We'll find a seat, grab a hymnal, and turn to hymn number two, glory to his name, hymn
number two.
We'll sing there starting on the first hymn number two.
Heavenly Father, we just thank you for this day,
for another opportunity to gather together,
to sing out praises in your name, Lord from our heart,
and with our mouth as well,
and to just be able to learn from your word.
Lord, I pray that you would be with us for the service,
that everything would be done decently and in order,
that you would open our ears to the message
that our pastors prepared for us.
These things we pray in Jesus' name, amen.
All right, for our next hymn this morning,
turn if you would to number 12, blessed Redeemer.
Hymn number 12
Hymn number 12 blessed Redeemer they're on the first
have one raise your hand and usher will bring you one.
On the front is our Bible memory passage
of the week, Galatians chapter one, verse two.
So still at the beginning portions of this chapter.
And like always, at the end, if you can quote this to an adult non-family member, you will be receiving a prize.
On the inside is our service times listed Sunday morning at 10.30, Sunday evening at 4.30pm, and our Wednesday evening Bible study at 7.
We have all of our soul winning times listed there, and all of those meet here at the church building.
Keep up the good work on soul winning nursing home ministry schedules listed there.
If you partake in that, you guys got a new camera stand today.
So it's just going to be wonderful. Best service you guys have ever had.
All right, John. Here we go.
All right in our church stats for the year
Soul winning 14 salvation so far in the first week of January's. That's great
Especially considering all the snow and cold weather that we've had so keep up the good workout soul winning
Please be in prayer for miss Whitney read our expecting lady of the church for a pregnancy
Upcoming events February 2nd after the evening service. We're gonna have a men's preaching night and following that a potluck
So there is a sign-up sheet for the men that want to participate in that in the back over there. So please sign up
February 14th, we're going to have a really nice sweetheart banquet at 7 o'clock p.m. on a Friday
We're gonna treat it at the beginning kind of like a normal service
We're gonna have some songs and a short sermon regarding marriage
But most of the night is just going to be us eating some really good food
Playing some fun games and hanging out together
So it should be a really fun time and of course as a reminder. This is for married couples only for this event
April 19th is going to be our Easter soul winning marathon in Oklahoma City
We're gonna try to really hit some super receptive areas during that time and try to get people to come to church on Sunday morning
May 30th or let's see May 16th through the 18th is the King James Conference at Sure Foundation Baptist Church in Vancouver
Hosted by Pastor Aaron Thompson. That is going to be a great conference
If you're looking for one to go to this year and of course, I'm sure the live-stream it as well
So definitely at least make sure you watch those sermons and get the information from the conference
May 31st is going to be a Durant, Oklahoma
soul-winning marathon and we're going to be partnering up with steadfast Baptist Church
So we should have absolutely great turnout for that event. I know that steadfast just partnered with another church
I believe this weekend spring crest Baptist Church
And I want to say that they had like soul winners in the 60s if I remember that correctly
So great turnout. We're gonna try to do a big work for God on that day together
June 28th is going to be a fellowship event for our church the tinker
Air Show at the Tinker Air Force Base. That event is totally free so you're
welcome to join us for that. August 27th through the 31st is the Fire
Breathing Baptist Fellowship. I want to say that it starts on Wednesday and goes
through Sunday so if you want to make it down to Texas for that week I'm gonna be
there and it's gonna be a really fun trip so consider that. October 6th through
the 11th
vast majority of our church is already going to this but you know if you haven't signed up
and you want to we really would encourage you to it's going to be an awesome time we might have
to like fly in a preacher from a different church to preach our Wednesday service because I think
all of our men that usually preach are going to be in the Bahamas but that's hey that's a good
problem to have we're really excited for that uh giving online if you'd like to give online there's
a QR code there as well as the prayer requests on the back a couple editions uh brother Alex
He got a really good job that he's been wanting and it's just sounds like it's going really well for him.
So praise the Lord for that.
Also, we did add a request for the residents of LA with the wildfires going on there.
It seems like it's on track to being one of the worst fires in LA history,
which is just mind blowing that in 2025 we're breaking records for fires in cities.
But I mean, I don't know if you've been following that at all.
A lot of there's been deaths.
A lot of people are out of homes.
It's very serious, bad situations.
So do be in prayer for those people.
That's going to be it for announcements.
We'll go ahead and go to our third song.
All right.
For our third hymn this morning, turn if you would to number 21.
What a wonderful savior.
hymn number 21 to one what a wonderful Savior we'll sing there on the first
Christ
There
Men, as the offering plates are being passed, turn, if you would, to Genesis chapter number two.
Genesis chapter number two.
Genesis chapter two. Thus the heavens and the earth were finished and all the hosts of them.
And on the seventh day God ended his work which he had made and he rested on the seventh day
from all his work which he had made. And God blessed the seventh day and sanctified it because
that in it he had rested from all his work which God created and made. These are the generations
when they were created
In the day that the Lord God made the earth in the heavens and
Every plant of the field before before it was in the earth and every herb of the field before it grew
For the Lord God had not caused it to rain upon the earth and there was no man not a man to till the ground
But there went up a myth missed from the earth and watered the whole face of the ground
and the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground and breathed into his
nostrils the breath of life and man became a living soul. And the Lord God
planted a garden eastward and Eden and there he put the man whom he had formed
and out of the ground made the Lord God to grow every tree that is pleasant to
the sight and good for food.
the tree of life also in the midst of the garden and the tree of knowledge of good and evil and
A river went out of Eden to water the garden and from thence it was planted
It became into four heads
The name of the first is pison
That that is it which can pass at the whole land of Avila where there is gold
the gold of that land is good. There is Delium and the Onyx Stone and the name of
the second river is Gihan. The same is it that compasses the whole land of
Ethiopia and the name of the third river is Hittical. That is it which goes
toward the east of Assyria and the river for the in the fourth river is
And the Lord God took the man and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it.
And the Lord God commanded the man, saying,
Of every tree of the garden, thou mayest freely eat.
But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it.
For in the day that thou eatest thereof, thou shalt surely die.
And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone.
I will make him and help meet for him.
And out of the ground, the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every fowl of the air
and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them.
And whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof.
And Adam gave names to all cattle and to the fowl of the air and to every beast of the field.
and the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam and he slept and he took
one of his ribs and closed up the flesh and said thereof and the rib which the
Lord God had taken from man made he a woman and brought her under the man and
Adam said this is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh she shall be
called woman because she was taken out of man
Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and shall cleave unto his wife
and they shall be one flesh and
They were both naked the man and his wife and they were not ashamed. Let's pray
I pray to the Lord that you bless Pastor Oz with your spirit.
Jesus, thank you for praying.
Amen.
Okay, Genesis chapter two, verse 18,
the Bible says,
And the Lord God said,
It is not good that the man should be alone.
I will make him and help meet for him.
And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam
and he slept and he took one of his ribs
and closed up the flesh instead thereof.
And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man,
a woman and brought her unto the man and Adam said now this is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh
She shall be called woman because she was taken out of man
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be
One flesh notice here that in the story where god he made all the animals
He created every living thing he looked down and he noticed that it was not good
for Adam to be alone and he was looking for and help meet for him and that just means a help
that's fitting or suitable or comely for him and what did he make he made woman as a result of that
he gave Adam kind of like the first surgery in the bible caused a deep sleep to fall upon him
And notice, especially in verse number 18, how it says,
I will make him and help meet for him.
