WEBVTT 03:19.200 --> 03:20.000 you 09:53.200 --> 09:55.200 Good morning, good morning. 09:55.200 --> 09:59.200 Everybody please be seated. Welcome to Sure Foundation Baptist Church. 10:00.200 --> 10:04.200 If you could please turn to page 183 in your hymnal. 10:04.200 --> 10:07.200 Oh, How I Love Jesus, page 183. 10:15.200 --> 10:22.880 The name I love to hear, I love to sing its worth. 10:22.880 --> 10:31.320 It sounds like music in my ear, the sweetest name on earth. 10:31.320 --> 10:35.240 Oh how I love Jesus. 10:35.500 --> 10:43.500 Oh how I love Jesus, oh how I love Jesus 10:43.500 --> 10:47.500 Because he first loved me 10:47.500 --> 10:55.500 It tells me of a Savior's love who died to set me free 10:56.500 --> 11:05.500 It tells me of His precious blood, The sinner's perfect plea. 11:05.500 --> 11:09.500 Oh, how I love Jesus! 11:09.500 --> 11:14.500 Oh, how I love Jesus! 11:14.500 --> 11:18.500 Oh, how I love Jesus! 11:18.500 --> 11:22.300 Because He first loved me. 11:22.400 --> 11:31.400 It tells me not my Father hath in store for every day. 11:31.400 --> 11:40.400 And though I tread a dartsome path, His sons shine all the way. 11:40.400 --> 11:48.100 Oh, how I love Jesus! Oh, how I love Jesus! 11:48.300 --> 11:58.260 Jesus, oh, how I love Jesus, because He first loved me. 11:58.260 --> 12:07.060 It tells of one whose loving heart can feel my deepest woe, 12:07.060 --> 12:15.060 Who in each sorrow bears a part That none can bear below. 12:15.700 --> 12:19.860 Oh how I love Jesus 12:19.860 --> 12:24.480 Oh how I love Jesus 12:24.480 --> 12:28.280 Oh how I love Jesus 12:28.280 --> 12:32.280 Because he first loved me 12:32.280 --> 12:35.280 Amen. Good singing, brother Dustin. Would you pray us in, please? 13:00.900 --> 13:05.620 and then thank you uh... page one sixty two to god be the glory 13:05.620 --> 13:07.120 page one sixty two in your hand 13:20.800 --> 13:28.160 To God be the glory, great things he hath done. 13:28.160 --> 13:35.760 So loved he the world that he gave us his son, 13:35.760 --> 13:43.040 who yielded his life an atonement for sin. 13:43.200 --> 13:50.400 And open the life gate that all may go in 13:50.600 --> 13:58.040 Praise the Lord, praise the Lord, let the earth hear his voice. 13:58.040 --> 14:05.480 Praise the Lord, praise the Lord, let the people rejoice. 14:05.480 --> 14:12.840 O come to the Father through Jesus the Son, 14:12.840 --> 14:18.600 and give him the glory, great things he hath done. 14:18.600 --> 14:34.240 have done. Oh perfect redemption, the purchase of blood to every believer, the promise of 14:34.240 --> 14:42.520 God, the vilest offender who truly believes. 14:42.800 --> 14:50.240 That moment from Jesus apart and receives. 14:50.240 --> 14:57.760 Praise the Lord, praise the Lord, let the earth hear his voice. 14:57.800 --> 15:05.240 Praise the Lord, praise the Lord, let the people rejoice. 15:05.240 --> 15:12.600 O come to the Father through Jesus the Son, 15:12.600 --> 15:20.200 and give him the glory, great things he hath done, 15:20.200 --> 15:25.800 great things he hath taught us, great things he hath done. 15:25.800 --> 15:38.060 have done and great are rejoicing through Jesus the Son but purer and 15:38.060 --> 15:50.300 higher and greater will be our wonder our transport when Jesus we see 15:50.400 --> 15:57.600 Praise the Lord, praise the Lord, let the earth hear his voice. 15:57.600 --> 16:05.100 Praise the Lord, praise the Lord, let the people rejoice. 16:05.100 --> 16:12.400 O come to the Father through Jesus the Son. 16:12.600 --> 16:20.600 And give him the glory, great things he hath done. 16:20.600 --> 16:21.360 Amen. 16:21.360 --> 16:22.900 Time for some announcements. 16:28.300 --> 16:32.300 Alright, good morning to Shoe Foundation Baptist Church Sunday morning service. 16:32.300 --> 16:37.300 Raise your hand if you need a bulletin and Usher will bring one to you. 16:38.400 --> 16:43.500 And the verse of the week is Romans chapter 13 verse number 7. 16:43.500 --> 16:51.740 Render therefore to all their dues, tribute to whom tribute is due, custom to whom custom, fear to whom fear, honor to whom honor. 16:51.740 --> 16:56.880 That's a great verse and about our responsibility and there's nothing wrong to pay taxes. 16:56.880 --> 16:59.240 In fact, that's what Jesus Christ commanded. 16:59.240 --> 17:03.940 Also, we should render proper honor to those people who hold certain position. 17:03.940 --> 17:06.340 Not, you know, not because they are good people, but because... 17:06.400 --> 17:07.860 because of the position, amen. 17:07.860 --> 17:09.860 Render honor to whom honor is due. 17:09.860 --> 17:11.200 Let's look at the inside page. 17:11.200 --> 17:14.260 Give us a follow on our social media platforms. 17:14.260 --> 17:16.340 We have Sunday morning service at 11, 17:16.340 --> 17:18.100 Sunday afternoon service at four. 17:18.100 --> 17:20.140 And Wednesday night we are going to the Book of Acts. 17:20.140 --> 17:22.580 And this coming Wednesday we'll be looking at 17:22.580 --> 17:25.880 the famous story of the Philippian jailer, 17:25.880 --> 17:27.920 finished up Acts chapter 16. 17:27.920 --> 17:30.380 We have Sunday morning, Saturday morning at 10.30, 17:30.380 --> 17:34.220 and Sunday afternoon, Sunday morning at 1.30 p.m. 17:34.220 --> 17:34.400 and 17:34.400 --> 17:42.200 And five, yesterday we had a great time at Notre Dame tailgate. 17:42.200 --> 17:45.220 There were five soul winners and 28 salvations. 17:45.220 --> 17:47.000 So definitely it's a great result. 17:47.000 --> 17:48.000 I was on my way. 17:48.000 --> 17:50.440 I haven't left India yet and I just wrecked a car. 17:50.440 --> 17:53.180 So you know, I would just blame on the Catholics. 17:53.180 --> 17:54.180 So anyway, I'm kidding. 17:55.200 --> 18:02.200 I'm doing well, so you know, it's kind of tough to fit three car seat on my small car, but you know, we made it to work, so that's good. 18:03.400 --> 18:07.640 We'll have a Notre Dame again next Saturday, so please join us if you are able to. 18:08.300 --> 18:10.940 Let's look at upcoming events. 18:10.940 --> 18:17.200 The annual fall fellowship is less than a month on October 3rd. 18:17.200 --> 18:21.340 And please use the sign up sheet at the front table over there. 18:21.340 --> 18:24.900 And if you are traveling and then you want to stay that Saturday night so you can make 18:24.900 --> 18:30.060 it to church closer on that Sunday, we do have a nearby hotel discount rate. 18:30.060 --> 18:33.980 Please let me know if you are interested so you can pay a you know so you can pay less 18:33.980 --> 18:35.980 if you want to stay overnight. 18:36.300 --> 18:38.300 you know, October 3rd. 18:38.300 --> 18:41.420 Also, Pittsburgh is coming up on October 10th, 18:41.420 --> 18:43.620 that's Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. 18:43.620 --> 18:46.820 You can go to godresource.com to find out more details 18:46.820 --> 18:49.420 about Notre Dame as well as the Pittsburgh Sowing. 18:49.700 --> 18:54.900 Also come back this afternoon because Brother Brad is going to do some missionary report 18:54.900 --> 18:58.140 because he came back from Barbados. 18:58.140 --> 19:03.900 So please come back to hear the great work they have accomplished over there. 19:03.900 --> 19:05.880 And please stay faithful in your Titan offering. 19:05.880 --> 19:07.220 That's how we keep the lights up. 19:07.220 --> 19:12.340 That's how we fix those windows that someone scattered, whatever. 19:12.340 --> 19:14.340 And then if you flip on the backside. 19:14.900 --> 19:19.300 You can see the birthdays and the anniversary coming up for the month of September. 19:19.300 --> 19:26.100 If your information is not on there, please let me know so I can remind you of your birthdays. 19:26.100 --> 19:31.300 Okay, with that being said, let's sing one more song and then we'll take up the offering. 19:35.500 --> 19:43.020 Okay, page 472 in your hymnal, this is my father's world, 472. 19:51.900 --> 20:02.900 This is my father's world, and to my listening ears, 20:02.900 --> 20:13.900 All nature sings and round me rings the music of the spheres. 20:14.900 --> 20:20.900 This is my father's world. 20:20.900 --> 20:25.900 I rest me in the thought 20:25.900 --> 20:31.900 Of rocks and trees, of skies and seas, 20:31.900 --> 20:36.900 His hand the wanderers wrought. 20:38.200 --> 20:44.200 This is my father's world. 20:44.200 --> 20:50.200 The birds their carols praise. 20:50.200 --> 20:56.200 The morning light the lily white 20:56.200 --> 21:01.200 Declare their maker's praise. 21:02.200 --> 21:08.200 This is my father's world 21:08.200 --> 21:14.200 He shines in all that's fair 21:14.200 --> 21:20.200 In rustling grass I hear him pass 21:20.200 --> 21:25.200 He speaks to me everywhere 21:26.000 --> 21:32.000 This is my Father's world. 21:32.000 --> 21:38.000 Oh, let me not forget 21:38.000 --> 21:44.000 That though the wrong seems oft so strong 21:44.000 --> 21:49.000 God is real and never yet. 21:49.700 --> 21:55.700 This is my Father's world. 21:55.700 --> 22:01.700 The battle is not done. 22:01.700 --> 22:07.700 Jesus who died shall satisfy 22:07.700 --> 22:12.500 and earth and heaven may one. 22:15.300 --> 22:17.300 The ushers come up for the offering. 22:18.800 --> 22:20.800 Okay, Brother Matt, would you pray for us please? 22:31.800 --> 22:32.300 Amen. 23:14.600 --> 23:17.600 We'll start in your Bibles to Philemon. 23:17.600 --> 23:20.600 Philemon, if you need a Bible, just please raise your hand, 23:20.600 --> 23:22.200 and Usher will provide you one. 23:30.100 --> 23:36.020 The Bible reads, Paul the prisoner of Jesus Christ and Timothy our brother to fine Lehman, 23:36.020 --> 23:37.940 our dearly beloved and fellow laborer. 23:38.300 --> 23:44.860 and to our beloved Afia and Archbishop, our fellow soldier, and to the church in thy house. 