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Good evening everyone and welcome to set fast Baptist church if you can all
find your seats we'll go ahead and get started thank you all for coming to the
Hope you're all ready for some face-ripping preaching.
We're gonna start this evening off in song number 140.
Song number 140, we have an anchor.
Song number 140.
Go ahead and bow our heads for a word of prayer.
Heavenly Father, we thank you for this day.
We thank you for this church.
We thank you for everyone that's gathered here
to fellowship, Lord.
We ask that you feel Pastor Oz, with your Holy Spirit,
helping to preach an edifying sermon unto us.
Help us all learn something and apply everything
that we hear to our lives so we can walk out
better Christians in the way that we came in
for your honor and glory.
It's in Jesus' name we pray.
Amen.
All right, next up we have song number 406.
Song 406
Who is on the Lord's side let's make sure we all know who is on the Lord's side tonight
We're coming to Steadfast Baptist Church
for our FBBF conference.
If you didn't already get a bulletin
and you would like one, just lift up your hand nice and high
and whatever ushers can come by and get you guys a bulletin.
I'm gonna be trying to go over a lot of announcements
this evening.
Thank you so much to Pastor Russell
who preached for us last night.
And we're looking forward to having Pastor Oz back with us
to preach for us.
Let's give him a round of applause
for the work that he's been doing.
Yeah.
I wanted to do that because you're still our friend after six weeks and so of ordination
and it's an impressive milestone that he's accomplished and so we appreciate his fellowship
and his faithfulness and we appreciate him coming down here and the work that he's doing
up in Oklahoma City.
In fact, I'm going to make an announcement about an event that they're going to be hosting,
but we're also excited to have other guests, Pastor and Thompson.
He's going to be preaching Sunday morning, and then Pastor Steven Anderson is actually
preaching tomorrow night at 6 p.m. again, so it's going to be the same service time.
So if you can come back out for that, that will be great.
On the inside, we do have a QR code at the top, and that's for a WhatsApp group where
for the different events and different updates.
Specifically, one of those is going to be the pickleball tournament.
And so, if you did sign up for that and you are planning on participating,
any updates or just information about that is going to be constantly posted in this particular group.
So, and we've already posted several different things in there.
I'm going to give just a couple brief announcements about the pickleball tournament. I'm going to wait.
I'll just do it now, and then we'll kind of go through the rest of our announcements.
Um, as far as, as far as the pickleball tournament,
um, Brother Ben Naim right here, Ben the Baptist,
is going to be helping lead our pickleball tournament,
and so he's kind of going to be the main guy in charge.
But he himself is also participating in the events,
so he's going to also have a few people helping him.
Uh, both of our plant brothers are going to be helping him,
and Brother Brandon and Brother Brent.
questions about anything while you're there or at the event.
You can ask these guys and they can try to help you get those answers.
We're not going to necessarily be able to explain everything to everyone.
We're testing your reading comprehension with this tournament, okay?
And so, we did put on the website,
if you go to sbckjv.com, our main website.
Just on the front page, there's a link.
whether you can just do slash pickleball.
And if you go there, it has the entire schedule,
and it also has all the different brackets
that were created.
Every single division,
whether that's the mixed men's, women's, or teens is going to be a double elimination tournament.
What that means is you have to lose twice to be eliminated from the event.
So that gives everybody a guaranteed two matches for each division that they signed up for.
And this particular tournament bracket system,
It's like 88 games that we have scheduled so this is a really intense event
I guess you guys are excited about this. All right
But because of that we're gonna have to run a really tight ship
So that means that we you know
We have things blocked and scheduled and you're gonna have to be at the scheduled place at the scheduled time
To participate in those rounds and we need you to get your matches in
on time so that we can keep everything rolling.
That being said, if you will come to your match more than two minutes late, you will
be forfeiting that particular match.
So in anticipation, you probably need to come to your matches early and be ready.
Additionally, because of the match schedule being so tight, we may occasionally, if people
are already ready, move matches slightly or adjust accordingly.
All of you are kind of like participating in multiple divisions, whether they be men's, and mixed, or men's, and mixed.
It's always possible there could be a scheduling conflict, and I kind of highlighted that on the schedule with colors.
So some people are already noticing, hey, this match might have a conflict.
because it has a color mismatch, and that's true.
So we're going to just try and work around those as best
as we can, so you might have to be flexible with us.
But our tournament schedulers are going
to be helping make those adjustments
and getting those matches in.
There is prizes, so we have some custom pickleball paddles
that were made with the new IFB fan logos on them.
And we're giving some gift cards out
to those who place in our tournaments.
But really, at the end of the day,
while it is a competition, and while I'm
going to take it dead serious.
We are gonna have fun. Okay, and so I really encourage everybody to try to have a good attitude
Be friendly be good competitors
You know and so don't don't try to be mean if if someone calls the ball out
Try to you know, just say it under your breath or something, you know, just just be just be gracious about it
Let's not be bad sports.
Obviously, we're representing our church out there,
and so we want to seem really positive.
What's your question?
Yeah, obviously, the schedule is just an allotment of time,
so we're going to allow matches to end.
Matches will finish their game, but we're just...
Obviously, also matches could end a little early,
and we're going to just try to put people on the court right when it's available.
I'm going to give a few more instructions about how the matches go.
I'm not going to give all the instructions, though.
There is a rule sheet in the group chat.
You can read the rules about how they're going to go.
Virtually every single match is just going to be one single...
So it's going to be one game, the first team to 11.
You do have to win by two so in the event that it's 11 10
You would have to win another point to be 12 10 and unfortunately that can go
You can keep going for a while in the way the game is scored
But it is only one game in each match
The only exception is our absolute final is going to be a best two out of three
But every other single game is going to be a just one game match
Because it's a double elimination, there is one hypothetical.
If the loser's bracket team wins the best 2 out of 3,
then there's an actual hypothetical match that comes after that.
That's not going to be a best 2 out of 3.
That's just going to be a sudden death one last game to decide who's the winner.
So those instructions probably don't matter for most of you
because you're not going to make it to the final, so don't worry about it.
Someone's gonna come up to me and they're gonna be like worried about the final and it's like bro
You're not making it. So just don't even worry about that, you know, people are just so worried about stuff that never affects them
It's like, you know, just just figure out where you need to go for your one match and just be there, right?
We're not providing any paddles, we are providing the balls for the tournament, it's the same
balls for everybody so everybody has to use the exact same ball, but you do have to either
bring your own paddle, borrow a paddle from somebody that wants to let you use it or something
so you need to have a paddle.
That's pretty much all you have to do.
I would say because our event's starting at 10 tonight,
do not show up at 10 if your game is at 10.
You know, people that are having those early games
probably need to show up around 9.30, 9.40,
and already know exactly where they're going,
and be ready so that when the clock strikes 10,
they can start their match.
Matches get a one-minute optional warm-up
if both parties want to do that.
If not, they're just going to start their game.
As far as who serves first,
That's just going to be who's at the top of each match on the bracket schedule.
So if you're the top name in that particular game, y'all serve first.
And that's just going to how it is is going to be for every single match.
So that's just for simplicity's sake.
Even in the best two out of three, we, you know, we're going to keep that particular statute.
If you have other questions, and you probably do, read our rules sheet before you even think about asking that question.
Read also our updates in the chat.
But again, it's a lot of moving pieces, 88 matches, a lot of y'all are trying to compete.
We're really excited about it. We want to have a lot of fun.
Ask Brother Ben, ask one of our scheduling guys, whoever's got the clipboard.
They're going to be marking on a piece of paper all the results.
And then if you have a question while you're there, you're going to have to ask them about when the next match or the next event's going to be.
But you can follow the chart yourself.
You can look at the schedule, you can see where you're at in the bracket no matter what, and you can figure it out.
You just have to think a little bit.
So we're challenging you with that.
But I will update the brackets, hopefully, every night
and repost them online so people can kind of see
the final results and the tally so they can understand.
But the matches are already scheduled.
They're on there.
We're going to do our best to get them in.
Please help us with that.
Please be understanding.
If Ben or one of our tournament schedulers says,
hey, you forfeit, you forfeit.
There's no exceptions.
pass some rule.
I'm going to stand with them and their judgment.
The games are going to be self-called and self-regulated,
though, so we're not going to have referees.
You can't call me or Ben in and say, like, hey,
I think this was out or in or whatever.
You know, basically, you read the rules again.
The person closest to the ball is pretty much calling it
for their particular game, and that's just
how it's going to go.
I've participated in a few events like this.
It's usually pretty friendly.
Figure it out if you're having a bad attitude and breaking your paddle then just you know go to the non-denom church or something
Or I don't we don't we don't want you so I just wanted to give those quick announces
There's something I didn't bring up about the pickleball bin that I need to say real quick
He's gonna bring some waters, but I think they have a concession stand. You can buy some stuff
There's a lot of restaurants open near where we're playing pickleball
So you can probably eat out and and fellowship in that area till the late in hours
That's why we got this thing on the back just as a friendly reminder
If you're not participating in the pickleball tournament and you just want to go out there and watch you're welcome to watch
Spectators can be there. Just try to stay off the court. Obviously for those of you bringing your kids
Keep them off the court
Don't allow them to just run around or ruin games or cause problems or cause disasters or whatever
Obviously, you know a lot of parents are participating. We don't want to discourage you, but please please be respectful
Please watch your kids so that I don't scream at them. Okay, and that'll make everyone uncomfortable
That's pretty much it for the pickleball. I'm really excited about this. It's first time we've ever done something like this
uh... again the goal is just for us to have some fun so please please try
to just have some fun
you get at least two matches
and so i hope you guys really enjoy it
Other announcements our welcome center if you haven't been there, maybe tomorrow night go buy get a t-shirt some of our
Cool different items that we have stickers bracelets things like that our new IB fan zone
We have out here and we did last night is a really cool backdrop
We can take some pictures and kind of hang out, but we're anticipating a lot of rain
that might come through here during the service.
So we've decided to just out of abundance of caution,
just close it down for tonight.
So tonight, we're not going to, we're
going to tear all that down and just get it out of the way
so that way it doesn't have any rain damage.
So we're not going to offer that tonight, I apologize.
But we should have that again tomorrow night.
So hopefully, if you haven't taken those pictures or whatever,
you're forced to stay with us another night just
to get that picture, all right?
Upcoming events. In our Bullets Inn, I have listed a couple of events, but there's a few events that are prior to these
that some of my friends brought up to me.
Pastor Dylan Oz of Anchor Baptist Church is hosting on September 6th.
So this is September 6th. It's pretty soon, an Ardmore Oklahoma soul-winning marathon.
We've actually been there before, and so it's a great opportunity to go.
It's about an hour and a half north of us.
It's about an hour and a half south of them,
so it's pretty much right in the middle of DFW in Oklahoma City as far as the drive.
If you'd like to participate, September 6th,
should they email you if they're planning on going?
Email Anchor Baptist Church.
Also, Boise, Idaho, is going to have a soul in the marathon, September 12th and 13th.
along with a preaching event.
Pastor Aaron Thompson is going to be preaching there.
Also, Pastor Corbin Russell.
Also, Pastor Steven Anderson.
