400 stand up for Jesus. Hymn number 413. Go ahead and start there right on the first.
Stand tall! Thank you for this church. Gather together this evening. I pray at this time
that you bless this service. Bless the song service as well, Lord. Help it not to be just
a repetition or going through the motions, Lord, but help us to sing with the Spirit.
Help us to understand what we're singing. And I pray also that you bless the preaching
as well, Lord. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen. For our next hymn, if you would, turn in your
hymnals to hymn number 288. I am resolved. Hymn number 288. Hymn 288. Start there right
on the first. We are still on Genesis chapter number 1 verse 20 for our Bible memory. Verse
of the inside, our service times are listed there. Sunday morning at 1030, Sunday evening
at 430, and our Wednesday Bible study at 7. We do also have all of our soul winning times
listed there. And just a heads up for those planning on coming this Saturday, we have
another round of SWOT soul winning. So if you want to join us for that, we greatly appreciate
it. We do have our year to date statistics for soul winning there below for both our
local numbers and abroad. Then our upcoming events this upcoming Sunday evening service
is our next men's preaching night. And that's going to be followed by a potluck and fellowship
or games. And so please join us for that. Then next weekend, it's finally here the one
year anniversary of anchor Baptist Church. And so we're going to have our soul winning
marathon all day on Saturday. And there's some details on the right there. We're going
to meet like our regular Saturday soul winning rally at 10am. We'll still have our song.
And brother Cameron's gonna be preaching a sermon for us that day. And then we'll go
out for our first round of soul winning. And all the locations should be pretty close to
the church like 1015 minutes, something like that. And we'll meet back here at 1230 for
lunch and have a second round of soul learning at two o'clock. Please join us for any parts
of that you can don't feel like you have to stay the whole day if you only make one. That's
great too. But of course we do have both of those rounds of soul winning available for
folks. Then the next day, Pastor Jonathan Shelley will be preaching both services for
us. I'm sure he's going to tear the house down. Hopefully he doesn't cancel Anchor
Baptist Church. No, I'm just kidding. We're looking forward to what he has to bring for
us. Also, there's going to be lots of people from Steadfast. We're looking forward to seeing
all of our friends from there as well. You know, some of them are still stuck in Phoenix,
I think, because of the shutdown. And I think some of the flights got severely delayed.
I think some are still in Phoenix, so we'll be praying for them. But we do have that coming
up. Then November 26 is the Pi Fellowship after our evening service. As you can tell
from our events, we're really big on the holidays, apparently, at Anchor Baptist Church. We love
the winter holidays. And so December 5, we're doing the UConn Christmas lights, just epic
Christmas light display. And if you don't like Christmas, I just I think there's something
wrong with you. You know, we really like that here. We do have December 12. The ladies
Christmas party, December 19, Christmas caroling. And you know what? I just added another one.
December 24, the Christmas cookie bake off. We're just adding all the Christmas events.
So after service on the 24th, we'll have a cookie bake off. It has to be, you know, made from home.
Single guys don't bring the prepackaged stuff and try to enter it into the competition.
You got to actually make the cookies. You could enter as many different types of cookies and
recipes as you want, but we will be having that so please come and bring your best cookies.
December 31st is our New Year's Eve party and that'll be a Wednesday service. We'll have
men's preaching night, food and fellowship until midnight or as long as you want to stay for that
evening. On the right we have our information about our visitor card and our online giving.
On the back we do have our prayer list and a section for you to take notes. One thing that's
not on there like I said, a lot of people are traveling and so keep them in prayer. Pastor
Corbin Russell was added because his wife has actually been in the hospital. She got stung by
bee and just had like a really horrible reaction from that so she's been in the hospital for that.
Be praying for her. Miss Whitney Reed, her mother has some upcoming tumor scans and so we're praying
for the best result possible with that situation that it wouldn't be cancer and that no matter
what it is that God would just heal her and have his hand upon her. Those are only two new requests
so if you have any requests you'd like to be added please email the church but at this time
we'll go ahead and go to the Lord in prayer as a church family. Lord thank you for this Wednesday
church service here at Anchor Baptist Church. Thank you for our members and thank you for just
the work of God that we get to partake in here. I pray that you answer these prayer requests
according to your will this evening. I pray that you bless brother John and keep him safe on his
travels keep brother Ben safe on his travels and just all those who are still traveling from the
missions conference at Faithful Word this week. I just pray that that conference would have a great
effect on the hearts of men and women to be soul winners here in America but not just here but also
abroad. I pray that you just give us the tools and resources and laborers necessary to do
great works of our own when it comes to soul winning God. We also pray for pastor Russell
for his wife to be fully healed from her bee sting. She wouldn't have any more adverse effects
that you just help her to get back home to her family healthy as soon as possible. We also pray
for Miss Whitney Reed's mother that she would just bless these upcoming scans that she has. I pray
that the tumors are not cancerous and if they are Lord I pray that you just give her speedy healing
that you just bless her body Lord. We also pray for my brother's safety on his deployment that
you just bring him back safely to his family. We pray for brother Theodore for his mother's
cancer to be healed Lord that she would also soften the heart of his sister that she'd be saved.
We pray that same prayer for all of the church members we have here that have unsaved loved
ones. Help us never to take for granted a single day. Help us to be good witnesses for you and we
also want to pray of course for brother Miles that you just bless him and bless his whole family
lord. I pray that this service would be to your honor and glory and that you would just bless the
upcoming week of our one year anniversary and lord we do thank you so much for this year that we've
had. I pray that we would go forward doing everything that we do for your honor and glory
in Jesus name we pray amen. All right at this time we'll go to our third song. All right for
our third song if you would at this time take your white handouts and turn to Psalm chapter 126.
Psalm chapter 126 in the white handout and start there right on the first.