23:44.860 --> 23:51.180 Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ. I thank my God making mention 23:51.180 --> 23:58.380 of thee always in my prayers, hearing of thy love and faith which thou hast toward the Lord Jesus 23:58.380 --> 23:59.660 and toward all saints. 24:00.300 --> 24:06.700 that the communication of thy faith may become effectual by the acknowledging of every good thing 24:06.700 --> 24:12.060 which is in you in Christ Jesus. For we have great joy and consolation in thy love because 24:12.060 --> 24:16.700 the bowels of the saints are refreshed by thee, brother. Wherefore 24:17.700 --> 24:24.180 Though I might be much bold in Christ to enjoin thee, which is convenient, yet for love's 24:24.180 --> 24:29.660 sake I rather beseech thee, being such in one as Paul the Aged, and now also a prisoner 24:29.660 --> 24:31.100 of Jesus Christ. 24:31.100 --> 24:37.240 I beseech thee for my son Onesimus, who I have begotten in my bonds, which in time past 24:37.240 --> 24:43.020 was to thee unprofitable, but now profitable to thee and to me, whom I have set. 24:43.400 --> 24:51.180 Since again thou therefore receive him that is my own bowels whom I would have retained with me that in thy stead 24:51.360 --> 24:55.160 He might be have ministered unto me in the bonds of the gospel 24:56.320 --> 24:59.240 But without thy mind would I do nothing that 25:00.240 --> 25:05.560 Thy benefit should not be as it were of necessity but willingly for perhaps 25:06.040 --> 25:09.920 He therefore departed for a season that thou shouldest receive him forever 25:11.300 --> 25:17.900 not now as a servant, but above a servant, a beloved, a brother beloved, especially to me, 25:17.900 --> 25:21.560 but how much more unto thee, both in the flesh and in the Lord? 25:21.560 --> 25:25.000 If thou count me therefore a partner, receive him as myself. 25:25.000 --> 25:29.600 If he hath wronged thee, or o'erth thee ought, put that on mine account." 25:29.800 --> 25:32.680 I, Paul, have written it with my own hand. 25:32.680 --> 25:38.360 I will prepare it, albeit I do not say to thee how thou owest unto me, even thine own 25:38.360 --> 25:39.560 self besides. 25:39.560 --> 25:44.800 Yea, brother, let me have joy of thee, and the Lord refresh my bowels in the Lord. 25:44.800 --> 25:49.640 Having confidence in thy obedience, I wrote unto thee, knowing that thou wilt also do 25:49.640 --> 25:51.280 more than I say. 25:51.280 --> 25:56.600 But withal, prepare me also a lodging, for I trust that through your prayers I shall 25:56.600 --> 25:57.520 be given unto you. 25:58.100 --> 26:04.100 There salutes the epharis my fellow prisoner in Christ Jesus, Marcus, our 26:04.100 --> 26:09.580 Archers, Demas, Lucas, my fellow laborers, the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be 26:09.580 --> 26:13.260 with you in spirit amen. Brother Stephen will you pray us in 26:13.260 --> 26:13.900 service? 26:29.500 --> 26:37.600 Amen. Let me read to you Romans chapter 12 verse number 10. The Bible says be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love in honor 26:38.280 --> 26:43.780 Preferring one another and the title of the sermon this morning is honor and shame 26:44.600 --> 26:52.600 honor and shame, because different cultures communicate things and handle conflicts differently. 26:52.600 --> 26:58.600 And who in here is familiar with the honor-shame culture versus the guilt-innocence culture? 26:58.600 --> 27:00.400 Who in here is familiar with that? 27:00.600 --> 27:02.900 Okay, a couple people here, kind of. 27:02.900 --> 27:05.800 Basically, in a guilt-innocence culture, 27:05.800 --> 27:07.800 the central questions tend to be, 27:07.800 --> 27:09.560 did I do something wrong? 27:09.560 --> 27:12.780 But in an honor-shame culture, it tends to be, 27:12.780 --> 27:15.800 have I brought honor or shame upon myself 27:15.800 --> 27:19.680 and the people around me, the people that I represent? 27:19.680 --> 27:21.360 Now, this doesn't mean that people 27:21.360 --> 27:25.140 from the honor-shame culture don't value honesty and truth. 27:25.140 --> 27:26.300 Neither does it mean that people 27:26.300 --> 27:28.600 from the guilt-innocence culture don't value 27:28.600 --> 27:31.800 value, honor, but the way they approach things 27:31.800 --> 27:34.280 can be pretty different. 27:34.280 --> 27:36.800 Now, in a guilt innocence culture, 27:36.800 --> 27:39.960 which is most Western European culture, 27:39.960 --> 27:44.040 it's highly individualistic, law-oriented. 27:44.040 --> 27:47.400 Suppose someone confronts you, hey, 27:47.400 --> 27:51.280 that you promised me to do this, but you didn't. 27:51.280 --> 27:55.160 And a guilt-oriented cultural response 27:55.400 --> 27:58.040 would be like, did I actually promise that? 27:58.040 --> 28:00.200 What exactly did I do wrong? 28:00.200 --> 28:02.800 Was I responsible for that? 28:02.800 --> 28:04.800 What rule did I violate? 28:05.900 --> 28:09.700 But if you establish that you didn't do anything wrong, 28:09.700 --> 28:14.740 the matter is largely resolved in a guilt innocence culture. 28:14.740 --> 28:18.700 The goal is vindication as well as innocence. 28:18.700 --> 28:23.300 That's why the Western disputes can be very much fact oriented. 28:23.300 --> 28:25.340 What exactly did he say? 28:25.340 --> 28:27.180 What does the contract say? 28:27.180 --> 28:29.140 Who violated the rule? 28:29.140 --> 28:29.980 Who is at fault? 28:30.700 --> 28:41.700 But in an honor shame culture, the person is understood much more strongly as part of a family, church, community, social hierarchy, or other groups. 28:41.700 --> 28:46.700 And your actions don't merely reflect upon you, but also reflect upon other people. 28:46.700 --> 28:57.700 So the question becomes, hey, how will this make us look? Am I embarrassing him publicly? Am I showing people the proper respect? Will he lose face? 28:58.300 --> 29:01.960 will this bring shame upon my family? 29:01.960 --> 29:04.920 So you can see how different culture operate 29:04.920 --> 29:07.020 when they confront some issue. 29:07.940 --> 29:10.800 So imagine that an older relative 29:10.800 --> 29:14.840 says something incorrect at a family gathering. 29:14.840 --> 29:18.440 A strong guilt-innocence oriented person 29:18.440 --> 29:20.720 might think he is factually wrong, 29:20.720 --> 29:22.800 so I'm gonna correct him right there. 29:23.200 --> 29:25.940 But an honor shame oriented person may think, 29:25.940 --> 29:28.320 even if he is wrong, correcting him publicly 29:28.320 --> 29:31.560 would embarrass him, so I talk to him privately. 29:31.560 --> 29:33.560 Okay, so these are the different cultures. 29:33.560 --> 29:36.680 And the second person is now saying 29:36.680 --> 29:40.080 that truth doesn't matter, but he's also considering 29:40.080 --> 29:44.240 an additional issue that he's also thinking about 29:44.240 --> 29:47.000 the person's honor and social standing. 29:47.000 --> 29:50.600 That's why in many Eastern or Asian cultures, 29:50.600 --> 29:51.200 maintaining harmony 29:51.200 --> 29:54.160 Harmony and allowing someone to save face 29:54.160 --> 29:57.880 can make communication more indirect. 29:57.880 --> 30:03.320 For example, suppose somebody invites you to go somewhere. 30:03.320 --> 30:06.400 And a very American style response 30:06.400 --> 30:09.080 would be, no, I can't come. 30:09.080 --> 30:10.880 Pretty direct. 30:10.880 --> 30:14.240 But an indirect response might be like, 30:14.240 --> 30:15.700 that might be a little difficult. 30:16.400 --> 30:21.160 Contextually, it actually means no in an honor shame culture. 30:21.160 --> 30:24.440 By the way, they're not really lying because it may indeed be difficult to go, 30:24.440 --> 30:27.840 but instead of saying no, they say it's not convenient for me, 30:27.840 --> 30:30.960 you know, because that's still true, right? 30:30.960 --> 30:33.000 The other example is, you know, someone may ask you, 30:33.000 --> 30:35.160 would you like some more food? 30:35.160 --> 30:36.560 You say no. 30:36.560 --> 30:37.900 They ask again. 30:37.900 --> 30:39.240 You say no. 30:39.240 --> 30:40.400 They ask again. 30:40.400 --> 30:41.600 And now you accept. 30:42.100 --> 30:45.580 And from a very literal guilt innocence culture, 30:45.580 --> 30:47.900 this can look pretty ridiculous, right? 30:47.900 --> 30:50.260 Why don't you just say yes? 30:50.260 --> 30:53.700 And who in here is familiar with the Chinese dinner bill 30:53.700 --> 30:55.220 war? 30:55.220 --> 30:57.580 Chinese dinner bill war. 30:57.580 --> 30:59.340 So the bill arrives, right? 30:59.340 --> 31:02.500 And then the Chinese person A is like, I'll pay. 31:02.500 --> 31:04.380 Person B is like, absolutely not. 31:04.380 --> 31:05.580 I will pay. 31:05.580 --> 31:07.500 Person A is like, no, no, no, no. 31:07.500 --> 31:08.300 You are my guest. 31:08.300 --> 31:08.820 I will pay. 31:09.200 --> 31:11.120 Person B is like, give me the bill. 31:11.120 --> 31:13.240 I'll pay. 31:13.240 --> 31:15.040 That's the Chinese bill war. 31:15.040 --> 31:18.560 By the way, that's really common in China. 31:18.560 --> 31:21.840 Pretty much every big meal ends up like this. 31:21.840 --> 31:24.240 So now two grown adults are physically 31:24.240 --> 31:25.700 wrestling over the check. 31:27.000 --> 31:29.960 By the way, it's very common in an honor shame culture. 31:29.960 --> 31:32.960 But then the American will be like, hey, person A is like, 31:32.960 --> 31:33.920 I will pay. 31:33.920 --> 31:36.040 Person B is like, OK, you can pay. 31:38.600 --> 31:42.920 But to the Chinese, this is very, very rude. 31:42.920 --> 31:45.960 But to the Americans, well, he offered to pay, 31:45.960 --> 31:48.520 so why are you arguing about that? 31:48.520 --> 31:52.040 So the Chinese people, they see the initial refusal 31:52.040 --> 31:55.360 as part of demonstrating generosity 31:55.360 --> 31:57.800 and just avoiding appealing entitles. 