Now in Song of Solomon chapter 3, the Bible reads in verse 1,
By night on my bed, I sought him whom my soul loveth.
I sought him, but I found him not.
I will rise now and go about the city and the streets and in the broad ways I will seek
him whom my soul loveth.
I sought him, but I found him not.
Now in the book of Song of Solomon, we've been reading about expressions of love between
the wife and her husband.
Now there are a lot of strange interpretations to this book, but if we just read the book
and take it at face value, it's definitely about people that are married.
It's definitely about King Solomon and a woman that he is in love with, and there's an exchange
going on between the two.
When we get into chapters 4 and 5, the word spouse is used a lot as they speak with one
another, which clearly indicates that they're married.
And in chapter 3 here, we see that in verse number 4, obviously they're going into the
bedchamber together, okay?
Obviously that indicates that they're married because the Bible teaches that, you know,
going to bed with someone that you're not married to is fornication, and it's a major,
major sin in the Bible that God judges very seriously, and so this is talking about affection
between husband and wife.
Now the book of Song of Solomon is one that's not often preached, and a lot of people even
find the teachings of Song of Solomon to be inappropriate, and some would even say that
it's inappropriate for children, you know, or some would say, well, it's a book that
should be read, but don't preach it because it's too explicit.
But in reality, the book of Song of Solomon is not explicit at all.
It does deal with love, it does deal with marriage, it does deal with, you know, subjects
of that nature, but it never goes into any detail that would be explicit or inappropriate
for all ages.
The Bible says every word of God is pure.
He's a shield unto them that put their trust in Him.
And so I believe that this book is a pure, righteous book, and the Bible teaches that
all scripture is given by inspiration of God and is profitable for doctrine.
Now one thing that's interesting if you look at this is that in these first few verses,
we see that the wife is seeking for her husband on her bed at night in the middle of the night.
He's not there, and she has an intense longing to be with her husband, and she has a desire
for her husband, but she doesn't find him, so she gets up in the middle of the night
and she basically goes out into the city looking for him.
That's what we just read.
And as she's going out into the city looking for him, she's encountering basically what
we would think of today as the police, you know, the watchmen that go about the city.
Basically people that are just patrolling the city, making sure that there aren't any
enemy invaders, making sure that there aren't any robbers out or anything like that.
So these men that are patrolling, she comes across them because she's out looking for
her husband in the middle of the night.
And she says to them, Saw ye him whom my soul loveth?
It doesn't give an answer, but in verse 4 it says, It was but a little that I passed
from them.
So after speaking with them, it says in verse 4, But I found him whom my soul loveth.
I held him and would not let him go until I had brought him into my mother's house and
into the chamber of her that conceived me.
I charge you, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, by the rose and by the hinds of the field,
that ye stir not up nor awake, my love, till he please.
So what we see here is that she has a great desire to be with her husband.
She goes out and finds him, she lays hold on him and will not let him go until she takes
him into the bedchamber, right, into the chamber of her that conceived her.
And the next thing we know, he's asleep, right?
But do you notice one colossal thing that's left out that obviously happened in between?
And this is what I mean by the fact that the Bible is not explicit in the book of Song
of Solomon, even though people will often say that the book of Song of Solomon is going
into all this, you know, erotic detail.
Actually it's not at all.
We see that he covers the subject of love and marriage and physical intimacy between
husband and wife, but without going into any detail whatsoever.
We see that he just glosses over that part.
He makes it obvious what's going on without giving us the detail.
Not only that, but as we read the book of Song of Solomon, there are many times in Song
of Solomon where the husband is praising his wife's beauty and also where the wife is praising
her husband's appearance and basically, you know, praising different parts of his body.
You know, talking about his arms and his legs and talking about his hair and his face and
you know, he's basically praising parts of his woman's body.
But notice, none of the, you know, none of the anatomy that's the reproductive anatomy
is ever described.
God leaves that to be between a husband and wife alone.
He leaves that to be something that is kept private, okay?
And so that should be kept private.
I don't believe that we should go around talking about details of what goes on in our bedroom.
You know, what happens within a marriage should be private between that husband and wife.
It shouldn't be discussed openly.
The Bible doesn't discuss it openly.
The Bible is not explicit.
The Bible is not going into those types of subjects and neither should we.
We should use the Bible as our guidance as far as how much to talk about these things
and what not to say and where not to go when we preach and when we read the Bible and we
talk to one another in fellowship.
We should not go beyond what the Bible teaches, okay?
There are people out there who want to take it further than that and I just don't believe
that it's necessary.
You know, I've been married for 13 years and you know, you figure it out as you go along.
You know, and you learn more as you go.
But let me say this, in chapter 3 verse 1 here, we see a theme that comes up over and
over again in the book of Song of Solomon which is basically this really intense desire
that the wife has for her husband and that the husband has for his wife.
She's saying, By night on my bed I sought him whom I so loved, I sought him but I found
him not.
Then later it says in verse number 4, It was but a little that I passed from them, but
I found him whom I so loved.
I held him and would not let him go until I had brought him into my mother's house and
into the chamber of her that conceived me.
Now you say, well that's kind of forceful of her.
That's not very ladylike of her to just grab hold of her husband, drag him into that bedroom
and say, I'm not going to let you go.
But if you would, go to 1 Corinthians chapter 7, 1 Corinthians chapter number 7.
We should always let the Bible be our guide on all things.
And we should always let the Bible trump our own opinions and what we think is right
and what we think is wrong and let the Bible be our final authority.
Because actually what we see here in Song of Solomon chapter 3 is actually a very good
example and if you would go to 1 Corinthians 7 we'll get some clear teaching from the New
Testament that actually goes hand in hand with what we see in Song of Solomon chapter
3.
In 1 Corinthians chapter 7 verse 1 the Bible reads, Now concerning the things whereof ye
wrote unto me, it is good for a man not to touch a woman, nevertheless, to avoid fornication,
let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
So what that's teaching there is that people that are unmarried should not have a physical
relationship before marriage.
That's pretty clear.
He says it's good for a man not to touch a woman.
But then he says, nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife and let every
woman have her own husband, you say, how is that going to avoid fornication?
Because if that relationship is taking place within marriage, that's going to help you
avoid seeking that relationship outside of marriage because that need is already met,
which is something that God has placed within us as men and women, that desire for an intimate
relationship with the opposite gender, and we see that the righteous way to fulfill that
is by every man having his own wife and every woman having her own husband.
That will help you to avoid fornication, okay?
