Title of the sermon tonight is beauty is vain beauty is vain of course in Proverbs chapter 31
This is a great list of of attributes that ladies should aspire to have
Now I will say this about this chapter
This is something that is set up as a type of a bar to try and achieve
I mean the woman that's being described here is a great woman and these are things that I think sometimes ladies that are in church
They read this and they they think oh I'm doing this but I'm falling short here
And they feel like they have to accomplish all these things
This is a I think put in here as again as a standard to try and achieve
But it's not something that everybody's always going to just have down pat
It's something to aim for basically is what I'm saying, but it says there at the end it says in verse
29 many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excel ist them all
Favor is deceitful and beauty is vain but a woman that fear at the Lord
She shall be praised now obviously when you read chapter chapter Proverbs 31
And you're going to preach on beauty being vain you know that's typically a sermon that you would preach for women, but you know
Let's just get it right out get it right out in the open even today
There's a lot of men that are just obsessed with their looks. I mean it's it's gotten ridiculous
So it's like now even we have to preach the men that you know obsessing about your looks
Is vain and this is something that that that men are falling into more and more
You know they're constantly worried about how they look they're prepping and preening
They're making sure all the the clothes match they have to have the ensemble put together before they walk out the door
I mean I had friends like this growing up
I mean he would take longer than my wife does to go anywhere
We'd be it would like be like an hour of him
Just you know making sure the right cologne on and all the clothes match
And you have to stand in front of the mirror make sure the hat was just so before he walked out the door and
It was actually you know what it is is it's a feminine
You know a man that it sits there and spends so much time on his looks is an effeminate quality
Men should not be so obsessed with their looks
Not so obsessed making sure everything matches now
This is where wives come in great for guys like me because I managed to walk out the door and something that looks like
Okay, somebody helped him do that
You know he he matches and one of you know one of the things about you know
I'll tell you about my wife one of the things that actually attracted her to me is
The fact that I had no fashion style whatsoever. I had no clue how to dress at all
You should see the picture that she had of me when she was when she was crushing on me
She'd taken this photo when I was working on the bus route
I'm coming off the bus and I'm standing next to my pastor and his son and she takes this picture
I mean my hair is just completely out and like it's just all puffy
You know how my hair gets when I don't when I don't cut
I mean the stuff on the next like coming around got like a neck scarf practically going, you know
This is me as a single guy. This is the guy she's attract
I'm shocked to people a you know what I mean?
And I mean, I'm wearing that I've got the tweed suit coat on with the leather
The leather elbows, you know and the one guy in church would always mock me and say hey professor. How you doing?
I'm like, what are you talking about?
He just laughed at me it wasn't I figured I was like a professor's jacket for reading, you know
And then I had the vest the woolen tweed vest underneath of it
And even that didn't match the the coat and the khaki pants that were too small
So, you know the pockets start to kind of flare out like that
They get the little crimp because that's that's how you know, you're that's how I figured out lots means
Your pants are too small when your pockets start to do that one shoe in the photo. I'm not kidding. It's literally untied
You think I'm joking it's the truth and that's what was on her nightstand or whatever in her mom's house
And you know that was that was the man of her dreams, you know
And after we started dating I asked her about that I said, why did you choose that photo because it's embarrassing
It makes a good sermon illustration now, but it was embarrassing at the time
And she said cuz I looked at you because she was a hairstylist for years
So she was used to these guys that were always coming in and had to you know
The pretty boys that had to just have everything just so and she's like I took one look at you and I knew
You had you were not that kind of guy
And I was like, yeah, that's obvious. I
Mean my fashion style is go find something that fits like this
Like you'll notice in all the YouTube videos blue shirt every time the only thing that changes is the tie
I had someone type like how many times do you preach in a day? Someone commented? I'm like I own several of the same shirt
You're like, oh like man this guy just preaching constantly how many times is he preaching a day like no I own five of these
Okay, five of these shirts five of these pants one suit coat, you know, it's one last thing
I have to think about because I'm not I'm not you know obsessed by you know, shocker. I'm not obsessed about my looks
You know, I don't care. Well if people are gonna say, you know examine my attire and say well that isn't that clashes
You know, that's not in style. I don't care because I'm not a feminine
Because I'm a man and that's something, you know when we start preaching about
Beauty being vain unfortunately, even today we have to bring it up and say look man, you know be a man
Don't get so obsessed about your looks