31:58.800 --> 32:06.000 Also comments about your weight, age, income, marriage, children can be much less taboo 32:06.000 --> 32:13.480 in an honor shame culture than the contemporary American culture. 32:13.480 --> 32:17.000 For example, maybe a Chinese in-law sees you after 10 years. 32:17.000 --> 32:18.640 Wow, you get really fat. 32:20.800 --> 32:24.360 The Americans are like, what in the world? 32:24.360 --> 32:26.600 And then the English will tell you, come inside. 32:26.600 --> 32:28.400 I made you food to eat. 32:28.400 --> 32:32.080 But then the Americans are like, why would I eat more? 32:32.080 --> 32:34.640 Because you just call me fat. 32:34.640 --> 32:37.440 By the way, it's actually very normal for Chinese English 32:37.440 --> 32:41.040 to tell you, yeah, you got fat and blah, blah, blah. 32:41.040 --> 32:44.640 Because comments about your weight, age, it's less taboo. 32:44.640 --> 32:45.140 OK? 32:45.500 --> 32:49.780 Then they'll be like, you are 20 years old already. 32:49.780 --> 32:51.620 Why don't you have kids yet? 32:51.620 --> 32:55.100 They will say things like to their in-laws. 32:55.100 --> 32:57.820 And then Americans are like, nice seeing you too. 33:00.820 --> 33:04.540 Or a husband will be like, where do you want to eat? 33:04.540 --> 33:08.260 And then the wife is like, anywhere is fine. 33:08.260 --> 33:11.480 And then the husband is like, McDonald's? 33:11.480 --> 33:11.980 No. 33:12.400 --> 33:13.700 Taco Bell? 33:13.700 --> 33:14.500 No. 33:14.500 --> 33:15.580 Chinese food? 33:15.580 --> 33:16.420 No. 33:16.420 --> 33:19.340 I thought anywhere was fine. 33:19.340 --> 33:22.140 So you can see by understanding different cultures, 33:22.140 --> 33:25.580 you can potentially avoid a lot of conflicts. 33:25.580 --> 33:27.500 Go to Proverbs 29. 33:27.500 --> 33:29.000 Proverbs 29. 33:30.200 --> 33:32.400 I think Brother Frank will agree with me, 33:32.400 --> 33:34.960 because I believe some of the Korean culture may be similar. 33:34.960 --> 33:36.800 But different cultures are different. 33:36.800 --> 33:40.320 But however, neither culture is inherently biblical 33:40.320 --> 33:41.800 or unbiblical. 33:41.800 --> 33:45.640 Both can produce virtues as well as serious problems. 33:45.640 --> 33:49.040 And guilt culture can produce strong ideas of justice, 33:49.040 --> 33:54.360 personal accountability, and just objective standards. 33:54.360 --> 33:57.960 But it can also become hyper-individualistic. 33:57.960 --> 33:58.200 Bill. 33:58.200 --> 34:02.760 they will say things like, I didn't technically break a rule, 34:02.760 --> 34:05.760 so who cares how I treated everyone? 34:05.760 --> 34:08.200 All they care is about the facts, facts, facts, 34:08.200 --> 34:11.280 confrontation, but an honor shame culture 34:11.280 --> 34:15.400 can produce respect, loyalty, humility, family, 34:15.400 --> 34:20.120 responsibility, and being sensitive toward other people, 34:20.120 --> 34:22.980 but it can also become obsessed with. 34:23.200 --> 34:26.840 with appearances. 34:26.840 --> 34:28.880 That's why we should look at this biblically, 34:28.880 --> 34:32.440 because the Bible actually contains both cultures. 34:32.440 --> 34:35.280 Although, I will say this, that the Bible is actually 34:35.280 --> 34:39.820 more honor shame oriented than most American Christians 34:39.820 --> 34:41.320 realize. 34:41.320 --> 34:43.720 And the Bible certainly doesn't teach us 34:43.720 --> 34:45.800 to live for the approval of men. 34:45.800 --> 34:48.720 You're in Proverbs 29, look at verse 25. 34:48.720 --> 34:50.360 Proverbs 29, verse 25. 34:51.300 --> 34:53.300 The Bible says this, 34:53.300 --> 34:57.300 The fear of men bringeth a snare, 34:57.300 --> 35:00.300 but whoso putteth his trust in the Lord shall be safe. 35:00.300 --> 35:03.300 We should not be afraid of what men think about us 35:03.300 --> 35:06.300 if we are doing what is true, right? 35:06.300 --> 35:08.300 But neither does the Bible teach 35:08.300 --> 35:13.300 I don't care about, you know, what anybody thinks about me. 35:13.300 --> 35:16.300 Go to Proverbs 22. Proverbs 22. 35:17.400 --> 35:18.520 Look at verse number one. 35:18.520 --> 35:20.760 Proverbs 22 verse one says this. 35:20.760 --> 35:23.120 A good name, that's your reputation. 35:23.120 --> 35:26.280 A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches 35:26.280 --> 35:28.960 and love in favor rather than silver and gold. 35:28.960 --> 35:32.080 So the Bible brings a balance of both. 35:32.080 --> 35:34.200 Don't seek for the approval of men, 35:34.200 --> 35:37.100 but also, hey, you need to have a good reputation. 35:37.500 --> 35:46.500 I feel like most Europeans and Americans focus a lot on themselves and they completely forget about respect and honor. 35:46.600 --> 35:51.300 Because most western culture, they would despise authority, right? 35:51.300 --> 35:56.200 Children mouth up to their parents and wife disrespect their own husbands. 35:56.200 --> 36:03.400 But I think an honor-shamed culture, even the Chinese culture, even though they are pretty much unsaved for the most part, 36:03.400 --> 36:07.900 but they do respect their parents. They do respect their authority. 36:08.100 --> 36:11.020 And there's such thing as biblical honor, 36:11.020 --> 36:15.060 and there's also such thing as biblical shame. 36:15.060 --> 36:16.140 Turn to Romans chapter 12. 36:16.140 --> 36:18.700 Romans chapter 12. 36:18.700 --> 36:22.300 So this morning, let's talk about honor and shame. 36:22.300 --> 36:26.900 Point number one, the Bible recognizes honor and shame. 36:26.900 --> 36:29.180 The Bible recognizes honor and shame. 36:29.180 --> 36:32.320 Romans 12, look at verse number 10. 36:32.320 --> 36:33.820 Romans 12, 10 says this. 36:35.300 --> 36:42.660 be kindly affection one to another with broadly love, in honor preferring one another. 36:42.900 --> 36:50.300 So the Bible commands us to honor each other, because the natural human tendency is to prefer ourselves, right? 36:50.300 --> 36:56.500 Because we want our opinions to be respected, we want our accomplishments to be recognized, 36:56.500 --> 37:01.200 and we want our position to be acknowledged, we want our feelings to be considered, 37:01.200 --> 37:05.100 but the Bible says in honor, preferring one another. 37:05.500 --> 37:09.500 In essence, hey, bring yourself to their level, okay? 37:09.500 --> 37:12.500 Don't think of yourself too highly. 37:12.500 --> 37:14.500 Go to Romans 13. 37:14.500 --> 37:18.500 Let me read to you Philippians chapter 2, verse number 3. 37:18.500 --> 37:21.500 Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory, 37:21.500 --> 37:23.500 but in lowliness of mind, 37:23.500 --> 37:27.500 let each esteem other better than themselves. 37:27.500 --> 37:29.300 Bring yourself low. 37:29.400 --> 37:36.840 So instead of asking how much honor am I receiving, hey ask, am I showing proper honor to other people? 37:37.600 --> 37:41.840 And different relationships require appropriate honor. 37:41.840 --> 37:45.720 Romans 13 verse 7 says, render therefore to all their dues, 37:45.720 --> 37:48.200 tribute to whom tributes, due, custom to whom custom, 37:48.200 --> 37:51.360 fear to whom fear, honor to whom honor. 37:51.360 --> 37:53.360 Different people hold different position, 37:53.360 --> 37:56.080 and we should give them their proper respect, 37:56.080 --> 37:59.280 their proper honor, even though you may not like them, 37:59.280 --> 38:02.640 but respect their positions. 38:03.900 --> 38:06.900 turn to Leviticus chapter 19. 38:06.900 --> 38:08.600 Leviticus chapter 19. 38:10.900 --> 38:15.060 For example, different positions can be children should honor their parents, right? 38:15.060 --> 38:23.540 The Bible says, honor thy father and thy mother, that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee. 38:23.540 --> 38:27.220 Now the most western culture really struggles at this. 38:27.500 --> 38:33.500 Here, people, you know, obviously I'm not talking about everyone, but here people just put their elderly parents to nursing homes. 38:33.500 --> 38:38.000 But in most Eastern culture, they really take care of their parents when they are old. 38:38.000 --> 38:42.000 To me, that is biblical, right? We should take care of our parents if they can't support themselves. 38:42.000 --> 38:45.500 You know, that's an honorable thing to do. 38:45.500 --> 38:51.000 Even though they may not be safe, you should still honor your parents. Amen. 38:51.000 --> 38:55.000 Also, young people should honor the elderly. 38:55.900 --> 38:57.900 Leviticus 19, look at verse 32. 38:59.420 --> 39:01.420 Leviticus 19, verse 32. 39:01.420 --> 39:02.620 The Bible says this, 39:03.900 --> 39:05.900 Thou shalt rise up before the holy head. 39:05.900 --> 39:09.900 That means people who have white hair, you know, elderly persons, 39:09.900 --> 39:13.900 and honor the face of the old man, and fear thy God. I am the Lord. 39:13.900 --> 39:16.900 You should fear God and honor the elderly. 39:17.800 --> 39:21.900 Now, most people struggle at this too, especially in the Western culture, because they have 39:21.900 --> 39:23.860 no respect towards the elderly. 39:23.860 --> 39:27.420 Some even mock them and do pranks on them. 39:27.420 --> 39:28.480 That shows they don't fear the Lord. 39:29.000 --> 39:30.920 We should honor the elderly. 39:30.920 --> 39:33.560 Hey, it's a great practice. 39:33.560 --> 39:36.000 Maybe you are going to a restaurant. 39:36.000 --> 39:39.480 And when an elderly man come, hey, just stand up 39:39.480 --> 39:42.560 as a gesture of respect. 39:42.560 --> 39:46.660 Some people even raise up when a woman comes in. 39:46.660 --> 39:48.920 To me, that's an honorable thing to do as well. 39:48.920 --> 39:51.960 Go to 1 Timothy chapter 5, 1 Timothy chapter number 5. 