This is the back and forth.
He seeks the diplomatic solution.
It doesn't work out.
Verse 28, I'm almost done.
Howbeit the king of the children of Ammon
hearken not unto the words of Jephthah,
which he sent unto them.
Then the Spirit of the Lord came upon Jephthah.
And he passed over Gilead and Manasseh
and passed over Mizpeh of Gilead.
And from Mizpeh of Gilead, he passed over
unto the children of Ammon.
And this is where Jephthah makes a very stupid mistake here.
And Jephthah vowed a vow unto the Lord and said,
if thou shalt, without fail, deliver the children of Ammon
into my hands, then it shall be that whatsoever cometh forth
of the doors of my house to meet me,
when I return in peace from the children of Ammon,
shall surely be the Lord's.
And I will offer it up for a burnt offering.
So this is a very foolish vow.
We should always be very careful before we commit
to doing or saying anything.
Now, in the New Testament, the Bible very clearly commands us,
and I've done whole sermons on this, swear not at all.
Swear not at all.
Do not swear.
Don't swear by heaven.
Don't swear by the earth.
Don't swear by the Lord.
Just don't do it in the New.
Now, in the Old Testament, it was permitted.
Certain things are permitted that God eventually rolls back
and says, that's not permitted anymore.
And oaths are one of those things.
And I proved that from the Bible in my sermon on swear
not at all.
But the point is, even if we don't swear oaths,
the Bible still says that we should let our yea be yea
and our nay be nay.
And so the acronym that I always think of
is D-W-Y-W-Y-S-W-D, something like that.
Do what you say you will do.
So if you say you're going to do something, you do it.
And this should be what we strive to do.
And sometimes I've committed to things,
and then later I realize, man, I shouldn't
have made that commitment.
But it's like, you know what?
I said I was going to do it, so that's what I'm going to do.
You know?
I remember I bought my house at the worst possible time, 2005.
December of 2005, OK, I bought a house.
And it was like the worst time, peak of the market,
the values were just through the roof, interest rates were bad.
But you know what?
I have no regrets, because I started Faithful Word Baptist
Church in that house.
I needed to do that, and so it is what it is, right?
But I bought my house at the worst possible time.
And I remember the housing market
crashed a couple of years later.
So I bought that house for $225,000.
Two years later, three years later, it was worth $85,000.
So here I bought this house for $225,000.
Now it's worth, first it went up to $240,000,
then it went down to $85,000.
And I mean, houses on my street were literally
selling for like, what, $75,000 and $68,000,
like right in my neighborhood.
And I'm just like, oh, man.
And I still owe on my house, you know, a couple hundred grand
or whatever, hundred and some grand, you know, tons of money
that I still owe on my house.
And a lot of people at that time were bailing
from their mortgages, bailing from their houses.
And I remember people coming to me at that time
and being like, man, I'm upside down on my house.
I got to get out of this mortgage.
I'm going to walk away from it.
I'm going to bail on it.
And I remember asking those people,
did your payment change?
No, no, my payment's still the same.
Did your job change?
Like, did your amount that you're getting paid at your job
change?
No.
And I'm thinking to myself like, OK, well,
if you're still making the same amount of money
and your payment's still the same, what's the issue?
Well, but, you know, it dropped.
It's like, well, I said, just don't worry about it.
It's just a number.
You know, but I, you know, and I do
feel that I was a little bit ripped off in that whole deal
because of the fact that the lender pulled
a bunch of shady things and squirrely deals.
You know, on the day, the day you go to sign,
it's like totally different than what you agreed on
and everything.
It's like, whoa, you know, the closing costs
are way more than what they promised and everything.
But you know what?
You know, and a lot of people are telling me that I,
you know, you can get out of it, walk away.
But I'm thinking to myself, you know what?
This is what I signed onto.
Like, even though I kind of knew I was getting ripped off,
I realized I was getting ripped off, and I signed it anyway.
You know, I knew that they had changed things
on the last couple of days and stuff,
but I was so committed at that point,
I'd already printed the address on the church invites.
What do you do at that point, you know?
I got a thousand so invites here
that I bought with my own money.
It's like, what do I do?
You know, I'm just like, whatever here,
take a couple more thousand dollars of my money.
Thanks a lot, jerk.
You know, I just felt like I should just,
I just felt like I should stay with something
that I signed onto.
