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All right, good morning everybody welcome to Verity Baptist Church, and let's go through a couple things first
Let's count up any salvations from this past week that I'm unaware of any salvations to report anybody
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Anybody I missed all right, so let's see 14 7 25 extra salvations great work everybody and
Of course we'll have so winning this afternoon as I mentioned in the first announcements
So winning might be a little bit later because it is Mother's Day a little more time for fellowship
But also we have the ice cream arriving at 1 p.m.. So basically right at 1
We're going to have a lot of ice cream. We need you to eat your lunch and eat the ice cream
Okay, ice cream is not going to last you know we our fridge is only so big okay
So we need you to eat that here today, but anyways great work everybody and at this time
We're actually going to have our ladies choir perform one more time for us
We're going to have our ladies choir perform one more time for us
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All right, we are in song of Solomon chapter 1 and the name of the sermon is beauty tips from the word of God
Beauty tips from the word of God and when I'm saying beauty tips, I am referring to the outward appearance
I'm saying being physically attractive now
This sermon is not like a Mother's Day sermon because I already preached the Mother's Day sermon
But I'm going to be talking about the beauty tips from the word of God
And when I'm saying beauty tips, I am referring to the outward appearance
Now this sermon is not like a Mother's Day sermon because I already preached the Mother's Day sermon
But it does kind of fit along with Mother's Day
and so I do want you to realize a couple things number one when it comes to the word beauty and
The Bible reads I am black but come Lee
Oh you daughters of Jerusalem as the tents of Kedar as the curtains of Solomon look not upon me because I am black
Because the Sun hath looked upon me so what it's saying in these verses is that this woman is black referring to having darker skin
But it's not because she was born that way what it's saying is because the Sun hath looked upon me
So what this woman is saying is you know what my skin is darkened because I've been out in the Sun
And when she said look not upon me what you're seeing is she's a little bit embarrassed about her appearance
She's like I don't want you to look at me because I don't feel attractive right now is basically what she's saying in
Verse number six and honestly the reason why I'm preaching this sermon is because this is how people can feel sometimes
Especially with ladies as guys in general. I don't think we care as much about our appearance
Right I think everybody would agree that guys in general don't care as much about what they look like if you say that I'm pongy
It really doesn't bother me much, okay?
But it's kind of different for a lady and we're seeing this wisdom from the Bible because we see a woman
That's married, and she's down on her appearance
You never see the husband in Song of Solomon being like oh, I feel ugly today, right?
But that's kind of what you're seeing in Song of Solomon 1 and it's kind of giving us wisdom that sometimes women can feel this
Way especially after they get married because as you get older things change right things are different
Especially if you've had several kids
I mean you get older you don't have as much time for yourself and as we said it means just things are different
So I want to preach this sermon to try to encourage people to see what beauty actually is according to the Word of God
But let's keep going with these verses
My mother's children were angry with me. They made me the keeper of the vineyards, but mine own vineyard have I not kept now
Realize the Song of Solomon is poetic language when she's saying I've been the keeper of the vineyard
She's referring to a little bit a literal vineyard a real vineyard, but mine own vineyard
Referring to her body have I not kept she's not saying to a vineyard that she owns out in the field
She's saying my body
I have not kept the Sun is has darkened me look not upon me
It's using poetic language, but what she's saying is I've worked so hard outdoors
That basically my personal appearance is being destroyed, and I'm not able to keep my own vineyard. Okay verse number seven
Tell me about who my soul lovest
Where thou fetus where thou makest thy flock to rest at noon for why should I be as one that turned at the side?
By the flocks of thy companions, so here's a woman who's telling her husband
I'm down on my appearance right now and
Basically, I miss you. You know I want to know where you are okay in the Bible in Song of Solomon
You'll see the word spouse mentioned many times, so they are married. They're not dating. They're actually married, okay
Verse number eight if thou know not oh thou fairest among women
Go that way forth by the footsteps of the flock and feed thy kids beside the shepherd's tents
So he tells his wife in verse 8 oh thou fairest among women
Saying you're the most beautiful woman that there is okay, and look we're getting wisdom as guys
Whether you realize it or not women can get down in their appearance according to the Bible and we ought to tell our wives
We think they're beautiful right that's what we see Solomon doing
Oh thou fairest among women and it might be something that as guys
We don't think of all the time because as I said
I don't really think whether or not I look attractive or not
It's not something that kind of runs through my mind
So we think well we assume our wives don't think about that
But the reality is wives can feel down on their appearance the Bible showing us so we need to make sure we're telling our wives
Even if it's not fresh in our minds, okay verse number nine I
Have compared the oh my love to a company of horses and Pharaoh's chariots now. You know this verse
There's a lot of poetic language and a lot of animals are brought up and there are analogies to explain stuff
And as I believe I believe this is Pharaoh's daughter
So she grew up around the horses that Pharaoh had and of course Pharaoh's gonna have the best horses
Right. So what he's saying to his wife is you're the best. It's using poetic language now be careful guys when you compliment your wives
You're like the greatest e-piece from Thailand, right? It's like you got to be careful with how you do your your compliments
Okay, you got to use some wisdom here. Okay, but that's all that's being said in verse 9
He's saying you're the best because she understands that she grew up around Pharaoh's horses and you know a horse
That's taken care of is considered a very beautiful animal. He's just saying you're the best. Okay
Verse 10 thy cheeks are coming with rows of jewels thy neck with chains of gold
So what you're seeing is that she feels down on her appearance and he is
Complimenting her on her appearance and as guys we should make it a point to do that to our wives and let them you know
You say well my wife knows she's beautiful so I don't need to tell her no, actually you should tell her
That's what the Bible shows us in Song of Solomon chapter 1. Okay now turn in your Bible to 1st chronicle 16
1st chronicle 16 1st chronicle 16
But I also want to preach this sermon because I think a lot of people are confused about what the Bible teaches to actually be
physically attractive
Physically beautiful and I am talking about physically being beautiful. I'm not talking about
symbolically or the n-word beauty
I'm talking about physically being beautiful and I believe the Bible has the answers to all things
Don't we believe that?
