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Amen good evening and welcome to parity Baptist Church. Let's go ahead and find our seats
By the seat and find a hymnal close to you and turn to page number
263 song number 263 this evening
Song number 263, let's go ahead and sing it out on the first
That
Number 263 on the second
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You're singing well I sing it out on the last
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Amen great singing welcome to the Sunday evening service here at Mary Baptist Church
God see everyone here this evening the bow our heads for a word of prayer the heavenly Father Lord
Thank you for the opportunity to come to church this evening Lord
Thank you for everyone that's here pray that you bless the service bless the singing bless the preaching come Lord
We love you in Jesus name I pray
Amen. All right now it's time for favorites where if you're selected we'll sing one stanza off of the song that you pick
Oh, man, go ahead, uh, josh
124
Song number 124
God will take care of you. Let's sing it out on the first
God
Oh
Isabel 45
Song number 45 and I can read my title clear
Sing it out on the first
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Johnny 439 on the second
Your blessing song number
100 and 39. Let's sing it out on the second
And you will be singing
Oh
63 all right, so number 63. How's the cutest 63 ever?
What a day that will be
Singing out on the first
Oh
316
Amen this will be the last song this evening. I have decided to follow Jesus
Me
Amen all right. Well, let's take our bulletins. We'll look at some announcements
We're glad you're with us on sunday night for the sunday evening service
I like to call it the most exciting service of the week and I think uh, you'll you're all I hope you're glad you're here
And uh, we're definitely glad you are here. You look at the verse john 7 24 judge not according to the appearance
But judge righteous judgment and that's a good verse there. We learned all about that
This morning if you open up your bulletin
You'll see our service time sunday morning service 10 30
Am and we do invite you to be with us on sunday morning on the lord's day
Of course sunday evening service 6 pm
We're glad you're here
And we invite you to be with us on wednesday night for the wednesday night bible study
If you look at our soul winning times our main soul winning times on
Saturday mornings at 10 am and then we have additional soul winning times on thursdays fridays and sundays at 2 pm
If you're a soul winner, don't forget to add your salvations on your communication card so that we can add that in the bulletin
And if you have a map that you did not finish clearly mark what was done and was not done and we will
Put in we will if you put it in the bin
We we will take that and we kind of fix them up and recycle them back out so they get finished
And then of course if you're running late
Don't forget to call us to texas at the number there nine one six eight six eight nine zero eight zero
Let us know your plan on being there which running late
That way we can make sure we have a partner and a map and everything you need
We are a family integrated church
What that means is children infants are always welcome in the service
If you have a child that's been distracting during the service
So if you need some privacy, we would encourage you to use our mother baby rooms and daddy rooms
If you need to be baptized, please let us know
You can let us know on your communication card
Or you can step out at the end of the service after the preaching while we're singing the last song
You step out that door
One of our staff guys will meet you there and get you situated for baptism if you look at the announcements and upcoming events
We're going through
Two series one called happily ever after one called journey with jesus
We did our journey with jesus sermon this morning and we're going to do the happily ever after sermon tonight
All right, so, uh, we're glad you're here for that and then of course this saturday may 7th
at 3 p.m in our fellowship hall
We invite all the ladies to an elegant afternoon tea in honor of mother's day
You can sign up through your communication card and it's going to be a good time for the ladies
Uh, there's going to be a gift basket valued at over 50 dollars
That'll be given away and then of course the next day is mother's day
You should have one of these big cards in your bulletin and want to encourage you to be here on sunday morning on mother's day
We're going to have the children's choir singing in honor of mother's day on sunday morning
And then we also have uh t-shirts that we're going to be giving out to all of the ladies
All the girls all the ladies are going to receive a free
Verity baptist church, uh t-shirt and I can tell you that these shirts this year are better quality
Uh than the uh shirts last year
So my wife made sure of that
She didn't she wasn't too impressed with the shirts last year and she wanted to make sure that the ladies got some nice shirts
So you're gonna like these you guys for father's day will get the same shirts as before
Um, because I don't care but um, my wife cares about the ladies. So they're a little more expensive. That's the thing
So anyway, men are supposed to be rough. I think or tough something like that striving together new members class
We'll try to get you something nicer, okay guys and uh striving together new members class is on sunday mark may 15th
Please sign up if you've not done that children's choir
I think that's it. They had their last practice today. Uh, so they'll be singing next week homeschool group
They've got pe class on thursday may 5th upcoming cleaning crew check for your name there. We appreciate your faithfulness
Please don't forget to turn your cell phones off or place them on silent during the service or they're not a distraction to anybody
if you look at the back of the bulletin birthdays and anniversaries for
The month of may today is miss edith castellum's birthday on may 1st
And then on may 3rd, we've got several birthdays there. Miss april deakins, uh, brother johnny cervantes
uh the fourth brother graham scott and and then of course, uh,
Brother friend miss connie ramirez having an anniversary praise report money matters
All those things are there for you to look at so we're going to go ahead
We're going to sing the chorus of the week again tonight. You should have the insert there in your bulletin
And we will sing until then
Let's go ahead and sing this out with some uh passion I have a lot of memories
Being a kid in church and having our pastor sing this out with the church family and I love this song
So let's sing it out together on the first my heart can sing
When I pause to remember
Is
This
Oh
Me
Until then
You're singing well you're singing like you're on your way to heaven. All right, good sing it out on the second
Things
And things
Great
Good sing it out
But until then
My heart will go on singing
Until then
Until the day my nice view the city
Until the day
Singing out on the last this weary world
With all its toil and struggle
Is
But until then my heart will go on singing
Until then
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Amen good singing. We'll have the guys come up and help us with the offering at this time
And let's go ahead and bow our heads and have a word of prayer
Heavenly father lord, we do. Thank you for allowing us to gather together tonight lord
We pray that you bless the offering
We ask that you meet with us as we open up your word and preach out of your bible in jesus name. We pray. Amen
So
Let's open up the first timothy chapter number five
First timothy five if you need about put your hand up and i'm not sure why i'm bringing a bible
first timothy chapter number five
If you need a route, just keep your head up unless you will come by
First timothy five we'll read the entire chapter as our custom
First timothy chapter number five
First timothy five being the verse number one rebuke not an elder but entreat him as a father and the younger man is brethren
The elder woman as mothers the younger as sisters with all purity
Honor widows that are widows indeed
But if any widow have children or nephews
Let them learn first to show piety at home and to requite their parents for that is good and acceptable before god
Now she that is a widow indeed and desolate
Trusteth in god and continueth in supplications and prayers night and day
But she that liveth in pleasure is dead while she liveth
And these things give in charge that they may be may be blameless
But if any provide not for his own and especially for those of his own house
He hath denied the faith and is worse than an infidel
Let not a widow be taken into the number under three score years old having been the wife of one man
Will report it up for good works
If she have brought up children if she have lodged strangers if she have washed the saint's feet if she have relieved the afflicted
If she have diligently followed every good work
But the younger widows refuse when they have begun to wax wanton against christ
They will marry having damnation because they have cast off their first faith
And with all they learn to be idle wanting about from house to house
And not only idle but tatler's also in busybodies speaking things which they ought not
I will therefore that the younger women marry bear children guide the house give none occasion to the adversary to speak approachfully
For some are already turned aside after satan
If any man or woman that believeth have widows, let them relieve them. Let not the church be charged
That it may be that it may relieve them that are widows indeed
Let the elders that rule well be counted worthy of double honor
Especially they who labor in the word and doctrine
For the scripture saith thou shall not muzzle the ox to tread out the corn and the labor is worthy of his reward
Against another received not an accusation
But before two or three witnesses
Them that sin rebuke before all that others also may fear
I charge thee before god and lord jesus christ and the elect angels without observe these things without preferring one before another
Doing nothing by partiality
Lay hands suddenly on no man. Neither be partaker of other men's sins. Keep thyself pure
Drink no longer water, but use a little wine for thy stomach's sake and then opt in infirmities
Some men sins are open beforehand going before to judgment and some men they follow after
Likewise also the good works of some are manifest beforehand and they that are otherwise cannot be hit. Let's pray
Heavenly father. Thank you for this evening. God. I thank you for your word and for our church lord
