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Amen. We want to welcome you to this special Father's Day service here at Ready Baptist Church. We're so glad that you are with us and we of course want to wish a happy Father's Day to all of the fathers that are in attendance with us.
We'd like to begin the service with a word of prayer. Let's go bow our heads together and let's pray.
Heavenly Father, Lord, we do love you and we thank you for allowing us to gather together today.
Lord, we thank you for your fathers and the impact and the influence that they have upon our lives and we thank you of course for being our great Heavenly Father.
Lord, we pray that you bless the service today, the singing, the preaching, that it would all bring honor and glory to you.
Help us to draw closer to you today. Especially fathers, help us to be attentive and ready to hear, to learn, to help us understand how to be better fathers for our children.
In the matchless name of the Lord Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
Turn to song 363.
363, wonderful words of life.
363 on the first.
Sing them over again to me, wonderful words of life.
Let me more of their beauty see, wonderful words of life.
Words of life and beauty, teach me faith and duty.
Beautiful words, wonderful words, wonderful words of life.
Christ the blessed one gives to all, wonderful words of life.
Sinnerless to the loving call, wonderful words of life.
Also freely given, wooing us to heaven.
Beautiful words, wonderful words, wonderful words of life.
Beautiful words, wonderful words, wonderful words.
On the last, sweetly echo the gospel call, wonderful words of life.
Offered, parted, and peace to all, wonderful words of life.
Jesus, only Savior, sanctified forever.
Wonderful words, wonderful words of life.
Beautiful words, wonderful words of life.
Amen. All right, well, let's take our bulletins this morning and we'll look at some announcements real quickly.
If you do not have a bulletin, just raise your hand and one of our ushers can get one for you.
If you need a bulletin, just put your hand up and we will get one for you.
The verse this week, Proverbs 17, 6, children are the crown of old men and the glory of children are their fathers.
And of course, that's a good Father's Day verse there.
If you open up your bulletin, you'll see our service time Sunday morning service 1030 a.m.
We're glad, of course, that you're with us on Sunday morning on the Lord's Day for church.
We do invite you to be back tonight at 6 p.m. for the evening service.
And the evening service is different than the morning service, different songs that are sung,
different sermon that's preached.
It's one more opportunity to be in God's house with God's people under the preaching of the word of God.
And tonight, we're going to have several special things going on.
We'll talk about that here in a minute.
Of course, we've got lots of special things going on today as well and this entire week.
We do want you to notice there in the bulletin that there is no Wednesday evening Bible study this week on Wednesday night.
And the reason for that is because of our conference on Thursday and we'll talk about that in a minute.
But I do want you to make note of that.
If you look at our soul winning times, our main soul winning time is on Saturday mornings at 10 a.m.
And then we have additional soul winning times on Thursdays and usually Sundays at 2 p.m.
Today is postponed as well due to Father's Day.
And I'll give you instructions for those of you that would like to go soul winning here in a minute.
First of all, let me just say this.
If you're a first time guest and if it's your first time here at Verde Baptist Church, we're so glad that you are with us.
And we have a special gift we'd like to give you as you walk out of the church building this morning.
If you go out, our main foyer there, you'll see a little table set up.
And on that table, you'll see these little gift bags.
Please grab one on your way out as a gift from us to you for being our guest this morning.
There are several resources in this bag that we'd like you to have.
The one I'd like to highlight is this documentary that our church made.
It's called Being Baptist.
Very well made, very interesting.
We think you'll like it.
And we wanted to give this to you as a gift.
So please make sure you don't leave here this morning without grabbing one of these gift bags on your way out.
And if you are a guest, we'd ask that you please take a moment to fill out the communication card which is inserted in your bulletin.
And if you need a pen, just raise your hand and one of our ushers can bring you by.
A Verity Baptist Church pen.
And you're welcome, of course, to keep the pen as a gift from us as well.
We're not going to do anything odd with your info.
We would just like to have a record of your attendance.
We actually would like to send you a little gift, but we need your information to do that.
So please take a moment to fill the card out.
When we're done with the announcements, we're going to sing a song.
When we're done singing, we're going to receive the offering.
And as the offering plate goes by, you can drop this card in the offering plate.
Or you can hand it to me after the service.
I'll be standing at the main door back there greeting people on the way out.
I hope you'll come by and say hello.
If you look at the announcements or the bulletin there, of course, we are a family-integrated church.
What that means is that children and infants are always welcomed in the service.
We do not separate children from their parents for any reason.
We do have mother-baby rooms and daddy rooms available for your convenience.
All of the rooms have comfortable seating.
They've got monitors or windows set up so you can watch the service and listen to it.
So if you have a child that's being distracted during the service or if you need some privacy,
we'd encourage you to get up and use those rooms as needed.
If you're not sure where those rooms are at, you can look at the back of the bulletin
and you'll see a layout of our church building.
It'll show you where the mother-baby rooms are, where the daddy room is.
It'll show you where the restrooms are.
If you need to be baptized, please let us know.
We'd love to baptize you.
On the communication card on the back, you can check off that you'd like information about baptism
and we'll follow up with you in regards to that.
If you look at the announcements and upcoming events, lots of things going on here this week
and we just want you to be aware of these things.
First of all, of course, today is Father's Day.
We want to wish a happy Father's Day to all of the fathers in attendance.
And we've got some special things going on today.
Of course, I'll be preaching a sermon geared towards the fathers, so praise the Lord for that.
And after the service, we have a gift for all of the men and boys.
So all of the men and boys, regardless of whether you are a father or not,
you will receive a special gift today.
Obviously, we have the gift for all of our guests, the gift bags,
and all of our guests are welcome to have that.
But everybody, every man or boy in attendance today,
we've got these Verdi Baptist Church t-shirts that we are giving out as a free gift today.
So after the service, assuming you stay till the end of the service,
and if you stay awake, then we'll give you these shirts.
We're going to have them set up in the back.
As you walk out the main foyer, we'll have them set up
and we've got sizes, all sizes from young children all the way up
and they'll be marked and you can go by there after the service
and get a Verdi Baptist Church t-shirt as a gift.
Of course, we gave the ladies shirts out on Mother's Day.
We're giving out the men's shirts out today on Father's Day.
And then, of course, this week we have our Red Hot Preaching Conference,
June 20th through the 23rd, and we want you to be aware of that.
We've got people that are coming from all over the country
and every year we have people that come from all over the world
and we just want you to be aware of a couple of things.
First of all, the conference begins this Thursday, June 20th.
It begins at 6 p.m., all right?
I want you to make a note of that.
Normally, our midweek service, our Wednesday night service is at 7 p.m.
The conference begins at 6 p.m., so make sure you don't forget about that.
And there will be no Wednesday evening service on Wednesday, June 19th.
And the reason for that is the conference.
Now, you should have in your bulletin one of these inserts
and it will give you the schedule so you're aware of what's going on.
The conference begins, the evening service is at 6 p.m.
We will have soul winning on Thursday at 2 p.m.
