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of the United States of America and the United States of America.
of the United States of America.
Hymn number two.
Glory to his name.
Hymn number two.
We'll sing there starting on the first hymn number two.
Down at the cross where my Savior died
Down where through plenty from sin I cried
There to my heart was the flood of fire
Glory to his name
There to my heart was the flood of fire
Glory to his name
I am so wondrously saved from sin
Jesus so sweetly abides within
There to my heart was the flood of fire
Glory to his name
There at the cross where he took me in
Glory to his name
There to my heart was the flood of fire
Glory to his name
Oh precious fountain that saves from sin
I am so glad I have entered in
There Jesus saves me and keeps me clean
Glory to his name
There to my heart was the flood of fire
Glory to his name
Come to this fountain so rich and sweet
Past thy poor soul that will save your team
London today and we make complete
Glory to his name
There to my heart was the flood of fire
Glory to his name
Amen. We'll open with a word of prayer.
You'll bow your heads with me.
Heavenly Father, we just thank you for this day for another opportunity to gather together to sing out praises in your name
Lord, from our heart and with our mouth as well and to just be able to learn from your word.
Lord, I pray that you would be with us for the service, that everything would be done decently and in order
that you would open our ears to the message that our pastors prepared for us.
These things we pray in Jesus' name. Amen.
Alright, for our next hymn this morning, turn if you would to number 12.
Blessed Redeemer, hymn number 12.
Hymn number 12.
Blessed Redeemer, there on the first
Up Calvary's mountain, one dreadful morn
Walk Christ my Savior, weary and
Lord, facing for sinners
Death on the cross, that he might
Save them from endless loss
Blessed Redeemer, precious Redeemer
Seems now I see him
On Calvary's stream
Wounded and pleading, for sinners
Pleading, light and
Uneating, dying for me
Father, forgive him
Blessed he pray, keep all his life
But flow fast away
Pray for sinners, while in such flow
No one but Jesus
Ever loved so
Blessed Redeemer, precious Redeemer
Seems now I see him
On Calvary's stream
Wounded and pleading, for sinners
Pleading, light and
Uneating, dying for me
Oh how I love him, Savior and
Friend, how can my praises
Ever find him
Who is a number on heaven's shore
My tongue shall praise him
Forevermore
Blessed Redeemer, precious Redeemer
Seems now I see him
On Calvary's stream
Wounded and pleading, for sinners
Pleading, light and
Uneating, dying for me
Good morning
everyone. Welcome to Anchor Baptist Church. This time we'll go through our announcements.
If you don't have one, raise your hand and an usher will bring you one. On the front
is our Bible memory passage of the week, Galatians 1
verse 2, so still at the beginning portions of this chapter, and like
always at the end if you can quote this to an adult non-family member
you will be receiving a prize. On the inside is our service
times listed, Sunday morning at 10 30, Sunday evening at 4 30 pm
and our Wednesday evening Bible study at 7. We have all of
our soul winning times listed there and all of those meet here at
the church building. Keep up the good work on soul winning. Nursing home
ministry schedule is listed there if you partake in that. You guys got a new camera
stand today so it's just going to be wonderful. Best service you guys have ever had.
Here we go. Alright, and our church stats for the year.
Soul winning, 14 salvation so far in the first week of January. That's great
especially considering all the snow and cold weather that we've had so keep up the good
workout soul winning. Please be in prayer for Miss Whitney Reed, our
expecting lady of the church for her pregnancy. Upcoming events
February 2nd after the evening service we're going to have a men's preaching night
and following that a potluck so there is a sign up sheet for the men that want to participate
in that in the back over there so please sign up. February
14th we're going to have a really nice sweetheart banquet at
7 pm on a Friday. We're going to treat it at the beginning
kind of like a normal service. We're going to have some songs and a short sermon regarding
marriage but most of the night is just going to be us eating some really good food
playing some fun games and hanging out together so it should be a really fun time.
And of course as a reminder this is for married couples only for this event.
April 19th is going to be our Easter soul winning marathon
in Oklahoma City. We're going to try to really hit some super receptive
areas during that time and try to get people to come to church
on Sunday morning. May 16th
through the 18th is the King James Conference at Sure Foundation Baptist
Church in Vancouver hosted by Pastor Aaron Thompson.
That is going to be a great conference if you're looking for one to go to this year.
And of course I'm sure they'll live stream it as well so definitely at least make sure you watch
those sermons and get the information from the conference.
May 31st is going to be a Durant, Oklahoma soul winning marathon
and we're going to be partnering up with Steadfast Baptist Church so we should
have absolutely great turnout for that event. I know that Steadfast
just partnered with another church I believe this weekend, Springcrest Baptist Church
and I want to say that they had soul winners in the 60's if I remember
that correctly so great turnout. We're going to try to do a big work for God
on that day together. June 28th is going to be a fellowship event for our church
the Tinker Air Show at the Tinker Air Force Base. That event is totally
free so you're welcome to join us for that. August 27th
through the 31st is the Fire Breathing Baptist Fellowship.
I want to say that it starts on Wednesday and goes through Sunday so
if you want to make it down to Texas for that week I'm going to be there and
it's going to be a really fun trip so consider that.
October 6th through the 11th, the vast majority of our church is already going to this
but if you haven't signed up and you want to we really would encourage you to
it's going to be an awesome time. We might have to fly in a preacher
from a different church to preach our Wednesday service because I think all of our men that usually preach
are going to be in the Bahamas but hey that's a good problem to have. We're really excited for that.
Giving online, if you'd like to give online there's a QR code there
as well as the prayer requests on the back. A couple additions
Brother Alex, praise the Lord, did get hired. He got a really good job
that he's been wanting and it just sounds like it's going really well for him
so praise the Lord for that. Also we did add a request for the
residents of LA with the wildfires going on there. It seems
like it's on track to being one of the worst fires in LA history
which is just mind blowing that in 2025 we're breaking records for fires in cities
but I don't know if you've been following that at all. There's been deaths
a lot of people are out of homes. It's a very serious, bad situation so do be in prayer
for those people. That's going to be it for our announcements. We'll go ahead and go to our
third song.
Alright for our third
hymn this morning, turn if you would to number 21
What a Wonderful Savior
Hymn number 21 to 1
What a Wonderful Savior
We'll sing there on the first
Christ has forced an atonement
made what a wonderful Savior
We are redeemed
the price is paid
What a Wonderful Savior
is Jesus my Jesus
What a Wonderful Savior
is Jesus my Lord
I praise Him for the cleansing
but what a wonderful Savior
that reconciled
my soul to God
What a Wonderful Savior
is Jesus my Jesus
What a Wonderful Savior
is Jesus my
Lord He cleansed my heart
from all its sin
What a Wonderful Savior
and now He reigns and moves therein
What a Wonderful Savior
is Jesus my Jesus
What a Wonderful Savior
is Jesus my Lord
He gives me
overcoming power
What a Wonderful Savior
of any striving power
What a Wonderful Savior
is Jesus my Jesus
What a Wonderful
Savior is Jesus
my Lord
I've given all my heart
What a Wonderful Savior
the world shall never share a part
What a Wonderful Savior
What a Wonderful
Savior is Jesus
my Jesus
What a Wonderful Savior
is Jesus my Lord
Amen, as the offering plates are being passed,
turn if you would to Genesis chapter number 2
Genesis chapter number 2
Genesis chapter 2
thus the heavens and the earth were finished
and all the hosts of them and on the seventh day God
ended His work which He had made and He rested on the seventh day
from all His work which He had made and God blessed the seventh day
and sanctified it because that in it He had rested from all His work
which God created and made. These
are the generations of the heavens and of the earth
when they were created in the day that the Lord
God made the earth and the heavens and every plant of the
field before it was in the earth and every herb
of the field before it grew for the Lord God had not caused
it to rain upon the earth and there was not a man
to till the ground but there went up a
mist from the earth and watered the whole face
of the ground and the Lord God formed man
of the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath
of life and man became a living soul
and the Lord God planted a garden eastward in Eden
and there He put the man whom He had formed
and out of the ground made the Lord God to grow
every tree that is pleasant to the sight
and good for food. The tree of life also
in the midst of the garden and the tree of knowledge
of good and evil and a river went out of Eden
to water the garden and from thence it was planted
and became into four heads.
