It's a great honor and privilege to be here with you guys this evening and I want to say
thank you so much to Pastor Jimenez and his family for inviting us out here and having
this conference and obviously it's a team effort. It's very evident when you come to
Verity Baptist Church from all the ushers and the church members how hospitable and
friendly everybody is and I just want to know if the piano players can do that blindfolded
so you know. Obviously I guess when you have so much great talent you got to get like five
of them on the piano at the same time. That was great. The music is always amazing here
and I love coming out here to this conference and being with you guys. It's also a great
honor that we're going to be able to air kind of a mini documentary that we put together
called LGBT Terrace. We're going to be airing it on Saturday night. You all get to see it
first and so I'm really excited about this. Of course with a name like Terrace it's going
to have a few interesting scenes and just as an FYI it does have a few just some like
mild violence and of course some of the things the protesters and these people say is kind
of kind of bad themes. We did try to blur and try to block out and bleep you know some
of the profanity. I know that people associate me with certain profanity but we did bleep
it in the film. Now we'll have the word fag gratuitously in it so if you're already offended
you won't want to watch it. But if you are interested in seeing the film we'd love for
you to join us and to watch it. I think that it's definitely very impactful to see all
the things that have happened to Verity Baptist Church and some of our friends and also just
some of the things that have happened to us out in Texas. Just to kind of give you an
idea and paint a really clear picture that the Bible has already told us but sometimes
it's impactful to see it in real life and see how the Bible comes to life in our lives
and you know being a Christian is not boring. Boy the Bible will come to life if you actually
serve the Lord Jesus Christ and I know that many of you have experienced the Bible for
yourself and it's a great honor and privilege to be able to serve the Lord Jesus Christ
and to be counted worthy to suffer for his name's sake not just always to have all the
blessings but also to experience the persecution. The disciples were very grateful and joyous
that they got to suffer for Christ's sake and of course Verity Baptist Church is the
church it is because of the fact that it's willing to stand on the truth and not back
down to the persecution. Of course this conference was tried to be shut down by hundreds and
hundreds of Sodomites but you know what it's still here and they're not here. As Pastor
Menes said they all moved to Texas so apparently that's my issue but we're going to go ahead
and get in my text this evening chapter 11 of Numbers the Bible says in verse number
one and when the people complained it displeased the Lord and the Lord heard it and his anger
was kindled and the fire of the Lord burnt among them and consumed them that were in
the uttermost parts of the camp. Now any story you read in the Bible where God kills people
it's serious and notice why God was willing to kill people was as a direct result of their
complaining and so the title of my sermon this evening is Don't Complain. Don't Complain
and of course it's not saying here that every time someone complains God is going to strike
you with fire and you're going to die but that is the example set here in the text and
it's a really important point for us because of course we love your sermons about how Sodomites
are evil and disgusting and wicked but you know no one is a Sodomite in here so it doesn't
really hit his home whereas this story is about people of God they've been rescued out
of Egypt they've been delivered by the Lord they're God's people and yet God can still
get very angry with his own people when they complain. God does not like complainers and
let me be honest no one does. No one likes complaining no one likes complainers and we
as God's people we don't want to have a reputation like the children of Israel as being complainers.
We have so many great things going for us so much zeal and fire and soul winning and
red hot preaching and amazing things that are really going to shape our culture. The
last thing we want to do is give place to the devil and become a bunch of complainers
on top of that and just ruin our testimony ruin the momentum that the Lord has given
us and you see that these individuals they get kind of specific in their complaints look
at verse 4 and the mixed multitude that was among them fell alusting and the children
of Israel also wept again and said who shall give us flesh to eat. We remember the fish
which we did eat in Egypt freely the cucumbers and the melons and the leeks and the onions
and the garlic but now our soul is dried away there is nothing at all beside this manna
before our eyes and so what's kind of an interesting phrase that sticks out to me here is where
they say that their soul is dried away and I was looking at this list of food and of
course there's nothing wrong with any of the items that are mentioned here fish, melons,
cucumbers, I love cucumbers but they kind of attach this food to their soul and back
where I'm from they have a genre of food called soul food who knows what I'm talking about
soul food oh yeah and what is soul food often it's kind of a guilty pleasure because it
just tastes so good I mean it's bread with butter and then they butter it again and then
they give you butter on the table you have your own dipping dish of butter and of course
everything is cooked gratuitously in butter when it's soul food right pancakes and waffles
and fried chicken everything's cooked in oil and grease and of course it's wonderful because
it gives you a good feeling when you eat that particular substance you eat that food and
so that's where it gets its name is soul food because it kind of ministers to your soul
and the word soul here is often just in reference to your person your personality not necessarily
the immaterial portion of you that's going to go to heaven but rather just who you are
you know when people talk about soul music soul food what are they talking about they're
talking about their personality their experiences the way that they relate to the world and
one of the ways that we relate to the world is through food food is something that we
all love and we go out and we fellowship in fact many people organize their vacations
around food they organize their day around food you get dinner reservations because it's
about food and there's nothing wrong with food but let's be honest it is a carnal thing
that you're striving for it is a carnal achievement when we talk about food because in essence
it doesn't really matter what food you eat you know when we get to heaven it won't really
matter what kind of diet you had that was just something part of this world part of
this life and they kind of got sick and tired of just eating the manna over and over they
wanted some variety didn't they they wanted some cucumber some garlic some melons and
this is probably pretty easy for us to relate to if you were given the exact same meal every
single day there would be a big temptation to complain about that wouldn't it I know
my dad growing up in Kentucky they definitely didn't have any money and he tells me that
every single day they just had pinto beans and cornbread it was just pinto beans and
cornbread every meal and then on Sundays they got fried chicken so it was just beans and
cornbread beans and cornbread but you know what's so funny my dad he's almost 90 now
and you know what he loves to eat pinto beans and cornbread I mean it's just like one of
his favorite things and I like that attitude that even though he's had it so many times
in his life probably more than all of us combined he still loves it he still enjoys
it and the Bible is telling us here when it comes to this manna there's nothing wrong
with the manna but they were desiring something that is different they just want some joy
some pleasure some connection to this particular world and they're missing it out of their
diet now of course the Bible is a spiritual book and so there's obviously symbolism here
of what the Bible is trying to represent the Bible makes it clear that the manna found
in scripture is actually a tie to the word of God itself and Jesus Christ even makes
reference to the fact that man does not live by bread alone but by every word of God and