Now today we have a teaching out there that teaches that you should wait a very long time
to get married.
And you know, if we talk to most people in the world today, probably the average age
that they would recommend getting married is about 30.
Now I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with getting married at age 30 or 40 or any
age.
You know, every person is different.
Every person has a different personality, they have a different life that they're living
and a different walk with God, and different people mature at different rates and different
levels.
But I will say this, a one-size-fits-all that just says don't get married young, I don't
believe in it.
I'm against it.
And here's why.
Because a lot of people today are being tempted with a lot of fornication because they're
living a lifestyle that's not really what the Bible teaches.
Because the Bible teaches that a man should leave his father and mother and cleave unto
his wife and they too should be one flesh.
That's the perfect plan.
Now obviously the exception proves the rule.
Obviously there are other situations.
But God's plan, what God ordained from the beginning in Genesis was that a man would
leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife and that they too would be one flesh.
And that is what God's perfect plan is.
That is the norm.
And I like the word normal.
We're taught today in 2013, well nothing's normal.
Your version of normal is different than my version of normal.
Because we're living in a day where just nobody wants to consider anything abnormal.
Queers are not abnormal.
Just everything's normal.
Everything's okay.
Well look, there is a normal.
A normal is a husband and wife that have children.
That is a normal family.
Now look, I'm not saying that other situations don't exist.
I'm not saying that other situations couldn't even righteously exist.
I mean there are some people that God doesn't choose to bless with children, at least not
at this time.
There are some people like the Apostle Paul who basically said that he had a certain gift
from God where he was able to abstain from being married and abstain from fornication
and didn't really have a serious temptation.
He was able to go through his life that way and be effective serving God in that way.
There are widows, there are widowers, there are people who find themselves in situations
through sin, and then there are people who find themselves in situations just through
the course of life.
But let me tell you something.
For the vast majority of people, God's will is that they get married.
The Bible says that I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, and
guide the house.
Give none occasion to the adversary to speak reposely.
That is God's main plan for mankind is the family.
And the family is a husband, wife, and children.
That is the norm.
That is what the majority of people should be doing with their lives.
Not to say there aren't exceptions to that, but today everybody's the exception, right?
And so today we have a culture where man does not leave his father and mother and cleave
to his wife.
Man leaves father and mother and cleaves unto a roommate.
Or man leaves father and mother and lives alone.
That is the norm today.
And what's being taught is, you know, you don't want to jump into marriage, you know,
you just want to go out and be single for a while, have your own apartment, or have
a roommate.
I don't believe it's God's plan.
Now I don't think there would be anything wrong with somebody who waits a little bit
longer to get married, but I think that that person should ideally be living at home with
their parents until they get married.
And I mean, with daughters, no question about it.
I mean, they should be at home under the protection of their mother and father, you know, until
the time comes that they get married.
That's what I believe, that's what I'm teaching my children, that's what I want for them,
and that's what I think God teaches throughout the entire Bible, okay?
But what we see today is a culture that says, man, don't get married young.
And you know, I got married young, and whenever you see people who are Christians, they love
the Lord, and they meet somebody else who's a Christian who loves the Lord, and they want
to get married younger, like let's say 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, and then just everybody's
against it.
All the family's against it, everybody's attacking it, don't do it, don't do it, and what ends
up happening is, you know, it just makes it hard to live for God.
When basically, you know, you're living in a world where the norm, I'll tell you what
the world's norm is, they leave father and mother at 18, and then they go out and they
are a fornicator until they're 30.
And then when they're 30, they get married and they've already been with X amount of
people.
That's not a way that we should be as Christians patterning ourselves after, you know?
And look, if two people are godly people that love each other, you know, the Bible says
blessed are the children of the youth, you know, and if two young people love God and
love each other and they want to serve the Lord together, you know, I don't think that
anybody should try to stop them from getting married, you know, establishing a home and
moving forward with their lives, because honestly, the biggest temptation for fornication
is probably in the 20s.
That's probably the prime fornication years.
And so therefore, a lot of people are being pushed into a situation and the Bible says
lead us not into temptation.
Now look, I'm not saying rush out and get married when you turn 18, but I am saying
this, you know, if you have a desire to get married, if you have a burning desire to be
married, right, and that's where you're at, and you meet the right person and you are
in love and you do have a godly person that you'd like to spend the rest of your life
with, you know, I don't think that you should put off getting married just for the sake
of putting off getting married.
You know, and if you do, and if you do wait a little bit longer, you know what, then I
think you should be willing to stay with mom and dad if they don't, if they're not kicking
you out, you know, I'm telling you, you need to be on your own, but, and some parents do
that today.
But the Bible says here to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife and let every
woman have her own husband.
And then it says in verse 3, let the husband render unto the wife, do benevolence, and
likewise also the wife unto the husband.
The wife hath not power of her own body but the husband.
But look at the second half of that verse, and likewise also, meaning in the same way,
and likewise also, the husband hath not power of his own body but the wife, defraud ye not
one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting
and prayer and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
Because what we see here is that part of the justification for getting married that the
Bible is giving is to avoid fornication.
So he's saying, look, if you're getting married, but then you're not having a physical relationship
with your spouse, Satan's going to tempt you for your incontinency.
You basically have defeated a major purpose of getting married because part of the reason
you got married was to avoid fornication.
Now you're not having that physical relationship, Satan's going to tempt you or tempt your spouse.
And you say, well, I'm above that.
Well, great, but you know what?
The Bible says not to do it because Satan will tempt you for your incontinency.
That's what the Bible teaches.
So we might think that we're smarter than that, but the Bible says, let him that thinketh
he standeth take heed lest he fall.
And you look at a man like David, who was a great man of God, was he above committing
adultery?
He committed adultery, but he made a series of foolish decisions leading up to that that
caused him to commit adultery.
He's idle.
He's not going to war.
He's sitting around, getting up in the middle of the night just walking around, looking
through windows.
He sees a woman and then takes a second look at a woman that's bathing.
I mean, he did X, Y, and Z that led up to that point, but I'm saying that none of us
should just think we are above sin, we are immune from sin.
And look, even if you're not going to go out and just commit the awful, wicked sin of adultery,
which is something that God prescribed the death penalty for in the Old Testament, major,
major sin.
Even if you're not going to go out and commit the sin of adultery, though, you know, the
Bible does teach that if you look on a woman to lust after her, you've committed adultery
with her already in your heart.
And I'll tell you, when you have a right relationship with your spouse, you know what?