If you'd like to be a part of that,
you'll notice there are the speakers for the day.
We have a Friday morning service at 10 a.m.
And then in the afternoon, after the morning service,
we have a pastor's luncheon for the pastors.
We have soul winning at 2 p.m. and a teen activity.
It's a water games teen activity at 3 p.m.
Then we'll have the evening service at 6 p.m.
On Saturday, we have soul winning and we have an ice cream social at 3 p.m.
And then on Sunday, you'll see the schedule there.
We just want you to get acquainted with the schedule.
Make sure that you are participating.
And I always think it's interesting that we'll have people
literally come from all over the world for the Red Hot Preaching Conference
and then many of our own church people won't come, which that's okay.
I'd rather you be here on Sunday than be here on Friday.
But if we can get you to come to all of it, that'd be great.
So plan to be with us for the conference.
And also we just want you to make a note of this.
On the back of this sheet, you'll notice some parking instructions.
If you could help us with this, we would appreciate it.
And we just want to clear out parking for our guests.
Usually when people drive into the property,
the tendency is to just, as you're driving in,
to just go left and park on that side of the building.
And we just want you to be aware that we'd like to make an effort to keep the,
if you notice there, the section in red says guest parking.
We'd like to keep that open for our guests that'll be coming for the conference.
So if you could do us a favor, if you're part of the church family,
if you could do us a favor and make an effort to just turn the other way
and park on the other side of the building that people seem to not park on,
or on the back of the building, or on the very back of the building,
you know, up against the wall at the end of the property,
and if needed, even on the grassy area, all right,
the grassy knoll there for you conspiracy people.
If you can park on there, that would be great.
But help us keep that guest parking area open,
and we would appreciate your help, of course, with that.
Not only that, but tonight we're giving out the Red Hot Preaching Conference t-shirts as well.
And of course we give out the Red Hot Preaching Conference t-shirts every year to the conference,
but we allow our church family to get them first.
So if you're here tonight for the evening service, after the service,
we'll have t-shirts, the Red Hot Preaching Conference.
I didn't do this on purpose, but it's just a t-shirt day today, all right?
T-shirts in the morning, t-shirts at night, for the men and boys in the morning,
but tonight for everyone, men, women, and children,
get your Red Hot Preaching Conference t-shirt tonight,
have it early so you can wear it to the conference if you'd like.
And then we've just got so much going on.
We've got the church picnic coming up.
I often tell people this is the most spoiled church in America.
We've got just so many things going on,
but we'd like you to just be aware of that.
4th of July, Thursday, July 4th at 3 p.m.,
we've got the address there for you, and this is a great event we always put on.
There's going to be a water balloon fight for the kids,
volleyball game for the ladies, softball game for the men and team boys,
fireworks in the evening, and we'll have food and fellowship.
And especially if you're new to our church,
we want you to come and be a part of this event.
This will be a good time to get to know people and have a good time of fellowship.
This is probably one of the best events we put on every year, the church picnic.
So we'd love for you to join us.
If you can help us, men, with either bringing a grill or helping us grow,
we would really appreciate your help.
Please let us know on your communication card.
And there's sign-up sheets in the foyer,
so if you'd like to sign up to be in the softball game, men and team boys,
there's a sign-up sheet for you.
Also, ladies, if you could help us with either bringing a side dish or dessert,
there is a sign-up sheet there as well.
There is choir practice today at 5 p.m. Sorry.
It's not canceled for Father's Day.
They're practicing for the conference, the conference the next week,
so they've got to get that practice in.
It's at 5 p.m. Don't forget about that.
There's other things there for you to look at.
Please don't forget to turn your cell phones off
or place them on silent during the service
so that they're not a distraction to anybody,
and right now would be a good time to just look at your phone,
put it on silent, put it on vibrate,
and make sure that it doesn't go off.
We have special music today.
We've got the Verdi Baptist Church men's ensemble that will be singing for us.
We're going to sing a song. We're going to receive the offering,
and after the offering, the men's ensemble is going to sing for us,
so make sure that you are praying for them and looking forward to that.
If you look at the back of the bulletin, birthdays and anniversaries for the month of June.
This week, we have Alina Roldan's birthday on June 17th,
and also on June 17th, we've got Brother Mike and Miss Diane DiPasquale's anniversary.
On June 19th is Ezekiel Nelotescu's birthday,
and then we've got a couple of staff wives who share a birthday.
Miss Eva Rodari and Miss Melody Gonzalez have a birthday this week on June 20th,
and then, of course, on June 22nd, we are remembering John Cyrus Rodari as well.
Praise Report, Money Matters, all those things are there for you to look at.
Just a couple of more instructions, if you would not mind,
because today is Father's Day, we are not having a 2 p.m. soul winning meeting, all right?
We're trying to keep the afternoon open so you can go out, take your dad out for lunch,
or do whatever you need to do, so there will be no 2 p.m. soul winning meeting.
However, if you'd like to go soul winning, then you can still get a map to go soul winning.
Just meet Brother David, one of our staff men, in the back directly in the foyer.
After the service, you'll have maps and invitations for anybody who would like to go soul winning this afternoon,
but there will be no 2 p.m. meeting.
Make sure you make a note of that, and also, there will be no 2 p.m. cleaning this afternoon.
The staff will be cleaning right after the service for the evening service,
and if you'd like to help with that, you can meet them in the foyer.
They would appreciate your help with that, but there will be no scheduled cleaning at 2 p.m. due to Father's Day,
so just make note of those things, and we appreciate your help with that.
I think that's it for all of the announcements.
That's enough announcements.
Let's go ahead, and we're going to sing the chorus of the week
as we prepare to receive the offering this morning, and we're going to sing the wonder of it all.
And this is the kind of song you've got to sing with passion, all right?
Let's sing it out on the first, the wonder of it all, on the first.
There's a wonder of sunset and evening
The wonder of sunrise I see
But the wonder of wonders that thrills my soul
Is the wonder that God loves me
The wonder of it all
Just to think that God hates me
The wonder of it all
Just to think that God loves me
Good, we're going to sing it out on the second, but this time, let's sing it out like you're in awe of God, all right?
Let's sing it out like it really is a wonder that Jesus and that God would love us.
Let's sing it out on the second.
There's a wonder of springtime harvest
The sky, the stars, the sun
But the wonder of wonders that thrills my soul
Is a wonder that only we got
Here we go, sing it out.
The wonder of it all
Just to think that God loves me
The wonder of it all
Just to think that God loves me
Good, sing it out on the last.
There's the wonder of God's revelation
The word who dwelt amongst men
But the wonder of wonders that thrills my soul
Is that Jesus is coming again
Good, sing it out.
The wonder of it all
Just to think that God loves me
The wonder of it all
Just to think that God loves me
Amen, good singing.
We'll have the guys come up and help us with the offering at this time.
And then we'll have the men's ensemble sing for us this morning after the offering.
Let's bow our heads and have a word of prayer.