And for everyone that's here just give us a tender heart to the message lord
I ask you please be their pastor strengthen them if they're in spirit. We love you. Jesus name pray. Amen
Amen
All right. We're there in first timothy chapter number five and of course tonight we are
Going through our happily ever after uh sermon series and we've been uh learning biblical principles
For the christian home and we've been learning about uh, all really this is this sermon is this series
Is my hopes to really cover everything
That I know about the christian home and and what the bible teaches about the christian home and uh tonight, uh, i'm gonna follow up
Last week's sermon last week. I preached a sermon called money and marriage and we talked about biblical principles for for your marriage
And of course for the christian home and they apply to everyone
Tonight I want to preach a different sermon still on the subject of money in regards to the christian home
And I want to preach a sermon entitled the single income
Family and I want you to notice there in first timothy chapter 5 and verse 14
The bible says I will and of course, this is the apostle paul speaking under the inspiration of the holy ghost
he says I will and the word will there is
My desire and paul is speaking here, but it's god speaking through paul
God is telling us through paul that his desire god's desire is his will is therefore that the younger women
Listen up young ladies if you're wondering what's god's will for my life
Well, here's a verse where god tells you he says I will therefore that the younger women marry
their children guide the house give none occasion to
The adversary to speak reproachfully the bible teaches that in the christian life and in the christian home
It is the woman the wife the mother who is to be what we would call the home maker
Here god says that god's will for a young woman
Is not for her to grow up to be the first female president of the united states
Or the first female governor of the state of california or to be on the supreme court
But his will is for her to marry bear children guide the house give none occasion to the adversary to preach
To speak reproachfully that phrase there guide the house
Is what we would call being a home maker or uh staying at home now
Keep your finger right there in first timothy five. We're going to come back to it
But go with me to titus chapter number two just real quickly. You're there in first timothy
You're going to go past second timothy into the book of titus. I realize that
When you make statements like these people get offended today, and they'll say things
that you know that i'm
Anti-feminist or whatever because I teach that the bible says
That
Women should stay home and today that's not the way the view that the world has
I get offended when people get offended about that because
They think that a woman going out and being the ceo of some company is more important than guiding and bearing and uh keeping
Uh the and and raising a child which is has a soul an eternal soul that'll spend eternity somewhere in heaven or hell
You know, I would uh submit to you that maybe you have your priorities out of whack
And that uh running a business or working in a business does not come close to the importance
That god gave you when he gave you children
Uh there in titus chapter 2 and verse 4 the bible says that they this is referring to the elder women
It says that they may teach the young women to be sober to love their husbands to love their children to be discreet chaste
I want you to notice this little phrase here keepers at home keepers at home
That's the same idea that we saw in first timothy 514 to guide the house to be keepers at home again
This would be a home keeper or a home maker good obedient to their own husbands that the word of god
Be not blasting go back to first timothy chapter five if you would first timothy chapter five
I just want you to notice here by way of introduction that the bible is clear about the fact that in the christian home the
Wife or the mother should be the home maker. She would guide the house
She should be a keeper at home the bible also clearly teaches that in the christian home
The husband or the father should be the sole provider first timothy 5 in verse 8 says
But if any provide not for his own and especially for those of his own house
He hath denied the faith and is worse than an infidel the bible teaches that the man is to be the provider
In the christian home now again, I realize that this goes against the grain in our society today today
We are told that three out of four women believe that they should work outside of the home
In fact, we are told that half of women in our country do work outside of the home
and I I I want to preach this sermon on the single income family because I want you to
I want to help you and I want to help you with some things
You need to understand that there is an attack on the nuclear family today
There's an attack on the idea of a husband a wife and children forming a
Family, and of course there's attacks from all sides in regards to that
But one attack that has came upon the family is a financial attack and it is the fact that today
in the united states of america
You pretty much
Virtually need two incomes in order to be able to survive
back in the
Before the 1960s in the 1970s
Men would be able to to go off to work and work at a just a normal job somewhere
And they were able to make enough money in the united states of america to support an entire family and to live
Well off of one income
Those days are no longer with us. You say what happened?
Well back in the 1960s and the 1970s women joined the workforce
And when women joined the workforce and all of a sudden there was a lot more
People that were able to work and willing to work and able to take jobs. It it brought the price of wages down
so that now
It requires two individuals to be able to go off to work and listen to me
People are not living any more better today than they were 40 years ago
The the standard of living has not increased you would think well now there's two people working
So you think people are living uh twice as well? I think they were probably living better back then
And we we live in a society today
We have created this culture that pretty much makes it puts this pressure on you
to send your wife to work to have two, uh incomes and
It it's almost it almost it's almost a miracle
That a family could live off of one income today in 2022. It's virtually impossible now you say well
Yeah, you know it is impossible and and that's depressing. Well, let me let me help you out with something with men
This is impossible, but with god all things impossible
And you're sitting in a church tonight filled with families that uh have a lot of uh, men that support their families off one income
And you say how do they do that?
Well part of it is the grace of god and part of it is the things i'm going to teach you tonight
I'm going to teach you how to survive as a single income family today in 2022
And i'm going to teach you on this subject now
Let me just say some things
I understand that there are some women that have to work and need to work and i'm not against you
We've had women in our church over the years
Maybe a single mother or something like that and and she doesn't have a choice to work. I'm not against you
sometimes there's situations where that's the case and i'm not i'm not preaching this sermon to try to
Beat up on you or anything like that
But i'm trying to help some of the families that are here and maybe some of the young people coming up
To be able to set themselves up for the proper future now five years ago
I preached a sermon called how to provide for your family on one income
That was a father's day sermon about five years ago that sermon on youtube right now has over 12 000 views
And uh, and and I just want to tell you
The sermon i'm preaching tonight is not that sermon. That was a different sermon
Obviously, there'll be some overlap. That was a sermon that was geared towards men. I preached it on father's day
And and tonight i'm preaching a completely different sermon. This sermon is geared towards both husbands and wives
And because you really need both to be able to survive as a single-income family today
And what I want to do is I want to give you three
Ideas or three areas three things that a single-income family must do with their money if they're going to survive
In
society today
So, uh, you have your place there in first timothy go with me if you would to the old testament book of second chronicles
If you can find the one and two books, they're all
Clustered together there in the old testament you got first and second samuel first second kings first second chronicles go to second chronicles
chapter number two second chronicles chapter number two
And i'm going to give you some things
Three different ideas. I'd like you to maybe write these down
On the back of your course of the week. There's a place for you to jot down some notes
And I I want I want you to to learn this and I want you to get this
I don't know if somebody could help me out. It feels a little warm to me
I don't know if it's if it's warm or not
But if you could check that I would appreciate that if you're taking notes tonight number one
Three things that a single-income family must do with money number one the single-income family must earn money. All right
Let's start there. That should be uh, uh an easy one the single-income family must earn money
Now what i'm going to do is i'm going to give you a point that i'm going to gear the first point towards the husbands
I'm going to hear the second point towards the wives and then i'm going to gear the third point towards both husbands and wives now
This applies to anyone and you could apply this to anyone but I want to really apply it tonight to the husbands
You say how do we survive in 2022 as a single income family where?
the husband goes off and he is the one that is in the
Workforce outside of the home because please understand this wives that stay home work
In fact, they work very hard. In fact, they work harder probably than you do and uh
They they don't get to take a 15-minute break and and clock out at 5 p.m
Their their job is 24 hours a day seven days a week
But when it comes to earning money and we're referring to the husband the father going out and and and making money
Bringing home the bacon as it were the you need to understand that if you're going to live in our culture today
The single income family you're gonna have to earn some money you say well, how do I earn money?
