Now the part of the chapter that I'd like to focus on is toward the end of the chapter,
beginning in verse number 26, where the Bible reads,
Be ye angry and sin not.
Let not the sun go down upon your wrath, neither give place to the devil.
Let him that stole steal no more, but rather let him labor, working with his hands the
thing which is good, that he may have to give to him that needeth.
Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the
use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
And grieve not the Holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption.
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and evil speaking be put away from
you, with all malice, and be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another,
even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.
And what I want to preach about this morning is the attributes that should be found in
a godly woman.
Now some sermons that I preach are more geared toward men, some are geared toward women,
and some are just geared toward everybody.
This morning's sermon is mainly geared toward women because of the subject matter that the
Bible deals with here, but honestly, a lot of things can be applied unto men too, and
you can be the judge of that as we go forward in the sermon.
But one of the main subjects that this passage talks about is anger.
And it starts out in verse 26 by saying, Be ye angry and sin not, let not the sun go down
upon your wrath.
First thing I want to point out about this is that anger is not always a sin.
In fact the Bible is saying in the first three words there, verse 26, be ye angry.
So if anger were always a sin, then it would be impossible to be angry and sin not.
That would be a contradiction.
If anger's a sin it wouldn't make any sense to say, hey, be angry, but don't sin.
And we see that there was a time when Christ was angry in Mark chapter 3.
We see that there was a time when the Spirit of the Lord came upon King Saul and he became
very angry as a result of the Holy Spirit being upon him.
So it's not that anger in and of itself is wrong, but let me tell you something.
Most of the time, we as human beings, when we're angry, it's wrong.
Most of the time.
Because the Bible talks a lot more about anger in a negative way than it does about a positive
way.
Are there times when anger is right and justified?
Of course.
But most of the time, anger is not a good attribute in our lives.
The Bible talks about the fact that we should be slow to anger.
So if we're just quick to get angry, that's a sin.
The Bible talks about the fact that we should not let the sun go down upon our wrath there
in verse 26.
When he says being angry and not sinning, he's saying you're not letting the sun go
down upon your wrath, meaning you're not holding a grudge.
You're not remaining bitter from day to day after the sun goes down, which will give place
under the devil according to verse 27.
So anger is a big subject in and of itself.
But when we look down at verse 31, it says, let all bitterness, and again that goes with
what I was just saying about verse 26, let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor
and evil speaking be put away from you with all malice.
Now with all that in mind, and we're going to come back to this passage a little bit,
go to Proverbs chapter 21.
We're going to be in Proverbs a lot this morning because Proverbs is a book that has
a lot of guidelines for how to be a godly man and how to be a godly woman.
And so we're going to look at a lot of things about being a godly woman in Proverbs, and
you'll see why the sermon is directed toward women here when you see these scriptures in
Proverbs.
It says in Proverbs 21 verse 19, it is better to dwell in the wilderness than with a contentious
and an angry woman.
Now according to this scripture, an angry woman is not someone that you want to dwell
with.
It's not someone that you want to be married to.
The Bible says you would rather go out and dwell in the wilderness than to dwell in a
comfortable house and civilization with an angry and a contentious woman.
Go with me to chapter 19 verse 13.
Chapter 19 verse 13, it says, a foolish son is the calamity of his father and the contentions
of a wife are a continual dropping.
Go to chapter 21, and while you're turning to chapter 21, I'll read for you from Proverbs
27 15 where it says, a continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman
are alike.
Look at verse 9 of chapter 21 there.
It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop than with a brawling woman in a wide house.
You don't have to turn there, but it says in Proverbs 25 24, it is better to dwell in
the corner of the housetop than with a brawling woman in a wide house.
These are a lot of scriptures.
I mean, I just read for you five back to back verses that are all talking about the same
thing saying, look, you don't want to dwell in the house with an angry, contentious or
brawling woman.
Those are the three words that are interchange, but all five verses are talking about the
same type of person.
The person who's angry, bitter, fighting.
What do you think of when you think of brawling?
Fighting.
What do you think of when you hear contending?
Fighting.
Just anger, fighting, bickering.
This is what's being referred to in these scriptures.
This is the last thing that a woman should want to be according to these scriptures.
So if we're going to talk about the attributes of a godly woman, the first thing that we
need to see is that a godly woman should be kind and forgiving, not angry and clamorous.
Now go if you would to Proverbs 31.
Proverbs 31 is the famous passage about the virtuous woman and it takes the form of a
mother instructing her son and she's warning her son to stay away from alcohol and she's
warning him of the strange woman, she's warning him, and then she also decides to tell him
what he should look for in the right kind of a woman.
He gets a description of a virtuous woman that he should seek to find.
And in this description of the virtuous woman, you'll see a lot of scriptures about this
woman doing a lot of good work.
She's doing a lot of hard work around the house, she's cooking, she's sewing, she's
doing all these domestic type things.
But look what it says in verse number 26 about the virtuous woman.
It says in verse 26, she openeth her mouth with wisdom and in her tongue is the law of
kindness.
Now with that in mind, go back to Ephesians 4.
So in Proverbs we see that godly attributes of a woman are that she is not angry, not
contentious, and not a brawler in the home.
Five scriptures that said that this is one of the worst things that you could be.
And then it says in Proverbs 31 that in her tongue is the law of kindness.
Now look what it says in Ephesians 4, again of course we saw in verse 26, be ye angry
and sin not, let not the sun go down upon your wrath.
Again the warning against bitterness and being angry from day to day.
Then if you jump down to verse 31 it says let all bitterness and wrath and anger and
clamor and evil speaking be put away from you with all malice and be ye kind.
So what's the opposite of being a wrathful, angry, and clamorous, bitter woman?
What's the opposite?
Being what?
Kind.
