As my son attend unto my wisdom, and bow thine ear to my understanding, that thou mayest
regard discretion, and that thy lips may keep knowledge.
For the lips of a strange woman drop as in honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than
oil."
If you remember in Proverbs chapter four, pretty much the whole chapter is just a father
giving instruction and advice to his son.
And really chapter five is just a continuation of that, except in chapter number five, dad
is gonna hone in on one thing pretty much, and that is the strange woman.
And if you read the book of Proverbs, the strange woman is just brought up over and
over again.
It is a major villain in the book of Proverbs.
And so dad has taken a whole chapter here to warn his son about the loose woman here.
And so I want to give you a couple of statements this evening regarding these type of women.
Number one, we need to realize the dangers of whores.
We need to realize the dangers of whores.
Look at Proverbs verse five, verse one again, notice what it says, "My son, attend unto
my wisdom and bow thine ear to my understanding that thou mayest regard discretion and that
thy lips may keep knowledge."
So notice it's a father speaking to his son and what he's going to tell him about is
the strange woman, you know, in some households and in some cultures and in some churches,
this is like a taboo subject that's never brought up and it's just like it's never
talked about in the home.
This issue is never even dealt with with kids, but you know, this is an issue that needs
to be talked about and it's not uncomfortable.
It's not weird.
Like if the Bible brings this up, we should be warning the youth about this.
This is something that young men should be warned about and not just like kind of throw
them to the world and hope that they figure these things out on their own.
Dads should be warning their sons about the dangers of whores.
The Bible talks a lot about it.
Dads it's your responsibility.
You need to make sure you're doing this.
Look what it says in verse number three.
And this remember dad to his son, he says this for the lips of a strange woman drop
as in honeycomb and her mouth is smoother than oil.
The idea here is that the strange woman is going to appear as something that is pleasant
unto you.
And you know, it doesn't do any good to sit here and pretend like, you know, oh men are
never going to be tempted with this whatsoever.
The strange woman is going to come to you with horns and a pitchfork and she's going
to be telling you how wicked she is.
No, the whole point of this warning is that he's saying, look son, she's going to appear
desirable.
She's going to look good.
She's going to look like something that's going to be pleasant unto you, but of course
we know that that's not the truth.
Go to Hebrews chapter number 11, Hebrews chapter number 11, but you know, some Christians,
some pastors, they never ever talk about these things because they just want to act like
they're so perfect and Christian men are just these perfect little angels that would never
ever be tempted with something like this.
But the Bible doesn't say that it's not a temptation.
The Bible saying that she's going to appear pleasant to you, that she's going to appear
something desirable while you're turning their first Corinthians 10 12 says this, wherefore
let him that think if he standeth take heed lest he fall.
You know, it's not a good mentality to just act like this is not a problem whatsoever
for men.
You're never going to struggle with this.
If you get saved once you're saved, you got the Holy Ghost in you.
Amen.
You do.
But oh, you'll just never struggle with sin again.
No, that's ridiculous.
No, it's a serious temptation.
Notice what Hebrews 11 verse 24 says, "By faith Moses, when he was come to years, refused
to be called the son of Pharaoh's daughter, choosing rather to suffer affliction with
the people of God," notice, "than to enjoy the pleasures of sin for a season."
See, there is a certain element of sin that is pleasurable, but that pleasure is temporary.
It's for a season.
And so you think, why is it that people are drawn away and enticed after their own lusts?
Because sin has a pleasurable aspect to it, but we ought not to be so foolish just seeking
that temporary pleasure because we learn in Proverbs 3, we're not supposed to trust in
our heart, right?
Not trusting in our heart, we're supposed to trust in the Lord with all of our heart,
not leaning on our own understanding.
And here's what happens is that people, it happens all the time, where people get this
in love feeling.
And it's not really that you're in love.
It's that you're in this momentary, temporary phase of infatuation.
And that's often when people fall into sins like fornication and adultery.
Because that emotion, that feeling that you're feeling is very strong, which is why the Bible
says not to trust in your heart.
Because that can happen to people.
People can get deceived by the strange woman, but you're not supposed to be listening to
your feelings.
You're not supposed to be listening to your emotions.
You're supposed to realize that it may seem good on the outside, it may seem like it's
something you want, but really it's death.
Really it's something that's going to hurt you.
It's not something you should ever go after.
And this is why people, you know, go to Las Vegas and get married after knowing each other
for one day, right?
Or knowing each other for one week.
They think that they're in love when no, you're not in love, you're just in infatuation.
And people make these, you know, commit these wicked sins because of that.
Go back to Proverbs five.
So you know, think about that emotion, that emotion is very powerful and the strange woman
is going to use that emotion to manipulate you.
That's what she does.
She wants to get at you.
She wants to commit this sin with you.
And so she's going to use your emotions to manipulate you.
How?
Look at verse three again, for the lips of a strange woman drop as in honeycomb and her
mouth is smoother than oil.
Obviously when you think of lips, mouth, what are you thinking of?
Words.
What people say.
And you know, this is one of the tactics of the strange woman is that she's going to come
up to you and she's going to flatter you.
She's going to say, Oh man, her lips are just dropping like a honeycomb.
Her mouth is smoother than oil.
She's going to be saying all these good and all these nice things to you.
Go to Proverbs chapter 18, Proverbs chapter number 18.
But I'll tell you, it's a red flag, men, when a woman comes onto you.
It just is.
