Now in John chapter 13, the part that I wanted to focus on is beginning there in verse 34
where the Bible reads,
A new commandment I give unto you, that ye love one another, as I have loved you, that
ye also love one another.
By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.
And that's what I want to preach about this morning is loving one another.
What does that mean?
What exactly does that mean when we put that into practice in our lives?
What does that look like when we love one another?
Now if you would, flip over to John chapter 15, I want to show you first of all that when
we love one another, that means that we're putting other people before ourselves.
If I love somebody, that means I'm going to put them first before myself.
It says in John 15, 12, This is my commandment, that ye love one another, as I have loved
you.
Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
You're my friends if ye do whatsoever I command you.
So in this verse, Jesus Christ is saying that our love for others, our love for the brethren,
our brothers and sisters in Christ should be similar to his love for us and he said
greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
Now that is the ultimate sacrifice of yourself because you're just completely destroying
yourself for the benefit of someone else.
Jesus Christ said, This is my body which is broken for you.
So love is best exemplified by Jesus Christ dying for us because it was the ultimate selfless
act of him dying so that we might live.
Now flip over to John chapter 3, John chapter number 3 verse 29.
While you're turning there, I'll read for you from Philippians 2.
The Bible reads in Philippians 2, 2, Fulfill ye my joy that ye be like-minded, having
the same love, being of one accord of one mind.
Let nothing be done through strife or vain glory, but in lowliness of mind, let each
esteem other better than themselves.
Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.
Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus, who being in the form of God,
thought it not robbery to be equal with God, but made himself of no reputation and took
upon him the form of a servant and was made in the likeness of men.
And so here when it says that we have the same love as Christ, it says we're not looking
on our own things, we're looking on the things of others.
We become a servant.
It's unselfishness.
That's what it means to love someone biblically.
Look at John 3.29, it says, he that hath the bride is the bridegroom, but the friend of
the bridegroom which standeth and heareth him rejoiceth greatly because of the bridegroom's
voice.
This my joy therefore is fulfilled.
He must increase, but I must decrease.
So love finds joy in other people's happiness, in other people's success.
It puts other people first and gives them priority.
John 6, 12, 10 says this, be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love in honor
preferring one another, meaning putting others first is what it means to have love.
So what would a loving church be?
A loving church is where people care about the other people in the church, not just care
about themselves.
And you've known some people probably that are very self-absorbed, they're just always
wrapped up in themselves.
They're not really interested in what's going on in other people's lives.
They're not really interested in what they can do to help other people, it's more just
about what they can get for themselves.
Usually that's money, usually that's just coveting possessions and things.
People who are very materialistic are very selfish people.
Now when you think about a loving church, a church that loves people, one of the main
things I would think of is soul winning.
And if you think about it, soul winning is a selfless act.
Because when you go out soul winning, there's really nothing in it for you.
It's about other people, it's about the people that you're giving the gospel to.
And as a church, when we invest a lot of our time and energy and effort into soul winning,
that is an unselfish thing to do.
Because of the fact that frankly, soul winning does not build the church.
So I mean if you look around our church, there are people who've come through soul winning
and soul winning does bring people in to the church, but if you look at the amount of hours
put into it, and if you think about it in that regard, you think about just thousands
and thousands and thousands of man hours put into it, knocking doors, giving the gospel,
inviting literally hundreds of thousands of people to our church.
For the amount of effort that you put into it, you get very little out of it.
As a church, financially, or just numerically.
But you know what, that is the reason why we're going to keep on doing it.
Because it's not about what we can get or what we can receive, it's about what we can
give.
It's more blessed to give than to receive.
And a church that has love, a church member that has love, isn't just thinking, well okay,
if we do soul winning, what's going to be the return on our investment?
No, it's about loving the people out there that are not saved that need to hear the gospel
and getting them saved.
It's not about us.
Say well how does soul winning help our church?
No, how does our church help other people who are not saved to hear the gospel?
That's what we ought to ask ourselves.
And I'll tell you why soul winning is going by the wayside today.
In America, amongst Baptists, there are few churches anymore that knock doors and do a
lot of real soul winning and I'll tell you exactly why.
It's because they don't have the right love.
They've lost their first love and that's why they've left the first works.
The first works being the main works that Jesus gave us to do when he left this earth
when he said, go ye therefore into all the world and preach the gospel to every creature.
They've gotten away from that because of self love.
They just love themselves and they love their church and they don't love the lost.
That's the problem.
And what happens is churches will look at soul winning as just a way to grow the church
and then if it's not working, they're just going to move on to something else.
Whether that's a mailer or a flyer or they'll just say, well let's just go out and invite
a lot of people and hand out really nice advertisements and we can bring in the most people that way
and really grow our church.
No, let's get people saved for their sake.
And if they never come to our church and if they never say thank you and if they never
darken the door of this building, we will see them in heaven because salvation is through
faith in Christ alone.
And so an unselfish church, a loving church says, you know what, we'll drive 30, 40 minutes
away and knock all those doors.
We know those people are never going to make that trip.
It's too far.
We'll go to the ghetto where people probably don't have a ride.
They might not have the character to get themselves to church, but we're doing it for them.
It's not for us.
It's for them and it's for the Lord Jesus Christ.
It's not for us.
That's how you can tell an unselfish church, you know, one that's doing the soul winning
because a church that's not doing any soul winning, it's probably just selfishness because
there's not a lot in it for you when you go out soul winning.
You don't really get anything in return.
But you're laying up treasure in heaven and the Lord Jesus Christ is glorified, but most
importantly people are being saved.
