Now the part of the chapter that I want to focus on is beginning there in verse number
14 where the Bible reads, Yet ye say wherefore, because the Lord hath been witness between
thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously, yet is she
thy companion and the wife of thy covenant.
And did not he make one, yet had he the residue of the Spirit, and wherefore one that he might
seek a godly seed.
Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of
his youth.
For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away.
For one covereth violence with his garment, saith the Lord of hosts.
Therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.
And the part of that that I really wanted to focus on is the part in verse 16 where
the Bible says that the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away.
And what I want to preach about this morning is the subject that God hates divorce.
That's what putting away means.
Flip over if you would to Mark chapter 10 in the Bible in the New Testament, just a
few pages of the white.
The Bible uses the terms divorce and putting away synonymously in the Bible.
And here he talks about divorcing or putting away the wife of your youth, and the Bible
says that God hates putting away.
Therefore I hate divorce.
Therefore we all should hate divorce if we are going to have the same mentality that
the Lord has according to scripture.
Now this sermon will cause a lot of people to be angry and to bristle because some people
do not want to accept the truth.
And sometimes the truth will be close to home with people, but it is the truth nonetheless.
And we as God's people need to conform to what the scriptures teach and not come up
with our own ideas and our own opinions and say, well I just think, but it doesn't matter
what we think.
We need to let the word of God be our final authority in all matters of faith and practice.
This sermon is not to attack or to chastise those who've been divorced because none of
us can go back in time and change the mistakes that we've made in our lives.
And some people who have made the mistake of getting divorced, and it is a mistake and
it is a sin and it is something that God hates, they can't go back and change that.
And so there's no reason for us to beat them over the head with this because honestly whenever
we commit sin in our lives, what we need to do is just confess and forsake that sin and
move on and repent and live our lives.
And the Bible teaches that we should forget those things which are behind and reach forth
under those things which are before.
And the Bible teaches in John chapter 4 that there was a woman who had actually been married
five times and yet God used her greatly to win people to Christ.
And obviously Jesus showed her love and compassion.
So we're not saying that if you've been divorced you're a wicked person that can never do anything
good for God.
That's not the point.
We're not attacking those who've been divorced.
This needs to be strongly preached in 2014 to those who are married that they need to
remain married until death.
And young people need to hear this before they get married so that they understand the
gravity of the commitment that they're making when they get married and so that they realize
that when they get married they need to go into it with an attitude that says this is
a lifelong commitment and divorce is not an option.
Now if you're here today and you're divorced and you get upset at the sermon, you're not
right with God.
And you have your own issues and your own problem with God.
Don't come to me and talk to me after the service.
Go talk to God after the service because that's who you have a problem with because everything
I preach this morning is going to be directly from scripture and it's all Bible.
And if you're divorced I love you but I'm not going to condone of your sin.
And if you're smart you will realize that getting divorced was a sin, you'll confess
it to God and then you can just forget about it and move on and live your life.
And if you're on your second spouse or your third spouse, and I'm going to prove this
later in the sermon, you need to just stay faithful to the person that you're married
to right now and have a new start and say you know what I might have made mistakes in
the past but the person I'm married to right now I'm going to be faithful to the death.
That's what the Bible teaches and I'll prove that later in the sermon.
But look at Mark chapter 10.
In Mark chapter 10 the Bible talks about Jesus and says,
And the Pharisees came to him and asked him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife?
Saying, you know, is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?
And the Bible says here that they are tempting him, they're trying to test him, they're trying
to trip him up.
And it says in verse 3, And he answered and said unto them, What did Moses command you?
And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement and to put her away, saying,
you know, Moses allowed us to divorce our wives.
Verse 5, And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote
you this precept, but from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife, and they
twain shall be one flesh.
So then they are no more twain, but one flesh.
What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
That's his answer.
But the disciples wanted even more clarification.
That answer is clear, but yet the disciples, they wanted to really pin him down and make
sure that they understood exactly what Jesus was saying, just so that there's no mistake
about it.
And let's just make sure that amongst our church right now, that there's no mistake
about it.
It says in verse number 10, And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same
matter, and he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife and marry another
committeth adultery against her.
Period.
I mean, period.
That's what the Bible teaches.
And then he clarifies it again another way.
He says, And if a woman shall put away her husband, because usually when the scriptures
talk about this, it usually talks about men divorcing their wives.
Men putting away their wives.
But here he even flips it around and says, And if a woman shall put away her husband
and be married to another, she committeth adultery.
Very clear.
Go to Luke 16.
Flip over to Luke 16.
And I'm going to go to all the pertinent passages this morning, because we're going to leave
no stone unturned to prove this doctrinally this morning, what our position is on this
as a church and as God's people.
In Luke chapter 16 verse 18, it says this, Whosoever putteth away his wife and marrieth
another committeth adultery, and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband
committeth adultery.
So from Mark chapter 10 and from Luke 16, we've learned a few things so far.
Number one, we've learned that if a man divorces his wife and marries someone else, he is committing
adultery.
We've also learned that if a woman divorces her husband and marries someone else, she
is committing adultery.
And we also learned that if a man who's never been married, a single man, marries a divorced
woman, he's committing adultery.
So we've already condemned here with scripture three groups of people and three types of
sin.
That's what Jesus Christ has taught.
Go to Matthew chapter 5.
Matthew chapter 5.
You say, What is the point of preaching on this, Pastor Anderson?
Because today more people are getting divorced than are staying married.
More than half of marriages will end in divorce, statistically speaking.
It's become the norm for people to get divorced and remarried instead of staying with their
spouse until death do them part.
And let me say this, if this doctrine were being preached and if the Bible were being
heeded in this area, you would not see the rampant divorce that you see today.
And the reason why people get divorced today is because they believe that they can divorce
their spouse and find someone better.
They don't look at it as, Okay, I have two options.
Divorce my spouse and be by myself or stay with my spouse.
That's not the two options they're looking at.
Those are the two biblical options.
You know, the Bible teaches if you're divorced, you remain unmarried.
But if that were the option in people's minds, if people are thinking to themselves, Let's
see, I can either stay married to my spouse that I'm not happy with or I can go just remain
unmarried for the rest of my life, they'd probably just stay with who they're with.
But it's this attitude that says, Hey, the grass is greener on the other side of the
fence.
I'm going to find someone better that causes people to get divorced in the first place
because they're trading up.
They're not trading being married for remaining single for the rest of their lives, okay?
Because most people would not want to take that option.
And so if you have this permissive doctrine that most churches are teaching today that
says, Hey, you can get a divorce, you can get remarried, then it just creates a temptation
for people to think to themselves, You know, I could do better.
I can find something better.
And by the way, most people when they get divorced and remarried, the first one was
better.
And a lot of times people have marriage problems and they think that the problem is the other
person when really the problem is them.
And so they think, Well, if I can just, you know, it's just my awful wife or my awful
husband.
You know, I was just so foolish, I was so young, I was so stupid that I married this
wrong person.
And if I could just get rid of that person, then everything's going to be great if I could
just find a decent person.
