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All right good morning welcome to very Baptist Church, let's just go through announcements really quickly any
Salvations to report this past week, let's start in the back section any Salvations
Anybody how about in this section anybody Salvations?
Anybody man people are backsliding one three. Oh, it's raining. No. I'm just kidding
All right anybody else you got everybody all right, so we do have so many of course this afternoon
Assuming the weather is okay, and the first sermon was very long the second sermon will not be though
we're gonna start so winning at 1 30 here today and
So we're gonna be getting started about 45 minutes early
so winning will be shorter today simply for the fact we have a lot of activities for the kids and everything like that and I
Don't want people to be here too late because if the weather is bad and some people are traveling back
I don't want to be out late at night just in general, but especially if it might you know rain
So if the weather would be bad, but anyways that's all we have for announcements. We'll have a brother Rafi lead us another song
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Amen for scripture reading please open your Bibles to the book of Nehemiah
Nehemiah chapter 8 Nehemiah chapter 8
You have the book of Kings Chronicles Ezra Nehemiah
Nehemiah chapter 8 and as our custom we will be reading the entire chapter Nehemiah chapter 8
Nehemiah chapter 8 please say amen if you're there
Amen Nehemiah chapter 8 verse 1 and all the people gathered themselves together as one man into the street
That was before the Watergate and they spake unto Ezra the scribe to bring the book of the law of Moses
Which the Lord had commanded to Israel and as where the priests brought the law before the congregation
Both the men and women and all that could hear with understanding
upon the first day of the seventh month and
He read there and before the street that was before the Watergate from the morning until midday
before the men and the women and those that could understand and the ears of all the people were attentive into the book of the
law and
Ezra described stood upon a pulpit of wood which they had made for the purpose and beside him stood Mathathiah and Shema and
Anaya and Urijah and Alkiah and
Masiah on his right hand and on his left hand did I and Michelle and Malchiah and ashram and ash, but Anna
Zechariah and meshulim
And as we opened the book in the sight of all the people
Free was above all the people and when he had opened it all the people stood up stood up
And as we're blessed the Lord the great God and all the people answered amen
With lifting up their hands, and they bowed their heads and worshiped the Lord with their faces to the ground and
Joshua and Benai and Shribaiah
Jamon, I could Shabbat. I would I just Masiya
Kelita Azariah
Jezebel Hainan, Heliah and the Levites
Caused the people to understand the law and the people stood in their place
So they read in the book in the law of God distinctly and gave the sense and caused them to understand the reading and
Then Maya which is the Thursday and as for the priestess pride and the Levites that taught the people set into the whole set into
All the people this day is solely into the Lord your God
More not their weep for all the people wept when they heard the words of the law
Then he said unto them go your way
Eat the fat and drink the sweet and send portions into them for whom nothing is prepared
For this day is solely unto our Lord neither be sorry for the joy of the Lord is your strength
So the Levites stilled all the people saying hold your peace for the day is holy neither be agreed
And all the people went their way to eat and to drink and to send portions and to make great mirth
Because they had understood the words that were declared unto them
And on the second day were gathered together the chief of the quarters of all the people
The priests and the Levites unto as we described even to understand the words of the law
And they found written in the law to the Lord had commanded by Moses that the children of Israel should dwell in boots
And the feast of the seventh month and that they should publish and proclaim in all their cities and in Jerusalem saying
Go forth into the mountain and fetch all the branches and pine branches and myrtle branches and palm branches and
Branches of thick trees to make booths as it is written
So the people went forth and brought them and made themselves booths
Everyone upon the roof of his house and in their courts and in the courts of the house of God and the street of the
water gate and in the street of the gate of Ephraim
And all the congregation of them that were come again out of the captivity made boots and sat under the boots
For since the days of Joshua the son of none unto the day that had not the children of Israel done
So and there was a very great gladness
Also day by day from the first day into the last day
He read in the book of the law of God and they kept the peace seven days and on the eighth day was a solemn
Assembly according into the manner
Less ready of God's word. Let us pray
Lord God in heaven we thank you Lord for the stage given to us
I pray that you please give us good weather and for our soul winning a fellowship later on and also Lord for our activities