The name of the first is Pison and the name
is Pison. That is it
which can pass at the whole land of Avila where there
is gold and the gold of that land is
good. There is Delium and the onyx
stone and the name of the second river
is Gihon. The same is it that can pass at the
whole land of Ethiopia and the name of the third river
is Hiddekel. That is it which goeth toward the east
of Assyria and the fourth river
is Euphrates. And the Lord God took the man
and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it
and to keep it. And the Lord God commanded the man saying
of every tree of the garden thou mayest freely eat
but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil thou shalt not eat of it
for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die.
And the Lord God said it is not good
that the man should be alone. I will make him and help
meet for him. And out of the ground the Lord God
formed every beast of the field and every fowl of the air
and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them
and whatsoever Adam called every living creature
that was the name thereof. And Adam gave names
to all cattle and to the fowl of the air and to every
beast of the field but for Adam there was not found and help
meet for him. And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon
Adam and he slept and he took one of
his ribs and closed up the flesh and said thereof
and the rib which the Lord God had taken from man
made he a woman and brought her unto the man
and Adam said this is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh
she shall be called woman because she was taken
out of man. Therefore shall a man
leave his father and mother and shall cleave unto his wife
and they shall be one flesh and they
were both naked the man and his wife and they were not ashamed.
Let's pray.
Okay Genesis chapter 2 verse 18 the Bible says
and the Lord God said it is not good that the man should
be alone. I will make him and help meet
for him. And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam and he
slept and he took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh instead thereof
and the rib which the Lord God had taken from man
made he a woman and brought her unto the man. And Adam said
now this is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh
she shall be called woman because she was taken out of man.
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave
unto his wife and they shall be one
flesh. Notice here that in the story where God
he made all the animals he created every living thing he looked down and he noticed
that it was not good for Adam to be alone and he was
looking for and help meet for him and that just means
a help that's fitting or suitable or comely for him.
And what did he make? He made woman as a result of that. He gave Adam
kind of like the first surgery in the Bible caused a deep sleep to fall upon him
took one of his ribs and from that created woman.
And notice especially in verse number 18 how it says I will make him
and help meet for him.
What was the exact specific reason why
Eve was created? Why was Eve created? To be a help
to her husband. That is the reason that Eve was created.
And the title of my sermon this morning is wife help your husband.
Wife help your husband. Now don't worry we're going to talk about the men this evening.
We're going to have a two part today on marriage but
this is a foundational concept that the world completely rejects.
This is extremely radical to the world but it is what the Bible teaches
and that is that this women were created
to serve their husbands. The wife Eve
why was she created? She was created to help her husband.
She was not created to be some boss babe. She was not created
to work a 9 to 5 and go on birth control
and abort all of her babies and live a very selfish life.
The entire reason why women were created
was to serve their husbands to be and help meet for them.
Now go to 1 Corinthians 11.
Now look this idea is very offensive to the world
but you know what this is a Baptist church where we actually believe what the Bible says.
We're not going to lean on our own understanding and our own opinions
and the culture surrounding us and allow that to dictate what we believe.
We're just going to look at the plain words in the Bible and believe what it says.
Look at 1 Corinthians 11 verse 7.
He is the image and glory of God but the woman
is the glory of the man. So it's talking about how hey
men should not have long hair. God created men and women differently.
He wants them to look different. Verse 8 says this
for the man is not of the woman but the woman
of the man. And that's referring to the fact that Eve was not
born of a woman like the rest of humanity was. Eve came from
the man. Why was women even created? Because God
wanted a servant for Adam. And look at verse number 9. This is the key verse.
Neither was the man created for the woman
but the woman for the man. That is a clear verse
right there. Why was the woman created for her
husband? To serve her husband. That is why Eve
was even created. So I want to preach a sermon this morning of ways that wives
can help their husband. Why should you care about that? Well because that's why you
were created. That's why you are on this earth is to serve
your husband. Number 1. Go to Proverbs chapter 31.
Number 1 this morning. Help your husband financially.
Help your husband financially. This could be a great way
today that women can be an assistant and a help
to their husbands. Look at Proverbs 31 verse 10.
It says who can find a virtuous woman for her
price is far above rubies. So notice
just because the woman was created for the man that does not mean
that she's not worth anything or that her value is less than men.
The Bible actually says that when you find a virtuous woman her price is far
above rubies. You know some people misinterpret this idea
and they think that oh we're down on women. We don't care about women. We're disrespectful
to women. No it's just that we have different roles in life. We have different positions.
We have different functions. But according to the Bible when you find
a virtuous woman her price is far above rubies. She's very
valuable. Notice verse 11. The heart of her husband
doth safely trust in her so that he shall have no
need of spoil. Now that is referring
to a financial level of trust there. That her husband
trusts her financially to the point where he does not have to go
get all this extra money all this spoil just to survive
just to make ends meet. And here is just the truth is that the
financial success of a home depends largely upon
the wife. Largely upon mom. Now obviously
we believe that men are the providers. Men are the ones that should be the primary
breadwinners going out and making money. But the truth is that if you
have a wife that is not prudent. That is a wasteful person.
That is a slothful person. It does not matter how much money
a man makes. A bad wife could spend it all
and could destroy the family finances like that. And you know there's
there's a stereotype of like the Amazon lady. Right. Where it doesn't
matter if her husband makes good money. It doesn't matter if he works super hard because
that Amazon truck has a full time job going to her address.
And you know the whole truck every time is just full of her boxes.
And look a wife can ruin a family's finances
like that. It doesn't matter how much money the man makes. Obviously we need to talk about
both sides of this. Men need to work hard. Men need to provide. We'll talk about that this evening.
But also it's important for the wife to be prudent.
It's important for the wife to care about her family's
finances and not just say well because that's not my responsibility
I'm just going to spend however. I'm just not even going to think about it. I'm just going to spend the money
because hey it's my husband's job. Oh yeah just keep racking up the credit cards. He'll have to
figure that out. That's a wicked attitude. You know the right attitude is that
your husband can actually safely trust in you so that he
has no need of spoil. So that he doesn't have to like wait for tax
return season every year just to get out of your spending debt
that you're putting your family into. Look that's a bad situation if wives are putting
themselves in that way. And here's the thing you know the economy
has been very hard the last four years. You know on the news I
saw that the city of Oklahoma City is insanely under
budget and they're taking big cuts right now. And the way that you know
for example the article I was reading the Parks and Rec department
how they get all their money is through sales tax. So the economy
is directly related to how well that department is doing.
And if people aren't making a lot of money they're not spending a lot of money in the economy
and so there's not a lot of taxes coming in to that department.
And so now they're extremely under budget. They're having to do all these cuts
because the economy has been really hard in the last four years and that's a proof of it
right there. You know I know the media likes to say that the last four years has been the best
that our economy has ever been. Well apparently that skipped us. You know apparently that
skipped Oklahoma City and the city of Oklahoma City because it has been difficult.
And you know now is more important of a time than ever
for wives to consider their family finances and to be a
help fitting for her husband. The sad truth is that a lot of wives
and look I hope this isn't true about you. I don't know your guys' family situations
but the truth is a lot of wives are a financial liability
on their family big time. And that is not a good thing.