It's basically everybody but me from this conference,
and so I got the message.
Yeah. No, I'm just kidding.
But I'm just messing with him, but no Boise, Idaho. If you want to go out there, it's a really nice area
September 27th, we're having a Texas so many marathon in Tyler. It's just an hour east of us
We have our Bahamas missions trip October 6th through 11th, and then of course Pastor Bruce Mejia wishes that he could be here
He's really missing out, but he's gonna come out and join us October 19th and
The only reason he couldn't come is just because his wife was expecting this week.
I don't know if that's even when that's going to happen.
I guess she could have the baby or have had the baby.
I don't know.
I need to follow up on that.
But they are expecting prey for them.
And if you want to hear him preach, you can come here October 19th and hear him preach
for us both services.
That's going to be a lot of fun.
If you did use the valet and you're sticking around too, you know, for a long time,
they may end up already bringing your car back and they'll just hunt you down and give you your key.
Just as a friendly thing.
If you have any questions or need help, all of our maroon jackets are our ushers.
You can see them.
They would love to help you.
Our conference schedule tomorrow,
we have a family friendly activity, it's 11 a.m.
And it's the address is not listed,
but the description's there, it's pretty easy
if you just plug that into your Google,
you should be able to find it.
We have a singles event at,
right after Word.
And I want to double check on the time there,
because I think it's 12, but it could be 1.
I'll follow up in the group.
I'm kind of curious, who's participating in our singles event tomorrow
just so I can have a decent head count?
I want to make sure we have it planned.
Yeah, we should be totally good. So it's gonna be a lot of fun activities and events that we're gonna have so look forward to you
Guys participating soul winning here at the building three to five
Pastor Anderson is preaching at six. There is a broom ball event gonna be happening Friday night
Then we also have the pickleball tournament continuing Friday night and Saturday night Saturday is our spelling bee 9 to 11
Soul winning we also have a cookout
And again, this is subject to it not raining, but we will definitely update everybody in
our group app. So if you want to do that, I'm Sunday morning.
We have a Spanish service, 9 AM. You're going to want to come out and hear Brother Diego.
He's a great preacher. The entire service is in Spanish. So all the singing, all the announcements,
all of the preaching is going to be in Spanish. So if you would like to participate,
we'd love to have you out for that service. Pastor Aaron Thompson is going to be preaching for us
10.30 AM. So you want to come here and hear that Sunday morning,
and then I'll be preaching the evening service for all you guys that just can't seem to want to leave.
So that's pretty much all that we have.
as far as announcements.
Thank you so much for being here.
On the back is a list of just some recommendations
if you want to of restaurants.
I'm not necessarily recommending them, I guess.
These are options that are available and the times
that they close, because some of these, I don't even,
I would never eat there.
So, but.
I'm not y'all. So we'll go ahead and sing our third song of the evening Psalm 100 and 19
Psalm 119 it's in our special Psalm and hymn binders
So if you see one of those black binders in front of you or you could even use the Bible, but
It's just an excerpt from Psalm 119
Psalm 119. I know all the kiddos out here really love this one so I want you
guys to sing out really loud, okay? Alright, Psalm 119.
are going around would you please turn your Bibles through Proverbs 31 Proverbs chapter number 31
31 the Bible reads the words of King Lemuel the prophecy that his mother taught him what my son
and what the son of my womb and what the son of my vows give not thy strength unto women nor thy
ways to that which destroyeth kings it is not for kings O Lemuel it is not for kings to drink wine
nor for princes strong drink lest they drink and forget the law and pervert the judgment of any
Give strong drink unto him that is ready to perish, and whine unto those that be of heavy hearts.
Let him drink, and forget his poverty, and remember his misery no more.
Open thy mouth for the dumb, and the cause of all such as are appointed to destruction.
Open thy mouth judge righteously, and plead the cause of the poor and needy.
who can find a virtuous woman for her price as far above rubies.
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her
so that he shall have no need of spoil.
She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
She seeketh wool and flax and worketh willingly with her hands.
She is like the merchant's ships.
She bringeth her food from afar.
She riseth also, while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household and a portion to her maidens.
She considereth a field, and byeth it. With the fruit of her hands, she planted the vineyard.
She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengthenedeth her arms.
She perceiveth that her merchandise is good. Her candle goeth not out by night.
She layeth her hands to the spindle,
let her hands hold the disc staff.
She stretcheth out her hand to the poor,
yea, she reaches forth her hands to the needy.
She is not afraid of the snow for her household,
for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
She maketh herself coverings of tapestry,
her clothing is silk and purple.
Her husband is known in the gates
when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
She make it fine linen and selleth it and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
Strength and honor are her clothing, and she shall rejoice in time to come.
She openeth her mouth with wisdom, and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Her children arise up and call her blessed.
Her husband also, and he praises her.
Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her own works praise her in the gates."
Let's bow our heads for a word of prayer.
Father in heaven, we thank you for this conference and for Pastor Ross and his family.
I pray, Lord God, that you give him the fullness and power of the Holy Spirit as he preaches to us,
Pay close attention to this message and apply it to our lives and glorify you better in everything we do.
We love you and in Jesus' name I pray. Amen.
Amen. Well, it's so good to be back here at my sending church,
Steadfast Baptist Church.
And like Pastor Shelly said, you know, we're still friends.
I've been away for over a year,
which is kind of shocking to me that it's been over a year.
But you know, praise Lord, we're still friends.
And you know what, we're not just friends.
I'm actually a fan, believe it or not,
of Steadfast Baptist Church.
I'm a fan of the new IFB.
And in fact, the name of my church is Anker Baptist Church,
which comes from Hebrew six, which hope we have.
as an anchor of the soul, both sure and steadfast.
And so I got my father-in-law here, Pastor Thompson.
I love Sure Foundation Baptist Church
and Steadfast Baptist Church,
so it's a very great honor to be here.
Thank you, Pastor Shelley, for inviting me
and for all the great hospitality.
But before we get into the message this evening,
we're gonna do a little bit of Bible trivia.
I've got some prizes here.
This is some Anchor Baptist Church swag.
It's the Anchor SWAT team patch.
And someone came up to me yesterday, they're like,
oh, I thought your SWAT team
is just what you called soul winning.
No, so we have a soul winning program,
then we have an additional program
that I call our SWAT team.
It stands for soul winning action team.
And basically what we do is whenever there's a murder
or a house fire or tornado or some sort of tragedy
in our city, we just immediately send soul winners
to that area.
Because oftentimes death and tragedy
could push people one of two ways.
It could either unfortunately make them hardened
to the things of God, but for a lot of people
it makes them very receptive.
So a few weeks ago, we went out to the scene of a homicide.
A homicide had taken place at this apartment complex
a few days before, and I get out of the truck
and this woman's like, you guys don't look like you belong here.
And I'm like, why is that?
And she goes, on second thought, maybe you guys
should be here more often because my boyfriend was just
murdered.
And I'm just thinking, you're exactly why I came here.
And we know we were able to talk to her and help her,
and she got saved, praise the Lord.
So I love this program.
Those of you who are soul winners,
maybe your church could start something like this
with your pastor's permission, of course.
We just paid attention to the news releases
of our police department.
We send soul winners there.
So if anyone wants a patch, we've got some Bible trivia.
I asked evangelist Fer to help me.
He's going to look to see who shoots up their hand first.
And whoever he says, that's just what goes, okay?
I'm taking the responsibility off myself on that one.
But here's the rules, it has to come from your brain.
You can't look in your Bible.
If no one gets it, maybe I'll let people look in their Bible.
But it has to come from your brain.
So we're gonna go ahead and go with the first one here.
We're gonna start off kind of hard.
Okay, now raise your hand if you know this.
Don't shout it out, wait to be called on.
You can't look in your Bible.
Name one of the sons of the prophet Isaiah.
Give me a name.
All right, you call it out brother Fur.
Now, I didn't need my Bible for that because I'm constantly trying to convince Brother
Ben to name one of his future sons, Mahershalal HaShbaz.
Just sounds so Middle Eastern, so great job, Brother Moses.
Here comes the next one.
What church in the book of Revelation does Jesus threaten to remove the candlestick
Yeah, you already have one someone who doesn't have one
No
That's right, would you give that to her good job all right
Okay
Next one. No looking in your Bibles.
From which town did Jesus ride from into Jerusalem
during the triumphal entry?
From which town?
Nope.
Bethany. That's right.
The name of my daughter, Bethany.
Very good.
All right, here we go name three kings who drove out the sodomites out of the land or
Broke down the houses of the sodomites you got to get all three
Someone fact-checked Manasseh because I don't have I don't have that one on there. I don't think it is Manasseh. Yeah
Great job. Great job. Come on up. Come get your prize
All right, we got two more two more
All right two more here
You guys should know this one. What is the name of the mountain on which Solomon's temple was built?
Mount Mariah. There we go. I'll catch the next temple, right?
All right.
Last one. Which political figure threatened to kill Elijah?
That's right, Jezebel. Good job. Great job.
So speaking of Jezebel, Proverbs 31, let's read verse number 10.
The Bible says, who can find a virtuous woman?
for her price is far above rubies.
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her
so that he shall have no need of spoil.
She will do him good and not evil
all the days of her life."
Right off the bat, one of the things I wanna dispel
by looking at these verses is the fact
that the Bible is not some sort of anti-woman book.
The Bible is not some sort of book that just hates women,
that's down on women.
You know, people who have this mentality,
they're not getting this from the Bible.
But here is the truth, is that God exalts and loves
and promotes godly women.
And godly women are not just on every street corner.
The strange woman is on every street corner when you read Proverbs.
But Proverbs 31, it's kind of saying, hey, who could find a virtuous woman?
But here's the thing, once you found her, her price is far above rubies.
It doesn't seem like God's devaluing women.
God's actually saying her price is far above rubies.
Now, I know nothing about rubies or the price of rubies.
I'm not in the market for that.
I probably never will be.
But I just did a quick Google search,
trying to find out what do rubies go for these days.
I found this website and it has a quadruple A rating,
so A, A, A, A rating of a 3.87 carat ruby
and it's on sale right now.
It's smaller than a dime.
So it's on sale if any of you ladies
want to ask your husbands after the service.
It's on sale for $191,000.
Here's the thing, the Bible says that the virtuous woman,
her price is far above rubies.
And think about, I mean, this is a lot of money, $191,000.
Well, a virtuous woman, her price is far above that.
Many men would do a lot of crazy things to get a virtuous woman nowadays a lot of men are struggling in this area
And hey, you know, it's not it the Bible is not some sort of anti-woman book
Christianity is not an anti-woman religion look at verse 28 her children arise up and call her blessed
Her husband also, and he prays with her.
So not only does God value godly women and exalt them very highly,
those who have godly women, we praise them as well.
Children of godly moms praise their mom, love their mom.
Husbands of godly ladies praise and love their wives.
And you know what, if you've got a godly wife today,
you ought to praise her and you ought to praise God for that.
You ought to thank God for that, and we ought not to have this woman-hating mentality where
just by default, we're just down on all type of women.
But here's the thing, God is not pro-all women.
Here's the thing, the Bible is not just some intrinsically pro-man book, no, the Bible
is pro-righteousness and anti-wickedness.