But what happens is the problems come with them because of the fact that they were often
the problem.
Especially, I'll say that about men.
Why?
Because in marriage it's usually the man that's the problem.
You say, Why in the world would you say that?
Okay, well what if you have a bad church?
Who do you think is probably the problem?
The pastor or the members?
Who are you going to blame?
I mean, look, if you see a church that's a bad church that is a dead church, who would
you blame first?
The church members or the pastor?
You'd blame the pastor.
You'd say, Look, the pastor is failing.
Okay, what if we were in the store and we saw parents and their children and the children
are awful children.
Would you blame the child or blame the parent?
Why?
Because leadership is responsible.
And part of leadership is not just a privilege of being able to be the boss, but you have
to pay the cost to be the boss, my friend.
And you have to take responsibility for what happens in that church, in that business,
in that family.
I mean, if you looked at a company that's failing, you'd look at the CEO.
You'd go to the president.
You're not going to blame the guy at the bottom rung of the ladder that's just working and
clocking in and clocking out.
You're going to blame the leadership.
And let me tell you something, the Bible teaches clearly that the head of the wife
is the husband and that the husband is the head of the home.
And the Bible says that the husband is an authority and he's the leader as Christ is
the leader of the church, then he's got to be the one that ultimately takes responsibility
for the success of that marriage.
And that's why I would say that normally I would blame the husband.
So I'd blame.
If it fails.
If it falls apart.
Why?
Because he's the leader.
He should be held responsible for keeping the thing together.
Now that doesn't mean that there aren't wives that are disobedient and rebellious and disobedient
to God's word and whatever.
That's not the point.
But the point is though, that if you're a man, because what does the Bible talk more
about?
Husbands putting away their wives or wives putting away their husbands?
It talks a lot about husbands putting away their wives.
If you're a husband that just thinks, the problem is that my wife just won't, I'm trying
to lead but my wife won't follow.
You are probably failing as a leader is what's really going on.
And you'll find some other wife and you're probably going to have the same problems with
her and on and on and on.
But even wives who think that they can marry a different husband and all their problems
are going to be gone, you're probably just going to take those same problems with you.
And not only that, but is God going to bless you when you violate his word?
I mean when you look at the word of God which says, marriages till death and if you get
divorced and marry someone else you're committing adultery.
If you look at that and say, well I'm just going to do that anyway.
Is God going to guide and direct you to a great second spouse?
God's not going to bless that disobedience.
And so you're on your own buddy.
And I wouldn't want to go out into the world just completely on my own, completely freestyle,
living my life, making important decisions about marriage and so forth.
You know I want to believe that God is guiding me as I make decisions.
And the Bible says the steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord.
And the Bible says we know that all things work together for good to them that love God
and to them that are called according to his purpose.
Look if we love God and obey God and walk in the will of God, he's going to guide us
to the right person and he's going to guide us to the right type of people and he's going
to guide us in the decisions that we make.
But when you just violate God's word and cast aside his commandment, well now you're on
your own.
And you know you might marry a person that's much worse than the original spouse or whatever.
But be that as it may, the Bible is real clear that this is sin.
That it's adultery, that it's ungodly.
We need to go into marriage saying it's till death do us part.
Now you say, what is the secret to staying married?
Now who in here has been married the longest?
Let's find out.
Let's start with Brother Jordan.
How long have you been married, Brother Jordan?
You're in the doghouse, buddy.
You're in trouble.
You're busted.
What year did you get married in?
31 years?
Has anybody here been married longer than 31 years?
Anybody in the room longer than that?
How long have you been married?
33 years, alright.
So anybody else got that beat?
Okay so we've got someone who's married here for 33 years, we've got somebody married for
31 years.
If we were to go to them and say, what is the secret to staying married for 31 years?
What is the secret to staying married for 33 years?
I personally have been married for 13 and a half years, which I think is a lot but it
pales in comparison.
And people will say, what's the big secret?
Here's the thing, it's not a secret.
Now having a great marriage, having a great marriage, there could be secrets to that.
But staying married is so easy and so simple, this is what it is.
Divorce is not an option.
That's the secret.
As long as both people just decide, we're going to stay married until death, this is
a lifelong commitment, then it's never going to end.
Now it might be miserable, it might be a nightmare, I'm not saying it's going to be enjoyable,
but I'm saying this, I mean it's impossible to fail.
As long as both people just decide, we're staying married until death, okay?
So what I'm saying is there's not a secret to staying married a long time, no you stay
married a long time by cutting the word divorce out of your dictionary, by never using it
in an argument, it should never come out of your mouth, it should never be threatened,
it should never even come into your mind, it's just not even an option.
You just get married with a view that it's till death do us part, you will stay married
if you and your spouse have that in your mind and you go into it that way, you can't fail.
Now again, that doesn't mean you're going to have a good marriage, it doesn't mean you're
going to enjoy your marriage, that's another sermon though.
This sermon is just talking about how to stay married.
Remove this doctrine.
That's the secret.
Listen to the words of Jesus Christ and believe them and you will remain married, period.
End of story.
Now look at Matthew chapter 5.
We've seen this in Mark, we've seen this in Luke, let's look at this in Matthew.
Matthew chapter 5 verse 31 says this, it hath been said, whosoever shall put away his wife,
let him give her a writing of divorcement.
But I say unto you, that whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication,
causeth her to commit adultery, and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced, comitteth
adultery.
Now this is the passage where people get confused.
Was there any confusion in Mark?
No.
Was there any confusion in Luke?
No.
But in Matthew, some people will become confused.
Now they'll look at this and say, well, there's an exception.
And they'll say you can get a divorce if there's been adultery.
Now let me ask you something.
Is adultery given as the exception in Matthew 5.32?
Does it say adultery?
But that's what people say.
And why do they say that?
Because modern Bible versions have changed this verse to say adultery.
So if you have the NIV, it'll change fornication to adultery.
Now you say, come on, Pastor, fornication, adultery, what's the difference?
Oh, there's a big difference.
Fornication is when someone who is unmarried commits sin by going to bed with someone that
they're not married to.
Whereas adultery is when someone who's married breaks their marital vow and commits adultery.
Now why have the modern Bible versions changed this?
You say, well, if you go back to the Greek, it's fornication consistently.
And you go back to the Greek about adultery and guess what, it's adultery.
And that's why there's no point in going back to the Greek and that's why we're not going
to.
Okay.
But I'll say this though, the modern Bible versions have changed this word in order to
fit their doctrine, in order to fit their agenda.
Now you say, well, Pastor Anderson, why would someone divorce their spouse because of fornication?
But that's what it says.
And if we go back to Deuteronomy, and I will have you turn there, but before you turn there,
go to Matthew 19.
If we go back to Deuteronomy, we'll find that the teaching about divorcing due to fornication
is found in the Old Testament.
And that's what Jesus is referring to.
Now you have to understand, when you're reading the book of Matthew, Matthew is the book that
more than any other of the four gospels quotes the Old Testament, okay?
You've got Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John.
The book of Matthew has more quotes from the Old Testament than any of the other four gospels.