The Word of God has the answers to all things and so we're trying to figure out what the answer is according to the work
to reality what's the truth what we look at what the Bible says and
Believe it or not
The first thing that will make you physically attractive according to the Bible is to be spiritual
To be a godly person is the number one thing to being physically attractive
It's mentioned over and over and over in the gut in the Bible 1st chronicle 16 verse 29
Give unto the Lord 1st chronicle 16 verse 29
Give unto the Lord the glory due unto his name bring an offering and come before him worship the Lord in the beauty of
Holiness the beauty of holiness go to Psalm 29 Psalm 29 Psalm 29 Psalm 29
As you're turning there I'll read you from 2nd Chronicles where it says and that should praise the beauty of holiness
And I'm only picking certain verses out
But there's a lot of verses that mention something very similar the beauty of holiness the beauty of holiness the beauty of holiness
Psalm 29 verse 2 give unto the Lord the glory due unto his name worship the Lord in
the beauty of holiness the beauty of holiness go to Isaiah 52
The Bible says in Psalm 96 as you're turning to Isaiah 52
Give unto the Lord the glory due unto his name bring an offering and come into his courts
Oh worship the Lord in the beauty of holiness
Fair before him all the earth so the Bible saying being beautiful being spiritual being holy being godly
It mentions it over and over and over again now some of you right now are thinking well
Yeah, but that's like spiritually it's not actual physical beauty
I disagree with you about that and I'm gonna prove my point here
the Bible says many times the beauty of holiness the beauty of holiness the beauty of holiness and
The reality is your outward beauty is not just about your outward beauty
But the inward beauty ends up being a part of that as well in terms of how you look on the outside
Just a basic example
Right you meet someone first time as I said during the first sermon
They physically look attractive a lady, but then they start cursing. It's like oh
Right it's very unbecoming to a woman is that not true
You meet someone and physically they might look attractive
But then you hear what's coming out of their mouth, and they're an ungodly and profane person
It's like you will never find that person attractive again
that's the truth and
On the contrary is true as well. Maybe you meet someone and the first time you catch see them
They don't catch your eye necessarily, but if they're a godly person
You know what it shines through give me an example we go soul-winning and look
I'm giving you a guy's perspective obviously what I'm saying is when we have the ladies at our church going soul-winning
Wearing a dress with a Bible in their hands. It's like I think what a beautiful group of ladies I
Mean they look very beautiful bringing a Bible having a dress
And I'm talking about physical beauty and look when you're married you look at things differently
You know I'm not looking for someone that I'm gonna end up with but I'm saying when I look at the ladies at our church
That are going out so when you think what a group of beautiful women
Because being holy you see that in a person
When they're holy and it becomes part of their physical appearance and the Bible says the beauty of holiness
Isaiah 52 verse 7
How beautiful upon the mountains are the feet of him that bringeth good tidings that publisheth peace?
That bringeth good tidings of good that published salvation that saith unto Zion thy God reigneth and the Bible says
How beautiful upon the mountains are the feet?
Okay, and the Bible says that someone who's going soul-winning which this is what it's a reference to their feet are beautiful
Not saying what they're doing is beautiful, but actually the body part the feet are actually beautiful now in general
I don't think you would think of feet being the most beautiful body part
Especially if you're out soul-winning for hours and hours, and you're getting blisters on your feet
It doesn't make them physically look attractive, but but here's the thing
Let's say you got a group of people that go soul-winning on a soul-winning marathon, and they get tired they get a sunburn
They get blisters. They're worn out. It doesn't make them look unattractive
It actually when you're a spiritual person you think it makes them actually look more attractive because you see the work
They're doing in the fact. They're spiritual and that becomes part of their looks
And look this is what the Bible teaches and here's the thing there's no question that in the eyes of God
He says how beautiful are the feet?
