We're here in progress 7.22 and we're continuing our series on doubts of the family.
We're going to talk about doubts of the family here today.
And so we're going to look at what kind of doubts people have when it comes to the family.
Now let me just tell you a little bit about my background.
When I was in public schools when I was in elementary school,
and my older sister was home schooled.
She's two years older than me.
And then I was home schooled shortly after she was starting in middle school.
And then in high school I was partially in home school, partially in public school.
And so the first point I had is doubts that you can go to school.
And so I want you to understand that I have been in the public schools,
but I've also been home schooled as well.
And that was when my parents started home schooling.
It was very uncommon in America that home schooling was not common.
And today's world is very common in home school in America.
It was not common when I was home schooled.
In fact, when you had standardized tests you had to take,
you would all go to one location.
If you drive a long distance, you had to have a certified teacher run it.
And there's just not going to make you go to school.
My parents made the decision at home schoolers.
Now when it comes to what we believe is a church,
I believe the best thing you can do for your family to get to the hospital
is have the guy work the hours, make the money, and the wife stay at home
and raise the kids.
Now I definitely think once your kids are young and growing up,
you want to be there, help train them, teach them.
Why? Because this world is becoming very wicked.
They're getting worse every single year.
And these public schools are not going to do a good job training them
and teaching them like we want them to be trained.
I want you to notice Proverbs 22, verse 6, where it says,
Train up a child of the way you should go,
and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
Now before someone wants you to understand about doubts
you can hope to resist, a lot of people wonder, am I smart enough?
See, there's a lot of people out there that would like to home school their kids.
They say, you know, I would love to train my kids at home.
I do see the principles of the Bible.
I see in the Bible how there's not a public school system.
I see how the public school system in the Philippines is failing
and how they're becoming more wicked.
I want to teach them the ways of God.
I just don't think I'm smart enough to home school my kids.
What I want you to understand, though, in Proverbs 22, verse 6,
is if God tells you to train up your children,
he's saying you have the ability to do this.
God wouldn't ask you to do something if you're not capable of doing it.
It wouldn't make sense if he says, I want you to do this,
but you're not capable of doing it.
So when he says train up a child,
he's telling you it is possible to train up a child.
It is possible to raise your kids right in the wicked world that we live in.
It is possible to raise them so they grow up and love the Lord.
Turn to Proverbs 9.
And honestly, that's an encouraging thing for us,
that if God does ask us to do things that we're not capable of doing.
See, when God tells us to be soul leaders and praise the gospel of every creature,
you know what he's telling us? We have the ability to do it.
Say, wait a minute, I'm too shy. I don't have the natural ability.
Well, if God's asking you to do it, then you have the ability to do it.
He's not going to ask you to do something you're not capable of doing.
Now, it says in Proverbs 9, verse 10,
the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom,
and the knowledge of the holy is understanding.
So the Bible says the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.
And you say, well, brother, I don't know if I'm smart enough to raise my kids.
Well, do you think that the school systems are teaching your kids the fear of the Lord?
Because that's the beginning of wisdom.
See, the most important thing is they're trained and taught in the ways of God.
That's what the Bible teaches. It's the beginning of wisdom.
And so the most important thing is that we teach our kids at a young age the fear of the Lord.
And look, our public school systems, they're not going to do that.
And I understand that that's what most people do.
Most kids are in the public school systems.
And I understand that certain people might be in a situation where there's no way around.
I understand that maybe it's not possible for your kids to be homeschooled.
But I do believe that if it's possible, hey, we want to get them out of those public school systems, right?
And so you say, well, am I smart enough? Well, look, if God's asking you to do it,
if he's asking you to train your kids, your kids won't train you.
Now, here's the great thing when you train your kids at a young age.
You know, kids, they're learning from square one, okay?
It's not like when your kids are five years old, they're asking you really in-depth questions about grammar or about actions, okay?
They're learning how to add and multiply.
They're learning the very basics.
I mean, they're not even learning multiplication at the age of five probably.
I mean, they're learning the basics at a young age.
So you as a parent, guess what?
You have the knowledge from the beginning.
And as they learn, you can stay ahead of them for something you forget.
The truth is we all forget it's most of what we learn, right?
You know, I got a degree in math, but you know, when I was a math teacher a couple years after I graduated,
I forgot a lot of the basics that I knew because they didn't talk about calculus.
The very basics, you know, I was like, I don't even know how to do this anymore.
Why? Because I hadn't done it in years.
But see, there's things that we have to relearn, and you know what?
As parents, we can relearn those things.
And we have the book and we can show them what they need to know.
Here's one thing about the school systems.
Oftentimes your teachers don't know what their answers are.
I mean, I remember being, you know, math class, and math's my favorite subject.
I remember being in math class, and there was one time I can remember
where I got an answer right on the test, and the teacher marked it wrong.
And I showed all of my work, and all of it, I had a bad attitude that day.
Because I was bad at getting me on the test on math, and that's my subject.
And she said it was wrong, and I said, I have the answer right.
I said, I got one wrong. Why is this wrong?
And she's like, this is not how we did in class.
And all of it, I had a bad attitude, and I said, yeah, I'm always better than the way you talked about it.
And that's wrong to do.
I was a bad dude, we shouldn't do that.
But I was kind of mad when she said that, because I got the answer right.
Because your thing about math, there's a lot of ways to solve a problem.
There's a lot of different ways to get the answer.
And you know, here's one thing that's not even really in my notes,
but kids learn differently.
And so you know that if my son learns a way to solve a math problem,
and that's not the way I taught him, but he's like, this makes sense, and he can do that.
That's right, because we want kids to think outside the box.
We don't want them to say you have to do it this way, because if they get the right answer,
and they get proven, then that's fine.
And here's the truth, though.
When I had classes in school, there were a lot of times the teachers didn't know what the answer was.
Especially once you have substitute teachers.
At least in America, they just throw anyone in there.
And they have no clue how to do the stuff.
And sometimes the substitutes would have teachers, or kids, teach the class.
Because they don't have a clue what the answers are,
and they say, I don't know how to do math from this year,
but we're seeing that they just have somebody go to the board and teach math classes.
I don't know if it's like that in religion.
What I'm just trying to tell you is this, that it's not like the teachers in the school systems
are like the smartest people.
And I'm not saying they're not intelligent, I'm not saying they're dumb,
but it's not like they're so much smarter than you, and you must do them.
You could never teach them.
No, you're smart enough to teach your kids.
You're smart enough to teach them the ways of God.
You're smart enough to teach them what they need to know to survive in life.
Now, go to Ephesians 5. Ephesians 5.
Now look, if my son was eight years old, and I'm sure in his book, in science, and all these things,
I'm sure there's a lot that I don't remember how to do things anymore.
I don't remember what the answers are.
There's a lot of things you learn that you forget.
But the truth is that you can really learn those things.
And here's one thing about homeschooling.
People have this idea when it comes to classes that you want these really strong classes
so they can get specialized attention from their teachers.
Here's why that doesn't make sense.
Because in the real world, you need to be working a job where you always get specialized treatment from your boss,
but you need to learn to figure it out on your own.
If you're always relying on being able to ask your boss,
hey, how do I do this? How do I do this?
You're not going to last that long in a job.
You're going to be able to figure out how to do stuff on your own.
And one great thing about homeschooling is this.
When I was homeschooled, I pretty much learned a lot of stuff.
I had my mom and my dad help me when I didn't know how to do stuff.
But a lot of it I kind of learned on my own.
And that teaches you how to figure out stuff on your own, which is a valuable skill.
Because in life, you can't always rely on someone to give you all the answers.
