Proverbs 21, hold your place there in Proverbs chapter 7.
Proverbs 21, and remember, this is Proverbs,
this is the book of wisdom,
and God is imparting wisdom here, okay?
And look, this verse is for the single guys,
but it's also for the woman
who's potentially loud and stubborn.
Look what it says in verse nine.
It is better to dwell in the corner of a housetop.
Who wants to go in the corner of a housetop?
There's nothing there.
It is better to dwell in the corner of a housetop
than with a brawling woman in a wide house.
You know what that means?
A wide house means like a large house.
He's like, I'd rather have the smallest portion
in that house as long as that woman's not there.
It's true.
And that verse is so true that he repeats it
in Proverbs 25 verse 24, the exact same words.
He doesn't even give a variation of what he says there.
He just says it exactly the same.
What is a brawling woman?
It's a woman who is stubborn and loud
and just wants to fight and nag.
If you want to have a good relationship, ladies,
with your husband, rule number one, don't be a nag.
Don't nag.
Well, he doesn't do it, so I gotta keep reminding him.
That's called nagging.
If my wife nags me, she doesn't.
I'll do the opposite just because I don't like the fact
that she's nagging.
It doesn't help anything.
My wife has a really good way of,
I was gonna say making me do something,
of yeah, making me do something,
and it's not through nagging.
She basically comes to me.
If she wants to do something, I don't know,
I can't think of an example right now,
but if she wants me to do something,
she'll basically propose a good idea.
What do you think about X, Y, and Z?
Now, that's what she wants to do,
but because she comes at me with a good spirit,
even if I don't want to do it,
because she had a sweet spirit to go along with that,
I'll say, yeah, let's do it.
I want in and out, you want Chipotle,
but because you came at me with a good spirit,
let's do Chipotle, okay?
She's smart, but we always say,
we always do in and out.
You never want to go to Chipotle.
You're so unhealthy.
I'll be like, we're going in and out,
I'm getting a double, I'm getting a triple
with a large Coke, and so are you.
Look at Proverbs 19, verse 13.
A foolish son is the calamity of his father,
and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping.
Now, what does that mean, a continual dropping?
You ever had a leaky faucet
that echoes throughout the house?
It's like, doot, doot, doot, just like, shut up.
Well, that's what he means by that.
Contentions of a wife are just like, shut up.
It's just, that's what it's referring to, is nagging, okay?
Look at Proverbs 27.
He just reiterates that in verse 15,
it says a continual dropping in a rainy day,
in a very rainy day, and a contentious woman are alike.
He says, it's like the same thing.
He goes, does that irritate you?
That's exactly what a contentious woman is like.
I'm gonna read, go to Proverbs 11.
I'm gonna read to you from Proverbs 21, verse 19.
It says, it is better to dwell in the wilderness
than with a contentious and an angry woman.
There's nothing in the wilderness.
You can't live in the wilderness.
Well, he says, that's better for you
than with a contentious woman.
That's bad.
Now, I know someone personally, not here in our church, okay,
who this person, this is true.
Now, he doesn't go to the wilderness or to the housetop.
He goes to his car, and he lives his life.
Even though he has a home to live in, he goes to his car.
When I go outside from my house, he's there,
and I know exactly why.
You know why, did you see something?
No, I hear something.
You get what I'm saying?
I hear the nagging.
I hear the contention, the brawling,
and I'm like, you know what, man?
I don't blame you.
And he's happy in his vehicle.
You're like, oh, man, Proverbs, that sounds,
yeah, it is bad, it's that bad, okay?
Because nagging and contentions and brawlings
never help anybody.