How do I make enough money to be able to provide for a family because here's the thing
We because of the culture we live in not only you know
Do you have one husband that has a job that has to make enough money to provide for a family?
We also believe this is a sermon coming up, you know that god blesses that
Children are a blessing
So we end up having families with more kids than the average family
And then we also believe that public school and private school education is a curse
So we end up educating our children at home
Which means that we pay for our children's education twice because we pay taxes for them to be educated by the government
But because we reject the government education system we then go ahead and pay again to educate them ourselves
And it seems like we've got all these
Odds stacked against us and i'm not telling you that to try to discourage you
I'm, just telling you to sober you up a little bit and realize that if you're going to do this and you're going to survive
In this thing you're going to especially you men are going to have to learn how to earn some money
You have to learn how to make some money you say how can I earn money? Well, uh, let me give you a couple of thoughts
Especially for those of you that work a job
Uh you business owners i'll talk to you here in a minute
But let me say this for those of you that that have a job you work somewhere you need to
increase your value at work
You need to increase your value. You say how do I make more money?
Let me let me help you out with something. Here's how the word money is spelled v-a-l-u-e
You say I want to make more money. All right increase your value
I want to make more money. All right get better
Become more valuable
So that they'll pay you more. Are you there in second chronicles chapter two?
Look at verse seven second chronicles chapter two and verse seven here. We have solomon
Who's getting ready to start a big project that's called the temple and he's looking for some employees
Second chronicles chapter two and verse seven notice what he's looking for because what solomon's looking for is what every employer is looking for
He says send me now therefore solomon is requesting workers
He says send me now therefore a man cunning you see the word cunning the word cunning means skilled or having ability
A man cunning to work in gold and in silver and in brass and in iron and in purple and in crimson
And in blue and that uh, and that can I want you to notice this word. Okay, he says and that can skill
To grave with the notice the word cunning what does the word cutting mean?
It means skilled or having ability men that are with me in judah and in jerusalem whom david my father did provide
Notice that when solomon is asking for workers. These are the ways he describes the workers. I need a man that's cunning
What does that mean means they're skilled means they have some sort of value. There's something they bring to the table
They've got something they can do something they can provide they're skilled they have an ability
He says I need men that can skill to grave the cunning
Men, uh with the cunning men that are with me notice verse eight
He says send me also cedar trees fir trees algham trees out of lebanon notice what he says for I know
That thy servants can skill to cut timber in lebanon and behold my servant shall be with thy servants
You say how do I increase my value and get paid more you need to listen men at work
You need to learn and master a skill
worth someone paying you for or paying you more for
That's what it comes down to
It's value
What kind of value do you bring and please?
Don't misunderstand me. I'm not i'm not beating up on you if you if you were get mcdonald's or whatever
But here's what you need to understand flipping hamburgers is not that hard
Flipping hamburgers does not require a lot of skill
And because there's very little skill
Required with flipping a hamburger. There's very little value in that job, which means you get paid less
but when you have a skill
that is
hard that is
Different that is something that not everyone can do now you have value and because you have value you'll get paid more
So you say I need to I need to increase uh, my my value. Okay learn and master a skill
And by the way at your job
at your job
There's probably a hundred things that you're required to do
But there's probably two or three things that are pretty difficult to do that
Maybe only a few guys know how to do. Hey, you need to become that guy
You need to learn and and you need to work and you need to practice you need to you say how do I increase?
My value, how do I make more money? How do I earn money for my family? Here's how you do it
You learn and master a skill worth someone paying you or paying you more for
Say what else?
You don't like that one? Okay. Let me give you another one go to go to Ephesians Ephesians chapter number six in the
In the New Testament, I'm not sure if you kept your place in first timothy
But if you go backwards from first timothy, you've got uh, second and first thessalonians colossians philippians ephesians ephesians chapter number six
Here's another one for you not only should you learn and master a skill where someone paying you for paying you more for
To increase your value
Let me read it, but let me read the passage before I give you the the point ephesians six look at verse five
servants
Now here we're taught here the apostle paul is speaking to the workforce. He's talking to servants who are the workers
He says servants be obedient
He's referring to do what you're told to do be obedient to them
That are your masters and that you could see that as the boss the person in charge according to the flesh
So notice he's referring to secular work servants be obedient to them that are your masters according to the flesh
Notice with fear and trembling by the way guys go to work and be respectful to your boss
Be careful about how you speak to your boss
The bible says you got to speak with them with fear and trembling in singleness of heart of your heart notice
He says as unto christ now notice verse six not with eye service as men pleasers
Here's what he's saying. Don't be the guy who only works when he's being watched
Who only works when he's being supervised he says don't be a worker
That is only with eye service as men pleasers
But as the servants of christ doing the will of god from the heart with good will notice these words doing service
As to the lord and not to men now what is it that paul is saying here paul is saying hey
Don't only be a hard worker when your boss is around
Don't only be a hard worker when you're being watched be a hard worker at all times because as a christian
You should be working as unto christ. You should be working as to the lord and the lord is watching you all the time
The lord is watching you and christ is with you all the time
But in this passage paul gives us a secret to success in the workplace you say what is it?
Here's the secret some of you should write this down
Do more than what you get paid to do
Work harder than what you get paid to the the amount of of of of of money that you get paid to do
Because here's how the average employee thinks the average employee thinks. Well when I get the promotion i'll work harder
When I get the raise i'll work harder
When I get the bonus i'll work harder. Here's how the average employer thinks i'm going to give the promotion to the guy that's working harder
I'm going to give the raise to the guy that's working harder
Look, here's a secret to success in the workplace do more than you're being paid to do
Work harder than you're being paid to work
And then you will when you do more than what you're being paid to do you will get paid more for what you're doing
When you work harder than what you're being paid to work
You will get paid more for the work that you are doing you want to be a good employee
There's a man by the name of jim roan who said always do more than what you get paid for
as an investment into your future self
You can't tell the boss give me a promotion and i'll work harder. No you work harder and earn that promotion
The truth is that you get in life what you put into it
And you get in life not what you need, but what you deserve
So go to work and be a good worker
You say what does that mean to be a good worker? Let me just give you some thoughts. Okay, don't be negative
Don't be negative
Listen to me if you're not a business owner, and i'm not i'm not saying that in a in a negative way
But I want to help you with something if you're not a business owner
a business owner if you're working for a business owner if you're working for an entrepreneur chances are
Because of the fact that they're a business owner and an entrepreneur. They're probably a very visionary
optimistic type leader
Those are the type of people that generally take the risk to go and start a business and do something like that
Your boss if you work at a business where the guy went out and started the thing. He's probably a very positive
Optimistic go-getter
Proactive type of guy let me tell you something the one thing that gets on the nerves of people that are
Proactive and positive and realizing that the world's not always
The greatest but we can go out there and try hard and work hard and do it as unto the lord and the lord will
Help us. Hey, the the thing that gets on that person's nerve is the guy that's always negative
The guy that's always giving you a reason why you can't do it why it can't be done why we shouldn't try
Hey, don't be the negative guy at work
Try to be the guy that always says yes
Try to be the guy that says we can do it or we can figure out how to do it or we we will
Get it done. Hey be positive at work and just you say well
I'm not getting paid to do that do more than what you're getting paid to do
Be careful already said this how you speak to your boss
Sometimes people tell me things I think myself wait a minute. Do you do you work for me or do I work for you?