Heavenly Father, Lord, we do love you and we thank you for allowing us to gather together today.
Lord, we pray you'd bless the offering, the gift, and the giver.
We pray you'd bless the special music and also, of course, the preaching of your word.
In Jesus' name we pray. Amen.
Amen.
When peace like a river has ended my way
When sorrows like sea billows roll
Whatever my lot
Thou hast taught me to say
It is well, it is well
With my soul, with my soul
It is well, it is well
With my soul, with my soul
It is well, it is well
With my soul
I sin for the bliss of this glorious life
I sin not in part
But the whole is built into the cross
And I bear it no more
Praise the Lord, praise the Lord
O my soul
It is well, it is well
With my soul, with my soul
It is well, it is well
With my soul
And Lord, haste the day
When my faith shall be sight
The clouds be rolled back
As the strong
The strong shall resound
And the Lord shall descend
Even so, it is well
With my soul
It is well, it is well
It is well, with my soul
It is well, it is well
With my soul
Thank you.
Turn your Bibles to Proverbs chapter 23.
Proverbs chapter 23.
If you do not have a Bible, please raise your hand
and Anusha will bring you one.
Proverbs 23.
We will read the entire chapter as is our custom Proverbs 23
Just keep your hands up and an usher will bring you a Bible
Proverbs 23
The Bible reads when thou sit is to eat with the ruler
Consider diligently what is put before thee and put a knife to thy throat if thou be a man given to appetite
Be not desirous of his dainties for they are deceitful meat
Labor not to be rich
Cease from thine own wisdom. Well thou set thine eyes upon that which is not
For riches certainly make themselves wings. They fly away as an eagle toward heaven
Eat thou not the bread of him that hath an evil eye
Neither desire thou his dainty meets
For as he thinketh in his heart
So is he eat and drink sayeth he to thee but his heart is not with thee
The morsel which thou hast eaten shall thou vomit up and lose that be thou in the fear of the Lord all the day long
For surely there is an end and thine expectation shall not be cut off
Hear thou my son and be wise and guide thine heart in the way
Be not among wine bibbers
among riotous drink eaters of flesh for the drunkard and the glutton shall come to poverty and
Drowsiness shall clothe the man with rags
Harken unto thy father that beget thee and despise not thy mother when she is old
by the truth and sell it not also wisdom and
instruction and understanding
The father of the righteous shall greatly rejoice and he that beget of the wise child shall have joy of him
Thy father and thy mother shall be glad and she that bear thee shall rejoice
My son give me thine heart and let thine eyes observe my ways
For a whore is a deep ditch
And a strange woman is a narrow pit
She also lieth and wait as for a prey and increases the transgressors among men
Who hath woe who hath sorrow who hath contentions who hath babbling who hath wounds without cause?
Who hath resident redness of eyes?
They that tarry long at the wine they that go to seek mixed wine
Look not thou upon the wine when it is red when it giveth his color in the cup when it moveth itself a right
At the last it biteth like a serpent and stingeth like an adder
Thine eyes shall behold strange women and then heart shall utter perverse things
Yea, thou shall be as he that lieth down in the midst of the sea or as he that lieth upon the top of
A mass they have stricken me shalt thou say and I was not sick
They have beaten me and I felt it not when shall I awake? I will seek it yet again
Let's pray
Lord God almighty thank you for this day. Thank you for allowing us to come together
Please bless pastor in the message. Please let the message bring glory and honor to you in the name of Jesus Christ. We pray amen
Amen
All right, we're there in
Proverbs chapter number 23 and of course today is Father's Day and we have been spending the last
many weeks
On Sunday mornings in a series entitled emotional intelligence and we've been learning about emotional intelligence as
We have been studying this out. And of course on Mother's Day. I
preached a sermon
entitled the emotionally intelligent mother and
Today as we officially finished this series being Father's Day. I'm preaching a sermon
Entitled the emotionally intelligent father and of course for Father's Day
We want to have lots of special things and we're glad that you're here
But the most important thing of course is the preaching of the Word of God
Everything else is is great. These guys they did they did a wonderful job
You know
We scheduled this men's ensemble to sing
On Father's Day and they had mentioned to me that if they did a good job
Could they possibly sing for the red-hot preaching conference and I said if it is well then you can you can sing but I
Think it was well, I think they did a good job
So praise the Lord for that you're there in Proverbs 23. I'd like you to look down at verse number 26
I'd like you to notice these words Proverbs 23 26. The Bible says this my son
Give me thine heart
My son give me thine heart and let thine eyes observe my ways if you're a father
Here this morning. I'd like you to
Mark this expression in the Word of God
My son give me thine heart and I want to speak on the subject of the emotionally intelligent father
And of course if you haven't been with us
I would encourage you to go back and listen to all of the sermons that we've been preaching on the subject of emotional intelligence
But just to give you a quick
Update or to catch you up the we've learned in this series that emotional intelligence
Is our ability to
recognize our own emotions and to regulate our own emotions and also to
Recognize the emotions of others and regulate ourselves around the emotions of others
We've learned a lot of practical things on the subject of emotional intelligence
But today I want to focus in on fatherhood and on the need for emotional intelligence in fatherhood
And I think the Bible speaks a lot on this subject
And if you're taking notes and I always encourage you to take notes on the back your course the week
There's a place for you to write down some things especially you men your fathers
I'd encourage you to write this down
Although I think this would be helpful to mothers and anyone really and all sorts of relationships
But I'd like to give you several thoughts this morning. In fact, there's three specific thoughts
regarding
emotional intelligence and fatherhood
emotional intelligence and fatherhood and the first is this that an emotionally intelligent father
Will turn their heart
Towards their children emotionally intelligent fathers will turn their hearts
Towards their children the Bible speaks a lot about this idea of your heart and your heart being turned
towards your children as a father and
towards your father as
Children and I'd like to just begin this morning by showing you in the Bible where the principles of the heart are
Stated I want you to notice there in Proverbs 23 26
We see that fathers should endeavor to have the heart of their children here. We see
Solomon who's writing under the inspiration of the Holy Ghost these Proverbs and
He speaks if you've read the book of Proverbs
You know that he's speaking to his son all throughout the book and here in Proverbs 23 26
He says my son. Give me thine heart
My son give me thine heart and what we learn from this is that fathers should endeavor
And it's not just fathers as the Bison mothers as well, but of course today being fathers
They will focus on fathers fathers should endeavor to have the heart of their children
And I'd like you to keep your place there in Proverbs if you would we're gonna come back in that direction
Please put a ribbon or a bookmark or something there
We're gonna leave it and we're gonna come back to it
But I'd like you if you would to go with me to the last book of the Old Testament the book of Malachi
Malachi chapter number four
Malachi chapter number four and I'd like you to see this prophecy in
verse number six Malachi chapter four in verse six now what we're going to see in Malachi chapter four in verse six is actually a
prophecy of
The coming ministry of John the Baptist, of course, we are at the end of the Old Testament
there is about to be a
period of silence in which God does not speak to his people and the New Testament will begin and it'll begin with the ministry of
John the Baptist Malachi chapter four in verse six notice what the Bible says there
the Bible says and he this is referring to John the Baptist a prophecy of John the Baptist and he
Shall notice what the Bible says that John the Baptist spirit filled ministry was to do
He came to prepare the way for the Lord
He came to prepare the way for for the Lord Jesus Christ
But in his ministry as he ministered to the people of the children of Israel the Bible says and he shall notice number one
Turn the hearts of the fathers to the children
Turn the hearts of the fathers to the children and number two the heart of the children to their fathers
Lest I come and smite the earth with a curse
I want you to notice that we saw in Proverbs 23
My son give me thine heart and what we learn from that is that fathers should endeavor to have the heart of their children
What we learn here in Malachi chapter 4 in verse 6 is this that children
Will turn their hearts to their fathers only when fathers first turn their hearts to their children
I want you to notice a divine progression here Malachi 4 6 and he shall number one
Turn the heart of the fathers to the children
the first step is for fathers to turn their hearts to their children and
Then the result will be the heart of the children to their fathers
And this is what the Bible teaches that the progression is the progression is this if we as fathers are
To have the hearts of our children and we should all endeavor to have the hearts of our children
Then it must begin with us turning our hearts towards our children now
Why is this emphasized with regards to fathers?