Now, another question people have is, besides my smart note,
the big thing that the public school system will say is
your kids will not get socialization if they're homeschooled.
That's what they're going to tell you.
They say, well, are your kids going to get proper socialization?
Well, my question is this.
Do you want the socialization that the public school system provides?
I mean, do we even want that socialization?
They're saying that you must get socialized.
You're not going to get it if you're being homeschooled.
My question is, do we want the socialization that the public schools are providing?
Is that what you want?
You want your kids to learn about all manner of wickedness and sin at a young age.
And trust me, they will.
Because I didn't learn that stuff when I was at home.
But, you know, when I was in grade school, there was a lot of things that I heard
and a lot of things that I saw that no one should be seeing at any time in their lives.
But, you know, sin runs rampant in the school systems.
Now, look at what it says in Ephesians 5, verses 3 through 5.
And it says in Ephesians 5, verse 3,
But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness,
let enough of what seemed upon you as become saints.
Neither filthiness nor foolish talking nor jesting,
which are not convenient, but rather good new things.
For this you know that no warmonger nor unclean person or covetousness
is an idolater at any inheritance that can be prized in the gut.
Now, I want you to closely look at these verses, okay?
I want you to compare verses 3 to 5, okay?
Notice in verse 3 it says fornication and in verse 5 it says warmonger.
Now, that's not the exact same thing because warmonger is specifically referring to a guy.
But those are very similar sorts of things.
Some of the same category of sin, isn't it?
Fornication, name of warmonger.
Then I want you to notice in verse 3 how it says all uncleanness.
Notice in verse 5, nor unclean person.
You see how those are basically the same?
No uncleanness, no unclean person.
I want you to notice how it says then covetousness in verse 3.
Then in verse 5, nor covetous man who is an idolater.
Did you see how verses 3 and 5 are almost identical when you line them up?
It's the same sorts of things.
When it says fornication and warmonger, you're talking about sexual sin.
Then it says uncleanness and unclean person.
Then it says covetousness and covetous man.
You say, why is it that the Bible does that?
Well, notice what it says in verse 4.
Neither filthiness nor foolish talking nor jesting which are not convenient for rather giving offense.
Now, notice how it says foolish talking, okay?
Foolish talking would be a sin of the tongue, right?
Then it says jesting.
What is jesting?
It's referring to joking when it's inappropriate.
And when it makes them feel really bad or when it's inappropriate, it's a sin of the tongue.
So what is God trying to show you?
Well, what he's trying to show you in verse 4,
that the sins of the tongue are the same sorts of things you see in verse 3 and verse 5.
So in verse 4, it's not talking about actually committing fornication,
but it's talking about talking about it with your tongue.
Here's what I want you to understand.
In the public school system, in elementary school, they might not be doing these things,
but they're talking about them.
And that's where you're learning.
Why do you say that?
Because in verse 4, which was sandwiched between verse 3 and 5,
which is essentially identical, and verse 4 is talking about sins of the tongue,
so what is it referring to?
It's referring to the things you find in verses 3 and 5.
And look, when you're young and at home,
you don't learn about being a whore or a whore mommer or a fornicator
when you're at home being homeschooled.
You know where you do learn that?
You do learn that in the public school system,
where people are talking about it.
When I was in public school, I wasn't committing those sins,
but you know what, I heard people talking about them.
At a young age, you hear them talking about them.
When I was in high school, I was half a day in homeschool and half a day in public school.
And guess what?
In the public school system, they basically make fun of you
if you haven't gone around a middle whore or a whore mom.
They talk to you for it.
They say, well, how many people have you been with?
It's like, how is that appropriate to talk about?
Is that the sort of socialization you want your kids to get?
That's what they're going to talk about.
So even if they're not doing it, they're still hearing about it.
That's for sure.
That's what you're seeing in verses 3 through 5.
You say, well, you know, my son, you know, he's kept himself pure,
but you know what, if you've heard people talk about it all the time, guess what?
He might not keep himself pure for that long.
And it says, you know, I'm cleanest.
And it says, consciousness.
Now, consciousness is a big sin in the Bible.
Now, you know, I hope my son growing up,
I hope he learns that life is not about money.
Life is not about being rich.
But you know what?
That's what they're going to talk about in the school system.
Because every kid is dreaming about how to be successful and make it in life.
Look, there's an element of truth in that that you need to provide for your family.
We'll talk about this in the sermon.
But our lives are not wrapped up in making money.
Anyway, that's what every kid wants.
You know, they want to sow their wild oats, they want to become rich.
These are not things I want my son to be exposed to.
And you say, is your son going to be properly socialized?
Well, I don't want the socialization that you're going to provide.
I think he's properly socialized.
Because you know what, he's around people all the time at church.
How so many of these people, he's getting socialization.
You see, the world we live in today, they want you to take a long time
to grow up to be a man or a woman.
Well, the truth is, we've got to prepare ourselves at a young age.
And I want my son to learn the discipline of hard work and being godly at a young age.
And you have kids in the public school system, they're not ready to go out to the real world.
You go to your college system for several years and then they just extend them,
they're not ready for the real world.
They need to learn at a young age about working hard.
And I'm not saying that all forms of schooling are bad.
Guys, I will say this, in terms of your kids at a young age, I do the best I can.
Not just because I get to learn more and to hear the words you give me in college,
but for socialization especially, I don't want them to get the socialization
they're going to get in the public school system.
Because they're going to learn about all manner of wickedness and sin.
And you know what, I have a problem if my son grows up and he's perfectly normal
and feels comfortable being in a conversation where people are talking about being drunk
and committing fornication.
I would have a problem if my son felt comfortable about that.
I don't want him to feel comfortable about that.
And if you want to call it up being antisocial, go ahead.
Because you know what, we as God's people, we're peculiar.
We're a little bit different.
And we show people comfortable talking about getting drunk and fornicating
and cheating on our spouses, that's not normal.
You know, literally at my old job, you know, I worked in an office
and I remember that people would come by the person who worked beside me
and they would just talk about all this gossip
and they would talk about things like cheating on their spouse.
And it's like you feel normal about talking about that and you feel no shame
but that's what the world has to offer.
Now the truth is that in America it's worse in here with those things.
But it's not going to get better in this country.
It's only going to get worse.
Now in America the vast majority of spouses cheat on their spouse.
Most husbands cheat on their wives and most wives cheat on their husbands.
It's known as, I mean, most marriages ended in divorce in America.
And a large reason why is because of the fact that you cheat on your spouses.
But you know what, it's only going to get worse here in the building games.
And it's already common here, it's only going to get worse.
And you say, well these are kids from grade school or middle school.
Yeah, but at that age they start talking about these things.
And when you allow those things to enter into your mind,
you can start defiling your mind.
And you might start doing things some things you have never done
if you didn't learn any public school system.
Look at verse 6, notice what it says.
Let no man deceive you with vain words,
for because of these things, some of the wrath of God upon the children
are disobedient, being not only therefore partakers with them.
So notice how verse 6 and verse 7 talk about being deceived with vain words.
And so we're going back to the words.
So verses 4 and verse 6 are talking about the words that are being said.
Verse 3 and verse 5 are about the actions.
So what that is clearly showing us is,
the same things he's rebuking in verse 4,
the foolish talking is foolish talking about conditions, wicked sins.
That's what he's saying.
And he's saying we should not be partakers with them.
This is not something we should allow to intervene you on in years.
We should avoid it at all costs.
That's something that no Christian ought to hear.
Now turn to verse 75.
And so one reason why people doubt whether or not they can homeschool their kids,
they say, am I smart enough?
I don't even know if I'm intelligent enough.