39:57.000 --> 40:00.840 Children should honor their parents and young people should honor the elderly. 40:02.280 --> 40:04.280 And the Bible, you know, 40:04.920 --> 40:09.200 defines being elderly as people 60 year old and you know older, right? 40:09.200 --> 40:15.040 By the way, the phrase, rebuke not an elder, the primary context is not actually not, 40:15.040 --> 40:19.060 is actually not talking about the pastor, but elderly men. 40:19.700 --> 40:21.180 Because if you look at the context, 40:21.180 --> 40:23.940 hey, younger women, younger men, right? 40:23.940 --> 40:28.460 So we should not rebuke an elderly man as well as 40:28.460 --> 40:29.900 a pastor elder. 40:29.900 --> 40:35.660 So we should also honor widows who are widows indeed. 40:35.660 --> 40:37.460 1 Timothy chapter 5, verse 3. 40:37.460 --> 40:39.020 1 Timothy 5.3 says this. 40:39.600 --> 40:42.160 Honor widows that are widows indeed. 40:42.160 --> 40:47.520 Now the Bible gave us more criteria of who are the widows indeed. 40:47.520 --> 40:51.840 You know, widows who are 60 years old and 60 years and older, 40:51.840 --> 40:55.760 plus with different criteria, we should honor widows indeed. 40:55.760 --> 40:58.320 We should also honor elders or pastors. 40:58.320 --> 41:01.120 Look at verse 17. Verse 75 says this, 41:01.120 --> 41:04.720 Let the elders that rule well become worthy of double honor, 41:04.720 --> 41:07.520 especially those who labor in the word and doctrine. 41:07.600 --> 41:08.480 You know? 41:08.480 --> 41:10.560 So we should respect elders. 41:10.560 --> 41:12.060 We should respect pastors. 41:12.060 --> 41:13.020 We should pay them well. 41:13.020 --> 41:15.440 We should respect their position. 41:15.440 --> 41:19.580 Go to 1 Peter chapter 3, 1 Peter chapter number 3. 41:19.580 --> 41:22.320 By the way, part of the definition of the word 41:22.320 --> 41:25.960 elder does have a financial aspect to that, right? 41:25.960 --> 41:28.080 Provide for your parents, provide for the widows, 41:28.080 --> 41:29.400 and provide for the elders. 41:29.400 --> 41:29.900 OK? 41:31.300 --> 41:33.300 So children should honor their parents, 41:33.300 --> 41:35.340 and young people should honor the elderly. 41:35.340 --> 41:37.420 We should honor widows who are widows indeed. 41:37.420 --> 41:39.660 And we should honor elders or pastors. 41:39.660 --> 41:41.740 We should honor our spiritual leaders. 41:41.740 --> 41:45.380 But also, husbands need to give honor unto their wives. 41:45.380 --> 41:47.300 1 Peter chapter 3, look at verse number 7. 41:47.500 --> 41:51.900 1 Peter 3, 7 says this, likewise ye husbands, 41:51.900 --> 41:54.020 dwell with them according to knowledge, 41:54.020 --> 41:57.540 giving honor unto the wife as unto the weaker vessel, 41:57.540 --> 42:00.660 and as being heirs together of the grace of life, 42:00.660 --> 42:02.620 that your prayers be not hindered. 42:02.620 --> 42:04.760 The Bible literally says if you don't honor your wife, 42:04.760 --> 42:06.820 if you don't dwell them according to knowledge, 42:06.820 --> 42:08.900 God may not answer your prayer. 42:09.100 --> 42:11.100 By the way, this is not feminism. 42:11.100 --> 42:13.100 This is a biblical manliness. 42:13.100 --> 42:16.100 Husband needs to pay honor and respect to their wives. 42:16.100 --> 42:23.100 They are literally your helpmate and raising up the next generation. 42:23.100 --> 42:27.100 When you are gone, that's why you should honor them. 42:27.100 --> 42:28.900 You should provide for them well. 42:29.800 --> 42:35.400 Husbands should praise their wives and honor them. Hey, don't treat your wife as second-class citizens 42:35.520 --> 42:42.820 Their job is not only in the kitchen to make you a sandwich. So stop making those jokes that degrade biblical 42:43.480 --> 42:45.480 motherhood 42:45.480 --> 42:49.400 We should honor any God or then authorities including the government 42:50.300 --> 42:52.380 That's in the context of Romans 13, 42:52.380 --> 42:54.020 honor to whom honor is due. 42:54.020 --> 42:55.920 So many Americans focus on themselves 42:55.920 --> 42:59.940 and use their liberty for an occasion to the flesh. 42:59.940 --> 43:02.260 They disobey the law just because they 43:02.260 --> 43:04.700 want to fulfill their lust. 43:04.700 --> 43:06.700 They can eat their apple pie all they want. 43:06.700 --> 43:08.580 I hate apple pies, by the way. 43:08.580 --> 43:10.900 By the way, that's my opinion. 43:10.900 --> 43:13.700 I'm not trying to explain the church. 43:13.700 --> 43:16.540 Good if I leave in chapter one, finally means chapter one. 43:17.700 --> 43:22.040 Some people may pull that clip up and trying to attack me, 43:22.040 --> 43:24.000 but anyway. 43:24.000 --> 43:26.280 So I believe there should be honor between children 43:26.280 --> 43:28.240 and parents, between husbands and wives, 43:28.240 --> 43:30.680 toward elderly people, toward authorities, 43:30.680 --> 43:33.820 toward church leadership, toward fellow Christians, 43:33.820 --> 43:36.240 and even toward people in general. 43:36.800 --> 43:39.840 The Bible says in 1 Peter 2 verse number 17, 43:39.840 --> 43:45.120 honor all men, love the brotherhood, fear God, honor the king. 43:45.120 --> 43:47.600 Right? We should pay people their due honor. 43:48.480 --> 43:54.240 We live in a culture where disrespect is often disguised as authenticity. 43:55.040 --> 43:59.520 They will say things like, well, I just tell it like it is. 44:00.320 --> 44:02.320 Translate, I have no discretion. 44:02.960 --> 44:03.920 I have no tact. 44:04.400 --> 44:06.760 I don't care whom I embarrass. 44:06.760 --> 44:09.760 By the way, newer Christians often struggle like that. 44:09.760 --> 44:13.200 They will be imbalanced on what they say. 44:13.200 --> 44:15.800 They will usually knee jerk to the extreme side. 44:15.800 --> 44:18.720 But we need to use discretion, and we need to use tact. 44:20.200 --> 44:23.880 And being truthful does not mean being dishonorable. 44:23.880 --> 44:27.200 Let me just read to you Proverbs 15 verse 1. 44:27.200 --> 44:31.000 A soft answer turns away wrath, but the grievous words stir up 44:31.000 --> 44:31.680 anger. 44:31.680 --> 44:34.000 Proverbs 25 verse 11. 44:34.000 --> 44:36.920 A word faithfully spoken is like apples of gold 44:36.920 --> 44:38.680 in pictures of silver. 44:38.680 --> 44:40.960 The Bible cares not only whether you speak truth, 44:40.960 --> 44:43.360 but also whether you know how and when to speak it. 44:45.000 --> 44:48.580 So I said point number one, the Bible recognizes honor and shame. 44:48.580 --> 44:52.740 Point number two, honor can help us resolve conflict. 44:52.740 --> 44:55.180 Honor can help us resolve conflict. 44:55.180 --> 44:57.960 Now, I've gone through the Book of Philemon on Wednesday night, 44:57.960 --> 44:59.580 maybe a couple years ago. 44:59.580 --> 45:02.260 But the Book of Philemon really tells us 45:02.260 --> 45:05.600 about the honor shame culture in conflict resolution. 45:06.900 --> 45:08.140 Because I don't know if you know, 45:08.140 --> 45:09.940 the Bible is more Eastern, right? 45:09.940 --> 45:14.300 So the Bible does focus more on honor, shame, value. 45:14.300 --> 45:17.300 So long story short, the book of Philemon 45:17.300 --> 45:22.020 tells us a story that Onesimus was Philemon's servant. 45:22.020 --> 45:27.020 And you know, Onesimus had wronged Philemon in some way, 45:28.260 --> 45:29.340 and he left him. 45:29.340 --> 45:32.700 He may even have owed Philemon money and stolen from him. 45:33.000 --> 45:37.340 And somehow Onesimus came into contact with the apostle Paul 45:37.340 --> 45:38.900 while Paul was in prison. 45:38.900 --> 45:40.580 And Paul preached the gospel to him. 45:40.580 --> 45:44.580 And then he got Onesimus saved. 45:44.580 --> 45:47.220 And Paul then sent Onesimus back to Philemon 45:47.220 --> 45:51.740 with this letter, pleading to Philemon to receive him back, 45:51.740 --> 45:55.020 not merely as a servant, but now as a beloved brother 45:55.020 --> 45:56.140 in Christ. 45:56.140 --> 45:57.660 Philemon chapter 1, conversion rate. 45:58.400 --> 46:06.400 So the whole context of the book is Paul pleading by Liban to receive the servant who has defrauded him back. 46:06.800 --> 46:11.140 Philemon 1.8 says this, wherefore, though I might be much 46:11.140 --> 46:14.420 bold in Christ to enjoin thee, that which is convenient, 46:14.420 --> 46:16.740 the way enjoining is to urge or to press you. 46:16.740 --> 46:19.300 Translate, Apostle Paul was telling Philemon, 46:19.300 --> 46:22.340 I could have ordered you or pressed you 46:22.340 --> 46:26.300 to receive on SMS back. 46:26.300 --> 46:27.540 I could have done that. 46:27.540 --> 46:29.700 I could have pressed you, urged you, commended you, 46:29.700 --> 46:31.460 but look at verse number 9. 46:31.460 --> 46:32.540 Yet for love's sake. 46:33.000 --> 46:35.600 That's a very honor shame response. 46:35.600 --> 46:38.300 Yet for love's sake I rather besiege thee, 46:38.300 --> 46:41.000 being such and one as Paul the agent, 46:41.000 --> 46:44.400 and now also a prisoner of Jesus Christ. 46:44.400 --> 46:46.300 Notice what Paul was saying. 46:46.300 --> 46:47.700 But because I love you, 46:47.700 --> 46:51.000 I'm not going to force you, urge you, or even command you. 46:51.000 --> 46:53.900 I'm just going to ask you or entreat you. 46:54.200 --> 46:55.780 Look at verse number 10. 46:55.780 --> 46:58.760 I beseech thee for my son Onesimus, 46:58.760 --> 47:00.020 whom I have begotten in my bounds, 47:00.020 --> 47:05.020 meaning he got him saved, which in time past was to thee 47:07.020 --> 47:09.960 unprofitable, but now profitable to thee and to me, 47:09.960 --> 47:13.100 whom I have sent again, thou therefore receive him, 47:13.100 --> 47:16.600 that is my own bowels, whom I would have retained with me, 47:16.600 --> 47:18.860 that in thy stead he might have ministered unto me 47:18.860 --> 47:21.260 in the bounds of the gospel, but without. 