so according to the scripture the manna was a representation or a picture of the Bible
so if the Bible is represented here what does the Bible say about itself verse 7 and Amanda
I'm sorry and the manna was this coriander seed in the color thereof as the color of
bedelim and the people went about and gathered it and grounded in mills and or beat it in
a mortar and baked it in pans and made cakes of it and the taste of it was as the taste
of fresh oil so they're having you know glorified pancakes and bread and they're having all
kinds of great food here according to the Bible it's fresh oil so there's nothing wrong
with a manna in fact it tasted great is the Bible is describing it just objectively speaking
the manna was amazing there was nothing wrong with the manna but what was the problem is
the children of Israel complained about just having the manna they wanted something else
they want the cucumbers and the leeks and what does this kind of represent well they're
tying it back to Egypt and Egypt is a symbol for the world and the pleasures of this world
and the temptation in the Christian life is to be unsatisfied with the things of God
and desire that which is of the world say you know what I'm sick and tired of just the
King James Bible I'm sick and tired of just church and soul winning and conferences and
all these different things I want some variety in my life I need some cucumbers I need to
go out and get what the world has to offer I'm not just completely satisfied with what
God has for me I need to change up my diet and so a lot of Christians will end up getting
backslidden because they don't want to just eat the manna of God's word and of course
that's a label that gets put on fundamentalists is they'll say they're fuddy duddies where
they don't like to have any fun and they don't like to do the things of the world but really
we just don't like sinning we don't like being of the devil we don't necessarily like supporting
the things of this world because the world is at enmity with God and I'll tell you what
that accusation is not true you'll have a lot of fun serving God there's a lot of excitement
there's it's wonderful and it's fresh I mean there's new experiences to be had almost every
single week in serving God but people will draw tired and bored with the things of God
and they want to try and freshen up their particular lifestyle but we need to be careful
not to desire that which is of the world and to love not the world and to be satisfied
with the things of God and whenever you are struggling in this area and of course we're
all human there's going to be times when we may desire something else you need to not
necessarily vocalize that to other people you need to just be silent they should have
just been silent hey you have that thought man cucumbers sound really good but you know
what I'm not going to discourage the heart of my brethren I'm not going to entice my
brethren with sin and temptation and that which is of the world and try to draw them
away with me I'm just going to be silent on the issue now keep your finger here and go
to Proverbs chapter number 17 for a moment go to Proverbs chapter 17 and I have just
three quick points that I want to kind of illustrate of what to do when you have this
temptation to complain and then I want to bring up a couple different scenarios but
in Proverbs chapter 17 and verse 28 the Bible gives us a really good instruction here on
just shutting your mouth like what it says in verse 28 even a fool when he holdeth his
peace is counted wise and he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding
you know if you're not very smart the best thing you can do is just not talk because
whenever you start talking we're going to instantly understand how intelligent you are
the wisdom that's coming out of your mouth and if you're kind of young you're kind of
foolish you don't have much to say you don't know what to say the best course of action
many times is just to keep your mouth shut and of course the fools of this world they
love to hear themselves talk don't they you look at the news you look at podcasts you
look at celebrities they love to hear their opinion and it's funny because they never
have a unique opinion do they they're just an NPC repeating what someone else already
told them to say and they sound like a fool when they end up saying it and so whenever
you're tempted to complain about the things of this world not having them or I'm sick
and tired of church or whatever you need to just be silent you need to not always say
everything you think if you always say everything you think you're going to be a fool no one
always has the best thoughts the right thoughts sometimes you need to kind of mold things
over in your brain or just even think that wasn't something I should say especially teenagers
and I'll be honest with you when I was a teenager I put my foot in my mouth more than one time
I said a lot of foolish things a lot of weird things and I would have been better off just
keeping my mouth shut in a lot of different situations now go if you would back to our
text point one is this if you're tempted to complain just be silent don't air it out
don't say it point number two is that you need to be satisfied with the things of God
take satisfaction in the Bible take satisfaction in the things of God because it truly is fresh
oil it may seem like oh man it's another meal of this but then when you start eating it
and chewing on it and consuming it you start realizing well this is actually really good
though I do actually really like this and I'm really enjoying it you know there's nothing
better than a home cooked meal and you know what I often find especially in 2023 America
is the idea sometimes of eating out or going to a restaurant sounds really good and then
you show up and boy is it a disappointment boy you know you get that server and you're
thinking like wow he needs to watch LGBT terrorists you know you know you start losing an appetite
just looking at the servers and the workforce and you're kind of thinking like wow this
guy's making my meal and they bring it out and never looks like the billboard I've never
seen McDonald's look like the billboard folks okay it's way different and that's kind of
how the world is the world will make you think like it's a billboard McDonald's and then
you show up and you're like what is this what is this cardboard that they're serving me
and that's how often the world is they try to entice you with all this wonderful joy
and pleasure and fun but it ends up just being cardboard at the end of the day meaningless
and the home cooked meal was better anyways it was better for you it cost a lot less too
and boy sin will cost you so much more than you want today it seems like every single
restaurant now wants a tip it's like really at Taco Bell it's a tip what am I supposed
to tip I'm tipping you so you won't shank me like I don't understand why I would tip
I mean it took 25 minutes for fast food and it looks like you just slapped it together
and now I'm supposed to tip you it's like recommended 20% you know you're thinking like
this is Taco Bell what happened right it always costs more than you thought it's more expensive
the prices keep going up and you know what the same is a sin that it costs a lot more
they're asking for a tip they want to keep you longer than you had they always get your
order wrong and that is not the road that we need to travel we need to head towards
the promised land now look at verse number 13 here in our in our text numbers chapter
11 I want to see what this happened kind of the impact that we have on complaining of
course every dad in here that had to drive with their children knows what I'm talking
about that complaining can drive you insane okay now look what it says in verse 13 when
should I have flesh to give unto all this people for they weep unto me saying give them
the most flesh that we may eat this really sounds like children doesn't it I mean you've
been driving and it's just getting close to lunch time and they'll just weep like when
are we getting lunch are we there yet I mean they're just so quick to get all upset about
the next meal and verse 14 I am not able to bear all this people alone because it is too
heavy for me verse 15 and if thou deal thus with me kill me you know some people say like
hey how is you know being in the ministry and pastoring do you ever have like negative
thoughts well you know Moses is like saying kill me and you know think about this Moses
is arguably one of the greatest men of God to ever live one of the most famous men to