And it very heavily quotes, and every chapter is that it might be fulfilled, that it might
be fulfilled, that it's written in these eyes, which is written and solved.
It does a lot of quotes from the Old Testament because it's written to an audience that knows
the Old Testament.
That's how the book of Matthew is.
Whereas Mark, Luke, and John, not as much.
That's why, in Mark and Luke, it just clearly stated it, no caveat, no exception, just don't
get divorced.
If you do, you're an adulterer.
If you marry again, you're committing adultery.
Whereas in Matthew, he's expecting us to know the Old Testament law and Old Testament scripture
because Matthew deals really heavily with a lot of Old Testament principles and Old
Testament concepts.
That's why this is found in Matthew, and it's easily explained.
Go to Matthew 19 verse 3.
It says, the Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful
for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read that he which made them at the beginning
made them male and female?
And he said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his
wife, and they twain shall be one flesh.
Therefore they are no more twain but one flesh.
What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
They said unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement and to put
her away?
Now look, are the people he's talking to people who know the Old Testament law?
They're bringing it up.
They're Pharisees, they're the scribes, they're the people who have spent time studying it.
They're the ones who keep coming to Jesus, tempting him, these people that are scholars
of the Old Testament, and so he brings up, they bring up to him what Moses taught about
divorce to try to challenge him.
And he says in response, in verse 5, And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness
of your heart he wrote unto you this precept, but from the beginning of the creation God
made them male and female.
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife, and they
twain shall be one flesh.
So then they are no more twain, but one flesh.
What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter, and he saith unto them,
Whosoever shall put away his wife and marry another, committeth adult..."
Oh good night, am I reading the wrong place?
I'm reading from Mark, sorry about that.
Okay, let's start over.
Everybody's thinking I'm losing my mind.
Okay, Matthew 19, where did I leave off in Matthew 19?
Verse 7, okay, sorry I switched to Mark on you there.
You know what?
I just wanted you to compare Mark and Matthew, I was trying to make it easy for you to compare.
So look at Matthew 19 verse 7.
They said unto him, Why did Moses then command to give her a writing of divorcement and put
her away?
He saith unto them, Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, suffered you to put
away your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.
And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and here's that same thing from
Matthew 5, Accepted me for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery,
and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good
to marry."
Now what do they say?
You know, wait, you mean I have to stay married for the rest of my life?
You mean until death does two parts, then maybe we just shouldn't get married.
And he said to them, Oh guys, yeah actually it is okay to get divorced sometimes.
Didn't mean to offend you guys.
Here's what he said, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.
He doesn't back down on it, he just says, well if you don't like it, well, not everybody
can handle this kind of preaching.
And it's the same today in 2014.
All men cannot receive this saying that I'm preaching this morning.
And we have had more people leave our church over this than a lot, I'm not kidding.
I've had four or five couples in the history of me pastoring for eight years, I've had
about four or five couples come to me and say, would you perform our wedding ceremony?
And I said, have either of you ever been married before?
Yes, you know, they're divorced, sorry can't do it, never see that person again.
Four or five couples.
So I've got a choice to make, am I going to preach what people want to hear, or am I going
to tell the truth?
And I've chosen to tell the truth, and I've lost people.
You say, I don't like this sermon, I don't like this preaching, I'm one of those people
who can't receive this saying, let me tell you something, you will have no problem finding
an independent, fundamental, King James, soul winning church that does not believe what
I'm preaching this morning.
Just flip open the yellow pages, go to independent fundamental Baptist, and start calling down
the list and you will find plenty of preachers who will disagree with what I'm preaching,
but what I'm preaching today is what Jesus Christ taught 2,000 years ago, and Jesus Christ
is the same yesterday and today and forever, and I don't care if our society embraces divorce
and even Christians are getting divorced at the same rate as the world, I'm not going
to change!
I'm staying the same, just like the Bible's the same.
But if you're looking for something else, it's easy to find.
Pastors who will justify divorce, very easy to find.
He says all men cannot receive this saying, and isn't that the truth?
And then he says, save they to whom it is given, for there are some eunuchs which were
so born from their mother's womb, and there are some eunuchs which were made eunuchs of
men, and there be eunuchs which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's
sake.
He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
Now let me just say this, I shouldn't even have to say this, but Jesus is talking about
in this passage, figuratively speaking, he's not telling anyone to mutilate their body
in this passage.
I shouldn't even have to say that, but I don't even want to take the time to turn to
all the Scriptures that would contradict mutilating your body.
There was a guy, one of these church fathers, and people will often say, what did the early
church fathers teach?
And what they are is, I call them paleo-catholics.
I mean you agree with it, paleo-Roman Catholics.
These church fathers, and by the way, guys like Origen, who was one of these paleo-catholic
church fathers, guys like Origen are very much responsible for these modern perversions
of the Bible.
You know Origen's book, the Hexapla, and a lot of other books and manuscripts that were
produced by Origen are behind a lot of the scholarship, behind these new versions that
twist and change Scripture.
And Origen was a man who castrated himself.
This church, I mean, leave that church father on the shelf, no thanks.
Not interested in what you have to say, buddy.
And look it up, it's a historical fact that Origen, a lot of the scholarship behind these
modern versions comes from some of his works, including his Hexapla and so forth.
And he was a guy who, you know, cut off his own stones, as the Bible calls them.
And so, you know, I don't want to hear anything he has to say.
But he misinterpreted this verse.
And you know, if there's one verse in the Bible you don't want to misinterpret, this
is the one.
Misinterpret something else.
You know, don't misinterpret this verse.
But in this verse, what Jesus is saying here is he's saying, look, some people have chosen
to remain celibate for the Kingdom of Heaven's sake.
He's not saying that they actually mutilated their body.
He's saying they remain celibate for the Kingdom of Heaven's sake, because what's the context?
He's talking about people who've been divorced and they realize, hey, I have to remain unmarried.
Or some guys that are just single guys, like Apostle Paul for example, he just chose to
remain unmarried.
But he said that's not for most men.
Most men, he said, should get married to avoid fornication.
But he said some people have a gift of God where they can remain single and they can
live their life.
And there are people out there who can remain single and live for God and so forth.
And he said, you know, you can do more for God.
You don't even have to worry about domestic matters.
I mean, you're just, you know, you've got to cook your own food, but whatever.
But anyway, you know, you can just serve God with it.
And that's what the Apostle Paul did.
So I just wanted to throw that out there.
But let's go back to Deuteronomy 24 and let's get the Old Testament's teaching on divorce
from the Mosaic law.
Isn't this what the Pharisees are bringing up to Jesus?
The Pharisees did not like when Jesus taught against divorce.
When Jesus said, look, divorce is a sin.
God hates putting away.
God hates divorce.
It's till death.
It's one flesh.
What God has joined together, let not man put asunder.
Look, if you're a man and you get divorced and you marry another, you're committing adultery.
If you're a woman and you get divorced and you marry someone else, you're committing
adultery.
If you're a man and you marry a woman who's been divorced, you're committing adultery.