You know what I mean? Obviously the husband is providing so you know everyone's a liability in
some sense but some wives are wrecking their family's finances
and this is causing serious problems in marriage today. Look at verse number
twelve it says, she will do him good and not evil all
the days of her life. She seeketh wool and flax
and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants
ships. She bringeth her food from afar.
So you know here's some specific ways you could help your husband when it comes
to finances. And first is consider your spending.
Consider your spending. Notice how the Proverbs 31 woman here
she's like the merchants ships. She bringeth her food from afar.
She's not necessarily just spending you know money at the most convenient
place. Just the easiest thing to buy. You know this is where I rely
on my wife a lot and I appreciate her help in this area because
I'm so busy of a person when I need to buy something
I just want to get it over with. I hate shopping. I hate purchasing
things. And so I am not the best. I'll just be honest with you
at considering the deals and considering the price. Like if I need to buy something
I'm just like okay just hit buy. I don't want to ever think about this again. I want to move on to my life
because I got stuff to do. And so I appreciate the fact that I could delegate some of those things
to my wife. Hey find a good deal on this. Go look around and
shop around for this thing that we need. And she could help me in that area because
quite honestly I will just buy whatever is most convenient. Because that's just how I am.
But you know that's a way that wives can be helpful to their
family. Look at verse 15. She riseth also while it is yet
night and giveth meat to her household and a portion to her maidens.
Here's another thing. Make more meals
at home. Eating out has gotten so
insanely expensive it's wild. I mean if you try to take your family
to like Chipotle or Panera Bread
you know if you have a family with kids you're easily spending
50, 60, 70 dollars for some sandwiches and chips
at these places. Like the prices have gotten out of control
and it's literally eating out is like three to three
and a half times more expensive than eating at home literally.
Now look I'm not saying that you can't ever eat out if your family finances are okay
with that. That's great. Praise the Lord. We do that sometimes. But you know what? The vast majority
of meals should be meals that are cooked at home.
You know it's also going to be a lot more nutritious for you. It's going to be better for your
family's health and it's definitely going to be better for your husband's finances.
Look at verse 16. It says this. She considerth
a field and bieth it. With the fruit of her hands
she planteth a vineyard. Notice how she considers
a field before buying it. You know
ladies need to actually care about their family's budget.
You need to actually have some sort of vested interest and care
about your budget where you don't just see a field and buy it. It's like oh I want this. Let's buy it.
Oh yeah I need this thing. Let's just buy it. No notice what she does. She considers
a field first. She's considering what? Probably is this a
good investment? Is this a good field? Are we maybe going to make money off this
in the long run? Here's another thing to consider. Do we even have the money for
this right now? Because I'm telling you it just seems like a lot of families
the husband can be very diligent. He can be really hard working
but the wife sometimes just has an attitude where it's like well that's not my department so I could just spend
as much money as I want. But it's like look the Proverbs 31 woman is
considering the field then buying it. Let me help you. If you
don't have the money for something don't buy it.
This is called considering your family's finances.
Considering your budget. Not just like well you know thank God for credit cards that we
can just keep racking up a bunch of stuff that we can't afford. You know you're going to pay for that eventually.
And you're going to pay for that with interest that often times are like
14 to like 30 percent interest sometimes on these credit cards.
And the Jews are just raking your family over the coals. Because
the Jews have caused women through things like television
social media to just constantly be lusting for new
things all day. The online shopping. You know it used to
be that you had to actually go shopping and do what's called window shopping.
Where they put all the nice shiny things that everyone wants to buy
on the exterior of the store so that can grab your attention and you want to go in and buy it.
But now it's just on your phone. You're scrolling on Facebook
it's just ad, ad, ad. Every app it seems like there's advertisement
every TV show every movie. I mean consumerism
has taken over our country. And unfortunately
a lot of people their hearts have been affected by this where if you're just looking at
things to buy you're going to want to buy those things. And so you know
sometimes it's good just to stop the online shopping. Stop looking
at all the ads. Stop creating you know these wish lists online
or whatever. Because you need to actually consider your husband's finances
if that's something you guys can actually afford. Now here's the thing. If you can afford it
praise the Lord. Great. Buy stuff. Have fun. But you know what
it's a irresponsible attitude to just spend money that you don't have
just because you're not the breadwinner. No that's the wrong attitude to have.
Look at verse number. Actually go to Hebrews chapter
number 13. Hebrews chapter number 13.
And so
what's the answer to that? If someone's struggling with
constant overspending. Constant just desiring things
that they can't afford. What's the answer to that is to learn contentment.
Learn to be content with the things that you have. Look at Hebrews 13 verse 5.
Let your conversation be without covetousness
and be content with such things as ye have.
For he hath said, I will never leave thee nor forsake thee.
God wants us to be pleased, to be satisfied,
to be fulfilled with the things that we already have.
This doesn't mean that you can't you know strive to get something in the future.
Hey your family's growing. You need a bigger car. Great. Save up for it. Hey you need a bigger house.
Nothing wrong with that. But in general we should be people that we're not just
dissatisfied with the things that God's already provided us. You know that's an attitude
that is ungrateful to God. That's ungrateful to your husband or
kids. Ungrateful to your dad. You know you want something new that's fine.
But you also want to make sure that you're thankful and content with the things that you
already have. Go back to Proverbs chapter 31. Proverbs 31.
You know the truth is all of us probably have too much. All of us probably
have a bunch of junk. And here's how you know. Try moving.
If you move you realize wow we have a lot of junk.
And I remember when we moved we just threw away so much stuff it's not even funny.
And we probably still have too much junk quite honestly.
Just us as Americans we live a really blessed life. You know God has provided a lot for us.
Compared to other places in this world every single person in this room
is filthy rich compared to a lot of people. And the truth is that we just
have a lot of stuff. We need to be content though. Look at verse 17.
She girdeth her loins with strength and strengtheneth
her arms. She perceiveth that her merchandise is good.
Her candle goeth not out by night. You know also
something that ladies can do is they can maybe start a home business
or some sort of work that you can get paid for
at home. There's nothing wrong with that. That's a great thing to
consider. But I will say this. Obviously you don't want to do anything like
that at the expense of raising your kids. You don't want to do anything like this at the
expense of homeschooling your children or being a present wife and mother.
You know being a present wife and mother. Being a good teacher to
your children. Raising your children in the ways of God. All these things are way
more important than money. And so while yes the Proverbs 31 woman
hey she's got merchandise. She's selling things. She's making a profit.
And that's great. And some people should consider that to help their family finances.
However not everyone is in the same season of life. And if you're really
struggling to have everything together as a wife and to be a present wife and
mom and to be a good homekeeper and all that. Adding a business on top of that
is probably not the best idea. Maybe that's something for a better time in
life. But it is something that you could consider that could be a blessing to
your husband. Go to Genesis chapter 2. Genesis 2.
Genesis chapter
number 2. So we talked about number 1.
Help him financially. Number 2.
Give your husband due benevolence. Now look this
is a subject that I think the old IFB has done disservice
to people by never talking about it. By making it too
taboo. And look don't worry we're a family integrated church. We're going to use language that only
adults are going to be able to understand. But this is a serious topic that
causes serious issues in marriage. That the world
has a brainwashing agenda on this topic. And it's really really bad
that generations and generations of churches in the old IFB
never trained anyone about this. Never talked about it. You know at the expense of
oh it's embarrassing. Oh you know it's kind of hard to talk about. Yeah but you know what's harder?
Divorce. You know what's harder? Years of counseling.
And it's like I would rather just talk about it as a church with everyone
rather than this weird idea of like old IFB private one on one counseling.