Now obviously, you know, they should at least make sure this is you know, comb the hair and walk out
You know, that's that's pretty much how I comb the hair just real quick and then we're done. We can walk out
We don't want to walk out looking like total slobs obviously, but I'm just saying there's some guys out there
They're just they're just way into fashion
They're just spending way too much time worrying up, you know, making sure everything is name-brand
They're getting it from the catalog making sure everything, you know
Got to get the designer shoes and the the right everything and put have a little ensemble put together
It's an effeminate attribute men should not have shoe closets
Okay, that's for women and either you know, even then even the women, you know who just obsessed with fashion, you know, it's vain
Beauty is vain. That is what the Bible says that if you're just obsessed with beauty
If you're just obsessed with having a look you're spending your life on vanity
It's meaningless. It's gonna go away. It's not gonna have any eternal value whatsoever
So if you look here in Proverbs chapter 31 actually go over to 2nd Kings chapter 9 2nd Kings chapter 9
You keep something in 2nd Kings chapter 9
I'm gonna add something in here real quick that I had before the service go over to Ecclesiastes chapter 7 Ecclesiastes chapter 7
You know people today get so obsessed with just trying to hide their flaws
you know and people are you know, so worried about what everybody else is going to think about how they look and
You know
Here's the thing about having flaws
whether it's a physical flaw or you know people have
Speech flaws in their speech sometimes or they have even disabilities or there's something wrong with them and every one of us
You know has something wrong, you know
Every one of us might have some kind of a physical flaw in our life
And here's what I want us to understand is that having physical flaws or any flaw really is something that'll actually make you a better
person
People that have it all all going for them, you know, they're just the best-looking. They're just have all the money
They just everything comes easy into them. They usually grow up to be rotten people
Because they can't sympathize with anybody. They don't have any humanity because that they're just why I look good. I've got all this
They just have all this advantage and they just think why doesn't everybody else?
Now obviously that's not always the case people can you know?
Be all that and still be good people but often it does ruin people
So don't don't get so obsessed about trying to hide your flaws or or obsessing about it or trying to cover it up or making?
Sure, nobody else notices some flaw that you might have because that flaw that you might get picked on about or teased over might actually be
What God uses to make you a better person?
Look at Ecclesiastes chapter 7 look at verse 1. It says a good name is better than precious ointment
You know more better than you know
Having the the the right cologne or the right perfume or having the right scent is to have a good name
You know, maybe that guy doesn't smell the best but man. He's a good guy
You know, maybe he maybe he's not the best-looking guy, but you know, he's somebody that I can confide in
He's somebody that can I can trust he's somebody that's gonna be there. He's a good person. He's a good man
It says a good name is better than precious ointment and the day of death and one of one's birth
It is better to go to the house of mourning to the go to the house of feasting
For that is the end of all men and the living will lay it to his heart. Look it's vanity
I mean, that's what Ecclesiastes is all about vanity of vanities sayeth the preacher
And the Bible says that beauty or an obsessing about beauty is vanity. And why is that?
Because the end of all men is to go to the house of mourning. The end of all men is death
And look, I don't care how good-looking you might think you are today. But when you get old, you're not gonna be good-looking
Everyone starts out good-looking and then it's just
you know
So it's vanity to sit there obsess about something
I'm gonna just sit here and try and improve on something that I didn't even do anything to achieve
I'm just gonna sit here and try to just obsess and make my life all about and prove something
That's just gonna continually go downhill my looks I didn't do anything to earn them except be born
and then you just make your life all about that and
It's something that's just gonna get harder and harder to maintain something
It's gonna get farther and farther away until one day you're gonna wake up and you know
What you're gonna you're gonna go the way of all the earth and you're gonna get wrinkly and old and gray
And that's that that is the end of all men
Look at verse 3. It says sorrow is better than laughter
sorrow is better than laughter and that's what the Bible says for by the sadness of the countenance of the heart is
The heart is made better by the sadness for by the sadness of the countenance. The heart is made better
He's saying look it's better to to to mourn and to weep and to be sorrow and to be sorrowful
And
To always be happy to always be laughing and to have everything to go just go perfectly in your life
Because by that the countenance of your heart is made better
You are made better by suffering and whenever we go through things in life that are hard and difficult
Or even tragic or we have some kind of a flaw or there's something they're always picked on about
You know
We should thank God for that because that's gonna be the thing that God uses to make you a better person
That's something that God is going to use to change the countenance of your heart and make you better
