forsook him because he's just some deadbeat dad
this is referring to someone who was in a
Relationship they were married but that husband passed away for whatever reason and now they are a widow
Okay, look at verse number four
But if any widow have children or nephews
Let them learn first to show piety at home and to requite their parents for that is good and acceptable before God
So look he's saying this we need to honor widows that are widows indeed
But before we show you who are those widows indeed?
Who are those widows indeed first and foremost they need to meet this criteria
Look if any of these widows who come to you and they're in need of something first and foremost
You gotta ask them this do they have children?
Do they have nephews
Why is that important because of the fact that?
The children of the widows the nephews of the widows are actually first responsible to take care of them
Okay, they actually have the responsibility
To care for their parents then it says there
Let them learn first to show piety at home and to requite their parents for that is good and acceptable before God
So first and foremost we see children or nephews, by the way
Nephews is actually referring to grandchildren, you know often today we think of nephews as being you know
The children of our sister or our brothers, right?
That's what typically we would say is like that's my nephew if my sister has a son or a daughter
We would say that's my niece or my nephew in the Bible. Nephew is actually referring to the grandchildren and
Even if you look up the word the term nephew you see one of the obsolete
Definitions of that is that it's referring to grandchildren
All right
And even in the Bible you see that throughout the Bible that sons and then nephews will be mentioned in tandem with one another because it's
Referring to grandchildren the word grandchildren is not used, you know, sometimes you'll see children's children or you'll see nephews being mentioned there
Okay, that's how it was in the 1600s that term
So the children are responsible to take care of their parents, right and it doesn't have a limit
So folks, you know what that means if you have parents who are no longer able to work
They you know, they can't work that they have a disability of some sort
They're incapable of providing for themselves
This is what it means
It means you're supposed to ship them off into some old folks home and just leave them there to rot and die
No, that's so wicked and unfortunately a ton of people do that and they even recommend
Well, yeah, if you can't take care of your parents, you know, they're getting old
You should just put them in the old folks home visit them once a month and you know
They'll take care of them there. They some of those people receive some of the worst treatment in those in those homes, by the way
Okay
That's not that's not biblical. It's actually very wicked. He said what are we supposed to do?
Well, you're supposed to take care of them. How do you expect me to take care of my parents?
Well the way your parents took care of you, buddy
By wiping your butt and providing for your needs clothing you and feeding you for 20 plus years or whatever
Until you were married and moved out of the house or until you moved out or whatever, you know in like manner
We should repay our parents. Okay, you know never have this attitude. Well, I don't respect my mom
I don't respect my dad. They're not Christian. So I'm not gonna provide for them
It doesn't give the caveat if they're believers to provide for them if they're your parents provide for them. Okay, you know if they're incapable of
Providing for themselves or working the responsibility doesn't fall upon the church
To provide for your parents needs it actually falls upon the children and or grandchildren to do that and look folks
we should look I encourage you look at your situation look at your parents situation and
I do this where I talk to my mom and I say hey, you know
She lives by herself and she's like a hustler, you know, so she's always you know doing her her little businesses on the side
she's about a little over 70 years old and she works but I always tell her like
If you feel like you can never pay the bills
You're always welcome to come and live with me and I tell her if you feel like you can't buy groceries
You need to tell me and I'll buy your groceries from here on out, you know, whatever it is that you need a light bill paid
Groceries if you if you can't pay the rent you could come live with me. I will take care of you
Why because my mom took care of me and the Bible commands us to honor our parents as such, you know
It's more so for the mom too, you know what I mean?
Because the dad, you know dads they just kind of get it together unless you have a dad
Who's just really lazy or something like that, you know, dad's typically get it together. I have a dad who's he's about
I don't know 60 years old. He works on a farm, you know, he's probably gonna work until the day he dies
So I don't really have to worry about my dad, but my mom on the other hand
Yeah, I need to make sure that my mom's taken care of and this is what God requires of us to honor our parents. Okay
now
So if a woman
Has lost her husband first and foremost does she have children and or grandchildren that she can go to?