Like would you rather me talk about this with everyone or do you want to talk about your specific marriage?
Like that's kind of weird right? We'd rather just talk about what the Bible says from God's
instruction just to everyone. It's a lot more comfortable for me. It's a lot more comfortable
for you. And quite honestly people need to hear this
stuff. I have heard such terrible advice from Christians
in this area. It needs to be talked about a lot. Look at Genesis 2 verse 24.
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his
mother and notice and shall cleave unto
his wife and they shall be one flesh
and they are both naked and the man and his wife the man and his wife
and were not ashamed. Notice the cleaving unto your wife
the becoming one flesh this is the foundation
of marriage. Let me tell you the foundation of marriage
is not companionship. You hear me?
The foundation of your marriage is not that's your friends. It's not having
a person to talk to. It is not having a roommate.
The foundation of marriage is cleaving. That's the foundation of marriage.
How do you know that? Prove that to me Pastor Oz. Well David and Jonathan
their love towards each other exceeded the love of women. They were companions.
They were friends. They could talk about things. But you know what they weren't doing.
They weren't giving each other due benevolence. Right? Because they're not fags obviously.
But here's the thing. This is the foundation of marriage.
Genesis chapter 2. I mean
notice he's like hey there's no help. Meet for him. I'm going to give him someone
suitable for him. Fitting for him and he's saying look this is what God's saying. Therefore
shall a man leave his father and mother. He's saying you need to get married men
and do what? And shall cleave unto his wife
and they shall be one flesh and they were both naked the man and
his wife and were not ashamed. Look this is a serious
disservice that preachers never talk about this because
what happens is people don't know what to expect. They've never
heard any advice. They've never heard any Bible on this issue. They get married at 18
and they're just like shocked that this is a part of marriage. Because
let's just be honest. Men and women are wired a little bit differently and usually men
are a lot more motivated in this area than women. Not every single time. But
you know you don't want to be having some 18 year old girl get married and be like what did I get myself
into? Is there something wrong with my husband? It's like no this is actually the foundation of
marriage. Let me explain this to you. This is why your husband married you.
This is why your husband married you. Because you know you could talk to
people. You could be friends with people. You could have roommates in this world. This is
the reason why your husband married you. And it's just crazy
to me that people are getting advice to withhold this from
their husband. You know or being like oh you know your husband should be fine with once
a month. It's like that's a terrible piece of advice. Your husband
married you for a reason and he's supposed to leave and cleave. Go to
1 Corinthians chapter number 7. 1 Corinthians chapter 7.
You know while we should be appropriate
we do not want this to be a taboo topic. Because it's in the
Bible folks. I mean isn't the word of God pure? God's not going to put something
in the Bible that would be inappropriate for a preacher to stand up and preach on a Sunday
morning. This doesn't have to be a private counseling session. You should wake up and
read these verses on your own. We can talk about these things. Look at 1 Corinthians 7
verse 3. Let the husband render unto the
wife due benevolence and likewise
also the wife unto the husband. So notice this is a commandment
of God. That this is something that the wife must
render to the husband. The husband must render to the wife.
And what is it called? Due benevolence. Here's the definition of benevolence.
An act of kindness. A charitable gift.
This is an act of kindness. An act of love to your
spouse that you should be providing for them on a regular basis.
You know life is hard enough. Life is really crazy.
It's like hey spouses should be able to give each other some acts of kindness.
A charitable gift unto each other. This is something that you should
be doing and quite honestly remember the wife was created to help the husband.
This is a great way to help your husband. This is a great way to help
him because I'm just being honest. Men are usually wired a little bit differently in this
area and they need help. And the Bible is literally saying this is the reason that you get married.
Now stay there I'll read for you Exodus 21 10.
The Bible talks about if he take him another wife her food
her raiment and her duty of marriage shall he not
diminish. So in Exodus 21 he's explaining what to do
if you do end up taking multiple wives. Now God is not condoning
polygamy. There's a difference between what's right and what people do.
And so God knows what's right is just like a man and a woman but he's saying
if people do this make sure hey if you want to take on another wife make sure that you still
provide for her her food her raiment and notice her duty of
marriage. This is not optional. This is not when you feel like
it. This is not oh if the husband earns it. Oh
you know if he does a really good job if he takes out the trash and keeps the lawn real nice
and does all my checklists then he'll earn this blessing.
It's like no this is the duty of marriage. This is something that you owe
to your spouse. Let's keep proving it. Verse 4 the wife
hath not power of her own body
but the husband. Now that'll make feminists head spin.
The wife does not have power over her own body.
The husband owns his wife physically. That's what the Bible
says. And likewise also the husband hath not power
of his own body but the wife. Notice the spouses
their bodies belong to each other. You guys are property of
each other. You don't get to make your own decision on this. You don't get to decide
whether or not your spouse gets to have this relationship. This is just something that's
due to them. Verse 5 defraud ye not one
the other except it be with consent for a time that you
may give yourselves to fasting and prayer and come together again
that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
So notice the Bible is saying if you withhold this relationship from each other
that it's an act of fraud. It's kind of known as marital
fraud. It is you know fraud is hey I'm going to buy this
product at a certain price and I'm expecting this product to perform
a certain function. Or I'm paying for this service you know I'm paying for
a lawn service to whatever lawn company and I'm expecting the guys to come to my house
and cut my lawn and take care of my grass and take care
of the landscaping. Well it's like look you're getting married you're entering a contract
to have and to hold from this day forth
and when that is not happening that is fraud.
And it's a dangerous thing that I know happens even in Baptist
churches even in new IFB churches and here's the problem with it
notice it says you're not supposed to defraud each other except it be with consent for a time
so you actually have to get consent to not have this relationship
contrary to what the feminist retard pastors out there are teaching you
that oh marital rape is a thing. No no no you have to ask permission
not to engage in this according to the Bible.
That is bull crap feminism teaching that you have to get permission
from each other to engage in this. No it's called getting married that was the permission.
You stood there and said I do.
You said yes I want to marry this person you could have backed out
it was all your will you made that decision and now this is something that you
owe your spouse. It is a debt that you owe.
