Man, the title of my sermon this evening is Embarrassing Your Family.
Embarrassing Your Family.
Now, the Bible doesn't use this exact wording in the book of Proverbs when it talks about embarrassing your family,
but the term that it does use is shaming your family, bringing shame to your family.
And if you study the Bible, you're going to find that the word shame comes up quite a bit.
This is a big theme in the Bible, and in fact, many scientists and anthropologists have even talked about
shame-based cultures versus honor-based cultures and, you know, different ways that different societies will treat
people in order to encourage good behavior, or discourage bad behavior.
And really, there should be some element of shame in our society.
We shouldn't just be shameless fools that just act however, do whatever.
There should be some stigma on certain behaviors where, you know, people would be ashamed to do certain things
because it's an embarrassment to themselves.
Not only that though, we shouldn't want to embarrass
our families. We don't want to make our parents ashamed of us or make other family members
embarrassed or ashamed to be associated with us and just kind of bring shame upon the family name
in general. I remember one time when I was a kid hearing about how we had an extended, you know,
a relative, I'm not going to say it was, it was like in our extended family and this young teenage
from the 80s, you know, some of you that are my age, you know, you know what I'm talking about.
So he was into the cure, but he decided to adopt the look of the lead singer of the cure,
and his dad was a pastor.
Okay, so his dad's this liberal, watered-down pastor and this teenage guy that's living
his parents' home, you know, just starts looking like Robert Smith from The Cure and
so his hair's all punked out, he's wearing makeup on his face, just looking like a weirdo.
And this liberal pastor didn't know how to handle it
because he's so liberal and watered down,
he's not really necessarily gonna stand up
to something like this.
And he was sitting down and saying to my parents,
like, you know, we were just trying to ask ourselves though,
like, are we offended by this because it's wrong?
Or are we offended by this just because it embarrasses us?
And it's just kind of embarrassing to go out in public
with our son looking like this absolute freak punk.
What is it and I'm thinking to myself you know what here's the thing
Let's just say for a second that there was absolutely nothing wrong with looking that way
Okay?
Let's say the only problem was that you're embarrassing and humiliating your parents by
looking like Robert Smith from The Cure when you go to the grocery store.
Well guess what?
That should be enough of a reason right there not to do it, but for some reason people are
offended by that, like, oh, I should just be able to act however I want and look however
I want and express myself however I want, and if my parents are ashamed of me, that's
If my siblings are ashamed of me, that's on them.
No, my friend.
Do not be a person who brings shame and embarrassment
and humiliation upon your family by being foolish.
I think we can all agree that a man who puts on makeup,
punks out his hair,
and dresses like he's in the cure is an embarrassment.
Just kind of, I don't even think that's really subjective.
But even if it were subjective, why would you want to embarrass and humiliate your dad,
who's a pastor, by looking like something that is not what you'd expect a church person
to look like?
And look, we could go into the Bible and all the reasons, and we're going to.
But I just thought I'd tell that story just to show how out of touch people are with this
idea that you shouldn't embarrass your family, okay?
Now, let's look at the scripture tonight.
We just read in Proverbs chapter 12.
It says in verse number 4, a virtuous woman is a crown to her husband, but she that maketh
ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.
Now, we have a contrast here between the virtuous woman who's a crown to her husband.
What is a crown?
Right?
is a symbol of authority.
You put a crown on your head
and we know you're the king, you have authority.
But not only is it a symbol of authority,
it's also a decoration, it's an ornament.
And so the idea here is that the virtuous woman
is an adornment, an ornament, makes him look good,
makes him look like he's a boss,
makes him look like he's in charge.
Isn't that exactly what a crown does?
Makes you look important makes you look like a boss makes you look good. Hey the virtuous woman is making her husband look good
whereas
She that make it ashamed is this rottenness in his bones the one who embarrasses her husband who makes her husband ashamed
Man, that is like rottenness in his bones. And if you think about your health, you've got your skin
You've got muscles. You've got all kinds of tissue. You got the circulatory system
Obviously your blood is super important to your health. And then you know the bone is
In many ways the deepest part of who you are
Right? So, you know, we're looking at an x-ray or something, you know, kind of the last thing that you're kind of piercing into
The deepest component would be like the inside of your bones
as far as like getting down to the, and of course we know that bones are also
important to your health.
Because bones aren't just providing the structure
of your body and, you know, holding you up and keeping you from collapsing,
but your bones are also producing blood, right? The bone marrow.
inside the bones is also important to your health and so inside the bones you
got the marrow and just imagine and I'm not a medical expert you know we got it
we got Dr. Sharma here but the thing is I'm not a medical expert on these things
but I'm sure that having some kind of a like infection or rottenness or problem
in your bone marrow would be probably severe it would be something very bad
Am I in the ballpark?
Yeah, I mean, it just seems like one of the worst things
that you would want to go wrong is for that bone marrow
to get rotten.
And that's the idea here is that the woman who makes
her husband ashamed and embarrasses him,
she's like rottenness in his bones.
I mean, just it's not just a flesh wound.
It's not just a scrape or a cut or something external
where you can put some salve on, put a band-aid on it.
No, this is something that you can't even fix
because it's so deep inside.
You would take some kind of extreme surgery or something to deal with it or maybe just amputation, right?
It's horrible.
And so the Bible is using some pretty strong language to say, you know, if you're a woman who embarrasses her husband,
you're like rottenness in his bones. I mean, it's just it's so destructive
down to the deepest core of his being.
Wow, you know that should really speak to you ladies to think hey, you know what I want to be a crown to my husband
I don't want to be rotten this in his bones by embarrassing it
Now what are some of the ways that women could embarrass their husbands? Well, here's one. How about mouthing off to him publicly?
Now look you shouldn't be mouthing off to your husband even privately right you shouldn't be disrespectful rude
Talking down to him, but how much more is it a sin to do that publicly?
and embarrass him in front of his friends, embarrass him in front of colleagues, work people,
maybe boss at work, or employees, or whatever.
I mean, it's just so much worse when it's happening publicly.
And again, some people, when they hear this kind of preaching, they're just like,
oh, you just care so much what people think about you, you just care about your images.
Look, my friend, a good name is rather to be chosen than silver.
Doesn't the Bible talk about that?
And all of a sudden in 2025, we're just not supposed to care at all if we're being humiliated by our family,
being humiliated by a wife, being humiliated by children, being humiliated by whoever.
All of a sudden, that just doesn't matter, right?
And look, I get it that Christ made himself of no reputation,
but that doesn't change the fact that the Bible says a good name is rather to be chosen than silver.
So we got to balance these two ideas. See, the idea here is that I'm willing to sacrifice my reputation.
I'm willing for my name to be mud. I'm willing to suffer reproach for the cause of Christ.