31 the Bible reads the words of King Lemuel the prophecy that his mother taught him
what my son and what the son of my womb and what the son of my vows give not thy strength unto
women nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings it is not for kings oh lemuel it is not for kings
to drink wine nor for princes strong drink lest they drink and forget the law and pervert the
judgment of any of the afflicted give strong drink unto him that is ready to perish and wine
unto those that be of heavy hearts let him drink and forget his poverty and remember his misery no
more open thy mouth for the dumb in the cause of all such as are appointed to destruction open thy
mouth judge righteously and plead the cause of the poor and needy who can find a virtuous woman
for her price is far above rubies the heart of her husband does safely trust in her so that he
shall have no need of spoil she will do him good and no and not evil all the days of her life
she seeketh wool and flax and worketh willingly with her hands she is like the merchant merchant's
ships she bringeth her food from afar she rises riseth also while it is yet night and giveth meat
to her household in a portion to her maidens she considereth a field and buyeth it with the fruit
of her hands she planteth a vineyard she girdeth her loins with strength and strengtheneth her arms
she perceiveth that her merchandise is good her candle goeth not out by night she layeth her hands
to the spindle and her hands hold the distaff she stretcheth out her hand to the poor yea she
reacheth forth her hands to the needy she is not afraid of the snow for her household for all her
household are clothed with scarlet she maketh herself coverings of tapestry her clothing is
silk and purple her husband is known in the gates when he sitteth among the elders of the land
she maketh fine linen and selleth it and delivereth girdles unto the merchant strength and honor are
her clothing she shall rejoice in time to come she openeth her mouth with wisdom and in her tongue
is the law of kindness she looketh well to the ways of her household and eateth not the bread
of idleness her children arise up and call her blessed her husband also and he prays with her
many daughters have done virtuously but thou excelest them all favor is deceitful and beauty
is vain but a woman that feareth the lord she shall be praised give her of the fruit of her
hands and let her own works praise her in the gates let's bow our heads forward prayer father
in heaven thank you for this day and everything that you give us and bless us with and we thank you
for this chapter of the bible we thank you for the study we just ask that you help us to run
man we are in proverbs 31 so we made it all the way through the book of proverbs i think
we started in march so it's been a long trek but this is a great chapter in the bible and it's
possibly the most famous of all the proverbs i feel like people constantly think about a proverbs
31 woman it's a very well known proverb and of course this is also one of those proverbs that
is not written by solomon last chapter it was the same way here we get some details in verse one it
says the words of king lemuel the prophecy that his mother taught him so you can kind of look at
this as being one of the proverbs of king lemuel but really what he's going to do is in a really
nice beautiful poetic way just present you some of the things that his mother taught him and already
this is just packed full of doctrine of the idea that mothers should be teachers of the bible to
their children of course we believe that women are not supposed to preach in a church setting
the bible says i suffer not a woman to teach nor usurp authority over the man but to be in silence
of course to be a pastor you have to be the husband of one wife but this does not mean that
women cannot teach the bible in any context women should be soul winners and probably most
importantly is women should be teaching their children the bible now i don't know why in our
society this is looked down at something as not being that important being a mom right really
what you got to strive to is being a career woman being a corporate woman and i have this vivid
memory of when i was in high school we had to write this essay of what we want to be when we
grow up and i vividly remember this young lady writing an essay how she wants to grow up get
married have children and homeschool her children her yeah her kids and i remember the teacher
getting up and just mocking her in front of the whole class saying like you need to strive for
more than this you need to have a better vision and bigger goals in your life than just growing
up and be in someone's doormat that was the mentality that was being pushed when i was a kid
just from a teacher in public school but here we have this great chapter of the bible and one of
the reasons we have this chapter is because of a godly mother that would teach sound doctrine to
their child and you know what kids are too precious and are too important you know children are in
heritage of the lord we should not just give our kids to the wolves and just hope the best
from the public school and look i'm not saying that your kids you know can't go to public
school and things can turn out okay by god's grace that could happen despite a public school
but it's certainly not going to be because of public school and why is that well it's because
the bible is not being taught there that's why it's not like that institution couldn't possibly
work if it was just full of saved god-fearing teachers look they would be a lot better than
it is now okay but the truth is is that the ideal situation is that mothers would teach their
children that people that we would be homeschoolers and of course Deuteronomy talks about thou shall
teach them when you're when you're rising up when you're lying down when you're walking in the way
you know we as parents should use life in general as teaching moments to teach our children the
bible and notice some of the things that this mother taught her son Lemuel and of course it
is poetic as well that's why it says what my son and what the son of my womb and what the son of
my vows you know he's kind of recanting this story to us in a poetic way this is not a necessarily
recommendation of how to start your school day where you line up your kids like all right what
my son what the son it's poetic okay but it is beautiful poetry and i like how it says there
the son of my vows now of course it kind of makes me think of the story in first samuel
where hannah kind of just says like lord if you give me this child i'll dedicate him unto you
and the bible is not necessarily saying that that is a good thing because we're supposed to just let
our yay be yay or nay be nay we're not supposed to swear but if you find yourself in a situation
where you did swear where you did make a vow the bible of course teaches us to keep the vows that
we make so here i'm guessing that this mother probably made some sort of vow about her child
again not recommending that you go tonight and make a vow to god but i'm just it kind of seems to
indicate that this is what she did that she possibly made some sort of vow saying like god
if you give me this child i will raise him in the ways of the lord or i'll teach him the bible or
whatever and it seems from this chapter that she did that because she goes on it says in verse
number three and again this is the preaching of mom give not thy strength unto women nor thy ways
to that which destroyeth kings so mom is giving her son a real good education and what is she
talking about she's talking about sexual sins right giving not your strength unto women here
is kind of talking about fornication or those type of sins and you know one thing i want to
point out about this is that we don't want to have this culture where speaking about this area of
life is so taboo that it's just never talked about because you know in some baptist cultures
and in some like really just extreme situations you know the bedroom warning about this kind of
stuff is just never spoken of in any way whatsoever and that is not doing your children a service
that is not doing uh the temptations that they are going to face in life justice if you kind of just
throw them to the world and hope for the best you know we need to be warning our kids about these
things and you know i i preach sermons about against fornication and against adultery and some
people would say well that's not appropriate for kids to be hearing about well the question is is
it in the bible because every word of god is pure and so look you are not going to defile your kids
by warning them about the strange woman about giving your strength unto women about whores
about adultery what's going to defile them is them going and committing fornication that's
actual uncleanness that's actually going to defile them no this actually needs to be constantly
preached to young people because of the fact once you actually reach the age where the hormones are
kicking in it's like the brain kind of turns off and so you need like years and years and years of
warning of this kind of stuff and supervision and prayer and even then sometimes kids will be stupid
and find a way but you know what i like that this mom is willing to tell her son hey don't give your
strength unto women and notice nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings what is she implying
that fornication will destroy you doesn't the bible say in hosea chapter number four
that whoredom and wine and new wine taketh away the heart right so giving yourself over to these
things young men you know if they just chase after whores chase after fornication it's going to ruin
their life it's going to take their eyes off of what is important you know i can't even imagine
how many millions of men have been on a right track in their life maybe they're chasing a good
career and then they just get derailed by fornication and it just changes their life
trajectory completely right all of a sudden you know you're doing good in life maybe you're going
to college maybe you've got good career prospects all of a sudden bastard child that you got to
take care of i mean that changes your life fast i remember being in high school and a couple having
a child and the the mom having to literally bring her kid in the classroom it's like their life
changed real fast you know someone should have warned them not to give your strength unto women
i also like that it's women plural because let me tell you what there's nothing wrong with giving
your strength unto one woman in the sense of getting married to one woman making a lifelong
commitment to her and giving her all your love and providing for her financially and protecting
her you want to give your strength to her in that sense there's another sense though where you don't
want to give your strength to any woman in the sense that you always want to be in charge right