I pray that you would bless the preacher and the preaching your word Lord is day. Good luck in Jesus name we pray
All right, we're in Nehemiah chapter 8 and the name of sermon is
How to get your children involved at church how to get your children involved at church
And when I say how to get your children involved at church, I mean while you are at church
So not about getting your kids involved into spiritual things
But on days when you're at church how to get your children involved and as I said, you know
We're trying to get done early. So I'm going to try to get done by 1230, which is 25 minutes
The first sermon was long. We have a lot of activities here today
so I'll be quick with the four points that we have but point number one is
Studious you want to create a studious atmosphere for your kids where they're here to basically learn
Okay. Now obviously there's different parts to a church day. We have soul winning later. We have eating lunch
We have different times
but during the preaching you want it to be a studious atmosphere for your kids where they're basically learning to pay attention and
get information the Bible says in Nehemiah 8 verse 1 and
All the people gathered themselves together as one man into the street that was before the Watergate and they speak unto Ezra the scribe to
Bring the book of the law of Moses
which the Lord had commanded to Israel and
Ezra the priest brought the law before the congregation both of men and women and all that could hear with understanding
upon the first day of the seventh month and he read there in before the street those before the Watergate from the morning until
Midday before the men and the women and those that could understand and the ears of all the people were attentive
Onto the book of the law what you see here in Nehemiah chapter 8 is you see men women and kids all together
We do not have a junior church
We do not have a separate room and generally when churches have like a junior church or a nursery school or something like that
The kids will just kind of sing these goofy songs and eat candy and then the adults are actually paying attention to a sermon
Well, I don't believe that's the structure that the Bible has now later on today. The kids are gonna eat candy and play games
Okay
But anyway, the kids at our church even on a non children's day week
There's a lot of activities for the kids to have fun to run around and everything but not during the church service
There is a difference during the church service
The purpose is to learn what because the Bible says church is the pillar and ground of the truth
I mean, we're here to listen to the Word of God and during a church service
The primary reason you're listening to sermons is to learn
Right
To learn and to be motivated you're here to learn God's Word
Well, of course, we want the same for our kids now. Here's the thing. Of course kids have different ages
I don't expect my son Ezra that is five months old to be paying that much attention
I expect him to smile and then I'm happy right? It's like once he smiles
I'm in a good mood. But of course, my son Zeph is older and so their sons F I will ask him
Hey, what was a sermon about try to quiz him try to because he's four and a half years old
He's old enough to learn some information and he's also old enough to pay more attention
Then you know our youngest son or even our daughter who's two and a half turn in your Bible
to Ephesians 6 Ephesians 6
Ephesians chapter 6
Now a couple things we need to understand number one
You know what if you're in this room and you know, you don't have children or your children are already older
You know what? You should be long-suffering with parents that are raising their kids because it is hard to raise kids
Right kids are just naturally makulit according to the Bible and you know what my kids are sometimes makulit and it is what it is
Right. It's like, you know kids are gonna act like that. They're gonna run around
They're gonna goof off sometimes if you don't have young kids be long-suffering
To parents that are trying to raise their kids and do the best job they can because it's hard
But if you do have young kids
You want to try to teach your kids as early as possible to try to pay as much attention
And you don't want your kids to distract other people at church
Right. So if you have young kids to the best of your ability, you don't want your kids to be a distraction
They're very young. Maybe they can't really, you know pay that much attention
But you want to stop them from being a distraction to other people now at our church
We have a mother-baby room at our church in Pampanga. We do not have a mother-baby room
We don't have the capacity for that. We have a mother-baby room. You say what is the purpose of that? Well number one
It's for
moms
With young children. It's not for dads
Right every once in a while
You know men have to knock to put in the offering or we need to get something from there or whatever
But it's like that room is not for men. It's for women, right and for men that want to complain
Well, if you want to watch your young kids during the entire church service and give your wife a break
Then I'm sure she'd be happy with that
Right, but we have that for a reason because in general it's gonna be the moms with the kids, right?