Do you see that?
Be kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as god for Christ's sake
hath forgiven you.
So if you are a young single woman, your goal and desire should be that you would grow to
be a woman that is a kind woman, that is a forgiving woman, that is gentle and not angry,
wrathful, bitter, bad attitude, bad mood, angry.
You say well there's nothing wrong with being angry.
Well wait a minute, most of the time in the Bible anger is negatively spoken of.
Now the times when anger is positively spoken of is you'll see people getting angry with
righteous indignation.
For example Jesus Christ became angry when he saw that they were selling merchandise
in the house of God.
Do you remember that?
But notice, Jesus Christ was slow to anger because he didn't just see it and just blow
his top.
The Bible is clear to tell us that when Jesus saw that spectacle of the house of God being
made into a house of merchandise, he went outside the temple and he sat down and made
a whip of cords.
I mean he manufactured his own whip.
Now who's ever made your own whip before?
Few people have, a couple people have.
Now how long did it take you, Brother Charlie?
35, 40 minutes?
Couple hours.
Yeah I mean depending on how many whips you've made, it's going to take a few hours or maybe
35 minutes, you must know what you're doing, but it's going to take time.
I don't know how long it took Jesus, but he didn't just blow his top, did he?
No he thought about it.
He was premeditated when he sat outside the temple, made his own whip, and then took that
whip into the temple, flipped over the tables, and used that whip to drive out the money
changers, to drive out the merchants out of the temple, and to pronounce to them that
they should not make his Father's house into a house of merchandise.
Now here's what I've noticed in life.
If you ever get angry, people will accuse you of being quick to anger, no matter how
long it took you to get angry.
Now this is not right.
You can't just sit there and condemn all anger, because Jesus was right to be angry about
what they were doing in his house.
Jesus was right to be angry with the Jews in the synagogue when they didn't want him
to heal on the Sabbath day in Mark 3.
It says he looked upon them with anger.
Saul was right to get angry about the foreign occupiers that were enslaving his people and
that wanted to harm his fellow Israelites when he got angry and hacked up the oxen and
mailed them out to everybody and rallied the troops to fight against the enemies of the
Lord.
So it's not that anger is wrong, but let me tell you, most of our anger is not righteous
indignation about God's house being desecrated, about innocent people being killed.
That's not the type of things that we're often getting angry about.
We often just get angry because somebody just says something that we don't like or because,
you know, somebody spills a glass of milk, right?
And there's no use crying over spilled milk, all right?
But we get angry over little things sometimes and the Bible does describe a type of person
that is an angry person.
For example, in Proverbs 22, the Bible says, and you don't have to turn there, but turn
if you would to Proverbs 29, but in Proverbs 22 it says, make no friendship with an angry
man and with a furious man thou shalt not go lest thou learn his ways and get a snare
to thy soul.
So the Bible is describing a type of person that is an angry person and it's saying don't
hang around with that person, don't be friends with that person or it will rub off on you
and you will learn his ways and you will become an angry person.
See Jesus wasn't just an angry person, just all the time, just mad every day, no, but
certain things made him mad when it was appropriate for him to get angry, but he was also slow
to anger.
The Bible says the Lord is slow to anger.
When anger becomes wrong is when it just becomes a part of our character where we're just an
angry person.
How about this, are you angry more often than you're not angry?
I mean are you angry every single day on a daily basis?
Are you angry and then you go to bed and you wake up and you're still angry?
I mean you're an angry person and this should not be something that characterizes us and
not only that, God says don't hang around with people like this or it will rub off on
you.
Now again, the reason I'm directing this toward women is because there are a lot of verses
that specifically talked about how bad it is to live with an angry woman and telling
women to be kind and to speak kind words and not to be filled with anger and wrath.
So that means that for a woman who doesn't want to be this kind of a bitter woman, she
should not hang around with a bunch of bitter women and you know I've seen it before where
women will hang around with other women that are bitter and then they start getting bitter.
For example, you know they're happily married but then they hang around with some woman
who's been divorced multiple times and has all this man-hating bitterness all pent up
and she wants to just complain about oh man or maybe she's even married but just mad at
her husband, doesn't love her husband, doesn't respect her husband.
That's all going to rub off on a godly woman if she hangs around with that type of person
and listens to that all the time.
That's why God said make no friendship with an angry man and with a furious man thou shalt
not go.
The same could be said of an angry woman, furious woman.
Don't hang around with friends that are going to turn you into an angry, bitter, mean person
instead of being kind and tender-hearted and forgiving of things that do you wrong.
Now if you would, let's talk about the word clamor.
Flip over if you would to Proverbs 19.
You're already in Proverbs so just go to chapter 19.
Proverbs 19, actually before I talk about clamor let me talk to you about discretion.
Now discretion is a word that God also says should characterize a godly woman.
So so far we've seen that a godly woman should be kind and forgiving, not angry, bitter,
and brawling, and contentious.
What's contentious mean?
Arguing.
Just fighting, arguing.
Now look what the Bible says in Proverbs 19.11.
It says the discretion of a man defereth his anger and it is his glory to pass over a transgression.
So isn't the Bible saying in verse 11 here that if we are people who have discretion
that will help us to control anger?
Because the Bible says the discretion of a man defereth his anger and it is his glory
to pass over a transgression.
So is a discreet man or a man with discretion one who blows up about everything?
No it says it's his glory to pass over a transgression.
Someone does something wrong, someone says something wrong, and he lets it go.
That's what discretion does.
Well the Bible also says in Proverbs 11.22 if you flip over to there because we want
to apply this unto women, it says in Proverbs 11.22 as a jewel of gold in a swine snout,
so is a fair woman which is without discretion.
So we see here that to be a godly righteous woman you definitely do not want to be a woman
that is without discretion.