I think it is emphasized because it is a common thing unfortunately for fathers to have their hearts turned somewhere else
Have their hearts focused maybe on business
Maybe on their career
Maybe on a hobby
Something they spend time on to get focused on something like sports or something that turns their hearts away from their children
And the Bible here is telling us and then fathers wake up one day
And they are astounded at the fact that they have lost the heart of their children
They have lost the respect of their children. They have lost the loyalty of their children
They have lost the relationship that they could have had that they should have had with their children
But it all begins with the father
And he shall turn the hearts of the father to the children and the heart of the children to the father
And then I want you to notice what he says there in verse number six less. I come and smite the earth with a curse
And I would say to you this morning that we in the United States of America are
experiencing this curse of
A lack of fathers who have turned their hearts away from their own children
We are experiencing the curse
When children today high school students today have to go through metal detectors before they can go into their public high school
For fear of being shot up. We are experiencing the curse of lack of fathers
Who have turned their hearts away from their children? I just want you to understand these principles as we begin this morning
Fathers should endeavor to have the heart of their children
Fathers should like the proverb says father should say to their children my son
But the process does not begin with a son or a daughter giving their heart to their father
It begins with the father first turning his heart towards his children
To turn the hearts of the fathers to the children and then step to the heart of the children to their fathers
I'd like you to go to Luke if you would Luke chapter number one
You're there in Malachi if you just go past
Into the New Testament past the book of Matthew past the book of Mark into the book of Luke Luke chapter number one
Once you notice that in Luke chapter 1 in verse 17, this prophecy is reiterated now, we are in the New Testament
John is coming into the world or has came into the world and here in Luke 1 17
We're being told of the that ministry the fact that he's coming and it's being reiterated for us
Look at it. Luke 1 17
The Bible says this and he shall go before him in the spirit and power of Elias to notice what it says talking about
John the Baptist he's coming in the spirit and power of Elias to number one
Turn the hearts of the fathers to the children again notice the divine progression and number two
the disobedient
to the wisdom of the just I
Want you to notice here that Luke 1 17 quotes for us the prophecy in Malachi 4 in verse 6
But it quotes it for us in a little different way
Now oftentimes in the Bible when the New Testament quotes the Old Testament
Sometimes it does not quote it word for word and sometimes people look at that and they'll say well
This is a a mistake or there's something wrong with the Word of God
There's nothing wrong here with the Word of God. The Bible tells us that the Bible it's its own dictionary and it's its own
Commentary we are to compare spiritual things with spiritual and the friend in Malachi 4 in verse 6
Because in Malachi 4 in verse 6 it says to turn the hearts of the fathers to the children Luke 1 17
It says to turn the hearts of the fathers to the children Malachi 4 6 says
That it'll he'll turn the hearts of the children to the fathers
But in Luke 1 17, it says that he will turn the hearts of the disobedience
the disobedience
Why does it say that I believe what we can learn from this is that?
The only way to appropriately deal
With rebellion in the home is when the heart of the father is turned to their children
And by the way
I would just say this if you are dealing with rebellion or if you felt that with rebellion in your home
The primary reason for it is that the heart of the father has been a turned away from his children
So he says I'm gonna turn the hearts of the fathers to the children
And then I'm gonna turn the hearts of the children to the father
But then later he says I'm gonna turn the hearts of the the father to the children and I'm gonna turn the hearts of the
Disobedient back to their fathers. Why because children whose fathers have turned away their hearts become
rebellious children
And the only way to appropriately deal with rebellion is when the heart of a father is turned to their children
and then the Bible says
The heart of the children will be turned to their father, but I like you notice just one more thing in these principles
I'm just laying down this foundation for you
This idea of hearts and turning your heart and relationship the Bible speaks a lot about it
We see first that fathers should endeavor to have the heart of their children and we see second that children will only turn their
Hearts to their fathers only after fathers have actively turned their hearts to their children
And we learn that when fathers do not turn their hearts to their children
They deal with rebellion and the only way to deal with rebellion in the home is for fathers to engage
That it's time for you to take a break from your phone
It's time for you to stop working so many hours
It's time for you to stop watching
so much sports
It's time for you to engage with your children and turn your hearts to your children
It's the only way to deal with rebellion
Like you notice one last thing here
Last part of verse 17 notice what it says
Well look over 17 again
And he shall go before him and the spirit and the power of Elias to turn the hearts of the fathers to the children
And the disobedient to the wisdom, and I just want you to notice notice
These words to the wisdom of the just of the just
Now if the disobedient is the child and the child is turning his heart towards his father
Then I'd like you to notice that the father is the one being referred to as the just
to make ready a people prepared for the Lord I
Like you to notice that to have our children's hearts dad look. I'm trying to help you I
Hope this helps you. I hope you'll listen
To have the hearts of our children our children must perceive us as being just
Not hypocritical
not double-faced
Not we're one way in front of people in another way away from people
Not well you put they put they put on a good show at church, but back at home. It's a different story
the only way for us to have the hearts of our children is for our children to
perceive us as
Just to turn the hearts of the fathers to the children and the disobedient to the wisdom of the just and then notice it
And look and I think this is why we're failing
All of these things nothing in the Bible is incidental coincidental accidental all these things are put in context for a reason
To make ready a people prepared for the Lord
Why is it that young people are growing up in churches like Verity Baptist Church and churches good churches
Baptist churches King James only churches, and they grow up and they don't live for God they grow up
And they don't internalize the the things that we've taught them. They don't carry on the mantle
They don't take the baton
They don't they walk away from the doctrines that they've been taught the faith that they've been given
Why is it the children grow up and they walk away from the faith as we often sing on Father's Day the faith of their fathers
Is because we have failed to make ready a people prepared for the Lord
Because the only way
to prepare people for the Lord
Is for you dad
It's for myself as a father to turn our hearts towards our children, and then they will turn their hearts towards their fathers
It's how you deal with rebellion
It's how you deal with this idea of preparing a people for the Lord now
I've shown you from Scripture where the principle of the heart is stated. I hope it's been clear
But I'd like now to share with you where the principle of the heart is illustrated
If you would go with me to the book of second Samuel in the Old Testament
You've got those one and two books. They're all clustered together first and second Samuel first and second Kings first and second Chronicles
second Samuel chapter number 14
I
Like it look down at verse number one
We've seen where the principles are stated
What are the principles father should endeavor to have the heart of their children?