Look what the Bible says in Proverbs 18 verse 22, who so findeth a wife, findeth a good
thing and obtain a favor of the Lord.
You know, it's described in the Bible, the man finding the woman.
It is a red flag when a woman is finding a man.
And sure, maybe there's some exception out there, but the 99% rule on this is that a
woman that finds you is bad news.
And like, we're getting this backwards in our society now.
It's really sad.
I'm seeing these videos going viral of all these ladies proposing in marriage to men.
It's just like, you are not a man.
If a girl proposes to you, like that is pathetic.
But you know, we just have a lot of weak men these days that don't realize the flattery
that they're getting into a lot of times.
But look, woman finds you out of nowhere.
Women starts laying it on thick to you, starts telling you how great you are, how muscular
you are, how wonderful you are.
This is a bad sign, okay?
Not a good idea whatsoever.
Go to first Timothy chapter number two, chapter number two.
And of course, so one way that the strange woman will manipulate her victim is by her
words.
And of course, another way this is just common sense that the strange woman will manipulate
her victims is through her body, right?
Because I think in one way, her lips dropping as honey and looking really sweet could be
talking about her words, but it also is talking about her physical appearance that she just
looks nice because I don't know if you realize this, but men are attracted to women.
This is just reality.
And here's the thing, everyone knows this.
Godly women know this and wicked women know this, but you know, godly women don't weaponize
their bodies against men.
Godly women aren't trying to seduce other men that aren't their husbands.
Godly women would never do such a thing.
But you know what wicked women do, of course they know that they're beautiful because women
just are naturally attractive, but yet they will weaponize their looks to get their victims.
Look at 1st Timothy chapter number 2 verse 9, "In like manner also that women adorn themselves
in modest apparel with shame, facelessness, and sobriety, not with broidered hair or gold
or pearls or costly array."
You know, the Bible teaches that Christian ladies should be adorning themselves with
modest apparel.
Ladies should not be going around showing off their bodies for men that are not their
husband to be seeing.
That is a wicked attribute.
And that's something that the strange woman likes to do is she likes to weaponize her
body to get her victims.
What does the Bible say?
That women should adorn themselves in modest apparel.
You know, we talked a few weeks ago about the Bible's definition of nakedness, that
it's from the loins unto the thighs.
That's one aspect of Christian dressing that you should cover your nakedness, that you
should dress according to your gender, right?
We don't believe that women should be wearing pants, we believe women should be wearing
skirts and dresses, but on top of that, you should be wearing modest skirts and dresses.
Because you're supposed to be adorning yourself in modest apparel, not trying to wear the
tightest thing you possibly can, so that you could just bring all the eyes of every man
onto your body.
That is a wicked attribute.
That is not the way that God wants Christian ladies behaving.
And look here, I think that, obviously I don't know, because I'm not a woman, I've never
been a woman obviously, but I'm just thinking like, why do women do this?
They must just think that if they dress modestly, that men won't find them attractive, that
men won't think that they're good.
But I'm here to tell you that's not true.
It's just not true.
Like godly men, when they see a woman that's dressed traditionally, she's got a long skirt
on, she's got a dress on, they're going to think highly of her.
They're going to say like, wow, this woman is different than everyone else.
I mean, a whore is a dime a dozen.
She's on every street corner, everywhere you go.
You see women that are dressed inappropriately according to the word of god.
They're just everywhere.
And it's sad that it's like that because we've gotten so far away from the Bible, so far
away from the book of Proverbs.
But it's just true.
It doesn't matter what state you're in, doesn't matter if it's winter, doesn't matter if
it's summer.
There's just whores everywhere in our country.
And I don't know about you.
When I see a lady out and about in skirts and dresses, I just think that's got to be
a good person right there.
And she may not even be.
But I'm just thinking that.
I mean, she might be like a Mormon or something.
She might be like a Pentecostal, I don't know.
But I am thinking in my heart right away when I see a woman dressed modestly, I'm like,
that must be a good woman.
That must be a good person.
And you know, you single guys, that's who you should be looking for.
When you see a lady like that, approach her, talk to her.
If she's not saved, give her the gospel.
You know, it's a rare thing to find a modest woman nowadays.
And if you just find one, I mean, it's better than rubies, it's more valuable than rubies
and gold.
I mean, man, it's so rare these days.
Go to Matthew chapter number five.
But of course, you know, not only do women have a role to play in this, but us men also,
the Bible says in Job 31.1, "I made a covenant with mine eyes.
Why then should I think upon a maid?"
You see, it's kind of hard for a woman to emotionally manipulate you with your looks
if you're not looking, right?
I mean, it takes two here.
Yeah, women should not be dressing like whores.
Amen, 100%.
We're 100% going to preach against that.
But you know what?
We, as men, should not just be feasting our eyes on whores either.
And you know what?
Both people are responsible.
You do not have to sit here and let your heart get taken astray by some whore.
But what does the Bible say?
"Mine eye effecteth my heart."
And yeah, you might start actually feeling wicked feelings when you're sitting there
and just allowing your eyes to feast on a woman's body like that, it's wicked.
It's wicked on both sides.
Look at what Jesus said in Matthew 5 verse 27, "You have heard that it was said by them
of old time, thou shalt not commit adultery.
But I say unto you that whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed
adultery with her already in his heart."
Look, if you want to never commit adultery, if you want to never be deceived by the strange
woman, don't just sit here and say, "Well, I'm never going to commit adultery."