47:21.700 --> 47:28.940 But without thy mind would I do nothing, that thy benefit should not be, as it were of necessity, 47:28.940 --> 47:30.900 noticed but willingly. 47:31.600 --> 47:36.120 So Paul wanted to send him back just to benefit him. 47:36.120 --> 47:40.720 And Paul wanted Philemon to get him back not of necessity 47:40.720 --> 47:43.280 or duty, but willingly. 47:43.280 --> 47:46.440 So Paul, being an apostle and the spiritual leader 47:46.440 --> 47:48.960 of Philemon, had every right to say, hey, 47:48.960 --> 47:51.080 you need to receive him back right now. 47:51.900 --> 47:54.620 But he didn't do that in this case. 47:54.620 --> 47:58.700 He made an appeal to Philemon to allow 47:58.700 --> 48:00.340 him to do the right thing. 48:00.340 --> 48:04.100 You can apply the same principle to the husband and wife. 48:04.100 --> 48:06.500 The Bible says in Ephesians chapter 5, verse 22, 48:06.500 --> 48:08.940 wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands 48:08.940 --> 48:10.660 as unto the Lord. 48:10.660 --> 48:13.300 So wives are supposed to submit and obey their husbands, 48:13.300 --> 48:14.940 just like they are supposed to obey God. 48:15.400 --> 48:21.400 So if the husband tells the wife to do something, the wife should treat it as a commandment of God. 48:21.400 --> 48:25.400 And the husband has every right to command his wife to do certain things. 48:25.400 --> 48:30.400 However, you don't always have to start out a conversation by saying, 48:30.400 --> 48:33.400 I command you to take out the trash. 48:33.900 --> 48:38.700 Even though they have the right to do so, but for love's sake, hey, let's besiege them as well, right? 48:39.220 --> 48:44.520 Possessing authority does not mean you have to constantly emphasize your authority. 48:45.000 --> 48:47.560 Now, there's nothing wrong with asserting your authority 48:47.560 --> 48:49.880 if your wife is not listening, right? 48:49.880 --> 48:52.920 There's nothing wrong with saying, hey, I'm your husband, 48:52.920 --> 48:54.400 and you need to listen right now, 48:54.400 --> 48:58.200 if the wife is disobeying and just bugging your authority. 48:58.200 --> 49:01.440 But if your wife is being reasonable and nice, 49:01.440 --> 49:04.880 just say, can you take out the trash, please? 49:04.880 --> 49:06.680 By the way, if every time you tell your wife 49:06.680 --> 49:09.080 to do certain things, you'll be like, I commend you. 49:10.880 --> 49:12.240 That's kind of odd, right? 49:12.300 --> 49:18.600 Given maybe a wife is so like this obedient that you have to have your authority, you know, I'm not saying there's never a case, okay? 49:19.520 --> 49:24.860 Now the same principle can apply to husbands, parents, pastors, employers, and other authorities. 49:24.860 --> 49:31.040 A father doesn't need to start every sentence by saying, child, I commend you to put on my shoes. 49:32.380 --> 49:39.020 Usually, hey, put your shoes on. We are leaving. It is usually sufficient, right? 49:39.800 --> 49:47.300 The person under the authority owes submission and honor, but the person possessing the authority 49:47.300 --> 49:50.780 should exercise it with love and honor. 49:50.780 --> 49:52.780 Vol. 1, verse 15. 49:52.780 --> 49:54.780 Vol. 1, verse 15 says this, 49:54.780 --> 49:56.780 For perhaps he therefore 49:57.500 --> 49:59.660 referring to Onesimus, 49:59.660 --> 50:01.420 he therefore departed for a season 50:01.420 --> 50:03.340 that thou shouldest receive him forever. 50:03.340 --> 50:06.220 Hey, maybe he left you so that he could be saved, 50:06.220 --> 50:09.420 and now you can receive him as a brother in Christ forever, right? 50:09.420 --> 50:10.860 Look at verse number 16. 50:10.860 --> 50:13.820 Not now as a servant, but above a servant, 50:13.820 --> 50:17.580 a brother beloved, especially to me, 50:17.580 --> 50:21.100 but how much more unto thee, both in the flesh and in the Lord? 50:21.100 --> 50:24.700 So maybe he left you and came to me so that he could be saved, 50:24.700 --> 50:25.460 Now he's no- 50:25.500 --> 50:28.660 no longer a servant but your fellow brother in the Lord, 50:28.660 --> 50:31.000 so can you receive him back? 50:32.100 --> 50:35.980 But then Paul appealed to his relationship with Philemon, 50:35.980 --> 50:38.180 again a very honor shame response. 50:38.180 --> 50:39.920 Look at verse 17. 50:39.920 --> 50:42.580 If thou count me therefore a partner, 50:42.580 --> 50:44.860 receive him as thyself. 50:44.860 --> 50:45.940 Essentially Paul was saying, 50:45.940 --> 50:48.620 think about our relationship. 50:48.620 --> 50:50.200 Relationship matters, folks. 50:50.800 --> 50:54.720 And sometimes, rather than being forceful on someone, 50:54.720 --> 50:57.920 you can say things like this, hey, I'm your father. 50:57.920 --> 50:59.080 I care about you. 50:59.080 --> 51:00.000 Lying is wrong. 51:00.000 --> 51:02.640 Please don't do it again. 51:02.640 --> 51:04.000 Hey, I'm your pastor. 51:04.000 --> 51:05.920 I know what you're going through. 51:05.920 --> 51:08.680 And I've watched so many people going through the same thing. 51:08.680 --> 51:09.880 I care about you. 51:09.880 --> 51:11.240 And I don't want you to see. 51:11.800 --> 51:14.080 I don't want to see you to make a decision that you 51:14.080 --> 51:15.480 are going to regret. 51:15.480 --> 51:17.360 So I'm asking you to listen to me on this. 51:17.360 --> 51:19.560 Please don't go down that road. 51:19.560 --> 51:21.920 Versus saying, hey, I'm the pastor, 51:21.920 --> 51:23.720 so you need to do what I say. 51:23.720 --> 51:26.520 Now, this certainly has a place, especially 51:26.520 --> 51:29.720 when someone needs a clear warning or a clear rebuke, 51:29.720 --> 51:30.240 right? 51:30.240 --> 51:32.760 But that shouldn't be every single time. 51:32.760 --> 51:33.000 Yeah. 51:33.100 --> 51:38.620 Okay, and God asserted his authority from you know time to time right you know I am the Lord 51:38.620 --> 51:44.540 There's nothing wrong with that, but God also used reasons appeals invites warnings as well as persuasions 51:45.420 --> 51:47.420 finally man one look at verse 18 51:48.220 --> 51:55.480 Volume 118 says this if he has wronged thee you know if he has stolen from you or all the art if he odes 51:55.900 --> 51:57.980 Anything put that on my account 51:58.600 --> 52:00.940 I, Paul, have written it with my own hand. 52:00.940 --> 52:06.900 I will repay it, albeit I do not say to thee how thou oweest unto me even thine own self 52:06.900 --> 52:07.900 besides." 52:07.900 --> 52:11.060 Notice what Paul is saying here. 52:11.060 --> 52:16.060 If you are concerning about how much he has stolen from you, let me just pay for it. 52:16.060 --> 52:19.740 Just put it on my account, but don't forget, you owe me everything. 52:22.400 --> 52:24.400 The book is hilarious, by the way. 52:24.400 --> 52:26.200 Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, 52:26.200 --> 52:28.600 if your servant has tamed the father you stole from you, 52:28.600 --> 52:30.280 let me pay for it, but don't forget, 52:30.280 --> 52:33.360 you owe me everything, Philemon. 52:33.360 --> 52:36.280 Look at verse 20. 52:36.280 --> 52:39.800 Ye brother, let me have joy of thee in the Lord, 52:39.800 --> 52:41.800 refresh my bowels in the Lord, 52:41.800 --> 52:45.120 have confidence in thy obedience I wrote unto thee, 52:45.120 --> 52:47.800 knowing that thou wilt also do more than I say. 52:49.800 --> 52:51.540 To me, that's a really interesting way 52:51.540 --> 52:53.640 to convince someone to do what's right. 52:53.640 --> 52:56.420 And Paul didn't say, hey, I know you are probably 52:56.420 --> 52:58.540 going to be selfish about this. 52:58.540 --> 53:00.780 And Paul essentially said this, I 53:00.780 --> 53:02.360 know what kind of Christian you are. 53:02.360 --> 53:03.860 I believe you'll do the right thing. 53:03.860 --> 53:07.860 In fact, I believe you will do more than I'm asking. 53:07.860 --> 53:12.420 So Paul essentially gave Philemon a reputation 53:12.420 --> 53:17.340 to live up to rather than simply a reputation to defend. 53:17.340 --> 53:17.600 Yeah. 53:17.700 --> 53:19.700 Okay, look at verse 22. 53:20.020 --> 53:23.260 Verse 22 is hilarious as well if you get what he's saying. 53:23.540 --> 53:29.700 But with all, prepare me also a lodging, for I trust that through your prayers I shall be given unto you. 53:30.380 --> 53:34.360 Oh, by the way, get my guest room ready because I'm coming. 53:35.960 --> 53:42.780 Now Paul didn't say, I'm coming to make sure you did what I told you, but... 53:43.400 --> 53:46.440 But if I'm Philemon reading this letter, 53:46.440 --> 53:49.800 I'll be thinking, man, I better get this thing right 53:49.800 --> 53:51.760 before Paul gets here. 53:51.760 --> 53:56.520 Because he's like, get my room ready, I'm coming to you. 53:56.520 --> 54:00.240 So notice the wording that Paul is asking Philemon 54:00.240 --> 54:01.320 to do the right thing. 54:01.320 --> 54:04.200 Receive onesimus like you would receive me. 54:04.200 --> 54:06.720 If he owes you anything, I'll pay for it, 54:06.720 --> 54:09.040 not that I'm mentioning how you owe me your own self. 54:09.700 --> 54:11.700 I'm confident you will pay. 54:11.700 --> 54:13.740 In fact, I know you will do more than I say. 54:13.740 --> 54:17.820 Oh, by the way, get my room ready because I'm coming. 54:17.820 --> 54:19.500 So here's something really practical 54:19.500 --> 54:21.500 when dealing with conflicts. 54:21.500 --> 54:22.800 Get people a way out. 54:23.500 --> 54:24.820 get people away out. 54:24.820 --> 54:28.100 And that's super important in marriage, church, family, 54:28.100 --> 54:33.180 friendship, because sometimes we will corner people, right? 