What was the exact specific reason why Eve was created?
Why was Eve created?
To be a help to her husband.
That is the reason that Eve was created.
And the title of my sermon this morning is
Wife, Help Your Husband.
Wife help your husband now. Don't worry. We're gonna talk about the men this evening
All right, we're gonna have a two-part today on marriage
But you know this is a foundational concept that the world completely rejects
This is extremely radical to the world
But it is what the Bible teaches and that is that this women were created to serve their husbands
The wife, Eve, why was she created?
She was created to help her husband.
She was not created to be some boss babe.
She was not created to work a nine to five
and go on birth control and abort all of her babies
and live a very selfish life.
The entire reason why women were created
was to serve their husbands,
to be and help meet for them.
Now, go to 1 Corinthians chapter number 11, 1 Corinthians chapter number 11.
Now, look, this idea is very offensive to the world, but you know what, this is a Baptist
church where we actually believe what the Bible says.
We're not going to lean on our own understanding and our own opinions and the culture surrounding
us and allow that to dictate what we believe.
We're just going to look at the plain words in the Bible and believe what it says.
For a man indeed ought not to cover his head for as much as he is the image and glory of God,
but the woman is the glory of the man.
So it's talking about how, hey, men should not have long hair, right?
God created men and women differently.
He wants them to look different.
Verse eight says this, for the man is not of the woman, but the woman.
the man and that's referring to the fact that Eve was not born of a woman like the rest of humanity was
Eve came from the man why was women even created because they wanted God wanted a servant for Adam and look at verse number nine
This is the key verse
Neither was the man created for the woman but the woman for the man.
That is a clear verse right there.
Why was the woman created for her husband to serve her husband?
That is why Eve was even created.
So I want to preach a sermon this morning of ways that wives can help their husband.
Why should you care about that?
That's why you are on this earth is to serve your husband.
Number one, go to Proverbs chapter 31.
Number one this morning, help your husband financially.
Help your husband financially.
This could be a great way today that women can be an assistant
and a help to their husbands.
Look at Proverbs 31 verse 10.
It says, who can find a virtuous woman for her price is far above rubies?
So notice, just because the woman was created for...
the man that does not mean that she's not worth anything or that her value is less than men.
The Bible actually says that when you find a virtuous woman, her price is far above rubies.
You know, some people misinterpret this idea and they think that, oh, we're down on women.
We don't care about women. We're disrespectful to women. No, it's just that we have different roles
in life. We have different positions. We have different functions. But according to the Bible,
Her price is far above rubies.
She's very valuable.
Notice verse 11, the heart of her husband
doth safely trust in her
so that he shall have no need of spoil.
Now that is referring to a financial level of trust there.
That her husband trusts her financially
to the point where he does not have to go
get all this extra money,
all this spoil just to survive,
just to make ends meet.
And here is just the truth is that the financial success of a home depends largely upon the wife,
largely upon mom. Now obviously we believe that men are the providers, men are the ones that
should be the primary breadwinners going out and making money, but the truth is that if you have
a wife that is not prudent, that is a wasteful person, that is a slothful person, it does not
could spend it all and could destroy the family finances like that.
And you know, there's a stereotype of like the Amazon lady, right?
Where it doesn't matter if her husband makes good money, it doesn't matter if he works
super hard because that Amazon truck has a full time job going to her address.
And you know, the whole truck every time it's just full of her boxes.
like that. Doesn't matter how much money the man makes. Obviously, we need to talk about both sides
of this. Men need to work hard. Men need to provide. We'll talk about that this evening.
But also, it's important for the wife to be prudent. It's important for the wife to care about
her family's finances and not just say, well, because that's not my responsibility, I'm just
going to spend however. I'm just not even going to think about it. I'm just going to spend the
money because it's my husband's job. Oh, yeah. Just keep racking up the credit cards. He'll
You know, the right attitude is that your husband can actually safely trust in you so
that he has no need of spoil so that he doesn't have to like wait for tax return season every
year just to get out of your spending debt that you're putting your family into.
Look that's a bad situation if wives are putting themselves in.
That way and here's the thing, you know, the economy has been very hard the last four years
You know on the news I saw that the city of Oklahoma City is
Insanely under budget and they're taking big cuts right now and the way that you know
For example the article I was reading the parks and rec department how they get all their money is through sales tax
So the economy is directly related to how well that
department is doing. And if people aren't making a lot of money, they're not spending a lot of money in the economy.
And so there's not a lot of taxes coming in to that department. And so now they're extremely under budget.
They're having to do all these cuts because the economy has been really hard in the last four years and that's a proof of it right there.
You know, I know the media likes to say that the last four years has been the best that our economy has ever been.
Well, apparently that skipped us, you know, apparently that skipped Oklahoma City and the city of Oklahoma City because it has been difficult.
and you know now is more important of a time than ever for wives to consider their family finances
and to be a help fitting for her husband. The sad truth is that a lot of wives and look I hope this
isn't true about you. I don't know your guys's family situations but the truth is a lot of wives
are a financial liability on their family big time and that is not a good thing.
You know what I mean?
Obviously the husband is providing.
So you know, everyone's a liability in some sense, but some wives are wrecking their families
finances and this is causing serious problems in marriage today.
Look at verse number 12.
It says.
She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life
She seeketh wool and flax and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants ships
She bringeth her food from afar. So, you know, here's some specific ways
You could help your husband when it comes to finances and first is consider your spending
Consider your spending notice how the Proverbs 31 woman here
She's like the merchant's ships.
She bringeth her food from afar.
She's not necessarily just spending money
at the most convenient place, just the easiest thing to buy.
This is where I rely on my wife a lot,
and I appreciate her help in this area,
because I'm so busy of a person.
When I need to buy something, I just
want to get it over with.
I hate shopping.
I hate purchasing things and so I am not the best.
I'll just be honest with you at considering the deals
and considering the price.
Like if I need to buy something, I'm just like, okay,
just hit buy, I don't want to ever think about this again.
I want to move on to my life because I got stuff to do.
And so I appreciate the fact that I could delegate
some of those things to my wife.
Hey, find a good deal on this.
Go look around and shop around for this thing that we need and she could help me in that area
Because quite honestly, I will just buy whatever is most convenient because that's just how I am
But you know, that's a way that wives can be helpful to their family look at verse 15
She rise it also while it is yet night and give it meat to her household and a portion to her
Maidens here's another thing make more meals at home
Eating out has gotten so insanely expensive, it's wild.
I mean, if you try to take your family to Chipotle
or Panera Bread, if you have a family with kids,
you're easily spending $50, $60, $70
for some sandwiches and chips at these places.
Like the prices have gotten out of control
and
It's literally eating out is like three to three and a
to three and a half times more expensive
than eating at home, literally.
Now look, I'm not saying that you can't ever eat out
if your family finances are okay with that.
That's great.
Praise the Lord, we do that sometimes.
But you know what, the vast majority of meals
should be meals that are cooked at home.
You know, it's also gonna be a lot more nutritious for you.
It's gonna be better for your family's health.
And it's definitely gonna be better
for your husband's finances.
Look at verse 16.
says this, she considereth a field and buyeth it.
With the fruit of her hands, she planted a vineyard.
Notice how she considers a field before buying it.
You know, ladies need to actually care
about their family's budget.
You need to actually have some sort of vested interest and care about your budget where
you don't just see a field and buy it.
It's like, oh, I want this.
Let's buy it.
Oh, yeah.