ever live love the Lord and yet he was willing to be killed by God just as a result of complaining
and you know what you have a great pastor here pastor Jimenez who's stood up against
the enemies of God who's fought the righteous battle who works tirelessly and ministers
and praise but you know what you could destroy him through complaining you could destroy
a godly man you could get a godly man so down and so discouraged because of you complaining
the last thing you want to do is take a great man like Moses who's led you out of Egypt
and is drawing you into the promised land and get him discouraged by complaining that's
the last thing you want to do is discourage him you need to be satisfied with the fact
that you're no longer a slave in Egypt I mean you've been rescued out of Egypt not only
that you spoiled the Egyptians not only that you got the greatest revenge ever I guarantee
all of us in here one of the greatest things we could ever wish for is to see all of our
enemies lined up in the bottom of a sea and watch the Red Sea just come crashing in and
just them all like drowning and dying out I mean you would be like please anything I
will eat pinto's and cornbread to see that you know I will eat McDonald's to see this
you know it's like you would love to see that they got to see all of these things are going
through the wilderness they have this miracle bread manna yet they find a way to complain
and I'll tell you there's always an opportunity to complain there's always an opportunity
to be dissatisfied I mean we live in one of the most prosperity filled countries prosperous
countries in the world we're in one of the most beautiful areas of the world I mean California
beaches are amazing have you ever been to Texas no I'm just kidding now look Texas is
great but not for the beach okay folks I mean you got amazing weather here you got all kinds
of opportunities here and yet people will still find a way to complain and you know
you need to just be silent you need to be satisfied and here's the third point you need
to be spiritual you need to just be spiritual because they're not being spiritual when they
want this food they're being carnal and keep your finger here but go if you would to Proverbs
chapter number 13 go to Proverbs chapter number 13 for a moment I want to show you another
problem we're gonna be going to a lot of Proverbs too if you kind of want to keep just a tab
over in the book of Proverbs but we need to stop being so worried about all the carnal
things that are going on in this world and and care about the spiritual things that are
going I mean from a spiritual perspective they've made leaps and bounds they've left
Egypt they're no longer in servitude to the Egyptians they have the opportunity to serve
God they just have the Ten Commandments given to them by God from Mount Orib I mean Mount
Sinai they have the word of God they're leading the charge they're getting the Levitical priesthood
I mean they have great opportunities to serve God like never before and yet they're complaining
aren't they they've made so much progress they have so many opportunities that the world
is their future and yet they're so concerned with the carnal aren't they the Bible says
in Proverbs chapter 13 look at verse 25 the righteous eateth to the satisfying of his
soul but the belly of the wicked shall want you know if they had just been concerned with
being righteous God would have taken care of them God would have provided food for them
in fact guess where they're headed to the land of milk and honey he wasn't leading them
to just have to eat just one diet for the rest of their life they were going to inherit
the greatest portion of the earth at that time all kinds of great substance all kinds
of great wealth all kinds of great food that they could have eaten but they just had to
go through that little temptation that little trial of the wilderness and they found themselves
complaining and missing out on that land in the future go to Matthew chapter 6 go to Matthew
chapter 6 but notice according to the Bible the righteous is going to eat to the satisfying
of his soul they said that their soul was dried away yet the Bible is saying that the
righteous soul is going to be satisfied and let me tell you something the things of God
are the only things that can satisfy you in this world because as soon as someone offered
them the cucumbers and the leeks and the melons and the fish then they would have complained
about where's the apples where's the watermelon where's the blueberry and then they would
have eaten everything and they would have been like I'm still not satisfied because
you know what the wicked are never going to be satisfied in this life sin will never satisfy
you in this life the only true satisfaction you can get in this life comes from the word
of God and comes from serving God faithfully that is the only real satisfaction you get
and God constantly reminds us of this point Jesus Christ himself in Matthew chapter 6
has you know some really famous words here but I think they are fitting look at the latter
portion of this chapter look at verse let's look at verse 30 wherefore if God so clothe
the grass of the field which today is and tomorrow is cast in the oven shall he not
much more clothe you of little faith therefore take no thought saying what shall we eat now
is that any coincidence that in the book of Numbers the children of Israel are so concerned
with what they are going to eat and then God brings up in the New Testament Jesus Christ
saying hey don't have this thought what shall we eat that goes back to point one be silent
hey you have that stupid thought get rid of it right be satisfied with what God has already
given you and be spiritual is the third point what does it keep saying in this particular
passage it says or what shall we drink or what shall we be clothed for after all these
things do the Gentiles seek for your heavenly father knoweth that ye have need of all these
things but seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things
shall be added unto you take therefore no thought for the morrow for the morrow shall
take thought for the things of itself sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof boy that
verse is true sufficient God God will bring enough persecution for you to last in a lifetime
you need to just be worried about serving God stop worrying about all the carnal things
stop worrying about the food stop worrying about the clothes stop worrying about where
you're going to live stop worrying about all these things you know because that's going
to give you a temptation to complain people complain about their food and where they live
and their clothes and their house and their car all the different things of this life
and that's what the Gentiles are constantly seeking that's what the Gentiles constantly
want but you know what God wants us to have a different mindset and to be focused on the
things above and seeking first the kingdom of God they were not seeking first the kingdom
of God in the wilderness because then they would have been eating the man and been satisfied
they were thinking you know I want the cucumber I want some other kind of diet go back to
Numbers chapter 11 I want to read a few more passages here before I give you a few applications
to think about of course you could apply this sermon to anything and everything there's
always a strong temptation to complain at work on the job family relationships there's
all kinds of different things that go on you can just complain about our world you can
complain about our state complain about the state of things complain about it being 2023
America there's a lot of different things you can complain about and you want to take
these principles with you that when you have that temptation be silent you need to be satisfied
and you need to choose to be spiritual now look at verse number 19 here what does God
say God ends up kind of answering this question of what they're going to eat he says in verse
19 you shall not eat one day nor two days nor five days neither 10 days nor 20 days
but even a whole month until it come out at your nostrils and it be loathsome unto you
so they want this meat and God's like you want it I'll give it to you I'll give you
so much meat it'll literally come out your nose and it'll get to a point where you don't
even like it anymore they wanted this meat so bad and God says fine have it and you know
what I think that God sometimes does this to Christians who say I want the world well