Pharisees don't like it.
They're like, well, what about what Moses taught?
Well, Moses taught to give a bill of divorce.
They're bringing that up.
And here's what's funny.
If you preach the sermon that I'm preaching today, you'll be called a Pharisee.
Define irony.
When a preacher getting up and preaching that divorce is not allowed under any circumstances
labeled a Pharisee.
When this is a teaching that the Pharisees hated, you know, and Jesus was the one telling
them.
But the, oh, you're a Pharisee.
You're a legalist.
Well, the legalist, the lawyers, the scribes, they were all about condoning divorce.
And they said, they said, can a man put away his wife for every cause?
I mean, the Pharisees wanted to teach that a man could just divorce his wife just for
any reason.
That's what they were teaching.
You don't like her, you're sick of her, incompatible, irreconcilable differences, burns the food,
whatever.
Isn't that what Islam teaches or something, supposedly?
I don't know.
But if so, that's the least of Islam's problems, but you know, Islam's got some serious issues.
But anyway, let's just go back to the source.
Let's go back to the fountainhead here in the book of Deuteronomy, the Old Testament,
and let's figure out, you know, what are the Pharisees referring to and what is Jesus referring
to when he says that the exception is fornication?
Because he didn't say the exception was adultery.
He said the exception was fornication.
Let's look it up in Deuteronomy 24 verse 1.
It says in verse 1, when a man hath taken a wife and married her, everybody in Deuteronomy
24, 1, and it come to pass that she find no favor in his eyes because he hath found
some uncleanness in her, then let him write her a bill of divorcement and give it in her
hand and send her out of his house, and when she has departed out of his house, she may
go and be another man's wife.
Now here the Bible is not only teaching that a woman can be divorced, but that then she
can go be married to another man.
Is that not what it says?
So you say, well wait a minute, does this contradict the New Testament's teaching?
Is Jesus contradicting this?
But hold on a second.
Why is he putting her away?
It says because he found some uncleanness in her.
This isn't saying that, you know, she didn't take a shower, you know, and she just wasn't
clean enough.
She didn't use ivory, you know, or her fingernails, dirt under the fingernails.
That's not what this is referring to when it says he goes in under it and finds uncleanness
in her.
I think to help understand what he's referring to, flip back to Deuteronomy 22, just two
chapters earlier, you're in Deuteronomy 24, because the word uncleanness, just look up
throughout the New Testament what uncleanness refers to.
Look up what it often refers to in the Old Testament.
It's talking about what?
It's talking about committing sins of fornication, you know, it's talking about committing those
type of sins.
Those type of sins in the Bible are referred to as uncleanness.
Why?
Because the Bible teaches that fornication is filthy and unsanitary.
And by the way, it is very unsanitary to go out and commit fornication.
That's why there's so much disease that's spread through fornication.
That's why there's so much syphilis and gonorrhea and AIDS because of all this unsanitary practices.
Our bodies are filled with bacteria and it's fine that we have bacteria living in our bodies.
There's some good bacteria, bad bacteria, neutral bacteria, but we're filled with just
literally just millions and billions and trillions of bacteria in our body, all different types
of bacteria.
And I'm okay with my bacteria, but I don't want your bacteria, okay, because my body
is not compatible with your bacteria.
Now if I marry one person, there's going to be a little bit of exchange of bacteria
going on.
But you know what, between two people, no big deal.
But what happens is when you just start exchanging bacteria with everybody and, you know, one
person's got a disease and then they pass it on to somebody else and then that person's
with ten other people who were with ten people who were with ten people and you have this
exponential spread of disease.
You have this exponential spread of bacteria and harmful, unhealthy, unsanitary things
that can cause uncleanness to exist.
Everybody understand?
Now the Bible says here in Deuteronomy 22, 13, if any man take a wife and go in unto
her and hate her and give occasions of speech against her and bring up an evil name upon
her and say, I took this woman and when I came to her I found her not a maid.
What is he referring to?
He's not just saying I don't like her cooking.
We don't get along.
She nags me too much.
She wants me to fix things around the house.
She squeezes the toothpaste from the wrong end of the tube.
She's got the toilet paper roll, you know, coming over the top.
I want it to come under the bottom.
Is that the problem here?
No.
He's saying, look, I married this woman that was presented to me as a virgin, as a maid,
and I went in under her and found her not to be a maid.
That's the problem.
And look what it says next.
Now the reason this is such a foreign concept to you is because 99% of women today are not
a maid when they get married.
So that's why that's foreign to you.
But guess what?
There have actually been societies throughout history where people actually had morals?
No really.
Really every society has not been as sinful and wicked as the United States and just completely
debauched and fornicated our lives away.
Actually some people have lived a clean life throughout history, believe it or not.
Actually some cultures actually valued virginity when you got married.
And obviously there are many of God's people today that are still virgins when they get
married, thank God.
And don't use this excuse, oh everybody's doing it.
No everybody's not doing it.
Because I can name for you myself included and many other people who were virgins when
they got married.
It does still exist.
But unfortunately because 99% do not follow the teachings of God's Word in this area,
it's few and far between and therefore this might seem foreign to us.
But everybody let's take a little trip in time back to a time and a place where actually
most women were virgins when they got married.
Everybody want to get in the time machine with me and go there?
So now that we're there, now read the passage and here's a guy who's saying look, I went
in under her and found her not to be a maid and this is something that matters to him
because he's from that society, because he's living in that world.
And so what does it say?
It says, then shall the father of the damsel and her mother take and bring forth the tokens
of the damsel's virginity unto the elders of the city in the gate and the damsel's father
shall say unto the elders, I gave my daughter unto this man to wife and he hated her and
lo he hath given occasions of speech against her saying, I found not thy daughter a maid
and yet these are the tokens of my daughter's virginity and they shall spread the cloth
before the elders of the city and the elders of that city shall take that man and chastise
him and they shall immerse him in a hundred shekels of silver and give them unto the father
of the damsel because he has brought up an evil name upon a virgin of Israel and she
shall be his wife, he may not put her away all his days.
Now this is where we get our defamation lawsuit by the way.
A defamation lawsuit does have a biblical basis because here we see that this man has
to pay a fine for slandering this woman by saying that she was not a virgin when she
really was.
So there's the defamation lawsuit there.
But notice if it's not true, if she really were a maid or a virgin, those words are synonymous
in the Bible, if she really were a maid then notice he cannot divorce her, he cannot put
her away all his days.
But let's keep reading, it says, but verse 20, if this thing be true and the tokens of
virginity be not found for the damsel, then they shall bring out the damsel to the door
of her father's house and the men of her city shall stone her with stones that she die because
she has brought folly in Israel to play the whore in her father's house.
So shall thou put away evil from among you.
And then it goes on to talk about adultery as a separate issue, if a man be found lying
with a woman married to a husband, then shall they both of them die, both the man that lay
with the woman and the woman, so shall thou put away evil from Israel.
Go to Matthew 1, Matthew chapter 1.
So let's just kind of assess what we've learned so far.
We started out by learning a man who gets divorced and marries another woman, that's
adultery.