I need this thing.
Let's just buy it.
No, notice what she does.
She considers a field first.
She's considering what?
Probably, is this a good investment?
Is this a good field?
Are we maybe going to make money off this in the long run?
Here's another thing to consider.
Do we even have the money for this right now?
because I'm telling you it just seems like a lot of families the husband can
be very diligent he could be really hard-working but the wife sometimes just
has an attitude where it's like well that's not my department so I could just
spend as much money as I want but it's like look the Proverbs 31 woman is
considering the field then buying it let me help you if you don't have the
money for something don't buy it
This is called considering your family's finances considering your budget not just like well
You know thank God for credit cards that we could just keep racking up a bunch of stuff that we can't afford
You know you're gonna pay for that eventually and you're gonna pay for that with interest that oftentimes are like
14 to like 30 percent interest sometimes on these credit cards and the Jews are just raking your family over the coals
Because the Jews have caused women through things like television, social media,
to just constantly be lusting for new things all day.
The online shopping.
You know, it used to be that you had to actually go shopping and do what's called window shopping,
where they put all the nice shiny things that everyone wants to buy on the exterior of the store
so that it can grab your attention and you want to go in and buy it.
But now, it's just on your phone.
It's, you're scrolling on Facebook, it's just add, add, add.
Every app, it seems like there's advertisements, every TV show, every movie, I mean, consumerism
has taken over our country.
And unfortunately, a lot of people,
their hearts have been affected by this,
where if you're just looking at things to buy,
you're gonna want to buy those things.
And so sometimes it's good just to stop the online shopping,
stop looking at all the ads,
stop creating these wish lists online or whatever,
because you need to actually consider your husband's finances
if that's something you guys can actually afford.
Now here's the thing, if you can afford it,
praise the Lord, great, buy stuff, have fun.
It's a irresponsible attitude to just spend money that you don't have, just because you're not the breadwinner.
No, that's the wrong attitude to have. Look at verse number, actually go to Hebrews chapter number 13.
Hebrews chapter number 13.
constant, overspending, constant, just desiring things that they can't afford.
What's the answer to that is to learn contentment.
Learn to be content with the things that you have.
Look at Hebrews 13 verse 5.
Let your conversation be without covetousness and be content with such things as ye have.
For he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.
God wants us to be pleased, to be satisfied, to be fulfilled with the things that we already have.
This doesn't mean that you can't, you know, strive to get something in the future.
Hey, your family's growing, you need a bigger car.
Great, save up for it. Hey, you need a bigger house. Nothing wrong with that.
But in general, we should be people that we're not just dissatisfied with the things that God's already provided us.
You know, that's an attitude that is ungrateful to God, that's ungrateful to your husband or kids, ungrateful to your dad.
You know, you want something new, that's fine, but you also want to make sure that you're thankful.
and content with the things that you already have.
Go back to Proverbs chapter 31, Proverbs 31.
You know, the truth is all of us probably have too much.
All of us probably have a bunch of junk
and here's how you know, try moving.
If you move, you realize, wow, we have a lot of junk.
And I remember when we moved, we just threw away so much stuff, it's not even funny.
And we probably still have too much junk, quite honestly.
Just us as Americans, we live a really blessed life.
You know, God has provided a lot for us compared to other places in this world.
Every single person in this room is filthy rich compared to a lot of people.
And the truth is that we just have a lot of stuff. We need to be content though.
Look at verse 17.
She girded her loins with strength and strength in it her arms
She perceived it that her merchandise is good her candle goeth not out by night
You know also something that ladies can do is they could maybe start a home business or
Some sort of work that you get paid for at home. There's nothing wrong with that
That's a great thing to to excuse me to consider, but I will say this
Obviously, you don't want to do anything like that at the expense of raising your kids.
You don't want to do anything like this at the expense of homeschooling your children
or being a present wife and mother.
Being a present wife and mother, being a good teacher to your children, raising your children
in the ways of God, all these things are way more important than money.
And so while, yes, the proverb's 31 woman,
hey, she's got merchandise, she's selling things,
she's making a profit, and that's great.
And some people should consider that
to help their family finances.
However, not everyone is in the same season of life.
And if you're really struggling to have everything
together as a wife and to be a present wife and mom,
and to be a good homekeeper and all that,
adding a business on top of that
is probably not the best idea.
Maybe that's something for a better time in life,
but it is something that you could consider
that could be a blessing to your husband.
Go to Genesis chapter two, Genesis two.
Genesis chapter number two.
So we talked about number one.
Number one, help him financially.
Number two, give your husband due benevolence.
Now look, this is a subject that I think the old IFB has done disservice to people by never
talking about it, by making it to taboo.
And look, don't worry, we're a family integrated church, we're going to use language that
only adults are going to be able to understand.
But this is a serious topic that causes serious issues in marriage, that the world has a brainwashing
agenda on this topic, and it's really, really bad that generations and generations of churches
in the old IFB never trained anyone about this, never talked about it, you know, at the expense
of, oh, it's embarrassing, oh, you know, it's kind of hard to talk about.
Yeah, but you know, it's harder divorce.
You know it's harder, years of counseling.
And it's like, I would rather just talk about it
as a church with everyone,
rather than this weird idea of like,
old IFB, private one-on-one counseling.
Like, would you rather me talk about this with everyone,
or do you want to talk about your specific marriage?
Like, that's kind of weird, right?
I'd rather just talk about what the Bible says
from God's instruction, just to everyone.
It's a lot more comfortable for me,
it's a lot more comfortable for you,
and quite honestly, people need to hear this stuff.
I have heard such terrible advice from Christians in this area, it needs to be talked about
a lot.
Look at Genesis 2, verse 24, therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother and
notice and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh.
And they were both naked, and the man and his wife, the man and his wife, and were not
ashamed.
Notice, the cleaving unto your wife, the becoming one flesh, this is the foundation of marriage.
Let me tell you, the foundation of marriage is not companionship.
You hear me?
The foundation of your marriage is not that's your friends.
It's not having a person to talk to.
It is not having a roommate.
The foundation of marriage is cleaving.
That's the foundation of marriage.
How do you know that?
Prove that to me, Pastor Oz.
Well, David and Jonathan, their love towards each other exceeded the love of women.
They were companions.
They were friends.
They could talk about things.
But you know what they were doing?
because they're not fags, obviously.
But here's the thing, this is the foundation of marriage.
Genesis chapter two, I mean, notice, he's like,
hey, there's no help, meet for him.
I'm gonna give him someone suitable for him,
fitting for him.
And he's saying, look, this is what God's saying,
therefore shall he man, leave his father and mother.
He's saying, you need to get married, man, and do what?
And shall cleave unto his wife, and they shall be one flesh.
And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
Look, this is a serious disservice that preachers never talk about this, because what happens
is people don't know what to expect, they've never heard any advice, they've never heard
any Bible on this issue, they get married at 18, and they're just like shocked.
that this is a part of marriage because let's just be honest men and women are wired a little bit
differently and usually men are a lot more motivated in this area than women not every single time
but you know you don't want to be having some 18 year old girl get married and be like what did I
get myself into is there something wrong with my husband it's like no this is actually the
foundation of marriage let me explain this to you this is why your husband married you
This is why your husband married you because you know you could talk to people you could be friends with people
You could have roommates in this world
This is the reason why your husband married you and it's just crazy to me that people are getting advice
To withhold this from their husband, you know or being like oh, you know your husband should be fine with once a month
It's like that's a terrible piece of advice
Your husband married you for a reason and he's supposed to leave and cleave go to 1st Corinthians chapter number seven
First Corinthians chapter seven
You know while we should be appropriate we do not want this to be a taboo topic
because it's in the Bible folks, I mean isn't the word of God pure?