But what I'm not interested in is being humiliated for no reason.
Because someone's an idiot. Because someone's being stupid. Because someone's looking like a weirdo. Because someone's acting like a fool.
Okay, there's just no purpose for it, is there?
And so we should want to preserve the family name,
preserve the family honor,
have a good reputation personally.
Here's another word if you don't like the word reputation,
that Christians will typically use in evangelical circles.
I almost said like circuses,
but some of these churches are a circus,
okay, fun center churches.
But here's the thing, in evangelical circles,
this is what they'll call it,
your testimony, right? And they'll say, hey, you want to have a good testimony.
Take care of your testimony. Preserve your testimony. That's really just kind of another way of saying your reputation.
It's just kind of like a Christianized way of saying that.
So, yeah, you don't want to embarrass your husband by mouthing off to him, being disrespectful
to him publicly, refusing to obey publicly in front of other people, or just a situation
where you start telling stories about your husband that are not flattering of him.
Because here's the thing, when you're married to someone, you know a lot about that person.
You know everything about them because you are with them all day, every day, day in,
day out.
You see them at their finest hour and you see them at their worst.
And we all have moments that are not our best hour, right?
And so what you don't want to do is go around telling stories.
And here's a clue.
If your husband says, hey, I don't like that story, stop telling it.
How about that right or or hey, you know don't tell stories that make me look like an idiot or something like that
Oh, you just care what people think about you. Well, look, I'm sorry. No normal human being wants to look like a fool
And so there's a difference being just being so worried what everybody thinks about you and just not wanting to look like an absolute fool
And look, I can prove to you that this is a righteous feeling that's in everybody's heart
to just want to not look like an absolute fool,
is that Jesus Christ, when he was on the cross, you know what it says about Jesus?
He despised the shame.
So Jesus isn't just like, oh, I don't care that I'm stripped naked.
I don't care that I'm being spat upon.
I don't care that I'm being made fun of.
Yeah, he did care.
He despised the shame. So if I despise the shame, if you despise the shame, if anybody despises, being ashamed,
humiliated, made fun of, it's kind of just a normal human emotion that even Jesus Christ had.
So apparently it's pretty normal to not want to be humiliated or embarrassed by your spouse, okay?
And obviously we can flip this over because obviously there are a lot of ways that a husband could embarrass his wife
publicly as well, right? And so obviously if a husband tells a story or an anecdote that makes his wife look like a fool,
right? Now he's embarrassing her and that's a punk thing to do as well, okay?
Or, here's the thing, yeah, obviously the husband's the head of the wife, the wife should
obey her husband, but what if the husband is just treating his wife very rudely and disrespectfully
in front of other people, then that could be embarrassing and humiliating for her
to be treated like a doormat in front of other people instead of being treated kindly,
honorably, respectfully. And so this really is a two-way street, okay? The Bible is specifically
the woman who makes her husband ashamed,
but you know, you could flip this over.
Obviously we don't want to embarrass and humiliate our wives, either.
And so we should treat them in a way
where we don't make them look stupid or weird in public.
Okay, and you know, this sermon should be common sense, but it's not.
But it's not because you got husbands embarrassing their wives,
you got wives embarrassing their husbands, telling stories.
You know, there's a pastor in our area.
who was discharged from the military
for telling his drill instructor that he was gay.
That's pretty embarrassing. It's a pretty stinking embarrassing story.
The funny thing is that his wife told that story in a restaurant with about
forty people there.
So the cat's out of the bag.
Why bro didn't make it in the Marine Corps
because he told the drill instructor that he was a sodomite.
I mean look, I've never done anything like that.
You've never done anything like that, but if you had done that, would you want your wife telling that story to a crowded restaurant?
At a church activity?
No, you wouldn't because that'd be super embarrassing super humiliating super shameful that you had done such a thing and
You know this guy's you know, he probably is one the if you know this guy
But the point is that, you know, that kind of stuff is obviously just bizarre to see a woman that would do something right and not think this through like, hey, wait a minute, maybe if he wanted to share this story, he'd probably be sharing it himself.
You know, if he wanted to say, hey, I'm just like Jimi Hendrix, I got kicked out of the military for being a faggot, you know?
And so, hey, I want to tell that story. No, you don't tell it for him. That's crazy.
Okay, you're just like, wow, but it's a true story.
Anyway, Proverbs chapter 12, we talked about the woman that embarrasses her husband.
We kind of flipped it over to and said, hey, you don't want to embarrass your wife either,
right?
It's normal to not want to be humiliated, so don't humiliate other people.
Therefore, all things whatsoever you would that men should do to you, do ye even so to
them?
For this is the law and the prophets.
You don't want your spouse to humiliate you, you shouldn't humiliate your spouse, amen?
Pretty simple.
Look at verse 15 of chapter 12.
It says, the way of a fool is right in his own eyes,
but he that harkeneth unto counsel is wise.
And so a lot of times we think that things are OK,
or we might have a way that seems right unto us,
but the end thereof are the ways of death,
and so we need to listen to other people.
And the way that I want to specifically apply this verse
in light of the subject tonight,
is that there are certain things where society will kind of let you know,
hey, this is weird, this is stupid, you look like a freak.
And if everyone around you is kind of giving you that vibe that
this is stupid, this is weird, you look like a freak, then why don't you harken to counsel?
Instead of just having every way be right in your own eyes and just saying well
I'm just gonna have my hair sticking out everywhere
I'm gonna paint my face with clown makeup like the lead singer for the cure and I'm just gonna wear all black and
Just look like an absolute gothic punk freak or whatever going to the store
You know everybody's looking at you for a reason you're getting stared at you're getting ostracized
People think it's weird for a reason if the whole church is like you're weird
You should stop and think about that and say hey, maybe I'm behaving in a shameful manner
Okay, now look if you're doing what the Bible says and everybody gets mad at you keep doing what the Bible says
The Bible didn't tell you to look like a freak
Verse 16 says this a fool's wrath is presently known but a prudent man
covereth shame, okay?
It can be embarrassing when you lose your temper,
get angry, and start saying all kinds of wild things,
maybe about people, and you start just throwing
all kinds of accusations and hurling.
And look, a lot of embarrassment that we see publicly
is we see, for example, a husband and wife
fighting with each other publicly,
and why are they yelling and being embarrassing publicly?
is because they're angry, right?
Somebody loses their temper and it's like,
why can't this wait until later when you're at home
or whatever, but anger can sometimes fuel
this shameful behavior, right?
Or you're so mad that you're just gonna just
tell everybody, you know, whatever.
A fool's wrath is presently known, right?
Idiots, as soon as they get mad,
everybody knows about it
and they say shameful, bizarre things.