You know, maybe that's just not something I'm blessed with.
I mean, if this is something that God said you're capable of doing,
you're capable of doing it.
Another thing is, well, do my kids, will they get the socialization they need?
Look, you're getting brainwashed by the world
if all you're thinking about is socialization.
Here's the truth about school.
School is for education.
That's the purpose of it to begin with, is to learn.
You see, if you go way back, whether it's in the Philippines,
I'm sure it's the same as in America, you know what they did in school?
They didn't spend all this time socially.
Actually learn.
That's what school actually was for.
It wasn't about always just hanging out in life,
because life was a little bit tougher than you had to work hard to survive.
And you know where you socialize?
You socialize in your local church.
Anybody in America needs a church.
That's where you socialize.
And you know what, you also socialize at home with your faith.
I want to go back to that sort of world
where you get your socialization is in church,
around people at local work,
and you get your socialization at home
where you don't just spend time watching TV all day,
but you actually spend time as a family.
You play board games, you play cards,
just use fun things as a family
rather than spending all your time just watching the television.
It's meant to be at church, it's meant to be at home,
and you know what, those kids,
they will grow up and be very well-adjusted,
they'll be ready to work at a young age,
they'll be ready to get married at a young age,
they'll be ready to actually be useful,
and I can get that in the public school system.
Now I'm not saying you can't survive in the public school system.
I'm sure there's lots of people in this room that are in the public school system.
Yeah, you can survive there, but you know what,
I don't think it's the best option.
I think God's best option is for you to be trained at home,
to be a part of the church and the Lord.
I think that's the best way to say,
do I have the ability to homeschool my kids?
Well, God did that.
I mean, yes, you're smart enough,
yes, you have the ability.
You might say, well, for the second, it's overwhelming.
You say, I don't know, it's so hard,
I don't know if I can do it.
Isn't everything overwhelming when you first started it?
Isn't that the way it works?
I mean, the first time I went to school with you,
I was scared to death.
Man, I was so afraid.
I was like, man, I don't know.
I don't know.
I can't say anything that's not,
everything's overwhelming when you first started it.
Look, even the people that visit our church
for the first time,
they might be a little bit overwhelming
for them to come into a room where they don't know anybody.
Everything is overwhelming when you first started.
You start a new job the first day,
you're kind of worried about,
oh, I wanna make sure I don't wanna make the boss mad.
Every single thing is overwhelming when you first started.
Okay, everything's overwhelming when you first started it,
but you're still able to do it.
I mean, it's not gonna be as difficult as you think it is.
My parents homeschooled me,
but homeschooling is not common in America,
and when you didn't have the resources
that you have in your head like today,
there's so many resources out there
that it's a much easier thing to do
than it was 10, 20, 30 years ago.
Back then, it was a lot more difficult.
Why?
Because you didn't have the easy access
to the stuff you said you had today.
There's YouTube videos on that mission.
Look, if there's a math problem
you don't know how to teach a kid,
look, YouTube, you can find the answer.
I promise you that.
Everything's unbelievable.
Now, another thing you might wonder about is,
can I provide for my family on the one income?
Now, as I said, I mean, the best thing is for the guys
that they're able to provide for their family
and the wives to stay home.
And you say, well, I don't know if I'm able
to provide on the one income or not.
Well, I want you to notice first to be five verse eight
where it says,
but if any provide not for his own,
and especially for those of his own house,
he hath denied the faith and is worse than an infidel.
So God says that, you know, men are supposed to provide.
Throughout the Bible, what you always see is
that the wives would stay home and raise their kids.
The life was a lot different then.
It took a lot of time to stay home and raise your kids.
You know, washing and drying your clothes,
it wasn't as easy back then.
We have a lot of things today that make life a lot easier.
And what you see throughout the Bible
is the wives stay home and the guys work.
I believe that's the ideal system.
Now, I want you to notice the person
in the five verse eight where it said,
his own, his, is that masculine or neutral?
It's masculine, right?
Then it says for those of his own house,
it's masculine, right?
Then it says, he hath denied the faith, okay?
Now, I'm gonna read this verse two in I.D.
Because at our church, what we believe,
we believe the King James Bible is perfect.
We believe that's the Bible that God has given us.
It's been since 1611 when the Bible was used,
when all the great dish work took place
and all kinds of souls got saved.
Yes, the Bible was around for 300 years
without anybody questioning, okay?
All these modern versions have come out
and they make a lot of changes.
Now, oftentimes we focus on the changes
when it comes to salvation.
They change everything at these times.
Notice what it says in I Timothy 5a.
Anyone does not provide for their relatives.
Wait a minute.
The Bible said, if any provide not for his own.
Anyone who does not provide for their relatives.
So not only does it take away the masculine,
but it adds relatives, where basically,
if someone's my fifth cousin,
I think you give them money apparently.
Because they're my relative, right?
I'm sorry, but I have a lot of,
in terms of my family, most of my family are not Jewish.
I'm supposed to provide their needs
according to this verse.
If anyone does not provide for their relatives.
And especially for their own household.
So basically it says,
you need to provide for your relatives,
even more so for your own household.
But that's not what the Bible says.
See, when it says his own,
it's referring to his household.
As a guy, I have a wife, I have one son right now.
If I have more kids,
I'm supposed to provide for all of them.
It doesn't mean I'm supposed to provide
for my third cousin twice a year, okay?
Like it says in the NIV.
But it said, anyone does not provide for their relatives,
especially for their own household,
has denied the faith and is worse than any leader.
So notice how it just completely takes away
the masculine part.
Why?
Well the NIV is teaching you
that it's not the guy's responsibility.
But when you read what the Bible says throughout,
it is the guy's responsibility.
God says he wants the man to provide for his family.
That's the system that God gave us.
Now turn to Psalm 75, Psalm 75.
Now here's the truth.
It's not easy here in the Philippines
to get married and to provide for your family
with income, right?
That is not an easy thing to do.
Now this is a little bit different than it is to the US
because honestly in the US, it's not that hard.
Even if you didn't have any sort of skills,
you could work a fast food job for 70 hours a week
or 60 hours a week,
and you could provide for your family
and have a place to live.
I mean in America,
this surprises people unless they've heard of it.
You don't have to work at all.
The government will provide you.
That's how you provide it for your own.
Don't even work.
And the government's like,
here's your money.
We don't want you to end up on the street
because in America,
the government will give you money
even if you don't work at all.
That's the way the US works.
You say, why is the US becoming a lazy place?
Well, that's the reason why.
Because they'll give you money if you don't work.
So what's the reaction?
What's the point of working
if the government's gonna give you the money anyway?
Well, you know,
what's the point of working
if the government's gonna give you the money anyway?
But here's what it says in Psalm 75 verses six and seven.
For promotion cometh neither from the east
nor from the west nor from the south,
but God is the judge.
He put it down one and set it up another.
So what the Bible says is that promotion comes from God.
Now as I've said before in sermons,
at a young age,
the men in this room need to prepare themselves
to be able to provide for their family
because it's not going to be easy.
If you're a young guy in this room that is not married
and you spend all of your money,
you are a fool.
That's the truth.
There's no nice way to say it.
If you spend,
if you go out to eat three times a week
because you can afford it
and you're spending all your money,
you are a fool.
You're wasting your money
when one day you're gonna be married
and you're gonna wish you had more money to buy.
Now look,
I lived an extremely modest life
before I was married to Saba
and it gave me the ability to do things
that some people didn't have.
I know lots of people that would love the movie
in great terms,
but you know what,
they really can't.
Why?
They don't have any money anymore.
It's like why don't they have any money?