God's not going to put something in the Bible that would be inappropriate
for a preacher to stand up and preach on a Sunday morning. This doesn't have to be
a private counseling session.
You should wake up and read these verses on your own. We can talk about these
things. Look at 1st Corinthians 7
verse 3.
Let the husband render unto the wife do
Benevolence and likewise also the wife unto the husband
So notice this is a commandment of God that this is something that the wife must render to the husband
The husband must render to the wife. It was called do benevolence. Here's the definition of benevolence an act of kindness
A charitable gift.
This is an act of kindness and act of love to your spouse that you should be providing
for them on a regular basis.
You know, life is hard enough.
Life is really crazy.
It's like, hey, spouses should be able to give each other some acts of kindness.
So a charitable gift unto each other.
This is something that you should be doing.
And quite honestly, remember, the wife was created to help the husband.
This is a great way to help him because, I'm just being honest,
men are usually wired a little bit differently in this area
and they need help. And the Bible is literally saying this is the reason that you get married.
Now, stay there, I'll read for you Exodus 21-10.
The Bible talks about if he take him another wife, her food, her
raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish.
So in Exodus 21, he's explaining what to do if you do end up taking multiple wives.
Now, God is not condoning polygamy.
There's a difference between what's right and what people do.
And so God knows what's right is just like a man and a woman,
Make sure, hey, if you wanna take on another wife,
make sure that you still provide for her, her food,
her raiment, and notice her duty of marriage.
This is not optional.
This is not when you feel like it.
This is not, oh, if the husband earns it.
Oh, you know, if he does a really good job,
if he takes out the trash and keeps the lawn real nice
and does all my checklists,
then he'll earn this blessing.
It's like, no, this is the duty of marriage.
This is something that you owe to your spouse.
Let's keep proving it, verse four.
The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband.
Now, that'll make feminists' heads spin.
The wife does not have power over her own body.
The husband owns his wife physically.
That's what the Bible says.
And likewise, also, the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
Notice, the spouses, their bodies belong to each other.
You guys are property of each other, you don't get to make your own decision on this, you don't get to decide whether or not your spouse gets to have this relationship, this is just something that's due to them.
Verse 5, defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer and come together again that Satan tempt ye not for your incontinency.
So notice the Bible is saying if you withhold this relationship from each other that it's
an act of fraud.
It's kind of known as marital fraud.
It is, you know, fraud is, hey, I'm going to buy this product at a certain price and
I'm expecting this product to perform a certain function.
Or I'm paying for this service, you know, I'm paying for a lawn service to whatever
and take care of my grass and take care of the landscaping.
Well, it's like, look, you're getting married,
you're entering a contract to have and to hold
from this day forth, and when that is not happening,
that is fraud.
And it's a dangerous thing that I know happens even in Baptist churches, even in new IFB
churches.
And here's the problem with it, notice it says you're not supposed to defraud each other
except to be with consent for a time.
So you actually have to get consent to not have this relationship, contrary to what the
feminist retard pastors out there are teaching you, that, oh, marital rape is a thing.
No, no, no, you have to ask permission not to engage in this according to the Bible.
That is bull crap feminism
Teaching that you have to get permission from each other to engage in this. No, it's called getting married. That was the permission
You you stood you stood there and said I do
You said yes, I want to marry this person. You could have backed out
It was all your will you made that decision and now this is something that you owe your spouse
It is a debt that you owe
And notice it says, and come together again,
that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
Incontinency is the inability to restrain.
The inability to restrain yourself.
And here's just the reality.
Again, I always try to stress this to people because people live in a fantasy world.
There is a difference between what is right and between what people will actually do.
And I think some wives that are not doing a good job in this area, they're withholding
I think some of them are just living in La La Land that, oh, my husband will always do
what's right.
My husband will just continue suffering forever and ever.
And let me tell you what, that is the right thing to do.
If your wife does withhold you in this area, that's wicked as hell and terrible, but that
does not give you an excuse to go commit adultery.
That is a sin punishable by death.
That's what's reality see what's right. It's like okay
You know the wife wants to cook one meal a week to keep her husband alive. What should he do? He should starve
And he should not just eat that one meal a week, but let me ask you how long can someone survive off of one week?
One meal a week not very long, right?
What eventually is gonna happen is Satan's gonna tempt that person and there's a difference between what's right and
What people do and look are you trying to scare me to be with my husband? Yes
I am trying to scare you to be with your husband.
Because let me tell you what, there's ladies at work that would love to give him attention.
There's people in this world, the adulterous hunts for the precious life.
There are wicked women in this world that receive pleasure and satisfaction from wrecking
From they're called home records, right? They they literally want a married man. Like that's who they go after now
That's disgusting and wicked as hell
But again, there's a difference between what's right and what reality is and so you are a complete idiot
If you withhold this from your husband if you are not helping him in this area because you're setting him up to be tempted by the devil
And look, it's a gross topic to think about.
To think about the idea of adultery is sickening and disgusting.
But look, this is just a reality that happens in our world.
And who do you think the adulterous woman is more likely to seduce?
A man whose wife is very helpful in this area, who satisfies him in this area, or one of
these wives that says, oh, you have to earn this.
Oh, you know, if you're a good boy, maybe, something like that.
You know, this is a serious issue for men, and God literally gave us marriage so that
this could be satisfied in a godly way, and this temptation could be dampened down in
a godly way.
And so it's so foolish, you know, I've literally seen Christian women give advice to other
Christian women saying these exact words, your husband should only need this once a
month.
Anything more than that, your husband's weird, your husband's crazy, and it's like,
That is retarded advice. I'm just gonna be quite honest with you ladies. That's literally like saying you should just eat a meal once a month
I mean you should just eat one time a month. Could you survive yet? Maybe for like one month. Maybe
But look this is this is retarded advice
Because eventually you're gonna be so desperate for food that you're gonna go to what a burger, which is literal garbage
I mean, here's the thing, if you got steak at home
that's being provided to you every day,
a good breakfast, good food every single day,
why would you ever go to Whataburger?
I mean, that's just abominable.
But, I mean, if I don't eat for a week, bring on whataburger, Indian food, I don't care
what type of food it is, I'll eat anything at that point.
And look, it's the same thing with marriage, unfortunately.
You know, guys that are just living their life, and here's the thing, I really hate
that I know this, but I know that people have gone like this in marriage for years.
Without being with their spouse, I mean, that is a nightmare right there.
That is a recipe for disaster.
And I'm just telling you, you are so foolish in living in La La Land.
If you think that your husband can just live off one meal a month or just years and years
without that, you are begging him to commit adultery.
And here, let me talk to the guys.
It's never okay.
There's never an excuse to commit adultery.
There's never an excuse to be with another woman.
You be faithful because God wants you to be faithful,
even if you do have a terrible wife.
And let me just be super clear.
A woman that withholds this from her husband,
you are a terrible wife.
And you are not doing what God expects you to do.
And vice versa, men that withhold this from their wives,
which is probably way more rare, but I'm sure it's out there,
you are a terrible husband.
Because it's fraud. It's marital. Fraud and extremely dangerous. Look at Hebrews chapter 13, verse 4.