Be
Careful how you suggest things to your boss. Listen to me if you suggest something to your boss and he says no drop it
Well, I have a better idea. You're not the boss
Well, I think it would wait. He's in charge
Don't complain don't murmur. Don't be just try to be a really good employee. Listen to me
Please understand this this is actually not very difficult
today we live in such a
Just
Wussified society, I don't know how else to say it. I
Mean we live in such a limp-wrist of society today the average man at work
The average man just lacks drive
They they lack attention to detail
They they they lack tenacity
They lack work ethic and it really doesn't take a lot for you to shine
Just show up early. Stay late be respectful get your work done. Tuck your shirt and brush your hair and you'll probably get the raise
You say how do I earn for my single-family income you increase your value
Increase your value at work
Lauren and master skill that is worth someone paying you and work harder than what you're getting paid to do
Do more than what you're getting paid to do and then you will get paid more
Because you're working and you're and you're investing in that future self, so you got to increase
Your value, let me give you a biblical example of this go to Genesis
If you would in the Old Testament first week of the Bible Genesis 39 should be fairly easy to find Genesis 39
Genesis 39
And if you say pastor, you know, I'm not really that tight I'm not the risk taker
I'm not the the person that just go go get her. Hey, that's fine. Nothing
I'm not saying there's anything wrong with you not being that person but just don't be you know down all the time around the boss
Who is?
If the boss is saying hey we can do this we can get this done
Let's get this accomplished you get on board with that and say let's do it. Let's try it
Genesis 39 look at verse 4
Genesis 39 verse 4 the Bible says and Joseph now
Here's what's interesting about Joseph if you study the life of Joseph, and I don't have time to go through the whole thing tonight
But I would encourage especially
You young men you should study life of Joseph
Joseph was a type of guy that it did not matter where you put him wherever you put him
He was gonna prosper and he was gonna succeed
You could put him anywhere you could put him everywhere and he would succeed why because he was a valuable individual
Because everywhere he went he did more and accomplished more than what he was getting paid to do
Genesis 39 look at verse 4 and Joseph. This is Joseph while he's in slavery
Found grace in
His sight referring to Potiphar and he referring to Joseph served him Potiphar and he Potiphar notice
Made him overseer
Over his house and all that he had he put into his hand
Here we have Joseph being sold into slavery, and you know what happens when he gets sold into slavery
He becomes the top slave in
In fact Potiphar put he made in the overseer over his whole house and all that he had he put into his hand
Then you fast forward the story Potiphar's wife lies about him gets him thrown into prison
What happens look at verse 21 same chapter Genesis 39 verse 21, but the Lord was with Joseph now
He's in prison and showed him mercy and he gave him favor in the sight of the keeper of the prison and the keeper of
The prison notice committed to Joseph's hand all the prisoners that were in prison
And notice notice how much is Joseph getting paid at the prison the answer is zero
But notice he did more than what he was getting paid to do and whatsoever. They did there. He was a doer of it
Hey, you want that to be your yeah, I should be your goal at work
Your goal should be that when your boss sits you down for your review. He says everything we do around here
You're the doer of it
You're the leader of it. You're getting it done and whatsoever
They did there he was the doer of it and look is it here's the thing people get this idea like whoa
I don't have a good job if I had a good job at work hard. He's a slave
If I had a good job, I'd work harder
he's in prison but because you worked hard while he was a slave because he had value and added value and
Created value while he was in prison. He ends up being the second most powerful man in Egypt
So don't tell me well if I had a better job listen to me
You say pastor you don't know you don't understand because of my lifestyle and because of things in my past work the best job
I can get is is is at McDonald's then you work hard and you run that McDonald's and have them make you the boss
over all the McDonald's
Just just grow just add value. Just you will always succeed
When you do more and what you're getting paid to do
So you say how do I how do I make more money for my family increase your value?
Increase your value here's another way that you can make more value more money for your family go to proverbs 22
If you go to the center of your Bible and open up right in the center
You're more than likely found the book of Psalms right after Psalms you have Proverbs Proverbs chapter 22
Do me a favor put a ribbon or bookmark something there in Proverbs. We're gonna leave it. We're gonna come back to it Proverbs 22
Here's another way you can make money is to work for yourself
Let me let you in on a little secret
No matter how bad this country is and it is bad you have the wonderful privilege of living in the United States of America
Well, you can literally go out and make money tomorrow
if
You work if you work hard
You know sometimes people come to me, and they're like. I don't know what to do. I got I got nowhere to go
I mean, I can't go any higher already where I'm at and I've got I didn't get education
And I didn't get skills, and I don't know what do I do this is what I always saw people
work for yourself
Start a business. Maybe that's why we've got like 20 business owners in this church
I don't know, but I always tell people work for yourself look working for yourself will give you
opportunities that are only limited by you
Proverbs 22 look verse 29
Proverbs 22 verse 29
Seest thou a man diligent in his business
Now FYI the word business there is not only applying to starting a business
I think you can apply this to any sort of work
But notice what the Bible says see is thou a man diligent what diligent means a hard worker
See is thou a man diligent in his business notice. He shall stand before kings
He shall not stand before mean men
The word mean there means obscure or unknown
The Bible says that when you see a man
Diligent in his business that
Diligence in his business is going to open up doors for him, and he will stand before kings not before
obscure and unknown men
See working for yourself if you work hard, and you're diligent will open up
Opportunities for you to be able to accomplish the things that you're trying to accomplish
Just this week on Friday
My wife and I had a talk with our sons and
We were talking to our sons about the fact that they're getting older and obviously becoming teenagers
And we're telling look you don't want to do what the average teenager does in the United States of America where they go work at?
some fast food place for minimum wage and learn nothing of value and
We were explained to them that look even in the United States of America even a teenager can be an entrepreneur
You guys can go out and start a business and and and earn money and make money if you're willing to
Work, and we're telling them you can learn the skills needed to start up and when we're talking to our kids about starting business
We're talking about a legit business getting a business license getting an account paying taxes
I mean getting out there and getting to work learning the skills that they need and we were talking about it and
Discussing and say well, what could we do and we were just kind of discussing well
What what are you able to do?
We talked about you know certain things that they could do and different ideas the funny thing is the very next day
We got so many brother Eli and brother Eli says some well
I could hire you guys to pass out some flyers for my business
You know and and that maybe in the future you guys could do that for me, and I was telling my kids see is thou
a man
Diligent is business. He shall stand before Kings
God will open up doors for you
God will allow you to meet the right people and make the right connections listen to me
Working for if you say I don't know what to do work for yourself. You say I have no skills listen
There are literally people in this country that make very good money picking up dog poop
Because they go out and they work and they work out hard at it and let me tell you something there is profit in all
labor
Just work
Just don't be afraid of working and working hard and God will bless you and God will meet you halfway
God will open up doors and get you the connections you need and it'll all work out
Gotta work for yourself working for yourself will give you and open up opportunities and working for yourself is only limited to
Yourself you have to actually obviously you have to get up and actually go work
You can't just be laying around sleeping in all day and thinking you know you're gonna
You're gonna be able to get something done. You're there in Proverbs 22 go to Proverbs 31
You say I don't know I don't know about this whole working for myself
Let me let me explain to you kind of how business works all right, it's not that complicated
You need to sell a product or provide a service
That is worth someone paying you to do it
That's it
Sell a product or provide a service that is worth remember value
That is worth someone saying yes
I'm willing to exchange money with you because the value that you are
Offering me is worth the exchange of that money. That's business. That's the economy. That's how it works
So you say I don't know what to do
I'm only just gonna go get a job somewhere. Okay, nothing wrong with that go get a job somewhere and and be valuable
Do more than you get paid to do rise up in that business and and and God will bless you
But if you say well, I can't do that or that doesn't work for me
Okay, then you go out and start a business say what do I do you sell a product or you provide a service that is?