A prudent man covers shame.
Okay, so if there's something embarrassing in the family if there's something unfortunate that happens, you know
You don't go broadcasting it to the entire world. Okay?
He that speaketh truth showeth forth righteousness, but a false witness deceit
There is that speaketh like the piercings of a sword, but the tongue of the wise is health
There is that speak, or excuse me, the lip of truth shall be established forever,
but a lying tongue is but for a moment.
Look, another way of embarrassing your family is to lie about them, right?
And bear false witness and say untrue things about them.
And here's the thing, the lip of truth is but for a moment.
You know, a lot of people, they get, excuse me, the lip of truth is established forever.
The lying tongue is but for a moment.
The lying tongue is but for a moment think about it
You know people get their little moment in the sun by lying
slandering
Telling stories that aren't true and they kind of get their little 15 minutes of fame
But in the long run they're exposed to be the frauds and liars that they are
Whereas the lip of truth is established forever, you know the truth stands forever
Lying is just something that oh, I can get everybody excited for a minute and go viral for a minute
You know normally my sermons get 20 to 30 views, but if I lie about Pastor Anderson, I can get 9,000
Joe major excuse me. Sorry, you know week after week. It's 20 to 30 views lie about Pastor Anderson slander Pastor Anderson
It's 9,000 and you can see why the temptation would be there
if you're just like 20 views, 30 views, 20 views,
and it's like 9,000, you know what?
You're gonna get that little dopamine hit
when you see that 9,000 views,
and you're thinking like, let's do another one.
Let's do another one.
But here's the thing about drugs, okay?
You know, the second time isn't as good as the first time.
and the 10th time isn't as good as the third time.
So, you know, you're not gonna get 9,000 views every time.
It's gonna go 9,000, 4,000.
Pretty soon it's just gonna be like, you know,
you're getting 85 instead of five, you know, or whatever.
And so, you know, yeah, you can sometimes have short-term gains by lying and telling stories and getting attention,
but in the end of the day, the truth is going to be known, the truth is going to come out in the long run,
and that lying lip is just for a moment, the lip of truth is established forever.
Verse 20, deceit is in the heart of them that imagine evil.
But the counsellors of peace is joy.
There shall no evil happen to the just, but the wicked shall be filled with mischief.
Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but they that deal truly are his delight.
A prudent man can seal with knowledge, but the heart of fools proclaims foolishness."
Go back if you went into chapter 10.
So what have we said so far?
We said, first of all, don't embarrass your wife, don't embarrass your husband.
Not only that we saw that sometimes anger is the catalyst for you humiliating family
Because you lose your temper at some family gathering you lose your temper at Applebee's or whatever
You know and you start yelling all kinds of crazy things and
You start saying things or you know you make a YouTube video or whatever and you humiliate people through your anger
A fool's wrath is presently known, but a prudent man covers shame.
And you know, I hate to bring up this illustration again because it was kind of embarrassing
for moi, but I will bring it up, you know, like the fact that when I was at the airport
a few months ago and I got caught, you know, with my zipper down and somebody had to tell
me, but this guy, he covered shame because he told me privately.
and didn't make a big scene about it or embarrass me.
He just kind of came up and just put his arm around me
and just, hey, you know, and let me know.
And I was able to fix it right away.
Okay, see, that's how we should be as people is,
you know, yeah, help people fix things,
keep things quiet.
You know, if I see you with your zipper down,
I'm not just going, everybody, you know,
but that's juvenile, isn't it?
Think about it. It's it's like that's that's what a little seven-year-old eight-year-old nine-year-old would do
Everybody, you know, here's the thing look if somebody
Has something embarrassing happen, you know, they're they're flies down
They you know, you know, we could really get crazy and say somebody pees their pants or something
You know, well, you know little kids are just gonna run with that aren't they?
Everybody look, you know, but here's the thing kind people loving people would want to help that person and say hey
You know, let's cover this
Oh, it's a big cover-up, here's the thing about cover-up, okay, is that the Bible says
that we should cover it, love covers a transgression.
He that seeketh love covers a transgression, okay.
It's not a cover-up, okay, when you don't just publicly broadcast everyone's sins to
the world and humiliate as many people as possible.
That's not a cover-up, okay? If someone commits murder, rape, molestation, and we don't turn them into the authority, that's a cover-up.
Right? If some pastor is committing adultery or
embezzling money and gambling with it, and we don't, you know, deal with it, that's a cover-up.
Okay, but broadcasting everyone's sins to the world is not necessary.
And it's not a cover-up if I catch someone with their zipper down and just quietly go
to that person and say, hey, use zippers down, pull up your zipper.
Yeah, but I mean, them with their zipper down rebuke before all.
I mean, it's just stupid, but this is the way people think because they're immature.
Baby Christians, that's why they feel like they just want to just expose everyone.
Look, what if one of our church members is out in the parking lot smoking?
Who here thinks that smoking is a good thing for Christians to do?
It's a great thing for Christians to do?
It's healthy? It's righteous? It's godly?
Who here thinks Jesus will be smoking?
No, we all know smoking's bad, don't we?
Everybody agree with that?
We all know that.
But here's the thing, if I saw somebody smoking
on the parking lot, which I have seen people smoking
in this parking lot a bunch of times,
church members out there sneaking a cigarette,
thinking they so sly, here's the thing,
whenever I've seen that, you know what I did?
Absolutely nothing.
And I'm not gonna go telling you,
hey, did you know the brother so-and-so smokes?
Hey, you know, whispering and backbiting?
Hey, did you know sister so-and-so?
Oh, it's a big cover up.
Look, if I found out, and obviously this is an absurd example, because none of my pastor
friends smoke or ever will smoke, that would be an absurd, you know, thing to actually happen.
But here's the thing, let's just say.
That I found out that one of my pastor friends had started smoking cigarettes. I'm not talking cigawede. I'm talking cigarettes
Okay, let's say I found out that one of my pastor friends, you know, maybe he used to smoke
Tobacco and maybe fell back into that or something and and was just you know
You got you know, sometimes the ministry will drive you to these things, you know
So, you know, let's say I found out that one of my pastor friends smoked cigarettes, which like I said there's been no
Hint of this, but let's say I found out that one of my pastor friends smoked cigarettes. Okay, and
I basically just said hey, man
That's stupid. Stop doing it. You shouldn't do that, right?
That's what I'd say because that's what I would say to any any of my friends
Started smoking. I would tell them don't do that like even if they're not a pastor
Just it's just dumb. You don't want to hurt your health. It's bad for you. You know, it's bad for your testimony
You know what you want to the last thing I would do is just is just exposed to the world
That he smokes or something
What but oh big cover-up?