But realize something that God is light and as you draw closer to the light you start seeing things the same way God does and
For those of you that are drawing close to the light you know what I'm saying is true when people are godly it makes them
More attractive when people are ungodly
Makes them unattractive
All these celebrities that are out there that are really famous. I'm sorry, but after I've heard them say one thing
Blaspheming God or promoting the LGBT. It's just like I'm sorry, but to me. They don't physically look attractive
They just look unattractive
My wife and I have a conversation before where she'll mention someone. I'm like yeah, you know what that that person's unattractive to me
She's like you're just saying that because their personality is like well
Yeah, it's probably true, but when I look at them. I just see punge
Because they're ungodly
They're wicked, and it's like I can't separate the two and here's the thing God says when I look at someone the feet are beautiful
Why because of the work they're doing?
You say well brother Stuckey. I get what you're saying, but you're just using a play on words
This is in the eyes of God. We'll go to Song of Solomon chapter 7 Song of Solomon chapter 7
Song of Solomon chapter 7
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Mean your perspective just changes on things once you draw close to God you just see things differently than you used to but
The reality is I got saved at 18, and you know what I understood this principle before I was saved as well
Right when I was 18 years old you'd meet someone and maybe they looked attractive or whatever
But they were just like a really vulgar person or whatever
It's like they became unattractive very quickly and the opposite was true as well
So look even in an unsafe state I could understand this principle that if someone had a terrible personality
Just an obnoxiously bad person. It's like I don't understand how someone could physically find them attractive when you look at them
It just kind of repulses you when someone's an ungodly person right that's that's reality
And that's what the Bible teaches, but I'm just telling you that's my perspective when I see ungodly people to me
They just don't look like attractive people
Psalm Solomon 7 verse 1
How beautiful are thy feet with shoes Oh Prince's daughter now when he says how beautiful are they feel with shoes if you don't pay
Attention or think about what's being said it almost sounds like your feet are beautiful as long as they're covered up right
But don't take off those shoes. Okay. That's not what's being said just think about this logically
You know what when you're at your house relaxing you generally don't wear shoes
When you go to sleep at night, I'm assuming you probably don't wear shoes. I don't wear shoes I
Don't wear a suit or a tie. I don't wear shoes either when I go to sleep at night
I'm assuming that you're probably the same way maybe slippers if it's really cold or whatever, but you know probably not right and
What he's saying here is this that he looks at his wife who throughout the song of Solomon
She's a hard worker and what he's saying is he physically finds her attractive he comments on her feet being attractive
But the indication is wearing shoes. She's always working and being busy right
She's keeping herself busy and to him it actually becomes physically attractive to him
Because she is a godly person and a hard-working person it physically becomes attractive to his eyes
That's what the Bible teaches now turn on your Bible
to Isaiah 28 Isaiah 28
Isaiah 28
All
I'm telling you is this if somebody was like a big promoter of abortion. I would never physically find that person attractive
never I
Mean they might be like some you know model or whatever really famous, but if I hear them say you know like I support
You know babies being I support a mom's right to choose
Right if they say they support murder. I'm sorry when I look at them. I'm just cannot separate the two
If they say well, you know what I just believe in the LGBT and everything we ought to just let them get married
Give them all the same rights blah blah blah. I'm sorry
I would never find that person attractive again if someone is a terrible personality it
Bleeds into their actual physical appearance, and you can't separate the two and look it's not just me
This is what God is saying and as you draw close to the light
That's just the way you see things when someone's an ungodly person it makes them unattractive
But you can't tell me that when the ladies at our church go soul-winning
Looking nice. I mean look when we just had the ladies choir
I just think man what a beautiful bunch of ladies ladies that love the Lord are serving God
It's like that's the way I feel that's what it looks like to my eyes and look
That's the truth if you love God. That's the way you're gonna feel it actually physically makes someone attractive if they love God
That's the truth, and I'm presuming. It's the same for guys, but obviously I'm a guy
So it's like it's a little bit different all right, but if there's a group of guys going so any
I'm sure the ladies think man
What a great group of guys a woman would be lucky to be with a guy like that. He loves God
He served God. He's nice dress
Beautiful words coming out of his mouth right that is the way you're gonna feel if you love God in
Actual physical beauty the first thing you see is actually being spiritual, right?
Number one point one is being spiritual
number two is
Sinning less now when I'm saying to sin less. I am NOT saying to be spiritual
What I'm saying is that sin actually affects your physical appearance
Drinking alcohol makes you ugly
Doing drugs makes you ugly all sin actually affects your physical appearance, so when I'm saying sinning less
I'm saying that if you live a sinful life. There's gonna be a bad result on the outside
That's what the Bible teaches Isaiah 28 verse 1
Woe to the crown of pride
To the drunkards of Ephraim a drunkard is someone that's a drunk drinking a lot of alcohol last thing right the drunkards of Ephraim
Whose glorious beauty is a fading flower?