Now I do believe husbands should try to help but obviously, you know young kids want their mom usually over their dad
But here's the thing. The room is for moms, you know with young children
So if you're not a mom or you don't have young children
It's like it's not a hanging out room and you know, I know a lot of people most churches
They don't really have a mother-baby room. So a lot of people aren't really sure you know what it's for
Well, the purpose is that if there are young kids that are kind of acting up
the moms can take those kids to avoid those kids from being a distraction to other people and
It teach and train those kids to be able to sit through the service in the future
Right, and you know, we have limited space in there
But we do have a lot of kids now at our church and it's a room where you know
Obviously moms are nursing their kids. I mean, it's not meant to be a room to hang out
Now if you're a mom with young kids in there, once again, it's not a room to hang out
It's a room where we have a video showing the sermon for a reason where you pay attention
And you don't want to distract the other kids or your kids to be a distraction now, of course
Sometimes kids are going to be a distraction. Sometimes I ask my wife, you know, what do you think of the sermon?
She's like I didn't really hear a lot of it because you know, the kids were you know, being Makulit or whatever
So sometimes she misses some of it. It is what it is
But the room back there is for the purpose of moms with young children
Because we want everybody to be able to pay attention as much as is possible, right?
And so you want to create a studious atmosphere for your kids
and obviously this is dependent on what their age is and look
I don't think it's a bad thing for parents if you want to bring small little games for your kids
if they're not able to pay attention during the service or they have a limited attention span because you don't want them to distract from
Other people but you want to create a studious atmosphere. That is one thing that you can do as parents
Number two, another thing that you can do is spanking. Spanking is something that you can do to get your kids involved at church
When I'm saying spanking, I'm not saying that when your home and your kids act up you spank them
I am talking about at church because we're talking about on days that you're at church
One thing you can do is spank your kids when necessary
You say why? Because if they're acting up and you want them to start being studious and pay attention
You know what you have to do? You have to spank your kids to teach them to start paying attention
Right? You say well brother Stuckey, this is your opinion
Well, let's see what the Bible says
Ephesians 6 verse 4, and he fathers provoked not your children to wrath but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord
We bring our kids up in the nurture of the Lord. We spend time with them
We show them that we care for them
But as a parent our job is to admonish or discipline or teach our kids and sometimes in a negative way
Sometimes it's a reproof by words and sometimes it's you know a spanking
This is what the Bible says go to Proverbs 22 Proverbs 22
Proverbs 22
And I get it nobody likes to spank their children I don't enjoy spanking my children I
Doubt anybody in this room enjoys spanking their children
It's not a fun thing to do you'd prefer it if you don't have to spank your children
Well, here's the thing spank your children when they're young and you won't have to spank them when they're older
You know, I don't think I got any spankings past the age of maybe like eight or nine or ten years old or whatever
You say why because I knew I'd get a spanking if I acted up so I didn't act up
Right. I mean, it's just like I don't want to get in trouble with my parents and you know
You teach them at a young age
Rather than just letting them do whatever at a young age and I'll start training them when they're five or six or seven
Why not just train them when you're young and you can be done by the time that they're older
Bible says in Proverbs 22 verse 6
Train up a child in the way should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it
You say okay, Brother Stuckey. What does that have to do with spanking? Well read the whole chapter verse 15
part of that training according to verse 15
Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child
You know, it's funny because the first half of this verse is quoted a lot
Right and I quote the first half of this verse, but it's like well, let's quote the whole verse
Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child
But what does the Bible say here, but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him
Yeah, it's a fact kids act foolish
But what corrects that the rod of correction? What's that referring to?