Because they're spending all of it.
As a single guy,
you're just providing for yourself.
You should be saving up now
and say,
Brother Scott,
you know,
I'm trying to,
but it's difficult.
Well remember what I said
promotion comes not from the East
or from the West
or from the South,
but God is the judge.
He put it down one instead of another.
God can't promote you.
Now obviously we need to do our part.
God's not going to help you out
if you're lazy
and you're not working hard
and you're wasting all of your money.
He's not gonna help you out.
But if you work hard
and you love the Lord
and you do everything that you can,
God's gonna step in and provide you with your need.
Now this is something that
you need to learn at a young age though
because as you get older,
you might put yourself in a position
where you can't do what you need.
That's the truth.
Sometimes we can put ourselves in positions in life
where we're not capable of doing what we want to do
because of choices we make in the past.
You ought to prepare yourself
now at a young age.
But you know,
when you get married
and you have a child
or you have children,
it's not gonna be cheap.
It's gonna start getting expensive.
And look,
you're gonna care a lot more about,
you're gonna wish you did have money
to take your son or your daughter places
to take your family places.
That's gonna mean a whole lot more to you
than spending, you know,
I don't know, 200 pesos
going out to eat,
you know, three times a week.
It's like you'd rather have that money
that you wasted for five years
and use it on your family one day
and be able to provide for your family.
So this idea of providing on one income,
well, you know what?
If you prepare yourself now
at a young age,
I don't think you have to doubt
or worry about whether or not you can do this.
But it's a matter of actually
comparing for yourself
at a young age.
One big problem we have in the Philippines,
turn to problem 14, problem 14,
one big problem we have in this country
is that people have a tendency
to spend every single cent they have.
Every single peso they're like,
I got 50 pesos,
I gotta spend it somewhere.
It's like, you know, you don't.
You don't have to spend all of your money.
And I understand that's a cultural thing here.
We basically spend all of your money
that you have.
That's the coolest thing to do though.
You should prepare for the future.
Now look, some people in the room
are doing well with finances.
Some are.
We're in different positions.
That's fine because you can still love the word
whether you're doing well
or whether you're not doing well.
I'm just trying to help you guys out
when you're engaged.
And yes, it's something I preach on a lot.
Why?
Because I want you to be able
to be married one day
and be able to provide for your family.
I don't want you to put yourself
in a position where you get married
and you can even think about it.
I'm giving you guys the warning now.
I'm telling you.
Now at our church,
look, we have a microwave here.
We're going to have a fridge couple here
in the next couple weeks.
You don't have to go out and eat everything.
You can drink.
My wife and I brought food today.
We're just going to heat it up in the microwave.
There's nothing wrong with it.
My wife cooked a meal yesterday.
And look, it's going to taste
just as good as it does downstairs too.
My wife cooked a meal.
We're going to heat it up in the microwave.
Why?
I don't want to spend all my money
on going out to the field
because that is expensive.
And look, we have a microwave.
We're going to have a fridge here
so you can bring your food to this church.
And then you can just eat it here.
That's the reason why we have it.
We do that to try to help you guys out.
I don't want people to spend all my money.
Now I'm not saying it's wrong to go out to eat.
You're welcome to if you want.
But go out to eat if you're capable of eating.
Don't go out to eat because,
well, all my friends are doing it
so I'm going to do it too.
No, if you don't have the money, don't do it.
Just save up money.
Be smart.
It says in Proverbs 14 verse 23,
In all labor there is profit,
but the talk of the lips
tended only to tenuring.
Now the Bible says,
in all labor there is profit.
Look, if you work hard,
there is profit in that.
Okay?
You say, but Brother Stuckey,
I'm volunteering at this church
and I don't get any money for it.
Look, the Bible says,
in all labor there is profit.
God can make sure if you're putting in work
He's going to provide you with this.
In all labor there is profit.
That's what the Bible teaches.
And so look, if you have extra time,
you say, Brother Stuckey,
I can only work 15 hours of my job.
I can't get any extra overtime.
Hey, put in as much extra work
as you can for the Lord now.
And God's going to look down and say,
in all labor there is profit.
If you're working hard,
there's profit.
God sees your work.
Notice in the second half of the verse,
it says, but the talk of the lips
tended only to tenuring.
Okay?
You say, what does that mean,
tenuring?
Turn to Luke 21.
Luke 21.
So I do believe,
when you're young,
if you're capable,
and you're like,
yeah, you should work overtime
if you can.
Now obviously,
you don't want to get away
from the things of God.
I'm not telling you
to live your life to be rich,
but as you're young,
and you're not married,
yeah, you're in a position
where you might be able
to work overtime
or get a second job
and be able to save up some money.
Because once you're married,
you're going to want to
come home to your wife
and your family.
You're not going to want
to start working
70, 80 hours a week.
You're going to want to do that
when you're young and single.
You're not going to want to do that
once you're old.
You don't want to do that
when you're young.
Now you say,
what does it mean by tenuring?
Well, notice what it says
in chapter one, verse four.
For all these have of their abundance
cast in unto the offerings of God.
But she of her penury
cast in all the living
that she had.
This word,
penury,
basically means
extreme poverty.
It's when you are very poor.
It's not just that you're poor,
but you're extremely poor.
So this woman that
cast in her penury,
she's basically
giving all to God.
Because she really
doesn't have any money
whatsoever.
And so,
she said,
there's people that give
a lot more money to her,
but they have a lot more money.
Her on the other hand,
she basically has nothing
because she's giving it
all to God.
And so,
when it goes back to
problem fourteen,
turn back to problem fourteen
one second.
When it says the talk of ellipse
tended only to penury,
what it's saying is this,
that you could
labor and work hard
and is profited in it,
or you could just spend
your time talking about
how,
oh, I'm poor,
I have nothing.
And guess what,
it's making you poor.
Just go out there
and work,
you say,
well,
you know,
I only work 40 hours.
Hey,
get a second job,
hey,
do work for God,
though so many,
because God says,
no,
lately there's a problem.
Or you can just talk
about how bad your life is,
your entire life is.
And you have
the talk of ellipse,
it causes you to be poor.
And see,
that's what you see
in today's world
where a bunch of people
they worked,
they labored
six days.
We're talking about
12 hour days,
that's 72 hours
of work,
of hard work,
where they're actually
out in the field
working hard.
72 hours.
And the people
in today's world
are like,
oh man,
such a burden
to go to church
once a week.
It's like,
are you kidding me?
I mean,
they labored 72 hours
in the Bible.
And look,
this is something that,
look,
you know,
people,
it's like when it comes
to this building,
you know,
we've seen people
that worked
and they started working
like one in the afternoon.
We showed up in their sleep.
It's like,
it's one in the afternoon.
It's like,
what are you doing?
It's like,
you know,
we're meant to work hard
and not to be lazy.
But look,
if you have days off,
I'm not saying it's wrong
to take a vacation,
but hey,
don't just sit around
and play video games
and watch YouTube videos
all day.
Actually do something
with your time.
Because you know,
if God looks down
and says,
look,
you know,
you might learn
a lot of stuff
from sermons you listen to,
but you know what?
In the Bible,
God wants you to relate
and that's how important
God is.
That's the truth.
And you know,
I'm amazed that people
that listen to sermons
for like five hours every day
and they don't
know that much about the Bible.
And it shows me
they're not really
reading the Bible.
Because when you read
the Bible,
it actually sticks to me
and you understand.
When people listen
to sermons all the time
for entertainment,
look,
God doesn't intend
you to sit around
and listen to sermons
all day.
It's great that you're here
because you've heard
a lot of sermons,
you know what you believe,
you love the Lord,
that's great.