Which are on the head of the fat valleys of them that are overcome with wine now
Here's the thing when a flower is in full bloom. It looks very beautiful doesn't it?
Right yeah, I'm not a I'm not a big flower person as a guy
But I could say that you know when a flowers in full bloom if that's the right terminology. I think well. What a beautiful flower
But once that flower reaches its peak and it starts to get older
All of a sudden you can see a glimpse of that beauty, but it's kind of like a fading
Beauty like a fading flower the Bible saying well basically you can tell this flower used to be beautiful
But it's not really anymore and with the Bible saying someone who drinks alcohol
What happens their physical appearance their beauty just kind of fades and maybe you look at them and say well
I could see that this person used to be an attractive person, but now because of all the alcohol
They've drank all the drugs that they've done all the cigarettes that they've smoked it actually makes them unattractive
This is what the Bible teaches in Isaiah 28 verse 1 and look when you live a godly life
It will actually keep your physical appearance
But living a sinful life ages your body and destroys your body and your beauty is as a fading flower
look sometimes I see pictures of people that were from my hometown that are my age and
They lived a very
The phrase like they lived a very hard life. It looks like because they look very old for their age
You know drinking and drugs. I mean some of them look old enough to be my mother and father
I'm just thinking man. What happened to them?
But I know what happened to them it's called drinking alcohol and doing drugs
It makes you look old and in general if you live a clean life
you're actually gonna retain your looks for a longer period of time because your body doesn't age as fast as a person living a sinful life and
The Bible directly mentions it with alcohol
But I believe it's true with any sin sin actually ages you and so look it actually affects your physical appearance
when you live an ungodly life
Notice what it says in verse 2
Behold the Lord hath a mighty and strong one which is a tempest of hail and a destroying storm as a flood of mighty waters
Overflowing shall cast down in the earth with the hand the crown of pride the drunkards of Ephraim shall be trodden underfoot and the glorious
Beauty, which is on the head of the fat valley
Shall be a fading flower once again
Once again the beauty is as a fading flower and the Bible's saying you drink alcohol
What happens is it fades your beauty it fades your looks it's reality
And you know what I I knew someone from Sacramento
And this is someone who came to church a few times
And they were homeless and in America being homeless is a little bit different than here in America if you're homeless
You're pretty much a drug addict. There's really no exceptions to that and
Basically this was a woman who she ended up actually getting saved and she came to church a few times
But but didn't really last but when you looked at this woman
You can tell that this woman was at one time in her life a very beautiful woman you could tell
But there's only a small remnant
It's like a flower right a flower as it starts to fade and get old you can see sometimes this flower
Used to be very beautiful, but it's not really now
Right I'm saying that to tell you that when people live a sinful life
It's going to a cause their physical appearance to be destroyed
It's gonna cause them to be more unattractive less attractive
Because of the sinful life that they live so look if you want to be a beautiful person whether you're a guy or girl
be an attractive person be spiritual and
Sin less because sin will destroy your appearance now turn in your Bible to first Samuel 25
first Samuel 25
I'm gonna look in many ways our body operates like a machine when you really get down to the the details
It's it's it's really like a machine on the inside and reality is to keep your machine going well
You got to provide it with the right things
Right drugs and alcohol will destroy that machine. I mean if you take care of an actual physical machine
Then it's gonna look nice, but if you don't take care of it, it's gonna look old
It's the same thing with our bodies if you take care of your body if you're committing all these sins
It's destroying it. It's gonna make it look bad on the outside. Not just you're tearing it up on the inside
It's gonna end up being sure on the outside as well
Point number one being spiritual point to sinning less point three having a sunny
Personality or a friendly and happy personality being in a good mood having a sunny
Personality first name of 25 verse 3
Now the name of the man was navel in the name of his wife Abigail
And she was a woman of good understanding and of a beautiful countenance now countenance would be like your face and your outward appearance
And it says she is a beautiful countenance, but it compares her to her husband, but the man was churlish and
Evil in his doings, and he was of the house of Caleb
So here's a woman of a good understanding and of a beautiful countenance
But her husband is just like this wicked guy and what the Bible is showing you with this comparison
Is that because Abigail was the opposite of being churlish being in a bad mood all the time?