That sin is going to be much less of a temptation than when you're basically abstaining from
a relationship with your spouse, which the Bible, frankly, commands you in 1 Corinthians
7 not to do.
Then in verse 6 he says,
But I speak this by permission and not of commandment, for I would that all men were
even as I myself, meaning single, but every man hath this proper gift of God, one after
this manner and another after that.
So what he's saying is, I'm not commanding you that you must get married, but I'm giving
you permission to be married, because it is something that will help you to avoid fornication,
and so on.
He's saying, you know, I personally would like everybody to be single like me.
That's the life I live.
But he's just basically telling them, you know what?
To avoid fornication, most people need to get married, and he explains that some people
have that gift in verse 7.
He said,
Every man hath this proper gift of God, one after this manner and another after that.
I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as
I.
But, watch this, if they cannot contain, let them marry, for it is better to marry than
to burn.
And the burn there is talking about burning in lust, rather than just being married and
just satisfying that need that is a natural part of being a human being.
So this is a really great passage on marriage and about the physical relationship in marriage.
Don't you see the consistency between 1 Corinthians 7 and what we see in Song of Solomon chapter
3?
Because the Bible says here at the end of verse 4,
Likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body but the wife.
And then it says,
Defraud ye not one the other.
So just as much as the wife can defraud the husband, the husband can also defraud the
wife.
And what we see here is that basically the husband is being laid hold on, right?
And dragged into that bedroom, right?
And she's not going to let him go until she's brought him into that bedroom.
You know, and next thing we know he's sleeping soundly, okay?
So what we see here is that what's being taught in Song of Solomon chapter 3 is completely
proper and right and she was within her married rights to basically demand a physical relationship
with her husband.
Does everybody understand that?
So you can look at that and say, well that's not ladylike or what in the world's that about?
What's going on with that?
But look, according to the Bible, it jives with the teaching of scripture in 1 Corinthians
7.
Now some people would, some people would literally, and I, you know, I don't like to be explicit.
The Bible's not explicit and little ears are listening.
But some people would define this as a word that starts with an R, you know, that's a
four letter word, right?
And it reminds with a big, it rhymes with a big animal that eats bananas, you know,
right?
Does everybody know what I'm talking about?
Who knows the word that I'm alluding to without saying in front of the children?
Some people would refer to that and say, you know, oh, you know, making somebody do something
that they don't want to do or telling someone that they have to do something that they don't
want to do, you know, that's, you know, insert four letter word that they want to slander
it as.
But let me ask you this, what does the Bible teach?
The Bible teaches in verse 5 that you should not defraud the other except it be with consent
for a time.
So let me ask you this.
Does the Bible say you must get consent every time you want to have a physical relationship
with your spouse?
Is that what the Bible says?
No, in fact, the Bible teaches the exact opposite.
The Bible teaches, and you say, you know, I don't believe you have the guts to preach
this bad.
Well, I have the guts to preach a lot of things and if you've been coming to this church you
know that.
But you know what, I fear God and no one else, okay?
And the Bible teaches this and it needs to be preached.
I don't really give a rip what anybody thinks about it, okay?
Oh, people are going to attack you.
Well, they already do.
Yea, and all that will live godly in Christ Jesus shall suffer persecution.
The Bible teaches that this is something that should be consented not to do.
There should be consent to abstain for a period of fasting and prayer.
The Bible says defraud ye not one the other except it be with consent for a time that
ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer and come together again that Satan tempt ye
not for your incontinence.
So what we see there is that the consent is to abstain for a period of fasting and prayer.
And this is not a year long fast or you'd be dead, you know?
And I don't, I mean, you probably haven't even, you probably never fasted for a month,
you know?
Right, I mean, how long have you fasted for?
How much praying are you doing, okay?
Now look, the reason why God talks about abstaining for periods of fasting and prayer is because
obviously if you're fasting, what is the definition of fasting?
You're going without what?
Food, right?
And isn't there a joy in eating?
Yea, and when you don't eat, don't you feel deprived?
You feel hungry, right?
And you wish you had some food and when you bite into that food, it tastes so good.
And there's a pleasure in eating and drinking.
Part of the purpose of fasting is foregoing pleasure, right?
So that you can really just devote yourself to the Lord in prayer.
And the Bible often uses the term afflicting your souls.
When you're fasting, you're afflicting your souls, right?
And so if you're afflicting your soul and then you're basically enjoying a pleasurable
relationship with your spouse, that wouldn't really be consistent, would it?
Well I'm not going to eat, but I'm going to gratify the flesh in this other way.
Not consistent.
Now is it a sin to eat food?
No.
Well, is it a sin to have a physical relationship with your spouse?
Well, you're commanded to.
You know, Catholics teach that it's a sin, but that's a creepy religion anyway.
So basically, you know, obviously you'd forego that for a period of fasting and prayer.
Makes perfect sense.
Now notice the word fraud, defraud.
You know, if we were to think of the word fraud, we'd probably think of what?
Writing a bad check.
Or maybe, you know, a business dealing gone bad.
Someone that's fraudulent, okay?
So the reason that this kind of behavior within marriage is fraudulent is because, you know,
when you get married, part of the vow is to have and to hold.
And if you're not keeping that end of the bargain, if you make a vow, you know, I'm
marrying you in sickness as in health, in poverty as in wealth, forsaking all others,
keep me only unto you so long as we both shall live, to have and to hold from this day forward,
for better, for worse, you know, that is a commitment that you're making.
That is a promise that you're making.
That is a vow that you're making.
And if you go back on that, that's fraud, okay?
Because you're not keeping your end of the bargain.
And when you get married, part of what you're in for is a physical relationship, okay?
And if you're going to defraud your spouse of that physical relationship, you are committing
sin.
Now what's interesting about this is that if we see in Song of Solomon chapter 3, the
one who is not being defrauded, but the one who is basically demanding a physical relationship
from their spouse, right, is the wife, demanding that her husband have a physical relationship
with her in chapter 3.
She goes out looking for him, lays hands on him, won't let him go until he goes into the
chamber, okay?
But today, the common philosophy of the world that we live in, and look, you've got to get
over our American culture because it's ungodly.
I mean our American culture is downright strange.
I mean when you're living in a society that condones sodomy, when you're living in a society
where one out of four women have aborted their child, have murdered their own child, one
out of four women today in America is the statistic that I read.
When you're living in a society that calls good evil and evil good, you've really got
to just put that all aside and just read the Bible and just believe what it says.