Children will turn their hearts to their fathers only when fathers first turn their hearts to their children
The only way to appropriately deal with rebellion is for fathers to have a two to
23 and in verse 28
We learned that Absalom grew angry and bitter at the injustice of David allowing Amnon to force
His half-sister Timor and Absalom took matters into his own hands and killed
Amnon in second Samuel 13 in verse 38 the Bible tells us and we read that Absalom
fled to Gishur for three years after killing his half-brother Amnon and
in second Samuel 14 in verse 1 is
Where we pick up the story. I want you to notice that there in verse 1 notice the wording
Now Joab the son of Zoriah perceived
That the king this is David look at it. Look what it says that the king's heart
Was toward Absalom
Absalom is living in a different nation
He's been gone for three years
He killed his brother Amnon and he's been missing now and Joab who we would call today in our military general
He's the captain of the host. He has perceived that David's heart is towards Absalom
Look at verse 21 just for sake of time verse 21 and the king said unto Joab because here's here's what happened
David's heart is towards Absalom
But David does not act on it
His heart is towards Absalom, but he has not acted on it and he did not bring back Absalom
Joab and I'm not gonna take the time to go through the whole story steps in and
Joab has stepped in and now convinced
David to bring Absalom back because Joab verse 1 perceived that the king's heart was toward Absalom verse 21 and the king said unto Joab
Behold now I have done this thing go therefore bring the young man Absalom again
why don't you notice that David's heart is towards his son Absalom and
he has now been nudged and
He has been moved towards the direction of reconciling with Absalom bringing Absalom home
And he tells Joab go ahead bring him home look at it again verse 24 and the king said let him turn
Excuse me verse 23 verse 21 and the king said unto Joab behold now
I have done this thing go therefore bring the young man Absalom again
But here's the thing
David brought back Absalom
But still failed to build a relationship with him in fact David refused to see Absalom look at verse 23
So Joab arose and went to Gishur and brought Absalom to Jerusalem and the king said
Let him turn to his own house
This was David speaking about his son Absalom let him turn to his own house and let him not see my face
So Absalom returned to his own house and saw not the king's face
David's heart is towards Absalom and I would
probably guess
That every father's heart is towards their son
But the problem is that David does what most fathers do they don't act on him
They ignore it
They don't try to build a relationship in fact here David says go ahead and bring him back
But let him turn to his own house and let him not see my face
So Absalom returned to his own house and saw not the king's face
Look at verse 28
So Absalom dwelt two full years in Jerusalem and saw not the king's face
And what we see is that Absalom now here we're talking about a grown man Absalom
But this applies to little children all the way to grown adults what we see is that
Absalom like every son and every daughter
Has a desire to be accepted has a desire to be loved has a desire
To make his father proud
You ever heard this term before daddy issues
Why do people have daddy issues
Well if you grew up with a dad that
Never praised you never accepted you always made you feel lesser than
Every child has in them this innate feeling
To want to be accepted to want to be ill now therefore
Let me see the king's face, and if there be any iniquity in me let him kill me I
Want you to notice that we see here that Absalom had a desire to see his dad
What was the problem?
The problem was that David
Though his heart
leaned towards Absalom
Had not made the steps had not taken the steps to
Reconcile with his son and as we learned in Malachi and as we learned in Luke it all begins with dad
Fathers must first turn their hearts to their children, and then children will turn their hearts
To their fathers and Absalom grows bitter in fact the burning of jobs fields. They represent something they represent
Absalom's anger the fire burning represents the fire burning in his heart
As he was rejected by his father
And look the good news is this children want to have a relationship with their parents
They want to be accepted by their parents
The parents must first turn their hearts to their children
So then what happens?
David
Has lost time and
Absalom has now crossed the line
With David even though they do meet look at second time in 1433
The Bible says so Joab came to the king and told him and
When he had called for Absalom he came to the king and bowed himself on his face to the ground before the king and the
king kissed Absalom they finally
Reconciled but by now it's too late
At this point in the relationship of David and Absalom David has lost the heart of Absalom
and Absalom
Will now rebel against his father look at the story second Samuel 15 verse 1
And it came to pass after this
That Absalom prepared him chariots and horses and 50 men to run before him
And Absalom rose up early and stood beside the way of the gate
And it was so that when any man that had a controversy came to the king for judgment
Then Absalom called him to him and said of what city art thou and he said thy servant is of one of the
Tribes of Israel and Absalom said unto him see thy matters are good and right
But there is no man deputed of the you know, what's interesting is this
That the same way that hearts can be stolen is the same way that they can be gained
Verse 6 and on this manner did Absalom to all Israel that came to the king for judgment
so Absalom stole the hearts of the men of Israel look at verse 13 and
You know the story he rebels against David. He usurps his authority. There's a civil war
He tries to kill his father David runs for his life
In second Samuel 15 and verse 13 we see these words
And there came a messenger to David saying the hearts of the men of Israel are after Absalom
The truth is is that an emotionally intelligent father will understand
And he must turn his heart towards his children
Before it's too late
and by the way, whoever has
their heart will have their loyalty and
This is why we must be careful and look dad. Listen to me
There are Absalom's all over this world trying to steal the hearts of your children
Trying to steal the influence trying to steal the loyalty trying to steal the impact
They trying to put your children on a path may be different than the one that you'd like for them
Say what can I do? You got to fight for them?