You know since I'm kind of picking on myself already, I'll just continue in that vein
You know, not only was I poor dresser. I
Was also as skinny as a rail up to the time I was about 25 and now I know that's hard to believe right
Thanks, I
Deserve that
It's true though, I was about to the time I was about right about I turned 25, you know metabolism changes
But I was like a hundred and sixty one hundred seventy pounds same height
I'm not gonna tell you what I weigh today. Okay, but when I was growing up, you know
It's just a real skinny kid and my dad. My nickname was toothpick
Hey toothpick, come here. Hey toothpick. I mean all the way through my teen years everything. It was just toothpick
You know that used to bother me, you know, and people used to make comments man. You're so skinny
Why don't you put some muscle on and and whatever, you know, and I used to used to bother me
But you know then then apparently something changed. I went from toothpick to like bowling pin, I guess
So, but you know what that being called that and going through that and being picked on and being teased
You know, it made me more like it made me a better person, you know, I'm not trying to brag on myself
But now when I see other people kind of you know
That are shy about their appearance or they feel like they're getting picked on, you know
I can I can you know sympathize with that person and I'm less likely to do that to somebody else except for Adam, you know
Cuz he can take it we go back and forth, you know
I don't I'm less likely to pick on people that are sensitive about things, you know
I'm not gonna go around mocking people for their physical appearance because I've been through that, you know
Maybe that's why God let me grow up a toothpick and turn into a bowling pin, you know
To try and you know, keep me humble
But if you would go back to 2nd Kings chapter 9 because again the title of sermon is beauty is vain
So we're just talking about the vanity of beauty and and typically this is something that that deals more with women because women
You know, they they're more concerned with their looks typically than men are
And so I just want to kind of talk about this tonight and just and look at a couple things but
It said there in Proverbs 31 that that favor is deceitful
You know when people are favored because of their looks they can become deceitful people they can actually use
Their good looks to to fool people and to confuse people and to to flatter people even
But it says there that favors deceitful and beauty is vain
so having good looks is something that deceitful people can actually use to their advantage and
You know, you'll see this with women women will use their good looks to kind of you know
get an advantage over people this this does happen and I think a great example of this is
You know in 2nd Kings there the woman Jezebel
Now there's another example. We won't look at you know, Delilah, you know who brought down the mighty Samson
You know if we all know that story, I don't think Samson went looking for an ugly woman
I think he went looking for a good-looking woman. I think Delilah was probably very nice to look at
I don't know how she dressed and all that March, but she seduced him, you know, and she used her favor
She used her beauty to what be deceitful and to bring down a mighty man of God
You know in 2nd Kings chapter 9
If you if you know who Jezebel is in the scripture, she's a wicked woman the wife of Ahab
Who did many terrible things in Israel?
But it says in second second Kings chapter 9 verse 30 when Jehu came to Jezreel
And I remember who Jehu was he was anointed by Elijah
To go to to go in and to you know
Bring the wrath of God and vengeance upon the house of Ahab and he did that and this is probably you know
Maybe it maybe I'm a little macabre up here
But this is probably one of my more favorite stories whenever I read this I just especially this section
Because Jezebel had it coming. I mean she's trying to kill Elijah. She's turning Israel over the prophets of Baal. She's a wicked woman
I mean we read about her this morning right where she went and killed a
Naboth right Naboth Naboth's vineyard
She brought out that she brought in the sons of Belial and she had him bear false witness and had an innocent man killed
So her husband could grow some herbs somewhere. This is a wicked woman. Okay, so she's got what's coming here in this passage
And it says in verse 30 and when Jehu was come to Jezreel after he's just cleaning house
You know Jezebel heard of it and she painted her face
So this is the she's hers that old J who's coming and he's gonna he's cleaning house he's gonna wreck
You know, she's he's bringing he's just gonna wreck some people cuz that's what he's been on. He's on the warpath
So what does she do?
Does she put ashes on her head and get some burlap on and try to repent? No, she paints her face
And that's interesting. She painted her face. It's talking about she put on makeup
and
Tired her head and looked out at a window now. Here's the thing about makeup
You know, I think this is like a personal standard people can wear whatever kind of makeup they want
But here, you know, here's the thing about makeup. You got to be careful with it
You know ladies and that shouldn't apply to any men
If it is, you know, there's the door
Here's the thing, you know
You know, I get that ladies want to doll themselves up and make themselves look nice
and I think that's you know
Every man has to decide what he wants his wife to do or what every man is gonna let allow what his daughters are gonna
Do in this area, but the one word of advice is this don't you know, what would have that song go?