That will take care of her if she doesn't have that then the Bible tells us that she needs to go back to her parents
House if they're still around of course, okay
And in fact in Leviticus chapter 22
We see the Bible tells us in verse 12 if the priest's daughter also be married unto a stranger
She may not eat of an offering of the holy things
But if the priest's daughter be a widow or divorced and have no child and is returned unto her father's house as in her youth
She shall eat of her father's meat, but there shall be no stranger eat thereof
Excuse me, there shall be no stranger eat thereof. So what is it saying? It's saying that if a woman
Has a husband that passes away, you know first you got to see if she has children or grandchildren
If not, she goes back to her father's house and her father has to take care of her. Okay
We see that even with Judah right in Genesis chapter 38
He tells his daughter-in-law after the passing away of her of his son
To go back to her father's house and be taken care of of him look at verse number five
Now she that is a widow indeed and desolate
Trusted in God and continuous in supplications and prayers night and day
So what is a widow that is a widow indeed a widow indeed first and foremost does not have children
To take care of her, right
Can't have children to take care of her
We're talking about widow indeed to be to be honored by the by the local assembly
Does not have children whether it's because she never had children or she outlived her children
Does not have parents to take care of her right and it says here
That she needs to be one who trusts in God and continues in supplications and prayers night and day
So does this say that it could just be any regular Joe Schmo? No, in fact, it needs to be a godly person
they need to have a good report of the people within the church and
This is fact folks, you know, like I don't think I think that any widow could come in here false and
In order for us to even know that this widow trusts in God
Continues in supplications and prayers, you know, she always has to be a member of the church
Right for us to even know something like that
You see how strict these restrictions are and this criteria is, you know, you said why is God being so strict?
Where it's just like go to the children. No children. Okay, go to the nephews. No nephews go to the parents. No parents
Okay. Well if that's the case, then she needs we need to make sure that she's a godly woman
Why is he so strict because he doesn't want to waste money
And just give money to whoever you know, Tom Dick and Harry that comes to the church and ask for money
No, there needs to be a criteria that is met in order for widows to be provided for I don't agree with that
Then just say you don't agree with the Bible because that's what it says
Verse six says but she that liveth in pleasure is dead while she liveth. So this is very important right here
Because it's telling us that there are certain women out there who potentially might be widows
Or they just have you know, they have bastard children. They had you know
Children out of wedlock and
Are they?
Trusting in God are they continuing in supplication and prayers? No, in fact, they're living in what pleasure
So why would they come to a church to get money from the church so they can provide for their own needs?
No, it's so they can live in pleasure and there are people like that. Okay
She
That liveth in pleasure is dead while she liveth
So the contrast is there are two widows one widow is godly loves the Lord serves
God continues in supplications and prayers, you know is a godly woman
The other one is a widow and what is she doing? She's living in pleasure
And what does the Bible tell us he that loveth pleasure shall be a poor man the Bible says in the book of Proverbs
okay, and
Why does it say that she that liveth in pleasure is dead while she liveth
Well, the only way a Christian can be dead while they live is that they're not exercising their faith
Because faith without works is dead being alone, right?
You know, this is a woman who's basically
Consumed with herself, you know
It's just living in pleasure is not serving the Lord and is simply seeking a handout in order to continue their
Wanton lifestyle, all right
Look at verse 7 and these things give in charge
That they may be blameless and look there's a lot of examples in the Bible of in the Bible of great widows
Godly widows think of Ruth, right?
She was a godly widow and even then what happened she got married to Boaz, right?
But even as a widow she didn't have parents
So she went with her mother-in-law and even then she went out to glean, you know
Corners of the field and it was there that God led her to meet Boaz and Boaz married her and that was taken care of
You know, there's Ruth. There's the woman of Sarepta who God miraculously provided for her by sending Elijah, right?
and then you have Anna the prophetess in the New Testament Luke chapter number two and the Bible tells us let me read to you says
And there was one Anna prophetess the daughter of annual of the tribe of Asher
She was of great age and had lived with a husband seven years from her virginity and she was a widow of about
fourscore in four years
And she was a widow for a long time
Which departed not from the temple?