Ecclesiastes chapter number seven, think about how the Bible just described a virtuous woman,
how much worth she has, how much people are praising her.
By contrast, look at Ecclesiastes 7 verse 26, and I find more bitter than death.
The woman whose heart is snares and nets and her hands as bands
Who so please if God shall escape from her but the sinner shall be taken by her so notice
It's not like God is just like pro all women and it's not like he's pro all men or something like that
No, he's pro righteous godly virtuous women there to be praised there to be valued there to be appreciated
but on the other hand
A wicked woman, you know what, the author here is saying like,
I'd rather die.
I find better than death.
The woman whose heart is snares and bans.
You know, who's so pleased if God shall escape from her?
You know, that's pretty extreme language
that the Bible would give towards a wicked woman.
And here is the truth today,
is that there is a major attack on women
from the devil today.
The devil does not want you.
to be the Proverbs 31 woman.
He does not want you to have the mindset
and the philosophy and the behaviors
that would lead to you being praised by your husband,
praised by your children.
He wants you to go the way of this world,
which is feminism.
And you know what?
Feminists are detestable women that no one wants.
And if you have a feminist, your life is hell
and you might even get to the place
where you would rather die than be with her.
But if you have a godly woman,
You're praising her.
She's more valuable to you than rubies.
You know, the devil wants you to be a feminist today,
and unfortunately...
Many Christians have been brainwashed because of the wicked society that we live in into
adopting many feminist ideas, behaviors, values that you may not even realize is feminist
just because we've grown up in this wicked country, this wicked area, but boy oh boy,
are there some Christians today infected with feminism.
And you know, if you're already getting uncomfortable, let me just tell you, this sermon is for you.
This sermon is for you and it's funny the ladies that just hate these types of sermons are the exact type of ladies
Oftentimes that Ecclesiastes 7 is talking about and the ones who need it the most in their marriages
Let me tell you this we've seen
Feminism feminist ideologies feminist false doctrines even creep into the new IFB now the ex-new IFB
Never would I have thought that the new IFB would split over doctrines of authority
over doctrines of feminism, but guess what?
There's a lot of Christian feminists today.
And that's the title of my sermon, Christian feminists.
You do not want to be a Christian feminist.
We're going to go over some attributes here.
Before we do that, go to Romans chapter 12.
Romans chapter number 12.
Romans chapter number 12, when you get there, look at verse number 1.
I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies
a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.
And be not conformed to this world, but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind,
that ye may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.
What is the Bible teaching here?
We in our flesh do not just by default have all of the same opinions and values and thoughts that God has.
And so because of that, we have to constantly go to the Bible and do this thing called renew our mind.
Because constantly we're getting worldly influence, worldly philosophies coming into our hearts
that can turn away your heart, that can trick you, that can make you think something's good,
but really it goes against what the Bible says.
This is why it's so important that Christians read their Bible every single day, because
you know what?
Your mind is foolish.
My mind is foolish.
Our flesh is weak, prideful.
We think that our own thoughts are great, our own ideas are great, but you know what
we have to do is renew our mind with the Bible.
So let's talk about several characteristics this evening that I would say make you a Christian
feminist or at least acting like a Christian feminist.
Number one, if you back talk your husband, you are acting like a feminist.
And it doesn't matter how many TV shows you've seen where the woman could just blab off to her husband,
rebuke her husband, back talk to her husband, that doesn't make it right according to God.
Look at what Genesis chapter 3 verse 16 says,
Notice that the husband is called something, he is the ruler.
You know what that means?
He's in charge.
He's the boss.
He is over you.
And today many people believe in this 50-50 type marriage where we kind of just, you know,
submit to each other like that is even possible.
It's not possible.
The Bible says that he is the ruler.
You know what that means?
When your husband tells you to do something, you must do it.
Now, today, the feminists and even the Christian feminists,
when they preach on this topic, it seems like they always want to just talk about the exceptions.
It's just like, exception Baptist church.
Well, what if your husband goes and tells you to commit murder?
Okay, raise your hand if your husband's ever asked you to commit murder.
No one interesting. Well, what if my husband, you know tells me to start an only fans never happened
What if he tells me to be a stripper never happened?
That's ridiculous. It's just a bunch of strawmans
The truth is that the husband is the ruler the husband is in charge look at verse 17
And unto Adam he said because thou hast harkened unto the voice of thy wife
and hast eaten of the tree of which I commanded thee, saying, Thou shalt not eat of it.
Cursed is the ground for thy sake, and sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life."
Notice God is angry at Adam for hearkening to the voice of his wife.
Why? Because Adam is in charge.
And if his wife wants to do something that's wrong, it's up to him to say no.
But today what often times happens in marriage and in even Christian marriages is the husband will say something
Hey, we're doing this. We're going here
We're going down this path in life and instead of the wife just blatantly saying no
We're not gonna do that because they know the Bible says that they should obey
You know what they do? They'll just like negotiate with you for forever
They'll just constantly back talk forever and back talk and back talk and back talk until you get so tired of it
and you're just worn down so much
that you just kind of give in to your wife.
You kind of just give in to her
and you allow her to be in charge.
Look, that's wicked.
That's wrong.
You are the ruler.
And when the man says no,
when the husband says no, it's over.
It's done.
You know, so one of the things I liked,
I've heard Pastor Shelly say many times,
is I believe he said it was in a workplace
that you get one but sir and then it's a yes sir.
It's like, hey, you know, honey, have you considered this thing that's going on?
And your husband can take that into account, and he could decide to change his opinion
if he wants.
But after that, and he says, no, this conversation's over, we're done talking about this.
I'm making a decision you must obey.
And if you just keep fighting, keep back talking,
keep trying to convince him you're acting like a feminist.
You need to just obey your husband.
You need to let him be the ruler
and stop trying to just wear him down
by annoying him to death, by nagging him to death.
That's not being submissive.
You know, I don't go to work and my boss tells me something and if it's something I disagree with
I don't just sit there and constantly like, but come on, but come on. Do you even love me? Do you even like me?
What's going on? I just do it
Even if I don't like it. This is called life
This is called life and you know what us men we live in the real world and we live real life and we obey our authorities
But just some ladies today, you know, you've just done nothing but watch Netflix and scroll
TikTok and listen to all this feminist crap that's made you think you're in charge of
your husband.
Guess what, honey?
You're not.
And you know what?
Some of you men need to stop being so weak and just allowing your wife to nag you out
of making a decision.
Stop being so weak to where, oh, my wife's mad at me, therefore I cower.
Let her be mad at you.
You know, let me just tell you that contrary to the presentation that a lot of old IFB
pastors will give you, acting like their marriage is so perfect, and their wife would never
do anything wrong and they would never disobey.
Let me tell you, reality is that we are all sinners.
that I make mistakes, my wife makes mistakes. There are going to be times in
your marriage as a man that you are going to have to just shut down her bad
decision, her bad ideas, and just make the decision. And if she's mad at you,
let her be mad at you. Don't back off. Don't be like, well, she's mad at me so I
mean, I have to do anything to keep her from being mad at me. Well, be mad at me
then. And by the way, I don't sleep on the couch when my wife is mad at me.
You know if anything I might cheer her up afterwards all right. I'm not gonna let that happen
Go to Ephesians chapter number five Ephesians chapter number five you say well
I don't like the the employer employee
Example because my bought my husband's not my employer my husband's not my boss
Well, he is your boss okay
Well, guess what the Bible actually gives a bigger more strict example look at Ephesians chapter 5 verse 21
Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
This is just talking about how, hey, we all have different authorities in life that we submit to sometimes.
Men go to work, they obey their boss.
Ladies, what does the Bible say for you, verse 22?
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands.
Notice, does this say, like your boss at work?
No, it says, submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord.
as unto God, as unto the Lord Jesus Christ.
For the husband is the head of the wife,
even as Christ is the head of the church,
and he is the savior of the body.
Therefore, as the church is subject unto Christ,
so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
Oh, you don't like the employer-employee analogy?
Okay, well, how about the God analogy?
You know, instead of looking at your husband's commands,
like the commands of your boss at work,
why don't you just look at his commands as the words of God,
as the commands of God,
and that if your husband tells you to do something,
God backs up his authority,
and you should obey him like you would obey God.
Because guess what?
A husband has God-given authority.
God given authority, and you know, it's like, hey, like the church is supposed to be subject
unto Christ, that's the same way that wives should be to their own husbands in everything.
How would you like a pastor?
How would you like a liberated feminist pastor today that saw something in the Word of God
and says, well, God, I think you're mean, well, God, I don't like your opinion, well, God,
have you considered, well, God, what about this?
Come on, God, come on, how would you like to follow a pastor that constantly does that
Or don't you just want a pastor that just says like,
Jesus Christ said it and we're doing it.
Jesus Christ said it and we're obeying.
And let me be honest, as a Christian,
especially the first several times reading through the Bible,
in your mind, you're not going to naturally just understand
and even possibly agree with everything in the Bible.
We have to renew our minds and submit to Jesus Christ,
to submit to his ideas, his values, his commandments,
and not just trust in our own heart.
Trust in the Lord with all of our heart.
Keep your place there in Ephesians.
Go to 1 Timothy chapter number two.
1 Timothy chapter number two.
You know, when it comes to the church, Jesus knows best.
You want to know why?
Because he's in charge.
Jesus knows what's best for this church.
He gave us what's best for this church.
And you know what?
In your home, your husband knows best.
Your husband knows best you don't know best your husband knows best look at 1st Timothy 2 verse 11
Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection
But I suffer not a woman to teach nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence
You know, that's a verse a woman pastor will never read
Why for Adam was first formed then Eve and Adam was not deceived
But the woman being deceived was in the transgression.
Look, God just did not create wives to be the decision makers in the home.
or at least to be the final decision makers.
Obviously, when you're there with the kids,
you're ruling those kids.
You're in charge of those kids.
But when dad is home, he is the final, say so.
He is the final decision maker.
Why?
Adam was not deceived.
Eve was deceived.
Now, Adam was weak because he gave into his wife's wishes
and his wife's demands,
but there's a lot of times in your life
where you come to a crossroads,
you're going a certain way as a family,
you're coming to a decision,
and the husband knows what's best.
The husband knows what's right.
But you know what, his wife wants to go a different direction
and he allows himself to be gently led down that wrong road.
Down that bad philosophy.
You know, it's just crazy to me how the new IFB split over feminism.
Over the man's authority in the home.
When these verses could not be more clear in your Bible today.
And here's the thing, all the Proverbs 31 women
who are listening to this sermon right now, they're loving this.
It's only the feminist ladies that are upset right now.
So you could just you could just know your own heart right now like am I already offended then you're acting like a Christian feminist
And you know what you need to do you need to renew your mind
And realize that your husband loves you and your husband knows what's best and God has given him authority
And when he tells you to do something you say yes, sir
You do it immediately you obey
Go to back to Ephesians 5 and you say as a lady will that sound scary? Yeah, be careful who you marry
You know we ought to we ought to warn young people and say hey marriage is a big deal
It's a lifelong commitment, and I don't fault young ladies for being picky young ladies
I hope you're very picky
I hope you're very picky, because here's the thing, as a man, I could lead my wife any
direction I want, because I'm in charge.