worth somebody paying you for now in Proverbs 31 we have the virtuous woman and this woman is
Doing this business at home, and I realize I'm preaching to the men right now
But the truth is that the truth of these verses
Apply to both men and women and the truths of capitalism found here apply to both men and women once you notice this woman
She's selling things from home Proverbs 31 18, but notice how she sells a product that has value the Bible says in verse 18. She
Perceiveth that her merchandise is good
Her candle goeth not out by night. Look at verse 24 same chapter. She make a fine linen and
Selleth it and delivereth girdles unto the merchants now notice. She's not a merchant. She's selling to the merchants
She's working at home the virtuous woman
But the idea is the same if you want to start a business you need to perceive that your merchandise is good
You need to figure out how you can sell a product or provide a service that is worth
That is worth
someone
paying you for or
Giving you money for and look it doesn't matter what it is. Just make sure that there's value to it
This is how business works. It's funny because just just a couple of weeks ago
I was talking to brother brother Joel
After church some when I turned I was telling him about an idea I had
Of a series that I wanted to do on one of our YouTube channels and I was kind of explained to him
You know, I hadn't decided if I was gonna do it
I still haven't decided if I'm gonna do it, but I was telling him, you know
This is what I'm thinking of doing and it would entail this and this how long it's gonna take to develop it and produce it
Or whatever and this is what brother Joel said to me. He said well, there's always a question about value
Said there's always a question about value
Will it produce what you think it's going to produce is the value worth the work and I thought to myself
That's exactly how a business owner thinks
That's exactly how successful people think you've got to just consider value
Can I provide a value? Can I provide a service? Can I sell a good that is worth people exchanging money?
Look, I'm just telling you if you're gonna survive in this society today with a single income
You better have a skill that other people don't have
You better work harder than other people do
you better
Provide a service or have a product or do something and I'm here to tell you see is thou a man diligent in his business
He shall stand before kings. He shall not stand before mean men. God will open up the doors
That you need and help you
to get where
You need to get and by the way, look, let me explain something to you
Because everybody whenever you preach stuff people always want to give you the reason why it doesn't apply to them
Well, this doesn't apply to me because I work at McDonald's become the owner of McDonald's and then you'll have pastors
Well, this doesn't apply to me because I'm a pastor this applies to you as a pastor
Hey, listen at Verity Baptist Church
I do everything in my power for you when you show up to church on a Sunday night or on a Wednesday night on a
Sunday morning
I do everything in my power to make sure that what you're getting from this pulpit is giving you value
That you're learning something that it's helping you that you leave here and say wow, that was worth me going to church tonight
Hey, this works in whatever business you're in
Provide a value you say I want to start a restaurant make sure provide some value
Look, there's a reason why we choose to go to Chipotle though. It's more expensive than McDonald's why it's called value
And yes, they are paying me to advertise I'm kidding they're not I wish they were I
Got paid for advertising. I have a coke up here and I'd be great
Now, let me just give you some thoughts real quickly before I move off this point in regards to let me just give some advice
for for the homemaker
home based business
Because we're looking at proverbs 31 and oftentimes women get this idea wives and and and and and and mothers
Get this idea that they want to start a business at home and and and make some money and and there's nothing wrong with that
We see that in the virtuous woman, but let me just give you some thoughts and some advice in regards to that
First of all, it's not advisable that you start a home-based business when you have a bunch of babies or toddlers or little ones
You know you you want to remember that the reason you became a homemaker is to focus on your family
So if you're gonna, you know become a homemaker so you can focus on your family
But then start a business from home that takes you away from your family. You're you're defeating the purpose
All right
So I just want you know to be clear as your pastor and my wife and I have talked about this
The advice that we give that she gives us a pass away is look if you've got little babies or toddlers don't feel this
This this pressure to like oh, I have to go start a business to be a virtuous woman
Look you raise your kids. All right, and and it's not really advisable to do that
Also, it's not advisable that you start a home-based business if doing so and this goes along the same lines is going to take you
away from your family
So look if you're just gonna have to you know be
You know clocking in somewhere or or have a certain amount of time or you have to be away from your family
That's not necessarily the best thing is that something that we advise it's not advisable
It is not advisable that you start a home-based business that will end up costing you money and never actually making money
Let me tell you something lots of people start home-based
Businesses and they spend a bunch of money getting started and they never actually sell anything
You know just be very careful about that. All right now here. Here's our advice
It is advisable that if you start a home-based business that you do something that you can
Work on while your kids are asleep or napping
All right, we're not against you starting home-based business
In fact, my wife has written children's books and I did the illustrations and we saw them and we do that from home
You know, but here's the thing. She didn't write children's books at the expense of homeschooling our children
Those were things that she did in the evenings when the kids were already in bed or while they were taking a nap
Make sure if you're gonna do something that's not taken away from the focus of your family and here's another one for you
It's advisable that you work on something that creates and this is kind of a buzzword
So, excuse me for using it, but you want to do something that creates passive income
I know that's a big thing that people like to talk about and talk about getting rich
But let me just define that for you when when I'm using the word passive income
What I mean by that is that it's something that you can put the work into it
And then once the work is done like writing a children's book then you can sell it
For the rest of your life and
That income it's not like it's not like my wife's like, you know having to clock in at a job somewhere
You know, she spent time writing a book
Producing it creating now the books done now people just order it
We ship it to them order we ship it to but but she's not putting any more work into that
And if you're gonna be a stay-at-home
Wife and you want to start a business we would just advise that you do something that you can work on it a project you
can do
When your kids are asleep when they're napping things like that
Not somebody's gonna take you away from your family and that it'd be something that maybe once the work is done
It's done and then you can just sell it and and that and of course you can work on other projects and do other things
but just want to give you some advice in regards to that because we see a lot of people just
Doing things where they they're pretty much on the clock at home and it's like that's not you're taken away from your children
That's not really the whole point of being a homemaker go back to
Second Timothy chapter 4 if you would second Timothy chapter 4
If you kept your place in first Timothy right after first to me you have second Timothy
So we're talking about
The fact that the single-income family needs to earn money you do that number one by increasing your value
number two by
by working for yourself and
Then number three you say well, I don't know how I could do either one of those
Look don't be that person. That's that's the negativity. I'm talking about
Become a better worker. I can't do that start a business. I can't do that. Well. What can you do?
Do something don't just be the person I can't do I can't do I can't do that
I can't do that well go ahead and fill that life then
You say I don't what do I do? Here's what you do number three grow yourself
You say I don't have a skill learn one
I don't have anything of value then create something become something do something
Grow yourself you say how do you do that number one become a life long learner?