And notice it says and come together again that Satan
tempt you not for your incontinency
incontinency is the inability to
restrain the inability to restrain yourself
and here's just the reality again I always try to stress this to people
because people live in a fantasy world there is a difference
between what is right and between what people will actually do
and I think some wives that are not doing a good job in this
area they're withholding from their husband this way more than they should
I think some of them are just living in la la land that oh my husband
will always do what's right my husband will just continue suffering forever and ever
and let me tell you what that is the right thing to do if your wife
does withhold you in this area that's wicked as hell and terrible but that does not
give you an excuse to go commit adultery that is not that is a sin
punishable by death but what is reality is that
Satan may tempt you for your incontinency
that's what's reality see what's right it's like oh okay
you know the wife wants to cook one meal a week to keep her husband
alive what should he do he should starve and he should
not just eat that one meal a week but let me ask you how long can someone
survive off of one week one meal a week not very long right
what eventually is going to happen is Satan's going to tempt that person and there's a difference between what's
right and what people do and look are you trying
to scare me to be with my husband yes I am trying to
scare you to be with your husband because let me tell you what there's ladies at work that would love to give him
attention there's people in this world the adulterous hunts
for the precious life there are wicked
women in this world that receive pleasure and satisfaction
from wrecking a home from they're called home wreckers right
they literally want a married man like that's who they go
after now that's disgusting and wicked as hell but again
there's a difference between what's right and what reality is
and so you are a complete idiot if you withhold this from
your husband if you are not helping him in this area because you're setting him up
to be tempted by the devil and look it's a gross topic
to think about to think about the idea of adultery is sickening and
disgusting but look this is just a reality that happens in our world and who
do you think the adulterous woman is
more likely to seduce a man whose wife is very helpful in this area
who satisfies him in this area or one of these wives that says oh you have to
earn this oh you know if you're a good boy maybe something like that
who do you think that the adulterous women is more likely to seduce
you know this is a serious issue for men and God literally gave us
marriage so that this could be satisfied in a godly way and this temptation
could be dampened down in a godly way and so it's so foolish
you know I've literally seen Christian women give advice to other
Christian women saying these exact words your husband should only need this once
a month anything more than that your husband's weird your husband's
crazy and it's like that is retarded advice I'm just gonna be quite
honest with you ladies that's literally like saying you should just eat a meal once a month
I mean you should just eat one time a month could
you survive maybe for like one month maybe
but look this is this is retarded advice because eventually
you're gonna be so desperate for food that you're gonna go to Whataburger which is literal
garbage I mean here's the thing if you got steak at home
that's being provided to you every day a good breakfast
good food every single day why would you ever go to Whataburger
I mean that's just abominable but I mean if I don't eat for a
week bring on Whataburger Indian food
I don't care what type of food it is I'll eat anything at that point
and look it's the same thing with marriage unfortunately you know guys that are just
living their life and here's the thing I really hate that I know this
but I know that people have gone like this in marriage for years
literal years without being with their
spouse I mean that is a nightmare right there that is a recipe
for disaster and I'm just telling you you are so foolish
and living in La La Land if you think that your husband can just live off
one meal a month or just years and years without that you are begging
you are begging him to commit adultery and here let me talk to the guys
it's never okay there's never an excuse to commit adultery there's never
an excuse to be with another woman you be faithful because God wants you to be faithful
even if you do have a terrible wife and let me just be super clear
a woman that withholds this from her husband you are a terrible wife
and you are not doing what God expects you to do and vice versa men that withhold this from
their wives which is probably way more rare but I'm sure it's out there you are
a terrible husband because it's fraud it's marital
fraud and extremely dangerous look at Hebrews chapter 13 verse 4
because here's the thing
you got weirdos like the Catholic Church sometimes
throughout history there's been some offshoots of some false teachers
in the Catholic Church that have taught that this relationship is always sinful even
within marriage that it's something that is only for
you know bringing forth life that's not something to be enjoyed
look at Hebrews 13 verse 4 marriage is honorable
in all this is a relationship that God gave to us
for us to enjoy it's honorable there's nothing gross about it
there's nothing wrong or sinful about it there's nothing taboo about it it's honorable
in all the Bible says and the bed undefiled but whoremongers
and adulterers God will judge see the real shameful
thing is fornication the real shameful thing is
adultery but it's so funny how these whores and
feminists they'll often just go on first dates and give it away no problem you know
they'll go out to college and they'll just rack up their body count but then when they get married
it's like oh he's got to earn it you'll give it to a stranger
you'll be a whore when you're in high school and in college no problem
but as soon as a man actually commits to you as soon as a man provides for you
now you're like oh no that's that's got to be every once in a while oh I've got a headache
every single night you know I heard what Pastor Mejia said he said hey pop some ibuprofen and
shut up amen headache is not an excuse
all right this is due benevolence the Bible says
this is something that you are expected to fulfill
go to Proverbs chapter 5 Proverbs chapter number 5
Proverbs 5 verse 15 notice when it
says drink waters out of thine own cistern and
running waters out of thine own well let thy fountains be dispersed
abroad and rivers of waters in the streets let them be only
thine own and not strangers with thee
let thy fountain be blessed and rejoice with the wife of thy youth
let her be as the loving hind and pleasant ro let her
breast satisfy thee at all times and be thou ravished
always with her love and why wilt thou my son be ravished
with a strange woman and embrace the bosom of a
stranger you know what is the answer to not being deceived
by the adulterous woman the strange woman to not be
ravished with a strange woman's love it's to be ravished with the wife
of thy youth it's to let her satisfy thee at all
times the Bible says so it sounds like this is something that should be happening
often something that should be regular and again it's important to talk
about this because young people are just getting married having zero expectation
of what a marriage looks like and what this should be in marriage and then
they're just shocked and having all these issues and needing counseling and everything like that
it's like okay let's read this slow let her breasts satisfy
thee at all times okay Proverbs
31 says that she will do him good and not evil all the days of her life there might be
double meaning with that verse there okay all the days the Bible says okay
this is something that should be happening all the time and look this is a way that wives
can help their husbands go to the Song of Solomon chapter
number 4 Song of Solomon chapter 4 I'm sorry
Proverbs 6 and Song of Solomon 4 before you get out of Proverbs there Proverbs
6 and Song of Solomon chapter number 4
Proverbs chapter 6 verse 23 says for the
commandment is a lamp and the law is a light and
reproofs of instruction are the way of life to keep
thee from the evil woman from the flattery of the tongue
of a strange woman look there's evil women out there
strange meaning not your wife that want to flatter you
that want to just shower you with compliments to try to deceive
your heart to try to overtake you verse 25
says lust not after her beauty in thine heart
neither let her take thee with her eyelids
so look you're not supposed to just sit there and you see a beautiful woman and
you just sit there and you just feast your eyes on her you just enjoy looking at
her you don't allow her to take you with her eyelids what is this this is the
look and women women know what they're doing women know how to give the
look they know how to get you with her eyelids don't let her take you
with her eyelids notice verse 26 for by means of a whorish woman
a man is brought to a piece of bread
and the adulterous will hunt for the precious
life this is something that we cannot just let our guard down
and and look even in church sometimes wicked people
come to church and will even hunt in a church and I've seen this happen
and it's a terrible thing but look you have to be making sure that this
desire is being satisfied through marriage in a godly way
because when the adulterous woman comes after you you want to make sure that you're
not the easy target you know the guy whose wife has denied him for a year
is the easy target now what should he do he should still run away from the adulterous
woman he should still resist her and not give into that but look that guy is
in way more danger than the guy whose wife is helping in this area
go to Song of Solomon chapter number four Song of Solomon chapter
number four
verse nine says thou hast ravished my heart
my sister my spouse thou hast ravished my heart with one
of thine eyes with one chain of thy neck how fair
is thy love my sister my spouse how much better is
thy love than wine and the smell of thine ointments than all spices
notice to Solomon the love of his wife
was better than wine and what does the Bible say about wine that wine
cheers the heart of man wine is just one of the carnal pleasures in life
that people enjoy that makes them happy and Solomon said look the love
of my wife is better than wine it's the thing that makes me the most
happy in the world and obviously him having a thousand women in his life it seems
like Solomon really enjoyed this okay but let me just explain something
every man enjoys this every person in marriage enjoys this
and it's a blessing from God it's something that's better than wine see the
devil hates you the devil wants you to enjoy
this in a wicked way called fornication and with that
comes sorrow regret pain often