Because here's the thing. You got weirdos like the Catholic Church, sometimes throughout history.
There's been some offshoots of some false teachers in the Catholic Church that have taught that this relationship is always sinful.
Even within marriage that it's you know something that is only for you know bringing forth life
That's not something to be enjoyed. Look at Hebrews 13 verse 4
Marriage is honorable in all
This is a relationship that God gave to us for us to enjoy.
It's honorable.
There's nothing gross about it.
There's nothing wrong or sinful about it.
There's nothing taboo about it.
It's honorable in all the Bible says.
And the bed undefiled.
But whoremongers and adulterers, God will judge.
See, the real shameful thing is fornication.
The real shameful thing is adultery, but it's so funny how these whores and feminists, they'll often just go on first dates and give it away, no problem.
You know, they'll go out to college and they'll just rack up their body count, but then when they get married, it's like, oh, he's got to earn it.
You'll give it to a stranger.
You'll be a whore when you're in high school and in college.
No problem.
But as soon as a man actually commits to you, as soon as a man provides for you, now you're
like, oh no, that's got to be every once in a while.
Oh, I've got a headache every single night.
I heard what Pastor Mejia said.
He said, hey, pop some ibuprofen and shut up.
Amen.
Headache is not an excuse, all right?
This is due benevolence, the Bible says.
This is something that you are expected to fulfill go to Proverbs chapter 5 Proverbs chapter number 5
Proverbs 5 verse 15 notice what it says drink waters out of thine own cistern
And running waters out of thine own well,
Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad,
And rivers of waters in the streets,
Let them be only thine own,
And not strangers with thee.
Let thy fountain be blessed,
And rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant row,
Let her breast satisfy thee at all times,
And be thou ravished always with her love.
And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman
And embrace the bosom of a stranger?
You know, what is the answer to not being deceived by the adulterous woman,
The strange woman, to not be ravished with a strange woman's love,
It's to be ravished with the wife of thy youth.
It's to let her satisfy the, at all times the Bible says.
So it sounds like this is something that should be happening often,
something that should be regular.
And again, it's important to talk about this,
because young people are just getting married,
having zero expectation of what a marriage looks like
and what this should be in marriage.
And then they're just shocked and having all these issues
and needing counseling and everything like that.
It's like, okay, let's read this slow.
Let her breasts satisfy thee at all times.
Okay, Proverbs 31 says that she will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
There might be a double meaning with that verse there, okay?
All the days, the Bible says.
Okay, this is something that should be happening all the time.
And look, this is a way that wives can help their husbands.
Go to the Song of Solomon chapter number four, Song of Solomon chapter four.
I'm sorry Proverbs 6 and Song of Solomon 4 before you get out of Proverbs there Proverbs 6 and Song of Solomon chapter number 4
Proverbs chapter 6 verse 23 says for the commandment is a lamp and the laws alight and reproofs of instruction are the way of life
to keep thee from the evil woman
from the flattery of the tongue of a strange woman.
Look, there's evil women out there,
strange meaning not your wife,
that want to flatter you.
that want to just shower you with compliments to try to deceive your heart, to try to overtake you.
Verse 25 says lust not after her beauty in thine heart neither let her take thee with her eyelids.
So look you're not supposed to just sit there and you see a beautiful woman and you just sit there
and you just feast your eyes on her, you just enjoy looking at her, you don't allow her to take you
and women know what they're doing,
women know how to give the look,
they know how to get you with her eyelids,
don't let her take you with her eyelids.
Notice verse 26,
for by means of a whorish woman,
a man is brought to a piece of bread.
And the adulterous will hunt for the precious life.
This is something that we cannot just let our guard down.
And look, even in church,
sometimes wicked people come to church
And I've seen this happen and it's a terrible thing.
But look, you have to be making sure that this desire
is being satisfied through marriage in a godly way
because when the adulterous woman comes after you,
you wanna make sure that you're not the easy target.
You know, the guy whose wife has denied him for a year
is the easy target.
Now, what should he do?
He should still run away from the adulterous woman.
He should still resist her and not give in to that.
But look, that guy isn't way more danger
than the guy whose wife is helping.
in this area. Go to Song of Solomon chapter number four. Song of Solomon chapter number four.
Verse nine says, Thou hast ravished my heart, my sister, my spouse. Thou hast ravished my heart
with one of thine eyes, with one chain of thine neck.
How fair is thy love, my sister, my spouse.
How much better is thy love than wine,
and the smell of thine ointments than all spices.
Notice to Solomon,
The love of his wife was better than wine.
And what does the Bible say about wine?
That wine cheers the heart of man.
Wine is just one of the carnal pleasures in life that people enjoy, that makes them happy.
And Solomon said, look, the love of my wife is better than wine.
It's the thing that makes me the most happy in the world.
And obviously, him having a thousand women in his life, it seems like Solomon really
enjoyed this.
Okay?
But let me just explain something.
Every person in marriage enjoys this, and it's a blessing from God.
It's something that's better than wine.
See, the devil hates you.
The devil wants you to enjoy this in a wicked way called fornication.
And with that comes sorrow, regret, pain, often lifetime consequences, bastard children,
diseases, marital problems in the future, all of the sorrows that come with that.
He wants you to commit adultery, okay?
ruining marriages, ruining children's lives,
children's growing up with two sets of parents, right?
Also disease, stuff like that,
your reproach not being wiped away,
guilt in the Old Testament, the death penalty.
See, there's all these negative things that come along
with this area of life when it's done wrong,
but when it's done right, there is no negative side to it.
There's no negative side to it, there's no sorrow,
there's no shame, it's just like,
hey, your love is better than wine.
Hey, this is like the best thing.
in life pretty much and what's funny is the devil either wants you to do it in a sinful way
to partake of this in a way that's going to harm you or he wants you to not partake in it at all
and he wants to convince married women to withhold it from their husbands or married men to withhold
it from their wives or sometimes he wants false religions to teach to not partake of this look
I mean, look at how much the devil just hates people.
God blesses us.
He gives us the institution of marriage.
God gives a man, a wife, who is created to help him, to be a blessing to him, to someone
that he could cleave to, that she could cleave to, to enjoy this in a godly way, but look
at 1 Timothy 4-1.
Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits and doctrines of devils.
Speaking lies and hypocrisy, having their conscience seared with a hot iron, here's the doctrines of devils forbidding to marry and commanding to abstain from meats.
which God has created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth.
The devil hates you.
You know, what does the Catholic Church teach for their clergy?
No marriage and they have to go through all these weird fasting days where they're not allowed to eat meat
It's like literally the two greatest things on this earth
It's like marriage and meat and the devil doesn't want you to partake of that
You know that is the devil's religion right there. No God said hey, here's marriage. Here's meat
Hey, just receive it with Thanksgiving and enjoy it
But hey, render that to your spouse, husbands.
Render that to your spouse, wives, and hey, wives, cook some good meat at home too.
All right?
Hey, keep them full.
Bless him in this way.
You're going to be a help to him.
Go to Titus chapter number two, Titus chapter number two.
So look, don't get freaked out about this topic.
We need to talk about this more in Christianity.
People's marriages are super jacked up, are super hurting in this area.
You know, this being withheld from a spouse is causing major long-term issues and we need
to tell God's people saying, hey, you owe this to your husband.
You need to do this more.
This is a thing that, this is why people get married.
Number three, how could ladies be a help to their husband is be a good housekeeper.
Be a good housekeeper.