And you see, there's a lot of feminism out there today and there's a lot of teaching
out there that basically says, well, you know, physical relationship, that's something that
men want.
But, you know, it seems like a lot of feminism teaches that that's not something that women
are even interested in.
You know, that's just something that women just go along with or whatever, but that's
not really something that they need or that they desire.
But is that what we see as we read the Bible from Genesis to Revelation?
No.
We see that in a healthy, normal marriage, we see that both people want to have this
relationship with one another.
I mean, isn't that what we see in 1 Corinthians 7?
If the husband's not having that relationship, he feels defrauded.
If the wife's not getting that relationship, she feels defrauded.
You know, the husband is not there for his wife in her time of need.
She lays hold on him and says, look buddy, time to, time to, time to, you know, pay up
on the check, right?
This is what you, you know, committed to do.
Okay?
Look, what I'm saying is that what we see in the Bible is a mutual desire, one for another.
And this is what should exist in a healthy marriage where the husband and wife are not
having a physical relationship as a drudgery or as a chore or just to make the other person
happy, but that rather both enjoy this relationship and that it's something that they both desire
and that both of them would be tempted without.
You know, it's just something that they need or it's something that needs to be filled
by their spouse.
Now, yet today, we don't always see that this is the case and there are a lot of marriages
and you know, I don't do marriage counseling just simply because I don't like to know every
detail of people's messed up marriage or other problems.
And you know, because you know, you just don't want to hear everybody.
But here's my philosophy.
The Bible works for everybody.
Ephesians 5 works for everybody.
You know, Song of Solomon works for everybody.
So I have a one size fits all approach that says what's good for the goose is good for
the gander.
You know, if God says husbands love your wives, wives submit to your husbands, you know, love
your wives as Christ loved the church, be not bitter against your wives, you know, and
don't defraud each other.
He's giving all this advice.
I just believe that that advice works for everybody.
But the same advice is going to be good for everybody.
So I just don't feel like I need to know every detail of some situation, you know, sit down
in some office and do counseling where you know, he tells me everything bad about his
wife and she tells me everything bad about her husband and then I'm going to mediate
and be like a referee in somebody else's marriage.
I don't want to do that.
Because I believe that every man should be the head of his own household.
I'm not going to step in and fill that role.
You be a man.
You run your house.
You be in charge.
You come in and start telling you what to do and start telling your wife what to do
and I don't want to hear all your dirty laundry because you know what, honestly, I don't need
to know.
And when people come to me and say, hey, do you do marriage counseling or can I get some
advice?
I say, well look, I don't need to know the details of your situation.
I just say, let me just tell you what the Bible says you should be doing in your marriage.
Do X, Y, Z, A, B, C and if you do that, take two of these and call me in the morning, you
know, it's like that's going to work.
It's going to work.
And you know, you just might not want to do it.
You just might fail at doing it but you know, there's no new thing under the sun.
You know, you think you have this unique situation that nobody's ever dealt with.
You think that you're going through marital problems that nobody's ever had and just nobody
understands you know, I mean I know the Bible says that but my husband is X, Y, or my wife
is Z.
You know, look, don't you think God knew that when he wrote the Bible?
And don't you think that there's no temptation that's taken you but such is his common demand?
And that's why the Bible works for everybody, okay?
But I don't do a bunch of counseling.
I don't listen to a bunch of people's details in their marriage because frankly I just am
not interested in it and I don't think that it's, I don't want to be a confessional booth.
You know, where I just listen to everybody's dirty laundry, you know, this isn't a Catholic
church.
Don't come to me and just start confessing everything to me or something after the service
about all the marital strife that you've had.
But I will say this, even without doing counseling, just in the course of my life and just being
a pastor, you know, you hear a lot of people say a lot of things and you come into contact
with a lot of situations and I can tell you right now, you know, that this is something
that is a problem in a lot of people's marriages and that's why it's even worth preaching about.
And you know what, there are Christians today in 2013 that do commit adultery and that do
get divorced and remarried which is adultery because the Bible says, whosoever put it away
his wife and marrieth another, commiteth adultery.
So what we see is that there's a lot of divorce, there's a lot of adultery, there's a lot of
marriages failing and I see it and I believe that it is mainly a result of people not following
the Bible.
Because I believe that if they would follow the Bible and that if we would order our marriage
according to biblical principles, then our marriage would go better than if we're ordering
it according to the world's principles.
Then we're going to fail, then we're going to have problems.
Obviously there are situations where people are unequally yoked together and the Bible
says be not unequally yoked together with unbelievers.
For what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness?
And obviously if you're married to someone who's not saved, that's a challenge.
That's a whole issue in and of itself but that's why those that are single Christians
need to make sure that they don't make that mistake.
If you've already made that mistake, you have to deal with the consequences of it and then
your life's going to be more complicated.
But God's original will is that you marry a believer if you are a believer and make
sure that you marry someone who loves the Lord if you love the Lord.
But I believe that today there's a major problem today in marriages where basically people
who are married, you know it's like they live their life like roommates.
They don't have the relationship that we see in Song of Solomon.
You know where you see just all this passion and all this intense love and I believe it's
possible, I have that kind of a marriage so I know that it's possible.
And I'm telling you there are a lot of people today where they're literally living with
a business partner or a roommate today and they read the book of Song of Solomon and
they're looking at that and they're looking at their own marriage and it's like, it doesn't
line up.
Right?
It'd be like if we read the book of Acts, right?
And we compared it to our church and just saw no similarity.
You know the book of Acts, they're going out, they're knocking doors, they're getting people
saved, people are getting baptized, it's exciting.
There's great persecution, there's great victories, there's churches being started
and then they look at their church and it's like, no one's ever getting saved, no one's
ever getting baptized, no one's ever being persecuted, no one's starting a church, everybody's
just sitting there and it's a social club and it's a Bible study.
And look, wouldn't you say there's something wrong with our church if there's a disparity
between our church and what we're reading in the book of Acts?
And then we should look at the book of Acts and say, what can I do to make our church
more like the early church of the book of Acts where they're doing great things for
God?
Doesn't that make sense?
So Song of Solomon's like the book of Acts of marriage, right?
Like Acts is a pattern, the Acts of the Apostles, we see the great things that they did for
God so that we can be inspired to do great things for God ourselves.
Well in our marriage, we look at the book of Song of Solomon and we look at a marriage
that's a great marriage.
We look at a marriage of two people that love each other and that have a great relationship
and basically we can try to look at that and say, you know what, this is the target that
we're shooting for.