But as a lady, you have to submit.
You have to obey.
This person, you have to trust this person to take you down the right path for the rest
of your life.
So maybe you shouldn't just be so interested in the bad boy and whatever you're into in
the flesh.
You know what you should do is care about a guy who's spiritual, who's reading his
Bible, who's going soul-winning, who's not leaving church over feminism.
You know, that's not the guy you want to marry.
Go to Ephesians chapter number five verse 31 number two we talked about back-talking number two if you
Disrespect your husband you're acting like a feminist
You disrespect him you're acting like a feminist look at Ephesians five verse 31 for this cause
Shall a man leave his father and mother and shall be joined unto his wife and they too shall be one flesh
This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church
Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife, even has himself, and the
wife see that she noticed reverence her husband.
What does it mean to reverence someone?
Basically, just take the word respect and crank that thing up to 10.
That's what reverence is. It's very high level of respect.
Hebrews 12 talks about how we should serve God with fear and reverence.
We should have reverence for God.
We should have high respect for the house of God when we come in here.
We should be paying attention to the words of God,
receiving the preaching from the pastor.
Why? Because we have reverence for God.
Well, the Bible says, hey, wives, you know what you should do?
You should reverence your husband, meaning you should respect him very highly.
What is some ways that ladies mess up in this area?
Okay, don't talk crap about your husband to other people.
Just never talk crap about your husband for any reason to anyone.
Because you're not reverencing your husband when you do that.
Don't go to your in-laws. Don't go don't call up your mom and dad and start talking crap about your husband
You know what? He's your husband reverence him
Respect him. Don't do this kind of stuff. How about this? Don't disrespect your husband by acting like a complete idiot online
You know, it's it's not always that women are blatantly disrespecting their husbands with their mouth saying like my husband sucks
My husband's not a good provider. My husband's lazy. He's not spiritual even if those things were true never say those things
But sometimes ladies are disrespecting their husbands by being complete loud mouth obnoxious jerks online
Where everyone's just like so embarrassed for this man that he has this absolute witch of a woman as a wife
And it's just so embarrassing.
You know, the Bible talks about in Proverbs 31
that her husband is known in the gates.
The virtuous woman, her husband is known.
Here's what's scary.
Here's how you know you've got a feminist wife
is when the wife is known.
And you're like, oh, you're the husband of Mrs. So-and-So.
Oh, gotcha, that's a feminist.
I mean, think about Kamala Harris.
Who can tell me Kamala Harris's husband's name right now?
Oh, weird. No one.
I mean, how embarrassing.
Oh, you're the husband of Kamala Harris.
That's really embarrassing.
Well, like, if you've got this online reputation where it's like the woman is known,
everyone knows this woman's name, everyone sees her blowing her mouth off,
everyone sees her, you know, rebuking passers-online and being a loudmouth,
but no one even knows who the husband is.
That's disrespecting your husband by being such a loud-mouth brat.
You know, I thank God that my wife does not go around doing that kind of stuff
because I would just lose my mind.
It would just be so disrespectful to me if my wife went online and was acting a fool like that.
That would be disrespecting me.
You ought to care about your husband's honor and his reputation enough to not go be a loud-mouth woman.
How about this? Don't just disdain him and just openly disregard his authority.
You know, don't just like openly defy him and openly just disdain his authority.
You know, what are some ways people do this today?
How about this? Don't hang up the phone on your husband.
Yeah, it's getting quiet in here. Never, ever, ever, ever hang up the phone on your husband.
Could you imagine, man? Could you imagine for a moment your boss calls you,
Hey, I've got this problem.
Good luck calling him back. You wouldn't call him back because he fired you.
No man would go and disrespect their boss so blatantly by just hanging up the phone on him.
Okay, if men could have enough respect for their boss, who probably isn't even saved, who probably doesn't even love God,
who they don't care about, they're just in a business relationship, if men can respect those men enough,
you ought to respect your husband enough to when he's talking to you, you listen.
And you know what? You don't end the phone call. You don't hang up on your phone.
That's a good way to get your phone chucked in the river.
There you go, ex-new IFV.
Oh, abuse.
Never, ever, ever hang up on your husband.
That's wicked.
Again, you would never do that to your boss.
And by the way, you ladies,
you would never do that to your boss either.
If you have worked in the secular world,
or if you do have a job right now,
you would never in a million years
hang up on your boss, would you?
No, you wouldn't.
Why would you then hang up on your husband?
Never do that.
You listen if he has something to say to you.
Go to Job chapter number two, Job chapter number two.
Here's another one, how about,
don't kick your husband when he's down.
You know, I like Pastor Shelley,
he always talks about how wives should be
their husband's biggest cheerleaders.
And you know what, you said for better or for worse.
And in life, you're gonna go through seasons
where things are better, and things are good,
and you're excited about how things are going,
and you know what, there's gonna be times
where things are worse.
And you know what you should do during those times?
You should still cheerlead your husband.
Still be on his team.
Still love him.
Look at Job chapter number 2, verse 9.
Then said his wife unto him,
Does thou still retain thine integrity?
Curse God and die.
Wow.
That's not a great thing that a wife could say to her husband right there right? Verse 10
But he said unto her thou speakest is one of the foolish women speaketh
What shall we receive good at the hand of God and shall we not receive evil in all this did not Job sin
With his lips. He's saying you know what you've got a bad attitude right now
You've got a wrong attitude.
You know, maybe that made her mad.
Did Job care?
No, he didn't.
He's just saying the truth.
He's leading spiritually even when he's down.
But look, Job is down in this moment.
Losing your kids, losing your health, losing your wealth, I mean, losing everything in
your life and on top of that, now you've got your wife telling you to curse God and die.
You know, what a horrible testimony that is for a wife.
You know what, when you go through things that are hard,
you just stay by your man.
You just stay with him.
And you know what, you said, for better, for worse,
you said, for richer or for poorer,
doesn't matter what's going on in your life,
it does not matter.
You stay with your husband till death.
You back him up till death.
You be his best friend.
You be his greatest cheerleader until death.
And it doesn't matter if everyone else in the world
turns on your husband, you don't.
You stay.
with your wife or with your husband. Go to Ecclesiastes chapter number
10, Ecclesiastes chapter number 10.
You know, don't disrespect your husband.
When he ever does have to correct you whenever he ever does have to give you some
Instruction or some reproof don't be this type of person where oh my husband's correct me now
I'm just gonna get mad at him now
I'm just gonna give him the cold shoulder how who does he think he is to correct me how dare he correct me
You know he better come back groveling to me to make me happy like this is this is the idea
This is the hell that men live in today. It's like
They make their wives mad on something that wasn't even their fault,
and that relationship is not going to be restored until he comes groveling back to her
and doing backflips and spinning around and clapping his hands
to make her okay with him again. You know what? It should not be that way.
Why? Look at Ecclesiastes 10 verse 4.
If the spirit of the ruler... Oh, what did the Bible say Adam was? The ruler, right?
If the spirit of the ruler rise up against thee,
leave not thy place for yielding pacified great offenses.
Here's the truth, ladies, if your husband's mad at you,
it's because you're wrong.
That's why.
If your husband is upset with you,
if your husband is correcting you,
it's because you're wrong.
And you know what would be wicked to do when you're wrong is to get mad at someone for
correcting you when you're wrong.
And you know what, when a ruler is angry at you, you shouldn't be thinking like, oh,
this ruler better make things right with me.
You know if your boss corrects you at work, you shouldn't be thinking, I can't believe
my boss corrected me.
He better come to my office and apologize for correcting me.
No, no, no, he's your boss.
And when your boss corrects you, you know what a normal employee does?
Oh crap, I need to make things right with my boss.
And here's the thing, even if you don't even think you were in the wrong, he's in charge,
the ruler is in charge, and you should be yielding to him.
You should be trying to pacify his anger.
You should be trying to make him okay in the relationship.
But today, a husband, God forbid, tells his wife that she's wrong about something, correct
something in her life, and then it's cold shoulder, angry, RBF, I'm not talking to you
for the rest of the day, until you come groveling back to me.
Guess what?
You ought to have this mentality in your home that if you're the man you're the ruler and there's an issue in your home
And you are correcting it you stay with it
You stand firm don't allow her to control you because here's the thing when you just give up
When you just roll over when you go back on your word guess who's really in charge your wife is in charge
If she could just give you an angry look and cause you to stop being in charge, she's in charge.
So hey, if your wife's mad at you, let her be mad at you.
And here's the thing, we love our wives. We want what's best for our wives.
If we're correcting something or we see our wives making a mistake or doing something that's not right,
you know, we're correcting them because we love them.
We want to keep them safe from the danger that's out there, or from worldly philosophies, or just from bad behavior.
And you know what, if you correct that and then you just give up, you're giving her the power, you shouldn't be doing that.
You should not be doing that.
Go to Proverbs chapter number 16 Proverbs chapter number 16 now of course look of course we as men
We are going to do things that are wrong
We are going to say things that are wrong and when that happens you better believe you should go apologize
Of course, I'm not saying you should never apologize
But what I'm saying is hey when you're right when you're correcting when you're giving instruction
Don't just back off and let you know don't be afraid of her face
You know, the men of God are told not to be afraid of their faces, saying like,
hey, don't hold back the message just because they're going to give you angry looks.
If you're the man and you're right, you just stick with it regardless of how angry she gets.
Don't go hiding in the attic. Don't go out to the wilderness.
Don't sleep on the couch. Hey, you paid for that bed. You're sleeping in it.
You know what I've never slept on the couch at least not running from my wife
Maybe just on a lazy afternoon or something, but I've never I've never just ran away
I'm just gonna sleep on the couch because my wife's mad at me. I'm sleeping on the bed. Sorry, and I'm gonna cuddle her too
They all I'm still here. You're mad at me. Oh, I'm still here. I still love you, right?
You know what she needs to do she needs to yield
What you wives need to do when your husband's mad at you, you need to yield.
You need to not try to emotionally manipulate him by getting all angry.
No, the husband is always right and happy husband, happy life.
Sorry, this is the new IFB.
This isn't the ex-new IFB.
This is actually what the Bible teaches.
Proverbs 16 verse 14, the wrath of a king is as messengers of death, but a wise man will
Look, it doesn't even matter if you think you're in the wrong or the right.
If a king's mad at you, you know what a wise person will do?
Pacify his anger.
Look, it doesn't matter if you think you were unjustly pulled over by the cops or you think
he's breaking the Constitution.
If that cop starts getting pissed off at you, a wise man will obey.
and pacify anger, lest you get shot and killed.
Well, if your husband's mad at you,
you know what a wise woman does?
She pacifies his anger.
She yields to him, she obeys him,
she says, I'm sorry, honey, I love you.
What can I do for you?
That's what a wise woman would do.
Go to, if you would, Romans chapter 14.
Romans chapter number 14.
We're talking about disobeying, disrespecting.
Number three.
If you judge another man's marriage, you're a feminist.
What do I mean by that?
Look at Romans chapter number 14 verse 4.
The Bible says this in Romans 14 verse 4.