You got to fight for that relationship. You've got the home court advantage
It all begins with fathers turning their hearts to their children
We turn our hearts to our children first
And when they can identify it if it's not too late they'll turn their hearts towards us
So we see that an emotionally intelligent father number one turns his hearts
towards his children
But I'd like you to notice a second thing this morning
Keep keep your place there in second Samuel we're gonna come back there
Go with me to the book of Ephesians Ephesians chapter number six
If you kept your place in Luke from Luke
You've got John, Acts, Romans, 1st, 2nd Corinthians, Galatians, Ephesians. If not Matthew, Mark, Luke, John, Acts, Romans, 1st, 2nd Corinthians, Galatians, Ephesians
Ephesians chapter 6. Let me give you a second thing that emotional intelligent fathers do
I would say that this idea of turning our hearts to your children. That's the big one
And look dad only you know the truth of where your heart is
But if your heart is somewhere else
If your attention and your your this your strength and your energy is being put in a direction that is away from your children
You've got to wake up and get some emotional intelligence
And realize that emotional intelligent fathers turn their hearts towards their children look it's easy to it's easy to have your hearts distracted I
Will be understand I'm preaching to myself this morning
It's easy it is the only
negative commands
given in parenting
You understand there's a difference in the types of commandments that are given in the Bible there are
By commands on the Bible that are negative and they are commands in the Bible that are positive
the way that I've taught this in the past has been this there are sins of co-mission and sins of omission a
Sin of omission is when we don't do what we're supposed to do a sin of
Co-mission is when we do what we're not supposed to do. There's two types of commandments in the Bible
There's the thou shalt not that's a negative command
And there's the thou shalt that's a positive command now all the commands on the Bible are all important
But I would submit to you this morning that the thou shalt not are more important and more critical and more
crucial than the thou shalt
You understand what I'm saying to you
Here's an example the Bible says thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself now
We should love our neighbors as ourselves, and that is very important
but it will be more devastating in your life if
You if you keep
If you fail to keep thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself, that's bad
But if you fail to keep this one
Thou shalt not commit adultery. That's devastating
Thou shalt not kill that's devastating
The not Commandments are more important. They're more crucial. They're more intense and more devastating
than the positive commands and
There's lots of positive command my son. Give me thine heart
They're positive, but here's a negative command when it comes to parenting and it's directed at fathers
And it says this ye fathers provoke not your children to wrath
Fathers
Are told to not provoke their children to wrath why?
Well, I think it's because fathers often are the ones that provoke their children to wrath
Obviously this is not a hundred percent, but in general men tend to deal with problems of anger and tempers
more than women and
Fathers are instructed here. Don't provoke your children to wrath
Don't provoke your children's wrath
What does that mean provoke means to poke at to try to do something to to make your children angry don't do it I?
Often see fathers do this I sometimes see myself doing this and it's devastating
And dad you've got to develop enough emotional intelligence to say I can't do that I
Can't provoke my children to wrath
How is it that fathers because I think sometimes I think that's why don't do that?
Let me give you some ways that fathers will provoke their children to wrath
Criticizing unjustly
Criticizing listen that this constant criticism of your children criticism of your children criticism of children. It's never good
It's never good enough. It's never right
It's provoking your children to wrath
You understand that you should not expect an eight-year-old or a nine-year-old to do things the way that you would do it
Understand that you should not expect an eight-year-old to do something in the way that maybe you would expect an 18 year old to
Do or a 10 year old to do something in a way that you'd expect a 20 year old to do
And I understand that we as dad sometime
We're busy, and we're fine
You know when we're finally not distracted by sports or finally not distracted by work or fine
Not distracted by business and we finally start to do something with our children
We take them out to play somewhere or we tell or we have to have them help us with some sort of project around the house
Then they can't do it, right?
No, you don't nail it that way you nail it this way why are you just get out of the way
And I'm just here to tell you dad the constant criticizing of your children is provoking your children to wrath
speaking harshly to your children
so guilty of this
We often see kids and because they're born in our house
And we change their diapers and we have fed them and cared for them we see and and we were so familiar with them
We treat them worse than we would treat a stranger
We speak so harshly
Speak so mean
Give more respect to other children that we don't even know in our own
And we provoke our children to wrath criticizing unjustly speaking harshly how about this one teasing excessively
It's amazing to me how many dads are bullies
Constantly teasing their children may just kind of agitating their children making their children upset I
Would remind you that fathers provoke not your children to wrath
Criticizing unjustly speaking harshly teasing excessively
Here's another one
insulting publicly
Insulting your children
Insulting them in
the presence of others
Making fun of them in front of others
These are tendencies that maybe we have and I'm not I'm not minimizing them. I'm definitely not minimizing them
I'm just saying to you that
We need to wake up
Oh
Father's provoked not your children to wrath
Oftentimes fathers provoked their children
Keep your finger there in Ephesians go to Colossians chapter 3 if you would
Well, you say why is this important? Here's why it's important and we connect it back to this matter of the heart
Why is it important to not provoke your children to wrath? Here's why because the heart can be lost
Didn't we see that with Absalom?
David lost the heart of Absalom and then Absalom
Stole the hearts of the men
Here's what you and I need to remember that hearts can be lost hearts can be hardened and hearts can be stolen
And we must fight against that dad
Fathers who provoke their children to wrath often raise children who are angry
Vengeful
Discouraged and bitter. Colossians 3 look at verse 21 look at it
fathers provoke not your children to anger
Provoke not your children to anger. Look at it. Why say why not? Here's why lest they be discouraged
Must they be discouraged
Fathers who provoke their children raise children to grow up angry
Discouraged
Vengeful, bitter
So, well, what do we do?
What do we do? Go back to Ephesians chapter 6. Let me show you what the Bible says
Look we need to memorize Ephesians chapter 6 and we need to we need to memorize this
We need to think about this
We need to think about this every time we speak to our children every time we deal with problems every time we have to
Deal with our children
These are thoughts that need to be in our mind
Ephesians 6 and verse 4 and he fathers provoke not your children to wrath. Don't do it
Don't provoke them to wrath don't speak to them harshly. Don't criticize them unjustly don't insult them publicly
What do we do? Here's what you do
But bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord
So, what does that mean that's not just spiritual talk
That's actually telling us what to do
What is he telling us to do? Bring them up in the nurture the word nurture means to care for and
encourage the growth and development the way that you would nurture a plant the way that you would nurture a
Little calf or something that you want to grow the Bible says that you and I should care and love for our children
We should bring up the bring them up in the nurture the care for the encouragement the growth and development the nurture
But notice there's a balance to it and admonition
What's admonition?
Admonition is to counsel to advise to caution
The Bible says that our job as fathers are not to scream and yell and get upset and angry and look I understand it's easy
It's easy to lose your temper and it's easy to just get upset and sorry look. I'm a yeller
Can I just admit that to you?
Part of it I think is cuz I'm a preacher, you know, I get up here and I preach
And then I go home and I preach
But you know that our job is to bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord
We should create an environment of growth
Where they can be nourished?
developed
And it's not this free-for-all just do whatever you want. So no, no, it's admonition
counsel care
Caution be careful with that
Be careful with that. It's not just do whatever you want
Be the cool parent. No, it's nurture and admonition. I
said number one
Most intelligent fathers must turn their hearts towards their children
number two
emotional intelligent fathers must not provoke their children to wrath
Not provoke their children to wrath
Don't criticize them unjustly
Be happy with what they produce be happy with what they do if they're trying and they're working at it and sometimes we need to correct
And sometimes we just say no don't do it that way do it this way or here's a better way to do it
Don't criticize just criticize just constantly nitpicking at them and and you don't do it right and you didn't do that
Right, and you didn't do this, right?
Criticizing unjustly speaking harshly teasing excessively insulting publicly
Say why?