then God will sometimes give you so much world you'll end up hating it he'll give you so
much world it'll start spewing out of your nostrils like alcohol like people that decide
you know what I'm going to go drink alcohol well pretty soon you might start spewing that
all over it might come in through your nostrils and through your mouth and you're going to
look like a fool and idiot and you're going to loath it you're going to loath the things
of this world because you know what this world is not satisfactory it's not going to give
you any kind of satisfaction only the things of God look at verse 21 of the Moses said
the people among whom I am are six hundred thousand footmen now I said I will give them
flesh that they may eat a whole month shall the flocks and the herds be slain for them
to suffice them or shall all the fish of the sea be gathered together for them to suffice
them and the Lord said unto Moses is the Lord's hand waxed short thou shalt see now whether
my word shall come to pass unto thee or not you know it's kind of crazy to think about
all the miracles that these people got to witness and yet they still doubt the Lord
at times right I mean you you walk through the Red Sea you had Goshen where you didn't
see any kind of evil partake of you all of your cattle were protected against all the
evil plagues you didn't have the darkness which was felt your first born were delivered
I mean you saw all these amazing miracles you see the fire of God literally leading
you through the wilderness and then he's like hey I'm going to give you a bunch of food
and you're like well I don't think you do that right isn't that crazy but that's how
people are I mean you think about it you trusted the Lord Jesus Christ with your soul to know
not go to hell for all of eternity that's a pretty big decision and then people are
having a hard decision about finances or where to go to church or you know these things are
inconsequential in comparison and you saw the miracle of God's Holy Spirit coming inside
of you and becoming a child of God and being enlightened with all truth and then they think
well I don't know if I trust that part of the Bible though I don't know if that part
of the Bible is true you know that's a wicked thought you need to continue to be spiritual
and continue to have faith in God and make sure that you're trusting in the manna he
already gave you you know every day they had to go out there and get that manna it wasn't
like a one-time decision it was a lifestyle decision every day they'd go out there and
they could only get one day's worth and it wouldn't last except for on the Sabbath a
special miracle magically didn't bread worms and didn't stink on the second day and God
performed this miracle for a really long time now to think about it if you had you were
in a wilderness with absolutely no food that takes a lot of faith to not go out and scavenge
or look for some kind of option being like well what if God doesn't deliver but here's
the thing God always delivers God always delivers and I'm telling you there are people today
that start to lose faith and they don't think that God is going to deliver what is a particular
application you want to make this this evening is about something I think some people get
afraid that God can deliver on and that is finding a spouse finding a spouse there's
a lot of young single people today that I think that they're complaining about not being
able to find a spouse and they start thinking that God is not able to deliver they think
where we're gonna get these spouses from I mean if we got every single girl the new IFB
we'd still be short if we got all the cattle you know hey you know Samson called his wife
a heifer all right so don't get too offended I'm all right but he's like hey where where
are we gonna get all these women from but you know what God is able to deliver God is
able to provide in this situation go to Proverbs chapter 18 and you know it makes me upset
when I hear all these singles complaining about finding a spouse you know why it makes
me upset because you know they're really complaining against God you're complaining against God
when you're saying well we're all these you know women we're all these men we're all these
people well you know what the Bible tells us that spouses are from God and the Bible
gives us instruction about how to find them look what it says in Proverbs chapter 18 verse
22 who so findeth a wife findeth a good thing and obtaineth favor of the Lord so notice
according to the Bible in this context it's talking about a man searching for a wife it's
saying he has to go and find one he actually has to put some effort and some energy into
finding it and when they find one notice what the Bible attaches this to it says that they
obtained favor of the Lord meaning that God had a hand in them getting this spouse look
at the next chapter and look at verse 14 it's getting even clearer house and riches are
the inheritance of others and a prudent wife is from the Lord notice who the wife is coming
from it's coming from God so when people are saying oh I don't have anyone to marry I can't
get a wife you know they're really accusing they're accusing God of not giving them that
wife or giving them that spouse and you know what that is a wicked idea you're complaining
against God and you're saying oh where are we going to get all these things well number
one you need to be silent because every guy that complains about not finding women every
guy loses respect for them you know I never think like wow that guy is you know Enrique
Suave you know a Chad he can't find any women show me the guy in the Bible that was amazing
that couldn't find women it seems like Solomon didn't have that problem did he it seemed
like David didn't really have a problem finding women did he it seems like the men of the
Bible they their problem was finding too many women okay it wasn't the fact that they couldn't
find one it was the fact that what you know what they obviously were looking they were trying they
were striving I mean when David wants a wife he has to get 200 foreskins you're complaining how
many foreskins have you had to gather for your wife right but this is a guy that's taken some
strong initiative some strong will and he's going out there and looking for this young damsel and
whom he can marry and look at this chapter we're still here in chapter I'll go back to chapter 18
for a moment and look at verse 24 notice what the Bible says a man that hath friends must show
himself friendly how about this if you want a girlfriend how about you show yourself friendly
you know it's girls pick up on a lot of things really quickly and if you're awkward they may not
want to be a friend you know how you get a girlfriend be friendly to them be kind of them
be nice unto them go and and try to get one and of course don't blame God for your awkwardness
you know fix yourself first right try to be friendly for the Bible isn't saying you know if
you don't have friends that God why don't I have any friends he's saying well be friendly you want
to have some friends then end up being friendly and you can have some you know you want a girlfriend
be friendly unto girls and that'll give you the opportunity to get a girlfriend but let me tell
you something you need to be silent on this issue because even though I don't have any respect for
you you know it's even less respect than me women no girl wants to say like man this guy's been
complaining about how hard it is to find women I'm so into that you know I just love the way
he trashes women and talks about how hard it is to find a good one and man that just really makes
me interested in this guy no no they lose all respect for a guy that's complaining about how
hard it is to get women you know there's something innate in women they they want to feel like
they're this lofty prize being striven for not just consolation option of just like well I guess
you know well if I have to is that the best I can get you know it's they want to feel pursued and
desired and like this guy actually wants to be with them and I'm telling you guys the worst thing
you can do for yourself is to complain about how hard it is to get women that's not gonna win you
any prizes we don't respect it the women don't respect it and God does not like it either stop
complaining be silent on that particular issue now I'll give you a little bit of advice if you're
young you're single in this or in this room and you desire to be married you know what if you're
a young guy you should approach every girl that you find attractive every single girl that you