when you get married even if you get married to that one woman you still want to be the man in
charge you don't want to give your strength over to her by allowing her to rule over you her to boss
you around that is not the way of kings there verse number three or i'm sorry verse number four
here's something else that will destroy kings it is not for kings oh lemuel it is not for kings to
drink wine nor for princes strong drink right so the bible saying hey this is not fitting this is
not comely for a king to be doing drinking wine drinking strong drink it's so funny how proverbs
31 makes it clear that these things are off limits for kings and then people want to act like the king
of kings made alcohol for people no i don't think jesus was drinking alcohol he turned water into
juice which the old word for juice was wine use a dictionary it's not that hard it's one of the
first definitions but she's saying hey this is not for you and you know what we as christian parents
need to tell our kids that hey there's just some things that you don't do there's some things that
we just don't do as christians all right and one of those things is like hey we don't drink alcohol
we don't touch that stuff not well you know sometimes on a special occasion when the new
year's ball drops you know on midnight on new year's eve that's the one time it's okay to get
drunk or you know maybe if we go on this special trip we'll get drunk or when you graduate from
high school or hey when you turn 21 buddy i can't wait to take you to get your first beer no no we
just need to tell our kids it's off the table period and we need to set the example that our
kids never see mom and dad drinking alcohol you know one of my goals for my kids is that they
never ever see mom and dad ever take a drink of alcohol because we're not going to take a drink of
alcohol period end of story and you know we're talking about how in psalm 119 it talks about
horror have taken hold upon me because of the words of god and even my kids now they think like
alcohol is like a bad word or something they're just like alcohol they're horrified by it and
you know what that's good we need to tell our kids hey that's not for us that's not for kings
that's not for christians just character in general there's some things we've got to tell
our kids like hey we don't do that we're not going to act that way makes me think of you know my
dad growing up he you want to know where i got my hatred for people that don't put their shopping
carts back it's because my dad he's just like no we don't do that we put the shopping cart back
we walk across the dang parking lot we put it back like we don't do that all right it's not for kings
to leave your shopping cart in the ghetto that's for the derelicts that do that kind of stuff
and it's the same people that drink a bunch of alcohol you know what you'll find in communities
where people just drink themselves drunk and do a bunch of drugs and have no character and don't
work hard you know what you'll see a bunch of shopping carts everywhere this is the proverbs
of pastor aus we're going to get back to the proverbs of the bible here it says in verse number
five why don't you want to drink it says lest they drink and forget the law why is it that you
would want to ingest a liquid that is going to cause you to forget the law and let's apply this
in a couple different ways one thing you could do is start to forget the law of god start to forget
the commandments because i don't know if you realize this but when you drink alcohol you lose
your judgment and you often lose your memory and you start to do things that you would not
ever have normally done have ordinarily done in a different situation but when you drink alcohol you
could forget the law you know how about forgetting just the laws of the land too oftentimes when
people get drunk what do they start doing they start breaking the law how about drunk driving
how about discharging firearms in all sorts of unsafe ways getting into fights breaking into
people's houses uh rape all sorts of horrible stuff happen when people drink alcohol and she's
saying son this isn't for you because you know what you're going to do you're going to forget
the law and it says pervert the judgment of any of the afflicted so again it's going to affect
your judgment and cause you to twist or pervert judgment now this is important for anyone but you
know how important is it for a king who is making judgments who's ruling over people who's supposed
to be you know the decision maker between different parties that have a controversy
how would you like to go to court and the judge is drunk what do you think would happen to a judge
that showed up drunk he probably would lose his job rightly so you know especially when it comes to
anyone in a position of power we need to be sober you know that's one of the the few good things
that i actually can say about president trump is that he is a hundred percent a tea totaler
that's good you know i wish every single u.s president was that way because i don't want
the guy who could send the nukes to be drinking alcohol that's crazy it should be illegal for the
president to drink no one should ever elect someone to office who drinks alcohol that's insane
you know you wouldn't want to go get a procedure done by someone who's drinking alcohol you don't
want to go to the dentist when he's drinking you don't want to go to the lawyer how come is it but
people are such hypocrites because everyone would agree with what i'm saying right now you don't
want to go to the lawyer when he's drunk you don't want to go to the dentist when he's drunk you
don't want to go any you don't want to go to any professional when he's drunk but yet people
themselves will drink alcohol and it's like wait a second are you saying that you have nothing
important going on in your life at all are you not a husband are you not a father are you not a
wife are you not a mother and guess what the answer is for some of these people yes and those
people are stupid for doing that but you know what some people they have absolutely nothing going on
for them in their life and you want to know why a lot of people drink alcohol is because they are
complete losers a lot of people drink alcohol because they have absolutely nothing to live for
and people want to make fun of christians for not having to inebriate our brain and not have to
you know just make ourselves drunk and actually go through life with sobriety they make fun of us
for that oh ho ho goody two shoes oh you don't know how to have a good time no no the truth is
is that they're so miserable they have to like numb themselves from life because you know what
they don't have a beautiful wife and kids and they don't have a good job and they don't have any
authority and they don't have anything going for them they're just complete gutter trash and you
know what that's exactly what mom told her son because it goes on here it says give strong drink
unto him that is ready to perish and wine unto those that be of heavy hearts let him drink and
forget his poverty and remember his misery no more what she's saying hey drinking's for losers
that's what she's saying it says at the beginning there in verse number six give strong drink unto
him that is ready to perish what's this someone who is about to die someone who has some sort of
mortal wound and you would give them that strong drink to numb the pain hey there's an acceptable
use of alcohol in that situation and it makes me think of you know president abraham lincoln when
he was shot a lot of people don't realize this he did not die right away when he got shot in the
head he survived for almost 10 hours after getting shot in the head and what the doctors did they
carried him across the street to a bed and you know what they started doing they started pouring
brandy down his throat because he could still swallow he could still breathe but he was just
in so much pain from the gunshot wound because that clot in his head was basically constantly
clotting up putting pressure on his brain doctors had to keep rubbing that clot out but they kept
pouring alcohol down his gullet why because he's literally ready to perish that makes sense okay
i don't think abraham lincoln was sinning when he was getting brandy you know put down his throat
when he's literally about to die okay but that's one situation someone who's about to perish hey
nothing wrong with getting morphine nothing wrong with getting pain medicine when you have some
serious issue going on but then it says and wine under those that be of heavy hearts let him drink
and forget his poverty and remember his misery no more right so people that are just miserable
heavy heart you know they've got poverty hey give drink to those people and and some people would
read this and say like oh well you know that's me so this is you know permission for me to do
this no actually the bible says rejoice evermore we're not supposed to be people that are just
miserable and down and depressed and have to drown our sorrows in a bottle no we have the word of god
we have the holy spirit of god we have prayer we have brethren we have church we have so many
things that we could do that's a positive outlet for when we have sadness or depression or things
like that in our life but you know what alcohol is off limits and you would have known that if you
read through the book of proverbs and you got to chapter 23 where the bible said look not thou
upon the wine when it is red when it moveth itself aright when it giveth his color in the cup so we
already know that's off limits we're not supposed to be drunk with wine but she's again this is
poetic what she's saying in essence is hey drinking is for losers drinking is for the guy in the gutter
drinking is for hank williams senior who's got a tear in his beer and he went down to the river to
drown his sorrows but the river was dry you know country music artists today that's who beer is for
apparently a bunch of losers they've got nothing to live for and they sing about it right their dog
died their truck blew up is it are they singing about tesla trucks yet that's probably coming in
the next 10 years my tesla truck blew up the wife you know left them all that stuff and that's why
they're drinking alcohol but here's the thing like you and i know and every proponent of alcohol
knows this in heart in their hearts is that nothing good happens when you drink alcohol
nothing good happens you don't become more productive at work you don't become more
inventive and creative you don't become more loving you don't become a better husband you
don't become a better anything it's just poisonous trash and that's why she says hey that's not for
you my son she says open thy mouth for the dumb in the cause of all such as are appointed
to destruction so him as a king him as a leader he's supposed to be the mouthpiece for those who
cannot speak for themselves you know rulers should not be people that are just oppressing