She's in a good mood the result is a beautiful countenance. She looks more attractive
It makes her attractive isn't it true that when you meet people that are in a good mood and happy
They look more attractive
Versus someone who's always like ah you know I can't believe this always bitter
Complaining and a bad mood that makes you unattractive when you do that
When you have a bad attitude when you have the opposite of a sunny person when you got a rainy personality or whatever
Or a winter personality. I don't know right the opposite of a sunny personality. It makes you unattractive
But when someone's in a good mood it makes them more attractive
So look if you want to be more attractive be in a good mood be friendly be happy if you're always depressed and complaining
Murmuring and bitter it will make you look physically unattractive now. Here's the thing you know with a lot of these
It's not something you you think about
But when I see what the Bible says I'm like that actually makes sense
Because when you meet people that have a very friendly personality it actually makes them look more attractive in your eyes
Right they look more attractive whereas if someone's always complaining in a bad mood makes them unattractive. It's very unappealing right
Turn your Bible to Song of Solomon 4 Song of Solomon chapter 4 Song of Solomon 4
Song of Solomon chapter 4
There's this guy at a church
I went to in West Virginia
and you know because here's the other thing about when you meet someone with a friendly personality and
They're happy it puts you in a good mood to be around people that are in a good mood
Right when you're around people that are bitter and complaining and upset all the time it makes you be in a bad mood
Right, but if you're around people that are friendly and in a good mood
It just instantly makes you feel better so part of why I think they look more attractive when they have a good
Personality when they're friendly and happy the sunny personality is it puts you in a good mood, right?
But this guy at my old church in West Virginia
And he was he was an older guy
And you know what I go to church
And you know sometimes you get a church, and you're tired or whatever
Exhausted or maybe you're not in the best of moods this guy was always in a great mood
Always and you get there, and he's like hey brother Stuckey. How you doing today, and I was like man. I'm good now
It's like that shot of electricity that goes through your system like man. I feel good now right and
It's just like that's the truth though when you're around people that are in a good mood. It puts you in a better mood
But it actually makes them look more attractive when they have a sunny personality
Versus someone who's complaining and upset all the time
It's very unattractive when someone's always in a bad mood, but when someone's in a good mood
They just look more attractive right this that's what we see in the Bible, but it makes sense
Solomon Solomon 4 verse 3
It says thy lips are like a thread of scarlet and thy speech is comely now
Here's the thing when he says thy lips are like a thread of scarlet
It's linked with thy speech being comely comely meaning beautiful meaning the words coming out of her mouth are beautiful
I personally think it could mean she's also wearing lipstick, but I'm not dogmatic when it says her lips are like scarlet
It might be a dual application
But the link is really with your speech being beautiful your speech being comely
The idea is she's in a good mood and beautiful things are coming out of her mouth and when he looked at his wife's lips
They look attractive because of the fact what's coming out of her mouth is actually beautiful
but here's the thing if there's someone and
what's coming out of their mouth is using the Lord's name in vain and
Just complaining and upset the exact opposite of a meek and quiet spirit when you look at that person
I'm sorry those lips will not be attractive
Because of their attitude
That's reality. He looks at his wife and says you know what I look at you
And you're beautiful and part of that is what's coming out of her mouth
It's not just the lips themselves, but because this speech is comely he looks at his wife
And he just says man how beautiful my wife is and look he is referring to the physical appearance
But I'm trying to show you the physical appearance is not just about what you're born with it's actually are you spiritual?
Do you have a sunny personality? Are you committing a lot of sins that affects your physical appearance?
That's what the Bible teaches
Now turn in your Bible to first Peter 3 first Peter 3 first Peter chapter 3
First Peter chapter 3
And let me just say this that if you think of like famous actresses that are out there
I honestly don't really know who are the famous actresses today, but wherever the famous actresses are you know what?
They might seem very attractive to you in the movie or whatever. It's fake. It's not real life
Pretty much all the actors and actresses are a bunch of wicked people that hate God. That's a fact
I mean if you ever look up any information about them. They're not godly people
So why is that well? I mean cuz Satan's the god of this world
I'm sorry, but but the last movie you watched it wasn't fundamental soul-winning Baptist that were playing the lead characters in those movies
And so that person might look attractive
But in reality most likely in real life that person once you actually hear what's coming out of their mouth
It's like well. I used to think your lips are attractive, but not now I
Used to think you're attractive, but you're just complaining and bitter you're ungodly. They will be unattractive to you
That's reality and the other thing is we don't even know what those people look like in real life anyway
Because it's a movie right CGI or whatever modern things. It's like we don't even know what they look like but
Point number four and this is the one that only applies to women
Is
Being submissive having a submissive personality when a lady has a submissive personality
It makes her more attractive to a guy
Okay, 1st Peter 3 verse 1
Likewise he wives be in subjection to your own husbands that if any obey not the word
They also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives
Now the Bible says here that wives are to be in subjection to their own husbands
So here's the thing when it comes to all these ladies in this room
I am not here to tell you rules for your personal life because you're not my wife
I'm not saying that
Men are here and women have to listen to every order that a man tells you if a guy at our church says hey get
Me a water. It's like get him a water and throw it in his face, right?