I mean it should grieve you in your heart to think about the lost people that are on
their way to hell.
That should grieve you and that should cause you to be motivated to give them the gospel,
to bring them the good news of salvation through Jesus Christ.
So number one, love is exemplified by putting other people before yourself.
You know, if you're a child and at meal times you just always want to just shove everybody
out of the way and make sure you get the best piece and nobody else, you know, that shows
that you're being selfish.
You know, you always want to get the best toys and, and you know, you need to start
as a child now developing love in your heart where you look at other people and it makes
you happy when they get what they want, you know, and it makes you happy when, when they
achieve something, not just what you can do for yourself.
So number one, love is putting other people before yourself and being unselfish, caring
about other people and, and worrying about what's good for them, not just always what's
best for yourself.
Number two, go to Second John, verse five, Second John, verse five.
A lot of scriptures about loving one another are found in the books of John and, and First
and Second John.
Those are probably the three main books that deal with this subject, but look at Second
John, verse five, the Bible reads, and now I beseech thee, lady, not as though I wrote
a new commandment unto you, but, unto thee, but that which we had from the beginning,
that we love one another, and this is love, that we walk after his commandments.
This is the commandment that as ye have heard from the beginning, ye should walk in it.
So not only is love defined as self-sacrifice and being unselfish, giving of your time,
giving of your energy, giving of your resources for someone else, instead of just caring about
yourself alone.
You know, love is also defined in the Bible as the keeping of God's commandments.
That's how we can best act out our love.
It says here, this is love that we walk after his commandments.
Flip back one page in your Bible to First John, five.
First John, chapter five, probably just one page to the left, it says in verse one, whosoever
believeth that Jesus is the Christ is born of God.
And everyone that loveth him that begat, loveth him also that is begotten of him.
Now who is he that begat?
That's God.
And him that is begotten of him are our brothers and sisters in Christ, because the Bible says
that we as believers have been begotten again unto a lively hope.
The Bible says of his own will begat he us with the word of truth, that we should be
a kind of first fruits of his creatures.
So he says if you love God, if you love him that begat, you will love him also that is
begotten of him.
That's your brother or sister in Christ.
That's proven in the next verse when it says, by this we know that we love who?
The children of God, when we love God and keep his commandments.
For this is the love of God that we keep his commandments, and his commandments are not
grievous.
Flip back to just First John, chapter four right there.
Might even be on the same page.
Look at verse 20, it says, if a man say I love God and hateth his brother, he is a liar.
For he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath
not seen?
And this commandment have we from him that he who loveth God love his brother also.
So here the Bible is saying not only should we love God, but we should also love our brothers
and sisters in Christ.
And the Bible says that if we say that we love God, and we don't love our brothers and
sisters in Christ, it's not possible, we're lying.
So our love for God can be measured by how much we love our brothers and sisters in Christ.
How much we love the children of God.
The Bible says, by this we know that we love the children of God, when we love God and
keep his commandments.
Jesus said if you love me, keep my commandments.
The Bible says love one another, and this is love that we walk after his commandments.
So about three or four times, God really drives in the point that loving our neighbor, loving
our brother, loving God, all of these things are done when we love God and keep his commandments.
Keeping the commandments is part of loving the brethren.
Look at Romans 13, and let me show you why that is.
Because you say, well what does keeping God's commandments have to do with loving one another
in the local church, or loving the members of my family, or loving fellow Christians.
What does that have to do with keeping God's commandments?
Well the Bible says in Romans 13 verse 8, oh no man anything but to love one another,
for he that loveth another hath fulfilled the law.
For this, thou shalt not commit adultery, thou shalt not kill, thou shalt not steal,
thou shalt not bear false witness, thou shalt not covet, and if there be any other commandment,
it is briefly comprehended in this saying, namely, thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.
Love worketh no ill to his neighbor, therefore love is the fulfilling of the law.
So part of me loving you is me being unselfish and putting you first, and wanting what's
best for you, and not just wanting what's best for myself, but doing things that are
going to benefit you, even if it hurts me, that's first of all.
But second of all, if I love you, I'm not going to do any ill to you.
Part of love is not harming you.
The Bible says love worketh no ill to his neighbor, therefore love is the fulfilling
of the law.
That's why the Bible says that we should love one another, and this is love that we keep
God's commandments.
Why?
Because if we keep God's commandments, we're not harming one another.
But if we break God's commandments, that is harmful to each other.
Now there are many ways that me breaking God's commandments could be harmful to you.
Number one, if I'm stealing from you, obviously that harms you.
If I'm actually directing my crimes toward you, if I kill you or someone you love, or
if I steal from you, or if I commit adultery, that's harmful to my wife, that's harmful
to whoever I'm committing adultery with.
Okay, all of these sins that the Bible lists in the Ten Commandments, and if there be any
other commandment, they usually involve some victim.
You know, if I'm lying to you, that means I don't love.
The Bible says a lying tongue hateth those who are afflicted by it.
And the Bible says that we should speak the truth in love.
So part of love is just keeping God's commandments in the sense that I'm not going to do any
harm or ill to you.
But not only that, when I break God's commandments, I could also be indirectly harming you by
setting a bad example.
So even if I commit a sin that doesn't have anything to do with you, and a lot of people
will justify sin and say, well I'm not really hurting anybody, this isn't really a sin that
hurts someone like stealing or killing or committing adultery, this is not anything
that hurts anybody else, it's my life, but yet you are hurting others because you're
setting a bad example many times.
And you're also incurring God's wrath, and that can harm the people around you.