You better go light on the powder and the paint or you'll end up looking like something you ain't
You know, and that's the truth
You know you put on all the makeup to cover everything up, you know
My wife used to wear makeup and and she she was you know, I hope she doesn't mind me sharing this
I probably should have asked her
Poor lady she goes through so much for having me up here
Hey, I've been picking on me. She can share a little bit in my agony, right?
Because you know ladies they have what's called blemishes this is a term I've learned
okay, we all know what a blemish is if you've if you're a later you've you've been married to one and
She would she'd say hey, I don't want to wear all this gaudy makeup
Can I but it's okay if I just you know cover my blunts like that's fine with me. Go ahead
you know and
What she found those when she actually quit using the makeup is the blemishes went away
I mean irony of ironies when you actually quit wearing makeup, you don't need it anymore. I
Don't know where I'm going with all that but it's worth noting right there that this woman
Jezebel who was wicked the first thing she thought of when she realized that God was gonna bring the hammer down was painting her
Face why because she's trying to be deceitful
she's trying to win people over with her beauty and
Tired her head. I mean she's she's doing up her hair and then she goes to the window and as J
Who entered in at the gate?
She said had Zimri peace who slew his master
And I love his response and he lifted up his face to the window and said who is on my side who he doesn't even
Respond to her. He just goes. All right, who is on my side who?
Right and they're looked out the out to him two or three eunuchs and he said throw her down
This is a great. I'm gonna read it. It's good. I love the story
Throw her down
So they threw her down and some of her blood was sprinkled on the wall and on the horses and he trode her underfoot
So she's coming. She's like, oh I got him right where I want him
She's got herself all dolled up had Zimri peace who slew his master
You know, she's just noodle necking up there and he doesn't even respond. He just says who's on my side
Oh, we are throw her down and then when she just splat
Blood goes everywhere and he just trode her underfoot. I mean who needs all these Hollywood movies. This stuff's great. This really happened
This is good stuff people. He's a all the Bible so crude
You know what? You like it plainer than that on your television. Yeah, you like it plainer that at the movie theater
Oh the Bible so crude, you know, whatever, you know, go watch another blow him up blood and guts horror movie
So he said so he then he just trod her underfoot
He's like not only is she just dead splattered all over the pavement. He's just like run over her with the chariot
And when he was coming he did eat and drink. I mean the guy just
Didn't even have it didn't even bother him a bit
Runs her right over why cuz she's a wicked woman and she had it coming
And he said go now this go see now this cursed woman and barrier
for she is a king's daughter and they went to barrier and
They found no more of her than the skull and the feet and the palms of her hands
Wherefore they came again and told them and he said this is the word of the Lord which he spake by the servant Elijah
The Tishbite saying in the portion of Jezreel shall the dogs eat the flesh of Jezebel and the carcass of Jezebel shall be as dung
Upon the face of the field in the portion of Jezreel
So that they shall say not they shall say so they shall not say this is Jezebel
I mean that was the end of that wicked woman and she went out looking pretty good and she went out
She was all dolled up, but it didn't do it again. What she was trying to do was be
deceitful
Because favor and beauty is deceitful and people will use this to their advantage
And you know, it's unfortunate because our culture puts emphasis on women being physically attractive above everything else
above everything else
The objectification of women is what our culture teaches and they say a woman has no worth other than the way she looks
That's our culture
Cannot get an amen that's the way it is
They put an emphasis on a woman being attractive rather than a woman being godly
Rather than a woman being a 30 Proverbs 31 woman
What they want a woman to be is this this this preconceived notion of beauty
they want women to have a certain figure and half a certain look and act a certain way and
If they're not that then they're of no worth, you know, and you know what that's not God's standard
God's standard is not the way you look because that's vanity
God's standard is your character your heart your spirit your service to God your the way you live your life
things that have lasting real value
That's where God puts the emphasis
You know our culture puts it in a completely wrong place
The Bible says as a jewel of gold and a swine snout so is a fair woman, which is without discretion
I mean that verse has always stuck with me for a very long time
You know when I was starting to look for you know, cuz when I was single, you know
And I was kind of looking for a wife and wanting to know what to look for. I