No, just don't even lust after her in your heart because that's where it begins.
People don't go from being just like three to thrive, reading the Bible, soul winning,
living the Christian life to just committing adultery overnight.
That's not how it usually happens.
How it usually happens is that you start getting lazy with your eyes and then emotions come
after that and you get manipulated into doing something that you didn't set out to do.
What's funny is like, yes there are male sexual predators in this world, of course, no doubt
about that.
But what's interesting is that the Bible focuses on female sexual predators in the book of
Proverbs and I think that's for a reason because we don't necessarily think of ladies as being
that way, but the Bible is telling us that there are women that will hunt.
There are women that are trying to cause men to stumble, that are trying to cause men to
go into this type of sin and it's super wicked.
We've got to make sure we're having character with our eyes.
I kind of think of it like this, like with gun safety, you could do some things to mitigate
having accidents, having, you know, injuries.
You could not put your finger on the trigger until you've got your sights aligned and you're
ready to destroy what you're pointing at.
And you could not point the muzzle at anything you're not ready to destroy, right?
So like you have these safeguards with firearms to keep you from accidentally killing yourself
or someone else.
Well, it's like the Bible's given us some safeguards here, ladies dress modestly.
That's on you.
Okay.
But then men make a covenant with your eyes not to sit here and just behold women in a
lustful manner.
You know, we have control of that.
That's a decision that we get to make.
You know, keep your finger off the trigger guys.
Don't point it at anything like that.
You know, have some gun safety and have some safety with this sin as well because it's
destroyed many, many men.
Go back to Proverbs chapter number five, Proverbs chapter number five.
And again, that's why I don't think it's really beneficial to just hide from this topic or
act like it's taboo, not warn the young people about it because it destroys a lot of people,
a lot of people.
Look at verse four it says, "But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two edged sword.
Her feet go down to death, her steps take hold on hell."
So notice, perception is not necessarily reality.
You're perceiving, "Wow, she looks so great, her lips are dropping like honey, she's smoother
than oil, everything's just great about her."
That's the perception, but perception is not always reality.
The end of her is wormwood.
Now I just found this on the internet, I'm not a thousand percent sure on this, but I
read that wormwood is a plant that smells good but has poisonous qualities to it and
that when you consume it, it kills you.
And that's kind of how the strange woman is.
She appears nice, she appears like something that's going to be good, but at the end it's
death.
It's destruction, it's terrible, sharp as a two-edged sword, her feet go down to death,
her steps take hold on hell.
I mean how much more extreme can the Bible describe how terrible it is to get involved
with a strange woman?
But you know I think God needs to be this extreme because this is such a sin that is
common to man.
This is the biggest area that men struggle in life and so we need to come to God's word
and renew our minds and not trust in our heart and realize hey our stupid flesh that says
wow that looks great, that looks wonderful.
No it's death.
No it's going to ruin your life.
No you never ever ever want to go down that road.
It's not worth it.
Stay far away from that woman.
Go to Hosea chapter number four.
Hosea chapter number four.
Hosea chapter four verse six when you get there notice what it says.
My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.
Because thou hast rejected knowledge I will also reject thee that thou shalt be no priest
to me seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God I will also forget thy children.
Notice people are destroyed from lack of knowledge and specifically from the lack of the knowledge
of God and from His commandments because it's talking about hey you're forgetting me I'm
going to forget your children.
And what's interesting is that we had a whole generation in the 60s and 70s that really
just gave themselves over to fornication really just committed all sorts of debauchery in
our country had extremely high divorce rates they really just forgot God and forgot the
law of God and you know what happened a whole new generation grew up and they weren't getting
the knowledge of God that said run away from fornication run away from the strange woman
they were told here's how to do it safely here's protection when I went to high school
we were literally distributed protection at the public school that's the knowledge that
kids are getting now it's not hey don't be a whore it's not hey stop dressing like a
whore it's not hey men learn to have some character and not just lust after women no
it's just here's how to be a whore safely guess what there is no safe way to be a whore
there is no safe way to be an adulterer especially if you're a christian because god is going
to come down and rain on you god is going to judge adulterers and whoremongers and we
ought to have the fear of god to ever go down this road of adultery and fornication because
guess what if we didn't preach hard about this it's just going to be rinse and repeat
of history again people forget god's commandments they go out and they give themselves over
to fornication the next generation's raised again without the law of god we need to stigmatize
this again you should be ashamed of being a whore this isn't the same used to be like
more uncomfortable than a whore in church but it's not stigmatized anymore even like
i talked about this the conservative influencers the conservative women in our country they
dress like a bunch of whores they show off their bodies and they're acting like they're
conservative no you know what you're a whore and you should be ashamed of yourself and
you know we have a bunch of young people today looking up to absolute pieces of garbage like
andrew tate thinking oh he's cool he's wonderful he makes money he gets all the girls that
guy is a piece of garbage that guy is a human trafficking devil that should be shot in the
head disgusting we need to stigmatize this because people are destroyed for lack of knowledge
notice verse 10 for they shall eat and not have enough they shall commit whoredom and
shall not increase because they have left off to take heed to the lord notice verse
11 whoredom and wine and new wine take away the heart you know it's it's going to be
impossible for you to walk with god when you're committing fornication it's going to be impossible
for you to walk and have a close relationship with god when you're cheating on your wife
when you're cheating on your husband no whoredom wine and new wine it takes away the heart
and you know there's a big dearth of christianity today biblical christianity of the united states
maybe it's because americans are so obsessed with whoredom and drinking alcohol and just
enjoying the pleasures of this life we need to get back to preaching hard against this