It's referring to spanking your kids meaning when they're acting foolish
You spank them you can give them a warning if you want you can tell them no
But if they reach that point then you spank them you say Brother Stuckey. You're saying I have to spank my kids every week
No, no, no, it depends on if they're being foolish
There are some services. My kids are not foolish. They don't get a spanking
There are some services they are and they get a spanking it depends on how they're acting
Right, and so it depends on how your kids are acting I'm not saying hey, you've got to make it a point
Hey, you got to get those spankings in no matter what they do at least five every single day
No, no
It depends on how they're acting if they're disobeying if they're acting bad
That is when you spank him you say why because it's correcting them
It's teaching now. Here's the thing people consider spanking to be child abuse in
2022
Now first off that's that's ridiculous because what we're talking about spanking on an area of the body that doesn't cause any injury
We're not saying punch them in the face
We're not saying strike them on the back. We're saying a specific spot that causes pain and no injury
But but let me help you out with something
how about just don't spank your kids ever and
Let them grow up and just always break the law and go to jail for 20 years for something they do. I
Am sorry
But the spanking that lasts for a couple minutes of pain is nothing
Compared to what's going to take place to them if they don't get discipline at a young age
It's our job to teach them at a young age and look
This is what it says train of a child same chapter the rod of correction shall drive that foolishness far
from them go to Proverbs 23
Proverbs 23
This
Is not a topic that's confusing in the Bible, but it is a topic that people really struggle to actually do
Especially, you know when you're first time parent and I get that, you know, you're your first child
It's it's especially the first time you spank your kid because they're not expecting it and it's your first you don't know what to do
It's like and then and let me just help you out because if you've got young kids or maybe you're newer to this
Here's what you do. You spank your child and
Then you hug them afterwards. You kiss them on the cheek
You tell them you love them and you explain the best you can what they did that was wrong
and you know what you find with your kids in
30 seconds, they forgive you and they say they're sorry. I'm sorry mom
I'm sorry dad when my when I spank my kids they don't end up hating me. They end up saying they're sorry for what they did
Right, they realize because they don't that the biggest thing to young kids. They don't want to upset mom and dad
That's really painful to them that they disappointed mom and dad
And so when they get a spanking they're usually apologetic and I say, you know
I'm sorry and it's like but but here's the thing when the Bible said foolishness is bound in the heart of a child
It didn't say foolishness is bound in the heart of some children
Didn't say foolishness is bound in the heart of just you know
Other people's children. It says it's bound in the heart of a child. You say what are you saying brother Stuckey?
I'm saying my children are foolish
I'm saying I was foolish as a child
I'm saying all of the kids in our church are foolish sometimes
But here's the thing if you drive that foolishness away at the age of two three four or five years old
They don't have to be foolish when they're 20 years old
Because a lot of people that are adults are very foolish with the way they live their lives
I'd rather drive that away at the age of three or four or five years old
Then when they're 20 years old and they're getting into major problems
Proverbs 23 verse 12 apply thine heart unto instruction in thine ears to the words of knowledge
Instruction what does that mean exactly well withholding out correction from the child for if thou beatest him with the rod
He shall not die you say brother Stuckey
What does it mean he's not going to die what means that when you spank your kids? They don't die
It's very literal right. It's like don't worry. You're not causing. You're not causing any injury. Don't worry
Not only do they not die they don't get injured
It's not like well I was spanking my kid, and they broke a leg
I mean that doesn't take place if you're spanking them on their bottom
What happens is they cry like it's the worst thing ever and then literally a minute later
They don't even remember it right. It's not a big deal to them right and the Bible says though
You know withhold not correction and what what that's saying is there's something that's appropriate or important for their kids don't withhold it
It's your job. Would you want somebody to withhold your salary at work?
No, because you need that money, but here's the thing for those kids
They actually need that spanking because it drives away foolishness it instructs them it
Teaches them and if your kids are acting up at church
And you spank them why is that helpful to get them involved the church because they realize okay?
I need to pay attention or I realize I can't do that right
Thou shalt beat him with the rod and shout deliver soul from hell
It will also help your kids get saved because they're going to realize that you know what there's a punch
Punishment for doing wrong go to Proverbs 29 Proverbs 29
And I'm being quick with this because I want to get done by 1230, but you know these are verses
I've covered before and talked about but
About two years ago I
Preached a sermon series on I don't remember the name of the church
But it's from 1st Corinthians about strife and envy and divisions in the local church
It was I believe an eight-part series if you remember that series
One of the things that I said
Causes fights at church and one of the big things and when I preached this I think to a lot of people
It's probably just in theory because we didn't have a lot of kids at our church
I said one of the big things that causes fights at church
Is that when children fight with one another the parents start fighting one another?
Now what happens is the children get over it very quickly?
But the parents oftentimes will be upset because let's be honest our our natural reaction as parents
Is that if your kid is crying somebody else must have done something and sometimes that's true
Or your kid gets in a fight with another kid well of course it was the other kids fault
Right and look that might be true
But you can't be naive as a parent my child would never do anything wrong. Well your child's foolish
How dare you say that well how dare me quote the Bible all children are foolish?