Made sure that you know now obviously I've said fairly well because I got a beautiful wife. I
Did you know and but I made sure I said look that's not gonna be the determining factor now
I think you should probably marry somebody that you're attracted to
You should and you know, that's because that's a big part of marriage
but I'm just saying this that that is not the most important thing in life and
And women that are just gonna be all about their looks and leave off everything else
there it's like putting us it's like it's like a it's like a swine putting a jewel of gold in its nose and
forgetting about the rest of itself
Forgetting about you know
Everything else all the other ugliness and and and and the filth that it wallows in and all the other
Character flaws and everything else that it has and it's just worried about the fairness the beauty
It's like a pig just you know
like oh making sure that they have this this little jewel of gold in its nose and
Not only that but you know another way you could look at that verse is that it's kind of a waste
It's kind of a waste and it'd be great if you had you know
That had the beauty and the character, you know, you had the jewel of gold instead of a swine, you know
He had that jewel of gold somewhere where it belongs
So, you know, we should not put the emphasis like the cult like our culture does on women be on beauty only
But women should seek to be godly. They should seek to be holy go over to 1st Peter chapter 3 1st Peter chapter 3
That's
What that jewel of gold in a swine snout is it's women trying to decorate
Something ugly
they're trying to make up for something else that's lacking poor character a
Lack of godliness a lack of the attributes that the Bible teaches we should have that lady should have
Look at 1st Peter chapter 3 and you know who can blame them because they're I mean the the culture pushes that and they're being taught
from just little girls
What what what really matters by the world?
They're not teaching them that you know that they're certainly not telling them to be subject to their husbands
Unless something's changed out there, but I'm certain that's not the case anymore
You know feminism is just running amok. He says here in 1st Peter chapter 3 verse 1
Likewise ye wives be in subjection to your own husbands
That if any obey not the word
They also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wise now
You just you'd lose people right there go preach that at ASU
Go preach that on some college campus somewhere that women are to be subject to their own husbands
you get run out of town on a rail and
Women they they bucket that I've known women
I have no pastors who's told me that they've gone to passages like that where it says women are to obey their own husbands
And they walk right up the pastor said oh, yeah, I blocked I scratched that right out of my Bible
Say look what I did preacher
I took a black marker, and I went because I don't like that well shame on you
That's too bad
You know you're gonna
You know what you are probably trying to do is you're probably gonna go home and put a jewel of gold on a swine snout
instead of trying to actually live what the Bible says
You're gonna. You're gonna try and you know it's actually take care of what really needs to be dolled up and decorated
You're gonna just emphasize on everything that doesn't matter looks beauty
vanity
He says wise be in subjection to your own husbands that if any obey not the word
They also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wise
While they behold your chase conversation coupled with fear whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of
Plating the hair and of wearing of gold and of putting on of apparel
He's saying don't let the adorning in your life be everything. That's external
Ladies don't make your life everything about just what can be seen with the eye
Don't get obsessed with beauty because it's vanity
But let it be the hidden man of the heart
That's what ladies should be that's because that's not vanity when ladies are actually trying to adorn the inner man in Christ
Because that then that which is not corruptible that's what's going to last that's what's going to carry on through eternity
You know and and ladies have a hard time with some of this stuff sometimes
But you know, there's a reward for the all this
And I think there's gonna be a lot of godly women who did their did their part scripturally obeyed the Word of God
They're gonna get to heaven and outshine a lot of men
They're gonna shout out shine probably a lot of preachers
Because it takes a lot to do that takes a lot of humility
It takes a real spirituality to actually practice this
He's saying look let it be the hidden man in the heart which is in which is that in that which is not corruptible even
The ornament of a meek and quiet spirit which is in the sight of God of great price
The Bible says that when a woman has a meek and quiet spirit the world would mock at that the world would laugh and say oh
You're a doormat
Obey your husband
Girl it's it's it's a new world. Yes, we can
That's
What they'd say they'd laugh at you if you said well, what do you want to do?
What do you want to be when you grow up?