stuff because what it does is it takes away the heart we've got to start protecting the
next generation against this stuff go back to proverbs chapter five proverbs chapter
number five verse number six says lest thou shouldest ponder the path of life her ways
are movable that thou canst not know them you ever heard the phrase you can't turn a
hoe into a housewife guess what it's true the strange woman it says that her ways are
movable you can't trust her she's going to act one way around you and another way around
someone else that's why you know you should never be around these type of women you should
not go after the strange woman you should not allow yourself to be deceived by the strange
woman her ways are movable you know you single guys you're not locked in to a marriage you
get to choose whoever you want to marry you should have the knowledge of God here and
say okay I need to find a virgin woman if possible I need to find a chaste woman I
need to find someone that's not a complete whore because her ways are movable and women
who in their past not every single time but a lot of women who have been really sexually
promiscuous in their youth are the same women that are going to divorce and leave you and
honestly it's the same way for guys too like we should just be virgin like the bible teaches
we should avoid fornication but you know this is a terrifying statistic that I found recently
between the ages women between the ages of 18 and 25 there is a 1.2 million US women
that are selling their bodies on a popular adult website 1.2 million women in the united
states between the ages of 18 and 25 are selling their bodies are prostituting their bodies
are being whores on a very popular adult website that means that for that age group one out
of every ten american women between those ages are on that site she really is on every
corner like the bible says you really do have to be aware of the strange woman her ways
are movable you cannot know them we have to be aware of the strange woman that brings
me to number two this evening stay far away from temptation what was number one recognize
the danger of whores let's not mince words here it's a real temptation for men let's
not pretend like it's not it is it's a real danger so number two stay far away from temptation
look at verse seven hear me now therefore oh ye children and depart not from the words
of my mouth verse eight remove thy way far from her and come not nigh to the door of
her house here's a great way to never commit adultery or fornication with a strange woman
is don't even be around her don't even be physically near her and some guys they like
to play with fire and see how close they can get and have a good time no the Bible says
remove your foot far from her don't play around with it go to Romans chapter number 13 Romans
chapter number 13 and you know this is this point especially man it's so important for
young men to be hearing this and to be implementing this into their lives and not just trust in
their spirituality to take them through temptation we need to do something about it look at
Romans 13 verse 10 love worketh no ill to his neighbor therefore love is the fulfilling
of the law and that knowing the time that now it is high time to awake out of sleep
for now is our salvation nearer than when we believed the night is far spent the day
is at hand let us therefore cast off the works of darkness and let us put on the armor
of light let us walk honestly as in the day not in rioting and drunkenness not in chambering
and wantonness not in strife and envying but put she on the Lord Jesus Christ notice this
and make not provision for the flesh to fulfill the lust thereof notice it's not good enough
to just sit here young men and say I'm never going to commit fornication I'm never going
to go down this road now you should start there you should have that in your heart that
should be the true and honest desire of your heart but it's not enough to say like well
I don't want to therefore I never will know what you need to do is you need to not make
provision for the flesh provision meaning to feed to provide for to give life to you got to kill
that old man you ought to not give permission to the flesh to fulfill the lust thereof so you need
to put up some safeguards in your life so that you don't go down this road in a moment of weakness
the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak we are sinners you ought to know that about yourself
and if you do sincerely want to make it through life being completely faithful to your wife like
you should and not committing fornication like you should you need to actually set up some
safeguards in your life so that you don't go down that road what's a good way excuse me what's a
good way of doing that how about if at all possible not being around the opposite gender
when you're alone and people love to mock this and act like it's so crazy and you guys are so
weird but it's like hey i'm going to stay faithful to my wife though and you know hopefully the young
kids in here they take this to heart and they actually make it to the wedding altar pure and
hopefully we don't have this continuation in america of just adultery divorce adultery divorce
adultery divorce hopefully our kids can actually be raised by one set of parents instead of two
you'd be wise to take heed to this advice and it doesn't have to be weird like the bible says love
is the fulfilling of the law i've been in many situations where it's like oh we found ourselves
in this situation you know what i did i just removed myself and it's not that i think that
that woman was so wicked and she was going to do something it's not that i think oh man i was
really tempted i was about to do something it's just like hey i love my sister in christ hopefully
she loves me and what are we doing we're doing the christ honoring thing here like let's just
honor christ with what we're doing here it doesn't have to be weird it's not that i think something
weird about you or that you are thinking something weird about me it's just that this is honoring
god we don't want to sit here and give occasion to our enemies to give false accusations against us
and we don't want to make provision for the flesh we just don't want to do it and so it just makes
sense if at all possible to not be in those situations now sometimes i understand there are
situations in life where you are going to literally be in that situation there's nothing you can do
about it well you could still try to be covering your bases as much as possible try to be in a
public space try to be around cameras or something like that i get it you got work and stuff like that
sometimes you can't avoid it but you know if you follow this principle to the best of your ability
it's going to keep you safe first thessalonians 522 says abstain from all appearance of evil
it's not enough in god's eyes just to sit here and not commit fornication and not commit adultery
god does not want us to even have the appearance of evil this is why it is a bad idea and it's
it's just gross and wrong for pastors to be counseling women by themselves and this is like
a common practice and it's absolutely insane that pastors will go into their office with some young
lady some teen some young woman and close the door and have a private counseling session that is