Second Timothy chapter 4 in verse 3 I've showed you this verse before but I want you to see it again
Here we have the Apostle Paul at the end of his life in prison getting ready to be put to death or he's gonna die
Soon this is the last letter he wrote and he's telling Timothy the cloak that I left in
Troas with Carpus when thou comest bring with thee so Timothy is coming to see Paul and Paul makes three requests
One request is the cloak that's something that he needs for his physical body to keep him warm
then he requests he says and the books and
Then he says but especially the parchments the parchments are a reference to Scripture. He says hey Timothy bring my Bible
He asked for something for himself
Spiritually the parchments he asked for something for himself
Physically the cloak but notice that he also asked for the books bring the books. He asked for something for himself
Intellectually and listen to me if you're going to grow your value you're going to have to learn
You're gonna have to learn more than you know right now
Someone said this five years from today
You will be the same person that you are today except for the books you read and the people you meet
and the sermons you listen to
Look you've got to grow. There's a reason why they say it leaders or readers. It's true
Someone said that if you read studied or practiced for one hour a day five days a week for five years in any
subject you would become a world-class expert in that subject and
Look, here's all here's all I'm here's all I'm telling you and I say this and I say this I say this and people don't
Want to listen to me and that's fine. You do what you want my job
I'm just trying to give you some value here
Trying to help you you do with it what you want. Here's all I'm telling you
if I worked at McDonald's I'd read every book on on fast food industries and
Become the best McDonald's worker that I could
If I worked in sales
I would read everything I could read about sales and pitching a sale and closing a sale and people skills
If I was a pastor which I am I I read every book I can get on
administration and management and organization and
And and and I tried to read and learn and then I apply it to our churches
Why our church has certain systems that we do and certain things that we do they keep us organized and help us to to grow
And reach people and all those things why because look you need to grow yourself
And if you sit there and say I don't have time to read then you don't have time to make more money
Proverbs chapter 1 if you would Proverbs chapter 1 look at verse 5 you go back to Proverbs keep your place in first Timothy and go
back to Proverbs
While you turn there, let me say this
And let me give this caveat I don't think your goal should be to be a millionaire I don't believe that
But
I will say this studies have showed that the average millionaire reads one book a month
And again, I don't think that your goal should be to be a millionaire
But let me just say this there is a link between financial success and continual learning
You say I have a job where I do X Y & Z then become an expert at X Y & Z
Learn grow become a lifelong learner
Proverbs 1 and verse 5 the Bible says a wise man will hear and will increase learning and a man of understanding
Shall attain unto wise counsel
Become a lifelong learner now. Let me just say this. I'm out getting ready to get off this this subject
Let me just say this if you're gonna go to college. I don't advise it. I don't advise anybody go to college
I think it's a big waste of time
But if you're gonna go to college you got to go to college whatever. That's your thing
Let me just give you this piece of advice get an employable degree
Get a degree. That's actually gonna pay you something say. What do you mean? I mean like become an architect become an engineer
Become an accountant if you go and get a liberals arts degree or some philosophy degree or some history degree
Just you're just wasting your time
You say what what's wrong with that? Here's what's wrong with that? There's no value in that no one's gonna pay you
For or they're not gonna pay you very well. You're gonna just end up working out of public school
Being a history teacher
So if you're gonna go to college make sure you get an employable degree make sure there's some value behind that
But I don't even necessarily advise that and honestly business owners that have no education make way more money the average business owner
Than a college graduate. That's a fact
so
You know do whatever you want with that. I'm just trying to help you go back to Proverbs 31
Proverbs 31
So number one the single income family must earn money you got to earn money
How do I do that increase your value look you want to raise that work increase your value or?
Work for yourself and whichever one you choose grow grow learn become better
number two
The single income family must not only earn money, but the single income family must save money
Now I want to gear this towards the wives
But this applies to everyone the single income family must save money
And this is where the homemaker can really shine and the homemaker wife can really contribute
With the savings now in Proverbs 31 we have a very famous portion of scripture known as the Proverbs 31
Virtuous woman and the virtuous woman is a chapter in which a mother is actually teaching her son
What kind of girl he should be looking for to marry and she gives us these characteristics of a virtuous woman
I'm not going to preach through the entire passage of a virtuous woman
But I want to highlight for you that in this proverb we find that the virtuous woman can
Contribute to the family by saving money now notice there. You're there in Proverbs 31
Look at verse 14 notice what the Bible says she
referring to the virtuous woman is
Like the merchants ships now what the merchants ships are referring to ships that would go across the sea
Bringing different foods and spices and different things to sell the Bible says that she is like the merchants ships
She bringeth her food from afar. Let me tell you something ladies you say we got a single income family
Thank you pastor for telling my lazy husband to get a job and get some value. Okay? Well. Here's here's your job
Homemaker wife the virtuous woman can help the single-income family
Save money by shopping around for the best food and the best prices
Remember it comes back to value
See she the virtuous woman is like the merchants ships that bringeth her food from afar
I can tell you in our home that
There are certain my wife there are certain things that she purchases at
Certain stores and then other things that she purchases at other stores
Because of the fact that she can get a better price and get a better value and more bang for your buck you ever heard
That phrase that's you know what that's referring to value
There are certain things that she can buy at one store that she can get a better price at another store
So she is like the merchants ships
She bringeth her food from afar
And you know one of the reasons that my wife has the ability to be able to research and think through those things is because
She doesn't have to go home and or go out and work 40 hours a week somewhere
So look ladies you can help your single-family
income by
shopping around for the best foods at the best prices
You should be like the merchants ships which bringeth her food from afar
Let me give you another one go to Proverbs 31 looking verse 15 Proverbs 31 15
Notice what it says she the virtuous woman
Rises also while it is yet night notice and giveth meat the word meat means food to her household and a portion
To her maidens the virtuous woman can also help the family save money by feeding her family and not eating out
Look eating out costs a lot of money, and I'm not against you eating out every once in a while look
I'm not against you eating out every day. I don't care what you do. I'm just trying to help you
But I'm just telling you if you get in these habits of just constantly eating out eating out eating out
Don't be surprised if you if you say I can't make we can't make ends meet
Look one thing that you could do with your wife staying home is
Having her be like the merchants ships that gets the best bang for her buck
Knows where to buy certain things and get certain deals and then she comes home and provides a delicious meal
She the Bible says giveth meat to her household and a portion to her handmaid
You can help your family save money by feeding. She can help by feeding her family good
wholesome delicious
nutritious meals and not eating out and
Eating out is something you could do every once in a while or whatever
But it but if you're just doing it all the time is gonna cost you a lot of money
Here's another thing the virtuous woman could do Proverbs 31 look at verse 16
Proverbs
31 verse 16 notice she the virtuous woman
Considerth a field and buyeth it
Now the key word here in this phrase is that she consider it a field
Notice the virtuous woman can save money by making wise
purchases and let me tell you something there is value in saving money I
Mean some I think was Benjamin Franklin who said a penny saved as a penny earned
The truth of the matter is that a penny saved is like five pennies earned
Because if you as a worker have to go out and make more money
First of all, you have to add to your own value maybe add to your own time
But when you make more money, guess what now you have to pay taxes on that money
You also tied off that money, which is a good thing, but there's expenses that come along with that
But you know what happens if you don't make any more money
But your wife learns to save you money and you end up spending a lot less than what you're already making
You're making it's like getting a raise without paying taxes
It's like getting a raise without increasing any other expenses. So look the virtuous woman
Can make wise purchases she consider it a field and buy a thing
Not too long ago I was going through our finances
And I went to my wife and I told her we're spending a lot of money on water
We had this water delivery service and you know, we wanted certain types of waters. We didn't want fluoride in our water
I know it makes your teeth look nice, but you know, it kills brain cells or whatever
So we we wanted a certain water we were spending and what happened was years ago
Years ago when we had just a couple of kids, you know
We set up this this water service with a company and it was very inexpensive
It was no big deal
But over the years as our family has grown and we had more kids and they're drinking a lot of water and whatever
We drink a lot of water in our in our house
You know
We were just adding one bottle here and one bottle there and and and I was going through our finances
I was like man, we're spending a lot of money on water
You know water is costing us a lot of money and I and I I told her that and I said, you know, maybe
We need to try to figure out something or maybe the kids need to go on some sort of water fast
I don't know, but it's costing a lot of money. Well, my wife comes back to me
She says, you know, I was doing some research and she found this the she already knew about it
But she looked into it again and she found this thing called a Berkey
I'm sure many of you guys know what that is
and it's this system where you can put tap water into it and and we were able to
purchase one that had filters that would remove the fluoride and
Remove the chemicals and move all that stuff or whatever and here's the thing it costs like I don't know
$500 or something to get the whole thing and get all the filters and everything
But based on the fact that we were able to cancel our water since I mean we made that up and in just a few months
And now we're saving money every month when we were spending X amount of dollars, you know