I want to be I want to be subject to my own husband and have a meek and quiet spirit. Oh, you're so oppressed
That's what the world would tell you
Well, what God says is it's a great price
It's invaluable. You can't put a number on it
So
We should you know ladies need to get get make sure that you know, they're not spending their life in vanity
Trying to just you know adorn everything that's external
Now I'm not saying they have to you know, you know, stop doing their hair and putting on something nice
Every every you know, all the ladies don't need to show up next church service. Just hair some mass
And they're like, oh, I'm just adoring the inward man, brother, you know
Just completely let everything go
I'm not saying that I get it, you know, everyone think and when you preach this they all think
Oh, you just want me to wear some little house on the prairie dress or something
Do you know you can still be it godly you dress like a godly woman and still look nice and still be you know fashionable
And I remember my wife she struggled with that when she first started getting in church
She said I can't wear in some of these dresses that some of these ladies wear like
the grandma floral prints and everything
Some people can pull it off my wife wasn't into it
Then she met some ladies that kid that wore, you know, some some nice stuff
Some hip stuff whatever you want to call it. I don't know and she realized look you could it's not
It's not one extreme of the other that you can dress like a godly young woman and that you can you know
It's still ordained the inward the inward man, you know and not look like you just are like you're going to doubt on the Oregon Trail
You know
So what should women do who want to ordain the inward man if there's ladies out there today, you know that one or
You know ordain the inward man
They say, you know
I agree with you that you know, all of the external is just vanity and I'm tired of just spending my life chasing vanity
Something that just keeps fleeing away from me
Year after year, it gets harder and harder to just you know, try to make myself
Look the certain way and just spend your life chasing beauty, which is vanity
Where which where do I start I agree with you
Well, he says there. Likewise ye wives, you know, and this would apply obviously to the ladies that aren't saying that aren't married
You know marriage would be a good start, you know, find a godly man and get married be in subjection
You know that takes that's an adorning of the inward man being in subjection to your own husband's
May let him rule the house and call the shots and be the boss
You know, and again, I preach I've already preached on this recently about man, you know men need to do that
That's a great responsibility and if men fail to do that, you know late if you can't really blame a woman for
You know filling that vacuum
You say oh she's running the house. Yes, she is. But maybe that's because the man isn't what he needs to be
Because somebody's got a lead somebody has to and if the man's not gonna do it the woman will step up and do it
It's really not her fault
Now that's not always the case someone, you know, sometimes the women they they're gonna rule no matter what
You know, they're just they're just gonna put their foot down and a real man would put a stop to that
You say how how you know, well, that's another sermon
If you don't know then look any real man knows how okay
But he says be in subjection. It takes humility, right? That's an ordain
Adorning of the inward man ladies
That's not vain the world might mock at it
The world might scoff and call you a doormat or whatever, but God says that's by sight. That's a great price
Chased conversation, you know learn what is appropriate
You know learn how to say what's appropriate and not say inappropriate things
Have a chase conversation. I
Mean today and people talk it's like people are just they just talk about anything and everything they want to anymore
it's like it seems like just some subjects are just
No holds barred and you know, I'm just gonna say it
I don't think it's been a problem here, but I it has happened and it never should it's a little preventative maintenance right now
You know bedroom talk is not proper conversation even between ladies ever
You say who would ever do that it happens
That kind of talk should never take place among men or women
That's a very private thing. That's a very
You know that that should be kept between husband and wife
And if you if you ever hear somebody talking like that, you should rebuke them sharply and say I don't want to hear that
You keep that to yourself
chaste conversation
Learn what is appropriate to say and what it isn't that's an ordain. That's an adorning of the inward man
Meek and quiet spirit, you know learn learn to let your husband be your voice. Oh
Yeah
There I said it, you know, let your husband speak up for you. Let him lead
Adorning the hidden man
It's a lot easier to doll up the outward though, isn't it?
The world's not gonna mock you for that
The world's not gonna ridicule you if you spend your whole life just chasing vanity and ordaining the outward man
They're gonna say good job. That's the way to do it right there. You you show them you go girl
That's what they're gonna say
And you know and if people do that why cuz that's easier. That's the easy way
To just doll everything up now. I know it looks like I struggle
Right, but that's the truth. That's the ease that would be the easy path, you know, let me just invest in the outward
It's a lot harder at to adorn the inward man
But it's also much more valuable and quite frankly it makes you a much more beautiful person
You see some ladies that you know, you see some ladies she's you know
Just some babe just some good-looking woman and I often I'll think myself. I wonder what she's like to talk to you. I
Wonder if you could stand 30 seconds with her. I
Wonder what you know what she's read lately. I
Wonder how deep the intellect really goes there?
You
Know here's what ladies that need to ask themselves whose eye do you want to catch?