Cover-up, you know about
Pastors what here's the thing is because it's yes. It's wrong. Yes. It's a sin
But is it really like a big deal like that would get you kicked out of church or something? No
Right and here's the thing we in our lives as we go through life here a faith-forward Baptist church
Obviously, we have hundreds of people in our church. We're gonna see each other around town
Who's ever just you know fortuitously run into people around town?
You just you're out at a restaurant you're out at the park or whatever and you run into other church members all the time
I run into you all the time, you know, because we live like a mile apart.
So you know, we run into each other all the time, right?
So sometimes you might, you know, you might catch somebody smoking a cigarette or somebody's
not dressed right or something or whatever.
And here's the thing, I'm not, I'm not condoning those kind of behaviors.
But what I am saying is that, you know what, everybody's human, we've all sinned and come
short of the glory of God, everybody's at different stages of Christian growth, and
if you go and just tell other people that just in order to embarrass someone, oh, I
caught somebody, you know, buying this thing I don't approve of, or, you know, I caught
somebody dressed wrong, or I caught somebody smoking a cigarette or something, you know,
it's wickedness on your part.
to just want to just revel in other people's shame
instead of seeking love and covering the transgression, as the Bible says.
He that covered the transgression seeketh love.
And so what's the Bible saying here?
You know that the prudent man, Proverbs 12-16, covers shame.
He covers his own shame and he covers other people's shame.
And again, we're not talking about murderers, rapists, child molesters, that's not what we're talking about.
That stuff needs to go straight to the authorities, that stuff needs to be exposed.
We're not talking about pastors running off with the secretary or something that stuff needs to be exposed obviously
But then people because we'll expose these major things
damnable heretics
Pastors committing adultery or something, you know huge embezzlement scams or something then all of a sudden bozos will get this attitude
Oh expose every sin
Everything that's said in the year is going to be shouted from the house tops.
That is not what that verse means.
You're twisting that, you're taking out a context to just say,
well, everything I hear, I'm just going to broadcast to the world.
You know what? That's what little immature kids do.
You know what it reminds me of when I was a kid?
I had a bad habit of just repeating everything I heard.
If I heard it, I just repeated it to where my family gave me the nickname,
and this is when I was like three or four,
they called me the taper quarter.
And they said, be careful what you say in front of the tape recorder because whatever you say, he's just going to repeat it later.
And so, you know, you're not going to keep a secret around Stephen. That's what they would say.
But you know what? That was when I was three, not 43.
It's pretty sad when you're 23, 33, 43, and you're still the tape recorder.
That just has to just embarrass everyone humiliate everyone shame everyone because you're this crusader for truth
And you know what I've noticed about these so-called truth crusaders that want to shame and humiliate and embarrass everyone else and point out everyone else's
little sins
You know what I've noticed about these people is that they're not into truth about their own sins
So they're not they're not into just telling everybody all their own sense. They just want to tell everybody else's sins
You know, and they're just obsessed with truth
For other people, you know what I mean?
But then it's like and look exposing other people's little sins or
Or things that you don't agree with, you know, it says more about you than it says about them
And so I think I had you turn to chapter 10. Here's another way to embarrass your family
It says in Proverbs chapter 10 verse 4 he becomeeth poor
that dealeth with a slack hand, right?
So if you're a slacker, if you're not working hard,
you're not diligent, you go to work and loaf around,
you're gonna get poor, right?
He become a poor that dealeth with a slack hand.
But the hand of the diligent maketh rich.
Not only does he necessarily become rich,
but he's makin' rich.
He's makin' the company rich.
He's makin' everybody money, everybody wins.
The hand of the diligent makes the people around him rich.
He that gathereth in summer is a wise son
But he that sleepeth in harvest is a son that causeth shame
And you can see how these two verses go together because one of them is about being being lazy versus being diligent
And then it goes right into that son
That gathers in the summer meaning he's on the ball. It's hot outside
That doesn't stop him from being out in the field Johnny on the spot getting that harvest done
Right he that gathers in summer is a wise son, but he that's sleeping than harvest right this guy
It's already autumn the weather's already cooling down and the harvest isn't in yet, and he is relaxing sleeping
He's not getting it done. He's a son that causes shame
Here's another way to humiliate your parents is by failing at your job
Failing at your job, right? You know you want to make mom and dad proud be a good worker
Okay?
And by the way, this is also a good way to humiliate your wife by failing to make money.
Failing to work hard, being lazy, slacking, you know, getting fired for being asleep on
the job or being lazy or not trying, showing up late all the time, right?
You know, that's going to embarrass your wife.
That's going to embarrass your parents, you know, and it causes shame.
Look, if you would, at chapter 17 of Proverbs, chapter 17.
While you're turning there, I'll read for you, Proverbs 11, verse 2,
when pride cometh, then cometh shame.
But with the lowly is wisdom, right?
Proud people, arrogant people, end up embarrassing themselves and others.
So be humble, be cool, don't blow off your mouth, and embarrass yourself and others
by being prideful and arrogant.
or sorry, chapter 17, verse 1, says,
better is a dry morsel and quietness therewith
than a house full of sacrifices with stripes.
Verse 2, a wise servant, this is a great verse,
a wise servant shall have rule over a son that causes shame
and shall have part of the inheritance among the brethren.
So think about an ancient household.
You got the children and the family.
And you got servants, right?
Servants, you could think of them, you know, in some ways, they could be slaves, they could
be indentured servants, they could be whatever their situation, just employees, right?
Any of those things could fall under this word, servant.
It's kind of a broad word that depends on the context, you know?
Sometimes it's referring to what we would think of as a slave or indentured servant.
Sometimes it's referring to just like an employee, okay?
You got a family, and let's say in the family, let's say it's the family farm or the family business or whatever, right?
You got sons that are causing shame, they're slackers, they're lame, they're not hard workers, right?
And then you just have some killer employee that's not related to the family.
And you know what the Bible is basically saying?
Prefer the employee to the son and maybe put the servant in charge of the son that caused his shame.
And even give him an inheritance among the brethren, meaning practically adopt him, or write him into the will.
and say, hey, I want to leave money to this guy.
And here's the thing, those of us that are really sold out Bible-believing Christians
that are really serious about serving God, non-fire for the Lord,
and pushing ourselves to go soul-winning and preach the gospel and do great things for God,
you know, we're going to sometimes have fallings out with family.
And here's the even lame Christians have fallings out with family too and even unsaved people have fallings out with family.
That's just the way life works, unfortunately.
But those that are zealous for the Lord, God has already told us that a man's enemies will be they of his own household
and that Jesus Christ said, I came to bring a sword, I came to bring division.
It's going to be in a house, five people in a house, three against two and two against three.
And the Bible says he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.
He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me.