Because hearts can be lost
And they can be hardened and they can be stolen
So do not provoke your children's wrath
And number three, I'd like you to notice this if you would go with me to Hebrews chapter 12
Hebrews chapter 12. Are there any Ephesians you go past Philippians Colossians first second Thessalonians first second Timothy Titus Philemon Hebrews
Go past the t-books first second Thessalonians first second Timothy Titus Philemon Hebrews
We're studying through the book of Hebrews on Wednesday night
We actually just got done with Hebrews chapter 12
As I was studying through Hebrews chapter 12 for our Wednesday night Bible study this jumped out at me
You ever have the Word of God just I mean your Bible says that the Word of God is quick and powerful
You ever have the Bible you just read something, you know
You've read it a hundred times and it just it kind of just jumps out you and just slaps you across the face
I mean this just jumped out of me just punched me in the face and I thought to myself
This is so good. I'm not gonna deal with this on Wednesday night. I'm gonna wait on this for Father's Day
Because in Hebrews chapter 12 in verse 5 the context is actually that of correction and the correction of fathers
Look at verse 5 just to get a running head start
Hebrews 12 over 5 and yet forgotten the exhortation was speaking them to you as unto children my son
Despise not thou the chaste of the Lord nor faint when thou art rebuked of him for whom the Lord loveth he chaste
Smith and scourges every son whom he receive it if you endure chastening God dealers with you as with sons
For what son is he whom the father chasteneth not but if he be without chastisement where of all of our takers
Then are you bastards and not son now verses 5 through 8 is actually talking about the chastisement that comes from our Heavenly Father
from God the Father
verses 5 through 8
Within in verse 9 he begins to talk about earthly fathers. Look at what he says verse 9
Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh these are our physical fathers on earth
Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh which corrected us and we gave them reverence
Shall we not much rather be in subjection to the father of spirits and live and what he's saying is this if your dad
Spanked you and you gave him reverence. Why not give your Heavenly Father reverence when he gives you a spiritual spanking. That's the context
Here's verse 10
For they
Who's the they?
the fathers of our flesh
our earthly fathers look at it percent for they
verily
Dad would you mark these words in your Bible?
Underline these words in your Bible for they verily look at these words for a few days
For a few days I
Was studying through Hebrews chapter 12 several weeks ago for Wednesday night Bible study
These words just jumped out at me. They just slapped me across the face
For they verily look at it again for a few days
chasing us
after their own pleasure
But he for our profit
That we might be partakers of his holiness
You
Know that emotionally intelligent father as they turn their hearts towards their children
Emotionally intelligent father as they do not provoke their children to wrath
Do not thirdly this morning and most emotionally intelligent father as they realize
That their time with their children is limited
They verily
Chasing us
They corrected us
they
try to
Put us on the right path, and they try to help us and sometimes they gave us a correction and chastisement
They did that that's what our earthly fathers did that for all for they verily for a few days
And the truth is this dad that if you've got children in your home you only have them for a few days
We only have our kids for just a short amount of time
That's
Not wasted
For they verily for a few days chasing us
after their own pleasure
But he for our profit that he might that we might be the partakers of his holiness
Go to job if you would job 29
I'm not sure if you kept your place in Proverbs
I think I asked you to keep your place in Proverbs if you kept your place in Proverbs if you go backwards you've
Got the book of Psalms and then the book of job job 29
Just right in the center of the Bible is the book of Psalms right before Psalms you have job job 29
See emotionally intelligent fathers they realize that their time is limited
We only have our children in our home for a few days I
Know it seems like a long time and if you're right in the midst of it
It seems like a long time trust me. I understand it I
Mean you get one kid, and it's just you know you and your wife versus that one kid
and then you get another kid, and it's like two on two and
Then you get three and you go to a zone defense. You know I'm talking about and
Then four I mean, I don't know but four to us like four. That's when it's like you're just overwhelmed. I mean
You know you're just keeping your head above water
And for us the Lord has blessed us with five and six
And it seems like it seems like these diapers are never gonna run out
These kids are never gonna get potty drink
It's never gonna come to an end. We're just gonna be dealing with this Friday
It just seems like it'll last forever
You know eventually you'll buy your last diaper
Your youngest will graduate from kindergarten
Your oldest will get a license
And it'll begin to settle in
That we only have these kids for a few days
For a few days
We only have them for a short amount of time
Job 29 and verse 1
Remember Job he lost all his children had 10 children lost them all
lost as well
Friends turned on him his wife turned on him
It's interesting to me because in the midst of his grief
You do not see Job
You do not see Job saying oh remember the house that I used to live in remember the car that I used to drive
Remember the clothes that I used to wear in the midst of his grief
We do not see Job talking about remember all the great things and all those great trips remember remember
How nice all that was no, but in the midst of his grief?
Here's what we hear Job say Job 29 verse 1 moreover Job continued his parable and said oh that I
Were as in months past as in the days when God preserved me
He said he's looking back, and he's thinking I wish I could go back
What are you talking about job talking about back to your job talking back to your career back to your stock market back to all?
The wealth back to all the success here. What are you talking about? What are you reminiscing about Joe? Oh?
That I were as in months past
As in the days when God preserved me, what are you talking about job look at verse 5?
When the Almighty was yet with me
Notice that the most important thing to job is his relationship with God
And then he says this
when my children
Were about me
What about
It's a military term
In the military when we have soldiers marching. They're given different commands one of the commands is about face
What that means is to turn around what about means around?
When job looks back on his life, and he reminisces about certain days. He misses certain things
He doesn't talk about the yacht. He doesn't talk about the RV. He doesn't talk about the vehicles
He doesn't talk about the house and the summer home, and he doesn't talk about the things he doesn't talk about possessions
He says oh that I were as in months past when the Almighty was yet with me and when my children were
around me
When my children were about me
And I'm here to tell you that
That you better take advantage of these days
When your children are about you
When they're around you
When they're in the home
When they're in the living room
Talk with them and engage with them
Why because we only have them for a few days
Only have them for a few days go back to 2nd Samuel chapter 18 if you wouldn't
Second Samuel chapter 18
We're talking about being an emotionally intelligent father
What does an emotionally intelligent father do he turns his heart towards his children?
Why because he realizes that father should endeavor to turn their hearts towards their children and and and when father is actively
Turn their hearts not just in their minds
But they turn their hearts and they begin to work towards and walk in that direction of turning their heart to their children that
Children will turn their hearts to their fathers
And the only way to deal with rebellion, and if you're dealing with rebellion
Dad you should look at your heart
The only way that we can have our children's heart is when they perceive us
being just
it's why the
writer of Proverbs Solomon said my son give me thine heart and
Let thine eyes observe my ways
We understand that hearts can be lost and hearts can be hardened and hearts can be stolen
So emotionally intelligent fathers do not allow their job or their career or their hobby or sports or anything else
Take their hearts away from their families
They turn their hearts to their families
Emotion intelligent fathers understand that because hearts can be hardened. They do not provoke their children to wrath
They do not criticize
They're not mean and harsh. They're not bullies. They're not jabbing at their children
They're don't insult them
Emotion intelligent fathers do not provoke their children to wrath
And emotionally intelligent fathers realize that their time is limited. Their time is limited
And we spent some time this morning looking at David as a father and let me just say this David was a great man
of God
The Bible says that David was a man after God's own heart
The Bible doesn't say that about me
And I don't say it about you
So before we criticize David a little too harshly. Let's remember there was a great man of God
But he obviously had some failures as a father
What were his failures?