You know, that I agreed to this,
and if I can stay with it, you know,
and I can understand people get in situations
where they have to default on something or whatever.
You know, I get that, and they're, you know,
but I'm just saying like, since I was making enough money,
I just stayed with it, you know?
And in the end, it came back,
and I was able to sell it for more money than I paid
because I just stayed with it
and hung with it over the long haul.
But you know, the Bible talks about a person
swearing to their own hurt and changing not,
that they will receive a blessing from the Lord.
And so, sometimes you commit to things
or say you're gonna do things, even just little things.
You know, you say you're gonna go to one birthday party,
and then you get invited to a better birthday party.
You go to the original birthday party.
Because that's what you said you would do.
You know, and we should really strive
to do what we say we're gonna do.
Now obviously, if we make a vow,
you really gotta say, do what you say you're gonna do.
But we shouldn't be making a bunch of oats anyway.
So even just when we say yay,
let our yay be yay and our nay be nay.
And when we say we're gonna do something,
we should be reliable and stick with it.
Don't you hate it when people
go back on their word to you?
I had a job one time, and they told me,
if you go get this certification,
we're gonna give you a 50 cent an hour raise.
Oh, 50 cents, you know?
But man, when you're living paycheck to paycheck,
you know, 50 cents an hour is 50 cents.
I mean, you know, that's 20 bucks or whatever a week.
And so that mattered to me.
I needed that money.
So I actually, I had to take these series of tests,
and I had to take two sets of tests.
Well, I figured out,
and the tests are like three months apart.
But I figured out that I can take the test in California,
and then I can drive across the border in Nevada
two days later and take the test in Nevada,
and I can actually take all the tests and get certified.
I thought that my boss was gonna be really happy
that I was like taking initiative and driving to Nevada.
You know, and I mean, I had to put gas in my car
to go to Nevada.
I come to my boss and say, hey, I'm certified, let's go.
Let's do it.
Oh, well, we didn't know you were gonna do it that fast.
Didn't give me the raise.
Made me wait three months to get the raise.
He broke his word.
He said, get the certification.
As soon as you get it, you get an extra 50 cents.
I, you know, put $50 of gas in my car,
and he broke his word to me.
You know what?
And it wasn't gonna hurt him to give me 50 cents.
But you know what, even if it does hurt you,
if you say you're gonna do stuff,
do what you say you're gonna do.
Honor your commitments, right?
Keep your word.
But then there's a vow.
A vow is another level of commitment, right?
And pretty much the only vow that we really partake in,
or the biggest vow that we partake in is marriage, right?
Because we do make that lifelong commitment to marriage.
That is a vow that we take.
And here's the thing about that,
is that people are pretty flippant
with that vow today, aren't they?
You know, people go into marriage thinking,
well, if it doesn't work out, I got plan B.
You need to burn your bridges behind you
when you get married.
You need to burn the ships.
You need to be do or die with marriage,
because guess what?
Till death do us part isn't just a slogan.
That's a commitment that you're making, okay?
And so you don't wanna break your word on that.
Now Jephthah stupidly, foolishly commits
to doing something,
and he doesn't even know what he's committing to.
You know, we need to make sure
that we know what we're getting into
when we commit to do something.
So he commits, oh, the first thing
that comes out to meet me,
I'm gonna offer it as a burnt offering to the Lord.
He assumes it's gonna be a barnyard animal
that comes out to greet him.
And of course, he goes out, he fights,
he wins the battle,
and then his only daughter comes out to meet him,
and before any of the animals come out,
she comes out, which is very unlikely.
You'd expect animals to,
you know, you'd expect the dog to come running out
and barking and wagging its tail first thing,
but no, you know, it's his daughter that comes out.
So now he's in this horrible position,
and people have endlessly debated this passage,
and because of the fact that it's disturbing,
it's unsettling.
When you read it, it kinda makes you uncomfortable, right?
But that's what it's supposed to do, I think.
You should be a little bit perturbed by this chapter.
You should be a little bit unsettled.
It is a rough chapter,
and so here's what we have to understand.
You know, everything is in the Bible
the way it is for a reason.
Number one, it's an extreme example
showing the seriousness of a vow
as a warning, don't make stupid vows.
Don't say stupid things.
Don't make these rash odes.
That's number one.