Look at Titus chapter 2 verse 3.
It says,
Good, obedient to their own husbands that the Word of God be not blasphemed.
See the ideal situation for a marriage is for dad to go to work, dad to pay the bills,
and for mom to be a keeper at home.
Here's what that means.
Mom, wife is not going to a nine to five corporate job somewhere.
Mom is not going to some job where she's clocking in clocking out reporting to a boss, but here's what this does not mean
Being a stay-at-home mom does not mean that you're not working or at least it shouldn't mean that
And, unfortunately, there's kind of that stereotype that's out there.
And look, that is not true of the vast majority of women that I know in church, in the new
IFB.
You know, these women work seriously hard.
Their job is never over.
These are hard-working ladies.
But I'm just saying, you don't want that to be true.
You don't want that stereotype to be true because there are women out there like that.
There are women out there that because they're stay-at-home moms stay-at-home wives
They're not really doing any type of work whatsoever. They don't have a job in the workplace, but they're also not working at home
They're not doing a good job keeping up the house.
They're not doing a good job raising their children, homeschooling their children, you
know, cooking good meals.
They're just watching TV all day, scrolling on social media all day, buying things on
Amazon all day, you know, complaining and nagging to her husband all day.
Like that stereotype of a woman, don't be that person.
That's not going to be a help to your family.
That's not going to be a help as to your husband.
Be a good keeper at home.
This is just, just get this perspective in your head, erase this feminism from your brain.
You were created to serve your husband, not the other way around.
Your husband's job is not to wait on you hand and foot and do all of your work for you.
Your job is to help him.
How insane is it for a husband to go to work 40 to 60, sometimes plus hours a week and
Cook the meals, bathe the children, dress the children, like this is insanity.
But there's this mentality out there that, you know, wives are there as the queen, as
the princess, and they're there to be served by their husbands and nothing else.
Now here's the thing, we should sacrificially love our wives, we should do things that are
serving to our wives, but that does not mean that we are supposed to do their job for them.
Serving your wife and loving your wife does not mean that you come home from work after
a long day and just take care of all the chores.
Clean the house, do the laundry, take care of the kids, cook dinner.
That is insanity.
That is a bad marriage.
That is a bad situation when the husband is caring that much of a load.
No, you were created to serve and help him.
Setting, I heard this advice from a Christian woman and it was terrible, terrible advice.
Someone asked, they said, hey, I'm struggling to get all my housework done.
They had just had a baby, they had two young children, one's like a toddler, one's a newborn,
the husband worked a ton of hours.
He travels a lot, works out of state a lot,
works really hard, hardworking man.
And this wife, she's just struggling.
And look, that's a normal situation to struggle with.
I don't know if you realize that,
but when you have kids, especially when you have a newborn,
you know, it's normal to struggle a little bit,
keeping all the responsibilities intact and doing everything.
But she asked some of her sisters in Christ,
hey, how can I...
overcome this. What can I do to help me in this situation? I'm struggling to do all my tasks.
And here was one of the responses from one of the wives.
Okay, just tell your husband to do all the tasks for you.
What?
Look, that's ridiculous.
That's terrible advice.
That is absolute insanity.
Okay, yeah, your husband that works 60 hours a week who's bringing home the bacon, who's
paying for all the meals, who's paying for everything in your life, who's working super
hard.
Yeah, he should just come home and also just clean the house every day, do all the cooking,
do all the chores, take care of the kids while you do what exactly?
That's ridiculous.
That's feminism.
That's terrible advice.
Now look, not saying you can never help your wife, not saying especially during times of
postpartum where you really step up and work extra hard, but don't ever tell your husband
to do anything.
Don't ever say, oh, husband, you got to do the dishes tonight.
No way in hell.
There's no way that a wife should ever be talking to her husband like that, demanding
tasks of him.
That is ridiculous.
From the husband and the wife, you know, maybe the husband needs to say look, I'm working super hard
I can't just stop being a provider. I can't just stop paying for your bills
You're working super hard. You're going through a tough time. You've got young kids here. You're struggling
You know, why don't we just for a season lower our expectations a little bit and realize that hey the house isn't always gonna be perfect
Hey, not every single thing in the house and all the things going on that a housewife does
needs to be perfect at all times during certain seasons, right?
That makes a lot more sense lowering your expectations and just getting through that hard time.
They just be like, well, just tell the husband to do everything.
He's like, no, that's bad idea.
That's not something you should be telling your husband to do.
Go to 1 Timothy chapter five, 1 Timothy chapter five.
And part of just dealing with postpartum as well, by the way, is just doing good planning
in advance.
Like, my wife does an excellent job at this where she'll make like 20 frozen meals and
have them all in the freezer so that when she's postpartum, I'm literally just turning
on the oven and pushing a button and she's not having to do anything and I'm not having
to make the family suffer with my cooking and stuff like that.
So you know, that's just things that come with experience, having more and more kids
1st Timothy 511 says,
But the younger widows refuse,
talking about the church providing for them,
for when they have begun to wax wanton against Christ,
they will marry, having damnation
because they have cast off their first faith,
and with all they learn to be idle,
wandering about from house to house,
and not only idle, but tatlers also, and busybodies,
speaking things which they ought, not.
So look, idleness is a temptation for any person.
Man, woman, idleness is a problem and the problem with idleness is that it can lead you to other sins.
When you're idle, when you don't have a lot to do, it could cause you to go from house to house to be a gossip,
to be a tail bearer, to be involved in things that are none of your business.
And so this is a common temptation for ladies, especially ladies, if they're at home not doing anything,
then yeah, they're going to be tempted with things. So what's the answer? Verse 14.
I will, therefore, that the younger women marry,
bear children, guide the house, give none occasion
to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
For some are already turned aside after Satan.
Look, the answer to going into sin by being idle
is to be given work to do.
And so God says, my will, my idea, my best scenario
for a woman's life is for her to get married.
And it says younger women.
to get married, to bear children, to guide the house.
That is gonna give one person more work than they can handle.
That's a lot of work right there.
And you know, I have a lot of respect for the work
that my wife does and for all the state home moms,
because quite honestly, their work is truly never done.
There's not a clock in and clock out. It's just an ongoing job, 24-7, but I could tell you what,
I guarantee you if a mom is doing that job, if a wife is taking care of her house really well,
she's probably not very idle. She probably doesn't have a lot of downtime, and sometimes people complain about this.
Oh man, I never have, you know, just all this free time. Good! That's what God wants!
You think I have free time in my life? Do you think that God just wants us to have a ton of free time in our lives?
No, He wants us to work.
He wants us to be doing godly things, and so getting married, bearing children, guiding
the house.
What is that?
That is, first of all, leadership of the children, teaching children the way that they should
go.
But you know what?
It also is referring to just keeping the house, being a good cleaner.
This is something that ladies are definitely not being taught nowadays.
It used to be that ladies, grandma would teach them how to cook, how to clean, how to sew,
Now it's like the messaging is you got to go to college,
you got to get a job, you got to get all these skills,
you can make all this money, and they've kind of left
all these home skills unlearned.
And so being a good keeper at home
is guiding the house well, you know,
while things don't need to be perfect at home.
And while when you have lots of kids,
you know, it's an unrealistic expectation
to just say that everything's gonna be perfect at all times.
But at the same time, your husband should not come home
from a long day of work and it looks like your house
is like the Battle of Stalingrad or something
where it's just this blood flowing in the house
and it's just literally just insanity going on.