find attractive you should go and you should be friendly to her and let me tell you a little
secret you only have to find one it's you know it's not solemn we're not getting looking for a
thousand here you only have to find one okay be friendly and of course you know you actually have
to put some effort seek one go out and look for don't think that she's gonna come and knock on
your door and give you the gospel and you'll get married brother Segura already got married okay
and you know anything about brothers you're his wife literally knocked on his door when soul
winning and that's one of the first times he got introduced to her that was a miracle folks okay
if you're thinking that's gonna happen to you you're gonna wait a long time okay you know I'll
tell you something about brothers girl he was seeking God at that point his life he was showing
up at church putting himself an uncomfortable situation dragging people to church interested
in God and then BAM soul-winning wife material I mean that's incredible okay you know that guy's
blessed right not every day that happens and you young ladies you think like you know what I can
knock on the next door and I can get some young handsome man that's interested you know and God
hey I'm soul-winning is where it's at folks okay you need to get out there and find somebody right
how about this how about just pray to God for a spouse I mean if you you really think that God
of the universe can't give you a spouse I mean have you ever looked at this room there's plenty
of men and women in this room where do you think we all met each other you know God gave us all
spouses God blessed me with a wonderful spouse that I have and you know what I know that God
can do it again and again and again because God doesn't ever run out God always has a supply God
always can reign manna from heaven God can always multiply the bread God can always multiply the
fishes he has the power of exponential multiplication don't lose faith in God and
2023 America and you say well yeah but there's a lot of Horace women out there okay don't marry
them that was pretty easy wasn't it checkmark don't marry any of them but I'll tell you what
even in today I still personally believe it's easier to get married than it's ever been before
because number one there's more people on the planet than ever before there's more opportunity
number two you have tools like the internet you have this great option pastor Jimenez is bringing
the manna to you with new IB singles he's literally just offering this unto you you have all kinds of
just go to conferences and visit churches and travel everywhere people are out and about you
have on I mean it's never been easier to meet different kinds of people today and you know what
when you start making accusations about how hard it is I feel like you're just accusing God because
go back 500 years when you lived in some small little town and tell me how easy it was to find
women there was just the one you know it was like I mean every guy wanted the one chick that came
into the town square right I mean it was a lot harder to meet people find people and of course
today you know we don't want to have this accusation against God because ultimately you know
it's just it's misguided and I think what happens is because of so much rejection it sometimes even
causes young men to get bitter and to start becoming a woman hater the worst thing don't
don't become a woman hater you know women are wonderful a wife is a great thing there's that
there's this movement out there that's trying to get men to stop getting married that is bad
advice that is horrible advice for young men the best thing that young men can do the desire wife
is to get married young and rejoice with the wife of his youth and you'll never regret you know the
only regret I have about marrying my wife is it took too long I should have married her sooner
you know what I was blessed with a great woman you know if you have this great woman in your life
that's marriage material what are you waiting for put a ring on it you know like why are you
just waiting and waiting I mean get some home-cooked meals all right what are you waiting
about and I've noticed that the guys that are constantly complaining about not getting or about
girls not being good it's just because they can't get one right just like pastors complaining about
the red-hot preaching conference is just because they weren't invited you know they're just envious
of it right go go to judges chapter number 14 go to judges chapter 14 but often you know when
people are just hating on a particular subject it's just because they're envious or they're
having a bad attitude there's nothing wrong with women today it's not like you know there wasn't
problems in the Old Testament it's not that you know being married is the easiest thing in the
world obviously it's work obviously marrying a sinner comes with its consequences but let me
tell you something my wife is the best relationship I have on this planet it's my best friend and I
love her and it's the greatest relationship I have and ever will have and for other people to miss
out on that would be a great travesty to them and I don't want you to go down that road I want you
if you desire marriage to get married and we're trying to encourage you to stop complaining about
it and do something about it you know just get silent stop talking about it and be satisfied
with the fact that God is giving you a lot of options out there there is options out there it's
just a lot of times people just don't want what's out there they want the cucumbers and the melons
and all you don't want that you know the world offers all kinds of horrible options out there
and I think because of the internet it's kind of a two-edged sword it's caused a lot of young
single guys to end up desiring the wrong thing now there's a man in the Bible that struggled
with this look at Judges chapter 14 verse 1 and Samson went down to Timnath and saw a woman in
Timnath of the daughters of the Philistines and he came up and told his father and his mother and
said I've seen a woman in Timnath of the daughters of the Philistines now therefore get her for me to
wife then his father and his mother said on him is there never a woman among the daughters of thy
brethren or among all my people that thou goest to take a wife of the uncircumcised Philistines
and Samson said on his father get her for me for she pleases me well notice he's never talked to
this chick he's never been around this chick but you know what he saw her TikTok profile and he
thought like oh man that's the kind of woman that I want hey dad how do you hook me up with one of
these Instagram models but let me tell you something about TikTok and Instagram it's fake
it's fake you know what there's a lot of fakeness going on in this world today a lot of filters all
kinds of makeup and all kinds of weird things that are going on and you know what I think that
sometimes people have this idea in their head they see the McDonald's billboard but let me tell you
something it's fake there's never been a burger that's ever existed that looked like that and you
get this appetite for something that's not even real you need to get in the fuck you need to get
there in person actually talk to the person man to man man to woman and talk to them and see them
and you know what you will be attracted to lots and lots of people but I think a lot of men are
ruining themselves by getting attracted to something that doesn't even exist or just
something from afar that looks good but you know what if you talk to her if you've been around you
realize this is a bad option she's not loyal she's not faithful she's not someone that's gonna keep
secrets she's not someone that's gonna trust in me and love me and you know attractiveness for a
woman is a lot more than just physical appearance because you know sometimes you see a woman and
she opens her mouth and she just instantly looks uglier like Hillary Clinton I don't even know I
don't even know it's already pretty bad let's just be honest you know AOC boy does that thing look
like a mule when it starts opening its mouth and I'm telling you you know there's a lot more to
attractiveness and you can actually become more attracted to your spouse over time as getting to
know them and loving them and appreciating them but sometimes men they just want this this idea
of the internet and it's a lie it's fake it's not real it's not sincere it doesn't really exist and
they're chasing something that doesn't exist they have unrealistic goals and they fall in love with