Who art thou that judges another man's servant?
To his own master he standeth, or falleth.
Yea, he shall be holding up, for God is able to make him stand.
God's giving us this principle that you don't really have the right to judge in an area of life where you don't have any authority, right?
So here's the thing, how I run my home is my business, and it's my rules, and
husbands, how you rule your home is your rules, your business, you're the king of your castle.
Now, of course, as a pastor, I'm gonna get up from the pulpit, and I'm gonna tell you what the Bible says,
and I'm gonna give you recommendations of how you should live your life according to the Word of God, but at the end of the day,
Your rules are your own.
How you talk to your wife is your own business.
How you deal with your own kids is your own business.
And I have no right to sit here in judgment
of how you rule your home
and how other people rule their home.
And you say, well, I don't like this verse
because this verse is talking about servants and masters.
What does this have to do with marriage?
Okay, well, if you will go to Genesis chapter number two.
Genesis chapter number two.
You know, how dare you ever refer to a wife as a servant?
Okay, let's look what the Bible says, Genesis chapter number two verse 18, the Bible says
in the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone.
I will make him notice and help meet for him.
Why is God creating Eve here?
Why is God creating the woman here?
Is so that she would be a help or a servant or a blessing,
meet, meaning fitting, suitable or appropriate for him.
You wanna know why Eve was created
to be a servant to her husband?
Now, that's just insane to the world today to say that a wife's role is to serve her husband.
Let me tell you something.
A wife's role is to serve her husband.
You are servant of enter your spouse's name.
My wife is my servant.
Yes, she is.
And guess what?
I love her very much.
And guess what?
I would die for her.
And guess what?
I would do anything to provide for her and to lead her spiritually and to literally give
my life for her.
But you know what she is for me?
She is my servant.
She is my help that is fitting for me.
Go to 1 Corinthians chapter number 11
and show you another verse on that.
1 Corinthians chapter number 11.
Men, your job is to lead the home spiritually,
to protect physically, to provide for your family,
to put a roof over their head, to put clothes on their back,
to put foods in their belly.
And you know what, the wife's job is
is to serve her husband, to serve her family.
Proverbs 31, the woman's just,
she's up in the middle of the night,
she's providing meat to her household
and a portion to her maidens.
She's, you know, sowing clothing
so that they'd be warm in the winter.
All these different activities.
Look at 1 Corinthians 11, verse eight.
for the man is not of the woman, but the woman of the man.
Neither was the man created for the woman,
but the woman for the man.
Why was the woman created was to be a help
fitting for her husband.
And today you got feminists just like losing their mind,
where it's just like, well, my husband
doesn't help me enough.
I mean, I know he works all day, every day,
and I know he provides income,
and I know he provides this house and provides the food,
And he won't help me clean afterwards.
And he won't help me do the laundry and do the dishes.
Yeah, neither should he have to.
Because you know what you are?
You're a help, meet for him.
You're created to help him.
He has his role, you have yours.
And today society is so screwed up
because women have just been growing up in this society
thinking, oh, chores, domestic chores,
they need to be split down the middle.
This is what a lot of people think today.
And look, part of it is because a lot of guys are morons and send their wives to work.
And so it's like, you're working eight hours a day, she's working eight hours a day.
Yeah, I can kind of see why she'd get a little pissed that you're not splitting some things up there.
But it's like, if a man goes out and works and does his job and provides for you,
you know what, anything that he chooses to do at home is extra.
extra and it should not be expected if a man wants to do those things I believe
men should do those things from time to time but you know what it should be a
love offering out of your own heart that's what it should be it's like honey
I love you you know you're working hard kids are bogging you down I'm just gonna
do this for you but it should not be like you're you get home and your wife is
like start doing this right now start cleaning the dishes start cleaning the
floor no that's insane
And again, some of you are probably offended right now.
But you know what's funny?
You know how much my wife helps me as a pastor
as far as like the actual work that I do?
None.
Now she supports me and frees me up
to be able to do the work of the ministry.
Of course she's super, super important in my life.
And her lifestyle helps me with mine.
But you know what?
My wife does not write my sermons.
Maybe some pastors, their wives do.
Maybe that's what's wrong with the last year.
Maybe they were they were splitting domestic housework and they're splitting spiritual work too. Maybe that's what was going on
You know what? My wife doesn't write my sermons. My wife doesn't lead anchor Baptist Church
My wife doesn't plan the events and execute things and get things done
My wife doesn't go to my job and help me with IT work. She's done that exactly zero times
So why is it that we're just like well men better help in the house too?
Men better get their housework done too. You know what that mentality is. It's feminist
It's a feminist mentality.
You should expect nothing of your husband when it comes to housework, and if he wants to
give that to you, praise God, be thankful to him for giving him you that stuff.
But you know what?
It's not expected.
It's not something that God says he has to do.
That is over and above.
And you know what?
If your husband does that, thank him.
Be thankful.
Be appreciative for that, because last time I checked, the Bible says, neither was the
man created for the woman, but the woman for the man.
Here's another thing, number four, if you think you have to ask permission to get physical
with your wife, you are a feminist.
Apparently this needed to be preached in a church in the Houston area recently.
Okay, this is ridiculous this idea that's being taught today that every time you want to get physical with your wife
You know you have to get consent you have to get permission for this kind of stuff
This is the mentality people have today
You know where if it's not just a hundred percent jazzed up and on fire on the same page every time it's like marital rape
Let me tell you there's no such thing. It's garbage
Look at 1st Corinthians 7 verse 1 now concerning the things wherever you wrote unto me. It is good for a man not to touch a woman
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife.
Let every woman have her own husband.
Of course, God knows that we as human beings have certain physical needs and there's nothing
wrong with those needs.
But of course, God does not want us fulfilling those needs in an ungodly way through fornication,
through adultery.
So God says, hey, to avoid fornication, we're going to fix this issue.
To avoid fornication, what does the Bible say?
and let every woman have her own husband, right?
So none of this perversion, it doesn't say wives plural,
it doesn't say husbands plural,
it doesn't say hook up with random people whenever you want,
it doesn't say someone else's wife, someone else's husband.
You know, all that's wicked and abominable
and disgusting in the eyes of God.
But you know what?
He says, let every man have his own wife.
Let every wife have her own! Husband! Why? To avoid fornication.
Because if you don't have this in your life, most people are going to be severely tempted by the sin of fornication.
Most people are going to be very tempted in this area and probably mess up in this area unless they get married.
Which is by the way, if you have this desire, you should get married!
I've had people tell me before like I think I'm like the apostle Paul, you know
I don't think I'm gonna get married. I was like, do you desire a physical relationship? Well, yeah
You're not the apostle Paul
You need to get married my friend
This is God's will for your life
Notice verse number three the Bible says let the husband
Render unto the wife notice this word do benevolence
Likewise, also the wife unto the husband.
What is something that's due?
It means it's owed.
It means you got a debt that you got to pay up.
You get a bill in the mail and it says, hey, this bill is due on such and such the date.
It's something that you owe.
The physical relationship in marriage is something that both husband and wife owes each other.
Oh, you know only the wife owes this to the husband and it's only about him and it's only whenever he wants
No, this is something that is owed to both husband and wife
And today you got this weird feminist mentality where this is causing serious issues in this aspect of marriage
where it's not something that's understood between each other,
that it's due benevolence,
but it's more used like a weapon,
like a little treat to dangle in front of husband's head.
If you're a good boy, if you do what I say,
if you are on my program,
then maybe I'll bestow this treat unto you.
Sorry, that's not how it works.
It's due benevolence.
And husband wants it, he gets it whenever he wants.
That's what the Bible teaches.
And by the way, wife wants it,
she gets it whenever she wants as well.
Usually, in marriage, when people struggle in this part of their marriage, it's usually
like the wife is not wanting to, but we live in such a crazy world, there's also marriages
where the husband is not doing this.
Or the husband's just being difficult, he's not wanting to give this when he should.
No, it's due benevolence from both of you.
And guess what?
This is why people get married.
This is why.
Because you have to avoid fornication, and this is why you get married.
I'm sure feminists would love this verse.
The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband.
And likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
Your bodies belong to each other.
You know I think there was a sermon preach here.
My wife's body, my choice.
Amen to that.
You know what?
Your body is not your own, my body is not my own, my body belongs to my wife, her body
belongs to me, and it's the same thing for you in your marriage.
And so many people today, their marriage is screwed up because they're screwed up in this
area.
I'm telling you, you get this area right, a lot of other problems are solved.
You know, life is just good when life is good in this area.
the devil wants you to think that this area of your life is better out in the world.
That's why, you know, the devil promotes whores like Sidney Sweeney all over the place.
It's like, she's a Republican! She's a Christian! She grew up in a Christian home!
And now all the conservatives are gonna love Sidney Sweeney and repost all of her stuff.
Moron, you're not getting that. Moron, that's never gonna happen.
And you know what? Your life is not going to be better in that area of your life by chasing whores like Sidney Sweeney.
You know what? It's going to be better when you get married and you marry a Baptist who believes the Bible that says,
hey, whenever he wants, and ladies, whatever you want, that's when this area of your life will actually be better.
Notice what it says in verse 5.
So notice you have to get consent to not have this part of your marriage to put to press pause on this part of your life
You have to get permission from each other to do this. Otherwise. You're doing something. It's called committing fraud
If you're committing marital fraud, you're defrauding one another when you don't give
this due benevolence.
Why is it that you would need to get consent to pause in this area?
Notice that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer and come together again.
Notice that Satan tempts you not for your incontinency.
So notice, the devil wants to mess up this area of your life because if this area of
your life is struggling, you have this thing called temptation from the devil.
And you know what? There's crazy stories out there of wives just years and years of not being with their husbands.
Or just couples just going just months on end, years on end, where this part of their marriage is not happening.
You know what? It's like you're begging for your spouse to commit adultery or something.
And look, you should never commit adultery.
And in all cases that you do, you're wicked and wrong.
But here's the thing, on the other side, if you're a woman that's just saying, like,
well, you know, I'm not going to give this to him anymore, it's like you're begging
him to do that, though.
And you would be a fool to withhold your spouse this area of life.
Whether that's being from the husband side or the wife side, but let's be honest, who
is mostly withholding it today?
It's the feminist women.
It's the feminist women today.
It is ruining people's lives.
You know, so the Bible says that if this area of your life doesn't happen, Satan can tempt you.
And what I've noticed is that Satan wants you to get messed up in this area of your life and Satan's ministers want to constantly teach lies about this area.
Satan's ministers want to constantly infect your mind with feminist ideas in this area.
Satanic ministers like Roman Catholic women.
What am I talking about?
Recently there was this woman, Lila Rose, who went mega viral all over X.
She's some Catholic woman influencer.
So it's like Catholic woman Bible teacher, like how many more issues do you have here in this thing?
But she basically went super viral because she was teaching
that men don't really need this in marriage. Men don't really need this. And she goes, look at Jesus!
I mean, look at Jesus, right?
Yeah, crickets, exactly.
It's like, huh?
What are you talking about?
Look at Jesus.
And then she was like, she started flashing all these pictures on the screen of all these
different Catholic priests, and she's like, look how masculine this guy is.