54:33.180 --> 54:35.120 And we will publicly confront them, 54:35.120 --> 54:37.860 and we force them to admit that they were wrong. 54:37.860 --> 54:41.140 We will make sure that everyone knows that we won. 54:41.140 --> 54:45.060 And then we are surprised when they become defensive. 54:45.060 --> 54:46.660 When they become defensive. 54:48.100 --> 54:49.100 The Bible says, 54:49.100 --> 54:53.100 Pride goeth before destruction, 54:53.100 --> 54:55.100 and unholy spirit before it fall. 54:55.100 --> 54:56.100 So just ask yourself, 54:56.100 --> 54:58.100 do I want reconciliation, 54:58.100 --> 55:00.100 or do I simply want victory? 55:00.100 --> 55:02.100 Now, there are situations when 55:02.100 --> 55:05.100 public rebukes are necessary. 55:05.100 --> 55:07.100 But if it's a personal offense, 55:07.100 --> 55:08.100 if you love your brother, 55:08.100 --> 55:10.100 you would not want to humiliate him 55:10.100 --> 55:12.100 in front of everyone else. 55:12.100 --> 55:13.100 Because you love him, 55:13.100 --> 55:14.100 and that you honor him. 55:14.900 --> 55:17.360 you know, turn it over to Romans chapter six. 55:17.360 --> 55:19.020 Romans chapter number six. 55:20.700 --> 55:24.620 Sometimes, rather than telling my wife a hard no, 55:24.620 --> 55:28.000 I will say things like, that wouldn't be convenient. 55:28.000 --> 55:29.720 Or that seems too complicated. 55:29.720 --> 55:32.920 Now, sometimes she didn't get a hint, 55:32.920 --> 55:35.780 but I mean the wife will be like, just like in general, 55:35.780 --> 55:38.240 I mean the wife will be like, what do you think about this? 55:38.240 --> 55:40.140 What about doing this? 55:40.140 --> 55:42.800 And then the husband is like, that wouldn't be convenient. 55:42.900 --> 55:46.660 But what I really mean is, no, I don't think we should do it. 55:46.660 --> 55:48.300 But when the wife hears that, she's 55:48.300 --> 55:51.660 like, there are some logistical difficulties, 55:51.660 --> 55:54.180 but we can make it more convenient. 55:54.180 --> 55:56.180 But in my mind, I wouldn't say no. 55:56.180 --> 55:59.300 But in her mind, hey, you've literally never said no. 55:59.300 --> 56:01.300 All I said is, that wouldn't be convenient. 56:01.300 --> 56:03.660 Again, that's how different cultures operate. 56:03.660 --> 56:05.160 So. 56:06.600 --> 56:10.320 So I said point number one, the Bible or God 56:10.320 --> 56:11.680 recognizes honor and shame. 56:11.680 --> 56:14.400 Point number two, honor can help us resolve conflict. 56:14.400 --> 56:18.320 Point number three, there is a proper and improper use 56:18.320 --> 56:19.320 of shame. 56:19.320 --> 56:23.200 There is a proper and improper use of shame. 56:23.200 --> 56:25.680 See, our society often treats all shame 56:25.680 --> 56:29.160 as inherently harmful, but the Bible doesn't. 56:29.160 --> 56:31.560 And sometimes people ought to be shamed. 56:31.560 --> 56:33.160 Romans chapter 6, look at verse 20. 56:34.000 --> 56:40.000 Romans 6 20 says this, For when ye were the servants of sin, ye were free from righteousness. 56:40.000 --> 56:43.920 Will fruit have thee then in those things, whereof ye are now ashamed? 56:43.920 --> 56:45.920 For the end of those things is death. 56:46.600 --> 56:49.840 Notice what Paul was telling those Christians, 56:49.840 --> 56:53.480 when you got saved, you will no longer serve in sin 56:53.480 --> 56:56.560 because you have the freedom to not sin, right? 56:56.560 --> 56:58.400 So why are you still doing those things 56:58.400 --> 57:00.800 that condemn you to hell in the first place? 57:00.800 --> 57:02.120 Shame on you. 57:02.120 --> 57:04.080 Why are you still sinning? 57:04.080 --> 57:04.760 Shame on you. 57:04.760 --> 57:06.080 You ought to be ashamed. 57:06.080 --> 57:08.000 Go to 1 Corinthians chapter 6. 57:08.000 --> 57:09.800 1 Corinthians chapter number 6. 57:15.800 --> 57:19.800 1 Corinthians chapter number 6, look at verse number 5. 57:22.600 --> 57:25.240 1 Corinthians 6, 5. 57:25.240 --> 57:26.700 I speak to your shame. 57:26.700 --> 57:29.080 Is it so that there is not a wise man among you? 57:29.080 --> 57:31.920 No, not one that shall be able to judge between his brethren. 57:31.920 --> 57:33.880 But brother goeth to law with brother, 57:33.880 --> 57:35.480 and that before the unbelievers. 57:35.480 --> 57:37.280 It's actually the Paul was telling them, hey, 57:37.280 --> 57:38.520 you should know better than this. 57:38.520 --> 57:41.120 How dare you sue your brethren? 57:41.120 --> 57:42.400 Shame on you. 57:42.400 --> 57:43.880 Do the right thing. 57:43.880 --> 57:46.920 Go to 1 Corinthians 15, 1 Corinthians chapter 15. 57:50.100 --> 57:53.540 Look at verse 34, 1 Corinthians 15, verse 34. 57:53.540 --> 57:56.740 The Bible says this, 57:56.740 --> 57:59.740 Awake to righteousness 57:59.740 --> 58:02.900 and sing not. For some 58:02.900 --> 58:07.400 have not knowledge of God, I speak this to your shame. 58:07.700 --> 58:09.860 So there are two ways to look at this. 58:09.860 --> 58:11.200 Essentially, Paul was telling them, 58:11.200 --> 58:13.300 hey, wake up and stop sinning, 58:13.300 --> 58:17.000 and some of you are ignorant of the knowledge of God. 58:17.000 --> 58:19.200 You know, that's like preachers would say things like, 58:19.200 --> 58:21.900 hey, if you've been saved for years, 58:21.900 --> 58:24.700 but you haven't even read the Bible for one time, 58:24.700 --> 58:25.900 you ought to be ashamed. 58:26.500 --> 58:32.420 Amen? So there's nothing wrong with that. But verse 24, you know, I believe the primary context is in 58:32.420 --> 58:37.860 referring to the Corinthian, there are people around them who are denying the resurrection. 58:37.860 --> 58:42.980 Those people were not saved to begin with. So the other way to view this is you're supposed to be 58:42.980 --> 58:48.820 God's people, yet there are people around you who, you know, who don't know about God. Hey, shame on you. 58:49.100 --> 58:51.260 People who don't have the knowledge of God, right? 58:51.260 --> 58:53.060 Shame on you for not spreading the word. 58:53.060 --> 58:55.700 Because the context is about people denying the resurrection. 58:55.700 --> 58:59.620 Although you can apply the other application, too. 58:59.620 --> 59:01.780 Go to 2nd Thessalonians chapter 3. 59:01.780 --> 59:03.740 2nd Thessalonians chapter number 3. 59:06.360 --> 59:11.380 So shame can be a tool for people to get right. 59:11.380 --> 59:15.100 The goal should be repentance and not just humiliate them. 59:15.900 --> 59:18.940 You're insane, that's what we're in chapter three. 59:18.940 --> 59:21.860 Look at verse 14, second, that's what we're in chapter three. 59:21.860 --> 59:23.180 Verse 14 says this. 59:24.740 --> 59:29.220 And if any man obey not our word by this epistle, 59:29.220 --> 59:31.740 know that man and have no company with him 59:31.740 --> 59:33.340 that he may be ashamed. 59:33.700 --> 59:37.700 Everyone who deserves to be kicked out ought to be ashamed. 59:37.700 --> 59:41.200 Verse 15 says, yet count him not as an enemy, 59:41.200 --> 59:43.500 but admonish him as a brother, 59:43.500 --> 59:45.580 because you want him to get right. 59:45.580 --> 59:48.900 Let him be ashamed, but don't have fellowship with him, 59:48.900 --> 59:50.780 but don't treat him as your enemy. 59:50.780 --> 59:51.620 Why? 59:51.620 --> 59:55.420 Because the objective is not just for him to be destroyed 59:55.420 --> 59:56.920 and never get right. 59:56.920 --> 59:58.740 The final goal is restoration. 59:59.900 --> 01:00:02.900 So when you're correcting someone, ask yourself, 01:00:02.900 --> 01:00:04.100 am I trying to help him? 01:00:04.100 --> 01:00:05.420 Am I trying to restore him? 01:00:05.420 --> 01:00:07.660 Or am I just trying to embarrass him? 01:00:07.660 --> 01:00:10.060 Am I telling other people because they need to know 01:00:10.060 --> 01:00:12.660 or because I enjoy having the upper hand? 01:00:12.660 --> 01:00:14.620 What's your end goal, right? 01:00:14.620 --> 01:00:16.780 Have some honor shame culture. 01:00:16.780 --> 01:00:19.060 Go to Matthew 23, Matthew 23. 01:00:21.500 --> 01:00:27.740 Point number four. Don't seek honor for yourself. Don't seek honor for yourself. 01:00:27.740 --> 01:00:31.500 Now this is where the honor shame culture becomes dangerous. 01:00:31.500 --> 01:00:36.140 Because honor itself is not wrong, but seeking honor from other men is wrong. 01:00:37.020 --> 01:00:40.380 Matthew 23, look at verse 5. Matthew 23 verse 5 says this, 01:00:40.380 --> 01:00:46.220 But all their works they do for to be seen of man. 01:00:46.700 --> 01:00:51.500 They make bra their phylacteries and enlarge the borders of their garments. 01:00:51.500 --> 01:00:56.460 You know, those, you know, false prophets, priests, bishops, whatever, 01:00:56.460 --> 01:01:01.740 they purposefully wear those, you know, fancy clothing, right? Enlarge their borders and their garments. 01:01:01.900 --> 01:01:04.900 And verse number six, and love the uppermost rooms 01:01:04.900 --> 01:01:07.980 at feast and the chief seats in the synagogues, 01:01:07.980 --> 01:01:11.580 and greetings in the markets, and to be called a man rabbi. 01:01:11.580 --> 01:01:15.420 So their whole life revolved around how people perceived them. 01:01:15.420 --> 01:01:17.820 They purposely wear fancy clothes 01:01:17.820 --> 01:01:21.020 and just to be seen of men. 01:01:21.020 --> 01:01:23.700 You can apply that to, you know. 01:01:25.600 --> 01:01:32.480 Today's age that people post every single deed online and when you give money to a homeless person 01:01:32.720 --> 01:01:34.720 You know first you have to get a camera out 01:01:36.280 --> 01:01:41.820 You help someone struggling, but you know you have to make sure that everyone around you know that you are helping them 01:01:42.560 --> 01:01:49.040 Because you know they think if nobody's if nobody saw me being charitable did I even do charity? 