insane that will never ever happen at anchor baptist church why because you think you're
gonna do something no because i want to abstain from all appearance of evil and i don't want you
to get comfortable if you go to another church to where some false prophet will do something to
where some sick pervert will do something to your children no it needs to be above board it needs
to be in the open if i'm going to be talking with a lady like that my wife's going to be right next
to me and maybe your husband will be there too like let's just have as much accountability as
possible we don't want to give the enemies an occasion to speak against us or jesus or our
church and we don't want to have the appearance of evil you know this is another thing it is
inappropriate and people don't grow up in church maybe they don't understand these things it is
inappropriate men to go up to women in this church and hug them do not do that i've been at a church
where new visitors starts coming and started front hugging all the ladies that's you're going to get
i'm just going to be careful what i say here don't hug people's wives amen men come on don't be
hugging people's wives that is a bad idea and you know it's not appropriate it's not above board
it's the appearance of evil look some ladies 65 70 years old hey sister no problem okay but you know
what i'm not going to be hugging women that are anywhere close to my age it's not going to be
happening whatsoever it's inappropriate and i've literally had a woman walk up to me and say oh can
i hug you i said i just do handshakes you know and again it's not like you're a terrible person
you're wicked you're trying to be an adulteress it's just like look we just need to honor christ
here i'm not going to be having the appearance of sin i don't want you having the appearance of sin
we're just staying far away from that this doesn't happen in here but please no hugging women except
your wife and your mother and your sister and that's it all right crazy the things you have
to say sometimes go to proverbs chapter number five proverbs chapter number five so we saw the
dangers of whores we need to put up safeguards in our life to keep us safe why look at verse 9 it
says lest thou give thine honor unto others and thy years unto the cruel lest strangers be filled
with thy wealth and thy labors be in the house of a stranger you know i just love the bible because
it tells you exactly what's going to happen and like human beings we're just so stupid and we're
just led by our emotions sometimes we're just like oh she's pretty oh she looks good but the
bible's like she's deaf she's a two-headed sword you're going to give all your money to strangers
it's going to destroy your life there's no coming back from her and people when they go and get
deceived by the strange woman they're not necessarily thinking all these things by the way this is why
you should read the bible because the bible is full of warnings like this that are going to save
you so much time and save you so much heartache and save you so much pain this is why we love
hard preaching this is why we love the king james bible because it just gives you the straight
truth it cuts through your it cuts through your wicked heart cuts through my wicked heart and it
just tells us the truth about life and here's the truth i looked up some statistics on this
there is 20 billion dollars a year in the united states that's spent on child support
20 billion dollars what does the bible say that you're going to be ending ending up giving your
wealth to others i mean to me it just doesn't seem like there'd be that connection just from
a human level of course i know that because the bible is true but then reality just keeps
matching the bible all the time oh you sleep with the whore you go into adultery you go into
fornication you're gonna lose all your money and then it just happens 20 billion dollars in the
united states that's an average monthly payment of four hundred and forty one dollars per custodial
parent who just said you don't raise your hand who just has like an extra four hundred forty one
dollars a month that you just like to piss down the toilet because that's what you're doing when
you're committing adultery and fornication having to deal with all these child support payments
and in some cases alimony payments it used to be a lot more common before women were in the
workforce but now it's mostly child support and that's 20 billion dollars a year four hundred and
forty one dollars a month is the average you know that means that means that there's a lot of dudes
that are spending way more than that every month that's crazy but it's exactly what the bible said
would happen and notice verse 11 it says and thou mourn at the last when thy flesh and thy body
are consumed again the bible is just going hard here telling us how dangerous this type of woman
is and how badly you're going to really screw up your life if you go down this road don't try to
figure out for yourself kids don't don't say like pastor is crazy pastor is just going way overboard
the bible's wrong on this no no you will regret it the person that does this they come to themselves
mourning at the last what is that weeping sobbing crying you know how many people go into marriage
with so much baggage from their horrible raunchy past that just causes mourning and weeping and
problems and how about this thy flesh and my body being consumed how would you like to get an std
kids well commit fornication you might find out because over 25 percent of americans have stds
you really want to spin the revolver on that you really want to play russian roulette with stds
stds are so rampant in our country it's not even funny but did you know that if you are a virgin
and you get married to a virgin that there is an exactly zero percent chance that you will have an
std and you're not going to be mourning at the last you're not going to be weeping and sorrowful
for this disease this pain that you're going to have to carry with you for the rest of your life
oftentimes a lot of these diseases they can't get rid of them they try to treat the symptoms but
these people are in horrible pain all sorts of discomfort all sorts of dysfunction literally
how would you like to have that for the rest of your life it's not worth it be aware of this
type of woman stay there i'll read for you first corinthians 6 18 flee fornication every sin that
a man doeth is without the body but he that committed fornication sinneth against his own
body what know you not that your body is the temple of the holy ghost which is in you
which you have of god and you're not your own for you are bought with a price therefore glorify
god in your body and in your spirit which are gods look when when god saved us and the holy
spirit came to dwell in us we are the temple of god our body is the temple of god and you know
what god wants us to sanctify that temple god wants us to separate ourselves from some things
and one of those things is fornication the bible even talks about in first thessalonians
sanctifying our vessel and getting away from fornication this is something that we must
be doing and if you don't notice what happens verse 12 you'll say and say how have i hated
instruction and my heart despised reproof i mean it's just so foolish to sit here and despise
hard preaching it's so foolish to sit here and despise preachers for screaming and yelling and