Because he says no matter how beautiful you are, it's like a jewel of gold in a swine
snout if you are a fair or beautiful woman which is without discretion.
And in Titus chapter 2 when he lists off the attributes of a godly woman, the first
thing he says that a godly woman should be is to be discreet.
He says to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands
that the word of God be not blasphemed.
So in both Old and New Testament we have the admonition for women to be discreet, to have
discretion and that this discretion will also defer anger and cause them not to blow up
or be angry about every little transgression of anyone in their lives, whether that's their
children, their husband, their friends, whatever, relatives, on and on.
The Bible is teaching that a godly woman should have kindness, forgiveness, discretion.
Now let's talk about the word clamoring.
Go if you would to, let's see here, chapter 9 verse 13 in Proverbs.
Chapter 9 verse 13.
Because one of the things that God told us that as Christians we should put off is clamor.
He said, let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and evil speaking be put
away from you with all malice and be kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one
another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.
He associated anger and clamor.
Put off anger, put off clamor, put off wrath.
Well look what the Bible says in Proverbs 9 13, a foolish woman is clamorous, she is
simple and knoweth nothing.
So again, when we look at this contrast of an ungodly woman in the book of Proverbs which
comes up over and over again, one of the things she's described as is clamorous.
Now what does it mean to be clamorous?
Clamor means a loud noise.
Clamor also means complaints or outcry of dissatisfaction.
Just crying out, complaining, loud, bitter, alright these are all the things that should
not characterize a godly woman.
Look at Proverbs chapter 7, it's a couple pages to the left in your Bible, Proverbs
chapter 7 and we'll see another attribute of a godly woman.
Here is its antithesis in Proverbs 7, we see the negative side.
It says in chapter 7 verse 10, and behold there met him a woman with the attire of an
harlot and subtle of heart, verse 11, she is loud and stubborn.
Her feet abide not in her house.
Now is anybody seeing a pattern here?
I think we've literally looked at like 12 scriptures that have specifically said, you
know what women, don't be loud, don't be clamorous, don't be angry, don't be bitter, don't be
enrolling, don't be contentious, and they all are talking about pretty much the same
type of an image that you get of just a loud mouth, obnoxious, angry, bitter, fighting
woman.
Do you not see it in the scripture here?
This picture that's being painted?
Now what's the opposite of that?
Go to 1 Peter chapter 3, 1 Peter chapter 3.
Over and over again we're seeing the same patterns and you know what, if this didn't
matter so much, then God wouldn't have been so repetitive in the book of Proverbs that
he's bringing this up literally in almost every chapter of Proverbs.
Just over and over again.
And it's the same thing that keeps coming up.
The same anger, the same bitterness, the same clamor, the same getting upset about every
transgression, the same contentions, the same strife, the same brawling, loud, stubborn.
These are not feminine attributes.
Look what the Bible says in 1 Peter chapter 3 verse 3, who's adorning, let it not be that
outward adorning of plaiting the hair and of wearing of gold or of putting on of apparel,
but let it be the hidden man of the heart in that which is not corruptible, even the
ornament of a meek and quiet spirit which is in the sight of God of great price.
So the opposite of this loud, clamorous, angry, bitter, brawling type of woman is one who
has a meek and quiet spirit.
What's the opposite of being loud?
Being quiet.
What's the opposite of being one who throws your weight around?
It's being meek.
Now meekness is not weakness, okay?
Meekness does not mean that you're a weakling because if you remember the Bible says that
Moses was the meekest man on the face of all the earth.
Was he a weakling?
Was he a wimp?
No.
But he was meek, meaning that he basically was not puffed up, proud, and the Bible says
only by pride cometh contention.
So you can't be a contentious woman without being prideful and arrogant, and it's not
possible because only by pride cometh contention.
So what's the opposite of being proud?
Being humble or meek.
And the Bible says here, a meek and quiet spirit which is in the sight of God of great
price.
But let me point out another thing that's, well flip over if you would to 1 Timothy chapter
2.
So so far we've seen that a godly woman should be one of a meek and quiet spirit, kind and
forgiving in the words that come out of her mouth, gentle in her speech.
In her tongue is the law of kindness.
You know what that means, in her tongue is the law of kindness?
It means that unkind things coming out of her mouth is the exception, not the rule.
The law of kindness, meaning that the law of her tongue, what's typically going to be
coming out of her mouth is kindness.
That's the default setting.
Not anger, clamor, bitterness, wrath, malice, and so forth.
So we saw that a godly woman should be kind and forgiving, she should be meek and quiet,
not angry and clamorous and all these other things.
But not only that, a godly woman should be a hard working woman, not idle.
Back if you would at 1 Timothy chapter 2 verse 9, it says, and like man are also that women
adorn themselves in modest apparel with shamefacedness and sobriety, not with broided hair or gold
or pearls or costly array, but which becometh women professing godliness with good works.
That's a word that I want to point out there, works.
Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection, verse 11, but I suffer not a woman to teach
nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.
For Adam was first formed, then Eve, and Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived
was in the transgression, notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing if they
continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.
Now flip over to chapter 5 and you'll see how this passage in chapter 5 ties in perfectly
with this passage in 1 Timothy 2.
Now some people that are here this morning are probably just, I can't even believe what
I'm hearing.
I'm just blown away by this.
Because a lot of these scriptures never even get read in church.
Because they're considered offensive to the modern eardrum.
You know, modern day feminazi ideology does not go with everything that we're hearing
today.
Women should be quiet, wait up!
Thank you for proving my point right now, loudmouth.
And we have women today screaming and yelling and clamoring and, you know, give us our rights
now!
And I'm telling you, it's not of God and we need there to be one place, the house of God,
the local church, where somebody gets up and actually reads what the Bible says about godly
women are supposed to be like.