lifetime consequences bastard children diseases you know
marital problems in the future all of the sorrows that come with that
he wants you to commit adultery okay ruining the home ruining
ruining marriages ruining children's lives children's growing up with two
sets of parents right also disease stuff like that
your reproach not being wiped away guilt in the Old Testament the death penalty
see there's all these negative things that come along with this area of life
when it's done wrong but when it's done right there is no negative side to it
there's no negative side to it there's no sorrow there's no shame it's just like hey
your love is better than wine hey this is like the best thing in life pretty
much and what's funny is the devil either wants you to do it in a sinful way
to partake of this in a way that's going to harm you or he wants you to not
partake in it at all and he wants to convince married women
to withhold it from their husbands or married men to withhold it from their wives or
sometimes he wants false religions to teach to not partake of this look at
first Timothy chapter number four first Timothy chapter number four
I mean look at how much the
devil just hates people god blesses us he gives us the
institution of marriage god gives a man a wife who is created
to help him to be a blessing to him to
someone that he could cleave to that she could cleave to to enjoy this in a godly way
but look at first Timothy 4 1 now the spirit speaketh
expressly that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith
giving heed to seducing spirits and doctrines of
devils speaking lies in hypocrisy having their conscience
seared with a hot iron here's the doctrines of devils forbidding to marry
and commanding to abstain from meats
which god hath created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and
know the truth the devil hates you you know what does the Catholic
church teach for their clergy no marriage and they have to go through
all these weird fasting days where they're not allowed to eat meat it's like literally
the two greatest things on this earth it's like marriage and meat
and the devil doesn't want you to partake of that you know that is the devils
religion right there no god said hey here's marriage here's meat hey
just receive it with thanksgiving and enjoy it hey render that to your spouse
husbands render that to your spouse wives and hey wives cook some good meat
at home too all right hey keep them full bless him in this
way you're going to be a help to him go to Titus chapter number two Titus chapter number
two
so look don't get freaked out about this topic we need to talk
about this more in Christianity people's marriages are super jacked up
are super hurting in this area you know this being withheld
from a spouse is causing major long term issues and we need
to tell god's people saying hey you owe this to your husband you need to do
this more this is a thing that this is why people get married
number three how could ladies be a help to their husband is be a good
housekeeper be a good housekeeper look at Titus chapter
two verse three it says the aged women likewise that they be in behavior
as become with holiness not false accusers not given to much
wine teachers of good things that they may teach the young women
to be sober to love their husbands to love their children notice
to be discreet chaste keepers
at home good obedient to their own husbands that the
word of god be not blasphemed see the ideal
situation for a marriage is for dad to go to
work dad to pay the bills and for mom to be a keeper
at home here's what that means mom wife
is not going to a nine to five corporate job somewhere mom is not
going to some job where she's clocking in clocking out reporting to a boss but here's
what this does not mean being a stay-at-home mom does not mean that you're
not working or at least it shouldn't mean that and unfortunately there's kind of that
stereotype that's out there and look that is not true of the
vast majority of women that I know in church in the new IP you know
these women work seriously hard their job is never over these are hard
working ladies but I'm just saying you don't want that to be true you don't want that stereotype
type to be true because there are women out there like that there are women
out there that because they're stay-at-home moms stay-at-home
wives they're not really doing any type of work whatsoever they don't have a job
in the workplace but they're also not working at home they're not doing
a good job keeping up the house they're not doing a good job raising their children
homeschooling their children you know cooking good meals they're just watching
TV all day scrolling on social media all day buying
things on Amazon all day you know complaining and nagging to her husband
all day like that stereotype of a woman don't be that person
that's not going to be a help to your family that's not going to be a help as to your husband
be a good keeper at home and here's the thing remember
this is just just get this perspective in your head erase this feminism from your brain
you were created to serve your husband not
the other way around your husband's job is not to
wait on you hand and foot and do all of your work for you your job is to
help him how insane is it for a husband to go to work
40 to 60 sometimes plus hours a week
and you want him to come home do the dishes cook the meals
bathe the children dress the children like this is
insanity but there's there's this mentality out there that
you know wives are there as the as the queen as the princess and they're there to be
served by their husbands and nothing else now here's the thing we should
sacrificially love our wives we should do things that are serving to our wives
but that does not mean that we are supposed to do their job for them
serving your wife and loving your wife does not mean that you come home
from work after a long day and just take care of all the chores clean the house
do the laundry take care of the kids cook dinner
that is insanity that is a bad marriage
that is a bad situation when the husband is is carrying that much of a load
no you were created to serve and help him you know I heard in a
Christian setting I heard this advice
from a Christian woman and it was terrible terrible advice someone asked
they said hey I'm struggling to get all my housework done they had just had a
baby they had two young children one's like a toddler one's a newborn
the husband worked a ton of hours he travels a lot
works out of state a lot works really hard hard-working man and this wife she's
just struggling and look that's a normal situation to struggle with I don't know if you realize that but
when you have kids especially when you have a newborn you know it's normal to struggle a little bit
keeping all the responsibilities intact and doing everything
but she asked some of her sisters in Christ hey how can I
overcome this what can I do to help me in this situation I'm struggling to do all my
tasks and here was one of the responses from one of the wives okay
just tell your husband to do all the tasks for you
what look that's ridiculous that's terrible
advice that is absolute insanity okay yeah your husband
that works 60 hours a week who's bringing home the bacon who's paying for all the meals
who's paying for everything in your life who's working super hard yeah
he should just come home and also just clean the house every day do all the cooking
do all the chores take care of the kids while you do what exactly
nothing that's insanity that's ridiculous
that's feminism that's terrible advice now look I'm not saying you can never help your wife
I'm not saying especially during times of postpartum where you really step up and work extra hard
but don't ever tell your husband to do anything
don't ever say oh husband you gotta do the dishes tonight
no way in hell there's no way that a wife should ever be talking to her husband
like that demanding tasks of him that is ridiculous you know what is a better
solution is to just maybe lower your expectations for a season
from the husband and the wife you know maybe the husband needs to say look
I'm working super hard I can't just stop being a provider I can't just stop
paying for your bills you're working super hard you're going through a tough time you've got young
kids here you're struggling you know why don't we just for a season lower our
expectations a little bit and realize that hey the house isn't always going to be perfect
hey not every single thing in the house and and all the things going on that housewife
does needs to be perfect at all times during certain seasons right
that makes a lot more sense lowering your expectations and just getting through that hard time
they just be like well just tell the husband to do everything it's like no that's a bad idea
that's not something you should be telling your husband to do go to first timothy chapter five
first timothy chapter five
and part of just dealing with postpartum as well by the way is just doing good
planning in advance like my wife does an excellent job at this
where she'll make like twenty frozen meals and have them all in the freezer
so that when she's postpartum I'm literally just turning on the oven and pushing a button
and she's not having to do anything and I'm not having to make the family suffer
with my cooking and stuff like that so you know that that's just things that come with
experience having more and more kids is preparing for those times to make it easier
on you first timothy five eleven says but the younger widows
refuse talking about the church providing for them for when they've begun to wax wanton against
christ they will marry having damnation because they've cast off their first faith
and with all they learn to be idle wandering about from house to house
and not only idle but tattlers also and busy bodies
speaking things which they ought not so look idleness
is a temptation for any person man woman idleness
is a problem and the problem with idleness is that it can lead you to other sins when you're
idle when you don't have a lot to do cause you to go from house to house to be a gossip
to be a tail bearer to be involved in things that are none of your business and so this is a common
temptation for ladies especially ladies if they're at home not doing anything then yeah
they're going to be tempted with things so what's the answer verse fourteen I will therefore
that the younger women marry bear children guide the house give
none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully for some are already
turned aside after satan look the answer to going into sin
by being idle is to be given work to do and so god says my will
my idea my best scenario for a woman's life is for her to get married
and it says younger women so he wants younger women to get married to bear children
to guide the house that is going to give one person more work than they can handle
that's a lot of work right there and you know I have a lot of respect for the work that my wife
does and for all the state home moms because quite honestly their work is truly never