Does everybody understand?
This is the target.
This is a pattern.
This is something to be striven for and you know, I don't see a business relationship
here.
I don't see a roommate status.
And I'm going to tell you right now what I believe is the biggest problem today in marriage
when you have a dull marriage, a dead marriage.
And let me say this, today we see that probably most marriages would probably fall into this
category and that's why the world has to trade spouses every once in a while, every five
years, ten years, right?
And also the world pictures marriage as boring.
Married life is boring.
You know, be sure you live your life and have fun because then you get married, you know.
And basically their wife is the old lady, you know, the old ball and chain, somebody
that they want to spend as little time with as possible.
I mean I know people who literally, okay, they work for a company that will send them
out of town and they'll go out of town for just weeks on end, not even see home for weeks
on end and they just do it because they volunteer to do it just to get away from their wife.
I mean isn't that horrible?
Isn't that sad?
I mean just get me away from her, you know, just they just want to find as many things
to do and just and just get away from her.
And you know, it's like the Bible says in Proverbs, it's better to dwell in the corner
of a housetop than with a, you know, a stubborn and rebellious woman.
And you know, but then also it can go the other way too, just wives that don't want
to be around their husband, just want to get away from him, you know, they just don't,
they just don't have any desire to be with them, you know, and this is a problem.
And I'll tell you what I think is the biggest problem and I think is a huge problem, why
marriage becomes dull because you know when you first get married it's never dull, right?
But then it's like the newness wears off and then people can have dullness in their
marriage that does not mirror the book of Song of Solomon.
And you know I have a good illustration about this that has to do with electricity.
And Scott, go ahead and go into this room Scott and give me one of those fire alarm
batteries out of that room Scott.
If you walk into that room and walk down on the right hand side there's like a million
of them.
Go ahead and bring me one of them.
Because I'm an electrician so I understand a lot about electrical and my dad was an electrician,
his dad was an electrician and before that, you know, I don't know if there was electricity
before that.
But anyway, you know, so I know about electricity and you know there's AC voltage and there's
DC voltage.
And you know if you think about a battery, right, and I've installed literally thousands
of these because I, a big part of my job doing fire alarms is replacing batteries.
They need to be replaced all the time.
And if you have a car battery, you know a little bit about batteries, but there are
two poles here, right?
There's the positive, which is the red right here, and then there's the negative, which
is the black here.
And, you know, a lot of people they know okay it's a battery, it's got a red and a black.
Don't mix them up.
It's going to blow up.
But they don't really understand how electricity works.
Let me just explain to you one of the major principles of electricity and that is the
principle of voltage.
Who thinks they know a little bit about voltage?
You know, the basics of voltage.
You know a very small percentage of people are putting up their hand, but you know some
people know about voltage.
But voltage is often referred to as potential difference, okay, and I'm going to read for
you.
This is a dictionary definition of voltage.
Electromotive force or potential difference expressed in volts.
The SI unit of potential difference and electromotive force formally defined to be the difference
of electric potential between two points of a conductor carrying a constant current of
one amp when the power dissipated between these points is equal to one watt.
And you say, I don't know what that means.
But voltage is the electrical difference between this point and this point.
They're very different.
One of them, let me just explain it to you in a way that you can understand.
One of them has a surplus of electrons, right?
One of them has a lack of electrons, right?
So there's an imbalance.
Do you understand that there's an imbalance?
One of them is real heavy on electrons, and I'm oversimplifying, but it's not a science
lesson.
One of them is lacking in electrons.
There's a big difference.
Now here's the thing.
If there's a little difference, that's called low voltage.
There's not a big potential difference between the positive and the negative, right?
The bigger the difference, the higher the voltage.
Now you know this is a 12 volt battery, similar to a car battery.
When I would go out and check fire alarm batteries, one of the things I would do is I would put
my multimeter on here and I would measure the voltage on the battery, okay?
And if I measure the voltage and it said 12, 13 volt, that means it's a good battery.
That's a lot of difference.
For what we need, that's exactly what we need, a 12 volt battery.
But what happens is over time, if I let this battery sit on the shelf and I don't even
use it, this battery will go dead, right?
That's why batteries have dates on them.
And they say you have to use it by a certain date.
Well if I let this set, basically over time it just slowly reaches a point of equilibrium
where everything just kind of relaxes.
The tension is gone and it just basically becomes equal to where the electrons here
are exactly the same as the electrons here.
It's just completely balanced, okay?
So when we have a good battery, when we have a good spark, when we have electricity, when
we have power, right?
It's because we have a high voltage.
We have a high potential difference.
When we have a dead, worthless battery that will power nothing, it's because we have equilibrium
or balance in electrons.
There is no potential difference.
There is zero difference, zero volts, and then it's ready for the trash.
Okay, so what happens is if we were to think about magnets for example, opposites attract,
right?
If we have a very strongly positive side and a very strongly negative, it's going to be
very strongly pulled together.
If we have a positive and a positive, they're going to be very strongly repelling one another,
right?
But what if we just have a weak magnet, right?
If you have a weak magnet, you can kind of force the two positives together, right?
If it's weak.
And if it's a weak magnet, you can pull apart the positive and the negative.
It's really strong, man.
It'll suck it so hard together that you can't get it apart.
You know, for example, a lot of doors are locked.
You know, you ever go to businesses and you have card access?
A lot of times there's a magnetic lock on the door and it's a magnet that's holding
it.
Sometimes up here there's just a metal plate and a magnet and that thing is energized and
you can try as hard as you want on that door.
You will not get that door open because that magnetism is so strong.
And then as soon as you swipe your card, the magnet de-energizes, the voltage is gone
and boom, you pull them right apart, okay?
So what is it that's going to keep us together in our marriage?
What is it that's going to keep the attraction there pulling us tightly together where you
can't even pry us apart versus just this really weak attraction where it's just really easy
to pull us apart, right?
Or what's going to keep our batteries charged?
What's going to keep the electricity and the spark alive at the high voltage marriage
versus the marriage that's dead, drab, like a dead battery?
Like what if we hooked a light bulb to this battery, right?
If it was a full battery, we'd get a nice bright shine.
And then what if it was a dying battery that had like maybe one or two volts?
You know, it'd probably just kind of dimly light up just a little bit, right?
And you'd say, this battery is weak.
You know, your flashlight just gets weaker and weaker and weaker.
You say, what in the world does this have to do with being married?
And look, what I'm saying is very important right now and it's very biblical.