But served God with fastings and prayers night and day
You know, we can safely assume about Anna is that God provided for her knees
Why cuz she served God she didn't she didn't depart from the temple
She served God with fastings and prayers night and day
This is someone who would fit the criteria of what we see in first Timothy chapter number five
So don't tell me he can't be done. Amen
look at verse eight
says here, but if any provide not for his own and
Especially for those of his own house
He had denied the faith and is worse than an infidel now this verse can be applied to multiple people actually
because it could be applied to the parents who
Have a daughter who is now a widow and if they're not willing to provide for that daughter that guy's denied the faith
He's worse than an infidel, right?
This could also be referring to the children who are not willing to provide for their parents
Right their mom who is a widow and you know, she doesn't have
The means to to pay for the ranch or or provide food and if they deny that
You know, they rather send their mom to some old folks home so they can just rot and die
Well, that person is worse than an infidel and they've denied the faith. Okay, cuz they're not willing to provide for their own
Looking for a summer night. We'll get back to that verse in just a bit. It says let not a widow
Be taken into the number
Let not a widow be taken into the number under three score years old having been the wife of one man
All right. So here's the final final thing that he's saying here. He's saying look
If it's a widow indeed first and foremost does she have children
They can take care of it. No, okay. Does she have grandchildren? No, does she have parents? No, okay
Is she godly? Yes, does she serve God? Is she a faithful member of the church that she is
She's serving the Lord with what she has. Yes, she is. Okay
Well, here's the next thing is she under
60 years of age if
This woman is over 60 years of age. Then she qualifies to be taken care of of the church
Okay, however, if it's someone who is under three score years old, she's been the wife of one man. The Bible says no
Verse 10 says well reported her for good works
If she had brought up children if she have lost strangers if she have washed the Saints feet if she have relieved the afflicted if she
Have diligently followed every good work. So you say wait a minute if this woman is a godly woman
She's doing all these things
Why is God saying that if they're under three score years of age and they're doing all these things not to take them in
Well, because it says if she have brought up what children
So if she's brought up children
Then she needs to go to those children and those children need to take care of the mother. That's what this is referring to. Okay
She's brought up children let the children take care of you see we don't want people to view the church as like the government
Or any little problem the financial problem they have any kind of little mishap
They have they just they see the church as some ATM where they can come and just pull out money
Depart withdrawal money whenever they can know there's requirements here and God is saying look if they're 60 and up then yes
They can be taken in they can be taken care of with these requirements that they're a godly person
It's a godly woman, but if they're under 60 years of age and they are well reported of these things
She's raised up children. Let the children take care of her then, okay
Look at verse 11, but the younger widows refused young younger referring to what under 60 years of age
Look at this phrase here for when they have begun to wax wanton against Christ
They will marry
So interesting phrase, isn't it?
Saying look when they begun to wax wanton against Christ
They will marry look at verse 12. It says having damnation because they have cast off their first faith
So let me explain a couple things regarding verse 11 because it it's a it's an interesting verse. Okay?
First and foremost, what does it mean to wax wanton? Well to wax obviously means to grow
Wanton means basically to live without regard
Okay, you know just to be reckless and careless and in fact if you take this word and define it based upon what we're
Looking at here. It's basically to live in pleasure
Alright, so a younger widow you say refused because they will begin to wax wanton against Christ now
It tells us in James 5 5 you have lived in pleasure on the earth and have been
Wanton so we see those that defining it there
but this isn't implying that waxing Watson against Christ results in marriage because that's how you can see how someone would kind of confuse that
Right because it says, you know, the younger wood is refused for when they began to wax wanton against Christ
They will marry it's like what in the world
So when they want to live in pleasure, they're gonna marry someone that's the result of them waxing Watson
That's not what that's referring to
waxing Watson against Christ results in what verse 12
Having damnation because they have cast off their first faith, okay
Now, let me explain something
Because we're gonna look at the woman who becomes idle
Wandering about from house to house and I'm gonna rip on that just a little bit. Okay
And obviously Paul says that the way you you you you fix this is you know, the younger women need to what
Marry their children guide the house
But here's the thing it doesn't stop at just being married them
Because here we see that the younger women can wax Watson against Christ and get married and still have damnation
Right and cast off their first faith even when they are married
Now, let me prove this
Okay, because don't we all know someone or I've heard of a lady
Who is married yet is still idle?