the downtrodden and the needy and the poor you know righteous rulers should be speaking on their
behalf standing up for them and when i read this verse i always think about abortion i always think
about how we should open our mouth for the dumb right those babies that can't yet cry out for
themselves and speak for themselves and what are they they're appointed to destruction you know a
righteous person would cry out and stand up for them verse nine open thy mouth judge righteously
and plead the cause of the poor and needy of course how are you going to do this if you're
drinking alcohol right she's saying don't drink alcohol this is what i want you to be i want you
to be a leader of integrity and character and someone who actually cares for these oppressed
people groups now in verse number 10 she's going to kind of transition her advice to where she's
going to start spending a lot of time just explaining to her son what the ideal woman looks like
and again this is another great thing to teach our kids and not just hope that they kind of figure
out on their own someday but to tell our sons like hey this is the type of woman that you're
looking for she's not the one that's looking for you okay you're looking for her and even telling
our young daughters hey this is the type of a man that you're looking for someday and not just kind
of like well let's just see how it pans out like marriage is for life folks you get to make this
decision one time and once you make it you have you're stuck with it for life so man I like that
she spends a lot of time on this and we should spend a lot of time on this because it is so
important verse number 10 says who can find a virtuous woman for her price is far above
rubies so one thing I want to point out here is that according to Lemuel's mother which again
this is inspired scripture so we know she's right is that finding a virtuous woman is rare what does
the bible constantly say in proverbs that the whore the strange woman she's on every corner
every street corner and so it's so important for men who are not yet married to not to think like
well I'm just gonna marry the first girl I see no no no there's a lot more to a woman than looks
and men are simple and I've seen people make this mistake in their life where they're marrying for
one thing and that's only the woman's looks but here's the thing like God just made women beautiful
let me just let you on a secret God made women beautiful but you know what just because you see
someone that's beautiful does not make her virtuous hey I'm not against you marry a beautiful woman
that's great but why don't you marry someone who's beautiful and virtuous and these things are not
always you know a full package I always talk about how a lot of times the young single guys
they want to marry the 10 out of 10 and a fisher of men and it's like okay that's great that you
have that standard that's wonderful but let me explain something to you she's definitely not on
every corner so if you think you're just going to meet that type of girl all the time I hate
to let you down but that's not going to happen and if you're really looking for the 10 out of 10 and
fisher of men you know I really hope that your resume is absolutely stacked as well you know I
hope you're working out and I hope you're making good money and I hope you're not weird and socially
awkward because the 10 out of 10 and fisher of men doesn't want you I'm just letting you know
okay who can find a virtuous woman it's hard to find but notice for her price is far above rubies
do not get this idea that god is down on women or that the bible just looks at women as being
you know just a piece of trash or just a doormat and something that's not valuable the bible says
that the price of a virtuous woman is far above rubies now look rubies are insanely expensive
i preached about this back at fire breathing and i don't have the exact numbers in front of me
but it was in like the hundreds of thousands of dollars for like real nice quality rubies
but when you think about it the bible says her price is far above rubies let's say that a man
you know takes a maid he gets married let's say they get married like 18 years old and he just
starts providing for her on year one of their marriage you know of course when you're starting
off in life you're starting off in your teens and 20s those years financially are usually pretty
hard but as you get into your 30s 40s 50s 60s usually the finances get a lot more you get more
stable you make more money let's just say like that a man in 2025 america he gets a good education
he gets good skills he gets a good job let's just say he makes like an average of a hundred
thousand dollars a year right well it would take him 10 years to make what a million dollars okay
now we're already getting far above rubies that's 10 years right so you think about like how much
this this woman is worth well it's like for this man he's working 10 years providing for he's
making a million dollars 10 more years he's making a million dollars and of course look there's
people who make a lot less than that there's people who make a lot more than that with inflation
nowadays but it is true it is just objectively true that when you get married you stay faithful
that person you know you got your wife that woman's value is far above rubies and that's
a great thing now today a lot of women are complete fools and just they throw all their value away
because instead of just getting married to that that one man when they're young when they've really
got that market power because let's be honest men why why are women attracted to men because they
have money because they're you know confident because maybe they're in a position of authority
stuff like this is what women like in men let's just be real here what is it that men like in
women young and virgin and beautiful this is what men like this is just the reality okay so when
you take those years where a woman is young and a virgin and beautiful because beauty fades folks
it just does okay if she trades those years away and spends her teens and 20s on only fans going
to college getting run through by a bunch of dudes that don't care about her don't love her
does drugs just you know totally just destroys her youth destroys her beauty loses her virginity all
that stuff realize that her value is not as high now you could be as offended at that as you want
but i'm sorry to tell you that the young pure 18 year old virgin who's beautiful is more desirable
to a serious godly man than the girl who has an online history and a history with men and just
abusing her body this is just how the world works and so what a lot of women do is they trade in
that value that they have in their youth for the young dudes that'll show them a good time for a
few years in their 20s and yeah maybe some rich guys will take you on some vacations
and spend a couple hundred grand on you but then they're just going to drop you like a bad habit
and you're going to be that old cat lady you know who's saying like why won't anyone
date me where are all the good men it's like they were in church while you were being a whore
that's where they were you know what you should do is you should cherish your virginity hold on
to that not give it to any man except your husband then you know what you're going to get a lot of
value out of yourself and women today are just not valuing themselves by going out and committing
fornication and look of course it is equally sinful for a man to commit fornication that is
obvious but again just the reality of the world that we're living in is that one gender cares
about it a lot more than the other i'm just telling you the reality so if you don't want to
ruin your life you know be a virgin and that goes for both men and women verse number 11 it says the
heart of her husband doth safely trust in her so that he shall have no need of spoil so the virtuous
woman she is just a blessing to her husband she is an asset to her husband he looks at her and he
trusts her you know that that is that is such a valuable part of your life just to have peace
and trust in your marriage you know i would hate to be hosea whose wife is constantly going out
and committing adultery against him and he's having to literally pay her to stay with him to
not go out you know being a whore with all these other men that would be like the worst thing
imaginable what's nice is when in marriage you could trust one another and you know what the
virtuous woman you could trust that woman why because she fears god she's a godly woman
she's not like this dime a dozen you know women that you see on every street corner she is a
virtuous woman and when you have that you just have peace you have safety of security you have
trust and also you could think about this financially because it's saying the heart of
her husband does safely trust in her so that he shall have no need of spoil what is that talking
about it's like hey you know what the wife she makes do with the money that her husband makes
she's not covetous she's not covetous she's not spending her entire life shopping and dreaming
and scheming about more ways to spend money right because hey you got the virtuous woman
and then you got the proverbial you know suburban american housewife that's got mount amazon at the
front door every single day and she's just racking up the credit card and she doesn't care about her
husband's finances look no man is going to be pleased with that he wants his heart to be able
to safely trust in his wife what does that mean that hey whatever amount of money your husband
makes that's what you need to make do with and look men we need to work hard we need to provide
for our families and in 2025 america where our economy has been so screwed up by the dual income
system you know some of us have to work two jobs that's tough sometimes you got to work three hey
tough it up whatever that's our job that's what we're called to do be a man and support your
family and again as we're heading into hard times try to make more money try to get skills
don't just stay at a dead-end job and look if you're not yet married your career needs to be a huge
priority in your life because it will only get harder after you get married you got you want to
get certifications you want to go to school you want to get a trade man the best time to do that
is when you're single when you could just afford all this time and energy and effort into that
you don't want to be like all right i got married and you start just pumping out babies and it's
like holy crap what do i do right so look i'm not excusing the men that are dead beats that don't
make good money but what i am saying is that the virtuous woman whatever your husband makes hey
don't be covetous of the other man that makes more don't oh i wish my husband was so and so
no no no you honor your husband and you make do with the money that he provides and look you need