Photoshop and filters instead of actually women don't fall in love with Photoshop don't fall in
love with the internet fall in love with a real person with a real soul with a real personality
and get around real people and don't get this attitude of like the only thing that matters is
how attractive she is physically no how about someone that's saved how about someone that
actually loves God you know of course if you're not attracted to someone I don't recommend dating
them or marrying them but at the same time you should never date someone that's not saved don't
don't get involved and start getting serious with someone that's not even saved I mean make sure
that they're safe obviously if you want to date them by getting them saved like hey I'm gonna give
you the gospel until you get saved but you know you don't want to get in wrapped and develop a
relationship with someone that isn't even a good option for you to get saved or to be to be
spiritual and of course that's the third point you want to be silent and stop complaining about
women those that are single you want to be satisfied with the options that God has and
not have to go seek to the Philistines and number three you need to be spiritual and just be
serious about serving God be patient and pray work hard I mean Jacob had to admittedly work pretty
hard in order to get his wife but you know what after he got her according the Bible that seven
years was just as a few days to him it just seemed like nothing and of course you know there's
nothing wrong with waiting for the right person to marry and I'm not trying to encourage you to
just marry someone just marry someone but you know when you are attracted to them you're jealous for
them they're saved you know there's no reason to just wait you need to pull the trigger because
sometimes you'll wait and then the options get worse over time the options don't get better they
get worse and I don't want people to necessarily regret that this because they had this unrealistic
goal they're looking on tik-tok and you know tik-tok won't age but you will they're just
gonna keep putting 18 year olds up and 19 year olds up on tik-tok you know but guess what you're
gonna keep getting older every single year and you want to make sure that you are seeking for
the wife that God has for you and I think that you should try if you want to get married get
married young I mean the Bible says rejoice with the wife of thy youth there's nothing wrong with
getting married young and being with them at that time go go to Proverbs 21 go back to Proverbs
this kind of is related to my second application I want to make but after you actually get married
there's another temptation to then start complaining about your spouse that you have and of course the
honeymoon phase it's very easy that's why it's called the honeymoon phase what is the honeymoon
phase there's not a specific timeline it's just when marriage was easy and for some people that's
five minutes for some people that's five years right so it could be all over the map but every
relationship is going to experience a honeymoon phase where it's easier it's more exciting you
kind of it's not that difficult there's a lot less to complain about you kind of overlook a lot of
the issues and the reality is in a relationship you'll kind of get to a point where there's a
strong temptation to start complaining about your spouse but I'll say this you should never complain
about your spouse you say what do you mean by that I mean in public and private to them to your
family members the worst thing you can do in your relationship is to complain and talk negatively
about your spouse you should just never do it when you have those thoughts you need to just
silence your mind and get rid of those thoughts and not get placed under the devil it it's a bad
road because it's very easy to think a lot of negative things or positive things about your
spouse don't let yourself go down the negative train because you chose you stood before God and
you've made a vow that you're gonna love them no matter what for better for worse and let me tell
you something love is not reciprocating good for good it's reciprocating good for evil it's saying
I'm gonna love you and think positively about you and want to do good for you even when you don't
deserve it having a bad day or I don't like it and yet a lot of people will constantly complain
about their spouse and they'll get to a point where they stop remembering the good and it's
very easy to do you can if you just start having negative thoughts it goes down a dark road and you
get to a point where you just you can't even think of anything positive about 20 more you're just so
focused on the negative and the Bible says in Proverbs 21 look at verse 9 it is better to dwell
in a corner of the housetop then with a brawling woman in a white house you know the last thing any
man wants is just to be around a woman constantly arguing and fighting with them and challenging
every single thing that he says and does and just getting on his case you know what men don't want
to marry a mother they want to marry a wife we left mom we said bye mom I'll call you on Mother's
Day you know what they want they want a wife they want a cheerleader and let me tell you something
cheerleaders are only positive isn't that crazy I mean you're you're terrible you're losing the
game you've never won you can't even see scored for the other team and they cheered that's the
essence of it and you know that's what men want you know what they don't want is to brawl with
someone they didn't marry a dude okay they want to be married to a wife to a woman that's gonna
love them and appreciate them and be positive and and you know we're sensitive we need you
to constantly encourage us okay look at Proverbs 21 look at verse 19 it is better to dwell in the
wilderness then when the contentious and angry woman men would rather have physical hardship
than just to have their wife nag them it's just it's just so difficult and you want to know why
it's because the man is so strong and all we do is think about how to solve problems and we can't
solve this problem because we can't beat you up okay we can't we're not gonna smack you in a
submission and yet you know you're so good with words often sometimes you can't really even
compete and women can spin everything negative they're like media analysts or something just
everything can be spun into a negative light if they want to and they can be mad about everything
I guess that's why there's so many women news anchors apparently or faggots you know that's
the two people that spin everything negatively right and so as a man you just you're just like
so enraged because you have no way to solve that problem you're just thinking like I right it's
like I just rather be in the literal wilderness burning and whatever he's like I can build a
shelter you know I can set up a cooler and build a man cave he starts like inventing it but it's
like in this situation he's just like he's so just exhausted he just wants to get away and you
know women will think like man I'm just so sick and tired of my husband not hanging out with me
I'll just nag him into hanging out with me that will never work that is a vicious cycle the worst
thing you can do is to try and brawl and be contentious and nag him into doing the things
that you want it's just not how relationships work and you win more flies over with honey
you know you want your husband to be around you don't complain you want them to get away from you
as fast as possible complain and the Bible is really clear on this particular subject go go
to Proverbs 5 go to Proverbs 5 you know if you really want more in a relationship instead of
complaining you know you know you're supposed to do give them what they want now that sounds tough
especially when you're mad when you're upset with them you know what you give them what they want
and that is how you're gonna get the reaction that you want just like God first loved us and
then we decide to choose to love him back and of course the same as in a marriage that you need to
choose to love your spouse first give them everything they want if you're mad at your
spouse this is my challenge for you give them exactly what they want you're like now I'm gonna
take it away right I'm gonna be mad I'm gonna be cold I'm gonna be bitter no no the best thing you
can do is give him exactly what he wants now here's the thing every woman in here already knows
exactly what he wants and I'm just saying give that to him it'll fix your relationship and if