And you know, if you're smart and you're married, then you're hanging on every word right now
because this is really important.
And a lot of people might, oh yeah, whatever, it's a battery.
But listen to me.
Your marriage is not positive and negative.
Now, it might be, you know.
Maybe you're like, no, you don't understand how negative my husband is or how negative
my wife is.
But you know, your marriage is not a marriage between a positive and a negative, right?
It's a marriage between a what and a what?
A man and a woman, right?
So basically what we have on one end is masculinity, okay?
And then the other pole we have is femininity, okay?
And these two things are contrary to one another.
They are opposites, aren't they?
And if you're normal, there's an attraction between man and woman, right?
And that's why you got married in the first place, right?
Because there is an attraction between man and woman.
There's a difference there, okay?
Those that are homos, the word homo is Greek for the same.
Man with men.
It's perverted.
It's not according to nature because nature is like this, okay?
So what I'm saying is if you have a marriage where you can keep strong masculinity on one
side of the marriage and strong femininity on the other side of the marriage, you will
have an exciting marriage.
You will have a powered up marriage.
You will have a high voltage marriage.
You will have a marriage where the attraction remains.
And when you get rid of that difference between husband and wife.
When you get rid of that difference between man and woman, what you're doing is you're
draining the battery.
You're going from a 12 volt marriage to a 3 volt marriage.
And then you wonder why you're not attracted to your spouse.
You wonder why your spouse isn't attracted to you.
You wonder why, you know, it's just so easy for you to be apart from one another.
In fact, sometimes you like being apart because there's so much sameness.
There's almost a repulsion.
Why?
Because our culture today has destroyed manhood today.
And it has destroyed womanhood today and that's why you see men and women both losing interest
in a physical relationship with their spouse.
Because they've lost that difference there.
And then you know what they do?
They go out and look for a what?
A different spouse.
So that's where they find the difference.
Instead of finding the difference within marriage, are you getting this?
Instead of finding the potential difference within marriage, they go just find a different,
that's just easier way to find a difference, just find a different person.
But you know what?
That battery's going to go dead pretty fast.
You'll go find that person and the same thing's going to happen.
That battery's going to go dead.
But you know what?
There's a way to just keep that thing charged up all the time and just keep that thing cranking
at 12 volts.
This is a rechargeable battery that I'm holding in my hand.
This is a sealed lead acid rechargeable battery.
This thing isn't a battery like a little energizer battery.
You use it up, you throw it away.
That's the world's marriage by the way.
Use it for a while, it's great at first, it works great and then slowly you get sick of
it and throw it out and find another one.
No this is a rechargeable battery.
This is a sealed lead acid battery.
This thing keeps on going and going and going and eventually it goes bad but it can work
for a long, long time because it keeps being recharged.
Now obviously, let's look at some Bible scriptures on this.
First of all, go to Deuteronomy chapter 22.
Let's start with some basics.
I'm not going to start with the big thing.
I'm going to start with the small thing first, everybody listening?
We're going to start with the small things, then we're going to go to the big thing.
So here's the small thing.
But you know what?
If you can't get the little things right, you're not going to get the big things right
because if you can't be faithful in the little things, you can't be faithful in the big things.
Isn't that the truth?
And you know what?
What I'm going to show you right now is the easy way to have a difference.
And it's the little thing that can be different, whereas as we progress in the sermon, I'm
going to get to bigger things that are more difficult but that will have an even greater
impact in this area of your life.
Okay.
Deuteronomy 22 5 says, the woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither
shall a man put on a woman's garment, for all that do so are abomination unto the Lord
thy God.
Now is that telling you to have different clothing than your wife?
Now that's a small thing.
That's not going to create, that's not just going to juice you up to, you know, you know,
it's not some huge amount of electricity or anything, but you know, at least we're getting
a little bit of power in your battery.
If we can at least get your wife to wear a skirt and get you to wear pants, right?
I mean, at least we're getting some kind of a difference going instead of you dressing
exactly the same.
I mean, it's progress, isn't it?
You know, then we could go over to 1 Corinthians 11, we'll not turn there for sake of time,
and where the Bible says that a man should have short hair and a woman should have long
hair, okay, at least we're getting a little bit more juice into the battery because at
least there's a little bit of a difference, at least in the way we look.
I mean, at least I can look at my wife and find her attractive because she looks different
than a man.
She looks feminine.
And look, you know what's the most attractive?
The most feminine woman.
You say, well, not to me.
Shut up, you pervert.
We're talking to the real men in the room.
Go to the church down the street, weirdo.
Real men are looking for a feminine wife.
They're not looking for some butch, bull, dyke-looking woman.
That's not what they're looking for.
They're looking for a woman who's feminine because they're a man and they want a feminine
wife, that's what they find attractive.
And you know what?
Women that are godly women, that are righteous women, they're not looking for some queer
little effeminate sissy, some guy who's got his little skinny jeans sagging down and he's
got his little limp wrist and he's got his $80 hairdo.
That's not what they're looking for.
They're looking for a real man, a masculine man, and that's what they're going to find
attractive.
That's what God has ordained a difference between man and woman.
So look, there's got to be difference and those are just really simple things, and those
are the outward things.
What's more important, the outward or the inward?
But does that mean the outward's not important at all?
If it weren't important, God wouldn't have even mentioned it.
Okay, he said cleanse first that which is within the cup of the platter that the outside
of them may be clean also.
We should have the outside right too.
But the inside is way more important.
The only reason I'm starting with the outside is just because it's easier to understand.
Like everything I just said was really easy to understand, right?
Any questions?
Pretty simple, right?
Just, you know, I mean, dress like a man.
Wear your hair like a man.
You know, but also just we could, and I don't have time in the sermon, just have all the
attributes of a man, strength, firmness, you know, calmness, right, confidence, courage.
You know, and I preached a whole sermon on manliness where I went into that.
You know, and then the Bible gives attributes that a woman should have.
You know, a meek and quiet spirit, right?
Godliness, good works.
The Bible talks a lot about, you know, the different things in Proverbs 31, the things
that characterize a godly woman.
She opened at their mouth with wisdom and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
One who is wise, one who understands God's work.
Ones who spent their time being a homemaker.
One who takes care of the children and takes care of her husband.
Takes care of domestic responsibilities.
Everybody getting this?
Okay.
But here's a colossal thing.
Go to Genesis 3.16.
Genesis chapter 3.16.