warning young people about the dangers of fornication because if i'm not doing that and if you parents are
not warning your kids you know what's going to happen is that your kids will pay the price
when they end up going down this road and they're eventually going to say man i hated
instruction i hated reproof it just brings pain look at verse 13 and have not obeyed the voice of
my teachers nor inclined mine ear to them that instructed me you know what that means it means
that teachers should be warning against fornication constantly and not just acting like hey it's no big
deal no problem oh we're all sinners yeah we are all sinners that's why we should sanctify ourselves
and put up some safeguards that we don't go down this road because we are all sinners but you know
what the bible teaches in first corinthians five that if someone's a fornicator that they're not
even supposed to be allowed in church why because god wants to send a clear message to other people
that this is a big deal that this will destroy your life it'll destroy your walk with god
no you're not going to lose your salvation but you know what committing fornication will destroy
your walk with god it will and the bible even says that we're supposed to deliver that person
up unto satan for the destruction of the flesh the bible is literally saying like if you commit
fornication and you get kicked out of church that god's going to let the devil do whatever he wants
to you god's going to let the devil destroy your flesh so you know you should be terrified to
commit fornication you should be terrified to commit adultery because god is going to come down
on you verse 14 i was almost in all evil in the midst of the congregation and assembly here's
another thing we can do to avoid this strange woman number three is get married this is the
greatest way to avoid the strange woman look at verse 15 it says drink waters out of thine own
cistern and running waters out of thine own well i mean god does not just expect you
to be parched he has water for you he has a well for you and instead of just going around life
being parched just drink out of your own well just drink out of your own cisterns the bible
says let thy fountains be dispersed abroad and rivers of waters in the streets let them be only
thine own and not strangers with thee think about how this has gone so far the dad has said son
she's going to appear great she's going to appear wonderful you're going to think that this is a
good idea but let me tell you it's really not she's going to destroy your life you need to
protect yourself you need to put up these safeguards and then he says hey you know what
you should do son is you should just get married you should just get your own wife you should just
get your own well your own cistern to satisfy this natural need and temptation that we have as men
and that's godly that's god's way about doing things now look if you want to get married you
will actually have to talk to women you will actually have to talk to them you will have to
actually probably shower you will have to actually you know not show off your pokemon collection and
stuff like that you might have to like work a job and you know be approachable and stuff like that
you might have to do some things but you should get married and let me tell you what god's will
is for 99 percent of men it's to get married but it's like man we've just got so many distractions
in our society today that are just like tamping men down and keeping them from reaching their
potential things like video games because look video games are not a sin but you know what video
games does for a lot of guys is it robs them of their natural ambition because instead of going
out and achieving something and getting the girl and making the money and buying a car buying a
house and doing stuff like that it's like well i got the girl on the video game and i destroyed
the dragon in the castle and you know like i won world war six online but it's like but you're not
living in real life and life is passing you by and the ladies are getting married and you're
getting older and you need to stop being so distracted by that crap and actually get out
in the real world and i say this and i don't really care if you like it or not like bros you
should be lifting some weights you should not be weird just define that to yourself stop being
weird i mean some single guys are just weird and i say this in love to you because i want you to
get married because i know that you want that because men want that right but to find a woman
you've got to be normal you've got to be able to talk to them you've got to take some showers
okay i could just go on all night about this but i'm i know i'm gonna piss people off with that one
go to verse number 19 or i'm sorry verse 18 it says this let thy fountain be blessed and rejoice
with the wife of thy youth you know it is a blessing to get married young and not everyone
has to get married young it may not be the best situation for every single person but in general
it's a good idea to get married young why because you're going to avoid that temptation when you're
young or when these temptations are very strong and that's the time you should get married most
of the time and when you're waiting till you're in your 40s to get married it's like good luck
finding a virgin lady in her 40s good luck finding like you should get married young go to first
corinthians chapter number seven first corinthians chapter number seven and look we've got some great
single guys in this church but man i've seen some crazy stuff don't don't when you're on your first
date show your girlfriend your hitler collection okay just they don't want to see that i promise
you first corinthians seven verse one says now concerning the things where have you wrote unto me
it is good for a man not to touch a woman now this is in the context of fornication this isn't
saying that anytime you're ever touching a woman for any reason that it's a sin otherwise i couldn't
baptize any ladies you know that you know i have to actually like touch a woman to baptize her
okay if someone if a woman is dying and choking guys you could give her the heimlich and save
her life if a woman's bleeding out and dying see some of the ladies probably disagree you you could
actually save her life like no even if she's dying don't touch her it's not a sin just inherently to
touch a woman but notice what it says in verse two nevertheless to avoid fornication let every man
have his own wife and let every woman have her own husband the bible just straight up says here
how do you avoid fornication you get married you get a wife this is god's will for 99 percent of
people sure there's the apostle paul out there that can you know keep his flesh under subjection
and he's not tempted in that area but you are probably not that person and if i ask you because
some people think that they're this person and they tell me they think this is person and i'm
like do you desire women yeah you're not that person you should get married okay look at verse
number three let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence and likewise also the wife unto
the husband so the physical relationship in marriage is something that is due it is something that is