you as a man are upset with your wife you know you give her exactly what she wants and you know what
it is it's to know each other because women just want to sit and talk and get to know each other
and men according to 1st Corinthians 7 they just want to know their wife so I'm telling you when
you know what to give them you give it to them and it'll fix your relationship you know what
will not fix your relationship it's complaining men complaining about their wives will not give
them what they want they don't like it you see when you start complaining they're thinking like
you're kind of like a woman and when women are complaining they want to get away and it won't
fix your relationship you need to just be satisfied with the spouse that you have and give them what
they want and then you could hope for or pray and ask God that they'll give you a reciprocal love
and affection look at what says in Proverbs chapter 5 verse 18 let thy fountain be blessed
and rejoice with the wife of thy youth let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe let her
breasts satisfy thee at all times and be thou ravished always with her love the Bible telling
us that we should be satisfied with our spouses we should let them satisfy us and of course you
need to do your part first satisfy them first if you want to be satisfied but what has happens in
most relationships is they think oh I might give them what they want if they give me what I want
first this is a bad dark road to go down don't go down this road just decide you know what I'm gonna
satisfy them with everything that they want and that is how you're gonna have the best relationship
that you could possibly have go to Colossians chapter 3 go to Colossians chapter 3 but a lot
of people they go down the dark road they stop trying to satisfy their spouse they stop trying
to give what their spouse what they want they just complain and complain and complain and then they
end up getting divorced and you know what's interesting is what as soon as someone gets
divorced you know what they end up doing they start working out cleaning themselves up and they
start treating someone that they're dating really nice and giving them everything they want and I'm
thinking like why don't you just try that in your marriage you know people get all upset about their
relationship and then it's thinking like well go look at your wedding day photos okay and you're
thinking like wow okay why don't you start working on yourself like you would if you were back on the
market and isn't it sad that people will get divorced and then the work on themselves for a
stranger that they may not even get married to but they wouldn't do it for the spouse that married
them already it's like the person that if you're gonna doll yourself up and and and work and
improve on your body and yourself to be the best version of yourself wouldn't you want to do that
for your spouse you know we need to get couples to start dating each other again husbands to start
dating their wives and wives to start dating their husbands instead of complaining and I'll tell you
the amount of time I've been there in the ministry probably the biggest issue I see taking people out
of church is marriage problems marriage problems were spouses dragging the person out or ruining
their life or causing them all kinds of issues and it just seems like it's a common theme that
bad marriages result in people being less spiritual serving God less it affects them very negatively
it hurts the children it hurts the whole family and I'm telling you what we need to have strong
marriages in the new IV the whole world is just divorcing and remarrying like crazy and it ought
not so be in God's house it ought not be in the new I of B we need to get these kids married young
and be faithful till death do us part and let me tell you something you know how you're gonna do
that never complain stop complaining don't complain be silent be satisfied and be spiritual now the
Bible tells us how to be spiritual in Colossians it gives us some advice as husbands give me a
second to turn there Colossians chapter 3 look at verse 5 verse 19 husbands love your wives and be
not bitter against them meaning what is bitterness they did something wrong and you're upset about it
instead of continuing to be upset about that love them which is exactly what I said give them
exactly what they want saying oh my wife isn't doing what I want she's not making me the meal
that I like and she's not helping around the house and she's not doing you know the things
that I like okay we'll give her more attention give her more time sit down with her love on her
and vice versa ladies if you want your husband to spend more time with you talk sweetly to him if you
want him to not want to spend time with you nag him and complain and and make fun of him and just
attack him verbally brawl with him constantly and yeah he'll have no desire to want to hang out with
you look at 1st Peter chapter 3 go to 1st Peter chapter number 3 and the Bible saying the spiritual
things to do men is to not be bitter to get over it and just love your wife anyways and let's be
honest you sin worse against God than she did against you and if God's constantly forgiving
you why can't you forgive your wife let things go she obviously doesn't mean what she says okay
she's pregnant whatever right I mean women are gonna do things that upset you it's okay they're
women and there's no reason to just get better against them and to hate them and to have this
woman hating attitude that so many men have the day no no you need to love and appreciate the
woman that God has given you the Bible says her price is far above rubies your wife can be the
greatest thing in your life but you got to put effort energy into it and you ladies if your
husband is not necessarily being the best husband has shortcomings you should still choose to be
spiritual to look at verse 1 likewise he wives be in subjection your own husbands that if any
obey not the word they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wise while they
behold your chase conversation coupled with fear who's adorning let it not be that outward
adorning of plating the hair of wearing of gold or putting on apparel but let it be the hidden man
of the heart and that which is not corrupt even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit which is
in the sight of God of great price so according the Bible it's not a contentious brawling woman
it's one who's meek and quiet that fits in with our point one silent right not complaining all
the time quiet number two that she's satisfied with her spouse even if he's not perfect and
number three that she's choosing to be spiritual like Sarah is the example here in the Bible and
I'll tell you what God thinks of it as being a great price but those that are constantly
complaining about what God has given them you know what God gets so angry in the Old Testament he
destroyed them he destroyed them I want to go to one more place go to 1st Corinthians chapter 3 I
have one last application I want to make and and that is people not just complaining about marriage
or relationships but people that will complain about church they might even complain about a
conference like the red hot preaching conference and be like man it was hot it's called the red
hot preaching conference folks what do you think pastor a minute is gonna bring 60 degrees in here
you know and chill you out no no it's gonna be hot right don't complain don't complain about a
car I mean if you're coming to the red hot preaching conference and you're complaining
you're missing out I mean good what are you gonna complain about the manna from heaven to I mean
what are you gonna complain about one of the greatest opportunities one of the greatest
churches one of the greatest pastors one of the greatest conferences and then you're gonna
complain about it you know what that's that's wicked it would be wicked to have such an attitude
but you know people do that the bathroom is the line for too long oh the seating it was really
full Oh pastor Shelley preaches way too long you know just be like pastor Anderson and come
underneath like pastor Shelley I like all three of your sermons this evening I had to sit by some
weirdo you know sorry it's like oh where's the ping-pong competition well I guess they're just
tired of winning okay you know no one's gonna be brother Noah all right he's a kid he's still
kicking our butts right I say oh when are you gonna feed me you know isn't that what the children