His failures were that he did not turn his heart towards his children
Joab said I can see that your heart is toward David. Why won't you reach out to him?
David would not reach out to him when Joab pushed him to reach out to him
He said fine bring him back. But when he came back, he said I don't want to see him
I don't want to talk to him
David failed to actively turn his heart towards his children
David was seen as unjust. What was the reason that Absalom grew so bitter?
Because Amnon raped his sister and David did nothing
And Absalom perceived it as unjust
David provoked his children to wrath through that act of injustice
And David did not realize that his time was limited
He allowed three years to go by with Absalom being away. He did not talk to him
He finally brings him back and he allows two more years to go by before he ever sees Absalom
Absalom has to burn. He has to engage in rebellion. He has to get engaged in
Destruction and he burns the fields of Joab to get the attention of his father David
David did not realize
That his time was limited
David lost the heart of his son Absalom
It's a tragic story. I'd like you to see how it ends
Remember the rebellion?
Great Civil War
David even instructs his generals. He says deal kindly with the youth
He told him don't kill Absalom
Joab didn't listen
At the end of the battle Absalom is dead
In 2nd Samuel 18 and verse 32 the Bible says this and the king said unto Cushai
Cushai is a young man that has been sent to give David the news of the battle
Here's the first question. He asked he asked is the young man
Absalom safe
Cushai answered
The enemies of my lord the king and all that rise against thee to do thee hurt be as
that young man
is
Now it's a very diplomatic way of telling David
Absalom is dead
I want you to notice how the relationship with David and Absalom ends verse 33 and
The king was much moved
And the king was much moved
And went up to the chamber over the gate get this picture in your mind's eye
David the king
He he killed Goliath
he's a man after God's own heart and
Here we see David after having somebody try to usurp his his kingdom and take his kingdom
Has come out the winner the one who tried to rebel and bring rebellion has been put to death Absalom
And the Bible tells us that the king was much moved and went up the chamber over the gate
Watch David as he walks up these steps up to this chamber over the gate and
Wept and as he went thus he said look at the words. Oh
my son Absalom
My son my son Absalom
What God I had died for thee. Oh Absalom my son
my son
You know what I see was regret
What
God I had died for thee. Oh my son Absalom Absalom
Say pastor why would you preach a sermon like this?
Because I'd like to get to the end of my child-raising days with as few regrets as possible
I'm trying to help some of you dads to wake up as well
Eleven year old boy was filling out a form at school
His teachers
Having very low emotional intelligence
Assume that the children knew how to fill out the form though. They did not
Eleven year old boy was writing in his personal information, and then there was a line
That said name of your parents last guardian to which he wrote his father's name
And then the next line said relationship
And not knowing what to write
He wrote these words
very good I
Wonder if our children would say of our relationship with them
That it's very good
Let's pray together may we
our most gracious Heavenly Father
Lord we do love you
And we thank you for fathers
In our lives
Lord I thank you for my father
The great influence that he had on my life
And we thank you for the men that are associated here the men that are the fathers that are represented here today
Lord I pray you'd help us I
Pray you'd help us to realize that our time is limited
We
Must turn our hearts towards our children before it's too late
Lord I realize that a day like today can be difficult
For some that have lost their fathers
Some that never really had a father
Some whose father was maybe
Mean and abusive
Lord we thank you that we have
a great Heavenly Father
He never disappoints
He's always everything we need
And Lord I pray you'd help us fathers to do our best to be the best fathers for our children
In the matchless name of Christ we pray
Amen
We're not brother Matt come up and lead us in a final song just want to remind you of a couple of things
First of all of course today being Father's Day
We have a gift for all of the men and boys so right after the service just right in that main foyer there
There's table set up. They've got paper that lets you know what the sizes are but of course we've got the very Baptist Church
T-shirts so make sure you go by and grab one t-shirt one per person
Every adult every child all the men and of course the ladies that got their
t-shirts on Mother's Day and
Want to remind you that tonight tonight, we're giving out t-shirts as well not these t-shirts tonight
We're giving out the Red Hot Preaching Conference t-shirts
And they're going to everyone everyone attendance tonight can get a Red Hot Preaching Conference
We allow our church family to get it first before we give it at the conference so make sure you come tonight
Grab your t-shirt. I want to encourage you to be with us
We have a great service lined up for you today tonight
Not only are we giving out the Red Hot Preaching Conference t-shirts, but we are ending our study in the book of Numbers
We're going to look at the last chapter of the book of Numbers, Numbers 36
And I hope you'll join us for that and then of course don't forget that this week is the Red Hot Preaching Conference
And we just want you to be aware of a couple of things first of all no service on Wednesday night
No service on Wednesday night. We'll have church Thursday night Friday morning Friday night
Saturday events and Sunday morning Sunday night, so there'll be no service on Wednesday night
Make sure you look at the schedule be aware of all the things coming up
And if you could help us with the parking situation
We'd appreciate make sure you take a look at that and plan to park there
There's anything that we can do for you
Please let us know and again we want to wish our happy Father's Day to all the fathers that are with us today
There's anything we can do for you
Please again reach out to us why brother Matt come up and lead us in a final song God bless you. Happy Father's Day
Turn to song three hundred and four
Three zero four
Three hundred and four on the first. Nothing between my soul and the Savior
God of this world's delusive dream
I have renounced all sin for pleasure
Jesus is mine there's nothing between
Nothing between my soul and the Savior
So that his blessed face may be seen
Nothing preventing the least of his favor
Keep the way clear let nothing between
Nothing between my worldly pleasure
Habits of life though harmless they seem
Must not my heart from him ever sever
He is my all there's nothing between
Nothing between my soul and the Savior
So that his blessed face may be seen
Nothing preventing the least of his favor
Keep the way clear let nothing between
Nothing between like pride or like station
Self or friends shall not intervene
Though it may cost me much tribulation
I am resolved there's nothing between
Nothing between my soul and the Savior
So that his blessed face may be seen
Nothing preventing the least of his favor
Keep the way clear let nothing between
Good on the last
Nothing between he many hard trials
Though the whole world against me convene
Watching with prayer and my self-denial
I'll triumph and bless with nothing between
Nothing between my soul and the Savior
So that his blessed face may be seen
Nothing preventing the least of his favor
Keep the way clear let nothing between
Amen. Good singing. Before we leave here, if anybody has questions about salvation, church membership or baptism, pastor will be at the door.
He'd love to talk to you or direct you to someone who's trained to talk to you about that.
Brother Montel, close the prayer for us.
Amen.