Now we are able to pour water into that thing and it filters out and it tastes great and we feel good about it
And here's all I'm telling you a virtuous woman. She consider it a field and buy it then
She thinks about like well, you know, we don't want fluoride
We want water we what can we do and then she goes out and she does some research
She figures out and she's saving us tons of money just by being able to switch that and now we're selling waters from our trunk
No, I'm just kidding
That's a good business though. We could do you know and
The point is this the virtuous woman saves money by making wise purchases
Go to Proverbs 31 look at verse 16. Let me give you another one
prophecy 116 she
The virtuous woman
Consider a field and buy it notice
With the fruit of her hands. She planted the vineyard. I want you to notice that in Proverbs 31
There's a theme about this virtuous woman
It says that with the fruit of her hands. She planted the vineyard look at verse 19
She laid their hands to the spindle and her hands hold the distaff
Notice verse 22 she making herself coverings of tapestry. Her clothing is silk and purple
There's this emphasis in Proverbs 31 that the virtuous woman is working at home
Making things at home so that she doesn't have to buy it outside of the home
So she lay their hands to the spindle and her hands hold the distaff and she make it herself
Coverings of tapestry her clothing is silk and purple
She's making clothes at home
So she doesn't have to go out and buy clothes or with the fruit of her hands. She planted the vineyard
She's planting at home, so she doesn't have to go out in the market and buy it and
And now let me just say this
I'm not telling you why ladies that you need to go and start making your own clothes
Okay, because I don't believe that's what the the proverb is really teaching us that you have to do what she's doing now
Here's the point
When this proverb was written
Clothes was very expensive in fact. It was very rare you and I you know you have clothes
You have different outfits of clothes that you can wear every day, but throughout human history that has not been the case
The the changes of garments you'll notice in the Bible
There's always this emphasis on the change of garment change of garment people will give gifts as a change of garment because people didn't have
a lot of clothes
So it was a very value of a very expensive thing to buy clothes so the virtuous woman is making her own clothes
Here's the thing because of the Industrial Revolution and the society that you and I live in today
This is no longer the case I
Can testify my wife and I can testify to the fact that it will cost you more money to make your own clothes
Than to go to the thrift store and just buy used clothes now sometimes
It's you know ladies want to make clothes because it's fun
And it's fun to make matching outfits for all the kids or whatever so if you want to do it as a hobby
Go for it nothing wrong with that, but if you want to do it to save money
Don't waste your time because you're not gonna save any money all right
It'll be a lot cheaper for you to go and just purchase
Used clothes at the thrift store or whatever, but here's the here's what you can learn from this principle
What she's doing specifically no longer applies to us today, but here's the principle that we can take away the virtuous woman saves money by not
outsourcing services
See in her day. It was better for her to make clothes than to buy clothes in our day. It's
It's gonna be cheaper for you to buy used clothes at the thrift store than to try to make your own clothes
So that's not really the the application, but the principle is this that it costs you more to outsource
Than to just do things in home
So look people get you know people get this idea
And they think like you know well my wife has to go to work
And and and she has to go to work and make money, or we can't survive
But oftentimes when you consider
And I'm not saying this applies to everybody, but this applies to a lot of people
When you consider how much money is being spent because your wife is going to work
You might be shocked how much money you wouldn't need a second income if you were able to save on outsourcing you say
What do you mean? Here's what I mean you end up eating out every night because both the husband and wife are working
You end up having to pay thousands of dollars to have your children watched
Because both husband and wife are working and by the way even if there was no financial gain
Just watching your own children is worth it right there period
But but just if you want to look at it just from a money secular standpoint by the time that the two income family
You know spends money all the time eating out because both husband and wife are working. They're too tired to to make food
By the time you add the expense of child care and babysitters and daycare
By the time you add you know the the maid service you hire because you're both working
And you're just tired too tired to clean your house by the time you add the dry cleaning bills because neither one of you
Wants to do the laundry so you have to extend all your laundry to the dry cleaners by the time you add the second vehicle
Because she needs her own car now
And you got to put insurance on that thing and you got to put gas in that thing by the time you add her
Wardrobe because you can't go to work weighing the same thing every day
She's got to have all these different outfits to be able to go look by the time you add all those expenses
You might realize that you're gonna save money by not outsourcing those services
Instead of outsourcing your dry cleaning and your meals and your daycare
You know bring it all back in to the virtuous woman let her watch the children let her make the meals let her do the laundry
You might be shocked how much money you save
The virtuous woman saves money by not outsourcing services
She layeth her hands to the spindle she makes things at home that will help her and that will benefit the family
Let me give you a fifth one Roberts 31 the girls 11
The virtuous woman saves money so that her husband can confidently trust her with money
Powers 31 11 the heart of her husband does safely trust in her
Now I want you to notice that this is talking about finances
Now I think the heart of every husband should safely trust in his wife in every area of life
But this is about finances because that's the heart of her husband that safely trust in her notice so that he had no need of spoil
The word spoil is referring to the goods taken by war
today in our modern
Culture a spoil is like you guys went to war and then you're able to take a bunch of woods that you weren't really planning
On getting you weren't really planning on having it
You just kind of got it and and it helped you here the Bible says, you know, the guy married to the virtuous woman
He's not hoping that he can get some spoil
Because his wife is spending so much money at home that he's just hoping, you know
Here's the equivalent the guys is just hoping he gets a bonus because he just can't get his wife to stop spending money
The Bible says that the heart of her husband does safely trust in her so that he shall have no need of spoil
So listen ladies you can help the single-income family
By saving money by helping save money by helping saving all these different areas go to Proverbs 21 Proverbs 21
Proverbs 21 look at verse 20
Proverbs 21 20 there is treasure to be desired and oil in the dwelling of the wise
Notice what the Bible says there's treasure and there's oil in the dwelling in the house of the wise
But here's the contrast a foolish man spendeth it up
Look, you're gonna have to learn if you're gonna be a single-income family in 2022. You're gonna have to learn to live below your means
Say well, what do we do?
Well, the husband has his part to play and the wife has her part to play
The husband needs to become more valuable so that he can earn more and the wife needs to learn to get value
so that she can spend more spend less and
You guys can survive off of one income
Because there's treasure to be desired in and oil in the dwellings of the wise but a foolish man spendeth it up now
Let me just real quickly give you seven ideas for saving money in the home
Okay, just seven quick ideas number one, of course, and I preached on finances last week
So I want to spend a lot of time in this but let me just say this you need to live
Within your means which means you need to budget
You need to know how much money you have to spend so you can live below that
You should get out of debt getting out of debt will help you live below your means stop eating out and eat at home
We've already talked about that buy used
Buy used buy it buy used things go to thrift stores get over yourself
All right, just it's not a big deal. You can wash the clothes. All right
Do a spending fast my wife and I will do this from time to time
We're just we'll just take a month and say it's a spending fast. We're not gonna spend any money and
So we won't eat out or anything like that
Obviously guys be smart about that. Okay, go to your wife on the month of her birthday. We should do a spending fast, okay
That's not gonna work
Do it on the month of your birthday. All right
Here's another one to stop trying to keep up with others
Stop caring so much
About how you you got a look and you got to keep up this image, you know
I'd rather not be broke and and and and not keep up with my image then keep up some sort of facade that we've got
Money when we're just you know up to our eyeballs and dead and just struggling and fighting about finances
Stop trying to keep up with other people that that's petty immature high school garbage
Grow up and just realize that there's more life is more than meat and raiment
And then see what bills you can get rid of or see what bills you can lower
You know like like the water Berkey situation
You might have something like that in your house that you can do and it might be able to to help you go to
second Thessalonians chapter 3 if you would I
Realized I'm gonna preach a little longer than I normally do tonight and I apologize for that
But you're getting a lot of value, all right, I'm not even charging you for the extra time it's just overtime
I'm staying late to show you the value. I'm kidding
We'll do this quickly second Thessalonians if you keep your place there if you're in first Timothy
If you go backwards from first Timothy, you got second Thessalonians right before first Timothy. I
Said number one the single income family must earn money
number two the single income family must save money number three the single income family must understand money
The single income family must understand money and there's just a couple things. I want you to understand in regards to money
number one
reject the welfare mentality
We live in a world today where we are just told that the government has to provide for all of our needs
That the government has to provide our health care. The government has to provide our
Money for our rent that the government has to provide
Phones that the money the government has to provide education
Today where we live in the society where the government's trying to provide everything for you and listen to me
They're not doing it because they're benevolent
They've got a an agenda you say what is it? Here's the agenda. They want you to become dependent on them
People sometimes they say to me like pastor
Aren't you afraid that they're gonna that they're gonna require you to vaccinate your children and I'm thinking myself like the government doesn't even know
my kids exist
You know and I'm kidding obviously they we we do whatever legal things we do everything we're supposed to legal. Okay, you know
Let me go on record
But the point that I'm making is like, you know, if people tell me that I'm like, well, why would they make me?