When you look at people in the Bible who fell into sin, they always harmed people around
them.
We could just go down the list of any example you want of a sin that was committed in the
Bible, someone else was always harmed by it.
For example, you look at Lot.
What was Lot's sin?
He coveted the well-watered plain of Sodom, and his whole family ends up getting messed
up because he moves his family into Sodom and they get all exposed to all the garbage
in there.
You look at somebody like David, he commits adultery with Bathsheba.
Well he definitely harmed Uriah, but not only that, he also harmed Bathsheba, but not only
that, the Bible says that he gave occasion to the enemies of the Lord to blaspheme.
And in reality he ended up hurting the whole nation, because the whole nation started going
down a different path, and the kingdom of God ended up being taken away from his son
Solomon's descendants, and just all kinds of bad things were set in motion, a lot of
battles were set in motion where people died and lost their lives as a result of David's
sin.
Because remember David's sin is part of why the whole Absalom and Amnon situation, just
all the bad things that came from that and snowballed out from that show you that when
we commit sin we're harming people.
If we want to be a person who can truly say that we love God and we love the members of
our church, we love our brothers and sisters in Christ, you know we love the brotherhood,
we would say number one I'm going to be unselfish, I'm going to think about other people and
care about them, but number two I'm going to live as godly and righteous and as holy
of a life as I can, because that is going to benefit everyone around me.
The more godly I am, the more righteous I am, the less sin I have in my life, the better
off the whole church is going to be, because I can be that good example, and I can be a
person who's filled with the Spirit that can be a blessing to the people around me and
not be harmful or a curse unto them.
You know if you love your wife you're not going to commit adultery, if you love your
husband you're not going to commit adultery, and by the way that also includes committing
adultery in your heart, because the Bible says whosoever looketh on a woman to lust
after her has committed adultery already with her in his heart.
You know if you love your wife you're going to say, you know what, I'm not going to look
upon and lust after another woman in my heart.
Now that's obviously, that's a major temptation today amongst men because of the fact that
our society has become so promiscuous and so suggestive that literally you go through
your day and almost can't get through the day without seeing a lot of scantily clad
women just because our society has gone that route.
And you know that makes it harder for people to obey this commandment when it's just being
shoved down your throat on every billboard, every magazine rack, every advertisement,
and even just walking down the street or just at a store.
Women are provocatively dressed, and if that's you that dress that way shame on you.
You need to stop flaunting your body.
If it's not for sale then take down the for sale sign and you need to be a woman who dresses
with dignity and modesty like the Bible commands you to.
But as a man, you know, if you're married and this is something that you struggle with
and you see women that are scantily clad, you know what you should immediately do?
Whenever I see something that is inappropriate like that I just think about how much I love
my wife.
And I think about how beautiful my wife is and how happy I am to be married to her and
then that just instantly just, you know, I'm not worried about that anymore.
And I'm telling you, you need to understand that love involves keeping God's commandments.
And you know, worldly, ungodly people, they're married and they look at other women.
Even though they're married, they lust after other women in their heart.
And you know what I say?
I say they don't love their wife like they should.
And they can sit there and make all the excuses, oh I'm just looking and, you know, oh just
because I've ordered, you know, doesn't mean I can't look at the menu.
Hey idiot, every restaurant I've ever been to they take the menu away from you when you're
done ordering.
They say, can I take that please?
And they take the menu away.
And so this, you know, this macho thing of oh I'm just looking, no.
You need to love your wife in your heart and you need to stop looking around and committing
adultery in your heart because that is a lack of love right there.
Love is when you keep God's commandments and God has commanded us to keep a pure mind and
a pure heart and to keep ourselves only under her so long as we both shall live.
And listen, it goes for the ladies too.
And there are ladies who could covet another husband.
Maybe he has a better job or maybe he is just more macho or whatever.
But you know what?
You need to love your husband and you need to be content with your husband and love him
and not be covetous of someone else in your heart.
Love is when we keep God's commandments.
Love is when we're unselfish.
But not only that, turn if you would to 1 John chapter 3.
First John chapter 3.
While you're turning there, I'll read for you Galatians 5.14, it pretty much says the
same thing.
It says, For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this, thou shalt love thy neighbor
as thyself.
The whole law is fulfilled in that one word.
John 15.9 says this, you're turning to 1 John 3, As the Father hath loved me, so have I
loved you.
Continue ye in my love.
If ye keep my commandments, ye shall abide in my love.
Even as I have kept my Father's commandments and abide in his love, these things have I
spoken unto you that my joy might remain in you and that your joy might be full.
Again, reiterating that keeping God's commandments is part of love.
You can say, oh yeah, I love so and so as you lie to them, as you rip them off.
You say you love your wife, you love your husband, but you're not being faithful to
them.
Okay, it's a lie.
You're lying.
The more righteous and godly and pure you are, the more love you have.
And by the way, in Matthew 24 it says, Because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall
wax cold.
Did you get that?
So the more sin, the more iniquity, the more transgression of God's laws in your life,
the more your love is going to wax cold and you're not going to love like you should.
And not only that, look at 1 John 3.16, it says, Hereby perceive we the love of God,
because he laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren.
But whoso hath this world's good, and seeth his brother have need, and shutteth up his
bowels of compassion from him, how dwelt the love of God in him?
My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue, but in deed and in truth.
So number one, not only is love unselfishness, number two, not only does it involve keeping
God's commandments, but number three, it involves helping those that are in need.
And this kind of ties in with being unselfish, and taking an interest in the lives of other
people, caring about what's going on in the lives of other people, and wanting to do something
to help them when they're in need.