He that taketh not as cross and followeth after me is not worthy of me.
And the Bible says that we have to be willing to give up any and all earthly possessions,
any relationship, and even our own lives for the cause of Christ.
Plenty of scripture on that. There's no question.
So there's all this scripture that says that and then we have the story of course where Jesus Christ is preaching to the crowd and
Then his mother and his brethren stand without desiring to speak with him and Jesus says well, who is my mother?
Sorry Catholics, you know who is my mother who are my brethren?
He stretched forth his hand toward his disciples and said behold my mother and my brethren
For whosoever shall do the will of my Father which is in heaven the same as my mother and sister and brother and you know what?
I've talked to plenty of Christians over the years and I've experienced this in my own life where often
your biological family members end up not being important people in your life and
Then other people that you're not biologically related to end up being much more important to you in your life
Brothers and sisters in Christ often become very important
And biological family who are not following Christ end up often not really being a big part of your life.
Because here's the thing, it's hard to be unequally yoked together with unbelievers.
Yeah, it's like there's you don't have anything in common like what fellowship has Christ with Baileal
What part has he the believable the nymphedal?
And so if you got some members of the family serving God and serious about their walk with God
And then you have other family members that are unsaved or worse
super backslidden Christians
which even act worse than unsaved people a lot of times,
then, you know, there's a rift there.
And I've talked to many of my pastor friends,
I've talked to many Christian friends who say,
hey, you know, I don't have a relationship with this brother,
I don't have a relationship with this sister,
I don't have a relationship with these people over here.
And, you know, that's just the way life is.
And it's just something that happens.
And, you know, in a perfect world,
We would just have wonderful, happy family reunions for the rest of our lives,
and we'd be like those Mexicans down the street that just, you know,
100 family members come over and everybody's just,
do, do, do, do, do, do, do, do, do.
You know, everybody's, I don't know how they do it.
You know, in a perfect world, we'd all be having 100 people come over,
you know, on those family reunions.
But unfortunately, you know, that's just not the way life always works.
And here's the thing about life is, life is short.
Don't waste your time on the haters.
Don't waste your time on losers.
Don't waste your time on toxic people.
Cut them loose.
Do yourself a favor.
And that toxic brother or sister,
that rotten relative that just tears you down,
drags you down is a horrible influence on you
and your family.
Cut them loose and move on.
spend time with God's people. Just saying. And look, I think that if we can keep
those relationships, we should do everything we can to keep those
relationships, but you know what? It comes a point where you just realize this
isn't worth it. You know, and look, let me tell you a few relationships that are
not up for grabs. My relationship with my wife is non-negotiable. Amen?
That's till death do us part, that's do or die, my relationship with my wife is paramount.
And so that's a relationship that I will never discard for any reason, ever, okay?
And you know, obviously I love my wife and so this isn't an issue anyway, my wife's a
great person and I love my wife more than I love any other human being on this planet,
okay?
And so my wife and I are totally cool and here's the thing, that's a non-negotiable
Even if my even if my wife were not cool that's still a non-negotiable because that's a vow that I made before God and marriage is sacred
And should be preserved. Okay, that's number one
Okay, and my other non-negotiable relationships are my mom and dad
Because the Bible in the Ten Commandments says honor thy father and mother and the New Testament
This is reiterated over and over again honor your father and mother those relationships are non-negotiable and thankfully
I am totally cool with both of my parents both my parents love me
They listen to my preaching we agree on doctrine
We agree on the way that we live our lives and my mom and dad are both proud of me
And I'm proud of them and we love each other and get along great.
But you know what, even if my parents were not cool,
I would still honor my father and mother.
You know, and obviously you can always find the exception.
You know, somebody's dad becomes a faggot or something.
I mean, obviously, yeah, there's always going to be an exception that proves the rule of these extreme situations.
But for the vast majority of people, right? These are just non-negotiable relationships, right? Your spouse, your parents, okay?
But here's the thing, other family relationships, like your children, like your siblings,
aunts, uncles, cousins, nieces, nephews, look, those relationships can be beautiful relationships. They can be wonderful relationships.
And you should do everything that you can to try to make those relationships work.
But if one of those people becomes toxic, cut them loose.
Why? Because the Bible says that we don't have fellowship with unbelievers
and we don't have fellowship with backslidden Christians.
Right? The Bible says, if anybody who's called a brother is a drunk, a fornicator,
covetous, a railer, right?
You have some slanderous, railing, backbiting relative.
Cut them loose.
Say, well, wow, that's just your opinion.
No, the Bible says to cut those people loose.
The Bible says not to even eat a meal with a person who's a Christian, who's a railer.
That's what the Bible says.
So I'm not making that up.
Where did I have you turn?
Did we turn to chapter 17?
Let's go to chapter 19 and let's move forward in the scripture here.
Proverbs chapter 19 verse, I got a hurry, wow.
I guess I kind of went off there a little bit.
Proverbs 19, 25 says, smite a scorner.
and the simple will beware and reprove one that hath understanding,
and he will understand knowledge. He that wasteeth his father
and chaseeth the way his mother is a son that causeth
shame and bringeth reproach. Now, stop and think for a second.
The people who sit there and say,
oh, it doesn't matter what people think
and you just are embarrassed of me
and you just don't want to be humiliated
and you just care so much about your image, right?
You know, why are we upset that our son
looks like Robert Smith from the cure?
Is it because it's a sin to look like Robert Smith
from the cure or is it just because he's embarrassing us?
Because if he's just embarrassing us,
we should just take it.
No, you don't have to take that.
Does everybody get what I'm saying?
If it was just like, oh well, you know, we should just be okay with everyone humiliating
us.
We should just be okay with everyone making a fool of us.
Then why would the Bible talk about how he that wastes his father and chased away his
mother is a son that causes shame in bringing reproach?
If shame and reproach don't matter, then what are we even talking about, Solomon?
We're talking about shame and reproach because they do matter
Because Jesus even despised the shame.
He didn't want to be reproached.
He didn't want to be shamed.
And neither do I.
And neither do you.
And neither do your parents, teenagers.
So how about this, teenagers?
Don't embarrass your parents.
Don't humiliate your parents.
And it's a, well, I just want to see,
and I feel like there's some weird psychology going on
in humans where they want to be like,
oh, well, let me just make myself as weird as possible
and see if my parents will still love me.
What is wrong with you?
Like hey, let me just let me just show how bizarre and weird I can be and the people who really still like me
Those are my true friends or something. I don't know what is going on people's heads
But I think that that's literally going through teenagers heads right now and young adults heads
It's madness this idea of just oh if my parents really love me then they're not gonna mind if I look like Robert Smith from the cure
They're just they're just gonna be cool with it
Look your parents love you, but they don't want you to look like a freak
And it's not just because you're looking like a freak for you
They don't want you to embarrass them and that does not make them sinful to not want to be embarrassed
To not want to be humiliated is a normal human reaction that even the son of God experienced on the cross
He didn't like being humiliated
No one likes being humiliated
Let's go to Genesis chapter number nine, Genesis chapter number nine.