No, no, no.
You need to be a good keeper at home.
You need to work hard.
You need to clean the house.
You need to have your home presentable.
Like I said,
moderate your expectations, different seasons of life,
but here's a bad expectation.
Oh, let's just expect that our house
is just terrible at all times.
That's a bad expectation too.
That's not something that your husband wants.
This is a way that ladies could help their husbands.
Go to Proverbs chapter 31, Proverbs 31.
Look at what it says in Proverbs 31, verse 27,
she looketh well to the ways of her household
and eateth not the bread of idleness.
I love that phrasing.
She looketh well to the ways of her household.
This is not a wife that is going through the motions, that is kind of just floating through
life.
She is thinking, she's being diligent about her being a keeper at home, her being a wife,
her being a mother.
She's looking well to the ways of her household.
This is a person that's diligent.
This is a person that's disciplined.
I talk about this a lot.
Oh, you know, I'm just not feeling motivated to clean my house today.
I'm just not feeling motivated to cook dinner.
I'm just not, you know, feeling motivated to love my husband today.
It's like, look well to the ways of your household.
Don't sit there and rely on motivation.
Rely on doing the right thing.
Rely on discipline saying, hey, I was created to help my husband.
I'm here to help him.
He's not here to serve me.
I was created to help him.
I need to make sure I'm looking well
to the ways of my household.
And look, God is gonna bless a woman that does this.
Don't think that you're just working your tail off, putting in the long hours, sacrificing
a ton for your family, and that God doesn't see this, God isn't looking down, and being
pleased with you.
I guarantee you, God is looking down at a humble wife that serves her husband, serves
her children, keeps her home well, and he's very pleased with that woman.
He's way more pleased, way more impressed with that woman than he is with Hillary Clinton
when she was the Secretary of State of the United States.
He doesn't care about that.
In fact, he thinks it's gross and disgusting because women should be keepers at home, not
leading the Secretary of State.
That's ridiculous.
But look at verse number 28 of Proverbs.
Where were we there?
Proverbs 31 verse 28 notice what it says in verse 28 her children arise up and call her blessed
her husband also and
He praises her notice when a wife is
Diligent when she looks well to the ways of her household when she puts in the hard work
What is the result the result is that she has a good reputation?
with her children and with her husband and she receives praise from her
children and from her husband. You know you don't want it to be that
20 years from now when your children are all grown up
and they look back and they think what was how what was you know our home like
as a child and they just think like our house was always a disaster.
Mom was always just scrolling Facebook.
Mom never really cooked meals.
Mom really never served dad.
Mom was an angry loudmouth feminist.
You know, that's not the reputation
that you wanna have in 20 years.
You want your children to rise up and call you blessed.
And say, you know what?
My mom was a hardworking woman.
My mom sacrificed.
My mom loved us, loved her husband,
and was a good example of a wife
as someone that actually helps her husband
and was not a liability to him.
You know, what is your reputation going to be as a mother?
You know, if you just stayed, or as a housewife as well, if you just stayed as the same wife
you are now, or the same mother that you are now, if you just stayed exactly the same for
the next 10, 20, 30 years, what would your reputation be?
You know, that's something that you should look and reflect on and think about deeply
and make changes from this sermon in areas that you need to make changes.
Because I promise you, you will have a reputation.
We all right now could think about our upbringing and we could all say, hey, what was your dad
like?
What was your mom like?
They have a reputation now, right?
Because all of us are raised by our parents.
They've done their course.
They now have a reputation.
You will as well.
I will as well.
You know, we need to make sure we're being diligent and not just being selfish.
Go to Ecclesiastes chapter number 10, Ecclesiastes chapter number 10.
Ecclesiastes chapter 10 verse 18, the Bible says,
Look, in both a very literal sense...
If you're diligent working hard, that's going to be a help to your husband in a very literal physical sense when you're a lazy wife that doesn't take care of the house, the house is going to drop through, the house is going to be destroyed.
And also in a figurative sense that when a woman works hard, blessing her husband, blessing her children, you know, that's going to be a household that's strong and that stands and that doesn't fall through.
You know, a wife that's lazy in those areas, the house will fall through.
chapter number six. Here's another great way that you could help your husband in the home area
is by being a good educator of your children. Being a good educator of your children.
If you have kids, this is a very important role. Deuteronomy 6-6.
says in these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart, and thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children,
and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.
And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes, thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates.
So notice it's important for parents to teach their children the word of God.
at all times. When you're standing, when you're sitting, when you're up, when you're laying down,
just any opportunity we get to teach our children the Word of God, it should be taken.
But here's just the practical reality is that mom is with the kids a lot more than dad is.
You know, nowadays there's some people that work from home, maybe they're able to spend
more time with their family, that's great.
But for a lot of men, they're away from their families, a large portion of the day, and mom
is like the primary influencer to those children, and she needs to make sure that she's diligently
teaching kids the Word of God.
We want to make sure that the next generation is better than us, that they start learning
the Bible at a younger age than we did.
They start memorizing the chapters at a younger age than we did, that they take the things
of God more serious at a younger age than we did.
And you know who has the biggest opportunity to instill that love of God into the children's
heart is mom.
Mom has the biggest opportunity to do that.
And so if you want to be a help to your husband, I guarantee you he's going to appreciate it
When you teach the kids about spiritual things,
you know, ladies want to be preachers sometimes.
Here's your audience.
Here's your disciples.
It's your children.
Hey, please preach your children the Bible.
Teach them the word of God.
Tell them what's wrong, what's right.
You know, explain things from the Bible to them
that you could do that all day long.
That's the right thing to do.
Good Daniel chapter number one Daniel chapter one
But you know what wow the spiritual is the most important and while when it comes to education
You know the biggest thing you should get out of education is knowledge of the word of God
It's also very important to give your kids a real education in every other area as well
And I'll be honest, I am for homeschooling.
It's my preferred way of kids getting educated.
But one of my fears of homeschooling is parents
not being diligent and not actually educating
their children properly.
You know, I've seen some adults that were homeschooled
and I'm like, wow, you were not educated.
You don't know things.
You've not read books.
You're very easily,
Tricked confused, you know, you're not someone who's actually diligent and study and it shows that they do not have a very good education
Look at Daniel 1 verse 17
As for these four children God gave them knowledge and skill in all learning and wisdom
And Daniel had understanding in all visions and dreams.
Now at the end of the days that the king had said
he should bring them in,
then the prince of the eunuchs brought them in
before Nebuchadnezzar,
and the king communed with them,
and among them all was found none like Daniel,
Hananiah, Mishael, and Ezriah.
Therefore stood they before the king.
And in all matters of wisdom and understanding
that the king inquired of them,
he found them 10 times better.
then all the magicians and astrologers that were in all his realm.
This is the desired output of what we want from raising kids is that hey these
homeschooled kids at Anchor Baptist Church are 10 times better than the ones
going to the public school, than the ones just going K through 12 government
school. We want to make sure that our children are 10 times better. You know I
think the best thing that you could do to make sure that your kids are well
Elsewhere in Daniel, it talks about how Daniel, by searching out books, came to the answers
that he was seeking.
He was someone that liked to read.
He was someone that knew how to get answers.
We need to train a new generation to not just watch TikTok videos and documentaries and
think that they're educated, but to actually read books.
Because unfortunately, like I always say, the theme verse of our generation is that
And it's sad that many kids are coming out of homeschool nowadays and they're just simple.