And here's the thing, there's not a lot of scripture that specifically goes into this
subject of, you know, what's going to make a, what's going to make a husband be very
attracted to his wife?
What's going to make a wife be very attracted to her husband?
But there, so when there is a scripture about it, we should pay attention.
Because there aren't that many scriptures about it.
So we should really pay close attention when there is a scripture about it.
Look at Genesis 3.16.
This is a big thing.
This is huge.
This is everything.
Genesis 3.16 says, under the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy
conception and sorrow thou shall bring forth children.
And watch this, and thy desire shall be to thy husband and he shall rule over thee.
Now that says that the woman's desire will be to her husband and he shall rule over her.
Okay?
So I submit to you today that the biggest reason why the marriage battery is dead today,
why the world's marriage battery is dead, and I'd say 90% of Christian marriage batteries
are dead or going dead in many ways, is because we have an equilibrium.
We have equality in marriage is what we have.
Equality.
But I thought equality was good.
No, equality is not good in marriage.
Now you know what kind of equality is good?
You know, when I'm a grown man who has my own household and you're a grown man and we're
brothers in Christ, right?
I'm not better than you, you're not better than me.
We're equal.
Right?
I'm not, you know, going to put some title after my name.
I'm not Steven Anderson, I'm Sir Steven Anderson, Esquire, you know.
I'm not going to, you know, titles of nobility are something that were abolished when our
country was founded.
And they said, you know, we don't want titles of nobility.
We don't want to lift up one above another.
You know, I believe in equality, I think that we should treat people equally when they're
of different races.
You know, I don't think that we should treat the Jew better than the Gentile.
I don't think we should treat white better than black.
You know, I think whoever comes in here should be treated with equality, okay?
But when it comes to marriage, we can't just have an equilibrium where basically marriage
is a 50-50 thing where nobody's really the boss, nobody's ruling, nobody's in charge,
it's just a 50-50 thing where we're in a partnership, right?
And you know what?
I'm so sick of that term partner, I hate it when I'm filling out paperwork and it asks
me about my partner.
I'm like, excuse me, I don't have a partner, I have a wife.
But you know, these homos, they've, you know, they've brought in that word, oh, this is
my partner, you know, and they use the word partner.
I hate that stupid word.
I don't have a partner, I have a wife and she has a husband.
And here's the thing though, many Christians today, they call it their wife, they call
it their husband, but you know what it is, it's a partner.
Because it's 50-50, because there's no authority structure, the husband's not the head of that
home and the Bible says the husband is the head of the wife.
That's what it says.
It says the wives are to obey their husbands, to submit unto their husbands, to be obedient
unto their husbands, to be in subjection unto their husbands.
That is what the Bible says and that the husband should rule over the wife and should lead
the wife and be the head of the wife.
And look, that is why we have a dead battery today, because we've gotten rid of that preaching
out of the pulpits of America.
You say, how do you know?
Well, I've been in church my whole life and I've heard very little of it.
And I've been an independent fundamental Baptist and I've heard very little of it.
Because it's not popular, because people want to be popular, or even worse, because the
pastor is sitting in front of a TV getting brainwashed all day by the world's view of
marriage.
And listen to me now, a lot of Christian husbands today are about like the Queen of England.
Where they're like a figurehead.
Like where they're the boss in name only.
You know what I mean?
Like we look at them and say, oh yeah, the Queen of England, right?
She's the monarch.
Is she really the boss of England?
Is she really in charge?
She really had the power.
You know, or the King of Norway.
King Ho-Kon, the whatever his name is.
You know, he's not the one who really wields the power over there.
He's a figurehead.
He's somebody that we pretend is in charge for fun.
That's the way a lot of marriages are.
It's like, yup, the husband's the head of the wife.
But then every time there's a decision, it's like, the wife calls the shots, tells him
how it's going to be, tells him it's my way or the highway.
And even just in the day-to-day ministrations of the home, the husband is often treated
with disdain, served last at meals, treated like an interloper in his own home.
Look, that is not actually making him the head and actually giving him the authority
and making him the ruler.
And look, I'm telling you.
You say, well, I like it that way.
Well, you know what?
Just don't expect any of that action that you're reading about in Song of Solomon.
Just kiss that goodbye.
You and your partner aren't going to have that because I'm telling you.
You want to have the kind of marriage described in Song of Solomon.
You want to have the kind of marriage that God describes in Ephesians 5.
If you're a wife and you want to be loved by your husband, you know what?
The same chapter that says husbands love your wives is the same one that says wives submit
to your husband.
The same one that if you want your wife's desire to be unto you, you're going to have
to rule over her.
And let me tell you something.
If you don't rule over your wife, her desire will not be unto you.
This is a package deal.
If you don't submit to your husband and reverence your husband, your husband's not going to
love you as much as if you do.
And husbands, if you don't love your wife and cherish your wife and nourish your wife,
she's not going to reverence you and obey you and respect you as she could.
This is something that needs to go both ways.
This is something where the Bible is giving a package deal here.
You can't just take the part of it that you like and say, well, I like this part, but
I'm not, I don't like this part because, I mean, come on, it's 2013, right?
I mean, come on, you're holding up that Bronze Age book and telling me that the husband's
going to rule over his wife and the wife's going to obey her husband.
You know what?
It's God's Word.
It never changes.
And you know what?
I don't care whether you put this sermon into practice or not because you know what?
It's your life.
It's your marriage.
I mean, if you go home tonight, if you go home tonight and your wife, you know, lays
down the law with you and tells you how bad Pastor Anderson's sermon was and tells you
how we're never going back to that church again, you know, and your wife sits you down
and tells you how the finances are going to be and she sits you down and tells you how
the children are going to be reared and how the home's going to be and you just kind of
cower in fear and, you know, just do whatever she says, you know what?
I'm not the one who has to live with that.
That's no skin off my back.
I mean, if you want to live that way, go ahead.
You know, live a dull marriage, probably end up divorced or end up just miserable, cowering
in the corner of the housetop somewhere in the fetal position.
You know, divorced, committing adultery or she's going to commit adultery or you're going
to commit adultery.
Just go the way of the world and end up the way of the world.
Failure.
Or if you're smart, you'll actually listen to what the Bible says and say, you know what?
We need to dress different.
We need to have our hair different.
The husband needs to rule over the wife.
The husband needs to be the clear boss.
There needs to be a clear difference and there needs to be no equality.
Look, equality is overrated, my friend.
Get over it.
Okay?
Unless you're ready to get rid of equality in your marriage and throw equality out, you're
going to have a dead battery.