It's another example of embarrassing your family in Genesis chapter nine.
We'll just quickly turn a couple more places. We're going to look at Genesis nine,
then we're going to go to Revelation chapter three.
Revelation chapter 3, but first we're going to hit Genesis 9.
And Genesis 9 is one of these Old Testament Bible stories
that is a little bit enigmatic, it's a little bit cryptic,
it's a little bit hard to understand. And one of the things that you find when you're
reading the Old Testament
is that there are stories where it almost feels like some of the information
is missing or that
we're only getting part of the story or that
you know it's just kind of intentionally
cryptic or hard to understand.
And I think that because there are so many episodes like this in Scripture,
it's clearly done intentionally.
And it doesn't bother me.
I don't worry about it too much
because God has a reason for why He wrote the Bible the way that He did.
The Bible is a marvelous book.
The Old Testament
You know it specifically is just a genius work of literature obviously. We know it's the word of God
We know the spiritual value, but even just as literature
It's amazing. It's marvelous and and it has these sort of cryptic dark passages, you know, we could point to for example
The story where
Moses is met by the Lord at the inn and the Lord seeks to kill him and then he
Something's missing here or I'm not getting the whole there's like missing pieces that you're supposed to kind of fill in the dots and everything
So sometimes the Bible is like a puzzle in some ways or just very dark and obscure some parts of the Bible are super clear
other parts are very obscure and
They both exist for a reason and so just make peace with the fact that that's how the Bible is
This is one of those passages and so because of this there's a lot of debate about this passage
And, you know, more and more as I study the Bible and as I get older and I'm just reading the Bible more and more,
I'm starting to understand that some of these passages are intentionally obscure so that they can be preached in different ways that are all equally valid.
You know what I'm saying?
So, a lot of times, because the Bible is so complex and the Bible is so deep,
there are often multiple ways to preach a passage that are all equally valid.
So, I could preach a passage a certain way,
a preacher friend could preach it totally different,
and we're both right.
Because the Bible is just really deep and there's like layers and layers of meaning.
Now, obviously there are some, I'm not saying every interpretation is valid.
There are a lot of interpretations that are just wrong.
Okay, there are a lot of just twistings of scripture and false teachings.
Of course, I'm not saying every interpretation is about,
but what I'm saying is there are a lot of passages with a double meaning.
double meaning, triple meaning, layers of meaning,
obscure texts that are maybe intentionally obscure
so they could be preached in different ways at different times,
depending on the need of the hour.
Okay.
And this is one of those passages where people,
they argue about it,
they have strong feelings about it,
I have had strong feelings about it,
I've preached sermons on this passage,
a lot of people have said,
no, Pastor Anderson's wrong,
here's what's really going on,
and they're all,
I mean, this is the subject of debate.
And obviously I think I'm right, but at the end of the day,
it's one of those things that it's hard to be 100% sure no matter which position you take because it's just an obscure passage, okay?
So, you know, me personally, when I come to passages like this,
I like to just focus on the part that's valid no matter how you interpret it,
or just kind of the clear teaching of the passage without worrying too much about the part that is kind of
sketchy, or up in the air, or we're not sure.
So in this passage, it says in Genesis chapter 9, verse 19, it says,
these are the three sons of Noah, and of them was the whole earth overspread,
and Noah began to be a husband man, and he planted a vineyard,
and he drank of the wine, and was drunken, and he was uncovered within his tent.
So, you know, no matter how you interpret this passage,
what I'm about to preach is 100% valid, no matter how you interpret it.
Noa did wrong. Okay?
Getting drunk is wrong.
Everybody should be able to agree with that.
I had someone argue with me about this.
I was soul winning the other day, but it should be a no-brainer.
Even people that think alcohol is okay,
we should all be able to agree that getting drunk is a sin.
Noa got drunk.
Noa is committing sin here.
And drunkenness often leads to nakedness, okay?
He got naked in his tent.
So he's not publicly walking down the street naked,
but you know, some drunks and drug addicts,
they do go out publicly and get naked in public
and it's super embarrassing and shameful.
We'll get to that in a moment, but he gets naked in the tent. He's drunk
He's uncovered within his tent and ham the father of Canaan saw the nakedness of his father and
Told his two brethren without so this is the part that's controversial. What does that mean?
He saw the nakedness of his father. Do we just take it at face value?
He just saw that is he just saw that dad's drunk and naked and then go tells his brother about it
Or is that a euphemism for something else? Okay, and again
We don't really care for purposes of this sermon, okay?
Because the main key thing that we want to talk about is that he sees his dad
committing sin. Whether he committed sin, too, that's another debate.
But he sees dad drunk and naked, and what does he do?
He goes and tells his two brethren without. He goes and tells people the shame and sin of his dad.
Embarrassing his dad, humiliating his dad by saying,
hey, dad's drunk, dad's naked, come see.
Then the two brothers, what does it say?
Shem and Japheth, verse 23, took a garment and laid it upon their shoulders and went
backward and covered the nakedness of their father, and their faces were backward, and
they saw not their father's nakedness.
So they do not come and join in, hey, let me gawk at the spectacle.
And people have this morbid curiosity where they want to know everybody else's sins or
they want to spy on people and see what they're—you know, it's like, oh, look at this, you know,
we can catch so-and-so with his pants down or whatever.
And Shem and Japheth did the righteous act when Ham tells them,
Dad's drunk and naked in the tent. What do they do?
They enter the tent backwards and don't even want to know.
They don't want to see it. They don't want to know about it.
They don't want anything to do with it. And you know what they do?
They lay the garment over Dad. They cover Dad's nakedness.
You know what they're not doing is they're not making a YouTube video saying hey, let
me tell you every embarrassing thing about my mom and dad, and then let me lie about
it and add some things that aren't even true, and let me exaggerate and twist things and
blow things out of proportion.
But here's the thing, even if everything were true, making a YouTube video about your parents
is wicked, okay?
And I made a video called, My Mom the Crack-Hor.
That would be a wicked sin against God, and I should expect to be punished by God.
But you know what would be even worse is if my mom were not a crack-hor.
And I made a video saying my mom was a crack-hor.
That would be super wicked.
You know, or just taking the sins of your parents
and exaggerating them, blowing them out of proportion,
maybe even just lying about things out of thin air.
But forget all that for a second.
How about just making a video saying 100% true things?
Still, your name's not Shem and your name's not Japheth, your name's Ham.
