Let's define two words, rebuke and rail.
Now let's first start talking about their synonyms.
They're both harsh.
They're both scolding.
They're both going to say something really negative.
They're both potentially corrective.
But here's the huge difference between rebuking and railing.
Rebuke is true, railing is false.
So while you can say something really negative about someone
and you can criticize them harshly
and it's loving, the most important factor is, is it true?
Because if you start criticizing someone harshly
and yelling at them and making fun of them and it's false,
now it's changed from rebuking to railing and railing is a grievous sin.
So the most important thing is if it's true.
It's always, if someone's saying something about me,
this is the only thing that really matters, is it true?
I don't sit here and wonder like, but was that kind of mean how we said it?
What about the tone?
What about the delivery?
And this is what people do.
They criticize how people deliver the message rather than the message.
It's like, oh, did you do that through a text message?
Who cares? Who cares if it's a text?
Who cares if it's an email?
Who cares if it's a meme?
Oh, he's such a mean person, he does memes.
Well, is the message true?
Yeah?
Well, maybe he deserved it.