This is such a masculine, brawny, you know, Catholic priest, and he's had a vow of celibacy.
Right?
Doesn't look like men need this.
Really, that's weird how the Bible says that to avoid fornication, every man is supposed
to have his own wife.
You know, maybe Catholic women should be teaching the Bible online.
Hey, maybe no women should be teaching the Bible online.
Why don't you let a man of God teach you the Bible
and tell you the right way to live your life in this area?
Not some Catholic, demonic woman.
Look what the Bible says in 1 Timothy 4, verse 1.
Now, the Spirit speaketh expressly
that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith
giving he to seducing spirits and doctrines of devils.
Speaking lies and hypocrisy, having their conscience seared with a hot iron,
forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from meat,
which God had created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth.
Notice in the end times there's going to be doctrines of devils,
and one of those doctrines is forbidding to marry.
Tell me the Catholic Church is satanic without telling me when they have this doctrine that in order to be a Catholic priest
You have to take a vow of celibacy
Meanwhile first Timothy 3 and Titus chapter 1 says the pastor has to be the husband of one wife
Explain to me how that works
It's a doctrine of devils and of course these Catholic women these satanic women. What are they promoting?
Oh, men don't really need it in this area men don't need to have this and here's think the devil just hates you
The devil just hates you so much.
He wants to ruin your life.
I can't think of anything worse than it's like,
all right, I'm the devil.
How do we ruin people's lives?
Let's take away marriage and meat.
Like these are like some of the two best reasons
to still live on this earth sometime.
It's like you're having a rough time in life,
but it's like, at least I got marriage and meat, amen?
But it's like the devil doesn't even want you to have that.
The devil wants to say, oh no, man,
don't need this in marriage, it's a bunch of garbage.
It's a bunch of feminist lies.
Go to Matthew chapter 19, Matthew 19.
Number five, if you encourage divorce, you are a feminist.
If you encourage divorce, you are a feminist.
Why do I say feminist?
Well, this is why.
This is from theglobalstatistics.com.
It says here, the data reveals fascinating trends
in American relationship patterns.
The substantial gender disparity in divorce filings
with women initiating 70% of divorces.
Here's another article that was getting data from the CDC and the UN.
It said the actual divorce rate in America is 2.3 per 1,000 people, 66 percent of divorces
are initiated by women.
In some states, this number has increased to 75 percent.
A third study from the American Sociological Association confirmed the findings of other
studies.
The data showed that 69% of the divorces resulted from female decisions.
Among college-educated women, wives initiated their divorces close to 90% of the time.
So it's like if you've got a couple where divorce is going to take place and that woman is college-educated
90% of those cases the woman is initiating divorce. Let me tell you something. We have a big divorce problem in America today
Over 50% of marriages are ending in divorce, but you know what? This problem mainly is not a man's problem
The main issue of divorce today is a woman's problem because the vast majority of divorces are being initiated by women.
You know, before we lived in this high-tech society with so many safety nets and soft, cushy lives,
divorce wasn't an option because these ladies could not live without their husband protecting and providing.
But now, you know, daddy government, daddy communist government, is ready to bail out
every rebellious wife, every whore that commits adultery on her husband, and is willing to
just protect her and help her financially.
And so that's why the vast majority of divorces are being initiated by women.
That's really sad.
When I just think in my mind of all the people in my life that I know that are divorced,
it's matching up with these statistics that I'm seeing.
And you guys who think of people you know right now that are divorced, you're probably thinking,
yeah, that lines up.
Most of the time, it's women initiating divorces.
If anyone supports this, if any man of God gets up and supports divorce or encourages divorce,
that is a feminist right there.
And why do I say that?
Because I've read a lot of books by old IFB pastors that gives advice on the home,
and a lot of the book is giving good things until you get to divorce.
And all the time, the old IFB is saying, like, here's a list of 10 things.
that they would sanction a divorce for.
Well, here's how many things I believe are valid for getting a divorce.
Zero!
None!
Never divorce!
Look what the Bible says, Matthew chapter 19 verse 3.
The Pharisees also came unto Him, Jesus,
tempting Him and saying unto Him,
is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
You know, I have no plans of making a commentary Bible,
but if I did, I might say,
or, you know, can a woman leave her husband for any cause?
Because that seems to be the question a lot of people are asking today.
It's like, can a wife leave her man for any reason?
Just any old reason, can a wife leave today?
Notice what Jesus said in verse 4,
and He answered and said unto them,
Have you not read?
that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
and said for this cause shall a man leave father and mother,
and shall cleave to his wife, and they twain shall be one flesh.
Wherefore they are no more twain but one flesh.
What therefore God hath joined together?
Let's not man put asunder.
How's that for an answer to their stupid question?
Oh, can can we just put away our wife for any reason what God has brought together?
Let no man put a sunder. That's Jesus's answer to the question. Can you get divorced for every cause? No
No, you can't. He's like, haven't you read the Bible?
Have you not read that God at the beginning created them male and female and said that for this cause shall man leave
Father and mother and cleave unto his wife and they twain shall be one flesh
No, you can't put away your wife for any reason.
And look, what do people do when they want to get divorced?
Of course, they're going to have a reason.
They're going to have a plethora of reasons.
In fact, 100% of women who get divorced, they were married to a narcissist.
You better believe it.
At least that's what their Facebook profile is going to say.
And 100% of men who leave their wives will see some horrible,
flusy, wicked woman as well, right?
Because people who get divorced, they just want to come up with any excuse.
And if you're looking for an excuse to find sin in your spouse,
you better believe you will find it.
If you're looking for an excuse to get out of your marriage,
you will all find it because marriage is two sinful people together.
And you're a sinner, she's a sinner, and you know what?
to divorce your spouse.
There is no reason to divorce your spouse.
Notice he keeps going.
Verse number seven, it says,
they say unto him,
why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement
and to put her away?
Notice how these people are so insincere.
They have Jesus in the flesh, they ask Him a question, He gives them a very clear answer.
Doesn't He?
Saying, hey, no, don't put us under, God hates divorce, don't divorce, and there's like, well, what about this?
What about this in the Bible?
This is something else that people do who want to justify divorce.
We could sit here, we could have a whole sermon talking about how the Bible condemns divorce,
but people who are forward and want to find an excuse to allow divorce,
they'll twist something in the Bible to try to do it.
But why don't you just take the clear words that Jesus said here,
what therefore God have joined together, let not man put us under.
Why don't you just say, hey, Jesus just rested the case right there.
Why don't you just respect the words of Jesus Christ enough?
Stop being a feminist pastor.
Well, I don't like that, Jesus.
You know, back to point one.
Back talking Jesus.
Stop back talking Jesus.
He said, no.
Don't divorce.
Well, what about this thing in the Old Testament?
Okay, look at verse eight.
He saith unto them,
Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts,
suffered you to put away your wives.
But from the beginning, it was not so.
Of course, Jesus is not ignorant of the Old Testament law.
This clause that you're referring to in the Old Testament
realized that the only reason it was even given
was not because God liked it
or God wanted you to go down this path.
It was because of the hardness of your hearts.
See, there's what's right and there's what people do.
And God tells you what's right
and sometimes God tells you what to do
if you do something wrong, okay?
Look at what it says in verse number nine.
And I say unto you,
wouldn't it be nice if people cared about that?
And I say unto you, whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for, notice this word, fornication,
and shall marry another committed adultery.
And whoso merrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. Go to Deuteronomy chapter 24.
Jesus uses a very specific word here.
You know, you need to have a King James Bible that uses the word fornication right here, not sexual immorality.
What is sexual immorality? Is that having a lustful thought?
That's seeing a picture you shouldn't have seen well
It's like how many marriages would be off the hook for divorce if that was the case
No, the word here that's used is fornication. What is fornication sleeping around with someone before you're married?
That's what fornication is.
Look at verse number one of Deuteronomy 24,
when a man had taken a wife and married her,
and it come to pass that she find no favor in his eyes
because he had found some uncleanness in her,
then let him write her a bill of divorcement
and give it in her hand and send her out of his house.
Kind of a modern day equivalent to this
would be something like an annulment,
but what I want you to notice
about this passage of scripture
is that this event, this contingency,
Number one, it's time sensitive.
It's time sensitive.
Because notice it says, when a man have taken a wife,
you can't go 10 years into your marriage,
20 years into your marriage.
Ah, she's found no pleasure in my eyes.
I found some uncleanness in her, something like that.
No, no, no, this is an event that is time sensitive.
You take a wife, you go to consummate the marriage,
and you're like, oh, she lied, she's not a virgin.
Oh, she's not a maid.
Perhaps she even has some sort of STD
or uncleanness in her.
Then the Bible is saying that this would be a situation where you could do this.
Verse two, it says, and when she is departed out of his house,
she may go and be another man's wife.
That is what Jesus is referring to when he says,
except it be for the cause of fornication.
But here's the thing.
Once you have consummated that marriage, you're locked in.
You are locked in and there is nothing that could excuse you out of your marriage.
And people today, they say, well, what about adultery?
Go to Leviticus chapter number 20, if you will.
Leviticus chapter number 20.
Here's the thing, adultery is one of the most heinous, wicked, disgusting crimes.
I have hated adultery since before I was even saved.
Before I had even read the Bible, I believed that we should have the death penalty for
adultery because it's just so heinous, it's so wicked, it's so evil.
But here's the thing, there are real people who deal with these real situations.
And it sucks and I feel horrible for those people and someone who their spouse has committed adultery on them
They are 100% the victim and I'm sorry and I'll pray for you and I'll help for you in any way that I can
But I will never ever tell you to divorce your spouse. I will not do it
I will never counsel someone to leave their spouse even if they say he committed adultery now
Here's the thing what should happen when someone commits adultery look at Leviticus chapter 20 verse 10
and the man that committed adultery with another man's wife,
even he that committed adultery with his neighbor's wife,
the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.
Would to God that that was the law in America today. It would save people a lot of heartache and
Problems and it's like why do we even have to deal with this situation of like does a man have to stay with his wife that committed adultery on him?
Does a woman have to stay with a man that committed adultery against her?
Why do we even have to deal with this horrific gross messy situation?
I'll tell you why because the government is not doing its job
But here's the thing, instead of getting mad at me, mad at Baptist preachers for saying,
yeah, I'm sorry, it sucks, it's awful, you're the victim, but you know what, you ought to
stay with your husband, instead of getting mad at us, why don't you get mad at the United
States of America for ruining people's lives by not committing God's law?
You know, there's actually consequences today by not implementing God's law.
It's there to protect us.
And guess what?
When we just disregard God's law, real people get hurt.
And instead of just being like, well, you know,
this preacher's mean because he said never divorce for any reason.
But what about all these exceptions?
Hey, what about them?
Why don't we petition the government to do something about it?
Because you know what?
It's not our job.
We're not going to take the law into our own hands.
We're not vigilantes.
Romans 13 says that we should submit ourselves to the higher power and if the government
is not going to execute adulterers, unfortunately you've got to stay married to your adulterous
husband.