Whose eye or do you want to catch tonight? You want to catch the world's eye?
You want to catch some stranger's eye, which I've never understood
You know and I think a lot of a lot of ladies don't understand this is that men are looking
They think oh I'm just gonna dress this way because it feels nice and it just makes me look pretty and
They don't realize how many heads are turning and looking
Total strangers just googling or ogling or googling or whatever you want to call it and looking at you staring at you. I
Don't I mean who would want that and then there's ladies that do want that and that's really weird
They say oh, I'm gonna put this on and I'm gonna go out and turn some heads. Well, enjoy it while it lasts
And go ahead or you know
adorn the outward woman
Adorn the outward man put all that on and enjoy it while it lasts
But you know what?
It's gonna get harder and harder to do and eventually it doesn't matter what you do
You're not gonna turn a single head and then what have you got?
nothing
So why don't you instead of doing that start adorning the inward man?
Which maybe nobody in the world will notice it'll catch God's eye
Whose eye do you want to catch tonight the world some man's some strangers
Or you want to get God's eye?
You want him to look down and say I'm pleased with that. That's what we want to see
But it's easier to doll up that the outward and the woman who would down adorns the out of the inward man is gonna go
unacknowledged by the world
You know, I'm not holding my breath waiting for you know
the the Miss Virtuous America
pageant
You know, it's not gonna happen. There's not gonna be like alright for our next category, you know, we're gonna we're gonna have the the
The skirt and the the the skirt show where they come out, you know, just godly dressed walk out and turn around
That's so modest
Is that what the world does? No, it's it's the bikini contest. That's what they do
There's not going to be you know, there's some pageant where they say, okay, let's see let's see how good you are at sewing
How well do you how many nutritious meals do you know how to prepare for your family
That world's not gonna no one's impressed by that in the world. Oh
Let's see how well you can teach your children how to read or mathematics or history
That's hard work
That's really hard work
The world doesn't care. They say I'll just just send them off and let the world will teach them that
You just you just worry about your looks. We'll take care of that for you
There's no pageant for Miss Virtuous America
And if Miss America had, you know, all these godly categories, they pull it off the air
Because that's not what the world wants to see
But here's the thing truly godly women
Who are serious about ordaining or I keep saying that
adorning adorning adorning not ordaining
Adorning the inward man truly godly women that want to just adorn the inward man. They don't mind going unnoticed by the world
They don't care
Doesn't bother them
They don't care if they never make some magazine cover or they you know, turn some heads out in the world
They don't care they'd rather go unnoticed
They'd rather have shame-facedness and sobriety as the Bible says
Go back to Proverbs 31 I should have had you stay there
Well, who's gonna notice me who's gonna notice if I just make my life all about adorning the inward man?
Well God for one
God for one the Lord will notice and bless you for it
But you know, that's there are gonna be some people in your life who will appreciate you adorning the inward man ladies
If you don't just spend your life in vanity chasing physical beauty
If you don't just make your whole life about just trying to put some jewel on a snow swine snout
But actually try to do something of value and live as a virtuous godly woman
Look at Proverbs chapter 31 verse 28 who here's whose heads you're gonna turn if you adorn the inward man
Her children arise up and called her blessed. I
Mean how many ladies can say that today that they've got children that that bless their mother that appreciate their mother for
investing in them
For spending, you know instead of being so worried about just chasing their appearance or whatever
That they actually take the time to teach them and instruct them and be a godly example to them
You know, it might not happen when they're just little ones when they don't know any better
But you know children the Bible can also mean grown children
You
Know there's gonna be some ladies, you know that if they spend their time or date adorning the inward man
they're gonna raise some kids that one day are gonna you know a
Appreciate what their mothers did for them. They're gonna turn around they're gonna rise up and say you're blessed. Thank you
Thank you for taking the time to to teach me and instruct me
Thank you mom for adorning the inward man and not getting caught up in vanity and neglecting me
So there's one eye you can catch your own kids
How about this one her husband also and he praises her
You know, my husband doesn't appreciate me well, is there anything to appreciate
Ask yourself that is there anything to appreciate
Or is it just a bunch of outward outward that or is it just you know?
Because there's a lot of other men appreciating it saying thanks for dressing like that
Appreciate it
Or do you want your you want your husband to praise you? Well, then maybe it's time to adorn the inward man
And not make it all about the external not chasing beauty because beauty is vain