Because let me tell you something, there are not a lot of great, feminine, godly role models
out in the world for our daughters to follow.
And we need the house of God to be a place of godly, feminine role models for young ladies
to follow.
And not to be sucked into the world's mentality of just a loud, clamorous, you know, we can
do it type of mentality amongst women.
It's not biblical.
It's not what the Bible teaches.
If you say it is what the Bible teaches, you're a liar.
If you say that the Bible teaches equal, equality for women in the sense that they have all
the same roles in society as men and they should be speaking in church, you're a liar.
That's not what the Bible says.
The Bible is crystal clear on this subject.
You know it and I know it.
So don't play games with me.
This is what the Bible says.
And honestly, we need some hair-legged preachers to stand up and preach this from the housetops
because honestly, what we have out in society today is a terrible example of women.
Now look, again, when I preach something like this, inevitably someone will say,
Well, you know, why don't you get on the men?
That was a different sermon.
And I have whole sermons where I'm getting on the men for being a bunch of queer little
feminine sissies and being a Twinkie.
But that's a different sermon.
Okay, I can't preach the whole Bible in one sermon.
You know, right now I'm preaching what a godly woman should be like.
And if you're a woman today, under the sound of my voice, you know, don't you get angry
at what I'm preaching because remember that was point one about what you're not supposed
to be.
See how I set up this sermon in a certain way on purpose?
You know, I start out with the anger point just to kind of diffuse you.
You know, like kind of diffuse that bomb before I start getting into the really contentious
Don't be contentious.
Don't get angry.
Don't get bitter.
Why?
Because, you know, today this stuff flies in the face of society, but that's why it
needs to be preached more today, not less today.
Because otherwise we're going to forget about it.
People aren't even going to know that this is even out there.
So we see that a woman should be hardworking and not idle.
Look at 1 Timothy chapter 5.
This goes hand in glove with chapter 2.
It says in verse 13, with all they learn to be idle, speaking of women, wandering from
house to house and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which
they ought not.
I will therefore that the younger women marry their children, guide the house, give none
occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully for some are already turned aside after Satan.
And so in 1 Timothy chapter 2, it talked about how a woman's outward adorning should not
be decorating herself like a Christmas tree, but rather it should be good works.
She should be adorned with good works.
And then here he's saying that women should not be idle, but that they should marry, bear
children, guide the house.
That's the opposite of being idle, because when you get married, now you're no longer
idle anymore.
Why?
Because you have a household to take care of.
You have a husband to take care of.
You have meals to prepare.
You have cleaning and cooking to do.
That keeps you busy guiding the house.
That keeps you out of trouble.
When you have children, that keeps you even busier and it keeps you from becoming idle.
A woman that is a godly woman is a hardworking woman, the virtuous woman in chapter 31.
It talks about her making clothing.
It talks about her preparing food.
It talks about her, you know, rolling up her sleeves and working hard and getting a lot
of work done, not being lazy.
Now today we have a lot of conveniences, and go if you would to 1 Corinthians 11, today
we have a lot of conveniences that make all of our lives easier.
The lives of men have become easier in many ways, and I mean physically.
And the lives of women have become easier.
Because if you think about it, most of us men today, we don't go out and work a job
where we're just really breaking our backs six days a week by the sweat of our face.
Some people do, and that's great.
But a lot of people here today have a job that's an easier job in the sense of it's
not as physically demanding.
You know, you might be driving machinery or you might be behind a computer or you might
be just directing others and you're not really having to work really hard.
And I'm not saying that's a bad thing, but we do have to be careful that we don't become
too sedentary and too idle or too lazy, maybe because we don't have to work as many hours
as we used to.
So we need to find godly things to use our time on, productive things, and not just become
one who just works the minimum and then just fools around, plays video games, sits around,
watch TV, scratching our belly, and so forth.
That's not the way we want to live our lives.
And see, ladies' lives have become easier also.
And I'm all for technology.
I don't think that we should go back to, you know, hey let's just be like the Amish and
shun all technology.
That doesn't make any sense to me.
I don't believe that's a biblical philosophy.
But ladies' lives have become easier in some ways because of the fact that they no longer
have to wash clothes by hand.
I mean they have the washing machine.
And instead of having to scrub the dishes by hand, they have the dishwasher, okay?
And instead of having to make their own clothing, I mean goodnight, it's much cheaper to buy
clothes than it is to make clothes in 2014.
I mean it's just so easy to just have an abundance of durable clothing.
It's just not difficult.
Now in some ways our lives have gotten more difficult because as men, sure we don't have
to go out and break our backs as much working hard, but you know we have a lot more stress
and our lives are more complicated.
I mean think about it, do you think that Abraham just had to deal with just all this weird
stuff showing up in the mail every day and just all this paperwork and banking and he's
having to sit there and figure out his taxes and everything.
He's trying to take inventory on all his goats and everything so he can figure out his taxes.
He didn't have to deal with a lot of the mental stress and anguish and also going out and
working hard actually makes you feel pretty good.
So now we have other problems, people getting depressed and idle and sluggish.
So there are pros and cons of technology and I'm not against technology at all.
But I will say this, don't let technology turn you into a lazy person.
That's what we need to be careful of.
I'm not saying technology is bad, but if technology makes us lazy because our dream life and our
dream job is to be like George Jetson where he just pushes a button and then just sits
back all day for eight hours a day, that's not what our life should look like.
And so today because our lives have gotten easier in some ways, it could be easy for
us to fall into a trap of becoming a sluggish, slob, idol, as male or female.
Both male and female can fall victim to this, okay?