to budget you need to be wise with your finances you need to not be just constantly you know
obsessing over things and things to buy and trips that's what's going to make your husband trust you
verse number 12 it says she will do him good and not evil all the days of her life i mean that's
pretty broad that's pretty high standards here just like whatever you could think of that's good
this woman is doing that to her husband all the days of her life you know what man would not just
like want to sign up for that right now right this is why her her prize is far above rubies
because can you see what a valuable person this would be in your life just to have someone by
your side that they're just going to always do good to you for their entire life i mean that is
amazing i have that with my wife i feel so blessed that you know going through different challenges
and just the hardships of life just knowing that she's by my side she's only going to do me good
not evil all the days of my life you know praise god for that you've got if you've got that virtuous
woman at home you need to cherish her you need to love her you need to not take her for granted
and if you're not married you know you want to look for a woman that has these characteristics
before you get married it says in verse 13 she seeketh wool and flax and worketh willingly
with her hands notice she's not some prissy you know housewife of Beverly Hills that can't ever
break a nail that can't ever do anything hard you know Oklahoma women i'm reading a book right now
about the great depression and the dust bowl you know the Oklahoma women that survived those times
i can tell you right now they didn't care about their nails they didn't care about their next
hairdo they were out working hard providing for the family doing good and you know what whether
we have to live that lifestyle or not today is not relevant what's relevant is the spirit behind this
is that the virtuous woman is a hard-working woman you know some people would look down on being a
stay-at-home mother or a stay-at-home wife because unfortunately there are some bad examples where
there is that you know woman that just stays home and she just scrolls tiktok and she just watches
tv and she just does nothing look that's a bad example and it's a shame today that people think
that all stay-at-home moms are like that because i can assure you that's not what my house is like
you know these these women that would never lift a finger would not last a day having four kids
under the age of six years old let me tell you what that is a lot of work and so you know as
ladies in the audience you need to be thinking hey i need to be a person that is willing to work
and you know what sometimes that might even mean getting your hands dirty that might be even doing
some things that are hard that are tough we live in such a soft easy society that a lot of these
things are so foreign to us but i'm telling you that most of human history you know men were
doing super hard work and women were doing super hard work now of course i believe god made men
stronger because he wants us to take more of the burden more of the load you know it's not like
women are going off to combat neither should they it's not like they're working in the coal mine
it's not like they're building the factories but you know what hey back in my great grandmother's
day washing clothes was a hundred times harder than it is now hey even i do it sometimes because
you just push a button that's real easy but it's like my grandma i saw her washboard that she had
to do i mean that's crazy right you know the poor little house slaves of today you've got the washing
machine you've got the dishwasher you've got the smart fridge you've got the smart air conditioning
and the smart tv and everything's smart nowadays it's like hey we've got a lot of luxury in our
lives and that's a blessing thank god for that but you should not think then well i don't need
to work hard now no you need to always work hard in your home and it's going to look differently
for everyone but it says one of the things in verse number 14 she's like the merchant's ships
she bringeth her food from afar so notice how the proverbs 31 woman she is wise when she's
making her purchases it's like that merchant's ship she's not necessarily going and getting the
easiest most convenient thing to her sometimes she's willing to kind of go far to get something
that is maybe cheaper or a better deal and man this is so important in the day and age that we
are living in i mean this is not our grandparents america anymore things are expensive things are
hard but you know if if there is a lazy housewife let's say you got a man he provides all the money
he works a full-time job maybe two but you have the lazy housewife who just doesn't cook you know
it's going to have to happen that fast food hitting up that fast food hitting up that restaurant
instead of you know working hard in the home to make good nutritious healthy meals you're
just constantly having to hit that fast food and that's going to cost a lot of money eating out
is so insanely expensive every year it gets way more expensive and then on top of that they want
to flip around the tablet and say would you like to add a 37 tip it's like no i would not actually
you know it's just crazy the the high tipping culture that exists but hey it's expensive
you know instead of going out and buying an eight dollar fifty cent coffee or energy drink or whatever
boba tea or whatever it is you like there's these cool things i don't know if you realize this
there's these cool things called coffee machines and it actually sits in your kitchen counter
and it's actually super super cheap and you can just have as many as you want like you don't
always have to just get the most convenient most extravagant most luxurious meal sometimes we need
to be economical and especially how we run our families as baptists where usually it's just the
man making the money you know you can't compare yourself to your co-workers who wife and husband
both work full-time jobs and just expect to be living their lifestyle or the the dinks of this
world you heard of this dual income no kids when they're all over instagram look how you know great
our life is look how much money we're spending look at all great things that we're doing it's
like hey if you've got kids don't compare yourself to those people and think you can live the same
way you have to be wise with your money notice verse 15 she riseth also while it is yet night
and giveth meat to her household and a portion to her maidens so this woman is working so hard in
the kitchen that sometimes it's not even a during the day job sometimes she's rising in the night
to make food for her family uh to bring a portion to her maidens now again with our lifestyle with
our luxuries with the you know luxuries that technology has afforded us today you probably
don't have to do this but again what is it that this is trying to get us to understand is that
hey she's a hard working woman and maybe there's some seasons in life that you've got to give up
sleep and if it's not in the kitchen hey it's with the kids you know and certainly mothers are constantly
giving their beloved sleep and staying up through the night helping the kids and look i really
appreciate that about my wife because here's the thing and and this is what would suck about having
a dual income home is if my my wife and i both worked and kids are up in the middle of the night
it's like who goes and deals with them well it'd be kind of unfair if i'm just like always making
her do it when she also has to get up to work in the morning but it's like when we first started
getting married i'm like driving commercial vehicles i'm running heavy construction equipment
it's like i am not going to lose my sleep because i could die or i could kill someone
so guess what when the kids are sick or when the kids are getting up in the night you want to know
who takes care of the children 100 of the time my wife does and that's the same thing to this day
why because i've got to get up early and i've got to go to work right and she gets to stay at home
that's a trade-off there but here's the thing that's a great work that women are doing and
that is a great way that they're serving their families and serving their husbands and what is
that it's just an example of a virtuous woman being selfless loving her family putting her
family before herself and you know that's something to be praised and commended and honored and i
don't think that that's you know women being a doormat you know i think that's a woman being a
servant and jesus said that that's a good thing anyways being a servant you're going to be the
greatest in the kingdom of heaven right being someone who serves you know i believe that women
are going to be greatly rewarded in heaven for the work that they do and just because you don't get
to see all the hard work that they do and we don't necessarily constantly put it on a pedestal and
constantly put it in the limelight look women that are virtuous godly women are working super hard
and honestly i say this with all sincerity my wife's job is harder than mine and when there's
times where i have to be home with the kids for long extended periods of time i'm just ready to
go to work i'm like do you want me to start at 3 a.m boss i'll start at three like whatever you
need you know they have a hard job and we as men should appreciate that and love our wives for that
verse 16 says she considereth a field and buyeth it with the fruit of her hands she planteth a
vineyard so notice again her wisdom that she's not just oh shiny toy let's buy it oh there's
something i want let's automatically buy it she's considering a field then buying it what is she
probably considering well she's probably considering the utility of this field the
quality of this field you know what else she's probably considering is does she have the
resources to buy this field and i feel like a lot of young people in our generation they really
struggle with that last part where it's like you can maybe recognize the utility for something in
your life you can maybe recognize the quality of something you could even recognize hey you know
this is on sale oh we're going to save money by spending 500 we're going to save money by
spending 800 but here's the question it's like do you have the money though because if the answers
no then you should consider that field and not buy it you should consider that toy and not buy it
but hey if you have the resources and it has a utility and it's good quality then buying that
makes sense look you know we are not again ladies we're not against you buying stuff but we are
against money being wasted because you know we have to work really hard for the things that we
have and you know it's probably good even for like young girls and like teenage girls to like do
some babysitting or do some sort of work so that they could learn the value of money because i feel