But the truth is,
you know what,
God doesn't want you
to sit around
and just listen
to sermons all day.
My attitude was this,
that when I didn't go
to a church that I thought
was really evening,
I felt like I needed
to listen to a lot
of preaching.
But when you're at a church
that is a great church,
you don't really
listen to sermons.
When I went
to a very Baptist church,
my mind plummeted.
And it was more like,
well, once a week
or every two weeks
I'd try to find a sermon
if I wanted to learn something
or I thought it was interesting.
Look, if you go to a church
where you're learning
the word of God,
then the most important
thing for you
is not to listen
to sermons online.
It's more important
for you to read the Bible,
memorize the Bible,
to work hard,
because those are things
the Bible actually mentions.
And you're welcome
to listen to as many
sermons as you want
because that's great.
The truth is that
when you're part
of a great church,
you're needing
for that is not as high
because you're already
being fed.
And it's more important
to God that we have
great fellowship
as a church
and we build this place
and that's not going to come
just to listen
to online preaching.
It's going to come
from us working hard
and making it through.
That's true.
Look, I do want you
to get a chance
to listen to sermons.
I turned to Proverbs 31.
If you do get a chance
to listen to sermons,
you know, I think that's great.
You can learn from sermons
and I do listen
from time to time.
I'm just trying to tell you
that it's not
the most important thing
for you
because you're not
going to find verses
in the Bible
that tell you
to listen to
preaching for hours a day.
You're going to find verses
that tell you
to read the Bible
and memorize the Bible
and to go soul winning
and to have a fellowship
at church
but you're not going to find
where the Bible says
you know what,
you should just listen
late at night to preach
to me for hours a day.
See, that's something
that can be used
for great benefit
but it can also
distort your life as well.
You know, one thing
that is true
and it's good
but it's also
kind of sad
is this,
when it comes to
online preaching
a lot of people
found, you know,
this movement
because of the fact
they were lazy
and spent a lot of time
and they just listened
to everything under the sun
and then they're like
wow, this is really
interesting
but it doesn't change
the fact that
you know,
if you were lazy
when you started
listening to preaching
you're still lazy.
It's like when a person
is a drunk
and they just say
they're still a drunk
they still are going
to have to work on that
their whole life
but it's the same thing
if you're lazy
and started listening
to great preaching online
hey, it's great to listen
to great preaching
listen to the sermon
where it says the Lord
part
that's part of being
a good Christian
as a man
or as a woman
you say well,
I'm a woman
this preaching has
nothing to do with me
about providing
for a family
actually it does
notice what it says
in Proverbs 31 verse 11
the heart of her husband
doth safely trust in her
so that he shall have
no need of spoil
so when it says
shall have no need of spoil
it's referring to money
basically what it's saying is
the husband can trust
his wife
that she doesn't waste
all the money they have
that's what he's saying
that the husband can
safely trust in his wife
why?
because you know what
she's not going to waste
all the money that it makes
notice what it says
in verse 12
she will do him good
and not evil
all the days of her life
she seeketh wool
and flax
and worketh willingly
with her hands
and so the Bible
is even more detailed
in verse 13
she works
she seeks wool
and flax
and works
with her hands
now some things are different
in today's world
you can buy clothes
for a cheap price
okay I'm not saying
you need to be
you know take this too
literally
because obviously
if you can buy something
for a cheap price here
then look
you don't have to spend
like five hours
making a shirt
just buy a shirt
you better use this
for your time
but at the same time
you can go to one place
to get a shirt
for a cheap price
or you can spend
you know like
oh just spend
you know 1500
I mean you're wasting money
you don't have to spend
that much money
on everything you buy
it's just something
you can put on
look you shouldn't waste
all the money
and you know
if you want your
husband to be able
to provide
as a wife
don't waste all
his money
and even if you're not
married
you know it's good
for you to try
to have as much money
as you can
to help provide
for the family
and not put yourself
in debt
before you even get there
in America
everybody goes to college
and almost
everybody comes out
with an extreme debt
and so basically
they put themselves
in a position where
they couldn't
try to apply this
to their lives
and life
they have a huge debt
and they have to
work out
for five
ten years
that's why people
are having kids
laying on in life
than they used to
people used to get married
and have kids
when they were
20 years old
21
and they're actually
prepared
because they were
being taught that
now people are having kids
when they're in their 30s
they're just not ready
to provide for a family
that's the way it is
throughout the entire world
the government
wants you to be
dependent upon them
that's the truth
and that's what they're doing
and notice what it says
in verse 14
she is like the merchant ships
she bringeth her food
from afar
so what does it mean
by she bringeth her food
from afar
well the application
we can make is
she finds the cheapest place
to get the food
look there's some stores
that will sell the
exact same thing
that's a lot cheaper
one place
than it is in another place
that's the truth
now I understand
there's other things
to consider
like how much
is the chimney cost
how long will this take me
I'm not saying
we need to go out
like you know
we're gonna go all the way
to you know someplace
four hours away
to get food
I'm not saying that
but what I am saying
is this
that you ought to
actually think about
how much money
am I spending
and not just say
well I'm here
I'm just gonna buy
everything here
well you ought to know
whether or not
there's stores nearby
that are cheaper
because there's a lot of things
to consider
about how you're using
your money
verse 15
she rises also
while it is yet night
and given the meat
to her household
in a portion
to her maids
so she rises up early
that way she can provide
food for her household
basically she's cooking
the meals for the house
verse 16
she considered
a field and buy a field
with the fruit of her hands
she planted a vineyard
so once again
you're seeing her work
very hard
she considers
a field and buys it
now I'm not saying
most of us probably
don't have the money
to buy a field
but it does show us
that she's actually
being smart
she's not just
relying on her husband
but she's helping
that household
she's saving money
she's being smart
she's not wasting it
and she's showing wisdom
and she planted the vineyard
hey that's gonna help
you save money as well
now all this is
hard work
for both husbands and wives
if you want to be
successful in life
you do have to work hard
now turn to
verse peter three
so when it comes
to providing
all one income
you have to be
successful in life
when it comes to providing
all one income
a lot of people
have doubts about this
and quite honestly
they should have doubts
about it
because if they don't
prepare themselves
you're not gonna be
able to do it
you gotta put yourself
in a position where
you don't have to
have these doubts
where you're like
okay I have
money saved up
I know what I want to do
you know
you need to prepare
yourself in your age
because it's not going
to be easy to make
you fear
the government's not
gonna give you
you know
50,000 pesos every month
in america
they'll give you
50,000 plus pesos
for doing nothing
I remember one time
that I knew someone
and you know
we had a couple of kids
the government gives you
more if you have kids
but he made more money
than me and I worked
and he did
but he made more money
than me
why?