done there's not a clock in and clock out it's just an ongoing job twenty four
seven but I could tell you what I guarantee you if a mom is doing that job if a wife is taking
care of her house really well she's probably not very idle she probably doesn't have a lot of downtime and sometimes
people complain about this oh man I never have you know all just all this free time good that's what
god wants you think I have free time in my life do you think that god just wants us to have a ton
of free time in our lives no he wants us to work he wants us to be doing godly things
and so getting married bearing children guiding the house what is that that is first of
all leadership of the children teaching children the way that they should go but you know what it also is referring to
just keeping the house being a good cleaner this is something that ladies are definitely not being
taught nowadays it used to be that like ladies you know grandma would teach them how to cook
how to clean how to sew prepare them to be a good wife to be a good mother now
it's like the messaging is you got to go to college you got to get a job you got to get all these skills
you can make all this money and they kind of left all these home skills
unlearned and so being a good keeper at home is guiding the house well
you know while things don't need to be perfect at home and while when you have lots of kids
you know it's an unrealistic expectation to just say that everything's going to be perfect at all times but
at the same time your husband should not come home from a long day of work and it looks like your house
is like the Battle of Stalingrad or something where it's just there's blood flowing in the house
and it's just literally just insanity going on no no no you need to be a good keeper at home
you need to work hard you need to clean the house you need to have your home presentable like I said
moderate your expectations different seasons of life but here's here's a bad expectation
oh let's just expect that our house is just terrible at all times that's a bad expectation too
that's not something that your husband wants this is a way that ladies could help their husbands
go to Proverbs chapter 31 Proverbs 31
look what it says in Proverbs 31 verse 27
she looketh well to the ways of her household and eateth not the bread of idleness
I love that phrasing she looketh well to the ways of her household
this is not a wife that is going through the motions that is kind of just floating through life
she is thinking she's being diligent about her being a keeper at home her being a wife
her being a mother she's looking well to the ways of her household this is a person that's diligent
this is a person that's disciplined this is not a person that relies on motivation
I talk about this a lot oh you know I'm just not feeling motivated to clean my house today
oh I'm just not feeling motivated to cook dinner oh I'm just not you know feeling motivated to love my husband today
it's like look well to the ways of your household don't sit there and rely on motivation
rely on doing the right thing rely on discipline saying hey I was created to help my husband
I'm here to help him he's not here to serve me I was created to help him
I need to make sure I'm looking well to the ways of my household and look God is going to bless a woman that does this
don't think that you're just working your tail off putting in the long hours sacrificing a ton for your family
and that God doesn't see this God isn't looking down and being pleased with you
I guarantee you God is looking down at a humble wife that serves her husband serves her children
keeps her home well and he's very pleased with that woman he's way more pleased way more impressed with that woman
than he is with Hillary Clinton when she was the Secretary of State of the United States
he doesn't care about that in fact he thinks it's gross and disgusting because women should be keepers at home not leading the Secretary of State
you know that's ridiculous but look at verse number 28 of Proverbs where were we there Proverbs 31
Proverbs 31 verse 28 notice what it says in verse 28 her children arise up and call her blessed
her husband also and he praises her notice when a wife is diligent when she looks well to the ways of her household
when she puts in the hard work what is the result the result is that she has a good reputation with her children
and with her husband and she receives praise from her children and from her husband
you know you don't want it to be that 20 years from now when your children are all grown up and they look back
and they think what was how what was you know our home like as a child and they just think like our house was always a disaster
mom was always just scrolling Facebook mom never really cooked meals mom really never served dad
mom was an angry loudmouth feminist you know that's not the reputation that you want to have in 20 years
you want your children to rise up and call you blessed and say you know what my mom was a hard working woman
my mom sacrificed my mom loved us loved her husband and was a good example of a wife
as someone that actually helps her husband it was not a liability to him you know what is your reputation going to be as a mother
you know if you just stayed or as a housewife as well if you just stayed as the same wife you are now
or the same mother that you are now if you just stayed exactly the same for the next 10, 20, 30 years
what would your reputation be you know that's something that you should look and reflect on and think about deeply
and make changes from this sermon in areas that you need to make changes because I promise you you will have a reputation
we all right now could think about our upbringing and we could all say hey what was your dad like what was your mom like
they have a reputation now right because all of us are raised by our parents they've done their course they now have a reputation
you will as well I will as well you know we need to make sure being diligent and not just being selfish
go to Ecclesiastes chapter number 10 Ecclesiastes chapter number 10
Ecclesiastes chapter 10 verse 18 the Bible says by much slothfulness the building decayeth and through idleness of the hands the house droppeth through
look in both a very literal sense if you're diligent working hard that's going to be a help to your husband
in a very literal physical sense when you're a lazy wife that doesn't take care of the house the house is going to drop through
the house is going to be destroyed and also in a figurative sense that when a woman works hard blessing her husband
blessing her children you know that's going to be a household that's strong and that stands and that doesn't fall through
but you know a wife that's lazy in those areas the house will fall through go to Deuteronomy chapter 6 Deuteronomy chapter number 6
here's another great way that you could help your husband by you know in the home area is by being a good educator of your children
being a good educator of your children if you have kids this is a very important role Deuteronomy 6 says in these words
which I command thee this day shall be in thine heart and thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children and shall talk of them when thou sittest in thine house
and when thou walkest by the way and when thou liest down and when thou risest up and thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand
and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house and on thy gates
so notice it's important for parents to teach their children the word of God at all times when you're standing
when you're sitting when you're up when you're laying down just any opportunity we get to teach our children the word of God it should be taken
but here's just the practical reality is that mom is with the kids a lot more than dad is you know nowadays there's some people that work from home
maybe they're able to spend more time with their family that's great but for a lot of men they're away from their families a large portion of the day
and mom is like the primary influencer to those children and she needs to make sure that she's diligently teaching kids the word of God
you know we don't want to raise a biblically illiterate generation we want to make sure that the next generation is better than us
that they start learning the Bible at a younger age than we did they start memorizing the chapters at a younger age than we did
that they take the things of God more serious at a younger age than we did and you know who has the biggest opportunity
to instill that love of God into the children's heart is mom mom has the biggest opportunity to do that
and so if you want to be a help to your husband I guarantee you he's going to appreciate it when you teach the kids the Bible
when you teach the kids about spiritual things you know ladies want to be preachers sometimes here's your audience here's your disciples it's your children
hey please preach your children the Bible teach them the word of God tell them what's wrong what's right you know explain things from the Bible to them
that you can do that all day long that's the right thing to do go to Daniel chapter number one Daniel chapter one
but you know what while the spiritual is the most important and while when it comes to education you know the biggest thing you should get out of education
is knowledge of the word of God it's also very important to give your kids a real education in every other area as well
and I'll be honest I am for homeschooling it's my preferred way of kids getting educated but one of my fears of homeschooling is parents not being diligent
and not actually educating their children properly you know I've seen some adults that were homeschooled and I'm like wow you were not educated
you don't know things you've not read books you're very easily tricked confused you know you're not someone who's actually diligent in study
and it shows that they do not have a very good education look at Daniel 1 verse 17
as for these four children God gave them knowledge and skill in all learning and wisdom and Daniel had understanding in all visions and dreams
now at the end of the days that the king had said he should bring them in then the prince of the eunuchs brought them in before Nebuchadnezzar
and the king communed with them and among them all was found none like Daniel Hananiah Mishael and Ezra
therefore stood they before the king and in all matters of wisdom and understanding that the king inquired of them
he found them ten times better than all the magicians and astrologers that were in all his realm
this is the desired output of what we want from raising kids is that hey these homeschooled kids at Anchor Baptist Church are ten times better than the ones going to the public school
than the ones just going K through 12 government school we want to make sure that our children are ten times better
you know I think the best thing that you could do to make sure that your kids are well educated is to instill a love of reading books