like another scary thing about a lot of of young ladies today is a lot of them haven't worked and
this could even be an issue in baptist circles possibly even new ifb kids growing up is i kind
of fear that some ladies are just going to grow up and they've never worked in the sense of going
to a nine-to-five getting a paycheck like that of course you work in the home and then they get
married and then they just are clueless financially they have no idea how money works they have no
idea you know how valuable it is how hard it is to earn you know i think it's good even for kids
and teenagers give them a little bit of job let them understand how hard it is to make 15 bucks
30 bucks because what you don't want is to get married to that woman who just has no clue about
anything financially and she's just considering the field and it's always yes she's considering
the amazon cart and the answer is yes you know the answer is yes what was the shopping question
is for a lot of women today and look we want to make sure ladies are being virtuous and considering
those things it says also she her hand with her hands she planteth a vineyard so hey the virtuous
woman she's not opposed to even going outside and doing some outdoor work and you know in my home
i do the outdoor work as far as like the lawn and that kind of stuff but hey my wife goes out she
deals with the chickens and maybe you're a lady and you even like that kind of stuff hey that's
great virtuous woman did that that's totally an option some people want to like shame men
if they have their wife do any work outside of the four walls of the home but it's like hey this
woman's going out and guess who gets to make the rules husband does so if husband says pick the
weeds be virtuous and go pick the weeds verse number uh 17 notice this she girdeth her loins
with strength and strengtheneth her arms you know it's a virtue for a woman to be physically strong
and some guys are like insecure about this and like they don't want a girl to be strong you know i
am for people being as healthy and strong as they possibly can be the virtuous woman you know why
she's so strong is because she's working so hard i remember being a little kid i could never beat
my arm wrestling when i was a little kid because that woman was just strong you know when my mom
was raising kids the vacuum cleaner wasn't like what we have now the vacuum cleaner is like 800
pounds you know and she's got the triceps going and she's got the shoulder muscles going you know
this woman she's outside working a lot she's working in the house out of the house doing all
this stuff she's girding her loins with strength she is strengthening her arms and look men and
women can struggle in this area big time today because both men and women are living more
sedentary lives than have ever been lived on planet earth's history that's just a fact and
so normally a man goes out and he works a really hard job or a man goes out and he serves in the
army and he's strong and he's fit and a woman is constantly just working in the home and working
in the kitchen and working doing laundry and working in the vineyard and working in the field
and she's just strong and fit and today a lot of us live really sedentary lives and you know if
you are a man and you work a really sedentary life I highly recommend that you go to the gym
that you lift weights that you do some running that you actually work out and let me say I
believe the exact same thing for women I think that women also should be strong and I don't look
down on what I don't think oh man we don't want women to get strong you know that's too embarrassing
no please get strong that's great lift weights run be healthy I think that's wonderful and
obviously let your husband set the guidance for you but like I know that my wife she goes to the
gym my sister-in-law she goes to the gym and guess what they do they do it in skirts and no
one cares you know don't think like oh you know I can't go to the gym because people are going to
look at me weird no one cares trust me no one's looking no one cares just be healthy whatever you
have to do to be healthy do it let your husband set you know your rules and your parameters
but I am for women exercising I am for women being strong I think that is a wonderful thing
it says in verse 18 she perceiveth that her merchandise is good her candle goeth not out
by night so notice she's not only not a drain on her husband financially she's not a drain
economically to her household she's actually making merchandise and blessing her household
and you know there's many stay-at-home mothers that do this today I think of pastor anderson's
wife has like her german baked goods and food company and all sorts of different ladies are
doing things like that my wife does stuff like that that's great that's wonderful that's something
that the bible says is to be praised here she layeth her hands to the spindle and her hands hold
the distaff so she's making clothes which of course at this time in history was not easy
there was no joann's there was no other fabric stores like these women are just making clothes
that is a huge skill verse 20 she stretcheth out her hand to the poor yea she reacheth forth her
hands to the needy notice that the virtuous woman she cares about others others she's living for
others she's serving her family worrying about her husband her children in this case her maidens
and she's stretching out her hand to the poor she reaches forth her hands to the needy notice that
the virtuous woman is not only thinking about herself and when's the next time i can go on a
nice trip and when's the next time i could buy something nice and when's the next time i could
get my nails done and when's the next time i could get my hair done and when's the next time
i get a break she's just serving other people and not just her family not just her husband not just
her children not just her handmaids but just the poor she just cares about the poor she goes to the
poor and helps them and you know today we don't really have poor people in america like the bible's
poor but you know we do have is we have lost souls in this country and you know what a virtuous woman
is a virtuous woman is a soul winner where she's not only thinking about her family's needs she's
also thinking about the poor people's needs of this community that don't have the gospel and you
know there's not just tons of people starving in america like that that you could reach your hands
out to but there's plenty of people on their way to hell that you could reach out and invite to and
ask them if they're 100 sure they're going to heaven and you know what every woman should be
involved in soul winning every man should be involved in soul every child should be involved
in soul winning that is not just a man's job that is a woman's job as well and we need more of that
verse number 21 says she is not afraid of the snow for her household for all her household are
clothed with scarlet so again this woman is is a very thinking woman she's not just only thinking
about herself she's thinking about the needs of her household and she's able to kind of think in
advance and look ahead into the future as to the potential needs of her house and she fulfills those
needs before it even comes up because you know you don't start making winter clothes once the
blizzard hits you will die right you make that stuff in advance showing that she's thinking of
these things and you know my wife is definitely like that if we are going on a trip she's thinking
of every possible contingency probably too much it's like we go to the Bahamas it's like here's
800 different types of medicines for 3,000 different diseases that we could possibly get and I'm just
like whoa okay but hey it's great that we have that and you know I think I ended up using some
of it on the Bahamas so great job but you know she's thinking of those things in advance she's
not afraid of the snow for her household for all her household are clothed with scarlet I like this
in verse 22 she maketh herself coverings of tapestry her clothing is silk and purple why is she making
coverings of tapestry because men don't decorate homes that's why and you know she's got to make
the house look nice and I can tell you from my own personal experience when I moved from Idaho
to Washington to go to Shirt Foundation and start dating my wife my living room consisted of camping
chairs a bicycle a fishing rod am I missing anything else I think that's pretty much it
that was my living room and hey that was good enough for me that's all I needed right right
brother Eric that's all we need that's all we need in life we just need our Bible we need our work
clothes you know we need our fishing rod our bicycle and we're happy as can be that's all we
need but here's the thing once you get married we realize that it actually is wonderful that our
wives make our houses homes and you know I never thought that I would care about that kind of stuff
but it's so much better coming into a home that's decorated and has pictures and smells nice and has
all these wonderful things you know that did not come from me I would never be able to pull that
off you know my wife helps me with that kind of stuff thank you to the ladies or lady that did
this you know we need you know women's touches in the lives of our homes and things like that
because they just make life beautiful our wives make life beautiful and she's making those
coverings of tapestry I guarantee you her husband was not like hey honey go make coverings of
tapestry this was just like her of her own will like hey I'm going to make this house beautiful
you know please do that that's great and it says her clothing is silk and purple so hey she's
dressing nice she's working very hard to be able to you know take care of her own clothing too
and look being a mother being a virtuous wife it's not that you should only care about other
people like you should just only serve others and just neglect yourself no but like all
christians should be doing we should be putting others first so look there's nothing wrong with
a woman you know having nice silk clothing and purple whatever having the nice clothes
taking care of yourself physically that's great but you know your obsession in life should not be
the gold the broidered hair the the earrings the jewelry that kind of stuff no it should be the
hidden man of the heart that's what's precious that's what's the most beautiful and i guarantee
you your husband does not want to be around the wife who's all dolled up but is a loud nagging
selfish money-spending shopaholic rather than it's like oh sorry i didn't get time you know to do my
makeup this afternoon because i made you this awesome dinner and this awesome dessert and you
know here's the products that i made for my business oh here's the new clothes for the kids
and i made this dress you know we're gonna like that we're gonna be very pleased with that you