The Bible says that if we see our brother have need, and shut up our bowels of compassion
from him, how can the love of God dwell in us?
If we look at people that are struggling and suffering and need something, and we have
what they need, and we don't give it to them, we don't love them.
That's what the Bible says.
And you might have a fond feeling in your heart, but you don't love them unless you're
willing to love in deed, not just in word.
This reminds me of what John the Baptist preached when he said, let him that hath two coats
impart to him that hath none.
You know, you have one person that has no coat, they're freezing, they're cold, somebody
else has two.
Maybe even a whole closet full of coats that they're not even using.
Somebody else is going cold.
The Bible says that when we see our brother or sister in Christ have need, we shouldn't
just say, departed peace, be ye warmed and filled.
We should give them those things that are needful to the body.
We should help them get food or clothes or whatever they need.
Other people might have other types of needs in the church, but we should pay attention
to that and try to help people that are in need and care about other people and think
about other people, not to just be so focused on ourselves all the time.
And by the way, when you're focused on yourself, you end up living a miserable life in many
ways.
There's not a lot of joy in a life that's self-absorbed.
You look at people that are really selfish, really covetous people, and they're not living
a happy life because it's more blessed to give than to receive.
And a lot of times when we're going through the hardest times ourselves, when we're suffering
the most, that's when we kind of become selfish, because we're suffering and we have a lot
of bad things going on, so we just kind of don't care about what's going on in anybody
else's life.
It's like, you know, you don't know what I'm going through.
And then we kind of turn inward and start just caring about ourselves a lot.
And then what happens, we get more miserable.
When you're going through a bad time, when life is not going your way, one of the best
things that you could do is start thinking about other people, because if your situation
is kind of depressing, you can start thinking about other people.
And you can get a lot of joy out of helping someone else succeed.
Maybe you're failing, help someone else succeed.
You can help someone else be blessed.
And so when we're going through bad times is one of the most important times to make
sure that we're still paying attention to other people's needs or how we can help other
people.
And that could even help us to have more joy in our lives through some of the dark days
and the trials.
Galatians 5.13.
You don't have to turn there.
Turn if you would to 2 Corinthians 8.
Go to 2 Corinthians 8.
I'll read for you from Galatians 5.13.
It says, For brethren, ye have been called unto liberty, only use not liberty for an
occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another.
Okay?
So first of all, he said that we should love in deed and in truth.
We should love by helping our brother that has need and giving unto our brother that
hath need.
And by love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
Thanks be to God for his unspeakable gift.
And then in Galatians 5.13 he said that by love we should serve one another.
Again, helping people in need.
That's what love is.
Not just talk, not just feeling, but in deed and in truth when we actually reach into our
wallet or just take of our time or our energy and just help somebody out that needs help.
2 Corinthians 8 verse 1 says this, Moreover, brethren, we do you to wit of the grace of
God bestowed on the churches of Macedonia, how that in a great trial of affliction the
abundance of their joy and their deep poverty abounded unto the riches of their liberality.
Now this is exactly what I was just talking about.
They're going through a bad time.
Do you see verse 2 there?
It says how that in a great trial of affliction the abundance of their joy and their deep
poverty abounded unto the riches of their liberality.
That's kind of a big complicated sentence, but if we look at that sentence what he's
basically saying is that these people are going through trials.
They're going through tribulation.
Affliction and tribulation are used interchangeably in the Bible.
They're going through very difficult times and they're in deep poverty.
So they're going through trials.
They're struggling.
They don't have a lot because they're in deep poverty, but yet they have joy.
So how do they have joy as they're going through affliction, as they're going through tribulation,
as they're living in deep poverty?
Where is the joy coming from?
Because they also have an abundance of liberality, okay?
And liberality means that you're giving.
You're very free with what you have.
The word liberal comes from, if you look at the first few syllables of that what does
it remind you of?
Liberty, right?
So someone who's liberal is someone who's very free with what they have.
It means that they give things away.
They're very generous.
So when we see the word liberal in the Bible it actually means today what we would call
generous.
So the Bible says the liberal soul shall be made fat because the Bible says give and it
shall be given unto you.
So the liberal soul shall be made fat.
You give out a lot, you're going to receive a lot, right?
Because whatsoever man soweth, that shall you also reap.
But today unfortunately people are called liberals just when they just hate God or when
they just want to steal from everybody and turn it into a communist regime.
That's liberalism.
And there's nothing liberal about the godless politicians in our country who want to turn
our country into some kind of a communistic, atheistic, socialistic, you know whatever
you want to call it, utopia, okay?
That's not biblical liberalism.
I want to be liberal according to the Bible's definition.
You know I want to be somebody who's not really just tight fisted and hanging on to everything
I've got.
You know I want to be somebody who's liberal, who's giving and generous.
And see today's so-called liberal, he's really good at giving away other people's stuff.
You know what we call a liberal today is somebody who wants to steal from one person and give
it to someone else, okay?
And when we talk about a liberal church, you know what it means?
It means they want to be really loose and free with what the Bible says and take a really
loose interpretation of everything and take, you know just go freestyle when it comes to
what the Bible teaches.
No, we need to take a strict interpretation of what the Bible says.
Whatever the Bible says, we need to just take it for what it says, take it literally.
So we don't want to get liberal with other people's money.
We don't want to get liberal with our interpretation of the Bible.
We don't want to get liberal politically, but you know what we do want to be liberal
with is what belongs to us.
That's what we should be liberal with.