A woman who divorces her husband marries a different man, that's adultery.
A man who marries a woman who's been divorced, that's adultery.
The Pharisees come to Jesus and say, Jesus, what about Moses?
What about when Moses said you can give her a writing of divorcement?
Then we went back and looked at what Moses said and what Moses said was that if a guy
goes in unto her and finds uncleanness there, he can put her away and divorce her and she
may be another man's wife.
Or that if it is presented unto him by the parents as this is a virgin girl, he pays
the dowry according to the dowry of virgins, he pays that dowry, she's presented as a virgin,
her parents think she's, and it turns out she's not, then she is actually put to death
in that case.
So is the Old Testament teaching found in Deuteronomy 22 and 24 saying ten years into
marriage you realize you don't want to be married anymore so you divorce your spouse.
Is that what it's even talking about?
No, it was always right when they got married.
It's like they get married, he finds uncleanness, he backs out.
And this is where we get the concept of an annulment.
And again, obviously annulments are abused and it's not what the Bible teaches, but what
I'm saying is that's where that philosophy comes from of saying look, he thinks he's
getting one thing, he gets there and it's something else, so he does not consummate
the marriage and she can go be another man's wife because of that.
We have a perfect example of this in Matthew chapter 1.
And isn't it interesting that the one verse that gives the fornication exception is found
in Matthew, Matthew 5 and Matthew 19, which is the same book that gives us this perfect
example in Matthew 1, which is the same book that is constantly pointing us back to Deuteronomy
to get the truth.
Look if you would at Matthew 1 verse 18, now the birth of Jesus Christ was on this wise.
And as his mother Mary was espoused to Joseph, before they came together she was found with
child of the Holy Ghost, so put yourself in Joseph's position.
Joseph has not yet been visited by the angel.
Joseph does not know of any supernatural occurrence.
All Joseph knows is that Joseph is espoused to Mary, they have not yet consummated the
marriage, they have not yet come together, okay, and she's with child.
Now put yourself in his shoes, you're a young, godly man and you marry what you consider
to be a young, godly virgin girl and upon being a spouse, but before you've come together,
it's found out that she's pregnant.
What are you instantly going to think?
You know you haven't been with her, she's pregnant, fornication, right, I mean is that
not fornication?
Like okay, we just got married, we have not yet consummated the marriage and here she
is, it turns out she's actually pregnant, that means that she committed adultery?
No, fornication.
So what is Joseph going to do when he finds out that he thinks that his wife has committed
fornication because he hasn't been visited by the angel yet?
He doesn't know she's with child of the Holy Ghost, he just knows she's with child.
Then Joseph her husband being a bad person, is that what it says?
No, in verse 19 it says, then Joseph her husband being a just man and not willing to make her
a public example was minded to put her away privily.
So was he wrong to put her away?
No, because this is exactly what Deuteronomy 24 prescribed.
This is exactly what the Bible taught was a situation where divorce would be used, where
he would put her away, he hasn't even consummated the marriage, he hasn't even been with her.
But there's uncleanness there, he thinks.
Now was there uncleanness there?
No.
She was pure and virgin and godly, that's why an angel then in the next verse is going
to come visit him and explain to him, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife, for that
which is conceived in her is of the Holy Ghost.
And then once Joseph found that out, he believed the word of God, then he takes Mary unto him
and he knew her not until she had brought forth her firstborn son, Joseph called his
name Jesus, because that was the name that Joseph had been told to name him, and then
after Jesus was born and after obviously the prescribed recovery period, then Joseph and
Mary came together and had lots of children together.
James, Joseph, Simon, Judas, and all the sisters that were born.
So that's what happened.
So look, do you think this is a coincidence that in Matthew 1, we have a perfect example
of this?
It jives with Matthew 5 when he said, saving for the cause of fornication, which is what
we saw in Matthew 1, which is what we see in Deuteronomy 24.
It's all consistent, it's all clear, but here's what will happen.
People will take that verse in Matthew 5 where it says, accept it be for fornication, and
they'll just change that in their mind, oh that means adultery, oh that's adultery.
Or if they have an NIV, the NIV just does it for them and just changes it to adultery,
even though that's not what it says in the original.
In the original it says fornication.
They like to do your thinking for you down at the NIV committee, and they like to change
things according to their opinion.
Go to Romans chapter 7, Romans chapter number 7.
So what is that exception?
Is it adultery?
No, it's fornication.
Now how did God deal with adultery?
This is what doesn't make sense.
They think that, well if there's adultery, divorce is warranted.
But that's not what the Bible said.
What did the Bible prescribe for adultery?
Death.
I mean the Bible said that if your wife commits adultery, she's put to death.
Or if your husband commits adultery, he's put to death.
Now if that were the case, because people say, oh no, I don't want to have to live with
my spouse after they've committed adultery.
Well under God's law you wouldn't have had to, because he would have been put to death
and then you could have married someone else.
But today, if your spouse commits adultery, you cannot divorce your spouse and marry someone
else.
That is not taught in scripture, because that is not the exception that God gave.
And really, the exception that God gave in Matthew 5 is not even really an exception.
Because the marriage hasn't even really properly started yet anyway.
So it's not really even an exception.
That's why in Mark and Luke, he didn't even give an exception, because it wasn't necessary.
Because he's talking to people who are married for an extended period and they get divorced.
I mean, how many people do you know got divorced after the wedding night?
Think about all the people you know that are divorced, did they all get divorced right
after the wedding night?
No.
They got divorced after 1 year, 2 years, 10 years, 20 years, 30 years, 40 years.
And people try to equate that with Joseph.
You know, equate that with Deuteronomy 24.
Equate that with Matthew 5.
It's because they just want to believe what they want.
It's not scriptural.
What does the Bible teach?
Let's go to Romans 7.
Let's see what the Bible teaches.
Look, we've seen the teaching in Matthew.
We've seen the teaching in Mark.
We've seen the teaching in Luke.
We've seen the teaching in Deuteronomy.
We've seen the teaching in Malachi.
Has it been consistent?
Yes.
Let's go to Romans.
Because a lot of the people that I find, especially Baptist preachers who want to preach a permissiveness
when it comes to divorce, they're often of the dispensational stripe.
The hyper-dispensational or medium-dispensational or I'm kind of dispensational, how about you?
Now I don't believe in any of this dispensational garbage, none of it.
I believe in Testaments, two of them, old and new.
I don't believe in seven dispensations.
But anyway, the dispensationalists, here's what they'll tell you.
You have to get the teachings from the Epistles of Paul because Jesus Christ's teachings are
only for the Jews and Deuteronomy is only for the Jews and Leviticus is only for the
Jews and Matthew, Mark, Luke are only for the Jews.
It's only what Paul taught.
Now first of all, that's ridiculous because all scripture is profitable for doctrine and
especially I think that the most important part of the Bible is Matthew, Mark, Luke and
John.
Now it's all important.
All of it's important.
But I'll tell you what, if I were on a desert island and I could only have one part of the
Bible, that's the part that I would take, is the four gospels.