know we're gonna be more pleased with the woman who's you know girding her loins with strength and
strengthening her arms than putting on all the makeup okay pastor shelly said it before men
prefer the squats over the makeup all right just strengthen the loins strengthen the arms be
virtuous that's what men care about it says in verse number 23 i like this her husband is known
in the gates when he sitteth among the elders of the land notice this woman is so godly like this
woman is awesome she is not on every street corner she's worth tons and tons of money her price is
far above rubies but is she well known is she the influencer does she have millions of subscribers
is she an online personality no her husband is known in the gates and let me tell you it is such
a shame and embarrassment when there's a marriage and it's like the wife is known but the husband who
are you when it's like oh i'm the husband of so and so it's like bro that is gay you failed you
have failed in life where it's like oh i'm i'm mr kamala that's disgusting right that's gross
you know what a godly woman does is hey the husband's well known and notice how it says
there her husband is known in the gates when he sitteth among the elders of the land like this
woman has helped her husband be successful to where he's not just some low guy in society like
her husband is well known and why is he well known well probably because she's done such a good job
at home he's been able to focus on his career and focus on you know the things that he's doing in
life to where he's well known he gets to sit among the elders he's not among mean men average men
right and why is that well a lot of thanks is to the godly wife at home her husband is known in the
gates when he sit among the elders of the land she make it fine linen and selleth it and delivereth
girdles unto the merchant strength and honor are her clothing and she shall rejoice in time to come
i like that that promise of future rejoicing because you know i'm sure that that job of being
a wife and being a mother and i just see all the work that my wife does and that i know other ladies
do sometimes i'm sure it can feel like a thankless job and look i want you to know that that's not
true and you know husbands you better make sure that's true in your home as well that it's really
not a thankless job for them that you are appreciative of the good things that they're
doing but even if you do feel sometimes like oh i have a thankless job oh is what i'm doing even
worth anything am i really even making an impact in the world i like that it says hey she shall
rejoice in time to come you know just like anything in life you reap what you sow and if
you spend your youth being a whore climbing the corporate ladder neglecting your family
not caring about those kind of things well you're going to reap what what that reaps sadness no
family all that but here's the thing you also reap what you sow when you pour in years and years and
years into your marriage with your one and only husband you know what you're going to reap as a
result of that a beautiful marriage and it's so true the saying you know sweeter as the years go
by that is so true in marriage and and people will mock at that like how could you ever be with one
person for the rest of your life don't you want to explore other things and try other things no
no being married year after year after year is just sweeter and sweeter and better and better
and you know what you get to reap that rejoicing of having a good marriage of having a good home
when you keep at that for the long haul when you keep at that year after year and of course that's
with marriage if you have children same thing raising kids is hard raising young kids is very
hard but i'm sure and i haven't experienced this yet but i'm sure as they get older and you see
them start to accomplish things in life or you see them get married or you see them have kids
you know that's going to bring it's going to bring rejoicing it's going to bring happiness and joy
and so you know even during the hard dark times realize that joy is coming it says in verse number
26 she openeth her mouth with wisdom and in her tongue is the law of kindness the virtuous woman
is not a stupid bimbo the virtuous woman is not a liberal democrat the virtuous woman has
wisdom hey just like i'm not for keeping women down we don't want them to get strong we don't
want them to work out you know we also don't want to keep women from getting smart from obtaining
wisdom from learning things please please pursue learning and education and wisdom and bible reading
even if you're just a housewife or just a mom and i'm saying that in quotes because i actually
think those are very important jobs but think about it if you're gonna be raising kids and
you're gonna be teaching children don't you think you should take your education that much more
seriously don't you think you should care about being wise so much the more when you're supposed
to be entrusted with giving your education to your children i am for my wife reading as much
as her heart contends like as much as possible please please read so she opens her mouth with
wisdom and in her tongue is the law of kindness here is something that every guy likes in a woman
is just when a woman is kind when a woman is pleasant no one likes the sharp-tongued woman
no one likes the back talker or the complainer or the nagger or any of those things you know
people just like being around women that are cheerful that are happy that when they speak
they're speaking wisdom and then when they're not speaking wisdom they're just being kind right you
know when kids get hurt do they want to go to dad or they want to go to mom they want to go to mom
why because mom's oh baby i got you poor thing and i'm just like get up be tough and some people
think because i only have girls that i'm like oh people tell me oh when you had girls didn't
just make you so soft it's like no what are you talking about well didn't you get in touch with
your feminine side i don't have a feminine side what are you talking about and it's like i want
my girls when they skin their knees like get up we're going to keep walking so that's why you know
they go to mom because i have that attitude but hey you know we like that that is there we like
that strong men are in this world but we don't want only men in this world we'd all kill each
other very quickly we need women in this world to bring that soft touch it says in verse number
27 she looketh well to the ways of her household and eateth not the bread of idleness you know i
heard this recently that you can kind of interpret this as a literal type of bread that if a woman is
just lazy she's just hasty she has no skill in the kitchen you know that bread of idleness is be like
all right here's the bread of idleness it's like what is this this is terrible you know when a woman
is not looking well to the ways of her household she doesn't care to get the skills to become a
good cook and to try different recipes and to like do a good job well it's just like here's the bread
of idleness you know for some guys today you know god have mercy on them it's like here's the hungry
man dinner here's the fast food again here's the wonder bread peanut butter and jelly sandwich
it's like that's the bread of idleness we have some guys you know back back when i'm on the job
site people are like what is in your lunch it's like get married bro or don't you know send your
wife off to work and then you could have some good lunches and not eat the bread of idleness
verse 28 her children arise up and call her blessed her husband also and he praise of her
when you read this it's like hey what's not to praise and if you feel like oh you know i'm not
getting that much praise in my life as a wife or as a mother you know read this chapter and start
implementing these characteristics and i would just tell you right now you're going to be praised
there's not a man on this earth that does not want this type of a woman and here's the thing
if you even if your marriage is struggling if you have bitterness you guys have had fights you think
your relationship is damaged you know nothing is stopping you from being the most awesome wife that
has just ever existed and you know becoming an awesome wife and becoming a proverbs 31 woman
will only help your marriage oh he doesn't deserve it okay we'll just continue you know having a
terrible marriage then that's your that's your loss but you know what i guarantee you the type
of woman that does these things she's going to wake up one day and find her children praising her
and her husband praising her because there's not a man on planet earth that would not sign up for
this right now i mean there's like the the male loneliness epidemic right now where guys are just
so frustrated with dating and look i've preached plenty against them they've got plenty of their
own problems but let's also acknowledge that there is an issue with young ladies in society today too
that there is a lot of whores that there is a lot of just you know cheap women on every corner and
these ideas of womanhood and femininity is not really being taught as the mainstream view for
most women today but i'm here to tell you that this is god's way and that this is going to bring
the most happiness to your life it says in verse 29 many daughters have done virtuously but thou
excelest them all and so you know balance the scripture here on one hand yeah the the sleazy
woman she's on every corner and yes the virtuous woman her price is far above rubies but don't get
this idea that well she just doesn't exist anywhere oh i just can't find godly women
anywhere i mean can women even have good thoughts can women even have good ideas can women even have
you know complex thoughts i mean look what it's saying many daughters have done virtuously there
are many godly women in this world don't get so blackpilled into thinking you know i'm just on an
island here and i just have to either settle with an onlyfans whore or be an incel for the rest of
my life no dummy that's not true right and you know stop having this stupid wicked attitude where
it's like all american women are trash all western women are terrible it's like look around the
building my friend there's a bunch of independent fundamental baptist ladies that are here yeah
they're married but guess what go find one that you like who saved and bring it to church and you
know what she's got the holy spirit of god inside of her the preaching of god's word is going to
work on her heart reading the bible is going to work on her heart and you know what she's going
to grow just like you're going to grow just like you grow every day just like if you're doing the
right things you're constantly hopefully increasing in character right well guess what the same thing
happens for women i don't know if you realize this i don't know if you realize that not every