You know and we should be loose with what we have and not be tight fisted and just wanting
to hoard everything and keep everything for ourselves.
You know, this so-called liberalism, let me just stop right there for a minute and talk
about this.
Some idiot raised his hand at some Obama rally and said like, can I please pay more taxes?
And everybody's like, oh that's so wonderful!
Because he's some wealthy guy who says, I want to pay more, can I please pay more?
Now listen, that lying devil, whenever he wants to, can pull out his checkbook and make
out a check to the United States Treasury for whatever amount he wants and send it to
them and say to them, this is just to pay off the national debt or this is just extra
that I'm sending.
I just want to pay, do you think they're going to return the money to him?
No, you can't pay extra.
He can just put, this is a gift, my gift to the IRS.
Hopefully it will be tax deductible, but anyway.
Make a gift unto the IRS any time he wants to, but he's a lying devil.
What he's really saying is, can you please force other people to pay more taxes?
Can I please pay more?
He can pay more whenever he wants, but what he wants is for everyone else to be forced
to pay more so that we can all participate in all the godlessness and filth of our government.
All the abortions and gender reassignment surgeries that everybody needs to get paid
for by the government and whatever.
All the stupidity of our nation.
Let's just all give more and I want to force you to give more to that.
That guy's not a liberal.
That guy's just a god-hating devil.
You know what?
Look, you say, I don't believe he hates God.
How could he love homosexuality, abortion, and everything that God hates if he doesn't
hate the God who condemns all that stuff?
What I'm saying is, we need to be, if we're a loving church, if we're a loving Christian,
it means that we're liberal by a biblical definition.
It means that we give unto others and that we don't just be a selfish person.
Basically we should help those who are in need, but we don't believe that that's the
government's job.
We believe that's the job of the Christian.
That's the job of the individual, to help those in need.
Not to extort money, because let me just explain, and I know I'm on a little anti-government
rant, but forgive me, I'm dealing with the IRS this week, so just give me a break.
Cut me some slack, all right?
When you think about this whole concept of helping those in need, just keep one thing
in mind.
The government messes up anything that they do.
No matter what they do, they mess it up.
They do it wrong.
So if it's helping people, they mess that up.
Basically very little of the money actually gets to the people who need it.
It all gets lost in the translation of the bureaucracy and it just goes to a bunch of
fraud and waste and abuse and everything.
So very little of it gets there.
What ought to happen is just that people just help each other out locally.
I don't know about you, I remember Garrett preached a sermon on this in the preaching
class a while back about giving money to poor people and giving money to homeless people.
We don't just blindly give away our money because we worked hard for it.
So we want to give it to people who we know it's actually going to help.
Now somebody calls our church virtually every single day asking for money.
I don't know if you know that.
Virtually every single day, someone calls Faith Forward Baptist Church asking for money.
And people walk up to our church all the time and ask for money.
Now we don't just blindly give money to everyone who asks us for money.
Because a lot of the people who are asking for money are just thieves.
They're frauds.
They don't really need help.
But rather they just are lazy, they're just not working, they are just trying to get something
for free dishonestly and they'll tell all kinds of lies to get it.
And sometimes when you try to dig a little deeper with them all of a sudden you realize
that what they're saying is a lie.
What they're saying is not really true.
So when you are personally helping people you're more discriminating about who you help
because you make sure it's going to people who really need it.
Whenever people call and ask for money I always just tell them, I always say, well where did
you go to church last Sunday?
And then I say, and if they name a church I say, well that's the church that you need
to go ask for help then.
And if they say, well I didn't go to church, I just say, well you know, that's why your
life's not going right because you're disobeying God.
Get in church and your life will go better.
And you know what, our church does help people.
But we help people who actually come to church.
Why would we help people who we don't even know, we don't even know if it's legit what
they need.
A lot of people in our church have gone through hard times and have needed help and we've
helped people because we knew them and we knew their situation.
That's what's wrong with a government 3,000 miles away just helping people.
It just all goes to the wrong people.
But we as Christians just because, and a lot of times though, think about this now, a lot
of times because of the political liberalism some of us might have gotten a little burned
where we, and then we just don't want to help anybody and that's wrong too.
Because we think to ourselves, I'm so sick of all this money being taken from me and
given to someone else.
But we don't want to start to justify greed.
Because you'll hear a lot of conservative, political conservatives, then they'll try
to justify why greediness is okay.
Because they're trying to react to that phony liberalism of the government giving people
money and redistributing wealth.
But we as God's people, we still should be generous people.
We shouldn't start to justify Wall Street and justify greed and justify people who are
just very self-centered and self-absorbed and keeping their money.
You know, that is not a Christian thing to do with your life, to just lay up wealth and
treasure for yourself.
So we as the individual and we as a church should want to help people and be open-handed
and generous and liberal with people and it'll help us to be more joyful when we love other
people and one of the ways that we love other people is by being generous and helping people
that are in need.
And by the way, when the Bible says, when thou doest alms, let not thy left hand know
what thy right hand doeth, that thine alms may be in secret, thy father which seeth in
secret himself shall reward thee openly.
That's the other thing about the government, they like to brag about all the good deeds
that they do with other people's money.
But when we do good deeds for people, we should not brag about it.
We should not even do it publicly.
We shouldn't get our name on a plaque somewhere, it's better when we can just give quietly
and just help people and nobody knows about it and then our father which is in heaven
will reward us openly.
So it says here, moreover, brethren, verse 1, we do you the wit of the grace of God bestowed
on the churches of Macedonia, how that in a great trial of affliction the abundance
of their joy and their deep poverty abounded unto the riches of their liberality.