Wanders about from house to house as a toddler and her busybody
Maybe she's not a widow. Maybe she's married. But you know what? She does these things?
Of course, we do because guess what marriage doesn't fix that
You know, like what is the time I wonder about from house to house
Well, let me let me let me put it to you in 2020 terms. Okay wandering about from social platform to social platform
One are about from YouTube comments to Facebook to Instagram to Twitter to all these other things and they're not
Doing what they're not bearing children guiding the house and giving them occasion of the adversary to speak reproachfully
Well, I said that they're married though. Yeah, but hold on a second
That's not the only thing that's needed in order for them not to be given over to Satan and let me prove that further
Because who is the one who this is being exemplified after Eve?
Eve turned aside after Satan and guess what she was already married
right
She had Adam there, but guess what in her idleness?
She was tempted of the serpent her husband wasn't there and she was deceived by him
She turned aside after Satan even though being married
So when the Bible's talking about here is this
When they begin to wax wanton against Christ, they're just living in pleasure
There's just being a wanton person where they're just being reckless and careless
Just just kind of living it up, you know, this type of person is gonna be given over to idleness
to wandering
To tattling and being a busybody if they don't bear children guide the house
Etc. Okay. This is what that's referring to
Now it says in verse 12 having damnation because they have cast off their first faith damnation is not referring to like they're just you
Know wives are gonna split hell wide open
If they're not doing these things, okay
Because if that were the case, we'd have way more women stay home and get married bear children and got the house
That's not what that's referring to damnation is just referring to the fact that they're gonna receive punishment
This is why the Bible tells us in chapter number two that they shall be saved in childbearing
Right because when women have children and they guide the house it keeps them busy
And we'll get into that and just a little a little bit more
So it says having damnation because they have cast off their first faith now
What is the first faith verse 8?
But if any provide not for his own especially for those of his own house
He had denied the faith and is worse than an infidel
So just as the male has denied the faith if he's not willing to provide for his own household
Guess what? The woman has denied the faith if she's married and doesn't guide the house
Doesn't have children doesn't teach her children doesn't keep herself busy
In the body of her household and not other people's matters. It's like they've denied the faith
Okay
Now what happens when they receive to themselves damnation verse 13?
With all they said nevertheless because with all means nevertheless
So it's saying even though they're married
Nevertheless they learn to be idle
Wandering about from house to house
Not only idle but tattlers and busybodies now, what does it mean to be a tattler and a busybody?
It means a gossiper
Okay, let me give you a Spanish version of this a cheese Mossa
That's what that's talking about
Just getting involved in other people's business and matters
Just getting involved and in social media platform comment feeds
Just just wasting time
Instead of reading a good book on how to raise godly children
learning a new skill learning, you know, just becoming more
knowledgeable about how to become a how to be a mom how to leave the house how to cook how to sew how to do
Things that are profitable they become idle and they wander about from house to house
Tattlers and busybodies just getting involved in other people's business folks. This is bad
Okay
This is why he tells them to bear children and guide the house because when a woman focus it look
This is not popular and to the even amongst Christian. There's Christian ladies who are listening to my voice right now. They hate my guts
Good
Hate my guts
This is Bible folks
You're not gonna deny it and those who are getting mad at me for are the ones who are guilty of it
Guilty of being a little busybody and a toddler. Okay?
We don't have they don't have to wander about from house to house anymore they got social media
Getting involved in other people's business. Well, I just feel like I'm just like a keyboard warrior, you know
I can I could really put it down and
Why don't you put it down with your home?
Why don't you put it down with cooking?
Why don't you put it down with raising your children?
You know, why don't you put it down with training your children how to how to do the potty?