visitors saying hey get the cucumbers at the store okay you're not coming to red hot preaching
conference for cucumbers you're coming from the manna you're coming for the fresh oil you're
coming for the Holy Spirit you're coming to be anointed by God you're not coming here to enjoy
it physically you're coming here to enjoy it spiritually be spiritual be silent be satisfied
and be spiritual this is one of the greatest things that's ever happened in your life don't
complain about it that doesn't make any sense people do this won't they they'll even go back
home and they'll complain about their church they'll start comparing their church but you
know what all of the pastors here represented in all their churches are amazing churches yet
people go back and they'll complain about it because it's not very we don't have three piano
players playing at the same time on a banjo you know it's like it's like okay well you know what
seeing nothing but the blood as loud as you can all right while the ten-year-old plays from
pastor Anderson's music book okay you know what be silent on that issue don't complain about it
don't complain about your church I mean of course you come here there's a lot of opportunity or
temptation to compare and be like we don't have an orchestra like that one no one does okay you
know it's like we don't have a cool poster like that one you know where's our book it's like get
over it you know it don't don't complain about everything in life think about how many people
live in this world and they don't have a new IV church near them and they're actually satisfied
with the church the lame church are going to they're actually not complaining about the church
they go they're going to and you know as a bad testimony for the new IV is all the people that
go to some other Baptist Church that's not necessarily one of our friends and they're
constantly complaining about their church you know what it makes me think that they're a bad person
when they're complaining about their church I don't have a lot of respect for those people
and you know pastor Anderson pastor minutes when you hear them talk about their previous church
expensive experiences they're always praising it and talking highly of it talking about all
the good they got out of it they're not just sitting here complaining and ragging on everybody
else you know it's a wicked attitude to constantly complain oh this church too big or this church is
too small or you get over yourself you know there's what's the perfect church size who knows
I put out a poll on this and it was like all over the map people like 30 30 person size church some
people like 500 plus Church you know it's all over the map on what people like but you know what if
it's not what you like shut up no one cares no one wants to hear and you complaining doesn't help
grow the church or anyways you know there's a lot of small churches that are amazing churches
you know Verity Baptist Church wasn't this big when it started and it was still an amazing church
when it started people will say oh well there's not enough for my kids at the church what you
want them eating cucumbers during this I mean what do you want you want them to go get molested by a
pedophile and the kids program I mean what do you you know people have the wrong motivations are
coming to church it's not a babysitter folks a lot of people just come to church I went to a
church where people literally they just dropped off their kids they didn't go to church they're
just bringing it as a literal babysitter and it's like those are the type of people that call like
what do you have for my kid it's like that should not be the first question when you're looking for
a church what kind of kids programs that have people will complain about the fact they don't
have the awesome thanksgiving events like first works and I'll be honest I've seen the pictures
looks amazing they're like where's our Thanksgiving event pastor shall we it's in Orange County have
fun see you later you know oh I church had to be so far from my house move you know I don't it's
just silly people will complain about everything oh church is too close to my house you know you
can't you can't win with anybody well when are we gonna have red hot you're not come to Verity
join Verity Baptist Church and then you can have red hot right it's like oh well they're ladies tea
was so much more amazing okay but why are you complaining about all the free stuff it's
interesting how people get all this free stuff and they always complain about it don't they
Oh faith word Baptist Church gives power aids out for soul-winning it's a hundred and twenty
degrees folks they always like to cherry-pick the convenient truth right it's like power a hundred
and twenty degrees and the breeze actually feels like a blow-dryer it's weird it's like usually
you think when good it's like when whoa what is this you know they like to cherry-pick all of
the things that they think are so amazing I wish my pastor did this shut up no one cares and God
is Maddie you really think that God is pleased when you're complaining about pastor a menace
you really think that God likes it when you're complaining about Pastor Thompson you really
think that God is pleased when you're complaining about your pastor the man of God is praying for
you and loving you and serving you and ministering unto you you really think God liked it when they
complained about Moses and being out in the wilderness no he killed them we need to take
these things seriously and not take for granted all the wonderful blessings that God has given us
and I'll tell you something we have a great opportunity to be tempted to complain but we
should be silent we should be satisfied with God has given us we need to be spiritual our faith
word has every DVD well go load up okay you know and brothers the girl give you a back massage why
is that or something you know I don't know but you know it's actually wicked to compare churches
and to compare pastors and compare preachers the Bible tells us look at 1st Corinthians chapter 3
verse 1 and I brethren cannot speak unto you as unto spiritual but as unto carnal even as unto
babes in Christ I have fed you with milk and not with meat for hitherto you are not able to bear
it neither yet now are you able for you're yet carnal for as there's among you envying and
strife and divisions are you not carnal and walk as men so according the Bible when you're
comparing preachers are comparing pastors are comparing churches and you start complaining
about it you're just carnal you're not right with God God doesn't like it God doesn't care about
your opinion just shut up just get on the program you know enjoy the things that you enjoy about the
church and the things that you don't never tell anyone and just stop complaining and of course
the children of Israel they were not satisfied with the manna what is the manna it's the Bible
let me tell you something every single one of my friends and every single passing the new IV you
know what they dish out every single Sunday and Wednesday and Thursday this and you know what
you're not coming to church for their personality you're coming to church for the King James Bible
you're coming to church for the Word of God you're coming to the red hot preaching conference from
the manna which came down from heaven the Lord Jesus Christ himself the Bible and let me tell
you something it doesn't matter the messenger it's the Bible that we're here gathered together for
anyways why are you so carnal worried about how it's delivered why don't you just eat the fresh
oil and the manna that God gave you stop complaining about the manna because you know what
when you complain about the manna God will stop giving it to you God wants to lead you into land
flowing with milk and honey it's in due time and while you're going through that that wilderness
enjoy the manna and don't complain it's closing prayer thank you Heavenly Father for giving us
the Word of God thank you for giving us the King James Bible I pray that as we go our separate ways
and as we enjoy this conference this week if we struggle with temptation to complain or be
dissatisfied that we would just keep our mouths shut that we would realize that we have a wonderful
gift here the King James Bible and doesn't matter the messenger or the man or the personality we can
enjoy the Bible for the Bible itself and I pray that you would just help us all to choose to be
spiritual today tomorrow this week and as we go back to our places that we continue to be spiritual
and that we wouldn't complain about the world in Jesus name we pray amen