For to their power I bear record, yea and beyond their power they were willing of themselves,
praying us with much entreaty that we would receive the gift and take upon us the fellowship
of the ministering to the saints.
Now here we can tell from this scripture that Paul was even telling these people, these
people were trying to give to the poor saints in Jerusalem and Paul is basically telling
them they need to just keep their money because they're so poor.
Because notice it says that they prayed him with much entreaty, verse 4.
That makes it sound like Paul's probably saying, you know if they had to give him much entreaty
it makes him sound like Paul was saying, guys you don't have to do this, I mean this is
too much, you're poor, you're struggling, save it and they basically had to entreat
him saying no, please take this.
We want you to have this, I mean this was a very liberal group of people.
These were very generous people.
It says in verse 5, and this they did not as we hoped, but first gave their own selves
to the Lord and unto us by the will of God, insomuch that we desired Titus that as he
had begun so he would also finish in you the same grace also.
Therefore as ye abound in everything, in faith and utterance and knowledge and in all diligence
and in your love to us, see that ye abound in this grace also.
I speak not by commandment, but by occasion of the forwardness of others and to prove
this is the key, are you listening?
And to prove the sincerity of your love.
For ye know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that though he was rich, yet for your sakes
he became poor, that ye through his poverty might be rich.
See Jesus Christ, he was up in heaven, he's rich.
I mean he owns the cattle on a thousand hills, the wealth in every mine, the streets are
paved with gold, he had everything and yet he made himself poor for our sakes so that
we could be rich, so that we could inherit all things.
He came to this earth, he was not a wealthy man while he lived on this earth.
He said the foxes have holes and the birds of the air have nests, but the son of man
hath not where to lay his head.
And Jesus Christ was a man who lived on very modest means, he was a humble man, he was
not wealthy, he did not wear fancy clothing or eat fancy meals or live in a fancy house
or drive a fancy car, I realize they didn't have cars back then, but I'm saying that he
was a poor man and his poverty was what he went through in order to make us rich.
And the Bible says in verse 8, I speak not by commandment but by occasion of the forwardness
of others and approve the sincerity of your love.
When we are willing to give to others and help others in need and actually put our money
where our mouth is and actually put our actions where our words are, that proves the sincerity
of our love.
Because a lot of people's love is not sincere, it's fake.
A lot of people say a lot of loving things but when the rubber meets the road there's
no love there.
When we're willing to give and when we're willing to give quietly and even anonymously
or even just privately between us and them and we're not going around sounding a trumpet
like the Pharisees and the hypocrites do, look at me, look how much I gave, the Bible
says that proves the sincerity of our love.
So number one, love is unselfishness, caring about other people, loving other people, not
being absorbed in ourselves.
Number two, love is keeping God's commandments.
You've got to be living a righteous and clean life in order to be loving like we should.
Number three, love is when we help those in need and help those around us and we actually
do good deeds for them and maybe even give food or money or whatever they need.
And then number four is this, go to 1 Peter chapter 3.
Lastly, if we're defining what it means to love one another, then lastly it's this, it's
being a forgiving person is what it means also to love one another.
Now this is a pretty important sermon because the Bible says, by this shall all men know
that you are my disciples if you have love one to another.
And the Bible says that the greatest commandment is to love the Lord thy God with all your
heart and soul, mind, strength, and it says, and the second is like unto it to love your
neighbor as yourself.
And so this is an important concept.
If we're going to be a great Christian, we need to be a loving person.
And if we're going to be a loving person, these are the four things that we're going
to see in our lives.
I mean if we're going to be a loving person, we're unselfish.
If we're a loving person, we're not breaking God's commandments constantly and living a
very loose lifestyle.
And by the way, a lot of people will look at a church that preaches hard on sin and
say that it's not a loving church.
Who's heard somebody say something like that?
Oh man, you don't have any love.
So here's somebody preach hard on sin and they'll say, wow, that's not a loving preacher.
Wow, you need to get some love.
But in reality, preaching hard on sin is loving because it means that you actually care about
people enough to tell them the truth and you understand that you can't have love without
keeping God's commandments.
And a church that goes soft on sin, while on the outside it may seem very loving because
it's very gooey and squishy and furry and lovable on the outside, it's not a loving
church.
Because you know what, if you go to a church, just think about this, if you go to a church
that is not preaching hard on sin, they're doing that for one reason.
Okay, two reasons.
There could be two reasons.
Number one, they're just living in complete sin, so they're not comfortable preaching
against sin.
That's not often the case.
But here's the main reason, it's because they want to be popular and they don't want to
make people mad.
Now think about it, if a preacher wants to be popular and doesn't want to make people
mad, so therefore he doesn't preach on sin, does he love the church members or does he
love himself?
Because it sounds like he loves himself because he wants people to like him and he wants to
be popular and he wants to have a really big church and he wants to be a big name and he
wants to drive a big car and he wants to live in a big house.
That is not love, that's selfishness.
That's not love because he's not keeping God's commandments when God said to preach the whole
word.
But see, when you go to a church where there's hard preaching on sin, that shows that the
pastor wants what's best for the congregation.
Because let's face it, hard preaching works.
It works.
You go to a church where there's hard preaching and people's lives are the way they need to
be.
Because I need hard preaching, you need hard preaching to keep us on the right path.
Because we have a tendency to wander from God's commandments, don't we?
We have a tendency to start to backslide and to start to go off into the wrong things.
But when we hear hard preaching, it kind of slaps us upside the head and gets us back
on track the way we need to be.