How to use the potty why don't you put it down on teaching them how to talk
Look folks if if a woman
Gives
Herself over to the task of raising her children. She won't have time for anything else
My wife sometimes feels like she's just at the end of the day. She's like man
I feel like I didn't get much done because I've consumed with just like teaching Bruce or teaching Kyla or helping the Zayas
You know, they're they're they're days filled with
Tasks of their children. Okay
Now look, let me just say this. Okay?
Because I know there's there's there's people out there the couples who are married and they can't have children for whatever reason
Okay, and that I'm not talking about people like that
You said well, what about us? Can we become toddlers and busybodies?
Well, I mean if I can't have children then what's what do I do?
Well at that point the husband is responsible for keeping his wife busy
And look if you if you're a husband and you have a wife and you you know
You can't have children for whatever reason then start a home business or something
You know start a home business
But it's up to the the husband's it's his responsibility to fill his wife's time
so that she doesn't fall into these categories right here to be given over after Satan because obviously there's a lot of time on
Their hands, right?
But you know if you fill that schedule up with tasks with a family business with something
They're not going to be given over to these things and look there are women who have children and there's still toddlers and busybodies
The
Implication of bearing children is that you will guide and train those children
Having children is not that hard actually especially for the man the woman she has to give birth to the you know
It's not very difficult, right? It's actually raising the children teaching the children
Discipling the children. That's when the work comes into play
Okay
And I know this for a fact because I've observed people who have eight children and I've observed those mothers
I've observed my own wife
You know when I come home from work
I see the work that she puts in into training our children training my son teaching them how to read teach it
I mean just look folks just teaching them how to use the potty
It is a task in and of itself
That does not happen, you know in a weekend. Maybe to some it does but not to everyone. That's a big task
Okay, and you add on top of that cleaning the house
Preparing a meal plan for the week
You add on top of that washing the clothes and doing the dishes and all these things caring for the household
You know, I can't believe you're talking about here a male chauvinist pig. It's a hog pigs are females just as a reminder
This is just biblical folks. I
Know this is strange to a lot of women
But you know what? It's because they have been dude by feminism. And in fact Christian feminism at that
Are you saying that I'm just in less than essence? I'm not saying to you
I've never said anything like that. And if you don't believe me go talk to my wife. She agrees with everything that I'm saying
Okay, she's afraid of you
You know, you just instilled in here cuz she's afraid of you go tell her and see if that's true or not
She agrees with me 110 percent because you know why cuz she grew up in a home
Where her mom did the same exact thing as well
Raised eight children breastfed them. Amen
You know home schooled them trained them
This takes a lot of work
And you know what when you're doing?
Homeschooling cleaning you are raising children you got children in diapers
You have children under three years of age
You hardly have time for social media
I'm just being honest with you. It's fact
Now surely enough I'm not gonna see any lady on social media
And I'm not saying you know, you can't get on you do whatever you want do whatever your husband tells you to do
And I'm not gonna if I see you on social me. I'm like, oh
Like all pastor like my post
You know
I'm not saying that
Okay poster means
Posture comments, you know do whatever you got to do. Okay, but what I'm saying is this is that
Don't be idle
and look
This is what I'm saying
Don't finish the end of the day wondering why you couldn't get it anything done
When if we were to observe your day, it's filled with intervals of social media
And other things that are not
You know dealing with this right here. Okay?
This makes me mad
Makes me mad folks because I see this a lot. I
see this
So often and and in our culture, I see it amongst Christians and it's like, you know
Ladies, come on, but you know what at the end of the day, it's not the lady's fault
You know whose fault it is is the men who are married to old ladies
This is supposed to be leading them
You know, hey man, why don't you step up to the plate and check yourself before you wreck yourself?
Well, this is how I want to leave my home, okay, but then don't get mad at me when I preach this then
Because this is biblical
It's time for the men to step up and stop being afraid of your wife
Yeah, I went there
Stop being scared of your wife
Lead your wife love your wife, you know, I'm not saying be some machista where you just smack your wife or something like that
Obviously, that's wicked. I'm talking about lead your wife in such a way that she is
Provoked to follow you to listen to you and admonish your wife lead your wife. Why is your wife leading you?