That's what your name is, Ham.
Because Shem and Japheth, you know what they did?
They covered their dad's nakedness instead of exposing his nakedness to the world.
Does everybody see that?
Oh, it's a big cover-up.
You know, you wanna know the original cover-up?
You know, but way before the JFK assassination or anything else
Okay
And their face were backward they saw not their father's nakedness and Noah awoke from his wine and knew what his younger son referring to ham
Had done unto him and said curse it be Canaan
Because ham is the father of Canaan curse it be Canaan
He's like, you know what curse you and curse your kid
That's pretty serious
Curse would be Canaan, a servant of servants shall he be unto his brethren.
And he said, blessed be the Lord God of Shem and Canaan shall be his servant.
You know what makes Shem godly, or excuse me, you know what makes Shem blessed is that he's godly.
You want to know why he covered his father's nakedness because he loved his father in heaven.
And you know what, people who have a bad attitude toward their human father also have a bad attitude toward their father in heaven.
Because the Bible says, if you say that you love God and you hate your brother, you're a liar.
He that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen, right?
And your mom and dad are your brother and sister in Christ. If you hate your brother, you're a murderer.
If you hate your brother, you're a liar, the Bible says, okay?
And so, the Bible is saying that Shem, because of his God, because he's with the Lord, because he's godly, because he loves Christ, because he loves the Lord, that's why he did right in this situation.
That's why he did right by his parents.
Blessed to be the Lord God of Shem, and Canaan shall be his servant, God shall enlarge Japheth, and he shall dwell in the tents of Shem, and Canaan shall be his servant.
Alright, last place, Revelation 3, quickly, Revelation chapter 3.
So again, who embarrassed the family?
Ham embarrassed the family.
Shem and J-Feth did not embarrass the family.
Nobody names their kid Ham.
Shem is rare, but it's out there.
I haven't known any J-Feths, but hey,
you never know when it's gonna come back into style.
But Ham is considered kind of a shameful person.
Kind of a gross person something wrong with him. He's weird. What it what is he doing?
Why why is he what? Hey look?
What are you doing right whereas Shem and Japheth had had some sense. This is not something to celebrate
Dad getting drunk and naked
It's nothing to celebrate
Revelation chapter 3 verse 14
What's the title of the sermon embarrassing your family?
Embarrassing your family look at verse 14 and under the angel of the church of the Laodiceans, right these things say at the amen
The faithful and true witness the beginning of the creation of God
I know thy works that thou art neither cold nor hot. I would thou work cold or hot
So then because thou art lukewarm and neither cold nor hot
I will spew thee out of my mouth and
So God of course is sickened by the lukewarm Christians of this world, right?
He wants us to be all in gung-ho zealous. He doesn't want us to be half in half out
And he says, I'm going to spew you out of my mouth because thou sayest.
Now this is the mentality that God doesn't like about the lukewarm Christian
because the lukewarm Christian says, I'm rich.
increased with goods and have need of nothing. And knowest not that thou art
wretched and miserable and poor and blind and naked. I counsel thee to buy of
me gold tried in the fire, that thou mayest be rich and white raiment, that
thou mayest be clothed. Watch this, and that the shame of thy nakedness do not
appear and anoint thine eyes with eye-sab that thou mayest see." So the lukewarm
Christians are naked.
Right? They oh, I'm rich. I'm increased with goods. I've need of nothing. No
He says you are wretched and miserable and poor and blind and
Naked and he specifically says get some white raiment put some clothes on that the shame of your nakedness do not appear
Now we could trace this throughout the entire scripture
Starting at the very beginning of Genesis all the way to the end of Revelation
Shame and nakedness being associated in verse after verse after verse after verse after verse after verse
Okay, so one way to humiliate and embarrass your family is by being naked publicly.
It's an embarrassment.
Now we talked about in Genesis 9, you know, Noah got naked in the tent and Ham wanted
to broadcast that to the world.
But what about just being naked publicly, just going out and letting the shame of your
nakedness appear publicly.
and it is humiliating your family.
And this is why when the Bible says
that women should wear modest apparel,
it says with shame-facedness and sobriety,
meaning that women should be ashamed
to wear immodest apparel.
It should be embarrassing.
And you know, if you want to think about
like the most immodest apparel imaginable,
it's probably like what some of these women
will wear to these award shows.
who knows what I'm talking about like these kind of like music awards or acting awards and you'll
see these images of these women that will wear things that are just bizarre.
Like like a just a see-through outfit. It's just a hundred percent see-through who knows who knows what I'm talking about
It's just like totally see-through
Just practically naked and it's almost like this contest of how edgy they can be I guess without the police arresting them
Or something going to these award ceremonies looking totally naked. Okay another example of this would be that sometimes women when they go to the pool
will go virtually naked.
I mean, they're wearing these bikinis
that just leave nothing to the imagination, okay?
And look, the reason why that expression exists,
it leaves nothing to the imagination,
is the idea that it's actually unseemly and unattractive
and is actually sort of off-putting when women,
because you think, oh, every guy is just looking at me.
Yeah, guys are looking at you,
It's kind of off-putting, you know, and you know, you know you if you wear a if you're a beautiful girl wearing a modest dress
You know men are gonna look at you and think that you're beautiful too without you being naked
Right, I mean here's thing beautiful girl walks in the room and she's wearing a modest dress
Even just a plain girl walks in the room and she's wearing a modest dress. She looks nice
And you know what? The right kind of men are going to look at that and think you look beautiful anyway.
But you know, when you just show your entire naked body publicly,
even if guys are saying, oh yeah, hey, you're gorgeous, you know, in the back of their mind though, they're thinking skank,
hoochie mama, loose woman, easy, slut, whatever they're, you know, they're thinking.
It's embarrassing!
It's shameful the way that women will just strip down naked to go swimming and you know, it's totally unnecessary
You don't have to get naked to go swimming. Okay. What do men wear when they go swimming?
You know when men go swimming they wear swim trunks
I wear swim trunks, you know that go to my knee and I wear knee-length swim trunks and I go swimming
I love swimming. I'm constantly going swimming and I wear swim trunks down to the knee. I own like seven or eight pairs of trunks
You know, and it always blows my mind when people only own like one pair of trunks, you know
Or when people go on a trip and they didn't bring their trunks, you know
Like I'm always bringing my trunks so I can hit the pool hit the spa, you know, whatever
I like I like to go swimming a lot
But you know what, you can wear trunks, and here's the thing, you know, a lot of guys
will swim without a shirt on, a lot of guys will swim with a shirt on, and you know what?
You can literally go to the store and buy at Costco or Sam's Club or something, right?
Swim shirts for boys, they just sell it, just trunks and water wicking swim shirts.