And let me tell you something, churches where there's, I've been to churches that don't
preach hard on sin for many years as a teenager, and I'll tell you something, they are just
cesspools of sin.
I mean if you don't have a lot of hard preaching, I mean you'll just have all kinds of fornication
going on in the church, just openly, just fornications going on, drunkenness, drugs,
pornography, just all kinds, especially in the youth group, because that's where I was.
I was in the youth group.
I was a teenager.
And I mean when you don't have hard preaching on sin, it's just a cesspool of iniquity.
I mean it's just filth.
Now I know this, I do preach hard on sin, but I can remember times when sometimes I'd
get in a phase, even just in the last eight years of preaching, I'd get in a phase where
maybe I was just teaching a lot of doctrine and maybe I was just really preaching a lot
on other things, and I'd go through a phase where I wasn't really hitting hard on sin
much.
Not because I was trying to leave out that part of the message, but you're preaching
other things.
You just get on another kick, and I get on different kicks, or I was preaching a lot
of Bible prophecy for a while, or I'm preaching a lot of other doctrines for a while, and
I'll get on some kicks, and you'll notice sin will start entering into the church.
And I'm like, wow, man, you've got to really hit hard on sin as a preacher a lot for everybody's
benefit, just to keep us all living clean and living righteous.
We need that hard preaching.
But the preacher who doesn't preach hard like that, he doesn't love you.
He really loves his bank account, and he really loves the status of pastoring a big church,
and he's not really as concerned about the members of the congregation.
He's not willing to decrease that they might increase.
And that's what it comes down to.
That's really the best way to define love.
This isn't in my notes, but I thought of Hebrews 10.25 where it says, and consider one in a
let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works, not forsaking the
assembling of ourselves together as the manner of some is, but exhorting one another and
so much the more as you see the day approaching.
Did you hear that?
The Bible says consider one another to provoke unto love and good works.
What is love?
Considering one another, thinking about other people, and trying to motivate ourselves and
motivate each other to be loving and to do good works.
So the best thing that we can do to be a loving Christian is to first of all go to church.
Can you think of a more selfish thing than not coming to church?
How are you helping anybody if you don't even come?
How can you fulfill all the commandments that tell you to help out the saints and love
the saints and love the brotherhood and how do you love one another if it's just you?
You're not even in a church, how do you love one another?
And church is a place where you go and it's not just about you receiving, it's about you
giving.
It's the place where you go and you meet people that you can help and that you can love.
And sometimes that's just praying for people.
That's a form of love because you're doing something for them, something unselfish for
them.
Instead of just praying for yourself, you're praying for them.
If you don't attend church, you're not even close to fulfilling these commandments.
You're not even joining up with God's people.
The Bible says don't forsake the assembling of ourselves together because we need to assemble
so that we can provoke unto love and to good works.
How do we consider one another if we're not even there?
We're not even present.
And people think, oh I just listened to the sermon on the internet.
That's a one way transfer.
That's a download, that's not an upload.
I'm trying to speak computer language.
You're downloading a lot of sermons, what have you uploaded?
Preaching is just a one way thing but when you come to church and you sing, you're praising
God.
You're encouraging the people around you.
You say, well I don't really have much to offer.
Just by showing up and being here, you're contributing something.
I don't care if you don't put a dime in the plate.
I don't care if you do nothing.
Just by being here, you've at least contributed something because at least you're encouraging
other people.
Because look, if a bunch of people show up and we have a full house, that encourages
me.
Who likes it when our church has a really full Sunday?
People are encouraged just by your body being here.
We just like to see a full house.
It encourages us.
And you know what?
When you show up and you just greet people and you say hi to people and you shake their
hand and especially greet visitors, people that are new, show them some love, you're
doing something for other people, not just for yourself.
And that's a loving thing to do, to show up at church, greet other people, be friendly,
get to know other people, get to know what they need, pray for them, love them, care
about them, know their names, know what they're going through in their lives.
This is what it means to be a loving church.
And so these are things that we need to focus on.
But not only that, forgiveness.
Let me just quickly touch on this.
This is a part of love as well.
First Peter 3.8 says this, finally be all of one mind, having compassion one of another.
Love as brethren.
Be pitiful.
Be courteous.
Not rendering evil for evil or railing for railing, but contrary wise blessing, knowing
that ye are therefore called that ye should inherit a blessing.
So in verse 8 it tells us to love as brethren and in verse 9 it tells us how to do that.
That means when people rail on us or people do evil to us, what do we do?
We turn around and bless them.
That's a loving thing to do.
That's loving our enemies.
The Bible says love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate
you and pray for them to despitefully amuse you and persecute you.
So how do we apply this in the local church when it comes to loving our brethren and loving
our sisters in Christ?
That means that when somebody does you wrong at church, you let it go.
That means that you love people.
And if you're a person where you're still mad about what that person did a month ago
or a week ago or six months ago or even yesterday and you just brood on that and you want to
get back at them or you just say, well I'm just never going to talk to that person again.
I just don't like them.
You know, that's not loving because you're not forgiving and part of loving is that you
don't render evil for evil, railing for railing.
And the Bible says, for example, in Colossians 3 19, husbands love your wives and be not
bitter against them.
Okay, but that can go for more than just marriage.
If you love people, you're not getting bitter against them when they do you wrong, no matter
who they are.
Ephesians 4 2 says, with all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one
another in love.
What does forbearing one another mean?
Putting up with one another.
So part of love is putting up with people that do things that you don't like.
Now look, does everyone in this church always do everything that I like?
Does everybody always treat you exactly the way that you want to be treated?