But you might have a different opinion about that, if you want to take the Epistles of
Paul, that's fine.
But look, it's all profitable for doctrine.
All scriptures give my inspiration of God.
Dispensationalists are the man-made concept, but let's just go to the Epistles of Paul.
Let's go to Romans.
Romans 7 says this, Know ye not, brethren, for I speak to them that know the law, how
that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth.
For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth.
But if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
So then if while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called
an adulteress.
Is that what Christ taught?
It's identical to what Christ taught.
But if her husband be dead, she is free from that law so that she is no adulteress though
she be married to another man.
You say, I'm a woman, I'm divorced.
When can I get remarried, according to the Bible?
When your ex-husband is dead.
You say, but I've been married three times.
When all three of them are dead, I will perform your ceremony.
That's what the Bible says.
I mean, when your husband is dead, you're loosed from the law of your husband.
That's what the Bible says.
But if her husband be dead, halfway through verse 3, she is free from that law so that
she is no adulteress though she be married to another man.
Clear teaching from Romans 7.
Go to 1 Corinthians 7.
Now, there are two passages that people will bring up.
You say, well Pastor Anderson, if the Bible is so clear on this, why do so many churches
perform these ceremonies?
And why do so many churches teach that it's okay to be divorced and remarried if the Bible
is so clear?
Well, here's what they do.
They take Matthew 5, but we already put that to bed.
Or they take 1 Corinthians 7.
These are the two things that they'll bring up and try to use.
I just Googled real quick.
I just Googled statement of faith, divorce, adultery, whatever.
Because I know that just through the years looking at statement of faith, which by the
way, 9 times out of 10 are copied and pasted from someone else.
They usually aren't even written by that church.
But I've seen it a million times and I'm not, yes I am exaggerating, it wasn't a million.
But I've seen it a lot of times, you'll look at a church's statement of faith and if they
have a marriage section or a divorce section, if it's one of those really long statement
of faith, it'll usually say, we are against divorce and remarriage except in cases of
adultery and abandonment.
Those are the two exceptions they give, adultery and abandonment.
They're getting adultery from Matthew 5, which is not what it says, and they're getting abandonment
from 1 Corinthians 7, which is not what it says, but we'll look at that in a moment.
And they'll give those two exceptions, but what happens is when you start giving people
exceptions like that, they're going to find a way to make that exception fit their situation.
I've even heard pastors say this, well, he hasn't departed physically, but he's departed
emotionally.
Or they'll say like, well, I know your husband didn't really commit adultery, but he committed
adultery in his heart because he looked at a dirty magazine or because he looked at a
filthy movie or he looked at that woman that was walking by scantily clad and he was clearly
staring at her.
So there you go, grounds for divorce.
Watch your eyes, men.
You know, you'd look at the woman and boom, you're divorced.
No, that's ridiculous, but see, when you give people exceptions, they try to find a way
to make that exception fit.
Okay, and then another one that sometimes is just tagged on with zero scriptural support,
you know, Matthew 5, adultery, not what it says, 1 Corinthians 7, abandonment, not what
it says.
Then they'll just tag on abuse, just with no scriptural basis, abuse.
And then it'll be like, well, alcohol abuse.
Good night.
Then every Catholic can get divorced because the Catholics, you know, the Catholics are
against divorce, but the Catholic Church will tell you you can get divorced if there's alcohol
abuse.
Have you ever known a Catholic who didn't abuse alcohol?
Does it even exist?
Okay.
So, you know, like, well, alcohol abuse, or, you know, they'll say physical abuse, and
you know what, if we looked at our marriages, we could all find some physical abuse.
You know, he hit me with a pillow.
She threw a raw hot dog at me, you know, and literally, I mean, I know a guy who went to
one of these anger management classes in Colorado because, you know, his wife claimed that he
had, you know, domestic abuse, but it was all verbal.
It was like he verbally abused me.
And then he went to the class, and there was a woman in the class with him, and he said,
you know, what are you in for?
You know, and she was taking the anger management class because her husband called the police
after she threw a raw hot dog at him.
Now look, if my wife throws a raw hot dog at me, I'm not calling the police.
I'm going to take that raw hot dog, wash it off, put it on the barbecue, eat it, you know,
and then take care of business with my wife, but, you know, I'm not going to sit there.
I mean, what kind of a baby, hold on a second, let's just digress from the sermon.
What kind of a baby, what kind of a weakling calls the police on their wife for any reason
ever?
Like you need the police to come help you with your wife?
You know, I mean, good night.
I mean, I had a friend, a coworker, who literally, his wife was beating him, and he called the
police.
Look, if that's you, don't tell your buddy it worked that.
You know, I mean, first of all, that should never happen, you weakling, but if it does,
don't tell your buddy it worked that.
He's going to use it for a sermon illustration for the rest of his life, you know, about
not being manly.
Okay, and look, I'm not saying that you need to go to the gym, but if your wife can beat
you up, go to the gym.
I'll drive you down there, I'll pay for your membership, okay, you know, because, yeah,
that's ridiculous.
You need to be stronger than your wife, okay, but anyway, you know, your wife's beating
you.
She's beating you, she's abusing me.
You, I mean, how can you even say that without just being a shame and embarrassment of yourself
as a man?
You say, well, but, you know, Pastor Anderson, it's usually the other way around, the big
strong man is beating up his wife, you know, but a lot of times, you know, a lot of times
it's exaggerated.
Now, are there times when someone actually beats up and injures their wife?
Of course, and again, of course, I would never condone of injuring and, you know, beating
up your wife.
I'm not condoning that, of course, but here's the thing.
We already have, you know, there are already laws against that, you know, of just assaulting
people and people who assault people.
Our society already punishes that, you know, just, just, you know, injuring someone, okay,
but to sit there and say, well, you know, I'm in here to, well, why did you marry that
type of person?
What did you do to make him so mad?
No, I'm just kidding.
I'm just kidding, all right.
Everybody's going to quote that all day long, you know, Pastor Anderson, you know, but I'm
just saying, what I'm saying is, it was a joke, but anyway, what I'm saying is, you
know, obviously, yeah, there are people who, you know, there are women who get battered
and all this, but you know what, okay, great, well, we already have laws and we already
have stuff to do that, you know.
You do what you're going to do, but you know what, at the end of the day, you married this
guy, you know, and sometimes we do things and we suffer the consequences of the things
that we do, and I'm not saying that, you know, if some guy is so violent and, you know,
to where there's actually serious injury happening that, you know, there couldn't be a time and
a place to go to the authorities, you know, and deal with that, okay, of course, but look,
if you're a man, never, never, you know, you just don't do it, but anyway, what I'm saying
is that these things can be twisted, especially when you tag on abuse, you know, adultery,
abandonment, abuse, you can pretty much make any marriage problem fit one of those three
categories.
Oh, adultery, yep, he looked at a woman to lust after her, yep, he looked at a magazine,
yep, I think he might have one time possibly, I don't have any evidence, but maybe, oh,
well, yeah, I mean, it's not a spectator sport, I mean, you know, yeah, I mean, if you think
he did, he probably did, or, oh, abandonment, he's abandoned you mentally, or here's what
it becomes, a game between spouses to see who can get the other to abandon them.