Unless he's your husband
Okay
But here's the thing the Bible saying that wives are being subjection to their own husbands the person they're married to and
Here's the thing when a wife has that meek and quiet spirit
It actually makes them more attractive
But it is an encouraging verse to ladies that might be in that situation where maybe you love God, but your husband doesn't
Maybe you love God and maybe your husband comes every week, but he doesn't really love God
You're reading the Bible and he's not reading the Bible. You're excited for soul winning
He's not excited for soul winning and so this can be an encouraging version verse to ladies because if you're actually
You know doing what the Bible says of being in subjection to your husband that can actually win him over
To loving you more and eventually loving God more as well
Based on your actions based on your lifestyle based on what you're doing, but you say why is that because it's a very attractive feature
When your wife is not trying to argue or fight with you
But it's just allowing you to take the lead as guys we want to take the lead
Right as guys we want to be the leaders in the Bible teaches that and look
I know that the world is lying to people but in the hearts of
ladies
You don't want to let Lenny lead
Right now you can say whatever you want to me after the service
but in the heart of women you actually want a guy to take the lead in your marriage and
Unfortunately, the world is brainwashing women so makes it very difficult in 2022
But the reality is both husband and wife will be happier with the husband taking the lead
Despite what you've heard in the media or whatever. That's the truth. That's what the Bible teaches
Now verse number two while they behold your chase
Conversation coupled with fear who's adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plating the hair and of wearing of gold or of putting
On of apparel verse three is about physical appearance trying to make yourself more attractive
But what it's saying is instead of verse three
What about doing verse four but let it be the hidden man of the heart in that which is not corruptible
Even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit which is in the sight of God of great price now
Look a wife being in subjection to her husband that is attached to being spiritual
But what we're seeing is that act that actually makes a wife look more attractive when basically she's acting like a lady
You say why is this because guys should be masculine
Women should be feminine when women are feminine and act like ladies. It makes them attractive
When women act like men, it's not attractive
It's not
When men act like men, it's attractive when women act like women. It's attractive
But you know what when you got women acting like men and men acting like women
I don't get what's wrong with people in this world
But here's the thing if you're drawing close to God you see exactly what I'm saying
You know what I'm saying is true when women act feminine and like a lady
It makes it more attractive because God made a difference between men and women
They're not the same at all
There's a difference between men and women and when ladies are acting like ladies it makes them attractive and part of that is the wife
Allowing the husband to take the lead
Because it's a masculine trait to be like the leader and authority and strength and protector whereas with a lady
It's a feminine feature to be the follower and be in subjection
And this is a tough thing in 2022 for ladies because of the fact the world is brainwashing us
It's telling ladies you would be much happier if you become the CEO of this company, but that's not reality
Reality is God is right, and you're wrong
Despite what you've heard in the media despite what you've been lied to about the reality is
Husband and wife will both be happier if they fit their proper roles in the family. That's what the Bible teaches
Go to Song of Solomon chapter 5 Song of Solomon chapter 5 Song of Solomon chapter 5
Now look your husband might be afraid to tell you that's the truth, but I'm just helping you out in case he's too afraid
Right your husband's gonna be happier when you allow him to take the lead
Rather than basically if he makes a decision, and then you're like well. No. We're not gonna do that
It's just like eventually he's gonna be alright
It's not worth the effort
But here's the thing he wants to take the lead and have you just be willing to follow along and trust him to guide
That's what the Bible teaches
Point number one being spiritual point to sinning less point three having a sunny personality point for being submissive
And that's in reference to the ladies not for the men point five is
Shape meaning being in shape keeping taking care of your body and your physical appearance
Okay, and let me explain something to you the first point was spiritual. Okay. Nobody can be upset about that
Right, but at the same time when I'm preaching a sermon. I'm gonna show everything the Bible says
I'm not afraid to preach one part of the Bible just because it's not very commonly preached in churches
I've done to a lot of Baptist churches where they often almost make a mockery of
Basically staying in shape or working out as if it's like a bad thing or a sinful thing and yet
I'm gonna show you the Bible actually mentions this when we're talking about physical appearance. It's actually not a bad thing
It's actually a good thing according the Word of God, and it will affect your physical appearance notice
What it says in Song of Solomon 5 verse 15?
His legs are as pillars of marble set upon sockets of fine gold as countless as is left on excellent as the cedars now
When it says his legs the word leg in the Bible is referring to your knee to your ankle
It's not referring to your waist down to your foot. It's referring to basically here set upon sockets of fine gold
Obviously, there's poetic language, but it mentions socket there, so it's referring to this part, and it says as a pillar of marble
Well, what is the purpose of a pillar?
Support supposed to be strong
right
Marble is very hard substance. What's she telling her husband? You've got really strong calves
That's what she's saying
Right poetic language and people. I don't find the Song of Solomon confusing. It's it's a book
I've studied before I think it's actually a great book
That's very misunderstood, and I used to make this joke along with my friends
We would say well the Bible says bodily exercise profit if little but the by Bible also says bodily exercise profit
Right, but here's the thing I knew I was taking that verse out of context, but actually they are as well
Bodily exercise profit little is completely out of the context of what the verse is saying so we prove things with the Word of God
So let's look at what the Word of God says first Timothy 4 verse 8
first Timothy chapter 4 verse 8
For
Bodily exercise profit little now notice. That's not the end of the verse so what does the Bible mean?