Of course not.
But you know what, I'm willing to put up with a lot from the people that I love.
Because that's what love is.
When you love your children, you put up with all the messes, you put up with all the dumb
shenanigans that they pull.
Why?
Because you love them.
If you don't love them, you're just going to flip out about everything and you're not
going to let things go.
You're going to be bitter, you're going to be angry, you're going to be upset.
And this can go for marriage, children, church members.
We need to forbear one another in love.
That's part of love, forgiving.
The Bible says in Leviticus 19 17, thou shalt not hate thy brother in thy heart, thou shalt
any wise rebuke thy neighbor and not suffer sin upon him, thou shalt not avenge nor bear
any grudge against the children of thy people, but thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself,
I am the Lord.
So I would say that love thy neighbor as thyself is a pretty famous phrase from the Bible,
right?
Wouldn't you say that's one of the most famous phrases from the Bible, love thy neighbor
as thyself?
And in fact, it's a very quoted phrase in the New Testament.
The New Testament quotes it a lot.
Love thy neighbor as thyself.
But where does it come from originally?
Leviticus 19.
So if we get the context of where that famous, famous quote, love thy neighbor as thyself
came from, it came from a context of thou shalt not avenge nor bear any grudge against
the children of thy people, but thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself, I am the Lord.
So the context of thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself is not holding a grudge.
That is the original context.
So what better way to be a loving person than to be a forgiving person who does not hold
a grudge?
That means when people do dumb things or say, and look, there are going to be people who
say things to you in the church that are just rude.
And you shouldn't be rude.
We should all strive not to be rude, but all of us are from time to time going to stick
our foot in our mouth, right, and you know, say the wrong thing.
And sometimes people say things that are very insensitive.
Or maybe somebody will hurt your feelings and say something rude or insulting, and you
know what, a lot of times people didn't really mean it that way.
Sometimes you misunderstand people.
And you know, I'm not trying to say that men are not guilty of this, but sometimes women
can be real sensitive to things like this.
Okay, you know, she didn't say hi to me, she's avoiding me.
You know, she didn't react right when I, you know, I gave bad news and she smiled.
She must delight in my calamity.
Or I gave her good news and she didn't seem happy.
You know, these are the type of things that can make people offended.
It's going to happen.
But if we're a loving church, you know what we do?
We just say, Father, forgive them for they know not what they do.
And you just, you know, you just don't worry about it.
And by the way, in a church like ours there are all different kinds of people.
Isn't our church have a diversity of people?
We have people of all nationalities in our church, red and yellow, black and white this
morning in church.
But we also have people of different education levels in our church.
If some that are more educated than others, we have some that are more wealthy than others,
some that are poor.
We have very young people.
We have older people.
We have all different types of people.
We have people that are very refined and polite and use good etiquette.
And then we have people that are a little more barbaric, okay?
So you know, hey, I'm deader both to the, you know, to the Jew and to the Greek, the
barbarian, you know, the wise, the unwise.
We have a lot of different kinds of people in our church so there are going to be some
people in our church that are a little more uncouth and maybe their manners are not as
good.
Other people have very good manners.
But shouldn't we just love everybody in our church?
You know, shouldn't we come to church?
And look, again, a lot of people misunderstand this as love everybody on the planet.
Now I don't love Charles Manson.
Who here just loves Charles Manson?
Anybody?
Okay, me neither, okay?
What I'm saying is, you know, a lot of people try to twist this.
You need to love child molesters and rapists and pedophiles.
That's not what we're saying.
But you know what, you know who we should love?
For sure, our brothers and sisters in Christ.
I don't care how bad somebody is, okay?
I don't care what kind of a jerk they are.
If they are saved, we must love that person.
We must love our brothers and sisters in Christ.
And we should love the lost.
Because 90-some percent of unsaved people are not Charles Mansons and Adolf Hitlers
and pedophiles, right?
I don't want to say 99 percent because our country is getting so wicked.
It's probably not 99 percent anymore.
But you know, 90-some percent of people out there, we should love them and do good unto
them and bless them that persecute us, except they be reprobate, which is more rare.
So what I'm saying is that all the people in our church, there are going to be some
people that are really easy to love because you have a lot in common with them, they're
similar to you, they're very polite, nice, good people.
Other people in our church might be a little harder for you to love.
But if you're going to be a godly person, if you're going to love God with all your
heart, you must love all of God's people and forgive them and not be bitter against them
when they do you wrong.
So it's one thing to just get up and say, love one another, let's pray and go home.
Today I wanted to explain a little bit of just how this works practically.
How do I love one another?
How do I love my brothers and sisters in Christ?
You know what?
You do things for them.
You care about them.
You talk to them.
You listen to them.
You pray for them.
You be a good example to them.
You keep God's commandments.
You pray for them.
Of course when they do foolish things or things that you think are foolish, you let it go.
You forgive them.
You forbear a lot and you put up with a lot of things.
I mean even the famous chapter of 1 Corinthians 13, charity, beareth all things, believeth
all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
Part of love is putting up with a lot and just loving people in spite of their faults
and weaknesses.
Let's bow our heads and have a word of prayer.
Father, we thank you so much for your word and we thank you so much for the love that
you have for us, which obviously we could never hope to attain.
But Lord, help us to do our best to follow your example, to love one another, to love
the brotherhood, to love the household of faith.
Help us to also love the lost enough to go out soul winning and win them to Christ.
But especially help us to love one another and put these concrete pieces of advice into
practice Lord that you've given us in your word and in Jesus' name we pray, amen.