This is not correct folks
That is ungodly
Makes me mad when I see women leading their husbands
Ticks me off. Why because it's out of order and that is the problem with churches today
Is you have a bunch of weak-willed men led by their strong-willed women?
back
And again, I'm not saying you'll bring the hammer down to your wife and just scream her head off
I'm boss here. If you have to say you're the boss here to your wife that you're obviously not the boss
If you have to say hey, I'm the Lord here
I'm the man of the house here if you have to try to establish that with words, it's not true
Because those things should be already known
right
You know, my wife tells me that when when she was younger
Her dad of course is a pastor. He was a pastor pastor. Joyce Mazzino
You know, he was a man of small stature
But then you know in the morning we're talking about, you know spiritual said he had he was very tall spiritually speaking
and he demanded like his presence demanded respect and
Especially and fear amongst his family and children. Oh
That's not right. Of course is right. What are you talking about?
That's why his kids turned out great
That's why his kids are godly
That's why he has a godly family folks, but she would tell me that he would come home
And if anyone was sitting around everyone just like sit up
They weren't even doing anything wrong, but he's just new dad's home. Hey, we need to straighten up and behave ourselves cuz dad's home. Oh
That's just fear. Hey, you got it right man. You're smart cookie
Well, we live in a society where we want to be our children's best friend
One of you buddy buddies with our with our children. No folks. That's not the way it works
Just got to get that off my chest for a little bit, okay
And you know what if you don't agree with that then so what you're not preaching so too bad for you
You know go listen to some lame preaching where they adhere to
The wife more than the husband where they try to build up the wife more than the husband
They don't train the husband to be a man to lead his hope to lead his house to lead his wife to lead his children
That's what the man's supposed to do folks
Lead
Your home lead your wife lead your children what happens when that doesn't take place
It says verse 14. I will therefore that the younger women marry
So don't take care of the young women because they're waxing waxing wants and against Christ. They're living in pleasure
What are they supposed to do marry bear children guide the house give none occasion to the adversary to speak?
Reproachfully for some are already turned aside after Satan
What is that defined by wandering being idle toddlers and busybodies that is considered someone who's turned aside after Satan?
We had a lady in our church
Who I threw her out
Okay, why because she was being a toddler a busybody. She was wandering around from house to house literally
Calling people in our church and you said what would she talk about? She just complained about her husband the entire time
Criticized her husband the entire time
she would come to church and look some of you know who I'm talking about and
some of you know who I'm talking about because when you first met her you're like
Because the first thing that came out of her mouth is just criticisms about her husband
Just all she can do is just criticize her. Oh, he's a rapper man
This never ever it and she even said this she yeah if you witness to him
He probably even liked what you say cuz that's the kind of guy he is. He tries to like, you know be deceitful like that
Know what it is is that if we witness to him, he probably get saved
He's probably a good guy
You know what I mean?
But she made she turned him out to she made him to be like some sort of devil and lo and behold
She's criticizing me here. She's criticizing different people in the church. She's calling people late at night
Just wanted to complain about everything. So, you know what I did I said you can't come back anymore
You're a toddler. You're a busybody. You're idle. All you do is complain about your husband
We don't want to hear it and we never want to spirit by the way, ladies
We never want a spirit that you criticize your husband behind their back
If you want to cook if you want to criticize your husband do it to the Lord in prayer
Don't ever do it to another lady in the church
For sure don't do it to another man in the church
You know, don't ever put down your husband to another human being in this on this planet
That is such a reproach it's so wicked it's so evil for someone to do something like that. Oh, yeah, but my husband
He just doesn't read the Bible at all
He just doesn't know anything. He doesn't even know what post-trib means
He doesn't even know how to prove the reparative doctrine
You know this that's wicked folks
You know and look to that person who's tempted to do something like that, here's what I got for you. Okay, you married him
So in your attempts to make him look stupid you actually look even more stupid
Because you chose to live with him for the rest of your life
So the better better thing to do is
Better thing to do is respect your husband trying to win them over and and be the type of wife that God wants you to
Be you know and not criticize him
All right, let's move on
Hopefully right something might have something else might come down the pipeline verse 16
So what was this teaching us here is teaching us look these this is the criteria for a
Grandchildren if they have parents that can go home to but if they don't have any of those things
Okay
Is she a godly woman and if she is she 60 and up if she is then she meets the criteria
The church will take care of her and look folks
We will do that forever for the rest of her life if she meets that criteria because that's what God commanded us to do
But if they're younger than that, then they just need to get married, right?