because the government
gave more money
than I got
for actually working
but at the same time
the bible says
in all labor
there is profit
so what's gonna cause
god to bless you
you're actually working
it's god commands you
to do that
the doubt is
can you be a good
husband or wife
can you be a good spouse
that's something
a lot of people
doubt about
now
in terms of the men
we'll look at both
the men and the women
but first peter 3
verse 7
notice what it says
likewise he husbands
dwell with them
according to knowledge
giving honor unto the wife
as under the weaker vessel
and as being heirs together
in the grace of life
that your prayers
be not hindered
notice what it says
dwell with them
according to knowledge
so one thing god
tells you to do
with husbands is
you need to have
knowledge about
your wife
basically
you need to know
what is she like
what is she not like
we need to actually
get to know our wives
now a lot of people
have doubts about
am I being a good husband
am I doing what's right
well here's the thing
the more you get
to know your spouse
the more you're gonna
know what she wants
we need to get
to know our spouses
and that can help
remove one of our doubts
if we actually get to know
that we're gonna know
what they mean
you're gonna know
what sort of people
you're gonna know
what sort of food
they like
where they like to go
what they want to do
with their free time
you're gonna know
these things
but you know
this is this is
the magic formula
for getting to know
your wife
okay
it's called talking
to them
okay
that's what you
gotta do
once again that goes
back to not
spending five hours
watching sermons
on youtube
but actually talking
to your wife
and getting to know
having a strong family
I have more interest
in my son
because you know what
honestly I believe
God's gonna bless you more
if you're doing the things
that he tells you to do
but it's more important
for me
because you know what
if God blesses you
with a wife
bless you with kids
they are your kids
the praise
and the love
that you care about
God gave them to you
and one big thing
about being a husband
is just getting
to know your wife
you know
obviously you know
men and women
are different
there's things
that I think naturally
that you know
my wife thinks
the exact opposite
you're gonna make
the world different
and you say
well how am I
gonna be a good husband
get to know your wife
start to talk to them
and that can help
remove your doubts
about whether or not
you're gonna be
a good husband
because you're gonna
know what she thinks
turn to Solomon 1
Solomon 1
there's a famous book
in America
you know I've never read it
it's called
Men Are From Mars
Women Are From Venus
it's basically just
I don't know
it's basically just
I don't even know
what the book is about
basically it's just saying
guys and girls are like
completely different
and you know
to a guy
we look at certain things
maybe a woman would think
we're like
you know
it doesn't make any sense
you know
whereas women
they can look at us
and think it does
make any sense
but you know
the way you can fix that
is you actually need
to know your wife
you actually talk to them
you know
another thing we can do
you know
we can actually
look at passages
in the Bible
chapter 7
it's telling me
about who my soul love
and where
where thou beest
where thou mayest
thy clock to rest at noon
for why should I be as one
that turneth aside
by the clock to thy companions
now before I was married
when I was engaged
one thing I did was
I memorized the
Song of Solveny
working work
I memorized every single chapter
now the reason why I did that
was because
I knew I was about to get married
and I said
I want to be a good spouse
and the Song of Solveny
is the book about marriage
and if I memorize this book
it will probably
help teach me
a lot of things
now when I memorized that book
I learned something very valuable
in verse number 7
notice that this is
at noon time
at lunch
and it says
is the woman speaking
tell me
oh thou with my soul loveth
where thou beest
where thou mayest
thy clock to rest at noon
what that taught me was
that a woman
who is newly married
her husband
this is before she has kids
and she's at home
she's going to get lonely
not being around her husband
and she's going to be
a good wife
and she's going to be
a good wife
and she's going to be
a good wife
and she's going to be
a good wife
not being around her husband
and the reason why
one big reason why
we didn't do the first apartment
we did
is because I was able
to come home at lunch
from work
and spend just
30 to 40 minutes
with my wife
before I went back to work
it was very close
it was like a 5-10 minute drive
so I would go home
for just 30 minutes
because I thought
you know I'm newly married
I want to make sure
that my wife
especially being in
another country
that she's not used to
and America is so much
different than the Philippines
I wanted her to feel comfortable
and a big reason why
I think that place to live
is because of what I saw
in Solomon chapter 1 verse 7
where I saw that
you know if your wife
was not around your husband
for a long period of time
she could start
to get lonely
especially before
she has kids
and honestly
this is the truth
for us as guys
we can work so hard
at our jobs
and not really think
about our family
and we're satisfied
because you know
we're built to work
we see that all the way back
to Genesis with Adam
but you know
your wife actually
wants to spend time
with you
that's the truth
and if she wants
to be around you
and so you know
we can look at passages
like the Song of Solomon
and read that
and study it
but we can learn
a lot of great things
or obviously we know
Ephesians 5
is a famous chapter as well
look at those places
where it talks about
how to be a good husband
and you'll learn
how to be a good husband
and so you know
the doubts that the world
would have
the world doesn't know
if they're going to be
good spouses or not
because they don't even
know what they need to do
we're without excuse here
because we have
the word of God
that actually teaches us
what we need to do
it doesn't matter
that we actually read it
and see what the Bible says
now
turn to Proverbs 21
Proverbs 21
and so
what is the wisdom
I just taught you
well all I told you was
get to know your wife
and spend time with them
guess what
your wife's going to be happy
if you get to know them
and spend time with them
it's not rocket science
this is not calculus class
this is like Algebra 1 right here
and we're just learning
it is before Algebra 1
we're learning
just to act
and we're learning
just to act
and we're learning
we're learning
just to add
and subtract right here
just get to know your wife
and spend time with them
and you know
obviously when you come
to having kids
your kids will love you
if you just spend time with them
you know
you just hear about them
your children
will want to emulate you
my son wants to emulate
every single thing I do
my son
loves the Bible
you say why
because he sees
mom and dad
in the book
so guess what he does
he tries to take it from us
because he wants to read
he doesn't know what he's doing
but you know
we gave him
his own Bible
and you know
sometimes he cares
and he does whatever
and that's fine
I don't want to teach him
at a young age
hey you know
this is not for you
I wanted to love what we got
so we got him a Bible
you know
your kids will
go emulate you
you say I have doubts
about whether or not
he can be a good spouse
look the Bible
has the answers
for these things
you don't have to doubt
about it
what does it mean
to be a good wife
well obviously
we talked about
in our last point
about you know
not spending
too much money
but I want you
to notice what it says
in Proverbs 21 verse 19
it is better to dwell
in the wilderness
than with a contentious
and an angry one
you know what
Proverbs is saying
it's basically better
to have no home
and live out in the jungle
live out in the wilderness
than it is
to be at home with a wife
that's always in a bad mood
that's what he's saying
with an angry
contentious wife
basically
you know
the husband's
going to be happier
just being away
from them
that's what he's saying
with an angry
and contentious wife
basically
waiting for them
and being around them
if they're always arguing
say you know
I doubt whether or not
I can be a good wife
how do I do that
don't always be in a bad mood
don't always be contentious
and arguing with your spouse
all the time
that's not fun
to be around
guys aren't going to like that
if you're arguing all the time
look at Proverbs 27
Proverbs 27
now I want you to understand
something that
when the Bible mentions
certain things
and it puts them
to men or women
the reason why
it will highlight
one of the genders more
is because
that's something that
gender struggles with
like for example
when it comes to
the same agossa thing
guess who it talks about
more with that
it talks about women
but
when it talks about
not getting to know your wife
or how you should get
to know your wife
it highlights men
why?
because men have a tendency
to not want to spend time
with their families
that's sad
but a lot of times
you're wrapped up
in work
one thing I've talked about
which
I plan to keep
I never plan to be
like an evangelist
or pastor
or whatever
who's just always
preaching everywhere
and gone through his family
I will not do that
why?