And so it could be easy for ladies because they can just turn on the dishwasher, turn
on the washing machine, you know, turn on the microwave, you know, and so forth that
they could basically fall into a trap of just sitting around and just watching the soap
operas or just being on Facebook all day, just surfing the net, just on the phone, just
fooling, you know, just not really getting anything done productive and becoming what
the Bible describes here in 1 Timothy 5 as just being an idol, tattler, busybody, gossip.
You know, these are the things that ladies should be careful about.
Now I'm not saying, hey, you know, just to have some busy work to do, just get rid of
the washing machine and go out in the backyard and start scrubbing.
You know, that doesn't make any sense.
That'd be silly, wouldn't it?
There's no point in doing that or, you know, get rid of your dishwasher and, you know,
no, it doesn't make sense.
But you know what does make sense?
Using your time to produce something that matters.
Now there are so many things that you could do with your time and work hard.
Like for example, instead of sticking a hungry man frozen dinner in the microwave, you could
actually cook a nutritious meal from scratch, you know, and that can help you from being
an idol.
Okay?
Because some of this technology is not good when it involves just eating a bunch of nutritionally
void pre-packaged meals that are cooked in a microwave that don't taste good and that
are not nutritious to your body at all.
It's getting kind of quiet in here, but it's the truth what I'm saying, you know.
And look, as a man, we should go to work and take our job seriously.
And we should go to work and not just punch in and punch out and do the minimum all day.
We're expected by God, we're expected by society, and we're expected by our wives and children
to go to work and to do our best and to make something happen and to go there and give
it 100% and bring home the bacon.
That's our job and we take it seriously, or we ought to take it seriously.
And shame on you if you're a lazy man who goes to work and doesn't give it 100%.
But let me tell you something, it should be the same for the wife she should be giving
her job 100% to.
And not just saying, well, you know, throw in a ready-made frozen meal, sit down, watch
TV, play on the internet, do nothing, Pinterest, you know, Facebook, Twitter, whatever.
And I'm not saying that those are bad things.
But I'm saying if you're not doing your job, that's bad.
Just as it's bad if a man's not doing his job.
And we need to not have a double standard here that says, hey, men work hard, women
do nothing.
And here's the thing, a lot of women, they say, well, I'll go out and get a job.
You want me to work hard?
Okay, I'll go out and get a job.
No, that's not what God told you to do, Cain.
You know, Cain, God told you to bring of the first things of the flock and to work
hard at what he told you, not your own works that you devised out of your own mind.
Cain worked hard, produced a bunch of fruits and vegetables, offered it to God and God
said, that's not what I want, okay?
And Abel brought what God wanted, the first things of the flock, the fat of the lambs.
And today, you know, God's saying, hey, be a hard working woman.
Work hard.
Don't get lazy.
Don't get idle.
And the woman's response is, okay, I'll go get a job.
No, why can't you work hard at home?
Why can't you work hard at home?
And you say, well, you know, you're preaching antiquated ideals because it's impossible
for people to live off one income anymore.
No it's not.
It's a matter of priorities.
And honestly, the Bible teaches, and I just read you the scriptures, flip over, we'll
come back to 1 Corinthians 11, go to Titus chapter 2, go to Titus chapter 2.
You know, the Bible does teach that women are designed to be the homemaker.
This is what the Bible teaches.
Now again, I'm not upset at women who work a job or anything like that.
I'm not trying to condemn people or tell people, hey, live your life exactly the way I'm telling
you to live it.
That's what I'm doing.
I'm teaching the Bible.
Okay?
And sometimes people's life puts them in a situation where, you know, sometimes people,
for example, are divorced and people are in a situation where, you know, the wife is going
to work or maybe the husband is saying, hey, I want you to go to work to the wife and sending
the wife to work.
You know, there are all kinds of situations that you may find yourself in in this world,
but let me tell you something.
If we are living our lives according to God's will and following God's plan for our lives,
we know that the ideal that God holds up is that the man works and that the wife stays
home and takes care of the house and takes care of the kids.
That's what the Bible says.
Okay?
He said it in 1 Timothy 5 that God's will was that they marry, bear children, and guide
the house.
That's God's will.
And when we see the virtuous woman, that's what we see her doing.
She's taking care of the house.
She's taking care of clothing.
She's taking care of food.
She's doing things of that nature.
But look at Titus chapter 2 verse 4.
It says that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love
their children, to be discreet.
We talked about what that means.
Here's what discretion is.
It's knowing what is acceptable and what is not.
That's what discretion means.
It's the wisdom to know what you should be doing, what you shouldn't be doing, and so
forth.
It says, discrete chaste.
Chaste is talking about purity, keepers at home.
Now look, that's a pretty clear phrase there.
Teach the women.
No, God's saying teach the young women to be discreet.
Teach the young women to be chaste.
Teach the young women to be keepers at home.
Teach the young women to be good.
Look at verse 5 there.
Teach the young women to be obedient to their own husbands.
Why?
That the word of God be not blasphemed.
Now would you like to be a cause of God's word being blasphemed?
Now who in the Bible was a cause of God's word being blasphemed?
You remember who, somebody was told, hey, God's word is going to be blasphemed because
of you.
David.
David, right?
So I mean it is possible for God's word to be blasphemed as a result of what we do.
David committed adultery and caused God's word to be blasphemed.
But here he's saying, look, if women don't listen to this, God's word is going to be
blasphemed because of them if they don't follow this.
To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that
the word of God be not blasphemed.
Now again, I'm not saying, you know, hey, it's a sin for a woman to go to work.
But you know what I am saying though?
It's not the perfect will of God.
You know, I'm saying that it is not ideal.
There could be a situation that you're in as a result of your sin or the sins of others
that might force you into that position.
But in a perfect world, following God's plan, following God's rules.
You know, for example, and you say, well, why do you say that?
Because somebody asked me recently, they said, well, you know, my husband is commanding me
to go to work.