01:01:51.400 --> 01:01:55.720 You know, someone can just read the Bible, you know, 01:01:55.720 --> 01:01:58.220 the Bible, the coffee, and then the highlighter, 01:01:58.220 --> 01:02:00.640 and the notebook need to be perfectly positioned 01:02:00.640 --> 01:02:03.640 for the picture. 01:02:03.640 --> 01:02:06.680 Or that every time they pray, or they fast, 01:02:06.680 --> 01:02:10.360 or they serve at church, everyone needs to hear about it. 01:02:10.360 --> 01:02:13.680 And Jesus Christ specifically addressed doing all this work 01:02:13.680 --> 01:02:15.960 to be seen of men to seek men's praise. 01:02:17.100 --> 01:02:20.600 Or like you may be like the humble brag. 01:02:20.600 --> 01:02:23.820 The humble brag, they'll be like, I'm so exhausted. 01:02:23.820 --> 01:02:25.840 I had to preach six times this week 01:02:25.840 --> 01:02:28.260 and counsel so many people. 01:02:28.260 --> 01:02:31.920 So it sounds like complaining, but the real message may be, 01:02:31.920 --> 01:02:36.120 hey, please notice how important or hardworking I am. 01:02:36.120 --> 01:02:37.520 Go to John chapter five. 01:02:37.520 --> 01:02:38.940 John chapter five. 01:02:40.100 --> 01:02:43.300 Or they will say things like, I don't normally talk about this, 01:02:43.300 --> 01:02:48.940 but I fell led to share that I gave $5,000. 01:02:48.940 --> 01:02:55.060 Well, apparently, you do want to talk about it. 01:02:55.060 --> 01:02:57.340 John chapter 5, look at verse 43. 01:02:57.340 --> 01:03:01.620 John 5, 43 says this. 01:03:01.620 --> 01:03:05.100 I am coming in my father's name, and ye receive me not. 01:03:05.600 --> 01:03:08.760 If another shall come in his own name, 01:03:08.760 --> 01:03:11.480 him he will receive, how can he believe, 01:03:11.480 --> 01:03:13.200 which receive honor one of another, 01:03:13.200 --> 01:03:15.680 and seek not the honor that comeeth from God only? 01:03:16.900 --> 01:03:19.280 Notice Jesus Christ is not teaching honor, 01:03:19.280 --> 01:03:22.160 doesn't matter, he's teaching that you are seeking honor 01:03:22.160 --> 01:03:23.840 from the wrong audience. 01:03:23.840 --> 01:03:27.760 Hey, let God honor you, let God praise you, right? 01:03:27.760 --> 01:03:29.640 Go to John chapter 12, John chapter 12. 01:03:30.600 --> 01:03:34.600 By the way, never let the fear of shame stop you from doing what's right. 01:03:34.600 --> 01:03:35.100 Right. 01:03:35.100 --> 01:03:36.800 John chapter 12, look at verse 42. 01:03:36.800 --> 01:03:38.400 John 12, 42 says this, 01:03:38.400 --> 01:03:42.600 Nevertheless, among the chief rulers also many believed on him. 01:03:42.600 --> 01:03:46.400 But, because of the Pharisees, they did not confess him, 01:03:46.400 --> 01:03:49.200 lest they should be put out of the synagogue. 01:03:49.200 --> 01:03:54.000 Notice in verse 42, some of the chief rulers are actually saved. 01:03:54.600 --> 01:04:01.600 They believe in Christ, but they were afraid of getting kicked out of the synagogue and losing their status, so they hid their faith. 01:04:02.100 --> 01:04:04.660 They did not admit that they were Christians. 01:04:04.660 --> 01:04:06.260 By the way, this proves that there 01:04:06.260 --> 01:04:08.020 could be saved people in Catholic church 01:04:08.020 --> 01:04:10.660 due to their social pressure. 01:04:10.660 --> 01:04:11.940 But if they agree their doctrine, 01:04:11.940 --> 01:04:12.780 they are not saved. 01:04:12.780 --> 01:04:15.580 But some people go there just because of the family pressure, 01:04:15.580 --> 01:04:18.980 just because they take the honor and shame to the extreme. 01:04:18.980 --> 01:04:20.700 They are afraid of men. 01:04:20.700 --> 01:04:22.420 So that's what the chief rulers are. 01:04:22.420 --> 01:04:25.780 They are afraid of getting kicked out of the synagogues. 01:04:25.780 --> 01:04:26.940 Look at verse 43. 01:04:26.940 --> 01:04:27.740 Here's the reason. 01:04:27.740 --> 01:04:30.100 For they love the praise of men more than the praise of God. 01:04:30.100 --> 01:04:34.100 So they are ashamed of being Christians. 01:04:34.100 --> 01:04:38.100 By the way, we should never be ashamed of telling people that we are Christians. 01:04:38.100 --> 01:04:41.100 Hey, don't be ashamed of praying at your work before lunch. 01:04:41.100 --> 01:04:44.100 Don't be ashamed of telling people about Jesus. 01:04:44.100 --> 01:04:46.100 Don't be ashamed of your God, okay? 01:04:46.100 --> 01:04:48.100 Don't be ashamed to carry your Bible. 01:04:48.100 --> 01:04:52.100 Don't be ashamed to tell somebody that you go to church. 01:04:52.100 --> 01:04:55.100 Hey, don't be ashamed to tell people that you go to shoot foundation Baptist Church. 01:04:55.100 --> 01:04:56.100 Amen. 01:04:57.200 --> 01:05:00.200 And don't compromise what you believe 01:05:00.200 --> 01:05:04.960 because you are afraid of your friends who may laugh at you. 01:05:04.960 --> 01:05:08.480 Turn to Luke 14. 01:05:08.480 --> 01:05:10.880 The Bible says in Mark 8, verse 38, 01:05:10.880 --> 01:05:13.680 whosoever therefore shall be ashamed of me and of my words 01:05:13.680 --> 01:05:17.040 in this adulterous and sinful generation of pain 01:05:17.040 --> 01:05:19.520 also shall the Son of Man be ashamed, 01:05:19.520 --> 01:05:22.720 for he cometh in the glory of his Father with the holy angels. 01:05:23.000 --> 01:05:26.000 Now it's talking about that you will lose your rewards because you are shameful, 01:05:26.000 --> 01:05:30.000 that you are ashamed of Jesus Christ and the Word of God. 01:05:30.000 --> 01:05:36.000 So we should never preserve our reputation by lying. 01:05:36.000 --> 01:05:39.000 Never compromise scripture to avoid embarrassment. 01:05:39.000 --> 01:05:42.000 Never refuse to apologize because you will lose face. 01:05:42.000 --> 01:05:46.000 Sometimes the most honorable words you can say are, 01:05:46.000 --> 01:05:48.000 I was wrong. 01:05:48.000 --> 01:05:49.300 Maybe I'm wrong. 01:05:49.700 --> 01:05:51.160 I see where you're coming from. 01:05:51.160 --> 01:05:54.280 That's the most honorable thing to do. 01:05:54.280 --> 01:05:57.200 Luke 14, we'll have verse number 7. 01:05:57.200 --> 01:05:59.000 Luke 14, verse 7 says this. 01:05:59.800 --> 01:06:04.800 and he put forth a parable to those which were bidden, 01:06:04.800 --> 01:06:07.400 when he marked how they chose out the chief room, 01:06:07.400 --> 01:06:10.080 saying unto them, when thou art bidden of any man 01:06:10.080 --> 01:06:13.480 to a wedding, sit not down in the highest room, 01:06:13.480 --> 01:06:17.000 lest a more honorable man than thou be bidden of him. 01:06:17.000 --> 01:06:19.820 And he that bathe thee and him come and say to thee, 01:06:19.820 --> 01:06:22.880 give this man place, and thou begin with shame 01:06:22.880 --> 01:06:24.180 to take the lowest room. 01:06:24.500 --> 01:06:30.100 So just imagine the embarrassment when you sit at the highest room, you know, the center seat, 01:06:30.100 --> 01:06:32.900 and then the president walks in and then you have to move. 01:06:33.000 --> 01:06:34.500 Right? 01:06:34.500 --> 01:06:37.220 So look at verse number 10. 01:06:37.220 --> 01:06:40.900 But when thou art bidden, go and sit down in the lowest room, 01:06:40.900 --> 01:06:43.860 that when he that bathe cometh him may say unto thee, friend, 01:06:43.860 --> 01:06:45.300 go up higher. 01:06:45.300 --> 01:06:47.980 Then shalt thou have worship in the presence of them 01:06:47.980 --> 01:06:49.420 that sit at me with thee. 01:06:49.420 --> 01:06:50.820 What's the principle? 01:06:50.820 --> 01:06:54.300 Instead of seizing honor, allow someone else to give it to you. 01:06:55.100 --> 01:06:58.780 To me, in most Asian Chinese culture, 01:06:58.780 --> 01:07:00.500 when we are at the restaurant, the chief seat 01:07:00.500 --> 01:07:03.260 is reserved to the head of the house. 01:07:03.260 --> 01:07:06.500 It's reserved to the elderly men. 01:07:06.500 --> 01:07:09.900 And so to me, that's a good practice. 01:07:09.900 --> 01:07:14.860 Luke 14, verse 11 says, for whosoever exalted himself 01:07:14.860 --> 01:07:17.780 shall be abased, and he that humbled himself shall be 01:07:17.780 --> 01:07:18.340 exalted. 01:07:19.000 --> 01:07:24.000 Turn to Proverbs 25. Proverbs 25. 01:07:24.000 --> 01:07:27.000 James 4.10 says, 01:07:27.000 --> 01:07:30.000 Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, 01:07:30.000 --> 01:07:33.000 and he shall lift you up. 01:07:33.000 --> 01:07:35.000 Proverbs 25. 01:07:35.000 --> 01:07:38.600 Look at verse number 6. Proverbs 25, verse number 6. 01:07:44.200 --> 01:07:47.160 So you can see the Bible is pretty honor shame oriented, right? 01:07:47.160 --> 01:07:48.960 Proverbs 25, look at verse number 6. 01:07:48.960 --> 01:07:49.600 Ahem. 01:07:50.300 --> 01:07:53.100 Put not forth thyself in the presence of the king, 01:07:53.100 --> 01:07:55.380 and stand not in the place of great men. 01:07:55.380 --> 01:07:57.780 For better it is that it be said unto thee, 01:07:57.780 --> 01:08:01.060 come hither, than that thou shouldest be put lower 01:08:01.060 --> 01:08:04.340 in the presence of the prince whom thine eyes have seen. 01:08:04.340 --> 01:08:06.140 Same principle. 01:08:06.140 --> 01:08:07.740 Allow someone to give you the honor, 01:08:07.740 --> 01:08:09.380 allow someone to give you the position, 01:08:09.380 --> 01:08:11.020 but don't seek praise of yourself, right? 01:08:11.020 --> 01:08:12.500 Let another man praise thee. 01:08:12.500 --> 01:08:15.140 Let another man give you honor, 01:08:15.140 --> 01:08:17.900 and most importantly, hey, we should seek honor from God. 01:08:18.400 --> 01:08:21.200 And don't constantly demand recognition, okay? 01:08:21.200 --> 01:08:24.000 Don't be offended every time when somebody forgets your name, 01:08:24.000 --> 01:08:26.660 when somebody doesn't realize what you did, 01:08:26.660 --> 01:08:29.640 when somebody else gets praise, gets a promotion, 01:08:29.640 --> 01:08:32.480 when someone else gets acknowledged. 