because you know
if the Bible told me
that I have a wife
I have kids
I need to be there for them
and you have a lot of people
who choose to go down that road
and you can say
well it's done
in the name of the Lord
you know God didn't tell you
to be away from your family
all the time
but he did tell you
to raise your family
so that's not something
I'm going to do
that's going to be gone
for my family
but you know that is something
that guys have a tendency to do
guys look at it and say
I know I need to provide
to go work so many hours
with them
never around a family
and they just
per say
look one thing
that is a problem
in this not here
is the fact that
a lot of people
leave their families
to be OFW's
and they've gone from their
family for a long time
and you say
well brother Scott
can you know
he's come here
yeah he's come here
but you know
he has a family
lots of friends
I know lots of people
both in the Philippines
and in America
who left their family
in terms of trying
to make more money
and the reason why
he did that
is because nobody
showed you
necessarily what the Bible
said or because
you've got yourself
in a tough situation
but the truth is
God wants to get around
your family
and spend time with you
he does want you
to be gone
from your family
and so that's something
we need to remember
as guys
now when it comes to
why so
the version of
Proverbs 21
you notice what it says
in Proverbs 27
people drop it
in a very rainy day
and a contentious woman
or a light
you say
a continual drop
and what's that
referring to
it's referring to
basically having a house
where there's this
constant drip
that you keep hearing
over and over
and over again
the other night
at our house
at our building
we did that
they were drilling
they started drilling
like around
10 o'clock at night
and they ended
at like 6 in the morning
now it makes sense
to me
and they're doing it
right below
before we're on
so it's like
a lot louder to us
than pretty much anybody
it's like right below us
and they're drilling
all throughout the night
and it wasn't that
it was so incredibly loud
that it hurt
our ears
and it was just
so annoying
it was really hard to sleep
that's kind of what
it's talking about
here in Proverbs 27
when it talks about
a continual dropping
it's not necessarily
that that drop
is really loud
it's just the fact
that it keeps coming
and so the Bible talks
about a contentious woman
it's basically
it's not necessarily
that what she does
is so bad
but that it's all the time
she's always in pain
she's always upset
you say
well how do I be
a good wife
don't spend all the money
your husband has
and be nice
look I mean
this
these aren't
complicated things
to do
but see the world
doesn't understand
this
the world has all these
complicated things
to try to fix the problems
you know the Bible
has the answers
as guys
you provide for your family
you spend time with them
you get to know your spouse
as wives
you're nice
and you don't spend
all the money you have
and you know
if husbands and wives
would follow these things
guess what
far less people
would get divorced
in America
and far more people
would be happier
if you were in this country
as well
you know
husbands and wives
I've started preaching
the sixth floor
I've been preaching
the fourth floor
now let me say this
that
when it comes to these
things that I've preached on
these are things that
we struggle with
as Christians
doubts of the family
this is in reference to Christians
I'm not saying I'm perfect
at these things
I struggle with these things
as well
the reason why God
mentions them
is the fact that
we can get better
at doing these things
obviously you know
we're not perfect
at these things
none of us are perfect
at these things
you know
when I was a young guy
I was lazy
and I had this idea
as we get out of college
and make lots of money
I didn't work hard
but you know
it's this sort of preaching
that fixes the problems
I need this sort of preaching
so we don't go down
the same road
and I'll tell you what
I love churches like this
because people that are older
in this room
look
all of us
have made a lot of mistakes
right
you know
people that are married
have kids
look
we've made a lot of mistakes
you know
the great thing about a church
like this is
we're okay with preaching
against these things
because we don't want
the young people in this room
to make some of the mistakes
we make
because yes
you know
I've made a lot of mistakes
and you know
there's things I preached
that you know
I was guilty of
in the past
I don't want you to be late
in your young 20s
like I was
I want you to figure that out
at a young age
to prepare yourself
and we want these kids
to grow up
and love the Lord
so they don't make
the same mistakes
because look
I've made a lot of these mistakes
so I'm not trying to come down
hard on you
if I've said something
to say yeah
I'm guilty of that
look
I'm guilty of a lot of things
I preach about
but we don't want
people
to make those same mistakes
look you know
I don't know
I mean in this room
I really don't know
in the past
you know
we're drunks
and you know what
they end up fixing that problem
they get involved in church
and then they help
get rid of that problem
but look
if that was you
in the past
you shouldn't be upset
at me preaching
against being a drunk
because obviously
we don't want the young
people to make
the mistakes we make
we want them to grow
and learn
before they make
those mistakes
once you make
those mistakes
it's really hard
to fix those problems
so one of the last doubts
people have is this
people have doubts
those things
come into
came into my life
you know like
before
before your
before your wife
is a good child
do you think
that you have it
all figured out
and then all of a sudden
once the months
are coming down
you're like
oh wow
can I really be
a good parent
now I'm starting
to wonder
if all my advice
is actually
going to work
in the real world
you have doubts
about those things
I had doubts
about those things
you know
the Bible says
bring them up
in the nurture
and admonition
of the Lord
so when it says
nurture
it's basically
showing you
you need to
spend time
with your kids
and this goes
back to
how about
spending time
with your wives
obviously
if you have kids
you should be
spending time
as a family
we need strong
families
in today's world
which is something
that's lacking
but when it comes
to being a good father
spend time
with your kids
that's not
that complicated
look you know
my son
loves the fact
that I spend
time with him
it's not that
I'm doing anything
unique with him
it's just that
I'm there
spending time
with him
you know
when I'm there
sometimes
I'm reading
the Bible
or working
on something
on my computer
and my son
will like
even if he's
looking the other
direction
if you spend time
with your kids
guess what
they're gonna love you
so it said nurture
but it also said
admonition
so admonition
is when we basically
discipline our kids
and we correct them
because as we said
before
foolishness
is bound in the heart
of a child
children are
foolish
that's the way it is
we love kids
we accept it
from them
at a young age
but you know
what's cute
when they're six
months
isn't cute
when they're
16 year old son
is still doing
the same things
that he was
when he was six months old
but he's six months
hey it's okay
we forgive you
we love you
we're gonna
train you
and teach you
but we want them
to get rid of those problems
and so as parents
we need to provide
nurture
we spend time
with them
but we also
provide admonition
here's one great thing
about being a parent
which is something
you learn
is that honestly
you don't have
to spend a lot
of money
look you know
we have things
at our condo
that people have bought
for us
that are kind of expensive
and guess what
my son doesn't like
some of those things
but he likes
the bouncy little rubber ball
that he can play with
that costs like
you know
20 pesos or whatever
you know
the thing that costs
a lot of money
that people have bought for us
he's like
yeah you know
I'm not into that
you know
the motorized car
eh
it's no big deal
I'm not really a fan of that
he likes the bouncy ball
so you know
they just want you
to spend time with them
yeah
now look
when I was young
what I did year long
was I played soccer
my dream was to become
a professional soccer player
one of the things
that I was personally
good at
soccer was something
I was very good at
but you know
my memories
you know
in soccer
in games I played in
in competitions
my best memories
are just the fact
that at six in the morning
every Saturday
my dad went out
with me to the park
to get his soccer ball
now look
I played in
you know
I played over in Europe
in a tournament
one time
but I don't really remember that
that's not the memories
that flow through my mind
what I remember now
is the fact that
when I was a kid
my dad took
time out of his schedule
on Saturday
especially now that
I work a full time job
you start realizing
how tough life is
you know
I think back
to the fact that
my dad
when I was young
was pretty much
the only parent
that would take time
to spend time with his son
he'd kick his soccer ball
at six in the morning
he was tired
but he went out there
early in the morning
and spent time with him
that's what you remember
that didn't cost
a lot of money
to kick a soccer ball
with your son
no it didn't
it didn't cost anything
but you know what
it's just that
that he spent time with him
now turn to verse 10b5
verse 10b5
now let me say this
that