So what do I do?
You know, do I obey my husband, which the Bible tells me to obey my husband, or do I,
you know, refuse to go to work and stay home and not work?
But you know what?
I would say that she should obey her husband because it is clearly a sin.
It's like a clear right and wrong where the Bible commands wives to obey their husband.
Whereas there's no commandment in the Bible which says, thou shalt not go to work as a
woman.
Do you understand what I'm saying?
So that's how I would judge that situation based on scripture and say, hey, if your husband's
telling you to go to work, then go to work, you know, and do not rebel against him.
But I'm saying this that, you know, the Bible teaches that the husband should provide.
And you say, well, it's not possible, but see, you might just have to make different
priorities in your lifestyle.
The husband might have to work more hours.
And by the way, if the wife is doing her job as a wife, it can often be more financially
feasible.
For example, people think that they're making so much money by sending their wife to work,
but in reality, when you send your wife to work, it puts you in a different tax bracket.
You know, a lot of that extra money that's coming in is just getting taxed.
Then you've got to have a separate vehicle for your wife.
Then she's not there cooking, so what are you doing?
Eating out, getting food out, or getting ready-made food.
See, the more homemade that food is, the more economical it is.
So if you have your wife at home as a full-time homemaker, then she's actually going to be
able to save you money by making meals from scratch, which is cheaper, by not needing
another vehicle, which is cheaper.
You say, oh, your wife cooped up all day with no vehicle.
No, my wife and I have shared a vehicle the whole time we were married, and look, if you
have two cars, that's great, I'm not against that at all.
But I'm saying that if it means the difference between your wife staying home and raising
the kids, having one vehicle versus two, wouldn't it be better to have one vehicle and have
your wife be a godly keeper at home, and so forth, than to have two, you know, your wife
go to work so you can have two vehicles, so that she could have that vehicle to go to
work in.
You know what I mean?
So you can pay more taxes, and give the government more money, because you love the government
so much.
Okay.
Honestly, when my wife and I were first married, we had one vehicle, and here's what we did.
She dropped me off at work, if she wants to use the car.
You know?
And I would walk to work, ride a bike to work, okay?
Right now, my wife and I share one vehicle, okay?
Because we had two vehicles for years, because I would take my vehicle for several days on
business trips.
Honestly, that's not going to work.
That kind of a sharing arrangement didn't work very well for me to take the car for
three days at a time.
But I'm just saying that if you prioritize this in your life, you can make this happen.
And by the way, even great corporations have something called a purchasing agent, a full-time
employee whose job is just to buy things, and to get the best deals on those things.
It's called a purchasing agent.
Well, here's the thing.
A godly wife can be a great purchasing agent, because Proverbs 31 says that the godly wife
is like the merchant ships.
She bringeth her food from afar.
What does that mean?
It means she doesn't just go to the most expensive grocery store and just throw everything in
the cart.
What it's basically saying is that, you know, she is getting the best food at the best prices,
and thank God my wife is very good at that.
She does an excellent job at that, of just getting things for good deals, and it saves
you money.
Whereas when you're both working, you're both busy, you're both tired, it's just whatever,
just whatever's the quickest.
You know, just buy it.
Just grab it.
Just go to the closest store.
Let's just eat out.
Let's just buy it.
You know, just order it.
Whereas when you have the time as a woman and you're not idling it and frittering it
away doing nothing, you could actually prepare good, nutritious home cooked meals, you could
actually shop around and get the best food at the best price, you could actually save
some expenses of vehicles and gas and taxes and childcare and all this other stuff.
So a lot of it's just an illusion, my friend.
And you know, you say, well no, we would be financially better off if she's at work.
Okay, but are you spiritually better off?
And let me tell you something, the one who pays the bills is the one who makes the rules.
And if you want to have a home where the husband is the head of the home and he's in authority,
you probably need to pay all the bills.
Because as soon as your wife goes out and starts making a bunch of money, you know what
she's going to start thinking?
Yeah, you know, I'm making some of the money, I'm going to start making some of the decisions,
you know, I'm, you know, this is an equal partnership here.
But it ought not be, because that's not what the Bible teaches.
Go to 1 Corinthians 11, if you would.
First Corinthians chapter 11.
First Corinthians chapter number 11.
So so far, what have we seen from the Bible?
And look, everything I'm preaching has been biblical.
Can somebody stop me and tell me what I'm preaching that's not biblical right now?
But yet people are offended by this preaching, I don't understand it.
I don't understand what people expect when they come to a Baptist church.
Like they're just going to come and it's going to be some communist liberation fest or something?
It's a Baptist church!
It's a King James only Bible believing church!
You're going to hear what the Bible teaches, in season, out of season, popular, not popular.
These are timeless truths.
Not telling you what to do.
I'm not trying to dictate your life, I'm teaching you what the Bible says.
You want to go live your life another way?
You want to go out, women, and have your career, and get loud, and get stubborn, and get contentious,
and get your college degree, and your career, and you're going to be an independent woman?
And you go girl, but you know what?
It's not biblical, I'm not going to condone it, I'm not going to say it's Christian, because
it's not.
This is what the Bible teaches.
Now look at 1 Corinthians chapter 11, because so far we've seen that a godly woman is kind,
forgiving, she's not anger, clamorous, she's meek and quiet, not loud, stubborn, and obnoxious.
And literally some women today think that it's cool or virtuous to be loud and obnoxious.
But that makes them cool, or powerful as a woman.
But really all it is is a shame unto a woman, to act masculine.
But the Bible says in 1 Corinthians 11 verse 7, it says, for a man indeed ought not to
cover his head, for as much as he is the image and glory of God, but the woman is the glory
of the man.
For the man is not of the woman, but the woman of the man.
Neither was the man created for the woman, but the woman for the man.