I've actually seen Christian people, I literally have known Christian people who believe this
doctrine that, you know, in cases of abandonment, then they just start treating their spouse
like dirt, hoping that they'll abandon them, and then as soon as they abandon them, they're
like, yes, and then they can go get divorced and remarried, because they're abandoned.
This is the way people are, this is human nature to find all the loopholes and find
all the exceptions instead of just getting married and saying divorce is not an option.
Who thinks we should just say get married and divorce is not an option?
Amen, you know, that's what the Bible teaches.
Okay, but I found that, I just googled it real quick, this is the first thing I found,
John Piper, and John Piper is this really famous, well-known pastor, his books are all
over Barnes and Noble and everything, he's a Baptist pastor, and so this is the first
thing I found when I just googled it, but I've seen tons of doctrinal statements that
tell you about these exceptions.
Here's what this statement said, this statement on divorce and remarriage is the product of
several years of study and discussion by the Council of Deacons of Bethlehem Baptist Church.
Well you know, my doctrine on divorce and remarriage is the product of like five minutes
of study.
As a child, as a little kid, when I opened the book of Matthew and read it for the first
time, and the first time I got to Mark and Luke, oh that's why you're so wrong pastor,
you didn't spend years studying it.
Look it doesn't take years to figure out what Jesus said about divorce, I mean it just takes
a few minutes, okay?
But anyway, this is years of study.
Here's some quotes from it, the historic Protestant position that John Murray was defending was
enshrined in the Westminster Confession of 1647.
The pertinent part reads like this, in case of adultery after marriage it is lawful for
the innocent party to sue out a divorce and after the divorce to marry another as if the
offending party were dead, just pretend they're dead.
I know it's till death do us part, but just pretend they're dead.
And that's what the Westminster Confession of 1647 says and that is the historical Protestant
position.
Well ask me if I care, what is Jesus' position?
Okay here's another point further down.
Divorce may be permitted when a spouse deserts the relationship.
Depends every divorce, somebody deserts the relationship.
Divorce may be permitted when a spouse deserts the relationship, commits adultery, or is
dangerously abusive.
And here's the Scriptures they give, Matthew 19 which we already looked at, 1 Corinthians
7.15 and 1 Corinthians 7.11, we're going to hit up 1 Corinthians right before the service
is over.
Some of us, and then they say we're not here dealing with remarriage, in this they're just
saying, you know, it's okay to get divorced.
Some of us want to stress that divorce in this statement should not imply a decisive
and permanent end to the relationship while the spouses are alive and not remarried.
Even after long periods of separation and alienation, reconciliation can happen as when
the people of God return to the Lord after several periods of waywardness, Hosea chapter
2.
Others of us want to stress that decisive divorce in certain cases is permitted and
that this leaves the deserted or abused spouse free to remarry.
We all want to emphasize that the phrase may be permitted holds out the possibility that
inquiry may reveal that the deserted partner engaged in a wrong behavior that drove the
other away so that a change is called for at home rather than divorce.
This is really complicated.
Basically they're just saying we don't want to take a position so we're just going to
say a lot of complicated stuff and people who like divorce are going to interpret it
the way they want to and people who are against divorce are going to interpret it the way
they want to.
The grieving partners referred to in point 3, who were guilty of abandonment, adultery
or abuse, should repent and be reconciled to God and to their spouses.
If it is too late because the spouse have remarried, they should remain single because
they left their first marriage without biblical warrant because there's always a biblical
warrant to leave your marriage.
No there's not.
Let's go to 1 Corinthians 7 because that's what they keep bringing up.
1 Corinthians 7, 1 Corinthians 7.
They just keep repeating these teachings.
Now first of all, if the Bible had all these exceptions then the Bible would be contradicting
itself because Jesus is just like, look, you get a divorce, you get remarried, it's adultery.
People are like, whoa, I can't handle this preaching and he says, well, if you can't
handle it, well join the club.
Some people can't handle this preaching.
And then all of a sudden, oh well, there's all these exceptions and it covers like everything.
There are exceptions that cover pretty much everything.
I mean anything could be abuse, anything could be abandonment, anything could be construed.
So it says here in 1 Corinthians 7 in the pertinent parts, this always cracks me up.
This is the go-to scripture on permitting divorce and remarriage, 1 Corinthians 7.
The dispensationalists throw out all the teachings of Christ and just say, well it's all about
Paul and here's what Paul said.
And anyone who's saying abandonment, abandonment, abandonment, this is where they're getting
it.
This is going to blow you away.
Just look at this.
Verse 10, unto the married I command, yet not I but the Lord.
So who's commanding this, Paul or the Lord?
The Lord.
Let not the wife depart from her husband.
Does that sound like one of the Lord's commandments?
Does it say unless?
Just says let not the wife depart from her husband, period.
Let and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband and let not
the husband put away his wife.
That's what the Lord commands.
Is that consistent with the teachings of Jesus?
That's what the Lord commands.
Now some people will twist this and say, well it says if she depart in verse 11, so maybe
he's making allowance for her to depart.
Let's look at verse 10 again.
Let not the wife depart from her husband, period.
Everybody got that?
Who doesn't understand that?
Now let's move on to verse 11.
If she depart.
See, sometimes she can depart.
No.
The Bible says, my little children, these things write unto you that ye sin not.
But if any man sin, we have an advocate with the Father.
So just because he says if, he just realizes people are going to do it anyway.
So he's saying, look, God commands don't depart, but some people are going to do it anyway.
So if they do, then they need to remain unmarried or be reconciled to their husband.
It's just like when he says don't sin, but if you do sin, we have an advocate with the
Father.
He's not saying, well see, sometimes it's okay to sin.
It doesn't make any sense, does it?
So what does God command?
God commands that wives should not depart from their husband.
Well it's okay for them to get separated as long as they don't get divorced.
Is that what this says?
No.
It says let not the wife depart from her husband, but and if she depart, let her remain unmarried
or be reconciled to her husband.
Why?
Because if she marries someone else, she'll be doing what?
That's what Romans taught, that's what Luke taught, that's what Mark taught, that's what
Matthew taught.
And let not the husband put away his wife.
That is the Lord's teaching, period, done, finito, over, end it, and then look at the
next verse.
But to the rest speak I, not the Lord.
Now who's talking now?
The Lord?
Is this what the Lord teaches?
Is this the Lord's commandment now?
Read it again.
But to the rest speak I, not the Lord.
And this is what he says next is what they're going to use to teach that it's okay to get
divorced and remarried.
Now can someone explain to me why we're going to ignore the teaching of the Lord in verses
10 and 11 and then we're just going to get all hung up on what Paul's opinion is that
he clearly says this is not the Lord.
And you say well but it's in the Bible so it means it's from the Lord.
Yeah but the statement not the Lord is in the Bible.
And Paul under the inspiration of the Holy Ghost wrote not the Lord.
That means the words not the Lord are true.