That's a hard saying and here's the thing like if I was in your shoes
I hope I would have enough character to do the right thing. I feel bad for you. I feel terrible for you
I know you're a victim. I'm praying for you. I want to help you
But at the end of the day, I will never counsel someone to say hey two wrongs make a right
Two wrongs do not make a right my friend
And you may have been defrauded, you may have been the victim, your spouse may be a complete
piece of garbage, but you know what, two wrongs don't make a right.
And we as God's people should never support divorce for any reason.
God's men, pastors should never counsel people or support people from divorcing their spouse
Well, I don't like that we'll take it up with the government then because I don't like it either
But you know what? I'm not a feminist that's gonna back talk Jesus and say well my idea is better than you Jesus
No, Jesus said it. I believe it. It's a it's called a hard saying for a reason
Jesus like hey not all men can receive this saying and boy a boy is that true
You want to see Christians get pissed off pissed off today preach against alcohol and divorce?
That'll piss off some Christians. Why because people are prideful
because people think their ideas are better than God.
People don't want to submit themselves to the Word of God.
They just want to do the lusts of their own heart.
You know what? Get mad at the government.
Go to Joshua chapter 24, Joshua chapter number 24.
I'm sorry, 1 Kings 11.
1 Kings chapter number 11.
Number six, if a wife tells her husband
where to go to church, she's a feminist.
If a wife is telling her husband where to go, leading him spiritually, that's a feminist
right there.
Now, I was just reading this in my Bible reading today.
Look at 1 Kings 11.
1. But King Solomon loved many strange women together with the daughter of Pharaoh, women
of the Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Zidonians, and Hittites. Of the nations concerning which
the Lord said unto the children of Israel, ye shall not go in to them. Neither shall
they come into you. Notice, for surely they will turn away your heart after their gods.
can turn away her husband's heart from fearing God
and from loving God.
Boy oh boy, didn't we see that
with the ex-new IFB split last year
where so many people were leaving church
and it wasn't even because the man wanted to.
It was because the wife wanted to.
Let me tell you, that's feminism.
And you know what, Solomon's in charge here.
He's supposed to lead his family
and tell them to worship the God of Israel,
not allow these pagan women to turn away
his heart from serving God.
And of course, that's also a lesson why not to marry 1,000 women as well.
It's a bad idea.
Verse number three, and he had 700 wives, princesses, and 300 concubines.
What was Solomon's preference in women?
Yes.
That was the answer for him.
and his wives turned away his heart.
For it came to pass when Solomon was old
that his wives turned away his heart after other gods.
And his heart was not perfect with the Lord his God
as was the heart of David his father.
For Solomon went after, notice Ashtereth,
the goddess of the Zidonians,
and after Milcom, the abomination of the Ammonites.
And Solomon did evil in the sight of the Lord
and went not fully after the Lord as did David his father.
Why did David go down this path?
Because he allowed his wicked wives to drag him that way.
And you know what, a lot of people today,
you know, maybe they're not going on
into full on Milcom worship and Satan worship,
but it's like, you were in the new IFB,
you were in a soul winning church,
you were in a King James only church
that preaches heart against sin,
that preaches the right salvation,
that's going out and making a difference in this world,
now you're at the old IFB,
where you're bound down to an Israel flag every Sunday.
Where you're hearing a sermon about Israel and it's like Sunday morning salvation come down to the altar
Sunday evening pre-trib rapture and Wednesday Jews and Israel
And you know why you're in that situation because you allowed it to happen
Because you said you know what my wife could be in charge
She could lead the family spiritually all let her drag me out of church and look folks this happened to a lot of people
A lot of people left church where the man didn't want to.
The wife said, I'm not going to a church who's friends with friends who's friends with someone
who knows Pastor Anderson.
It's like, you're gay, man.
You seriously are.
It's like, I moved to Oklahoma City,
and we immediately just have this huge church split,
basically split the church down half.
Why?
Because of Pastor Anderson.
And it's like, you wanna say that we're in a cult.
It's like, here's Dylan Oz is gonna be your pastor.
Hey, by the way, his sending pastor was Pastor Shelley
from Steadfast Baptist Church.
Oh, but Pastor Anderson, who's the one who's in a cult?
Who's the one who's following a pope when it's like you can't even stay in a church?
That wasn't even started by Pastor Anderson.
Pastor Anderson wasn't even the pastor of you.
But you just don't even like that I like Pastor Anderson.
And I'm his friend and I stand with him and I back him up.
You're weak.
You are pathetic.
Grab your stones and lead your family.
Good night.
Don't follow after Kymosh and Milcom and Molech
because your wife wanted you to.
You're allowing feminism to destroy America.
You're so mad about all the feminists in a country
as you allow your family to be dragged down to hell with feminism.
What is wrong with you?
Become a man.
Joshua 24, if you would. Joshua chapter number 24.
You know what? The man needs to tell his wife
And let me tell you, the best church in DFW is Steadfast Baptist Church.
And you know what, if you're a man and you live in Dallas, you're in Steadfast Baptist Church.
And if you're a man in Oklahoma City, you're at Anchor Baptist Church.
And if you're a man in Vancouver, you're at Sherwood Foundation.
If you're a man in Tempe, Arizona, you're at Faithful Word.
If you're a man, you're in the new IFB.
Look at verse 14, Joshua 24,
now therefore fear the Lord
and serve him in sincerity and in truth.
And put away the gods which your fathers served
on the other side of the flood in Egypt
and serve you the Lord.
And if it seemed evil unto you to serve the Lord,
choose you this day whom you will serve,
whether the gods which your fathers served
that were on the other side of the flood
or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you dwell.
But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.
Man, that is the right attitude for a man to have.
We are going to serve God, and if you're mad at me, honey, well, be mad at me for a couple
hours or whatever, and I'll take you to a nice restaurant after church.
Be mad at me, let's go soul-winning, and let's go get some ice cream or something.
And you know what, eventually the Holy Spirit's there in your wife's heart, and the Holy Spirit
could soften her heart, and you know what, she could like church someday.
Trust me, I feel bad for guys that are in this situation.
I sympathize with you.
I thank God that my wife wants to serve God with me.
And you know what, before you get married,
these are some conversations
you should actually be talking about
rather than Googling all over each other.
You know, I told my wife that I wanted to be a pastor
when we were dating.
She knew what she was getting into.
You know what, and if she didn't want to live
that lifestyle, then I wouldn't have married her.
But thank God, I love my wife.
She's a great woman.
She knew what she was getting into.
And my wife is not gonna lead me spiritually.
I'm gonna lead her.
And my wife is smart, my wife knows the Bible, but you know, when all this crap was happening
during the ex-new IFB split, I just told my wife, listen, I know what's right, I know
the Bible, I know the truth, you follow me.
Don't listen to these weirdos.
Don't listen to everyone losing their mind.
Don't listen to all these Christians getting into feminism and backing off of what the
Bible says.
You know what?
I know what's right.
Why?
Because the husband's always right.
That's why.
I know what's right.
I've read the Bible.
Let's skip some of this for a sake of time.
Go to 1 Timothy chapter five, 1 Timothy five.
And look, if there's another great church,
if there's another great church out there
and you leave one of our churches
to go to another great church, to a better church,
and that's the man's decision, if that's your decision, okay.
As long as you're making the decision.
And as long as you're not sacrificing
your family's spiritual health.
But at the end of the day, it better be the man's decision.
Not like, well, I'm quitting church against my will.
No, don't do that. It's not worth it serve the Lord
Number seven feminist attributes women who rebuke and talk crap about pastors are feminists
They are wicked evil people you should beware people like this
First Timothy 5 verse 1 rebuke not an elder
but entreat him as a father and the younger men as brethren.
You are not allowed to rebuke a pastor.
There is a certain way that you must treat a pastor.
And you know what, we're not your buddy,
we're not your pal, we're not your bro,
we're pastor so and so.
And look at what the Bible says in verse 17,
let the elders that rule well be counted worthy of what?
Double honor.
especially they who labor in the Word and doctrine.
Look, this is just like a bottom tier righteousness.
Just honoring your pastor, not railing against him,
not rebuking him, giving him double honor.
This is like a bottom tier easy, easy Christianity.
And it's like, for example, you know, it's so funny to me
how it's like my pastor friends will call me Pastor Oz
and I don't even deserve it or I'm asking them to do that.
But it's like men and women who are younger than me
are still like, hey Dylan.
What's up Dylan?
You know what?
There's something wrong with your heart.
If you're offended by what I'm saying right now, there's something wrong with your heart.
Because look, it's not about me, it's not about any man being special, but the office
of a bishop is special.
And it's worthy of respect.
And us as men of God, we are not allowed to allow people to disdain us and despise us
And you know what, you ought to call your pastor,
Pastor Thompson.
Not, what's up, Aaron?
Pastor Shelley, what's up, John?
Could you, it just sounds gross.
It just sounds, it's just like,
oh, but because I'm young,
you want to just call me Dylan?
Because I'm 28 years old?
Doesn't the Bible say, let no man despise thy youth?
You know what, it's wrong.
And look, what I'm talking about right now
is bottom level righteousness.
Easy, so easy to do.
And look, I understand this transition period.
I'm not mad at you guys that have done this.
But here's the thing, you should say like,
hey, even though it's weird,
even though I've known him for this long,
you know what, the office of a bishop is important.
And you know what, you should be showing
an example to your children
that church is worthy of your respect.
But the pastor is worthy of your respect.
And you're just showing this example to your kids.
If you just call pastors by their first name,
that's a bad example.
Okay, you know what's a really bad example?
Let's move on from just easy bottom tier,
easy Christianity.
How about women going online and literally just talking crap about pastors?
How much worse is that?
I mean, it's already pathetic and wrong when God's people disrespect the man of God in any way,
but it's like women are going online and railing and rebuking and talking crap about pastors.
That is disgusting.
And you listen, any single person
who's listening online or in this church.
If you defend people that rebuke pastors,
rail on pastors, talk crap about pastors online,
you are wicked, you are weak, stay away from a pulpit.
How about that?
We got enough feminist pastors in this world.
The last thing we need today is people defending
and excusing wicked behavior.
You ought to be ashamed of yourself if you are a woman rebuking a pastor online
And you know what a husband ought to be doubly ashamed of himself because there's no way in hell
I would ever allow my wife to do something like that
She would never even do that anyways, but if she did guess what she wouldn't because I would not allow it to happen
Can I get an amen there?
Hey say amen if you're a man that would never allow your wife to disrespect a pastor
Thank you. All right. I'm in a normal place
Because because it's just is it just me or just like everyone losing their mind today
Where it's just like women are just blatantly rebuking and railing against pastors and nothing's happening
It's just not getting taken care of it's just being excused. It's being defended. It's insane folks. It's so evil
Look what the Bible says in verse number 13 of 1st Timothy 5
And with all they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house and not only idle,
but tatlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not, I will therefore
that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the
adversary to speak reproachfully.
Notice, for some are already turned aside after Satan.
These loudmouth, double-tongued, gossiping, wandering about from house to house, women
They're following Satan, and you know what, they're giving Christianity a bad name.
When the world sees loudmouth, feminist women and say, those are the disciples of Jesus
Christ?
Wow, you guys let your pastors get clowned on by women?
Yeah, I'm sure the world would really love that message.