you know elsewhere in Daniel it talks about how Daniel by searching out books came to the answers that he was seeking
he was someone that liked to read he was someone that knew how to get answers
you know we need to train a new generation to not just watch TikTok videos and documentaries and think that they're educated
but to actually read books because unfortunately you know like I always say the theme verse of our generation is that the simple believeth every word
and it's sad that many kids are coming out of homeschool nowadays and they're just simple
many parents teaching their children are simple and I'm just like I'm scared of these like weirdo flat earth parents that are homeschoolers
because here's the thing the flat earth is like the dumbest thing ever and like you should feel bad about yourself if you're a flat earther
I don't know if anyone in here is please don't tell me if you are because I'm going to think differently about you
but I'm just saying the thing is people who are flat earth they're almost always like pro homeschool
they're like yeah you know we need to homeschool our kids but it's coming from a place of like they're extra retarded than the public school system
it's not like they're saying like oh the public school system isn't being diligent enough they're not teaching them enough
it's just like oh the public school system thinks that the earth is a globe but we need to make sure we're homeschooling our kids so that we can tell them
that you know Joe Biden is a lizard and that the earth is flat and that the moon landing never happened
it's like you want to know why people believe that the moon landing was faked it's because they've never read a book about it
because it's literally like the most well documented event in modern human history
it is so unbelievably just a fact that man went to the moon that it's just like I know why someone thinks it's a conspiracy
it's because they've never read anything about it and it's like look you say like you're making me feel bad
I'm not trying to make you feel bad I'm trying to get you to read and I'm trying to get you to instill a love of reading into your children
so that it's not like oh man those Christians oh the ones that deny science oh the ones that don't know anything about history
oh the ones that deny that viruses are real you know I've heard this in Christian circles that there's no such thing as communicable disease
you know the extreme version of the terrain theory that just teaches like disease is non communicable
you know never use hand sanitizer hand sanitizer will kill you you know you can never get sick from another person by transferring germs
these are literal things that I've heard we don't want this reputation as Christians because it's just reality denial is what it is
I hate reality denial and it makes Christians look bad and we don't want to raise kids where it's like hey look
the representatives of Jesus Christ on the earth they're uneducated and stupid that is a shame and you know who it starts with
it starts with mom because mom is at home mom is teaching them the word of God mom is teaching them the science books the history books
all those things moms need to care about education ladies you say well reading isn't my thing it needs to start becoming your thing
you need to start caring about education you need to start loving learning because you're going to pass that on to your children
or you're going to pass on your apathy and your laziness and your lack of desire to get smarts to get education you know that's the generation
and legacy that you're going to be passing down none of us want that and look thank God homeschooling there's lots of programs
there's lots of systems where you know kids can do online classes whereas if you don't have an expertise in every subject
I totally get that I wouldn't be prepared to teach every subject to children either you know there's helps that are out there for you
use those things but also as your kids are learning you should show them the pattern that you're learning to that you love to read
that you want to learn things go to Proverbs chapter 29 Proverbs chapter 29 this is a pretty interesting verse in Proverbs 29 verse 15
it says the rod and reproof give wisdom but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame
notice how it doesn't say that it brings shame to his father the Bible is highlighting the fact that when a child is left to himself
who is the primary person to blame in that situation it's mom and when a child is just left to themselves they're being homeschooled
which means you're not really teaching them things they're not really reading books you're just simply not putting them in the public school system
there's a difference between homeschooling your children and just not putting your kids in any school this is what some parents are doing
they're just not educating them at all they're leaving them to themselves and the Bible says that person that child brings his mother shame
when I see a flat earther I am like wow you had bad parents your parents did not teach you anything your parents were not critical thinkers
your parents were not lovers of truth your parents watched a documentary and said I can't understand something therefore it's fake
like I literally saw a video of these astronauts training underwater to do spacewalks you want to know why you train underwater
because it's kind of similar to the feeling of no gravity that you're going to experience in space and it's like showing these astronauts they're doing their thing underwater
and then it hard cuts to them doing it in space and then the video is like saying see it's all CGI they're all filming it underwater
it's like or you retard their training underwater for what they're actually going to be doing in space
but it's like you got these parents who are stupid and foolish and they're just like duh I don't know anything about the Van Allen radiation belts
duh I don't know anything about aviation how come when the moon landing happened how come it didn't leave a giant crater in the moon when they landed
maybe for the same reason that there's not a giant crater every time a helicopter lands on earth or an airplane lands on earth
when there's actually even more gravity here than on the moon it's just like you just see people they have no knowledge or understanding about these things
and they pass it on to their kids and it's scary and it brings shame and it's like us as Christians I don't want us having the reputation of being stupid
or uneducated because look those stereotypes exist because there are people like that out there
there are the proverbial Florida man preachers that get up and say I don't understand half the words on the page but the parts I can read I believe them
and the parts that I can't read I believe them too that's like a paraphrased quote from a Florida man that was defending the King James Bible
it's like look I want people to defend the King James Bible because they're smart and know the issue not because they're stupid and just have like a blind faith
it's like hey I want people to notice that we are the servants of the Most High God but I don't want demon possessed women like in the New Testament
following around saying these are the servants of the Most High God right we don't want people being like yeah Christianity is great because we're awake that the earth is flat
that the moon landing never happened there's no such thing as disease that you know Hillary Clinton's a lizard and it's just like you're turning people off from Christianity
or you're just bringing retards to your church and I don't want to pastor a church of retards I don't want to pastor people that deny reality
I want people to come here and be afraid to say stupid things and to get corrected when they say stupid things and to be like hey I should actually you know change this issue and fix things
because let's be honest we all have believed stupid things sure there's things I believe right now that I'm wrong about but here's the difference if I'm wrong about something I actually want to know it so that I can change it
not just be like well I've made my decision and you know what it's fake it's all fake and I'm just passing this on to my kids it's like that's a bad attribute and it's an embarrassing attribute
we'll finish in Proverbs 31 look at verse number 10 Proverbs 31 verse 10
Proverbs 31 verse 10 says who can find a virtuous woman for her price is far above rubies the heart of her husband does safely trust in her so that he shall have no need of spoil she will do him good and not evil all the days of her life
look having a good wife is a great blessing from God the Bible says that she her price is far above rubies the Bible says that by having this type of a wife she's going to do good unto you all the days of her life I mean this is what every man wants is a help fitting for him like this like the Proverbs 31 woman
you know every single wife should walk away from the sermon this morning thinking how can I help my husband more where can I be a better help to my husband because the truth is that is why God created you to be a help to your husband so here's some ways you can help number one help with the finances number two help with due benevolence number three help with being a good housekeeper
let's have a word of prayer Lord thank you for this day thank you for the instructions and admonitions in your word I just pray that you would bless the marriages this evening and I pray that you also bless the marriage sermon for the men this evening that you just help us all to apply the truths we're going to hear to our own lives and help us all to focus on being a better spouse we love you in Jesus' name we pray amen
amen
all right for our last hymn this morning to grab a hymnal and turn to number 31 he lives
hymn number 31 he lives we'll sing there starting on the first
I serve a risen Savior, He's in the world today I know that He is living whatever men may say I see His hand of mercy, I hear His voice of cheer When just the time I need Him, He's always near
He lives, He lives, Christ Jesus lives today He talks with me and talks with me of long lives there away He lives, He lives, salvation to import You ask me how I know He lives
He lives within my heart In all the world around me, I see His loving care And though my heart grows weary, I never will despair
I know that He is leading through all the stormy past The day of His appearing will come at last
He lives, He lives, Christ Jesus lives today He walks with me and talks with me of long lives there away He lives, He lives, salvation to import You ask me how I know He lives
He lives within my heart Rejoice, rejoice, O Christian Lift up your voice and sing Eternal hallelujah to Jesus Christ the King
The hope of all who seek Him, the help of all who find The Mother is so loving, so good and kind
He lives, He lives, Christ Jesus lives today He walks with me and talks with me of long lives there away He lives, He lives, salvation to import
You ask me how I know He lives He lives within my heart