But godliness is profitable on to all things so bodily exercise profit little
Godliness is profitable on to all things then it says having promise of the life that now is
Why you're alive in that which is to come here's what the Bible is saying
Godliness profits you in this life and in the life to come
Ask yourself a question
Which one does bodily exercise profit you with this life for the one to come this life?
You don't get rewards in heaven for how much you can bench press
We understand that but it profits you in this life is what the verse is saying
It's not saying hey bodily exercise doesn't profit you much in this life. That's not what it's saying
It's actually saying no it does profit you in this life, and doesn't that just make common sense
I mean keeping yourself physically fit does profits you in this life right now turn your Bible
To x is 28 one way it profits you is the Bible shows it actually makes somebody more attractive as they take care of their
Body okay now part of that is
Exercise and then part of that is what you eat I?
Understand you know with people's schedules
Maybe you don't have time to work out all the time and but but here's the thing all of us can decide what we eat
Now we do have ice cream coming at 1 p.m.. And you have to finish that I
Order to you too, because I'm the leader of this church, okay, but but I'm saying we all decide what we put in our body
And look I'm not saying the Bible doesn't say it's a Cindy junk food
I'm not saying that but obviously there would be a line where you're kind of harming your body if you're not eating properly
Right it's not it's not a Cindy eat a bowl of ice cream
But if breakfast two bowls of ice cream lunch two bowls of ice cream dinner two bowls of ice cream obviously you're destroying your body
Right obviously things in their proper balance, but what the Bible does teach is that if you take care of your body?
It will actually make you more attractive
And we see that from the Song of Solomon and honestly that just that just makes common sense right this is what the Bible teaches
Point number one being spiritual point to sinning less point three having a sunny personality point for submissive
That's a reference to ladies being in submission or being meek and quiet spirit point five
Being in shape or try to keep yourself in shape point six sustaining your vineyard now
I'm using a play of on words to keep this alliterated with sustaining your vineyard
What I mean is basically everything to do with your personal appearance with
taking showers
Brushing your teeth the clothing that you wear all of those things that are kind of just grouped together here
notice what it says in Exodus 28 verse 2 and
Thou shalt make holy garments for Aaron thy brother for glory and for beauty
The garments that were put on for Aaron and the priesthood they actually were for beauty
look at verse 40 X is 28 verse 40 and
for Aaron sons thou shalt make coats and thou shalt make for them girdles and
Bonnet shalt thou make for them for glory and for beauty and the Bible is showing you
Actually the clothes that you wear
Can actually be beautiful or the opposite right they can actually look nice or not the way you dress actually affects your physical appearance
You know part of why I said that when the ladies go out sewing at our church, you know, I look at them
I think man, what a beautiful group of ladies part of it is how they're dressed
Because ladies look more attractive when they're dressed like ladies
Ladies look more attractive wearing a dress now. You can do whatever you want. I'm not I'm not trying to get off on a rabbit trail
I'm just saying women look more attractive when they're wearing a dress. It's a fact
Women look more attractive wearing a dress
Women look more you say why is that because they're feminine
They're dressed like a lady. It's attractive
When they're dressed like that now, I will say that of all the points I mentioned in the sermon
This is the one I would say
I personally would struggle on the most of my flesh because I really don't like to dress up naturally and
So I used to be very lazy with how I dress just wearing like, you know
Soccer shirts and just not trying to dress nice at all
But the reality is the Bible does teach that the way you dress can make you look physically more attractive
Alright, I mean if somebody goes to a wedding and they're dressed nice
It's gonna make them look better than if they just show up, you know with you know shorts and a t-shirt and flip-flops
You're gonna be like, why are they dressed like that?
But it actually makes them just look unattractive because of how they're dressed actually dressing up for something makes you look better
Go to Isaiah 52
Isaiah 52
Now here's the thing I'm not saying spend all your time on sustaining your vineyard because that's an improper balance
Once again spiritual is more important, but there's nothing wrong with trying to look nice
It's actually a good thing and even the clothes given for the priests were to make them look more attractive
Just beautiful clothing look nice people look better when they dress up for stuff
I don't really like dressing up, but I have to admit that you know what?
I look better when I'm dressed professional than if I'm just dressed like a slob, right?
That's the reality for all of us when you try to dress up and look nice Isaiah 52 verse 1
Awake awake put on the strength of Zion put on thy beautiful garments
Oh Jerusalem the holy city and see when a person puts on clothes that look very nice
It makes them look more attractive now. Here's the thing, you know, we're fundamental Baptist
But sometimes people can go to too big of extremes like I'm so fundamental that
Basically, you know what?
I believe wives should make it or women should make it a point to not draw any attention
So just wear the ugliest thing you can find that's dumb
Guys, just find the ugliest thing because we're peculiar
Right, we don't want to be like the world. We don't want to stand out just dress as ugly as possible. That's just stupid
Okay, it's like you know what?