owed to the party in marriage when you get married you stand before god you stand before
your friends and family you stand before your pastor and you say to have and to hold from this
day forward that's not just holding hands folks that is due benevolence the bible says that you
owe that to your spouse verse four the wife hath not power of her own body but the husband so
notice it's your wife's body your choice the bible says and likewise also the husband hath not power
of his own body but the wife husband's body wife's choice this one's mutual see the husband has
ultimate authority in marriage but in this area you're both in charge the bible says you don't
have authority over your own body ladies in marriage men you don't have authority over your
own body you belong to each other you are one flesh in marriage this is something that is due
now it's sad but a lot of marriages are being destroyed because of this issue because weird
teachings weird influences of feminism especially telling women hey this is something your husband
has to earn if he if he has enough brownie points if he's taken out the garbage if he's
rebuilt your deck if he's done all this extra stuff then it's kind of like a little here's a
prize no folks that's a good way to destroy your marriage that is wicked as hell the bible says
that it's owed to each other and same thing obviously with the men sometimes believe it or
not there's marriages where it's like the wife really wants this the wife is really into this
and then the husband is just not the husband is just not participating whatsoever and that's going
to lead to destruction as well this has to be something that you're both giving each other
whenever you want the bible says consent is given at the marriage altar go back to proverbs 5
hebers 13 four says marriage is honorable in all in the bed undefiled but whoremongers and adulterers
god will judge yes you should be scared of god you should be scared to commit fornication you
should be scared to commit adultery i mean adultery is such a grievous sin i have always hated
adultery before i was even saved i always thought like adultery is so just unfathomable to me it's
so disgusting and guess what it is a crime punishable by death in the bible for a reason
now of course our society has just become desensitized to that because we're used to
living in such just a wicked culture where people just commit adultery no punishment no problem but
you know what the bible says that when you do that god will judge you and you know woe unto the man
that ever hears this preaching and cheats on his wife woe unto you woe unto the wife that hears
these preaching and goes out and commits adultery on her husband you know what god is going to come
down hard on you you ought to be afraid of the lord verse 19 of proverbs 5 let her be as the loving
hind and pleasant row let her breast satisfy thee at all times and be thou ravished always with her
love don't don't listen to feminists oh once a month should be fine oh once a month if he's a
good little boy then he should be fine the bible says at all times this is why you get married
folks and it's like i wonder why the bible like relates it to water how long can you live without
water not very long but there's some marriages that have been living a long time without water
and they're dry and they're ready to perish and you know what a good way to spice up your marriages
is to come together like the bible says and to do it regularly like the bible says not this
weird idea of just like once a year once a month oh on your birthday or something like that
and you're laughing you're giggling but like this happens this is real for some marriages
and i'm trying to help you avoid that because it's not going to lead to a blessed marriage
you're not gonna the fires for your spouse are not really going to be kindled when you're never
coming together like that that's insane it's not healthy look at verse number 20 says and why
wilt thou my son be ravished with a strange woman and embrace the bosom of a stranger why on earth
would you do this i mean it's just it makes no sense and especially and because there's some
wicked guys out there and wicked women out there especially if you're married to someone who is
obeying the bible in this issue and is taking care of your needs and being a blessing to you
why in the hell would you be ravished with a strange woman then why would you blow up your
marriage why would you commit adultery it's just so insane today but even it happens in good
marriages too in this area it's crazy you know why would you if you've got good home-cooked meals at
home why in the world would you snuff that and go buy mcdonald's but look when you're when you're
really hungry mcdonald's sounds good and i remember i was preaching at pure words all the time
and i would drive four hours down to houston and i'd go soul winning and i'd run the services and i
drive four and a half hours back wherever the traffic was and it's super late at night there's
not a bunch of stuff open and you know what i constantly did i constantly just got mcdonald's
and i was so hungry and it sounded so good and i ate it and like 30 minutes later i hated myself
and i was like i felt better when i was starving like why did i do this to myself
you know but when you're starving like mcdonald's looks good like when you've been starving for a
year you might even eat like taco bell or whataburger or like anything anything and this is like what
happens in marriage is like this this gets withheld this isn't prioritized this isn't happening and
then it's like mcdonald's and taco bell and taco casa and just all this trash and it's like why
don't you go home and get some some good meals well it's like that costs money that takes time
that takes effort and energy yeah it does but you know what when you put time and effort and energy
into a home cooked meal your life is just better it tastes better you're healthier in the long run
and it's like when this area of life when you're following it the way that the bible says you'll be
so much happier in this area of life than the world is like the world acts like because they're a bunch
of fornicators and adulterers and they go to a bunch of different partners they act like that's
fun and that they're having a good time but you know what they're not having as much time as the
married couple that follows the bible where it says at all times let her breast satisfy the at
all times you know the world that is a bunch of whoremongers and whores they're like oh i'll go
to the i'll go to the club on a friday night i'll go to the club once a month and the bible's just
like whenever you want i'm telling you like this area of life when you actually follow the bible
is better just like home cooked meals are better than fast food and you have to be insane to think
otherwise you have to be insane to think that fornication and adultery is going to satisfy
you more than a loving wife that you're faithful to don't fall into the lie of the billboard it
doesn't look like that i know mcdonald's looks good on the billboard i know that her lips are
like honey and her words are smoother than than oil ba da ba ba ba whatever but then you go there
and it's just like death it's like a two-edged sword your stomach hurts it feels like you got
pierced by a two-edged sword it's terrible notice what it says in verse number 21 for the ways of