18 year old woman is just a turnkey proverbs 31 woman at 18 years old it's like show me all the
18 year old guys that are making six figures and just are really mature and have their life put
together like where are all those guys at should women be like there's no good guys whatsoever
in the world they're all terrible it's like no folks you just need to get a realistic view of
life and you need to realize that if you want a super high quality woman then you better bring
something to the table and ladies if you want a super high quality man don't think that you just
your whole life is just going to be sitting around painting your nails doing nothing no you
want to attract a high quality godly man sounds like it's a lot of work and there there is no
easy route to life there's no easy button it's like men just want this it's like where's the
button where i could make 15 dollars an hour and have the hottest woman alive who's a soul winner
and super godly like where do i find that button it's like bro the button doesn't exist you need
to work hard you need to work out you need to be normal you need to be smart you need to make money
and it's like ladies don't just think like oh i could just do whatever i want and just give my
body to all these men in my youth and when i turn 35 you know all these rich guys who have never been
married are just going to want to marry me it's like that's not how the world works but i am here
to tell you that there are many it says many daughters have done virtuously there still are
godly women that exist in this world that exist in this country that exists in this state that
exists in this city and here's the thing stop complaining about all the ones that are bad
and just find one that is good just find one and look if you're so awesome if you're such an alpha
if you're such a great leader it's like why can't you just find one then to follow you because all
you have to do is find one and you know what's not attractive to women i just feel like you guys need
to hear this this is what's not attractive to women hearing you constantly talk about how much
you hate women do you realize that women are not like ready to sign up when you're just constantly
talking about how terrible they all are and how stupid they all are and can any of them even have
complex thoughts and like are women even worth anything they're not they're not really excited
about you that's stupid folks god is not anti-woman he's anti-wicked woman just like he's anti-wicked
man but i'm just telling you this this attitude exists even among good people even among some new
ifb people i'll just be honest with you this attitude exists and you know what you need to
check your heart and you need to work on yourself and instead of just pointing all your problems on
other people you need to take accountability for your own life because that's what a man does
and look don't just sit here and like whine and complain about the situation that you're in look
start making investments in your life now and just be patient okay you're not going to change
your situation overnight but you can actually do something about it other than complain and
listen to Nick Fuentes all day which guess what he blames everything on women too Tucker Carlson
asked him a few weeks ago you know you're 28 why aren't you married yet and he's like honestly
man it's the women it's the women bro and it's like no it's not the women there are bad women
out there but the bible says here many daughters have done virtuously you go to faithful word and
steadfast and anchor and sure foundation you're going to see a lot of american women serving god
you know if you want to be a passport bro and you want to fly to a far away land in africa or the
philippines to find a wife hey that's fine there's nothing wrong with that if that's your preference
great i'm not against you but don't you know disparage american women saying oh you know
western women are all terrible you have to go to africa you have to go to the philippines that's
just not true many it says their favor is deceitful i'm sorry verse 29 many daughters have done
virtuously but thou excellest them all verse 30 favor is deceitful and beauty is vain but a woman
that feareth the lord she shall be praised you know that's an important detail there because
women just naturally they care very much about their appearance and look that's natural when
that's kept in in check there's nothing wrong with that but at the end of the day realize that beauty
is vain what does that mean it's empty it's worthless it's meaningless why because of what
i said earlier if there's a woman who's super beautiful but she's loud-mouthed she's sleazy
she's not discreet she's disobedient she's sharp-tongued she's a liberal democrat she
believes the earth is flat it's like she's no longer attractive it's like no get away from me
you'd have to be one of these you know drunken fools when your eyes start beholding strange
women for that to even your mind right no normal guy that wants a godly woman would want that type
of a person regardless of how they look but here's what's beautiful though is being a godly woman
let's go to if you would first peter chapter three first peter chapter number three it says in verse
one likewise as you're turning their first peter chapter three verse one likewise he wives be in
subjection to your own husbands that if any obey not the word they also may without the word be
won by the conversation of the wives while they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear
notice so if you're going to win over your husband it's not necessarily going to be like
by your looks alone it's with your chaste conversation coupled with fear who's adorning
let it not be that outward adorning of plating the hair and of wearing of gold or of putting
on of apparel but let it be the hidden man of the heart in that which is not corruptible
even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit which is in the sight of god of great price
what is he saying hey ladies stop caring about the outward adorning what type of clothes you're
going to wear what type of jewelry you're going to wear what type of hairstyle you're going to
get what type of makeup are you going to get hey that stuff's vain it's empty it's meaningless
the bible says don't worry about that stuff don't let that consume your heart don't let that consume
your mind but what does he say let it be the hidden man of the heart in that which is notice
not corruptible how is it that you know men they find a young beautiful girl they get married and
they're married 50 60 70 years and that woman is so beautiful to him and so treasured in his eyes
and so beloved of him and cherished of him it's not because she looks the same at 70 as she did
at 18 folks because guess what it fades it's corruptible but what's not corruptible is your
character is your virtue is the person that you are and here's the thing if you are just a beautiful
person inside well then you're going to be drop dead gorgeous in your 20s 30s 40s 50s 60s 70s 80s
all the way i mean you think about sarah she actually had both going on for her she was
beautiful even in her old age where the men we know when abraham was saying hey this is my sister
and they almost took her even in her old age but here's the thing more than that the bible is
highlighting her inside the inside man because notice what it says in verse five for after this
manner in old time the holy women also who trusted in god adorn themselves being in subjection unto
their own husbands even as sarah obeyed abraham calling him lord whose daughters he are as long
as he do well and are not afraid with any amazement so though in the old testament the bible does bring
up the fact that sarah was absolutely beautiful physically in the new testament when it's relaying
who she was as a person what is the bible highlighting is that she was a humble meek quiet
godly person who was in subjection to her own husband calling him lord that's what made sarah
beautiful and you know what when wife calls you sir she's gorgeous you know so keep that inner man
pure and virtuous and you'll always have that beauty let's finish in proverbs 31 proverbs 31
last verse here it says verse 31 give her of the fruit of her hands and let her own works
praise her in the gates hey you know when you have a godly woman by your side when there's a
virtuous woman doing all these great things for you it's only natural that you're going to give
her of the fruit of her hands it's only natural I mean you want all the blessings from your husband
and the attention and the praise and the gifts whatever your love language is he's going to give
it to you when you're like this you're going to get the fruit of your hands and it says hey let
her own works praise her in the gates yeah you know you've got beauty when you're young but that
is fleeting it's corruptible but you know you always are going to be praised for the works that
you do you're always going to be able to carry that throughout whatever decade of life you enter
into when you keep up the good works when you do him good all the days of your life man he's just
always going to be thankful always going to be praising you and you know i just want to close
on this those of us who are married look many of us have the proverbs 31 woman many of us have
the woman who is just working really hard at home raising kids and putting a lot of herself and her
time effort and energy into her family realize that her job and her work is not always highlighted
and showcased for everyone to see you know it's our job as men to love our wives to cherish our
wives and though other people may not see it you know we need to show appreciation we need to show
love you know i don't want my wife being an influencer where it's like hey you know here's
my vlog of me doing the laundry here's my vlog of me getting the chicken eggs but you know what i
see those things i appreciate those things and i want to the best of my ability giver of the fruit
of our hands you know let us as husbands be thankful if we have women like this in our lives
let's pray lord thank you so much for proverbs 31 and just for the entire book of proverbs thank
you for the truths that you've revealed to us throughout this study i pray that we would just
keep reading this book over and over throughout our lives and that you just reveal more and more to
us help us to apply these things to our lives and i pray that you'd bless our next bible study in
jesus name we pray amen that will go ahead and sing one last song to conclude the service if you
would at this time take your hymnals and turn to hymn number 296 follow on hymn number 296
and start there right on the first down in the valley with my savior i would go where the flowers
are blooming and the sweet waters flow everywhere he leads me i would follow follow walking in his
footsteps till the crowd be one for jesus anywhere where i would follow all