Who thinks the words not the Lord are true scripture?
So is this the Lord talking?
And yet that, so let's ignore Jesus.
Let's ignore Matthew.
Let's ignore Mark.
Let's ignore Luke.
Let's ignore Romans.
Let's ignore Deuteronomy and let's listen to something that specifically says it's not
coming from the Lord.
But that's what they do because people are going to believe what they want.
And some people are going to walk out of the sermon and just believe what they want.
Go ahead.
Because I'm not the divorce police.
You go out and be Elizabeth Taylor for all I care, but I'm going to preach the truth.
I want my children to know the truth and I want every husband and wife in this room to
hear the truth and stay married.
But let's read what Paul says, not the Lord.
If any brother hath a wife that believeth not.
So this whole teaching about, you know, if a wife has a husband that's not saved, if
a husband has a wife that's not saved, this is not coming from the Lord.
This is something that Paul's teaching, okay?
But to the rest speak I, not the Lord.
If any brother hath a wife that believeth not.
So God's not speaking to these people, Paul is.
This group of people that are married to unbelievers.
He says, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
And the woman which hath a husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her,
let her not leave him.
So even Paul, who's not the Lord, even his teaching is lining up with what the Lord teaches.
But it's just his opinion, he's just, he's adding his own opinion, his own wisdom, his
own thoughts.
Look, just because Paul gives his own thoughts doesn't mean they're bad thoughts.
I think Paul's thoughts are good thoughts.
But that doesn't make them scripture, doesn't make them authoritative because he has specifically
said that they aren't.
You know, I have opinions about things that aren't based on scripture.
Does anybody here have an opinion that's not based on scripture about anything?
Everybody could say, you know, I have opinions about running.
I have opinions about running shoes and what type of shoes I think are the best running
shoes.
I didn't get those from scripture, but it doesn't mean that I'm not right, right?
I mean, it's just, look, people just have opinions and thoughts.
You know what, I have opinions that are based on scripture, that are derived from scripture,
but they're still opinions, they're not commandments of God.
You know, I could say, you know what, I think it's better to eat this type of food based
on what I see in scripture.
But it doesn't mean that the Bible commands you to eat that type of food or not eat that
type of food.
You know, I might say, well, based on scripture, I don't think you should eat a McDonald's
based on biblical principles.
I can't get up and say, thus sayeth the Lord, thou shalt not eat McDonald's, because I'd
be adding to scripture.
If I commanded you not to eat McDonald's, I'd be adding to scripture, I would be putting
words in God's mouth wickedly, but I might be able to derive, who thinks that's probably
a good idea to not eat a McDonald's, okay?
But it doesn't mean it's biblical, it just means my opinion.
It's a good opinion.
Does it have some basis in scripture?
Well, the Bible tells you to take care of yourself and to eat clean food, whatever.
So this is an opinion of Paul, it's a good opinion.
I'm not down on his opinion, but I'm just making it real clear to you that it's not
Jesus' teaching.
It's Paul's teaching.
It's just Paul is extrapolating things out, and he's saying, look, if you're married to
somebody who's not saved, you need to just stay with that person anyway.
He's expanding on Christ's teaching.
Look, if you're married to somebody who's not saved, just stay with them.
Don't divorce them just because they're not saved.
Stay with them.
And he explains why.
He says, verse 13, the woman which hath a husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased
to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified
by the husband.
Else were your children unclean, but now are they holy.
He's saying, look, for the children's sake, stay married.
At least your children will then have one godly parent.
A lot of times you'll see a saved and an unsaved person get divorced, the kids spend half the
time at each place.
And when they're with the unsaved parent, they get into all kinds of sin and wickedness
and there's no rules.
And then when they're with the godly parent, there's rules, and then it doesn't work out.
Whereas at least if you stay married, you say, look, you can at least have your kids
with you every day and teach them the Bible every day, not just evenings and weekends
or summers or winters or whatever.
And here's the verse that they abused, verse 15, but if the unbelieving depart, let him
depart, a brother or sister is under no bondage in such cases, but God hath called us to peace.
So what verse 15 is saying is that, look, if somebody departs, if you're married to
an unsaved person, this is Paul's opinion, not the Lord.
Paul's opinion is that if your spouse forsakes you, your unsaved spouse forsakes you, you
don't have to go chasing after them and begging for them to come back.
If they depart, you can let them depart.
You shouldn't depart, you need to stay with them, but if they depart, they depart.
But where does this say, then go out and get remarried?
Is that what it says?
Then you can go get remarried.
No.
So that, again, somebody just takes 715 from Corinthians and they take it, it's not even
from the Lord, it's Paul's opinion.
The Lord's teaching is found in verses 10 and 11.
Park it in 10 and 11 where the Lord's talking, they'll take Paul's teaching and then they'll
just add to it.
He just says, let them depart, if they depart, let them depart.
He doesn't say, and then get a divorce, and then get remarried.
That's the part that they've added.
It's not in scripture.
So I've already gone long this morning, I've already preached as long as I'm going to preach.
Let me just say this, God hates divorce, that's where we started, Malachi 2.
God hates it, God hates putting away.
We ought to hate it.
Should we be mean to people who've been divorced?
Absolutely not.
Should we be unforgiving?
No.
We need to forgive our brothers and sisters in Christ, we need to let them live that down,
we should not hang that over their head, they should be faithful to the spouse that they're
with.
Deuteronomy 24 made it clear that they don't go back to the old original spouse.
You don't get married three times and then go back to the original.
That's a false doctrine that's being taught today.
It's false.
You stay with the person that you're currently married to.
Not to be down on them, but you know what, if you're single, you better go into marriage
with this thought.
It's for life, it's a commitment, it's till death.
And if you're married today, you ought to decide in your heart right now, I will never
get divorced, I'll never even talk about getting divorced, I'll never even think about getting
divorced.
If we do that, we won't have the same statistics that are out there.
And you know what, in our church, I don't think anybody's ever been divorced in our
church.
And you know, I've been to churches where somebody's getting divorced every year in
an independent fundamental Baptist, King James, only so in a church, somebody got divorced
on a yearly basis in that church.
Okay, why?
They didn't teach what I'm teaching.
They taught the exceptions.
And it happens every year.
Let's stay married, folks, let's stay committed, bow our heads in a word of prayer.
Father, we thank you so much for your word, and we thank you for marriage.
It's a great institution, it's an institution that gives us a lot of joy in our life, but
it's also an institution that can be a challenge.
And marriage has its times when it's challenging, and it has joyous times, it has ups and it
has downs.
But Lord, thank you so much for the wonderful, amazing wife that you've given me, and thank
you for the great marriage that we've had that gets better and better over time.
And Father, I pray that everyone who's here today would stay married and understand that
even if they're maybe going through a low point right now in their marriage, things
will get better if they stay in and they stay in the Bible and they stay in church
that things will improve and that eventually they will rekindle the joy and love and affection
that they once had.
Lord, help us not to be compromisers.
Help us to stand on what you taught 2,000 years ago, and in Jesus' name we pray, amen.