when it comes to providing
admonition
even though that
talks about guys
in Ephesians 6
verse 4
nurture and admonition
these are things
that both
the husband and wife
need to do
okay
now it's natural
for a wife
to provide nurture
for a child
because you know
obviously moms
they're so happy
to have kids
they want to spend time
with their kids
but one thing
that can be a mistake
is some moms
could not provide
the admonition
they say well that's
something that the father
would do
here's why that's
a big mistake
what's going to happen
is that kid's
going to learn
to resent dad
why
because a mom
never punishes
me
for the same thing
no
if we need
both
the husband and wife
to both
do the punishment
for the same things
where they get
spanked by dad
for something
they'll get spanked
by mom
for the same thing
and here's the other thing
you know
if you're gone
at work
and your wife
is staying home
and your son's
off
and then you come
home and you're
doing the spanking
that child is
really going to
resent you
because the child
was home all day
and nothing happened
not only that though
the child's
going to forget
about why
don't even need
spanking
because when
one thing
that's a problem
with our world
is this
that people
commit crimes
and it takes
a long time
for them
to commit punishment
when there's
a crime
spank y'all
but
20 seconds later
you make that decision
you don't just say
well you know
I'm going to do you
spank you
if you keep doing this
but you got to do it
immediately
once they act up
you join them
immediately
and so they realize
oh this is why
I was spanked
but see this is something
that both husbands
and wives
and it's something
that people
could make mistake
you say I'm too loving
to spank my child
well the Bible says
that if you don't spank
your child
you hate your child
and it takes
work
you know
you don't want
to take time
out of your schedule
you're like
man I'm busy
with something
you have to
actually take time
to do it
and it does take time
and then afterwards
what do you need
to do
you need to hug them
and tell them
hey this is why
it happened
because we want
them to love us
we want them
to understand
and learn
we're not just
trying to hurt them
to get them
to cry
what I'm saying
is that this
needs to be
both for men
and women
okay now
first 55
14
is what it says
I will therefore
that the young
grown women
marry
their children
guide the house
if not in case
that the adversary
is speaking
approachfully
the Bible says
that women
are supposed to
marry
and bear children
and guide the house
that is the role
that God
is giving
so what the Bible
said in the same
chapter in verse 8
was for men
to provide
for their families
and so what's
basically being said
is this
that God
is supposed
to provide
for the families
but when they
come home
they need
to spend time
with their kids
and wise
we can train
and teach
the kids
now one thing
I want to talk
about here
for a couple
minutes
is the mother
baby room
we have
we got a great deal
on this place
for the amount
we're paying
and the size of it
we are blessed
to have that room
now when we were
meeting at the hotel
there really wasn't
much you could do
because you know
if the child
was acting up
when my son
acted up
like he always
did during service
and he was mighty
nice
you know my wife
would spank
for a little while
and take him outside
if she had to
but she didn't
get to hear
the service
at any age
it's a good thing
but we have a
speaker in there
so they can actually
hear the preacher
but see the point
of the mother baby room
is not the fact
that if you have
a child that's
ten years old
you're taking them
in that room
you fix the problem
it's like no
you fix that problem
when you're
ten months old
you fix that problem
when they're one
when they're two
with the goal
of getting them
out of that room
as soon as possible
it's great
so here's the way
it takes place
it takes time
and you know my wife
can't handle here
because he's just
choosing to be rebellious
what she does
is she goes back
to that room
he gets spanked
and then once
he's in a better room
once he's calmed down
he'll come back out here
now if he's being
too loud or too rowdy
then you know
he's gonna have
to stay in that room
he's still here
and appreciating
but he's not
necessarily ready
now kids at a young age
they're not going
to be ready to sit still
for a long period of time
that is understandable
especially in the world
we live in
so I'm not saying
that you need to expect
your one year old child
or two years old
to be always perfect
and never have
any problems
here's what I'm saying though
when I was a kid
and I remember
I grew up in
the United Methodist Church
I remember
I was in church one time
this is the only service
I remember
in my United Methodist Church
okay
the reason why
I remember this service
is I hated church
when I was young
very boring
and you know
the church
you know
was preaching
you know
but you know
I didn't enjoy church
when I was young
which is
you know
if you grow up Catholic
you know what that's like
I know
I'm not doing church
but
I remember one time
I was acting up
for whatever reason
why
abolitionists
found in the heart of a child
and you say
what did your parents do
my dad
took me outside
to the car
I got escaped
really badly
and guess what
I never acted up
in church
ever again
why
because I knew
here's what I'm saying
there is a time
for kids to be
rallying to play
and there's a time
for them to sit still
and
and we need
the kids
to learn that
because there is
a time to play
and to have fun
we want kids
to play
and to have fun
we're not trying
to get rid of that
but you know
during church service
is not that time
the kids need to learn
at a young age
we're not
CCF
we're not
victory
we're not
a non-denominational church
this is not meant to be
a fun house
it's here
obviously we have
great fellowship
but we're here to run
okay
and those churches
over there
have all these games
for kids
but this is not meant
to be a fun house
this is meant for us
to learn the word God
and walk there
and walk in the building
and get people saved
because God
is the things of God
and so for our kids
we want those kids
to learn that
at a young age as well
and look
it's going to take time
we're gonna have
people that come
in this church
it's going to take
those kids time
we understand that
it's going to take
them time
to realize that
one good way
to fix this is
that if you don't
have family
Bible study
or read
the Bible as a family
you can make sure
that your children
learn to sit still
during that time
but kids need to learn
there's a time
to act up
and there's a time
to be routed
when I was growing up
in elementary school
I was an extremely
energetic kid
I was always
running around
all day long
and I'd say why
because I knew
my parents
would expect me
really badly
if they got that
phone call that
little Matthew
had acted up in school
guess what
I would have
regretted that
pretty badly
we need to teach
those kids
now
let's look at
a few last places
first grade
against third
first grade
against third
there's two more
places we'll be done
so when it comes to
the doubts I mentioned
the things I've said
the world would
disagree with
everything I said
ninety percent of this
world would think
I'm crazy
they'd disagree with
everything I said
they'd disagree with
what I said about
raising your kids
about being a husband
and wife
they wouldn't agree
with any of that
but we have the
word of God
to go off
I want you to notice
in first grade
it's three verses
eighteen and nineteen
let no man deceive
himself
let no man
deceive himself
if any man among you
seems to be wise
in this world
let him become
a fool
that he may be wise
for the wisdom
of this world
is foolishness
with God
for it is written
he taketh the wise
in their own practice
you see you have
a couple options
you do
if you're trying
to be a good husband
you can go on
Google and try
to find the best
advice you can
go ahead and
try that advice
you will screw up
your life
God's word
is the answer
you can try
what the world
has to offer
you can go to
YouTube or Google
you can read
some book
that sells
ten million
copies
that's world
renowned
critically acclaimed
but you know
what that's
the foolishness
of the world
Bible says
you want to be
wise
become a fool
in this world
because everything
I said
is foolish
to 90%
this world
they don't
agree with
and so
I talked about
how
this is a series
on dissolving
of doubts
and
when it comes
to having doubts
as Christians
we are going
to have doubts
sometimes
it's not like
we have
everything figured
out
we're never
going to have
the doubts
there will be
some times
that we have
some doubts
you say well
how do you
get rid of
those doubts
but it says
it's not just
salvation
we develop
faith
through God's
word
and the more
you read
this book
the more
you read it
the more
faith you
have
now if
you have
more faith
what is
that going
to do
it means
you're
going to
have
less doubts
having
doubts
means
you lack
and if you want
to get rid
of those doubts
the big thing is
open up
this book
and read
it and
help listen
to the
advice
from the
world
what they
say
if you're
having a
father think
about
your house
I ask
you to
help us
including
myself
to
take this
sermon
I ask you
to help us
all figure
out exactly
what we
need to do
and realize
we don't
have to have
doubts
about these
things
you gave
us wisdom
you showed
us what
the Bible
says
and we can
be confident
in your
words
God
help us
to apply
these things
to our
lives
God