Many parents teaching their children are simple and I'm just like I'm scared of these like weirdo flat earth parents
That are homeschoolers because here's the thing the the flat earth is like the dumbest thing ever and
Like you should feel bad about yourself if you're a flat earth or I don't know if anyone in here is
Please don't tell me if you are because I'm gonna think differently about you
But I'm just saying the thing is is people who are flat earth. They're almost always like pro homeschool
They're like, yeah, we need to homeschool our kids.
But it's coming from a place of they're
extra retarded than the public school system.
It's not like they're saying, oh, the public school system
isn't being diligent enough.
They're not teaching them enough.
It's just like, oh, the public school system
thinks that the earth is a globe.
But we need to make sure we're homeschooling our kids
so that we could tell them that Joe Biden is a lizard
and that the earth is flat and that the moon landing never
happened.
It's like, you want to know why people believe
that the moon landing was faked?
It's because they've never read a book about it.
Because it's literally like the most well-documented event
in modern human history.
It is so unbelievably just a fact that man went to the moon that it's just like I know why someone thinks it's a conspiracy.
It's because they've never read anything about it.
And it's like look, you say like you're making me feel bad.
I'm not trying to make you feel bad.
I'm trying to get you to read and I'm trying to get you to instill a love of reading into your children.
So that it's not like, oh man, those Christians, all the ones that deny science, all the ones that don't know anything about history.
Oh, the ones that deny that viruses are real.
You know, I've heard this in Christian circles,
that there's no such thing as communicable disease.
You know, the extreme version of the terrain theory
that just teaches like disease is non-communicable.
You know, never use hand sanitizer.
Hand sanitizer will kill you.
You know, you can never get sick from another person
by transferring germs.
These are literal things that I've heard.
We don't want this reputation as Christians.
because it's just reality denial is what it is.
I hate reality denial, and it makes Christians look bad.
And we don't want to raise kids where it's like,
hey look, the representatives of Jesus Christ on the earth,
they're uneducated and stupid.
That is a shame.
And you know who it starts with?
It starts with mom, because mom is at home,
mom is teaching them the Word of God.
Mom is teaching them the science books the history books all those things moms need to care about education
Ladies you say well reading isn't my thing. It needs to start becoming your thing
You need to start caring about education.
You need to start loving, learning, because you're going to pass that on to your children
or you're going to pass on your apathy and your laziness and your lack of desire to get
smarts, to get education, you know, that's the generation and legacy that you're going
to be passing down.
None of us want that.
And look, thank God, homeschooling, there's lots of programs, there's lots of systems
where kids can do online classes, whereas if you don't have an expertise in every subject,
I totally get that.
I wouldn't be prepared to teach every subject to children either.
There's helps that are out there for you.
Use those things, but also as your kids are learning, you should show them the pattern
that you're learning to, that you love to read, that you want to learn things.
And this is a pretty interesting verse in Proverbs 29 verse 15, it says the rod and reproof
give wisdom, but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.
Notice how it doesn't say that it brings shame to his father.
The Bible is highlighting the fact that when a child is left to himself, who is the primary
person to blame in that situation?
And when a child is just left to themselves,
they're being homeschooled,
which means you're not really teaching them things.
They're not really reading books.
You're just simply not putting them
in the public school system.
There's a difference between homeschooling your children
and just not putting your kids in any school.
This is what some parents are doing.
They're just not educating them at all.
They're leaving them to themselves.
And the Bible says that person,
that child brings his mother shame.
When I see a flat earth or I am like wow you had bad parents
Your parents did not teach you anything your parents were not critical thinkers your parents were not lovers of truth
Your parents watched a documentary and said dude. I can't understand something therefore. It's fake
Like I literally saw a video of these astronauts training underwater
To do spacewalks you want to know why you train underwater because it's kind of similar to the feeling of no gravity that you're gonna experience in space
And it's like showing these astronauts,
they're doing their thing underwater,
and then it hard cuts to them doing it in space.
And then the video is like saying,
see, it's all CGI, they're all filming it underwater.
It's like, or, or you retard,
they're training underwater
for what they're actually gonna be doing in space.
But it's like, you got these parents who are stupid.
and foolish, and they're just like,
dude, I don't know anything about the Van Allen radiation
belts, dude, I don't know anything about aviation.
How come when the moon landing happened,
how come it didn't leave a giant crater in the moon
when they landed?
Maybe for the same reason that there's not
a giant crater every time a helicopter lands on Earth,
or an airplane lands on Earth.
when there's actually even more gravity here than on the moon.
It's just like, you just see people,
they have no knowledge or understanding about these things,
and they pass it on to their kids.
And it's scary, and it brings shame.
And it's like us as Christians,
I don't want us having the reputation of being stupid or uneducated.
Because look, those stereotypes exist
because there are people like that out there.
There are the proverbial Florida man preachers.
And I get up and say, I don't understand half the words on the page, but the parts I
can read, I believe them, and the parts that I can't read, I believe them too.
That's like a paraphrased quote from a Florida man that was defending the King James Bible.
It's like, look, I want people to defend the King James Bible because they're smart and
know the issue, not because they're stupid and just have like a blind faith.
It's like, hey, I want people to notice that we are the servants of the Most High God,
but I don't want demon-possessed women, like in the New Testament, following around saying,
these are the servants of the Most High God, right?
We don't want people being like, yeah, Christianity is great because we're awake,
that the earth is flat, that the moon landing never happened,
that there's no such thing as disease, that, you know, Hillary Clinton's a lizard,
and it's just like, you're turning people off from Christianity,
or you're just bringing retards to your church.
And I don't want to pastor a church of retards.
I don't want to pastor people that deny reality.
I want people to come here and be afraid to say stupid things.
and to get corrected when they say stupid things,
and to be like, hey, I should actually change this issue
and fix things, because let's be honest,
we all have believed stupid things.
I'm sure there's things I believe right now
that I'm wrong about, but here's the difference.
If I'm wrong about something,
I actually want to know it so that I could change it.
And I'd just be like, well, I've made my decision,
and you know what, it's all fake,
and I'm just passing this on to my kids,
it's like, that's a bad attribute,
and it's an embarrassing attribute.
We'll finish in Proverbs 31 look at verse number 10 Proverbs 31 verse 10
Proverbs 31 verse 10 says who can find a virtuous woman
For her price is far above rubies the heart of her husband death safely trust in her
So that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life
Look having a good wife is a great blessing from God
The Bible says that her price is far above rubies.
The Bible says that by having this type of a wife,
she's going to do good unto you all the days of her life.
I mean, this is what every man wants,
is a help fitting for him like this,
like the Proverbs 31 woman.
You know, every single wife should walk away from the sermon this morning thinking,
how can I help my husband more?
Where can I be a better help to my husband?
Because the truth is, that is why God created you.
To be a help to your husband.
So here's some ways you can help.
Number one, help with the finances.
Number two help with due benevolence number three help with being a good housekeeper. Let's have a word of prayer Lord
Thank you for this day. Thank you for the instructions and admonitions in your word
I just pray that you would bless the marriages this evening
And I pray that you also bless the marriage sermon for the men this evening that you just help us all to
Apply the truth so we're gonna hear to our own lives and help us all to focus on being better spouse
We love you and you send me pray. Amen
All right, for our last hymn this morning,
we'll grab a hymnal and turn to number 31.
He lives.
Hymn number 31, 31.
He lives we'll sing there starting on the first
He talks with me, a long life, they're away