Right and and and here's the thing the reason why it causes problems number one is it's it's just you know
Obviously if somebody hurts your child or does something you're going to be upset
But one thing that often causes problems is that when somebody does something to your child?
And then they don't discipline their child it causes a lot of resentment and anger now
Here's the thing I'm not a perfect parent by any stretch of the imagination
I think everybody would say there's no doubt brother Stuckey and his wife spanked their kids if they do something wrong
To other kids right I mean I spanked my kids plenty of time
You know I go to the back room we go to a quiet place
There's no question that if my kids do wrong. I discipline my kids, and you say why do you do that brother Stuckey?
I don't want my kids to keep acting foolish as they get older
Let me just say this in all
Sincerity if my kid does something wrong to your kid
And I don't see it me my wife
And I want to know it you say why because we want to up the opportunity to deal with the problem
So it doesn't stay a problem, but here's the thing you know what the truth is not all parents
Discipline their kids when they act up, and I'm telling you it causes problems at church
You know when I was in Sacramento the church is a lot bigger than ours
There's a lot more kids a lot of people have like families of like nine people. You know seven kids six kids five kids
It's probably the most common fight that happens in church because kids every single week are going to be doing some fighting and
Then people get mad, and then the parents get mad at the other parents it causes major problems, right?
It is one of the big reasons that causes strife and problems in the local church
here's the thing when I go out to the park with my kids and
Other kids are you know bullying my kid or whatever I expect that from the world of course
That's what's going to take place
And you know what it frustrates you sometimes when you see another kid do something to your kid
And the parents are there at the park, and they do nothing about it. I'm just thinking not even a sorry
It's just like but here's the thing that's not something that should happen at church because people at church should know what the Bible teaches about
spanking and
So it's something that you should do as a parent, but here's the thing
I don't get that worked up about it because at the end of the day
When a child does not get spanked for doing something wrong to another kid
The person who's being harmed is the kid who did wrong
Not the kid who got wronged you say why because if that kid doesn't get disciplined for the wrong
They do they're going to end up getting into more and more problems
They're the ones that are having correction withheld from them
But I will say this you know I've had times where my son asked me like you know
Why didn't that kid get a spanking?
I mean what am I supposed to answer? I'm just like well. You know every parent makes their own decision
That's what I say because my son asked that because he knows well if I did that you'd spanked me dad
So it's like well. It's a good question. I just say well. You know every every parent makes their own decisions
But I said you know what?
You just listen to mom and dad what we tell you because it doesn't concern me at the end of the day
But I am preaching the entire Bible
And I'm trying to help you out that one of the big things you can do
To get your kids involved in church is spank them if necessary
It's an important thing for your kids to teach them to be obedient Proverbs 29 verse 15
the rod and reproof give wisdom
Why I mean the Bible says this I mean
Interpret these verses however you want the rod and reproof give wisdom
But a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame
What does that mean?
Who's what it means if a kid doesn't get discipline? They're going to eventually embarrass their parents
You say what do you mean?
Let's say we're in
2042 my son's 24 years old and let's say you know God forbid that my son becomes very rebellious and goes to jail for
robbing a store and
Let's say I run into someone. I haven't talked to in years, and they say hey, you know. How's your son's f doing?
change the subject
Hey, my son's in prison right now. It's not great. He robbed the store
Now I'd be embarrassed by that wouldn't I I'd be shamed by that I'd be embarrassed by that
Right here's what I'm saying. You know what every child
Embarrasses their parents from time to time at a young age no question about it
And honestly as a parent you always feel like if you're trying to do a good job
You always feel like your kids are doing worse than they actually are because all kids are acting foolish sometimes
But you get a bit embarrassed if your kids do something wrong. It's like man
You know why'd you have to do that in public?