Why would I have to get my kid back?
Well, you can't put them in school unless you get them back saying I don't put them in school
But you can't take them to the hospital unless you get them. I don't take them to that hospital
I don't or I don't apply for that benefit. Well you there's this benefit in that but I don't play for any of that
So unless they're gonna make you be vaccinated to go to the public library
Which is literally the only government institution that we take advantage of
Just look I'm telling you something reject the welfare mentality
Second Thessalonians chapter 3 and verse 8
Notice what the Bible says neither. Did we eat any man's bread for naught?
I don't want Joe Biden's bread.
I don't want Barack Obama's bread
Neither did we eat any man's bread for naught
But you know the bread that I want to eat at my house and I want my wife and my children to eat
I want it to be wrought with labor and travail night and day that we might not be chargeable to any of you
Not because we have not the power but to make ourselves an example unto you to follow us
Notice verse 10 for even when we were with you this we commanded you that if any would not work neither should he eat
This is what the Bible teaches
For we hear that there are some which walk among you disorderly working not at all
But our busybodies not them that are such not them that are such we command and exhort by our Lord Jesus Christ
That with quietness notice the last part of verse 12 they work and eat their own bread
Now look if you're here tonight. He's like well pastor. I'm I'm getting food stamps, and I'm this not look
I'm not against you and look and I'm not talking if you're disabled or or you're a
Single mom or something like that. I'm not talking about you. You're a grown man
You need to go work and make money you say well. I can't work anymore look. Please let me help you with something
I remember when I was just a kid and my dad explained this to me
He said he my dad you know my dad when I was growing up my my dad was notorious for just sitting
My brother and I down and just teaching us life principles, and you should do that for your kids by the way
Here's one thing that my dad told me he said look
It's not about working more hours or working multiple jobs or just working yourself to death. He's about getting paid more when you work
You know what he was teaching me is that you need to just become about value
Valuable and
Look whatever area you find yourself as a pastor. I'm trying to become the most valuable pastor. I can't
I'm trying to provide the most value I can and I realize I have areas I can work and I get that but look
don't get caught into this you know just
taking handouts I
Didn't have six kids to try to get somebody else to feed him for me. I
Want to provide for my family the Bible says if any provide not for his own especially for those of his own house he
Have denied the faith, and it's worse than an infidel
So reject the welfare mentality be proactive
Don't be waiting for the government to try to do something or get you something or whatever you go out
And you do you add value you earn it you save it you put work into it and God will bless you and God will help
you
Go to Matthew chapter 6 Matthew chapter 6. There's last one. We'll look at we'll finish up
I
Think that you need to understand about money number one reject the welfare mentality and then number two put God first
And he'll take care of the rest
Put God first, and he'll take care of the rest
I'll be honest with you business owners and look I really I say things like this that everybody gets offended listen to me
We've got about 17 business owners in this church
So if what I'm about to tell you offends you there's 17 others of you that are gonna get offended too, okay?
Don't sit there saying pastor said that because of me
I'd be afraid if I was a business owner, and I literally had to get up every day and
What I did with my hands or what I did with my mind what I did out in business
Was how I fed my money you better believe I'd never miss any service. I'd never miss any service
I'd never miss any soul winning. I'd never miss any Bible reading. I'd never miss anything because I just like God
I need you to help me
It's by the grace of God that some of you guys are like whoa you know I need God to bless me
Hey, you know what the Bible says put God first
Not just in life
Financially you want to be blessed by God financially put God first
Say prove it Matthew 6 31 therefore
Take no thought saying
God says don't worry about this. What shall we eat or what shall we drink or wherewithal shall we be clothed?
Aren't these things that people worry about?
For after all these things of the Gentiles seek for your heavenly father
knoweth not knoweth that ye have need of all these things notice what he says verse 33, but seek ye first the kingdom of God and
his righteousness and
notice all these things
Shall be added unto you all what things eat drink clothes
Maybe you're a business owner. You're in sales. You're like ah I'm struggling pastor. What should I do? Here's my first question?
How's your church attendance?
Here's my second question. How's your soul winning?
Here's my third question. How's your Bible reading? How's your devotional time? How's your prayer time?
You know what does that have to do? Hey you put God first and God will take care of you
Well pastor you don't understand. You know I have to work on Sunday night
To make ends meet that's a great way to get to have God just ruin you financially I
Can't go so many cuz I have to work. That's a great way look
I'm not saying you have to go so in on Saturdays, but you make sure you become a soul winner
Put God first and he'll take care of you lean not unto thine own understanding and all thy ways acknowledge him
And he shall direct my paths
So look I'm trying to help you tonight
It's hard for the single-income family
It's hard I get that and being a single-income family means you may not be going on a nice
Extravagant vacation all the time it means that you may not be living in the fanciest house or driving the the nicest vehicles
But you can do it and God can help you
But you have to earn money
You have to save money, and you have to have the right understanding about money
That above all things God comes first
It is he who gives us the gives us the power to get wealth
And you put God first and God will help you with the rest. Let's bow here tonight Lord of prayer. Heavenly Father
Thank you Lord for your word and thank you for the Bible and Lord. I pray that you talk Lord. I realize that
It's hard and sometimes you've got these families and they got kids and and it's stiff I get it we live it it's difficult
And sometimes you look at the budget you think I said man. We're just spending too much money here
But Lord help us to put these principles into practice what I pray that there'd be men that would go out of here and
Tomorrow morning Monday morning decide to to add value to themselves at work and in their jobs
But I pray that there'd be some virtuous women that would go out and say how can I help?
How can I not be a burden to my husband, but help my husband save and and help us succeed?
financially and Lord
I pray you'd help all of us to reject the welfare mentality and to put God first and to remember
That you are the source of all the good things in the matchless name of Christ we pray
Amen now brother RJ come up and lead us in a final song
Just want to give you one last reminder on Sunday this coming Sunday is Mother's Day
Don't forget about Mother's Day. Make sure you're here for the Mother's Day
Service a children's choir will be singing. We'll have the shirts for all of the ladies that are here
So make sure you don't miss out on that. There's anything we can do for you. Please let us know
I'll have brother RJ come up and lead us in a final song
Man let's grab our song books and turn to page number 127
Song number 127
Tis so sweet to trust in Jesus. Let's sing it out on the first
Oh
Jesus
127 let's sing it out on the last
Oh
Amen great scene brother Eli would you dismiss us with a word prayer?
Oh
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