Now look, I don't think that there's anything wrong with boys taking off their shirt and
going swimming at all.
Whether right or wrong a lot of dudes just wear a shirt when they go swimming simply because they don't want to get a sunburn
Okay, and so it's very common to just wear knee-length swim trunks and
A swim shirt you don't even have to go to like a special
Baptist store to get this stuff. You could just go to Costco. I don't know is Costco Baptist
You know is Sam's Club Baptist. I don't know but but they have they all have it
Because I know, because my wife, every Easter, typically, you know, that's like our Easter
present for the kids is like, is usually new swimwear for the season.
That's kind of a tradition in our household most years.
Okay, here's my question.
If boys can wear knee length trunks and a shirt and go swimming and swim just fine and
they're selling it in Costco, they're selling the same stuff, then why do you have to just
in order for you to go swimming, girls.
Does everybody understand what I'm saying?
You know, and now, thankfully,
there are all kinds of swim dresses.
You know, I don't want to get into like
any kind of a conflict of interest here
because my wife makes swim dresses.
But you know, besides my wife's, there's lots of other.
Options out there of swim dress. I've seen all kinds of women put together their own little outfit, their own little setup of a modest little deal of, you know, like a leggings to the knee with like a skirt over it and some kind of a water wicking shirt.
I mean, there's ways to do this. If you want to go swimming, girls, and you can do it with the swim dresses, you can build your own little ensemble or whatever, but you say, oh, it's just complicated.
You know, it's also righteous and it's also, you know,
you're not being a stumbling block
and you're not ruining your reputation
and you're not embarrassing your family.
Because you know what?
I would be super humiliated to see my daughter
wearing a bikini.
It'd be creepy and embarrassing to like,
to be hanging out with her and she's in a bikini.
It'd be just awkward and weird, right?
I don't think dads just want to see their daughter in some super-revealing,
but not only that, they don't want their daughter just out in public like that,
just shaming the whole family by being naked.
Okay, and here's another example.
I've gotten on a lot of these cruise mission strips and I've had a lot of great experiences,
but I made the mistake of going on one during spring break.
And so there were, it was like college spring break,
and we were at the place where you're getting on the ship,
and so you'd see that as we're going through security
to get on the boat, there were like these groups of girls
that were like in a sorority or something is my guess,
because it'd be like six girls or four girls together,
and they're all wearing matching t-shirts.
because they're all in the same sorority or something.
Or later in the trip, I would see other groups of girls
that would all have the same baseball cap.
And it was like, they're a group or whatever.
And I am not even going to even hint
at what these t-shirts said and what these hats said.
But it was so obscene.
That like just if you just imagine the most obscene thing that you can think of now think of something a little more obscene
Okay, now think of something a little more obscene than that. That's the kind of stuff they had written on their hats and t-shirts
And I was just thinking to myself
I don't even I wouldn't even think it would be even legal to walk down the street with a shirt that is that obscene
Just, I'm talking about the filthiest joke, the dirtiest joke that you can imagine.
The dirtiest jokes, I'm almost thinking like, is this even allowed?
Is this even legal?
Like, is somebody gonna say something?
But they're just in a group, like six of them, with this obscene t-shirt, six of them with
obscene hats, and they're just, they're just getting on and everybody's just acting like
it's normal.
And I, you know what, I thought to myself, I thought to myself, wow, what if, what if
my daughter wore this shirt?
How would that feel how embarrassing? I'm just thinking man these girls dads must be humiliated if they're sitting there taking a selfie
Uploading to you know Instagram or TikTok or whatever and it's like can you imagine being one of these girls parents and just seeing the filthiest most obscene joke
Just so shameless and again, I'm not even gonna allude to what it was because it was just gross
Imagine just wearing a super gross perverted t-shirt
Hey, mom and dad. I'm on a cruise and you know how wicked and you know what it when I think of this verse, you know
I'm rich. I'm increased with goods. I've needed nothing. It also reminds me of
Babylon saying, you know, oh, you know, I sit as a queen and shall see no sorrow same attitude
Later in the book of Revelation and I'm thinking to myself, you know, you rich punk
Your parents have given you everything.
They're probably paying for you to go to school.
Even if they didn't pay for you to go to school,
they've obviously raised you in an environment
where you have the ability to even go to college,
to go to this university.
You have the privilege of getting to go on this fun trip.
You get to go on the cruise.
You get to enjoy it.
But instead of just enjoying nature,
instead of just enjoying the ocean
and just enjoying the food
and just enjoying the bounty
that God has given us in the United States of America,
You just have to put on a perverted t-shirt to just pervert everyone around you and embarrass
your family to the world on the internet.
It's like, why can't you just enjoy what your parents gave you?
Why can't you just enjoy the United States of America?
Why can't you just enjoy living in the most prosperous country in the history of mankind?
It's like you have everything.
You got the ocean, you got the sand, you got the waves,
you got the sun, you got a good meal,
but you have to put on a perverted t-shirt
and just stink up the joint.
It's wrong with people.
But that was the first thought I had.
The first thought I had was, wow, imagine this being your daughter.
And I was just thinking, wow.
But all those girls are somebody's daughter.
And I guarantee you, mom and dad, they're going to see those photos and unless they're
just super weird creeps, they're going to be like, oh, so embarrassing.
And so I'm out of time.
Don't embarrass your family.
You know, get this attitude out of your head that says, well, my parents just need to accept
how I am.
No, stop embarrassing and humiliating your family, okay?
Don't be a failure. Don't be a loser. Don't tell perverted jokes. Don't blow off your mouth
Don't blast family business to the world. Don't embarrass yourself
Don't broadcast your own foolishness. Don't broadcast things that you know about other people. Just chill out and
Quit embarrassing and reproaching and shaming and humiliating
The people that you say that you love
Do not embarrass your family, right? Don't be a son who causes shame
Don't be the woman who caused her husband shame.
That's in the Bible.
Those are Bible verses.
And so don't tell me that it doesn't matter, because it does.
And it is 100% normal for your parents to be embarrassed of your filthy t-shirt.
What's not normal is the way you're acting.
Let's memorize and have a word of prayer.
Father, we thank you so much for your word.
We thank you so much for the people that you've put in our lives Lord the the family members that you've blessed us with that are a
blessing Lord
Thank you for
Allowing us to live in the most prosperous nation in the world and and to just have so much bounty and so many blessings Lord
Help us to appreciate and love our parents help us to appreciate and love our spouse and
Not not humiliate that wife not humiliate that husband not humiliate those parents. What help us not to humiliate
The people in our family that are dear to us help us to be a son that brings honor to the family name a daughter
That brings honor to the family
Not an embarrassment as a black sheep of the family in Jesus name. We pray amen