You know it's embarrassing, but isn't it better to be embarrassed by a two-year-old or a three-year-old than like a 22 year old
Or 23 year old and the bottom line is if you don't provide the proper parenting and discipline
Then your kids are going to embarrass you once they're adults
Right and look. I'm just trying to help people out. I mean it's at the end of the day
It's up to everybody what what they do we don't have any sort of code of rules for spanking your kids
I'm just saying you want to get your kids involved and get them spiritual you need to provide discipline when it's necessary
Is it fun? No, it's not is it easy. No, it's not because there's limited space
You know you need to go to a private place and talk to your child
There's a back room there or the mother baby room if it's the moms of the kids
It's not an easy thing to do nobody wants to do it, but if it's necessary. It's necessary right it says
When the wicked are multiplied transgression increases, but the righteous shall see their fall
Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest yea
He shall give the light unto thy soul look if my son in 20 years is a soul winner and somebody says hey
How's your son doing Mike? Yeah? You know he's doing great. You know he just got married
You know he's got a child on the way. You know he's serving God. He's going soul-winning. He's reading this Bible
He's that he's become a really great man. It's gonna. Give me delight
I'm gonna be excited and talk about my son once again if he's in prison. It's gonna be an embarrassment
It's gonna be a shame
It's gonna be something I would want to avoid and you say better Stuckey is spanking your kid at a young age really that
Important to get your kid to turn out right well according to the Bible
Yes, it is train up a child same chapter foolishness is bound the heart of a child, but the rod of correction
Shall drive it far from him go to Matthew 9. We'll look at a couple more places
Matthew 9
Oh
This is just one of those things you got to trust what the Bible says cuz the world's gonna say I'm wrong
They're gonna say well what you're saying is child abuse right well. They can say whatever they want
I'm gonna believe and do what the Bible says
And if you do what the Bible says if you train up a child in the way
He should go when he is old. He will not depart from it as a parent with young kids
That is a verse that we walk by faith and for the most part not by sight because my son's not old
But I will say this I can even see it that my son at the age of four has learned
Obedience by not that we're doing a perfect job because we don't but he's learned
Obedience because we actually put in the time and you're gonna start to see that at a pretty young age whether or not your child
Is going down an obedient road or whether or not they're going down a rebellious road when I was in grade school
There are kids at the age of five and six that were already getting into major major trouble as a young child
Now for me, I knew that if I act up at school, I'm gonna come home and get a horrible spanking
So guess what? I didn't act up at school
Right because I knew I would get in trouble
But you know there are two kids at five and six years old that and as another kid
It was kind of humorous or whatever to us is but it was pretty bad the way they're going down for example
There's this one kid who at a young age this kid is like five or six years old on April Fool's Day
He stole all the teachers books and just threw them in the toilet and just basically destroyed them
And you know and he's like haha April Fool's
Right now as a kid. It was hard not to smirk. It's one of those things where if your kids smiling
It's like don't smile. It's not funny right, but here's the thing that same kid. I'm pretty positive as a reprobate at this point
I've actually tried to give him the gospel and I stopped giving the gospel after he just cuz I heard he was he had become
Suicidal he was thinking about killing himself, so I was like man
I tried to reach out to him and talk to him in ten years try to give him the gospel
Once he started mocking God
After you know a week of me sending him sermons and stuff. It's like alright. Well. You've already made your choice obviously
You're just mocking me now, but here's the thing do I think he was a reprobate at the age of five or six
I don't
But
He was not getting any discipline from his parents
and if you knew anything about his family his family was super rich both parents were doctors and
They just sent him off to school. They never spent any time with him. You know it was all work work work
It's like well child left to himself
Bring it this mother to shame. I mean it sounds like the Bible's accurate
Because honestly this kid I know I'm gonna be I'm not gonna hold true to my 1230
But I'm going on the rabbit trail, but honestly if you had asked me at that age
Who is the smartest kid in your school this kid would have been my answer it would have been the answer for most people
Smartest kid and yet he became a drug addict
He got went to jail many times for beating his his living girlfriend and all kinds of things and then just mocking God
But see there's the problems at a young age
That did not get corrected, and it just got worse and at some point
I believe you know he became a reprobate as he's mocking God
I would assume I could be wrong, but he certainly seemed like it anyways Matthew 9 number one
When I create a studious atmosphere for the kids number two you want to do spanking when necessary number three
How about soul winning? Soul winning is something that you can involve your children on. The Bible says in verse 37
Then saith the unto his disciples the harvest truly is plenteous
But the labors are few pray ye therefore the Lord of the harvest that he will send forth labors into his harvest
this is the most exciting part of the Christian life and
Part of what makes this so exciting is the fact that we know if we don't do this
It's not going to get done
There's that responsibility
It's so important, but it also makes it exciting because you realize hey, it's not like these other churches are going to do it
It's our job to do it
Here's the thing a lot of people got into serving God because of the excitement so winning you love it. It's exciting you're doing something
Here's the thing we need to make sure we create that excitement for our young children as
Well, and so when you're going out soul winning you can try to take your children with you now
A lot of things to understand about this if it's really raining on a day and you've got young kids
Probably not the smartest to take your kids your kids are going to get sick. Everyone's going to get sick. It can be a disaster
Obviously the weather can depend on these things obviously, you know with kids sometimes one of the kids is asleep
I mean things but you know one thing my wife and I do
Sometimes when we take your kids so winning here on Sundays, we'll go so winning nearby
Not for as long and you say brother Stuckey. Why do you do that?