man are before the eyes of the lord and he pondereth all his goings he's like hey if i don't just
even explaining all the dangers to you even explaining all the physical consequences and
ramifications that you're going to face from going after the strange woman here's another thing you
just need to remember is that god is watching you god is watching you because you know what
teenagers young people they're pretty sneaky if they really want to they can often find a way
to commit these sins but here's one thing you got to remember is that even if your mom and dad
don't see you even if your brothers and sisters don't see you you know who sees you is that god
sees you his eyes are going around he's pondering the hearts he sees what you're doing and you know
what that applies to all of us even if you think you won't get caught even if you think there won't
be physical ramifications i will get away from it not if god's watching and not if god decides
to punish you and you know what the bible already told us who's he gonna punish or mongers and
adulterers verse 22 says this his own iniquities shall take the wicked himself and he shall be
holding with the cords of his sins he shall die without instruction and in the greatness of his
folly he shall go astray the bible literally says you're gonna die and you know what's funny is
that in the old testament god killed 23 000 people in one day for the sin of fornication
you don't think that god can do that to new testament christians he absolutely can the bible
literally says you will die without instruction you should literally be scared that god will
strike you dead if you commit fornication and commit adultery now look if you've already done
that in your past i'm not saying sit here beat yourself up over stuff that you've already asked
god for forgiveness for move on walk in newness of life amen to all those things but i'm talking
about future you future you should be scared to death to ever do this stuff and don't think that
it's a light thing it's not let's end in hebrews chapter 12 i have a feeling that i'm going to be
reading these verses a lot in the upcoming future we apparently really need hebrews chapter number
12 let me remind you if you're saved in here this evening that you have a heavenly father that loves
you that sees what you're doing and who will whip your butt when you sin look what the bible says
in hebrews chapter 12 verse 6 for whom the lord loveth he chasteneth and scourgeth every son whom
he receiveth oh are we like that to our kids do we just come down our kids when they sin when
they make a mistake yes those who actually love their kids do because whom the lord loveth he
chasteneth and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth he that spareth his rod hateth his son yes if you
actually love your kids and they're going down a bad path when they're sitting when they're doing
these things you know what you're gonna do you're gonna spank them you're gonna discipline them
that's what a loving father would do and guess what god is a loving father and this is the god
that we serve verse seven if ye endure chastening god dealeth with you as with sons for what son is
he whom the father chastened if not it's like look if you are not getting chastised by your dad you
ought to ask yourself like does my dad even love me am i even my dad's son if i'm not ever getting
chastened by my dad and it's like if someone let me just this should scare people if you could just
go commit rampant fornication if you could just commit rampant adultery and nothing ever happens
to you nothing no punishment ever comes your way the question that i'm going to be asking like is
this person even saved is this person even god's child because if they were god's son you know
be happening they'd be getting chastised and i've seen people go down this road i've seen people
make this mistake and i've seen chastisement in their life and i'm just thinking hey praise god
this person's saved right and then they get things right and then they're walking with the
lord again and it's not like if you ever do these things in the past that you can't be restored
look when my kids do wrong i spank them and then you know we do we hug and i love them and they
love me and we're in fellowship and it's like when we sin god spanks us you know what that leads us
to do draw to him draw an eye to god he'll draw an eye to you verse eight but if you be without
chastisement where of all our partakers then are ye bastards and not sons what is that that's an
illegitimate child and look you in this room you know if you're saved have you trusted in jesus
christ for your salvation have you called upon the name of the lord then you could know for sure
you are saved so if you know that you're saved here's what you should know is that if you go
after the strange woman if you commit fornication if you commit adultery here's what you should
know is that god is going to beat your butt and you know what i love what pastor thompson preached
recently he's like yeah of course of course you could live however you want if you want to
constantly get beaten by god absolutely that's true my kids can live however they want if they
want to constantly get beaten by me but if they want less spankings you know what they're gonna
have to do they're gonna have to obey my commandments they're gonna have to be behaved
and it's like hey you can live however you want you if you believe in lord jesus christ
yes you can commit adultery and fornication and still go to heaven but you can't live a blessed
peace peaceful life on this earth you're constantly gonna get beaten you're constantly gonna have
issues i mean look at king david who committed adultery a man after god's own heart he his wives
ended up cheating on him in the sight of all the sun and he lost his child his child died as a
result of it he was punished by god oh god so mean who are you to judge god who are you to sit here
in judgment of god here's what i'm sitting in judgment of okay this is what the bible says i'm
just gonna believe it okay i just know i'm saved and god's going to punish me if i sin against him
so you know what a wise person would do is a wise person would actually fear god a wise person would
read chapter five of the book of proverbs and say i'm staying away from the strange woman i'm setting
up some safeguards in my life i'm not going to just trust that my flesh is going to be so strong
at all times and always overcome all temptation no i'm going to make some safeguards so that i
don't make provision for the flesh and you know what i'm gonna get married lord willing that's a
good thing to do why because you don't want to get into these sins because it will ruin your life
let's have a word of prayer lord we thank you for the warnings in your word we thank you for
proverbs chapter 5 i pray that no man in here would be beguiled or enticed by the strange woman
i pray that we would all take heed to ourselves that we'd set up safeguards in our lives i pray
for any of the single people in this church or in the new ifb who desire a spouse i pray that you
just lead them to a godly christian and that you just help them to live blessed lives together i
pray that you would bless the people in this room who are already married we love you just say my
price. Amen.