It's that simple.
It's easier said than done, but it's true.
And you know what?
This battery is a perfect illustration.
You know, God has given us things in nature like that that teach us things and we can
learn from that.
And then we can apply it to scripture and see that it jives with scripture.
But I've got to hurry up and finish.
Let's go to Song of Solomon 3.
I'll wrap this up.
I just wanted to break that down to you just a little bit of science.
And you know what's funny?
What I just explained to you has scientific backing.
If you think about it, right?
I mean, everything I explained about voltage, I don't think any scientist is going to disagree
with that.
Magnets?
Nobody's going to disagree.
I don't think anybody would disagree just if we were to just look at just evidence,
just empirical evidence, that everything I'm saying right now is true.
Because we see that just naturally, men and women are attracted to each other because
there's a difference there if they're hetero.
Hetero means different, okay?
But you know what, though?
Science just rejects all of this.
Atheists reject this just because it's not politically correct.
Even though, really, if I go to a community college, I've done it, the community college
three miles from here, and I preached exactly what I'm preaching right now, or similar,
and I preached about how the wife needs to be ruled over and the husband's the boss and
he needs to, he needs to, you know, and you know what?
Every girl in the room was nodding her head by the time I was done talking and less than
half of them even claimed to be a Christian.
And I said, you know what, women want a husband that's going to rule over them, that's why
women like a guy who takes them out and orders the food and he picks the place because they
want to be a follower and they love the security and the protection and the feeling of being
with a man that is their leader, that's their boss, that's their ruler.
And you know what, these liberal feminist college students are saying, yes, that is
what I want.
Oh wait, what did I just say, you know?
I'm not kidding, and you know what?
The room was full of 30 people and everybody saw it.
As soon as I started preaching the Word of God on this subject, I was preaching about
this and you know what, you cut through the feminism, you cut through the, you know, independent
woman and, you know, we can do it and, you know, you cut through all that garbage because
you know what that is?
That's the feminist movement trying to eradicate something that is nature, something that is
thousands of years old that goes back to Adam and Eve, just natural inclinations.
They're trying to brainwash it out of you through TV, through radio, through schooling,
but you know what, you can cut through the brainwashing with the Word of God.
And you know what, you'll even find that even this principle even works with the unsaved
because it's just like, I mean, this battery's not saved.
This battery is not saved.
But yet it operates because there's a difference.
I mean, even unsaved people can have a marriage operational if there's a difference, if one
person's the boss.
Even the homos try to like pretend that one of them is a man, have you noticed that?
Because they can't escape this.
This haunts them in their sleep at night, bunch of perverts.
The Bible and science are all in agreement.
It just doesn't, with this homo, it's weird, it's perverse.
So they pretend, they like, they have one of them that kind of like tries to be different
than the other.
Can anybody deny that what I'm saying is true?
All the evidence points to it, everything points to the fact that I'm true.
Why won't you believe me?
I'm telling you the truth tonight.
But anyway, let me finish up real quick in Song of Solomon chapter 3.
So you know, we saw this intense desire of the wife to be with her husband and we see
this horrible abuse taking place in this relationship where she just lays hold on him and won't
let him go and just takes him, you know, this is very abusive.
But anyway, so then we move to a new phase in verse 6.
Who is this that cometh out of the wilderness like pillows of smoke, perfumed with myrrh
and frankincense, with all power does the merchant behold his bed, which is Solomon's.
Three score valiant men are abounded of the valiant of Israel.
They all hold swords being expert in war.
Every man hath his sword upon his thigh because of fear in the night.
And again, there's a lot going on in this passage, but to take a marital application,
which is the main application of Song of Solomon, what do we see here?
The husband's protection of the wife, basically she feels very protected because Solomon's
got like 60 armed men around the bed with a sword on their thigh.
I mean that's protection, you know, that's safety.
They're all expert in war.
But you know what?
As a husband, we should make our wife feel safe, right?
We should make her feel protected and secure.
We should provide financial security.
We should provide security by not always being like, I just don't know what to do, I just
don't know what we're going to do, you know, I just feel like our life's falling apart.
You know, your wife, that's not what your wife wants to hear.
She wants you to be a rock, you know, she wants you to be a leader.
She wants you to be a stalwart and firm and say, hey baby, you know, everything's fine.
You know, stick with me, everything's fine, I've got everything under control, and you
know, actually to have everything under control.
She needs you to be stable and to protect and to lead and to provide solid leadership.
I mean, would you like to ride on a plane where the pilot is, I don't know what to do,
you know, or would you like to go into war behind a general that's like, I don't know,
what do you think we should do?
I don't know, you're the general, man, tell us what to do, you know, I don't know.
Or what if the pilot comes to you and says, you know, I don't know, how do you think we
should make this descent?
What angle do you think we should come in at?
I mean, have you seen the runway?
I mean, that would freak you out, okay.
So you don't want to freak your wife out by just constantly not knowing what you're doing
and just going to her like, okay honey, what do we do, I don't know what to do, you know.
I'm incompetent.
She wants you to be competent to protect, to provide stability, to provide security.
That's what we see here in this passage.
Then it says, King Solomon made himself a chariot of the wood of Lebanon.
He made the pillars thereof of silver, the bottom thereof of gold, the covering of it
of purple, the midst thereof being paved with love for the daughters of Jerusalem.
Go forth, O ye daughters of Zion, and behold King Solomon with the crown wherewith his
mother crowned him in the day of his espousals and in the day of the gladness of his heart.
So the Bible here is equivalent, or it's making equivalent the day of espousal and the day
of gladness of your heart.
This is showing the gladness of marriage.
You know, basically the day that he got married is a glad day.
My wife and I just celebrated our 13 year wedding anniversary yesterday, right?
So we were celebrating the day of our espousals 13 years ago, and it was the day of the gladness
of our heart.
It's a happy day.
That's why we celebrate it, because it's something that we look on fondly and happily, and we're
glad that that day happened.
So what I'm showing you here is that marriage can be good.
Marriage can be a blessing.
Marriage can be the happiest relationship that you have this side of heaven.
But you know what?
It can also be the biggest drag and drudgery and dullness if you get this battery thing
wrong.
Let's bow our heads and have a word of prayer.
Father, we thank you so much for your word, and Lord, we thank you for the clear teaching
of your word, and we thank you for the example of Song of Solomon.
Thank you for giving us the Book of Acts to show us a great church, and thank you for
the Book of Song of Solomon to show us a great marriage.