Well, because we want to get our kids involved in so winning
now could I get more people saved on my own without you know having to stop for the kids or could my wife get saved
more on her own probably
But in the long run it's more important to get your kids
involved in the things of God and get them involved in so many and
Look, I believe even before they're saved. My son is four years old. My son is not saved
However, if you ask my son, why do you go so winning? You know, he's gonna say is like to get people to believe on Jesus
Otherwise, they're gonna go to hell
I mean he has a lot of the answers memorized
Because you know, he's you know been involved in so many and I've talked to him at home and stuff like that
My wife's talked to him and everything like that, but you want to get them involved in the excitement at young age
Hey, here's the thing you take your kids out
Sometimes they get tired and they say they want to come back now
I'm not saying you got to go so winning until they fall over or whatever
But what I'm saying is, you know, honestly that teaches them some patience to realize what things that have real value
Are not easy
They take work and I get it, you know best-case scenario you bring water with you
But we've taken our kids and forgotten to bring water forgotten to bring money to get water and it is what it is
But you know, I've told my son before is like hey, you know what? We're waiting because so-and-so is preaching the gospel
It's like I'm sorry. I forgot water, but I know it's hot Seth. It's a lot hotter in hell, right?
It's a lot worse for them. It's gonna be okay. You go back, you know, we'll get you a snack
We'll get you some water. It's gonna be okay, but you want to get your kids excited in this at a young age
Go to Acts 21. We'll look at two last places acts 21
acts 21
If
You are a parent with young children and you say brother say it's very hard to take my kids out soul-winning
You're correct. It is very hard
Let me help you out with something if you say brother Stuckey
I want to go so with my kids on Sunday, but you know what? I can't take them in the gym
It's gonna be too far. You can go soul-winning nearby. The church will give you an area
You don't have to go out for two hours. You don't have to go out as long. It's perfectly fine
I understand that right because it's hard
I mean if you have young kids and you're trying to get them involved in soul-winning
You're perfectly welcome to go soul-winning nearby. Will you get as many people saved? Well, no because we've knocked these doors 700 times
But we still get people saved and at least is teaching them and training them. You're perfectly fine
You could could mention it to me. I have no problem with parents with young kids going soul-winning nearby where it's easier
Okay, obviously
It's harder when you have young kids
Right. I have three kids and one of my kids is you know a newborn. It's like yeah
It's hard with all three kids. So, you know what when we go soul-winning here on Sundays we go nearby
If it's a day that's rainy, I'm not going to take my kids because I don't want them to get sick
Right, but you don't want to just give up on the idea of taking your kids soul-winning because the difficulty you want to get them
involved in that excitement
Bible says in Acts 21 verse 8 and the next day we there were a pulse company departed and came on to Caesarea and we
Enter into the house of Philip the evangelist, which was one of the seven and abode with him and the same man had four daughters
Virgins which did prophesy now the Bible says this man has four daughters. I am assuming there's no twins
Okay, I'm assuming the fact that it highlights their virgins would indicate we're not talking about women that are 40 years old. I
Think we're talking about women that are old enough where they could not be virgins if they went down that road
But they're still under the authority of their parents. What's my point?