Now this is a timeless truth here that goes all the way back to the Garden of Eden.
Adam was first formed, then Eve.
God did not create the man to be a workhorse and a helper unto his wife.
That's not what the Bible teaches.
The Bible says that when God made Adam, he said it's not good for the man to be alone.
I will make an help meet for him.
So God made the woman for the man, to be a what?
A help.
And he brought the woman to the man and said, this is your help.
And he said, you know, this is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh.
And the Bible talks about a man shall leave father and mother and cleave unto his wife
and they too shall be one flesh.
This is what marriage is all about.
This is what the institution started as in Genesis chapter 2.
And so we need to understand that the woman is made to be a help unto her husband, not
vice versa.
It's not the woman to go out and fulfill all her life and to, I'm trying to think of the
word, but I remember my wife, when we first got married and she started having kids, she
started drawing criticism from some of her extended family.
And they were telling her that her wonderful humanistic education was going to waste.
And how, you know, all of her education and college and learning is all being wasted.
And they said, you know, I'm trying to translate it into English, but they said, you know,
don't you feel that you need to go out and fulfill yourself?
Is that what it means Zuzia?
Für wirklichen?
Zish für wirklichen?
Yeah, like realize.
Don't you need to go out and realize your full potential?
Don't you need to go out and be fulfilled?
And today we have little girls that are being brought up.
You know, when you grow up, you can be whatever you want.
And they all want to be a marine biologist.
You know, they all go through that phase.
Is there any girl who never went through that phase and wanted to be a marine biologist?
You know, they want to be a marine biologist, they want to be an astronaut, they want to
be a lawyer, they want to be all these things.
You know, that's not what the Bible says.
The Bible says that they should marry, bear children, and guide the house.
That's what the Bible says.
So this attitude that just says, I've got to get my career going, you know, I'm going
to get my career, you know what, and I'm going to get my PhD and my career and my masters
and my this, my that, and then, you know, I need to find also a place for a husband
in my life.
And you know, when I'm ready, in my late 30s, I'm going to think about having kids.
I mean, is that what the Bible teaches, is a Christian lifestyle?
No.
So to sit there and just have this attitude of like, well I'm going to add a husband to
my life.
No, when you get married, you know what you're doing?
You're signing on to be that guy's helper.
You're playing second fiddle to your husband for the rest of your life.
You are not the main event in that family, in that household.
That is what the Bible teaches.
Now, let's read it again since you don't believe me.
First Corinthians 11, 7, for a man indeed ought not to cover his head for as much as
he is the image and glory of God, but the woman is the glory of the man.
For the man is not of the woman, but the woman of the man.
Neither was the man created for the woman, but the woman for the man.
And in too many marriages today, the tail wags the dog.
And we have a situation where the man is not considered the leader.
He's not considered at the forefront.
You know, I mean, doesn't it always seem weird when you have these women that are like running
for president and running for...
Like what's their husband?
The first husband?
Like instead of the first lady, he's like the first boy?
You know, because why?
Why does it seem unseemly?
Because he's taking a back seat unto his wife.
It's her goals.
It's her ambition.
She's leading.
It's not biblical.
And you know what, ladies?
If you don't, if you can't look at your husband and say, I mean, if you can't look at the
guy that you're thinking about marrying, young ladies that are single, if you can't look
at him and say, you know what?
This is somebody that I want to follow.
This is somebody that I want to help.
This is somebody that I want to submit to.
This is someone that I want to lead me for the rest of my life, then you should not marry
that guy.
Because when you get married, that's what you're signing on for if it's a biblical marriage.
Now some people will hear this sermon and say that this sermon is anti-woman, patriarchal,
antiquated and the new buzzword, misogynistic.
You know, Pastor Anderson is very misogynistic.
You know, it used to be called chauvinistic.
You can throw all these big fancy words at me all you want, but what I'm really doing
is being biblical.
Now I'm not against women and I believe that Christianity actually exalts women and exalts
femininity.
I feel that our society degrades women, drags them down.
You know what our society tells a woman?
It tells a woman that in order to have value, you must dress, act, and live like a man.
And then they call this feminism?
How is it called feminism to tell a woman, dress masculine, act masculine, live a masculine
life, then you've arrived as a woman.
What would really be feminism would be to say be feminine.
Exalt feminism.
You know, feminism would be to say, hey, being a mother is an important, honorable, respectful
job.
Being a wife is a respectful.
Don't put her in the unemployment statistics.
My wife is in the unemployment statistics.
She fills out paperwork, it's like, you know, occupation or unemployed.
I mean do you really think my wife's unemployed?
She's employed with boss man right here.
This is her employer.
And let me tell you something.
Today we live in a society where we go to a restaurant, right?
And you go to a restaurant and a woman comes to the table at the restaurant, right?
And she's friendly to you, isn't she?
And she comes and pours a drink for you, asks you if you need anything else, big smile,
right?
Isn't that what you expect?
Look, if you go to a restaurant and a woman comes and waits on your table, is that what
you expect?
What if she just came and this is how she served the food?
Let's say this is the food, right?
I mean would that be acceptable?
Here you go.
Okay, what if she just never offered to fill the drink?
And then finally you're like, excuse me, can I get something to drink?
Get up and get it yourself.
And you know, it sounds ridiculous, but you know what, here's the thing.
If a woman, if that exact same woman, and how much is she really getting paid?
I don't think being a waitress is like the best paying job in the world.
I mean I'm not saying it's the worst paying job, but it's definitely not the best paying
job in the world.
But let's say that exact same woman put her married, put her in a home, right, where her
husband's taking care of her every need and paying for everything and taking care of everything.
And if a woman came up, brought the food, was friendly, smiled, here you go, would you
like anything else?
What can I get you to drink?