No, you know what it is?
It reproaches the name of Christ.
And if you actually love Christ and love His Word and love the ministry, you would want
stuff like that called out and rebuked.
And you know what, I would rather preach sermons like this
that some people are gonna say are over the top,
but keep feminism out of my church,
then have to wake up one day and say,
holy crap, there's a feminist cancer in my church
that I have to deal with.
I'd rather just be over the top like this and just keep it the hell out of our church.
And here's the thing, I say this from the bottom of my heart, I am proud of the ladies
at Anchor Baptist Church.
They have a great testimony, they are great examples, they are great ladies.
You know what, I'm thankful that I don't have this issue at Anchor Baptist Church.
To just be honest with you, I don't have this issue, but you know what, I'd rather die than
I would rather die than allow Anchor Baptist Church to become a feminist hellhole.
I would rather die than have to get up like Pastor Joe Jones and say,
the title of my sermon is, Has Feminism Crept Into Our Church?
Hey, if you have to ask that question, more on than it has!
What the hell?
What kind of question is that?
The answer is yes if you have to ask that question.
No, I promise you this, no one at Anchor Baptist Church thinks,
It's Pastor Oz, a feminist.
Is this a feminist church?
No one has ever asked that question, okay?
You're asking that question, you've already lost.
And I won't ever get to that point.
Go to Proverbs 21, Proverbs chapter 21.
You say, you preached too long.
Well, Pastor Shelley trained me, all right?
He sent me out, I came from this church.
I'm not ashamed of him.
Number eight.
Number eight, here's my point here, if you blame rebellious and disobedient wives on
the husband, you're acting like a feminist.
There's this mentality I've heard my whole life, that, oh, if kids grow up and they're
adults and they do something wrong, oh, that must be in there.
They were bad parents, 100%.
Oh, it's just generalized, say, kids grow up and they do something wrong, that means
Oh, you know, employees breaking the rules?
That must mean they have a bad boss.
Oh, church members, don't listen to the Bible
and don't do what the Bible says?
Must mean that there's a bad pastor.
Oh, a wife or bells against her husband?
Must mean he's a terrible husband.
You just need to get more spiritual.
Be ye awesome as I am awesome
and then all your problems will go away.
This is the great advice
that's being given from pulpits today.
You know what, it pisses me off
because there's real people having real problems
that don't live in La La Land,
don't live in perfect land.
And it would be so nice if you just preach be awesome as I am awesome and that would
just fix everyone's problems, but it doesn't.
It doesn't.
Here's what the Bible says in Proverbs 21 verse 8, the way of man is forward and strange.
But as for the pure, his work is right.
Here's the thing, you have a choice to be one of these two.
The way of man is froward and strange.
Man in general is rebellious, disobedient,
doesn't want to listen to what the Bible says,
but you can make the choice to be godly,
but as for the purer, his work is right.
You get to choose today,
are you going to be a rebellious person
who doesn't listen to the Bible,
who doesn't listen to the preaching,
are you going to be froward and rebellious,
or is your work going to be pure?
Guess who gets to decide that?
You get to decide that.
Your leader doesn't get to decide that for you.
And I'm sick and tired of leaders being chastised instead of emphasizing what the Bible emphasizes,
wives obey your husbands.
That needs to be emphasized from the pulpit today, instead it's just chastising husbands for using their authority.
Chastising men for ruling in the home.
Chastising pastors for saying,
you know, I'm the man of God here
and having to remind people every once in a while.
Oh, if you ever have to remind someone you're in charge,
you're not in charge, well, the Bible disagrees with you.
Because God's constantly like, I am the Lord,
I am the Lord, I am the Lord, I am the Lord.
God's just letting us know he's in charge.
You know what, this type of preaching of just like,
well just be awesome and you'll never have any problems,
be awesome and you won't have any rebellion,
it's just not true, folks.
It's just not true.
Let me give you an example.
And here's the thing, this is again,
something I don't have a problem with
at Anchor Baptist Church, praise God.
But let's just say that I get up
and I just rip face on how you need to go soul-winning.
Let's say I go soul winning myself I go soul winning I set the example
I tell you to go soul winning. I have soul winning seminars. Here's some materials. Here's some training
I'm giving it to you. Here's a time to meet. We'll pick you up. You could be a silent partner
We're just giving you all the reasons to go soul winning. Okay, and let's say you don't go soul winning
You want to know whose fault that is your fault?
That's not my fault if I'm showing the way
And I'm telling you the right way to go and I'm giving you all the opportunity and you just refuse to obey, that's on you.
And we should stop sitting here today chastising leaders for being leaders and instead chastise rebellious and wicked followers for not doing what the Bible says.
And instead of attacking parents for chastising their children and blaming parents for their kids growing up and being wicked, why don't you instead get on those kids for being wicked?
It's insane today the the philosophy that's crept into Christians. It's not from the Bible
It's not from the Bible go to Exodus chapter 32 as you're turning there Colossians 3 18 says this wives
Submit yourselves unto your own husbands as it is fit in the Lord
You know what? It is your husband's responsibility to lead to show a good example to do what's right, but it is your
responsibility to obey
And this type of preaching of well if you just be more spiritual your wife would obey you know what you're doing
You're just green lighting the wife to disobey and say in her heart
Well if my husband was just more godly if my husband was just more awesome as someone else is awesome
Then maybe I'd obey no no it doesn't matter what you think of your leader you should be told to obey period
Whether you like him or not whether you think he's worthy or not. He's worthy by virtue of his position
And you ought to obey
And here's the thing, let me just tell you where this philosophy comes from, and where any bad philosophy comes from, where any false doctrine comes from, it comes from pride.
It comes from pride, because here's the thing, let's say...
A leader has a very submissive wife and let's say his church members do what he says and
things are going really smooth and his wife doesn't really buck that often or something
like that.
He's just got a really submissive wife.
Here's the thing, in his mind he's thinking, well, you know, my wife obeys me, my church
members obey me, my employees obey me, because I'm so awesome.
And if you would just be awesome as I am awesome, you wouldn't have any problems.
Have you ever considered the fact that maybe your wife obeys you because of Ephesians chapter
Have you ever considered the fact that maybe your employees obey you because of the Bible's teachings?
Have you ever considered that your church members obey you because they love and respect God?
And look, here's the thing, maybe certain leaders are really awesome. I hope leaders are awesome.
But at the end of the day, we shouldn't be like, well, you know, people are gonna follow me if I'm awesome.
No, people should follow leaders because of what the Bible says. Period.
And we ought not to have this just blind pride in ourselves and thinking like well if I have a submissive wife
That's just because I'm such a great husband
And if you would just be a great husband like me, maybe you wouldn't have any problems.
Well guess what?
People do have problems.
People do have real problems.
And you know what?
Rebellious wives need to be told.
They need to be told to listen to this sermon.
They need to be told to read the Bible and do what the Bible says.
And you know what?
Rebellious kids need to be told.
They don't need to be told, oh well if your parents were just better parents, if your
parents were just more godly, if your parents weren't just provoking you to wrath.
Then maybe you'd be a better kid those kids need to be told stop being wicked and obey your mother and father
You know if a parent decides that their teenage kids need spankings instead of pastors getting behind the pulpit saying it doesn't work
It doesn't work and preaching second opinions chapter 2
Maybe they should back up the authority that God has given
And you know what? If you're a teenager and you get spanked by your parents,
don't you dare despise your parents.
Don't say, but Pastor X new FB said that it was wrong.
What does your authority say?
Does mom and dad say you need a spanking? Then you need a spanking.
Hey wives, does your husband say you're wrong? Then you're wrong.
Hey church members, if your pastor says you're wrong, you're wrong.
Hey employees, if your boss says you're wrong, you're wrong.
Just submit.
Look at Exodus chapter 32.
Exodus 32 verse 7,
And the Lord said unto Moses,
Go, get thee down, for thy people,
which thou broughtest out of the land of Egypt,
have corrupted themselves.
They have turned aside quickly out of the way,
which I commanded them.
They have made them a molten calf and have worshiped it,
and have sanctified thereto,
and said, These be thy gods, O Israel,
which have brought thee up out of the land of Egypt.
So is God a bad leader?
I mean, here are the children of Israel, they just got delivered, they just crossed the
Red Sea, they're delivered from the Egyptians and just right away they're making idols.
Well God, if you were just a better leader, well God, if you were just a better God, maybe
your children wouldn't have rebelled against you.
Moses, maybe if you were just a better leader, maybe if you weren't up in the mountain, maybe
if you spent more time with your people, Moses, then they wouldn't have rebelled.
No, man is just throwward and strange.
And guess what? It was their decision to rebel against God.
That's not God's fault. That's not Moses' fault.
You rebel against your authority. That is your fault.
You have no one else to blame but yourself.
Last place we'll go to Colossians chapter number two.
We'll go to Colossians, Colossians chapter number two.
Here's the thing. If you're a godly woman,
if you're in this church and you love the Lord and you love God's word,
there's nothing in this sermon that should offend you.
You shouldn't feel uncomfortable.
You shouldn't feel like, oh, this is such a mean sermon.
Because guess what?
We read in Proverbs 31,
God highly values the virtuous women.
And you know what, I highly value the virtuous woman.
I love my wife.
She is a great woman.
I'm so thankful to God for her.
I wouldn't have wanted to marry anyone else.
And you know what, as for the ladies
at Anchor Baptist Church, I'm proud to be their pastor.
They are a good example.
You know what, the ladies in this church knew I'd be.
You guys are good examples.
But look, let me just say this.
If you're offended by something in the sermon,
then it was about you and you need to change.
And you need to realize, hey, maybe my ideas were wrong.
Maybe I was brainwashed by this world, maybe I don't know everything,
and maybe I need to renew my mind according to the Scriptures.
We'll close with Colossians 2-8.
Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit.
A lot of people want to corrupt your mind today by worldly philosophy,
much of that feminist worldly philosophy.
After the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ.
For in Him dwelleth all the fullness of the Godhead bodily, and ye are complete in Him,
which is the head of all principality and power.
You want to know why preaching about authority is important?
Because there's a main authority out there, the highest authority, the Lord Jesus Christ.
And disrespect of any authority is a disrespect of Jesus Christ.
Because the powers that be are ordained of God, God put your husband in charge over you.
Kids, God put your parents over you.
God put your pastor over you.
God put your boss over you.
Let's pray more. Thank you so much for this day.
Thank you for Steadfast Baptist Church and the great success this church is having.
I pray, Lord, that you would bless Pastor Shelley and the members here.
I pray that everyone would rally behind Pastor Shelley and his vision for this church.
I pray that you would bless the marriages in this room, that we would both strive to be as close to the Lord as possible
and live our lives as close to the Bible as possible.
I pray that we would have grace with each other when we fall short, that we would stay in our proper roles,
and that we'd love and honor you.
In Jesus' name we pray. Amen.
All right for our last song we're gonna go to song number 145
Song number 145
So little instruction generally what we do here is on the first it is well, it's all the ladies on the second
It's the men
So we'll try to follow along on that and just watch me for the timing as well
So we're gonna have a key change on the last verse
145 it is well with my soul
You are all dismissed. I hope you had a great time.