My point is I'm expecting that at least one of these girls is not yet a teenager
I would assume I you're thinking the ages of 11 13 15 17 because
Generally people probably got married at a younger age back then
Especially when people grow up in a Bible believing church, you know moms often have the goal of getting married at a young age
So I'm assuming kids are 11 13 15 and 17 is my guess I could be wrong my point is though
These kids obviously at a young age. We're going so any because they're not only going they're the ones doing the preaching
Is that not what we see in these verses even if the youngest is 15, and I'm wrong
Still obviously, you know, it takes time and getting practice and she's a bonafide soul winner as a teenager
Look the goal as a parent should be that when your kids are teenagers, they're so winners
They know how to preach the gospel
But that does not come by accident that comes by them going and getting
Experience and getting that discipline and so you could say that you know what when your kids are teenagers
You know what? My daughters are not pastoras, but they are preachers of the gospel right get acts to will close up
acts to acts to
Sermons like this can can oftentimes be a little bit hard because
It's hard to raise your kids
it's difficult and
You know what? Sometimes it can be kind of you know
People can get emotional or about all if he said something look
I'm preaching the sermon to try to help you out and help myself out because these are things I need to be reminded about
It's very easy to let some of these things slip because it takes a lot of work and it takes a lot of effort
And it's it's not easy
If you're if you don't have young kids in this room be long suffering with parents with young children
Because it can be stressful. It's hard. It's not easy
I mean it takes time and patience and a lot of lessons you learn
Mistakes that all of us make as parents
But if you are a parent with young kids don't get upset if I say something that maybe steps on your toes a little bit
Just say okay, you know, I'm gonna try to get better
Because it's better to learn these things when they're young and try to apply them
So when they're older you already know how to do it. And also they've already learned from experience
Bible says in Acts 2 verse 41 and 42
Number one create a studious atmosphere point to spanking when necessary point three so winning but point four social
Involvement for your kids one things you can do to get your kids involved at church is social involvement
The Bible says in Acts 2 verse 41 then they that gladly receive his word were baptized in the same day
They're added on them about 3,000 souls and they continued steadfastly the Apostles doctrine and fellowship and in breaking of bread and in prayers
The Bible mentions fellowship in verse 42 and one of the big things that gets people connected to a local church is when they fellowship
at church
what I've noticed is
When people first start coming to church and they're listening to the sermons
You don't really know whether or not they're going to get connected or not. I
Kind of know though once they start staying for activities. That's when I know hey
They're here and they're going to endure because they're forming friendships. They're forming a church family
They're getting you know, their whole family involved once they start sticking around for lunch to me. That's a big step again
It's great. They start sticking around for lunch because they're trying to get involved with the other kids
They're staying for Children's Day the activities they're staying for other things that we do
Obviously depending on your schedule, that's not always possible
But but here's my point as adults social involvement is actually pretty important to us
You get involved in church a lot of your activities and hobbies
You don't have time for anymore. And so it's good to create a fun atmosphere at church
But it's the same way with kids as well
I mean, here's the truth
If all you do is bring your young kids to church and just always leave right after church
Probably not going to create an atmosphere where your kids enjoy church
Because listening to the sermon is going to be hard for them
Right there. Oh, how much longer is this right now? Of course church is not fun fun fun
But at the same time I do believe you should be able to say I was glad when they said let us go into the
House of the Lord and you want to create that atmosphere at a young age now
I'm not saying that if you can't stick around today, there's anything wrong with that
It's completely up to you
But I'm just saying you want to get your kids socially involved in church
And that is an important step that you can do if you want your kids to end up serving God and
Loving God create a studious atmosphere during the sermons
Take them out soul winning spank them when necessary and then create a social atmosphere where they're forming friends
And I mean my kids will often be excited for church. It's like what are you excited about?
I want to see so-and-so right they'll mention one of the other kids at church because the closest friends in this world to my kids
Are the kids of church both in Pampanga and here they're excited to see the other kids at church
And you know what?
That's a good thing for those kids because you start forming friendships with godly people
He that walketh with wise men shall be wise the Bible says let's close in word of prayer. Heavenly Father
Thank you for allowing us be here today and ask you to help us as parents with young kids
Help us to do a good job. Help me and my wife to do a good job
Help us try to live by this and not just preach but actually live by it and help all the parents
It's very difficult to raise young kids
But help the kids in this room grow up to not only get saved but end up loving you and serving you God
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