01:08:33.400 --> 01:08:37.740 Let God honor you because our responsibility is humility. 01:08:38.720 --> 01:08:41.360 Go to Hebrews 12, Hebrews 12. 01:08:43.400 --> 01:08:46.760 So I said point number one, the Bible recognizes honor and shame. 01:08:46.760 --> 01:08:50.160 Point number two, honor can help us resolve conflicts. 01:08:50.160 --> 01:08:53.840 Point number three, there's a proper and improper use of shame. 01:08:53.840 --> 01:08:56.640 Point number four, don't seek honor for yourself. 01:08:56.640 --> 01:09:02.320 Lastly, point number five, Jesus took our shame and gave us honor. 01:09:02.320 --> 01:09:06.400 Jesus took our shame and gave us honor, because ultimately honor and shame 01:09:06.400 --> 01:09:07.680 point us to Jesus Christ. 01:09:08.300 --> 01:09:12.000 And sin doesn't just make us guilty, sin is also shameful. 01:09:12.000 --> 01:09:16.000 That's why Apostle Paul was rebuking the Roman Christians by saying that, 01:09:16.000 --> 01:09:20.100 hey, you were doing those things, whereof ye are now ashamed. 01:09:20.100 --> 01:09:22.600 Right? Sin caused shame. 01:09:22.900 --> 01:09:25.780 But in contrast, Jesus Christ endured the shame. 01:09:25.780 --> 01:09:28.180 Romans, Hebrews 12, look at verse number two. 01:09:28.180 --> 01:09:30.260 Hebrews 12, two says this. 01:09:30.260 --> 01:09:33.980 Looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, 01:09:33.980 --> 01:09:35.740 who for the joy that was set before him, 01:09:35.740 --> 01:09:37.780 endured the cross, don't miss this, 01:09:37.780 --> 01:09:40.380 despising the shame, and is sat down 01:09:40.380 --> 01:09:42.700 at the right hand of the throne of God. 01:09:42.700 --> 01:09:45.540 So Jesus Christ wasn't just killed, 01:09:45.540 --> 01:09:49.020 he was stripped, mocked, spat upon, beaten, 01:09:49.020 --> 01:09:52.900 given a crown of thorns, and publicly crucified. 01:09:52.900 --> 01:09:55.580 In Isaiah 50, verse number six, the Bible says, 01:09:55.580 --> 01:09:58.620 I give my back to the smithers and my cheeks 01:09:58.620 --> 01:10:00.420 to them that pluck off the hair. 01:10:00.420 --> 01:10:03.620 I hid not my face from shame and spitting. 01:10:03.620 --> 01:10:06.020 So Jesus Christ, he went through the shame 01:10:06.020 --> 01:10:07.660 that we brought upon him, right? 01:10:07.660 --> 01:10:08.620 And he gave us honor. 01:10:09.800 --> 01:10:11.800 That is salvation. 01:10:11.800 --> 01:10:13.800 20 Philippians chapter 2. 01:10:13.800 --> 01:10:16.800 Philippians chapter number 2. 01:10:16.800 --> 01:10:19.800 So really, honor and shame point us to Jesus Christ 01:10:19.800 --> 01:10:23.800 because sin brought us shame, but Jesus Christ gave us honor. 01:10:23.800 --> 01:10:28.800 And because he endured the shame, and because he brought himself down, 01:10:28.800 --> 01:10:31.800 he went from humiliation to exaltation. 01:10:32.400 --> 01:10:35.520 Philippians chapter 2, let's look at the famous passage about Christ. 01:10:35.520 --> 01:10:38.760 Philippians 2 verse number 6 says this, 01:10:38.760 --> 01:10:41.420 Philippians 2, 6, 01:10:41.420 --> 01:10:44.640 Who, Jesus, being the form of God, 01:10:44.640 --> 01:10:46.880 thought it not robbery to be equal with God, 01:10:46.880 --> 01:10:49.080 but made himself of no reputation, 01:10:49.080 --> 01:10:51.240 and took upon him the form of a servant, 01:10:51.240 --> 01:10:53.240 and was made in the likeness of man. 01:10:53.700 --> 01:10:54.700 That's why the Bible says, 01:10:54.700 --> 01:10:56.700 "...cognizant to man of low estate." 01:10:56.700 --> 01:10:58.700 He brought himself down, verse 8, 01:10:58.700 --> 01:11:00.200 "...and being found in fashion as a man, 01:11:00.200 --> 01:11:03.200 he humbled himself and became obedient unto death, 01:11:03.200 --> 01:11:04.700 even the death of the cross. 01:11:04.700 --> 01:11:08.200 Wherefore God also had highly exalted him." 01:11:08.200 --> 01:11:11.200 He brought himself down, but God gave him honor, right? 01:11:11.200 --> 01:11:14.200 "...and giving him a name which is above every name, 01:11:14.200 --> 01:11:16.700 that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow 01:11:16.700 --> 01:11:19.700 of things in heaven and things in earth and things under the earth, 01:11:19.700 --> 01:11:21.700 and that every tongue should confess that Jesus Christ is..." 01:11:21.700 --> 01:11:24.420 as Lord, to the glory of God the Father. 01:11:24.420 --> 01:11:28.060 So Christ was the perfect example of taking shame 01:11:28.060 --> 01:11:30.460 and seeking honor from God the Father, right? 01:11:30.460 --> 01:11:32.780 Likewise, we should bring our self-love, 01:11:32.780 --> 01:11:35.540 bring ourselves to other people's level, 01:11:35.540 --> 01:11:38.940 and seek honor from God. 01:11:38.940 --> 01:11:41.820 So in conclusion, I hope this sermon will help you learn 01:11:41.820 --> 01:11:44.320 how to deal with conflicts better, 01:11:44.320 --> 01:11:46.100 knowing more about the honor shame culture. 01:11:46.700 --> 01:11:48.940 It will certainly help you deal with me better, 01:11:48.940 --> 01:11:50.740 because I'm from China, OK? 01:11:50.740 --> 01:11:55.380 Because I'm mainly honor and shame type of verbiage, 01:11:55.380 --> 01:11:56.460 or like whatever. 01:11:56.460 --> 01:12:00.460 So Biblical speaking, there's nothing inherently wrong 01:12:00.460 --> 01:12:01.580 about honor. 01:12:01.580 --> 01:12:03.160 The Bible commands honor. 01:12:03.160 --> 01:12:07.260 There's nothing inherently wrong with recognizing shame either. 01:12:07.260 --> 01:12:10.620 The Bible sometimes tell people that they ought to be ashamed. 01:12:10.620 --> 01:12:13.380 The real question is, whose honor matters most to you? 01:12:13.700 --> 01:12:16.300 Don't live your life asking, 01:12:16.300 --> 01:12:19.100 what will everybody think about me? 01:12:19.100 --> 01:12:21.640 Ask yourself, what will God think about me? 01:12:22.500 --> 01:12:26.260 At the same time, don't use that as an excuse 01:12:26.260 --> 01:12:29.860 to be rude, disrespectful, tactless, 01:12:29.860 --> 01:12:33.260 or just unnecessarily humiliating toward other people. 01:12:33.700 --> 01:12:35.660 We should give honor to other people, 01:12:35.660 --> 01:12:37.420 but don't seek honor for yourself. 01:12:37.420 --> 01:12:40.300 Correct shameful behavior when necessary, 01:12:40.300 --> 01:12:42.740 but don't just humiliate people. 01:12:42.740 --> 01:12:45.940 Seek for restoration, and don't fear man's shame 01:12:45.940 --> 01:12:47.820 when obeying God. 01:12:47.820 --> 01:12:53.540 Humble yourself and let God exalt you. 01:12:53.540 --> 01:12:57.100 But above all, seek the honor that comes from God. 01:12:57.100 --> 01:12:58.300 Amen. 01:12:58.300 --> 01:13:00.020 Let's close in with a prayer. 01:13:00.020 --> 01:13:01.340 Thank you, Lord, for. 01:13:01.800 --> 01:13:05.240 for the Bible and thank you for taking our shame and give us honor. 01:13:05.240 --> 01:13:09.640 Lord, I pray that we'll learn to deal with conflict better, to learn how to deal with 01:13:09.640 --> 01:13:13.800 each other in perfect unity. And I pray this in Jesus name, Amen. 01:13:21.700 --> 01:13:28.660 Okay, page 139, your hymnal. We will finish with, I know whom I have believed. 139. 01:13:36.800 --> 01:13:47.300 I know not why God's wondrous grace to me he hath made known, 01:13:47.300 --> 01:13:58.100 nor why unworthy Christ in love redeemed me for his own. 01:13:58.600 --> 01:14:06.700 But I know whom I have believed and am persuaded 01:14:06.700 --> 01:14:15.440 That he is able to keep that which I've committed 01:14:15.440 --> 01:14:20.700 Unto him against that day 01:14:21.100 --> 01:14:32.380 I know not how this saving faith to me he did impart, 01:14:32.380 --> 01:14:43.220 nor how believing in his word brought grace within my heart. 01:14:43.800 --> 01:14:55.000 But I know whom I have believed in, and am persuaded that he is able 01:14:55.000 --> 01:15:06.100 to keep that which I've committed unto him against that day. 01:15:06.500 --> 01:15:18.000 I know not how the Spirit moves, convincing men of sin, 01:15:18.000 --> 01:15:29.300 revealing Jesus through His Word, negating faith in Him. 01:15:29.300 --> 01:15:34.300 But I know whom I have believed. 01:15:34.500 --> 01:15:40.300 And am persuaded that he is able 01:15:40.300 --> 01:15:46.000 To keep that which I've committed 01:15:46.000 --> 01:15:51.400 Unto him against that day 01:15:51.800 --> 01:16:02.800 I know not what of good or real may be reserved for me. 01:16:02.800 --> 01:16:13.800 Of weary ways or golden days before his face I see. 01:16:14.600 --> 01:16:23.000 But I know whom I have believed and am persuaded 01:16:23.000 --> 01:16:31.600 And he is able to keep that which I've committed 01:16:31.600 --> 01:16:37.100 Unto him against that day 01:16:37.600 --> 01:16:48.960 I know not when my Lord may come at night or noon unfair, 01:16:48.960 --> 01:16:59.760 nor if I walk the vale with him or meet him in the air. 01:17:01.100 --> 01:17:13.660 know whom I have believed and am persuaded that he is able to keep that 01:17:13.660 --> 01:17:22.800 which I've committed unto him against that day 01:17:23.500 --> 01:17:25.860 Okay, we'll just finish with a word of prayer here. 01:17:25.860 --> 01:17:29.100 Heavenly Father, we thank you so much for this day at church. 01:17:29.100 --> 01:17:31.700 Lord, thank you for bringing us all together. 01:17:31.700 --> 01:17:34.900 God, just be with us as we go soul-winding today 01:17:34.900 --> 01:17:37.340 and the afternoon service. 01:17:37.340 --> 01:17:38.500 Please bless us, Lord. 01:17:38.500 --> 01:17:39.460 We love and praise you. 01:17:39.460 --> 01:17:41.600 In Jesus' name we pray, amen.