Obviously, this is not the number one most important thing to make sure you're trying to look nice or whatever
Obviously, I hope that you read your Bible this morning
That's more important and you spend time in prayer to God
But at the same time, you know what we should try to look presentable
Right, even and here's the thing even in the world. They would understand this because you go to a job
They make you dress up
You go to a professional company. You're not allowed to just show up wearing whatever you want
You know
They make you dress in a certain way and you what it it makes people look better when they're dressed up
now turn your Bible to Song of Solomon for
Song of Solomon for I
Mean there's a time and a place for everything
I mean if you're going to the gym, you're not going to be dressed like this
When I work out, I don't wear a suit. Okay, I don't wear a tie
Okay, but if you're gonna go out in public and you know trying to go to some sort of event or church or something
Like that, you should try to dress up. It's actually gonna make you look more attractive
Song of Solomon 4 verse 1
Behold thou art fair my love behold thou art fair thou'st doves eyes within thy locks
Thy hair is as a flock of goats that appear from Mount Gilead
Now once again be careful with giving symbolic references to animals
Okay, but what's being said thy hair is as a flock of goats is basically just that you're taking care of your hair
Okay, that's what's being said thy hair is as a flock of goats as part of sustaining your vineyard
Just kind of trying to look presentable thy hairs as a flock of goats verse 3 thy teeth are like a flock of sheep
That are even shorn which came up from the washing where of everyone bear twins and none is barren among them
You say what is that referring to?
Well, it says which came up from the washing a sheep is a white animal your teeth are white
Is what the Bible is saying?
Basically, you're like a sheep that's been washed just completely white
Just saying keeping taking care of your teeth taking care of your hair. Just these basic things. It's just poetic language
Okay, but when you break it down which came up from the washing your teeth are white is what is being said
Okay, you're taking care of your teeth now turn to second statement 14
And look doing things like that taking care of your teeth taking care of your hair another thing in Song of Solomon taking care
Of you know talks about the the ointments and the smell and things like that
Those things will actually make you look better and we see that wisdom from the Song of Solomon
second Samuel 14
second Samuel 14 and
We'll close up here and look I'm not preaching this sermon to say
Okay
You got to care so much about your physical appearance because honestly it should be very secondary
To how you're living a life
But isn't isn't that the point of the sermon because most of this is really about how godly you are being spiritual not sinning
writing these things are going along with being a spiritual godly person that actually physically makes you more attractive and
Realize that sometimes the world has the wrong perspective on things
but this is how people feel when they're serving God and you know wanting to
You know serve God and draw close to God as a guy
You're gonna find ladies more attractive if they're godly ladies if they're feminine if they're doing these basic things
The Bible says same thing is true for ladies and many times people can look on the outward appearance and they can get blinded by
That but once you actually get to know the person you realize those looks fade very quickly
And what matters is actually how spiritual they are how godly they are
and you know what the Bible actually gives us principles how you can make yourself look more attractive and
Just basic things now second same of 14 verse 25
But in all Israel
There was none to be so much as praised as praised as Absalom for his beauty and there you see a reference to a guy
Can be called beauty is a term that can be given to men
from the sole of his foot even in the crown of his head there was no blemish in him and the Bible says that
Absalom was the most beautiful or the best-looking because basically there was no blemish meaning
He took care of himself from his toe to his head just sustaining his vineyard now. Here's the thing
I'm not telling you to be like Absalom
I'm just using a verse to show you that basically you will look more attractive if you sustain your vineyard according to that verse
But once again, obviously godliness is the number one thing. I don't want anyone to leave here and say all right
I want to be the next Absalom. Okay, that would be terrible. Okay, but it's a reference to beauty
And it shows that when you sustain your vineyard you take care of yourself. It actually makes you more attractive
So our six points are this in this sermon number one being spiritual
the number one thing you can do to make yourself more attractive according to the Word of God is actually be a godly person is
To be a spiritual person is to try to do what's right?
number two
Sinning less because sinning destroys your physical appearance number three having a sunny personality
Just being in a good mood when people are in a good mood when they're happy when they're friendly
It makes them look more attractive number four submissive
This is a reference for ladies, but basically having that meek and quiet spirit
It's a very attractive feature in ladies when they have a making quiet spirit
And here's the thing if there's a guy that is you know looking for a partner or looking to get married and he serves
God he loves God and he sees a woman who's single
Who's just basically the exact opposite of a making quiet spirit? He's not gonna find her attractive
Because he's looking for someone who's gonna be a godly feminine lady
That's what the Bible teaches number five shape meaning basically
Exercise and what you eat taking care of your body and then sustaining your vineyard
Which is basically like everything else how you're dressed
Taking care of your hair your teeth and all the basic things like that these things will actually make you
Physically more attractive if you do them. Let's go to the word prayer your Heavenly Father
Thank you for allowing us to be here today and getting to see your word in this topic and help us
all realize these things and get principles from this and help us all try to do these things to the best of our ability and
We just pray these things in Jesus name. Amen
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