Bear children guide the house give none occasion to the adversary to bear any type of reproach
If any man or woman that believeth have widows let them relieve them and let not the church be charged
That it may really relieve them that are widows indeed
Let the elders that rule well be counted worthy of double honor G
The elders that rule well be worthy of double honor and then he says in verse 8 verse 18 for the scripture saith
thou shalt not muzzle the ox that treadeth out the corn and
The laborer not to be given out freely to some person who's not doesn't meet the criteria to be taken care of
Okay, and it's biblical. I don't agree with churches that say well don't pay the pastor
We can give money to missions feeding the church. He's growing the church
He's teaching people how to be more Christ-like and disciples. By the way, I didn't say get rich doing that
There's past pastors should live a humble life and just have the means to provide for his family for his children
And just for here's your justification for screaming and yelling and calling out names
So people sin in the church you they did it wrong no the Bible tells us who's listening so that they don't okay
I charge thee before God and the Lord Jesus Christ and the elect angels
Thou observe these things without preferring one before another, you know, you don't have partiality
No, in other words, you don't show favoritism towards certain people
You need to treat everyone equally the same if if you have a friend who's involved in sin
We rebuke them before all the others may fear even if he is your friends
Okay
Not because I'm trying to show something but because of the fact that I don't want to be partial towards anyone
Okay, and this is how it needs to be done
Says drink be partakers of other men sins. Keep thyself
Pure what he's telling Timothy is this hey, you know when you start ordaining
Evangelists started doing deacons and gay even other pastors
You need to make sure that they meet qualifications and a lot of what we see in first Timothy is this
Make sure these people meet the quality obvious, you know Christian who understands neither what he says no
Wherever he affirms lay hands suddenly on no man
You need to make sure cannot be hid and he's basically he's telling them look in a setting in a church setting
You're gonna run into people who people know all about their sins
You know, they just got out of prison or something or you know, they're involved in some drug or even you know
There's people in the church who get excommunicated from the church because of a specific sin
And what it's telling us here is that sometimes you'll meet people like that
But some other people have a background that no one even knows about
Okay, and it's just telling us look these are the situations you have to deal with
These are the members of people forgiving people and then
You're in a church of people who are willing to help you to move forward and not remind you of failures or past mistakes
That you've made this is that and again, let me just make myself very clear, you know
If we ever get someone like this
Which I doubt we ever will to be quite honest with you because the criteria is so keen
It's very strict
You know, this has to be a very very special
Situation where Godly over 60 in order for them to even meet this qualification here
And I think God did like that for a reason
He's basically saying we need to help those who are truly
You know and not try to take away the responsibility from people who should be taking or
The instructions here because even though this is written many many years ago 2,000 years ago
It's still applicable to us today and we need it today
Sinful people then are just like sinful people today
widows who are under 60
Who are given over after Satan can be guilty of idleness wandering about from house to house
Tattlers and busybodies then but also today we see that today and
I pray God that you'd help us as men to continue to lead our wives and our children our households
Help us to be a biblical family biblical husbands biblical wives biblical children and Lord
we're not perfect, but I pray that God you continue to give us wisdom and if there's anyone under the sound of my voice who
Was offended by what I said Lord
I pray that they prove all things hold fast that which is good and I've encouraged that person to come talk to me personally
Show me where I was wrong according to the Bible because I believe everything that I showed tonight was biblical
It was sound it may have been a hard saying for some
But it's true and sometimes the truth hurts and I pray God that you bless us as we go on our way in Jesus name
We pray. Amen