Okay, do you need a refill?
And took care of her husband in the same way, you know what, they'd say, oh she's a doormat.
She's not liberated, she's a doormat, she's just being abusive, her husband's abusive.
But here's the thing, if she goes out and does it for strangers, totally normal.
I mean think about how weird that is.
We live, it's not me that's backward up here, it's our society that's backward.
Where we say that it's dishonorable, demeaning, and it's just so offensive for a woman to
serve and be kind to her husband and treat him well, but to go out and do it for strangers
for minimum wage, well that is just a wonderful thing.
And you are just the best waitress ever.
You go out and be a teacher and oh, you're a teacher.
It's homeschool and it's like oh, you don't have a job, you're unemployed.
It doesn't make any sense, folks.
And look, I'm preaching this sermon because I want the ladies of our church and especially
the young girls that are growing up, you know, just to know what it means to be a godly lady.
You want to be feminine, you want to be godly, here's what that looks like.
It looks like you being meek and quiet, not angry, bitter, blowing up about everything,
losing your temper all the time.
You know what it looks like?
It looks like you being kind and forgiving, meek and quiet.
It looks like you not being all decked out with immodest apparel, trying to draw attention
to your body all the time.
It means you being hardworking, not idle, not lazy.
It means you, by the way, being smart and not stupid because the Bible says about a
foolish woman, she knows nothing.
She's simple.
She knows nothing.
The Bible says that the virtuous woman opens her mouth with wisdom and in her tongue is
the law of kindness.
It's to be smart.
You say, oh, well, that's college.
No, college makes you stupid.
College makes you stupid just like TV makes you stupid.
Reading books makes you smart.
Everybody knows that.
And reading the Bible is the book that makes you smarter than any other book.
Reading this book makes you smart.
Reading other books makes you smart.
Watching TV, going to school, going to college make you stupid.
They make you a fool.
And that is the truth.
And it means a wife that is submissive and not contentious.
And notice, the Bible does not say that women need to submit to all men.
It says they submit to their own husband.
Okay, so we're not trying to say that, you know, all men rule over all women.
That's not biblical.
But the Bible does say that a wife should be obedient to her own husband, to submit
unto her own husband.
What's the opposite of submitting?
I mean, what does it mean to submit?
It's when somebody tells you something that is contrary to what you were going to do or
what you wanted to do or what you thought and somebody tells you something different
and you say, okay, well, I'm going to go with what I'm being told.
I'm going to submit to that.
See, if it's something that you already agree with, you're not really submitting.
You're just doing what you were going to do anyway.
Okay, so what's the opposite of submission then?
Contention.
Contention is when you're told what to do and you say, no, argue, fuss, get angry, lose
your temper.
I mean, there are literally people, and again, a lot of this sermon isn't just for women.
A lot of this can cross over to men too.
There are a lot of men that if somebody tells them what to do, they blow up and get angry.
Whether it's a parent telling a child, the child gets angry.
Boss at work tells the man at work, hey, do this, he gets angry.
That's not godly.
That's not a righteous indignation.
And so I pray that every single person in this room would take these biblical truths
and think about them, let them sink in.
I pray that every woman in this room would decide that they would want to be a virtuous
godly woman per the Bible, not what the world considers a successful woman.
I mean, good night.
You could go out and be a lesbian with so much metal on your face that you look like
you fell out of a fishing tackle box.
But if you're a businesswoman, the world's going to call you successful because you make
a lot of money.
Even if it's through dishonest means, like being a banker or a lawyer.
But honestly, I pray that every woman would just take from this sermon and say, you know
what, I need to get anger under control in my life because that's a major teaching here.
And I need to not be so loud and stubborn.
I need to become a hardworking person, not be idle, not waste a bunch of time.
I need to submit to my husband and realize, hey, I'm here to help him.
You don't help me enough around the house, you don't do enough for me.
It's like, wait a minute, husband's helping around the house is great.
I help my wife around the house, but you know what, to sit there and clamor and say, my
husband's not helping me around the house enough.
You know what, that's not what he was born to do.
He was not created to be your help meat.
It's not what the Bible teaches.
And when you listen to most women that complain about their husbands and are clamorous, because
that's what clamorous means, you know, just loudly complaining.
Usually they're complaining about stuff that God never even told them to do.
They usually don't, you know, I mean, some things they might complain about is stuff
that he should be doing.
Like, he doesn't pay the bills.
Okay, well, that's legitimate, but still, discretion would mean that you don't go around
saying that to other people, if that's how you feel.
But to sit there and complain that he's not doing enough of the things that God never
told him to do, well, you know, that's inappropriate.
And I pray that every young man that's here in this room would hear these things and understand
the red flags of the wrong type of woman.
Loud, stubborn, obnoxious, lazy, idle, these are the things to beware of.
And also, as men, we can apply these principles and not become angry men, not become bitter,
and not become any of these other attributes that apply unto us.
We should be hard working as well.
Let's bow our heads and have a word of prayer.
Father, we thank you so much for your word, Lord, and Lord, without your word, we would
be really messed up, because our society doesn't teach us any of these things.
And so without your word, we would have no clue how to have a good, happy marriage, how
to have a marriage where men and women are in their proper roles and where we could love
each other for who we are and not try to be something that we were not designed to be.
God, I don't think there's any hope for our society out there that ignores your word to
have a successful marriage and home life and raise godly children, but Lord, thank you
for church where we can get together and look in the pages of your word and get the truth.
And Lord, I pray that we would be able to undo some of the brainwashing that even some
people in this room may have been totally brainwashed by the television to think that
what I'm saying is somehow radical, Lord, when it's just the most basic teachings of
your word.
I pray that every single person would just go home and search the scriptures and see
whether these things be so.
And in Jesus' name we pray.